"You'll never catch me dying": living with stage four cancer. | Jen Sotham | TEDxVeniceBeach
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- When something awful happens, most of us ask WHY ME, as in, what did we do to deserve this? But maybe we're looking at this question from the wrong angle. Writer Jen Sotham turns the question around, reimagining "why me?" as "giving the gift of me", and finding astounding power and purpose and comfort as she lives with stage four cancer. Her cancer may kill her, but you'll never catch her dying. For more visit Jen's blog jenvscancer.wordpress.com/ This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I stayed off the internet when diagnosed stage 4 lung, liver, kidney, spine both shoulders and left hip 2/9/2015. I am in year 7.5. If your reading this there is hope. Her words are genuine and she speaks her truth. Walk in faith, not by sight. 2 Corinthians 5:7
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Hi Steve I think you faced metastatis statge 4 ,, which treatment you have followed pls tell me bcoz my father is also facing stage 4 nasopharynx cancer and is in metastatis condition cancer is spreded to other body parts ,, pls tell me what treatment you have taken to free from cancer pls reply to me it would be helpful to me
Steve I am seeing this and praying for you. I pray everyone seeing this lifts you up. How are you feeling?
Have you tried the therapeutic ketogenic diet with fasting? I am a nutritionist and have seen incredible things. I have also seen amazing miracles at the mighty hand of God. May He encounter your tonight.
Anyone heard of the doc in Texas? Dr Bruzinski ? (Spelling). Check out the TH-cam special on him.
I’m sorry to learn you passed away in 2017 Jen.
Your blog (and therefore your words) will live on.
Reading on how much you loved doing this Ted talk (and the pain it took) makes you a winner… with a smile on your face and song in your heart.
Your light will be sadly missed. My condolences to all who knew and loved you.
Melanoma responds extremely well to Gerson Therapy a special plant based / special juicing protocol. Many have fully recovered with this for Melanoma - it responds well.
What about colon cancer@@steingrimurhermannsson3825
Thank you, from a stage 4 lung,palliative care patient. Yes, I'm alive, so time I start living. Hugs.
Bless you
A big gentle hug to you from me.
We love you so much .
We all love you, best of luck!
HAPPY NEW DREAMS FOR 2020
God bless her for the way she cared about others even in the midst of her life and drath struggle. May she rest in Peace!
It's a struggle but acknowledge what you can do, I'm 37 yrs old and had stage 3 Colon cancer but am doing stable. So grateful for you 💓
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Sorry to heat that. Wish you well!!!
I just starting living my life at age 46. I get it now. Count your blessings. Don't worry about things out of your control. Be honest. Be kind. Listen to your body. It will tell you when it's thirsty, hungry and most important, tired. Simply, take care of yourself.
One of the bravest people I've ever known. Miss you Jen! ❤️
Today, every moment is emotional, and I cherish each one. My husband and
children are the most important people in my life. My child’s spring concert
brought me to tears because I knew I was so lucky to be there.
This is amazing. Safe travels, wherever you are.
Amazing and heartwarming at the same time. RIP 🌷
Amazing. Amazing lady. RIP. My friend took similar strong intelligent,. non conventional approach to motor neurons disease. I can't tell you how proud I was and how he eased the burdens of those who dearly dearly loved him. Amazing.
This lady jus said it all. An angel with a message. 💚💗💚
What a brave sharing!! Rest in Peace.. You are no longer in pain and sad with the fight in search for the cure.. Cancer took my sister too.. But we are sure to meet again in Heaven... For the family (and your dog) that are left behind.. I am sorry for your loss.. My prayers are for you
I grew up with Jen. She was an amazing speaker in school as a kid too. I will miss Jen.
Your honesty is your courage. I think your very good at that. All the best.
you're such a strong lady! i adore you so much
Wish I had the same fighting spirit you had...having lost my son, his wife and his best friend in an accident in Dallas in February, 2020. Still, I have to keep on living and fighting...like you did.
I feel the same, lost my daughter...I will always live with this deep pain...there are no words but respect.
