I feel like a "when did you start feeling like yourself" question leans towards more mental-state than physical-state... at least that's what I think of. A lot of moms deal with postpartum depression and anxiety and some don't feel like themselves mentally for upwards of a year. If you're reading this as a new mom and living that reality right now, trust me - you will be yourself again. And you got this. ❤
This!! I didn't start feeling back to myself mentally till just recently when my daughter was around 18 months back in May. But have been physically feeling normal since like 4 month pp.
I think too, women will never be who they are before and society HATES admitting that to postpartum moms. You have transitioned from woman to mother, biologically, there are changes that happen in the brain, you'll never be the same, you have to find the new girl you have become, and it really does take a couple years❤️
@@corablah9809 A lot of people think they have to give up their identities to have children, so I think what you've said could come across as dangerous, even if I know what you're ultimately getting at. Also motherhood comes in many different shapes/sizes (adoption, step-parenting, etc)... so I think it's important for everyone to know that you can still be You even when you become a parent. 🥰🥰
After baby 1 I had many different moments of “oh, NOW I feel normal again!” 😂 3 months pp, 6 months pp, 10 months pp…in the end I only truly felt like “myself” again after I stopped breastfeeding and got my cycle back. I suddenly had energy again and clicked right back into my exercise routine and the mindset/mood I had had before becoming pregnant. Mentally and physically both had a lot of changes because of pregnancy and breastfeeding.
I agree totally. I suffered horrendously with my first born with depression for months. In fact I did not bond with her straight away. This is not something people talk about a whole lot. I loved her of course but I didn't feel that strong bond for a while. Not everyone will 'fall in love' straight away. Not knowing that made my depression so much worse as I felt 'alien'. I was so scared to talk to anyone about it because I was afraid everyone would think I was a bad mom. I didn't feel like myself for about 2 years I would say x
Women are phenomenal. I’m just listening to you talk about everything you went through with a c section, a vbac, natural labor etc. Women are so amazing. Shout out to all the mamas out there. Y’all are the best!
There's a huge study that was done on happiness of mother & the number of kids she has, and the study found that mothers with 4 kids are the happiest of all the mothers!!!
My miserable mother had 4 kids and wanted more... I think women with 6+ kids are more fulfilled. God says be fruitful. Most women in the bible had 7-15 kids
@@saintamerican6105the reason ppl had 7-15 kids in that time period is because infant mortality rate was 50% meaning that even tho they had 15 children, only half of them likely survived. So they weren't raising & parenting 7-15 kids they were only parenting 3-7 kids bc they likely lost many children in infancy
@@saintamerican6105my mom had 10 kids and she was also miserable. Damaged body, no financial stability; and literally no time for yourself is not a happy life.
With the “cold flashes” I might ask your doctor to check your hemoglobin and iron because that happened a lot to me when I had pretty bad iron deficiency anemia. I got on prescription iron from my doctor and it really helped a lot! I wouldn’t be surprised if you were anemic from pregnancy and bleeding. I learned after my diagnosis that iron is a mineral the body can store for later and if your stores run out and you don’t get enough in your diet to make up for that it can make you anemic pretty quickly. And it can take a long time to rebuild your stores. Which is why I’m on iron pills until next year and I’ve already been taking them a few months.
Chinese Medicine tells us that postpartum is a time of cold. It's our job to heal our bodies with warmth and rest. Warming foods, socks and sweaters and more. Being physically chilled just leans towards signs of depletion. Of course, we're trained to go and do and be, but this is the body saying "hey! tend to me too".
I just teared when you said “say bye” and a flashback came through my mind of you saying that exact words to small Eloise when she was your only child 🥹 ❤ Things are so different today and still you remain the calm woman of God you always were. Sending you lots of love from Slovakia (middle Europe) ❤ P.S. I would love to see day in your life - I miss seeing all your kids 😊
Please take us along with building your new postpartum wardrobe! :) I also wanna wear more dresses, but I find it especially during cold wintertime really challenging.
Not a professional, just relaying what a lactation consultant told me about my personal situation. I have painful letdowns. I was also told I have a very aggressive fast flowing let down, as seen by him gulping a ton. They said that can lead to more gas or reflux in some babies. They told me I could pump just a few minutes to save her from the most aggressive letdown and then let her nurse and potentially give her the pumped milk after. I haven't done it because I don't have the bandwith to pump and wash parts at this point postpartum and he is still handling it well.
The book “The First 40 Days” talks about the importance of keeping the postpartum mama warm and wrapped up in order to prevent “wind” from moving through the body. This might have been what you were experiencing. It’s really important to stay warm during those new moment of recovery so that the body can heal! Thanks for sharing your personal story with us, I love watching your videos. You are such a great mama!
Thanks for touching on getting your period so soon after giving birth. I got mine back at 2 months postpartum and I was really hoping to be one of the women that goes a year before getting it again.
Love the update! Also my lactation consultant told me with each baby you have your milk regulates faster because your body has already done it before and knows how much milk to produce so you don’t deal with overproducing as long each time! Just thought it was a cool fact! Love the vlogs! 🧡
Even if I am turning 38 on November, still wanting to have my 2nd baby, I still learned a lot from you having 4 kids yourself. Thanks for sharing your wonderful mom journey. 🤗💗
Aww I hope you get your 2nd baby soon!!! Try not to stress about it too much or think about it too much so it can come more naturally , you look amazing for your age
Love it! Video ideas- First time pregnancy and newborn advice. new born essentials (I am about to have my first baby and I don't have a lot of space and am overwhelmed with all the baby stuff). Advice on how to prepare your marriage for starting a family.
A baby wrap,nappies, wipes, changing bag, muslins baby clothes such as grows,vests and outfits along with cardigans and socks. Car seat, blankets and crib That's pretty much all you need if you plan on breastfeeding if not add on bottles, formula, steriliser. If you plan to use a pram buy one too if not 2 baby wraps would be great just in case of a blow out.
