I was torn and broken about my ex I did no contact. I found myself and met someone better. After one year my ex reached out saying all she thinks about is me. I told her ive met someone and moved on. She breaks down crying saying she's never going to give up. I lovingly tell her ill always cherish our time together. No contact works but its about finding yourself and loving yourself Thanks coach Lee!
1. 2:03 they reach out: text, call, email, return stuff* 2. 3:53 sharing, being vulnerable, being emotional 3. 5:23 reminiscing and telling you about those memories 4. 7:18 asking about you, your feelings, thoughts, how you're doing, miss me?, future talk 5. 8:40 meeting in-person *none of these signs mean any guarantees No matter what, watch the whole video so you get the warnings of each item. Good phrases to say, "I may be open to getting back together." Take it slow, don't spent too much time on the first meetup, let them come to you. Stay "casual and polite."
I got all 5 with an additional bonus point in 4.5 to tell me he is depressed and he can't be what I need. Also point 5 is in 2 months time, I doubt it will ever happen. Time to move on
So my ex did all of these things to varying degrees, from the video but he said clearly he doesn't want a relationship because of his behaviors. He's essentially turned into a party/druggie/fuckboi. He's moving, new job, etc. etc. So I'm healing and moving-on. It just wasn't meant to be him. He needs to heal his traumas, phobias, and overall mental health.
The problem is that all of my exes are either Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant attachment styles, pathological narcissists, or both- and the abject cruelty of the way they end the relationship is an absolute dealbreaker to my ever letting them into my life again, no matter how good the rest of it might have been or how sorry they may claim to be. My second problem with this type of coaching is that it constantly tells the discarded partner to suppress their own needs to express our justified hurt and anger at the way we were dumped; along with our justified demand for amends and reparations for harms done. Every one of your videos that I've listened to keeps telling the dumpee to shove that all under the rug, then when the ex comes back, "don't act mad at them because they might have a feeling they don't like and go away again." Um, what right does that person have to comfort or convenience after what they did? Why should it be considered normal for them not to have to suffer pain or face any consequences for their actions, and why should we not get to require that they make it right? It's been very useful listening to these and going No Contact, because as I've done so I've realized what I'm simply not going to put up with, and if getting an ex back means having to accept the treatment I got on their way out and act like it never happened, no ex is worth that. In other words, these videos are basically signs to move on and find someone better. The unfair, unbalanced nature of getting back someone who left simply isn't worth it.
I'm seeing (No. 1) he's reaching out via text, and (No. 2) sharing vulnerable emotional information about his family and friends. I think he wants me around for emotional support more than any romantic feelings.
@@OJaman-fw9nx sure. He broke up with me ten months ago. Said he apparently lost feelings smh. So I told him I had to delete his number and his fb and he said he understood. Then Went in to no contact for 9 months . He got a new gf in like a month or earlier I don't know. And then he randomly messaged me a week ago asking me how I'm doing lol. And he tried to keep the conversation going. What you need to do is stay in no contact like coach Lee says and don't post as much. Just keep it on the down low. But idc you deserve someone who sees your value and doesn't need to be with someone else just to see how much you mean to them. You're awesome. Work on yourself and move on babe ❤️
@Jojo Amber ..amazing! I told my fiance 2 and a half weeks ago ...before going to no contact...you start talking or seeing anyone else its over.( see my situation is different I've been with my fiance 4 years, we just got engaged this past Christmas...he breaks up just to be dramatic. He's a drama queen, he never means it)
I hope all of you are completely healed and over your ex by the time they come back. If they don’t see your value the first time around then they definitely don’t deserve you. The pain will stop over time I promise and then you can open the door to meet someone who doesn’t need NC to see how amazing and beautiful you are!
It is not always that simple. Couples may break up for different reasons such as bad timing, trust issues, misunderstandings, etc.. I was taken from my ex who happens to be my best friend against my will and she knows I still love her and we are working towards full reconciliation with babysteps as time goes by. I want to go to Sweden with her.
These 5 signs are indeed true! That’s how we eventually got back together. I’m still here bc I like hearing Coach Lee’s advice, and providing support for those are you struggling with a breakup. It is one of the hardest things you could go through, but these videos helped me get my ex back!
@@OJaman-fw9nx Our story is very complex and unique. I'll start off by saying we've been together for almost 5 years. One day he just waited for me to come home from work in my room and I walked in on him saying he wanted to talk about "us." Completely shocked and unexpected. He said he felt like we weren't growing anymore as a couple and he didn't know if he could see himself with me, he needed to figure himself out and "work on himself" as he has disappointed and hurt me many times in the past. (I broke up with him a year prior bc of that) but he kept pushing to come back into my life and prove to me that he changed. Anyways, completely shocked and hurt, I begged, I pleaded, I was so depressed. Didn't eat, called sick into work bc I couldn't stop crying. It was a horrible experience because throughout those 5 years we've never ever had time truly apart. I did all the mistakes of texting him here and there after that.. I eventually got tired of myself being sad and changed my mindset, journal my thoughts every day, started working out, and eating healthier and most importantly did the NO CONTACT RULE. I truly thought I would never hear from him again bc after all the begging and pleading, it sounded like he didn't want anything to do with me anymore. But the no contact rule I think changed the dynamic. It took close to 2 months of complete no contact until he reached out to me. He was very talkative over text, asked about my holidays, tried to flirt, and bring up old memories to connect again. I couldn't believe how well it worked. I hope this gives you guys some light.
I went no contact for over 40 days a second time, we ran into each other Friday night. Before you know it, He was hugging me, He told me he missed me too. Everything I learned from Coach Lee's advice has help steer me on this course and still is. Thank You Coach Lee
@@audrey242424 One interesting aspect of no contact its that when you really moved on and stop caring about your ex and the energy you gave her , its not longer there, she will sense it and if she still cares, she will reach out even if she is with someone else. Thats why when you really moved on and focus on new things and girls, outnowhere here she comes. Thats why you have to let them go to get them back and the clue its stop wanting them back and be really done with her. The scarcity energy you are transmitting will go back to you, even if you are not reaching out and even if she blocks you and she doesnt know anything about your life. I know its sounds weird but theres some disturbance on the force when you stop investing emotional energy on someone. Thats why they came back when you moved on. So be careful on just going no contact, stop waiting for her to come back and assume she wont, so you start faster to move on and let her go completely, thats when she can feel and realize your are not longer missing her and caring about her. Expecting, wishing and wanting, signals scarcity to the universe, so start having, being and doing to signal Abundance.
They see you've been working out and eating healthy. You're in great shape, feeling and looking confident. They ask if you want to get together and you're just like maybe, but you've got a bunch of other people and things to consider now, so you're not pressed. Life is good!
Actually,the long story short is that you need to give them the breakup and work to improve yourself(for you,in the first place) and if they ever really care about you and you still got a chance,they will reach out to you.And waiting for that first message,or whatever it seems to me like the hardest part of all of this.I wish you all goodluck with your breakup,better days to come!
Thank you for reassuring me of what I’ve felt for awhile now. She reaches out to me for no real reason. She sends me selfies and videos of herself. She sends pictures of fond memories we shared together. There is no logical reason for her to be doing this, but it’s been happening. I’ve been in no contact for a long time, and only respond to her texts…I never reach out to her. To watch this all play out almost step by step as you’ve described in your videos is awesome. No contact works. I haven’t gotten her back yet, but if these past months are any indication…I’m well on my way. Thank you so much Coach Lee.
You are truly the best coach . It has helped me to be a stronger & happier person. NC is not a game it’s a self healing process, where you get your confidence back and be the amazing person you are again. Thank you so much !
Here’s my little story I had a solid plan, no contact, and my spirit grew stronger. It was a shorter relationship, and it was also a distance relationship for a couple of months in the end. Everything felt good, no disagreements and no arguments at all. Only sunshine and flowers to the end. Then she wanted to end it for some confusing reasons (to say the least). Anyway I reached out to her now after a couple of months. Turns out the reason for our breakup was a re-connection with her ex, and she couldn’t be honest about that. My point is don’t have your hopes too ramped up, sometimes things are more blunt than we think.
@@cctf7057 Is this by any chance your number? I doubt he would spend his time whatsapp’ing with clients for free, considering he works as a dating coach:)
I have to be completely honest, I was going through a pretty bad break up with my ex, I started following Coach Lee's advice and I went in no contact radio silence for 2 weeks, to my surprise my ex reached out and asked me on a date. Who knew that there is pretty significant strength in taking a step back and leaving a ex alone for a while.
Day by day you keep motivating me to get better and better and one day I'll come back to this comment and tell how I got her back cuz of you. Thanks once again Coach Lee!❤️
I just watched some other video on no contact and came back to this as this is so much better with excellent explanation. I feel better when I watch you. Pushing thru nc and it has been only been 10 days and struggled a lot today. Just watching your videos to keep me sane. Thank you!
It's crazy....but why exes who break up with and leave us.....never think about us, want see us, and etc ....when we're broke down, torn , hurt and really miss.....They seem to wait until you healed, can live without them, finding yourself, start being happy with yourself.....It's scary to trust someone that has badly hurt you before.... Because heart-break 💔hurts bad and that's something I wouldn't want to go through again
One interesting aspect of no contact its that when you really moved on and stop caring about your ex and the energy you gave her , its not longer there, she will sense it and if she still cares, she will reach out even if she is with someone else. Thats why when you really moved on and focus on new things and girls, outnowhere here she comes. Thats why you have to let them go to get them back and the clue its stop wanting them back and be really done with her. The scarcity energy you are transmitting will go back to you, even if you are not reaching out and even if she blocks you and she doesnt know anything about your life. I know its sounds weird but theres some disturbance on the force when you stop investing emotional energy on someone. Thats why they came back when you moved on. So be careful on just going no contact, stop waiting for her to come back and assume she wont, so you start faster to move on and let her go completely, thats when she can feel and realize your are not longer missing her and caring about her. Expecting, wishing and wanting, signals scarcity to the universe, so start having, being and doing to signal Abundance.
