No contact works like wonders it’s the most powerful tool yet. Silence is golden take your power back and show people how to treat you. You guys help me your whole team thank you
He said "Hey" yesterday. I don't wanna respond to that. That empty text! This Man is cocky, manipulating, deflector, defender, gaslighter, and has moved on. Pretending to want to see me then when opportunity hits he bails. He didnt call or text when I was in town until i posted pics on FB coincidentally. Maybe someone told him, idk. But then I got the text. So now what? I am tired of his Mind games. He wants nothing. He hasn't changed. He wants to be sure I don't go too far away from him. It's been a day. And I am just TIRED. I am getting nothing from this but hurt. He has someone. He chose someone else. LET him deal with his choices or come to be right!!!
For me it's better that I don't give my ex too much information about my life because I want him to keep wondering what's going on. So if he calls me I stay calm and also don't talk longer than 5 minutes but always be polite and charming
What is we're in long distance relationship. We're in no contact for 2 weeks he broke up with me then he texted me last thursday to check if I'm ok and updated me that he's at home. And told him "you broke up to me right? And told me that I should forget you? Stop contacting me." And he said "Ok I'm sorry I will stop contacting." And never heard from him again...
Hi Amelia, Thank you for the suggestion! For on/off relationships that's normally the case because the previous issues have not been resolved. We can talk about this in a coaching session where I can help the relationship have some stability. Coach Samira
Please do a video “ why is my ex reaching out, and not mentioning to see each other or yet getting back ? “ why is he doing this ? Do i use a different strategy or Tactic? Should i stop answering? I Believe why should i ask to see him if he pulled the trigger ?
Been doing no contact for 6 months haven't heard nothing yet I'm doubting that I will hear from him especially he is the one who broke up with me after 2 years n his pride n all that's why it's doubtful
My ex and I text occasionally...but then, he stops texting me. It really stresses me out when he does this. He doesn't ignore me...but he sort of does. How should I go about this?
I broke up with my ex because i don't like his behavior i blocked him he texted me from another phone number marry Christmas i only said marry Christmas back after that he said nothing i know he's playing games i need you all to help me please
Ex being an ex just leave them alone cos they will only hurt you over and over again.She lied all the way through our year and a half relationship,so it was a joke to begin with,she broke up with me so stuff her and her man that she is with now,stuff them both.
What if he wants to know about the reasons for staying away from him. When things are already clear to him still he acts like he hadn't done anything wrong to you. And after few days less than a month he started noticing my absence. I don't understand him because most of the time in our messy times he was the first one to ignore or ready to leave or stop talking to me for months and it was me whose took always initiatuves to talk to him. But after spending years almost 12 years I realized his carelessness about me. Now he is trying to fix things only when with some work I texted him.he started asking to me what's wrong with me why I am behaving awkwardly to him etc like things. I don't want to explain anything he behaves like he has done wrong to me. I don't know what to say to him now what to reply..?
my ex rejected me, and now she is reaching me out but in really professional way she is trying to prove on texts that she has no any feelings, but if she sends me 2 msgs i only reply for 1 but aftre taking little time around 1 or 2 hours, i dont know how to react can you help me?
Hello I mistakenly called him and he called back and I asked him how is he doing he said "not that" then the call jxt suddenly cuts off ,I don't know wat happened but do u think I should call him back? Pls someone help me
What if they are in a relationship. But still texting/ calling saying that I'm always on their mind & that they still love me. & that "our story is not over" does that mean that they are just breadcrumbing me? I haven't respond in 12 days bc I felt like I was just a security blanket.. should I reach out? And If so how?
Hey all!! I did no contact and after 2 weeks she reached out saying “When so you go back to school” then I didnt respond that day and she then reached out the next morning saying “Because I would like to see you”. We made plans and we met up and it went AMAZING. I was making her laugh and smile like crazy and she was very receptive to everything. We would also bring up memories from when we dated and it was like we were dating again. The next time we met up she said she wanted to make sure we would hang out as friends. I reminded her that I am not interested in being friends, like I told her before she reached out to me. What do I do now??
P.S Before our second meet up she saw my friend in public twice and non stopped talking about me, without him bringing me up. She talked about how happy she was about seeing me and then when she started talking about our breakup she was acting sad based on how she carried herself - according to my friend.
What if it's your ex's siblings contacting you or checking your social media? I ignore them...its been 3 months and going since talking to the ex. It ended badly.
I have now bumped into my ex of 3 months twice over the past 4 days (when around other people) and both times he has ignored/avoided me despite us chatting casually via text. After the first encounter when neither of us spoke, he unliked all my Insta photos...Am I doing something wrong? What do I do now?
Can you guys please make a video tackling physical abuse? Like intentional and unintentional abuse where there wasn’t intent to hurt yet it still happened in a marriage. Is it possible to get back together? I haven’t seen a video about any type of abusive behaviors on love advice tv.
I noticed my ex 'liked' a posting on my Facebook then she followed with a text to me ' thinking of you'. She wants to freely date and space to find her inner feelings if I'm the one she wants. How should I understand this? Please help.
Yesterday I was told by my ex sister that hes sick so I decided to text him asking if he's doing good then he replied that am doing good and have get medication,, should I continue talking to him?
So my ex, messaged me saying he can not sleep for thinking about me having a picture in his head that i was crying the last time he saw me during a fight and at the same time he thinks about me laughing and smiling. He said he regret things he did and he is sad of what his actions from the past. But i was overwhelmed with his message and did not reply. What do you think or how should i handle it and reply to this text message.
What if my ex says that he wants to meet me? Should I say yes right away? Or should I ask for time to think? and if I do the latter one and he rethinks about his decision to meet me and says that he's said it wrong and we shouldn't meet! Then what will I do? Because all of these textings are meant for one reason and that is to meet him in person ,right?..I'm confused...Please help...TIA:)
This advice might work with others but in my situation it would only cause more issues. My ex doesn't answer my calls or texts right away which is totally unlike him so I know he's playing this little "game" too. He also knows me VERY well. He knows I have my phone plastered to my side at all times. I have always answered his calls and texts right away while together. If I start ignoring his calls and texts or delaying my relpies, he will know Im playing games with him too and he will probably stop responding all together.
