diagnosed at 62. My life has been very difficult and I just thought I was stupid. Now I know better and I can make the rest of my life the best of my life.
@@Theinmy20sDiaries since my ADHD diagnosis, I also received a diagnosis of autism/aspergers. All the pieces of the puzzle then fell into place. I could look back and see how it affected me in so many negative ways. Once again, I do my best every day to be the best possible man I can be and give back as often as possible. Stay strong and you'll be fine.
@@gudduentertains me too...I break it up into fifteen minutes and I have people like my PA who just check on me every fifteen minutes...it's insane how careful I have to be!
I have found my ADHD got much more affected & worse when I had kids. It’s just overwhelming most of the time and ADHDers get overwhelmed easier. I didn’t struggle nearly as much prior. I’ve had to really setup more structure, routine and habits to stay sane now, especially staying regulated. I don’t think this is talked about enough. Sending hugs to everyone, you’re doing great.
Same here! I could handle life ok before I had kids. Because it was only me that was affected. Shure, I had problems wit remember things, doing some tasks and focus. But at my age I had strategies to work around most of it. But now having the responsibility to be the best dad.. I often feel like a failure. ( with kids also diagnosed, it does not make it easier). It was after my divorce, and when my daughter seemed to be wilder than other kids, I started to look in to what ADHD really was. That was when I realized I had ADHD (ADD). I always thought ADHD was the wild kids. I am often very calm, but have all other struggles.
Same here. Not diagnosed but I’m certain I have it. It’s so hard being a mom (of 4) and husband who’s very specific and a perfectionist. He has no idea how much I’m struggling and he is not one to understand it.
As a 51-year old who is just now learning about his ADHD, I am brought to tears over and over by her descriptions of her experience and how closely it resembles mine. It is so validating. And to live this way among others who don’t understand my challenges, the guilt I feel for going to bed early. Or wanting to take space. Or even the quirky way I do many things which are in effect coping mechanisms to deal with the adhd brain… I am so grateful for every video like this where I learn I am not alone. 😊
Sleep is a big thing for me too. I feel like I need more sleep and rest than the majority, about 8-9 hours of sleep plus regular downtime for hours or days to feel fully rested. I've been struggling recently because something made me anxious which then affected my sleep which then caused fatigue which then caused poorer eating habits etc etc. I've started being more mindful about food, I'm going to add yoga back into my routine and I've been working through the anxiety triggers which all helps.
I think it is so interesting that you mentioned menopause as a trigger for your emotional regulation. I felt the same way in that the height of my Adhd symptoms occurred during my period , specifically my luteal phase. My hope is that one day they will have more studies about the connection between ADHD and the women's menstrual cycle.
I'm 63 and ADHD explains the complete trainwreck my life has been. I wonder whether getting diagnosed would help at this point. I have 40 years of misdiagnoses, medications, and useless talk therapy under my belt. It's hard to believe anything will help. There ought to be more to life than waiting for a dirt nap.
A hard, time deadline 9-5 and a professional environment are some positive structures/constraints for ADHD. Try to apply some of what you see works in your professional life in other areas of your life. The positive momentum you feel at work is also an incentive. Maybe you get it from ticking all those todos and external feedback? Just watch out from burning out and start building the positive momentum in your personal life. All the best.
I have adhd and am very productive at work also (but my home, social and mental health suffers). I have found it to get worse as I’ve gotten older also. Getting diagnosed recently and starting on medication has been a game changer for me
Diagnosed during 2020 as well. I feel stuck even tho I’m doing all the things. I have too many distractions (children). I’m tired just by getting ready for the day and getting everyone out the door. I’m done with the day by 2pm. I have no ambition. I feel I’ve done everything I want to do. Everything is too much work. My only goals are to keep myself under control so I have a peaceful home for my kids. I fail too often tho.
I’m on the same exact boat as you I have 2 young kids, no ambition, just living life like a repeat movie. I am not complaining I love my kids and wouldn’t change my life with them for anything in the whole entire universe but I feel stuck in my own personal life, my own career or lack of, everything in my own life is stagnant and more often than not I find myself feeling stuck. But then my kids call my name and everything gets brushed off until the next day where it’s the same feelings and thoughts over and over. I know how you feel and I don’t know what to do.
At 22:08 - "The thing that motivates me intrinsically, not extrinsically... is freedom of time and resources, so when I have autonomy over what I do is when I feel a peace, and peace is a big thing for me." Caren, thank you for articulating this! I've been trying to figure out why I've felt such dissonance in how I spend my time recently (even as a WFH freelancer!) and didn't figure it out until I watched this video. I want long chunks of time to just exist as myself and do what I feel called to do in that moment, and now I know it's because it's the only time I really feel at peace. This needs more time to percolate, but I think this discovery is going to have a big, positive impact in the near future. Thank you!