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My son lives in Carrollton, but we raised him in OK. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son
WIOW Extremely powerful!!! We should all listen to this beautiful women’s message. There are people dying to live and others that don’t appreciate life at all. RIP BEAUTIFUL ANGEL 👼 You will never be forgotten!! 😍💙💕♥️💙❤️💜♥️💙❤️
This speech was 4 years ago. Yet until today, you are a huge inspiration!
I really hope that you made it! I pray that as you wished....no one really caught you dying... BECAUSE YOU ARE COMPLETELY HEALED NOW!!
So proud of her strength, it is inspiring! God bless her ❤️❤️❤️
Amazing insight into those few words Why Me and the positive acceptance of why not me some have to endure , bless her .
Wow you caught my attention. I'm a 3 time Cancer patient I'm so inspired by your words. God bless you.
I often wonder if the unusual diet I follow would alleviate cancer. For the last 15 years, I've been living between 92% and 100% on fluid dairy products. So every day, 92 to 100 percent of my calories come from some combination of skim milk, 1% milk, 2% milk, whole milk, half-and-half, and fluid whipping cream. In my case the diet alleviates pesky eye discomfort. But I think it will alleviate many diseases. So the mom's body makes milk and cream from food she has eaten and already broken up. And when the milk and cream go through your digestive system they get broken up again by your bile. Thus when the nutrients from the milk and cream reach the cells they've been broken up twice, versus solid food nutrients only broken up once, and hence milk/cream nutrients don't clog the cells as much as solid food nutrients, and thus the cells perform better. It's not really that the milk/cream nutrients fight cancer so much as they don't interfere with cell function as much as solid food nutrients, and hence the cells work better. I also think the mom's mammary gland chooses the elements from her own food to compose the milk/cream that are the softest and most easily handled by the baby's digestive system and whose nutrients are the least clogging to the cells, hence again the nutrients from milk/cream don't interfere as much with cell function as solid food nutrients.
You are very brave, and an inspiration . Thank you from the rest of us who need someone like you for hope and inspiration.
Sorry to learn that you lost your battle with stage 4 cancer, but you went out as a beautiful butterfly, with Grace and dignity. Your soul will be here forever
when mum has cancer, everyone has cancer.The family falls apart and the suffering and hardship, fear and anxiety, poverty and hopelessness is a cancer in itself.
Joel Decoster so true! My mom just diagnosed stage 4 bile duct cancer!😢😢
I totally understand what you mean. It is so hard to lose our precious loved ones. But Mom's want you to go on live life try to have joy and peace . Love lasts forever and we take all of it when we go. Life after life we will be with our over ones again. After all we knew each other before this life and we will know each other after. May you feel comforted.
@@weinazhang2529 I'm so sorry. I'm diagnosed with stage 4 fallopian tube cancer.
yes,my mom is so sick 4 yrs suffering ovarian metastasis now in lung and liver we are devastated 😢
@@maricelacamargo1633 god bless you both
Just so well said and beautiful.
You are truly inspirational and a lesson to us all about how not to just give up xxxx
Wow!!!
What a beautiful , “from the heart honest”, + touching speech on such a sobering subject.
I watched your speech about 4 hours ago, read in the other comments that you had passed, went to your website + read about you, read your blogs, from of your screenplays.......+ came back + watched your talk again.
How I wish I had the privilege of knowing you!
How sorry I am that one so mentally strong + who really loved life.....was finally consumed by such a disease that brings such suffering, fear, + pain (physical + emotional) to such a spirit filled with life, fight, + determination to live.
Rest In Peace Jen💐
Thank you.. I really needed this lesson. I have been so angry having cancer and so mean at times to those who don’t deserve it.. now I see I need to embrace them because I don’t know how long I might have
I’m undergoing tx for stage 4 uterine cancer, spread to my lungs. Had hysterectomy and 6 chemo txs. Have hope and a lots of praying.
This is a terrific legacy and good advice. Glad I saw this.
This just mad eme cry, what a brave woman😢
Powerful indeed. Thank you for sharing.
Your an amazing person. I pray for you.
i love your encouraging words,thinking positive is so awesome,in the bible in psalms 118 verse 17 says i will not die ,i will live and declare the work of Lord.
I was diagnosed with Stage 4 Ovarian cancer last month and her words ring true. Brava!
