He used nonverbal actions to treat my daughter with contempt. When I would question him about it he would say I deeply love your daughter. I believed his words because his actions did not make sense and I accepted his explanations of them. Recently, I was discarded (he left suddenly) and then diagnosed with Autism 1 week later at 48 years old. Thank you for this video, it is affirming and empowering to understand this.
it's quite something to come to these realizations about ourselves, and honestly it's not like our brain changes and we don't still think these things... we have to be on top of it and give ourselves time to reflect and understand what is really happening is not in our best interest. Thank you for sharing your experience, I really appreciate it.
I'm a guy but can related a lot of what you talk about here, Fraya. Codependency, tolerating toxic relationships, no sense of self, lack of boundaries, abadonment issues, wanting to help/rescue/save others (especially women)...all of those and more. It wasn't until a couple years ago that I experienced a flashback (when a toxic relationship was ended by the other person) and realized I've been repeating the cycle of getting tangled up in unhealthy relationships despite my quiet voice of intuition telling me otherwise. I don't know if I would be considered autistic or neurodivergent but I certainly did not have healthy life experiences when I was a child and that has greatly affected me to this day. Thanks for another great video!
My audios not working, but your videos popped up in my feed and its clear thru watching you even without sound and reading the comments im in the right place. I look forward to listening to your insights
my mom is close to 70 - i only recently realized we're both autistic. she's been shaped into some bizarre creature by society and culture. thanks for this.
Finally found some time to comment ( ie. been among too many people these days and got sick 😢) and watch new videos I missed. I can relate to not being very social and I'd rather not talk if I don't have to. I worked a bit on unblocking my throat chakra energetically, but there are days when I still do struggle expressing myself verbally. On a larger scale, (aside from genetic causes/or not? hmmm)I think autism in women might be trauma inflicted by patriarchy. Women have been silenced and abused when speaking out, for centuries. Studies show that women are 10x more likely to contract thyroid gland issues, which kinda proves it stems from the fear of self-expression and repressing emotions (unspoken feelings/personal truths). What I also relate to is that I wont fake that I like somebody I don't. I actually can't stand anything fake and I developed great radar for it, probably cause I was hurt too many times and developed hyper-vigilance. Two GenZ colleagues told me that they love that I'm "a no bullshit person". The latest nickname I got is Miss Scanner :D I can still miss something that's right under my nose, but just when I'm absent. I feel like constantly oscillating from retardation to genius brainstorming. Unfortunately, I can also relate to the part where your mom is screaming at you. Mine expected so much from me 'cause I was gifted child full of potential, but also made me feel dumb and not good enough...and that's not the worse she's done. 'Till this day she thinks she's the smartest one in the room and loves correcting people. I have highest respect for parents who decided that they'll do everything they can to prevent themselves from transferring their own, unresolved trauma to their kids.If you can't meet child's basic needs, provide warmth and safety above all, don't procreate, pls. Oh, I laughed at the part about honesty, 'cause I'm speaking as if I drank some serum of truth, hahah. Being blunt or literal is one thing, what I don't like is so called "brutal honesty". That's just excuse for throwing your frustrations at someone, without really caring about their well-being. Lots of things can be learned while growing up, but any real work starts when you become aware that there is an issue to tackle...and you're kinda sick of yourself not being functional adult. As for the sarcasm, I learned to love it and be good at it and you'll now I'm doing it cause my face has subtitles. 😂 The relationship part....I won't even start on it. So much of them are based on trauma bonding and people are settling (for disaster). Healthy relationships are rare, so it's better to be single while you heal yourself and become a romantic nun like me. 🤭 I love that you closed with taking responsibility for your own red flags...'cause letsbehonest, many people don't and use their conditions as excuses for certain (mostly bad) behavior.
Wow thank you for sharing all that! I think more than the throat chakra is the sacral chakra that needs attention. I know I’m always aware of my creativity/personal power/sexual energy as you mention as women we have been robbed of that important energy centre and without it balanced what may come out of throat will not be aligned with our truth.
I am "Neuro Divergent" (not autistic/aspergers) ,and I am hypersensitive and accurate with social cues. I dont even need social cues to interpret people mood,personality,etc. It is very strange. I think I seem autistic because my sensory processing disorder/ hyper sensitive syndrome and extremely severe introversion ,and also, treatment resistant depression causes me to not make eye contact and/or laugh or respond to jokes while in the company of humans. No wonder why i never dated, intimacy, or relationshipped in my whole 42 years on Earth. lololololol FML. I am extremely rationally creative( life long drawing,art,multi instrumentalist) and have very scary accurate intuition. Even some "psychic ability". No, I dont believe in it. Yet at least.
He used nonverbal actions to treat my daughter with contempt. When I would question him about it he would say I deeply love your daughter. I believed his words because his actions did not make sense and I accepted his explanations of them. Recently, I was discarded (he left suddenly) and then diagnosed with Autism 1 week later at 48 years old. Thank you for this video, it is affirming and empowering to understand this.
it's quite something to come to these realizations about ourselves, and honestly it's not like our brain changes and we don't still think these things... we have to be on top of it and give ourselves time to reflect and understand what is really happening is not in our best interest. Thank you for sharing your experience, I really appreciate it.
