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one thing i don't know if i heard you bring up is that the specific restrictions around autism are very likely due to the significant overlap within the trans* and autistic communities. and if i just missed it, it's still worth repeating that anti-autistic ableism goes hand in hand with transphobic eugenicist talking points.
Yes! That’s the first thing I thought when I heard about these restrictions.
Definitely, there is a lot of propaganda trying to claim autism symptoms are mislabeled as trans identities when the evidence does not support that. Autism appears to be more common among nonbinary trans folk and those with fewer sensory issues, which means that it is unlikely to be driving incongruence. More likely, autism and trans identities are a difference in brain wiring that can overlap and autistic people are less inclined to hide idiosyncrasies/quirks in general.
It's a convenient way to restrict a significant proportion of people with gender dysphoria from transitioning while feigning concern for disabled people.
@TH-camUser RemainsAnonymous also since trans people are more often in contact with psychs- symptoms are more likely to be picked up.
Before I started HRT I had significantly worse social issues and meltdowns and the like, so yeah.
So basically, you can be denied care because you’re not “dysphoric enough,” but you can also be denied care because you’re “too anxious and depressed?”
What the hell.
It's almost like it's about banning gender affirming care for trans people.
Not to mention plenty of trans people find that transitioning ends up having the most positive impact on their mental health. Banning transition related care for anyone experiencing depression/anxiety (especially under the current political climate) is like telling a diabetic they can't get insulin until their blood sugar is under control. Or telling someone with a broken leg they can't get treatment for it until they're walking around normally, with a smile on their face. It's illogical, reckless, and cruel.
Catch-22
Yep. Even if transition would help alleviate your depression, you have to stop being depressed first in order to receive that medical care. That’s what Missouri’s attorney general has decided and it’s completely out of touch
The paradox is the point. You don't have to ban something entirely if you just create a standard for it that is virtually physically impossible to meet. This is the same tactic with voter suppression. They say it's not a big deal to require a government issued photo ID in order to vote but usually you need a birth certificate to get a photo ID but if you don't have a birth certificate you need a photo ID in order to get one. So if you have neither as many people do for a ton of valid reasons, you are essentially instantly disenfranchised.
As an autistic cis-woman, I agree with your assessment; that we're treated like we don't know our own minds.
As a cis person who was on a puberty blocker for adrenal hyperplasia 15 years ago as a teenager, I find the hysteria around puberty blockers being “experimental” to be incredibly pernicious, and nothing more than thinly veiled bigotry against trans people. Kids like me with endocrine disorders have been prescribed puberty blockers for many decades (since the 80s) without any controversy. They’re completely safe and side effects are minimal and rare.
@@rhymerlegend2717 puberty blockers are reversable, suicide is not. Alot of trans people experience depression but transitioning is shown to lower that depression
@@rhymerlegend2717 what’s the difference? The only difference I can discern is that in my case they were used to prevent potential superficial undesirable effects of precocious puberty, like reduced adult height, whereas for trans kids, they’re used to prevent potentially life threatening and irreversible pubescent changes.
So yes, I am smart enough to understand. In my case it was beneficial but not life saving, and in the case of trans kids, it is both beneficial and life saving.
You're delirious.
Morphine is commonly used in hospitals.
But it can also be used to get high.
There's a clear difference between people with biological disorders and completely healthy people taking drugs because they feel like it.
Puberty blockers were used to delay puberty that happened too early.
Now it'a being used on healthy kids to make puberty happen too late and completely mess their development.
In the name of some insane ideology.
Medicine for kids freaks people out, the idea of a kid needing medicine beyond Tylenol is literally the stuff of nightmares and they stop thinking clearly. I think the biggots are tapping into that. People freak out about kids with bipolar being given bipolar meds too, conservatives could create or magnify the moral panic around that too if it benefited them 😢
They live in a pollyanna world where kids are innately perfect in their eyes and if a kid is Autistic it is vaccines, ADHD or BP it is trauma or red dye, has cancer it's flouride in the water, is trans it is tiktok... maybe some of us are born different and that's ok? The kid with the genetic predisposition to cancer probably also has some fantastic genes that would have died if not for modern medicine. Darwin was never a eugenicist and his own favorite daughter died because nature is cruel. We are humans we get to accommodate for differences and make the world safe for everyone. .. not leave trans kids exposed to the cruelty of nature like Spartans
@Red Tiger I was prescribed when I was 7 (My mom noticed that I started showing signs of precocious puberty when she bathed me as a child). I remained on the blocker until I was around 13, and then started on hydrocortisone to slow but not completely retard puberty.
That is exactly how blockers are used in trans people, except at an older age. They prevent puberty until the child is old enough to decide if they want to continue with medical transition by way of HRT. HRT will cause the patient to go through puberty.
So you’re completely wrong that they are used to prevent puberty from happening at all. Trans kids on blockers absolutely go through puberty, just as the correct gender.
So there is no problem. You’ll need to choose another topic to feign manufactured hysterical in order to demonize trans people.
I'm not surprised people are framing this as "protecting kids from trans people" or "protecting trans people from themselves" because self defense has always been the language of fascism. The Nazi never said they were attacking Jewish people, but protecting their country from the threat of Jews. It was the same way with the Soviet's and dissidents, the US with Mexican's, and modern Russia with gay people. Genocide is always framed as a means of rational self defense from a supposed enemy that is dead set on destroying you or your country, thus justify any action taken against this enemy with "well they started it."
The uk is using similar language about refugees
@@Aarenby Great Replacement bullshit spewed by far-right neonawtzees is my least favorite conspiracy theory to get gobbled up by masses. I wish they'd just go full Heaven's Gate in that cult already and leave the rest of us alone.
Could you not draw a false equivalence between the soviets and the nazis. That's far too generous to the nazis. The soviets weren't the best but they're better than fascists. The other examples you used are people being targeted for their ethnic background or national identity where as to be a dissident is to actually be doing something so it strikes me as incongruity with the rest of your statement.
@@seekingabsolution1907 I think stalin was a fascist- I don't really think that's debatable
@@Aarenbyyes it is absolutely debatable. He was not a palingenetic ultra nationalist or a right wing demagogue. He did not as far as I know rise to power backed by conservatives and capitalists nor redirect anti-capitalist sentiment towards the marginalized. Now he was homophobic and cracked down on organized religion more than his predecessor did but I do not think that that alone is sufficient for fascism. Don't conflate authoritarian or totalitarian with fascist. What does "fascist" mean to you if it covers a half hearted socialist with a case of extreme paranoia and a decided knack for incompetence in planning. He did after all, defeat fascism in Europe. Not a good man, but distinctly anti-fascist, I think I must grant him that much, it would unfair and unreasonable not to.
Just to update people on activity countering this abhorrent decision: legal group Lambda Legal has issued that they are seeking a lawsuit with the Missouri AG. There ARE people pushing back, but we need to ring the bells so that it can, in fact, be heard by everyone and reprimanded.
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Heard the ACLU are on it too.
Blood for soil
It's sad that "politics" is mostly asking should certain people have the right to exist. I've been told there something wrong with me by ABA for so long I started hating myself to the point of not trusting myself. These "politicians" hurt people. It's not "politics", it's right vs wrong at this point.
When someone tries to make you hate yourself, direct all of that hatred on them instead. Sith lord this shit
As an autistic enby, just being told that I deserve being loved for my identity and not in spite of it hit home really hard.
This was a wonderful and brilliantly worded essay. Thank you for that.
it's because it's a fact, you really deserve to be loved, and you're amazing the way you are !
Autistic enby here. just wanted to say ily all ❤
Hi from another autistic enby! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Thank you so much. I am the mother of a transgender child when they came out to me. I was confused because I was uneducated. I love my child so much and want them to be happy in this world and completely support it whatever it is they needed to get there. I am so grateful for everything I have learned as I have watched my child go through this amazing journey, but I’m also so scared for them as they are for themselves and their community. I grew up in the 60s and really believed that in time this world would be a better place. I can’t believe that I am 60 years old and we are going backwards instead of forwards. I promised Oliver I would do whatever I could to support them and support the LGBTQ plus community, I know I’m preaching to the choir, but we are all just human beings trying to get through life. I
I’m grateful to you, Oliver, and everyone who dares to be themselves. I hear you.
