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The holidays and/or special days like birthdays, anniversaries or special occasions that remind you of special moments with your ex can be powerful temptations to break no contact. They give justifiable reasons to reach out to an ex to see if they're ready or willing to be back in the relationship. How. can you tell if it's worth the risk to contact your ex? What if they're thinking about you? How can you find out without ruining all the time and work you've invested in proving you're strong enough to trigger re-attraction? Is there a good time to break no contact? When is too soon and when is the right time to reach out and try to talk to an ex during Christmas or New Year? Do people tend to get back together more often during the holidays? If you reach out to your ex is there a right thing to say or a wrong way to do it? Coach Ken discusses the best way to give you the best shot at winning your ex back during the Christmas season to have a chance to reconnect with the person you love.
5 years together the last three off & on. She broke up with me in August. We haven’t spoke sense. Aside from maybe a couple emails I sent here and there. I got drunk for the first time in forever and broke my four month silence over the holiday weekend and she called the cops. My god what did I do!! Now I’m a stalker???? People are unbelievable guys. I was never anything but genuine to her. And I feel like if it were up to her, I’d be sitting in a cell for Thanksgiving. The level of cruelty is beyond me.
Yeah the high possibility of the cops being called or a restraining order are one of reasons why I'm not going to call or text uninitiated.
Can be heartbreaking and enraging all at once. When they redefine you like that the impulse to remind them and convince them can be overwhelming - BUT chasing just gives them more ammo to warp into false evidence and makes it hard for them to see the loving things you did to them as coming from strength - so they see it as desperation or weakness. Walk away - even if you want them back - walk away because it's still the best chance to wake them up although I'm no recommending you take them back.
U deserve better bro . God be with u . She doesn’t deserve u in fact u see more valuable than her
Did she ever respond to your emails?
Im so sorry.
if i hear that traffic metaphor one more time 😂
" calmly explain to them through physical interaction" ..... Lol!! Thank you dear coach Ken .. for always making me smile through my tears... always lo
ok forward to your videos to help me get through.
That was hilarious. I love how he edited it with crazy escalating ambient noise, flawless! He always finds a way to slip something funny and unexpected in.
8:10 😅
Even though we most likely will not get back together our break up was realtively peacful. We both cried because we loved each other. But she got so much stress in her life that it felt like I was the one that she needed to let go to make her more at peace. It wasn't the only reason and definetly not the main but I don't want to get too much into detail because you can't imagine what she was going through, I just want to say that you, Ken, were the biggest help. Your sincerity and knowledge helped me, like nothing and noone ever could.
Most sincerly, Thank you.
Hi Jan - I'm sorry you're going through that, but it sounds like there's still some real hope and potential
@@CoachKen Hello Coach, I'd really would like to think that. We agreed on a meet up aprox. a month after breakup and in the meantime be in no contact. Which I think we definetly should have waited for longer. Even though she misses me she still believes she made the right decision. Thinking of scheduling a call with you.
updates buddy? just curious
Hey Coach just wanted to say Thank you for all your help, I told myself I would give myself and my ex 1 year and if nothing happened I would move on. I followed the no contact strictly for 10 months then reached out just once wasn't needy, or didn't beg or even mention the relationship but didn't get a response. 2023 has been without a doubt the hardest year of my life!! Unfortunately no contact didnt work for me but at least I kept my dignity in tact. It still hurts but it's time for me to stop dragging a corpse with me I am tired!! Not interested in dating again just going to spend time with my daughters and keep moving. I don't plan on ever dating again or letting anyone get close to me ever again and I know you say I will change my mind with time but I won't I am steadfast in this position. Your videos did help me and I appreciate them. To everybody else watching just keep pushing forward I wish you all the best just because it didn't work for me doesn't mean it won't work for you. Every situation is different. Don't get discouraged. I wish everybody a happy holiday season and again keep your head up and keep pushing forward!! Thanks again coach!!
Sorry it didn’t work for you. You are a strong person 💪 I weakened yesterday. Dam ❗️
@@lynnesunshineit worked out for the best!! Everybody has moments, I wouldn't call them weak it just means you're real!! Stay strong!!
Did you do this video for me? Lol! It’s like you are in my head. It’s been difficult to resist reaching out and I needed to hear this. Thanks Coach Ken!
