Day 15 of asking to make a video about why young Chinese men are not interested to marry anymore. Is it because Dowry system? Or housing prices? Or other economic and social issues. I just want to know. And day 12 of asking to make a video explaining why white men think Chinese girls are easy. I really want to know. Kindly consider my request.
Maybe it's not a Courage or Confidence issue that is the problem. Maybe it's a Men are not ATM's or Into dating A Female Masculine "Man" that is the Issue in America at least. The Women become the Man they are Looking for... Then Emotionally Abandoned 80% of American and now it's definitely not going to be the desired outcome for them. Population Collapse is an Extinction of a Nation. No Children.. No Future Adults.. Then a Weak Country.. Zero National Defense.. Finally No more Nationality.. Simple because then Dominos Human Species extinction event... Due to lack of Genetic Diversity... Good Luck
By the way 现实 keeps being translated as "materialistic" in the subtitles, but it also means to be realistic or pragmatic. Just thought I'd point out the nuiance in the discussion here. I enjoyed the video, thanks for sharing the perspectives of these people!
I was also surprised by that, but I think is a nice way to express the priority is the proof and or presence of economic solvency. In not so polite words "materialistic".
but if we take into the context of what was being said, mostly talking about dawry, financial safety, earnings, etc. It is all from a materialistic point of view. So, from the most part of when I read the word, it seemed to fit well with what was being said.
Most English speakers would viscerally translate this as materialistic. Most Chinese would think this materialism is a practical approach to life, not the western concept of accumulating material things as a display of status. I always struggle to translate it directly when the word comes up in a Chinese conversation with my wife, and we end up discussing exactly what is meant by the term, because it automatically comes across as materialistic in my mind. Practical seems more benign or noble as it typically used in English, while in Chinese the ‘practicality’ is typically related to financial security
Have to add that there are a few other nuances that this video seems to lose due to rough translation. But the one you bring up would be one of the biggest ones.
This is the best channel for learning chinese, also to know people's opinion on different topics, a very insightful episode, last lady is amazing, what a precious mom🙌
I love your initial questions and follow up questions. They aren’t generic and it’s like listening to a real conversation between friends. You don’t just come out and say “Chinas population is falling” but how you say “Does left over men have a negative impact on society” -- it creates an opportunity for diverse ideas to emerge which is so satisfying. Not only learning Chinese and listening but getting real viewpoints. This channel is seriously underrated and I hope it becomes more popular.
*List of Questions Asked:* 1. What does “leftover men” mean? 2. Why are they “left over”? 3. Is financial pressure a reason for the “leftover men” phenomenon? 4. Are women receiving more education and making more money the reasons for “leftover men”? 5. Is gender imbalance a reason? 6. Any advice for “leftover men”? 7. What stereotypes do people have of “leftover men”? 8. Will this phenomenon bring any negative impact on society? 9. Do you know any “leftover men”?
Wow a new video! I've been downloading all your street interviews and listening to them all day, even the ones from 6 years ago. Great to see you're still doing them you're such a good interviewer and teacher 🙏
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The mindset a lot of the people in this video shared is also very common in the US. Definitely an interesting video and I definitely have my own opinions about it for sure.
love these vids because there's a lot of not standard mandarin, and when I talk to people with nonstandard accents in daily life I'm actually wishing I had Hanzi subtitles!
I guess my boyfriend, part Tai and Chinese, is a Shengnan when we first met. It has taken a long while for me to get him to disclose more about himself. I can’t prove what he’s telling me is true or not, but he tells me that I’m his first - that is, I’ve broken his virginity (he is not my first). He says he has held out for so long in hopes of finding an Asian American girl who shares his values of remaining celibate until after those marriage vows are exchanged. I remember dating him for a long time before persuading him that no such women exist nowadays. I’m so glad he finally saw it my way. We’re quite happy together. Luckily, my grandpa likes him a lot.
I am Chinese but I was born and raised abroad. I don't think dowries are reasonable at all. Yes, my parents raised me and spent a lot of money, but I am not a pet nor cattle, and I am not being sold to another family. After marriage, I am part of two families/ we are one big family. And my parents had me because they wanted children, not an economic gain. I think a lot of the girls in the video only agree to dowries because they gain something but deepdown they know it is not right. It does not align with the "independent woman" theme. They should normalise starting at the botton with your partner. Rent together, buy a house together, buy a car together. Build a life together. I always thought that was normal. No wonder they have so many problems in China, they created their problem on their own. And I also know problems also arise because the parents od the couple is medding too much. Relationships should be focused on the two people in the relationship first, and the extended family second.
yeah they're trying to rationalize a practice (rooted in historical gender inequalities) from outdated/medieval times in modern society because it benefits them. im european married with a chinese wife, and her mum started whining when i told her there wont be any dowry. the father was cool and didnt care about it
It is desired to have a house for a man in South Korea when he marries. This is one of the factors for not marrying. A home is truly expensive in urban areas.
Thats right. Every girl wants a sugar daddy to take care of them, have everything set for them, to replace their dad. A house and car and plenty of money to buy them all sorts of presents they dont need. In reality, they appreciate these things less than they would if they grew up with the man, and went through every stage of becoming successful together to work for what they have. Instead, what happens is the woman will cycle through men, lose her virginity, get ran through until she finds a rich one she likes, to take advantage of his hard work and life savings. That is so crazy. What happened to true love?
The last woman you interviewed is very socially intelligent and wise. The Government should try to form policies around some of the points that she made to improve society overall.
I will only plan to have kids once I am financially able to support an entire family. No point to put my kids through suffering due to financial inability.
This interview was enlightening especially seeing women all over the world share same concerns , hold similar opinions on marriage relationship and having kids
It's true, there's always going to be men who are left over who de alone. We need to just be honest with these men in a compassionate way instead of lying to them.
