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@Shir Levi Thank you for sharing this information! I'm just becoming aware that I have this trait as an adult. Do u think this is only genetic or can it be developed as a result of childhood trauma? I was the scape-goat child growing up in an abusive family. I wonder if trauma/environment can exacerbate being an highly sensitive adult?
When you are highly sensitive you also know immediately if a person dislikes you or is a negative person. They might not have a reason, but it can cause anxiety being around them...crowds with lots of these people are draining.
^ The problem is that those people can dislike me too (basically ignore their own philosophies). It's often also because of my erratic nature. The worst and most nonsensical part is that it's usually bigots that treat me nicely, ugh :/ But I agree, most have that calm aura where you know they'll never harm or look down on you
@@kyalucero7977 im dealing with this now at university.. U know what..most of the people in my class look down on me bec i look down on myself..there is also one person who likes to look down on others..man! Can i know what is on his mind to make me more anxious
I always wondered the same thing. Socially I’m fine, but in the back of my mind, I felt emotions differently than everyone else. I *experience* emotion instead of just feel them
I am very observant & selective of people that I am around . And can feel negative energy from a person even if I just met them. 🙅🏽♀️Yes ! I’m very shy and I hate being around huge crowds of people it makes me very nervous . I am just aware of my surroundings & I’m very empathetic I can feel for others and sometimes it becomes overwhelming .So I’m learning to really take care of myself and have alone time . I love being alone and having peace to myself . I’m learning to come out of my shell more and be more outgoing I’m going to find a balance . ❤️
peaches i cried when i read that hsp people are rare, because being rare means we wont be able to find a lot people of us..and it made me so sad because i am scared of loneliness
I did the quiz and had a score of 25. As a guy it's tough to be highly sensitive, simply because I can't and won't live up to the image of what a man should be in our society. I cry a lot, I care way too much about things I can't controll and I have such a vivid imagination that it sometimes makes me loose touch with reality. I see auras around people most of the times, I see shadows in the dark that move around and sometimes I get lost in feelings/emotions of other people. It is tough, but it's a gift that I try to use as well.
i know this comment was made one year ago but i still wanted to send an answer . I always wanted to fit the strong woman box and that kept me away from being my authentic highly sensitive self . Your not alone with all this social expectation crap so dont worry . I hope you have been well.
Bro! I have the same thing. I suffer from anxiety and depression. Ive had to learn to except myself. Amd at most its a great thing sometimes. But its hard for me to eat at a restaurant or go to the mall or amusement park. Because i read everyones emotions. And im very sensitive to the crazy environments to the point i want to be secluded in my own room. But what frustrates me the most is when i cant explain it good enough to others that dont have this. So others tend to get mad at me or irritated. Because i can become angry or irritated fast. And i get twitchy and sometimes sweaty. Its an insane feeling. I hate it when it becomes out of control but love it when i can control it. Im prescribed xanax to help me calm down from the fast paced world. Im 31 and am still trying to figure out how to deal with it. And control the urges to not become so easily irritated or angry. And such simple things like the lights are to bright or theres loud or annoying noises or alot of people talking at once can set it off. Im glad im not the only one with this. We can all learn from eachother.
Thank you so much for talking about this. I now view myself as a special and gifted person instead of a person that is shy and full of anxiety. I feel as if I can use this knowledge to shine bright.
I came across this video by accident, my entire life I tried to understand what is wrong with me, my family thinks I'm weird, now I understand everything and feel relief and also don't need to explain nothing to no one.Thank you so much
Thank you SO much for sharing. I realised that am a HSP and I'm 58yrs old!! I did the test and scored 21/23. Everything makes sense now - noise, fluorescent lights, feeing relieved when someone cancels a meet up, not being able to talk on the phone, feeling drained after being with people, having a wonderful satisfying 'thought Life'. Longing to be alone. I could go on and on and on. 💜🌸thank from the bottom of my heart xx
I got a 25 on the quiz. And I cried during the whole first half of this video. I'm 30 years old, and have always known that I"m highly sensitive, but I didn't know it was a real thing, if that makes sense. I feel validated, and hopeful that I can learn techniques to help me cope. Seeing how accepting you are of yourself makes me feel like it's okay to accept the things about myself which I see as weak. I already do some of the things you mentioned, but I am very much looking forward to reading the book. And I could really relate to what you said about being so in touch with your emotions that you can help others to understand and feel theirs--I try to do the same thing with my music. Thanks for making this video.
Haa..Am i dreaming?? Is this a real thing?? Being highly sensitive. I thought all these years that it is a weakness in me. And i also scored 25 of the quiz. Oh my god i am confused.
As an extremely sensitive person I recommend you to just look at the sky when you feel overwhelmed while walking down in the street , I always need this to calm myself down and avoid people walking here and there infront of me which is mostly really tiring , and last but not least just check by yourself , people forget to look up and give themselves a little break from the tensing moments of everyday life :) be the one to enjoy amazing views of the sky . Much love ❤❤❤
Might sound funny but I couldn't live without watching the sky regularly. When it's overly clouded and foggy for many days during the winter I feel anxiety. I don't know why.
I have this too. Especially in february and march in my country it can be very grey and cloudy and I tend to get more down. Some people even call it winter depression. I always long for spring and summer. You might want to take some vitamine D supplements this time of year.
Yes I do that too, but then I see chemtrails everywhere and it upsets me. I also try to look at the ground a lot, without bumping into people. Thank God for the internetshops, so I only have to go to a big city once a year and I get nervous about that 3 weeks in advance :-//
+LoveEvenWithABrokenHeart You are Awesome just thought you should know. Can we start a high sensitivity group. We live in such divisive times. we sensitive natured individuals need to stick together to help one another be better at our gifts.🌸🍀🌸🍀
Being highly sensitive can feel like a burden at times, but once we learn to accept ourselves as we are, we can discover the amazing gifts that come with it, as there truly are many things in life that cannot be explained, but only felt ❤
Shir Levi Throughout my life people around me have been attacking me for being too sensitive. And as result I have developed depression as only 14 old girl. Now I am adult and ok with just being with myself. It is the pressure of society that we all should be social and extroverted. But without introverts world woud fall apart because introverts are the ones who make change because they have genial idea. Anyway,it still huts when people are cruel to me. I do not know if this is something that I as a hyper sensitive person can overcome as it is in my nature that everything matters to me so much.....
Shir Levi I am stunned, I've never heard of this however I have been praying and searching for an understanding of un these unexplained deep emotions I sense and the need to be alone. I just didn't understand but WOW this is so enlightening. THANK YOU. I can't wait to read the book and fully accept this gift ★
Yes, it's mostly a burden. I wish this whole "HSP/Empath" trend would die. It's not fun, and I miss the 90's and early 2000s when I was teased instead. Being in vogue is obnoxious, and people don't get it.
Would you make a video about being highly sensitive and going through a break up - or similar situations in which those emotions are so easily triggered? :) I would love it!
I'm sixteen years old and have been labeled as 'sensitive' my whole life. I have had many downs in this small amount of time. Being called a crybaby because I cried easily. People telling me I get to influenced by other people and how they feel. I have always considered myself a people pleaser. I think they didn't really notice that I was a highly sensitive person because I'm everything but shy. I'm what they call a HSS, a high sensation seeker. They figured it out when I went to an acupucturist, who told me that she could feel my emotions running through my body like an open book. Sound very poetic, doesn't it? Being a sensitive person also made me respond very easily to treatments and antibiotics. Although sometimes still thinking it is a trait that doesn't always help me, it feels amazing to get to know yourself better. It feels amazing to know why you respond the way you do. Why I cry more than my classmates. Why someone who walks past me, can change my whole day. my whole mood. Being a HSP may not be the easiest thing in the world. But it does make me feel gifted even if not everyone can see it. :)
I've always been called sensitive and so have taken the word to be a negative thing. But seeing this has made me realise alot about me and think of it in a very different way. This really helped me. Thank you.
Yes! I wish more people (or I should say more of my friends and family) understand this. I always wondered why I often felt overwhelmed and drained when I go to crowded places even if it's just minutes within entering a shopping centre, I thought it was my vision/sensitivity to bright lights and for a while, I even assumed it was my lack of iron that made me feel that way. It made me feel like I wasn't really present, like I was being pulled in so many different directions. Too many times, I've been called a hermit/anti social because I didn't want to go to a social event.. but at the same time, I still want to be invited and not forgotten. I've struggled with my personality my whole life, feeling like a misfit and unable to connect with others but now I feel so much more at peace, happy and living in the present -this is mainly due to working on myself for more than 10 years (learning how to appear normal, communicate with others etc) and because I now have a beautiful, happy baby girl who keeps me centred :) I've also learned how to cut out the toxic people in my life.. but I am still a work in progress and always will be. Love your channel so much, you are truly a beautiful and unique soul. You are the kind of friend I look for, I wish there were more like you. My test score is 26 but I already knew that I'm highly sensitive. Sending you love from Australia 💕
Hello dear misfit, here's another one. I am also "antisocial" but since I am 54 now, I have learned to ignore that if it bothers others. Too bad for them. I am totally at ease with that now. Love yourself as you are, that's the remedie but it is also a difficult one to achieve. Love and light from Germany!
I find it funny that you thought you had low iron when walking into shopping malls. I always thought the same thing too! I would get dizzy immediately upon going into a store with bright lights lots of people and sounds. It is comforting to know that other people struggle with this.
I know exactly what you mean!! i can never go to crowded shopping malls without feeling dizzy! i searched all over google for a reason why, i also thought i was low in iron. i could never focus on the person i was out with because everyone around me distracted me so much that i would be exhausted in 10mins. love from Singapore :-)
Lily201186 that's so funny about the low iron. I have had low iron before during pregnancy and needed an extra boost in vitamins. So knowing how it feels, many times I also feel like I have low iron. Everyone sensitive seems to notice that :)
Wow.... this is me. Like everything you said... I've always been so sensitive to light, sounds, emotions, crowds... I NEED my alone time and I have extreme social anxiety and am very emotional and empathic. I notice very small details in movies and music and nature! I don't like to try to make myself out to be "special" or anything but this is totally me.
You might be straight up empath rather just than HSP. They're very similar, we share traits and you can be both, but empaths also tend to be more energy-driven and intuitive vs mainly triggered by sensitivity to stimulation or a sensitive nervous system. Empaths may strongly sense their environment, often sense people's (or even sometimes an animal's) emotional or physical symptoms, and we tend to absorb it.
Got 23 in the test. Never even knew this was a thing. I'm surprised that only 15% of people are like this, because I know a number of people who would fit this description. Do you think that highly sensitive people are drawn to each other or that it runs in families?
I scored 24, no surprise because I have known for many, many years that I am highly sensitive. During my younger years I was told by many that I was "too sensitive" which was very damaging to a young girl... like something was wrong with me. As I have grown in years, I realize that this sensitivity is like a super power of sorts and I use it to enhance my life! Thank you 💕
Jamiann Adams That made me cry. My family used to tell me that aaaallllllll the time and it hurt so much. I am grown now, but I guess the pain is still there somewhere.