Thank you very much! This is exactly what I'm going through right now. On my 60th birthday about 2 months ago, I sat down and thought hard, realizing that my entire life had been a failure. I was getting increasingly disheartened and sluggish, seeing that I had achieved exactly nothing in my life. Fear of new things had become my permanent trait. I was afraid of taking initiative, allowing life to happen to me rather than making it happen. I was permanently negative and pessimistic. Then around my 60th Bday I stumbled across your video about ADHD in adult women. That was a lightbulb moment. Now 2 months later I'm a completely different person. I've changed in so many ways. I smile and laugh which didn't happen often before. I'm not afraid of life anymore. I'm shedding all the extra weight. I consider that day my second birthday. THANK YOU SO MUCH for giving me my life back ❣❣❣
HOW did you do this??? Just self talk? I'm turning 60 and i dont seem to have the mental energy to sustain change or even the 'want to' most days because of so many failed attempts. How did you lose the weight?? I am stuck and i hate it. The older i get the harder it seems. Did you try medication?
Thanks for sharing ❤ I’m recently diagnosed and in ADHD hyper research mode - really inspiring to hear your excercise journey and how it helps! I’m feeling grief for the future me I was always trying to become. I have to let that go, and accept who I am and work with that - just bought distraction to action ❤️
I stumbled on an article in a weekend newspaper supplement magazine about a businessman with ADHD and it was like the lights went on. I was formally diagnosed in my mid/late 50s.
At 3:16 That's also my story. COVID 19 and working from home changed my life. All my routines, hacks, tricks weren't working anymore. A year later I get my diagnosis (age 57)
Adhd too and lost 104 lbs but because I was crazy sick! Depression and hard on myself from adhd but then my pancreas quit making digestive enzymes and because of adhd I thought I was just tired and lazy
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@@ThomasReinhardt773 I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
I've not been officially diagnosed. However, I've known I've had ADHD all my life. I'm now 60 and have been able to mask it all my life by being someone who works long hours and will go into work on the weekends when necessary. All this in the name of being a workaholic when in fact, I could not get my head together to complete tasks during normal business hours. This is no longer the case as I lost my job this week because I could no longer mask it. ADHD combined with depression and anxiety disorder make a not so fun threesome. I take meds for the latter two however, ADHD meds always made me jittery and uncomfortable. In fact, it made my anxiety worse. I came across your videos and truly appreciate hearing your struggles with ADHD and how you've coped. Thank you for sharing. It truly helps me get through what I have been dealing with for many years. I am now following your podcast. :-)
Thanks Caren for your tips as always and for opening up about your undiagnosed years. That's one thing you can count on ADHDers - it's their authenticity!
Legit would love to see stats on people who get tested and DONT have it. And why. As someone who can't afford testing, but is also scared im "just stupid and lazy"😅
Lighten up on yourselves ❤❤❤ I don’t know who spoke to you so disrespectfully but you deserve to love yourself where you are at and not allow yourself to stagnate there… support your growth. I say this because I see belief systems here that are really tearing your sense of inner support down: “I’m afraid”, “I’m stupid” “I’m lazy” “I’m poor” … Those are situations outside of you, they are not personal identities. You are very very powerful and if you convince yourself that you ARE these things versus having a temporary misunderstanding or temporary sense of lack… You’ll NEVER escape the prisons you are creating❤❤❤❤ You ARE WORTHY. Explore and allow your growth and avoid people who would say these things to you. Start by stopping beating yourself up. Hugs 🥰 you are loved. All of you
I was tested and still haven’t found adequate treatment. The medical establishment has failed and is of course too proud to come clean - they’ll ride society’s general apathy about A-ADHD until it becomes economically untenable to continue. Our Health system, including the insurance industry, is a disgrace and affront to the Christian values it touts; it’s a grift.
Ok last comment 😅… maybe :) At 17:54 I just hear my old self apologizing for having passion for something others may not… like I was programming myself to feel sorry for being me. I LOVE that you’re obsessed with ADHD coaches because that’s what brought me here. No need to apologize in my opinion. Just sayin….. ❤
my adult daughter was diagnosed with ADHD . I started doing research and 8 saw all the symptoms in me. I had been diagnosed as bipolar 30 years ago, but now realize I have ADHD. notnofficial but i have no doubt
Listening to Chalene also helped me finally feel like I could talk about having ADHD. My mom was a school teacher and I think how did you not see me struggling mom. (Not that I blame her) A few years ago 😅ha! ADHD was hard to recognize in kids! Thank you for sharing your story!