I wouldn't worry about it. In my life, I've found women who came up to me when I wasn't looking and they still do, but there is nothing wrong in trying to find the one who will fill things you expect in a woman. Obviously it doesn't have to be unreasonable standards. With that being said, it is better to be single than have women who will just drag you down, emontionally, psychogically etc. No reason to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't bring good things into your life, only to remain partnered to someone.
27:58 "The world is a stage, and everyone can perform on it. You too, can do it. Why should you only watch others perform and just be part of an audience?" Well, what a way of putting it. 🥰👏🏼👏🏼
I never understood the concept of being "left over" sure nobody wants to be single forever but why put pressure on it? is it like a government campaign? people should respect other peoples live choices solo or not^^
In a way, all of these men and women are being bullied by a stupid system. I am not talking about government or policies, but the cultural system. But I am sure they will evolve on that area as much as they have done in their economy. I am someone who always appreciated the asian culture in most part, but when it comes to the mindset of their society related to relationships, it is quite disappointing, I would probably be single in China aswell. Their mindset isn't that different from most western women.
The pressure on men in China to purchase a house, car, and provide a dowry in order to gain acceptance from a woman's family creates a significant social and financial burden. This expectation has led to a system where young couples are often unable to afford homes on their own, especially given that many earn less than 10,000 yuan a month, far below the necessary income to buy property in today’s inflated market. As a result, wealthier families are stepping in to buy homes for their children, perpetuating class divides and making it nearly impossible for poorer individuals to marry. This cycle of dependency on family wealth not only hinders social mobility but also drives housing prices even higher, further widening the gap between the rich and poor. Ultimately, this tradition exacerbates inequality and limits personal freedom in marriage choices, making it difficult for many to achieve a stable, independent life.
a wise question to follow up on this interview, as a reason for why men are choosing to refuse to pursue women with the same will power as their parents, and grandparents, might be primarily due to the prevalance of internet porn. Also, excessive masturbation draining any desire to go out and find a women. it would be interesting to get this perspective from both women and men. this is a huge issue in america.
The attitudes around sex and sexuality have changed for both genders, not to mention marriage and loyalty, or the financial risks involved. No one also seems willing to speak about how hormonal birth control affects the behavior of women, and men when exposed to it (e.g. via hormonal residue in the environment, or even during sex).
@@defeqel6537”hormonal residue” is complete nonsense pseudoscience at best, nobody talks about it because there is nothing to talk about. Hormonal contraceptives for the purposes of the women is another topic which is actually reasonable to consider, I think overall it is a positive as it leads to MANY avoided unwanted births abortions etc
@ 20:00 what is this logic in the year 2024? last time i checked, raising sons also requires significant investment from parents. maybe money grow on trees if you have a son
Hope that the Government would focus more internally in helping people find happiness and make creating families a top social priority. Even more than other western nations. Making a happier and more fulfilling society may improve western impression of China and gain much more respect than militarily. May also help solve the population shrinkage that all nations face in developed countries.
Hi! Thank you for the video! I just wanted to ask, at 4:29 in my opinion the translation could be changed. I would write: "In pursuing a girl they are not enough passionate/decisive/driven" I don't think the lady meant aggressive, I think the lady meant they don't take enough initiative, that their dating approach is lame, but i could be wrong. anyway, love ya!
Financial insecurity, crazy property prices, not spending hundreds of thousands for a tiny dump, too many woman are pretentious and teo faced, raising kids to go through same hardships
@@Elephant_King_GjDowry is payment from bride family, in America it seems to be the other way around. Incentivised to get a divorce from the woman side.
@@Elephant_King_Gjmen have, on the average, more spending money after divorce, and women have less, plus women do most of the work raising the children. You imagine two hundred bucks a month is enough to support a kid properly? What elephants are you the king of?
Sure, must be, definitely not because females can make more money so they only want even better men then actually literally no men can fit her requirements, and definitely not because after they can’t find for so long they simply can’t reproduce and no one wants them anymore.
I've never met a woman who was a net contributor to my life, and probably never will. Which is fine, because I'm healthy and wealthy, and enjoying being a single guy well into my 40's.
"Leftover" men and women is not a problem unique to China, but a problem endemic to first world nations where the belief that money and personal freedom are more important than children and family prevails. Even in the United States, it is not the wealthy who are breeding, but the poor and the immigrants. People care more about amassing as much hell money as possible than living a meaningful life. When you are young and myopic, there are few things worse in life than getting exactly what you wanted.
Smart people consider incentives. Parents spend a lot of money and time but don't get much support or respect from society. If society wants people to have kids willingly, parenthood must be made into less of a burden.
@@ollieanntan4478 People who require financial incentives to have children should never ever have children, because they reduce human life into a dollar amount. This worship of money above everything is the root of the problem.
Exactly right. Another issue is, men and women are different on a biological level, and modernity goes completely against nature. To put it simply, women don't care about men, which is why as bad as men might be, women in charge and with all the wealth is much more dangerous and destructive.
That's why people call 30 the "suicide age" if you didn't _____ then you probably won't, raising kids is scary you don't know how they're going to turn out.
Please use exact tranlation into (English), not modified. Because It is smost of the time difficult to understand. As I am here to learn Chinese. Thanks.
I love chinese culture on the whole, its fascinating how they evolved culturally, financially and a economic power house that it is.But when it comes to the human side of how people are treated or even traded particularly women its miles and miles away behind. Why do parents put their sons and daughters under pressure to get married so badly in their 20 s? i watch tv dramas and the themes are all the same. no wonder the birth rate is dramatically falling and population shrinking. there is exodus of people leaving china particularly the young generation who wants to see the world and enjoy life. where i came from people get married and find new partners at the age of 50 and 60s, there is no such thing like left overs, This is a term that we use for discarded food non edible. I think when they realise that love is more important than dowries and red envelopes, the population will grow much faster.
It’s a mess, the youth are rejecting tradition, but not finding loving relationships. Look at the west, has feminism and post modernism and materialism brought wellness and happiness? The answer is no.