Our daughter sounds very similar, she really was only comfortable upright and so she spent a lot of time sleeping in the wrap in the early months. Co-sleeping absolutely saved our sanity!
Also Delilah I'm thankful you did make freezer meals BC I've done the same, I'm 39+3 weeks with my fourth and have about 30 meals and counting in the chest freezer that I'm so excited to get stuck into. I also made banana bread,cookies and brownies etc. It's going to be so good to eat home cooked meals with little effort
They say pregnant women glow. I think it is the first time I have ever seen a postpartum mom, glow. Dililah you are glowing, you look radiantly beautiful and so at peace. I strongly feel you were definitely born to have babies, be a mom, a wife and a homemaker. 💞 Regardless, don't worry too much about your clothing even though it's always nice to add new items to your wardrobe.
my daughter had reflux, and we didn't know until 4 months (which is when it is at its worst). But she got progressively worse until then and went back to her happy self after starting medication for it. It was ROUGH before that. Less and less sleep, more fussing etc
My tips for recovering from a minor tear: sit on a donut pillow; keep your legs together and don't cross them; multiple sitz baths per day of 2c epsom salt and 1c apple cider vinegar; witch hazel pads; padsicles. Good luck!
I would get your sweet babe in for an evaluation for a posterior tongue tie and lip tie. The overactive and painful letdown, gassy belly, acid reflux, etc can all be signs of oral ties. Even though the latch feels good and looks good from the outside, the tongue tie in the back makes it so the tongue can not function properly or make the right motion. This makes more air to be gulped, and it also triggers overactive letdowns and makes for the milk to come out super fast! A pediatric dentist should be able to evaluate and do a laser surgery. ❤
Yes, I have a 5 week old girl (2nd child), and I'm not kidding every single thing Delilah describes about their breastfeeding situation is exactly the same for us! While she is eating and gaining weight very well, she also has the same.issues with swallowing air, drinking quickly, gassy... she makes clicking sounds, so she doesn't have an "air thight" latch, and we now discovered a light tongue tie, next monday we get it checked by a specialist and maybe cut if necessary and we will see if it helps. 🙏
@iuliaionce make sure it's a laser revision- it needs to be revised as you have symptoms related to it. The laser revision ( most pediatric dentists can do this) can't reattach as easily as just snipping with a scalpel.
Second the suggestion for laser revision vs cutting. Laser can reattach too, but the precision of the revision is usually superior because the site isn't obscured by blood as they're working on it. No matter what you choose, be so diligent about the stretches so you don't have to have it repeated!! Best of luck ❤
I have a 2 month old.. almost 3 months now. I keep catching up on your older videos while breastfeeding. Something about your daily life with a baby helps me normalise whatever I feel. Also I am starting to try cloth diapers. You inspire me the way you do it all with 4 children...makes me feel I can do this with one. ❤
Congrats on your little one! Cloth diapering is something I did with my first, I cloth diapered her from the very beginning and just potty trained her right before her second birthday. I am 22 weeks pregnant with our second and planning to do it all over again, I loved it. Delilah has fantastic videos on cloth diapering. I referenced them frequently in the first few months. Enjoy your journey!
I am loving these updates. We are currently about to have our fourth and I have found a lot of similarities and advice through your channel that has been super helpful. Do you mind linking the compression biker shorts??
I passed a blood clot the size of a mango and my doctor said, oh that’s normal. 😮 Also I hemorrhaged as well from a very fast induced labor but they didn’t give me anything! It was a rough recovery I was so tired and weak. Glad you got better care than I! ❤ My milk also regulated super fast after my 3rd baby, I almost didn’t notice my milk coming in. Pretty cool!
I’m 16 weeks today with a little girl 🎀🎀❤️❤️ It is my first and we are so excited but it is a bit scary and overwhelming!!! I love your calming nature when you discuss your experiences and I’ve been watching you for years but I’m definitely resonating with you a lot now more now that I’m pregnant ❤ love you Delilah!!
Yeah, I agree about tearing. I had two episiotomies and when I birthed without being cut and tore slightly this past time, it was soooo much better for the healing. I had to sit carefully on a cushion for three weeks after my first episiotomy and it was awful (he was also a large baby though at 9 lbs, 14 oz). Tearing instead is so much nicer. I bled for four weeks this time around but I think I bled 4-6 weeks after birth for my first children too. I used to not get my period or ovulate again until I was 4 months postpartum, but this past time, I bled again and had my period two weeks after my bleeding stopped (so at six weeks) and now, three months later I haven't had a period again (nursing still), but I KNOW I am ovulating by my mucus! I can tell. I loved listening and it is so nice how natural and perfect it has been for you to have your fourth now! I enjoyed listening. Topic: How long did you nurse each child for? How long do you plan on nursing Anna Beth (or maybe you will go until she stops on her own)?
I would absolutely love more videos for first-time moms. I don’t have a good relationship with my mom and although I have an older sister, I’m the first one to have a baby.
I just had my baby less than a week ago and the BEST thing I can recommend is adult diapers. It is way more “put together” feeling compared to huge pads/mesh underwear.
I feel as though pain/discomfort around letdown isn't talked about enough! Look into D-MER. Dysphoric milk ejection reflex. I thought I was crazy until I stumbled upon a research study/article 10 months into breastfeeding my 2nd baby that described my symptoms to a T: painful letdowns, an overwhelming sadness lasting 30-60 seconds during the letdown, etc. I thought it had something to do with postpartum depression/anxiety, but it lasted far longer than baby blues did. Once I could put a name to the feeling, describe it, I had a much better perspective on breastfeeding.
HEY I have this! I only started experiencing it during my third pregnancy, I'm still nursing my first two. I randomly get really sad like I want to cry a minute after latching, doesn't last very long. I told my midwife about it and she had no idea. So cool to hear about it from another breastfeeding Momma! I was hoping it would go away after I give birth since it started halfway through the pregnancy. I'll find out in the next week or two.