I scored 27 on the test so i guess we can say i'm highly sensitive, but i already knew that. I could easily become a hermit...i have to force myself not to completely shut out the world sometimes . :)
I score 26 points. I so know that I am sensitive, sometimes I feel so lonely because not everyone understands my point of few. but I do love it when I can help someone.
That is amazing and so so important. And from my experience, the more I talk about my sensitivity, the more the people around me feel they can share theirs as well ❤ Much love to you dear
I'm so glad I watched your video, I had never heard of highly sensitive people before! I scored a 25. I had always thought I had some kind of learning deficincy or something, I can not listen to music or talking and do anything else. My friends in high school would listed to music when they did their homework but I had to have total silence, even then I was easily distracted. I get easily distracted or annoyed by light, sound and temperature. I jokingly tell people that I have dog ears because I seem to hear things no one else can. I can not be in large crowds of people, especially if it's very sunny and warm, I can have a panic attack or get angry from being over stimulated. I'm also very empathetic to others especially animals, and often am plagued by sad, horrible or depressing repeated thoughts. I am happiest when I am alone with my animals
I often feel weird because I don't need so much stimulation and social context as others. This leads to people getting to know me much slower compared to others. People also often feel like I am not interested in them, but this is mostly not the case. I enjoy meeting people but I also need so much time to myself and most people do not understand. It is quite sad actually and makes life harder.. :-( Love this clip :-)
i absolutely relate. i find it nearly impossible to create new friendships, it is the initial phase of not being comfortable around each other and the expectation to always be cheerful around each other that i can't seem to be able to put up with. i like being alone most of the time, it's just sometimes i crave social interaction and find myself with noone there. then i start comparing myself with my peers and i feel as if i'm a social outcast...
Laila Manja Messerschmidt I actually like when people are social with me, the hardest part for me is the beginning, how do you socialize, how do you just become really close with someone when you don't know them. What do you talk about? But at the same time I enjoy my alone time, I need my alone time! It's very contradicting.
polkadotsla If someone interests you in a situation where you can get to know them, you can just ask basic questions that interest you. I am the kind of person, I often interested in the motivations of people, their family background e.t.c. I ask these kind of question during a conversation. Don't be afraid to converse about things that interest YOU and don't be afraid to put people off. If you are deeper then others and they do not approve of the way YOU like to converse, then don't. The right people will crystallise out of conversing with a few. Be happy about the people that drop out, as the right ones will then stand out. If you then feel like being a lone again, just say so. You can say, I have to go home now, because I have to cook, clean, sleep, don't feel well, what ever, but you yourself control how long the interaction goes and when YOU need to be alone again. The closeness, just comes naturally by spending time with people over a longer time period. Also, over this time period you will also know for yourself if YOU want be closer with specific people or not. If you do, then you can take action. So, it is all about YOU. How much time do YOU want to spend and with whom do you want to spend it with. You are free to put the pieces where you want. Hope this helps.
I also scored 26. One of the things that affect me the most is the lack of sleep. I cannot function on a sleep deficit, my emotions get insane and I feel physically sick. Good to see a lot of people kinda like me here :)
Jessica Lynn Same here, you're not alone! Sometimes people don't understand what the big deal is. I used to envy those who can get away with not sleeping enough consistently, but now I just accept it and make sleep a priority...
Ana That's also exactly how I feel if I don't get my sleep, and I also need a lot of hours of it. For some reason our society values skipping sleep to "get more things done", but for some people that's very counterproductive!
Omg you just described my life!!😂 I need at least 8-10 hours of sleep in order to work and function well. Also, my body gets more fat and sick when I don't sleep well and have lack of sleep. 😢
I just answered the questions and according to your poll 100% answered they are highly sensitive and yet we are only 15% of population.. isnt it amazing that people with similar personalities and mind sets all gather around one TH-cam channel?
Checked every box on that quiz. Finding out this year about the HSP has been game changing for me. I spent my entire life thinking there was something wrong with me. Everything makes perfect sense now.
I am so glad that you took the time to make this video! I found out that I actually am highly sensitive I even looked up positive quotes about Oversensitivity and made them into posters to hang on my wall. Most of my friends know about this and they try to comfort me at all times as best as they can. I am not sensitive to sounds or lighting so much but I am really sensitive to words and action. Anyway, if you read this, I really encourage you to just keep on going with your life because being highly sensitive is a wonderful gift. Thank you.
Highly sensitive people are strongly advised to avoid electromagnetic frequencies from wireless, power lines and house wiring. Using ethernet instead of Wifi, airplane mode your phone as much as possible, and most importantly, turn off the circuit breaker to your bedroom at night. These steps (and others) will help so much!
Wow, I will try and do this! Thank you for these tips! I was always one to keep my phone away from me during the night. I know many of us sleep with our phones under our pillows or next to us on the side table drawers. Now it is time that I go back to this!
The Simple Life it's okay to have your phone near your bed while you are sleeping as long as it's in airplane mode (make sure 3G/4G/Wifi/bluetooth are all off). That way you can still use it for an alarm, listen to music, read an ebook, etc. But if you need to leave it on (like if you're a doctor or EMT on call), distance will help, as well as leaving it in a place where it has the most bars (fewer bars means the phone boosts its power).
Miss Aaliyah my pleasure. It's all about avoiding the negative energy when possible so when the unavoidable stuff comes into our field, our bodies/minds are better able to cope and respond. Making a low-EMF haven where you sleep is really the key.
EMF Minimalist thanks, I'm highly sensitive and psychic these EMF affects more than most. Resulting in severe migraine. I feel like a whale beaching when sonar hits it.
oh yes. finally I realized my empathy was a strength. Here is an example: I started volunteering at the pet center where I used to cry whenever I went in the store. Now I am helping those cats and only sometimes I cry. Mostly it's a glorious gift working with others who care deeply to save many animals each week month and year. I also became a pet sitter in my spare time to give more love and found I was monetarily compensated in return as well. A good energy exchange.
Thank you so much for sharing this! I am definitely a highly sensitive person and have also suffered years of depression because of it. I am also very sensitive to the condition of my body, especially by being tired and hungry. What has helped me with this is meditating every day. It has really helped me get my thoughts together and be aware of what's happening around me.
This was such a great video...I have ADHD and it seems a lot of my symptoms cross over with high sensitivity.... you've described a LOT of what I feel. I'm going to check out that book, so glad I can get it as an audio version! Lastly, you are ABSOLUTELY STUNNING!!!! Your eyes are just WOW! Thank you for this video!!
Wow. I was the same way. Really outgoing and over-confident as a kid, to the point of being socially oblivious. I'm the complete opposite now. (I got 23 on the test)
lordy, me so much i really wonder what changed XD i was so rambunctious as a kid, didn't care what anyone thought of me, i'd do crazy things at parties, now i'm rediculously shut in and sealed behind a hard shell of fear and anxiety that's been curing for half my life
This was brilliant. I've always been empathetic to the point where it's beaten me down by trying to help the wrong people or believing that I should be a slave to others and never put myself first. I scored 24 on that test and I'm totally going to read the book. Thank-you for making this 💕
I scored 25 on the quiz and this video brought me to tears because of how relatable everything was for me. I learned a lot of new things and I feel a huge sense of relief knowing that there are so many others out there. Thank you!
Score: 23. An example: there are songs that make me cry when I hear them and it has happened since I was a kid. I used to say to my dad, "please, change the song" because I started crying. And now I cry when I hear the songs that my partner used to put on the days before our son was born. Very emotional!
My score is 24. I always feel that I'm a loner and something is wrong with me. My parents used to say that I'm a hyper sensitive people. I try very hard to be 'normal' like other people but sadly its just not me... if i do it, its just me faking it. That was so tiring. I also can feel negative vibes and being with negative people makes me sick, stress and depress. I can read people effectively just by seeing their gesture and facial expression even if its a stranger. I also very sensitive to bright sun light (always curtain down in the mid morning) and loud TV. I always mute my TV during commercial break. I dont know why. But its bother me and make me cant concentrate to other things like talking, or reading. I love animal... cause their love is unconditional love. Love to help people but hate to be around argumentative and negative person... Glad to know that im not alone having this personality... Love myself but sometime hate it when most people can't understand me
27- lightbulb moment. There are times when there is so much going on and the energy around me makes me so edgy that I want to bolt or scream or get very angry and I just hold it in. It is.exhausting. Thank you for sharing this information.
Kim, I'm the same about the high, uncomfortable levels of energy. I thought I was claustrophobic for awhile (maybe I am lol). My grounding for this is getting in nature, somewhere with wide open spaces. The only place I can fully get rid of the edge and can tune into different frequencies, re-energize. Weird but true!
אני כל כך שמחה שמצאתי את הסרטון הזה. אני כרגע בנקודת שפל בחיי שאני לא בטוחה שאצא ממנה בזמן הקרוב אבל כל חיי לא הבנתי מה לא בסדר איתי כי אני לא מעבדת רגשות כמו אחרים ואני לא מגיבה ולא מתמודדת כמו אנשים אחרים, וכל מה שאמרת ושיתפת פה יכול להיות הדבר שיציל אותי כי אני מרגישה שאני יכולה לתת לזה שם. אני מקווה שאוכל להשתמש בידע הזה כדי לטפל בזה. תודה רבה רבה לך, באמת אין לך מושג כמה עזרת לי עכשיו.
I too was depressed for years due to suppressing my emotions through my childhood and teenage years. I felt like I discovered I even had emotions at 21-22 years old, I had always thought "feelings" was just an empty word.
my score: 26! i've always known since i was very young i am highly sensitive, even if i didn't have the vocabulary or understanding of the concept in full. thank you SO much for this video shir, it will be very helpful along my healing journey.
I've been an HSP ever since I can remember! Took a long time for me to realize that most people around me didn't see the world as I experience it. I grew up thinking I was somehow inferior... But I pretty much accept it now. I've come to view being HSP as mostly positive. It helps with my writing, for one thing. And for creativity, in general. Very important, if it's possible, to share with important people in my life, I've found. Thanks for posting this.
Thanks from all of my heart ! I don't know what happens with me since i saw your film and found out, that i'm highly sensitive... my whole life i tried to be "normal" and was very hard to myself, also my parents. As i saw your wonderful film and realized that i'm NOT an Error or bad person... that i'm born with, let me cry a million tears and i was so happy to see that i'm NOT guilty of the way that i react... now i be the first time in my life able to love myself. Thank you for your good advices ! Now i could treat me better and have also the chance for a better, happier future ! You are wonderful ! All the best for you ...and i still keep on making music.
I’m crying because some random kid I met online insulted me *once* ,Fucking hate this. I’m so angry at myself. And whining is the only thing can do about it.
I think I have social anxiety. I'm in my 20s so it doesn't bother me but I do feel like I miss out on a lot. I hang out with my friends every once and a while but I don't get invited to a lot of things because of not reaching out and I find I isolate myself. This happened even when I was in college. I'm also quiet around people, even my close friends. Great video.
