Dealing with Mental Health in Relationships
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ต.ค. 2021
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"Joy isn't exclusive to the person who experiences it, we can all tap in to other people's joy..." Wow!!
That stood for me as well
What BrendenPraise said about joy is true. I now understand what keeps me out of depression. My life is not so great but the people around me are smashing their goals and that makes me genuinely happy .
Amen! Nelly
Amen Nelly 🙏
"In your weakness you realize you're strong"🤝♥️🥺🤞
"Joy isn't exclusive to the person that experiences it,we can all tap into other peoples joy"-Brenden😭❤
At this stage of my life,being married for 5years,not been able to conceive,having a gift /talent(singing), not having a move in it(stuck somewhere)hopeless and helpless,financially on the scale of zero,serving God by all means trying to keep up an image of IT IS WELL and just here Listening to the both of you,my tears just drop so hard and I literally felt the hurt just by listening, I don't know if I make sense but dealing with it all but yeah I think this made me realize that I really need help and want to thank you so much for sharing this..Yours Mozeline Namibia
I’ve already listened to the Postcast but guess- I’m gonna listen FUTHI 😊 because I need this again and KUMNANDI lana
We appreciate the love
Me too but I’m here🥺❤️
A Podcast that will touch many souls and generally the youth. Depression is real, as individuals we always put on this mask of happiness. I like what Brenden said about you can be the most happiest person but still be depressed. I relate to those words a lot because I am always happy although the day once the lights switch off, Reality kicks in!!!!! It truly kicks.
Suicide is not a selfish decision but a final symptom of depression. I've broken up with 3 girlfriends thus far. Mostly because my mental health is a bit shaky and I became a burden. Life eventually moves on at the end of the day. Give out love and you'll receive love. There is so much love on the planet we live on.
I can relate with Brendan about the "shouting at you singing in the shower". It's irritability. When you are depressed you get irritable a lot. And it's one of the side effects of some of the medication as well. I'm also battling with MDD and GAD at the moment. Sometimes I just go off about the small things. Thank God for my loving partner that's been with me for 26 years. It's not easy at all.
I have to agree with Brenden. Crying is... I almost want to say therapeutic. Lol. It helps. But it shouldn't just end with crying. Talking gives it a final pin to that issue.
Yoh thanks for the content guys. You are amazing, may God bless you and your work ♥️🙌🏾
What a great way to begin a Monday ❤❤
Thank you Lulama
I'm directly affected by mental health issues and your podcast is so real and very helpful to navigate the situation. I listened to it twice and now this will be the third time.. Thank you for explaining your own experiences because they help us understand better 💚💚🌍
I hope everyone I shared the link with listens, the world will be a better place with sharing this kind of content. Kindness and peace ✌🏾🖤
Thank you for sharing
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OMG. Thami had the same struggles after idols. It breaks my heart that he didn't make it. I wonder how many other people suffer the same fate after idols or any of these big talent competitions. Something to look into in terms of post "instant fame" support
I wish Brenden never had to go through that. I am one of his biggest fan and even after idols I kept looking out for him wondering what ever happened to him. I'm soooo glad he's back. 💃💃💃
When he mentioned what he went through i cried i thought of Thami,whom to this day is still hard to accept that he is gone .May he rest in peace
Wow!!! I tap into my children’s joy and husband’s drive. It really keeps me going ❤️
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" joy is not exclusive to the person who experiences it,we can all tap into another person's joy "_ Breden Ledwaba
Now that's a whole word 👏
In today's video I really felt Brenden And just how the topic was for him. I really feel he deserves a hats off on how he was willing to be vaunarable in front of us. Really learnt a lot in this video. Continue blessing us with the amazing content 💕
My best couple. Mpumi how do you manage to always look on point from head to toe. Please give us a video on that.
This topic hit home so bad cause I have mental health issues and everytime I discuss it with my partner half of the time he doesn't get it. And it defeats me cause sometimes I just don't like talking to him cause my issues seems made up to him. And this platform here I think will give him a better understanding of what mental health and awareness is. I am going to urge him to watch it with me later. Thank you guys
The struggle with mental health is that many of us are so afraid to be honest about how we feel out of fear of being labelled as toxic and negative. We are afraid to drive ppl away. At the same time we need social support through connections to get better. It's a catch 22. Walking around everyday trying to put up a brave face and maintaining a positive attitude whilst feeling like crap is a huge challenge for many of us.