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Coach Ken is the best. Saved my life :)
I was alone for Thanksgiving. No ex or family to ask how I'm doing... pretty upsetting. I went over to a friend's house to take pictures of her and husband for Christmas cards and her dog bit me. That was around 1 pm. That's how my day started out.
I am so sorry ... if you need to chat feel free to do so with me.. I am heart broken and the one I love dropped me so casually... I thought he really loves me because every time he saw me he would say hoe happy he was ..turn out he was practicing lines on me and I believed him
So sorry to hear that! With some distance though you can start to prefer alone on Thanksgiving as opposed to another holiday with a manipulator. Deep breath - stay strong - better holidays and normal days are ahead of you despite of how it might be feeling right now.
@@lazydaisy4453 thank you for that. Very much appreciated
I know now after a coaching session with Coach Rex, I don't want her back. He forced me to LET HER GO! And after I cried profusely, that's exactly what I did. Too many women in the world. Too many new characters to introduce in my storyline.
I appreciate your honesty. Profusely crying was what I also did for a while after I messed up and got dumped. It gets better though.
How were you able to give up?
I know he doesn't want me but I'm crying every day..
@@lazydaisy4453it’s the most miserable experience. But you’ll get through it. I’ve had 7 months of shear hell and Coach Ken and Coach Lee videos have helped tremendously. I know to let it go now. You can’t control his feelings. You can’t control your feelings. You will heal with time. I promise
@lazydaisy4453 read my 2nd reply under this thread
@@Kingmon01 I cannot find your second response... I am so sorry but can you copy an d paste it he for me ...
Thanks Coach Ken, reaching out generally results in so much more disappointment when they don’t respond. Most of the time it doesn’t work, I know from experience. It’s been 15 months and I tried everything at first, nothing worked. I am not breaking no contact ever again. The pain of rejection is just not worth it.
It’s been 6 months since my ex broke it off and the first 3 months were hell. And immediately when to someone else which amplified the pain. I hear from her at least once a month though, and it’s normally temperature checks. She’s always the one to reach out though. I’m always very short with my replies though, because she’s still with that new person. I’ve been going out on dates again, because there’s always the potential of finding someone better, however it still allows for no Contact to work whether she comes back or I move on and find someone else. Trust the process and get the strongest version of yourself back, that’s the true goal of no contact.
How did you find out that she's dating someone else? How do you know that she immediately started dating this new person?
I haven't seen her in 46 days. We've been No Contact for almost 13 days now. I messaged her on Thanksgiving, because I thought it was the right thing to do. 13 days ago she messaged me saying she values our friendship, but her life has taken a different direction. We haven't spoken since. I deleted her cell, and all her socials. I did that because my mental health is destroyed. I don't think I'll hear from her on Christmas or New Years. BUT, as crazy as this sounds, we both have the same birthday. I won't break no contact, but I'm wondering if she will. Anyways, your videos have helped me so much. Especially when you say to take a deep breath.
Did your ex ever reach out to you??
@@archangelelmo She never reached out to me. We haven't spoken in 7 months. I'm totally fine with it. I accepted it all. She's living her life, and I'm doing the same. I know absolutely nothing about her life these past 7 months. It helps. No pics, no old messages, no social media. I often wonder how she's doing. But I'll never look her up. Why do that to myself? It is what it is. Long story short, lol.
Same situation. I had to do NC also on her bday two weeks ago. I even dont want her back because WW3 would break out after 10 minutes of talking and not agreeing on the most simple things. I want her to reach out so I can have that feeling of closure and thank her for stepping into my life even though it was not a great relationship, but I loved her so much. Breaking up and looking back has helped me learn so much. That’s why I just want to thank her and give it a real end.
Started watching your videos a couple weeks ago. What started out as needing help to get thru no contact, thru your advice has turned into me realizing I don’t want him back. I was just hurt and I’m still hurt but I deserve better than what he has given and could ever give. Thanks
10 months blocked, spent thanksgiving alone
Its so hurtful..to go from their special somebody to nobody and can't even say hi. I love mine dearly but he's blocked me and I can't even say hi. felt such pain of rejection on thanksgiving.
Currently about 6 months into nc. She blocked me at the beginning of June a week into nc. She called me 2 and a half months into nc but left no voicemail or text message. Didn’t know how to respond to it. Then she posted a video on her snap with her new “bf” of him pretending to be me for Halloween and had his hands over his face all sad looking around her birthday. I didn’t reach out for her birthday. A year ago she would say “I’m so grateful for God putting you into my life” “who am I to not appreciate how hard god worked to make you and put you into my life” and was always really kind and encouraging as a partner. Broke up with me in February when things went sour. Now she acts like this. Her new “boyfriend” also betrayed me and I was sorta friends with him.
