For me it's not about hurting anyone by disappearing or being gone. It's not about revenge or trying to get them to feel some certain way. It's about self-respect and self-preservation.. it's about being treated as an equal. And it's also about self love.
I feel the same. I just want to move on from all the games and pain. In actuality, I'd rather that he'd just be in the stage of relief and move on himself. But..I'm getting the strong feeling that this is about much more than my feelings of needing peace. I'm feeling like God is actually orchestrating this whole thing for more than just my benefit. I'm feeling like the reason I'm at this point, finally letting go and moving on, is actually also for my person's benefit. That God is using this situation to..get something through to this person. To heal..this thing that makes him treat people this way. Like, it's ultimately to make us both better versions of ourselves. More wise, loving, balanced. I'm so tempted to open the door a crack, as I don't like to see people suffer. Let alone be the source of their suffering. But geez, I'm really thinking it's kind of God's prescription here. Which is a whole new way of thinking for me!
After 4 months of not talking to me he called the other day and wanted to get together. I actually said no and at the end of the call I blocked his number. I am so proud of myself to not go back into the same cycle.
@@user-lu2ms4dm2s congratulations!!! You'll be blessed with someone else who will be more attentive! Even if you have to be alone for a while, it will give you time to maybe change your hair style, buy new clothes, and redo your make up ----- complete the change and wow them all!
I have no one to do this with, but sometimes I think about the critical people around me. They'll never realize my energy or the uniqueness I show them. I know this because I know I'm not critical, and even if I am, I want to eliminate that. I don't like to fight; I spread positivity. I live in my own world, and I want to show that there are more ways to look at life. But I don't think any of them will ever understand me, and I don't expect them to. But I know that if they could catch my energy, society would have a more beautiful life. But it's just a dream of mine, and maybe it'll happen when I'm gone
It's amazing! Even if the person you vanished on doesn't want a relationship, they STILL want to break the silence! It's confusing and amusing all at the same time😂
don't call them, especially don't call them everyday....they WILL call you and if they don't then let them go, gracefully, but completely. He's not the only man alive.
@@shannonbishop7785 men don't give a f*** about women or her feelings - men only care about themselves in love relationships . The only people that chase you are the ones that you don't want. The one you want only toys with you and steals your energy. It makes them feel better rejecting you continuously. They are looking for someone else. A wife.
Understand the lecture those give. Return the favor and leave them on read, never block, just leave them on read. It will show them that they have no power or control.
@caminhosemfimdalton I have learnt that whatever you are willing to give is what you truly deserve😊 If you give genuine love, 100% honesty, good communication, trust, or whatever it is you're bringing to the table, then you deserve to receive the same.
I heard this from a psychologist. She told me, ‘it’s not about being too soft. It’s about others recognizing the hardness in themselves. I was disrespected by my ex husband. He was a controlling narcissist who lied through his teeth. No matter what answer I gave him, it was the wrong answer. He did things to me that still trigger me over 25 years later. He died 4 years ago, the reaction is with me still. I realized at 40 yo I needed to walk, otherwise I would be with him till another forty years had passed.
If they treat you poorly they already don't care, and, they won't care when you leave. *YOU* have to care about *YOU.* If you allow yourself to be treated badly then you are getting the relationship you plainly believe you deserve. *YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIVE THIS WAY. CHOOSE YOU.*
@@Candyliz2003 it’s like a bad business deal. All the tears we put in and the money and tears ALL OF IT. To only in the be treated like this by the children you birthed and raised. Even helped raise their children. Just to be eradicated from their life. It’s traumatizing !! like you know they’re alive and out here in society living their lives but you don’t get to interact and see them. It’s shameful and sad to say the least.
They won't care when you leave? Maybe not at first but it all depends on what quality relationship you provided them with before you left because if you suddenly pulled the rug out from under their feet, you made them fall on their ass without warning it gonna hit them and hit them hard !
I am currently in that situation. Everything said is exactly what i did to the relationship i am currently closing! I will come back and play it everytime someone will touch my comment! i am done being an 'Option'
@@KatarinaLebenhartIng.-md2vp there you go, cause I'm done bring an option, we good people with good hearts whom we definitely gave to the wrong people 😉
I don’t understand why people (especially adults) act like this. He went from chasing me, telling me how wonderful I am, to avoiding me once I started reciprocating feelings. It’s like he got me to love him just to push me away. I’ve asked several times (after days of him ignoring me) if he just wanted to end it. He’d always say no, I need you, blah blah. Gave me a tiny bit of hope only to go right back to the same avoiding behavior. Why not just be honest?! I’ve been totally honest about my feelings, I just don’t understand how someone in their freaking 40s can’t do the same. So instead he just avoids me and waits until I reach out. I just can’t anymore. Emotionally it’s draining and I’m tired of feeling sad all the time. I haven’t messaged him in a week and I don’t think I want to engage in this anymore, even if he reaches out. Sad thing is that he knows I’m in love with him and I feel he manipulated me knowing that. Really a terrible way to treat someone who cares about you.
I've been there also. It's complex though their fear of rejection is so embedded, their attachment disorder has to be played out, it keeps them safe. The moving towards is an emotional high but when it seems to be getting too real, they pull away. Sadly for us, it is soul destroying, though have found out through years of therapy that we too choose these types to also keep us safe, no matter how convinced we are that we want to be settled. Another view is that these traits can be viewed as superegoic and narcissistic which leads them into this maladaptive behaviour. It took urs for me to understand it, and now if I come across this, I have to leave quickly so I remain in my healing and not pulled down the rabbit hole again. Sad really.
Been there had that done to me. Ignoring someone who truest loves you is soooo cruel. I the end you have to leave them to save yourself… it. It’s deep 😏
I was the one getting ghosted after i took a wonderful person for granted. It was a horrible feeling but it helped me grow as a person. Im almost grateful that it happened because it helped me become a better person and not take people who care about me for granted. So in a way she did me a favor in the end. I have now moved on and are happily married with two wonderful sons and my life could not have been better. Thank you for ghosting me. It made me a better man.
@@Fredrik7le Congratulations, so you were an A$$ and used someone and took advantage of them. Then you went on and treated someone else at least a little better. You're still an A$$.
I've come to enjoy my own company. I'm the only person I completely trust and I've been my own best friend for decades. Get to know yourself better and you'll understand.
It's a double-edged sword. When you disappear you'll think about the person you left also. I have found that when that happens, I simply say to myself I forgive you and I wish you well no hard feelings I'm moving on
That is the problem. By the time most people can do this they don’t care. The feelings for the other person are simply the ashes of love. Disappearing is just the last nail in the coffin.
there was a time i let my selfishness push someone who really mattered to me away. i thought they would always be there, but, without warning, they were gone. i felt so much regret. it was a wake up call i desperately needed. in those moments of reflection, i realized how much i had taken for granted. painfully, losing them taught me to appreciate the people who actually care. it was a profound lesson i learned. thank you to the person who ignored me so i could appreciate what i have
wow, love to see this. A person who learns from their mistakes and tries to do better and be better as a person. That’s real maturity & growth. And self-reflection. We need more ppl like this in our world.