And sometimes I convince myself that maybe I am the problem and I need to get over myself cause my " behaviour " isn't helping my relationship in anyway. But when I feel overwhelmed I can't help but drift into my bubble and that frustrates him cause I don't talk to him. It's like one can't catch a break!
If this isn't me!!! 😭😭😭😭
So many people they don't actually understand it they call you dramatic I'm at stage of walking away because there's no support from my partner rather I'm selfish lost my mom end of 2019 and there's been death in my family since then it's a lot for me everytime there's the pain comes down like floods and my emotions get imbalance
I broke up with the father of my child because of this. Thank God for my mom coz she sat me down and said ' sis do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who wouldnt even take the time to just Google, simply Google what your mental illness is and educate himself about it so that he can try to show support wherever he can- Instead of making this always about him, and how he doesn't understand it and in the process invalidating your feelings and illness like you have an on and off switch button'. Its been 4 years now and man I couldn't be happier 😃❤
Yoh am so emotional watching this video, i am an advocate for mental health, because I myself suffer with mental health. It's so sad because it's hard to open up about it, and even when you do, people don't understand. They think you are moody, lazy or just crazy.
It hurts so bad.
Thank you so much guys for this topic❤️❤️
So sorry about your sister Mpoomy❤️❤️
Thank you Mpoomy and Brenden for this video, when you talked about your sister I cried because I can relate to it...I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety, in matric and its hard...family, friends and the church can be there but they can't understand fully what I'm going through. This video has helped not to feel guilty of what I am experiencing but to accept and heal with the help of God. Thank you guys for pouring your hearts.❤❤❤
"She was that... but then also, she was sick." The cough analogy explains it PERFECTLY, Mpoomy 🙌🏽🙌🏽🔥
Im so sorry about your Sister Mpoomy. May her soul rest in peace. Thank you for the wisdom you guys share with us each and every week. These are conversations we really need to have.
which sister the young one? or did she have an older sister?
@@katlehomsimanga332 seems like an older sister I'm not sure. I Know she has a younger sister as well who is still alive.
Who else listened to the podcast and is still here for the video?!🤩💃🏽❤️ I could listen to these two the whole day, everyday!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your gifts with us!💎❤️ I love it here!🥲
i love how this topic was articulated, i wish somehow my loved ones around me could see this video maybe it could shed some light on their perspective so they have a new perspective, i tried committing suicide earlier this and i ( unfortunately for me) failed, my loved ones still don't get it, i attend psychiatrists, psychologists and take my meds but it's always a thing of "you got help, why are you not okay, you're just negative", i just hope one day my loved ones will get it.
Mental health is a silent pandemic honestly . Thanks for sharing guys . Mental health can either break or make a relationship, it requires both parties to be understanding of the other
Money dates. Love that one. Definitely instilling it in our relationship.
Thank you Brenden and Mpoomy for carrying God's vessel so well. You have no idea how much impact you have in our lives. We are taking down notes ♥️
I am always encouraging my man to cry more, he is a prayer but I feel like crying really does help. Sometimes when he is going through it, he would block tears when he feels them creeping in.
Thank you guys. Thank you. Brenden, I applaud you for choosing to share that it's okay for men to cry. As a man who got diagnosed with mild clinical depression & PTSD at 20, I would at times go into my room and cry for an hr. I kept this a secret for so long until I shared with a friend and they told me that it's okay. It's normal. Thank you for being authentic.
Thank you so much for this. Its so relevant with the conversation we're having as a country right now with regards to Riky. Wish the whole country could see and understand this.
Mpoomy I'm so sorry about your sister. May her soul rest in peace. I have so much respect for both of you showing your vulnerability.....God bless you two.
Honest, self aware, continued growth, vulnerability. You two are wise beyond your years, allowing God to speak through you. What you have to share is so so helpful guys, never take your gift for granted. God bless and keep you always.
I can relate to being in a relationship with a person that had mental health issues and was very suicidal. I tried staying and sticking around but in the end it was like he was harvesting all my energy and I almost got lost in this all. I decided to leave because not only because of the mental health issues the whole relationship became toxic. MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES ARE REAL.
Unless a person admits that they are not ok and seek help there's nothing you can do to help them
I can relate I stayed hoping it will get better but instead it drained me. It's been four months since we broke up but I'm still struggling to coparent with him it is soo exhausting.
