I appreciate your videos. I like the terminology of “turn taking” skills whether than “sharing” when a child is working with a tool that another child wants.
Do you have advice on what to do when children are fighting over something and you didn’t see who had a toy/object first? Also what is your opinion on sharing when it comes to a child’s toy from home?
Hi Adriana, great questions! In my classroom children will sometimes say "I had a toy first." Their idea of who had it first might be that one child was using it and put it down and moved on. Then they saw another child using it and remember "Hey I was using that!" So here is one way I would help support children in solving this: - Support: ask if they need help solving their problem, if it's a yes I will sit there with them and ask each child to share what is happening. - Hold the Toy: I'll ask if I can hold the toy, to create a neutralize it. - Repeat: I would repeat what I hear "It sounds like G you said you had it first, and B you said you had it first. Huh, it sounds like you both think you had this toy first." - Honor Feelings: whatever they may be. - Support and Transition: "I didn't see what happened, so let's talk about how we are going to work this out." - Problem Solve: Wait for them to share their thoughts on how they can turn take/use the toy together. Repeat what they say, and if they can't come up with a conclusion say "it's hard to reach an agreement sometimes, would you like a solution?" I do want to acknowledge that this is one way of supporting this conflict. When it comes to a child's toy from home, it looks a little different. This toy belongs to the child and they can set expectations for their own toy. Depending on the class, I have had only show and share times that they can bring out their toy to share with the class, or during certain times in our day. Other times it's not an issue so we follow these guidelines: - I ask the child to share expectations they have about their toy with other kids. Many times they share how they can move the toy and how they can't move it. - I let the child know that others may want to play with it and ask if that's ok? If they say no, then I might ask "can other kids watch you play with it?" oftentimes that is a yes. - During group times their toy goes into their cubby or backpack - If a child really wants to play with another child's toy, I'll say "You would really like a turn with C's toy. You can say 'C can I have a turn with your toy?'" I hope this was helpful, if you need more clarification let me know!
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I appreciate your videos. I like the terminology of “turn taking” skills whether than “sharing” when a child is working with a tool that another child wants.
Do you have advice on what to do when children are fighting over something and you didn’t see who had a toy/object first? Also what is your opinion on sharing when it comes to a child’s toy from home?
Hi Adriana, great questions!
In my classroom children will sometimes say "I had a toy first." Their idea of who had it first might be that one child was using it and put it down and moved on. Then they saw another child using it and remember "Hey I was using that!"
So here is one way I would help support children in solving this:
- Support: ask if they need help solving their problem, if it's a yes I will sit there with them and ask each child to share what is happening.
- Hold the Toy: I'll ask if I can hold the toy, to create a neutralize it.
- Repeat: I would repeat what I hear "It sounds like G you said you had it first, and B you said you had it first. Huh, it sounds like you both think you had this toy first."
- Honor Feelings: whatever they may be.
- Support and Transition: "I didn't see what happened, so let's talk about how we are going to work this out."
- Problem Solve: Wait for them to share their thoughts on how they can turn take/use the toy together. Repeat what they say, and if they can't come up with a conclusion say "it's hard to reach an agreement sometimes, would you like a solution?"
I do want to acknowledge that this is one way of supporting this conflict.
When it comes to a child's toy from home, it looks a little different. This toy belongs to the child and they can set expectations for their own toy. Depending on the class, I have had only show and share times that they can bring out their toy to share with the class, or during certain times in our day. Other times it's not an issue so we follow these guidelines:
- I ask the child to share expectations they have about their toy with other kids. Many times they share how they can move the toy and how they can't move it.
- I let the child know that others may want to play with it and ask if that's ok? If they say no, then I might ask "can other kids watch you play with it?" oftentimes that is a yes.
- During group times their toy goes into their cubby or backpack
- If a child really wants to play with another child's toy, I'll say "You would really like a turn with C's toy. You can say 'C can I have a turn with your toy?'"
I hope this was helpful, if you need more clarification let me know!
@@roottoblossom9627 So helpful, thank you!
@@adrianareyes769 Of course, so happy to hear that was helpful :)