I am done being an option. I won my emotional independence. I won my self control. I am thankful to Stoic leasons. That teached me I can only control my actions. I stopped making fantasies of what other people are thinking and acting. I am the only interest of me now. Thank you for the content it is very powerful and true🙏
One day I made the decision to never allow a relationship to brake me again. I learned to be in a place of neutrality and acceptance. This video is so amazing I have to heard it more than once Thank you to the creator
I disappeared for 6 years after being hurt all my life by family after losing my mom. I came back and I never got an apology, but have endlessly been guilt tripped and lashed out at. It's highly upsetting
@thabi_d I'm right there with you, I'm in the process of separation all over again. It's not easy but it's necessary. This has been the fuel to all of my music. Nothing but love to you, your not alone
Same here from my 2 sibs after mom died - in THEIR care - & yet they act like i'M to blame! Cept I've stuck around taking their bs, it's upsetting & I think I need to do this disappearing act - only thing is, I dunno if I have the guts to do it ... but what have I got to lose, other than endless bs & abyse? Nevr thought it'd come to this w family, we've always been close b4 (or so I thought) I'm done bein hated 4 no reason tho...
I did this. It changed everything. I was in a toxic loop and taken for granted. It is like winning yourself and transforming yourself into new version. I am positively proud of it. Let you make the justice for yourself and show them their place.
Some people really don't give a toss if you're in their life or not & certainly don't miss having someone around, they simply move onto another victim!
I disappeared from my mother. It wasn't about revenge, it was self preservation, it was too painful not to. She chose her friends over me, she has her friends, so she's okay. I just don't care any more.
I have been struggling to find a reason to talk to anyone in my family if my mother were to pass before my father. My parents are in their mid 70’s, and I’m fairly certain that if she passes before my father I’ll probably leave town and never talk to my family of origin again. I feel bad saying it, but it is true. It’s not like we talk anyway. I’ve been around them for 42 years and I barely know them.
God been showing me who is really my friends in the last 2 weeks even down to my family an kids I think God for showing me cause I got a great heart an it blinded me an I almost questioned God why until I seen my problems are over an there's just begun think you God you are the best 🙏🙏🙏
They have to find a distraction it’s a pain killer- Trust they will circle back to you- you’ll get a call ( heat check). Of course this all depends on how long you were in the relationship. The best thing is remain silent! Power in silence!! Let them drive the new distraction crazy ..
@@MrBogeyman00 yes, but they can last quite awhile. AND she’s 18 years younger than I am. Sadly, I hope he gets rejected by her so he can feel this same pain, but that’s not healthy for me to feel that way. I’m working on that. Thanks for the reminder tho about the rebound. Idk if it counts as a rebound if they’ve been in them same friends circle for a few years. 🤷♀️
If you’re treated poorly given breadcrumbs in your relationship, it’s time to move on if there’s no change and walk away and don’t look back. Don’t watch this video and hope of your ex coming back but watch you to give you the encouragement to put them behind you and only accept people in your life. That’s gonna treat you good
I left him. I never looked back. Left with 2 suitcases and a backpack. Granted I have been able to keep some tabs on them and their activities without having to contact them. I've seen them go through these stages, granted without the social media component, but its been glorious silence without them. They attempted to have the police do a "wellness check" on me. They attempted to contact my parents. They were blocked, ghosted, phone number changed, address unknown, vanished. And I have been SO happy since. Happy with my work, happy with my life, happy with my independence.
Good. I hope it haunts him forever. He ghosted first but i took that as my time to go no contact. He came back around in short time but poof no me. Two years later and he still tries to hunt me down. I've gotten exceptionally good at disappearing even though i live at the same address. Caught him driving by my house on my surveillance cameras just today! But all he can do is look at a house. Two years later. It must sting. Good.
When u disappear from someone’s life they move on. Most people are not gonna sit around and wonder about you. People by nature are self centered and pretty much care about their wants and needs. No one is sitting around waiting for you to come back. No one cares.
I agree… this person was willing to take you for granted and Put themselves in a position to lose you, they are certainly not going to start caring about you in your absence
I have recently walked away from someone who i felt treated me like an option and did not respect me, i am usually known to be hot tempered, known to use violence, aggression and intimidation to make my point but i didnt do not that this time, i confronted them using a fair tone and with my calmness....i was in control of the whole conversation which ended in them having a meltdown and crying to mutual friends but i didnt tell them i was done with them, but i blocked their number and social media and haven't said anything in 8 days and im going to treat them like they dont exist. A few people seem to be korey frightened at my calmness than my aggression. This video made me smile, thank you, i have subscribed and look forward to hearing more
This video is so accurate, I am the one who disappeared without notice. I had to leave for my own sanity and health both physical and emotional. We are back together after those months of no contact I'm stronger, I have boundries and respect for myself no longer a door mat I deserve to not be taken for granted by anyone.
I once gave my all to someone who saw me as just an option, not a priority. I was always there, ready to support them, yet when I needed them, they were nowhere to be found. Walking away felt like losing a piece of myself, but staying was even more painful. Even now, I feel the weight of that choice-wondering if I made the right decision. How do you fully move on from someone who once meant so much? Any advice would mean a lot.
... There are millions of VALUABLE détails in Life... that you don t see or feel at all when you are 'stuck' into heavenly Love and feelings towards someone nearby. ... it's very hard, but lose it means you then are 'disponible' for those other millions of truely fabulous 'part of life' enjoy the ride into deep feelings and compassion towards other fellow- humans/ animals/ plants/ surroundings ;-) in fact it will make your life rich if you open up for it all. I send a huge emotional virtual plaster relief your way ... to heal all rest of any wounds in your soul
It's not easy but with time you get over it put your energy into something else. You deserve better you can't be the only one giving without receiving.
Trust the Process and Make a Way Out of No Way through the Lonely Tunnel of Darkness. I promise if you stay the course you will eventually come out on the other side intact and victorious with an overwhelming sense of peace and strength 💪 Godspeed 🛫
Please, just listen to your own words. You were with someone who treated you like garbage - why on earth would you wonder if leaving them was the right decision? YOU count - YOU matter - YOU deserve! And I have a sneaking suspicion that when you fully come into the knowledge of your own self worth, you won't have any problem moving on.
I’m a freshman and disappeared from a friend group cause I felt overstimulated and needed to be alone for a while, and it was due to something I found out. I let him know ahead of time and he asked “why” all I told him was “just something I gotta do.” This was the same friend who stuck with me through thick and thin of 7th and 8th grade. (He’s the Joe to my Vito for any mafia fans out there, and no he’s not fat.) This is the one time I actually felt bad about disappearing. The many other times I disappeared from somebody’s life were because of the times or because they pushed me FAR BEYOND my patience.
