I learned this from Myron Golden... Confidence comes from the word confide. If you lack confidence, you've probably lied to yourself so many times that you can't even confide in yourself. How many times did you say you were going to do something and came up with an excuse not to do it? If you want to have confidence, do what you say you're going to do. confidence isn't something that you build up to. it is owning up to everything that is you.
Mother of 4 sons here- definitely can relate so much to what she’s saying about temperament. Each of my 4 boys has very different personalities and temperaments. When I first started parenting I could compare my kids to other kids a lot and often felt like I was failing because my kids weren’t as naturally compliant as other kids. Then I had my 4th who was very naturally compliant and easy going and it made me realize that it has soooo much to do with temperament and way less to do with “how good or bad of a parent I am.” Also, my husband and I are very different and it really helps to have both of us parenting from different perspectives. Dads will parent differently than moms and sometimes us moms have to get out of the way and let dads impart their own unique wisdom and parenting on our kids. Ps- having kids is the greatest adventure of one’s life! No one is ever “ready” to have kids. I certainly wasn’t! But I’ve grown so much as a person through having my four sons and there’s nothing in life that brings me more joy than spending time with them and my husband as a family ❤❤❤
Love these type of topics bc parents try to figure it out everyday & sometimes we know but we need confirmation that we're doing just fine. That goes for us parents who are reading this and watching this ❤️
"It takes as much energy to shame myself as it does to shift myself." That was a really powerful statement. LOVED this conversation and resonate with it. I think one of the most common conversations I have with parents is that sometimes our job is not to fix anything, but just sit in the yuck with our kid so they know they aren't alone.
I’ve been struggling with how to balance technology and faith in our home, and ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ provided some amazing insights that we’ve already started using
Finally someone said the confidence thing clearly and accurately. There are so many talks about confidence that are empty, just praising.... True confidence is competence based. Knowing what and how to do something is the key to real confidence.
I found coaching very useful in terms of better understanding that children need different things from parents as they grow up: 0-7 years - Parent-as-Teacher 8-14 years - Parent-as-Administrator 15-upwards - Parent-as-Coach
I was a pathetic father until their mum and I separated and I had to pull my socks up. I wish I could go back to the newborn phase as the father I am today (3 and 5 yr old kids). I was never heard as a parent, my advice was ignored and I was shut out so to cope I withdrew. I'm the best dad now and the bond I have with my kids is unreal and I'm really proud of that. Stay strong kings 👑.
I am a new parent and finding it quite challenging especially as I have to combine this with a toxic job and an abusive boss Are there good ways to make enough money while working from home for somebody like me?
I totally get how tough it is to balance new parenthood with a toxic job and a difficult boss... A couple of years ago, I faced something similar and decided to focus on opportunities that matched my goals... Now, I make over 10k a month from home! If you have skills in writing, graphic design, or web development, consider freelancing. Also, consider stocks but ensure you use a financial expert in the earlier stages to avoid mistakes... I do both, freelancing keeps me busy while the other brings in the bulk of my earnings but more passively...
Dont want to quit my job or anything like that,, but I have been considering the stocks thing for sometime now,, heard its a nice way to get some extra funds. Can you recommend this your FA person or anybody like that sir
@@Kortneylove-1 Sorry, I just saw this. Anyway, it's Kelly Matwick, you could look her up... can't guarantee she's currently taking on new guys though...
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
Definitely some good foundation and bits of wisdom here. If this resonates, there is a very insightful empowering interview with Lewis Howes and Dr.Becky. It’s packed with ah ha moments. To all the parents taking the time to explore, learn and are doing your part- you’re amazing and you got this! Much Love!
It's essential to teach children about discipline in a positive and constructive way. Setting clear boundaries, providing guidance, and being consistent can help children learn self-control and responsibility as they grow.