Yes you are right i am too young to know about relationship. i am only 50. never mind. one can clearly say through yours comments are from a narrow minded person who probably is looking for love and it is not confident yet . i think you should go back to where you came from try to figure it out what that loving bind of yours is and be happy. by the way it was just a comment i meant no offence. Remember FREE SPEECH probably not. you are not western.
It does not look you are western and i dont agree with your opinion but respect your say. Open your mind and look around you. you are not being realistic judging peoples traditions and values. If you dont want other people judging your opinion keep it for yourself.
I'm about to go back to University at 27 years old and single so if I do end up dating I will be a leftover man. So this video will probably be insightful
Don't let this made up term get to you. There's no such thing as a leftover man. Men can always continue to be sought after as long as they improve themselves. For women, it's a different story as they need their youth and fertility window to be desired by high value mates.
if men must pay a dowry for a partner, that is not gender equality. Do women have equal pay? One girl said a dowry should be paid because her parents brought he up - well, who do you think brought up the man? He certainly didnt grow up by himself.
Traditionally it's only the guy. However, many women now are matching the dowry and some even want to use the dowry to put it into a fund for children. Dowry still seems to happen but I haven't met a Chinese girl who wanted dowry from me when we talked marriage.
One thing I really hate is the bridge price. I just don’t understand it. And so high. How does the price get decided? I mean 30 years ago how much was it?
I think it’s important to get married to have someone potentially take care of you when you’re older. There’s no guarantee your kids will be good productive citizens and take care of you in your golden years. But it is more likely that no one will take as good of care for you as your family will. Plus I don’t see in China’s future there are enough kids being born today that are available in any field that will be able to efficiently take care of the Elders of tomorrow.
Population decline and quality of children as they grow to adults is a major problem all over the world. China must create a comprehensive change to creating larger families that will support a healthy society. This starts with matching right mates, to making childbirth easier, to having a robust and effective education system that embraces the traditional Chinese values.
Does anyone else get the impression Chinese men are getting an ultra raw deal? So much work just to appease your partner's arbitrary 安全感. And the men interviewed here and in other videos don't seem to question a setup so obviously unfair towards them. Can't afford hyper-inflated financial requirements that only apply to you and not her? Just use your parents' life savings. ??? What an insane response. How conditioned are these men to have so little self-respect?
Its interesting that china is having a feminist reckoning with the unequal treatment of women (for example, employers inquire into your marriage status and will deny or fire you if they think you might have children) but the dowry is still commonplace. The dowry was eventually abandoned in the west because it was seen as a transaction for property.
Logically, no such thing as leftover men. When something is valuable...demand is high at the beginning where everybody is trying to grab for it...and if it is not taken but being left alone...then it is leftover. But men gain their value at 30 to 50....so leftover don't make sense.
@@charleswalters5284 not really, unless you've lived really unhealthily, unlike egg cells, sperm cells are created daily and thus deteriorate at a much much slower rate
Finding a right is not easy as both need to love one another. If both cannot get along ..better dont marry as you will get heart sick along the way. Better dont get married. Left over man sometimes fit you better.
China is a country with 1B inhabitants, different cultures, provinces with more rural and traditional populations, others more urban and modern. Of course, dowry is not a rule that all Chinese people follow. To think this is so is to have no idea what China is. Throughout Europe, for example, we also have this dynamic between tradition and modernity and we find many populations whose traditions have been maintained for centuries...
male and female's mating strategy and biological needs are different. generally male would prefer to spread their seeds wide and far while female would prefer to lockdown the best male so they can get to extract resources from him and gain protection for stability and security. marriage is compatible and beneficial to female but totally against male. females are considered a winner to be able to find the best deal they can get to marry them and it is a big mistake to use female's standard to measure on male's success. successful male measurement should be wealthy and be able to met his mating strategy and biological needs. i think dating or be in a relationship is still consider a win for male but once he get trapped into marriage then he is a loser. whenever i attend someone's wedding, i will always congratulate the bride and seldom congratulate the bridegroom unless his partner is an asset to him rather than a liability.
This 100% the term itself is nonsensical and you can tell it was just invented by salty/angry women who think they can apply the same logic the other around (which doesn't work as men aren't valued for their looks/fertility window, instead on their ability to lead or provide)
my young bro comes over close to the end of the video, he asked," what is leftover man?". I unironically said,"ME. Me is exactly that." He blanked then slowly nodded then walked away.
leftover men and women are leftovers. society already has had its fill of married couples; something must be wrong societally. if leftovers are eventually eaten, they may be past their prime and approaching expiration. some require aging to reach their prime, though it can be difficult to discern fermentation from rot.
Left over men? They see if they have any assets or wealth. The guy can be a shrimp and ugly, if they have money and wealth, it can all be overcome and accepted. That is the standards.
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Day 15 of asking to make a video about why young Chinese men are not interested to marry anymore. Is it because Dowry system? Or housing prices? Or other economic and social issues. I just want to know.
And day 12 of asking to make a video explaining why white men think Chinese girls are easy. I really want to know.
Kindly consider my request.
What currency it is ? What dollar ?
@@rochmaes4635 USD.
Maybe it's not a Courage or Confidence issue that is the problem. Maybe it's a Men are not ATM's or Into dating A Female Masculine "Man" that is the Issue in America at least. The Women become the Man they are Looking for... Then Emotionally Abandoned 80% of American and now it's definitely not going to be the desired outcome for them. Population Collapse is an Extinction of a Nation. No Children.. No Future Adults.. Then a Weak Country.. Zero National Defense.. Finally No more Nationality.. Simple because then Dominos Human Species extinction event... Due to lack of Genetic Diversity... Good Luck
By the way 现实 keeps being translated as "materialistic" in the subtitles, but it also means to be realistic or pragmatic. Just thought I'd point out the nuiance in the discussion here. I enjoyed the video, thanks for sharing the perspectives of these people!
I was also surprised by that, but I think is a nice way to express the priority is the proof and or presence of economic solvency. In not so polite words "materialistic".