I completely vanished !!! 2 years and 4 months now ! I don’t think they are having those feelings about me, I kind make a mistake and I told this person I will going to vanished from your life and I completely did it ! Proud of my self !!!
It was the final throw of the dice for me. I walked away, 6 months, zero contact, even missed her birthday . I came back, and after talking things through and giving my reasons for walking away, we’re in a loving relationship now.
Does no contact really work? She blocked me and later on unblocked me 2 weeks after our breakup. I was in no contact with her for a month, then broke it. Couldn’t hold myself back, since there was some misunderstandings and things that she should’ve known about. Now I’m blocked again. I now that she is going to unblock me at some point, but I’m not texting her from now on unless I get a text from her.
@Yksl64 take it from me MOVE ON once you get to blocking and mind games it's done save yourself the hurt and wasted time find someone worthy and decent.
@@zedddddful yeah you’re right. She didn’t want to block me at first, but I insisted. By the way, she unblocked me and then wrote a message to me where she asked if I was busy or not, she wanted to call me. Told her that she could call me, we had a great conversation where she asked about how my family was doing, and if my exams were going well etc. A week later was her birthday, all of this happened since I wrote my first comment. I didn’t want to regret it later, so I wrote a happy birthday message which she answered. But it was hurting like hell to act as we were friends. So I called her half an hour later and wished her the best and we talked again as normal. I tried my chance one last time. But she didn’t want to, but like I don’t really understand. I asked her, “if you don’t miss me at all, if you don’t care about me at all, why would you call me 2 o clock in the middle of the night and ask how I was doing?” I don’t understand mate, like she is giving me signals of hope, but then pushes me away. She keeps blocking and unblocking me. Like if you don’t really want me at all just keep me blocked. Feels like I’m in a loop right now. I’m the one who is chasing, and she is the one that wants to be chased. She is going to unblock me again, but I don’t have time for this nonsense. I’m done, I’m just mentally tired of this. I still love her, but I gotta move on. What’s meant for you will come for you. So there is no point in thinking and trying. If she’s meant for me, she will come and find me, but I can’t wait for her. It hurts, but maybe one day I will find someone worthy of my love, or maybe she will become the one worthy of my love. Gosh I still love her. I’m just praying to God so that she should be mine, and only mine. I’m from now on giving her the space she wants, hope she knows my worth. Maybe I insisted too much, I know by contacting her multiple times was a bad idea, but I don’t regret it all. Otherwise I would regret not contacting her and trying my best. You know what they say, sometimes you gotta let people go, to see if they are the one. I’m giving her the space she wants…
i finished being an option a while ago. i don't particularly care if 'they' miss me or not, i don't care what they're doing or thinking. i only care about what i'm doing and the earned & deserved reciprocation. those people i left behind, they really don't care that i've gone as they've moved on to other people that they'll take for granted, take advantage of and/or manipulate. i'm nothing to them and i never was. i feel better about myself for having figured that out. i admitted my own mistakes, something they are incapable of, and i've moved on toward 'fixing' myself. they've moved on without any self-realization and will continue manipulating whoever will give them a minute. too bad for them that they lack introspection for positive growth. not my problem. i can only control myself and my abilities to promote my own growth. i don't have time for the things that ail them. i can't help them because they won't bother to help themselves. i have a life. that is my only priority.
I am done with being an option. A man who has lost more than what's good for him. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. I am doing my very best to find my innerpeace, strength and selflove. Wish you all the best of love. ❤
There is no God that intervenes in the lives of men and women. We make our own way….good or bad these experiences are simply the consequence of individual choices, free will. It is an arrogance that an individual believes that an all powerful creator would intervene on their behalf.
Unless you're walking away from a narcissist, they'll already have someone else ready to take over, they were already in another relationship but will just lie to your face even tho she's laying in his place on the couch, even tho she's already pretty much moved in, they will still look you in the eye and say they love you. Your relationship with them is like a play, when it's over it's over and they move on to the next one. I walked away and never went back, never called, nothing. Turns out he didn't get everything he thought he was gonna get, oh well, it was what he wanted.
Im sooo happy I found this video. Finished a short toxic relationship this year and it was filled with fighting and negativity. Im definitely going to follow this video and apply it in my life. I still see my ex at my church but i avoid her at all costs
I had to disappear for the good of my mental health. The last thing I wanted to do was to hurt my ex partner. I hate the thought of her being in pain. But we kept on getting back together after breakups and it never worked out. I hope and pray that she finds peace. I miss her terribly but know this is the right thing to do. 😢
Those that mistreat you are happy you are gone. Makes it easier for their plans to unfold. Genuine love and appreciation values your existence and will never hurt you intentionally.
My girlfriend of 5 years left yesterday after an argument we had..I feel it in my heart that this time its for good..even with this overwhelming empty feeling in my heart I KNOW its for the best I was holding a grudge from past wrong doings and I honestly feel this was God cutting the rope setting me free..im 32 years old and my journey only BEGINS here
Hi. I'm. Leslie. I'm sorry about how you feel. People are heartless sometimes . Sometimes I get hurt too. People just don't care anymore . Please care about yourself and your feelings. Nobody else will . Only you will and should care about you. You know my boy friend is always threatening to leave me. And I'm tired of his threats. Please pray for me. And I will pray for you .❤. You can message me back if you want to . Or if you need someone to message to . Love . Leslie❤
This sounds good in theory but the problem is you got yourself into this relationship because of obsession. It is easy to ghost or walk away from someone you just met or upon further review, decided you are probably better off with out. That’s easy. But what about when you have been love bombed, and it really took you in. Mentally and physically. And then they started taking you for granted cause the hook is in your nose. You know he/she is using you but it’s alright as long they feed the obsession a little bit. Walk away? It’s possible, but you may have to get hurt first, bad. It’s all a matter of how much you are willing to take before your self esteem has had enough. Love yourself more.
This is so true. Being Love bombed & swept off your feet by someone who once they know they have you start treating you like shit is the worst. That’s the situation I found myself in, currently trying to get out of. He’s super manipulative. You never know what’s truth or lies. I’m kind of thinking now it’s just to feed his ego and there’s probably 5 other girls just like me in his rotation. Humans can be the worst, and take people love for granted like energy vampires
@@FarmhouseFelts he's a narcissist that can't love anyone else including himself. That's why he needs so many people to love him and it's never enough. For these kinds of people, you have to get hurt to get out of it, but once you do, you will identify the pattern and stay away from narcissistic people in the future. See it as a lesson and free yourself.