This message is potentially the most impactful message of the 21st Century... Atleast for me 🎉🎉 Jay Shetty, I'm so grateful for your presence in my life & all the experts & storytellers you invite into your circle of influence
Jay, have you ever had a guest that talked about neurodiverse relationships, specifically a wife or husband that has high functioning autism/aspergers? I’d love to watch that video if you have (I might have just missed it) if you haven’t, I’d love to listen to you interview a professional in that field. Your amazing. Thanks for everything you do
As a high school teacher, I've really loved this one! It's probably one of my favorites ! Everything said was deep and so real ! I do use some of these tools already in class, but I've learned so many much more ! Thank you Doc and Jay, this one was really something and I hope everybodybone day will listen to it because it's really awakening on some topics, and these are essential for parents or adults around childrens/teens 😊
Jay, maybe you need to ask this same question from professionals who deal with the results of bad parenting, like Dr. Ramani, people like Professor Vaknin. The heavy hitters who really delve into the different types of trauma that forms in childhood abuse. Ask professionals like these about parenting and what needs to be covered to PREVENT. They are very aware.
Don't fall for any person who claims to bring back people in ur life. These people are generally fraud n take advantage of others misery by making them fool n charging money. I hv a first hand experience of this. Have trust in ur life n God. Ur life hs made a way to bring the best person in ur life who will embrace u in his life whole heartedly n appreciate ur presence in his life. I m saying this bcz I hd bn in similar situation in my life 8 years ago. Now I m wd the best man of my life, married n being a mother next month.
Seriously, love this podcast. Definitely maybe look at my relationship with my daughter and how my behaviour is affecting her. And I realize the things that I can control the things that I shouldn’t try to control. Thank you so much for sharing this.
every time i watch you podcast I get incredibly juice nuggets of wisdom .this one with stphen bartlet was so inspiring hard to believed how mach wisdom .
As an author, I'm currently writing an article for Authority Magazine. What y'all have shared is so valuable! Thank you Dr. Jay and Dr. Eliza for this timely episode! Yes, I said Dr. Jay!
A doctorate is an academic degree you earn by doing several years of original research + by writing and defending a research thesis. I understand your appreciation for Jay, since he is really cool, I like his podcast a lot. But he does not carry the title of doctor, she does :) Appreciation is one thing, attributing fake titles is another.
@@eva-mariaroessler3636 Thanks, Eva. I was using the term loosely. The word "doctor" comes from the Latin word docere, which means "to teach." I enjoy what Shetty teaches on his Podcast. Dr. Jay has a good ring to it tho! Thanks for your comment, sis.
I get that you like his teachings, I do, too. There are so many ways of showing appreciation. Since, we are having a lady there who actually went through the hassle of getting the doctorate title, I feel it is not appropriate to use it loosely for the guy in the conversation.
Resonate so much to going even deeper on parenting & how to rasing confident humans! Something to me is so close to me in this conversation. Hope your podcast keeps growing & extended to a bigger community! Hope this episode gets reposted to facebook if anytime can rewatch. Keep up the great work Jay😊
I'm grateful that finally someone is facing parenting relationship issues and I would like to know more about young adult kids'relationships. How can I be there for them without being too much or too little. Thanks for the great conversation.
My daughters mom was toxic and yelling to my lil girl so much, were splir up now, and now my 8 yr old is less stressed and actually learning more things than ever by justvtalking tobher w a calm voice and love and understanding
Making big decisions and scared of not doing right! This reminder that tiny ruptures are necessary for growth, is amazing. I can do this, and no matter the outcome, I am going to be just fine!
Well. I am learning this now. With my child. Every day. It is hard. But I want to become better person. And good role model for my baby ❤ Also, I read somewhere that you could say I did someting bad but I have a older child now... but you didnt know back then. What you could do is.. change it now. Be a better person now. Be a better person now. As I see it as I became mother, its never too late.
I wish you’d tackle these topics more for separated fathers. We have to parent in tight windows and also often have an ex that parents in a completely different way or places roadblocks.
Parenting is so nuanced though.. the basics is hygiene food and play and sleep time with no harm to them or others or things. The rest is crazy how nuanced it is starting with how much you take care of yourself to how you give input into your child's life. There are definitely basic life skills that should be taught but what those are are so different depending on where you live makes this a local course thing that wouldn't survive internationally.
@@ZainabJamaly you're right, but you'd also be surprised how unbelievably unaware some people are about the simplest things. It would be so amazing of there was a Supernanny like Jo Frost in every community but of course, that's never gonna happen.