So my ex girlfriend/fiancée left me pretty much 2 months ago...I love her so, so muc and obv I’m in love with her but she left me March 27th and on may 1 I heard she’s in a relationship...so your saying there’s a chance? That she’ll come back? And if so how long do u think or any words of advice/ your thoughts on what may happen bc I want her back!
@@amandawest9867 Your best option is to leave her alone. Dont reach out, dont initiate contact, dont stalk her in any social media, dont like her Photos or status, dont watch her stories, dont talk to her friends or family members or stalk them on social Media. Act like she doesnt exist. And start to move on slowly. I can assure you if you leave her completely alone and act like she is death. Eventually she can come back. But if she comes back dont take her back that easily, Remeber she dump you and dated someone else very fast so she is sleeping with some other guy right now as we speak. So you cant trust her anymore. If she comes back, dont treat her as before, treat her like its the first time you met, just ask her out and hang out and have fun like when you started dating and let her prove to you, you can trust her, she has to earn another chance with you. So in other words, she has to be friends with benefits first while you date other girls, never take a girl back that easily because she already sleeped with other man. It can take months before she can come back but if you do what I say to you, she will. But dont wait around, continue with your life and date other girls, that will make it easier and time will go faster and when you least expect it, here she comes.
Hello Coach Lee. My husband and I are legally separated and have four kids. We've been married for over 23 years. I would like to work out our differences and fix our marriage. He's on the fence. You don't talk about couples who are married with children very much. That's a whole different situation. There are parenting things and things about our house that sometimes need discussion. Other things that that I can't discuss publicly. It gets complicated and no contact really can't be done for too long. Would you please add married couples with kids into what you talk about when you're giving your scenarios? I love watching your videos. They're really helpful. Thank you.
Coach…. I was so intent on getting them back. Now they want me back but It’s not the same. I’ve detatched from them and just don’t really feel the same as I once did. My healing journey has been a great one and honestly this no contact is great for my own sanity and maintenance of self-respect!
I'm experiencing all these signs from my ex, and though I know that ultimately I would like to reunite, I also know what I'd need from him to be able to move forward toward eachother again. It's tough however knowing when and how to frame my needs & expectations if things start to progress.
Once you're 100% sure and ready you can trust yourself to be committed, vulnerable and liberated together. Maybe with a bit of a new script and new lessons and perspectives of each other. But know your worth and know when to bow out gracefully if there's been no accountability or progress shown through actions. You deserve better. I'm in a similar boat myself.
So the first 4 have happened and I’m hoping soon the 5th. Might be hard with her rebound but I can only hope. Thank you for this, this gave me comfort and just a little more hope I can be with her once more and show the changes I had to make to be hers. Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there❤️
@@amandawest9867 just no contact man😔 it’s all you can do and work on yourself. In a year I felt like I’ve had 3 years of growth inside 1 year. I did hear back from her after a year and we were talking for a bit but then her bf told her to stop and I haven’t heard from her in 2 months almost 3. Is what it is I guess
One of your fans commenting again...I just love you. I've been with my man for a while now. But I still watch you because you make me feel good and I absolutely love your teachings/advice! Not just for relationships only, but for dealing with friends and family as well. You make me feel good! Thank you Coach Lee! ❤
Hi Coach Lee, ALL 5 were mentioned to me this past weekend..speaking of the past, regrets walking out, feels he has to learn how to handle situations better, says he only loves me and I'm his soul mate and wife/queen. He says he has to get the ring and that no one knows him like I do. That's all I can remember but he said don't be surprised if I show up at your door. It has to move slow and I'm still doing a No Contact....
I've been patient doing no contact/smart contact with my separated wife for what seems like a month now. In the beginning it seemed like she hated me and she even told me that. She couldn't even look at me or say a word to me. But just the last couple days she has been giving me most of these signs. Listen to Coach Lee.
The problem is that all of my exes are either Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant attachment styles, pathological narcissists, or both- and the abject cruelty of the way they end the relationship is an absolute dealbreaker to my ever letting them into my life again, no matter how good the rest of it might have been or how sorry they may claim to be. My second problem with this type of coaching is that it constantly tells the discarded partner to suppress their own needs to express our justified hurt and anger at the way we were dumped; along with our justified demand for amends and reparations for harms done. Every one of your videos that I've listened to keeps telling the dumpee to shove that all under the rug, then when the ex comes back, "don't act mad at them because they might have a feeling they don't like and go away again." Um, what right does that person have to comfort or convenience after what they did? Why should it be considered normal for them not to have to suffer pain or face any consequences for their actions, and why should we not get to require that they make it right? It's been very useful listening to these and going No Contact, because as I've done so I've realized what I'm simply not going to put up with, and if getting an ex back means having to accept the treatment I got on their way out and act like it never happened, no ex is worth that. In other words, these videos are basically signs to move on and find someone better. The unfair, unbalanced nature of getting back someone who left simply isn't worth it.
Thank you so much, Coach Lee! I didn’t think no contact would work because my ex is very stubborn, but I was so shocked when he reached out within a week! I learned to trust the process and more importantly, trust myself. Now we have an even stronger and healthier relationship and we appreciate each other more than ever. You have helped me become a stronger person and guided me through what seemed like the impossible. I really can’t thank you enough.
We really need a video on how to deal with long distance break ups. Especially this pandemic, couples getting separated by going to their home countries.
I agree. I fell in love online with an fb friend I had for years. We really were good for each other and loved each other deeply. But he was jealous of things that he thought I was doing, but I never was. He just stopped talking to me. But I know he is still watching everything I do on social media. I went no contact after of course, I had pleaded my case.... It's hard to know if there are any signs except his occasional liking one of my posts. I asked him block me but he has not. All very frustrating from a 1200 mile distance.
I broke the no contact (I know stupid) and of course, made it worse. She was angry as hell and said that I proofed that I did not change and looked like a stalker. She said that she wants no contact in the coming time and wants to focus on other things, study, etc. And final that I could wait if I was so much better and changed and that she will contact me in the future if she thought ''that it had any use''. So now all the power is in her hands and I am really angry at myself. What now? She has all the power.
Coach Lee,best! He left behind other things and carry some to settle with his long time girl friend, got her vehicle and came with it to my home, showing off, started contacting me every day, then allover a sudden, he went on and off, now he appears to check in the house and drives back to his girlfriend, am getting stronger and hopeful, but will never ask him when he will come back coz have gathered all the pieces he tore and am moulding myself back.Thx Coach Lee
My ex and I are back. 2 weeks no contact. She is sleeping by my side right now. Infact , she contacted me and chatted , IM WITH MY GIRLFRIENDS THIS WEEKEND, GIRLS WEEKEND OUT , I WILL COME TO YOUR HOUSE ON MONDAY , I WANT US TO TALK. thanks coach Lee. We have said all the things she wouldn't even open up to saying time when I was begging for 1 week. 2 weeks no contact and she came out straight. This is so lovely.
I know this is an older comment but we just did the same thing after 12 years. The day she said she wanted a break, I quietly left and said ok. Within days, our daughter texted me saying that mom has been sad & depressed. After 1 week we saw each other at our daughters school event. it was weird but we kept it simple, talked, and I said my peace which was something like "You know I love you & time away is helping me to find myself. I can now see some things that I need to work on that I realized I was doing. If we ever gave it another real chance, it would have to be a SLOW progression with nothing but communication." I told her not to answer or anything but since communication was our issue, I'm trying to express what I was feeling. I kept it simple, short & sweet. I truly think that life, kids, work, adult stresses, etc were our focus and we lost us in the process. This gives both of us time to breathe, heal, and make changes for the better. She gave me a huge hug before I left again which she hasn't done in years. Regardless what happens, I'm using this to grow and become better for either someone else someday or for our family to flourish. No contact is weird because for YEARS we texted/talked everyday and to go from that to nothing, it was tough.
Watching with psychosomatic fever 🤒 Finally blocked ex today & got this fever for excessive stress & crying 🤧 Still I'm positive sis Don't lose hope Be happy Smile😊 Laugh😂 Coz Life is Beautiful ❤️
I woke up this morning to my ex text to me around, 2am this morning. She thanks me for the experience we had together and she thanks me for the relationship. I'm happy but i don't know what to do or how to reply. It's been 30 days of no contact. I just want to thank coach Lee really, it's been very difficult during no contact. I broke down crying many times but i knew my worth. Humbly, i was the most attractive physically but i still want her because she showed me what true love means, she was with at my lowest, even when i became homeless
I am two months NC a month after the break up happened. None of the signs have happened yet but I noticed but I’ve noticed most people who attract their ex’s back no longer want them by the time the ex comes back around. The other people felt like moving on and then there’s no chance of getting back together with th ex because they either find someone better or they simply give up. I’m not someone who wants to make myself give up and that’s why i refuse to move on from something I worked to maintain. There are people who have gotten their ex back without losing the feeling of wanting them back, right?
Update: i no longer simp for my ex and have eyes for someone better. That’s what time does sometimes and it can even make you cringe at comments like this🤷♀️
What if you had a short time apart, and they dont reach out, but is willing to see you. Have fun, intimate conversations about our lives, and everytime i leave we have long hard passionate hugs and kiss
He called me for some unimportant thing, shared his life, told me he stopped smoking, asked about my family, told me about his. He liked a photo of me, he watches all my stories. He also asked how I’ve been. But I was the one to break no contact by wishing him Happy Easter. He wished me Merry Christmas first, that’s why I texted. We texted all day and the next day called. He also liked photos of my family members for the first time. I take these as good signs. I’ll wait to see how he behaves in person, we are meeting this week.
Exactly where I am too. She rang and messaged me out of the blue and wanted to see me after 5 weeks of no contact whatsoever (3 weeks beforehand where she reached out semi-regular) and the chemistry and attraction was definitely still there, we ended up kissing and she messaged me the following day. I now need to let her come to me at her pace and not show too much eagerness, which she would have expected me to.