There is medication for acid reflux. Made a world of difference for feeding my baby. Reflux tends to get worse around 3 months, and may cause refusal of feeds. Something to definitely monitor. Probably not tongue tie if she's gaining weight well and latching well.
Yes! My let down is so much more uncomfortable with my second she is currently 5 weeks old and it didn't start out being this way. it started being very uncomfortable about 2 weeks ago which is something I never experienced during the 18 months of nursing my 1st child
Video idea-take us thrifting with you! My nephew had acid reflux, and now they're pretty sure his esophagus and tummy had some scarring. So I definitely agree it's a great idea to keep her upright! My mom had me and all my sibs sleep in our carseat so that we could be upright (at least for the first few weeks/month's, until the issue resolved itself)
Just an FYI, the car seats that clip in are not safe to sleep in when they're not in the car, the head and neck position is different and baby can suffocate (there have sadly been cases of this). You may know that already but just want to post in case someone else doesn't
I too recently gave birth. It was under two hours from first symptom (water breaking without contractions at first) to him in my arms. I was fortunate not to hemorrhage but I still bled much more than they liked. I knew I probably would (family and personal history) so I told the lab tech to keep attempting placing the iv even though I was pushing. They did the iv pitocin and also gave me some pills to take to help with bleeding. Breastfeeding greatly helped my bleeding decrease but Lord have mercy those afterpains were almost on par with labor. 😅 Glad mine were only bad the first 3 days or so. I needed pain meds for that more than my episiotomy.
i’ve only been pregnant 2x but both those times i’d always get night sweats/chills, postpartum hormones are wild 😵💫 also, with my first i didn’t start like me until she was 10months, with my 2nd i’d say around 3ms. i hope with future pregnancies i’ll find myself again quicker
Does wearing Anna Beth in the Solly hurt your back after awhile? My little is a week younger than her and it kills me after only about 20 minutes, but with 4 kiddos I need to be hands free. I’m wondering if I need to modify.
It just sounds like your core is a little weak after delivery. It might be better to wait a few weeks to strengthen up your core. You don’t want to hurt your back
The temperature thing!! Both cold and hot flashes happened to me with both postpartum phases too!! Mostly in the middle of the night would I have the flashes (cold and hot) I’d randomly be SHIVERING and trying to warm up bundling in blankets. Or as you know, wake up SWEATING out of nowhere
Oh my gosh the let downs!! So painful for me every single time. The pressure and pain makes me wince my face and close my eyes, I have to breathe through them like a contraction. I’d say that lasts for about the first 2 months. Absolutely wild!
I truly hated the feeling of my letdowns. And it’s not like.. normal pain like shooting, stabbing or throbbing pain.. but it’s like the kind of pain when your leg falls asleep and then you have to move. So it’s just a pretty bizarre kinda feeling.
Hi Delilah! I had the cold flashes as well after delivery. It can happen whenever there is sleep deprivation!!! Suddenly the body isn't as good in getting you heated to the correct temperature.
this is so relatable to me- i exclusively breastfed and also got my period back at 7 wks postpartum. and i also had a huge clot like that in the first wk postpartum and was horrified!
From experience with my babies, it sounds like she’s not getting enough milk, and when you feed her again she settles down. It’s hard to judge when you breast feed. If it’s her tummy, judging from how my babies did, she will pull her legs up in pain.
Could you Please make a video explaining us why didn't you make noise on your second vaginal delivery and why did you look more painful on the last one ?... did they hurt differently? I know you used a breathing technique on the second one, but what happened with the last one ? Thank you I've been watching your channel a lot lately ❤
My second is the same, I also think she had a reflux problem (not diagnosed) the first few months but that went away. She is very gassy and burpy still and loves to be upright and held all day long. She is eight months now and she still wants all-day cuddles and I just enjoy them because our first doesn't want smudges and kisses as much :D
Hi there! Can you talk more about vbac? Precautions and measures you took for yourself and with your doctor, what you avoided perhaps etc. And if you can talk about things you did to go into labor naturally?
Omg yes. The after pains were so bad for me. My pain tolerance is usually pretty good. I’ve always had extremely heavy and painful periods. But the after pain of birth was too much. I had to take medication too.
Omg I got the cold flashes PP as well! There were 2 nights where I was genuinely scared because even though I was in bed covered, with socks, pants and a sweater I was still freezing cold and my body could not regulate. I had to ask my husband (who is a walking oven) to hug different parts of my body for about an hour and that finally warmed me. I unfortunately had a hemorrhage 3 weeks after delivery, so that was another reason why my body wasn’t well.
All your experiences sound so similar to mine! And my LC told me that your body makes more milk with each child so you might be having a more forceful letdown because of that!
Woman’s bodies are so strong and magical I can’t believe you ovulate and menstruate so soon after birth, my last two children, and took a year and a half for my period to come back . My first 4 months . I always wonder why for some women it comes back so soon and for some takes so long, we both breast-feed and cosleep ???
yes to painful letdowns. i'm a bit of an oversupplier the first 4 months and i have a VERY powerful letdown. like milk everywhere, baby covered, and i find it's most painful during that period then when they're little older. my youngest is 8 months now. i still feel the letdown but now it's just a tingle instead of a powerful burn.
My let down has been very painful too. Although mine will release and just start spraying all over the place. My right side will come so fast that my baby will choke on the milk. She gets hiccups like crazy and even did when she was in the womb. My baby is 4.5 weeks. Congratulations on your baby girl. We named our daughter Delila Grace. ♥️
In the iv they give pitocin not oxytocin! Pitocin is synthetic oxytocin and doesn’t give you the happy feeling that natural oxytocin does. They use those terms interchangeably at the hospital but they’re certainly not the same thing!
I had a baby that had projectile vomiting and really bad crying spells at night which at the time I attributed to gas, he was diagnosed with reflux and I think we switched him to a non-dairy formula. I had to formula feed due to a neck injury. Anyway, years later he’s had 3 children with food allergies, as infants, so this would definitely be something to check out with your pediatrician. 4 of my grandchildren’s mothers went off dairy and and 2 other foods which took care of their crying.