Hope everything works out.. 🙏
Chemo is killing you.
Prayer sent for you darlin.
@queencat59 may you keep the faith and look toward alternatives. Standard care has killed everyone I know.
@@grengiarodel not always!! I have lung cancer for the second time. I combine regular and alternative dokters, and it works.
I am the only one alive from a group of people with the same disease. They already past, they had No interest in alternative ways.
Tomorrow is my first Imuun therapie session. When I feel really sick I will stop with it.
I know big farma is sometimes really criminal.
But sometimes people are cured. It is ometimes difficult to make a decision on your own.
But my dearest trust is in the Universe, God and Love ❤️
Great words thankyou 👍🏻. True,, when your alive you live xxxx
I’m a cancer patient stage 4 metastasis to spine. From 2009 I’m fighting and accept all treatment. Now I stop ✋ any treatment and chose to live day by day .
Much love to you ❤️❤️❤️
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Hi how r u now
I pray that you live longer as long and as well as you wish. Am Stage 4 metastatic pancreatic cancer.
I admire your strength, God bless you.
Wonderful job
here is 1 brave, intelligent, beautiful, person - thank you for sharing
Rest In Peace Jen ❤️
I would hope that I can face my stage 4 cancer as bravely as Jen. God Bless and thank you fine lady for the hope that you give to those who follow you.
Best of luck, Ralph! I hope you beat the cancer. I am rooting for you!
I have been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. I looking for ways not to feel pain
@@spimentel562 how is ur health now
Well done girl fight it with all your heart I have stage 4 lung cancer and will do my best to fight it lost my beautiful boarder collie and feel it's unfair to get another as I don't know how long I've got I send you all my love and hope they find a cure for you have a great life XXX
Hi John, hope you are ok and go get a dog.....they are so great and give so much friendship and companionship.
John don't give up..pray u are still here. Look at the joe tippins protocol, rife resonance machines, and supplements. So sorry u lost your dog, that can be devastating. My wife got diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer 9 months ago. Had 6 rounds of chemo, and just had hysterectomy last week. She's really strong, and we're making plans for activities as soon as she recovers...hang in there, stay strong!
I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤
Such amazing inspiring speech from what I can tell a beautiful soul...I was recently dx with NSCLC I am now on my 5th round chemo ..this truly helped me Rest in peace Angel
Penny Blair I was diagnosed in 2015, NSCLC had a metastasized to my brain, proton first for the metastasis, then chemo, then surgery removed my upper lobe right lung. About two years later another smaller spot in my left upper lobe, removed it via vats surgery. Still being followed by two oncologists every three months. I now have another spot in my left and right lung but they are no cancerous. Lucky to have found it when they did. Good luck keep the faith take all the prayers you can get love every day!!
@billstose can you please tell me if your ok ? My dad has NSCLC.... it’s killing me 😩
Live in the moment you’re amazing
You may not be here to read this little comment. But lady, you branded on my very soul. I love you for that xxxxc
Your so beautiful and brave. So many people take life for granted. We need to look at life a appreciate life better.
Wow this was great,shout out to her..
Wow what an amazing Women! She just inspired me & I guarantee that whole room.
Truly amazing 💔❤
Thank you for sharing your experience.this can give hope.above all God is great.
A powerful & inspirational speech from a beautiful soul!👍👏
Sadly I just learned she passed away, but at least she lived a vibrant life full of happy moments and lots of love,❤️
She's home and probably even more vibrant!
Really! So all the immuno drugs didn’t work?
@@akpskincare604 immunotherapy is to keep you alive till they empty your pocket . They are looking for drugs not cure . Like insulins like asthma ......
Allyson
Are you a real dog with spectacles?
@xavi xavi She meant home in heaven.
Thanks for that iv lived three years with secondary lung cancer. Iv just finished two years of immunotherapy , and still going. A nurse told be I’d be dead within three months how wrong she was. God bless you from Susan in England UK 🙏🏻💕
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Basically, it is possible that she is a nurse, not a doctor. The nurses view should be taken with pinch of salt.
we love you 3000
So touching. I am in awe she was amazing. God may have her in heaven.