Shawna Springall the next time that he texts you could let him know that you are trying to develop some new habits and that you thought you were too connected to your phone so you are learning to not check your phone as much or be on social media as much right now as you work on improving your life. Let him know that sometimes you might be delayed in getting back to him and that it’s not out of disrespect but that you may be distracted at the moment or just need time to process things. You could even be caring and add that if anything were urgent you’d always respond as soon as you could.
Hey coach, I completely bucthered the last time my long distance ex called me 3 weeks ago.It surprised me and I reacted terribly.She ask me whats been going on with me lately and I should of ignored the call but I answered when I wasnt ready to.Since the breakup up months ago Ive been acting very needy which prior to the breakup has been againat my nature.Even since she last called me.After we spoke.The following weeks was a rollcoaster of emotions for me and I unleashed all them on her.I'm a confident person with everyone but her.Its like when she reaches out a flood of emotions comes out of me.When im normally a very level headed and calm person .Havent text her for a week now.Should I go no contact? Even with long distance or have a done too much damage at this piont? Im also worried she'll fine someone
So my ex broke up with me yesterday. First he blocked me everywhere but then undid it. He said he wants to be friends and no one knows what can happen in the future but I still shouldnt get high hopes that we should heal and imrpove ourselves. I never said yes or no to the friend part but just talkes about our breakup (not begging him back). Now he just asked me how my day has gone and idk what to say. I thought id try the no contact rule but this makes it harder I neither want to block him. Maybe he really just wants to be friends or he pities me and makes sure I am okay because I am weak?
My ex blocked me on social media and stated that he wanted to purge me out of his life to get me out his system. I respect his wishes but he still texts me every couple of days very short and random things. Is this a good sign?
Should you respond during NC? This is the second time breaking up with me after 3 years and he blocked me from everything for a week and called me yesterday, I feel like I shouldn’t respond whenever he decides to call. do I still wait 30 days or call back?
Thank you for reaching out. Please take a look at this article www.withmyexagain.com/blog/begging-an-ex/ to understand why begging is the last thing you want to do. Coach Alex
I am recent divorced I left my husband do to mental abuse I won spousal support and the value of a car .now when he feel like it he txtes me good morning and calls asking questions I do still love him but I dont think he wants me back I'm so confused why hes doing this he tells me when I need a favor to call on him but I dont why can it be hes doing this help me please
Hello, my ex sent a voice message to me out of the blue after months of the breakup (he broke up with me). He said he’s sorry for not treating me well because he was incapable of loving and he was broken. He told me I deserve better and he knows someone will treat me better than him. By the message he was crying also.... I feel really bad knowing he’s sad... Why he want to let me know all of this after months ago ?
Do I contact him after he already reached out to me first and went out? I don’t know what to do because he hasn’t called me or text me since we hung out. Everything went good too
My Ex sent me some My country food pic n asked me what it is n some random things to text me what should i doo but she not saying that she want to be with me or work on everything after 2 oe 3 hours i rply her n then again NC next day again same thing happens its last 3 days now
So I’ve been in no contact for 2 months and he’s tried to text me 3 times even talked to both of my best mates to ask about me but I ignored him and my friend said that I haven’t mentioned him in a while, is this good because now he has stopped texting or trying what should I do now?
Hey coaches, I have been doing for one month no contact rule and my ex called me couple of times and included couple of messages. He has been trying so hard to get in touch with me. Last time he wrote me yesterday morning he wanted to see me however I was busy. I didn't break the NC and I think right now it's a time to get back to him. I still love him so much and miss him like a crazy. Please help me out how to get back with him..
I did the "next time" thing (she had inquired about this troubled kid I was tutoring and I answered that it was super complicated and that she should ask me about it on Saturday when we would meet). Comes Saturday and she never asks. Am I thinking too far?
Great video guys. Here's a question for you. I live in New York and my is from New Jersey. Every single person that shes friends with now are people that I introduced her to. I find out my entire social structure has been ripped in half. I'm having a really tough time navigating through this. I have found myself thinking and wishing that she would find her own group of friends instead of dividing up mine. By the way this was a 20 year long relationship. I almost feel like it would be easier to move and I probably would if it wasn't for my two daughters. She has gone on a crusade against me Illuminating every single flaw I have and sharing personal information I would never share with the public. Please help. Thanks sending you love regardless of your response
I am currently going through some trouble. My girlfriend and I kept having fights and I have been depending on her too much. She asked for a two month break, I have been following the 30 day rule. She called me 5 days ago telling me it's an emergency since we agreed to only talking when it's an emergency situation. She called asking for help, her PC had some problems, but she was giving signs that she wanted attention. But just yesterday she posted on her status spending her day with her "God brother" she even included a heart emoji, and then another status of him kissing her cheek , her sister told me not to worry about it. I didn't like it at all, because the way they looked it's like there is a thing going on. So I was thinking of calling her and tell that I am going to be in her town this weekend to sit and talk about what is this we are doing and what we both want. I do not want to get my hopes up and then after the two months she has moved on and I end up devastated. I really need your help on this one to know if I am doing the right choice.
Hi Coaches. My ex reached out two days in a row, it was short but she unblocked me On Everything. She’s a bit defensive and rude still seems to be a tad bit nicer than she was being before and more receptive. I did over a month of no contact and obviously now it’s over. So how should I go about contact now?
My ex is getting married this December. It was a mutual decision to call it off because her parents couldn't wait any longer for me to settle down in life as I just graduated this year. She has no choice but to accept the fact and move on and she's moving on. She eagerly wants me to do the same but I'm not able to. I miss her and the memories it's been 6months. We are still in contact. She wants me to look at her as just a friend. She doesn't respond to my calls texts sometimes when I talk about the past. Or when I ask for her time to talk once in a day and wen doesn't due to some reason I end up getting hurt. I feel if one wants to talk to a person, he/she will definitely take out time and talk. She purposely doesn't talk much like we used to earlier so that I can move on. But what I feel is when she ignores, I get more depressed. And even if she calls and talk once in a day may be for just a couple of mins I m very much Normal and I can move on easily. But even after begging she still does the same unintentionally. What do I do coach?