Thank you for supporting your child ❤ It shouldn't matter if our kids are cis or trans, just that they can be content and happy
If it helps cheer you up, we did move forward a bit: before it was the entirety of the LGBT+ community that was getting this backlash for existing. Transphobia as it is right now is about equivalent to pre-Stonewall Riots homophobia.
We're moving forward, but the bigots caught on to the LGBTQ+ organizations letting trans people slip through the cracks while gay rights won a lot of their battles and now have powerful organizations and donors of their own.
It's going to be a rough ride for about 10 to 20 years, I think.
The world needs more supportive parents like you. Thank you for being there for your kid.
I really wish you were my mother. Would be nice to still have a family behind me.
As a trans adult trapped in Missouri for at least another year thank you for speaking up. I'm terrified I will be forcefully detransitioned, I've been looking into alternatives to access HRT if the normal avenue is stamped out.
Not suggesting anything but estrogen and testosterone synthesis is relativly uncomplicated if you have some o-chem knowlege
Oh my god I love the idea of prohibition-style moonshine testosterone.
I know this isn't possible for everyone, but please consider removing yourself from that entire region. I know not everyone can move. But it is worth considering if you can
@@2cleverbyhalf it's a distinct possibility but it sucks because all our fam is here and we have a 1 yr old. Fam makes it so we don't have to worry about daycare costs while working. Among other support. Still if it comes down to it we will leave.
@@JRSS06 I am so sorry you are experiencing this. There are a lot of people that want to help. Currently I am remodeling my house. I am finishing my garage to be conditioned space. After I do that I think it is possible that it could easily be lived in for a couple of months while people look for employment and housing. I intend to offer it up to people that are trying to get their kids care. California medicaid covers trans care, so it seems like a good place for people to come that are being legislated against.
my mom once said my autism was "tricking" me into thinking i was trans because "the autistic brain is the completely male brain". but i'm like, if the autistic brain is male, then how on earth can you say i'm not male-brained?
but then someone else i knew was an autistic trans woman and a psychologist told her she must actually be male (cis) because she is autistic and "the autistic brain is the completely male brain".
all i wanted was for my mom to stop calling me "daughter" and "girl". why does she believe that i must suffer because i'm autistic?
This is actually a common misconception, it's why so few girls were diagnosed with autism until recently.. It's so completely stupid, autism can affect anyone
@@rainkidwell2467 Yeah, the thing is that autistic girls are probably better at masking because society pressures girls and women to be more socially adept, VS teaching boys and men to be socially incompetent. AFAB people with autism wind up being accidentally handed a manual on "how to woman" by gatekeepy people telling them "how to girl" and "how to woman".
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ya but it's also terrible logic, even if the premise were true.
it's like when a guy told me "you're not asexual, you're just a normal woman, and all women are asexual". his goal was to cajole me into having sex with him, just like how my mom wanted to cajole me into acting normal.
I'm not autistic but I am a trans guy. The cishet, white, neurotypical, able-bodied, patriarchal view of every marginalized identity is that it is defined by its suffering. Speaking from a trans point of view, every story about a transgender person, fictional or biographical, must be framed by how difficult it is to be trans and conclude with either an inspiration porn narrative of them overcoming the horrors living as a trans person OR their sad but not unexpected demise.
Mainstream media, and most cis people out in the wild, have no idea what to do with the concept of a happy, well-adjusted, joyous trans person. (And I think the same may be true with autistic folks.) The reason why someone like Dylan Mulvaney drives the right nuts is because she's goofy, having fun, and expressing joy... not the narrative they expect or want from a supposedly deeply suffering marginalized person.
Stay strong and remember that experiencing trans joy (and autistic joy) is the most radical act of defiance you can do.
Sadly, they see us as forever children with no autonomy and undeserving of respect. People like that are best far away. Sorry to hear ❤️ 🫂
I’m terrified. We’re literally running out of states in the US to flee to. Thank you for the ending statement. I needed to hear that today.
we need more blue states to take stances on this.
Canada offers refugee status for trans people, I hear
@@RaineInChaosnot if you have an autism diagnosis, I hear.
California!
@@areit99 It's possible to "start over" in terms of a lot of medical diagnoses. I had to leave behind all of my medical info and documentation when I fled my abusive "family", and I started over from scratch essentially. I say this so that people know it may not be totally hopeless if they were professionally diagnosed as autistic. I was diagnosed professionally in the past, but my name change made it so that it's pretty difficult to find anything about me without my explicit and constant help + meddling on the matter lol
The main problem is the intense masking and hiding that might have to happen to stay undercover and safe ://
I am trans agender and autistic. Having to pretend to be a cis girl without autism was the most difficult challenge of my life. Im much happier being myself
True as a Boomer Trans Woman in America I thought I was only person like me. If I knew just 1 other person wouldn't feel so isolated. Plus being brought up in a religious family from what they told me GOD HATED ME. How's a 4 or 5 year old to feel when the being that created u hates u.😢
Thank God for trans boomers. My friends and I are terrified that we’ll be murdered before we hit 30, if we don’t give in to despair first.
Just knowing that you’re still here after everything you’ve endured gives me hope that we’ll still be here, too.
I'm a boomer transwoman post- op .
Liveing in a red state , I'm terrified I will be locked in an asylum soon.
There is no transitioning for me .
High five from a fellow autistic! It's truly nightmarish how many things exclude people on the basis of an autism diagnosis.
Tbh, I don't want a professional to diagnose me since because it would be a problem for me...
Don’t, if you don’t need it. I have a diagnosis but I need basic services and I found an organization to pay for it. Sadly my friend went for one, lost all that money, and the ass of a doctor said he had “avoidant personality disorder” because he was good at masking in conversation.
Hello fellow autist
Yeah I was diagnoses as a kid before I could remember I hate it I had no choice in the matter
@@mykaruest3620 I'm not sure how helpful an official diagnosis is anyway. Employers aren't required to accommodate you even if you have one, and there's barely any affordable supports for autistic adults
I'm a parent of a transwoman. She announced her intention to transition last month. There was no hesitation in her co parents' support. Because when she revealed to me her own self-hatred and sadness we believed her. We believed her the moment she said that she intended to begin transition and we believed her lived experience in the gender incronguency she was suffering under. Our daughter is a brilliant young adult past the age of majority, but had she come out ten years earlier, our parental response would have been the same.
This is what we were called to do for the person we raised into this world. AND IT'S TERRIFYING because she's an adult, she has a life beyond our involvement, and the world is terrifying in ways it was not before we became parents of a transgender child. I would not change a single thing about my child. Even if transphobic authoritarians in seats of power have targeted us for "eradication".
I'm well past the age where I had the raw potential for a happy, joyful life than she does right now. And I will fight for her, and her siblings, and your trans children as well. Because, we only survive as a community. As isolated individuals, we won't.
As someone who lives in a very homophobic and transphobic country, your demostration of love for your daughter moved me to tears. I'm a cis adult woman, i might not even grasp what your daughter went through ... but seeing that there's so much love in the lgbtq+ comunity always touches me. Thank you for sharing your story and i'm wishing you and your family lots of strenght in this very gloomy world.
I'm so happy good parents like you exist ::),I'm so proud of you and your daughter
Thank you for sharing this, Dezzy. Things are scary right now, and I know your family is impacted in multiple ways by events like this.
But in spite of it all, it’s so wonderful to hear you have a daughter, and to know she has a loving, supportive family who will help her thrive. 💙💙💙
There aren't nearly enough supportive parents like you in the world. Thank you for being there for your daughter.
