Cass, my father was a pediatrician in the 80s and I remember him talking about how ADD (then) was a MEDICAL problem that needed treatment so kids didn’t grow up thinking they were bad people. My brother took Ritalin and ended up being an ER doctor who does extreme kayaking and runs marathons. I was in tears listening and so happy for you now.
I have ADD my whole life. I just figured it out now in my 30s. I thought i was just dumb and a slow kid. I dont talk much, im very quiet and awkward and a loner. I hope we have ritalin and aderall here in my country but they banned them😢
I know I already commented but i remembered an analogy that helped me. ADHD is like having two guys in your brain on an assembly line. The first guy is the guy who gathers the materials (information) and then sends it down the conveyor belt and the other guy sorts through it (executive function) . The first guy is super fast and enthusiastically throwing all the stuff onto the conveyor belt. The second guy is super tired and slow. The stimulants help the second guy keep up with the first guy. Us ADHDers intake more information from our environment than neurotypical people. We just struggle to sort between whats important and whats not.
That is most likely why these adhd kids- whether they know they have this, or not- absorb everyone else’s feelings about them and notice their facial cues and disappointments. More so than others It gets to them then. My son is frequently telling me about his teachers and when they have a bad day or occasionally get mad at him. All because of a face that they made or a single sentence that they said. He’s a 7th grader
Yes! Both me as a child then adult and my kids will pick up on cues (mostly real) that even the person doesn’t know their feeling (and some imagined) but really more often they are more sensitive to picking up all the information before the person feeling it or having it on their face even knows it. And we get into trouble by misdiagnosing their face or what we are feeling coming from them.
This is a real example of a self fulfilling prophecy. When you label kids negative things, eventually they embrace them because it feels like they can't overcome these labels.
“What’s wrong with me? Nothing at all.” Wow. I’m over here weeping. I wish I could hug you. And thank you. I watch/listen to you all the time. You make me laugh and you make me cry and you make me want to get rid of all the things. And I LOVE it. But more than that, I’m so glad that you finally see yourself the way you were always meant to. You may never see this comment, and that’s fine. But I just had to say it. Thank you for all you do. 🥰
Listened to this podcast on Spotify the other day. Wanted to leave a comment here. Just wanna give you a big Hug Cas. And also you are incredible and resilient. And one of the most amazing humans i have had the pleasure to know over the years. ( Even if it is just online) I am so proud of you and you are such a great person. I was tearing up listening to your story of your childhood/teens. I am so happy you have created this beautiful life and family and found the things that you are passionate about. And I know that growing up with ADHD and not being diagnosed creates a lot of issues. Especially for a lot of girls. I really love you. And all of you. You aren't annoying. You are exciting. I just wanna give that inner child Cas a big hug and let her see your future and all the amazing things you have done. You blow me away!!!! Seriously!!!!!! You are such a caring loving person. You are definitely in the perfect place to reach others with like minds and let us know that we also are great. Because we all are. ❤ Thank you so much for sharing your story and thank you so much for all the things you have created or shared over the years. And your past has led you to who you are as a person today. So it may not be pretty but you have used what you have experienced and turned it into something beautiful. So very proud of you Cas! 😊❤
❤ this is exactly how I feel. I feel like Cas is my bestie in my head. 😂 she's been through so much and made it out the other side stronger and better than ever. I'm so proud of her. Go Cas!!xoxo
Well said... everything I have been feeling. Cas, I have to apologize because my daughter has experienced so much of what you have. She has yet to find her passion, and that's not something I can really help her with. But I'm so happy for you and I hope and pray my daughter will realize what a beautiful, talented and wonderful person she is and find the thing that brings her absolute joy. BTW, you help me too. I am visual but I can't remember what bug I am. No more hangers in the coat closet.... just hooks. It's great!
Cas, I believe your willingness to share your story is literally going to save lives. THANK YOU & HUGE HUGS! A study found that almost 1 in 4 girls with ADHD had attempted suicide by age 20. It says so much about the HARM of being misjudged and shamed for one's innate self that being homeless for years as a teenage girl and going hungry was preferable to home and school. I'm SO glad you made it to the other side! ❤
Hun our journeys are all similar yet different I just want to say thank you for spilling the truth and sharing your freedom my daughter said one time people who ease drop deserve to hear the truth and the truth is devastating the ease dropping is trying to hear what isn't for you yet.
When you have adhd, you can’t say you were smart or not smart in school. If there wasn’t dopamine in it, you simply didn’t learn it. But the things you are interested in, Cas, where there is an endless flow of dopamine, you are Brilliant and you thrive. You’re a very thorough thinker, when something is worth the thought for you.
Cas, thank you for sharing your story! You are not alone! I am 62 (OLD! ha) and just learned 1 year ago I am ADHD! All these years wondering what was wrong with me. Now, my mom also knows she wasn't a "bad" mother. None of this was our fault. We've been reading many books on the subject, watching videos, etc. and are learning what's been going on, and more importantly, how to deal with it. You are helping many people with your story. Thank you for your courage and all your videos and podcasts. You are AMAZING!
Same, but I wish my parents were alive to know it! I remember my father telling me that my job was too figure out which of my many ideas were good ones. And he also said when he taught me to drive, he said that I should be very busy keeping track of looking left and right and far ahead, be aware of everything constantly and not have time to daydream. To this day I am a very safe driver.