Hey Raj Chavan, thank you for sharing your story. Consider reaching out to us here www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so we can explain to you what you're going through mentally and emotionally. But what you need to do is to make peace with what happened so that it no longer shocks you. The more you let it have power over you, the more serious it becomes in your mind, and the harder it is for you to move on. Relationships end, it happens. What matters is what you do AFTER with the emotional trauma you're experiencing - Coach Steven
Raj Chavan don't give up. You never know, you all may end up back together, it happens. Only time will tell. Give her space to see if she really wants him or if she's rushing things, in the meantime do what you love. Marriage is a serious thing & if rushed it often doesn't last. So let her come to that realization
I'm doing the no contact....and today My ex was just passing by she came towards me and said " you just ignore me all the time.... " Pls help me what should I do next ? She's not on social media..Shall I Just ignore her everyday or should i establish contact ?
Akkhi saxena, hi, I am sorry to hear of your troubles, but there is a reason you initiated nc. Stay focused or be a doormat! It's your life so some of it has to include 'on your terms'. Best of luck.
Thanks so much Mr. Alex, please I want to know what to do, my ex just called and want to visit me in my apartment for a discussion. Please what must I do, it's urgent. Thanks
I need help .. my ex cheated on me . The women told me to call her she would tell me everything I want to know so I did. I was more angry after. According to her my husband of 12 years had been texting her and calling and she was told by a friend he treated her better then anyone... after I caught them I immediately went into no contact 9 days later he started texting and calling I made a mistake and answered which angered me more. I then screen shoot the texts and call logs and sent to her and said you ain’t that special . Well he is so anger with me and called me malicious. I regret what I did is it to late for me they are together more now I think cause she is watching his actions is it to late to do the no contact but now he will be afraid to contact me. I caught him July 9 on our 12 year anniversary
Let him go...no matter how much it hurts...if he is yours,he will come back without you begging or pleading.Let him experience life without you,and if he does come back,its because he truly wants to be with only you,not because you won him from his new girlfriend.Fill your life with new things,never text or call him,increase your value in his eyes by not entertaining him when he is not fully committed to you.dont be mad at the girlfriend,soon.enough she will realise how you get him is how you lose him and no relationship that lasts is built on a foundation of betrayal.stay busy,start thinking of your own future,put yourself first....and maybe you will find you dont need or want a cheater anymore.good luck.
My ex reached out to me after a day of breaking up just to apologize that he wants to end things nicely but went on to tell his brother that he misses me. What do I do or how do I react?
I have a question my ex recently dumped me for the most stupidest reason. We haven't spoken in 2 days and she blocked on all social media. Our source of communication was mostly on whatsapp. I started becoming deeply hurt that she blocked me on whatsapp but I let it be I didn't text her a message to her number nothing like that. I went out with my cousins the night on the 2nd day of her blocking so I put up an picture of my cousin who's birthday we were celebrating. She immediately unblocked me when she saw that and texted me saying " I'm glad u have a gf nw". Why did she do that ?
Scandalous Ill be honesty with you bro.Shes still thinking about you heavy.She blocked you because she was hurt.Anytime she communicates with you voluntarily after that is her indirectly telling you she still cares.Play it cool and dont overanlyze it.At this piont its important that you play the mature role with every move.This will surprise her.You should write her a letter telling her what you feel(not as soft as it sounds) and mail it to her.In it you should express your fault pointing hers out wont do any good.Then step back and leave it at that it she will call you within the week. "A smart man learns from their mistakes.A wise men learns from others" Good Luck brother
I'm doing nc with my ex because she was cold and hot with me, we will meet at the end of the month to talk about us and if she will give us another chance to be together..how should i act on that day should I be calm even if she will be rude. sorry for my English.
Hi. He just waved on facebook. I waved back He's not liking my pictures or status nothing !! Please Do u think i have to reach out or wait for seriuous conversation??
aquarius 2018 wait. if he truly wants to see how your doing or talk he’d call or text. radio silence or no contact always works. it keeps them curious. don’t let him think your always available. i know i’m a stranger but i’m going through the same thing except it’s a little different but when your unavailable it makes them wonder.
My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago, because he was frustrated in his profesional life and he said he needed to be alone and solve his issues. After the broke up I begged him to stay because I was in a difficult situation and I said I need him to be my side, he said he would be always there for me but that he needed to be alone. 1 week after he called me and invited me for dinner, I went out with him, he kissed me and told me how much he loved me and missed me, but at the end of the night he told me we can't be together because he still needs to work on himself. I got really upset and started arguing, I told him that he was selfish and that his love was fake and conditional, because he left me when I needed him the most. Again he told me he would be there for me and that he would call me and text me frequently because he loves me and is worried about me, again I argued with him and he told me to take a deep breath and that he would call me the next day. He never called me again, so I started no contact,Im in day 15 and Im worried and really upset with him, I deleted his number, I temporarily deactivated my facebook account and I avoid all of our friends in common, I joined a dancing class and I keep my weekly session with my psychologist, but I still don't know if Im doing the right thing, Im scared that he never reaches out and that he realizes he doesn't miss me.
Carolina Dillon you have 2 options, you can either reach out with a text that you understand he needs time for himself and that you respect that decision and give him space until he reaches out again OR you can just continue to be silent and work on yourself. It sounds like he will eventually reach back out to you but both of you need to be in a stronger place. Just try not to rush the process that’s the biggest thing.
Hi Caroline, my ex broke up with me a month ago as well but, in the worst way possible. What I can tell you is that historically your ex will never forget you, trust me you made more of an impact then you think so much so if you stay calm he will come back. However, as a guy I know where he is coming from. My entire relationship I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship because, I had some major dreams. My ex felt like she was never a priority, and honestly I have some trauma I have to work thru which was keeping me from getting too close to her; in a lot of ways though she broke up with me I am using this time to work on my emotional health and start new activities. I to dance, but as of lately I have added acting class, consoling, and have started to read a lot of new books. I can tell you fear of being forgotten or left behind is something I have lived with most of my life, one thing I learned read about in the last month was attachment style, I would encourage you to learn more about this and figure out which you are and which he is, in my case I am dismissive-avoidant and she is anxious-preoccupied. You and I are on the same time line but, I can tell you that after learning about myself and her I can communicate better with other of her type, and with that and practice I will someday be able to communicate to her in a loving and trusting way. From how you talk about your ex I feel like he is like me, as of right now I am perfectly okay being alone, I don’t reach out to my ex, but in my core I miss and love her a lot. I know it feels like he has rained destruction on your world but, when he finishes his growth he will seek you out, and you will have a new kind of relationship a better one. Keep your head up.