Thank you Coach Lee, but I don’t want her back! I have found a new Love! If you have videos of how to conquer completely a new Love I will much appreciate it! Thank you for your wonderful effort and knowledge you have been awesome with your kindness and advice!👏👏👏👏👌👍✌️
Can’t believe me and my ex bf got back together last night! He left the rebound woman he was with for 2 months and is now talking marriage with me! His rebound had oral herpes but he tested negative!! 🎉
I have all these signs. Then we had the utmost intimacy and I lost my cool. He is in the stage before possible reconciliation where he is doing stuff to discourage me to be back together. Extreme hot and cold. I live with him and it's hard.
I have 5 out of 5. We just went out and later on the day they texted me that they had lots of fun. I can sense that we both also wanted to kiss. Idk what will happen, I had already started making peace with never being with them again. But there's little strange signs.
My ex did all of those things. We had a great first meeting but now he ghosted me. I feel like I've started to do the right things (NC) way too late and now, eventho he still likes me, he just lost so much respect for me because I chased him for so long and didnt have any boundaries.
@Kelly Di I have the same fears. It's been 20 days no contact. Not sure I will make it because I made all those pleading ,crying for over 2 weeks...plus we argued alot. Something tells me if I contact him now we will get back together but I don't want it like that anymore that was part of the problem he used breakups as a trigger for me..if I reach out first I'd be making the same mistakes
@@kelddsrx thanks so much. But I will try to contact him in a few days. Our situation is different I ghosted him before him breaking up with him and his bday passed during that time and I didnt even call him. But it's because he said some very nasty words to me under his breath. He became fed up and broke up but I think it was just out of a fit of anger. I think with time it will pass
The ex called me the other night and she admitted she was depressed after telling me personal things she has done since our breakup. It was kind of bitter-sweet. Maybe she is starting to realize how much her life sucks without me? 🤷♂️ I don't mean to sound full of myself, im simply humoring the idea for my own self-esteem 😁
My ex hurt me in the worst way I think a person could hurt another human being. At least in my eyes. But, we have since reconciled. We still love separately, but I do spend a lot of time w him and my kids. I’m at a point where I stand my ground and set up boundaries and basically said if you ever dare try hurting me again, I will be so content walking away and never speaking to him or looking back again. I do not chase him. I’m the one he chases now. Never going through that mess again! I almost feel silly I’m even giving him the time of day, but I can’t help loving him. It’s definitely better than it’s ever been which is amazing!
It's going to be two months since we broke up. Few weeks of NC (given up counting). He reached out to me twice in a span of 5 days during NC. It was always about work. When i respond his next message will be very distant. I got tired and lashed out at him a day ago. I'm feeling terrible now. I just wish i have the strength to move on and find someone who matches my energy.
ririsharon4652, give it time! You're doing great. You may discover that you do love her. I recommend Coach Lee's Workshop. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
Break ups don’t happen overnight…but my breakup happened because of an argument that she didn’t give me the chance to resolve. She’s now back in contact after 2 weeks of no contact and it’s almost false and business like….so I’m confused how to proceed…obviously the issue need to be resolved at some point
Coach Lee. I think I screwed up somewhat by not handling the situation well. She was making plans to visit me, but I couldnt stay put. From your experience what are my chances now?
metalphilosopher When you say "you couldn't stay put" do you mean you left? I know that expression and I'm wondering why? If you're in NO Contact and she was coming over, I understand that you did not want to break no contact. My suggestion is that you speak to her and resume what you two have been doing. Also, Coach Lee has a workshop that you should definitely join. It's excellent and you will learn so much about yourself. Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need! /rant
I lost my baby at 1 month pregnant due to the carelessness of my ex then after that he beganed saying sorry ,I haven't moved on yet but I feel I never want to see him again in my life .
I am thinking if you have to observe their behaviour and play something of a game to get them back are they for you? If it can’t happen naturally then are they for you only you can Answer that question. When you met them you met them naturally no role-playing no gameplaying no observing that’s my way of seeing things. I will say coach Lee knows what he’s talking about.👏🏾🥂
After a month of NC, I have had a text suggesting we have coffee. I said yes, but can’t for 5 days as I’m away visiting family. So we are meeting for coffee in 5 days…I’m nervous
He was open to conversation. He was curious about a situation, but I wasn’t ready to share so I said we should talk about it in person. He was open to it and said he’s all ears. Now I don’t hear anything. I’m confused. 🤷🏽♀️
Please don't reach out. He doesn't care about you, but he'll contact you when he's at risk of losing yoy to another man. It's like they have a sixth sense for this. Destroying your potential relationships before they even happen.
Mine did something similar. We were supposed to meet and she dissapeared. I think it is because they still feel and they don't trust themselves (i could be wrong of course)
Hey there. I have been in break up for 3 weeks. She was is relationship before that for one month . I had been in no contact for a week then she started reaching out to me. So I responded her normally and closed the conversation. Then she started reply my whatsapp status . I used to reply normally. And close the conversation from my end. She used to do video calls with me. For 2 weeks. Then she started getting the old things back. Then my mom called her and pleeded to get back together. Then she called me and we spoke normally. Slater next day she found me talking to someone else and got jellous and started acting obbsed for the name of the person
Hi Coach Lee. I have a question: will an ex-boyfriend come back if he never put much in the relationship. Also when he is self-centered, avoidant, and values independence and slef-love.
WhT I don’t understand about society.. why is everyone upset with their ex? Sometimes situations happen, misunderstandings and just life. Not every ex is an enemy
Coach can you talk about why you say no contact is less affective after 4 months? could this be situational. And also talk about ex posting every day on social media being a complete different person.
What if your ex has done all of this and begged for you back, you go back with them for 3 months living together, etc. only to find out that everything they've told you is a lie - like literally everything about them is a lie and they suddenly admit it was a lie. ???
My ex did all of this and is still confused ... :( He broke up with my at the end of May, saying he's not in love. But then he wanted to hang out all the time, constantly texting me, even telling me he misses me after I told him I no longer wanna hang out with him, since he's confused. Now it's been 6 days since he last contacted me all of a sudden, I have not reached out and I'm moving on. This has never happened before, we've been on and off for almost 2 years now and the max amount of days he hasn't contacted me were 2-3 days. But he knows where to find me, I decided I'll only take him back if he can show me and prove to me he changed and he's serious. I'll focus on my work, hobbies, family and friends. :)
Bro i am month 15-16 she posts sad breakup pictures now for 3 months already but she still didn't contact me. Man, does she seripusly think if i saw ir i would have to contact her first even if she broke up with me? No bitch, if you are hurting, it is on you to contact me first to restore the good relationship we had. I think she is too socially conditioned not to write first no matter what.
Did the no contact for over a year and she never contacted me and not one word from her so that pretty much tells the story that she is not interested in me and has moved on
ok he did all these ALLLLL of them, but he still with his rebound >?!!??! :( so this make me have a HUGE emotional reaction, and I told him that I still love him and i dont like he is with her, and he was at first interested in this line of topic… then the next day he went crazy and told me I dissed them both and i forced his feelings. so we never spoke again. i was planning and trying so hard to be casual and polite, take it slow, but the fact he was still with her the rebound made me out of control in my emotions :( and the reason he with her not me is a distance thing, two oceans apart and lockdown
Sorry your talk didnt work out. I k ow your lonely pain as I have faced it before and during lockdowns. Please find a way to heal. And lastly, show the world who YOU are and what makes you unique. If he left, his LOSS! You are one of a kind and show what he's missing. I wish you well.
Does the coach have any videos regarding the steps to take to get your ex back once you to have reinitiated contact, and you’re basically hanging out and dating again? At what point do you go from just casually dating and having fun and getting to know each other again, to where you actually start talking about re-entering the relationship? Does the person who was dumped ever bring that up or is that always something you have to wait until the dumper finally mentions?
My ex is doing all of these things now. I’m starting to see some remorse in his face now. He hurt me so bad but he did apologize for betraying me and cheating on me.
@@jacqui8392 I’m getting on much better now. He really hurt me and he is still trying to find his way back by calling me every other day or so. Saying things like he’s my husband etc… I don’t have time for his games. I was hoping that he could just give a sincere apology and then he can move on without the guilt
@@bbc20231 Hi, I’m getting along well now. We are back together now. He came back and gave a sincere apology and made many promises. He has come through with all of his promises so far and I pray he continues on the right path. We are happy and I am taking it slowly day by day
@@kimberlybrooks8459 I’m so happy for you . Just like you said before I am too receiving a lot of calls and guilt talk but wish they would be sincere and just apologise.
