Is It Really YOU They’re Rejecting? Reframing Rejection and Finding Clarity | Dating Advice

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  • @lancebyrd5608
    @lancebyrd5608 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    It’s nice to see someone who found their purpose in life. When that purpose involves helping people it makes it extra special. Susan, thank you for following your heart and using these rare skills in such a helpful way. Having this video library is a treasure for years to come.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      LANCE!! Thank you for this beautiful comment. Huge appreciation. And you must know how much it means to me coming from a fine gentleman, such as yourself. And...Please give a big hug to your honey.!!

  • @mathius_dragoon532
    @mathius_dragoon532 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    The thing that really bothers me when I'm rejected is not the rejection itself, per se, but the fact that they will eventually accept someone else for reasons that will seem completely arbitrary to me. I have a deep seated need for fairness so it just really eats at me.

  • @lann7669
    @lann7669 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I've been rejected by people for the exact same reasons others appreciated me. It's about personal preference, not inherent value.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It's fantastic that you can see it for what it is. Many people cannot. And I congratulate you on this insight. Thank you for your commentary.

    • @lann7669
      @lann7669 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SusanWinter Thank you for your great content!

  • @lucyloo7457
    @lucyloo7457 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Yes Susan. I dated a man I knew a few years and we started dating for a few months. Future faking, love bombing then, back peddled and ghosted. 👻. I was devastated! A 65 year old man, no less. ❤. Thanks for this video. Much love and appreciation. ❤

    • @lak1294
      @lak1294 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @lucyloo, yeah, age makes no difference for attachment styles when people haven't recognized and healed their core wounds. A hardcore DA remains a DA if they haven't worked on themselves.

    • @barbara6840
      @barbara6840 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep, been there. Very annoyed with these "Blue Pill F Boys" as I call them. Men in their mid 50s and soon to be 60 still faking wanting a relationship to play the field. Sir you're dying soon. Rethink the plan!

    • @Jenny-np6ht
      @Jenny-np6ht หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Sick...

    • @aaloha2902
      @aaloha2902 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sounds like an avoidant attachment style, it’s their pattern of strategy. Age has nothing to do with it unfortunately 🙏🏼🌺 It’s not you 🫶🏼

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Wow, Lucy, that's astounding. 65 years old and he does not know how to participate in a relationship or even the ending of that relationship. Though I don't know the story, I have a feeling that your skill set scared him. That your ability to be in partnership, to be self-aware, to be able to have true communication blew his fuses. This is where I explained that somebody's capacity is so great that it's like putting the electrical outlet of a washing machine into the little outlet for an electric razor.

  • @stacybrown7014
    @stacybrown7014 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Breakups happens, just be kind

    • @lucyloo7457
      @lucyloo7457 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@stacybrown7014 Agree. 👍🏻. I gave him an opportunity for an adult conversation, he was too cowardly to give me. Lesson learned.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agreed

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@lucyloo7457 I knew it. I hadn't even read this comment, but I already sent that you were able to speak to him honestly. Do you realize how that freaks somebody out when they do not have the capacity to be real?

  • @candicebonnici959
    @candicebonnici959 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Fantastic advice. 😊

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you, Candice

  • @gregorystinette8271
    @gregorystinette8271 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I just reject the rejector

    • @paulinapoznan8401
      @paulinapoznan8401 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Aw it feels soo good 😊

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Excellent Gregory!!

  • @Iris11music
    @Iris11music หลายเดือนก่อน

    .... I should learn this video by heart.
    Thank you Susan, for keep on saving my life.

  • @beachgirl4
    @beachgirl4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Susan😊

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Beach girl, great to see you here. And thanks for joining in the conversation.

  • @shehjadkushkiwala4199
    @shehjadkushkiwala4199 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Should I leave my gf? Because she once told me she dreamed and missed her ex for few times who she broke up in 2009, people under your videos missing their exes indicate they still crave their exes, this is horrible

  • @kirkwhite1736
    @kirkwhite1736 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have been rejected for 35 years. It was me.

  • @TheSunshinefee
    @TheSunshinefee หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    this doesn't fit me. I met men who liked my personality but they were not physically attracted to me and they valued beauty more than personality. i feel rejected. i know if i were beautiful they would have picked me

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      All right, let’s say that’s the reason. Do you really want a superficial man who can’t see your value and only wants a shell to play with? Do you think even the gorgeous person that they choose is going to get a high-quality partner? What if that person loses their looks, if they age which is going to happen… so the question is about conditional love. If you want unconditional love and somebody who loves you for yourself, I’d look at it differently. The people who rejected you should be rejected by you.

    • @eliajam6989
      @eliajam6989 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Let them be like that ...
      This condition is so me .
      But finally I found my person who loves me for me..
      And at the end that is important .
      Wish you the best❤

    • @Malithi-P
      @Malithi-P หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’re not alone, I feel and thought about myself that way too.
      Now I’m learning to be kinder to myself.

  • @albertcardenas943
    @albertcardenas943 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey Susan, make a video on the 4B movement

  • @catherinegardener9511
    @catherinegardener9511 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Susan❤

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hello Catherine. Thank you for the heart and I'm sending one right back to you.♥