Ive been in no contact for almost a month now and I'm honestly working on myself and I'm honestly regaining my happiness. I've been posting alot in which my ex and his little sister has seen every post. He posted a few things subliminally towards me but i didn't take the bait I posted something positive and a picture of me smiling and having fun. Then all of a sudden my ex and his little sister deleted me from whatsapp. Is this a bad sign? It honestly bothered me and I felt all those negative emotions again but i have to stay strong and continue working on myself. Did he do this to get my attention in hopes I'll reach out? What should i do? Im confused. I thought if u loved someone you'd want to see them happy especially since he was the one that broke up with me
What if she contacts you and kind of leaves the door open for you to ask or to set up meeting. Because last time i got kind of rejected because she said she wasn't ready yet, and now im doing no contact again.
hi coaches, i love my ex so much and i know he loves me back, he ends up our relation 3 days ago because he thinks i'm materialist person, i'm not.. he said that he want women to understand him, we planed to get married in 2 months but he didn't want to anymore, i'm from Morocco he is from USA it means long distance relationship we were together for 4 years sins 2015.. he did break up with me many times but we keep getting back together, this time he blocked me everywhere and my family, i called him from different numbers and he keep blocking me , i create a number today he didn't block me but he didn't respond, i know he is now driving his truck and smoking and thinking about our past, i didn't give him chance to miss me because i keep calling him, i can't resist because i adore this man more than everything.. i don't know what to do .. help me please i'm heartbroken and keeping crying all day
I have to ask you coach Steven , my last phone call with my ex was in may 25 on her b day. I want to wish her happy birthday . She was cold . Then I said just wanna to wish U a happy b-day. Just a friendy approach . She ask me , swear on your family that you do not have feelings and just do this like a friendly approach . Then I swor. Now I have Done none concact for 3 month. Should I text her ? Affraid she Will think I dont have feelings for her anymore .
Hey Maverick Dallas, you're missing the point. She HAS to believe you don't have feelings for her anymore so that she won't feel threatened by the possibility of hurting you because she has to reject you - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Love Advice TV , must say I appreciate you answer all my questions coach Steven So basically I shouldt reach out ? Also must say I was the bad boy in this relationship . But she did reach out too me 7 months after the last concact we had . I july 2017 was sending her a gift . She got angry and told me is too late . Then in march 2018 she reach out too me . Ask me how i were and If I wanted too meet up. When I told her i had feelings she backed away. I want too give her my my number but should I wait? Until she reaches out again ?
Hi guys i need your advise, i think my ex girlfriend might be interested with my bestfriend cause most of the times there are always hanging out with mutual friends. How should i react to this pleases advise thank you
He rang me today 4 times and send 2 text messages,didnt answer..he said in a messages police stopped him and it’s important and if I can answer ..WTF...he’s calling me only in emergency especially now during in no contact..before we had contact and I’ve been helping him and nothing was happening he wasn’t willing to be back to me...so I’ve decided to go no contact and he called me 2 weeks ago I answered he said he has stomach ache😳😂and today ...I don’t know what to do to be honest..why I should help me? When he wasn’t there for me when my Birthday was 3 weeks ago..he’s not helping me so why I should be helping him..
my ex txted me his new number and before that we've been txting sometimes. his the one that contacted me first during no contact. is it a good sign that we might get back together? Or does he still have feelings for me?
Please help! I texted my ex and he replied positively, but now the convo died and he's not making any effort. PANICKING. What should I do. Help please. Should I keep making convo? Dyu think he's over me?
Hey Inaara-siaraa, No need to panic, you initiated and that's fine. Now let him initiate from now on. Do not text him because of your emotions now - channel them into something else like seeing friends or exercising! Coach Samira
Finally some adult advice based on being a genuine human being without crazy expectations that are out of your control. Thank you thank you!
No contact works like wonders it’s the most powerful tool yet. Silence is golden take your power back and show people how to treat you. You guys help me your whole team thank you
Silence is better than emotions
This stuff works because it’s basic psychology, take the emotion out of it and it’s very simple.
I used it on my ex gf and now I have leverage
Wow when did life became so hard lol it's so crazy
Wow. Boom! That was my mind exploding. I’ll stand when I take his calls. Wow, Monsieur Cormont!
He said "Hey" yesterday. I don't wanna respond to that. That empty text! This Man is cocky, manipulating, deflector, defender, gaslighter, and has moved on. Pretending to want to see me then when opportunity hits he bails. He didnt call or text when I was in town until i posted pics on FB coincidentally. Maybe someone told him, idk. But then I got the text. So now what? I am tired of his Mind games. He wants nothing. He hasn't changed. He wants to be sure I don't go too far away from him. It's been a day. And I am just TIRED. I am getting nothing from this but hurt. He has someone. He chose someone else. LET him deal with his choices or come to be right!!!
For me it's better that I don't give my ex too much information about my life because I want him to keep wondering what's going on. So if he calls me I stay calm and also don't talk longer than 5 minutes but always be polite and charming
When to end this no contact rule, if he is constanting calling since day 1..
HEY YALL SHOULD DO A VIDEO ON WHAT TO DO IF YOU HAVE AN EX IN ONE OF YOUR CLASSES THAT WILL BE GREAT !!
This channel is a godsend. Thank you. Thank you so much guys.
What is we're in long distance relationship. We're in no contact for 2 weeks he broke up with me then he texted me last thursday to check if I'm ok and updated me that he's at home. And told him "you broke up to me right? And told me that I should forget you? Stop contacting me." And he said "Ok I'm sorry I will stop contacting." And never heard from him again...
Pretty scary, but it's absolutely 100 percent true.
My ex text me that he can't forget me after a month of no contact how will I respond to it. When I know that he's still with someone.?
Would love to see a video on on/off relationships, how to handle them, get an ex back again, etc :) Keep up the good work guys
Hi Amelia,
Thank you for the suggestion! For on/off relationships that's normally the case because the previous issues have not been resolved. We can talk about this in a coaching session where I can help the relationship have some stability.
