The fantasy is often more exciting than the reality of a crush! I had a crush on a friend, one night when we were drunk we spent the night together. But my crush wanted nothing more than this unfortunately. It was all a lot more fun in my head!
So true. Same thing happened me… can you believe I built (re-built) a whole new life as a result? It’s all in the script, as Susan said, in the interpretation you gave it 🙂🥲
Congratulations on the Silver Play Button! I've never been sure about meeting people at the gym; on the one hand lots of people in great shape, on the other hand you literally have rows of people watching if you bomb...
Thank you so much! This video could not have come at a better time - I'm crushing hard on a coworker right now. We've had engaging conversation with witty/flirty banter. Just as he was opening up to me, I unfortunately did what you pointed out in the video to not do, which is "I fed my crush in the wrong way" - my performance anxiety kicked up, I began doubting myself, and it overwhelmed me to the point that I just began avoiding him for 2 months. Oof! In these 2 months, we became strangers and stopped waving/smiling/talking in passing like we used to, although we saw each other do it plenty to others. It really hurt even though I started this mess! I sorted myself out via therapy and when I did, decided I should talk to him again. He was receptive. I think I complimented his shirt, and was very pleased with my efforts so thought nothing more of it. Next day, we ran into each other in the office-kitchen and he was so friendly! Like 2-month gap in time had disappeared - he called out a greeting to me across the distance as he saw me (which I don't think I've heard him be so loud to even his peers, he's a reserved guy usually), and then lingered around me to start a conversation - which was about the food that was sitting out on the counter, asking me questions like "Where is this from" and "But why is this here", LOL. I'm hoping this is a sign of interest in my favor. I've realized if I can treat him like an equal despite my crushing on him, the chemistry shows up and things began easing and flowing like they used to. I'm careful to now treat him and myself with more respect and integrity. Thank you again for all that you do!
I’m really happy that you’re giving him green lights again. We’re all scared. Nobody wants to have a crush on somebody who is sweet to them then backs off. Bravo for correcting your behavior. Now continue to volley.
@@isabellanl1376 Haha, aww thank you! Glad you found it of interest!! That was the last interaction I had with him in-person. After lockdown, I've had to have some online conversations with him -- not very many -- some for small-talk, some for fun. I've had to initiate all of them, felt like a schmuck each time too, but our conversations have been engaging. He asks me questions, we go off on tangents, if I share a link with him, he shares a link with me. He keeps it flowing and doesn't seem to stonewall it. Even though he reciprocates in the conversation, he doesn't initiate one so I feel a bit stupid like I'm chasing him! It might be that texting isn't his thing or his interest may have worn off? Or maybe I may have hurt him to the point that he may want to be doing this at his pace? I hope I'll be better able to gauge his interest when I see him in-person. In the meantime, if anyone can tell me how to continue my volleying without chasing, I'm open to listening!
@@PreYeah Thank you for the follow up story. Okay, so you really like him. Maybe he is cautious because he is a co-worker. I can understand that. Don't know what the Company thinks about relations on the workfloor. But you can try this: 1 Men like to fix things, so if you have any problem you can ask him, see what he gives you for a solution/advice or help (in your house ;) Or help you with a small decision (like what gym to go to) Thank him for his answer. Just give him a feeling that he matters to you. Maybe you can organize a company outing? Like a picknick or activity in nature. Oh and give him positive feedback, that you really feel great when chatting with him. So... ofcourse you can also be direct and ask him if he wants to have a drink after work. You can make the first move and see what happens. Good luck!
Dear Susan, you do deserve that recognition from youtube because you are here inspiring people to be who they are and find happiness. This video reminds me, this quote: Old school is the new trend! Sending you one big hug! Alexandra
Crushes are a double-edged sword for me. On one hand, they excite me and give me extra pep in my step. But more often than not, I feel down over the fact that I can’t have the woman I’m crushing on because I’m too shy and reserved to talk to her. Yeah, I’m saving myself from mind-crippling rejection, but I’m also saving them from being embarrassed as well. If I knew for certain that my crush wouldn’t be disgusted by me when I confessed my feelings, then maybe I could muster the courage to go for it. But even then it’s a BIG maybe.
You are wonderful, you don't know how much you help , I was going through the obsessive way on my crush , but now I will just make him a little sparkle that doesn't hurt if it doesn't appear
Great color on you, Susan! Makes you look like a sun goddess. My crush was on my next door neighbor. She walked me to school when I was in first grade. She was In eighth grade, a little out of my league! I still have warm memories of her.