Sheer, I absolutely LOVE THIS VIDEO!! I just found out I was a highly sensitive person plus an empath. I feel like I have had an awakening and I feel like I am a new person!! I finally love myself!
I am 53 years old and I am finally understanding I am who I am ! I have always been an old soul from a child I knew I was different. I can get into another persons pain and this is so draining on me. I hate phones, I can only be around a few ppl . I know I am loved though. I just have a million thoughts on my head and others can not understand but I try to make due with the life I am given. Blessings
brooo i went to a festival to volunteer and i felt so guilty because i could t work! there were so many people and sounds and situations, feeling like i got eyes all over my body and every movement is an observation and experience! i felt so much better coming home to sit in my yard. lesson: i dont have to do things just because others are.
I've never watched a video that described me so to the T before. Shir, as I watch all the videos you post, I feel such a connection to the way you describe your emotions and the way you live your life. I'm extremely similar to you, and I'm so glad I found your channel. Whenever I'm feeling down, I come back and watch this video as a friendly reminder that it's okay -- there are ways to navigate our crazy minds, and it's not the end of the world if you do something wrong. Thank you for being a TH-camr and putting yourself out there, and honestly just for being you. You're an inspiration!
Thank you for this video. I didn't know anything about highly sensitive people or that being highly sensitive was a thing. The longer I watched your video the more I could relate. I took the test and got a total of 14! I was really surprised! But it is also really cool to find something out about yourself that you didn't know before:) Thanks Shir!!
I'm a highly sensitive person 🙄🙄🙄 and I always say yes to everything even though I don't like it or don't want to just to make other feels good I prefer to be alone on Christmas new year etcetera don't know why my family most of the times get mad at me cause I would ratter sleep and stay in my bedroom by myself than being with them
Thank you so much for this video. I just discovered I am a highly sensitive person and I'd always thought something was wrong with me, especially because people don't always understand... But now I have tools ;) thanks so much ! Take care, you beautiful soul xxx
I came across this video in the spring of 2017. It started my conscious awakening Journey. In 2013 I came across the term highly sensitive person and everything made sense. I continued to ignore that side of myself though. This year, my life changed. Your video catapulted it all. After your video I found Ralph Smarts "How to know you're an Empath" video and my life has forever been changed. Thank you Shir. Your knowledge echoes in ways you don't know about. ❤
MY mother has always said me That i Was too sensitive in all aspects. I Was really affected when People around me suffer, and i suffer at the same level when he or she is suffering. I am really empathetic and is Hard living in This life so superficial, With a lack of emotions. MY psicólogo said me That i had an excess of sensitivity. Anyone Know if i am highly sensitive?
Ana Thanks a lot Anna! I dont see the point That is a Good gift... I only suffer and every time is much more difficult to see as a Good thing... Maybe if we could put in touch in a forum i Would be more understood... Anyway Thanks a lot to answer me
Angela Fernandez Yeah this very hard. I was in a bad situation living with my mother in law who would complain to my husband everyday about all the things he did wrong. It hurt me so much, that broken relationship between them. So I broke down crying and my MIL was like: Wow you are really sensitive (after almost a year of that stress...I don't think you even have to be HSP for that). But it is hard to deal with those people that have 'hardened'/'toughened up' by life, as my MIL is. Some bad things happened to her. And even though my own life hasn't always been easy (whose has?). I try to stay open minded and try to understand myself and the people around me better. But yeah I understand it is a struggle, when people tell you that you are 'too sensitive'...They just don't understand...
Thank you Shir! I discovered this book almost twenty years ago when I was teaching in Portugal. It was so eye-opening to discover that I am a highly sensitive person and a handful of my students were as well. I have recommended this book so much over the years and am deeply grateful for you sharing your personal experience. My biggest challenge now is how to best care for myself in the highly public and social life I experience on a daily basis. How to find that alone time, to stay healthy and to create healthy boundaries without being defensive. I am highly sensitive and compassionate but after too much of my boundaries being pushed and too much stimuli, I get fed up! I welcome the anger and even rage, for I know it is giving me energy, motivation to continue to move forward to create a life that is more conducive to the highly sensitive being I am. Many Blessings.
Nature and being creative with things can help, also accept your sensitive gifts and see them as tools that can work for you not against you (resistance?) Cheers!!
Wow this is so interesting, I always found myself to be highly sensitive to light and loud noises and couldn't figure out why no one else around me did. Thanks for the video, super informative!!
I am so glad I watched this video, it helped me realise I am not alone in my emotions. Thank you so much for being you and sharing your experience as a Highly Sensitive Person. I've always felt a little off in that way and I can relate to so much of your emotions so thank you. I decided to share/use my gift to help others by studying psychology. It just feels like the only way to try to understand and aid. Thank you so much, Shir
First comment on TH-cam! After seeing this I had to write some words of love and support and also share a little of my experience. I am highly sensitive as well, scoring 24 on the test. While I don't feel particularly shy, and most people agree that I come off as outgoing, I am very picky about who I spend time with and who I want in my life. I'm very sensitive to negativity and people's intentions. I cry easily, especially when I'm overwhelmed and have to do more than a few major tasks in a day. I also struggle with motivation if the task is not in line with my core values (sometimes struggle working for big companies). I never thought of myself as having few friends until I just sat and thought about it. I spend a lot of time alone and need it to interact with the world. I go through periods where I get very upset and sad at the world, society and what we've done to the beautiful Earth. I find myself being an incredibly loving and understanding person, but at the same time dealing with a lot of anger towards humanity (similar to a commenter b leria below). I've found spirituality is a great way to deal with these sometimes overwhelming emotions and helps me make peace with the world. Something I also feel, that I have not seen in the comment section or in the video, is a sensitivity to food. My body is so sensitive that I have to eat vegan, unprocessed food. Any complicated dish or food that seems to have negative energy effects my digestion and mood almost immediately! Anyone else here like that? Amazing video! I LOVE your energy!
yeah, i wear earplugs whenever i leave my room because there are just too many painfully loud sounds around, when i take a shower, when i'm in the kitchen with clanging dishes, around musical instruments, when i'm around roads with cars driving by, when the vacuum is running, any other loud appliance, etc., and i always keep earplugs with me wherever i go when i leave the house
Score: 24 love your videos. i do all this stuff since years and it helped me a lot. 🦄💟💫 vegan eating, yoga and meditating helped me as well. i love to be an empath 😄.
This video gave me so much anxiety. I am going on a trip this summer with two of my friends for 10 days. It's totally out of my comfort zone, because we are road tripping and spending all his time together, and I am really stressed out. I'm also kind of excited about this because it's something I never did and I want to see beautiful places and have new experiences and go out of my comfort zone. I'm also going to a festival and because of the video you showed I really thought 'oh no'. Because I know I won't be able to retrieve there. We're sleeping in a tent (only for two nights), but it means we're gonna get up and close and not able to be alone. I'm also glad I saw this video because now I realize I have something to reflect and work on. I'm meeting up with my friends tomorrow to plan the trip and I think I am going to say something about it. I wish I could be happy about the beautiful trip I am going to make, but no, here I am stressing out about being up close with two people for 10 days. Goddangit
Thank you so much for making this a topic in your video because for the longest time I thought I’m just really weird that would never be normal or ever fit in and think others thought the same thing for as long as they have known me. On the that test, I found the answer to why I always feel like crying when someone says something negative about me, why I notice or feel things more intimately than most. This has truly been an eye opener. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
on the flip side dealing with someone who is highly sensitive is draining. When ever im around people who highly sensitive, i always feel like im walking on egg shells. Its like i have to tip toe around them to not accidentally set up an emotional eruption from that individual. Then when I try to explain my perspective on things im met with snarky responses like "You're just an asshole." or "you should try being more considerate." Most of the time i get annoyed and cut them out of my life.
this is a huge reason why i have a hard time accepting my own self, being so sensitive, because i can understand what it's like on the other side, and often do my best to hide my sensitivities because i can't stand the idea of upsetting anybody, but in the end all that really ends up happening is i retreat and hide away forever because my sensitivities just can't be avoided, i just can't "get over" it, as much as i'd like to just for the sake of the people the relationships with whom i care about
This is actually true. I recently had a falling out with a friend over something that seems small to me, but is a huge issue for him. I just apologized prefusely and tried to understand his situation, but he just wants to take a break from us. I have felt so guilty and talked with others about it who made me realize that he is not being reasonable. It's hard though.. I love him but I also feel like you shouldn't have to tip toe around your friends.
I'm late but it seems like you were dealing with a narcissist rather than a HSP. I don't think HSP will ever be as daring to say such things to your face. Narcissists usually tend to guilt trip like that.
This video was really great, I can relate 100% to everything you say. very helpful tips and just nice to see that more people experience the same things! Mindful greetings, Vera from Simple Happy Zen
Thanks so much for this! I scored 100% on the quiz a while back. Discovering I was a HSP made so much sense of my entire life! It explained my strong sensitivities to bright light, to sound (misophonia included), to smell (I can smell pasta when it is al dente from 2 rooms away), to texture. I feel like my senses have been in overdrive my whole life. Not only that, I pick up on everyone's intentions and energies, and a room full of hostile energy will send me into a panic and force me to leave. I am always exhausted. I work from home with 2 small children and barely have time to myself. When they sleep however, I love retreating to my bedroom for quiet time. Funny part of it all is that I am an extrovert (ENFJ). It would be so amazing to meet fellow HSPs like me!
I was actually diagnosed with hyper sensitive nerve disorder (hyper sensitive person) a few months ago by my doctor. That explained soooooo many health problems I had over the years! The best thing she said I can do to help my disorder is meditation and yoga. The world can be a very overwhelming place for people like us....thank you for sharing this video with the world.
I had no idea about HSP. But it describes my life experience perfectly, from high sensitivity to noise, smells, textures, to anxiety and depression, to being very empathetic and intuitive. I wonder if all INFJs are also HSP? (I took the test and got a 26). Thank you Shir!
I believe the difference is mainly in the degree it affects you. Being highly sensitive can be hard in social situations, but it is not paralyzing. It takes a lot of energy sometime yes, but you do not shut down. Anxiety on the other hand can completely run your life and make social situations simply impossible.