Coach Samira
Please do a video “ why is my ex reaching out, and not mentioning to see each other or yet getting back ? “ why is he doing this ? Do i use a different strategy or Tactic? Should i stop answering? I Believe why should i ask to see him if he pulled the trigger ?
I ended up talking about how he went wrong ..some closure as he said bye to me cus he's stubborn n probably still hurt.
Been doing no contact for 6 months haven't heard nothing yet I'm doubting that I will hear from him especially he is the one who broke up with me after 2 years n his pride n all that's why it's doubtful
Milagros Rodriguez it’s been a year for me and he just wrote me 3 days ago lol
It works!
My ex and I text occasionally...but then, he stops texting me. It really stresses me out when he does this. He doesn't ignore me...but he sort of does. How should I go about this?
I broke up with my ex because i don't like his behavior i blocked him he texted me from another phone number marry Christmas i only said marry Christmas back after that he said nothing i know he's playing games i need you all to help me please
You two are so handsome 😊
Ex being an ex just leave them alone cos they will only hurt you over and over again.She lied all the way through our year and a half relationship,so it was a joke to begin with,she broke up with me so stuff her and her man that she is with now,stuff them both.
What if both people are waiting for the other to walk back through the door?
Been reallllllly needing this! Thank you!
What if he wants to know about the reasons for staying away from him.
When things are already clear to him still he acts like he hadn't done anything wrong to you.
And after few days less than a month he started noticing my absence.
I don't understand him because most of the time in our messy times he was the first one to ignore or ready to leave or stop talking to me for months and it was me whose took always initiatuves to talk to him.
But after spending years almost 12 years I realized his carelessness about me.
Now he is trying to fix things only when with some work I texted him.he started asking to me what's wrong with me why I am behaving awkwardly to him etc like things. I don't want to explain anything he behaves like he has done wrong to me.
I don't know what to say to him now what to reply..?
So my ex texted me twice this week but he responds to my replies hours later and i know he is online. Why is he doing that and what should i do?
He’s breadcrumbing you sis
U all create awesome content.
my ex rejected me, and now she is reaching me out but in really professional way she is trying to prove on texts that she has no any feelings, but if she sends me 2 msgs i only reply for 1 but aftre taking little time around 1 or 2 hours, i dont know how to react can you help me?
Hello I mistakenly called him and he called back and I asked him how is he doing he said "not that" then the call jxt suddenly cuts off ,I don't know wat happened but do u think I should call him back? Pls someone help me
No, you shouldn't call back.
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What if they are in a relationship. But still texting/ calling saying that I'm always on their mind & that they still love me. & that "our story is not over" does that mean that they are just breadcrumbing me? I haven't respond in 12 days bc I felt like I was just a security blanket.. should I reach out? And If so how?
Hey all!! I did no contact and after 2 weeks she reached out saying “When so you go back to school” then I didnt respond that day and she then reached out the next morning saying “Because I would like to see you”. We made plans and we met up and it went AMAZING. I was making her laugh and smile like crazy and she was very receptive to everything. We would also bring up memories from when we dated and it was like we were dating again. The next time we met up she said she wanted to make sure we would hang out as friends. I reminded her that I am not interested in being friends, like I told her before she reached out to me. What do I do now??
P.S Before our second meet up she saw my friend in public twice and non stopped talking about me, without him bringing me up. She talked about how happy she was about seeing me and then when she started talking about our breakup she was acting sad based on how she carried herself - according to my friend.
What if it's your ex's siblings contacting you or checking your social media? I ignore them...its been 3 months and going since talking to the ex. It ended badly.
How about in a long distance relationship?
I have now bumped into my ex of 3 months twice over the past 4 days (when around other people) and both times he has ignored/avoided me despite us chatting casually via text. After the first encounter when neither of us spoke, he unliked all my Insta photos...Am I doing something wrong? What do I do now?
What if they texting responding to my accountability letter by talking about exchanging our things?
My ex texted "hey"...so, I ignored it. It's day 2 and I haven't reply since it was a vague/ careless approach to me.
Thanks dear this is what am in right now
Can you guys please make a video tackling physical abuse? Like intentional and unintentional abuse where there wasn’t intent to hurt yet it still happened in a marriage. Is it possible to get back together? I haven’t seen a video about any type of abusive behaviors on love advice tv.
Should I answer the call what do I say ? He ask how are things ? How do u reply to that or should I ignore it ? Should I just continue no contact?
I noticed my ex 'liked' a posting on my Facebook then she followed with a text to me ' thinking of you'. She wants to freely date and space to find her inner feelings if I'm the one she wants. How should I understand this? Please help.
So how long after they text should I respond?
Yesterday I was told by my ex sister that hes sick so I decided to text him asking if he's doing good then he replied that am doing good and have get medication,, should I continue talking to him?
should I write her a "goodbye" letter before going in no contact? so when she starts to miss me she reads it again and wants me even more ??
He sent me a love song from youtube i just dont know how to reply. Help?
So my ex, messaged me saying he can not sleep for thinking about me having a picture in his head that i was crying the last time he saw me during a fight and at the same time he thinks about me laughing and smiling. He said he regret things he did and he is sad of what his actions from the past. But i was overwhelmed with his message and did not reply. What do you think or how should i handle it and reply to this text message.
If your ex text you and ask you if we moving pass this or not. How to do with that
What if you live together ? Do u respond or answer calls? Or is it the same?
What if my ex says that he wants to meet me? Should I say yes right away? Or should I ask for time to think? and if I do the latter one and he rethinks about his decision to meet me and says that he's said it wrong and we shouldn't meet! Then what will I do? Because all of these textings are meant for one reason and that is to meet him in person ,right?..I'm confused...Please help...TIA:)
Or should I Waite after the no contact?
What if you moved states and you and your ex had a horrible fight? How do you get them to miss you?? Is it definitely over?
Is it same for who didn't break up but went silent
I work with my ex how should I act around him? How can I apply the no contact rule if we work together?
Just act professionally and only talk about job related things if necessary. Smile and just be yourself.