I had my first baby on August 1st. And I experience those cold flashes too. However, mine was only in the middle of the night. Wasn’t sure if it was normal after birth!
it is normal. thats why us asians will make sure new moms wear very thick socks and jackets at least until 2 months after birth. tips, do not wet your hair at night, and eat warm meals only. speedy recovery mama.
Ahh the frozen flashes!! I got them after I delivered both babies and lasted a couple months. It’s gross! But yes to the painful letdowns! Mine, again happened with both and I had strong letdowns. But I leaked easily till 10ish months and not as bad after. So leaking or not, letdowns can be not so pleasant 😅
I had such a hard time with let downs when I was pumping. I had dysphoric milk ejection reflex for months. I had to watch happy shows or movies to get through it. Also, had a reflux baby. It was hard. Praying yoir little's tummy.
How long was your actual labor? First contraction to birth? I had a vbac too and it was 3 hours start to finish, only one hour in the hospital. I didn't see the link for the postpartum shorts???
@@elizabethfaith5064 I used the evening primrose, did membranes sweeps at 38 & 39 weeks, prenatal massage (witch released my mucos plug) , pilates to strengthen core (until 26 weeks pregnant) , pelvic floor therapy for paraneal stretching (i still tore by there was a shoulder distosha which required intervention) and hand expressed - which put me into labor. My goal was to not go past 40 weeks and have to discuss induction. No real precautions.i had my vbac 20 months pp from my c section with no complications.
I passed a blood clot the size of a coin next day. Then two weeks after I passed a blood clot the size of my fist. I was so scared and had to go hospital. The doctor saw me in the emergency room and said I’ll be right back. Turns out he freaked out because he’d just started practicing so he and the senior doctor started to pull more blood clots out with their hands. I also lost nearly 3L of blood after delivery and had to be rushed to theatre because I had a big tear. Lovely birth story 😂😂😂. Congratulations guys 💕
With my third pregnancy I was alway cold and found that I was anemic, and had to take iron supplements. Don’t know if the coldness would be similar in postpartum?
I always fed from one side per feed unless my babies were showing signs of wanting more then I would give them a top up from the next side. My let down was super painful from the side I wasn't feeding from until about 8 weeks. I never leaked or had the need for a beast pad so I figured the pain was from my body holding the milk in on the side bub wasn't feeding from.
Love you girl! I feel like your haters made you go more private with your kids. Just know we still love you and the way you raise your family. It's truly beautiful ❤❤❤
I'm a huge leaker and my ley-down always hurt, so I don't think that's a factor. My baby does eat super fast as well, so I don't know how, but maybe that's a factor?
I have had D-MER with both my kids, to the point i had to stop breastfeeding so yes let downs are the worst 🥴🤣 Pregnant with my 3rd and I'm hoping this one will be different or i can try something to help, i havent found much information on it 🙁
I can attest that my letdown this go around (second baby) 21:24 is much more forceful and painful than with my 1st! She also spit up more, and I’m pretty sure it was related to the faster letdown.
Tearing is the worst... I had a 3rd degree with my 3rd baby. It was almost as bad as my C-section. Almost. I feel like it had more long-term effects and I still feel the scar...
I’m in the same boat in terms of painful letdowns. I’m not sure if I’m leaking or not in between but I have pretty painful letdowns too. No clue if it’s normal too hehehe
The cold flashes could actually be due to the hormonal shifts! Because hormones are involved in temperature regulation, I would say that they are very normal postpartum symptoms!
I have gone 14 months no period while breastfeeding, it was great. I wouldn’t say that my letdowns were painful but kinda intense? And with each one I have felt it less and less, and quite the opposite is uterus contractions while breastfeeding, they are more and more painful, I don’t even remember feeling them with my first.
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I feel like a "when did you start feeling like yourself" question leans towards more mental-state than physical-state... at least that's what I think of. A lot of moms deal with postpartum depression and anxiety and some don't feel like themselves mentally for upwards of a year. If you're reading this as a new mom and living that reality right now, trust me - you will be yourself again. And you got this. ❤
This!! I didn't start feeling back to myself mentally till just recently when my daughter was around 18 months back in May. But have been physically feeling normal since like 4 month pp.
I think too, women will never be who they are before and society HATES admitting that to postpartum moms. You have transitioned from woman to mother, biologically, there are changes that happen in the brain, you'll never be the same, you have to find the new girl you have become, and it really does take a couple years❤️
@@corablah9809 A lot of people think they have to give up their identities to have children, so I think what you've said could come across as dangerous, even if I know what you're ultimately getting at. Also motherhood comes in many different shapes/sizes (adoption, step-parenting, etc)... so I think it's important for everyone to know that you can still be You even when you become a parent. 🥰🥰
After baby 1 I had many different moments of “oh, NOW I feel normal again!” 😂 3 months pp, 6 months pp, 10 months pp…in the end I only truly felt like “myself” again after I stopped breastfeeding and got my cycle back.
I suddenly had energy again and clicked right back into my exercise routine and the mindset/mood I had had before becoming pregnant. Mentally and physically both had a lot of changes because of pregnancy and breastfeeding.
I agree totally. I suffered horrendously with my first born with depression for months. In fact I did not bond with her straight away. This is not something people talk about a whole lot. I loved her of course but I didn't feel that strong bond for a while. Not everyone will 'fall in love' straight away. Not knowing that made my depression so much worse as I felt 'alien'. I was so scared to talk to anyone about it because I was afraid everyone would think I was a bad mom. I didn't feel like myself for about 2 years I would say x
Women are phenomenal. I’m just listening to you talk about everything you went through with a c section, a vbac, natural labor etc. Women are so amazing. Shout out to all the mamas out there. Y’all are the best!
There's a huge study that was done on happiness of mother & the number of kids she has, and the study found that mothers with 4 kids are the happiest of all the mothers!!!