Did your ex ever reach out to you ???
Another brilliant video, Coach Ken. You have a way of explaining a point, that is both convincing, and authentic.
Thank you furgal - much appreciated!
OH CRAP COACH KEN … after resisting his birthday and Christmas Day, I sent a brief email yesterday ❗️I wish I saw this video first 😢
THANK YOU, COACH KEN!! Our divorce was finalized in Aug of this year. Our dog and I have been through a nightmare together. My husband and I were both older when we first got together, (40&51) I was his first "relationship." We dated 6 1/2 years, Married 3 1/2 years. We had some bumps, but were very happy. His father passed away almost a year ago, also his first major loss. We had already gone through a year and a half of extreme stress~Really started with the freeze we had here in Tx. So much trauma in that week (outside factors) but we made it through together. Right after that, his dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and as I just mentioned, sadly passed almost a year ago. On February 15th of this year, I woke up and messaged him like always. He replied with 'yes I'll get that (whatever it was I had asked for) and I filled for divorce....' My heart shattered and I was just shocked. Not only had we not talked about it, not only was it on Messenger and "casual," it was on the SAME DAY he had broken up with me before, after 7 months of dating. He had filed on January 8th of this year, one day before I sat with he and his family, our friends, My family, comforting them all at his dad's funeral. And he waited a month and a half to tell me. I'm disabled, am ill, have no income, job or benefits, no transportation and live in the country. My dog and I are now "homeless," living outside almost all the time at my parent's place, DIRECTLY across the Highway from him and our "home." This is after he "allowed" me to stay longer than the papers stated--originally 30 DAYS. When I moved out, I rented a room from a woman on FB and was scammed. She was evicted 6 days later, meaning so were we. I lost almost everything, all the money I had saved, back to my parent's patio with just a few boxes of whatever I could salvage. I've NEVER been or felt helpless in my life. I did. We're waiting on our large, back tax refund to come in order to move. I pray it's BEFORE CHRISTMAS, but the IRS is not too quick! So we try to survive the best we can and it feels like part of me is gone, but also feels like he's "enjoying the show." It sickens me and he's NOT the man I've been with and known these past 10 years. I know he went through so much, I'm certainly not perfect, (CLOSE 😉 but not quite) had my share of issues, but we still have things to address. I TRY do hard to leave him alone, but it's SO DIFFICULT, ESP in THIS SITUATION. So THANK YOU FOR THESE WORDS, THEY DO PROVIDE SOME GUIDANCE AND COMFORT!! 💖💖 To all of you, hang in there, be strong, it can ALWAYS ALWAYS be worse. Which means it can ALWAYS ALWAYS BE BETTER!!!!!
@CoachKen WHY am I still missing him and are home?!!
67 days no contact since he ended our relationship. Tough day today, but feel totally encouraged by Coach Ken, again. THANK YOU!
If you don’t have kids or a dog together, just leave them alone, their monkeybranch/rebound is at their family dinner with them
Merry Christmas Coach Ken! 🎅
Question: Does even a proud & stubborn, super macho dumper go through the self-questioning you demonstrated here?
I just can't picture him doing it. 🤔
Today when you search the internet for breakup-support, everyone of the 1 billion coaches are teaching the No contact rule. So, when both you and your ex is practicing this rule, both will wait for the other one forever 🎉
not true at all - logically yes, fearfully yes - human nature accounted for? Almost no chance both stay in perpetual No Contact forever - someone made the choice, someone is missing the other more, someone will not stay in NC forever
Great video coach Ken, it seems that you made it specialy for me, I need it to hear this, thanks a lot bro.
Here goes the “roller coaster again. 4 years of this. I needed to hear this , thank you so much!
It's been 8 days and tomorrow is our 11th anniversary. I don't want to be here anymore
Coach Ken , your words and knowledge are really amazing. Thank you so much. You've helped me a lot 🙏🏻
Thank you Michael! Great to meet you!
My ex texted me today to say happy Xmas and NY. They were the dumper and idk if I should reply, I don’t know what to say 🤷🏽♀️
Same here. Mine contacted me today during no contact. He text me the following message: “Merry Christmas! Are you enjoying your day?”