Thank you for sharing. You touched me greatly. My children are grown and we live apart...but you touched a nerve for me to wake up to the disrespect I've endured off an on for years. Guilt of raising them alone and more. Thank you for reminding me that i am worth being....✍🙏🙏🙏♥️
Took me a long time to understand the importance of just letting go and walking away from toxic or demeaning relationships, friendly or otherwise. Do not settle for being merely an option. You deserve better and should attain for better
Yes, I did take him for granted. His family said, who else is going to want him. I had wondered if I had lost him for good. I was terrified , people were concerned about me. I was concerned about myself. A dream made me snap out of it. It made me realize our time together needed to end. 22 years off and on and no marriage. We were just not meant to be. I put him on child support. We are best friends now.
This walk way is very hard but totally worth the walk. Once I started to not care for validation it was a lot easier to cut people off and to realize when people want to bring you down. I know I’m better then they are but by my actions not by humanity itself . Thank you for the time and this video🙏🏽
My entitled adult daughters ALL stopped talking to me in the same month. Coincidence I doubt. I’ve blocked them all. I’m not going to live in the stress they cause me. I get blamed for everything and all their problems. Not anymore
My daughter and my son have literally told me how much I have been a problem and I have not been a mother I have not done anything for them… I put there needs before mine. I realize it was not ever appreciated but I was supposed to do whatever I was needed to do because I was there mother. I am grateful for my children I know where I have gone wrong being there for them and pleasing them to make their lives better but they have used me my children have shown me that their happiness is more important than mine and they have no love for me I am hurt to be honest I am not deserving of my children hate they have for me. I over looked the signs that they have shown me but I don’t regret my actions I am not going to be a part of it anymore
Thank goodness for this day of life and awareness of the importance of being alive and powerful greatness in the universe I am blessed with the ability of knowing that I am a powerful woman who has been through so many different obstacles and challenges that I have overcome and now I am ready to live my life as I am able and deserve
@@SherryHeyward-fc4yf it’s UNFATHOMABLE how we gave up our lives raising them and loved them and they turn out like this in adulthood. It comes out of nowhere. I went from having a loving family and couple grandkids I would give my life for to LITERALLY NOTHING. It’s like they vanished off the earth. It’s almost too much to bear. I struggle getting through the day. I try to move on but how the fell are you supposed to forget you had children and your grandchildren?!?! It’s traumatic to say the least. I wish you well and hope you get through it 🥹
Alhamdulliah I’m ready not to be a option for people anymore this is all thanks to my Almighty Allah☝🏼 ❤️ and thank you to the owner of this channel for posting this video may my almighty Allah bless you🤲🏼
For me it's not about hurting anyone by disappearing or being gone. It's not about revenge or trying to get them to feel some certain way. It's about self-respect and self-preservation.. it's about being treated as an equal. And it's also about self love.
I feel the same. I just want to move on from all the games and pain. In actuality, I'd rather that he'd just be in the stage of relief and move on himself. But..I'm getting the strong feeling that this is about much more than my feelings of needing peace. I'm feeling like God is actually orchestrating this whole thing for more than just my benefit. I'm feeling like the reason I'm at this point, finally letting go and moving on, is actually also for my person's benefit. That God is using this situation to..get something through to this person. To heal..this thing that makes him treat people this way. Like, it's ultimately to make us both better versions of ourselves. More wise, loving, balanced.
I'm so tempted to open the door a crack, as I don't like to see people suffer. Let alone be the source of their suffering. But geez, I'm really thinking it's kind of God's prescription here. Which is a whole new way of thinking for me!
After 4 months of not talking to me he called the other day and wanted to get together. I actually said no and at the end of the call I blocked his number. I am so proud of myself to not go back into the same cycle.
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100% possible to love someone indefinitely wishing them well while not wanting to be in any sort of contact.
@@user-lu2ms4dm2s congratulations!!! You'll be blessed with someone else who will be more attentive! Even if you have to be alone for a while, it will give you time to maybe change your hair style, buy new clothes, and redo your make up ----- complete the change and wow them all!
SILENCE IS GOLDEN
DEONTAY WILDER
Yes 👍!!!!!
Amen 🙌🏾
I have no one to do this with, but sometimes I think about the critical people around me. They'll never realize my energy or the uniqueness I show them. I know this because I know I'm not critical, and even if I am, I want to eliminate that. I don't like to fight; I spread positivity. I live in my own world, and I want to show that there are more ways to look at life. But I don't think any of them will ever understand me, and I don't expect them to. But I know that if they could catch my energy, society would have a more beautiful life.
But it's just a dream of mine, and maybe it'll happen when I'm gone
Make your silence louder than your pain!!! It works!
I know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MGTOW4LIFE🛫🇵🇷
It's amazing! Even if the person you vanished on doesn't want a relationship, they STILL want to break the silence! It's confusing and amusing all at the same time😂
don't call them, especially don't call them everyday....they WILL call you and if they don't then let them go, gracefully, but completely. He's not the only man alive.
@@georgiafrancis9059 FACTS
I completely vanished. Doesn't matter what they think anymore. It was about me reclaiming my peace. I wish him well.
No one cares 🥱
Amen....
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@@shannonbishop7785 men don't give a f*** about women or her feelings - men only care about themselves in love relationships . The only people that chase you are the ones that you don't want. The one you want only toys with you and steals your energy. It makes them feel better rejecting you continuously. They are looking for someone else. A wife.
Good for you 💪
By the end of this , I will never be an option again
Amen
Yeah right 🙄🥱
Being ghosted hurts more than any words could. Silence is the knife that cuts deepest.
Trust me! It did to my ex for doing it to me.
It’s a toxic behavior, look it up. Ghosting is toxic Af
Or empty words and lies every time they open their mouth.
Understand the lecture those give. Return the favor and leave them on read, never block, just leave them on read. It will show them that they have no power or control.
Ghosting is considered the worst emotional abuse you can inflict on someone! You're right, very toxic...
A person deserves what they accept.
Never, ever accept less than you deserve.
Amen
Especially being swept around like a crumb on the floor.
The question is: how do we know what we truly deserve and not just what our ego wants?
@caminhosemfimdalton I have learnt that whatever you are willing to give is what you truly deserve😊 If you give genuine love, 100% honesty, good communication, trust, or whatever it is you're bringing to the table, then you deserve to receive the same.
@@caminhosemfimdalton I struggle with that concept.
Unfortunately to most, being nice can be taken as naive or easily manipulated.
I heard this from a psychologist. She told me, ‘it’s not about being too soft. It’s about others recognizing the hardness in themselves. I was disrespected by my ex husband. He was a controlling narcissist who lied through his teeth. No matter what answer I gave him, it was the wrong answer. He did things to me that still trigger me over 25 years later. He died 4 years ago, the reaction is with me still. I realized at 40 yo I needed to walk, otherwise I would be with him till another forty years had passed.
@@danoyse8233glad you freed yourself from a narcissist, my gosh, they're truly torturous people to deal with
If they treat you poorly they already don't care, and, they won't care when you leave.