I can tell there is quality material here and I love how your ideas play off of each other gracefully towards development. I am sorry to hear you experienced racism, Jay. When I become a parent my mission statement will be: I will be my best self; Leading by example I will provide compassion and experience. -From Dahshon 👽😇😅I love performance & coaching, lol.
i take my parenting role and responsibility so serious and when i am intentional having goals and plans people around me think it is strange and think i am a over thinker and doing something wrong. when they are negative i just dismiss it as i love that about me and i don't see or feel anything wrong with being this way and it works for me. people make out i should slow down and just care about each day as it comes whereas i love to think about my child's future and different milestones. what's wrong with that! i personally don't find raising a human daunting i feel i am experienced and good at it, not perfect but definitely capable of doing a good job of it
Beautiful podcast, so helpful and mind opening. Will definitely buy the kindle version! Pair this parenting style with developing emotional intelligence and a good sleep hygiene, and imagine how different new generations could be🙏🏻
I have 2 kids and they wanted to watch it we turned it off after a few minutes it was swearing non stop and then the blood started 😰 they make these movies super kid orientated in the trailers but then it is more 16 YO or more….
@jayshetty , listening to your childhood/adolescent upbringing reminds me of my son now who is 16. When do you feel you leveled out/leveled up? Give me hope!
OK, this lady’s answers really pissed me off! Lol she said a whole lot of nothing! Bless Jay and his attempt to try to reword the question multiple times
59:22 Asa prind incredereincrederea facuta din 2 parti 1 competence builds confidence 2 la încredere să înțeleagă cum se simt și să poată citi Încăperea, să vadă ceilalți oameni cum se simt "All feelings are welcomed all behaviors are not" La fotbal e prost se crede că încrederea jucător se ia din reușită sau din rezultate. Ca am castigat ca am dat gol etc. problema cu atitudinea asta este că dacă ți o iei din rezultate când ai rezultat negativ ce faci? îți iei demoralizare e o sabie cu două tăișuri
i take my parenting role and responsibility so serious and when i am intentional having goals and plans people around me think it is strange and think i am a over thinker and doing something wrong. when they are negative i just dismiss it as i love that about me and i don't see or feel anything wrong with being this way and it works for me. people make out i should slow down and just care about each day as it comes whereas i love to think about my child's future and different milestones. what's wrong with that!
I had so much expectations for this, but when I saw it, it wasnt up to expectations.... her advice are not straight forward; you tell your kids not to drink, but make sure they tell you when they drink... what kinda contradicting advice it is? Everything is answered in 2 ways... that's what parents struggle the most in, and need clear answers from professionals...
I understand what you mean, but I think it is more nuanced what she means. I think she is saying something like, you tell them not to drink because that would be the best thing.... But it is more important to be there for them and be a person they can confide in no matter what. It is hard as a parent, but we have to be there for our kids and not judge or try to control them. If your kid is open enough to share about what they are doing, that means they feel they are securely attached and in turn, will have higher chance of making better decisions, or being honest about mistakes. 😊
I dont think i have ever had this stress of not being a good parent. I kinda felt like i always instinctualy knew what to do. But for teenager stage, I struggle more. Any tips?
Hey jay, i am waching your videos, its very informative and i am seeing your video to learn English, i am sure most of the indian is seeing your video for same purpose, could u please add subtitles in your videos if it possible. It will very helpful to us.
43:47 wait, this lady’s idea of good parenting is how much a parent can tolerate of the discomfort of their child when the parent parents? So if a parent is unable to parent at all, this is totally fine regardless of the effect on the child?
Start from 41:24,where she explains that sometimes parents don't hold important boundaries because they are uncomfortable with their child's discomfort (so, for example, if you tell your child not to do something dangerous and they're upset because you won't let them, you need to be able to tolerate the child's 'discomfort' with your decision because it is something important for their safety)
The checking in thing would happen so late on.. like i cant ask my 4 year old but at the same time i feel like now is the time i can do better so how do i find that out now?
I learned this from Myron Golden... Confidence comes from the word confide. If you lack confidence, you've probably lied to yourself so many times that you can't even confide in yourself. How many times did you say you were going to do something and came up with an excuse not to do it? If you want to have confidence, do what you say you're going to do. confidence isn't something that you build up to. it is owning up to everything that is you.