This advice might work with others but in my situation it would only cause more issues. My ex doesn't answer my calls or texts right away which is totally unlike him so I know he's playing this little "game" too. He also knows me VERY well. He knows I have my phone plastered to my side at all times. I have always answered his calls and texts right away while together. If I start ignoring his calls and texts or delaying my relpies, he will know Im playing games with him too and he will probably stop responding all together.
Shawna Springall the next time that he texts you could let him know that you are trying to develop some new habits and that you thought you were too connected to your phone so you are learning to not check your phone as much or be on social media as much right now as you work on improving your life. Let him know that sometimes you might be delayed in getting back to him and that it’s not out of disrespect but that you may be distracted at the moment or just need time to process things. You could even be caring and add that if anything were urgent you’d always respond as soon as you could.
Thanks ...this clip jas been helpful
What if he ghosted me? Should I still act inviting and not discuss that fact that he just disappeared?
Hey coach,
I completely bucthered the last time my long distance ex called me 3 weeks ago.It surprised me and I reacted terribly.She ask me whats been going on with me lately and I should of ignored the call but I answered when I wasnt ready to.Since the breakup up months ago Ive been acting very needy which prior to the breakup has been againat my nature.Even since she last called me.After we spoke.The following weeks was a rollcoaster of emotions for me and I unleashed all them on her.I'm a confident person with everyone but her.Its like when she reaches out a flood of emotions comes out of me.When im normally a very level headed and calm person .Havent text her for a week now.Should I go no contact? Even with long distance or have a done too much damage at this piont? Im also worried she'll fine someone
Nate Crowne no contact is probably best until things calm down
So my ex broke up with me yesterday. First he blocked me everywhere but then undid it. He said he wants to be friends and no one knows what can happen in the future but I still shouldnt get high hopes that we should heal and imrpove ourselves. I never said yes or no to the friend part but just talkes about our breakup (not begging him back). Now he just asked me how my day has gone and idk what to say. I thought id try the no contact rule but this makes it harder I neither want to block him. Maybe he really just wants to be friends or he pities me and makes sure I am okay because I am weak?
And what if the problem was from me what should I do 😔
My ex blocked me on social media and stated that he wanted to purge me out of his life to get me out his system. I respect his wishes but he still texts me every couple of days very short and random things. Is this a good sign?
Should you respond during NC? This is the second time breaking up with me after 3 years and he blocked me from everything for a week and called me yesterday, I feel like I shouldn’t respond whenever he decides to call. do I still wait 30 days or call back?
I also begged him to not leave the relationship again. I don’t want to look desperate for him.
Thank you for reaching out. Please take a look at this article www.withmyexagain.com/blog/begging-an-ex/ to understand why begging is the last thing you want to do.
Coach Alex
What if it’s not an ex but someone you were dating for a couple of months? Does this work?
I am recent divorced I left my husband do to mental abuse I won spousal support and the value of a car .now when he feel like it he txtes me good morning and calls asking questions I do still love him but I dont think he wants me back I'm so confused why hes doing this he tells me when I need a favor to call on him but I dont why can it be hes doing this help me please
Hey eve denava, men do things like this because of fragile ego. It's hard for him to accept that you're fine or better off without him - Adrian
He always tell me lie that hurts me so much what can I do
Hello, my ex sent a voice message to me out of the blue after months of the breakup (he broke up with me). He said he’s sorry for not treating me well because he was incapable of loving and he was broken. He told me I deserve better and he knows someone will treat me better than him. By the message he was crying also.... I feel really bad knowing he’s sad... Why he want to let me know all of this after months ago ?
Stacey Swope Thanks a lot!
Do I contact him after he already reached out to me first and went out?
I don’t know what to do because he hasn’t called me or text me since we hung out.
Everything went good too
My Ex sent me some My country food pic n asked me what it is n some random things to text me what should i doo but she not saying that she want to be with me or work on everything after 2 oe 3 hours i rply her n then again NC next day again same thing happens its last 3 days now
My ex calls through fb messenger once and i didnt pick up im waiting for another call, what should i do?
Text and ask what he wanted .
So I’ve been in no contact for 2 months and he’s tried to text me 3 times even talked to both of my best mates to ask about me but I ignored him and my friend said that I haven’t mentioned him in a while, is this good because now he has stopped texting or trying what should I do now?
Georgia Xx two months is too long. If you want them back you will need to start texting back but research what to say first
Hey coaches, I have been doing for one month no contact rule and my ex called me couple of times and included couple of messages. He has been trying so hard to get in touch with me. Last time he wrote me yesterday morning he wanted to see me however I was busy. I didn't break the NC and I think right now it's a time to get back to him. I still love him so much and miss him like a crazy. Please help me out how to get back with him..
I did the "next time" thing (she had inquired about this troubled kid I was tutoring and I answered that it was super complicated and that she should ask me about it on Saturday when we would meet). Comes Saturday and she never asks. Am I thinking too far?
Great video guys. Here's a question for you. I live in New York and my is from New Jersey. Every single person that shes friends with now are people that I introduced her to. I find out my entire social structure has been ripped in half. I'm having a really tough time navigating through this. I have found myself thinking and wishing that she would find her own group of friends instead of dividing up mine. By the way this was a 20 year long relationship. I almost feel like it would be easier to move and I probably would if it wasn't for my two daughters. She has gone on a crusade against me Illuminating every single flaw I have and sharing personal information I would never share with the public. Please help. Thanks sending you love regardless of your response
What if my ex is conflicted about taking me back. What can I do?
What to do if I don't get text or call from my ex?
I am currently going through some trouble. My girlfriend and I kept having fights and I have been depending on her too much. She asked for a two month break, I have been following the 30 day rule. She called me 5 days ago telling me it's an emergency since we agreed to only talking when it's an emergency situation. She called asking for help, her PC had some problems, but she was giving signs that she wanted attention.
But just yesterday she posted on her status spending her day with her "God brother" she even included a heart emoji, and then another status of him kissing her cheek , her sister told me not to worry about it. I didn't like it at all, because the way they looked it's like there is a thing going on.
So I was thinking of calling her and tell that I am going to be in her town this weekend to sit and talk about what is this we are doing and what we both want.
I do not want to get my hopes up and then after the two months she has moved on and I end up devastated.
I really need your help on this one to know if I am doing the right choice.
Ivandro Manuel Pereira you should contact me bro!!