I literally clicked every single one of them. I had seen an article about "how to tell if you're an empath" & that's what brought me to this video. I've always known I was a highly sensitive person but, I didn't realize how much it really affects my life, for the better & worse. So thank you so much, not only for this video, but providing the quiz. Love, love , love the energy you give off. Keep doin your thang girl ! :)
I'm an infj and I have always found myself spending a long time in the bathroom or closing a door in a room just to be by myself when I'm surrounded or living with a group of people. People take offence to it and think I'm upset with them but it's nothing on them, I'm just a HSP who needs to regain my energy! Thank you for the great tips, Shir. Extra self-care sounds good to me
I had to check almost every box, except the one with the caffeine, because I don't really know it. Already did another test like one year ago where you could reach about 135 points and I reached 129. It's so hard for me to deal with it... I'm like constantly exhausted, people empty me and my anxiety makes it so hard to stand everyday life... plus my self-esteem is like non-existing, I can't even look people in they eyes when they talk to me. And nobody understands me, I'm just the weird girl that doesn't have any friends, just sitting in her room, doing nothing. I even broke up with my boyfriend because I hate myself so much and I started feeling so uncomfortable around him... it feels like it's never going to end. It just won't pass... :(
mhm! i'm so afraid of interacting with people, actually talking to people and being myself, because as soon as i expose myself in any way, i feel extreme anxiety and regret, fearing every little detail about what they might be thinking of me, feeling like i'm a huge mess up, i tremble and feel traumatized when i have to speak up about anything remotely personal, it can be crippling, i can't even feel comfortable around my own family, i'm always in my room just blocking everyone out because it's the only way i feel i can be okay enough i'm just a blank person who smiles and doesn't say anything when i have to be around other people, i avoid as much as possible having to engage with anybody i feel totally trapped and hopeless about it, watching my life go by with all the people i care about and want to enjoy life with living their lives distant from me, because i feel physically incapable of letting them in
I live in London where the property prices are insane. And if you're an HSP and have to apartment-share it can be very very difficult. Also if you're an HSP who attracts people then that's even harder. If I was able to make money the way I make friends I'd be a very wealthy woman. And it's difficult because women especially tend to bond through conversation but I'm not really the person who will pick up the phone and ring you. And you'll wait a long time if you're waiting for me to invite you out for a coffee. It's just not what I do. I can love you as a friend and still dread meeting up with you (laughs) How do you explain that to new people who want to get to know you?
Omggg, the "very much affected by the condition of your body" thing !!! I've been seing the sensitivity part of it as a blessing since I've red tha "Anne of Green Gables" novels (if you value imagination and sensitivity you HAVE to read them, even if you're not an hsp). But this body thing, I've always seen it as a weakness. I can't do ANYTHING properly if I'm hungry or sleepy or tired or thirsty or rally need to pee... And my physical well being is very much affected by what I eat and by exercise. My life simply doesn't work If I don't exercise (I can't listen to my own thoughts, can't sleep...). I simply CAN'T deal with overwhelming situations if I'm tired, and I've always felt so weak because of it. Thank you so much for letting me know it's just a part of who I am (:
I am a highly sensitive person. I always loved people and animals and nature and art... and I most definitely was not prepared facing the cruelty of the animal industry. (a colleague recommended me to watch a documentary) Ultimately I am extremely glad I did watch it (even if it was hard), as I could stop assisting to torture and killing, and I became vegan (which for me finally meant, I live in complete harmony with my own values... Compassion and empathy, with no exception... selfless without speciesism). Ever since I have to take care of myself with care (which I never really focused before) and educate myself to deal with people more efficiently. I am so glad that now I can make a good use of my sensitivity. As a construction architect I had a great sense for details and project management, so I decided to combine everything and I became an entrepreneur financing and starting environmental and pro-vegan startups as well as an activist.
All you need is awareness of Self. Your abilities are just natural abilities we all have but most people are more constricted in awareness. Most ppl would be shocked at what i've experienced since birth. They don't understand the natural self. Balance is very important for everyone. Please don't think you are somehow more special or gifted than others, that is just another ego ploy which creates more imbalance in the world. Understanding your self means understanding equality. How else would you have compassion if you think your somehow more special than others. Everyone's special, so no no one is. That's balance. That's equality. Peace.
I don't think she means she is more special than others. But highly sensitive persons often pull themselves down when they notice they can't do or handle things the way others can or the way society tells us to. That's why it is very important for these people to accept who they are in order to take care of themselves propperly and to enjoy life. When they do this they might come to see their sensitivities as gift instead of a burden. again this doesn't mean other people aren't gifted. We are all the same but all different.
I didn't mean her specifically. I meant ANYONE who thinks they are "gifted" because they are empaths. It isn't a "gift" it is how you and everyone else is. Naturally. It is a human being thing to be an empath. It isn't "superhuman" or any of those other words ppl use to describe it. It is how the natural human being functions when they understand who they are and what it means to be human. Because we have been taught to not trust and love ourselves, once we finally heal ourselves we come into the recognition of equality. It is the same for everyone. We are all humans.
I don't really get your point. No one is telling anyone that high sensitive persons are more special than others. Of course all people are equal but that doesn't mean some people are or feel different. Again most highly sensitive persons tend to see their emotions as a negative quality rather than a positive one. Because western societies often speak of being 'too emotional' in a negative way. So it is really needed that people speak up for highly sensitive people. That doesn't make them egocentric (most highly sensitive persons aren't egocentric anyway). That also doesn't make them more special than others... Actually what that does is making them equal with others who don't get easily overwhelmed or tired from emotions and don't get limited in their daily lives because of it. I'd rather say to everyone that he/she is special to boost their confidence than to say you're just like everybody else. We're all equal but we're still unique.
Yes, that is exactly what im saying. EVERYONE is AMAZING. Not just the empath. EVERYONE. But there are some empaths who "think" they are somehow the special ones. That is EGO. Which everyone also has. The perspective is one of wholeness. Wholeness is complete. Wholeness recognizes itself as EQUAL not SPECIAL. Everyone is special because everyone is EQUAL. So really there is no one more special than another. I hope you understand that. Love & Infinite Blessings to you! ♥
No one was being egotistical here. By your original comment its like your saying that high sensitivity is not a unique gift when you said it's just a "natural ability that we all have". That's like saying the gift of a really talented basketball player, or a really talented singer, are "just natural abilities that we all have". But like the gift of a highly sensitive person, that statement is not true. Our unique gifts are not gifts that "we all have" because clearly most people don't have the gift of high sensitivity, great athletics or a beautiful voice. Your comment made it seem like high sensitivity is just run of the mill, everyone has it - which is untrue. We are all gifted and special in our own ways, but be careful not to write off other people's gifts as if they aren't unique to each and every person.
i scored 15, I am diagnosed with depression and i might also have BPD, noise always sets me off. i hate it so much but i love music. also a messy room annoys me although i used to never be a tidy person when i was younger. minimalism helps. but i havent fond a solution for outside noise other than noise cancelling headphones. btw youre so beautiful.
Thank you so much for making this video! I already know that I'm a highly sensitive person, but it's always good to be reminded that it's okay to be different. I'm also something called an empath, and I find it fascinating how similar both conditions are, and how much they have in common. Without knowing, a lot of high sensitive people are probably empaths as well. Again, thank you so much. You seem like such a beautiful soul. Love and high vibrations sent your way xx
I got 26 on the quiz, honestly your serenity amazes me, I have always tried to fight my hypersensitivity. I was very impressed that you spoke to many of your hypersensitivity, even giving you books about it! I have difficulty talking about it. Thank you so much for this vid and for your support! A hug for you from Italy
What an amazing video! OMG THIS IS ME!!! I am highly sensitive too:) I have had people tell me that actually! LOL! I know that I have a very HIGH EQ (emotional intelligence). Since becoming a mother, it is harder and harder to get my alone time and I feel guilty sometimes that I cannot....I can't though.... It can be a blessing and a curse as I am sure you know, but the key is to accept yourself, just like you said:) xoxo
I got 21. I never really thought of myself as a sensitive person. I know that I am and have always been more susceptible to mentally and physically things. I don't like big crowds, and I have a hard time finding new friends since people often make me uncomfortable. But it would make a lot of sense if I was highly sensitive.
Thank you for posting this, it has helped me understand the way that I digest life, and feel more normal instead of totally different to everyone in the world.
Thank you for watching this video and for sharing your stories, what a gift it is to realize that we are not alone!
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@Shir Levi Thank you for sharing this information! I'm just becoming aware that I have this trait as an adult. Do u think this is only genetic or can it be developed as a result of childhood trauma? I was the scape-goat child growing up in an abusive family. I wonder if trauma/environment can exacerbate being an highly sensitive adult?
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Yes she is
I'm watching an EDM festival online right now realizing how HSP I am in the other tv but quietly
Darude-Sandstorm why did you pick darude sandstorm? Such a classic great song right on
When you are highly sensitive you also know immediately if a person dislikes you or is a negative person. They might not have a reason, but it can cause anxiety being around them...crowds with lots of these people are draining.
^ The problem is that those people can dislike me too (basically ignore their own philosophies). It's often also because of my erratic nature. The worst and most nonsensical part is that it's usually bigots that treat me nicely, ugh :/ But I agree, most have that calm aura where you know they'll never harm or look down on you
Tracey Ní Breitheamh-Nesbitt. Yes! I recognize this instantly. And yes it becomes very uncomfortable to deal with such a person :/
Yesss so true😞
yeah
@@kyalucero7977 im dealing with this now at university.. U know what..most of the people in my class look down on me bec i look down on myself..there is also one person who likes to look down on others..man! Can i know what is on his mind to make me more anxious
It's very tiresome to be very sensitive. Maybe it is a blessing, but it makes daily life a real chalenge, and most people don't even understand.
It’s such a challenge that I have zero friends.
You didn't realise It at first too because you are suposed to be extroverted and that's the real deal.
YOUR WONDERFULL FOR WHO YOU ARE
I hate being like this 😣
@@syedmohammedabid4352 I love it. I'm sorry you hate being the way you are. Can you see anything good with it?
I've always thought there was something wrong with me
there is nothing wrong with you Naomi :) you're just full of love.
You've got it the wrong way round, there is something wrong with not high sensitive people ;-)
same
Just learned that my child is one. And i always thought something is wronged with her..
I always wondered the same thing. Socially I’m fine, but in the back of my mind, I felt emotions differently than everyone else. I *experience* emotion instead of just feel them
I am very observant & selective of people that I am around . And can feel negative energy from a person even if I just met them. 🙅🏽♀️Yes ! I’m very shy and I hate being around huge crowds of people it makes me very nervous . I am just aware of my surroundings & I’m very empathetic I can feel for others and sometimes it becomes overwhelming .So I’m learning to really take care of myself and have alone time . I love being alone and having peace to myself . I’m learning to come out of my shell more and be more outgoing I’m going to find a balance . ❤️
You sound exactly like me! EXACTLY. I wish I could meet more people like me so they wont judge me and understand me more. This is making me emotional.
peaches i cried when i read that hsp people are rare, because being rare means we wont be able to find a lot people of us..and it made me so sad because i am scared of loneliness
@@sweetpeach3293 me too i wish i would know some people like me but i don't everybody at my school is so extrovert and then comes me
peaches awwwe I feel the same💗 we all should stick together. Follow me on IG or reach out to me. IG- NaturalsBAE
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I did the quiz and had a score of 25. As a guy it's tough to be highly sensitive, simply because I can't and won't live up to the image of what a man should be in our society. I cry a lot, I care way too much about things I can't controll and I have such a vivid imagination that it sometimes makes me loose touch with reality. I see auras around people most of the times, I see shadows in the dark that move around and sometimes I get lost in feelings/emotions of other people. It is tough, but it's a gift that I try to use as well.