Congratulations on the button Susan! You are the most wholesome & respectful dating coach I've come by TH-cam and elsewhere. So happy people are finding you content! ❤️
Calling card was a great idea yrs ago. No so much now. One doesn't know where it will end up. Don't want my name, contact info. out there. TY Susan! Always love to hear your perspectives! 💖
@@SusanWinter Stumbling on this video was a bit strange for me too. I'm currently chatting with someone on Instagram, but she's quite a bit younger than me. Also long distance, but we seem to be communication alright. I don't know what to think. Maybe just keep communicating for now.
Someone at work showed interest in me, unspoken chemistry. She would get really shy around me, eventually she started to become more comfortable around me. We would flirt with each other by smiles and looks. I gave her my number but she never responded to me. I'm not sure what to think.
Thank you Susan. Perfect timing! A girl and I have intense mutual attraction for one another. The problem is she seems to be so afraid of what could come of us being together that she is constantly pushing me away, as soon as she feels we are making progress forward. I get the sense thst she feels I am out of her league, which is difficult for me to wrap my head around because she is gorgeous. The next time I see her I think it’s time I tell her I really like her??!!
Matt, why don’t you tell her that she’s interesting and charming and vivacious… Or whatever three words are true and real about her personality. Believe me, we females love to know that you appreciate our beauty. However, why don’t we start with something that doesn’t scare her. Complement her on a quality. Start there.
Amanda from Wales here & omg crushes can be so painful but in a nice way! Ha! I guess the significant difficulty in a crush is, is it reciprocated? If there's a mutual attraction that's great but if yr not sure test out the waters gently & if all looks good just say " I've noticed you here a few times & just didn't want to leave without saying hello ". If they are interested that gives them the lead in to chat, if you get the 'not interested' vibe you were leaving anyway. Stay safe everyone 🏴🏴🇬🇧🇬🇧🏳️🌈🏳️🌈❤❤👍👍
I don't have community I'm in.I don't have a job nor do I have the money to pay for gym or something like that.However I often have crash on the people around me but I don't know them.
Every time I see a video of yours pop up in my feed I smile. I love listening to you cause your so smart. 😇 How about a video on this.... why does every guy I meet tend to talk way too confidently ( as if I’m the one) on a first date? They even propose ... it’s a major turn off as Im fully aware they don’t know me, and I know nothing of them... sort of makes one wonder what are they hiding? How are we to respond? I typically end all possibilities right then. Should I be nicer? Perhaps they are just clueless and don’t know any better ... about things like dating, getting to know a person etc etc.... Really curious what you think 🤔
Hi Susan, I have a crush on a girl at the gym She has a crush on me too, but I have never had courage to talk to her, I always get so nervous when I'm around her
You know my life somehow. My job is really boring but the woman that I like who works next door makes it so much better, that I can’t wait to go back to work. But she’s got a boyfriend. She actually told one of my work colleagues that I said I liked her. He said to me I was a dark horse and that it takes balls to tell a girl that you like her and he didn’t blame me either. I was smiling the whole journey back home. Edit: She’s left her job now and got a job somewhere else so, ouch. Feels like there’s a hole in my life now.
I would love to get some ideas from people as to how to get "volleying" going with your crush when he is working constantly and is exhausted (and obviously I can't see him in person any more). I really don't want to do "Hi, how's it going?" "Fine, still working" every day but I feel like that's all I can get these days. It's not like he's got the time to talk about what he's reading or anything. I am just totally stumped on how to get it volleying over text these days. Any thoughts?
@@SusanWinter Well, he tries, just doesn't have much to say except for working. But yeah, I should give up. The pandemic kills love and all that. I don't want us to drift apart during this time, but clearly it is going to happen anyway.
Hello Susan, I have a question about this topic but it gets complicated. My crush is in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend but is showing me all the signs that she likes me including giving me her number. My question to you is what would you do in this situation. We are really good friends and i will not pursue her unless she breaks up with him.
