"I Was Lost & Trapped Until 47! THIS is How You Take CONTROL Of Your Life| Mel Robbins
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In today’s episode of Women of Impact, Mel Robbins and I will frikin’ CHANGE YOUR LIFE and help you get to your goals in JUST 50 minutes!
So if you feel like you’re constantly losing it, always overwhelmed, easily distracted, or the worst, ASHAMED at how stupid you seem to others, fear not because our girl Mel is here to help!!
Mel Robbins is a best selling author, podcast host, and one of the most sought-after speakers in the world - but while she has had SOOO much success in her life, she can’t seem to text anyone back, remember someone’s birthday, or put away the milk when she makes coffee.
The thing is guys, even Mel frikin’ Robbins isn’t immune to the anxiety and self-criticism that comes from undiagnosed ADHD. But now, in her 50s, she is FINALLY ditching the self-criticism and owning her diagnosis!
Women have historically been disproportionately undiagnosed for SOO many reasons, (and yep…. I am part of that stat too!) which is why I wanted Mel to come on the show to talk about the sneaky symptoms of ADHD that you might be suffering with right now, the power that can come from a proper diagnosis, and what you can do to OWN it and make it your superpower!
Because once you understand that YOU’RE NOT CRAZY and your brain just works differently, THAT’S when you can actually take control and do something about it!!
Chapter Markers:
🧠 [00:00] Undiagnosed ADHD in women
🚩 [7:26] Signs of attention issues
❌ [19:57] Stop beating yourself up
👩❤️👨 [24:12] ADHD & and its effect on relationships
🦸♀️ [41:35] Make it your superpower
🔥 MEL’S FIRE QUOTES:
"There were a profound number of young women, myself included, who started developing anxiety in their teens and were treated for anxiety…and so there's this lost generation of us for decades, Lisa, who were diagnosed with anxiety or depression in high school and college years, treated for anxiety, when really the core issue underneath it all, was undiagnosed, either some type of learning disability or difference, or it was attention issues."
"It's not about focus. It's about your brain's ability to direct that focus in appropriate ways."
“And so when your estrogen is out of whack, your estrogen is also in your brain, and it is a really important hormone when it comes to attention and memory."
"I could never properly communicate that I didn't mean to not do it. I just forgot on my way to the garbage can because something else entered my brain to finish the task."
"Executive functioning is when you have basically an administrative assistant in your brain, and it's the administrative assistant that is dictating and telling you what to do in what order."
"If you have an inability to focus and hold your focus, particularly when the task that you need to do homework, finishing a report, finishing a book that you're not interested in, solving some problem, listening to a conversation that isn't particularly interesting, the person that is in the head, the executive assistant is like, meh."
"There was an enormous impact on women around the world, given this lost generation of women who developed and were diagnosed and treated with anxiety forever and never understood until later in life, or, heck, may not even know still right now that the core issue that they beat themselves up with is a focus or a learning style difference."
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hi good to see her back . Lisa i watched your show earlier bt recently all I see is negative thumbnails so pls bring back tht era when we used to have postive and motivational stuff thnx
Let's NOT FORGET-girls our taught / forced really, to be quite, pretty and just sit there!
Ikr!! Smile. Don't speak. Ugh
A cultural shift is needed immediately, respecting women & holding men accountable.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 38. I learn about a symptom almost every week that I’d previously assumed was just a “character flaw”. I’ve been much more vocal with friends, family and coworkers about my diagnosis and how it impacts how my brain functions and how I interact with people, but I often feeling like I’m failing in my role as friend, family member or employee. And yes, it has definitely gotten worse as I get closer to menopause. While it does help knowing what’s going on, but like Mel, I still struggle with guilt and shame, and still even beat myself up for not implementing the hacks and lifestyle changes I know will help (oh the irony of struggling to effectively manage ADHD because of unmanaged ADHD lol). This is hard sh*t, not going to lie.
I am late diagnosed at 47 as autistic and Combined type ADHD and its helping me so much by lifting so much shame out of me ❤
That's awesome 💖
Mel you are helping so many misdiagnosed women. Thank you so much!
This is sooo me. For the longest time I thought I was also an Aspie. Perhaps I am and I'm also ADD. I have no interest in taking any drugs. I love and accept myself just the way I am. Meditation is MY medication and I use numerous holistic and natural supps that help tremendously. It's a choice. Thank you Mel for saying that this is NOT a disorder and thank you Lisa for having Mel talk about this! You gals rock!❤️
I used medication. Got side effects. A brutal withdrawal im still in. Brain fog and low energy. I use meditation and deep rest non sleep. Starting to exercise and train myself to do one thing at a time. Working on self compassion. Thanks for your comment
I have adhd and I'm 70. I found out 5 years ago. Go figure! All through my life the only thing that has helped me is making lists. Even the smallest task goes on the list as it comes up. I carry a note pad and add to the list daily or moment to moment.
I do have ADHD that was diagnosed late at 35 and I’m now 53, I regulate my ADHD with a no gluten diet and enough good fat and it works it lowers my cray cray moments 🤗 I never took meds for my Adhd. Thanks Lisa with this much needed video 🙏
Withdrawing from adhd medication concerta has been brutal for me. 9 months off.
Medication can be tricky...there's side effects and tolerance issues...crashes and sleep problems. It might be okay for some not under a lot of stress and have okay brain health before starting on medication.
Me again: 100% me. The bathroom description--yes--except my entire dwelling! LOL. Thank you both!