*YOU* have to care about *YOU.* If you allow yourself to be treated badly then you are getting the relationship you plainly believe you deserve.
*YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIVE THIS WAY. CHOOSE YOU.*
@@Candyliz2003 it’s like a bad business deal. All the tears we put in and the money and tears ALL OF IT. To only in the be treated like this by the children you birthed and raised. Even helped raise their children. Just to be eradicated from their life. It’s traumatizing !! like you know they’re alive and out here in society living their lives but you don’t get to interact and see them. It’s shameful and sad to say the least.
They will feel the void if they loved you
Can they love? Do they have a sense of humor.
I'm done being an option
They won't care when you leave? Maybe not at first but it all depends on what quality relationship you provided them with before you left because if you suddenly pulled the rug out from under their feet, you made them fall on their ass without warning it gonna hit them and hit them hard !
Sometimes, disappearing is a powerful way to reclaim peace and respect. Stoic wisdom truly makes silence speak volumes.
💯...No 200%#thatsIt❤
Ex wife left for a 2 weeks. When she got home, i was GONE. She asked my family and Friends where i was. She'll never lay eyes on me again.
I used to just disappear from people's lives, now I don't let anyone get close enough to miss me.
I m there with you
Same and well said 💯
So who won?? Not you
@spark967 definitely me. I don't have to deal with any stupidity.
Smart! ❤😊
I am currently in that situation. Everything said is exactly what i did to the relationship i am currently closing!
I will come back and play it everytime someone will touch my comment!
i am done being an 'Option'
I know my worth and no longer allow people to take me for granted. I've learned to set boundaries!
"I'm done being an 'option''😄✨✨
@@KatarinaLebenhartIng.-md2vp there you go, cause I'm done bring an option, we good people with good hearts whom we definitely gave to the wrong people 😉
"...Because by the end of it, you'll won't ever be one again." you forgot the ending my sigma dude....
Same
I don’t understand why people (especially adults) act like this. He went from chasing me, telling me how wonderful I am, to avoiding me once I started reciprocating feelings. It’s like he got me to love him just to push me away.
I’ve asked several times (after days of him ignoring me) if he just wanted to end it. He’d always say no, I need you, blah blah.
Gave me a tiny bit of hope only to go right back to the same avoiding behavior.
Why not just be honest?! I’ve been totally honest about my feelings, I just don’t understand how someone in their freaking 40s can’t do the same. So instead he just avoids me and waits until I reach out.
I just can’t anymore. Emotionally it’s draining and I’m tired of feeling sad all the time. I haven’t messaged him in a week and I don’t think I want to engage in this anymore, even if he reaches out. Sad thing is that he knows I’m in love with him and I feel he manipulated me knowing that.
Really a terrible way to treat someone who cares about you.
I've been there also. It's complex though their fear of rejection is so embedded, their attachment disorder has to be played out, it keeps them safe. The moving towards is an emotional high but when it seems to be getting too real, they pull away. Sadly for us, it is soul destroying, though have found out through years of therapy that we too choose these types to also keep us safe, no matter how convinced we are that we want to be settled. Another view is that these traits can be viewed as superegoic and narcissistic which leads them into this maladaptive behaviour. It took urs for me to understand it, and now if I come across this, I have to leave quickly so I remain in my healing and not pulled down the rabbit hole again. Sad really.
Been there had that done to me. Ignoring someone who truest loves you is soooo cruel. I the end you have to leave them to save yourself… it. It’s deep 😏
Same thing mf in his 40’s. acting like a child. I’m not chasing, girl Fuckem these men. More feminine now days. Idk it’s crazy
Read about attachment theory, it should clear up some of this 😊
It's his loss dear lady.
I was the one getting ghosted after i took a wonderful person for granted. It was a horrible feeling but it helped me grow as a person. Im almost grateful that it happened because it helped me become a better person and not take people who care about me for granted. So in a way she did me a favor in the end. I have now moved on and are happily married with two wonderful sons and my life could not have been better. Thank you for ghosting me. It made me a better man.
Thank you!!
So you became a better man for someone else. Still selfish as ever.
@@christineribone9351Exactly. They always do it when it’s too late. Or for their own benefit.
I'm going through the same experience. I was the asshole, but I am growing too and will not allow it to happen to anyone else I meet.
@@Fredrik7le Congratulations, so you were an A$$ and used someone and took advantage of them. Then you went on and treated someone else at least a little better. You're still an A$$.
I've come to enjoy my own company. I'm the only person I completely trust and I've been my own best friend for decades. Get to know yourself better and you'll understand.
There is no greater power than the power of forgiveness .
There are things can not be forgiven neither forgotten. The most important thing is to love yourself. If you forgive something evil they'll repeat it
you don't have to forgive,
you just have to heal.
Forgiveness is for the repentant. And just because we forgive doesn’t mean we go back for more.
It’s not forgivable
@@gasmith7486 Precisely 100% correct.
It's a double-edged sword. When you disappear you'll think about the person you left also. I have found that when that happens, I simply say to myself I forgive you and I wish you well no hard feelings I'm moving on
Nah. People that I vanish from my existence are ones that don’t deserve a thought
I don't call it double edged sword. I left her 7 months ago and yes I'm thinking about her to but difference is she is crying I'm not.
This is so true. My ex is really going through it. Funny thing is I really don't feel anything anymore.
Same ❤
That is the problem. By the time most people can do this they don’t care. The feelings for the other person are simply the ashes of love. Disappearing is just the last nail in the coffin.
Your not going to feel hole with anyone you should be kind and change and care for the ex live in this life
If that were remotely true you wouldn't have mentioned him, see you gave him power over your thoughts by bringing him up.
@@TaronGibbsExcuse me but it's "whole" not hole, please learn how to spell please!
IM DONE BEING AN OPTION!❤. He will never hurt me again.
there was a time i let my selfishness push someone who really mattered to me away. i thought they would always be there, but, without warning, they were gone. i felt so much regret. it was a wake up call i desperately needed. in those moments of reflection, i realized how much i had taken for granted. painfully, losing them taught me to appreciate the people who actually care. it was a profound lesson i learned. thank you to the person who ignored me so i could appreciate what i have
You and me both 😔
Same here😕
wow, love to see this. A person who learns from their mistakes and tries to do better and be better as a person. That’s real maturity & growth. And self-reflection. We need more ppl like this in our world.
I am done being an option. I won my emotional independence. I won my self control. I am thankful to Stoic leasons. That teached me I can only control my actions. I stopped making fantasies of what other people are thinking and acting. I am the only interest of me now. Thank you for the content it is very powerful and true🙏
It took turning away from the void for me to become fulfilled.
Your friends are the void push them in and be strong don't put up with no shit
One day I made the decision to never allow a relationship to brake me again.