My mum was a schooteacher too and my younger brother was born with intellectual disabilities and multiple health issues. Long story short I can see how she just had nothing left to notice anything going on with my sister and I. Just learning about all this now at 47! Best wishes to you❤️
Yes, I have come to believe lack of sleep is my main trigger also. Yet, a step beyond my lack of sleep is my resistance to going sleep. And I have not been able to figure it out or resist the resistance, at night or in the wee hours of the morning, until it is too late and I missed that night’s opportunity to get enough sleep to function well. (if I had to guess, I think it is some form of self sabotage.) Note: I like my bed, my pillows, my room. I have a variety to put myself to sleep, including yoga nidra; meditation; myself all the thoughts; imagining numbers in their fonts counting backwards; imagining a brook where my thoughts float away on leaves; prayer; etc. I know how to keep the room cool enough, dark enough, no tv, no blue light, no caffeine after 2pm for me; no alcohol before sleep if I want to sleep well; I know the healthy bedtime rules and I’ve used them. I don’t have nightmares, bad memories usually don’t bother me. I do like to sleep. I, or an inner part of me, resists me going to bed at a decent hour. I have since I was a kid, but in my early 50s now, has a husband who is frustrated by this, a child who gets less of a mom because she’s perpetually tired, a grown woman who can’t give her best to anything. [And maybe herein lies the reasoning- To keep myself down? Not my full self. Because it is safer? If someone has experience getting through this, an author, you tuber, podcaster that deals with this and where to go from here, please share.] Yes, diagnosed with ADHD in my 40s, but resist this idea because it seems like it’s more my beliefs (like I have to do all the things). Also diagnosed with C-PTSD. So related to Carin’s story except the breaking out of the cycle of low sleep/poor decisions/less exercise/adhd more impactful/repeat. Thanks.
I have been listening and re-listenin% to an audiobook, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery by Brianna Wiest. It's jncluded in a Spotify membership but available by purchase on at least one other platform. I like that she identifies each problem (and describes it to the point I cringe-in-recognition), and follows it with a how to solve this. It's clear and easy to get, though the work will be occupying me for a while. I also gain from 12 Steps.
Sleep procrastination, also known as revenge bedtime procrastination, is a common issue for people with ADHD. People with ADHD may be more likely to engage in sleep procrastination due to a number of factors, including: Self-regulation difficulties People with ADHD may have trouble with self-regulation, including impulsivity, hyper-focus, and dopamine-seeking behavior. Executive dysfunction People with ADHD may have difficulty with time management and planning, which can make it harder to establish a consistent sleep routine. Stimulating electronic devices The stimulating nature of electronic devices can be tempting and further delay bedtime. Low self-control People with ADHD may have lower self-control at the end of the day, when they are already drained from using executive function power at work, school, or on parenting. Brain's preference for immediate gratification The brain may be more satisfied with the immediate gratification of doing more favorable activities, such as watching TV, playing video games, or reading, than with the long-term gratification of going to bed on time. Some strategies to help with sleep procrastination include: Using alarms to remind you when it's time to start getting ready for bed and to go to bed Breaking up bedtime tasks so getting ready doesn't seem so daunting Putting your phone on the other side of the room, or better yet, outside the room Making sure your environment is quiet, calm, and comfortable Using noise-cancelling earphones, heavy curtains, or a white noise machine
Wow, you just described me, with the exception of an ADHD diagnosis. Recently diagnosed with C-PSTD. Just when through some DBR (Deep Brain Reorienting) for that. Next step is CBT. If I learn about something I'll report back. All the best.
Thanks for sharing your personal story! It definitely helps keep what you say in perspective. I would love to hear more about how you went back to school and got your master's, like what tips and tricks for studying and sitting thru class, etc! ;)
Caren, amazing interview. Thanks for the vulnerability and authenticity. You are an example of what’s possible for adhd. My mirror neurons were poppin’! ❤️
I would love to hear your focused take on lifestyle and habitat contaminants contributing to these imbalances within the human body that scatters our clarity. Many thanks
So fascinating to hear more of your story Caren, I'm in awe of how you turned things around. Thanks for sharing so fully. You give me great inspiration to know that I can do it too! Also YES to exercise, it changes everything :) It would be interesting to know more about your life now that you're 'doing what you love'. I have a very good career and love moments of it, but those moments are shouded in so much hard work, stress and lack of routine and security (working as a contractor in the film industry) that it's hard to know if I've found what I love or am really far from it still. I wonder if there are still moments you don't love that you have to push through to do the parts you do love and how much of that you're willing to put up with to still call it your dream life/career. Maybe an idea for a future video :) x
Could you imagine what the world would look like if mental health was prioritized. The prison population would be negligible since ADHD and other mental health issues are a major factor in people being in there in the first place. “Karen” videos wouldn’t exist. Kids in school would have a definite improvement when education is adjusted for individual learning styles. Unemployment would go further down and turnover rates would drop. It wouldn’t solve every problem but 😍 it would definitely make the world a better place.
@@helenryan5217 The whole concept is optimistic. I was abused physically and verbally as a child by a parent who was also abused as a child. I was finally diagnosed a year ago with ADHD (in my 50’s)and I can now see through my own experience that my parent and her’s were also affected by the same issues. Mental health awareness wasn’t a thing back then. In certain situations, I sometimes feel like I’m loosing my grip on my self control and if it weren’t for a lot of research on the condition and the self awareness I practice , I’d probably give in to the urge of breaking something in order to stop what triggered me in the first place. I’ve flipped a table and put my hand through a window at my most extreme but I have always refrained from violence on another. Usually I try to withdraw from the situation because I absolutely don’t want to treat my child like I was. I always feel terrible after I snap and yell when confronted by something that I’m not in the headspace for. All that and I’d consider my upbringing fairly stable in comparison to those that wind up in prison. What would they have been like if they were informed and supported to break their cycle of abuse and violence? Definitely optimistic but we need to start thinking that way or why even bother trying. Truly understanding the source of the problem is the best way of solving them
Great interview! Could you please share the podcast you mentioned about at the beginning of the video? The one you said things clicked for you that you may have ADHD after listening to it? Thanks!