Hi Susan, I don't know whether this is the correct way/platform to make a request, so please excuse me. Could you please do a video on the "correct way" a man should be vulnerable with his partner or even a female friend with whom he has a platonic relationship; i.e. a way in which he does not come across as weak but is also able to establish better connection. Thanks
Wow this video came at the right time! I have a little story. When I was 16, I had a crush on a guy who was a year older. I was very shy back then so I never spoke to him. One day, my friend and I decided to write little letters for our crushes and leave it on their table in class. However, I always signed my salutation as 'anonymous'. I obviously never got a reply and he eventually graduated from school. 9 years later, I saw that he posted my letters on his social media. I finally confessed that it was me since it happened sooo long ago. PLOT TWIST: he said he liked me back too at the time & wished I signed off with my real name. A few days ago, I shot my shot. Wish me luck guys 💫❤️🦋
Copypastable thanks for the harsh reality but you and I will never know until something happens. But nah, I’m not desperate. I always just go with the flow and I hope you have great blessings ahead :)
Suasn. You look so beautiful > i cant wait to your meet and greet in Los ANgeles of San Fran. I hopw you are safe and well. LOve and Blessings coming your way . Love John xoxo
Hi Susan . First I must say that I love ur vids and congrats for the plaque! But I have a question now. Is there any best time to confess your love (using monologue technique for example) when you and your crush have already known each other well? We keep just being friends and I wonder when the proper time is to give green light.
im not capable of love love has always been alien to me growing up in a toxic family where love has never been received has damaged me emotionally its taken years for me to wake up and form a understanding and realization around this i the feeling i have felt for past partners have allways been very weak if i meet someone new and there is a mutual attraction i dont feel the impulse to act upon those feelings and pursue anything it just feels pointless for so many reasons after reflecting upon diffrent aspects of my life and plus Seeking happiness through anyone else other than yourself is a recipe for disaster If you seek approval of others you are never going to be your true self
Hello susan i have an ex girlfriend we just broke up recently i know she's still in love with me cause she call me babe and even tells me she loves me and i still love her and working towards getting her back so recently she asked for my permission for her to date another guy and i told her yes she coukd if thats what she wants and if thats what makes her happy but now am thinking i made the wrong decision please help...
Hello Susan🙋🏻 Great work and love ur content😊 I'm a 20 year old guy from India and i love a woman (40) from France. We met on a gaming platform 2 months ago. I'm really into her and loves to talk to her and can't stop thinking about her. The main problem is this long distance relationship and she's not sure about how she feel because of work pressure and stress. Although she showed me signs that she likes me, care about me and always wants to stay by my side. I really want to live with her but it's really hard during this pandemic situation. What should i do ..... should i commit everything i want or just wait and make our relationship more stronger....? Hope you understand my question and help me out. I'm really grateful....Thanks!
Thank you for your support! With Covid, it's been difficult for couples in a long distance relationship. It's hard for me to give advice solely on this comment, but if you'd like to book a private talk, please visit my site: www.susanwinter.net
It's not easy if you've grown up with this person and liked them for 7 years. The crush I had I heard a few months back that she might be married now 😭. Have seen her in 4 years but for some reason now I'm thinking if I should find some way of getting in contact with her to confirm this and tell her my feelings
@Copypastable l think she did really like me. Back in school I could tell she was talking to her friends about me. Her close friend / relative didn't like it saying I'm from a different country from them. She did actually get married. From that point I made my last comment found out she got married to a distant relative. Anyway I haven't heard anything good about her. Shes a housewife now and dropped out her teaching degree whilst the husband has come to the UK from her country to work and pay rent. Honestly now I think I dodged a bullet and better off without her
I wonder if I can turn my crunch into a reality ? 😆 I provide beauty services and I serve a guest every 5 wks for 10 years already , he was married all this while , but recently divorced . Slowly he has starting opening up to me about his situation . Very little bc I’d rather talk something else than too personal. Anyway, every time he comes for his service he always wants to know what’s new with me. I keep it simple and precise and vrs . My question is ..do I let him know I have had this crush on him for a while or keep quiet 🤫 perhaps one day he hit me ha ha I’ve always kept it in the pro level - I don’t mix business with pleasure that’s my standard. But now he is single and lives on his own place, it would be nice if he initiates it. He knows I’m single too . I’m old fashion classic woman late 40s and we are both around the same age. I’m not shy to Talk but I’m afraid if I hit the wrong bottn I will lose that business. What should I do? Anyone?
It’s tricky getting involved with a client. Firstly, if it’s your business and you are independent, that’s less of an issue. If you work for a company it could backfire. So make sure you know what a dalliance would cost you in terms of your career. Secondly, engage in personal conversation. I wouldn’t tell him you have a crush on him. That’s too forward too soon. Better is to develop banter through volley.