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That makes so much sense!!!!
@@VibrantVidhiMyron Gilden is awesome. He has insane insight into basic aspects of daily life
😢@@VibrantVidhi
I hope it’s okay that I took a screenshot of this! Exactly. I live by ‘say what you mean & mean what you say’ you’ve summed this up perfectly
Mother of 4 sons here- definitely can relate so much to what she’s saying about temperament. Each of my 4 boys has very different personalities and temperaments. When I first started parenting I could compare my kids to other kids a lot and often felt like I was failing because my kids weren’t as naturally compliant as other kids. Then I had my 4th who was very naturally compliant and easy going and it made me realize that it has soooo much to do with temperament and way less to do with “how good or bad of a parent I am.” Also, my husband and I are very different and it really helps to have both of us parenting from different perspectives. Dads will parent differently than moms and sometimes us moms have to get out of the way and let dads impart their own unique wisdom and parenting on our kids. Ps- having kids is the greatest adventure of one’s life! No one is ever “ready” to have kids. I certainly wasn’t! But I’ve grown so much as a person through having my four sons and there’s nothing in life that brings me more joy than spending time with them and my husband as a family ❤❤❤
I am mother of 4 boys as well.
I agree with everything your stated 100%!❤
Love these type of topics bc parents try to figure it out everyday & sometimes we know but we need confirmation that we're doing just fine. That goes for us parents who are reading this and watching this ❤️
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"It takes as much energy to shame myself as it does to shift myself." That was a really powerful statement. LOVED this conversation and resonate with it. I think one of the most common conversations I have with parents is that sometimes our job is not to fix anything, but just sit in the yuck with our kid so they know they aren't alone.
I’ve been struggling with how to balance technology and faith in our home, and ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ provided some amazing insights that we’ve already started using
Finally someone said the confidence thing clearly and accurately. There are so many talks about confidence that are empty, just praising.... True confidence is competence based. Knowing what and how to do something is the key to real confidence.
I found coaching very useful in terms of better understanding that children need different things from parents as they grow up: 0-7 years - Parent-as-Teacher 8-14 years - Parent-as-Administrator 15-upwards - Parent-as-Coach
I was a pathetic father until their mum and I separated and I had to pull my socks up. I wish I could go back to the newborn phase as the father I am today (3 and 5 yr old kids).
I was never heard as a parent, my advice was ignored and I was shut out so to cope I withdrew.
I'm the best dad now and the bond I have with my kids is unreal and I'm really proud of that.
Stay strong kings 👑.
This is one of the most informational podcasts I"ve seen in like 3 years or ever. Amazing, must watch for any parent.
I am a new parent and finding it quite challenging especially as I have to combine this with a toxic job and an abusive boss Are there good ways to make enough money while working from home for somebody like me?
Sorry you have to go through this❤❤
I totally get how tough it is to balance new parenthood with a toxic job and a difficult boss... A couple of years ago, I faced something similar and decided to focus on opportunities that matched my goals... Now, I make over 10k a month from home! If you have skills in writing, graphic design, or web development, consider freelancing. Also, consider stocks but ensure you use a financial expert in the earlier stages to avoid mistakes... I do both, freelancing keeps me busy while the other brings in the bulk of my earnings but more passively...
Dont want to quit my job or anything like that,, but I have been considering the stocks thing for sometime now,, heard its a nice way to get some extra funds. Can you recommend this your FA person or anybody like that sir
@@Kortneylove-1 Sorry, I just saw this. Anyway, it's Kelly Matwick, you could look her up... can't guarantee she's currently taking on new guys though...
it is really a small world. Kelly is an old classmate. had to go to her page to confirm that I wasn't mistaken. nice!
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
I am not getting that one...
😊😊😊
Why is the same comment pinned on every parenting vid I see?
Eewwww no thanks!!
Definitely some good foundation and bits of wisdom here. If this resonates, there is a very insightful empowering interview with Lewis Howes and Dr.Becky. It’s packed with ah ha moments. To all the parents taking the time to explore, learn and are doing your part- you’re amazing and you got this! Much Love!
It's essential to teach children about discipline in a positive and constructive way. Setting clear boundaries, providing guidance, and being consistent can help children learn self-control and responsibility as they grow.