Quick question Caren. When you were at your heaviest, did your knees hurt? I am I'd like to say "only 48" and it is hard for me to sit "criss-cross applesauce" for long or to squat down to my preschoolers. It is very uncomfortable. What are your thoughts? Thanks.
Obviously getting sleep is hella important for ADHD. But what are some strategies to utilize if you CAN’T regulate, and you’re thrust into a situation where you’re feeling overstimulated and don’t have time to meditate, sleep, whatever?
There’s a big correlation according to the leading trauma experts like Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Bessel Vanderkulk and many others. Gabor speaks a lot about this and has actually written books about it! Worth looking into
I’m not sure what to do, I also do the Joe Dispenza work and am taking ADHD meds (Vyvanse), and I am finding that it moves my heart center energy (which was full earlier) into my third center and it almost becomes unable to move back up because the pill literally functions by keeping most of your energy in the third center. If I didn’t have problems with being almost dependent on these pills to stay awake I’d come off them, to be honest. Any advice?
10:36 I just feel COMPELLED to ask you to consider if you’re taking too much responsibility for your mother’s poor parenting. “Because I was so defiant” strikes me as you perhaps misunderstanding your instinct to protect your spiritual integrity at a deep level that was being threatened by something you knew wasn’t good for you…. Perhaps. Only you will know this if you look within but I hate to see you shoulder that burden instead of shedding light on how that might have saved you from something threatening your internal integrity. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Jesus - can Americans not just GET TO THE POINT??? They ramble and waffle on and on and on instead of just giving a SHORT straight-forward answer. Drives me nuts. So I switch off.
This is way too long, and listen to a podcast is Utopia with my brain. Great if your videos were max 10 minutes! Extremely interesting topics but really hard to consume.
diagnosed at 62. My life has been very difficult and I just thought I was stupid. Now I know better and I can make the rest of my life the best of my life.
This is so inspiring! I got diagnosed later in life as well and your outlook is one I try to adopt for my everyday life
@@Theinmy20sDiaries since my ADHD diagnosis, I also received a diagnosis of autism/aspergers. All the pieces of the puzzle then fell into place. I could look back and see how it affected me in so many negative ways. Once again, I do my best every day to be the best possible man I can be and give back as often as possible. Stay strong and you'll be fine.
9oojooo0j0opjji@@Theinmy20sDiaries
I feel this so deeply … I’m 46 and going through the process. Felt like a hopeless failure all my life 🙈
@@meqa10 but you're not. We are simply different.
You talk about planning a week.,,, I have to plan my day, somedays down to brushing my teeth, showering etc
Me too
@@gudduentertains me too...I break it up into fifteen minutes and I have people like my PA who just check on me every fifteen minutes...it's insane how careful I have to be!
@@petern4093that must be expensive
I do both. Plan the week and then pick stuff off of that list every day. Planning your day is good! 👍 ❤
You are not alone. And I have to constantly remind myself that there should be no shame in that, even when I fail at some of those simplest of tasks.
I have found my ADHD got much more affected & worse when I had kids. It’s just overwhelming most of the time and ADHDers get overwhelmed easier. I didn’t struggle nearly as much prior. I’ve had to really setup more structure, routine and habits to stay sane now, especially staying regulated. I don’t think this is talked about enough. Sending hugs to everyone, you’re doing great.
yes. 100%.
Same here! I could handle life ok before I had kids. Because it was only me that was affected. Shure, I had problems wit remember things, doing some tasks and focus. But at my age I had strategies to work around most of it. But now having the responsibility to be the best dad.. I often feel like a failure. ( with kids also diagnosed, it does not make it easier). It was after my divorce, and when my daughter seemed to be wilder than other kids, I started to look in to what ADHD really was. That was when I realized I had ADHD (ADD). I always thought ADHD was the wild kids. I am often very calm, but have all other struggles.
Me too! Thank you for your comment I can relate! Motherhood is hard in and of itself self but with ADHD makes it so much harder..
Same here. Not diagnosed but I’m certain I have it. It’s so hard being a mom (of 4) and husband who’s very specific and a perfectionist. He has no idea how much I’m struggling and he is not one to understand it.
@@elizabeth20099 ❤
As a 51-year old who is just now learning about his ADHD, I am brought to tears over and over by her descriptions of her experience and how closely it resembles mine. It is so validating. And to live this way among others who don’t understand my challenges, the guilt I feel for going to bed early. Or wanting to take space. Or even the quirky way I do many things which are in effect coping mechanisms to deal with the adhd brain… I am so grateful for every video like this where I learn I am not alone. 😊
Sleep is a big thing for me too. I feel like I need more sleep and rest than the majority, about 8-9 hours of sleep plus regular downtime for hours or days to feel fully rested. I've been struggling recently because something made me anxious which then affected my sleep which then caused fatigue which then caused poorer eating habits etc etc. I've started being more mindful about food, I'm going to add yoga back into my routine and I've been working through the anxiety triggers which all helps.