My neighbor and I had become friends and kinda close in the fall. He had a broken hip and I had 1 too from years ago. Nothing like massaging each other. He's 28 I'm 60. Super fun and Super sweet. He's gorgeous... Who wouldn't want to massage his body . No sex tho...He is the neighbor lol
Hi Susan😊 I just watched your video and where the content was well thought out, and well spoken, I feel for a person that actually does suffer from delusions, this could be damaging to that person's psyche. Telling someone that their love and their partner's love is a delusion, can really take its toll on that person's mind. It has the potential to damage them emotionally and fill them with a sense of hopelessness. Please be a little more careful with the words you choose. Thank you and stay blessed.
What do you think if a guy gives you a calling card and says text me your number if you wanna grab a coffee. Would you like that or would you prefer he just ask for your number.
The fantasy is often more exciting than the reality of a crush! I had a crush on a friend, one night when we were drunk we spent the night together. But my crush wanted nothing more than this unfortunately. It was all a lot more fun in my head!
True. Because in our head we get to write the script that we want. In reality, it is what it is
So true. Same thing happened me… can you believe I built (re-built) a whole new life as a result? It’s all in the script, as Susan said, in the interpretation you gave it 🙂🥲
It's called a crush because it crushes you!
Congratulations on the Silver Play Button! I've never been sure about meeting people at the gym; on the one hand lots of people in great shape, on the other hand you literally have rows of people watching if you bomb...
Thanks Luke. And...if I bomb, I bomb.
I just love how her channel has grown but her connection with a viewers and quality of content has always been consistent. Fantastic keep growing.
Thank you so much! This video could not have come at a better time - I'm crushing hard on a coworker right now. We've had engaging conversation with witty/flirty banter. Just as he was opening up to me, I unfortunately did what you pointed out in the video to not do, which is "I fed my crush in the wrong way" - my performance anxiety kicked up, I began doubting myself, and it overwhelmed me to the point that I just began avoiding him for 2 months. Oof! In these 2 months, we became strangers and stopped waving/smiling/talking in passing like we used to, although we saw each other do it plenty to others. It really hurt even though I started this mess! I sorted myself out via therapy and when I did, decided I should talk to him again. He was receptive. I think I complimented his shirt, and was very pleased with my efforts so thought nothing more of it.
Next day, we ran into each other in the office-kitchen and he was so friendly! Like 2-month gap in time had disappeared - he called out a greeting to me across the distance as he saw me (which I don't think I've heard him be so loud to even his peers, he's a reserved guy usually), and then lingered around me to start a conversation - which was about the food that was sitting out on the counter, asking me questions like "Where is this from" and "But why is this here", LOL. I'm hoping this is a sign of interest in my favor. I've realized if I can treat him like an equal despite my crushing on him, the chemistry shows up and things began easing and flowing like they used to. I'm careful to now treat him and myself with more respect and integrity.
Thank you again for all that you do!
So nice, it's like a romance book. I wanne read more! 🤗
I’m really happy that you’re giving him green lights again. We’re all scared. Nobody wants to have a crush on somebody who is sweet to them then backs off. Bravo for correcting your behavior. Now continue to volley.
@@isabellanl1376 Haha, aww thank you! Glad you found it of interest!! That was the last interaction I had with him in-person. After lockdown, I've had to have some online conversations with him -- not very many -- some for small-talk, some for fun. I've had to initiate all of them, felt like a schmuck each time too, but our conversations have been engaging. He asks me questions, we go off on tangents, if I share a link with him, he shares a link with me. He keeps it flowing and doesn't seem to stonewall it. Even though he reciprocates in the conversation, he doesn't initiate one so I feel a bit stupid like I'm chasing him! It might be that texting isn't his thing or his interest may have worn off? Or maybe I may have hurt him to the point that he may want to be doing this at his pace? I hope I'll be better able to gauge his interest when I see him in-person. In the meantime, if anyone can tell me how to continue my volleying without chasing, I'm open to listening!
@@PreYeah Thank you for the follow up story. Okay, so you really like him. Maybe he is cautious because he is a co-worker. I can understand that. Don't know what the Company thinks about relations on the workfloor. But you can try this: 1 Men like to fix things, so if you have any problem you can ask him, see what he gives you for a solution/advice or help (in your house ;)
Or help you with a small decision (like what gym to go to) Thank him for his answer. Just give him a feeling that he matters to you.