Thank you for bringing light onto this issue. As a former patient of Zucker's who's dealt with his horrendous questionable practices, I froze in shock when he was mentioned. I'm just glad that someone is finally speaking up about it. I've had to just hopelessly watch him and his clinic be pardoned for their crimes, and gaslit into believing he was practicing genuine "alternative therapy". Him and his team were ableist, unprofessional and invasive and clearly had an agenda and experimental practices that they wanted to push onto us.
Fellow Zucker patient here! You’re not alone. Took a lot of unpacking to properly get rid of the bullshit he and his team put in my head. It’s terrible watching him be cited in studies and used by transphobes to rationalize their hate.
The side effects argument is so disingenuous to me. Should informed consent and transparent disclosure of negative side effects be part of trans care? Of course. But I will point out, I've almost NEVER been informed by doctors about the side effects of nearly every drug I've ever been on. When I was spiraling with mental illness (much of which, in retrospect, might have been a byproduct of living as an undiagnosed autistic girl) or disrupting people with my PMDD, I was quickly given birth control and multiple psychotropic drugs. The side effects were never discussed. I'm grateful to have them--in many ways they saved my life--but those medications can carry severe side effects, but that was never a concern of my physicians, or of a society sick of dealing with my mental symptoms. So why the fuck are they so hung up on the side effects of gender affirming care, which seems to get even more rigorous scientific vetting? It's just the transphobia, plain and simple 😢
Side effects and a chance for regret are kinda part of life. If they want to take that route, they had better enforce that sentiment on plastic surgery, buying a house, and pretty much anything that has any risk to it. It's disingenuous as you said.
Trans guy in Canada who had the privilege of working the a sexual health clinic that works under the informed consent model. When the doctor was going over the "side effects" of testosterone I started laughing. "Facial and body hair growth, voice changes, increased muscle mass, fat redistribution etc etc." Oh, please save me from these "side effects"! There were also ones like increased risk for heart disease... because it's a male associated risk. To the best of my memory not a single side effect was outside of what would be typical for any human with a testosterone based hormone profile.
Admittedly, the situation is a bit different for trans women. Without surgery they also need to take testosterone blockers which do have side-effects and risks specifically associated with those drugs. But all drugs have side effects and risks. And for many trans women the risks are far outweighed by the benefits.
Yes, this is exactly what I was thinking.
Im reading some stats that the US has a 1 to every 50,000 plastic surgery fatality.
There are countless medications, procedures, and treatments that carry gnarlier side effects, greater risks, and a greater potential for dissatisfaction than everything under the general umbrella of trans-affirming care. If trans-affirming treatments are too risky, problematic, or grotesque, then chemotherapy, SSRIs, MAOIs, and even knee replacements are absolutely off the table!
Yeah they don't tell you shit about potential side effects. The birth control she was taking for PCOS? Yeah it caused a stroke when she was 21.
Thank you for this. I’m a nonbinary person with a TON of privilege (an affirming workspace and family, financial security, access to healthcare, being read as cis), and this has all just been weighing on me incredibly hard. I don’t think I realized how hard until the end of the video. I cried.
Just, thank you so much for being you, and for your voice. You’re a beautiful human being.
Even if being "read as a Cis" is kind of a disadvantage right now
I could not have put it better. As a European, I didn't know about this specific ban, but the more restrictions you showed, the more horrified I became. "Never ending loop of bullshit" is right. You have to be isolated in a cave and constantly miserable, but not *too* miserable or else your depression is a "comorbidity". And God forbid you are anything other than able-bodied and allistic.
This is the clearest, yet most disgusting example of what NOT to do. The clearest example of pure evil.
That end tangent about children? Horribly right. They aren't protecting anyone. They're actively harming as many people as they can.
I’m a non-binary person who does drag in Missouri and this is destroying us. Our community is in so much pain, but there is still hope. This reminds me of the era when Prop 8 was passed in California to prevent gay marriage. I know if seems like we are under attack in such a way that the fight will never end, but this is just a rinse and repeat of the same rhetoric that every progressive movement has faced. Once we get enough traction, they start lashing out. But these are the last gasps of a bigoted movement that’s seeing and feels it’s systemic power finally slipping away. They’re doing everything they can to codify it while they have a chance, but just as Prop 8 was struck down, so to shall this attorney general. It wasn’t a law and it wasn’t even an executive order - the guy had to literally declare Missouri to be in an official “state of emergency” over trans people. He cannot keep us in that false state of emergency forever, and will eventually have to defend it in court successfully (something he wouldn’t be able to do) or end the policy. And it can also likely be ruled unconstitutional in court. We Will Win. It’s just a matter of time. But some people don’t have much time, which is why we have to be loud and make that time come as soon as possible.
I would love to see these legislators making the SAME LAWS for people who want to undergo plastic surgery... go ahead and see if they care about irreversible changes.
Exactly! That and what they do to intersex youths is so hypocritical. All these people care about is forcing sex onto people.
As a fellow autistic trans person, I watch what's going on in the US from a safe distance, but with increasing horror. Things are not perfect in my corner of the world either, but this is truly sickening and deeply disturbing, how these people can be so blatant about their hatred and bigotry, and society just ... lets it go. Or even reward it.
For a long long time I was a fence sitter. Ever since I’ve learned more about the real science about the mental health NECESSITY of these healthcare services its been wrong to be on the fence. I’m grateful for videos like this as a meaningful, truthful and entry level discussion
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I'm really glad you're level headed enough to change your mind when given proper sources, it's just hard when so many don't 💔
Mhm!. Same here.
I started that way too. A bit of the "but they'll never be 'real' men/women". Then I learned about imtersex folks, and how hormones can change the body, and how it's more of a kindness to accept people rather than argue about basic biology. Also, advanced biology and professionals in those fields who understand more than I do show how such a strict binary isn't the whole picture. Much of how we view men and women is more social than intrusive looks at genes or genitals that pretty much no one can see.
Sadly, I don't think this was an entry level discussion. Entry level is, "Trans people are humans who deserve basic human rights." And it's a debatable position in many places. Huge kudos to you for doing the work. Stay informed and get active however you can. Things are well beyond "getting bad" in the USA. It's actually Orwellian.
Some other great trans/ally TH-camrs:
Jessie Gender, a huge geek who covers trans topics as well as lots of SF media review/analysis.
Kat Blaque, a black trans woman addressing many trans topics particularly from an intersectional point of view.
James Somerton, a cis gay Canadian who does film/media analysis with a queer eye who has been getting very vocal on trans issues.
Shaun, a cis het (I believe) English video essayist who has been a staunch trans ally for a long time who has even coordinated a global campaign to get the BBC to amend/retract their most heinous anti-trans article.
I include cis creators because sometimes it's helpful to hear the same arguments from people outside the beset community. It sucks but it's human psychology. And trans people are a tiny minority. We can't do this on our own.
I'm an autistic adult and the anti-autistic ablism in my country makes me downright sick. Thank you for addressing it
Fr, alot if people still see autism the way it was viewed over 30 years ago and never care to learn more because they want to put us aside because they only care about who they see as "normal" they see us like an illness, a disease to be disgusted and feared, but infantilize us in the same breath. They dont think we are capable of our own choices because of how "stupid" they think we are
Already excited to hear what you have to say, because the ableism against autistic trans men has been a serious and increasing problem I haven't heard anyone else really talk about in depth.
This is a brief look at it, but there will definitely be a much more in-depth video coming out on the topic because I completely agree. I felt so seen by Ponderful's video on ableism and transphobia, and we need more of that conversation.
@@FinntasticMrFox it is a really excellent video!
@@FinntasticMrFox oh yeah Ponderful's video was great!
As an autist with trans friends I am not in the right state of mind to watch this atm.
But here's a comment for the algorithm.
Will watch later.