I admire HS males so much! I feel like you guys for sure have a double challenge. Keep loving yourself!
Beth Dawson doing my best.
i know this comment was made one year ago but i still wanted to send an answer . I always wanted to fit the strong woman box and that kept me away from being my authentic highly sensitive self . Your not alone with all this social expectation crap so dont worry . I hope you have been well.
Bro! I have the same thing. I suffer from anxiety and depression. Ive had to learn to except myself. Amd at most its a great thing sometimes. But its hard for me to eat at a restaurant or go to the mall or amusement park. Because i read everyones emotions. And im very sensitive to the crazy environments to the point i want to be secluded in my own room. But what frustrates me the most is when i cant explain it good enough to others that dont have this. So others tend to get mad at me or irritated. Because i can become angry or irritated fast. And i get twitchy and sometimes sweaty. Its an insane feeling. I hate it when it becomes out of control but love it when i can control it. Im prescribed xanax to help me calm down from the fast paced world. Im 31 and am still trying to figure out how to deal with it. And control the urges to not become so easily irritated or angry. And such simple things like the lights are to bright or theres loud or annoying noises or alot of people talking at once can set it off. Im glad im not the only one with this. We can all learn from eachother.
Well said.
Thank you so much for talking about this. I now view myself as a special and gifted person instead of a person that is shy and full of anxiety. I feel as if I can use this knowledge to shine bright.
yes! shine brightly beautiful star ❤
You're so absolutely right! This video really resonated with me too
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Its hard being a sensitive person i feel like it takes control of me my whole life i dont know what happen to me during childhood.
Mabye its not what happened but what didnt happen?
@@kitten_582 TRUE 👍
You were born with this trait. A chaotic childhood experience heightens the traits intensity.
I came across this video by accident, my entire life I tried to understand what is wrong with me, my family thinks I'm weird, now I understand everything and feel relief and also don't need to explain nothing to no one.Thank you so much
Thank you SO much for sharing. I realised that am a HSP and I'm 58yrs old!! I did the test and scored 21/23. Everything makes sense now - noise, fluorescent lights, feeing relieved when someone cancels a meet up, not being able to talk on the phone, feeling drained after being with people, having a wonderful satisfying 'thought Life'. Longing to be alone. I could go on and on and on. 💜🌸thank from the bottom of my heart xx
I got a 25 on the quiz. And I cried during the whole first half of this video. I'm 30 years old, and have always known that I"m highly sensitive, but I didn't know it was a real thing, if that makes sense. I feel validated, and hopeful that I can learn techniques to help me cope. Seeing how accepting you are of yourself makes me feel like it's okay to accept the things about myself which I see as weak. I already do some of the things you mentioned, but I am very much looking forward to reading the book. And I could really relate to what you said about being so in touch with your emotions that you can help others to understand and feel theirs--I try to do the same thing with my music. Thanks for making this video.
Riley Hawke Music 💜
Hahah we all cry. That's how you know you ARE a HSP
a lightbulb came on for me. I'm accepting more and more about myself every day.......
Haa..Am i dreaming?? Is this a real thing?? Being highly sensitive. I thought all these years that it is a weakness in me. And i also scored 25 of the quiz. Oh my god i am confused.
I'm 29 and I can relate to u
As an extremely sensitive person I recommend you to just look at the sky when you feel overwhelmed while walking down in the street , I always need this to calm myself down and avoid people walking here and there infront of me which is mostly really tiring , and last but not least just check by yourself , people forget to look up and give themselves a little break from the tensing moments of everyday life :) be the one to enjoy amazing views of the sky . Much love ❤❤❤
Might sound funny but I couldn't live without watching the sky regularly. When it's overly clouded and foggy for many days during the winter I feel anxiety. I don't know why.
Even foggy sky looks nice ❤❤❤
I have this too. Especially in february and march in my country it can be very grey and cloudy and I tend to get more down. Some people even call it winter depression. I always long for spring and summer. You might want to take some vitamine D supplements this time of year.
Yes I do that too, but then I see chemtrails everywhere and it upsets me. I also try to look at the ground a lot, without bumping into people. Thank God for the internetshops, so I only have to go to a big city once a year and I get nervous about that 3 weeks in advance :-//
Yes right, vitamin D helps alot and it's perfectly fine to feel down when it's cloudy cuz at times the weather really reflects our mood
so much love to every highly sensitive person scrolling down the comments like me 💕💕💕 ,by the way girl, you have gorgeous eyes 😍😍😍 ...
Maya Sirine she seriously has some lovely eyes.
+LoveEvenWithABrokenHeart You are Awesome just thought you should know. Can we start a high sensitivity group. We live in such divisive times. we sensitive natured individuals need to stick together to help one another be better at our gifts.🌸🍀🌸🍀
LoveEvenWithABrokenHeart John Doe thank u, u too 💝💝💝
Edith Thompson a great idea 👌🌷
I am too
Being highly sensitive can feel like a burden at times, but once we learn to accept ourselves as we are, we can discover the amazing gifts that come with it, as there truly are many things in life that cannot be explained, but only felt ❤
Shir Levi Throughout my life people around me have been attacking me for being too sensitive. And as result I have developed depression as only 14 old girl.
Now I am adult and ok with just being with myself. It is the pressure of society that we all should be social and extroverted. But without introverts world woud fall apart because introverts are the ones who make change because they have genial idea.
Anyway,it still huts when people are cruel to me. I do not know if this is something that I as a hyper sensitive person can overcome as it is in my nature that everything matters to me so much.....
Shir Levi I am stunned, I've never heard of this however I have been praying and searching for an understanding of un these unexplained deep emotions I sense and the need to be alone. I just didn't understand but WOW this is so enlightening. THANK YOU. I can't wait to read the book and fully accept this gift ★
Yes, it's mostly a burden. I wish this whole "HSP/Empath" trend would die. It's not fun, and I miss the 90's and early 2000s when I was teased instead. Being in vogue is obnoxious, and people don't get it.
Would you make a video about being highly sensitive and going through a break up - or similar situations in which those emotions are so easily triggered? :) I would love it!
Shir Levi is your zodiac sign a cancer?? cu I am and I am so sensitive and it exhausts me to be so :$
I'm sixteen years old and have been labeled as 'sensitive' my whole life. I have had many downs in this small amount of time. Being called a crybaby because I cried easily. People telling me I get to influenced by other people and how they feel. I have always considered myself a people pleaser. I think they didn't really notice that I was a highly sensitive person because I'm everything but shy. I'm what they call a HSS, a high sensation seeker. They figured it out when I went to an acupucturist, who told me that she could feel my emotions running through my body like an open book. Sound very poetic, doesn't it? Being a sensitive person also made me respond very easily to treatments and antibiotics. Although sometimes still thinking it is a trait that doesn't always help me, it feels amazing to get to know yourself better. It feels amazing to know why you respond the way you do. Why I cry more than my classmates. Why someone who walks past me, can change my whole day. my whole mood. Being a HSP may not be the easiest thing in the world. But it does make me feel gifted even if not everyone can see it. :)
I've always been called sensitive and so have taken the word to be a negative thing. But seeing this has made me realise alot about me and think of it in a very different way. This really helped me. Thank you.
Same
Yes! I wish more people (or I should say more of my friends and family) understand this. I always wondered why I often felt overwhelmed and drained when I go to crowded places even if it's just minutes within entering a shopping centre, I thought it was my vision/sensitivity to bright lights and for a while, I even assumed it was my lack of iron that made me feel that way. It made me feel like I wasn't really present, like I was being pulled in so many different directions. Too many times, I've been called a hermit/anti social because I didn't want to go to a social event.. but at the same time, I still want to be invited and not forgotten. I've struggled with my personality my whole life, feeling like a misfit and unable to connect with others but now I feel so much more at peace, happy and living in the present -this is mainly due to working on myself for more than 10 years (learning how to appear normal, communicate with others etc) and because I now have a beautiful, happy baby girl who keeps me centred :) I've also learned how to cut out the toxic people in my life.. but I am still a work in progress and always will be. Love your channel so much, you are truly a beautiful and unique soul. You are the kind of friend I look for, I wish there were more like you. My test score is 26 but I already knew that I'm highly sensitive. Sending you love from Australia 💕
thank you so much for sharing your story and for your kind words, sending love to you soul sister ❤
Hello dear misfit, here's another one. I am also "antisocial" but since I am 54 now, I have learned to ignore that if it bothers others. Too bad for them. I am totally at ease with that now. Love yourself as you are, that's the remedie but it is also a difficult one to achieve. Love and light from Germany!
I find it funny that you thought you had low iron when walking into shopping malls. I always thought the same thing too! I would get dizzy immediately upon going into a store with bright lights lots of people and sounds. It is comforting to know that other people struggle with this.
I know exactly what you mean!! i can never go to crowded shopping malls without feeling dizzy! i searched all over google for a reason why, i also thought i was low in iron. i could never focus on the person i was out with because everyone around me distracted me so much that i would be exhausted in 10mins. love from Singapore :-)
Lily201186 that's so funny about the low iron. I have had low iron before during pregnancy and needed an extra boost in vitamins. So knowing how it feels, many times I also feel like I have low iron. Everyone sensitive seems to notice that :)
Wow.... this is me. Like everything you said... I've always been so sensitive to light, sounds, emotions, crowds... I NEED my alone time and I have extreme social anxiety and am very emotional and empathic. I notice very small details in movies and music and nature! I don't like to try to make myself out to be "special" or anything but this is totally me.
Sending to you courage and patience. Blessings.
You might be straight up empath rather just than HSP. They're very similar, we share traits and you can be both, but empaths also tend to be more energy-driven and intuitive vs mainly triggered by sensitivity to stimulation or a sensitive nervous system. Empaths may strongly sense their environment, often sense people's (or even sometimes an animal's) emotional or physical symptoms, and we tend to absorb it.
Score:23
Glad to know there's more to it than "Introvert"
Beautiful video,
Thank you. I cried! I am 56 yrs old and now finally understand who
I am.
Got 23 in the test. Never even knew this was a thing.
I'm surprised that only 15% of people are like this, because I know a number of people who would fit this description. Do you think that highly sensitive people are drawn to each other or that it runs in families?
I scored a 23 also. What is the max?
must run in families. all my siblings seem to be hsp too. influence in proximity is also a thing though
I've got epileptic siblings, do you guys?
Just a thought after reading Dostyevsky (There's always an epileptic relation to the protagonist).
I scored 24, no surprise because I have known for many, many years that I am highly sensitive.
During my younger years I was told by many that I was "too sensitive" which was very damaging to a young girl... like something was wrong with me.
As I have grown in years, I realize that this sensitivity is like a super power of sorts and I use it to enhance my life!
Thank you 💕
Jamiann Adams I also used to be told I'm too sensitive as a girl!
Jamiann Adams That made me cry. My family used to tell me that aaaallllllll the time and it hurt so much. I am grown now, but I guess the pain is still there somewhere.