My miserable mother had 4 kids and wanted more... I think women with 6+ kids are more fulfilled. God says be fruitful. Most women in the bible had 7-15 kids
@@saintamerican6105the reason ppl had 7-15 kids in that time period is because infant mortality rate was 50% meaning that even tho they had 15 children, only half of them likely survived. So they weren't raising & parenting 7-15 kids they were only parenting 3-7 kids bc they likely lost many children in infancy
@@saintamerican6105 Dans l ancien testament mais pas dans le nouveau.
@@saintamerican6105my mom had 10 kids and she was also miserable. Damaged body, no financial stability; and literally no time for yourself is not a happy life.
@@saintamerican6105in this economy? We make great money but can only afford two.
With the “cold flashes” I might ask your doctor to check your hemoglobin and iron because that happened a lot to me when I had pretty bad iron deficiency anemia. I got on prescription iron from my doctor and it really helped a lot! I wouldn’t be surprised if you were anemic from pregnancy and bleeding. I learned after my diagnosis that iron is a mineral the body can store for later and if your stores run out and you don’t get enough in your diet to make up for that it can make you anemic pretty quickly. And it can take a long time to rebuild your stores. Which is why I’m on iron pills until next year and I’ve already been taking them a few months.
Chinese Medicine tells us that postpartum is a time of cold. It's our job to heal our bodies with warmth and rest. Warming foods, socks and sweaters and more. Being physically chilled just leans towards signs of depletion. Of course, we're trained to go and do and be, but this is the body saying "hey! tend to me too".
I love this! I always want to be super cozy after birth
Good to know, thank you!!
Yeah me too!@@catherinedurbin9298
I just teared when you said “say bye” and a flashback came through my mind of you saying that exact words to small Eloise when she was your only child 🥹 ❤ Things are so different today and still you remain the calm woman of God you always were. Sending you lots of love from Slovakia (middle Europe) ❤
P.S. I would love to see day in your life - I miss seeing all your kids 😊
what are you talking about, literally the previous video was a day in a life
Please take us along with building your new postpartum wardrobe! :) I also wanna wear more dresses, but I find it especially during cold wintertime really challenging.
I stopped eating gluten and dairy products. It helped my daughter with her reflux.
Not a professional, just relaying what a lactation consultant told me about my personal situation. I have painful letdowns. I was also told I have a very aggressive fast flowing let down, as seen by him gulping a ton. They said that can lead to more gas or reflux in some babies. They told me I could pump just a few minutes to save her from the most aggressive letdown and then let her nurse and potentially give her the pumped milk after. I haven't done it because I don't have the bandwith to pump and wash parts at this point postpartum and he is still handling it well.
And the postpartum brain fog is showing up well 😂. My firstborn is a girl and my 2 week old is a boy. I kept switching between her and him 😂
I just hand expressed and that worked (also didn't want to fuss with parts haha)
Oh delilah❤ your videos brighten my day! You inspire me to be a better mama thank you ❤
The book “The First 40 Days” talks about the importance of keeping the postpartum mama warm and wrapped up in order to prevent “wind” from moving through the body. This might have been what you were experiencing. It’s really important to stay warm during those new moment of recovery so that the body can heal!
Thanks for sharing your personal story with us, I love watching your videos. You are such a great mama!
Thanks for touching on getting your period so soon after giving birth. I got mine back at 2 months postpartum and I was really hoping to be one of the women that goes a year before getting it again.
Love the update! Also my lactation consultant told me with each baby you have your milk regulates faster because your body has already done it before and knows how much milk to produce so you don’t deal with overproducing as long each time! Just thought it was a cool fact! Love the vlogs! 🧡
Even if I am turning 38 on November, still wanting to have my 2nd baby, I still learned a lot from you having 4 kids yourself. Thanks for sharing your wonderful mom journey. 🤗💗
Aww I hope you get your 2nd baby soon!!! Try not to stress about it too much or think about it too much so it can come more naturally , you look amazing for your age
Love it! Video ideas- First time pregnancy and newborn advice. new born essentials (I am about to have my first baby and I don't have a lot of space and am overwhelmed with all the baby stuff). Advice on how to prepare your marriage for starting a family.
A baby wrap,nappies, wipes, changing bag, muslins baby clothes such as grows,vests and outfits along with cardigans and socks. Car seat, blankets and crib
That's pretty much all you need if you plan on breastfeeding if not add on bottles, formula, steriliser. If you plan to use a pram buy one too if not 2 baby wraps would be great just in case of a blow out.
Our daughter sounds very similar, she really was only comfortable upright and so she spent a lot of time sleeping in the wrap in the early months. Co-sleeping absolutely saved our sanity!
A tips video for first time moms would be so great!
Also Delilah I'm thankful you did make freezer meals BC I've done the same, I'm 39+3 weeks with my fourth and have about 30 meals and counting in the chest freezer that I'm so excited to get stuck into. I also made banana bread,cookies and brownies etc. It's going to be so good to eat home cooked meals with little effort
They say pregnant women glow. I think it is the first time I have ever seen a postpartum mom, glow. Dililah you are glowing, you look radiantly beautiful and so at peace. I strongly feel you were definitely born to have babies, be a mom, a wife and a homemaker. 💞
Regardless, don't worry too much about your clothing even though it's always nice to add new items to your wardrobe.
my daughter had reflux, and we didn't know until 4 months (which is when it is at its worst). But she got progressively worse until then and went back to her happy self after starting medication for it. It was ROUGH before that. Less and less sleep, more fussing etc
My tips for recovering from a minor tear: sit on a donut pillow; keep your legs together and don't cross them; multiple sitz baths per day of 2c epsom salt and 1c apple cider vinegar; witch hazel pads; padsicles. Good luck!