This message is potentially the most impactful message of the 21st Century... Atleast for me 🎉🎉 Jay Shetty, I'm so grateful for your presence in my life & all the experts & storytellers you invite into your circle of influence
Jay, have you ever had a guest that talked about neurodiverse relationships, specifically a wife or husband that has high functioning autism/aspergers? I’d love to watch that video if you have (I might have just missed it) if you haven’t, I’d love to listen to you interview a professional in that field. Your amazing. Thanks for everything you do
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Yes, please. I would love to listen to this episode! It'd definitely be needed
😮 this is such a important topic not discussed. Please I hope our autism community get a voice. 😢 is such a struggle 😫
As a high school teacher, I've really loved this one! It's probably one of my favorites ! Everything said was deep and so real ! I do use some of these tools already in class, but I've learned so many much more ! Thank you Doc and Jay, this one was really something and I hope everybodybone day will listen to it because it's really awakening on some topics, and these are essential for parents or adults around childrens/teens 😊
36:35 "all feelings are welcome, all behaviors are not". I love this!
I wish there were as many podcasts on the importance of raising healthy individuals as there are ‘Family Channels’ 😢
Jay, maybe you need to ask this same question from professionals who deal with the results of bad parenting, like Dr. Ramani, people like Professor Vaknin. The heavy hitters who really delve into the different types of trauma that forms in childhood abuse.
Ask professionals like these about parenting and what needs to be covered to PREVENT. They are very aware.
You can find what you Just mentioned its there
Don't fall for any person who claims to bring back people in ur life. These people are generally fraud n take advantage of others misery by making them fool n charging money. I hv a first hand experience of this. Have trust in ur life n God. Ur life hs made a way to bring the best person in ur life who will embrace u in his life whole heartedly n appreciate ur presence in his life. I m saying this bcz I hd bn in similar situation in my life 8 years ago. Now I m wd the best man of my life, married n being a mother next month.
39:07
This would be amazing 💪🏽
Professor Vaknin! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
I APPRECIATE YOUR PODCAST SO MUCH JAY! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!
You’ve helped me so much, you have no idea.
This performance gave me goosebumps. Incredible talent!
I am loving it so far, it’s so important to have this out in the world for parents to learn. ❤
Seriously, love this podcast. Definitely maybe look at my relationship with my daughter and how my behaviour is affecting her. And I realize the things that I can control the things that I shouldn’t try to control. Thank you so much for sharing this.
every time i watch you podcast
I get incredibly juice nuggets of wisdom .this one with stphen bartlet was so inspiring hard to believed how mach wisdom .
As an author, I'm currently writing an article for Authority Magazine. What y'all have shared is so valuable! Thank you Dr. Jay and Dr. Eliza for this timely episode! Yes, I said Dr. Jay!
A doctorate is an academic degree you earn by doing several years of original research + by writing and defending a research thesis. I understand your appreciation for Jay, since he is really cool, I like his podcast a lot. But he does not carry the title of doctor, she does :) Appreciation is one thing, attributing fake titles is another.
@@eva-mariaroessler3636 Thanks, Eva. I was using the term loosely. The word "doctor" comes from the Latin word docere, which means "to teach." I enjoy what Shetty teaches on his Podcast. Dr. Jay has a good ring to it tho! Thanks for your comment, sis.
I get that you like his teachings, I do, too. There are so many ways of showing appreciation. Since, we are having a lady there who actually went through the hassle of getting the doctorate title, I feel it is not appropriate to use it loosely for the guy in the conversation.
Resonate so much to going even deeper on parenting & how to rasing confident humans! Something to me is so close to me in this conversation. Hope your podcast keeps growing & extended to a bigger community! Hope this episode gets reposted to facebook if anytime can rewatch. Keep up the great work Jay😊
This content is gold. Thank you for putting this out here!
You are true inspiration Jay literally you have changed my life 😭😭😭😭😭
Wow thank you! 😭
@@JayShettyPodcast. my pleasure ❤️😊
Thank you Jay ❤ this is perfectly timed for me raising twins 20 months
This podcast is Amazing and must watch for every parent
I listened two times and probably I’ll listen a third time
This is why I love your videos. Great reaction!