I scored 27 on the test so i guess we can say i'm highly sensitive, but i already knew that. I could easily become a hermit...i have to force myself not to completely shut out the world sometimes . :)
but sometimes it's ok ;) ❤❤
I score 26 points. I so know that I am sensitive, sometimes I feel so lonely because not everyone understands my point of few. but I do love it when I can help someone.
That is amazing and so so important. And from my experience, the more I talk about my sensitivity, the more the people around me feel they can share theirs as well ❤ Much love to you dear
I also scored 26! I have felt alone for most of my life, when I began to consciously process how I interacted with the world and how I was.
LOL. I ALSO scored 26!
I'm so glad I watched your video, I had never heard of highly sensitive people before! I scored a 25. I had always thought I had some kind of learning deficincy or something, I can not listen to music or talking and do anything else. My friends in high school would listed to music when they did their homework but I had to have total silence, even then I was easily distracted. I get easily distracted or annoyed by light, sound and temperature. I jokingly tell people that I have dog ears because I seem to hear things no one else can. I can not be in large crowds of people, especially if it's very sunny and warm, I can have a panic attack or get angry from being over stimulated. I'm also very empathetic to others especially animals, and often am plagued by sad, horrible or depressing repeated thoughts. I am happiest when I am alone with my animals
Thank you so much, I am crying because I’ve never heard anyone describe how I feel and understand as well as you do, much love from Argentina!
So much love ❤️
I often feel weird because I don't need so much stimulation and social context as others. This leads to people getting to know me much slower compared to others. People also often feel like I am not interested in them, but this is mostly not the case. I enjoy meeting people but I also need so much time to myself and most people do not understand. It is quite sad actually and makes life harder.. :-( Love this clip :-)
i absolutely relate. i find it nearly impossible to create new friendships, it is the initial phase of not being comfortable around each other and the expectation to always be cheerful around each other that i can't seem to be able to put up with. i like being alone most of the time, it's just sometimes i crave social interaction and find myself with noone there. then i start comparing myself with my peers and i feel as if i'm a social outcast...
Laila Manja Messerschmidt I actually like when people are social with me, the hardest part for me is the beginning, how do you socialize, how do you just become really close with someone when you don't know them. What do you talk about? But at the same time I enjoy my alone time, I need my alone time! It's very contradicting.
00britney I feel the same way!
polkadotsla If someone interests you in a situation where you can get to know them, you can just ask basic questions that interest you. I am the kind of person, I often interested in the motivations of people, their family background e.t.c. I ask these kind of question during a conversation. Don't be afraid to converse about things that interest YOU and don't be afraid to put people off. If you are deeper then others and they do not approve of the way YOU like to converse, then don't. The right people will crystallise out of conversing with a few. Be happy about the people that drop out, as the right ones will then stand out. If you then feel like being a lone again, just say so. You can say, I have to go home now, because I have to cook, clean, sleep, don't feel well, what ever, but you yourself control how long the interaction goes and when YOU need to be alone again. The closeness, just comes naturally by spending time with people over a longer time period. Also, over this time period you will also know for yourself if YOU want be closer with specific people or not. If you do, then you can take action. So, it is all about YOU. How much time do YOU want to spend and with whom do you want to spend it with. You are free to put the pieces where you want. Hope this helps.
Laila Manja Messerschmidt wow that was actually amazing advice ❤ thank you so much
I also scored 26. One of the things that affect me the most is the lack of sleep. I cannot function on a sleep deficit, my emotions get insane and I feel physically sick. Good to see a lot of people kinda like me here :)
omg yes!! i feel physically sick too if i don't get enough sleep. like if i have to wake up before 6am i feel nauseas af 😂 thought it was just me.
Jessica Lynn Same here, you're not alone! Sometimes people don't understand what the big deal is. I used to envy those who can get away with not sleeping enough consistently, but now I just accept it and make sleep a priority...
Ana That's also exactly how I feel if I don't get my sleep, and I also need a lot of hours of it. For some reason our society values skipping sleep to "get more things done", but for some people that's very counterproductive!
Omg you just described my life!!😂 I need at least 8-10 hours of sleep in order to work and function well. Also, my body gets more fat and sick when I don't sleep well and have lack of sleep. 😢
I just answered the questions and according to your poll 100% answered they are highly sensitive and yet we are only 15% of population.. isnt it amazing that people with similar personalities and mind sets all gather around one TH-cam channel?
It is beautiful ❤
Jana Banášová Only 15%?? Truly!? That surprises me. I rated a 26.
Checked every box on that quiz.
Finding out this year about the HSP has been game changing for me. I spent my entire life thinking there was something wrong with me.
Everything makes perfect sense now.
I am so glad that you took the time to make this video! I found out that I actually am highly sensitive I even looked up positive quotes about Oversensitivity and made them into posters to hang on my wall. Most of my friends know about this and they try to comfort me at all times as best as they can. I am not sensitive to sounds or lighting so much but I am really sensitive to words and action. Anyway, if you read this, I really encourage you to just keep on going with your life because being highly sensitive is a wonderful gift. Thank you.
Highly sensitive people are strongly advised to avoid electromagnetic frequencies from wireless, power lines and house wiring. Using ethernet instead of Wifi, airplane mode your phone as much as possible, and most importantly, turn off the circuit breaker to your bedroom at night. These steps (and others) will help so much!
Wow, I will try and do this! Thank you for these tips! I was always one to keep my phone away from me during the night. I know many of us sleep with our phones under our pillows or next to us on the side table drawers. Now it is time that I go back to this!
The Simple Life it's okay to have your phone near your bed while you are sleeping as long as it's in airplane mode (make sure 3G/4G/Wifi/bluetooth are all off). That way you can still use it for an alarm, listen to music, read an ebook, etc. But if you need to leave it on (like if you're a doctor or EMT on call), distance will help, as well as leaving it in a place where it has the most bars (fewer bars means the phone boosts its power).
Miss Aaliyah my pleasure. It's all about avoiding the negative energy when possible so when the unavoidable stuff comes into our field, our bodies/minds are better able to cope and respond. Making a low-EMF haven where you sleep is really the key.
Thank you I'll try that. 😃
EMF Minimalist thanks, I'm highly sensitive and psychic these EMF affects more than most. Resulting in severe migraine. I feel like a whale beaching when sonar hits it.
oh yes. finally I realized my empathy was a strength. Here is an example: I started volunteering at the pet center where I used to cry whenever I went in the store. Now I am helping those cats and only sometimes I cry. Mostly it's a glorious gift working with others who care deeply to save many animals each week month and year. I also became a pet sitter in my spare time to give more love and found I was monetarily compensated in return as well. A good energy exchange.
thank you for sharing dear , you are amazing ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this! I am definitely a highly sensitive person and have also suffered years of depression because of it. I am also very sensitive to the condition of my body, especially by being tired and hungry. What has helped me with this is meditating every day. It has really helped me get my thoughts together and be aware of what's happening around me.
This was such a great video...I have ADHD and it seems a lot of my symptoms cross over with high sensitivity.... you've described a LOT of what I feel. I'm going to check out that book, so glad I can get it as an audio version! Lastly, you are ABSOLUTELY STUNNING!!!! Your eyes are just WOW! Thank you for this video!!
Wow. I was the same way. Really outgoing and over-confident as a kid, to the point of being socially oblivious. I'm the complete opposite now. (I got 23 on the test)
+KimPossible ❤
lordy, me so much
i really wonder what changed XD i was so rambunctious as a kid, didn't care what anyone thought of me, i'd do crazy things at parties, now i'm rediculously shut in and sealed behind a hard shell of fear and anxiety that's been curing for half my life
This was brilliant. I've always been empathetic to the point where it's beaten me down by trying to help the wrong people or believing that I should be a slave to others and never put myself first. I scored 24 on that test and I'm totally going to read the book.
Thank-you for making this 💕
I feel like Elsa, I got a gift that I can't control
What a good mindset you have :)
I feel you 😔😔
@@fimutma 🙂
Its so hard being a HSP Male🤦🏽♀️
Stay strong dude and never stop loving yourself
same
noooooooo I LOVE hsp males.
Dude i agree, bein a male HSP is hella tough
Correct！
I scored 25 on the quiz and this video brought me to tears because of how relatable everything was for me. I learned a lot of new things and I feel a huge sense of relief knowing that there are so many others out there. Thank you!
This was SO helpful!! Thank you! A million times thank you! xo
Score: 23. An example: there are songs that make me cry when I hear them and it has happened since I was a kid. I used to say to my dad, "please, change the song" because I started crying. And now I cry when I hear the songs that my partner used to put on the days before our son was born. Very emotional!
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Yes omg me too! I'm glad someone else does this! Like for example I often can't listen to Sufjan Steven's music without crying :')
My score is 24. I always feel that I'm a loner and something is wrong with me. My parents used to say that I'm a hyper sensitive people. I try very hard to be 'normal' like other people but sadly its just not me... if i do it, its just me faking it.
That was so tiring. I also can feel negative vibes and being with negative people makes me sick, stress and depress. I can read people effectively just by seeing their gesture and facial expression even if its a stranger. I also very sensitive to bright sun light (always curtain down in the mid morning) and loud TV. I always mute my TV during commercial break. I dont know why. But its bother me and make me cant concentrate to other things like talking, or reading. I love animal... cause their love is unconditional love. Love to help people but hate to be around argumentative and negative person... Glad to know that im not alone having this personality... Love myself but sometime hate it when most people can't understand me
27- lightbulb moment. There are times when there is so much going on and the energy around me makes me so edgy that I want to bolt or scream or get very angry and I just hold it in. It is.exhausting. Thank you for sharing this information.
big big hug ❤
Kim, I'm the same about the high, uncomfortable levels of energy. I thought I was claustrophobic for awhile (maybe I am lol). My grounding for this is getting in nature, somewhere with wide open spaces. The only place I can fully get rid of the edge and can tune into different frequencies, re-energize. Weird but true!
this nearly made me cry. this is me.
i feel understood
thank you so much for this🤍
אני כל כך שמחה שמצאתי את הסרטון הזה. אני כרגע בנקודת שפל בחיי שאני לא בטוחה שאצא ממנה בזמן הקרוב אבל כל חיי לא הבנתי מה לא בסדר איתי כי אני לא מעבדת רגשות כמו אחרים ואני לא מגיבה ולא מתמודדת כמו אנשים אחרים, וכל מה שאמרת ושיתפת פה יכול להיות הדבר שיציל אותי כי אני מרגישה שאני יכולה לתת לזה שם. אני מקווה שאוכל להשתמש בידע הזה כדי לטפל בזה. תודה רבה רבה לך, באמת אין לך מושג כמה עזרת לי עכשיו.
I too was depressed for years due to suppressing my emotions through my childhood and teenage years. I felt like I discovered I even had emotions at 21-22 years old, I had always thought "feelings" was just an empty word.
my score: 26! i've always known since i was very young i am highly sensitive, even if i didn't have the vocabulary or understanding of the concept in full. thank you SO much for this video shir, it will be very helpful along my healing journey.