@@bel1198 the need for security exists separately from materialism
but if we take into the context of what was being said, mostly talking about dawry, financial safety, earnings, etc. It is all from a materialistic point of view. So, from the most part of when I read the word, it seemed to fit well with what was being said.
Most English speakers would viscerally translate this as materialistic. Most Chinese would think this materialism is a practical approach to life, not the western concept of accumulating material things as a display of status. I always struggle to translate it directly when the word comes up in a Chinese conversation with my wife, and we end up discussing exactly what is meant by the term, because it automatically comes across as materialistic in my mind. Practical seems more benign or noble as it typically used in English, while in Chinese the ‘practicality’ is typically related to financial security
Have to add that there are a few other nuances that this video seems to lose due to rough translation. But the one you bring up would be one of the biggest ones.
The last auntie is truly a woman of wisdom.
she's so frikkin ahead of all of her generation, so based.
This is the best channel for learning chinese, also to know people's opinion on different topics, a very insightful episode, last lady is amazing, what a precious mom🙌
i think so too
I love your initial questions and follow up questions. They aren’t generic and it’s like listening to a real conversation between friends. You don’t just come out and say “Chinas population is falling” but how you say “Does left over men have a negative impact on society” -- it creates an opportunity for diverse ideas to emerge which is so satisfying. Not only learning Chinese and listening but getting real viewpoints. This channel is seriously underrated and I hope it becomes more popular.
*List of Questions Asked:*
1. What does “leftover men” mean?
2. Why are they “left over”?
3. Is financial pressure a reason for the “leftover men” phenomenon?
4. Are women receiving more education
and making more money the reasons for “leftover men”?
5. Is gender imbalance a reason?
6. Any advice for “leftover men”?
7. What stereotypes do people have of “leftover men”?
8. Will this phenomenon bring any negative impact on society?
9. Do you know any “leftover men”?
Wow a new video! I've been downloading all your street interviews and listening to them all day, even the ones from 6 years ago. Great to see you're still doing them you're such a good interviewer and teacher 🙏
Wow, lots of accents in this one. Looks good, will save for later! Thanks!
Due to mad stupid lewd roommate man's impression this music let me stunned.
誰も罹りたくない病を感染させるとは前代未聞でした。実話です。
感染事件を起こされた2022年12月26日午後より、あらゆる能力が廃れた。私は寒がりになり体臭が無臭化しましたし筋力が2年前の2022年１２月27日に自転車に乗った時には愕然とする程落ちていました。2023年8月23日に早産男児（死亡）の時にパリ市内医療機関がヴィルス検知して事件があった証明になっています。2023年冬以降元の自分に見合う人々が神経の増強に入り始めました。
《2年+ヶ月前の急性HiV注射感染事件の概要》私が被害を受けた2022年のクリスマスの就寝中実質レイプ事件の翌日昼寝中に私をHIVヴィルス血液注射で感染させた狂暴卑劣な犯罪者達に関して翌日以降脳内通知された内容です。
Since 2021, internal stalkers continued to commit the abhorrent crime of more than 5 billion digital tamperings generated from memories and modifying the person's body to match them. I have heard that the women who have altered my appearance to make it unrecognizable have deliberately altered my appearance in strange ways, and continued creating artificial, uninteresting videos and still images so that others would be unsure of my existence itself.
Our lives are not for their crime combination entertainment.
I am oroginally 松野Matsuno 可奈子Kanako from birth, blood type
O,1984/April/13, Woman, no child, no marriage, no famous relationships, few money, no future with other man expept hateful liar tall man who lives with me...