Thank you Coach Lee! Watching Your videos has not only helped me become secure with myself but has given me a strong mental foundation on which to act on in the future! I cannot thank you enough!
my ex and I broke up and a week later after no contact he reached out to me saying he missed me. I had binged coach lee's videos all of that week but didn't really know how to respond to my ex (didnt see this video). I just said "I miss u too" (probably my first mistake) and then we talked immediately afterward. We continued to talk where in the beginning he was clearly making an effort to spend time with me but then he became more distant towards the end of the month. I think it was bc I made the mistake of trying to jump quickly back into a relationship with him. I was asking questions like "what are we?" "are we going to date?" etc etc. His responses were "I just want to take things slow". I then I made the mistake of saying "its either we date or dont talk...." because at the time i just HATED the idea of being led on. in short, he made the decision to stop talking. I begged, pleaded, cried, everything. He kept saying sorry, he isnt ready for relationship, the typical stuff. Don't make the same mistakes as me... I didn't really get the results I wanted and now I am doing no contact for the 2nd time in hopes he'll return again :(
user-eq2gi2ty9j I know how you feel. I've been there! I have an idea. This does work I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
it’s been almost two weeks and there’s been no contact… it’s getting pretty difficult rn For more context, we were in a LDR across the country which sucks. We met online and dated for almost 3 years. A year ago he flew over to me and we met in person and it was literally perfect… he basically almost cried when he had to take that flight back home. We probably should’ve planned more meet ups because it’s crazy how feelings can fade just like that. He broke up with me because “distance is too difficult/ needs to work on self/ doesn’t want relationship rn” when I had already saved for our next meet up this summer…. I unadded him on a lot of places cause it was too painful for me to have him there and that was probably another mistake bc it shows that I’m hurt…. I don’t think he is talking to any other girl but it truly sucks rn and ig I’m feeling like it’s too late to save anything we had. :-/
Very close to 4 weeks now. Im feeling a bit better.. but I still feel bad at times when I see something that reminds me of him. I’m just trying to focus on myself and being busy. I see him go online on the social app that ONLY WE use to talk (makes me think he checks on there for me) He also just sent me a “.” which I received a notification for and he quickly deleted it lol. Shortly afterwards, he called me but quickly hung up. I’m pretty sure he is drunk since it’s a Saturday night and I know he has been hanging with his friends a lot… Guess I’m not sure if I should ignore this? He didn’t directly reach out to me bc he didn’t actually SAY anything… and could also just be testing me to get a reaction but idk. I’m debating on responding with a “haha this was probably an accident” but I’m heavily leaning more on just ignoring it and seeing if he says something else, like an explanation ig. I’ll figure it out in the morning 🤷♀️
alright so I waited until the next day and responded to his random call with a “Did you mean to call me?” kinda passing the ball into his court anddddd I got no response 😢. I saw him go online which means Ik he saw it but decided to ignore. I didn’t say anything more. Entering the second month of NC I didn’t rlly care too much abt the breakup and was super focused on my classes, thankfully achieving the grades I wanted. However at the end of the 2nd month NC was my birthday… I expected him to at least say happy birthday to me bc I did a lot for his bday. but nope. nothing. no happy birthday. Ik he didn’t forget, he just decided to say nothing. I even saw him go online on the social app that we used to talk on. After that.. I think anxiety and depression is hitting me again which has brought me back here :(. sooo officially a little over 2 months NC, and I haven’t moved on. hopefully I do soon cause I don’t want to be depressed while taking very important classes D:
Honestly losing count of the days now but still doing nc. I can confirm that do not want him back now. My friend set me up with a guy and we went on a few dates, I enjoyed my time a lot, so much so that I completely forgot about my ex. I still followed my ex on insta which then I unfollowed. The next day after I unfollowed, my ex sent me a laughing emoji… like as if he saw me unfollow him and was mocking in some way. I did not respond bc i thought of his message as immature. He still follows me. However, bad news is that the new guy I was talking to ended up using me so loooool dating sucks rn 👍
Hi Couch Lee Your videos have helped me a lot. It's been five months since me and my ex broke up and spoke. It was her birthday on Friday and I kept wondering if I should wish her happy birthday. I am actually still wondering if should make contact with her. Please help!!!!
I'm not a coach but maybe I can help. Ask yourself this young one. Did you end it or the other person? Who was in the wrong? How bad was the breakup? Reflect and then ask yourself this... Did she cheat or backstab me in a way that really hurt me? Did she violently lash at me verbally or hit me? If you say yes to one of the 4, [DO NOT wish her a happy b day.] If you did any of the 4, look at [ ]. If no, then go ahead, but do not expect an outcome of a conversation or even a reply. She will get your message, unless she blocks you, but no guarantee she will even reply. Wish you well.
Oh no!! I should have found this clip earlier. My ex did exactly the first 4 steps and I messed up. 😭 I was having very hard the at work then and can't be clam to talk to him. I expressed like how bad I'd been when he left, we had such a nice time, I did him wrong blah blah blah... As expected, he didn't contact me again. I think I'll leave things like that. Don't wanna lower my value any more 😅
My ex didn't want anything to do with me after our break up he pretty much hated me. I went no contact. Then he reached out to make sure "I moved on". Then 6 weeks after he reached out he wanted to be friends. We decided to be "cool". Then he contacted me a week later to ask me something about his email account which was clearly an excuse to talk to me. He says he doesn't want anything romantic that all we will ever be is friends. He shows emotion though because he still brings up things from the past and tries to argue with me. I won't argue. I just don't want to. We broke up because he cheated and I did some mean things to him after the break up because I was hurt. I know I hurt him and I know he's a bit scared of me. He hurt me too but I forgave him. I love him and I want him back but I just want him to stop playing these games. I know he misses me that's why he contacts me but he won't admit it. He says he cares about me but he will never be with me again. Will he come back?
Im not too sure my ex will ever attempt to get back together as he knows & have witnessed many of my exes reaching out to me & being completely ignored.
Thanks coach Lee me and my ex are back togther happy like never before after 3 months of no contact. The no contact rule is powerful if u apply it correctly thanks marn
Layaway Class, that is the TRUTH. It happened with me. I waited for months to get up the nerve to END my relationship with someone who shouldn't be dating ANYONE...
It’s my birthday and I’m 40 days in no contact. I don’t think I’m getting a message today. It hurts . I don’t even want her back as a gf, but I don’t like pretending someone I care about doesn’t exist anymore. If we were short term I would get it. But how can someone just discard me after years of love and intimacy. But i refuse to break NC no matter how much this hurts.
I feel like my situation sucks more because it was with a guy who didn't want a relationship, so I went ahead with the friends with benefits crap instead and caught feelings. I caused drama with my abandonment issues that he couldn't deal with. At first he would still see me in private at work and be physical, then it and his messages abruptly ceased, like he was angry at me. I don't recall doing anything wrong. So I went NC and it's only been a short while, but I had a week off work last week and when I came back, he made time to seek me out, tell me it was good to see me, ask how my birthday was, etc. He also initiated conversation last night. He won't get too close to me, though, and he has refused my recent offers to meet up, so I stopped doing that. Only time will tell what his game is.
Thank you for everything that you are doing Coach, you are a true wonder! I listened to you for the last 2 months and you kept me going through NC! My LDR ex broke NC one month ago to call me for my birthday and left a heart on my new profile picture, but since that nothing happened... I stayed in NC after, but she didn't interact with me at all, it has been 4 weeks Do you think that I shoud stay in NC and wait for her to contact me, or should I reach out? Thanks a lot Coach!
so long time gf told me that she doesnt love me anymore and just wants to be friends. But her and her two teen kids live with me. She claims to want to move out but hasnt yet and its been plenty of time for her to have done so. I havent the heart to kick her out, mostly because it would be devastating to the kids. Is there a modified version of no contact when you live with the person? I still love her very much and not sure what to do. thanks
brian d. You are a very generous man, since MOST people would have asked her to leave. There are two things you need to do, and you are doing one of them. A great job of being casual and civil with each other, especially around the children. The second thing is to get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. It has strategies for every situation including yours. myexbackcoach.com/ebk I do wish you the BEST. This kit will be a GREAT help to you. ❤
I was torn and broken about my ex
I did no contact. I found myself and met someone better. After one year my ex reached out saying all she thinks about is me. I told her ive met someone and moved on. She breaks down crying saying she's never going to give up. I lovingly tell her ill always cherish our time together. No contact works but its about finding yourself and loving yourself
Thanks coach Lee!
Happy Mothers Day to all the Mom's
Hoping this will be me soon I’m ready to get over it
See how the tables can turn....her lost
I’m at 6 months rn and I’m torn. I want her back and if she comes back I’ll be ecstatic but if I’m able to find someone new and loving I’ll be happier
@PROSPER VILLA well busted out with the tears too much toxicity is never a good thing You have to be careful whom you choose
1. 2:03 they reach out: text, call, email, return stuff*
2. 3:53 sharing, being vulnerable, being emotional
3. 5:23 reminiscing and telling you about those memories
4. 7:18 asking about you, your feelings, thoughts, how you're doing, miss me?, future talk
5. 8:40 meeting in-person
*none of these signs mean any guarantees
No matter what, watch the whole video so you get the warnings of each item.
Good phrases to say, "I may be open to getting back together."
Take it slow, don't spent too much time on the first meetup, let them come to you.
Stay "casual and polite."
Thanks!
I got all 5 with an additional bonus point in 4.5 to tell me he is depressed and he can't be what I need. Also point 5 is in 2 months time, I doubt it will ever happen. Time to move on
So my ex did all of these things to varying degrees, from the video but he said clearly he doesn't want a relationship because of his behaviors. He's essentially turned into a party/druggie/fuckboi. He's moving, new job, etc. etc. So I'm healing and moving-on. It just wasn't meant to be him. He needs to heal his traumas, phobias, and overall mental health.
The problem is that all of my exes are either Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant attachment styles, pathological narcissists, or both- and the abject cruelty of the way they end the relationship is an absolute dealbreaker to my ever letting them into my life again, no matter how good the rest of it might have been or how sorry they may claim to be. My second problem with this type of coaching is that it constantly tells the discarded partner to suppress their own needs to express our justified hurt and anger at the way we were dumped; along with our justified demand for amends and reparations for harms done. Every one of your videos that I've listened to keeps telling the dumpee to shove that all under the rug, then when the ex comes back, "don't act mad at them because they might have a feeling they don't like and go away again." Um, what right does that person have to comfort or convenience after what they did? Why should it be considered normal for them not to have to suffer pain or face any consequences for their actions, and why should we not get to require that they make it right? It's been very useful listening to these and going No Contact, because as I've done so I've realized what I'm simply not going to put up with, and if getting an ex back means having to accept the treatment I got on their way out and act like it never happened, no ex is worth that. In other words, these videos are basically signs to move on and find someone better. The unfair, unbalanced nature of getting back someone who left simply isn't worth it.
I'm seeing (No. 1) he's reaching out via text, and (No. 2) sharing vulnerable emotional information about his family and friends. I think he wants me around for emotional support more than any romantic feelings.