Hi what to do if ex is aboard need advice thanks 🙏
Alex my ex msg me but I'm not respond wt he thinks pls tell me alex
Hi Coaches. My ex reached out two days in a row, it was short but she unblocked me On Everything. She’s a bit defensive and rude still seems to be a tad bit nicer than she was being before and more receptive. I did over a month of no contact and obviously now it’s over. So how should I go about contact now?
My ex is getting married this December. It was a mutual decision to call it off because her parents couldn't wait any longer for me to settle down in life as I just graduated this year. She has no choice but to accept the fact and move on and she's moving on. She eagerly wants me to do the same but I'm not able to. I miss her and the memories it's been 6months. We are still in contact. She wants me to look at her as just a friend. She doesn't respond to my calls texts sometimes when I talk about the past. Or when I ask for her time to talk once in a day and wen doesn't due to some reason I end up getting hurt. I feel if one wants to talk to a person, he/she will definitely take out time and talk. She purposely doesn't talk much like we used to earlier so that I can move on. But what I feel is when she ignores, I get more depressed. And even if she calls and talk once in a day may be for just a couple of mins I m very much Normal and I can move on easily. But even after begging she still does the same unintentionally. What do I do coach?
Hey Raj Chavan, thank you for sharing your story. Consider reaching out to us here www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so we can explain to you what you're going through mentally and emotionally. But what you need to do is to make peace with what happened so that it no longer shocks you. The more you let it have power over you, the more serious it becomes in your mind, and the harder it is for you to move on. Relationships end, it happens. What matters is what you do AFTER with the emotional trauma you're experiencing - Coach Steven
Hey thanks a lot coach Steven. I'll follow your advice
Raj Chavan don't give up. You never know, you all may end up back together, it happens. Only time will tell. Give her space to see if she really wants him or if she's rushing things, in the meantime do what you love. Marriage is a serious thing & if rushed it often doesn't last. So let her come to that realization
I'm doing the no contact....and today My ex was just passing by she came towards me and said " you just ignore me all the time.... " Pls help me what should I do next ? She's not on social media..Shall I Just ignore her everyday or should i establish contact ?
Akkhi saxena, hi, I am sorry to hear of your troubles, but there is a reason you initiated nc. Stay focused or be a doormat! It's your life so some of it has to include 'on your terms'. Best of luck.
Thanks so much Mr. Alex, please I want to know what to do, my ex just called and want to visit me in my apartment for a discussion. Please what must I do, it's urgent. Thanks
I need help .. my ex cheated on me . The women told me to call her she would tell me everything I want to know so I did. I was more angry after. According to her my husband of 12 years had been texting her and calling and she was told by a friend he treated her better then anyone... after I caught them I immediately went into no contact 9 days later he started texting and calling I made a mistake and answered which angered me more. I then screen shoot the texts and call logs and sent to her and said you ain’t that special . Well he is so anger with me and called me malicious. I regret what I did is it to late for me they are together more now I think cause she is watching his actions is it to late to do the no contact but now he will be afraid to contact me. I caught him July 9 on our 12 year anniversary
Let him go...no matter how much it hurts...if he is yours,he will come back without you begging or pleading.Let him experience life without you,and if he does come back,its because he truly wants to be with only you,not because you won him from his new girlfriend.Fill your life with new things,never text or call him,increase your value in his eyes by not entertaining him when he is not fully committed to you.dont be mad at the girlfriend,soon.enough she will realise how you get him is how you lose him and no relationship that lasts is built on a foundation of betrayal.stay busy,start thinking of your own future,put yourself first....and maybe you will find you dont need or want a cheater anymore.good luck.
My ex reached out to me after a day of breaking up just to apologize that he wants to end things nicely but went on to tell his brother that he misses me. What do I do or how do I react?
Don’t do nothing , go no contact unless he offers something more substantial. Don’t except breadcrumbs.
I have a question my ex recently dumped me for the most stupidest reason. We haven't spoken in 2 days and she blocked on all social media. Our source of communication was mostly on whatsapp. I started becoming deeply hurt that she blocked me on whatsapp but I let it be I didn't text her a message to her number nothing like that.
I went out with my cousins the night on the 2nd day of her blocking so I put up an picture of my cousin who's birthday we were celebrating. She immediately unblocked me when she saw that and texted me saying " I'm glad u have a gf nw". Why did she do that ?
Scandalous Ill be honesty with you bro.Shes still thinking about you heavy.She blocked you because she was hurt.Anytime she communicates with you voluntarily after that is her indirectly telling you she still cares.Play it cool and dont overanlyze it.At this piont its important that you play the mature role with every move.This will surprise her.You should write her a letter telling her what you feel(not as soft as it sounds) and mail it to her.In it you should express your fault pointing hers out wont do any good.Then step back and leave it at that it she will call you within the week.
"A smart man learns from their mistakes.A wise men learns from others"
Good Luck brother
Scandalous jealous she want u doo efforts to reach her but now she saw your cousin BDA n take it wrong
I'm doing nc with my ex because she was cold and hot with me, we will meet at the end of the month to talk about us and if she will give us another chance to be together..how should i act on that day should I be calm even if she will be rude. sorry for my English.
Hi. He just waved on facebook. I waved back
He's not liking my pictures or status nothing !!
Please Do u think i have to reach out or wait for seriuous conversation??
aquarius 2018 wait. if he truly wants to see how your doing or talk he’d call or text. radio silence or no contact always works. it keeps them curious. don’t let him think your always available. i know i’m a stranger but i’m going through the same thing except it’s a little different but when your unavailable it makes them wonder.
Great job guys!
My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago, because he was frustrated in his profesional life and he said he needed to be alone and solve his issues. After the broke up I begged him to stay because I was in a difficult situation and I said I need him to be my side, he said he would be always there for me but that he needed to be alone. 1 week after he called me and invited me for dinner, I went out with him, he kissed me and told me how much he loved me and missed me, but at the end of the night he told me we can't be together because he still needs to work on himself. I got really upset and started arguing, I told him that he was selfish and that his love was fake and conditional, because he left me when I needed him the most. Again he told me he would be there for me and that he would call me and text me frequently because he loves me and is worried about me, again I argued with him and he told me to take a deep breath and that he would call me the next day. He never called me again, so I started no contact,Im in day 15 and Im worried and really upset with him, I deleted his number, I temporarily deactivated my facebook account and I avoid all of our friends in common, I joined a dancing class and I keep my weekly session with my psychologist, but I still don't know if Im doing the right thing, Im scared that he never reaches out and that he realizes he doesn't miss me.