Maybe you can organize a company outing? Like a picknick or activity in nature. Oh and give him positive feedback, that you really feel great when chatting with him. So... ofcourse you can also be direct and ask him if he wants to have a drink after work. You can make the first move and see what happens. Good luck!
@@isabellanl1376 Thanks for your insight! Much appreciated!
Congrats 🎉 I cannot tell you how refreshing it is to see someone who isn’t 20 years old screaming into the camera!
Dear Susan, you do deserve that recognition from youtube because you are here inspiring people to be who they are and find happiness. This video reminds me, this quote: Old school is the new trend!
Sending you one big hug!
Alexandra
Hi Alexandra. Thank you for your ongoing support. You have beautiful commentary and I truly appreciate you being a part of my TH-cam family
@@SusanWinter You are very welcome my dear!
Susan makes me feel crushinated. She's my weekly therapy after dealing with sordid individuals.
Oh. Pea Stone! We have mutual crushes
Crushes are a double-edged sword for me. On one hand, they excite me and give me extra pep in my step. But more often than not, I feel down over the fact that I can’t have the woman I’m crushing on because I’m too shy and reserved to talk to her. Yeah, I’m saving myself from mind-crippling rejection, but I’m also saving them from being embarrassed as well. If I knew for certain that my crush wouldn’t be disgusted by me when I confessed my feelings, then maybe I could muster the courage to go for it. But even then it’s a BIG maybe.
Sparkling is my feeling when I see my crush at work! Love that word, Susan🌠
Me too!!
just realized l have crush on susan
Hey Zulu! Much appreciated. I have a crush on all my subscribers
@@SusanWinter I feel your crush ;)
I bet she’s give good tips if you date her lol.
Susan, You are so amazing. Congratulations on the award!
You're a total expert! When I first saw your video I thought THAT'S WHAT I LIKE 😄
Beautiful, and thank you Ellewise!!
You’re right ! Sometimes we can have friend crushes / platonic crushes as well..
You are wonderful, you don't know how much you help , I was going through the obsessive way on my crush , but now I will just make him a little sparkle that doesn't hurt if it doesn't appear
This message is right on time! Congratulations on your TH-cam button!
Thank you!
Yay Susan! Well deserved, you keep us healthy and far less miserable, haha! Thank you for everything you do! XO
I come back to this video a lot because I have a lot of crushes ❤ thanks Susan
Congrats, Susan! You deserve a million subscribers! And btw you look beautiful in your coral tank top!
Hi Thais. Thank you on both accounts.
I don't have a partner or a crush yet! But I can start manifesting one! Some law of attraction 😊💖
YOu know it, Lucy!!
That shouldn’t be a problem for you Lucy. You are a catch 💪
You can crush on me Lucy
See? So easy for womans.... Don't even know why they see this kind of videos 😹
Haha!! Thank you lovely people!! You've made my day. I'll venture out of my countryside home to say hello to the world 😊✨
Great color on you, Susan! Makes you look like a sun goddess.
My crush was on my next door neighbor. She walked me to school when I was in first grade. She was In eighth grade, a little out of my league! I still have warm memories of her.
Joe! So, the younger you liked older women. I knew we shared a connection
Susan are you saying you like older women, too? LOL!
Congratulations on the button Susan! You are the most wholesome & respectful dating coach I've come by TH-cam and elsewhere. So happy people are finding you content! ❤️
Thanks so much 😊
Congratulations on your award!!!
I am glad I found you Susan. I have learned more in the last jour than I have in 5 years of divorce.....But man! It was fun!!!
congrats susan!! ♥️
Calling card was a great idea yrs ago. No so much now. One doesn't know where it will end up. Don't want my name, contact info. out there. TY Susan! Always love to hear your perspectives! 💖
If it doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t work for you. I’ve seen a new trend toward very classy personal calling cards. Simple. Elegant. Retro.
Congrats Susan. I messaged you in IG and talked to me. You deserve it. You helped everyone a lot.
Please identify yourself in IG. Part of the DM's are answered by my social media director and the rest by me.
@@SusanWinter I DMd in IG just now. Thanks
Hey Susan lots of love from India.. congratulations
Thank you Ishani
Susan you should have your own Talk Show. BEST LIFE COACH ON UTUBE....❤
Congratulations on your 100K silver plaque..!
thank you
@@SusanWinter Stumbling on this video was a bit strange for me too. I'm currently chatting with someone on Instagram, but she's quite a bit younger than me. Also long distance, but we seem to be communication alright. I don't know what to think. Maybe just keep communicating for now.