I didn't only get my ex back.... I got over my ex unintentionally lmfao. Thanks coach. I respect myself more now because of you
Would you please share your experience?
@@OJaman-fw9nx sure. He broke up with me ten months ago. Said he apparently lost feelings smh. So I told him I had to delete his number and his fb and he said he understood. Then Went in to no contact for 9 months . He got a new gf in like a month or earlier I don't know. And then he randomly messaged me a week ago asking me how I'm doing lol. And he tried to keep the conversation going. What you need to do is stay in no contact like coach Lee says and don't post as much. Just keep it on the down low. But idc you deserve someone who sees your value and doesn't need to be with someone else just to see how much you mean to them. You're awesome. Work on yourself and move on babe ❤️
@@99craziichick awsome story we us dumped shall triumph!
@Jojo Amber ..amazing! I told my fiance 2 and a half weeks ago ...before going to no contact...you start talking or seeing anyone else its over.( see my situation is different I've been with my fiance 4 years, we just got engaged this past Christmas...he breaks up just to be dramatic. He's a drama queen, he never means it)
So if my ex got into a relationship a month after she left me...what would u say or suggest? Because I’m so in love with her and want her back badly
I hope all of you are completely healed and over your ex by the time they come back. If they don’t see your value the first time around then they definitely don’t deserve you. The pain will stop over time I promise and then you can open the door to meet someone who doesn’t need NC to see how amazing and beautiful you are!
So if my ex got into a relationship a month after she left me...what would u say or suggest? Because I’m so in love with her and want her back badly
It is not always that simple. Couples may break up for different reasons such as bad timing, trust issues, misunderstandings, etc.. I was taken from my ex who happens to be my best friend against my will and she knows I still love her and we are working towards full reconciliation with babysteps as time goes by. I want to go to Sweden with her.
Thanks maybe I’m healing…
@@amandawest9867 if he/ she could flip a switch that west she is narcissistic, mine flipped 3 times / different people
Thank you for this.
These 5 signs are indeed true! That’s how we eventually got back together. I’m still here bc I like hearing Coach Lee’s advice, and providing support for those are you struggling with a breakup. It is one of the hardest things you could go through, but these videos helped me get my ex back!
I want to hear your story also
@@OJaman-fw9nx Our story is very complex and unique. I'll start off by saying we've been together for almost 5 years. One day he just waited for me to come home from work in my room and I walked in on him saying he wanted to talk about "us." Completely shocked and unexpected. He said he felt like we weren't growing anymore as a couple and he didn't know if he could see himself with me, he needed to figure himself out and "work on himself" as he has disappointed and hurt me many times in the past. (I broke up with him a year prior bc of that) but he kept pushing to come back into my life and prove to me that he changed. Anyways, completely shocked and hurt, I begged, I pleaded, I was so depressed. Didn't eat, called sick into work bc I couldn't stop crying. It was a horrible experience because throughout those 5 years we've never ever had time truly apart. I did all the mistakes of texting him here and there after that.. I eventually got tired of myself being sad and changed my mindset, journal my thoughts every day, started working out, and eating healthier and most importantly did the NO CONTACT RULE. I truly thought I would never hear from him again bc after all the begging and pleading, it sounded like he didn't want anything to do with me anymore. But the no contact rule I think changed the dynamic. It took close to 2 months of complete no contact until he reached out to me. He was very talkative over text, asked about my holidays, tried to flirt, and bring up old memories to connect again. I couldn't believe how well it worked. I hope this gives you guys some light.
@@denisaa.2695 I replied to Sushi P's comment you are welcome to read.
@@mairweee Thanks!
Will I still get them back if I blocked them on all social media platforms? Except text.
First thing that needs to be done is look at yourself and correct your issues. In the end it doesn’t matter what others do it’s what you’re doing
"Do not chase after happiness, it is always in you."
I went no contact for over 40 days a second time, we ran into each other Friday night. Before you know it, He was hugging me, He told me he missed me too. Everything I learned from Coach Lee's advice has help steer me on this course and still is. Thank You Coach Lee
Did it work out?
Not all superheroes wear capes!
Thank you coach lee, i have moved on but I'll still watch your vids to support u
Sign #1, you've moved on. Lol
True!
Yeah they come back when you literally give up on the idea of them completely. It like sends some kinda radar off in them
@@audrey242424 One interesting aspect of no contact its that when you really moved on and stop caring about your ex and the energy you gave her , its not longer there, she will sense it and if she still cares, she will reach out even if she is with someone else. Thats why when you really moved on and focus on new things and girls, outnowhere here she comes. Thats why you have to let them go to get them back and the clue its stop wanting them back and be really done with her. The scarcity energy you are transmitting will go back to you, even if you are not reaching out and even if she blocks you and she doesnt know anything about your life. I know its sounds weird but theres some disturbance on the force when you stop investing emotional energy on someone. Thats why they came back when you moved on. So be careful on just going no contact, stop waiting for her to come back and assume she wont, so you start faster to move on and let her go completely, thats when she can feel and realize your are not longer missing her and caring about her. Expecting, wishing and wanting, signals scarcity to the universe, so start having, being and doing to signal Abundance.
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They see you've been working out and eating healthy. You're in great shape, feeling and looking confident. They ask if you want to get together and you're just like maybe, but you've got a bunch of other people and things to consider now, so you're not pressed. Life is good!
Actually,the long story short is that you need to give them the breakup and work to improve yourself(for you,in the first place) and if they ever really care about you and you still got a chance,they will reach out to you.And waiting for that first message,or whatever it seems to me like the hardest part of all of this.I wish you all goodluck with your breakup,better days to come!
Thank you for reassuring me of what I’ve felt for awhile now. She reaches out to me for no real reason. She sends me selfies and videos of herself. She sends pictures of fond memories we shared together. There is no logical reason for her to be doing this, but it’s been happening. I’ve been in no contact for a long time, and only respond to her texts…I never reach out to her.
To watch this all play out almost step by step as you’ve described in your videos is awesome. No contact works. I haven’t gotten her back yet, but if these past months are any indication…I’m well on my way. Thank you so much Coach Lee.
You are truly the best coach . It has helped me to be a stronger & happier person. NC is not a game it’s a self healing process, where you get your confidence back and be the amazing person you are again. Thank you so much !
Here’s my little story I had a solid plan, no contact, and my spirit grew stronger. It was a shorter relationship, and it was also a distance relationship for a couple of months in the end. Everything felt good, no disagreements and no arguments at all. Only sunshine and flowers to the end. Then she wanted to end it for some confusing reasons (to say the least). Anyway I reached out to her now after a couple of months. Turns out the reason for our breakup was a re-connection with her ex, and she couldn’t be honest about that. My point is don’t have your hopes too ramped up, sometimes things are more blunt than we think.
@@cctf7057 Is this by any chance your number? I doubt he would spend his time whatsapp’ing with clients for free, considering he works as a dating coach:)
You were the rebound
@@texazpitbullramirez6565 Indeed I was, my friend.
You the best relationship coach hands down
I have to be completely honest, I was going through a pretty bad break up with my ex, I started following Coach Lee's advice and I went in no contact radio silence for 2 weeks, to my surprise my ex reached out and asked me on a date. Who knew that there is pretty significant strength in taking a step back and leaving a ex alone for a while.
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Day by day you keep motivating me to get better and better and one day I'll come back to this comment and tell how I got her back cuz of you. Thanks once again Coach Lee!❤️
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I think he's already move on 😅
How are you today?
So You have moved on?
Woow...its midnight over here in Africa & this video just popped up.
I've got to watch this. Thank you LEE.
I just watched some other video on no contact and came back to this as this is so much better with excellent explanation. I feel better when I watch you. Pushing thru nc and it has been only been 10 days and struggled a lot today. Just watching your videos to keep me sane. Thank you!
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It's crazy....but why exes who break up with and leave us.....never think about us, want see us, and etc ....when we're broke down, torn , hurt and really miss.....They seem to wait until you healed, can live without them, finding yourself, start being happy with yourself.....It's scary to trust someone that has badly hurt you before.... Because heart-break 💔hurts bad and that's something I wouldn't want to go through again
It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours
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One interesting aspect of no contact its that when you really moved on and stop caring about your ex and the energy you gave her , its not longer there, she will sense it and if she still cares, she will reach out even if she is with someone else. Thats why when you really moved on and focus on new things and girls, outnowhere here she comes. Thats why you have to let them go to get them back and the clue its stop wanting them back and be really done with her. The scarcity energy you are transmitting will go back to you, even if you are not reaching out and even if she blocks you and she doesnt know anything about your life. I know its sounds weird but theres some disturbance on the force when you stop investing emotional energy on someone. Thats why they came back when you moved on. So be careful on just going no contact, stop waiting for her to come back and assume she wont, so you start faster to move on and let her go completely, thats when she can feel and realize your are not longer missing her and caring about her. Expecting, wishing and wanting, signals scarcity to the universe, so start having, being and doing to signal Abundance.
So my ex girlfriend/fiancée left me pretty much 2 months ago...I love her so, so muc and obv I’m in love with her but she left me March 27th and on may 1 I heard she’s in a relationship...so your saying there’s a chance? That she’ll come back? And if so how long do u think or any words of advice/ your thoughts on what may happen bc I want her back!
@@amandawest9867 Your best option is to leave her alone. Dont reach out, dont initiate contact, dont stalk her in any social media, dont like her Photos or status, dont watch her stories, dont talk to her friends or family members or stalk them on social Media. Act like she doesnt exist. And start to move on slowly. I can assure you if you leave her completely alone and act like she is death. Eventually she can come back. But if she comes back dont take her back that easily, Remeber she dump you and dated someone else very fast so she is sleeping with some other guy right now as we speak. So you cant trust her anymore. If she comes back, dont treat her as before, treat her like its the first time you met, just ask her out and hang out and have fun like when you started dating and let her prove to you, you can trust her, she has to earn another chance with you. So in other words, she has to be friends with benefits first while you date other girls, never take a girl back that easily because she already sleeped with other man. It can take months before she can come back but if you do what I say to you, she will. But dont wait around, continue with your life and date other girls, that will make it easier and time will go faster and when you least expect it, here she comes.
