How do I download books please help I need to read 📚 especially about this I need to build my life with a God fearing partner so I guess these podcast will help me and these books too
Guys your marriage is purely beautiful...Honestly some of us grew up witnessing the most broke and traumatic of marriages & seeing you guys gives us hope for ourselves somehow. Love ya'll!
Truly . Even with our parents we never really saw healthy marriage life . Their journey is beautiful and this is why I'm hopeful that I could possibly have a healthy and beautiful marriage life. 🥺❤️
"I already knew your sister and I share the same birthday" 🤣. Women literally go into the relationship already knowing the guy's whole history and biography
Missed our faves!!!!! Thank you for this. My therapist said to me recently that I need to learn to love myself so much that I want and get to accept the best. If I want the best for myself, I will not overlook the red flags, I won’t sacrifice getting the best just bc it’s not available to me (in the present). Still a tough pill to swallow but I believe that we need to do more self love and nurturing to our gardens so that we get to a point where we are like “ahh no, this isn’t good enough for me. I want more, I need more and I deserve more”
Agree with what Mpoomy said, that we don’t have to go through some experiences to learn the hard way. Just heed other’s experiences. The hurt that comes with learning the hard way can be quite traumatic. Also agree with what Brendan said about being quick to forgive. Holding onto anger is not worth it and can prove to be dangerous. Lovely, informative and timely discourse ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Also, I think it's important for us to highlight that this happens in friendships as well. Majority of the red flags on the list, I have experienced with a closest friend and it can break you so much you'd end up not seeing yourself good enough for relationships aswell. Yho I actually wish I could tell the whole story hey. But yeah, life is connected. Allowing mistreatment in friendships easily opens room for you to allow it in relationships as well, at work, everywhere. We should not only be careful of red flags in romantic relationships, but in every kind of relationship. I love you Mpoomy and Brenden. Some of my best days are from conversating with you. 🙏🏽✨
If this was a church sermon I would really say The Holy Spirit was talking to me. However I feel this podcast really speaks to what I am currently going through...Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden for allowing God to use you... ❣❣
I love how this conversation went about. I was also a snooper just like Mpoomy, well currently recovering from that but funny enough , that trait has saved me from a lot of things and bad decisions.
I get Branden's point...Just leaving because of a red flag can have you having a hard time going forward in terms of relationships because you left because of just that...This goes now to communication...It is important to talk to thr person about that thing that you don't like so much that when you leave you know you definitely were not in the right place...Then moving forward regardless of the other good they had knowing that that one thing that was super important to you...That would give you security for instance in a relationship wa not met...Communication really is important...Ego must be put aside...So that when you leave someone you know for sure it wasn't for you
It's the "kumele kuhlatywe inkomo kugidwe" when someone apologises. I was watching Get Over it by Pastor Robert Madu at Ekevation where he was talking about how offenses will happen but it'syour response and reaction to them that matter, being offended is a response.This was a really informative yet chilled conversation
Mpoomy is right. Its like when a person comes to you with third degree burns and says look, please; don't play with fire its really harmful. Then you decide to say well, I get you but i want to experience it myself.Only a fool learns from his mistakes, a wise person learns from the mistakes of others ~Otto Von Bismarck~ I loved the part where Brenden Praise was talking about listing down your needs so that both of you won't have to seek for external validation. So powerful and wise.
Love bombing is also a huge red flag that we don't notice. If someone is flooding you with compliments and just moving too quickly . When someone is digging into your past in just weeks of hooking up or they are just head over heels even before they know your Surname 👀 it may seem honest and cute but sometimes it's just a person trying to be your go to person so you feel like you don't need anyone else. You end up isolated and then when they mistreat you, you have no one to confide in because this person was just constantly wanting to spend time with you because you so "incredible" when in actual fact they just luring you in to get you to a point where by they can manipulate you and get you to ultimately depend on them for emotional stability
Personally, ghosting is a defense mechanism. It's toxic, in the context of a relationship, but it's hard to relinquish ones peace for confrontation. Especially when communication styles clash.
Ohhhh my Father God I laugh until I couldn't anymore. Not sure If it's you guys or the excitement that we finally had the notification. Thank you so much yazi Branden just touch something so deep apologizing and forgiving not sure if January babies struggle with bot apologizing and forgiving. I think we really need deliverance. Syabonga kwaLedwaba may God continue to Bless you and yours.💫💫💫💞💞💞
I love how you guys are with each other. How much you guys laugh, I just love it man. Its giving healthy relationship, comfortable in each others space and a solid friendship. Its really beautiful to watch. 🥰👌🏾...yoh that last part sent me. 😅😂🤣.."..like ngigide?" kodwa uyaxolisa, wow Mpumi. 🤣
It's hilarious how Mpoomy truly believed that she wasn't a red flag till she realized that she is a low-key full-on stalker lmao...then she laughed herself silly. 🤣🤣🤣 I love these two's content man!