The way you capture moments is so beautiful. 😍
I'm grateful that finally someone is facing parenting relationship issues and I would like to know more about young adult kids'relationships.
How can I be there for them without being too much or too little.
Thanks for the great conversation.
Thank you for watching!
You have a knack for storytelling. Well done! 🎥
Your life looks so exciting. Thanks for sharing!
Keep up the great work! Looking forward to your next video.
Beautiful conversation. So many great nuggets in this. I look forward to reading her book!
My daughters mom was toxic and yelling to my lil girl so much, were splir up now, and now my 8 yr old is less stressed and actually learning more things than ever by justvtalking tobher w a calm voice and love and understanding
Timing of this is perfect!! I needed to see this today :)
Making big decisions and scared of not doing right! This reminder that tiny ruptures are necessary for growth, is amazing.
I can do this, and no matter the outcome, I am going to be just fine!
This worked perfectly. Thank you so much! 🙏
Wow, this changed my perspective. Great job! 💡
The vibe here is just *chef's kiss* 🔥
Thanks for sharing this amazing episode with us, mr. Shetty
Well. I am learning this now. With my child. Every day. It is hard. But I want to become better person. And good role model for my baby ❤
Also, I read somewhere that you could say I did someting bad but I have a older child now... but you didnt know back then. What you could do is.. change it now. Be a better person now. Be a better person now.
As I see it as I became mother, its never too late.
I wish you’d tackle these topics more for separated fathers. We have to parent in tight windows and also often have an ex that parents in a completely different way or places roadblocks.
Speechless…so profound. 19:06
Always my favourite speaker Jay genius l love all his programs very much ❤
If you want to have kids, read Montessori, read Gibran… and think twice. Don’t just have kids for having them…
Where can I find Montessori kindly
Amazing, thank you so much for This 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼✨
Admirable speech my favourite speaker Jay genius ❤
I loved the book ! very goos podcast too thank you for always picking great host
Just like driving, law school, medical school,pilot school there should be a parental course and licencing. We are overdue as a society.
Yes! Basic parenting. Basic finances. Basics of how to live in this increasingly difficult world.
Parenting is so nuanced though.. the basics is hygiene food and play and sleep time with no harm to them or others or things. The rest is crazy how nuanced it is starting with how much you take care of yourself to how you give input into your child's life.
There are definitely basic life skills that should be taught but what those are are so different depending on where you live makes this a local course thing that wouldn't survive internationally.
@@ZainabJamaly you're right, but you'd also be surprised how unbelievably unaware some people are about the simplest things.
It would be so amazing of there was a Supernanny like Jo Frost in every community but of course, that's never gonna happen.
@@ZainabJamalyno, things like emotional regulation, dealing with frustration, empathy, problem solving are necessary to be taught across all cultures.
Love the advice. My daughter is the sensitive flower.
I just discovered this channel and I love it!
Great Podcast Shetty ! I watched the entire interview
I can tell there is quality material here and I love how your ideas play off of each other gracefully towards development. I am sorry to hear you experienced racism, Jay. When I become a parent my mission statement will be: I will be my best self; Leading by example I will provide compassion and experience. -From Dahshon 👽😇😅I love performance & coaching, lol.
What s great visual with the dog and cat analogy!
I want to try this too! You inspire me. 💪
i take my parenting role and responsibility so serious and when i am intentional having goals and plans people around me think it is strange and think i am a over thinker and doing something wrong. when they are negative i just dismiss it as i love that about me and i don't see or feel anything wrong with being this way and it works for me. people make out i should slow down and just care about each day as it comes whereas i love to think about my child's future and different milestones. what's wrong with that! i personally don't find raising a human daunting i feel i am experienced and good at it, not perfect but definitely capable of doing a good job of it
Beautiful podcast, so helpful and mind opening. Will definitely buy the kindle version! Pair this parenting style with developing emotional intelligence and a good sleep hygiene, and imagine how different new generations could be🙏🏻
Looks like you had an amazing day! ✨
After watching ‘Deadpool & Wolverine’ seated next to a 10 year old and his father, I can confirm, not everyone should be a parent.
I have 2 kids and they wanted to watch it we turned it off after a few minutes it was swearing non stop and then the blood started 😰 they make these movies super kid orientated in the trailers but then it is more 16 YO or more….