As bad as I want to respond, I chose not to respond to that text message. I feel like if I respond, it will tell him that he still got it like that with me. I don’t want him to think that he can call me or text me anytime he feels like it because he knows I am an empath. This was the worst ever for me, but I will get through it I always do. Good luck with your decision.
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” - Gretzky
“Don’t take that chance. It’s very rare.” - Coach Ken
I never gave her time away for longer then a few weeks. Most of the time I reached out which she would still respond and eventually id go to her to talk no matter how i thought it may go. Many times. This time it was worse then all the other times and me trying to discuss or get anything to make sense just pushed her to block me. But sadly she wanted me to always care how she felt when she wanted to talk but never gave me the same courtesy back and respect.
I texted her Thanksgiving a nice message and completely ingored. Lol after a month broken up I flip. At the break up she put everything on me. After amonth and watching videos reading books I see no I did the best I could her communication was trash. We talked in the morning she Basically said she doesn't love me anymore I said thanks for communicating wen u started to fall out of love. She then FaceTime me hours later wen I called bck I was blocked. She's like I been working on the relationship for months mmmm where was I? How tf u working on a relationship alone? So upset that her poor communication cost us the relationship. Plus her trash support system she has.
So frustrating. I hate realising that I poured all my love into it and they didn't even try when it got to the first bump and that's it. I hate it
I don’t want his crumbs. I don’t care if Santa demanded I call or respond. Nope
My ex broke 6 month NC with a reach out. Before I responded she deleted the message. I responded asking what was up. She apologised and said shouldn't have messaged.
Said she had been drinking wine and then said she had a bereavement in her family. I expressed my sorrow for her loss, we exchanged messages. All one way traffic from me for a day. Back to breadcrumbing. I sent flowers. Short thanks. Nothing to reply to.
Now I'm back out in the cold.
Annoyed. Frustrating. Sad. Very sad. Hope dashed out as quick as it came.
Back into NC?
I think you should have used that opportunity to take a step forward and toward her… “I’m really sorry you are going through all of this. Perhaps when the dust has settled, we can get together for a beverage or meal and catch up a bit. It’s been way too long.”
This shows your interest in casual moving forward, and it’s your opportunity to try to re-gain attraction.
That’s pretty well regarded breakup theory. But you have to know what you really want.
@@kellyseager8163 thank you so much for your response and offering this fresh perspective on the situation. I've been too blinded to see a sensible way forward. I'll give her more space then suggest this.
You saw her waver - Usually the first "feeling out" message is followed by another with less time between. In other words I believe she's likely going to reach out again much sooner as long as you don't overly relieve the sesne of loss that the 6 months created. Deep breath - you aren't actually back to square one even if it feels like that at the moment. Let me know if I can help (realcoachken.com)
Hey coach! Is there is something you can tell about second break ups?
We were separated for year after the first one, then he reached out and we had a relationship for almost 5 months, then he broke up again (I believe it’s the same reason which is his own problems in life).
There is no info about such situations, do you think no contact is effective in such cases? Would be thankful for the video on such a topic!
I had to end our 18 month LDR when I became aware he was talking to someone else (every day, multiple times a day - this was not a friend). I simply text him and went no contact 10 days ago.
We were flying to see each other every couple of months, he was making future plans at the same time as putting emotional distance between us. I'm certain I'll never hear from him again which is painful because we never even said goodbye.
This is almost worse because we're both retired and I thought he should know better at this age 🤷♀️
Ken, do these theories apply to borderline ex’s? You and I talked a few weeks back. You gave great insight. Been 6 weeks since breakup and 4 weeks NC.
Thanks! ✈️
Yes - but with BPD I recommend standing firm and not reaching out - assuming you didn't cause or initiate the break. Not you specifically - I put that in case someone else reads this.
@@CoachKena lot of borderline diagnosis! It's a tiny portion of the population.
Thanks Ken. The borderline angle is important to me and you give excellent BPD advice 👏🏼
Been no contact since Thanksgiving so only one month. Woke up this Christmas morning to a message just wishing me a Merry Christmas. I wrote back thank you Merry Christmas to you and your family. Kept it short and simple but did I mess up????? Should I have not responded to a simple merry Christmas?