Juliana Marie my score is 26 as well 😂. This video is 👌.
I've been an HSP ever since I can remember! Took a long time for me to realize that most people around me didn't see the world as I experience it. I grew up thinking I was somehow inferior... But I pretty much accept it now. I've come to view being HSP as mostly positive. It helps with my writing, for one thing. And for creativity, in general. Very important, if it's possible, to share with important people in my life, I've found. Thanks for posting this.
Thanks from all of my heart ! I don't know what happens with me since i saw your film and found out, that i'm highly sensitive... my whole life i tried to be "normal" and was very hard to myself, also my parents. As i saw your wonderful film and realized that i'm NOT an Error or bad person... that i'm born with, let me cry a million tears and i was so happy to see that i'm NOT guilty of the way that i react... now i be the first time in my life able to love myself. Thank you for your good advices ! Now i could treat me better and have also the chance for a better, happier future ! You are wonderful ! All the best for you ...and i still keep on making music.
I’m crying because some random kid I met online insulted me *once* ,Fucking hate this. I’m so angry at myself. And whining is the only thing can do about it.
I think I have social anxiety. I'm in my 20s so it doesn't bother me but I do feel like I miss out on a lot. I hang out with my friends every once and a while but I don't get invited to a lot of things because of not reaching out and I find I isolate myself. This happened even when I was in college. I'm also quiet around people, even my close friends. Great video.
Sheer, I absolutely LOVE THIS VIDEO!! I just found out I was a highly sensitive person plus an empath. I feel like I have had an awakening and I feel like I am a new person!! I finally love myself!
I am 53 years old and I am finally understanding I am who I am ! I have always been an old soul from a child I knew I was different. I can get into another persons pain and this is so draining on me. I hate phones, I can only be around a few ppl . I know I am loved though. I just have a million thoughts on my head and others can not understand but I try to make due with the life I am given. Blessings
brooo i went to a festival to volunteer and i felt so guilty because i could t work! there were so many people and sounds and situations, feeling like i got eyes all over my body and every movement is an observation and experience! i felt so much better coming home to sit in my yard. lesson: i dont have to do things just because others are.
I've never watched a video that described me so to the T before. Shir, as I watch all the videos you post, I feel such a connection to the way you describe your emotions and the way you live your life. I'm extremely similar to you, and I'm so glad I found your channel. Whenever I'm feeling down, I come back and watch this video as a friendly reminder that it's okay -- there are ways to navigate our crazy minds, and it's not the end of the world if you do something wrong. Thank you for being a TH-camr and putting yourself out there, and honestly just for being you. You're an inspiration!
Thank you for this video. I didn't know anything about highly sensitive people or that being highly sensitive was a thing. The longer I watched your video the more I could relate. I took the test and got a total of 14! I was really surprised! But it is also really cool to find something out about yourself that you didn't know before:) Thanks Shir!!
I'm a highly sensitive person 🙄🙄🙄 and I always say yes to everything even though I don't like it or don't want to just to make other feels good
I prefer to be alone on Christmas new year etcetera don't know why my family most of the times get mad at me cause I would ratter sleep and stay in my bedroom by myself than being with them
DASHZ GIRL this is me always saying yes
Thank you so much for this video. I just discovered I am a highly sensitive person and I'd always thought something was wrong with me, especially because people don't always understand... But now I have tools ;) thanks so much ! Take care, you beautiful soul xxx
I came across this video in the spring of 2017. It started my conscious awakening Journey. In 2013 I came across the term highly sensitive person and everything made sense. I continued to ignore that side of myself though. This year, my life changed. Your video catapulted it all. After your video I found Ralph Smarts "How to know you're an Empath" video and my life has forever been changed.
Thank you Shir. Your knowledge echoes in ways you don't know about. ❤
MY mother has always said me That i Was too sensitive in all aspects. I Was really affected when People around me suffer, and i suffer at the same level when he or she is suffering.
I am really empathetic and is Hard living in This life so superficial, With a lack of emotions.
MY psicólogo said me That i had an excess of sensitivity. Anyone Know if i am highly sensitive?
Ana Thanks a lot Anna! I dont see the point That is a Good gift... I only suffer and every time is much more difficult to see as a Good thing... Maybe if we could put in touch in a forum i Would be more understood...
Anyway Thanks a lot to answer me
Angela Fernandez Yeah this very hard. I was in a bad situation living with my mother in law who would complain to my husband everyday about all the things he did wrong. It hurt me so much, that broken relationship between them. So I broke down crying and my MIL was like: Wow you are really sensitive (after almost a year of that stress...I don't think you even have to be HSP for that). But it is hard to deal with those people that have 'hardened'/'toughened up' by life, as my MIL is. Some bad things happened to her. And even though my own life hasn't always been easy (whose has?). I try to stay open minded and try to understand myself and the people around me better. But yeah I understand it is a struggle, when people tell you that you are 'too sensitive'...They just don't understand...
Angela Fernandez Well I relate to this So I believe you can be Highly Sensitive
Thank you Shir! I discovered this book almost twenty years ago when I was teaching in Portugal. It was so eye-opening to discover that I am a highly sensitive person and a handful of my students were as well. I have recommended this book so much over the years and am deeply grateful for you sharing your personal experience. My biggest challenge now is how to best care for myself in the highly public and social life I experience on a daily basis. How to find that alone time, to stay healthy and to create healthy boundaries without being defensive. I am highly sensitive and compassionate but after too much of my boundaries being pushed and too much stimuli, I get fed up! I welcome the anger and even rage, for I know it is giving me energy, motivation to continue to move forward to create a life that is more conducive to the highly sensitive being I am. Many Blessings.
Well said Emily. My name is Jared and I'm HSP too. I'm from New Zealand
Nature and being creative with things can help, also accept your sensitive gifts and see them as tools that can work for you not against you (resistance?) Cheers!!
Wow Shir! So much love and details in this video! Thank you for sharing, it is soo helpful for all of us! Keep going girl!
Thank you so much for making this video bby! ♥️♥️♥️
this video put so much into perspective for me! Thank you for making this!
Wow this is so interesting, I always found myself to be highly sensitive to light and loud noises and couldn't figure out why no one else around me did. Thanks for the video, super informative!!
I am so glad I watched this video, it helped me realise I am not alone in my emotions. Thank you so much for being you and sharing your experience as a Highly Sensitive Person. I've always felt a little off in that way and I can relate to so much of your emotions so thank you. I decided to share/use my gift to help others by studying psychology. It just feels like the only way to try to understand and aid. Thank you so much, Shir
much much love to you, thank YOU ❤
I'm also a highly sensitive person and I've discovered it around the end of 2015. I can't imagine my life and me without this bless.
First comment on TH-cam! After seeing this I had to write some words of love and support and also share a little of my experience. I am highly sensitive as well, scoring 24 on the test. While I don't feel particularly shy, and most people agree that I come off as outgoing, I am very picky about who I spend time with and who I want in my life. I'm very sensitive to negativity and people's intentions. I cry easily, especially when I'm overwhelmed and have to do more than a few major tasks in a day. I also struggle with motivation if the task is not in line with my core values (sometimes struggle working for big companies). I never thought of myself as having few friends until I just sat and thought about it. I spend a lot of time alone and need it to interact with the world. I go through periods where I get very upset and sad at the world, society and what we've done to the beautiful Earth. I find myself being an incredibly loving and understanding person, but at the same time dealing with a lot of anger towards humanity (similar to a commenter b leria below). I've found spirituality is a great way to deal with these sometimes overwhelming emotions and helps me make peace with the world. Something I also feel, that I have not seen in the comment section or in the video, is a sensitivity to food. My body is so sensitive that I have to eat vegan, unprocessed food. Any complicated dish or food that seems to have negative energy effects my digestion and mood almost immediately! Anyone else here like that? Amazing video! I LOVE your energy!
I have highly sensitive hearing. Each time I hear the alarms go off at school I cover my ears because of how loud they are.
yeah, i wear earplugs whenever i leave my room because there are just too many painfully loud sounds around, when i take a shower, when i'm in the kitchen with clanging dishes, around musical instruments, when i'm around roads with cars driving by, when the vacuum is running, any other loud appliance, etc., and i always keep earplugs with me wherever i go when i leave the house
I cover my ears too even when a plane passed by :V
Score: 24
love your videos. i do all this stuff since years and it helped me a lot. 🦄💟💫
vegan eating, yoga and meditating helped me as well. i love to be an empath 😄.
what an amazing gift! ❤❤❤
Michaela Fuchs Me too!!! OMG
Me too
I score 19!
Im so glad I find your TH-cam channel!
A big kiss from Portugal! :)
I'm glad you are here! ❤
This video gave me so much anxiety. I am going on a trip this summer with two of my friends for 10 days. It's totally out of my comfort zone, because we are road tripping and spending all his time together, and I am really stressed out. I'm also kind of excited about this because it's something I never did and I want to see beautiful places and have new experiences and go out of my comfort zone. I'm also going to a festival and because of the video you showed I really thought 'oh no'. Because I know I won't be able to retrieve there. We're sleeping in a tent (only for two nights), but it means we're gonna get up and close and not able to be alone. I'm also glad I saw this video because now I realize I have something to reflect and work on. I'm meeting up with my friends tomorrow to plan the trip and I think I am going to say something about it. I wish I could be happy about the beautiful trip I am going to make, but no, here I am stressing out about being up close with two people for 10 days. Goddangit
Thank you so much for making this a topic in your video because for the longest time I thought I’m just really weird that would never be normal or ever fit in and think others thought the same thing for as long as they have known me. On the that test, I found the answer to why I always feel like crying when someone says something negative about me, why I notice or feel things more intimately than most. This has truly been an eye opener. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
on the flip side dealing with someone who is highly sensitive is draining. When ever im around people who highly sensitive, i always feel like im walking on egg shells. Its like i have to tip toe around them to not accidentally set up an emotional eruption from that individual.
Then when I try to explain my perspective on things im met with snarky responses like "You're just an asshole." or "you should try being more considerate."
Most of the time i get annoyed and cut them out of my life.
this is a huge reason why i have a hard time accepting my own self, being so sensitive, because i can understand what it's like on the other side, and often do my best to hide my sensitivities because i can't stand the idea of upsetting anybody, but in the end all that really ends up happening is i retreat and hide away forever because my sensitivities just can't be avoided, i just can't "get over" it, as much as i'd like to just for the sake of the people the relationships with whom i care about
This is actually true. I recently had a falling out with a friend over something that seems small to me, but is a huge issue for him. I just apologized prefusely and tried to understand his situation, but he just wants to take a break from us. I have felt so guilty and talked with others about it who made me realize that he is not being reasonable. It's hard though.. I love him but I also feel like you shouldn't have to tip toe around your friends.
this is why i hate myself
Maybe it is hypersensitivity in narcissistic individuals, that you encounter.
I'm late but it seems like you were dealing with a narcissist rather than a HSP. I don't think HSP will ever be as daring to say such things to your face. Narcissists usually tend to guilt trip like that.