I think it is so interesting that you mentioned menopause as a trigger for your emotional regulation. I felt the same way in that the height of my Adhd symptoms occurred during my period , specifically my luteal phase. My hope is that one day they will have more studies about the connection between ADHD and the women's menstrual cycle.
I'm 63 and ADHD explains the complete trainwreck my life has been. I wonder whether getting diagnosed would help at this point. I have 40 years of misdiagnoses, medications, and useless talk therapy under my belt. It's hard to believe anything will help. There ought to be more to life than waiting for a dirt nap.
💯 spot on
I'm right behind you in the same boat at 53.
In HS I convinced all my teachers to give me 2 books. 😅 I kept 1 at home and other in my locker.... Srsly in my locker 😂
smart!!!
Great idea!!!
That’s actually brilliant! 💡
That's flippin' brilliant 👏👏
I Have ADHD. I am VERY productive at work. My social and home life suffer the most and getting worse the older I get.
A hard, time deadline 9-5 and a professional environment are some positive structures/constraints for ADHD. Try to apply some of what you see works in your professional life in other areas of your life. The positive momentum you feel at work is also an incentive. Maybe you get it from ticking all those todos and external feedback? Just watch out from burning out and start building the positive momentum in your personal life. All the best.
I have adhd and am very productive at work also (but my home, social and mental health suffers). I have found it to get worse as I’ve gotten older also. Getting diagnosed recently and starting on medication has been a game changer for me
That is me too
Diagnosed during 2020 as well. I feel stuck even tho I’m doing all the things. I have too many distractions (children). I’m tired just by getting ready for the day and getting everyone out the door. I’m done with the day by 2pm. I have no ambition. I feel I’ve done everything I want to do. Everything is too much work. My only goals are to keep myself under control so I have a peaceful home for my kids. I fail too often tho.
I’m on the same exact boat as you I have 2 young kids, no ambition, just living life like a repeat movie. I am not complaining I love my kids and wouldn’t change my life with them for anything in the whole entire universe but I feel stuck in my own personal life, my own career or lack of, everything in my own life is stagnant and more often than not I find myself feeling stuck. But then my kids call my name and everything gets brushed off until the next day where it’s the same feelings and thoughts over and over. I know how you feel and I don’t know what to do.
Ugh menopause adds fuel on the adhd fire.
Absolutely it does!!! So tough! 😢
Definitely 😢
Sure does!
So I am finding out at 45..!🙃 😣 ✨
Yes I'm struggling at 43 but I'm treated
At 22:08 - "The thing that motivates me intrinsically, not extrinsically... is freedom of time and resources, so when I have autonomy over what I do is when I feel a peace, and peace is a big thing for me." Caren, thank you for articulating this! I've been trying to figure out why I've felt such dissonance in how I spend my time recently (even as a WFH freelancer!) and didn't figure it out until I watched this video. I want long chunks of time to just exist as myself and do what I feel called to do in that moment, and now I know it's because it's the only time I really feel at peace. This needs more time to percolate, but I think this discovery is going to have a big, positive impact in the near future. Thank you!
Thank you very much! This is exactly what I'm going through right now. On my 60th birthday about 2 months ago, I sat down and thought hard, realizing that my entire life had been a failure. I was getting increasingly disheartened and sluggish, seeing that I had achieved exactly nothing in my life. Fear of new things had become my permanent trait. I was afraid of taking initiative, allowing life to happen to me rather than making it happen. I was permanently negative and pessimistic.
Then around my 60th Bday I stumbled across your video about ADHD in adult women. That was a lightbulb moment. Now 2 months later I'm a completely different person. I've changed in so many ways. I smile and laugh which didn't happen often before. I'm not afraid of life anymore. I'm shedding all the extra weight. I consider that day my second birthday. THANK YOU SO MUCH for giving me my life back ❣❣❣
HOW did you do this??? Just self talk? I'm turning 60 and i dont seem to have the mental energy to sustain change or even the 'want to' most days because of so many failed attempts. How did you lose the weight?? I am stuck and i hate it. The older i get the harder it seems. Did you try medication?
This video gave me a name for my behaviors. ADHD is not diagnosed but I’ve lived this all my life.
Sleep is important. Period. It will impact on all our habits and effects our mood - regardless of a diagnosis.
Thanks for sharing ❤ I’m recently diagnosed and in ADHD hyper research mode - really inspiring to hear your excercise journey and how it helps!
I’m feeling grief for the future me I was always trying to become. I have to let that go, and accept who I am and work with that - just bought distraction to action ❤️
I stumbled on an article in a weekend newspaper supplement magazine about a businessman with ADHD and it was like the lights went on. I was formally diagnosed in my mid/late 50s.