Just got into my car for my lunch break! PERFECT timing ❤️
I would get your sweet babe in for an evaluation for a posterior tongue tie and lip tie. The overactive and painful letdown, gassy belly, acid reflux, etc can all be signs of oral ties. Even though the latch feels good and looks good from the outside, the tongue tie in the back makes it so the tongue can not function properly or make the right motion. This makes more air to be gulped, and it also triggers overactive letdowns and makes for the milk to come out super fast! A pediatric dentist should be able to evaluate and do a laser surgery. ❤
Yes, I have a 5 week old girl (2nd child), and I'm not kidding every single thing Delilah describes about their breastfeeding situation is exactly the same for us! While she is eating and gaining weight very well, she also has the same.issues with swallowing air, drinking quickly, gassy... she makes clicking sounds, so she doesn't have an "air thight" latch, and we now discovered a light tongue tie, next monday we get it checked by a specialist and maybe cut if necessary and we will see if it helps. 🙏
@iuliaionce make sure it's a laser revision- it needs to be revised as you have symptoms related to it. The laser revision ( most pediatric dentists can do this) can't reattach as easily as just snipping with a scalpel.
Second the suggestion for laser revision vs cutting. Laser can reattach too, but the precision of the revision is usually superior because the site isn't obscured by blood as they're working on it. No matter what you choose, be so diligent about the stretches so you don't have to have it repeated!! Best of luck ❤
Thank you!
Hi Delilah, you’re a great Mum. Little Annie is precious. God bless you all xxx
I had my baby exactly one month after baby Anna Beth was born. So wonderful having all the snuggles ❤ 🎉
I have a 2 month old.. almost 3 months now. I keep catching up on your older videos while breastfeeding. Something about your daily life with a baby helps me normalise whatever I feel. Also I am starting to try cloth diapers. You inspire me the way you do it all with 4 children...makes me feel I can do this with one. ❤
Congrats on your little one! Cloth diapering is something I did with my first, I cloth diapered her from the very beginning and just potty trained her right before her second birthday. I am 22 weeks pregnant with our second and planning to do it all over again, I loved it. Delilah has fantastic videos on cloth diapering. I referenced them frequently in the first few months. Enjoy your journey!
I am loving these updates. We are currently about to have our fourth and I have found a lot of similarities and advice through your channel that has been super helpful.
Do you mind linking the compression biker shorts??
I passed a blood clot the size of a mango and my doctor said, oh that’s normal. 😮 Also I hemorrhaged as well from a very fast induced labor but they didn’t give me anything! It was a rough recovery I was so tired and weak. Glad you got better care than I! ❤ My milk also regulated super fast after my 3rd baby, I almost didn’t notice my milk coming in. Pretty cool!
I’m in the midst of first week post partum and your PP journey sounds so similar to mine thus far! Baby number four here as well.
She is so beautiful. Can’t wait to see the kids interacting with baby Anna Beth
I’m 16 weeks today with a little girl 🎀🎀❤️❤️ It is my first and we are so excited but it is a bit scary and overwhelming!!! I love your calming nature when you discuss your experiences and I’ve been watching you for years but I’m definitely resonating with you a lot now more now that I’m pregnant ❤ love you Delilah!!
Yeah, I agree about tearing. I had two episiotomies and when I birthed without being cut and tore slightly this past time, it was soooo much better for the healing. I had to sit carefully on a cushion for three weeks after my first episiotomy and it was awful (he was also a large baby though at 9 lbs, 14 oz). Tearing instead is so much nicer. I bled for four weeks this time around but I think I bled 4-6 weeks after birth for my first children too. I used to not get my period or ovulate again until I was 4 months postpartum, but this past time, I bled again and had my period two weeks after my bleeding stopped (so at six weeks) and now, three months later I haven't had a period again (nursing still), but I KNOW I am ovulating by my mucus! I can tell.
I loved listening and it is so nice how natural and perfect it has been for you to have your fourth now! I enjoyed listening.
Topic: How long did you nurse each child for? How long do you plan on nursing Anna Beth (or maybe you will go until she stops on her own)?
Sweet baby. :) And that quilt looks so snuggly! Thanks for sharing!
I would absolutely love more videos for first-time moms. I don’t have a good relationship with my mom and although I have an older sister, I’m the first one to have a baby.
hi Delilah, i would like to know what items post-partum you would recommend and what items you wouldn't. Thank you for your videos.🥰
I just had my baby less than a week ago and the BEST thing I can recommend is adult diapers. It is way more “put together” feeling compared to huge pads/mesh underwear.
hi mama Congratulations 🎉💕 do you feel like stool softners and Sitz sprays are needed? Wishing you a blissful post-partum journey.
I feel as though pain/discomfort around letdown isn't talked about enough! Look into D-MER. Dysphoric milk ejection reflex. I thought I was crazy until I stumbled upon a research study/article 10 months into breastfeeding my 2nd baby that described my symptoms to a T: painful letdowns, an overwhelming sadness lasting 30-60 seconds during the letdown, etc. I thought it had something to do with postpartum depression/anxiety, but it lasted far longer than baby blues did. Once I could put a name to the feeling, describe it, I had a much better perspective on breastfeeding.
HEY I have this! I only started experiencing it during my third pregnancy, I'm still nursing my first two. I randomly get really sad like I want to cry a minute after latching, doesn't last very long. I told my midwife about it and she had no idea. So cool to hear about it from another breastfeeding Momma! I was hoping it would go away after I give birth since it started halfway through the pregnancy. I'll find out in the next week or two.
There is medication for acid reflux. Made a world of difference for feeding my baby. Reflux tends to get worse around 3 months, and may cause refusal of feeds. Something to definitely monitor. Probably not tongue tie if she's gaining weight well and latching well.
I’d love to see newborn pictures of each of your sweet little ones. It would be fun to see how similar or how differently they look. 😊
Yes! My let down is so much more uncomfortable with my second she is currently 5 weeks old and it didn't start out being this way. it started being very uncomfortable about 2 weeks ago which is something I never experienced during the 18 months of nursing my 1st child
Video idea-take us thrifting with you!