事件画策者はSUGIZO(歌手）、戸田恵梨香（HIV事件2023年2024年再犯）、満島ひかり（女優）、剛力彩芽（女優）、宇多田ヒカル（歌手）、上戸彩（女優）、半田貴子(女性、HIV事件2023年2024年再犯者、1985年1月29日生まれ、私のクローン人間であると2023年より噂される）、ピウス•バチェビシス（男性、1982年4月19日産まれ、長身白人、私に対して最多犯罪実行犯）、松岡茉優（女優）、小池百合子（東京都知事）、設楽統（コメディアン）、北川景子（女優）、土屋太鳳（女優）、松本人志（コメディアン）、広瀬すず（女優）、石原さとみ（女優）、芳根京子（女優）、蓮舫（政治家）、吉高由里子（女優、HIV事件2023年2024年再犯）、吉岡里帆（女優、HIV事件2024年再犯）、大野智（俳優）、松本潤（俳優）、二宮和成（俳優）、橋下徹（元大阪府知事）、吉川（女性、宮崎市瀬頭町のインタープロ2011年時に勤務 以下同様）、大前（男性）、松本たかゆき（男性）、黒木（女性）、松原（女性、2012年時にインタープロ勤務）、木村（男性）、久保田圭介（男性、2023年HIV事件再犯者、感染源を2022年に東京武蔵野病院に提供したAiDS感染者）、渡邉（女性、清澄白河•門前仲町最寄のタナカ印刷株式会社の2014年勤務 以下同様）、佐野（女性）、金田（女性）、山道（男性、HIV事件2023年2024年再犯者、2022年に感染源を東京武蔵野病院に提供したAiDS感染者）、皆見（男性）、伊東あすみ（女性）、長澤麗奈（女性）、佐野（女性）、金田（女性）、山本桃太郎（男性）、保母（男性）、小板橋（女性）、伊藤（女性）、池田（女性）、望月（女性）、佐々木茉（女性）、室澤（女性、日本橋のソフトブレーン2018年時社員 以下同様）、豊田浩文（男性）、村田（女性）、江原（女性）、吉田（女性）、富田（男性）、大澤周平（男性）、柿崎（男性）、野崎（男性）、木田（男性）、長田（男性）、川上（男性）、秋子（女性、明治大学英文学科卒業、約20年前同サークル音楽研究室でのニックネームが恋太郎、ボーカリスト）、小島南（女性、富士高校のソフトボール部クラブメート）、トダエリナ（元エイズ感染者と噂される未知のストーカー、蓮舫の娘と噂されている、一橋大学卒業と主張していた、女優"山崎紘菜"の情報と連結しているらしい）、まつのあかね（元エイズ感染者と噂される未知のストーカー）、田鍋真弓(female,ジェノスグループ株式会社@最寄は中目黒の2008年時従業員,既存犯行監査人によると嘘つき、無害な人々を敵にしたがる、2024年12月27日~2025年1月27日のCT,X-Rayを悪用した頭部損傷事件に全て関与がある)、東京武蔵野病院@東京都板橋区小茂根、フランス警察、佐野友美（女性、ネットドリーマーズ株式会社@渋谷区スクランブルスクエア2020年勤務）、入山（女性）、半田貴子(女性、1985年1月29日生まれ、練馬区立開進第二中学校及び都立富士高校同級生、子持ち）、大鹿由（女性、10月25日産まれ、子持ち、妹の名前は真紀:練馬区向山小学校•開進第二中学校同級生 以下同文）、木村麻美（女性、血液型A型、1984年9月8日産まれ、姉の名前は恵）、山本夢見（女性、2024年HIV事件再犯、明治大学経済学部卒業、同サークル音楽研究室での約20年前の呼び名はM、素人ギタリスト、友美と改名したと2024年に噂された、遺伝子製品32錠飲んでクローン人間になったとの噂、恵と2025年に改名したと噂された）、鈴木（女性、東京武蔵野病院@東京都板橋区の2021年春の精神入院患者、2022年より脳内ストーカー、2022年冬以降の執拗なMRI,MRIs,CT,X-Rayなど照射と人体生化学汚染改造事件の容疑者の１人、禍々しい架空映像製作にも携わっていると脳内伝達されていた、2022年12月25日就寝中レイプ事件及び翌26日HIV血液注射感染事件、2023年以降の卵管切除事件と性的臓器変形傷害事件の犯罪者であると伝達されている:以上の犯罪者におおよそ共通の罪）、その他関与を疑われているのが政治家の玉木雄一郎、エマニュエル・マクロン、安倍晋三（死亡したふり政治家、悪人連携を絶ちきれない悪癖）、麻生太郎、岸田文雄（元日本総理大臣、2024年12月最終週より詐欺医療行為での暴行傷害を支援している）。
半田貴子(女性、1985年1月29日生まれ、練馬区立開進第二中学校及び富士高校卒業生、長期間脳内ストーカー、クローン人間）はピウス•バチェビシス（男性、1982年4月19日産まれ、長身白人、最多犯罪実行犯）の気を逸らす囮（おとり）として、女優達が犯行実施することを促進した。
犯行現場パリ75005Rue de quatrefarge14 で戸田恵梨香（女優、HIV事件2023年2024年再犯）、満島ひかり（女優）、剛力彩芽（女優）、宇多田ヒカル（歌手）、上戸彩（女優）が犯行当日に寝ているわたしを運び出し血液を注ぎ込みAiDS感染させたと聞いている。
SUGIZO（LunaSea guitarist*過去エイズ感染者であったが私の恩恵で奇跡の回復を遂げたと噂された。同様の迷信的秘話を抱えた容疑者が多数いる。同型マイクロチップを日本で渋谷の帰りに2017年1月末に植え付けて脳内ストーカーになった。その頃私はまだ健康で美観もあり2012年夏に久保田圭介に携帯電話を無断利用され性的自撮り写真が盗まれインターネットに拡散され以後ずっと迷惑を受けていた）、上戸彩（女優）が東京武蔵野病院@板橋区に、山道（男性、HIV事件2023年2024年再犯者、2022年に感染源を東京武蔵野病院に提供したAiDS感染者）、木村（男性）、久保田圭介（男性、2023年HIV事件再犯者、感染源を2022年に東京武蔵野病院に提供したAiDS感染者）ら感染男性患者たちの血液を採集後、パリに輸送し戸田恵梨香（女優）と上戸彩（女優）が出入りするソフトブレイン株式会社が管理する冷蔵庫に保管されたと伝えられた。
"leftover" is such a harsh thing to say. I much prefer "single."
it is the term used in china. just like the term leftover women, they use the term leftover men
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Too slow.
The mindset a lot of the people in this video shared is also very common in the US. Definitely an interesting video and I definitely have my own opinions about it for sure.
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This was a wonderful sampling of general attitude of people. These seem to be well educated and thoughtful people. Thank you.
the lady at the end is so thoughtful and full of wise words
我看过你的很多视频，这个视频里采访的人回答问题特别真诚，特别认真，我很感动。
love these vids because there's a lot of not standard mandarin, and when I talk to people with nonstandard accents in daily life I'm actually wishing I had Hanzi subtitles!
I guess my boyfriend, part Tai and Chinese, is a Shengnan when we first met. It has taken a long while for me to get him to disclose more about himself. I can’t prove what he’s telling me is true or not, but he tells me that I’m his first - that is, I’ve broken his virginity (he is not my first). He says he has held out for so long in hopes of finding an Asian American girl who shares his values of remaining celibate until after those marriage vows are exchanged. I remember dating him for a long time before persuading him that no such women exist nowadays. I’m so glad he finally saw it my way. We’re quite happy together. Luckily, my grandpa likes him a lot.
I am Chinese but I was born and raised abroad. I don't think dowries are reasonable at all. Yes, my parents raised me and spent a lot of money, but I am not a pet nor cattle, and I am not being sold to another family. After marriage, I am part of two families/ we are one big family. And my parents had me because they wanted children, not an economic gain. I think a lot of the girls in the video only agree to dowries because they gain something but deepdown they know it is not right. It does not align with the "independent woman" theme.
They should normalise starting at the botton with your partner. Rent together, buy a house together, buy a car together. Build a life together. I always thought that was normal.