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Hello Coach Lee.
My husband and I are legally separated and have four kids. We've been married for over 23 years. I would like to work out our differences and fix our marriage. He's on the fence. You don't talk about couples who are married with children very much. That's a whole different situation. There are parenting things and things about our house that sometimes need discussion. Other things that that I can't discuss publicly. It gets complicated and no contact really can't be done for too long. Would you please add married couples with kids into what you talk about when you're giving your scenarios? I love watching your videos. They're really helpful. Thank you.
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Coach…. I was so intent on getting them back. Now they want me back but It’s not the same. I’ve detatched from them and just don’t really feel the same as I once did. My healing journey has been a great one and honestly this no contact is great for my own sanity and maintenance of self-respect!
I'm experiencing all these signs from my ex, and though I know that ultimately I would like to reunite, I also know what I'd need from him to be able to move forward toward eachother again. It's tough however knowing when and how to frame my needs & expectations if things start to progress.
Exactly the same
Once you're 100% sure and ready you can trust yourself to be committed, vulnerable and liberated together. Maybe with a bit of a new script and new lessons and perspectives of each other. But know your worth and know when to bow out gracefully if there's been no accountability or progress shown through actions. You deserve better. I'm in a similar boat myself.
So the first 4 have happened and I’m hoping soon the 5th. Might be hard with her rebound but I can only hope. Thank you for this, this gave me comfort and just a little more hope I can be with her once more and show the changes I had to make to be hers. Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there❤️
So if my ex got into a relationship a month after she left me...what would u say or suggest? Because I’m so in love with her and want her back badly
@@amandawest9867 just no contact man😔 it’s all you can do and work on yourself. In a year I felt like I’ve had 3 years of growth inside 1 year. I did hear back from her after a year and we were talking for a bit but then her bf told her to stop and I haven’t heard from her in 2 months almost 3. Is what it is I guess
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You are spot on, my ex displaying all these signs after 2 months of no contact.
One of your fans commenting again...I just love you. I've been with my man for a while now. But I still watch you because you make me feel good and I absolutely love your teachings/advice! Not just for relationships only, but for dealing with friends and family as well. You make me feel good! Thank you Coach Lee! ❤
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Hi Coach Lee, ALL 5 were mentioned to me this past weekend..speaking of the past, regrets walking out, feels he has to learn how to handle situations better, says he only loves me and I'm his soul mate and wife/queen. He says he has to get the ring and that no one knows him like I do. That's all I can remember but he said don't be surprised if I show up at your door. It has to move slow and I'm still doing a No Contact....
How’s it going now
I've been patient doing no contact/smart contact with my separated wife for what seems like a month now. In the beginning it seemed like she hated me and she even told me that. She couldn't even look at me or say a word to me. But just the last couple days she has been giving me most of these signs. Listen to Coach Lee.
It’s because she was with someone else now he is gone
New uploaded video from you Coach Lee is very therapeutic specially during this pandemic. It helps a lot
The problem is that all of my exes are either Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant attachment styles, pathological narcissists, or both- and the abject cruelty of the way they end the relationship is an absolute dealbreaker to my ever letting them into my life again, no matter how good the rest of it might have been or how sorry they may claim to be. My second problem with this type of coaching is that it constantly tells the discarded partner to suppress their own needs to express our justified hurt and anger at the way we were dumped; along with our justified demand for amends and reparations for harms done. Every one of your videos that I've listened to keeps telling the dumpee to shove that all under the rug, then when the ex comes back, "don't act mad at them because they might have a feeling they don't like and go away again." Um, what right does that person have to comfort or convenience after what they did? Why should it be considered normal for them not to have to suffer pain or face any consequences for their actions, and why should we not get to require that they make it right? It's been very useful listening to these and going No Contact, because as I've done so I've realized what I'm simply not going to put up with, and if getting an ex back means having to accept the treatment I got on their way out and act like it never happened, no ex is worth that. In other words, these videos are basically signs to move on and find someone better. The unfair, unbalanced nature of getting back someone who left simply isn't worth it.
Thank you so much, Coach Lee! I didn’t think no contact would work because my ex is very stubborn, but I was so shocked when he reached out within a week! I learned to trust the process and more importantly, trust myself. Now we have an even stronger and healthier relationship and we appreciate each other more than ever. You have helped me become a stronger person and guided me through what seemed like the impossible. I really can’t thank you enough.
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We really need a video on how to deal with long distance break ups. Especially this pandemic, couples getting separated by going to their home countries.
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I agree. I fell in love online with an fb friend I had for years. We really were good for each other and loved each other deeply. But he was jealous of things that he thought I was doing, but I never was. He just stopped talking to me. But I know he is still watching everything I do on social media. I went no contact after of course, I had pleaded my case....
It's hard to know if there are any signs except his occasional liking one of my posts. I asked him block me but he has not. All very frustrating from a 1200 mile distance.
I broke the no contact (I know stupid) and of course, made it worse. She was angry as hell and said that I proofed that I did not change and looked like a stalker. She said that she wants no contact in the coming time and wants to focus on other things, study, etc. And final that I could wait if I was so much better and changed and that she will contact me in the future if she thought ''that it had any use''. So now all the power is in her hands and I am really angry at myself. What now? She has all the power.
Move on
Coach Lee,best!
He left behind other things and carry some to settle with his long time girl friend, got her vehicle and came with it to my home, showing off, started contacting me every day, then allover a sudden, he went on and off, now he appears to check in the house and drives back to his girlfriend, am getting stronger and hopeful, but will never ask him when he will come back coz have gathered all the pieces he tore and am moulding myself back.Thx Coach Lee
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My ex and I are back. 2 weeks no contact. She is sleeping by my side right now. Infact , she contacted me and chatted , IM WITH MY GIRLFRIENDS THIS WEEKEND, GIRLS WEEKEND OUT , I WILL COME TO YOUR HOUSE ON MONDAY , I WANT US TO TALK. thanks coach Lee. We have said all the things she wouldn't even open up to saying time when I was begging for 1 week. 2 weeks no contact and she came out straight. This is so lovely.
@@joymary7035 can't unjust stop being stupid and stop painting the image of nigeria sonbad? When will u people just stop?
I know this is an older comment but we just did the same thing after 12 years. The day she said she wanted a break, I quietly left and said ok. Within days, our daughter texted me saying that mom has been sad & depressed. After 1 week we saw each other at our daughters school event. it was weird but we kept it simple, talked, and I said my peace which was something like "You know I love you & time away is helping me to find myself. I can now see some things that I need to work on that I realized I was doing. If we ever gave it another real chance, it would have to be a SLOW progression with nothing but communication." I told her not to answer or anything but since communication was our issue, I'm trying to express what I was feeling. I kept it simple, short & sweet. I truly think that life, kids, work, adult stresses, etc were our focus and we lost us in the process. This gives both of us time to breathe, heal, and make changes for the better. She gave me a huge hug before I left again which she hasn't done in years. Regardless what happens, I'm using this to grow and become better for either someone else someday or for our family to flourish. No contact is weird because for YEARS we texted/talked everyday and to go from that to nothing, it was tough.
Ouch no any signs of these at all 😭😞6mos NC no nothing. Thank u coach Lee.. I know he is happy without me in his life.
Watching with psychosomatic fever 🤒 Finally blocked ex today & got this fever for excessive stress & crying 🤧
Still I'm positive sis
Don't lose hope
Be happy
Smile😊
Laugh😂
Coz Life is Beautiful ❤️
Yeahh well it feels like everyday it's just someway need to live alone. 😞
I woke up this morning to my ex text to me around, 2am this morning. She thanks me for the experience we had together and she thanks me for the relationship. I'm happy but i don't know what to do or how to reply. It's been 30 days of no contact.
I just want to thank coach Lee really, it's been very difficult during no contact. I broke down crying many times but i knew my worth. Humbly, i was the most attractive physically but i still want her because she showed me what true love means, she was with at my lowest, even when i became homeless
I am two months NC a month after the break up happened.
None of the signs have happened yet but I noticed but I’ve noticed most people who attract their ex’s back no longer want them by the time the ex comes back around. The other people felt like moving on and then there’s no chance of getting back together with th ex because they either find someone better or they simply give up. I’m not someone who wants to make myself give up and that’s why i refuse to move on from something I worked to maintain. There are people who have gotten their ex back without losing the feeling of wanting them back, right?
Update: i no longer simp for my ex and have eyes for someone better. That’s what time does sometimes and it can even make you cringe at comments like this🤷♀️
@@madelinemassey9354 Thankyou for update. Hope everything is going well.
What if you had a short time apart, and they dont reach out, but is willing to see you. Have fun, intimate conversations about our lives, and everytime i leave we have long hard passionate hugs and kiss
Coach lee thank you for helping me go through this ❤️ I am back. Greetings from Peru 🇵🇪
He called me for some unimportant thing, shared his life, told me he stopped smoking, asked about my family, told me about his. He liked a photo of me, he watches all my stories. He also asked how I’ve been. But I was the one to break no contact by wishing him Happy Easter. He wished me Merry Christmas first, that’s why I texted. We texted all day and the next day called. He also liked photos of my family members for the first time. I take these as good signs. I’ll wait to see how he behaves in person, we are meeting this week.
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12:32 answers my question. Thanks, Coach Lee
Exactly where I am too. She rang and messaged me out of the blue and wanted to see me after 5 weeks of no contact whatsoever (3 weeks beforehand where she reached out semi-regular) and the chemistry and attraction was definitely still there, we ended up kissing and she messaged me the following day. I now need to let her come to me at her pace and not show too much eagerness, which she would have expected me to.