Awww sis Mpoomy 😭😭😭seeing you vulnerable shows how much you are letting us in ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️sending you so much love and hugs to you about your sis💙💙💙💙💙💙
Yohhh thank you guys so much at the moment I'm going through a lot in my marriage an personal , sometimes seems like it's never ending bt I know the truth of God concerning my life...this to shall pass 😭. bless you 👏
It shall pass
Thank you 😊
This is what I needed to hear about this morning. I am currently frustrated, to an extent that yesterday I took the most difficult to broke up with someone I love just for peace because I can't feel his presence presence while he is around. So I choose to be alone rather.
@Lucia that's where i am and i have also decided to be alone because i also matter to myself.
I understand that and I hope it brings you happiness
But what I don’t understand is leaving someone that really loves you because you don’t believe they love and appreciate you.
My boyfriend dumped me and he’s reason was he can’t satisfy me emotionally, physically nor financially.
Thing is I love him so much and he has done everything right for me and what he things isn’t true
A part of me doesn’t want to stick with someone who is unhappy to be with me but I also want to be there for him
Thank you guys. Yeah, I know when I start binge eating ( specifically chocolates) something is up, which I'm working on because I don't like that and I'm changing it.
I’m you Mpumi. I over prepare, I over work, I don’t know when to stop. I’ve started listening to my body. It’s hard but I really try to slow down and take care of my mental and physical health. I also think my contributing factor is my OCD being a perfectionist is not easy at all. Thank you for this I’ll definitely have a “ financial/ money “ date with my husband
i struggle with PMS/PMDD often and this conversation was so necessary today. thank you guys
I am in a season in my life where I truly needed to hear this.
I love how you guys are so in time. I have made the decision to face accept and get help for my trauma's. I come from a family where we are taught alot of "suppress your emotions" but that only bottles up before you know it you're crazy 💀😂. I plan on being a mother one day by the grace of God and I want to be a sane one! Because there is alot of transparency between me and my fiance we have both agreed to work towards our trauma's at least to an extent where we don't rub off on our kid's. I pray all my siblings will come to the knowledge of this(I have tried talking to them about it, and how we should address our own personal issues, however one feels comfortable, so we can do better for our kid's. But it always ends in me feeling guilty for acknowledging what hurts because they choose not too, and then I beat myself up thinking I have self-pity, then it's a whole mess 💀. I'm scheduled to being my mental health journey this week and honestly I have been feeling like I'm over reacting and I don't need it but this has helped alot your vulnerability will not go in vain at least not by me 💯💯🙏🏾 Bless up
I understand you Mpoomy about anxiety. I'm struggling with anxiety and overthinking. I honestly don't know how to overcome them.
Overthinking, i too was at a point in my life were i struggled with it, until i read one book i think that awakened my mind, you and i have the power to allow what influence or affect our minds, because we're our minds. To stop something you dont really like Overthinking, everything is a practice. And the practice here is to break that Overthinking habit.
How can /how did i do it? I practice letting my mind breath, drinking alot of water, and avoid letting waves of thought run rampant into your mind, just disrupt them with joy whenever thdy come. Disrupt their flow.
Avoid being stressed. Don't apply tension, just do it with ease, saying things to yourself, "No i dont want to have flow of thoughts" , do that as a new norm, and avoid being alone for too long, and with prayer too, trust God and i can tell you after a month, you'll be freed.
It's simply just a process of breaking that Overthinking habit
You guys were so calm and intimate, this is so genuine, thanks for sharing apart of you guys with all of us
I have mental health conditions and I was actually admitted into a psych clinic beginning of this year. My relationships are often very difficult because anxiety is not an easy diagnosis to live with or understand. I am unpacking it myself. But like... an anxious mind finds it hard to be grateful and have joy in the current moment. It also sucks because men are not always in tune with their own mental health. So maybe if we all get help, stay prayed up, things will come right
Yoh Mpoomy, I'm not coping with this weeks topic. You guys have just hit the nail on the head. So much is happening... death sickness and most of all the root, Mental illness. This week has been particulariy tough and for the first time I'm actively taking the steps to make this right before things fall apart any further. Thanks for speaking truth and for being transparent enough to help others from your own experiences. Sometimes you don't have the words or strength to put what's happening into perspective. hence it feels so impossible to find a solution. thanks for giving so many people hope through this topic
Thank you for sharing your struggles too because in the age of social media it's so easy for someone to look at your lives as influencers and think you don't have struggles because you are financially stable. Enjoyed this convo
For the longest time I’ve avoided the “mental wellness “ topic , it hits home and watching this really helped in some way or the other. Much appreciated.
I usually don't comment , but this was beyond what I can express gratitude as. It brings joy to my heart to see genuine content that affects everybody . Thank you for this.