I'm a guy but can related a lot of what you talk about here, Fraya. Codependency, tolerating toxic relationships, no sense of self, lack of boundaries, abadonment issues, wanting to help/rescue/save others (especially women)...all of those and more. It wasn't until a couple years ago that I experienced a flashback (when a toxic relationship was ended by the other person) and realized I've been repeating the cycle of getting tangled up in unhealthy relationships despite my quiet voice of intuition telling me otherwise. I don't know if I would be considered autistic or neurodivergent but I certainly did not have healthy life experiences when I was a child and that has greatly affected me to this day.
Thanks for another great video!
My audios not working, but your videos popped up in my feed and its clear thru watching you even without sound and reading the comments im in the right place. I look forward to listening to your insights
Amazing, maybe with captions turned on you can read my words. Thank you for watching and offering your feedback. Glad to have you here ☺️✌️
Yes, yes, yes! And yes! It is not our fault, that we are how we are and we can take responsability for it if we want to become ourselves (again).
my mom is close to 70 - i only recently realized we're both autistic. she's been shaped into some bizarre creature by society and culture. thanks for this.
Thanks!
yeah, thats me, diagnosed a year ago. Thank you for this great video
most welcome. I hope it was validating and congrats on the diagnosis - even more validating!
Great video Fraya! very informative. Thank You!!
Thank you for watching! 😊
Thank you❤beautiful
Finally found some time to comment ( ie. been among too many people these days and got sick 😢) and watch new videos I missed.
I can relate to not being very social and I'd rather not talk if I don't have to.
I worked a bit on unblocking my throat chakra energetically, but there are days when I still do struggle expressing myself verbally.
On a larger scale, (aside from genetic causes/or not? hmmm)I think autism in women might be trauma inflicted by patriarchy. Women have been silenced and abused when speaking out, for centuries. Studies show that women are 10x more likely to contract thyroid gland issues, which kinda proves it stems from the fear of self-expression and repressing emotions (unspoken feelings/personal truths).
What I also relate to is that I wont fake that I like somebody I don't. I actually can't stand anything fake and I developed great radar for it, probably cause I was hurt too many times and developed hyper-vigilance. Two GenZ colleagues told me that they love that I'm "a no bullshit person". The latest nickname I got is Miss Scanner :D
I can still miss something that's right under my nose, but just when I'm absent. I feel like constantly oscillating from retardation to genius brainstorming.
Unfortunately, I can also relate to the part where your mom is screaming at you.
Mine expected so much from me 'cause I was gifted child full of potential, but also made me feel dumb and not good enough...and that's not the worse she's done.
'Till this day she thinks she's the smartest one in the room and loves correcting people. I have highest respect for parents who decided that they'll do everything they can to prevent themselves from transferring their own, unresolved trauma to their kids.If you can't meet child's basic needs, provide warmth and safety above all, don't procreate, pls.
Oh, I laughed at the part about honesty, 'cause I'm speaking as if I drank some serum of truth, hahah. Being blunt or literal is one thing, what I don't like is so called "brutal honesty". That's just excuse for throwing your frustrations at someone, without really caring about their well-being.
Lots of things can be learned while growing up, but any real work starts when you become aware that there is an issue to tackle...and you're kinda sick of yourself not being functional adult.
As for the sarcasm, I learned to love it and be good at it and you'll now I'm doing it cause my face has subtitles. 😂
The relationship part....I won't even start on it. So much of them are based on trauma bonding and people are settling (for disaster). Healthy relationships are rare, so it's better to be single while you heal yourself and become a romantic nun like me. 🤭
I love that you closed with taking responsibility for your own red flags...'cause letsbehonest, many people don't and use their conditions as excuses for certain (mostly bad) behavior.
Wow thank you for sharing all that! I think more than the throat chakra is the sacral chakra that needs attention. I know I’m always aware of my creativity/personal power/sexual energy as you mention as women we have been robbed of that important energy centre and without it balanced what may come out of throat will not be aligned with our truth.
And I love the term “romantic nun” ☺️
@@frayamortensen Yeah, that too! I've seen you're doing yoga, which is great for unblocking.
@@frayamortensen Hihih ☺My friends died laughing when I labeled myself as one...and of course there was a meme accompanying it. 😆
I am "Neuro Divergent" (not autistic/aspergers) ,and I am hypersensitive and accurate with social cues. I dont even need social cues to interpret people mood,personality,etc. It is very strange. I think I seem autistic because my sensory processing disorder/ hyper sensitive syndrome and extremely severe introversion ,and also, treatment resistant depression causes me to not make eye contact and/or laugh or respond to jokes while in the company of humans. No wonder why i never dated, intimacy, or relationshipped in my whole 42 years on Earth. lololololol FML. I am extremely rationally creative( life long drawing,art,multi instrumentalist) and have very scary accurate intuition. Even some "psychic ability". No, I dont believe in it. Yet at least.
So nice that I am not the only one who calls NT people 'Humans'.
@@Myatalanta-l4x Some thing seriously up with me. Thanks for your reply!