My nephew had acid reflux, and now they're pretty sure his esophagus and tummy had some scarring. So I definitely agree it's a great idea to keep her upright!
My mom had me and all my sibs sleep in our carseat so that we could be upright (at least for the first few weeks/month's, until the issue resolved itself)
Just an FYI, the car seats that clip in are not safe to sleep in when they're not in the car, the head and neck position is different and baby can suffocate (there have sadly been cases of this). You may know that already but just want to post in case someone else doesn't
@@bleechrcreechrr yeah it seems everything is unsafe for one reason or another 🤷♀️
I too recently gave birth. It was under two hours from first symptom (water breaking without contractions at first) to him in my arms. I was fortunate not to hemorrhage but I still bled much more than they liked. I knew I probably would (family and personal history) so I told the lab tech to keep attempting placing the iv even though I was pushing. They did the iv pitocin and also gave me some pills to take to help with bleeding. Breastfeeding greatly helped my bleeding decrease but Lord have mercy those afterpains were almost on par with labor. 😅 Glad mine were only bad the first 3 days or so. I needed pain meds for that more than my episiotomy.
i’ve only been pregnant 2x but both those times i’d always get night sweats/chills, postpartum hormones are wild 😵💫
also, with my first i didn’t start like me until she was 10months, with my 2nd i’d say around 3ms. i hope with future pregnancies i’ll find myself again quicker
Does wearing Anna Beth in the Solly hurt your back after awhile? My little is a week younger than her and it kills me after only about 20 minutes, but with 4 kiddos I need to be hands free. I’m wondering if I need to modify.
I have a 2.5 week old and I experience the same thing! I would love to wear him so I can keep up with my toddler but my back can't take it!
It just sounds like your core is a little weak after delivery. It might be better to wait a few weeks to strengthen up your core. You don’t want to hurt your back
You might need to wear your wrap tighter or experiment with raising/lowering where baby’s bum sits!
Either you have super easy kids or my kids are super spirited because your vlogs are making me feel like i am doing it all wrong lol. 😂
Awe don’t worry mama, you’re doing a great job. My kids are very spirited, too! 😂
The temperature thing!! Both cold and hot flashes happened to me with both postpartum phases too!! Mostly in the middle of the night would I have the flashes (cold and hot) I’d randomly be SHIVERING and trying to warm up bundling in blankets. Or as you know, wake up SWEATING out of nowhere
Oh my gosh the let downs!! So painful for me every single time. The pressure and pain makes me wince my face and close my eyes, I have to breathe through them like a contraction. I’d say that lasts for about the first 2 months. Absolutely wild!
I truly hated the feeling of my letdowns. And it’s not like.. normal pain like shooting, stabbing or throbbing pain.. but it’s like the kind of pain when your leg falls asleep and then you have to move. So it’s just a pretty bizarre kinda feeling.
Hellooo!!!!
please! advices/tips for new moms! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this video ❤
Hi Delilah! I had the cold flashes as well after delivery. It can happen whenever there is sleep deprivation!!! Suddenly the body isn't as good in getting you heated to the correct temperature.
this is so relatable to me- i exclusively breastfed and also got my period back at 7 wks postpartum. and i also had a huge clot like that in the first wk postpartum and was horrified!
U can apply castor oil on the tummy to relieve gas
From experience with my babies, it sounds like she’s not getting enough milk, and when you feed her again she settles down. It’s hard to judge when you breast feed. If it’s her tummy, judging from how my babies did, she will pull her legs up in pain.
Could you Please make a video explaining us why didn't you make noise on your second vaginal delivery and why did you look more painful on the last one ?... did they hurt differently?
I know you used a breathing technique on the second one, but what happened with the last one ? Thank you
I've been watching your channel a lot lately ❤
My second is the same, I also think she had a reflux problem (not diagnosed) the first few months but that went away. She is very gassy and burpy still and loves to be upright and held all day long. She is eight months now and she still wants all-day cuddles and I just enjoy them because our first doesn't want smudges and kisses as much :D
Hi there! Can you talk more about vbac? Precautions and measures you took for yourself and with your doctor, what you avoided perhaps etc. And if you can talk about things you did to go into labor naturally?
I don’t see the link for post partum bike shorts! I’m due next week and would love to order. Can you share?
Omg yes. The after pains were so bad for me. My pain tolerance is usually pretty good. I’ve always had extremely heavy and painful periods. But the after pain of birth was too much. I had to take medication too.
Hi can you do a video about homeschooling with a newborn around?
I had to look up what a toonie is haha American watcher over here
In the US they told me to watch for clots the size of a quarter, for reference
Omg I got the cold flashes PP as well! There were 2 nights where I was genuinely scared because even though I was in bed covered, with socks, pants and a sweater I was still freezing cold and my body could not regulate. I had to ask my husband (who is a walking oven) to hug different parts of my body for about an hour and that finally warmed me. I unfortunately had a hemorrhage 3 weeks after delivery, so that was another reason why my body wasn’t well.
Tips for first time moms (or Mum’s for us here in the UK!) would be great!
All your experiences sound so similar to mine!
And my LC told me that your body makes more milk with each child so you might be having a more forceful letdown because of that!
Woman’s bodies are so strong and magical I can’t believe you ovulate and menstruate so soon after birth, my last two children, and took a year and a half for my period to come back . My first 4 months . I always wonder why for some women it comes back so soon and for some takes so long, we both breast-feed and cosleep ???
yes to painful letdowns. i'm a bit of an oversupplier the first 4 months and i have a VERY powerful letdown. like milk everywhere, baby covered, and i find it's most painful during that period then when they're little older. my youngest is 8 months now. i still feel the letdown but now it's just a tingle instead of a powerful burn.
My let down has been very painful too. Although mine will release and just start spraying all over the place. My right side will come so fast that my baby will choke on the milk. She gets hiccups like crazy and even did when she was in the womb. My baby is 4.5 weeks. Congratulations on your baby girl. We named our daughter Delila Grace. ♥️
In the iv they give pitocin not oxytocin! Pitocin is synthetic oxytocin and doesn’t give you the happy feeling that natural oxytocin does. They use those terms interchangeably at the hospital but they’re certainly not the same thing!