@@michimatsch5862 Yeah being autistic, disabled, and trans... I'm not sure the "ableism, trabsphobia" cw hasn't been enough to realize how these videos are going to negatively affect me. Being targeted on 3 aspects of my identity, simultaneously being targeted as villain and victim by these messages.... it's so exhausting. I would like to start seeing "autistiphobia" cw too, so I can better manage my mental health.
Learning the term "gender incongruence" may have just cured me of being transmed. Thank you.
I feel excited to have potentially witnessed a de-transmedication
Can you explain more of this?
I'm a minor on testosterone in Idaho right now, where trans care for minors just got banned. I am also autistic. I feel completely hopeless especially with things like this. we deserve basic respect and rights, and this is so disturbing.
I’m so sorry you’re being put in that situation. It’s awful. I’m non-binary, maybe autistic (I haven’t sought a diagnosis), in my 20s, and living in Texas, so I’m seeing the horror of what’s happening in so many red states, but I know young people/minors are being affected the most. I do remember when I was in high school, the mayor of Houston was trying to get the Houston Equal Rights Ordinance passed (it was turned into a referendum so the public was going to vote on it), and all of these awful ads started popping up on TV about “the dangers of letting men in women’s restrooms.” Paid for by Christian organizations that weren’t even based in Houston. The Equal Rights Ordinance, which would’ve protected people from discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender in housing and employment, was voted down by the public after an insane amount of fear-mongering over one line of the ordinance that mentioned not prohibiting people from using the restrooms that align with their gender.
I bring this up because when you’re young and you see all this hate that’s targeting people like you, and you see policies that would help you being struck down and policies that actively harm you going into effect, it can be hard not to feel hopeless and powerless. But what I’ve learned since then is that we aren’t. We are part of an incredible community of people who are in and of themselves, in and of ourselves, powerful. I would highly recommend seeking out organizations that can help you access care, such as the Human Rights Campaign or the National Center for Transgender Equality. There are so many people out there right now not only advocating on our behalf (and often on their own behalf), but getting things done, and taking it upon themselves to gather and share resources. Just know that you aren’t alone, even as these incredibly dark things are happening and you’re being affected so cruelly. There are a lot of people in your corner, and I hope you’ve already got some in your life, and if not, that you connect with some. You deserve care and support.
@Val your reply means so much right now, I really do feel powerless but it helps to hear that people care and have been through similar things. I'll look into those organizations, and thank you for giving me a little bit of hope
@@rhymerlegend2717 I shouldn’t feed the troll but here’s a little exercise in empathy. Imagine yourself going through the puberty of the opposite sex, unable to stop it. That would be a horror scenario right? That would be traumatic right? And you want to inflict that on children.
@@rhymerlegend2717 think about who what you're saying actually applies to
Hang in there kid we're gonna make it
I’m not a trans person. I autistic and American, I have loved ones who are trans. I’m afraid for my loved ones.
I'm going to work up the courage to show this to my mother. I was outed to her a couple of weeks ago, and this time has been incredibly tumultuous. While I live in the UK, and legislation isn't as severe here, it is still following in the usa's footsteps. My mother is a fence-sitter and is very reluctant to support me in this. Her lack of support has damaged my mental health greatly, but hopefully, showing her this video can eloquently show how necessary her support is. Thank you.
Thank you for making this. After spending the 90s and 00s in the closet, I was just starting to come out when all this started getting really bad. I went right back in the closet, and nobody except close friends knows. But I'll be keeping this bookmarked to show anyone who doesn't realize just how badly they're being fooled into supporting cruelty. You are going to change a lot of minds. I appreciate you.
Im an enby. 15. Born male, out to both my liberal parents, british and Asian-European. Mixed between chinese, Indonesian, dutch and english. My partner, a trans boy living in little rock, Arkansas who is also a minor is scared, I am scared. These bills and laws dont protect anyone, these just alienate and isolate innocent children who are being helped by educated officials who KNOW what they are doing. This just disgusts me. My heart goes out to anyone who is affected. I hope we all make it out.
What do you think we can do?
It's so important to have these conversations in general, but especially in context of how ableism is used to attack trans rights.
I had never heard anyone break down eugenics that way, and it was really enlightening!
I'm really glad it helped. People definitely hear "genocide" and think of the overt violence, they forget all the covert violence that leads up to it--the things that let such atrocities keep happening.
I kind of see it as catching a violent illness early vs. late in its progression.
@@FinntasticMrFox Focken exactly! People keep trying to conflate genocide with the semi-final step of genocide and it's starting to drive me up the wall.
17:04 that comparison between the "inside every autistic person is an allistic person" and the trans experience left me genuinely shellshocked, I've never heard someone make that connection but Jesus Christ it makes so much sense.
Like I fully paused the video and went and sat on my bed for a few minutes just processing that line....bloody hell.
Great video, thank you. As a Transwoman, I cannot believe how there can be so many gullible people taken in by this anti Trans rhetoric.
@@georgeanthony4834 "I'm mad at parts of speech and am obsessed with other peoples genitals" - you.
@@coal9205 Why are you obsessed with other peoples genitals? that seems a strange admission.
Thank you so much for making this, I live in Texas and things have been scary here for a long time and are getting scarier. And what’s happening in Missouri is even worse. This tactic of weaponizing ableism to promote transphobia and delegitimize trans identities has really started to proliferate in scary ways. For decades the transphobic thought was “‘feeling trans’ is in and of itself a mental disorder, for which the only treatment is conversion therapy.” Growing now is the idea that “‘feeling trans’ is linked to other distinct mental disorders, such as autism, and thus being autistic makes you vulnerable to ‘gender ideology.’” And the reality is autism and being trans are highly correlated, and we don’t know exactly why. But what we need to make exceedingly clear is that a lot of autistic people being trans doesn’t mean a lot of autistic people are “confused” or “wrong about their identity,” a lot of autistic people just are trans. We understand that about ourselves, and become more comfortable in ourselves when we are able to self-identify and when others respect our identities and who we are. No person who is experiencing gender dysphoria or who believes they may be trans or who knows they are trans will be helped by others trying to take control of their own choices, their own identities, their own bodies. I haven’t sought a diagnosis but I believe I am autistic myself, and I know there’s a disconnect for a lot of us between how we know ourselves to be and how others perceive us. People don’t understand the way we think, why we act the way we do, why we speak the way we do. Neurotypical people especially just often don’t get us. The very least people can do is respect us, and listen to us when we tell them who we are, how our minds work, how our identities work. We generally know ourselves pretty well, and we are all students of how other people (neurotypical people) are, who they are, how they behave, how they think. Often the rest of the world doesn’t understand us, doesn’t understand autistic people, and would rather try to control us than listen to us.
Yes! Spot on. They really love to tell us what we're feeling instead of listening when we try to communicate.
Being autistic and having joint hypermobility are also correlated, but we don't say autistic folks are being socially manipulated into getting their joints all twisted up.
@@laurelgardner Lol! Sorry, I'm autistic, trans, and have joint hypermobility as well! I'm sure it's all social manipulation. /s
@@laurelgardner WAIT THAT'S A THING???????
Hi, I'm wonky knees with the worse one surgically reinforced at 14, still have to watch how I take stairs so no kneecaps attempt to break out of ligament prison.
Knowing that there's a correlation is weirdly cool, I always suspected I had it (the knees kinda gave it away and knee specialist jiggling my kneecap and going "I've never seen one that loose before" was. An interesting experience.) but I never looked for an official dx because there's already enough wrong with my legs for disability assistance.
I'm an autistic individual myself and while I can't really speak for all autistic people, the reason with being in the LGBTQ+ community could possibly be linked to autism is because many autistic people are extremely emotionally intelligent. Even in the more severe cases, a lot of those individuals have a very keen sense of empathy and can sense human emotion. (The barrier between autistic people and showing empathy to neurotypicals is the fact that neurotypicals don't like/understand how autistic people show empathy.)