Carolina Dillon you have 2 options, you can either reach out with a text that you understand he needs time for himself and that you respect that decision and give him space until he reaches out again OR you can just continue to be silent and work on yourself. It sounds like he will eventually reach back out to you but both of you need to be in a stronger place. Just try not to rush the process that’s the biggest thing.
Hi Caroline, my ex broke up with me a month ago as well but, in the worst way possible. What I can tell you is that historically your ex will never forget you, trust me you made more of an impact then you think so much so if you stay calm he will come back. However, as a guy I know where he is coming from. My entire relationship I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship because, I had some major dreams. My ex felt like she was never a priority, and honestly I have some trauma I have to work thru which was keeping me from getting too close to her; in a lot of ways though she broke up with me I am using this time to work on my emotional health and start new activities. I to dance, but as of lately I have added acting class, consoling, and have started to read a lot of new books. I can tell you fear of being forgotten or left behind is something I have lived with most of my life, one thing I learned read about in the last month was attachment style, I would encourage you to learn more about this and figure out which you are and which he is, in my case I am dismissive-avoidant and she is anxious-preoccupied. You and I are on the same time line but, I can tell you that after learning about myself and her I can communicate better with other of her type, and with that and practice I will someday be able to communicate to her in a loving and trusting way. From how you talk about your ex I feel like he is like me, as of right now I am perfectly okay being alone, I don’t reach out to my ex, but in my core I miss and love her a lot. I know it feels like he has rained destruction on your world but, when he finishes his growth he will seek you out, and you will have a new kind of relationship a better one. Keep your head up.
gjshen thank you so much!!! You have o idea how much your perspective of the situation helped me!
What about when there are kids in the middle? Break up is hard like this.
Alex my message me but I'm not respond wt he thinks
Ive been in no contact for almost a month now and I'm honestly working on myself and I'm honestly regaining my happiness. I've been posting alot in which my ex and his little sister has seen every post. He posted a few things subliminally towards me but i didn't take the bait I posted something positive and a picture of me smiling and having fun. Then all of a sudden my ex and his little sister deleted me from whatsapp. Is this a bad sign? It honestly bothered me and I felt all those negative emotions again but i have to stay strong and continue working on myself. Did he do this to get my attention in hopes I'll reach out? What should i do? Im confused. I thought if u loved someone you'd want to see them happy especially since he was the one that broke up with me
What if she contacts you and kind of leaves the door open for you to ask or to set up meeting. Because last time i got kind of rejected because she said she wasn't ready yet, and now im doing no contact again.
If she is reaching out to you then it is a good sign. Stay in no contact right now and let her keep initiating.
Coach Samira
hi coaches, i love my ex so much and i know he loves me back, he ends up our relation 3 days ago because he thinks i'm materialist person, i'm not.. he said that he want women to understand him, we planed to get married in 2 months but he didn't want to anymore, i'm from Morocco he is from USA it means long distance relationship we were together for 4 years sins 2015.. he did break up with me many times but we keep getting back together, this time he blocked me everywhere and my family, i called him from different numbers and he keep blocking me , i create a number today he didn't block me but he didn't respond, i know he is now driving his truck and smoking and thinking about our past, i didn't give him chance to miss me because i keep calling him, i can't resist because i adore this man more than everything.. i don't know what to do .. help me please i'm heartbroken and keeping crying all day
What if text he misses you and has mad love for you ? How do I reply to that
What are his actions? Words are meaningless .
Coach Alex thank you so much for supporting us ladies ❤️... You r so smart and handsome 😍
I have to ask you coach Steven , my last phone call with my ex was in may 25 on her b day. I want to wish her happy birthday . She was cold . Then I said just wanna to wish U a happy b-day. Just a friendy approach . She ask me , swear on your family that you do not have feelings and just do this like a friendly approach . Then I swor. Now I have Done none concact for 3 month. Should I text her ? Affraid she Will think I dont have feelings for her anymore .
Hey Maverick Dallas, you're missing the point. She HAS to believe you don't have feelings for her anymore so that she won't feel threatened by the possibility of hurting you because she has to reject you - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Love Advice TV , must say I appreciate you answer all my questions coach Steven So basically I shouldt reach out ? Also must say I was the bad boy in this relationship . But she did reach out too me 7 months after the last concact we had . I july 2017 was sending her a gift . She got angry and told me is too late . Then in march 2018 she reach out too me . Ask me how i were and If I wanted too meet up. When I told her i had feelings she backed away. I want too give her my my number but should I wait? Until she reaches out again ?
this is relevant
Hi guys i need your advise, i think my ex girlfriend might be interested with my bestfriend cause most of the times there are always hanging out with mutual friends. How should i react to this pleases advise thank you
He rang me today 4 times and send 2 text messages,didnt answer..he said in a messages police stopped him and it’s important and if I can answer ..WTF...he’s calling me only in emergency especially now during in no contact..before we had contact and I’ve been helping him and nothing was happening he wasn’t willing to be back to me...so I’ve decided to go no contact and he called me 2 weeks ago I answered he said he has stomach ache😳😂and today ...I don’t know what to do to be honest..why I should help me? When he wasn’t there for me when my Birthday was 3 weeks ago..he’s not helping me so why I should be helping him..
You have a point. He's testing you. - Coach Steven
Love Advice TV Thank you coach Steven🙂should I keep no content ? I think I should...
why did he say "infamous" ?
cause he is french 😂
my ex txted me his new number and before that we've been txting sometimes. his the one that contacted me first during no contact. is it a good sign that we might get back together? Or does he still have feelings for me?
Please help! I texted my ex and he replied positively, but now the convo died and he's not making any effort. PANICKING. What should I do. Help please. Should I keep making convo? Dyu think he's over me?
Hey Inaara-siaraa,
No need to panic, you initiated and that's fine. Now let him initiate from now on. Do not text him because of your emotions now - channel them into something else like seeing friends or exercising!
Coach Samira