At 3:16 That's also my story. COVID 19 and working from home changed my life. All my routines, hacks, tricks weren't working anymore. A year later I get my diagnosis (age 57)
Adhd too and lost 104 lbs but because I was crazy sick! Depression and hard on myself from adhd but then my pancreas quit making digestive enzymes and because of adhd I thought I was just tired and lazy
I’m addicted to the home edit rn. Idk how this clutter accumulates 🥴
I was just diagnosed last week aged 43.
welcome to the club!!!
Same... This week, age 52.
@@CarenMagill thank you, happy to be with you all!
Diagnosed at 60. What a relief!
@@VooDooSue sending love! We’re in this together!
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@@ThomasReinhardt773
I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
@@AlbertoTorres894Does he deliver to various locations?
I've not been officially diagnosed. However, I've known I've had ADHD all my life. I'm now 60 and have been able to mask it all my life by being someone who works long hours and will go into work on the weekends when necessary. All this in the name of being a workaholic when in fact, I could not get my head together to complete tasks during normal business hours. This is no longer the case as I lost my job this week because I could no longer mask it. ADHD combined with depression and anxiety disorder make a not so fun threesome. I take meds for the latter two however, ADHD meds always made me jittery and uncomfortable. In fact, it made my anxiety worse. I came across your videos and truly appreciate hearing your struggles with ADHD and how you've coped. Thank you for sharing. It truly helps me get through what I have been dealing with for many years. I am now following your podcast. :-)
Thanks Caren for your tips as always and for opening up about your undiagnosed years. That's one thing you can count on ADHDers - it's their authenticity!
I too lost my pops at 17 and dropped out I can see the emotion your holding back talking about it . Your channel is a gem thank you !!
Legit would love to see stats on people who get tested and DONT have it. And why. As someone who can't afford testing, but is also scared im "just stupid and lazy"😅
It feels like everyone and their mother has it now. I firmly believe I do but I’m also poor and afraid lol 😆 Would love to see those stats as well!
Would just love to see what the testing process is
Testing is essentially a bunch of questions, you can find it online.
Lighten up on yourselves ❤❤❤ I don’t know who spoke to you so disrespectfully but you deserve to love yourself where you are at and not allow yourself to stagnate there… support your growth. I say this because I see belief systems here that are really tearing your sense of inner support down:
“I’m afraid”, “I’m stupid” “I’m lazy” “I’m poor” …
Those are situations outside of you, they are not personal identities.
You are very very powerful and if you convince yourself that you ARE these things versus having a temporary misunderstanding or temporary sense of lack…
You’ll NEVER escape the prisons you are creating❤❤❤❤
You ARE WORTHY.
Explore and allow your growth and avoid people who would say these things to you. Start by stopping beating yourself up. Hugs 🥰 you are loved. All of you
I was tested and still haven’t found adequate treatment. The medical establishment has failed and is of course too proud to come clean - they’ll ride society’s general apathy about A-ADHD until it becomes economically untenable to continue. Our Health system, including the insurance industry, is a disgrace and affront to the Christian values it touts; it’s a grift.
Great Interview, Thanks for Sharing
46 from Scotland 🏴 fighting for a diagnosis just now ! This is one of the best videos / help I’ve seen thank you !! L x 😊
Ok last comment 😅… maybe :)
At 17:54 I just hear my old self apologizing for having passion for something others may not… like I was programming myself to feel sorry for being me.
I LOVE that you’re obsessed with ADHD coaches because that’s what brought me here.
No need to apologize in my opinion. Just sayin….. ❤
This! All of this! Everything resonated with me. I don't have a diagnosis, but I'm being assessed this week. Age 50 😵💫
my adult daughter was diagnosed with ADHD . I started doing research and 8 saw all the symptoms in me. I had been diagnosed as bipolar 30 years ago, but now realize I have ADHD. notnofficial but i have no doubt
Listening to Chalene also helped me finally feel like I could talk about having ADHD. My mom was a school teacher and I think how did you not see me struggling mom. (Not that I blame her) A few years ago 😅ha! ADHD was hard to recognize in kids! Thank you for sharing your story!