This video was really great, I can relate 100% to everything you say. very helpful tips and just nice to see that more people experience the same things! Mindful greetings, Vera from Simple Happy Zen
i scored 27 , i really appreciate you talking about this,this really helped.
Thanks so much for this! I scored 100% on the quiz a while back. Discovering I was a HSP made so much sense of my entire life! It explained my strong sensitivities to bright light, to sound (misophonia included), to smell (I can smell pasta when it is al dente from 2 rooms away), to texture. I feel like my senses have been in overdrive my whole life. Not only that, I pick up on everyone's intentions and energies, and a room full of hostile energy will send me into a panic and force me to leave. I am always exhausted. I work from home with 2 small children and barely have time to myself. When they sleep however, I love retreating to my bedroom for quiet time. Funny part of it all is that I am an extrovert (ENFJ). It would be so amazing to meet fellow HSPs like me!
I was actually diagnosed with hyper sensitive nerve disorder (hyper sensitive person) a few months ago by my doctor. That explained soooooo many health problems I had over the years! The best thing she said I can do to help my disorder is meditation and yoga.
The world can be a very overwhelming place for people like us....thank you for sharing this video with the world.
INFJs and INFPs
Syma Chun ♡♡♡
ISFP's?
ISFPs are sensitive as well but not highly sensitive
Syma Chun Im ENFP and I can also Identity with this
Syma Chun I love being with people and I also Need time for myself....its like being introverted and extroverted at the Same time
I had no idea about HSP. But it describes my life experience perfectly, from high sensitivity to noise, smells, textures, to anxiety and depression, to being very empathetic and intuitive. I wonder if all INFJs are also HSP? (I took the test and got a 26). Thank you Shir!
I'm wondering the difference between highly sensitive and social anxiety
Completing the test and there seems to be a lot of similarities
Jess I was thinking the same!
I believe the difference is mainly in the degree it affects you. Being highly sensitive can be hard in social situations, but it is not paralyzing. It takes a lot of energy sometime yes, but you do not shut down. Anxiety on the other hand can completely run your life and make social situations simply impossible.
I literally clicked every single one of them. I had seen an article about "how to tell if you're an empath" & that's what brought me to this video. I've always known I was a highly sensitive person but, I didn't realize how much it really affects my life, for the better & worse. So thank you so much, not only for this video, but providing the quiz. Love, love , love the energy you give off. Keep doin your thang girl ! :)
I'm an infj and I have always found myself spending a long time in the bathroom or closing a door in a room just to be by myself when I'm surrounded or living with a group of people. People take offence to it and think I'm upset with them but it's nothing on them, I'm just a HSP who needs to regain my energy! Thank you for the great tips, Shir. Extra self-care sounds good to me
I had to check almost every box, except the one with the caffeine, because I don't really know it. Already did another test like one year ago where you could reach about 135 points and I reached 129. It's so hard for me to deal with it... I'm like constantly exhausted, people empty me and my anxiety makes it so hard to stand everyday life... plus my self-esteem is like non-existing, I can't even look people in they eyes when they talk to me. And nobody understands me, I'm just the weird girl that doesn't have any friends, just sitting in her room, doing nothing. I even broke up with my boyfriend because I hate myself so much and I started feeling so uncomfortable around him... it feels like it's never going to end. It just won't pass... :(
Melissa B. it will dear speak positivity to your self u can do it
mhm! i'm so afraid of interacting with people, actually talking to people and being myself, because as soon as i expose myself in any way, i feel extreme anxiety and regret, fearing every little detail about what they might be thinking of me, feeling like i'm a huge mess up, i tremble and feel traumatized when i have to speak up about anything remotely personal, it can be crippling, i can't even feel comfortable around my own family, i'm always in my room just blocking everyone out because it's the only way i feel i can be okay enough
i'm just a blank person who smiles and doesn't say anything when i have to be around other people, i avoid as much as possible having to engage with anybody
i feel totally trapped and hopeless about it, watching my life go by with all the people i care about and want to enjoy life with living their lives distant from me, because i feel physically incapable of letting them in
I am not shy, am just sensitive and can be hurt easy. But I know if a person dislike me or love me. Trust me!
I live in London where the property prices are insane. And if you're an HSP and have to apartment-share it can be very very difficult. Also if you're an HSP who attracts people then that's even harder. If I was able to make money the way I make friends I'd be a very wealthy woman. And it's difficult because women especially tend to bond through conversation but I'm not really the person who will pick up the phone and ring you. And you'll wait a long time if you're waiting for me to invite you out for a coffee. It's just not what I do. I can love you as a friend and still dread meeting up with you (laughs) How do you explain that to new people who want to get to know you?
You just described my life 😂
Lol mine toooo but I'm not in London, but yeaaaa,
Omg this is me.
True that.
actually my life omg
Omggg, the "very much affected by the condition of your body" thing !!! I've been seing the sensitivity part of it as a blessing since I've red tha "Anne of Green Gables" novels (if you value imagination and sensitivity you HAVE to read them, even if you're not an hsp). But this body thing, I've always seen it as a weakness. I can't do ANYTHING properly if I'm hungry or sleepy or tired or thirsty or rally need to pee... And my physical well being is very much affected by what I eat and by exercise. My life simply doesn't work If I don't exercise (I can't listen to my own thoughts, can't sleep...). I simply CAN'T deal with overwhelming situations if I'm tired, and I've always felt so weak because of it. Thank you so much for letting me know it's just a part of who I am (:
I am a highly sensitive person. I always loved people and animals and nature and art... and I most definitely was not prepared facing the cruelty of the animal industry. (a colleague recommended me to watch a documentary) Ultimately I am extremely glad I did watch it (even if it was hard), as I could stop assisting to torture and killing, and I became vegan (which for me finally meant, I live in complete harmony with my own values... Compassion and empathy, with no exception... selfless without speciesism). Ever since I have to take care of myself with care (which I never really focused before) and educate myself to deal with people more efficiently. I am so glad that now I can make a good use of my sensitivity. As a construction architect I had a great sense for details and project management, so I decided to combine everything and I became an entrepreneur financing and starting environmental and pro-vegan startups as well as an activist.
All you need is awareness of Self. Your abilities are just natural abilities we all have but most people are more constricted in awareness. Most ppl would be shocked at what i've experienced since birth. They don't understand the natural self. Balance is very important for everyone. Please don't think you are somehow more special or gifted than others, that is just another ego ploy which creates more imbalance in the world. Understanding your self means understanding equality. How else would you have compassion if you think your somehow more special than others. Everyone's special, so no no one is. That's balance. That's equality. Peace.
I don't think she means she is more special than others. But highly sensitive persons often pull themselves down when they notice they can't do or handle things the way others can or the way society tells us to. That's why it is very important for these people to accept who they are in order to take care of themselves propperly and to enjoy life. When they do this they might come to see their sensitivities as gift instead of a burden. again this doesn't mean other people aren't gifted. We are all the same but all different.
I didn't mean her specifically. I meant ANYONE who thinks they are "gifted" because they are empaths. It isn't a "gift" it is how you and everyone else is. Naturally. It is a human being thing to be an empath. It isn't "superhuman" or any of those other words ppl use to describe it. It is how the natural human being functions when they understand who they are and what it means to be human. Because we have been taught to not trust and love ourselves, once we finally heal ourselves we come into the recognition of equality. It is the same for everyone. We are all humans.
I don't really get your point. No one is telling anyone that high sensitive persons are more special than others. Of course all people are equal but that doesn't mean some people are or feel different. Again most highly sensitive persons tend to see their emotions as a negative quality rather than a positive one. Because western societies often speak of being 'too emotional' in a negative way. So it is really needed that people speak up for highly sensitive people. That doesn't make them egocentric (most highly sensitive persons aren't egocentric anyway). That also doesn't make them more special than others... Actually what that does is making them equal with others who don't get easily overwhelmed or tired from emotions and don't get limited in their daily lives because of it. I'd rather say to everyone that he/she is special to boost their confidence than to say you're just like everybody else. We're all equal but we're still unique.
Yes, that is exactly what im saying. EVERYONE is AMAZING. Not just the empath. EVERYONE. But there are some empaths who "think" they are somehow the special ones. That is EGO. Which everyone also has. The perspective is one of wholeness. Wholeness is complete. Wholeness recognizes itself as EQUAL not SPECIAL. Everyone is special because everyone is EQUAL. So really there is no one more special than another. I hope you understand that. Love & Infinite Blessings to you! ♥
No one was being egotistical here. By your original comment its like your saying that high sensitivity is not a unique gift when you said it's just a "natural ability that we all have". That's like saying the gift of a really talented basketball player, or a really talented singer, are "just natural abilities that we all have". But like the gift of a highly sensitive person, that statement is not true. Our unique gifts are not gifts that "we all have" because clearly most people don't have the gift of high sensitivity, great athletics or a beautiful voice. Your comment made it seem like high sensitivity is just run of the mill, everyone has it - which is untrue. We are all gifted and special in our own ways, but be careful not to write off other people's gifts as if they aren't unique to each and every person.
i scored 15, I am diagnosed with depression and i might also have BPD, noise always sets me off. i hate it so much but i love music. also a messy room annoys me although i used to never be a tidy person when i was younger. minimalism helps. but i havent fond a solution for outside noise other than noise cancelling headphones. btw youre so beautiful.
I don't like being around other people cause all I do is feel their emotions and try to make people happy.
Changinitup McGee same
Thank you so much for making this video! I already know that I'm a highly sensitive person, but it's always good to be reminded that it's okay to be different. I'm also something called an empath, and I find it fascinating how similar both conditions are, and how much they have in common. Without knowing, a lot of high sensitive people are probably empaths as well. Again, thank you so much. You seem like such a beautiful soul. Love and high vibrations sent your way xx
I got 26 on the quiz, honestly your serenity amazes me, I have always tried to fight my hypersensitivity. I was very impressed that you spoke to many of your hypersensitivity, even giving you books about it! I have difficulty talking about it. Thank you so much for this vid and for your support! A hug for you from Italy
What an amazing video! OMG THIS IS ME!!! I am highly sensitive too:) I have had people tell me that actually! LOL! I know that I have a very HIGH EQ (emotional intelligence). Since becoming a mother, it is harder and harder to get my alone time and I feel guilty sometimes that I cannot....I can't though.... It can be a blessing and a curse as I am sure you know, but the key is to accept yourself, just like you said:) xoxo
thank you for sharing dear ❤ doing the best we can and accepting is the most important thing
I got 21. I never really thought of myself as a sensitive person. I know that I am and have always been more susceptible to mentally and physically things. I don't like big crowds, and I have a hard time finding new friends since people often make me uncomfortable. But it would make a lot of sense if I was highly sensitive.
I got 24
I am also a highly sensitive person and the thing I calm down with is listening to music.
I discover this today with my therapist this is giving me hope, thank you for the videos
Thank you for posting this, it has helped me understand the way that I digest life, and feel more normal instead of totally different to everyone in the world.