Y'all transparency and level of knowledge on this topic is really admirable, thank you for speaking about this, this is really heavy and I am glad you were able to share your thoughts on this! This really blessed me! Thank you!
I love how open you guys are , this really taught me a lot. Much appreciated 🙏
I love how real you guys are , these are conversations we need to have in relationships. Happy Monday 😍😍😘
I literally shed a tea t Brenden's coping mechanism, I'm so glad you shared this, I needed to hear all of it.
This is such a serious topic & I appreciate how the both of you understood the depth of it. Sometimes all a guy needs is an ear from his partner without any judgement.
I appreciate the both of you. 🙏🏽
This was a good talk, loved it. Thank you guys for having such an honest and open discussion about mental health issues.
Entirely enjoyed this episode, it's exactly what I needed today. ♥️
This is too powerful. Thank you good people for sharing
This was really interesting & eye-opening especially because I am living with bipolar depression 2 & this helped a lot 🙏🥺 thank you guys. Continue doing the Lord’s work
Mmmh I had to watch this twice cause I really wanted to hear the content/message being transferred and I must say this was therapeutic🤞 these are conversations we should be having in relationships, marriage or friendships.. Thank you for the transparency 💯
Okay, the 2 dislikes are nonsensical...like for the WHY would you come on this page to dislike the most raw, golden, authentic and uplifting content (which we don't necessarily have to be preview to)????🤷🏾🤷🏾🤷🏾🤷🏾🤷🏾🙆🏾🙆🏾🙆🏾🙆🏾🙆🏾🙆🏾
Anyway, Dankeschön Frau und Herr. Ledwaba for yet another spread of nuggets of wisdom.
We appreciate and love you both everyday. May your cup of blessings continue to be overflowing🙏🏾.
Brenden is so wise 😍 Thank you guys so much for your content. These videos give me life literally!
This topic made me like you guys so much! thank you for the transparency!
I wish I could like this multiple times. This is definitely in my top 3 episodes by you guys. Powerful 🔥
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Thanks Mrs Mom and Brendan,I completely enjoyed the conversation, your videos are such a blessing to me and many others .
I love how honest you guys are with each other ❤️
Great way to start the week❤️❤️🙌🏾
I absolutely loved this topic. My partner suffers from depression and his ups are good and downs just a mess for both of us because I still can't understand how to deal with his downs when they happen, we even have a name for it "the episodes". We really need to support and just be there for our people hey, even strangers❤
Thank you for this topic. One that affects many people especially during this pandemic that has taken many jobs, many businesses away and everyone has just been through the most💕
A Word in season @Mpoomy and Brendon especially during this period of the year. Thank you for always sharing yourselves your relationship and love journey is raw and relatable. We love that! Shoutout to all those who have been in a bad space lately but still manage to get through each day despite how hard it may be. This was a beautiful reminder that above anything Mental health is a "illness" if you struggling today seek help, if you in a bad place the least you can do is credit yourself for getting through the days that felt impossible lastly If you in a good space continue to show kindness! Thank you 💚🙂#GodsGotThis
Thank you so much for this topic, needed to hear this . 🙏🏾
The cough analogy is brilliant!
Shuuu.... 🙌🙌🙌 Thank you Mpoomy and Brenden this matter is so close to home.
I loved that you can be happy & grateful and still be affected by mental health issues.
Needed to hear this, not only for myself but for those in my life ♥ let's be kind to each other
I struggled with mental years for the 3 years ,i am happy to say im officially out of the woods .But when u mentioned that @work when you get foot injury u are able to stay at home till you better ,but emotions and burnouts no one can see that .As for me the day i got admitted my senior said to me that he was not suprised coz apparently i was acting up and saying and doing things that did not even make sense,and honestly i dont even recall doing those things.So its a challenge that sometimes we do not see how bad it is ourselves,but when those around us see it and choose to not say anything maybe out of fear or they dont even know how to approach the matter its a problem.This talks are important and thanks for sharing ur stories ,morning runs and walks ,your talks,Free2worship is therapy for me.God bless you family
Great work guys. One of the things that I like about you is that you are relatable. In each and every topic you unpack I always feel spoken to and moved. May you keep it up and God bless.
OMG guys thank you so much I know this was a very hard topic because you had to be vulnerable. Thank you so much for sharing and Mpoomy you're stunning as always momma😍♥️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much, this was very insightful and comforting at the same time. I'm currently dealing with healing my body from the harm caused by excess adrenaline and cortisol after life's painful experiences. I thank God each day for understanding the root cause and I now proceed with life being more intentional in achieving peace, joy, harmony.....