Same here
All your videos are good, but this one was especially spot on, especially in regards to what specific things that one's ex is sharing with them.
Thank you Coach Lee, but I don’t want her back! I have found a new Love!
If you have videos of how to conquer completely a new Love I will much appreciate it! Thank you for your wonderful effort and knowledge you have been awesome with your kindness and advice!👏👏👏👏👌👍✌️
Good on you.
Conquer?
Hello Coach Lee, your videos have helped me to cope with me recent breakup. I cant thank you enough.
It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours
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Can’t believe me and my ex bf got back together last night! He left the rebound woman he was with for 2 months and is now talking marriage with me! His rebound had oral herpes but he tested negative!! 🎉
I have all these signs. Then we had the utmost intimacy and I lost my cool. He is in the stage before possible reconciliation where he is doing stuff to discourage me to be back together. Extreme hot and cold. I live with him and it's hard.
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I have 5 out of 5. We just went out and later on the day they texted me that they had lots of fun. I can sense that we both also wanted to kiss. Idk what will happen, I had already started making peace with never being with them again. But there's little strange signs.
For your own good start dating other people. Then you can lose the unhealthy attachment and see them for who they really are.
That is amazing I’m happy for you should have kissed!! Sounds like things are good on your end. And that’s good for you!
Stay away...
My ex did all of those things. We had a great first meeting but now he ghosted me. I feel like I've started to do the right things (NC) way too late and now, eventho he still likes me, he just lost so much respect for me because I chased him for so long and didnt have any boundaries.
@Kelly Di I have the same fears. It's been 20 days no contact. Not sure I will make it because I made all those pleading ,crying for over 2 weeks...plus we argued alot. Something tells me if I contact him now we will get back together but I don't want it like that anymore that was part of the problem he used breakups as a trigger for me..if I reach out first I'd be making the same mistakes
@@tercsi1 try staying in NC until you think differently about everything.. took me a whole year to get there but yeah.. stay strong
@@kelddsrx thanks so much. But I will try to contact him in a few days. Our situation is different I ghosted him before him breaking up with him and his bday passed during that time and I didnt even call him. But it's because he said some very nasty words to me under his breath. He became fed up and broke up but I think it was just out of a fit of anger. I think with time it will pass
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The ex called me the other night and she admitted she was depressed after telling me personal things she has done since our breakup. It was kind of bitter-sweet. Maybe she is starting to realize how much her life sucks without me? 🤷♂️ I don't mean to sound full of myself, im simply humoring the idea for my own self-esteem 😁
So what did you do?
@@bbc20231 shi.. I forgot this even happened 😂 I moved on. I see how much happier I am without her. Dodged a bullet 😃
Needed this! He’s exhibiting 4, if not 5, of these signs!
You’re amazing ..you explain everything so well and easy to understand
Thank you for your kind words.
My ex hurt me in the worst way I think a person could hurt another human being. At least in my eyes. But, we have since reconciled. We still love separately, but I do spend a lot of time w him and my kids. I’m at a point where I stand my ground and set up boundaries and basically said if you ever dare try hurting me again, I will be so content walking away and never speaking to him or looking back again. I do not chase him. I’m the one he chases now. Never going through that mess again! I almost feel silly I’m even giving him the time of day, but I can’t help loving him. It’s definitely better than it’s ever been which is amazing!
It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours
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Here comes *Handsome* & *Intelligent* 🧠🤓 Coach Lee !
Coach Lee can we book an Emergency call?
It's going to be two months since we broke up. Few weeks of NC (given up counting). He reached out to me twice in a span of 5 days during NC. It was always about work. When i respond his next message will be very distant. I got tired and lashed out at him a day ago. I'm feeling terrible now. I just wish i have the strength to move on and find someone who matches my energy.
ririsharon4652, give it time! You're doing great. You may discover that you do love her. I recommend Coach Lee's Workshop.
I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
I'm getting my emergency break up kit next week... 😭 i can't do this alone. Hopefully Coach Lee will be having one on ones soon.
@Emmy Win nothing's perfect
Break ups don’t happen overnight…but my breakup happened because of an argument that she didn’t give me the chance to resolve. She’s now back in contact after 2 weeks of no contact and it’s almost false and business like….so I’m confused how to proceed…obviously the issue need to be resolved at some point
Thank you so much
I keep on playing ur videos everyday
It helps me it helps my emotions
Very useful message for staying the course and not spoil potential opportunities!!
Coach lee is the best at this !!!thank you so much
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But he is already seeing someone and doing all these. What does it mean?
Good morning, Coach Lee. Its 7:29 AM here, JWU, and here i am, saying PRESENT. 😊😊😊
Coach Lee. I think I screwed up somewhat by not handling the situation well. She was making plans to visit me, but I couldnt stay put. From your experience what are my chances now?
metalphilosopher When you say "you couldn't stay put" do you mean you left? I know that expression and I'm wondering why? If you're in NO Contact and she was coming over, I understand that you did not want to break no contact. My suggestion is that you speak to her and resume what you two have been doing. Also, Coach Lee has a workshop that you should definitely join. It's excellent and you will learn so much about yourself. Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need! /rant
Awesome and even better, accurate information
I lost my baby at 1 month pregnant due to the carelessness of my ex then after that he beganed saying sorry ,I haven't moved on yet but I feel I never want to see him again in my life .
Kalinga, I'm so sorry for your loss..❤️⚘️ Give yourself TIME..
I am thinking if you have to observe their behaviour and play something of a game to get them back are they for you? If it can’t happen naturally then are they for you only you can Answer that question. When you met them you met them naturally no role-playing no gameplaying no observing that’s my way of seeing things. I will say coach Lee knows what he’s talking about.👏🏾🥂
It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours,,
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I’m definitely absorbing your information. Thank you…
Just the best there is..even if I go to bed and listen I fall asleep cause it de-stresses me..of course I catch up on what I’ve missed.
After a month of NC, I have had a text suggesting we have coffee. I said yes, but can’t for 5 days as I’m away visiting family. So we are meeting for coffee in 5 days…I’m nervous
Barbara Donaldson, You will be fine! 👍
He was open to conversation. He was curious about a situation, but I wasn’t ready to share so I said we should talk about it in person. He was open to it and said he’s all ears. Now I don’t hear anything. I’m confused. 🤷🏽♀️
He wants you to reach out
Please don't reach out. He doesn't care about you, but he'll contact you when he's at risk of losing yoy to another man. It's like they have a sixth sense for this. Destroying your potential relationships before they even happen.
Mine did something similar. We were supposed to meet and she dissapeared.
I think it is because they still feel and they don't trust themselves (i could be wrong of course)
@Wee Brew is that the good man?😅
@@omokheowaabdulhameed4181 Is he the good man everybody talks about?
Then no thanks, I'd prefer a lady. Hot if possible 😅
Hey there. I have been in break up for 3 weeks. She was is relationship before that for one month . I had been in no contact for a week then she started reaching out to me. So I responded her normally and closed the conversation. Then she started reply my whatsapp status . I used to reply normally. And close the conversation from my end. She used to do video calls with me. For 2 weeks. Then she started getting the old things back. Then my mom called her and pleeded to get back together. Then she called me and we spoke normally. Slater next day she found me talking to someone else and got jellous and started acting obbsed for the name of the person
Hi Coach Lee. I have a question: will an ex-boyfriend come back if he never put much in the relationship. Also when he is self-centered, avoidant, and values independence and slef-love.
Same case
Short answer: No
Why would want someone as bad as him back to your life????? Please stay away from him and move on
WhT I don’t understand about society.. why is everyone upset with their ex? Sometimes situations happen, misunderstandings and just life. Not every ex is an enemy
Coach can you talk about why you say no contact is less affective after 4 months? could this be situational. And also talk about ex posting every day on social media being a complete different person.
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What if your ex has done all of this and begged for you back, you go back with them for 3 months living together, etc. only to find out that everything they've told you is a lie - like literally everything about them is a lie and they suddenly admit it was a lie. ???
Coach Lee I'm loosing motivation to get back together. Im feeling so disappointed I think I'm giving up
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My ex did all of this and is still confused ... :( He broke up with my at the end of May, saying he's not in love. But then he wanted to hang out all the time, constantly texting me, even telling me he misses me after I told him I no longer wanna hang out with him, since he's confused. Now it's been 6 days since he last contacted me all of a sudden, I have not reached out and I'm moving on. This has never happened before, we've been on and off for almost 2 years now and the max amount of days he hasn't contacted me were 2-3 days. But he knows where to find me, I decided I'll only take him back if he can show me and prove to me he changed and he's serious. I'll focus on my work, hobbies, family and friends. :)
Been broken up for year now and never had any signs so I think it is pretty much over. Like Coach said, not everyone gets back together
Bro i am month 15-16 she posts sad breakup pictures now for 3 months already but she still didn't contact me. Man, does she seripusly think if i saw ir i would have to contact her first even if she broke up with me? No bitch, if you are hurting, it is on you to contact me first to restore the good relationship we had. I think she is too socially conditioned not to write first no matter what.
Did the no contact for over a year and she never contacted me and not one word from her so that pretty much tells the story that she is not interested in me and has moved on
You are right. Some people want to be forgotten and thus move on to some one new. I will try to move on and hopefully meet someone better.
ok he did all these ALLLLL of them, but he still with his rebound >?!!??! :( so this make me have a HUGE emotional reaction, and I told him that I still love him and i dont like he is with her, and he was at first interested in this line of topic… then the next day he went crazy and told me I dissed them both and i forced his feelings. so we never spoke again. i was planning and trying so hard to be casual and polite, take it slow, but the fact he was still with her the rebound made me out of control in my emotions :( and the reason he with her not me is a distance thing, two oceans apart and lockdown
Sorry your talk didnt work out. I k ow your lonely pain as I have faced it before and during lockdowns. Please find a way to heal. And lastly, show the world who YOU are and what makes you unique. If he left, his LOSS! You are one of a kind and show what he's missing. I wish you well.