My mum was a schooteacher too and my younger brother was born with intellectual disabilities and multiple health issues. Long story short I can see how she just had nothing left to notice anything going on with my sister and I. Just learning about all this now at 47! Best wishes to you❤️
Yes, I have come to believe lack of sleep is my main trigger also. Yet, a step beyond my lack of sleep is my resistance to going sleep. And I have not been able to figure it out or resist the resistance, at night or in the wee hours of the morning, until it is too late and I missed that night’s opportunity to get enough sleep to function well. (if I had to guess, I think it is some form of self sabotage.) Note: I like my bed, my pillows, my room. I have a variety to put myself to sleep, including yoga nidra; meditation; myself all the thoughts; imagining numbers in their fonts counting backwards; imagining a brook where my thoughts float away on leaves; prayer; etc. I know how to keep the room cool enough, dark enough, no tv, no blue light, no caffeine after 2pm for me; no alcohol before sleep if I want to sleep well; I know the healthy bedtime rules and I’ve used them. I don’t have nightmares, bad memories usually don’t bother me. I do like to sleep. I, or an inner part of me, resists me going to bed at a decent hour. I have since I was a kid, but in my early 50s now, has a husband who is frustrated by this, a child who gets less of a mom because she’s perpetually tired, a grown woman who can’t give her best to anything. [And maybe herein lies the reasoning- To keep myself down? Not my full self. Because it is safer? If someone has experience getting through this, an author, you tuber, podcaster that deals with this and where to go from here, please share.] Yes, diagnosed with ADHD in my 40s, but resist this idea because it seems like it’s more my beliefs (like I have to do all the things). Also diagnosed with C-PTSD. So related to Carin’s story except the breaking out of the cycle of low sleep/poor decisions/less exercise/adhd more impactful/repeat. Thanks.
I have been listening and re-listenin% to an audiobook, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery by Brianna Wiest. It's jncluded in a Spotify membership but available by purchase on at least one other platform.
I like that she identifies each problem (and describes it to the point I cringe-in-recognition), and follows it with a how to solve this.
It's clear and easy to get, though the work will be occupying me for a while.
I also gain from 12 Steps.
Sleep procrastination, also known as revenge bedtime procrastination, is a common issue for people with ADHD. People with ADHD may be more likely to engage in sleep procrastination due to a number of factors, including:
Self-regulation difficulties
People with ADHD may have trouble with self-regulation, including impulsivity, hyper-focus, and dopamine-seeking behavior.
Executive dysfunction
People with ADHD may have difficulty with time management and planning, which can make it harder to establish a consistent sleep routine.
Stimulating electronic devices
The stimulating nature of electronic devices can be tempting and further delay bedtime.
Low self-control
People with ADHD may have lower self-control at the end of the day, when they are already drained from using executive function power at work, school, or on parenting.
Brain's preference for immediate gratification
The brain may be more satisfied with the immediate gratification of doing more favorable activities, such as watching TV, playing video games, or reading, than with the long-term gratification of going to bed on time.
Some strategies to help with sleep procrastination include:
Using alarms to remind you when it's time to start getting ready for bed and to go to bed
Breaking up bedtime tasks so getting ready doesn't seem so daunting
Putting your phone on the other side of the room, or better yet, outside the room
Making sure your environment is quiet, calm, and comfortable
Using noise-cancelling earphones, heavy curtains, or a white noise machine
@@KristaGray-gb1nz This is so insightful!
Wow, you just described me, with the exception of an ADHD diagnosis. Recently diagnosed with C-PSTD. Just when through some DBR (Deep Brain Reorienting) for that. Next step is CBT. If I learn about something I'll report back. All the best.
Thanks for sharing your personal story! It definitely helps keep what you say in perspective. I would love to hear more about how you went back to school and got your master's, like what tips and tricks for studying and sitting thru class, etc! ;)
Caren, amazing interview. Thanks for the vulnerability and authenticity. You are an example of what’s possible for adhd. My mirror neurons were poppin’! ❤️
Thank you for this insight! For me the trigger is food. And this helps me to focus on the root cause.💖💖💖
OMG, I have a lot of those same experiences from a young age!
I would love to hear your focused take on lifestyle and habitat contaminants contributing to these imbalances within the human body that scatters our clarity. Many thanks
Sharing what may or may not be the cause: parasites and heavy metals in the body. 🤔
So fascinating to hear more of your story Caren, I'm in awe of how you turned things around. Thanks for sharing so fully. You give me great inspiration to know that I can do it too! Also YES to exercise, it changes everything :) It would be interesting to know more about your life now that you're 'doing what you love'. I have a very good career and love moments of it, but those moments are shouded in so much hard work, stress and lack of routine and security (working as a contractor in the film industry) that it's hard to know if I've found what I love or am really far from it still. I wonder if there are still moments you don't love that you have to push through to do the parts you do love and how much of that you're willing to put up with to still call it your dream life/career. Maybe an idea for a future video :) x
Could you imagine what the world would look like if mental health was prioritized. The prison population would be negligible since ADHD and other mental health issues are a major factor in people being in there in the first place. “Karen” videos wouldn’t exist. Kids in school would have a definite improvement when education is adjusted for individual learning styles. Unemployment would go further down and turnover rates would drop. It wouldn’t solve every problem but 😍 it would definitely make the world a better place.
agreed. We're far from that as a reality, but I also feel like we're moving in that direction.
I think that's overly optimistic. Most people in prison suffered childhood abuse. They need more than ADHD treatment to address that trauma.