I listened to this on Spotify but I'm here on TH-cam to listen for the third time. This was such a wholesome episode, especially after waiting for weeks for a new one 🥺🥺🥺
Not identify toxicity is a problem. that stems from childhood trauma the way we were raised as much as we can talk about it remains a problem in dating and because many ppl have opinions about it ,it becomes hard for the suffers to still act... But anyway thank you for your input🧡🧡and experiences💕💕🌎
Brenden’s laugh is hilarious 😅 This was so good. Knowing yourself is so important hey, the young ones are so fortunate to have such platforms to learn from and avoid unnecessary heartbreaks.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much for this video 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋 Another red flag is a partner who refuses to watch couple channels on TH-cam 😂🥲🤭 I know its silly but I genuinely have learnt so much about dating/ love journey from TH-cam channels ❤️🥳
the ceremony part for apologizing I can relate 😭😂, cause angikwazi ukungcenga iskhathi eside cause now its like an emotional blackmail aiibo xolela have peace and move on
Hi there, when Mpoomy is talking about her high school situationship I can relate so much. 🤣🤣🤣. She was me and I was her. On FB he had someone else's name in 'the relationship with' category; when confronted he tried to be intellectual about it. In the few months that we were " together" half of the time I was ghosted.
I feel Mpoomy when she says that, she questioned why she stayed in a relationship when it was clear that the guy was not into me like I was into him. But I am grateful for that experience, it was learning curve for me!!!
Eish.. I’m soo guilty of ghosting 💀I literally fall off the face of the earth and cannot be found. It’s so bad but it’s mostly a coping mechanism, usually driven by fear.
Brendan’s sense of humour is out of this world 😂😂, this was a very informative episode though. We do ignore red flags a lot just to be with that specific someone and we also have our own red flags and I think we should all acknowledge and work on ourselves. In the end I think the statement still stands “when someone shows you why they are , believe them”. And we should all work on ourselves for the person we one day are meant to be with🤍
Awww❤....you guys are the sweetest couple I have ever come across @Charlene Deve,thank you so much for introducing me to these 2 ..my life has never been the same.Continue to inspire and touch lives.Sending my love all the way from Zimbabwe ❣
Mpoomy is so me when it comes to snooping . I will snoop and I just need to know everything. I'm detective funny thing is my friends will tell me it's not right but soon as a meet someone they'd be asking me to go detective on that person. I personally need to know what I'm getting myself into. By the way we share a birthday Mpooms ☺️
Wow this was so good! What both of you said about needs and what Brenden said towards the end about “being aware”👌🏾 I see therapy is doing wonders for you guys😅❤️
Thank you guys especially for sharing the tweet "so often, we sacrifice what we want the most for what we want now" Hope these words will show up whenever i'll be tempted to do so.
“Yet, you married him!” By Phindile Yende. A book that covers most of the red flags in a relationship that women tend to overlook! Very informative
Hey sis
Don’t you perhaps have an ebook?
How do I download books please help I need to read 📚 especially about this I need to build my life with a God fearing partner so I guess these podcast will help me and these books too
“Do we choose consistency or do we choose our peace and our family”, I know you said that in passing but it’s actually so powerful!
"Don't sacrifice what you want most for what you want not" 🖤
“Ghosting is like an art form in the world of relationship. It’s like magic, you disappear and show up again”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
now you see me...now you don't🤣🤣🤣
Hey lolst we were ghosted kablungu kanjani 😂😂
Exactly 😂😂😂
This part finished me! 😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Brenden its not even you .
Guys your marriage is purely beautiful...Honestly some of us grew up witnessing the most broke and traumatic of marriages & seeing you guys gives us hope for ourselves somehow. Love ya'll!
*broken
🤍🤎
Dude! I agree.
so true 👍
Truly . Even with our parents we never really saw healthy marriage life . Their journey is beautiful and this is why I'm hopeful that I could possibly have a healthy and beautiful marriage life. 🥺❤️
"I already knew your sister and I share the same birthday" 🤣. Women literally go into the relationship already knowing the guy's whole history and biography
Missed our faves!!!!! Thank you for this.