Cas, you don't have to apologize for getting emotional. You are such a beautiful, talented, and gifted lady who is helping so many people to declutter our homes and our thoughts, and now, by sharing your story, you are helping people with their health. You are an inspiration ❤
Diagnosed at 63, I’ve explored many talks and books about ADHD. Yet your sharing helped me appreciate things about myself that I hadn’t thought about. Thank you for your humble, honest, and un-self-pitying talk. You are a blessing.
I just read their (@ADHD_Love) book Dirty Laundry, which helped me understand my (now adult) kids better, especially why they "can't " (make themselves) do certain things. And maybe myself? I didn't have ADHD as a child/younger adult, but they tell me I do now...(You mean it's not just 'menopause brain'?) 😂
Hi @michelesoto5919 ! Did you try just one kind of medication? They say 80% of us can get some help from meds but it might take trying different ones and getting the right dosage. I had to be approved by heart doc, but now I know my resting heart rate is DOWN after a year of Adderall. If you have not exhausted all the options, you may have given up too soon. If there are more options to try, maybe there is a med that works for you. Even though they're supposedly similar, Vyvanse made me angry but Adderall makes most things magically less annoying (as well as less boring.)
That moment when the meds hit the first time.......and you don't have to fight 3 times harder to do 1/3 as well at the task........ It's like you have been dragging chains trying to run....and someone took them off.....
This breaks my heart for you. I'm a little older than you (52), but I know they didn't understand as much as they do now about ADHD when I was young. It really makes me sad that you were so singled out and failed by your teachers. You have such a bright light and I always enjoy watching you for your fun, bubbly personality. It's so hard to be different in this world. Thank you for sharing your story. It is so helpful to me and I'm sure so many others. My son is neurodivergent and he is the light of my life. Sending you hugs. ❤ Please be proud of the person you are, who made her own way. Your story is so incredible and inspiring.
Cass, thank you for bringing attention to ADHD as a gift and not a curse or stigma. I am 77 and raised a grandson diagnosed with clinical acute ADHD and clinical acute ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). He was diagnosed when removed from 1st grade after 2 weeks, and sent to a school for behavioral disorders. Prior to that the pediatrician told me “all that kid needs is a good spanking “. I worked and would pick him up from day care and listened to a litany of offenses. I dreaded even getting out of the car! He was put on meds, and made it through to graduation. In those years, he showed a passion for music, he took guitar lessons, and drum lessons twice a week, he was born with some physical anomalies, so he had PT, OT, Speech and vision therapy three times a week. We were kept very busy. There were still behavioral issues, I was on every principal’s speed dial. He is 26 now, physically disabled, smart and in control. He lives a full life. I truly believe that ADHD, diagnosed and treated is a gift. Yes there are a lot of critics who say putting a child on meds is wrong, have never experienced the benefits. Thank you for this post. I’m sorry for the journey you had, but you survived and are an example for so many. I am so grateful for the blessings I had in raising this wonderful young man.
Wowzer! I’m totally in awe of your journey. I’m trying to figure out if I’m a bee or a butterfly and you’re out there setting the world on fire! I’m grateful for the human you have become and at the same time sad for the child that had such experiences. You’re WINNING girl and we’re all so grateful that you’re sharing your wisdom with us. ❤❤❤
Thank you Cass for sharing such a personal story. I had a nephew with ADHD, but at the time, my sister didn't want to give him the medication. He had a completely different life. He too ended up on drugs that he couldn't seem to shake. He got hit by a car & died when he was only 28. I'm so happy you are here helping thousands of people instead of being trapped..
Medication isn’t always the answer and we can’t live with that regret. My daughter is constantly on and off medication and she can’t seem to find the right one.
I'm a writer and consider myself to be at least somewhat articulate, but I can't find the words to say how impactful this video is. And you aren't just fabulous at what you do... you're obviously a gifted speaker. I usually listen to TH-cam while I do other things, but this one had me stopped in my tracks doing nothing else but listening and feeling sorry for little Cassandra and so excited for grown Cassandra. Love that you allowed yourself to share this even though you think it was weird. It's not weird at all! (And you are NOT old! Because if you are, I'm ancient!) :)
Wow! Your parents also sound ADHD! One of the symptoms is exhaustion throughout the day (whether the job was high tech, factory, or grocery store), just tremendous exhaustion. It’s not the norm to feel exhausted all the time, when a person is neither old nor sick.
Thanks for sharing this, Cas, such an important message that shame so often hides. Your ADHD is helping so many people, me included. Diagnosed with ADHD as an adult too. 50 and still trying to figure out how not to suck at organizing and taking care of my home and life. Its why I came across your channel.
I really loved how at the end you took the ideas to the next level and asked the audience to think differently about the people in their lives and maybe even about themselves. My sister struggles with ADHD and other things as well but she hasn't yet been able to break free from all those lies everyone tells her about herself and I just want that for her so badly! I want her to see herself the way you see yourself. Thanks for encouraging me to help her find her passion. 💙 And never give up trying helping her see that she can still has a place in this neurotypical world.
This podcast may have been the 1st life-changing moment for me and 1 of my children who I'm struggling to figure out why she's the way she is. Thank you for being vulnerable and well-spoken and share your amazing story, Cas!