No wonder they have so many problems in China, they created their problem on their own. And I also know problems also arise because the parents od the couple is medding too much. Relationships should be focused on the two people in the relationship first, and the extended family second.
yeah they're trying to rationalize a practice (rooted in historical gender inequalities) from outdated/medieval times in modern society because it benefits them. im european married with a chinese wife, and her mum started whining when i told her there wont be any dowry. the father was cool and didnt care about it
@@callipygian1919I'm sure her mom will come around when she sees your wife is happy and financially in a good position.
You are so so right
It is desired to have a house for a man in South Korea when he marries. This is one of the factors for not marrying. A home is truly expensive in urban areas.
Thats right. Every girl wants a sugar daddy to take care of them, have everything set for them, to replace their dad. A house and car and plenty of money to buy them all sorts of presents they dont need. In reality, they appreciate these things less than they would if they grew up with the man, and went through every stage of becoming successful together to work for what they have. Instead, what happens is the woman will cycle through men, lose her virginity, get ran through until she finds a rich one she likes, to take advantage of his hard work and life savings. That is so crazy. What happened to true love?
The last woman you interviewed is very socially intelligent and wise. The Government should try to form policies around some of the points that she made to improve society overall.
Great shi pin! Eileen Xie Xie ni! Your videos with subtitles are the best!
I will only plan to have kids once I am financially able to support an entire family. No point to put my kids through suffering due to financial inability.
You’re forwarding your anti natalist propaganda at the wrong people
Alot of people feel this way until they become too old and still not financially stable.
@@johnnytran800 So you would rather put your kids and potentially your partner and yourself through suffering?
@@synxcriptz huh? Suffering isn’t real. Furthermore there are programs which pay stipend for children,parents
You only suffer if you participate in the rat race rather than just live life
ty for these interviews. very good listening practice for realistic chinese
Really, really thankful I don’t (and won’t) have to deal with this bs. Being a young man (or a woman ftm) in China looks like an absolute nightmare.
This interview was enlightening especially seeing women all over the world share same concerns , hold similar opinions on marriage relationship and having kids
Cool video! Helps me retain some of the Mandarin I've learned.
When she said "they don't deserve a woman due to fate" that hit me hard.....
It's true, there's always going to be men who are left over who de alone. We need to just be honest with these men in a compassionate way instead of lying to them.
Finding a woman it's like finding a job, you need to improve your skills and don't have too high expectations.
I wouldn't worry about it. In my life, I've found women who came up to me when I wasn't looking and they still do, but there is nothing wrong in trying to find the one who will fill things you expect in a woman. Obviously it doesn't have to be unreasonable standards.
With that being said, it is better to be single than have women who will just drag you down, emontionally, psychogically etc. No reason to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't bring good things into your life, only to remain partnered to someone.
there are more men than women in China, so inevitably some will be "left over", and thus it could be said to be partly fate
喜爱这种对话。很感谢你
Thank you for these videos! Very helpful!
27:58 "The world is a stage, and everyone can perform on it. You too, can do it. Why should you only watch others perform and just be part of an audience?" Well, what a way of putting it. 🥰👏🏼👏🏼
I never understood the concept of being "left over" sure nobody wants to be single forever but why put pressure on it? is it like a government campaign? people should respect other peoples live choices solo or not^^
In a way, all of these men and women are being bullied by a stupid system. I am not talking about government or policies, but the cultural system. But I am sure they will evolve on that area as much as they have done in their economy.
I am someone who always appreciated the asian culture in most part, but when it comes to the mindset of their society related to relationships, it is quite disappointing, I would probably be single in China aswell. Their mindset isn't that different from most western women.
I find it actually insane that the ladies that's a bit older seems to be more understanding or exhibit better and more open outlooks.
The pressure on men in China to purchase a house, car, and provide a dowry in order to gain acceptance from a woman's family creates a significant social and financial burden. This expectation has led to a system where young couples are often unable to afford homes on their own, especially given that many earn less than 10,000 yuan a month, far below the necessary income to buy property in today’s inflated market. As a result, wealthier families are stepping in to buy homes for their children, perpetuating class divides and making it nearly impossible for poorer individuals to marry. This cycle of dependency on family wealth not only hinders social mobility but also drives housing prices even higher, further widening the gap between the rich and poor. Ultimately, this tradition exacerbates inequality and limits personal freedom in marriage choices, making it difficult for many to achieve a stable, independent life.
Great topic ❤ thank you
a wise question to follow up on this interview, as a reason for why men are choosing to refuse to pursue women with the same will power as their parents, and grandparents, might be primarily due to the prevalance of internet porn. Also, excessive masturbation draining any desire to go out and find a women. it would be interesting to get this perspective from both women and men. this is a huge issue in america.
The attitudes around sex and sexuality have changed for both genders, not to mention marriage and loyalty, or the financial risks involved. No one also seems willing to speak about how hormonal birth control affects the behavior of women, and men when exposed to it (e.g. via hormonal residue in the environment, or even during sex).
@@defeqel6537”hormonal residue” is complete nonsense pseudoscience at best, nobody talks about it because there is nothing to talk about. Hormonal contraceptives for the purposes of the women is another topic which is actually reasonable to consider, I think overall it is a positive as it leads to MANY avoided unwanted births abortions etc
@ 20:00 what is this logic in the year 2024? last time i checked, raising sons also requires significant investment from parents. maybe money grow on trees if you have a son
25:36 it always amazes me how fast some people can speak . I can't speak like this even in my own language lol
Hope that the Government would focus more internally in helping people find happiness and make creating families a top social priority. Even more than other western nations. Making a happier and more fulfilling society may improve western impression of China and gain much more respect than militarily. May also help solve the population shrinkage that all nations face in developed countries.
Hi! Thank you for the video! I just wanted to ask, at 4:29 in my opinion the translation could be changed. I would write: "In pursuing a girl they are not enough passionate/decisive/driven" I don't think the lady meant aggressive, I think the lady meant they don't take enough initiative, that their dating approach is lame, but i could be wrong. anyway, love ya!