My therapist said to me recently that I need to learn to love myself so much that I want and get to accept the best. If I want the best for myself, I will not overlook the red flags, I won’t sacrifice getting the best just bc it’s not available to me (in the present).
Still a tough pill to swallow but I believe that we need to do more self love and nurturing to our gardens so that we get to a point where we are like “ahh no, this isn’t good enough for me. I want more, I need more and I deserve more”
Thank you for sharing this Mmapula ❤️
Thank you for sharing this Mmapula ❤️
Agree with what Mpoomy said, that we don’t have to go through some experiences to learn the hard way. Just heed other’s experiences. The hurt that comes with learning the hard way can be quite traumatic. Also agree with what Brendan said about being quick to forgive. Holding onto anger is not worth it and can prove to be dangerous.
Lovely, informative and timely discourse ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
I just love how they are laughing throughout, so wholesome 😍❤️. The humor makes the topic less painful 😭😂❤️.
When someone shows you who they are believe them . "True That"
Another red flag is someone who has a history of abuse, and I mean like physical abuse its most likely to happen in your relationship with them
Only if they didn't heal.😊
Also, I think it's important for us to highlight that this happens in friendships as well. Majority of the red flags on the list, I have experienced with a closest friend and it can break you so much you'd end up not seeing yourself good enough for relationships aswell. Yho I actually wish I could tell the whole story hey.
But yeah, life is connected. Allowing mistreatment in friendships easily opens room for you to allow it in relationships as well, at work, everywhere. We should not only be careful of red flags in romantic relationships, but in every kind of relationship.
I love you Mpoomy and Brenden. Some of my best days are from conversating with you. 🙏🏽✨
Even family my love. We should stop making excuses for red flags.
@@phiwokuhlemthembu8972 You not alone hence I said even family can be toxic sometimes, they come to you when they need favours
I agree with Mpoomy at the end. Some experiences are not necessary. We can do without honestly.
You pick you partner according to their patterns. I like that
yes indeed!
If this was a church sermon I would really say The Holy Spirit was talking to me. However I feel this podcast really speaks to what I am currently going through...Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden for allowing God to use you... ❣❣
I love how this conversation went about. I was also a snooper just like Mpoomy, well currently recovering from that but funny enough , that trait has saved me from a lot of things and bad decisions.
Me too hey… we live and learn🤗
Is it a red flag though😂😂😂😂
"When someone shows you who they are believe them."
Thank you Mrs Mom and Brenden Praise 💞 #Lovejourney #NotificationGang
I get Branden's point...Just leaving because of a red flag can have you having a hard time going forward in terms of relationships because you left because of just that...This goes now to communication...It is important to talk to thr person about that thing that you don't like so much that when you leave you know you definitely were not in the right place...Then moving forward regardless of the other good they had knowing that that one thing that was super important to you...That would give you security for instance in a relationship wa not met...Communication really is important...Ego must be put aside...So that when you leave someone you know for sure it wasn't for you
It's the "kumele kuhlatywe inkomo kugidwe" when someone apologises. I was watching Get Over it by Pastor Robert Madu at Ekevation where he was talking about how offenses will happen but it'syour response and reaction to them that matter, being offended is a response.This was a really informative yet chilled conversation
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️❤️❤️
"A relationship cannot workout if your partners needs are unmet" 🙌🏾.
Mpoomy is right. Its like when a person comes to you with third degree burns and says look, please; don't play with fire its really harmful. Then you decide to say well, I get you but i want to experience it myself.Only a fool learns from his mistakes, a wise person learns from the mistakes of others ~Otto Von Bismarck~
I loved the part where Brenden Praise was talking about listing down your needs so that both of you won't have to seek for external validation. So powerful and wise.
Love bombing is also a huge red flag that we don't notice. If someone is flooding you with compliments and just moving too quickly . When someone is digging into your past in just weeks of hooking up or they are just head over heels even before they know your Surname 👀 it may seem honest and cute but sometimes it's just a person trying to be your go to person so you feel like you don't need anyone else. You end up isolated and then when they mistreat you, you have no one to confide in because this person was just constantly wanting to spend time with you because you so "incredible" when in actual fact they just luring you in to get you to a point where by they can manipulate you and get you to ultimately depend on them for emotional stability
Narcissist Tendencies❗❗❗
Yoooo I have a friend who is going through that....eysh....it's sad she's already ingaged and it's only 3 months into the relationship
@@katlehomsimanga332 Hectic!
I cut anyone who does this off! it scares me so much!😩
Nailed it!