I learned to be in a place of neutrality and acceptance.
This video is so amazing I have to heard it more than once
Thank you to the creator
I disappeared for 6 years after being hurt all my life by family after losing my mom. I came back and I never got an apology, but have endlessly been guilt tripped and lashed out at. It's highly upsetting
They wont ever stop You take care of yourself
@lindasapiecha2515 thank you for the encouragement 🤜🤛
7 years no contact with 'family'. My dream is to never see them ever again, after years of disrespect and hatred.
@thabi_d I'm right there with you, I'm in the process of separation all over again. It's not easy but it's necessary. This has been the fuel to all of my music. Nothing but love to you, your not alone
Same here from my 2 sibs after mom died - in THEIR care - & yet they act like i'M to blame! Cept I've stuck around taking their bs, it's upsetting & I think I need to do this disappearing act - only thing is, I dunno if I have the guts to do it ... but what have I got to lose, other than endless bs & abyse? Nevr thought it'd come to this w family, we've always been close b4 (or so I thought) I'm done bein hated 4 no reason tho...
I did this. It changed everything. I was in a toxic loop and taken for granted. It is like winning yourself and transforming yourself into new version. I am positively proud of it.
Let you make the justice for yourself and show them their place.
I have a feeling as soon as I am successful they will be back.
If you do what this says, they won’t even know.
What if you r failed ?
Some people really don't give a toss if you're in their life or not & certainly don't miss having someone around, they simply move onto another victim!
Finding the 'Flirtosphere Seduction' ebook should be your top priority, even if it's the last thing you do in life
No thanks
This always works cuz ur worth is larger when ur not around for the bs 💯
I'm done being an option !!! This is just what I needed to hear. Thank you so much 🙏
❤
I disappeared from my mother. It wasn't about revenge, it was self preservation, it was too painful not to. She chose her friends over me, she has her friends, so she's okay. I just don't care any more.
I have been struggling to find a reason to talk to anyone in my family if my mother were to pass before my father. My parents are in their mid 70’s, and I’m fairly certain that if she passes before my father I’ll probably leave town and never talk to my family of origin again. I feel bad saying it, but it is true. It’s not like we talk anyway. I’ve been around them for 42 years and I barely know them.
Wow! A step by step clarity toward power, healing, and liberation.👍
God been showing me who is really my friends in the last 2 weeks even down to my family an kids I think God for showing me cause I got a great heart an it blinded me an I almost questioned God why until I seen my problems are over an there's just begun think you God you are the best 🙏🙏🙏
it works both ways .. what comes around goes around
yes but when the other person is toxic its a win
Never let anyone love you less than you love yourself. Always pick you over them.
I’m completely silent now for 4 months but he’s with someone already. I don’t think he misses me when he has a distraction. But I’m good with that
They have to find a distraction it’s a pain killer-
Trust they will circle back to you- you’ll get a call ( heat check). Of course this all depends on how long you were in the relationship.
The best thing is remain silent! Power in silence!! Let them drive the new distraction crazy ..
Have you ever heard of a Rebound?
@@MrBogeyman00 yes, but they can last quite awhile. AND she’s 18 years younger than I am. Sadly, I hope he gets rejected by her so he can feel this same pain, but that’s not healthy for me to feel that way. I’m working on that. Thanks for the reminder tho about the rebound. Idk if it counts as a rebound if they’ve been in them same friends circle for a few years. 🤷♀️
@ of course they are painkillers to get over the last relationship. They almost always never last long
He might. My ex wrote me after years that he was with other girls but I was the best.
If you’re treated poorly given breadcrumbs in your relationship, it’s time to move on if there’s no change and walk away and don’t look back. Don’t watch this video and hope of your ex coming back but watch you to give you the encouragement to put them behind you and only accept people in your life. That’s gonna treat you good
I'm done being an Option 😊
REAL TALK🧐🦾💯
Same
Your butt will heal and so will you
I relate this to disappearing from my friend group to be sober and evolve into the greatest me. Needed to do it. 1 day I just ghosted. ..
Excellent choice!!
Fair weather friends are the worst , I left all friends behind they weren't good for me
I was definitely meant to find this today ..!!! Thank you ❤🙏❤
I left him. I never looked back. Left with 2 suitcases and a backpack. Granted I have been able to keep some tabs on them and their activities without having to contact them. I've seen them go through these stages, granted without the social media component, but its been glorious silence without them. They attempted to have the police do a "wellness check" on me. They attempted to contact my parents. They were blocked, ghosted, phone number changed, address unknown, vanished. And I have been SO happy since. Happy with my work, happy with my life, happy with my independence.
This is a free therapy! Thank you so much for your videos; greatly appreciated! I allowed this for over 10 years and I’m now ready for SILENCE 😊!
Thankyou❤ your video saved my emotional and mental health im dealing with a narcissist 😢 its time to move on
NARSISSAM IS NOT ONLY A DISEASE, ITS A CRIME... THE MENTAL ABUSE I WENT THRU WILL STAY WITH ME FOREVER... BUT IAM A VERY STRONG PERSON FROM IT.
Dealing with siblings is the most difficult
Had to cut off someone I care about too. I feel grief but I do believe people in their life deserve better
I walk and disappear.I'll never be someone option ever again My worth is too much to be taken for granted
Good. I hope it haunts him forever. He ghosted first but i took that as my time to go no contact. He came back around in short time but poof no me. Two years later and he still tries to hunt me down. I've gotten exceptionally good at disappearing even though i live at the same address. Caught him driving by my house on my surveillance cameras just today! But all he can do is look at a house. Two years later. It must sting. Good.
Good for you😊
Good job 👏
Wow. Is the kitty that good?
When u disappear from someone’s life they move on. Most people are not gonna sit around and wonder about you. People by nature are self centered and pretty much care about their wants and needs. No one is sitting around waiting for you to come back. No one cares.
So you don't care either !
@tillysquire-hj6kk but he's correct.
Maybe in your world.
Many yes and others not. It depends on many things
I agree… this person was willing to take you for granted and
Put themselves in a position to lose you, they are certainly not going to start caring about you in your absence
I have recently walked away from someone who i felt treated me like an option and did not respect me, i am usually known to be hot tempered, known to use violence, aggression and intimidation to make my point but i didnt do not that this time, i confronted them using a fair tone and with my calmness....i was in control of the whole conversation which ended in them having a meltdown and crying to mutual friends but i didnt tell them i was done with them, but i blocked their number and social media and haven't said anything in 8 days and im going to treat them like they dont exist. A few people seem to be korey frightened at my calmness than my aggression. This video made me smile, thank you, i have subscribed and look forward to hearing more
And this is not a romantic relationship but rather a friendship.
Violence and aggression ?
and intimidation ?
8 days are nothing. What about now?