Being emotionally in tune with yourself and the people around you can essentially allow you to accept things about yourself that other people who aren't as emotionally intelligent/in tune with themselves can't. In society it's very ingrained that being gay/trans is wrong yet most people who truely ask themselves as to why can't really come up with an actually good reason as to why that stigma is well-deserved. (And no, your niche religion doesn't count.) And I think that's why the two groups correlate; if you're more emotionally intelligent and open to yourself and who you are as a person, you'll naturally accept yourself. Extra points if society doesn't accept you for being autistic. Why follow societal expectations if you were already damned to being categorized in a negative light and being persecuted for something you were just born with?
(I'm not a psychologist, so please take my words with a grain of salt. What I've stated is just a theory.) ^^^
Thank you for referencing that decent followup study explicitly. Now I have a video I can send people to when they start bringing up the _Irreversible Damage_ one. The Missouri BS is scary; the restrictions are insulting and it's very obviously targeted at preventing transition. I hadn't even considered price as a limiting factor, but you're absolutely right. And yeah, I'm pissed. Our healthcare in the US is horrible enough without states pursuing this crap.
@strongestgamer2501 this is, quite possibly, the most absurd take you could have regarding mental healthcare
@@strongestgamer2501 Ironically, yes it will. Speaking from Canada, a country that ain't ass-backward in healthcare even if it's not perfect:
I can go out and walk to my CSSRN right now, and request an interview with a social worker, a nurse who has some mental health care training, or get whichever kids' specialist (they share a building) that has 30 minutes free to talk about just about any concern I have and get in the pretty short waiting list for someone who can help me find coping strategies, help me unpack some bad shit I picked up, and help direct me to more specialized groups in town.
For *free*. The longest I've waited for a social worker was 6 months and I specified that it wasn't urgent at all, I just wanted to unfuck my brain a bit and get some good coping. The time I was actively thinking about game overing one of the workers who was on her break walked me to the ER and made sure I got triaged for an emergency psych eval.
So yes, healthcare resolves mental problems. Who'dathunk.
As someone who lives in a country where most people look down on anything queer, it's so nice to see so many supportive people in my recommendations and just generally online
Thank you for letting me informed about the situation. And much strength to all of us LGBTQIA+ people, specially you guys
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Depression and anxiety aren't things that just easily resolve. It's life long for some people, therapy is expensive, and I've personally lost a therapist a year into treatment TWICE. (One because the companies insurance changed, the other because my cellphone dropped the call too many times due to being in a bad service area) It's like they don't understand mental health at all. They really are making impossible barriers.
It hurts that even where I live, in a very progressive area, that ableism is still blatantly everywhere. The label “autism” is often used to describe anyone in place of the word stupid. A classmate having trouble with a math problem, for example, got sarcastically told “i dunno, maybe you’re just autistic.” in broad daylight. A friend who’s bored and messing with sticks, tapping on a metal pole - “bro, you look f-- autistic.”
This is in an area where being trans or gay is beyond completely accepted, beyond tolerated - I’d say exceptionally so. In this same area, I tired calling someone out for using the R slur, “hey, don’t say that. That’s a slur.” “I know, that’s why I’m using it.”
It’s painful, because despite how far support for trans and gay people has come, support for (especially neurologically) disabled people has barely started to bud. Even on broader online spaces.
I do enjoy the look on the abelist leftist face when i point out that i am in fact R word and they realise they just committed a hate crime
It's because the LGB community have been co-opted by capitalism into rainbow capitalism forcing them to abandon youths to not appear like "a groomer" so they may retain their acceptance, allowing the paternalistic nature for youths and therefore disabled people to flourish. The Trans community just hasn't had the time to break away from the influence since for the longest time it was LGBTQ+.
I'm from the UK and they tried to use my autism hault my transition, I ended up having to self med to force them to actually treat me. Afterwards they gas lit me and said they weren't doing it. Feel as soon as autism came up I became someone who "didn't know best" -.-
Yeah i have mixed feelings about seeking dx. Part of me thinks Harvey Milk thoughts like we all gotta come out so they see the full range of ND... but the other part of me knows to dilute stigma and prejudice is to submerge yourself in it and I'm scared
I got the ADHD dx so all the accommodations can come under that, and the stigma is the opposite, people think it doesn't exist and you're 200% average and in denial
A potent reminder for me, as a cis person its all too easy for me to slip back into regressive and hegemonic ways of thinking especially when im feeling isolated. Gotta remember to text my trans friends
Yeah, on the face of it "caring for the children" sounds noble. Though it all depends on how that care gets administered and doled out. Definitely check in on your trans friends. As a side note to that, they are friends who happen to be trans. If they want to talk about their experiences of being trans, cool. I've gone too far at times with my own friends, which came across as tokenizing to them because I was mostly curious about their unique experience. They had to remind me that they aren't there for me to mine for information and treat like some endangered species. I feel like I'm doing a sloppy job of explaining, but I hope the sentiment came across.
@@violetchristophe I get what you mean, I think I more meant that without direct contact its easier to abstract people different from you and that spending time with them naturally breeds an empathy and connection that can be used to refute and resist the aforementioned hegemonic views. I dont intend to badger my trans friends abt their transness lmao but more so just want to spend time with them and be present in their lives (bcuz theyre cool but also cuz like I said it helps me resist regressive thinking). Hearing Finn talk about his personal experience and feelings hit my brain like water into the grooves of an old dried river bed and reminded me just how long its been since it rained ya know?
@@noobotron200 For sure, having a diverse friend group definitely breeds empathy and helps one see things they otherwise wouldn't on their own.
I wasn't meaning to come down on you. Moreso just passing on something I learned from my own limited experience. Sounds like you're a good friend and ally.
Thank you for talking about this. I live in Missouri. My boyfriend is a trans man and I was planning on beginning my transition sometime soon. It's absolutely terrifying being here sometimes.
I'm sorry, kids were counted as desisters if they LEFT THE STUDY? That is staggeringly dishonest. Wow.
Skipping this one for my mental health (for now), but I still wanted to leave a comment. Thank you for talking about this. Remember to take care of yourself too
Thank you for the reminder, and for prioritizing your mental health. This definitely is one to skip if you're affected directly or just not in the headspace for the topic. 💙
I love you so much, Finn! I was afraid of watching this because I thought it would hurt too much. I told myself "trust Finn, he's very capable". Yes, I was in tears by the end, but felt hopeful rather than broken. I am so glad you are in the world, and sharing your truth. 💓
I really have no patience for politicians not allowing anyone access to healthcare for any reason, especially while several states literally have laws on the books which make it perfectly legal to commit r^pe if you do it as a cop, New York included.
Here in FL they just extended the "dont say gay" bill to 12th grade. So now any talk about gender identity is banned at school.
As it should be.
@@deece1482 What's the go to way a kid will refer to their teacher? Miss, Mr, Mrs. etc. Do you know what that is? A gender marker.
Are you one of those people that think that genders are something only trans people have?
Ignore the transphobic fuckwits in the comments. They have never said anything important in their entire lives.
Then they need to stop saying that this bill is for “protecting children” because most 12th graders are 18/turn 18 before the year ends. 18 is legal adulthood. That’s just hiding things from adults.
@@deece1482 "Are you a boy or girl?", *shakes head.
*triggered christian fascist noises.
Living in MO right now. Spent most of my life in TX. This stuff keeps me up at night. This, and the efforts to have cisgender people report their Trans peers on official government registry sites. I have nightmares about this stuff... Trans people can't just stop being Trans people because our Healthcare and rights to identify as we want are stripped away. We will always exist. To stop us from being Trans, they'd have to kill us. It's scary.
One of the silliest things about fearmongering about the side effects of HRT is that 90% of the side effects that horrify cis people are the reasons for taking HRT in the first place: feminization and masculinization. The thing they're afraid of is trans people existing.
I once saw "Breast enlargement" and "Fat redistribution" as a claimed "side effect" for mtf hormone therapy by a cis guy arguing against that hormone therapy, like- bro that's literally an intended effect of HRT??