Does the coach have any videos regarding the steps to take to get your ex back once you to have reinitiated contact, and you’re basically hanging out and dating again? At what point do you go from just casually dating and having fun and getting to know each other again, to where you actually start talking about re-entering the relationship? Does the person who was dumped ever bring that up or is that always something you have to wait until the dumper finally mentions?
That’s in my Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.com/ebk
You are so positive and real.
My ex is doing all of these things now. I’m starting to see some remorse in his face now. He hurt me so bad but he did apologize for betraying me and cheating on me.
How you getting on now?
@@jacqui8392 I’m getting on much better now. He really hurt me and he is still trying to find his way back by calling me every other day or so. Saying things like he’s my husband etc… I don’t have time for his games. I was hoping that he could just give a sincere apology and then he can move on without the guilt
@@kimberlybrooks8459 How are you getting on - did you guys get back together?
@@bbc20231 Hi, I’m getting along well now. We are back together now. He came back and gave a sincere apology and made many promises. He has come through with all of his promises so far and I pray he continues on the right path. We are happy and I am taking it slowly day by day
@@kimberlybrooks8459 I’m so happy for you . Just like you said before I am too receiving a lot of calls and guilt talk but wish they would be sincere and just apologise.
Thank you Coach Lee! Watching Your videos has not only helped me become secure with myself but has given me a strong mental foundation on which to act on in the future!
I cannot thank you enough!
my ex and I broke up and a week later after no contact he reached out to me saying he missed me. I had binged coach lee's videos all of that week but didn't really know how to respond to my ex (didnt see this video). I just said "I miss u too" (probably my first mistake) and then we talked immediately afterward. We continued to talk where in the beginning he was clearly making an effort to spend time with me but then he became more distant towards the end of the month. I think it was bc I made the mistake of trying to jump quickly back into a relationship with him. I was asking questions like "what are we?" "are we going to date?" etc etc. His responses were "I just want to take things slow". I then I made the mistake of saying "its either we date or dont talk...." because at the time i just HATED the idea of being led on.
in short, he made the decision to stop talking. I begged, pleaded, cried, everything. He kept saying sorry, he isnt ready for relationship, the typical stuff. Don't make the same mistakes as me... I didn't really get the results I wanted and now I am doing no contact for the 2nd time in hopes he'll return again :(
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I know how you feel. I've been there! I have an idea. This does work
I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
it’s been almost two weeks and there’s been no contact… it’s getting pretty difficult rn
For more context, we were in a LDR across the country which sucks. We met online and dated for almost 3 years. A year ago he flew over to me and we met in person and it was literally perfect… he basically almost cried when he had to take that flight back home. We probably should’ve planned more meet ups because it’s crazy how feelings can fade just like that. He broke up with me because “distance is too difficult/ needs to work on self/ doesn’t want relationship rn” when I had already saved for our next meet up this summer….
I unadded him on a lot of places cause it was too painful for me to have him there and that was probably another mistake bc it shows that I’m hurt…. I don’t think he is talking to any other girl but it truly sucks rn and ig I’m feeling like it’s too late to save anything we had.
:-/
Very close to 4 weeks now. Im feeling a bit better.. but I still feel bad at times when I see something that reminds me of him. I’m just trying to focus on myself and being busy.
I see him go online on the social app that ONLY WE use to talk (makes me think he checks on there for me) He also just sent me a “.” which I received a notification for and he quickly deleted it lol. Shortly afterwards, he called me but quickly hung up. I’m pretty sure he is drunk since it’s a Saturday night and I know he has been hanging with his friends a lot…
Guess I’m not sure if I should ignore this? He didn’t directly reach out to me bc he didn’t actually SAY anything… and could also just be testing me to get a reaction but idk.
I’m debating on responding with a “haha this was probably an accident” but I’m heavily leaning more on just ignoring it and seeing if he says something else, like an explanation ig. I’ll figure it out in the morning 🤷♀️
alright so I waited until the next day and responded to his random call with a “Did you mean to call me?” kinda passing the ball into his court anddddd I got no response 😢. I saw him go online which means Ik he saw it but decided to ignore. I didn’t say anything more.
Entering the second month of NC I didn’t rlly care too much abt the breakup and was super focused on my classes, thankfully achieving the grades I wanted. However at the end of the 2nd month NC was my birthday…
I expected him to at least say happy birthday to me bc I did a lot for his bday. but nope. nothing. no happy birthday. Ik he didn’t forget, he just decided to say nothing. I even saw him go online on the social app that we used to talk on. After that.. I think anxiety and depression is hitting me again which has brought me back here :(.
sooo officially a little over 2 months NC, and I haven’t moved on. hopefully I do soon cause I don’t want to be depressed while taking very important classes D:
Honestly losing count of the days now but still doing nc. I can confirm that do not want him back now.
My friend set me up with a guy and we went on a few dates, I enjoyed my time a lot, so much so that I completely forgot about my ex. I still followed my ex on insta which then I unfollowed.
The next day after I unfollowed, my ex sent me a laughing emoji… like as if he saw me unfollow him and was mocking in some way. I did not respond bc i thought of his message as immature. He still follows me.
However, bad news is that the new guy I was talking to ended up using me so loooool dating sucks rn 👍
Hi Couch Lee
Your videos have helped me a lot. It's been five months since me and my ex broke up and spoke. It was her birthday on Friday and I kept wondering if I should wish her happy birthday. I am actually still wondering if should make contact with her. Please help!!!!
I'm not a coach but maybe I can help. Ask yourself this young one.
Did you end it or the other person?
Who was in the wrong?
How bad was the breakup?
Reflect and then ask yourself this...
Did she cheat or backstab me in a way that really hurt me?
Did she violently lash at me verbally or hit me?
If you say yes to one of the 4, [DO NOT wish her a happy b day.]
If you did any of the 4, look at [ ].
If no, then go ahead, but do not expect an outcome of a conversation or even a reply.
She will get your message, unless she blocks you, but no guarantee she will even reply.
Wish you well.
Oh no!! I should have found this clip earlier. My ex did exactly the first 4 steps and I messed up. 😭
I was having very hard the at work then and can't be clam to talk to him. I expressed like how bad I'd been when he left, we had such a nice time, I did him wrong blah blah blah... As expected, he didn't contact me again. I think I'll leave things like that. Don't wanna lower my value any more 😅
My ex didn't want anything to do with me after our break up he pretty much hated me. I went no contact. Then he reached out to make sure "I moved on". Then 6 weeks after he reached out he wanted to be friends. We decided to be "cool". Then he contacted me a week later to ask me something about his email account which was clearly an excuse to talk to me. He says he doesn't want anything romantic that all we will ever be is friends. He shows emotion though because he still brings up things from the past and tries to argue with me. I won't argue. I just don't want to. We broke up because he cheated and I did some mean things to him after the break up because I was hurt. I know I hurt him and I know he's a bit scared of me. He hurt me too but I forgave him. I love him and I want him back but I just want him to stop playing these games. I know he misses me that's why he contacts me but he won't admit it. He says he cares about me but he will never be with me again. Will he come back?
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Im not too sure my ex will ever attempt to get back together as he knows & have witnessed many of my exes reaching out to me & being completely ignored.
Thanks coach Lee me and my ex are back togther happy like never before after 3 months of no contact. The no contact rule is powerful if u apply it correctly thanks marn
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Did you contact him first or you did first?
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Layaway Class, that is the TRUTH. It happened with me. I waited for months to get up the nerve to END my relationship with someone who shouldn't be dating ANYONE...
It’s my birthday and I’m 40 days in no contact. I don’t think I’m getting a message today. It hurts . I don’t even want her back as a gf, but I don’t like pretending someone I care about doesn’t exist anymore. If we were short term I would get it. But how can someone just discard me after years of love and intimacy. But i refuse to break NC no matter how much this hurts.
Happy Birthday
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Ps happy birthday. Sometimes no contact from them is better, trust
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I feel like my situation sucks more because it was with a guy who didn't want a relationship, so I went ahead with the friends with benefits crap instead and caught feelings. I caused drama with my abandonment issues that he couldn't deal with. At first he would still see me in private at work and be physical, then it and his messages abruptly ceased, like he was angry at me. I don't recall doing anything wrong. So I went NC and it's only been a short while, but I had a week off work last week and when I came back, he made time to seek me out, tell me it was good to see me, ask how my birthday was, etc. He also initiated conversation last night. He won't get too close to me, though, and he has refused my recent offers to meet up, so I stopped doing that. Only time will tell what his game is.
My ex and I broke up couple days ago. We already had plans made for the summer. Should I still go even when I want to do “no contact?”
What if the 1st time they reach out is to ask you, when are you going to collect your remaining things?
Unsure how to progress here.
Italian Wiseguy. I would just pick up my belongings and leave. Just be casual.
Thank you for everything that you are doing Coach, you are a true wonder!
I listened to you for the last 2 months and you kept me going through NC! My LDR ex broke NC one month ago to call me for my birthday and left a heart on my new profile picture, but since that nothing happened... I stayed in NC after, but she didn't interact with me at all, it has been 4 weeks
Do you think that I shoud stay in NC and wait for her to contact me, or should I reach out?
Thanks a lot Coach!
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so long time gf told me that she doesnt love me anymore and just wants to be friends. But her and her two teen kids live with me. She claims to want to move out but hasnt yet and its been plenty of time for her to have done so. I havent the heart to kick her out, mostly because it would be devastating to the kids. Is there a modified version of no contact when you live with the person? I still love her very much and not sure what to do. thanks
brian d. You are a very generous man, since MOST people would have asked her to leave. There are two things you need to do, and you are doing one of them. A great job of being casual and civil with each other, especially around the children. The second thing is to get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. It has strategies for every situation including yours.
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I do wish you the BEST. This kit will be a GREAT help to you. ❤
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