❤ as someone that's been told "you talk too much", "you don't focus", "you're just being lazy", in school, this really hit home. I don't have ADHD, but I have several learning disabilities and still I was able to graduate high school and college. All of that to say, I made it to the other side of despite the fact that I had so many things going on at once in my brain. Your ADHD doesn't define you. You define you. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story. You never know who your story will touch and how deep of an impact your story will have on someone. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable and real. Please never apologize for crying on your podcast or ever. You are allowed to feel however you please. If that happens to make someone else uncomfortable, they can kick rocks with open-toe shoes. That's a "them" problem, not a "you" problem. Keep being your fun and bubbly self and those that are meant to be in your life will support you up close and personal or even from a distance. Keep up the great work. Shine on. I send you and little, inner Cas a big hug. 🤗❤️ oh my!! 🤦🏻♀️ this just turned into a novel. Ok. I'm shutting up now.xoxo
Cas, have followed your channel for years and years and I want to thank you for bringing light into the mental health. The importance of having doctors that treat not just ADHD . My husband had a bad mental reaction to quit-smoking medication and lost his job , had to be on 24 hr monitoring for about 3 years ( therefore I had to work less and take time off work on and off ) lost friends who made up other stories in their head about what was happening ( 15 plus year friends) all because of ignorance and lack of support. We became homeless and had no prospects of getting on housing lists because we were NOT DRUG ADDICTS .. you saw that right . Hundreds of apartments were available to drug addicts before someone living with a mental health incident. My son went through the school system with an individual program with extra support ( because off the charts adhd ) thank fully we found medicine that worked fantastic for him. But even then, we would hear from really stupid new teachers who told us what your teachers told your parents : that we just had to hit him more. 😑 like wtf ? So talking and having the stigma of medication gone is key in overcoming mental health struggles.
OMG Cas!!! . . . Thanks so much for telling your story!! I watch all your videos. You were my first entry to TH-cam years ago. You helped me to declutter, tidy, and organize my house... including my OFFICE. Which is my struggle room. Your honesty, vulnerability, and willingness to share and connect with your Clutterbug community are such a gift. It's clear you have found your calling. I'm grateful to be able to tag on with you on your journey. You have a long-time fan and follower in me. 🙏🏽
I’m only 4 minutes into your video. I have always been called a motor mouth and a wiggle worm by my mother. I’m the middle of 3 girls. I am a visual association person. As a small child I liked to perform repetitive tasks, cutting paper into small bits, magnetic letters following each other in a train pattern, and Etch A Sketch, that my older sister wouldn’t let me play with. I always wanted to leave home. Being at school was my sanctuary. I was a sneak for anything sweet, eating lumps of brown sugar. I still don’t understand what other people understand . I just don’t get it about many things. I have had a very successful life through my frugality, but it has been a struggle. I have found that knitting helps me to be still. 💙
Yep, finding our "calling" in life seems to be even more important to us Neuro-Diverse types. Something that we have major passion and drive for... As well as other "special interests" that soothe us in between. Meanwhile Neuro-Typical brains are just happy to make money, and live a comfortable (ignorance is bliss?) life without the extra kinda "code of ethics" that we have from feeling everything in more detail / to a greater extent than they do... Just my observation/opinion. Feel free to correct me. ☮💗
@@HannahRainbow88 As an EEG for 41 years, I have found great enjoyment in wiring and recording brain activity. Yes, a repetitive task with variations in patient history and situations. Seeing the patterns of the EEG recordings seems so apparent to me. When I have trained others, I don’t understand how they can’t see the patterns. I’ve worked with a fun Neurologist for a lot of my hospital years. In fact I was there before him. While working in the hospital I had again found a niche. Thanks for your reply, it’s food for thought! 💙
That was wonderful!! It will absolutely help others. Thank you Cas for sharing your story. When i found your channel a few years ago, you made me realize that the reason that my daughter’s room was always a mess and that she always kept her closet doors open is , that she is a visual which is the opposite of me.
Your story reminds me of a 2nd grader I had as a teacher in 1972 and it makes me smile. I figured out he was still learning something as he sat, kneeled, layed, curled under his desk and stood beside it or did headstands on the carpet, moving all the time, talking fairly quietly to himself. I took him out of the front group so others weren't distracted by him and just let him do his thing. He was diagnosed with ADHD and given ritalin, but, like you, that didn't stop everything, mostly his bombarded brain. His dad asked if I would keep him one more year because he lost a lot while we were figuring everything out. I loved him. He was so sweet and always wanted to do the right thing. The second year he caught up, I haven't seen him since, but often hoped he would get love and understanding along the way.
At 63, I'm beginning to realize the likelihood that I have ADHD. Cas, you gave me the courage to ask for an ADHD assessment. Thank you for your true grit.
Also, little Cassie sounds like an strong, smart, determined girl with a big beautiful spirit and a whole to offer all the people around her. I wish she could have been embraced and loved for exactly who she was!
This broke my heart and made me cry, but you also CRACKED ME UP with that segue at :33 to the jail thumbnail! 🤣Classic Cas creativity & humor! 😄👏👏Meeting more friends with ADHD helped me realize I actually PREFER our filterless, endless conversational style. lol I try to remember, "I may not be everyone's cup of tea, but I'm somebody's double shot of whiskey." 🤩 "Get in where you fit in, go on and shine." 🌈🌱🌿💐🍀💖
The more I listen to stories like these, the better I understand myself, and the better I understand some of the children I serve each Sunday at my church. I’m working hard to REMEMBER to make an appointment with my GP for a referral to an ADHD specialist so I can start to get some answers and real, meaningful help. I’m 47, and my struggles have cost myself and my family SO MUCH. Thank you for sharing about your struggles and victories. You’re making a difference in my life, both through organizing/decluttering, and with my health. Imma stop now, soI don’t cry. Thank you, Cas.