I love how you both tackle serious topics in a fun way, literally laughing my way though. This is so beautiful!
Personally, ghosting is a defense mechanism. It's toxic, in the context of a relationship, but it's hard to relinquish ones peace for confrontation. Especially when communication styles clash.
Feels like I waited for this notification forever 🥺 Lots of love from 🇰🇪
same😭. been waiting🥺. thank you!
Same!!!! 😍😭
SAME!!!!!
🇰🇪🇰🇪 ayeeeee
Ohhhh my Father God I laugh until I couldn't anymore. Not sure If it's you guys or the excitement that we finally had the notification. Thank you so much yazi Branden just touch something so deep apologizing and forgiving not sure if January babies struggle with bot apologizing and forgiving. I think we really need deliverance. Syabonga kwaLedwaba may God continue to Bless you and yours.💫💫💫💞💞💞
Thoroughly enjoyed this podcast. I love the way you were tackling such important issues yet being so light as well. Beautiful 💖
Y’all Are The Definition Of A Genuine Authentic Marriage Blessings ❤
I love how you guys are with each other. How much you guys laugh, I just love it man. Its giving healthy relationship, comfortable in each others space and a solid friendship. Its really beautiful to watch. 🥰👌🏾...yoh that last part sent me. 😅😂🤣.."..like ngigide?" kodwa uyaxolisa, wow Mpumi. 🤣
Just like our fire is gone, so are we😂😂🔥. Siyabonga for this segment.
😂😂😂
Choosing to avoid communication is also one of the things I used to do in my past relationships. I know exactly what Brenden is talking about. ☹️
Is the authenticity of this channel that make me present with every video. Thank you soo much for being selfless in sharing your life with us.
It's hilarious how Mpoomy truly believed that she wasn't a red flag till she realized that she is a low-key full-on stalker lmao...then she laughed herself silly. 🤣🤣🤣 I love these two's content man!
I listened to this on Spotify but I'm here on TH-cam to listen for the third time. This was such a wholesome episode, especially after waiting for weeks for a new one 🥺🥺🥺
Y'all are honestly a breath of fresh air! We love to see it!
The disagreement is also in sync 🤣🤣🤣🤣. That's very authentic guys. Disagreement is healthy!
lol agreed! very
Today I was very intentional about watching the ads. Thank you for a great discussion in a very light manner. I enjoyed it very much.
I loved this! Laughed my way through these gems! Great episode.
Thank you❤️
Thank you so much for the wonderful content. Also I really appreciate the great quality of your content.
Thank you 😊 I
I love how he praises her❤️
It's so good to know that good marriages still exists and may God bless you 💖 😊
Here, here! So happy to see y’all back.
I'm soooo happy to see you guys!! Really missed these
The minute you said phineas and ferb i bursted into laughter. Whatchu doin 🤣 queen of snooping
I’m a joke to him😂😂
Learnt a lot.. my favorite part was when both of you started laughing about Mr Brendan's dad being an over sharer..that was sweet! I love laughter😁
Another red flag is failing to listen to what your partner says and always wanting thing's to go your way.
Not identify toxicity is a problem. that stems from childhood trauma the way we were raised as much as we can talk about it remains a problem in dating and because many ppl have opinions about it ,it becomes hard for the suffers to still act...
But anyway thank you for your input🧡🧡and experiences💕💕🌎
Brenden’s laugh is hilarious 😅
This was so good. Knowing yourself is so important hey, the young ones are so fortunate to have such platforms to learn from and avoid unnecessary heartbreaks.
I don’t even have to think twice about watching my faves❤️ so happy to see you again.
💯💯❤️❤️Been looking forward for a sit down
we back at it!
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much for this video 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋 Another red flag is a partner who refuses to watch couple channels on TH-cam 😂🥲🤭 I know its silly but I genuinely have learnt so much about dating/ love journey from TH-cam channels ❤️🥳
So excited for all the great stuff happening in your lives💫. May God continue to bless you individually and as a family 🙏🏾 🤎
First time catching a live, so happy to be here❤️❤️❤️
ahhh so happy to have you!!
the ceremony part for apologizing I can relate 😭😂, cause angikwazi ukungcenga iskhathi eside cause now its like an emotional blackmail aiibo xolela have peace and move on
"Do not sacrifice what you want now for what you want most"👌💫
I just love how you laugh throughout your conversation.
