How To Move On After A Breakup (from them and the past)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.พ. 2025
- Why is letting go of the past so hard, even when we know it’s holding us back? It can seem impossible to move on from a breakup or heartbreak, moving on from the past, or even moving on from a mistake.
In this video I will share 5 tips that I use to move on and I know it will help you with your exes, your past mistakes and your future self.
These are the steps that I used to move on in my life and to let go of the past to give myself more freedom to create a better life in the future.
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"The moment you let go, is the moment you make room for something better." Facts.
I completely agree with that statement. Letting go is often the hardest part, but it creates space for new opportunities and growth. It’s not always easy, though, right? What do you think holds us back the most when it comes to moving on? Is it the fear of the unknown or something else?
@ I think it differs for each person. For me personally, I think that the love you have someone doesn’t just disappear. It constantly makes you think of the person you care(d) for, at least for the weeks/months after the breakup. In a way, you could compare it to grief, as you’ve lost someone you cared for. And it takes time to heal from it.
It’s so true - sometimes, letting go is the hardest but most freeing thing we can do for ourselves. It opens up space for new experiences, growth, and even healing we didn't know we needed. Have you ever had a moment where letting go felt like the only way to move forward? How did that change things for you?
@@TruthUncoveredStories Yes, I have. While it was super hard, there are ways to make it easier to deal with. For me, starting my career and focusing on finding my own place (which I'm still busy with, loooove housing market in the Netherlands) helped a lot. It created opportunities for me to move my thoughts on new things that served me instead of grieving for what is lost. This drastically improved my mental health and self-confidence.
better or worse
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago ,it was hard on me and it effected me badly I want to thank you Joey for teaching me how to handle the breakup and move on
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The feeling I lost the girl of my dreams and the fact that she is able to find another guy kills me so hard but she’s not the best one for me but I still Mis her and want her back but I can’t believe she didn’t want anymore because I was everything for her and I don’t know how to move on because a part of me doesn’t want that ?
You will find someone better
@@ruby_fire941❤
it hurts a lot man, I feel it too. It's been 10 months since I lost her to my own mistakes. Some days have been easier than others, but it still hurts. Stay strong bud, we got this
@@colegracia2740 if you want we can be friends if you do whats your social media
Do you want to be friends
The worst thing about breaking up was seeing him fall out of love when we were together and then seeing him move on with no sorrows! And even worst when u have finally decided to let go , they come back with no apology but to stay in contact! But what for ? If they really wanted the presence they could have worked and saved the relationship. How is it that the come and go at their convenience.
@@Idkwhatamidoinghere01she came back to me after her dad passed earlier this year and I dove back in to be her support and help. 8 months later she dumps me again its rough out here man😕
@Idkwhatamidoinghere01 same. And whas worse for me is that i still buy her gifts to make her happy (even though i know im being used), she only replies to me when shes bored and will say shes busy and i can see her active status all night
So true . Going through the exact same situation. And it hurts . It hurts more than anything
I need a hug man, the girl i’ve been wooing over found another guy, and the worst part is he didnt have to do anything. The dude she likes is always late, cheats at exams, and doesnt have good grades, but still she fell for him because of his looks, which is something that i dont have. The world is an unfair place, i need a hug.
I’ll hug you bro. I’m going through a break up too. My girl left me yesterday. I understand your pain bro, but we are not alone. God bless you truly bro ❤
Big hug my brother. I'm going through the same thing right now, as many others are. Please don't focus on the other guy or any "unfairness". Believe me life will provide you your share of blessings, just be open to them and focus on that girl out there somewhere who is hoping to find someone like you. God bless, I'm here with you.
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You still take exams so focus on your education first, think for the future, thats what i always put on my mind
me and my gf broke up last week ,as there was no possible future for both of us together due to religious differences ,we really loved each other, we still do ,but now it just the memories that r left .ik remembering these memories again and again is holding me back,but those memories are so good that i cannot let go of them ,we spend our last whole year together ,we cared for each other and now all of those moments we created are left with me in just my memories now. Worst thing about breakup is not actually the breakup, real worst part is not talking to them,like how there were a part of your daily routine ,how they were an integral part of your life,then suddenly they disappear ,so many changes all together ,idk how ill handle this ,how ill manage to survive without them being in my life.ik that thinking about your relationship all the time ,will hold me back ,i can see the outcome too,i cannot study properly ,but those memories ,those moments are too good to let go,i still love her ,dont know if we'll ever be together again ,dont know if we'll ever meet again ,all i wish is to relive all those memories once again with HER.