My ex contacted me today during no contact to wish me a Merry Christmas and asked me in the text was I enjoying my day. I haven’t responded and I don’t think I am. I don’t want him to feel that he can contact me anytime he feels like it and I respond because he knows I am an empath. My story is lengthy.. but I must say… I’m proud of myself in staying no contact this go round.
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Does it apply for separated merriages while limited NC because of children together?
She wished me happy birthday and happy Easter this year.
After holidays comes Valentine's day... So I might as wel just wait for after that period
This video was so good
Amazing video. Thank you
Please coach Ken, how do fathers get around no contact when kids are asking mum if you can come home for Christmas? Been no contact for 6 weeks but my kids worried about Christmas, and I’m worried about them
Bro stay strong you got this. This is part of the consequences. You can't always try to make it better. It sucks for the kids. Same boat here. But if you try to fix what she broke you're in the weaker position and she'll treat you like dirt the harder you try. Spend as much time with the kids as you can without her. Make kids time special. Take them cool places. I spent years apart doing all the nice good caring things and time and time again it only caused me pain. Contact only when absolutely necessary. I could have had mine back if I'd done the counterintuitive things these coaches talk about. Almost got back a few times and each time I broke from the plan I torpedoed it. Be strong. Be a good dad. Think of you first and your own goals/improvement. Kids second and any other important family/pets. Then all the other shit in your life. She should be your absolute last priority. And if she doesn't like it Don't cave when she complains. It's up to her to fix it and earn you back. Even if you fucked up apologise sincerely one time and that attitude (without talking about it) is what will help you. Best of luck over the holidays mate.
Hey KingKong - email me at realcoachken.com with some details. Details matter so I can give you more specific feedback - but then there so I'm sorry for what you're going through
I got manipulated to believe alot of things and debated into them. Then blammed for their choice when just prior had tol me we were gonna be ok then they had a blow up on me
We met her freshmen year and spend almost all of her college together. We broke up last month and she graduates in May and we started NC last weekend. I really want to congratulate her since she was a big part of my graduation and we went to all our friends graduations together. She’s worked her way all through college with no support and I am proud of her. Should I send her a card or something on the day or keep NC. I want her to miss me but this is a big day that we’ve looked forward to for years
Also the relationship was fairly happy and we were very supportive of each other. Lasted 2 years 9 months and we were best friends for 6 months before. A mainly loving respectful and mostly healthy relationship
That matters and its long enough that both of you will hold affection, memories and importance longer than you show on the outside. Stick with No Contact - it works best if you want to get over someone OR if you want them back
how do you reachout if she blocked you (I caused the breakup and wanted to make things clear)
Have you considered sending an email? That's what I did. Sent one long email to her and left it at that.
If she's blocking you don't find a way to force a message to her - even if its sincere it can get framed in a very negative way and usually backfires.
Could you make a video about what some „coaches” say that usually after a breakup men will work on themselves and won’t go back to a woman who seen them in their weakness and go impress a new partner instead? I want to believe in ex coming back but that’s what i’ve heard many times…
what if she left me and got with someone else pretty quickly after? we were together for a year and a half she told me i was "the one" and she didnt want it to be 100% over but left me and got into a relationship with someone else. its been 7 months, i dont think she cares or thinks of me anymore cus she found someone "better"
Explain this: I dropped food off at his work for t-day because our biz relationship. My company treating his company. It was great. I refused to go in and he refused to come out and his coworker handled it no problem. 10 min after I left he texts “thank you!!!” Whyyyyyyyy?
Birthday is where I’d draw the line, but whats the deal with reaching out on holidays??
What if it's my ex breaking the no contact during holiday with Christmas wishes ?
Hi Coach Ken, What about Valentines day?
Same definitely applies to V Day
Coach Ken- Was dumped by my avoidant ex after a 1.5 year long relationship about 2 months ago (after several mini break ups all initiated by her.) Overall the relationship was good with no cheating and little fighting, and she was very conflicted on ending things. We talked a few weeks after she dumped me (but she wouldn't meet in person,) still said we loved each other etc, but she started to pull away and the last call she said we should stop talking for now. I said that was fine, but I impulsively asked for one final call since she was rushed (was driving somewhere) and I was in a fearful/anxious state.
She said OK to a final call, but when she called I didn't answer since I was still anxious and emotionally fragile, and I didn't want to interact with her in that state. On our prior call, I felt myself, giving off that desperate/cringy vibe for the first time and it felt so bad that I just didn't want to talk to her any more at that time. I needed time to find my emotional center.