😢 Thank you for this. I've been experiencing genocide from people claiming to love me and it feels like a bigger version of cPTSD that's seemingly inescapable. Trying to find strength in the turmoil but it's been rough, really rough.
You're experiencing genocide? How many times have you died so far? Do you have multiple personality disorder? Cos genocide means killing a lot of people. You're proof trans people are being dramatic.
They're trying to screw up gen z as much as possible while also ensuring gen a is groomed into the next boomer.
Autistic trans men/queer men are seen as invisible in the broader community, and while I'm glad that we're finally being recognized, I'm heartbroken that it comes with this belligerent hatred. It hurts to know that so many of us are silenced or barred from speaking because of ableism or transphobia.
Your videos continue to be a blessing Finn. Dog bless.
I am on T now, but the amount of anti Autistic ableism I've either faced or heard during my process to start medically transitioning is awful. It's one of the many ways in which Autistic people are infantilised, and treated as if we are unable to make any informed decisions for ourselves.
Some of the things I've been told by medical/mental health "professionals":
- "you know yourself very well ... for someone with autism" ~my gender therapist
- "transitioning should be a lot easier, except for people with autism" ~my endocrinologist
- "are you sure your autism diagnosis is still accurate? You don't look autistic." ~my psychiatrist
And that's not to mention the fact that they thought I didn't struggle a lot, after my first appointment, BECAUSE I WAS HEAVILY MASKING and also, struggling with expressing emotion is a very common Autistic trait ..
But luckily I was still able to access medical transition, which, I honestly don't know how much longer I could've gone without it. I don't think I would've been able to cope if I had been told I would never be allowed to access the care that I need.
Btw I would not be surprised at all if they focused so much on Autistic people *because* of the fact that many of us are trans, which is something that studies are increasingly shedding a light on. I don't see any of them focusing on ADHD, or other neurodivergencies.
I'm in Australia. I'm non-binary (genderfluid) and my child is transmasc non binary. They're also autistic. I will fight tooth and nail to protect them from the bible belt wearing Autism Speaks mentality. I'm lucky to be in a state where you medical transition isn't required to change your gender on your birth certificate. I'm counting my blessings but ever aware of how much Australia is the lapdog of the USA. We saw the signs in Melbourne. We drowned them out in Hobart. My family saw the devastation of genocide and fascism a mere 90 years ago. We were displaced before coming to Australia for Germany. I saw the hate during the first waves AIDS epidemic. (Interesting times to come out queer, I may add.) Their rhetoric is same shit, different decade and in a far more dangerous quantity. Keep on educating and speaking out.
I'm Canadian as well and a Mom to a trans son. What's happening in the U.S sends chills down my spine & breaks my heart. I asked my son the other day how he felt about what's going on in Florida. He told me it used to be bad enough to face hatred & discrimination but now they want to eradicate us all together. They either want us to go underground or dead. His words hit me hard. Here's this wonderful human who has gone thru so much already at only 19 & he has to conteplate this type of darkness. My heart aches for all trans people at this time especially our youth. All they want is to be comfortable in their skin and to live as themselves & to be happy. Just like any of us do. And they deserve to be happy!
It is horrible, no one should have to process this, let alone youth. Supportive parents like you make a world of difference, though. 🩵
@@FinntasticMrFox I agree. And thankyou! ❤
@@rhymerlegend2717 no, he's my son. Trans male. (He/him).
As a trans nonbinary person, the ending of this video hit hard. The bills getting passed has increased my anxiety, which in turn has been worsening my depression. How I've been staying up tondate while still watching after my mental health has been sort of a balancing act.
Thank you for making this! Anger can be a very useful emotion and I think this is very much the right way to use it. 💜
I hope more people see this. I have a lot of both LGBT+ and Neurodiverse friends living in the United States. Most of them are furries like myself, too. If these trends continue, we'll be among some of the first to be hunted down, marginalized, and brutalized. Stay strong, America. And never give up your hopes and dreams, or your freedom. Much love, from Finland.
Furries are so cool xd. I like to do some furry art when my moved out. Unfortunately my Step-dad is not very educated with Furries and think they are freaky :((
I'm a full grown ass trans man, probably older than you are and not Missouran, not even American, however so dark are the times and so familiar the tune of our oppressor, that I offer my sincerest grace and thanks for your cogent clear and orderly response to this madness transpiring. My only community, for now, is online and people like you really keep my going and keeping my back straight and my chin up in my transness. Thank you man.
@@strongestgamer2501
Ableist.
@@paulanaylor3548 please explain my error, there was no intended slander of autism in my response. I was merely praising the creator as cogent voice in this conversation are desperately needed. What is it I said that you took as a slight?
@@esequindoves3080
I was replying to Strongest Gamer (or Weakest Gamer, to be more accurate). Their slur must have been hidden by the algorithm. Sorry for that.
@@paulanaylor3548 no problem at all. I worried because I looked back over my comment and couldn’t figure out what I might have said. If you got the usual goons in the replies, that certainly explains it. Sorry about the smart Alek whoever they were.
As a trans and autistic person living in one of the states going ham on our rights, I appreciate this video.
My state seems to be incentivizing outright execution of transgender people via now legalized d3ath penalty by declaring our existence a crime against youth
@@strongestgamer2501 you are on every comment acting like you are making points. You are not.
@@thelemon5069 It's best if they are ignored, they're just going full brain-rot mode over something that doesn't concern them because they have no life. We are talking about a gamer, after all.
@@strongestgamer2501 *disabled
Sharp! Clear-eyed, literally and figuratively. Thanks for making this compelling case. As a gay cis resident of Louisiana, I am noticing an alarming pattern of orchestrated copycat legislation across the traditional US Bible belt and on to other states whose governments happen to be currently dominated by GOP politicians. Whichever anti-lgbtq bills show some traction in any one state are rapidly deployed(yes, it is absolutely weaponized) in multiple other red states. We are wintnessing debate on these bills summarily shut down as GOP legislatures steamroll these fascist measures through. They clearly want minimal public awareness of the details of these bills.
Everyone who cares about human rights and basic democratic principles needs to be alert, aware, and alarmed by what is being foisted on the citizens of this nation by nothing short of American Dominionists, Christian Sharia.
As an autistic nomby trans man who's studied neuro, there IS significant overlap between ASD and trans identity, but it's very much a chicken and egg issue; the human brain is still very much an enigma, and we may never know if one causes the other within your lifetime or mine. But, as an autistic nomby trans man, I recognize lawmakers don't know much ABOUT the human brain. Which makes sense, since it seems completely foreign to their anatomy.
It's also likely to be multifaceted
@@Aarenby Tru, thank u. Just basically there's very little demonstration of actual neuroscientific understanding in the way these laws are written, yknow?
I hope they never do
And have you noticed that anyone outside the "right's" comfort zone of what is considered human is beginning to be labeled "mutant"?
Hand washing in advance of the slaughter.
I broke down crying yesterday after learning about the laws being passed in Florida the day before. I'm a trans man who made his way to California to get the care I needed from Iowa. I am absolutely terrified regardless. Thank you for being brave enough to speak out about this.
In addition to your argument being well crafted, your delivery is very good. Clear, forceful when appropriate and easy to listen to. Excellent balance.
It's frustrating when you're being actively genocided and the vast majority of "people" refuse to even consider it a possibility. As an aboriginal who's seen firsthand the tactics and programming at work with covert genocide it's truly disgusting.
@@jordanthompson8268 If there's not a genocide then what it is?
@@jordanthompson8268 ahh sanist
@@jordanthompson8268 yes, yes there is
A "scientific" study that RATED THE PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS OF KIDS?
Somehow I'm not surprised
And they keep claiming TRANS people are the groomers…
The axiom is definitively true at this point.
Every conservative accusation is a confession.