Only if she was saved according to Gods Word, the Bible.
@@oscarcat1231 lol
@@oscarcat1231 ////// Totally irrelevant. The bible is NOT God's word.
k0smon ‘and then they all drowned’....
@@oscarcat1231 Who 'they'?
God Bless and I Love You All!!!!
Just found out a close friend has stage 4 liver cancer. Praying for all of you. I pray you will have strength, be in less pain and be healed when they say there is no hope. Sending you all love
Hi how is he or she?
Praying won't help you crying won't do you no good.
Rip brave dear heart
Although I doubt she'll be resting wherever she is;)
@@artsmart nope, maybe decaying 🤣🤣🤣🤣 but definitely resting
YOU are AMAZING👌🥰🥰 stay strong and stay true to,you - keep fighting beautiful soul - your positive message will help sooo many people . The past 3 generations of women in my family have been affected by cancer ... I try not to focus in any way on the statistics that I’m likely to develop it - sending much love and strength to you beautiful strong soul . Thanks for sharing with us all - I love your POSITIVE attitude 🙏🏼🥰👌👌
Love you, Jen
This talk instill my belief that the struggle im going though is real and my way to live it this way is actually hopeful way!! May be i wont live too long but InshaAllah i will make my years here worth it!! Aameen!!❤
I hope you are all well. May allah grant you cure. Ameen
Aamiin
Thanks for showing me that we're not along in this. Stay strong and cancer free y'all
Rest In Peace Jen... I miss you...
Only cancer patient and families can feel how cruel is this disease. More saddening is that in 2021 also there still NO CURE.
I respect you.
Whoa . . that was awesome!
POWERFUL!
Thank-you I needed to hear that ...I just started my 3rd go round with lymphoma
Depressing to say the least but your words help💜💪
Any updates?
Rice therapy was beyond tough , brink of death tough for me after 2 rounds (6 treatments)
Scans are clear Hooray ...F#%k cancer it’s my PTSD
@@wtftaz1 wow, great news, feeling very happy for you, Always stay healthy, go Ayurvedic diet, or Always choose best food for yourself.
I wish I am as brave as this lady.
She is died sadly
do it. hodgkinien type 3 here. i have no choice. Doing it or surrender. my art cant wait till i die, it has to be done. Now. intent it. summon it. Dont wish for it, manifest it.
You Are, you just don’t know it yet.. 💖🌈🏖🦋👏👏
Thank u!!!
We will hug every morning together, with fresh air, blazing sky, cat, dog, all our friend and neighbours cherish the day, together we will live forever.
Listening while sitting in the cancer clinic, cancer is off the scale woe is me!!!!
2002 level 2 - after surgery level 4 - stage A - big chunk of left foot missing...please check your skin
She is my hero.
“Circumstances don’t make the man, they only reveal him to himself.” Jen has in my eyes revealed herself to be a legend.
“What you leave in life is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” She has inspired so many! Rest in Peace ❤️
That is beautiful and helps
Her blog is her legacy.. I love u Jen mama.
Love you Jen. xxx
Cancer is not the only terminal illness we can meet. Dementia is another and Lewy Body Dementia has a shorter road than others. Before a span of 5-7 yrs are up. Before dieing one loses one's self and some indignities may be benchmarks ( temper tantrums, crying jags, hallucinations, delusions etc.). After listening to this young woman I've determined to perhaps blog lessons and realities about the road signs on my highway. At least until I cease "being" who I am. Maybe it will be of help to someone on this path, because this young woman has been an inspiration to me.
Brilliant 👍
How moving!!!
With great respect I just wonder why we fear death so much and see it as an enemy. It comes to all.of us .My sister refused to accept her stage 4 cancer diagnosis as a death sentence till the end .Cant we do what we can to heal but also accept at some point we leave so maybe it's ok to embrace it at some point
As an American I feel that the fear of death is unique to Western culture. Other cultures accept death for what it is; an inevitable part of life. I recently was diagnosed with metastatic lung cancer, This is my 6th and I suspect my final bout with cancer. My first cancer was Hodgkins Lymphoma, diagnosed when I was 23 years old. Since my first cancer diagnosis I have had 5 subsequent cancers over the years, I am now 71. Believe it or not, I am grateful for each and every cancer I was diagnosed with. Cancer has taught me how to live, love and truly appreciate my life.