She then texted me a few days after I ignored her call, and said she wanted to make sure I saw she called and "it's totally fine if you don't want to talk right now". I didn't reply to that text either since I was still anxious and emotionally frazzled.
I went straight into NC after that- it's been about a month and radio silence from both sides. Did I seriously impair my chances of reconnecting since I ignored her (an avoidant) call/message even after I was the one who asked for her to call? I'm thinking it's too late to respond since it will make me look flakey/weak- do you agree? It's been very hard but if you think No Contact is the best move, I know that I have what it takes to continue indefinitely. I'm 30M she's 27F
I'm in the same boat. I think it's just a never ending revolving circle. So I think you did the right thing. I'm doing no contact too after she even suggested I call her to catch up. I didn't want to call because that comment just felt like everything was normal to her and I know it isn't. She told me she doesn't love me anymore but has love for me? Whatever that means. She just started a new job and the holidays are here so I'm taking advantage of letting her deal with big changes and the stress of holidays without me to build up her ego and reassure her how great she is and everything is fine. She is an avoidant too! Big time. Not sure which type, I think fearful. I am definitely an anxious attachment type and to make it all worse, I truly believe she is my twin flame. I think it's impossible to get over them. Didn't even know about or believe that hokey stuff until this pas year but now I see how real it is!
Thanks!
But after 10 years, this doesn't feel right. To a certain extent it barely feels like it was her decision in the first place, and more something fake friends and her mother pushed her to.
I wont beg or initiate contact, but is just sending a gift considered breaking no contact? She's reached out to me even immediately after the breakup. No serious conversation, but small pointless stuff.
Thank you
Hey coach, quick question; what if your ex has a good support group that can fill in the sense of loss? like really close friends, strong religious belief, etc.... will they have the sense of loss in that case? Been watching your videos for the past 3 weeks now and they've been helping understand the importance of no-contact, keep up the great work!
Good question. I believe that he has already touched on that. Family and friends who are their cheerleaders etc.
How to i react if she ends up wishing me a merry christmas tho?
Just WOW
Coach I watched my exes story on accident yesterday.. did I just mess up no contact? I already broke it before multiple times this is the first time I’m actually doing it fully but I’m afraid I already messed it up again by watching their story ..
Nah you're all good. She might not even check it.
I wouldn't make a pattern out of checking but the single time isn't going to be a make or break thing
@@CoachKen I heard from friends she was putting our favorite songs on her story and showing that she’s going to my town on the train, she’s trying to bait me to break no contact but I won’t. Yet I’m still afraid she’s too stubborn to reach out even though she’s in the “missing me” phase of no contact, she never admits she was wrong and is always the type of person to stay with her choice and I think also friends and family play a part as if she texts me she’ll have to tell them we’re talking again and she doesn’t want to look like she’s wrong and made a mistake to her family friends or even to me, I don’t know what to do other than staying in no contact and hoping her love and missing is stronger than her stubbornness :(
Hi Coach, what if your ex is unsure and you haven't actually broken up but it's been discussed? i.e., they are still making the decision. We talked it out and there had been a few misunderstandings that I clarified, but he needed some time to consider what I'd said but didn't know how much time. Christmas is coming up and we were supposed to have holiday plans with his family. But we're half broken up so I was unsure if I should continue to wait let him come to me (it's been 4 days) even if he doesn't contact me at Christmas or reach out?
Ich broke up 2,5 month ago 1,5 nc last message was about she unfollow my sm because it hurts her. I said that it sounds like she dont wanna hear from me anymore... she said that said that it ahould absoluty dont should sound like that... i didnt answer to this. That was 1,5 month ago. Now I saw she deleted my number but i wanted to reach out in new year but now im unsure about it...because i dont know why she did that... i know she talk about me 2or3 weeks ago because i dont see status from her mum now. What should I do? Text her or let it be hiw it is. I think she is hurt about that not answering, but she not relise that I did it because she hurt me...
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After 10 years raising a child together it's been 9 months of no contact and I know she's never coming back. I can't reach out because I simply could not handle the wait to see if she responds or a response that she's with someone else. Sitting in a room alone with no hope is slightly better than getting set on fire again.
Do not disappear on your child…that child’s needs to have a Dad that is present and loving.
@@GordonPavilion The "child" is 20 years old now, extremely well adjusted and in college flying through her veterinary medicine studies.