I had to have a full hysterectomy, and my body couldn’t handle synthetic estrogen. So I am on T. It wasn’t my first choice, but oh my god!! Since starting it, my medical issues are GONE. I don’t mean lessened, I mean now that I am on T my medical issues related to hormones are 100% gone. My kiddos don’t feel the need to fit in a gender box either and it’s amazing. ❤ except for the outside world… who is not very nice to either of them strictly because they don’t try to fit in the box.
Gender boxes are kinda lame. I've been thinking lately that gender is really more of an individual thing, but society constructed limited language around it which became the boxes. I'm hoping and living for a day in the future where gender is liberated, and folks can just be in whatever way is humanly possible. Humans are incredibly diverse after all.
@@violetchristophe it’s amazing how many things we can do as humans! It’s sad that others think they have the right to tell others how to be. We’re getting there. There wouldn’t be such outrage over everything right now if the world wasn’t changing. And I personally feel we have the right group in time and history to change it for the better.
@@d.h.4778 Yeah, it's hopefully that Gen Z and Alpha are more up to date about human rights, and particularly since they are the future. Those of us who are older just gotta hold ground for them, and maybe been make progress in our own time.
@@violetchristophe as a millennial I do think we are doing well. From us down it is all leftwing for the most part. Normally with generations the older you get the more right leaning you go and millennials to everyone younger we all stayed left. That’s why it’s getting sooo bad right now. They know they’re losing power so they’re doing everything to try and keep it. It’s like a last ditch effort to keep control. All the bad guys do it when they’re starting to lose.
Me; an autistic, trans, nonbinary person with a uterus in Missouri: I hate it here.
Thank you for including ressources for a canadian context -- we always hear about the US but it good to find ways to help here at home.
All I can think of when I see that study is "the 'rapid onset' is because these parents literally didn't know their children and their view is that it happened all of a sudden instead of a process that they weren't allowed to witness"
It’s rapid comming out, the dysphoria was there for a while
I just wanted to tell you that I think you are really really cool and as a young autistic trans guy I seriously look up to you. You're a huge role model for me. Thank you for speaking out and sharing your voice. It means a lot for me and others who are struggling to find the courage to be our authentic self.
And thank you for working to find that courage and being true to yourself. We *will* reach a point where we get to be ourselves freely and without having to fight for it.
Thank you for such a well researched, thorough video on this topic. Living in Missouri right now is scary and infuriating.
I would love to watch this but i am really not in the right mental state. I'll pick it up as soon as i can!
Take all the time you need, even if that means skipping this one entirely, I definitely get it. 💙
I grew up undiagnosed on the autism spectrum, with ADHD, anxiety and depression. Well I am not transgender, I am Aroace and grew up seeing my identity being erased to the point of being told at least by the stories that I knew that the way that I felt wasn’t real.
So the attacks on the transgender community have been bring up some of my most difficult memories, and I know that other people who had to grow up in the closet are probably experiencing this too.
Honestly why can’t we all live in a world, where love and equality are more common and people who spread hate are always held accountable for the harm that they are causing.
I am so happy that this video came up in my feed. You have taken the current state of affairs and presented them in an intelligent and coherent manner. Your video is one of the best that I have watched that covers our battle. I am watching it straight through for a second time, which I almost never do. I have known I was "different" since I was a young child. As you stated, I did not have the language to understand what was going on in my life, which is far longer than I care to mention . Being transgender and neurodivergent myself, I finally have the tools to explain why my life was the way it was. While this cannot change anything in my past, it goes a long way toward answering my questions.
I would like to link your video as much as I can. Please keep up the good work, you are an inspiration to many in our community. I wish you a long, healthy and most of all, safe life.
I just want to take a moment to thank you for having the words to describe your dysphoria, which is similar to mine. I didn't know how to explain that when I look at myself I see a beautiful body but when I see my full image it's wrong and I begin dissociating. I've never seen someone so perfectly describe it. So thank you! :D
Also thank you for speaking about this. This world has gotten really scary. Especially in America as an autistic trans poc. I appreciate you explaining everything in a really easily understandable way too! Just thank you! :3
I picked the wrong life/timeline to be both trans and autistic.
I have two autistic children, and I am in an autistic support group, and there's some information you might be missing. If you are an adult or trying to access an evaluation for autism through your health provider, it's difficult. If you are in K12, you just have to ask the school. In my state (PA) they have a limited time to do the test. Even if you have to give a justification for the test you will automatically qualify if you have gender dysphoria, BECAUSE one of the characteristics of autism that most people don't know about is you have trouble distinguishing gender. Hopefully this will help some of you access that tool.
to any trans person reading the comments feeling despair and fear: ❤🏳️⚧️we can win. i’ve been screaming at the top of my lungs here at my community radio station in NY about this. we need more folks in safe/safer states to advocate for safe harbor and shield laws. we can win. we can. i believe in us and our future.
it’s scary, it’s terrifying, sometimes the totality of it overwhelms me too. hold out anyway. every day you stay alive is an act of resistance. if you’re in missouri or montana or texas or florida or anywhere else being brutalized by the GOP i want you to know that you are loved and you are not abandoned. please stay strong, in spite of everything. this world is better with you in it.
you are loved exactly as you are. you are good enough exactly as you are. you are trans enough exactly as you are. try as they might, they cannot take your soul from you. i love you. please, keep fighting. you’re worth it.
@@strongestgamer2501 what a dumb comment
Thank you for writing this. Positive, friendly voices are something that not a lot of trans people are hearing at this point and there needs to be more of them.
If they're so worried about "social contagion" that ought to go after misogyny and other kinds of bigotry, as that's something that can be unlearned.
All the more reason they ought to go after misogyny and bigotry. No harm in trying to make things better for everyone, rather than make things hard for folks who can't change who they are.
I caught the irony. I'm glad you did too. Being trans is an internal being of a human, which isn't something that can be beaten or reasoned out of a person. It's not something that can be unlearned, and many trans folk will try. Hyper masculine and hyper feminine attempt get made by folks to try and be the gender that aligns with their sex. It's usually the last ditch effort before they decide it's time to transition, whether that be socially, medically or both.
The idea of "it's not that bad", whole being comparably true to other places, doesn't really matter. Things can always be better. Progress is always a thing in the works that never really ends.
@@jordanthompson8268 Since a slap in the face is better than a broken leg, does that give people permission to go round slapping everyone?
Cause that's what you sound like with the "it's worse in other places" thing.
To bad I think everytime I see them doing shit like that I think why weren't they casually threatened with a psychward as children or forcefully drugged out of their heads
The worst thing about this for me is that I think they know the bill won't last. They know it doesn't make sense, but to them, any amount of time preventing trans people from accessing care is a "win". So they're going to keep stalling and spewing this bullshit.
The way these people talk about trans kids behind closed doors is frankly disgusting.
It really sucks that it has to be this way, but to anyone affected by these laws, there are ways to self-medicate, and plenty of resources telling you how online.
I worry about another reason they don't care if their actions may have consequences later on... IF a liberal politician ends up in a position to hold them to account.
On Jan 6th 2021, several current and former military members attempted to help with the coup. There were 3 generals that came forward and warned of a possible attempt to subvert the election. I can't know if they were able to correct the issue or not, but the GOP seems to have stopped caring what anyone but THEIR loyal base thinks since the 2022 elections, for sure.
We could seriously be check mate. Right now. Prepare to hide if you can't safely and legally leave the country, or find a safe place within. Please, be safe and don't hesitate if you see it coming.
Great video - my first time here, but definitely not my last. I wasn't aware of the autism provision. Georgia has done something similar. I wonder if an argument can be made that denying someone treatment based solely on autism is a violation of the ADA. Seems to me that's a valid question. Thanks for your thoughtful content!
Thank you for making this video, Finn. It sucks that we're here. It sucks that we all have to be saying this. I appreciate the clear breakdown and the resources you provide and your continuous efforts to reach out to audiences beyond our community, especially as a Canadian covering American politics.