It’s hard man but don’t relive those memories again if the outcome is still going to be like that because you will end up hurt again. It’s like letting yourself getting purposely hurt
You will be fine ✨
@@momentswithlumi.e2081 yeah it hurts daily, i try to not think bout those moments, but its hard, but yeah im trying
The saddest part of these religious break ups are we can never hate each other.
Lads I’m stuck up on someone who just doesn’t care, I know it needed to happen as I’ve been told I deserve better and it’s helped me to find out what I want to do in life. Even though I’m slowly accepting it and it’s helped me I miss her and the memories we have. She changed so quick and I could feel it coming, I gave everything. It hurts knowing she’s gone and there was no real explanation. This is my first relationship and one of the only girls who has been interested in me
Letting go is making room for something to come in. I agree. ♡ beautiful message.
I love the way you worded that
Very timely video, yesterday I realized I had to change my environment, one conducive for rest, free of distractions, to actually process some emotions I've been holding onto for years, alone time is so important. Journaling helps me process my thoughts and feelings in an objective way, and I can do it during my busy days. But processing my emotions I realized I needed the change of pace, to slow down, and just let my emotions be and accept the hurt I've been carrying. The freedom I felt afterward was incredible. ✨️
I went on a hike today after so long and sat on a rock to look back and reflect on (sadly and unfortunately, her and I broke up in October last year a week before my birthday). There are my good and bad days, my ups and downs but this is definitely what I needed to hear today. Thank you tons for this because it was exactly what I needed to hear and really hone in and focus on the Present.
We all need to take time to reflect and I am really glad you had it
Blessings to everyone else going through this. And thank you Joey. It's very encouraging to hear words like the ones you share. I know thing's will be fine, but the process is no joke difficult.
Wow that’s powerful “The moment you let go is the moment you make room for something better” I needed to hear that
Absolutely !
Thank you Joey, this helps! My ex broke up with me a month ago and it hurts, I keep feeling this fire to fix it. Make her realize I want to fight for our relationship, but she left because she felt that we both had to change and it pressured her. Reaching out will only increase that pressure. Putting out that fire is emotionally tiring, I don't know how to get rid of it. However, it feels my emotions and voice of reason are slowly getting more balanced. Finding your videos two weeks ago is allowing me to view my struggle in a different light. Thank you!
Letting go should be a mandatory course. Still learning how to do that on my own. Drop the emotional baggage but still feel grateful. At least I learn something when carrying the bag.
My girlfriend of two years broke up with me 2 days ago. The hardest part is she says she fell out of love with me a year ago. Its left me feeling used and broken. I tried convincing her to not give up on us and go to couples counseling and she just sat there with this cold expression and said no. I'm trying to break my pattern of falling back into drinking but it's hard. This video helped a bit so thank you
Thank you Joey, I needed to hear this today more then ever
I’m happy it helped
Thank you Joey, I had been so stuck on replaying the mistakes that led to my past relationships failing and learning to just accept them as they are in the past and moving forward has been huge for me! Thank you for your words ❤
"I was in a long-distance relationship for about a year and a half with a guy who turned out to be a narcissist. Throughout the relationship, he constantly deceived me, never acknowledged my feelings, and made me feel like I wasn’t enough. It felt like I was the only one making an effort to maintain the bond, while he gave very little in return. After the breakup, he changed completely, as if the relationship never mattered to him. It took me a long time to heal from the emotional damage he caused, and I've realized that someone who manipulates and exploits your love is never worth it. But this week i got to know that he got engaged to a girl and she wrote that he is her 1st love and she is his 1st love too , i was shattered but now I’m trying to understand what just happened and during this phase your video popped up it’s been cheering to me .
Long distance narcissists ughh
Thank you so much, Joey! You’re completely right. We have to live each day, with love ❤️
Yes we do
holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Joey really knows how to speak about feelings and emotions...