Dw bro it’s so common and alot of partners play on it
I'm working on me and the change is unspeakable. Thanks for this video
This video is so accurate, I am the one who disappeared without notice. I had to leave for my own sanity and health both physical and emotional. We are back together after those months of no contact I'm stronger, I have boundries and respect for myself no longer a door mat I deserve to not be taken for granted by anyone.
I once gave my all to someone who saw me as just an option, not a priority. I was always there, ready to support them, yet when I needed them, they were nowhere to be found. Walking away felt like losing a piece of myself, but staying was even more painful. Even now, I feel the weight of that choice-wondering if I made the right decision. How do you fully move on from someone who once meant so much? Any advice would mean a lot.
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There are millions of VALUABLE détails in Life... that you don t see or feel at all when you are 'stuck' into heavenly Love and feelings towards someone nearby. ... it's very hard, but lose it means you then are 'disponible' for those other millions of truely fabulous 'part of life' enjoy the ride into deep feelings and compassion towards other fellow- humans/ animals/ plants/ surroundings ;-) in fact it will make your life rich if you open up for it all. I send a huge emotional virtual plaster relief your way
... to heal all rest of any wounds in your soul
It's not easy but with time you get over it put your energy into something else. You deserve better you can't be the only one giving without receiving.
In the same boat literally
Trust the Process and Make a Way Out of No Way through the Lonely Tunnel of Darkness. I promise if you stay the course you will eventually come out on the other side intact and victorious with an overwhelming sense of peace and strength 💪 Godspeed 🛫
Please, just listen to your own words. You were with someone who treated you like garbage - why on earth would you wonder if leaving them was the right decision? YOU count - YOU matter - YOU deserve! And I have a sneaking suspicion that when you fully come into the knowledge of your own self worth, you won't have any problem moving on.
Stoicism reminds us to never forget our own worth and to look within to finally find true peace and happiness.
I am finished being under appreciated and seen as an option.
I’m a freshman and disappeared from a friend group cause I felt overstimulated and needed to be alone for a while, and it was due to something I found out. I let him know ahead of time and he asked “why” all I told him was “just something I gotta do.” This was the same friend who stuck with me through thick and thin of 7th and 8th grade. (He’s the Joe to my Vito for any mafia fans out there, and no he’s not fat.) This is the one time I actually felt bad about disappearing. The many other times I disappeared from somebody’s life were because of the times or because they pushed me FAR BEYOND my patience.
Every young man in the friend zone needs to hear this.
I'm here
I completely vanished !!! 2 years and 4 months now ! I don’t think they are having those feelings about me, I kind make a mistake and I told this person I will going to vanished from your life and I completely did it ! Proud of my self !!!
I’m done being disrespected and being an option
It was the final throw of the dice for me. I walked away, 6 months, zero contact, even missed her birthday . I came back, and after talking things through and giving my reasons for walking away, we’re in a loving relationship now.
Does no contact really work? She blocked me and later on unblocked me 2 weeks after our breakup. I was in no contact with her for a month, then broke it. Couldn’t hold myself back, since there was some misunderstandings and things that she should’ve known about. Now I’m blocked again. I now that she is going to unblock me at some point, but I’m not texting her from now on unless I get a text from her.
@Yksl64 take it from me MOVE ON once you get to blocking and mind games it's done save yourself the hurt and wasted time find someone worthy and decent.
@@zedddddful yeah you’re right. She didn’t want to block me at first, but I insisted. By the way, she unblocked me and then wrote a message to me where she asked if I was busy or not, she wanted to call me. Told her that she could call me, we had a great conversation where she asked about how my family was doing, and if my exams were going well etc. A week later was her birthday, all of this happened since I wrote my first comment. I didn’t want to regret it later, so I wrote a happy birthday message which she answered. But it was hurting like hell to act as we were friends. So I called her half an hour later and wished her the best and we talked again as normal. I tried my chance one last time. But she didn’t want to, but like I don’t really understand. I asked her, “if you don’t miss me at all, if you don’t care about me at all, why would you call me 2 o clock in the middle of the night and ask how I was doing?” I don’t understand mate, like she is giving me signals of hope, but then pushes me away. She keeps blocking and unblocking me. Like if you don’t really want me at all just keep me blocked. Feels like I’m in a loop right now. I’m the one who is chasing, and she is the one that wants to be chased. She is going to unblock me again, but I don’t have time for this nonsense. I’m done, I’m just mentally tired of this. I still love her, but I gotta move on. What’s meant for you will come for you. So there is no point in thinking and trying. If she’s meant for me, she will come and find me, but I can’t wait for her. It hurts, but maybe one day I will find someone worthy of my love, or maybe she will become the one worthy of my love. Gosh I still love her. I’m just praying to God so that she should be mine, and only mine. I’m from now on giving her the space she wants, hope she knows my worth. Maybe I insisted too much, I know by contacting her multiple times was a bad idea, but I don’t regret it all. Otherwise I would regret not contacting her and trying my best. You know what they say, sometimes you gotta let people go, to see if they are the one. I’m giving her the space she wants…
i finished being an option a while ago. i don't particularly care if 'they' miss me or not, i don't care what they're doing or thinking. i only care about what i'm doing and the earned & deserved reciprocation.
those people i left behind, they really don't care that i've gone as they've moved on to other people that they'll take for granted, take advantage of and/or manipulate. i'm nothing to them and i never was. i feel better about myself for having figured that out. i admitted my own mistakes, something they are incapable of, and i've moved on toward 'fixing' myself. they've moved on without any self-realization and will continue manipulating whoever will give them a minute. too bad for them that they lack introspection for positive growth. not my problem. i can only control myself and my abilities to promote my own growth.
i don't have time for the things that ail them. i can't help them because they won't bother to help themselves. i have a life. that is my only priority.
Wise words. Wise lessons. You did great 👏
I am done with being an option. A man who has lost more than what's good for him. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. I am doing my very best to find my innerpeace, strength and selflove.
Wish you all the best of love. ❤
I'm no longer a Friend, Family Member, or Dad of convenience.
Life is amazing and so wonderful because there's so much more work to do.
I always say bless your goodbyes; and never 👎 wish ill on anyone! That boomerangs you
God doesn’t do things TO you…. He does things FOR you!!!!
Now that they have shown you WHO the are-
BELIEVE them-
and LEAVE them!!! 🎉
There is no God that intervenes in the lives of men and women. We make our own way….good or bad these experiences are simply the consequence of individual choices, free will. It is an arrogance that an individual believes that an all powerful creator would intervene on their behalf.
Sometimes, you get to a point when you just can't take any more, and if you don't walk away, you fall away.
Unless you're walking away from a narcissist, they'll already have someone else ready to take over, they were already in another relationship but will just lie to your face even tho she's laying in his place on the couch, even tho she's already pretty much moved in, they will still look you in the eye and say they love you. Your relationship with them is like a play, when it's over it's over and they move on to the next one. I walked away and never went back, never called, nothing. Turns out he didn't get everything he thought he was gonna get, oh well, it was what he wanted.