Great Storytime. My son and hubby both have ADHD and I love hearing stories like this of successful people who have gone through the struggles but still have been able to accomplish goals.💙
I feel this way about the Phentermine I take for weight loss. It doesn't make me hyper or have more energy (which it does for a lot of people). It stops the voices in my head (so to speak), the ones that constantly nag me to focus on food. "Is it time to eat yet? How about now? How about now? When can we eat next. Stop doing that stupid thing and eat!!!" They are almost completely quieted. And when a thought does come into my head, I can put it aside and continue to focus on what I'm doing. I can even be hungry and ignore it. I am so grateful for it.
Hey hun, I just wanna say this (weight loss meds) is how I discovered my adhd … when those meds made me chilled, relaxed and actually able to hear what I really wanted because all the “talking” I felt didn’t stop in my head normally, calmed too, and I was functional….. that was at 19, I’m now 38…
Me too! It was the Phentermine in my appetite suppressant this last November that made me seek diagnosis. a I am 53 yr old and never thought I had ADHD. I thought my son did because of the hyperactiveness he displayed as a child. Then last Fall my daughter was diagnosed with inattentive type. Anyway, I am finding my way on some extremely expensive meds. Not sure it is the right med meds😅or dosage, but does take the edge off the impulsiveness and I feel like I can do things, accomplish things. My problem is my only dr. Is my gynecologist who has no experience with these meds. She sent me for Psychological testing, and when that confirmed what I suspected,that I have ADHD, she then prescribed meds. I recently asked a Family medicine Dr if he would be my primary Dr.because some personnel at the clinic told me I should have someone other than my gynecologist. Well he agreed to take me on but refused to adjust or change my ADHD meds. And one last thing when I did the Psych testing, I had already met my deductible so everything should have been covered. It was around $2500 dollars! Well my insurance co. only paid for part of it stating that they don’t pay for that particular diagnosis! What? Luckily, the Psych place I went to didn’t charge me everything they could have. So now I will have to find a Psychiatrist. Thanks for listening. There is so much going on in my head with this new awareness of myself. I probably need to talk or write about it.
Thank you so SO SO much for sharing. You mentioned so many things in this video that make such a difference. I am 34 years old and have two kids, one is 6-1/2 yr old boy who does the "annoying" things and my husband and I struggle at times to hold back from saying "stop being annoying!", when infact he is, in that moment. He is GREATLY seeking attention and doing "annoying" things to get it from his younger, 3 yr old sister, myself or my husband. Your explanation of your childhood broke my heart... Always being told you were annoying... It truly hurts my heart to know that; However, a positive thing that will come from sharing your experience, is a great reminder to refrain from calling our child annoying and instead try to provide that extra attention needed or talk to him and explain that he is likely seeking attention and how we can help get out his excited "jitters". I will be so much more thoughtful and refrain from saying "annoying" and causing that shame. On another note, I didn't discover I VERY likely have ADHD until I had children and my world was upside down trying to manage another schedule beside my own. All of the excessive items that come along with babies and children, my house was/is (getting SO much better) in absolute chaos. My brain was lacking (and still is..) so much sleep, the new items all needed a place to go, the new schedules, appointments, foods, toys, devices, etc. etc. My once tidy home was an absolute disaster and I could no longer make decisions. I had guilt about everything... Why did i buy that? I can't get rid of it... we spent so much. I'll take pics and post of facebook marketplace, offer up, let go -- I'll try to make back some of the money from all the spending. Only to be [typically] left with SO much more effort put out than I received back from a buyer. I am rambling lol.... Long story short -- THANK you SO much Cas for all you do! You have and are currently changing my life (as well as my family's life). I love you and appreciate everything you do. You changed the lives of myself, my husband and my children. It may sound dramatic, but it's true. I have let go of so many things I had guilt for, I realized my organizing style and therefor my house has been cleaner, more time with my family and less stress/guilt due to the mess/chaos. Love from Oregon, Kayla
Cass, thank you. I am 45 and have a nearly identical story growing up in the 80’s. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my twenties but since have always been embarrassed about my ADHD, and needing medication just to remember and process information. I have a 4 year old daughter who is just like me, and I am working hard to get her into a specialist for a diagnosis because I don’t want her to be labeled as the bad kid like I was in school. I appreciate you telling your story, but also that you support medication. So many kids could thrive if their parents supported medicating them when nothing else works. And I think that we need to work towards de stigmatizing ADHD medication so that more kids can thrive.
I agree, and also hope more people understand and accommodate the parts of ADHD that don't respond to medication. If a jr. high teacher hadn't assumed my chronic lateness was a CHOICE I should be punished for, I could have learned about science instead of spending the entire term being babysat by the school's activity coordinator after the teacher permanently banned me from his class. If my high school homeroom teacher had paid attention to my clear signs of embarrassment and remorse for being late every day instead of presuming it was willful disrespect and refusing me entry to his class, I might not have dropped out of high school despite good grades. Ditto college, and multiple jobs. Greater understanding and acceptance can literally change someone's life! Good wishes to anyone who struggles with ADHD or supports others who do! ❤
I'm a woman your age with ADHD, too. You have come such a long way and should be very proud of yourself. Thank you for bringing so candid and sharing your story ❤️
Thanks for sharing, I am being assessed for ADHD in 2 weeks and I am 53! This feels like the most important thing to me as it may or may not explain my life. I am pretty terrified. Probably more frightened that I am sent away saying I don't have as then I have no explanation! Wish me luck! Ps, I am so pleased you found peace with who you are x
I was diagnosed at 60. If you do have it, please know this is not a bad diagnosis. Information is therapy to late- diagnosed people. Finding “the right difficult“ is key to motivation. If you can afford to hire somebody to do jobs that you really hate, do it it is money well spent. Housecleaning and accounting services have changed my life.