Such a well presented and informative piece of work, thank you very much. Your honesty and sincerity are deeply humbling. Trans rights are human rights, and no one human can define and actively restrict the humanity of another. All this BS by nut jobs across the developed world is getting way out of hand it is dangerous and it is frighteneing. Your approach of fact and reason and willingness to give people time to adjust and understan is kind and impressive. I did that as a young gay man in the late 80s and early 90s, it was and remains the right approach. But, we are also allowed and must draw our lines. They are drawn and they cannot and must not be crossed. Thank you, feeling very inspired today.
Little do they know that while they focus on trans people I'm slowly convincing children to be left handed (If I cant use a can opener no one can!)
I have never shared a TH-cam video faster than I'm sharing this one. I have far too many trans friends that I love and care about to sit idly while Ron DeSantis writes bill after bill after bill invalidating their existence (and mine. I'm cis, but I'm also black, and DeSantis is making some pretty racist bills as well. God help my black trans friends!)
"for me it was constant dissociation punctuated by bouts of hopelessness" THAT DESCRIBES MY OWN EXPERIENCE WITH DYSPHORIA SO WELL
I’m in Indiana without much a chance to leave Indiana given I’m not doing well enough in college (online) and jobs here will never pay me anywhere close to the money I need to move. I feel like trans people were already severely curtailed in Indiana well before lawmakers even thought about SB480. Where I live, there are very few trans people and no real trans community. There is also a militant cishetereo-normativity here and as a result, I couldn’t have my queer awakening until I was 21 since I would have been bullied if I had it at 13 or 15. I have missed out on so much in life because I am autistic and queer in the most hostile state for people like me outside of the south. The legislative attacks that started after 2010 and escalated this year have greatly exacerbated the isolation and hate trans people face in Indiana’s borders. Im scared that I will have my HRT access banned in the next year, either by a regular legislative session, the AG, or if the governor decides to call a special session in order to “deal with the problem”. As a result, I am isolated here and I don’t have much hope of un-isolating myself until I leave Indiana.
I’m on E now, but that is only half the battle for me. The other half is finding a physical community where I could be loved. And I unfortunately don’t think I will ever find it in Indiana. Most people who I would feel welcome around ditch this state when they are 18 and never come back. I hope I can finally join them in the next year, but will likely need to start a go fund me in order to have the chance to move given that moving to a place I feel welcome likely costs over $10,000. $10,000 I don’t have, especially since I have $35,000 in student debt that I will also need to move to pay off if I live on my own.
So to hit this on the head of what this person just said. I'm 25 years old, transgender, and unable to get the care I need to live.
I can't afford medical insurance, but also cannot get a job, mainly because I am suffering from intense dysphoria on the daily, I take showers in the dark and use the facilities in my house in the dark because I become intensely dysphoric and pretty much sick to my stomach at the sight of myself and fall into a very horrible state of depression.
That said I also have clinically diagnosed Moderate-to-Severe Depression, a major anxiety disorder, a stress disorder, plus I live with a highly-conservative family so that doesn't help either.
Not exactly prime employee stuff.
I'm not be able to access transitional care as a MTF Transgender person in my State, until, I resolve my Depression and Anxiety disorders, and I can't resolve those until I can afford to pay for the health insurance that will help cover those psychiatric things. But I can't get and hold a job with my problems such as the depression, anxiety and crippling dysphoria. SO this is not just targeted at Transgender teens or young adults
I'm 25 years old, and I still haven't been able to live my life the way I want it to be lived. I've been in and out of the hospital over the past few years, twice from suicide attempts. I am not hopeful of living past my 30th birthday. This country is completely failing so many people like me, in similar situations to me, or even worse situations.
I am a non-binary person on the autism spectrum in my 50's. I am also an American. So this affects me directly. As we now know, those of us on the spectrum are 11 times more likely to be gender non conforming. The rules to receive care are discriminatory from the get go.
I have always been the way I am, even when I lacked the words for my experience. I now can be myself. That means if l can taste words and letters have colors, it's not a disorder, it's a difference. Same with my sexual orientation and gender identity. I am not broken . I am blessed.
As a mother of an Autistic daughter, I am so glad I didn't put her in the public school system. Passed on allowing doctors to treat her like a guinea pig project. 😢
Thank you for this video. I am a cis female trying to do everything I can to be better educated on this so I can help fight this misinformation. I do not know what it is to be trans, but I know what it is to not be straight, neurotypical, and some other major human traits. And I will never stand for cis people making trans laws. Nor should straight people make laws for gay people; they should sit down, shut up, and listen. Men should not have the sole authority to make laws for women, or vice versa. Or white people the laws of POC. That will never make sense. And the fact that they are now making autism a marker for confused or naive people who cannot make their own decisions pisses me off. Sure, a nonverbal autistic with a very low IQ cannot make very many decisions. But that is a specific type of autism. As a whole, the diagnosis does not take away our autonomy, and so it shouldn't. I am also depressed, anxious, and possibly bipolar, but none of these things preclude me from deciding my own life. This is outrageous.
Thank you for this. We've been fighting the legislation in my state, but the session is over, and the bills have been passed. We're continuing to fight against local actions (attempts to ban books at the county libraries and the like), sometimes successfully.
I'd like to implore US folks to watch what happens at the local level as well, because we've seen moves targeted at erasing visibility here as well as just a lot of general nastiness.
Being the mother of someone who's autistic, I'm really disgusted by the ableism in their messaging about autistic people. Autistic people should be trusted when they tell you about themselves and their experiences!
So many good points, thank you. I am horrified by all of this and have been fighting / debating people over this since the first "bathroom bills" crawled into existence years back. Yes I have worked with and known quite a few trans folks, old ravehead in the 90's, but also just co workers, people I met around, friends, etc.) You gave me a few more excellent retorts, although sadly it got so disgustingly bad with my family I just had to cut them off recently (after 30 years of trying). I'm 46, cis straight female, no children (just for reference). Fighting. It's for ALL our rights, damn these bastards.
consecutive years is also important. im a tguy who came out 7 years ago when i was 11. i have experienced severe bullying and s/xual abuse related to my identity, so yeah, i'd have a month every few years where i would try and fix myself and become cis. i was still trans, i was just physically and emotionally unsafe being it, and i thought i could avoid the pain by sacrificing my identity. if someone looked at those few instances and decided it was proof i didn't have "consecutive" years of gender dysphoria, and decided to deny my access to healthcare... ugh
i think any good doctor would be able to recognize your inability to force yourself back into a closet.
When I finally accepted that I was trans I had an “Oh shit.” Moment. When I started reading the trans related legislation for the state I live in I went “Oh dear god” out loud, and that is not something I do often.
There is still a lot of work to be done to make things better, and I’ll try be apart of making that happen.
Accepting that I was trans was definitely an "oh shit" moment for me, too. Something I'd been trying to deny/suppress/ignore my whole life, and I just couldn't anymore.
I sincerely appreciate this video and have shared it on Facebook and will be sharing it in Twitter and other social media as well.
At the current time, there are maybe three "safe" states left for people to go to. I'm a 50 year old transman. My dad is 85 years old. I came home because I wanted to be closer to my family.
For financial reasons, I have had periods where I could not get treatment and had to suffer through it. It's not easy but IT CAN BE DONE. So I'd urge you NOT to run. I'd urge you to dig your heels in and fight right here at home because... IF YOU RUN, THE BIGOTS WIN.
Again, I'm 50 years old, and I'm disabled. I refuse to believe that my best years are behind me. This is my country too,and I'll be damned if I'm gonna sit back quietly and let these SOBs take it from us! I've lived my life openly and authentically so Gen Y, Millenials, Gen Z, and others could see me and hopefully live with less fear, so they know they aren't alone.
And thus, I feel enormous pity for those right winger(s) who brings violence and hate upon me and my family for the lack of choices they'll leave us with and what they may force us to do. I know I'm not alone in thinking this. I fully believe with all my heart that living freely is worth dying for.
i live in missouri and i am very glad this video exists to cover this issue