I do it to protect myself. My mental health is what’s more important than their feelings. I’m trying to preserve myself no self destruct.
The truth shall set you free. 😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊
Im sooo happy I found this video. Finished a short toxic relationship this year and it was filled with fighting and negativity. Im definitely going to follow this video and apply it in my life. I still see my ex at my church but i avoid her at all costs
Thank you - exactly where I'm at - self respect -
I had to disappear for the good of my mental health. The last thing I wanted to do was to hurt my ex partner. I hate the thought of her being in pain. But we kept on getting back together after breakups and it never worked out. I hope and pray that she finds peace. I miss her terribly but know this is the right thing to do. 😢
Those that mistreat you are happy you are gone.
Makes it easier for their plans to unfold.
Genuine love and appreciation values your existence and will never hurt you intentionally.
My girlfriend of 5 years left yesterday after an argument we had..I feel it in my heart that this time its for good..even with this overwhelming empty feeling in my heart I KNOW its for the best I was holding a grudge from past wrong doings and I honestly feel this was God cutting the rope setting me free..im 32 years old and my journey only BEGINS here
Hi. I'm. Leslie. I'm sorry about how you feel. People are heartless sometimes . Sometimes I get hurt too. People just don't care anymore . Please care about yourself and your feelings. Nobody else will . Only you will and should care about you. You know my boy friend is always threatening to leave me. And I'm tired of his threats. Please pray for me. And I will pray for you .❤. You can message me back if you want to . Or if you need someone to message to . Love . Leslie❤
Also where do you live?❤❤
You two might make a good coping couple
I'm so done with this toxic person😊
I am done being an option. I'm done hurting. I'm done wirh abuse. I'm Done!!
I'm done being Cresha's option. I'm the catch. I'm in control now. Point blank period
I'm done. Being An option😂😂
I hope I can stop myself from being an option and taken for granted
I am absolutely done being an option. BOOM. It is done, and I feel so much better!
This sounds good in theory but the problem is you got yourself into this relationship because of obsession. It is easy to ghost or walk away from someone you just met or upon further review, decided you are probably better off with out. That’s easy. But what about when you have been love bombed, and it really took you in. Mentally and physically. And then they started taking you for granted cause the hook is in your nose. You know he/she is using you but it’s alright as long they feed the obsession a little bit. Walk away? It’s possible, but you may have to get hurt first, bad. It’s all a matter of how much you are willing to take before your self esteem has had enough. Love yourself more.
This is so true. Being Love bombed & swept off your feet by someone who once they know they have you start treating you like shit is the worst.
That’s the situation I found myself in, currently trying to get out of.
He’s super manipulative. You never know what’s truth or lies.
I’m kind of thinking now it’s just to feed his ego and there’s probably 5 other girls just like me in his rotation.
Humans can be the worst, and take people love for granted like energy vampires
@@FarmhouseFelts he's a narcissist that can't love anyone else including himself. That's why he needs so many people to love him and it's never enough. For these kinds of people, you have to get hurt to get out of it, but once you do, you will identify the pattern and stay away from narcissistic people in the future. See it as a lesson and free yourself.
Silence is a knife that cut deepest ❤❤
From your mouth into the Universe. ✨✨
Disappearing for me is a matter of emotional survival. Self respect, I know my worth. I am not an option.
Thank you for sharing.
You touched me greatly. My children are grown and we live apart...but you touched a nerve for me to wake up to the disrespect I've endured off an on for years. Guilt of raising them alone and more.
Thank you for reminding me that i am worth being....✍🙏🙏🙏♥️
Took me a long time to understand the importance of just letting go and walking away from toxic or demeaning relationships, friendly or otherwise. Do not settle for being merely an option. You deserve better and should attain for better
I am done!,,❤
Thank you
I have made it to the summit.
I am enjoying a new view on life and breathing pure peace.
Been numero uno for a while and it is beyond happy. xo..Grateful
i m done - i cant understand why so much hatred from people. I am disillusioned
never give up . not everyone is mean ❤ from Canterbury U.K. and kind regards
@@royferguson3909Everyone is jealous, that's my experience.
When you become dis ILLUSIONED you are left with the REAL
Spot on!
And making them realize what they’ve lost.
Yes, I did take him for granted. His family said, who else is going to want him. I had wondered if I had lost him for good. I was terrified , people were concerned about me. I was concerned about myself. A dream made me snap out of it. It made me realize our time together needed to end. 22 years off and on and no marriage. We were just not meant to be. I put him on child support. We are best friends now.
Habit10x taught me the power of quiet strength-this video nails what happens when peace takes priority!
AMEN!🙏
This walk way is very hard but totally worth the walk. Once I started to not care for validation it was a lot easier to cut people off and to realize when people want to bring you down. I know I’m better then they are but by my actions not by humanity itself . Thank you for the time and this video🙏🏽
Oh, l have seen it with family and friends.
I love this account! The advice is genuinely so good & so real. Has helped me a lot with the break up!
My entitled adult daughters ALL stopped talking to me in the same month. Coincidence I doubt. I’ve blocked them all. I’m not going to live in the stress they cause me. I get blamed for everything and all their problems. Not anymore
Same only my mom she's had me as her puppet since birth.
My daughter and my son have literally told me how much I have been a problem and I have not been a mother I have not done anything for them… I put there needs before mine. I realize it was not ever appreciated but I was supposed to do whatever I was needed to do because I was there mother. I am grateful for my children I know where I have gone wrong being there for them and pleasing them to make their lives better but they have used me my children have shown me that their happiness is more important than mine and they have no love for me I am hurt to be honest I am not deserving of my children hate they have for me. I over looked the signs that they have shown me but I don’t regret my actions I am not going to be a part of it anymore
I’m learning to be a better person and love myself
Thank goodness for this day of life and awareness of the importance of being alive and powerful greatness in the universe I am blessed with the ability of knowing that I am a powerful woman who has been through so many different obstacles and challenges that I have overcome and now I am ready to live my life as I am able and deserve
@@SherryHeyward-fc4yf it’s UNFATHOMABLE how we gave up our lives raising them and loved them and they turn out like this in adulthood. It comes out of nowhere. I went from having a loving family and couple grandkids I would give my life for to LITERALLY NOTHING. It’s like they vanished off the earth. It’s almost too much to bear. I struggle getting through the day. I try to move on but how the fell are you supposed to forget you had children and your grandchildren?!?! It’s traumatic to say the least. I wish you well and hope you get through it 🥹
Alhamdulliah I’m ready not to be a option for people anymore this is all thanks to my Almighty Allah☝🏼 ❤️ and thank you to the owner of this channel for posting this video may my almighty Allah bless you🤲🏼
I just watched this video and shared it with my friends. Totally worth it!