“Honestish” yhoo Brenden 😂😂😂
Yaaay, I saw on insta and jumped cant wait to indulge
Hi there, when Mpoomy is talking about her high school situationship I can relate so much. 🤣🤣🤣. She was me and I was her. On FB he had someone else's name in 'the relationship with' category; when confronted he tried to be intellectual about it.
In the few months that we were " together" half of the time I was ghosted.
The fact that you matched with the coffee cups😊
Love this. An emphasis on always ensuring that everything that you get yourself into, aligns with who you are. You guys are amazing ❤️
I feel Mpoomy when she says that, she questioned why she stayed in a relationship when it was clear that the guy was not into me like I was into him. But I am grateful for that experience, it was learning curve for me!!!
the quality/grading of your videos, unmatched man, every time.
I always like the videos before watching 😅
The true definition of your partner should be your bestfriend. This warms my heart ❤
I appreciate you guys, even though I'd like to see you on regular 😌 I understand how life is and its always a banger when you return ❤ much love😘
We have been waiting for the notifications 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻 it’s good to be here 📍sila. We miss you guys 😘😍
Brandon in color?? Pastel yes, but it’s still color. We love to see it 😂 love the episode as always!
Eish.. I’m soo guilty of ghosting 💀I literally fall off the face of the earth and cannot be found. It’s so bad but it’s mostly a coping mechanism, usually driven by fear.
😂😂😂♥️a good laugh and great content. Thank you🙏🏽
Brendan’s sense of humour is out of this world 😂😂, this was a very informative episode though. We do ignore red flags a lot just to be with that specific someone and we also have our own red flags and I think we should all acknowledge and work on ourselves. In the end I think the statement still stands “when someone shows you why they are , believe them”. And we should all work on ourselves for the person we one day are meant to be with🤍
"Ghosting is magic"
Brendan come on😂😂
Awww❤....you guys are the sweetest couple I have ever come across @Charlene Deve,thank you so much for introducing me to these 2 ..my life has never been the same.Continue to inspire and touch lives.Sending my love all the way from Zimbabwe ❣
One thing about you guys are so content, from relationship red flags to how it should be 😍 thank you for sharing part of yourselves with us
Here for the gems ❤️🖤💕
Mpoomy is so me when it comes to snooping . I will snoop and I just need to know everything. I'm detective funny thing is my friends will tell me it's not right but soon as a meet someone they'd be asking me to go detective on that person. I personally need to know what I'm getting myself into. By the way we share a birthday Mpooms ☺️
Arg I've missed you guys mehn, always lighthearted yet much needed conversations ❤☺
Ghosting is kinda Magic in a relationship 😂🤦♀️🤦♀️😂😂😂😂you guys are power maan.. its always nice watching and listening to you guys ❤❤
Ag you two are just a whole package, thank you so much for what you do guys.
I really like how Brenden praises you Mpoomi 🥰...
I agree with Mpoomy with setting firm boundaries and making sure your partner respects your boundaries
6 months Brenden noooo 😂😂😂😂 that's ghosting on another level... Anyway better late than never... Binging on your podcast ❤️
The fire Said i can't take these redflags ngeke sbali. Thank you for the wonderful podcast ❤️.
I love it more when you guys are relaxed,laughing and making jokes 😍😍😍❤️❤️
Thoroughly enjoyed this. I laughed so much! Great job you guys ⭐️
I really love this so much, there is so much truth here and I absolutely love it!
Thank you for the information and all the way from Zambia 🇿🇲
Thank you mpoomy, always inspiring ❤❤
Glad you enjoyed ❤️❤️❤️
The therapy I needed 😭
You can't be Honestish . You're either honest or you're not! Word!
Wow this was so good! What both of you said about needs and what Brenden said towards the end about “being aware”👌🏾 I see therapy is doing wonders for you guys😅❤️
Thank you for your transparency!I absolutely love these episodes!👏🙌♥️
Mpoomy is so cute 😍 gosh your laugh 😃
🥰😂
Mpoomy had me at disregarding your boundaries!!!😫
Thank you guys especially for sharing the tweet "so often, we sacrifice what we want the most for what we want now" Hope these words will show up whenever i'll be tempted to do so.
We here we back 💃🏻💃🏻♥️♥️
Notification gang we are here 💃💃❤️
I love the topics you always bring up and love you guys❤️🥰 this is so educative 👌🔥🇿🇲
so glad its helpful
"just like our fire is gone, so are we!"😹❤️ I love you guys so much thank you for yet another amazing and informative video🔥💞
Very important conversation, ❤️❤️
Thank you for these!!! Love your love journey ❤️