All I really know to be honest haha
@@joeykidney You are great man🙌
I really felt that I was stuck in a cycle and moving on it’s not easy and getting out of that cycle is even harder but was the right thing
thank u joey ❤
Letting go is like "giving up." Humans find it hard to accept defeat. One, we are not in control, and two, our love is blind. Acceptance is so hard. Why?? I Love Joey's channel. Thank you.
we broke up and not even a week later she got with one of my friends I have to see her laughing and joking with hm every day, though out our relationship she was flirting with my friend so it does make sense to me now but not only did I lose the girl I loved and that friend but I also lost the group of friends I hung around with bc they just went with him, I still have dreams that shell come back but ik for a fact that would hurt more than her leaving every time I see her I feel sick seeing her hug and kiss the guy we was going to move out together some time next year. I really dont blame her for getting with him bc I can see that she's happy and that all I want for her. I don't believe im going to feel myself for a while or even be Abe to date again for a while but ur videos have been giving me the motivation I have been lacking since its all happened probably about a month ago, ive always suffered with mental health and nothing has seemed to help until I started to watch ur videos since I have things have really started to make sense ive been going to the gym eating better improving myself and thinking more positively about myself so thank you a lot for helping so much.
Letting go those bad habits you form with your toxic ex is really hard. Thank you this helps a bit :)
Happy to help!
A big thank you from Egypt. My heart aches of course and am sure most of us men are here for the exact reason.
I know it will pass . But the pain is here now , all I can say is . Please god helps us all move on
For me, people always left and I've learned go move on from that. The part that hurts me more, is that it happens too often. I put my heart out, and it gets treated like it was all for nothing, be it friends or a lover.
When I started watching your videos, I had just gotten my heart broken. Its a little more than 2 years now, its healing but there's still some pain in knowing he moved on and I'm still lost and alone, finding it hard to trust or believe in any other guy. Sadly, all the guys I come across don't want something meaningful. That makes me feel like the scope of truly finding my person just doesnt exist.
Came here from TikTok. You’re so good with storytelling ❤
I’m really happy you’re here :)
Thank you for sharing this. Sometimes all you need is a reminder to put yourself first.
Absolutely!
I had this friend, which I felt happy about. She was like a best friend of mine but last year, our relationship fell apart. I wish I could’ve changed everything but now I’m learning to move on. I’m glad she has new friends she can rely on but my relationship with her will always stay in the past.
i saw like 4 or 3 videos of this guy, has helped me a lot thank you joey.
so inspiring and now shows me the true essence of letting go. thanks joey
happy to help!
Joey you don’t know how unbelievable you help people with this videos , it gives me hope for the future and you let me feel that I am not alone in the terrible and also beautiful time we’re al lots gonna change ❤
Thanks joey , your video popped up like a blessing.. i wanted something to ease my heartache . Thank you ❤
I’m glad it found you
Thank you! Don't know how to express what I am feeling right now. But I thank from all of my heart for those words you Joey!
You are so welcome
Idk why he is very narcissistic, manipulative, controlling, abusive mentally, emotionally and psychologically, I left him but u still miss and love him, but I don't want to experience again what I'm going through with him for the past 6 yrs . I've been praying to God to help me move on and forget him .
She have somebody that care abour her after this break up, and i dont have anybody. But thanks to you it reduce my loneliness and hopeless
So helpful. Thank you! Felt like a "brother" pep talk. It worked and gave me the lift I needed today.
i PREACH the same message!! I always am encouraging others to see the future before the past, even though i struggle with it the most. so grateful for people like you spreading the message. it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle and it’s so hard to move on when i find myself running in circles. Proud of you for having this sort of mental awareness, thank you
Thank you soo much for this. Yesterday I was crying and today I realised what you said even before watching this video. Now after seeing this i think i took the right decision.
Thank you so much for this Joey. Love ❤
i am glad it found you
me and my ex just broke up on aug 19th and I found out she was seeing someone else the day of the break up. your videos have been so helpful and feel so freeing. I felt super lost before I found your videos but now I feel like I'm starting to find myself again and I'm not struggling as much now and I'm starting to have happy days again.
We were high school sweethearts. We were together for 5 years. Yet she decided to cheat on me and then leave me for the guy she knew barely for few months. It broke me. I started abusing alcohol, wanted to destroy myself in order to stop feeling anything.
It happened over a year ago. Right now it’s better than in the first few months without her. The thought of her living her life with another guy kills me every time. But I know I need to let her go in order to be finally free of this pain. I don’t want to forget her, because we shared a lot of amazing memories. I just need to accept that she made her choice, and I wasn’t that choice. There will be always a special place for her in my heart. I just hope that she sometimes thinks about me and appreciate what we shared.
I know my value and I know what I deserve. Moving on is not easy but those steps are exactly what I’m trying to do right now- forgive not for her but for me in order to be finally free of this anger and feeling of grief.
I guess what’s I’m trying to say is thank you for this video Joey, it means a lot to me.