@@16demolka I had an initial meeting with psychiatrist who said I probably have it but I had extra papers to complete. He asked lots of questions. The assessment was OK but he is now of sick and my case passed on so further backlog so months to wait again. Thanks for asking, very kind of you 😊
I love your testimony I can resonate a lot with your story I got semi emotional with you. My middle child is very hyper active and videos like this gives me hope for him in his future. Thank you for people bringing more awareness to this. Keep doing what you are doing you are encouraging a lot of souls! You are more than enough! I’m sending a virtual hug to small Cassandra.
As a former Special Ed teacher, I am so sorry you didn’t get the help in school you deserved. I have four children (two homegrown and 2 adopted) and after I quit teaching to be a stay at home mom, I fought like crazy for my ADHD son (youngest and adopted). I always told him his ADHD was a super power. He could do anything he put his mind to except school work. Luckily he had older sisters that helped him and when he got older he always had smart girlfriends that helped him. Today at age 25, he has a wife, two kids and his own trucking company. I still think he has super powers. He can hyper focus on things that matter to him and has unlimited energy to accomplish what he desires. My whole goal as a teacher was to find the way each kid learned best and point out their super powers. My class was fun and the so called “normal” kids begged to come to my class. I wish I had you as my student. You are a real success story now and I’m glad I found your channel.
Dude….First of all Cas….dont ever apologize for being emotional!!❤ A Great big hug to you for your vulnerability & for such a hard time you had with this!!! God has out you here for a reason, yes to help people with their homes but today….more importantly to have compassion for their selves or others in their lives who are struggling!! ❤❤❤ that’s huge!! I was also an unmedicated “ADHD’r”. I struggled in school also. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD when I took my daughter to a paediatrician who specialized in mood therapy. He recognized within a 15 minute conversation that I had ADHD. That label helped me so much. I know that I have watched you for years And identified with you so so many times. Whew so many emotions this stirred up😭. Thank you once again for -yes an emotional roller coaster ride - but most of all helping me today. The struggle is real. Now seeing my daughter go through this 😭. This video helps so much. In ways I don’t even know yet! It took me 4 days to get through this podcast!! Thank you!!!!! Cas for being amazing!! ❤❤❤
Omg, I am in tears. My son has ADHD and you might think that teachers knowing better would do better. My son was bullied by his teachers. I am glad that you are resident and you have a great family. ❤ PS never feel ashamed for telling your story. It's definitely inspiring and it will help many people.
When you mentioned the 9 times table I had to comment again. (I’m the former spec Ed teacher). Here’s a trick..9x a number will be that number minus 1 and another number that equals 9. For example 9x6 has to start with a 5 (one less than 6) and 5 plus a number to equal 9. So 5+4 =9. So 9x6=54 9x7 answer starts with one less than 7. Which is 6. Now what plus six equals 9? That would be a 3. So the answer to 9x7=63. Some times I write it all down in columns. Do you see the patterns? Do you see the column that goes 0,1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8? Do you see the second column in the answer that goes 9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1,0? You’ll never forget the 9 times tables again. And for 9x1 it’s just 9, for 9x10 just add a zero. 90 and for 9x 11 just the 9 twice or 99. For 9x12 just add 9 to 99 or add 10 to 99 and minus 1 for an answer of 108. Hope this helps your kids. Good luck. 9x1=09 9x2=18 9x3=27 9x4=36 9x5=45 9x6=54 9x7= 63 9x8=72 9x9=81 9x10=90 9x11=99 9x12=108
Ohh Cas 😢😢 I am 7 mins into this & I'm already sobbing 😭 what u are relating is heartbreaking & all I want to do is give a u great big hug 🫂 I am a 70+ yo grandmother to 5 granddaughters & 3 possibly 4 are on the Spectrum. The littlest one is the only one diagnosed (ADHD & Autism) & what u r describing so far is her to a T 😮😢 love'n'hugs sweetheart ♥️😘🫂💕 JQ 🇬🇧
There's another TH-camr I'm subbed to who has ADHD, well, quite a few actually, but this gal in particular, Emily D Baker, she calls her ADHD her Superpower. That's what you have, Cas. A Superpower. Like all Superpowers, you had to learn how to harness it and put it to work for you, and you've done it. It sucks that you went through your life without understanding it, and without your family understanding. But look how far you've come. Love you, Cas. Edited to add : Lol, just after I finished my comment, you referred to it as a Superpower as well, love it.