Wait for it… BAM! 😂 Perfect timing.
Waiting 😊
Very nice... . I'm from Burundi 🇧🇮
Please also try to do introduce your self and others it would be helpful to us thankyou❤
Very helpful. Well done thank you ❤
I loved her insights❤
Nice to have this
@jayshetty , listening to your childhood/adolescent upbringing reminds me of my son now who is 16. When do you feel you leveled out/leveled up? Give me hope!
44:02 “all gas, no brakes!” It’s amazing that we’re all the same in our dumb ways in development… thanks for this enlightenment!
OK, this lady’s answers really pissed me off! Lol she said a whole lot of nothing! Bless Jay and his attempt to try to reword the question multiple times
Well, done, thank you
Good listen
Ok, thanks. I need this. Hope it works 🤞
59:22
Asa prind incredereincrederea facuta din 2 parti
1 competence builds confidence
2 la încredere să înțeleagă cum se simt și să poată citi Încăperea, să vadă ceilalți oameni cum se simt
"All feelings are welcomed all behaviors are not"
La fotbal e prost se crede că încrederea jucător se ia din reușită sau din rezultate. Ca am castigat ca am dat gol etc.
problema cu atitudinea asta este că dacă ți o iei din rezultate când ai rezultat negativ ce faci? îți iei demoralizare e o sabie cu două tăișuri
Every word is precious here
25:22 thank you for those terms ❤
i take my parenting role and responsibility so serious and when i am intentional having goals and plans people around me think it is strange and think i am a over thinker and doing something wrong. when they are negative i just dismiss it as i love that about me and i don't see or feel anything wrong with being this way and it works for me. people make out i should slow down and just care about each day as it comes whereas i love to think about my child's future and different milestones. what's wrong with that!
I had so much expectations for this, but when I saw it, it wasnt up to expectations.... her advice are not straight forward; you tell your kids not to drink, but make sure they tell you when they drink... what kinda contradicting advice it is? Everything is answered in 2 ways... that's what parents struggle the most in, and need clear answers from professionals...
I understand what you mean, but I think it is more nuanced what she means. I think she is saying something like, you tell them not to drink because that would be the best thing.... But it is more important to be there for them and be a person they can confide in no matter what. It is hard as a parent, but we have to be there for our kids and not judge or try to control them. If your kid is open enough to share about what they are doing, that means they feel they are securely attached and in turn, will have higher chance of making better decisions, or being honest about mistakes. 😊
This video was 👏 awesome
In the beginning.
The words about the insecure attachment....thats everything......focus and study that ...
Bingo flamingo
Thank you
thank you❤
You are the greatest human I have ever seen bro 😢
53:13 so absolutely
I dont think i have ever had this stress of not being a good parent. I kinda felt like i always instinctualy knew what to do. But for teenager stage, I struggle more. Any tips?
Hey jay, i am waching your videos, its very informative and i am seeing your video to learn English, i am sure most of the indian is seeing your video for same purpose, could u please add subtitles in your videos if it possible. It will very helpful to us.
I need how to care teenagers thanks
19:16 spot on! 👍
Nice conversation 👍👍👍👍👍❤❤❤❤❤ beautiful ❤️
I know iam not a parent right now but iam listening for my kindergarten kids
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Discipline = guidance.
43:47 wait, this lady’s idea of good parenting is how much a parent can tolerate of the discomfort of their child when the parent parents? So if a parent is unable to parent at all, this is totally fine regardless of the effect on the child?
Think deep
Not what was said. Listen again. She's talking about discomfort with boundaries not neglect.
Start from 41:24,where she explains that sometimes parents don't hold important boundaries because they are uncomfortable with their child's discomfort (so, for example, if you tell your child not to do something dangerous and they're upset because you won't let them, you need to be able to tolerate the child's 'discomfort' with your decision because it is something important for their safety)
33:52 so true
The checking in thing would happen so late on.. like i cant ask my 4 year old but at the same time i feel like now is the time i can do better so how do i find that out now?
57:44 absolutely
😢 hunt for the good,sure wish my parents knew that in the 50's and 60'!
1:09:11 ❤❤❤