Financial insecurity, crazy property prices, not spending hundreds of thousands for a tiny dump, too many woman are pretentious and teo faced, raising kids to go through same hardships
Thank you for the video. In which city are these interviews held? Interesting to have such a variety of dialects.
the more successful you are and can afford the lifestyle, you can have anyone that'll say yes.
If the guy at 5:10 thinks it may be because these men are ugly then he should consider himself lucky he has a partner
Ai ya ni shuo 🤦🏾♂️
他可能很有钱 😂
there seems to be a typo in the title ... sure it was meant to say "..About Diamond BACHELORS?"
Gonna be real with you, if we had to pay dowry in the USA no one would be married 😂
We pay the dowry after divorce…to the court system not the parents and it’s called child support and alimony. One way or another men will pay.
@@Elephant_King_GjDowry is payment from bride family, in America it seems to be the other way around. Incentivised to get a divorce from the woman side.
@@Elephant_King_Gjmen have, on the average, more spending money after divorce, and women have less, plus women do most of the work raising the children. You imagine two hundred bucks a month is enough to support a kid properly? What elephants are you the king of?
感觉出现剩男和剩女的原因是你有很多选择。我们父母那一代没什么可以选的：家庭或者同事，朋友介绍的。现在只要你坐着厕所刷个手机也能找到对象。这就导致你一直希望遇见一个更好的人，结果肯定是贪多必失
您比较聪明😌
Sure, must be, definitely not because females can make more money so they only want even better men then actually literally no men can fit her requirements, and definitely not because after they can’t find for so long they simply can’t reproduce and no one wants them anymore.
你说的很对
People don't seem to know that extra men are because the government aborted most of the girls.
wise words
It's way more fun being a single man than a single woman, as long as you have a decent job and a couple of good friends.
No single women can just stream online and get dozens and dozens of suitors.
@aoeu256 until she hits the wall then those 'suitors' will go to the next 20 year old
Men also get old...and want real companionship and need help. But by then most women don't wanna be bothered.
I've never met a woman who was a net contributor to my life, and probably never will. Which is fine, because I'm healthy and wealthy, and enjoying being a single guy well into my 40's.
@@aquavit Okay. Good luck.
How do you convince people to make interviews 😢😢
"Leftover" men and women is not a problem unique to China, but a problem endemic to first world nations where the belief that money and personal freedom are more important than children and family prevails. Even in the United States, it is not the wealthy who are breeding, but the poor and the immigrants. People care more about amassing as much hell money as possible than living a meaningful life. When you are young and myopic, there are few things worse in life than getting exactly what you wanted.
Smart people consider incentives. Parents spend a lot of money and time but don't get much support or respect from society. If society wants people to have kids willingly, parenthood must be made into less of a burden.
@@ollieanntan4478 People who require financial incentives to have children should never ever have children, because they reduce human life into a dollar amount. This worship of money above everything is the root of the problem.
Exactly right.
Another issue is, men and women are different on a biological level, and modernity goes completely against nature.
To put it simply, women don't care about men, which is why as bad as men might be, women in charge and with all the wealth is much more dangerous and destructive.
This is not a problem, there's nothing wrong with it if someone wants to live like that.
@@Glitch-txs it's a problem because it's based on a lie.
That's why people call 30 the "suicide age" if you didn't _____ then you probably won't, raising kids is scary you don't know how they're going to turn out.
__里面你想说了什么？
14:00 lol, rich is youqian literally (having money)
Greating from "Sinegias Holisticas".
Please use exact tranlation into (English), not modified. Because It is smost of the time difficult to understand. As I am here to learn Chinese. Thanks.
I love chinese culture on the whole, its fascinating how they evolved culturally, financially and a economic power house that it is.But when it comes to the human side of how people are treated or even traded particularly women its miles and miles away behind. Why do parents put their sons and daughters under pressure to get married so badly in their 20 s? i watch tv dramas and the themes are all the same. no wonder the birth rate is dramatically falling and population shrinking. there is exodus of people leaving china particularly the young generation who wants to see the world and enjoy life.
where i came from people get married and find new partners at the age of 50 and 60s, there is no such thing like left overs, This is a term that we use for discarded food non edible. I think when they realise that love is more important than dowries and red envelopes, the population will grow much faster.
It’s a mess, the youth are rejecting tradition, but not finding loving relationships. Look at the west, has feminism and post modernism and materialism brought wellness and happiness? The answer is no.
Yes you are right i am too young to know about relationship. i am only 50. never mind. one can clearly say through yours comments are from a narrow minded person who probably is looking for love and it is not confident yet . i think you should go back to where you came from try to figure it out what that loving bind of yours is and be happy.
by the way it was just a comment i meant no offence. Remember FREE SPEECH probably not. you are not western.
It does not look you are western and i dont agree with your opinion but respect your say. Open your mind and look around you. you are not being realistic judging peoples traditions and values. If you dont want other people judging your opinion keep it for yourself.
@@Elephant_King_Gjmaybe you would prefer no women at all, elephant man.
@@charleswalters5284 No, I don’t see why you’d think to say that.
There are many important women in my life that I care for and care for me.
I'm about to go back to University at 27 years old and single so if I do end up dating I will be a leftover man. So this video will probably be insightful
I think if you do end up dating you won’t be a “leftover man”, more if you don’t end up dating? Not that it matters either way
Don't let this made up term get to you. There's no such thing as a leftover man. Men can always continue to be sought after as long as they improve themselves. For women, it's a different story as they need their youth and fertility window to be desired by high value mates.
After getting into two good majors in college I was laughed at by some one I knew in church saying "it's so easy to get a woman, just go to a bar!".
Great video! lots of different persons and views.
if men must pay a dowry for a partner, that is not gender equality. Do women have equal pay? One girl said a dowry should be paid because her parents brought he up - well, who do you think brought up the man? He certainly didnt grow up by himself.