Favorite video I've seen of yours. I'm new here. I've only been watching your videos for about a week now. I'm preparing to be a SAHM (still pregnant) so I've been decluttering and cleaning like a crazy person. I stumbled upon your videos and my first thought was "wow she is so hyper crazy" and I really liked the calmer videos I had been watching. Well, I kept hearing people talk about how amazing you are and since I don't believe in judging people by first impressions, I'd watch a few more of your videos. At first what annoyed me the most was how even though you were so wild, you made more sense than most of the other youtubers. I'm an ISTJ so I really appreciate some good ol' logic. (And yes, I am a cricket. Big surprise there.) But what is very fun about you is that the more videos I'd watch, the less wild you seem. Something I highly respect about you is that you know who you are and that is who you want to be. You aren't trying to change to fit in a normal box, but rather you are trying to change to become a better you. I think we all have something that makes us abnormal so we feel like we stick out in a crowd. I am dyslexic and I also had to work super super hard in school because I didn't want my friends to think I was stupid. On the outside, I looked normal and even my teachers thought I was very smart. They didn't know that I'd go home and cry because my brain wasn't connecting the dots and how many hours I'd study until I finally got it because on the inside my brain was screwing up letters and numbers and colors and I might as well forget about rhyming. I also turned out to be a high school dropout due to the stress of taking tests and feeling stupid. Anyways, I just wanted to say that you're very inspiring and I can see God working through you in amazing ways. Never apologize for being yourself and when people judge you for being wild and crazy hyper, just know that they are the ones missing out because they didn't take the time to see who you really are. I know I'm glad I did. Wish you the best and thanks for posting your videos so I don't feel alone as I am cleaning and going about my day. ❤
This was a beautiful podcast, thank you so much. As a parent of five neurodiverse kids and being the same myself you made me so emotional. I have not yet managed to convince drs to assess for adhd, think it’s easier in us and Canada than the uk but all my kids have it. You speak so much truth and you sharing your story really does help other people because we then know that we are not alone, out behaviours are not just bad or weird. Thank you so much for sharing.
Oh Cas, my heart breaks for that little girl who thought she was annoying and dumb. My little girl always thought she was an idiot because that was my mom’s name for me. I just wanted you to know you are not those things people said about you. You are precious just the way you are. I’m so happy for you that you have been able to become the sweet, young lady you are. You are loved. You are an inspiration to those of us who are living with ADHD.
I sat at my front office desk and cried as you gave us your backgrou.d story because it completely parallels mine down to the sugar allergy!!! My heart aches for all of us who were treated so poorly for the underlying undiagnosed add/adhd!!! Thank you for sharing!!!!
Thank you so much, Cas! I am double trouble, because trauma responses covered up many of my adhd symptoms. The more I work through the trauma, the more apparent the adhd becomes. Haven't been diagnosed because this is really hard to achieve in Germany as an adult. I feel like there is a lot wrong with me, but watching you helps. So thank you ❤
You’re Soooo Awesome!!! And I Love You!!! You made me cry talking about your testimony because it reminded me of my so much of my testimony. But won’t God make a way out of no way. He didn’t it for you because he Loves you. He showed you , you and what he can transform you into. Hallelujah and thank you Jesus.❤
Thank you Cass. ❤. My entire 40 something year career as an occupational therapist was working with neurodivergent people. My favorite was treating behavioral children or teens. Your story was a gift to all indeed.
Thank You❣️for being so vulnerable and telling your story. You are a beautiful blessing to this world and we need more people like you ❣️ My husband and 4 kids have ADHD and I do not have ADHD. It has been so hard to keep a clean house because I have been trying to get them to do my detailed organizing. I’m finally getting it! I need to make the common areas for a ladybug/butterfly not the cricket/bee that I am.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (3yrs ago) and the med that I was put on was the only “antidepressant” that has ever really worked for me… when trying to explain it to my husband I told him that “it took dodgeball and turned it into kickball… like it made my thoughts line up and take turns… even if they do it in very quick succession, it’s different from when they’re all coming at me at the same time…”
Cas. Wow. You had hinted at some of your past difficulties, but I had no idea how extreme. I'm SO glad you shared your story with us. Your determination to succeed, your ability to reframe negatives into positives, and your constant (successful!) efforts at self-development are truly inspirational. ❤
I am undiagnosed, but thanks for sharing! I hate my ADHD because it makes my mom, sis & sometimes even my hubby tell me I'm broken & just need to be more disciplined & work harder. Nope. Tried that! Depression often rules me & the only thing that keeps me going is my children.
Cassie, Thank you so much for your story. I am 65 and have had some issues like you. And never thought that could be my problem. And some family members I see those symptoms. Your story inspires me. Made me cry, laugh. Love you, God bless you and your family. Grace🌹
I so appreciate you sharing your ADHD story. The thought of you hoping we won't judge you brings tears to my eyes. We all just love you. I also have ADHD and the struggle is real! perfectionism paralysis is especially bad with me.
Thank you for sharing the real you, all the time. I'm in the midst of getting diagnosed, and it feels so damned good knowing that awesome women like you have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and want to help others ease into their own discovery journey. THANK YOU!
Thank you for speaking your truths . Opening your past is not easy . Your steps are so monumental for others to hear and feel with our hearts. Showing emotion is healing .
Cas, you're an incredible person and have taught me so much on how to declutter and organize! Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your adhd story. I'm mid 40's now and was dx adhd in my early 30's after having my 2nd child and getting completely overwhelmed with life, work, parenting, marriage, all the things. Finding out I wasn't broken and just made differently was life changing. Then I created my personal toolbox on what worked for me to function in different areas of my life. Your story will help so many. Keep sharing!! Love you and your work.
Thank you for sharing this about yourself. My daughter has ADHD, is 14 and does take medication but we still struggle at times, especially in these teen years. Your podcast helped me still, as sometimes I am not patient enough or kind enough. Thank you for sharing and thank you for the tips. Also, you are doing amazing things!
Thank you so so much for this podcast! You sharing this story was so greatly useful! Your whole story helped me to understand my daughter so much! Wow!