Thanks Susan, have been your fan since start of 2019 :)
Yay, thank you!
I’ve been using your website for years as reference and so glad you are making TH-cam videos now-they are great❣️
Thanks Susan
Great video Susan. I tend to have crushes quite a lot haha
Someone at work showed interest in me, unspoken chemistry. She would get really shy around me, eventually she started to become more comfortable around me. We would flirt with each other by smiles and looks. I gave her my number but she never responded to me. I'm not sure what to think.
This is certainly a common 'situationship'. Feel free to join my weekly Lives, where we chat different topics and answer questions!
@@SusanWinter I certainly will! Are you able to answer my question in your next live chat? I'm just curious to know what this means? Thanks
Thank you Susan. Perfect timing! A girl and I have intense mutual attraction for one another. The problem is she seems to be so afraid of what could come of us being together that she is constantly pushing me away, as soon as she feels we are making progress forward. I get the sense thst she feels I am out of her league, which is difficult for me to wrap my head around because she is gorgeous. The next time I see her I think it’s time I tell her I really like her??!!
Matt, why don’t you tell her that she’s interesting and charming and vivacious… Or whatever three words are true and real about her personality. Believe me, we females love to know that you appreciate our beauty. However, why don’t we start with something that doesn’t scare her. Complement her on a quality. Start there.
Congratulations!!!!!
Super summer look Susan 👏☺
Congratulations!! Lots of love 💖, you always offer such good insight and wise words 🙏. Thank you!!
Congratulations 🍾🎉🎊
Thank you Reham
Congratulations on your award and achievement.Your doing a fantastic job!
Thank you so much!
Wow, you're looking great, Susan! 😍
Well done, congratulations. Good job. X
Congrats!🎊 can’t wait to hit the 200k
CONGRATULATIONS!!!💖💖💖
Thanks!!
Congrats on your SILVER PLAY BUTTON 😇✌🎯
Well done!
Congrats! It's beautiful.
Amanda from Wales here & omg crushes can be so painful but in a nice way! Ha! I guess the significant difficulty in a crush is, is it reciprocated? If there's a mutual attraction that's great but if yr not sure test out the waters gently & if all looks good just say " I've noticed you here a few times & just didn't want to leave without saying hello ". If they are interested that gives them the lead in to chat, if you get the 'not interested' vibe you were leaving anyway. Stay safe everyone 🏴🏴🇬🇧🇬🇧🏳️🌈🏳️🌈❤❤👍👍
Great advice Amanda from Wales!! You’re on the TH-cam live conversations on Thursday, correct?
Yes Susan, I will be with you on TH-cam live conversations onThursday & looking forward to all you have to say. Amanda from Wales.@@SusanWinter
I love u susan. Thank u for everything!
Thank you so much God for gave beautiful coach in my life ❤❤😘
What a beautiful comment. Thank you so much
The answer starts from 2:20. For those who are busy and wanna skip the introduction. :)
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I love you so much Susan ❤️❤️
Hi dear Maryam
I'm happy to that... you really help me
I am so into you!
I don't have community I'm in.I don't have a job nor do I have the money to pay for gym or something like that.However I often have crash on the people around me but I don't know them.
Every time I see a video of yours pop up in my feed I smile. I love listening to you cause your so smart. 😇 How about a video on this.... why does every guy I meet tend to talk way too confidently ( as if I’m the one) on a first date? They even propose ... it’s a major turn off as Im fully aware they don’t know me, and I know nothing of them... sort of makes one wonder what are they hiding? How are we to respond? I typically end all possibilities right then. Should I be nicer? Perhaps they are just clueless and don’t know any better ... about things like dating, getting to know a person etc etc....
Really curious what you think 🤔
Stephanie, thank you for your comment! Regarding your question, I wouldn't mind chatting about in one of my weekly Lives!
Congrats, I knew you when. Haha. So happy for you.
Hi Susan, I have a crush on a girl at the gym
She has a crush on me too, but I have never had courage to talk to her, I always get so nervous when I'm around her
And now she's started ghosting me, I feel sad
You know my life somehow.
My job is really boring but the woman that I like who works next door makes it so much better, that I can’t wait to go back to work. But she’s got a boyfriend.