Traditionally it's only the guy. However, many women now are matching the dowry and some even want to use the dowry to put it into a fund for children. Dowry still seems to happen but I haven't met a Chinese girl who wanted dowry from me when we talked marriage.
more of a tradition. and you know the asian game about traditions!
One thing I really hate is the bridge price. I just don’t understand it. And so high. How does the price get decided? I mean 30 years ago how much was it?
Supply/Demand ever heard of capitalism?
Great ❤❤❤❤
I think it’s important to get married to have someone potentially take care of you when you’re older. There’s no guarantee your kids will be good productive citizens and take care of you in your golden years. But it is more likely that no one will take as good of care for you as your family will. Plus I don’t see in China’s future there are enough kids being born today that are available in any field that will be able to efficiently take care of the Elders of tomorrow.
13:59 lie filter [OFF]
Was expecting more drama.
Population decline and quality of children as they grow to adults is a major problem all over the world. China must create a comprehensive change to creating larger families that will support a healthy society. This starts with matching right mates, to making childbirth easier, to having a robust and effective education system that embraces the traditional Chinese values.
woww
好喜欢老师了，谢谢老师
How about wang Lao Hu?
我们剩男真的无所谓妹子的偏见，我们注意的是XBOX X和PS5的游戏是否有好好更新哦！
All the local accents sound the same to me xD are they easily distinguishable to native speakers?
I'm not a native speaker, and I can notice the differences in accents.
你们说（对象）这个字是什么意思呢 partner or goal?
It means partner, boyfriend or girlfriend.
Does anyone else get the impression Chinese men are getting an ultra raw deal? So much work just to appease your partner's arbitrary 安全感. And the men interviewed here and in other videos don't seem to question a setup so obviously unfair towards them.
Can't afford hyper-inflated financial requirements that only apply to you and not her? Just use your parents' life savings. ??? What an insane response. How conditioned are these men to have so little self-respect?
Its interesting that china is having a feminist reckoning with the unequal treatment of women (for example, employers inquire into your marriage status and will deny or fire you if they think you might have children) but the dowry is still commonplace. The dowry was eventually abandoned in the west because it was seen as a transaction for property.
Today i found out im a leftover man haha
I don’t care 🤷♂️ what they think … I can live without a women !! My life won’t change much 😊
do a street video on 消费习惯
现在有很多人不愿意结婚。 经济和买房子是一个大的困难！
Logically, no such thing as leftover men. When something is valuable...demand is high at the beginning where everybody is trying to grab for it...and if it is not taken but being left alone...then it is leftover. But men gain their value at 30 to 50....so leftover don't make sense.
There are like 7 times more men than women of marrying age in china. Get it? 6 out of 7 men can't marry.
And at 50, a viable child is much less likely
@@charleswalters5284 not really, unless you've lived really unhealthily, unlike egg cells, sperm cells are created daily and thus deteriorate at a much much slower rate
Finding a right is not easy as both need to love one another. If both cannot get along ..better dont marry as you will get heart sick along the way. Better dont get married. Left over man sometimes fit you better.
I love your videos
China is a country with 1B inhabitants, different cultures, provinces with more rural and traditional populations, others more urban and modern. Of course, dowry is not a rule that all Chinese people follow. To think this is so is to have no idea what China is. Throughout Europe, for example, we also have this dynamic between tradition and modernity and we find many populations whose traditions have been maintained for centuries...
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male and female's mating strategy and biological needs are different. generally male would prefer to spread their seeds wide and far while female would prefer to lockdown the best male so they can get to extract resources from him and gain protection for stability and security. marriage is compatible and beneficial to female but totally against male. females are considered a winner to be able to find the best deal they can get to marry them and it is a big mistake to use female's standard to measure on male's success. successful male measurement should be wealthy and be able to met his mating strategy and biological needs. i think dating or be in a relationship is still consider a win for male but once he get trapped into marriage then he is a loser. whenever i attend someone's wedding, i will always congratulate the bride and seldom congratulate the bridegroom unless his partner is an asset to him rather than a liability.
I didn't know the dowry was still in China...and so high too. Think I won't be looking for a Chinese girl...
Girls from big cities don’t ask for dowry. I never heard of dowry in Beijing.
This looks like response to videos after leftover women
There isn't really a "leftover man". A man is leftover the moment he is born. It is simply men with wealth and men without.
This 100% the term itself is nonsensical and you can tell it was just invented by salty/angry women who think they can apply the same logic the other around (which doesn't work as men aren't valued for their looks/fertility window, instead on their ability to lead or provide)
I love strong women, that's one of the reasons why my girlfriend is Chinese 😁
I'm so glad I married a Scandinavian wife. They are not materialistic like Chinese women. I was dirt poor when I married her.
The stronger the woman, the better
Leftover men don’t care.. can get along fine..
my young bro comes over close to the end of the video, he asked," what is leftover man?". I unironically said,"ME. Me is exactly that." He blanked then slowly nodded then walked away.
Mainland China and outside world different standards. Even in TW or SG even if 33 year old women not married is fine. For men maybe 40 45
Beautiful place.
leftover men and women are leftovers. society already has had its fill of married couples; something must be wrong societally. if leftovers are eventually eaten, they may be past their prime and approaching expiration. some require aging to reach their prime, though it can be difficult to discern fermentation from rot.
Hypergamy
我是一位富二代而且我没有爱人或者女朋友所以我非常高兴。😄
Maybe it’s a good choice. It’s just a good time to be alone, now in China only.
Be gay!
@@user-mr8gb3jo4f 您好🤗我们喜欢特别漂亮的有很多钱的不太聪明的中国女生们😶
Hi, do you have your material available in traditional characters?
Yes, supporters can access our videos' transcripts with traditional characters.
Left over men? They see if they have any assets or wealth. The guy can be a shrimp and ugly, if they have money and wealth, it can all be overcome and accepted. That is the standards.
我不是生男😅
Leftover society. You either settle for second best or you don't that simple. One chance in life.
那我是剩男了吧。😀
Jeez and I thought the situation was grim in the west. China seems even worse off!