Cass, this was such a great video. I was that little girl too who never was allowed to go to recess. Singled out and out of place. I’m 62 and finally in my mid 50’s realize that I was born to stand out. I started watching you 8 years ago and you have completely changed my life. From cluttered and overwhelmed to a place for everything and so much decluttered. I’m now In TYHB course and I’ve come even farther. I’m going to share this link with my husband so he can see how hard things can be for me. And understand why my forgetting is not on purpose, I’m not trying to make his life hard. Thank you for putting this out there. A dear declutter friend of mine attended the conference you mentioned and spoke to you. She told me how inspiring the talk was and wonderful you are in person. I’m glad now I got to here it personally! Hugs and Thanks!
"If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive." - Dr. Brene Brown Keep sharing your story, Cas!!!! You bring light to others through your courage and vulnerability!! ❤
I didnt click on this right away but im so glad i decided to listen! Your whole story spoke to me and learning how to empathize with others and how to best NOT create lasting trauma with my 7yr old stepson. He is not as energetic as you describe yourself but I get frustrated at times due to his behavior and your explanation truly helped me see how I should better love him and guide him. Thank you cass for being so vulnerable ♡
I cannot thank you enough for posting this loving and inspiring video. I know from personal experience this video has the potential of changing lives. You're an angel with a big halo and big fluffy wings for taking the time, patience, and dedication to create it, and the love and courage to post it. ❤😇🙌💐
Thank you again for sharing everything you have gone through and being open about it all, and tricks and tips that you have found helpful! This video spoke so much to me about everything my 7yo daughter went through and makes my heart hurt so bad knowing how the previous schools and other kids have treated her and shes only in 2nd grade! it was hard getting her diagnosed because she wasn't displaying your "typical" adhd symptoms and was very close on the spectrum. Knowing what I know now, her type of adhd is actually common for little girls but much harder to diagnose. We tried homopathic routes, that didn't work, behavioral services, 1 medication which epically failed and finally found the right one that helps her. she has even told us how much better she feels on it and that everything isnt so "noisy" to her (her words!) ive been going down rabbit holes learning everything i can to potentially help her, trying new systems when one doesnt work, switching them up etc. she's been doing great using the clipboard system from Jordan Page. I modified it and we've seen such improvements already.
I found your Clutter Bug TH-cam channel in June of 2023 because my 12 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD by our family doctor. As I sat in the doctor's office with my daughter and a list of concerns from the school. I told my doctor the school list and I mentioned to her that I had the exact same issues as my daughter does at age 12. I can relate to a lot of things that you've experienced in your life. Thank you for sharing your story. I listened to this on Monday on Amazon Music.
Thanks so much for sharing your story despite how scary that can be. You are so strong! I can relate to some of the things that you shared and wish that I could have had you as a friend when I was a kid! We are close to the same age and my story is unique and different from yours, but as a fellow person with ADHD so much of it hits home! I won’t share my story here, but please know that you gave comfort to my inner 10 year old that was remembering a very painful school experience. Hugs to you and your inner Cas girl!
0:51 I’m 56 and was diagnosed with ADHD just over a year ago. I say I’m glad I know now what type of bonkers I am! Your adhd was the reason I started following you, that and to get organised obvs 😂 you’re amazeballs 🙌xx
Thank you for verbalizing and normalizing how I’ve felt my whole life. I’m undiagnosed, but I’m certain that I also have ADHD. The hardest part about it, that I heard you mention as well, is that it chips away at your self esteem starting at a super young age. I’ve been through a few tough bouts with depression and I started to spiral because I felt like I couldn’t do anything right, so I became paralyzed and didn’t do anything. It gives me hope to see someone with similar struggles share their story and use it to help others not feel that pain. I love watching your content and this was my favorite video yet. Thank you for having the courage to share the hard parts!
Cass, thank you so much for sharing this. So many people are struggling with addiction, poverty, and being ostracized by society. Your story shows how much people with difficult pasts can mature and build healthy lives. You reminded me that we are all works in progress, and life can get better.
I have been waiting SO LONG for this story ♥️ 🙌🏻 We love you Cass and we wouldn’t trade you for anything! You are an AMAZING human being ♥️🙌🏻 I’m so proud of you
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your personal history. Please don't feel the need to apologize for being emotional. These honest conversations and vulnerability are so important to our society evolving. Big hugs to your internal little Cas ❤
Wow I had no idea about your back story Cass, you are a true inspiration! I loved getting to know you better through this video and thank you for being so vulnerable with us! You are such a bright light and are helping so many people ❤
I feel ya sister!! As a mother who became diagnosed when her child was, it's an amazing feeling, knowing the reason I kept struggling and failing.couldnt finish things, and felt like the dog in Up, i.e. "Squirrel!" and wander off. And no impulse control. I always felt like a failure, when I would see what my friends could do. But they don't see the world like I do, No boxes, and the ability to ask why rules are there. So thank you for sharing your story! And thank you for figuring out how to help us adhders organize our homes!!❤
I can see why you got into organizing because having a non-detailed organizational style is such a treat for those of us whose brains are like popcorn poppers with ideas frantically bouncing around constantly. Having that external order is calming 'cause we certainly not calm on the inside. I'm 73 and was only diagnosed with ADHD less than 10 years ago. If I'd only known!! It explained everything! Now, with the help from people like you, I have developed systems to help me. And my life is so much more calm and productive. Keep up the good work, Cass!
I cried when I listened to you talk about your childhood. I was the same way! I had similar experiences with teachers humiliating me in front of my peers, etc. I have ADHD, I’m 54, and I was just diagnosed two years ago. I’m now on medication and it has saved my life and my marriage. Don’t get me wrong, I still struggle, but just not as much. I needed to hear your words today. Thank you for sharing your deeply personal story. You are truly amazing!!! Thank you so much!