Definitely I have some of these actions I do in my life BUT I so see my son who is still in school, THANK YOU for this interview so I can help my child!! Love you guys! BLESSINGS 💖🙏🏼
I believe that nearly everyone could be diagnosed, to whatever degree, with anything - ADHD, Autism etc. I feel we are in an era of wanting to blame something for our inadequacies, rather than working hard to improve ourselves and be stoic. I don't see much use of reaching for a diagnosis. I just think we need to get on with it and get over it. #ReformUK
Thank you Mel for speaking out about the TOXICITY of breast implants!! Your videos on the COURAGE to remove your implants is helping women everywhere!! Get those bags out!!!
Lisa, you are authentic and sweet and so likable.
That’s me!
But I am about 20 years older than you. I’ve been through so many meds for depression, social anxiety, bipolar polar… everything. Nothing helped. All this just added to my trauma. I haven’t been officially diagnosed, but I had a therapist tell me I had ADHD because she could see I came with my organizer and I was trying so hard, but still wasn’t organized.
Oh--packing! Horrible! I have to wait until the last minute. Like walking out the door to catch a plane. It's the only way I can pack because I have no choice but to get it done. Lol. (Thanks Mel, for sharing in this great video.)
That is exactly how I got my diagnosis!
Mel is so awesome...just love her!!!
If I don’t become successful enough and be invited to talk with Lisa by the age of 34, that’s the mark of failure.
OMG! Thanks for this. I have been deeply concerned that somethings wrong with my brain and was hoping it wasn’t early onset of Alzheimer’s. Everything you said about ADHD describes me to a tee. My ADHD has surfaced in the last couple of years. I’m guessing because of perimenopause.
For me it’s not “oh good I’m not crazy” it’s “oh good, I’m not bad”.
It is a defective gene. Dyslexic is in my family. My mother had it and my brother had it. My oldest sister’s daughter has it, my second sister’s two children has it.
A number of my cousins have it.
I was scared one of my children would have it. I started teaching my daughter at four years to sound out words. She did not have it, but I had seen the devastating effect it had on their self-esteem and chance to have success in life.
A neighbour’s daughter had a speech impediment. She told me her brothers children had it and that it went back through the generations. she said it is a defective gene in the family.
My sister became one of the special education teachers and told my mother what was wrong with her, that she had dyslexia. My mother learned to read in early fifties. She was a intelligent woman and now had the confidence to work hard to over come it.
My mother was 16 in grade three when she quite school. Her sister told people she was regarded (old terminology, but that was the term back then).
There is some help today but not enough for children with this disability because they want to give them drugs rather than teach them differently.
hi good to see her back . Lisa i watched your show earlier bt recently all I see is negative thumbnails so pls bring back tht era when we used to have postive and motivational stuff thnx
This is me.... As I'm listening to it while getting dressed I had put one shoe on.... Became distracted and realized I've been walking around my house with only one shoe.... When I go to work I have to do a check to make sure I remembered to put on pants.... All this time I felt like I was an idiot
They said I was too good at school. But I'm fairly certain I never lived up to my potential. Anxiety and shame that seem to come from nowhere!
Wow, this is so me!
It's very difficult living with someone who constantly puts things in the wrong place, milk in cabinet, peanut butter in fridge, etc, and forgets normal stuff. You feel like all you ever do is pick up after a toddler
I was diagnosed with clinical depression but I wonder if my problem is lack of confidence and low self which will cause you to feel depressed 🤷♀️ I was also diagnosed ADHD
My son was diagnosed with borderline ADHD and we chose not to go the medication route and I'm so glad I did instead we went to an all-natural foods diet through the fein gold diet.
Most of his symptoms were gone within 8 weeks and completely gone in 12 weeks.
Don't feed your kids artificial junk.
Finally the two legends meet!!!!😍😍😍❤
Please, ppl, let's be adults here.
I'm late diagnosed at 38 and in agreeance with Mel in thinking Lisa has ADHD cos she hyperfocused the sht our of sending those bars out (u go girlfriend!) The book is great Lisa I was in Karms book club the other day :) Thanks!
Must be nice to have access to all those resources...
Then there's the rest of us. 🤷🏼♀️💁🏼♀️
Yep!
Waiting for the world to wake up it's the expectations of society and the absurd educational system that contribute the the vast majority of problems too... 💅🏼 🍿
Obsessed ❤️ I’m living my best HEALED life post divorce. Published a book on finding true WHOLENESS after divorce called “THE SUN ALWAYS PIERCES THROUGH”
I ♥ Mel...I found her 10 years ago and her work changed my life.😊
Thank GOD for you Mel Robbins!!!!!
We never expect men to be "perfect" or excel in everything, especially men that are particularly successful in some area. Why do we put those expectations on women?
I wonder if Lisa uses adhd meds?
Not true for girls. I was off the charts
In the old generations people had nothing..work, work, friends, system and planning. BS all ADHS ...its a business..we are lonely ,we dont shout enough, we dont socialize, expectations are big, we take too much.on us, wanna be super woman, wanna be smarter then the other..we loose focus, we get stressed..constant competition,and the husband peeps Facebook or Insta, who he writes too,whether he has contacts in the handy, younger women...oh shit Im getting older, Fear of loosing my man..am I beautiful enough, have got money for botox,its endless....Bs Adhs..Crazy people wanna heal others and tgey make them crazy or to believe they have a problem. All Bullshit what she says.....
I believe Mel uses the adhd medication? Not sure.
Dr dont recommend taking meds when you want to ...they say take everyday.
She said she uses Adderall in this video
@@melesaoshea8719 i like how she was open about it and how often she uses it.