She actually told one of my work colleagues that I said I liked her. He said to me I was a dark horse and that it takes balls to tell a girl that you like her and he didn’t blame me either. I was smiling the whole journey back home. Edit: She’s left her job now and got a job somewhere else so, ouch. Feels like there’s a hole in my life now.
I’m glad that you were in agreement with what you did and that you were smiling all the way home
I would love to get some ideas from people as to how to get "volleying" going with your crush when he is working constantly and is exhausted (and obviously I can't see him in person any more). I really don't want to do "Hi, how's it going?" "Fine, still working" every day but I feel like that's all I can get these days. It's not like he's got the time to talk about what he's reading or anything. I am just totally stumped on how to get it volleying over text these days. Any thoughts?
Hi Jennifer,
If you're initiating conversation and he's not continuing it, perhaps it's not the right time for him to be in a relationship.
@@SusanWinter Well, he tries, just doesn't have much to say except for working. But yeah, I should give up. The pandemic kills love and all that. I don't want us to drift apart during this time, but clearly it is going to happen anyway.
Hello Susan,
I have a question about this topic but it gets complicated. My crush is in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend but is showing me all the signs that she likes me including giving me her number. My question to you is what would you do in this situation. We are really good friends and i will not pursue her unless she breaks up with him.
Hi Susan, I don't know whether this is the correct way/platform to make a request, so please excuse me. Could you please do a video on the "correct way" a man should be vulnerable with his partner or even a female friend with whom he has a platonic relationship; i.e. a way in which he does not come across as weak but is also able to establish better connection.
Thanks
Wow this video came at the right time! I have a little story. When I was 16, I had a crush on a guy who was a year older. I was very shy back then so I never spoke to him. One day, my friend and I decided to write little letters for our crushes and leave it on their table in class. However, I always signed my salutation as 'anonymous'. I obviously never got a reply and he eventually graduated from school. 9 years later, I saw that he posted my letters on his social media. I finally confessed that it was me since it happened sooo long ago. PLOT TWIST: he said he liked me back too at the time & wished I signed off with my real name. A few days ago, I shot my shot. Wish me luck guys 💫❤️🦋
Thank you for sharing, doll!
Copypastable thanks for the harsh reality but you and I will never know until something happens. But nah, I’m not desperate. I always just go with the flow and I hope you have great blessings ahead :)
Does this help if your crush lives in another state I have their number but they blocked me. On social media
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Hellyeah Susan !
Suasn. You look so beautiful > i cant wait to your meet and greet in Los ANgeles of San Fran. I hopw you are safe and well. LOve and Blessings coming your way . Love John xoxo
Thank you so much for your support, John!
Hi Susan . First I must say that I love ur vids and congrats for the plaque!
But I have a question now. Is there any best time to confess your love (using monologue technique for example) when you and your crush have already known each other well?
We keep just being friends and I wonder when the proper time is to give green light.
Thank you for the support! I have a weekly Live where we talk different topics each week. Feel free to join us with your questions!
@@SusanWinter Thanks for noticing me Susan. Of course I will join next times
im not capable of love love has always been alien to me growing up in a toxic family where love has never been received has damaged me emotionally its taken years for me to wake up and form a understanding and realization around this i the feeling i have felt for past partners have allways been very weak if i meet someone new and there is a mutual attraction i dont feel the impulse
to act upon those feelings and pursue anything it just feels pointless for so many reasons after reflecting upon diffrent aspects of my life and plus Seeking happiness through anyone else other than yourself is a recipe for disaster If you seek approval of others you are never going to be your true self
If you have a gut feeling you’ll see someone again, is it a true feeling from your intuition or a made up false belief?
Mind reader Susan, back at it again! Lol
Hello susan i have an ex girlfriend we just broke up recently i know she's still in love with me cause she call me babe and even tells me she loves me and i still love her and working towards getting her back so recently she asked for my permission for her to date another guy and i told her yes she coukd if thats what she wants and if thats what makes her happy but now am thinking i made the wrong decision please help...
Hello Susan🙋🏻
Great work and love ur content😊
I'm a 20 year old guy from India and i love a woman (40) from France. We met on a gaming platform 2 months ago. I'm really into her and loves to talk to her and can't stop thinking about her. The main problem is this long distance relationship and she's not sure about how she feel because of work pressure and stress. Although she showed me signs that she likes me, care about me and always wants to stay by my side. I really want to live with her but it's really hard during this pandemic situation. What should i do ..... should i commit everything i want or just wait and make our relationship more stronger....?