I miss you every day ❤️
When did she pass away? I just discovered her today 😫
My lovely friend Carol Hunter died of lung cancer this year. I miss her every day.
This is what strength looks like.
When your alive ….you live… So profound.
Being sent for a biopsy.
I think I'm next.
Why me?
Like my dawta said, why not you?
(* crazy, I typed this,and she said the same thing,a few moments later)
I think our expiration dates are fated.
I really do.
All is as it should be.
❤
Live like you're dying, because you are.
We all are.
❤
Love hard, because this all ends.
❤
We are more than conquer we are over comers.thank u ,thank u.
So profound.....
I can tell you why. Me But not why I am not died Why am I still alive i am old 76. Have Parkinson’s diabetic stage 4 cancer I choose not too have treatment because I thought I would be gone in four months It’s been two years now but I am stuck in my house because of a pandemic and now I am tired too tired to shop even if I could go out This young women had so much to live for and. She was taken way to early bless you till we meet again RIP
Indeed I rejected "why me" too. I fought without asking myself as if Im not concerned
such inspirational speech, yet everyone knows the outcome, pain misery suffering.......
Sadly Jen Sotham has passed away. This post said Nov 9 but there was no year was given...
Jen Sotham, passed away on Nov. 9. Jen was diagnosed with metastatic melanoma in 2014, but that did not prevent her from living out her dreams and having her voice heard through film, blogging, a TED talk and contributing to CURE® - both in print and on the web.
Jen, 43, was a New Yorker, but had also recently spent nearly a decade living and working in Busan, South Korea. She was a writer and musician who had taught composition and conversation at the university level.
I pray she is still alive today. Cancer is relentless, is vicious and the end of the road is Eternity. I am on the ancient Urine Therapy (rubbing, putting some in the mouth. Others drink lots of urine). But it has warded off cancer, diabetes, cardio vascular and thousands of other diseases. I eat a normal diet ( junk to good), eat no vitamins, no other therapies. And Zero visits to doctors for 25 years. Urine therapy is my Life. Free, powerful. I am not preaching to others...just sharing my experience.
In 2011, I started having acid reflux. It was uncomfortable and concerning, so I went to our family doctor for an exam. During the visit, he asked me when I’d last had my prostate-specific antigen (PSA) checked, the routine test many men do to screen for possible signs of prostate cancer. It had been about three years since I’d done this test, so he added it to my visit that day. The results showed I had a PSA score above 20, and my doctor recommended that I have a biopsy. A few days later, I received the news from an oncologist at the same clinic where our regular doctor practices, that the biopsy had tested positive for prostate cancer. I was 60 years old at the time. The diagnosis was devastating. I felt like I’d just been hit with a sledgehammer.
The oncologist recommended that I have my prostate removed. At first I was ready to say yes. Why not just have the prostate removed and get rid of the cancer? That seemed like the most logical idea.
But although I did not want to waste another minute before doing whatever I could, the oncologist recommended taking my time. He suggested that I talk things over with my wife and let him know my decision within a couple of weeks.
After trying almost everything it did not work I was recommended to Fastcancercure on Instagram. I decided to communicate with them. And I provided all the infortion they require and miraculously when they finished doing their stuffs to my greatest surprise after a month time I was now feeling really good. I had to head to the hospital for check up and my prostrate cancer test was negative. Thanks to Fastcancercure on Instagram.,
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What’s the relations between acid reflux and prostate cancer?
My father had melanoma..it started on his lip..then his whole face then in his arms..then it went into remission for 16 years..he died from the most foolish thing.
A hernia
We are all going back to God.. no one is gonna live forever.
Amen.
Gods not real, we are gonna die though
My mom has a stage 4 liver cancer. It is all in gods hand.
You're mom will be healed in the name of Jesus.
My mother died five days ago from metastatic melanoma. I’m a little shocked this came up in my queue. (My mom was 84 and had nearly a year to “get her ducks in a row.” It’s ok.)
RIP