That sudden change in temperature has happened to me post-baby with both of my pregnancies! It’s so weird!
I had a baby that had projectile vomiting and really bad crying spells at night which at the time I attributed to gas, he was diagnosed with reflux and I think we switched him to a non-dairy formula. I had to formula feed due to a neck injury. Anyway, years later he’s had 3 children with food allergies, as infants, so this would definitely be something to check out with your pediatrician. 4 of my grandchildren’s mothers went off dairy and and 2 other foods which took care of their crying.
I had my first baby on August 1st. And I experience those cold flashes too. However, mine was only in the middle of the night. Wasn’t sure if it was normal after birth!
it is normal. thats why us asians will make sure new moms wear very thick socks and jackets at least until 2 months after birth. tips, do not wet your hair at night, and eat warm meals only. speedy recovery mama.
Me too!!! I had never heard of this before. I couldn't find anything about it online. Glad to hear I'm not alone 😅
I find my letdowns tend to be painful if I am brewing a blocked milk duct
Ahh the frozen flashes!! I got them after I delivered both babies and lasted a couple months. It’s gross! But yes to the painful letdowns! Mine, again happened with both and I had strong letdowns. But I leaked easily till 10ish months and not as bad after. So leaking or not, letdowns can be not so pleasant 😅
I had such a hard time with let downs when I was pumping. I had dysphoric milk ejection reflex for months. I had to watch happy shows or movies to get through it. Also, had a reflux baby. It was hard. Praying yoir little's tummy.
How long was your actual labor? First contraction to birth? I had a vbac too and it was 3 hours start to finish, only one hour in the hospital. I didn't see the link for the postpartum shorts???
What did you do to go into labor naturally for your vbac? Any precautions or measures you took for a successful vbac?
@@elizabethfaith5064 I used the evening primrose, did membranes sweeps at 38 & 39 weeks, prenatal massage (witch released my mucos plug) , pilates to strengthen core (until 26 weeks pregnant) , pelvic floor therapy for paraneal stretching (i still tore by there was a shoulder distosha which required intervention) and hand expressed - which put me into labor. My goal was to not go past 40 weeks and have to discuss induction. No real precautions.i had my vbac 20 months pp from my c section with no complications.
The cold flashes could also be a result of hemorrhaging and then low iron.
I hemorrhaged in July and was so cold for 2 weeks after.
I passed a blood clot the size of a coin next day. Then two weeks after I passed a blood clot the size of my fist. I was so scared and had to go hospital. The doctor saw me in the emergency room and said I’ll be right back. Turns out he freaked out because he’d just started practicing so he and the senior doctor started to pull more blood clots out with their hands. I also lost nearly 3L of blood after delivery and had to be rushed to theatre because I had a big tear. Lovely birth story 😂😂😂. Congratulations guys 💕
You’re glowing
I'm a first time mom, but my let downs were so like prickly!😂 like little stingy and then I'd leak or not depending on length between feedings.
Delilah you are amazing ❤️
With my third pregnancy I was alway cold and found that I was anemic, and had to take iron supplements. Don’t know if the coldness would be similar in postpartum?
the thyroid controls body temp. have it checked.
Hi there! What Christian hypnobirthing dis you use?
I always fed from one side per feed unless my babies were showing signs of wanting more then I would give them a top up from the next side.
My let down was super painful from the side I wasn't feeding from until about 8 weeks. I never leaked or had the need for a beast pad so I figured the pain was from my body holding the milk in on the side bub wasn't feeding from.
Love you girl! I feel like your haters made you go more private with your kids. Just know we still love you and the way you raise your family. It's truly beautiful ❤❤❤
I'm a huge leaker and my ley-down always hurt, so I don't think that's a factor. My baby does eat super fast as well, so I don't know how, but maybe that's a factor?
My cycles return so quickly too. Even though I breastfeed until the children self wean or during my following pregnancy when my milk dries up
I have had D-MER with both my kids, to the point i had to stop breastfeeding so yes let downs are the worst 🥴🤣 Pregnant with my 3rd and I'm hoping this one will be different or i can try something to help, i havent found much information on it 🙁
Hello! Do you watch "The sound of Freedom"?
I had my second baby a couple days before you had annebeth and wow my letdowns are very very uncomfortable and I leak like crazy!
Can you share what postpartum compression shorts you used?
I can attest that my letdown this go around (second baby) 21:24 is much more forceful and painful than with my 1st! She also spit up more, and I’m pretty sure it was related to the faster letdown.
Tearing is the worst... I had a 3rd degree with my 3rd baby. It was almost as bad as my C-section. Almost. I feel like it had more long-term effects and I still feel the scar...
I noticed after my most recent birth that I was really sensitive to cold. I know I was anemic so I had chalked it up to that
I’m in the same boat in terms of painful letdowns. I’m not sure if I’m leaking or not in between but I have pretty painful letdowns too. No clue if it’s normal too hehehe
Where did you get that tree in the background? Thanks!!
4 children is such a blessing, 7 even more satisfying, 12 hello 50 grandchildren 👋🖐
What is a tumie blood clot???
Toonie sized blood clot. It's a Canadian two dollar coin!
In the US they told me to watch for clots the size of a quarter, for reference
Letdowns only hurt for me when I have a blocked duct and/or inflammatory mastitis.
The cold flashes could actually be due to the hormonal shifts! Because hormones are involved in temperature regulation, I would say that they are very normal postpartum symptoms!
I have gone 14 months no period while breastfeeding, it was great. I wouldn’t say that my letdowns were painful but kinda intense? And with each one I have felt it less and less, and quite the opposite is uterus contractions while breastfeeding, they are more and more painful, I don’t even remember feeling them with my first.
We have had almost the exact same postpartum experience🥴😂