Thankyou joey for reminding. You really comfort me today.
Just the thing I needed after an argument, thank you Joey ❤
I hope this helped a bit
Yes it helped, I’m done with all the what ifs and past
all this is so emotionally exhausting
Inspirational, emotional and life-changing video. Thank you Joey! ❤
Thank you Joey, I've been waiting for so long to hear this
I’m using this to help me get over my best friend break up I just watched your other video about it
Thank u joey❤ needed this reminder 😊
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I need to remember what one of my friends said to me. He’s usually very unserious, jokes about everything, and you never see him down. In this one moment, however, When I was telling him about my breakup, he said, “Don’t change for anyone.” He was very serious in that moment. It meant something for to say that. So whenever I feel like I could’ve done something different, or have fantasies about what could’ve been, I should remember that I didn’t compromise myself. That, just like Frank Sinatra said decades ago, I did it my way.
thank you for this. it came to me when I needed it most ❤️
I'm so glad!
He never gave me a validation and kept me waiting, And when he finally did I was so into him and it was hard for me to leave him. I still can’t forget him and he keeps on playing with my emotions. God I really wanna move on 😢
Had a relationship of 5 year,
It meant the world for me,
But it didn't lasted as long as i wanted it to be....
Took me about a year to move on worst phase of my life...
But now im starting to get my life back on track, highly relating to the things you said in the video ....
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This is really helpful 😢
Thanks. Needed to hear this Joey 😊
Really needed it 😭
Hi Joey very well said thank you. It’s been 4 years and I have already accepted it but the wound has has not healed yet. 😢
Thank you Joey needed this! The main problem is my ex is reaching out trying to message and talk I have no idea what I should do this is troubling my healing process.
u js got a follower for life thanks man❤
On point ❤
appreciate you
Thank you Joey
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Whew this came at the right time😌
Going through this abroad, alone with nobody to talk.
I'm ganna be honest just from the first few seconds I cried even more than I already have been for the past few hours, I feel so lost, alone and afraid. Even thought I'm the one that ended it I just wish I was better and that I could go back in time and stop myself from ending it with her. She's the first person I've ever loved and meant the world for me I tried so hard yet she thought I wasn't even trying, I wanted to give her the world so I tried to fix some of my personal stuff that would become a burden for us in the future I had the mindset of "how can I help her, when I can't even help myself". I fixed it all but at the price of starting to lose her. Just from her eyes and eagerness I knew she was already falling In love with somebody else somebody who could relate to her in Hobby's and even understand her things I could only hope of having. I cried hours that felt like enternity some people wanted to beat me up and honestly I deserve it. I hurt the only person who saw value and a future in me, something I can't even begin to grasp. If you read this sorry you're confused and wasted your time but I just wanted to let stuff out.
Needed this
thank you joie
It so hard and painful,everything that you gave,just no appreciations.
The hardest part for me is to forgive. He left me to be with someone else and move on with no sorrow while I'm going through the grieving alone. It's so unfair and I hate him a lot. But yes, it weighs me down and I need to let go to heal and move on for myself
I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years... It was for the best, I was just dragging myself and giving it all while he would give anything. I know that I deserve better, but wanting it to be him. I know now what I deserve. But moving on has been one of the hardest parts
I'm really confused about our relationship..... We broke up and few mins we said we'd give it one more shot but then we don't talk so I really don't want to be stuck in this loop I really want to move on but something is holding me back.... Ik I'll be happier Ik I deserve better but It kinda hurts to picture him with someone else
Hey Joey .. I still haven't figured out how to forgive .. 4 years ago I was in a really toxic relationship where I developed severe trust issues which is affecting my current relationship. The way my ex behaved with me I never wish for anyone to have. I was really traumatised and I felt stupid that I let it happen. I don't know how to trust people now. I always think the worst . They might cheat on me anytime, they might lie to me, make false promises . For an year entire I stopped dating everything and recently when I had intimacy with my current boyfriend I had a panic attack and started crying for no reason. 😔 it's kinda I am punishing my partener for those mistakes from the past.
I can’t help but to non stop think about her and it hurts because she broke up with me out of no where and unfortunately i gave her my everything so i now feel lost.
I'm so sad because she lost feelings for me and I really loved her
Thankyou! 🙁
I got broken up with recently, and now everyday is dark and cold. And i feel like i can't survive this pain..i am so broken.