Yoga and meditation too
@@helenryan5217 The whole concept is optimistic. I was abused physically and verbally as a child by a parent who was also abused as a child. I was finally diagnosed a year ago with ADHD (in my 50’s)and I can now see through my own experience that my parent and her’s were also affected by the same issues. Mental health awareness wasn’t a thing back then. In certain situations, I sometimes feel like I’m loosing my grip on my self control and if it weren’t for a lot of research on the condition and the self awareness I practice , I’d probably give in to the urge of breaking something in order to stop what triggered me in the first place. I’ve flipped a table and put my hand through a window at my most extreme but I have always refrained from violence on another. Usually I try to withdraw from the situation because I absolutely don’t want to treat my child like I was. I always feel terrible after I snap and yell when confronted by something that I’m not in the headspace for. All that and I’d consider my upbringing fairly stable in comparison to those that wind up in prison. What would they have been like if they were informed and supported to break their cycle of abuse and violence? Definitely optimistic but we need to start thinking that way or why even bother trying. Truly understanding the source of the problem is the best way of solving them
Wow! Sleep! lol I actually haven’t put that together yet with an uproar of symptoms 😮 thank you!
Thank you ladies, this is inspiring!
8:40 SO GOOD ❤ TY for inspiring us to share our stories
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Great interview! Could you please share the podcast you mentioned about at the beginning of the video? The one you said things clicked for you that you may have ADHD after listening to it? Thanks!
Isn’t this just what we need to hear ❤
Thank you for sharing! ❤ You’re amazing!
You are so welcome!
Thankyou Caren, great podcast! 🙏🏻
Quick question Caren. When you were at your heaviest, did your knees hurt? I am I'd like to say "only 48" and it is hard for me to sit "criss-cross applesauce" for long or to squat down to my preschoolers. It is very uncomfortable. What are your thoughts? Thanks.
Not everyone’s life turned upside down in 2020, just saying! 😊 I repainted the entire inside of our house, and yes, I’m almost positive I have ADHD!
So insightful thank you 🙏
Obviously getting sleep is hella important for ADHD. But what are some strategies to utilize if you CAN’T regulate, and you’re thrust into a situation where you’re feeling overstimulated and don’t have time to meditate, sleep, whatever?
Hi Caren, I wonder if you’ve ever delved into childhood trauma and adult ADHD?
No, haven’t (yet)
There’s a big correlation according to the leading trauma experts like Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Bessel Vanderkulk and many others. Gabor speaks a lot about this and has actually written books about it! Worth looking into
I wish you could point accurately what do you mean by "important", when taking about prioritizing. Thanks, congrats and greetings!
I feel sad over my diagnosis. I just got confirmed yesterday at 46.
Prioritizing.
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I’m not sure what to do, I also do the Joe Dispenza work and am taking ADHD meds (Vyvanse), and I am finding that it moves my heart center energy (which was full earlier) into my third center and it almost becomes unable to move back up because the pill literally functions by keeping most of your energy in the third center. If I didn’t have problems with being almost dependent on these pills to stay awake I’d come off them, to be honest. Any advice?
At 3:21 is there someone behind you that pops their head up or is that your chair?
I think it's a dog
How would I screen a pro organizer I can trust? Limited income
Assuming you have ADHD, ADHD specific group coaching might be a lower cost an ootion
How do I find a group where i live
Clutterbug podcast is amazing, she has adhd as well
I can relate!
Diagnosed with combined ADHD and bipolar affective disorder.
This makes social interaction and work a mess.
10:36 I just feel COMPELLED to ask you to consider if you’re taking too much responsibility for your mother’s poor parenting. “Because I was so defiant” strikes me as you perhaps misunderstanding your instinct to protect your spiritual integrity at a deep level that was being threatened by something you knew wasn’t good for you…. Perhaps. Only you will know this if you look within but I hate to see you shoulder that burden instead of shedding light on how that might have saved you from something threatening your internal integrity. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Look up leaky gut - ADHD connection/ the gut brain axis.
Didn't sleep well yesterday. The result - dropped my camera accidentaly. Autofocus doesnt work now. It's a kit lens, but still a bummer.
What are your thoughts on medication?
Personally I have found it helpful
Medication or supplements ?
I have adhd in my late 6’s.
Alcohol really messes with me.
Would you say CBT is the answer to ADHD?
No ADD is a lack of brain stimulation. CBD, as a relaxant, does the opposite. It likely makes it worse.
Sorry, misread that. CBT can certainly help you deal with it, but it won't make it go away. It's a brain chemistry thing.
Where's the link to donate to your pilot?? Boy, fix your marketing 😂
Period pms phase pregnancy and perimenopause changing hormones all effect adhd brain chemicals ❤
I never get anything done
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Ugh hate the all or nothing.
New sub. Let’s do an episode together!!🎉🎉
Jesus - can Americans not just GET TO THE POINT??? They ramble and waffle on and on and on instead of just giving a SHORT straight-forward answer. Drives me nuts. So I switch off.
go watch shorts then, duh. No one got a gun to your head.
Ha adhd: autism can go around the houses.
It can be painful for the speaker and listener. Be kind x
💛 Last fifth is very practical. Recommend🙏
I totally agree
This is way too long, and listen to a podcast is Utopia with my brain. Great if your videos were max 10 minutes! Extremely interesting topics but really hard to consume.