Hope you understand my question and help me out.
I'm really grateful....Thanks!
Thank you for your support! With Covid, it's been difficult for couples in a long distance relationship. It's hard for me to give advice solely on this comment, but if you'd like to book a private talk, please visit my site: www.susanwinter.net
I like her, she's married, end of story.
It's not easy if you've grown up with this person and liked them for 7 years. The crush I had I heard a few months back that she might be married now 😭. Have seen her in 4 years but for some reason now I'm thinking if I should find some way of getting in contact with her to confirm this and tell her my feelings
@Copypastable l think she did really like me. Back in school I could tell she was talking to her friends about me. Her close friend / relative didn't like it saying I'm from a different country from them.
She did actually get married. From that point I made my last comment found out she got married to a distant relative. Anyway I haven't heard anything good about her. Shes a housewife now and dropped out her teaching degree whilst the husband has come to the UK from her country to work and pay rent.
Honestly now I think I dodged a bullet and better off without her
What if I rarely ever have a crush? Am I normal?
Yes u are !!!
Yes. Of course your normal
I went 15 years without having a crush. I do not consider myself normal, but odds are you are not as bad as I am!
Not subscribers, it's you who made it happen.
I wonder if I can turn my crunch into a reality ? 😆 I provide beauty services and I serve a guest every 5 wks for 10 years already , he was married all this while , but recently divorced . Slowly he has starting opening up to me about his situation . Very little bc I’d rather talk something else than too personal. Anyway, every time he comes for his service he always wants to know what’s new with me. I keep it simple and precise and vrs . My question is ..do I let him know I have had this crush on him for a while or keep quiet 🤫 perhaps one day he hit me ha ha I’ve always kept it in the pro level - I don’t mix business with pleasure that’s my standard.
But now he is single and lives on his own place, it would be nice if he initiates it. He knows I’m single too . I’m old fashion classic woman late 40s and we are both around the same age. I’m not shy to Talk but I’m afraid if I hit the wrong bottn I will lose that business. What should I do? Anyone?
It’s tricky getting involved with a client. Firstly, if it’s your business and you are independent, that’s less of an issue. If you work for a company it could backfire. So make sure you know what a dalliance would cost you in terms of your career. Secondly, engage in personal conversation. I wouldn’t tell him you have a crush on him. That’s too forward too soon. Better is to develop banter through volley.
Am I a handsome man?
Susan you're my crush.
That's so sweet, thank you for your support!
Can an older woman ever be a crush to younger boys?
Pretty sure they made a movie called 'Milk Money" about that. I think it came up in "Crazy Stupid Love" too.
Hi Amlan, I have a playlist regarding older women, younger men.
@@SusanWinter can u plz show me Susan?
I'm a gay woman and I've got a crush on a woman at work and she's straight and married LOLOLOLOLOL kill me...
Same. whats worse is there is definitely tension between us i am sure i felt it, i might be just imagining it lol
I have a little crush on my gynaecologist haha
My neighbor and I had become friends and kinda close in the fall. He had a broken hip and I had 1 too from years ago. Nothing like massaging each other. He's 28 I'm 60. Super fun and Super sweet. He's gorgeous... Who wouldn't want to massage his body . No sex tho...He is the neighbor lol
Susan, if you ever need a date :D
Hi Susan😊
I just watched your video and where the content was well thought out, and well spoken, I feel for a person that actually does suffer from delusions, this could be damaging to that person's psyche. Telling someone that their love and their partner's love is a delusion, can really take its toll on that person's mind. It has the potential to damage them emotionally and fill them with a sense of hopelessness. Please be a little more careful with the words you choose. Thank you and stay blessed.
So basically just ask her out for coffee... Haha
Hello Susan I have a crush on you .
Love it. Thank you so much
I don't ask or let a guy know that i love him, no no iam too good for that, mans come to me to ask me out, women keep ur standards high
What do you think if a guy gives you a calling card and says text me your number if you wanna grab a coffee. Would you like that or would you prefer he just ask for your number.
Alex Flips Absolutely, i prefer him to ask me for my number and if Iam interested in him i would give it to him .
Thank you. It seems the majority of women feel the same as you. I will do that.
I realized and accepted that I'm too old (@28) to have crushes anymore. Because they never become anything serious.
Grow UP Susan!! ☺️
Congratulations 🎈🎉🍾