Thankyou so much
I tried so hard for her I did everything I could but I was the only one who tried and she said it made her feel horrible and I couldn’t do it. It changed from the beginning and she pushed me away over and over and over and I felt useless.. she’s all I think about even though I know it was bad for me and made me my worst self but no matter what happened she’s all I can think about
It's been a year right know. I can't forget, I can't forgive her, I can't move on, I don't know how to forgive her what she done to me, yet I know I want to and I have to.
but how do you forgive?
And I think we appreciate the past so much-partially out of anticipation for the future-that we trust in the past and find comfort in it, which is what gives power to it.
And we don’t actually learn what the past is-it isn’t tangible, but so many parts of it were/are.
I think the first step of forgiveness is acceptance. And when it comes to forgiving someone, i think we place a lot of action onto them when it strictly has to do with how you feel. Accept what happened and understand you want a better future than today
hi joey, no matter how many move on letting go videos i watch i feel none of the helps me. the feeling of letting go and start a new normal is there for a few hours but it vanishes and i am found stuck in that loop of past trauma again. what should i do then?
Heey ur video is the one thing i think i needed
I listened to ur dream chaser poem on spotify 'that was heart-warming for me" so i searched u on youtube
And then this video just popped .
I am reallly feeling freeeee
One thing i just think your last name is kinda funny and wierd 'not trina to be mean '
I dont want someone who doesn't want me. 13 years of marriage. 2 sons. So many happy memories yet she lets the bad times dominate her thoughts. I know i am a great guy. I am deserving of someone better.
I really admire how logical that is
Sometimes I think all my past is fight after fight loss after loss I move forward but it just hurts aswell 😅
It takes a lot of time to accept everything that happens in our past
I just relapsed hard - stuck in bed the entire day and didn't eat. It's been more than a year, my first love. I really thought we were going to get married in the future, everyone did. He promised the future and even discussed it multiple times. But how can he easily let go? Did I do something so utterly wrong to be thrown away so easily? How much did I hurt him for him to never reach out and lose interest so quickly? I was getting a bit better. Until, I heard he got into a new situationship and it seems serious this time.
I understand your pain ❤️
If it’s a situationship, then it’s not going to be all that serious. Also, whatever they do/did to you, they’ll do to their next partner 👀
My 2 year and half months relationship ended and after some weeks he already got another girl but he used to look at me with loving eyes, i thought eyes never lied but i guess it does lie..
To be honest i realized he didn't love me like i loved him but he was my everything.
Its been more than 2years🙃
Joey, how do I really believe and accept that his (once) ocean deep love is this utter hatred all of a sudden? My mind keeps telling me there might still be a scope of him having a change of heart..
Same! I can’t comprehend or believe that someone who loved me THIS much just stopped caring all of a sudden. How is that even possible? It’s almost like I lived a lie but he showed me in a lot of his actions and words that he cared! I don’t get it 😧
It's 27 days since my girlfriend broke up with me snd told me hates me
I still love her and want her back and miss her inbetween with her memories
I do all the wrong things you mentioned
I wish i could move on but it's hard
It takes time my friend, it just takes time
Damn I needed that, I hope I can move on
Oh grow a pair will ya u don’t need another person to be happy my goodness yah so sensitive
Do not mind the negative comment that was left. Take your time to heal and move on when you are ready
My ex boyfriend left me in last 1.5 year ago and he got engaged to someone else within a month and now he is getting married
Why do I still have feelings even if we haven’t talked in forever
I thought I had moved on. But today has been hard. Today marks not only 7 months to the day when we last spoke... But it's also her birthday. It hurts again. Not how it did all those months ago. It's just a painful pang
It's the 3rd day.I'm starting to feel better:)
you got this
My common law partner leave me for another young woman,were almost 10yrs 😢😭
Whats worst for my case is that she keeps coming back when im about to flirt with anothrr girl, she keeps saying she still wants to be friends with me and even begs to still keep our calling name because shes comfortable with it. It would have been fine with all that since i can just think of it as going through a cool off for our relationship but thats not the case, she only replies to me when shes bored, she chat me when she needs something but i also dont want to just cut her off just like that since weve been through a lot. It feels like she doesnt want to let me go until shes fully moved on while im here going in circles of whether to move on or to hope for a come back.
People mind they business focus on they life n put god first x ❤
There’s nothing wrong with trying to help people through tough times
@@joeykidney I know say x am I
I feel like i lost myself
My goals aren't making sense to me
I did let go but i don't know how to focus in the present
How can i move on.????????
How to let the go?
Please help me
I'm in pain