I love you, I love you... Thank you so much .. you guys are God sent 🥺 I really needed this... Finally now I know I have to go for that therapy, I have been rescheduling 😌
Thank you for this installment. May God help us and give us the strength to help ourselves. It's not easy. It's so exhausting to constantly be in this tug-of-war between pushing forward and just giving in to the pressure and ending it. It's hard, but I'm determined to keep fighting, especially for my baby's sake.
I could listen to the two of you all day!
This was such a beautiful conversation. It got me thinking so much and honestly re-evaluation my prayers in such a time.
Thank you for this! Kept getting distracted and didn't finish watching until today. I have learnt so much!
Thank you so much God is using you, I know this because there is no words you share that come back void.
It's really sad how many people suffer in silence especially because nobody takes the time to understand their hurt and be there for them . A month ago I met this guy, he's so amazing and such a bubbly person,we basically also became great friends it actually felt like we've known each other for years, you'd think he was always happy until he chose to tell me that he was molested by 2 men at the age of 11...honestly it tore me apart but at the same time I appreciated the fact that he chose to trust me to that extent of letting go of the pain and crying to me, I'm happy to share that I can see a change in his behavior he's more bubbly and always says I helped him in a way that he never imagined I could especially because he always spent nights crying himself to sleep and now he's able to sleep because I advised him to open up and tell his mother and that's also the reason why he feels more at ease than previously... Oh and we are now in a relationship and I collected a series of questions that I could ask concerning his battle and allow him to feel the pain in that moment and cry to me whilst he talks and I listen (it's been emotional yet an experience), it's true that men should also cry because we have males battling from mental illness and dying because of it hence I agree that talking does help and having someone who'll be there to actually listen. I'm also on a journey of learning more about mental illness and it's one of the best decisions I've made ♥.THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORIES THEY'VE HELPED ME IN MANY WAYS AND ITS ACTUALLY NICE HAVING PEOPLE LIKE YOU GUYS IN MY LIFE,I APPRECIATE THE IMPACT THAT YOUR CHANNEL HAS HAD ON MY LIFE.❣
Oh wow, this is such a good conversation. The way Mpoomy described mental health. It's truly amazing.
what a great podcast!! Applying your experience and being vulnerable, helps us be more vulnerable. Also ways of alleviating the symptoms. I truly appreciate your vulnerability as it is very hard for me to do, Learning to be more vulnerable.
This hit very hard..... Thank you so much for sharing this 😭it was really needed😭
What a useful and fruitful topic. This topic will ALWAYS be relevant to most of us. Childhood traumas, parental issues (issues we have with our parents) etc. All these affect who we are or who we become. They affect the type of partners we become as well. Anxiety is so common and its so draining
Deep Topic indeed. Mental Health is real. We appreciate you guys sharing and helping us find our truth and deeper understanding of mental health. We have family members that go through this time and time again without realizing it. Love the money date. 😍
Thank you for this,
Just what I needed!!
GOD BLESS YOU.
Loved how you unpacked this topic.
I have been seeing this podcast for a few days now and did not have the guts to open it. Thought it would be one of those.
Instead, is effective because it's personalized and cans see how difficult it as for you as maybe you trying to also not to get too much into your personal life..
One thing I can say is this is one step for me in a direction of introspection... I always felt embarrassed for wanting to be healthy mentally. People around me take it so light even when it's about me. I infact struggle with mental health issues... Thank you for this podcast... It's beautiful
You are such a blessing...The rawness cuts deep... We thank the Lord to have sent us this beautiful gift in the form of you... Mpoomy and Brendan...keep the light shining ✨✨✨
I highly appreciate you guys. Thank you🙏🏾
Bathong dumelang and happy beautiful and blessed Monday fam❤♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Happy Monday!
We may not comprehend but we can listen and be present in our incomprehension.
I love you guyz.. Thank you for this. ❤️
God Knows How much I needed to hear this😥 , it's just Hard To even get out of Bed
Same sis
Said a prayer for you girl! You'll be fine
Sending prayers to you my sister's hoping that you will be ok
This topic has never been this simplified for me🙌👏💚💚💚💚💚💚
I learned so much more than just about metal health. I feel so empowered. I’ve learned how important it is to take care of yourself holistically. Siyabonga. Please share where the immune system assessments/tests can be done?