You must have a wonderfully patient husband, a model for others with ADHD spouses. I love the pictures of your beautiful family; may God bless you for sharing this marvelous story.
Please make more videos like this. ❤ I was diagnosed just a couple weeks ago at 42 and it feels so important to know there are other people out there like me. This made me cry along with you. Just thank you. 🙏🏼
Oh Cas! My heart goes out to that girl/young woman🥺 I’m so glad you finally got the answer to your heartbreaking past. Your stories of when you were a little child remind me of my little sister in school back in the 80s. You are beautiful, smart, special, and so so loved. Never forget that.
This is so heartbreaking… Thank you so much for sharing, that has to be so tough. This is why I don’t say “Good girl/boy, bad girl/boy!” to my kids. My husband is a textbook ADHD kid/adult and he has horror stories about being the ‘hyper’ kid or the ‘ADHD’ kid both in school and at medical provider’s offices. It’s wild how adults have such an impact on kids with their words.
I think you are utterly brilliant to be so aware at 15 to see adult life wasn't what you wanted. You are amazing to come up with helping us de-clutter, THANK YOU!!!
Dear Cas, This was not, I repeat not a weird podcast. This was an incredible inspiring podcast. You are helping and guiding other people who struggle with the problems you yourself have struggled with. And please don't apologize for being emotional. This is what make eatch person real and dynamic. And you are real and dynamic. Just be and stay who you are, who you are meant to be. You are good! With regards from the Netherlands, Lily
I'm a teacher and I also was diagnosed late with ADHD (42). My parents went with fear-based systems, so I completely relate with the constant criticism/frustration with the fundamental elements of who you are. It's so deeply wounding. I am so grateful for the diagnosis and the treatment, which are both transforming my life. You and your work were some of the first steps in that healing, as you showed me that I'm not messy or lazy or bad; I'm just a bee who was raised by a grasshopper! I wish I could go back in time and hug little Cas and little Carly and show them a better way. One of the joys of my adult life has been doing that for the students I teach. So grateful for you and your incredible brain, Cas! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this part of your story! 💖💖💖💖
Cas… you perfectly sassy, wonderful girl! I’m a long time follower and someone who’s home life has been made better because of your help. But this is by far my favorite video of yours. You’ve graciously, vulnerably shared your story with us and it endears you to me ever more! We’ve all made mistakes, made poor choices at times, and felt shame or embarrassment. You are a shining example of turning it all around! A friend once said, no matter how far off course we go, it’s never too late to turn around and head in a new direction. Bravo! Bravo! Bravo to you… for taking back your power and soaring with it! ❤️❤️❤️
Cas I’m 7 min in and I’m 😭. I was also in the hall by myself in the 6th grade. Always felt so different and weird. I got diagnosed the first time when I was 13 but my mom wouldn’t put me on meds. I’m 37 now and ironically I just had to put my almost 8-year-old on meds. I cried, because of course I had some judgment from my in-laws and a couple of people. I REFUSE to make my daughter’s life harder than it has to be. withholding meds from someone like us is like keeping glasses from someone who doesn’t have good vision. Thank you so much for sharing your story. LOVE YOU CAS❤️🩹
Cass, my father was a pediatrician in the 80s and I remember him talking about how ADD (then) was a MEDICAL problem that needed treatment so kids didn’t grow up thinking they were bad people. My brother took Ritalin and ended up being an ER doctor who does extreme kayaking and runs marathons. I was in tears listening and so happy for you now.
I have ADD my whole life. I just figured it out now in my 30s. I thought i was just dumb and a slow kid. I dont talk much, im very quiet and awkward and a loner. I hope we have ritalin and aderall here in my country but they banned them😢
I know I already commented but i remembered an analogy that helped me. ADHD is like having two guys in your brain on an assembly line. The first guy is the guy who gathers the materials (information) and then sends it down the conveyor belt and the other guy sorts through it (executive function) . The first guy is super fast and enthusiastically throwing all the stuff onto the conveyor belt. The second guy is super tired and slow. The stimulants help the second guy keep up with the first guy. Us ADHDers intake more information from our environment than neurotypical people. We just struggle to sort between whats important and whats not.
That is most likely why these adhd kids- whether they know they have this, or not- absorb everyone else’s feelings about them and notice their facial cues and disappointments. More so than others
It gets to them then. My son is frequently telling me about his teachers and when they have a bad day or occasionally get mad at him. All because of a face that they made or a single sentence that they said. He’s a 7th grader
Yes! Both me as a child then adult and my kids will pick up on cues (mostly real) that even the person doesn’t know their feeling (and some imagined) but really more often they are more sensitive to picking up all the information before the person feeling it or having it on their face even knows it. And we get into trouble by misdiagnosing their face or what we are feeling coming from them.
Great analogy
My "second guy" ( executive function) throws everything from the conveyor belt straight onto the floor, or out the window.
This is so helpful.❤
This is a real example of a self fulfilling prophecy. When you label kids negative things, eventually they embrace them because it feels like they can't overcome these labels.
“What’s wrong with me? Nothing at all.” Wow. I’m over here weeping. I wish I could hug you. And thank you. I watch/listen to you all the time. You make me laugh and you make me cry and you make me want to get rid of all the things. And I LOVE it. But more than that, I’m so glad that you finally see yourself the way you were always meant to. You may never see this comment, and that’s fine. But I just had to say it. Thank you for all you do. 🥰
Listened to this podcast on Spotify the other day. Wanted to leave a comment here. Just wanna give you a big Hug Cas. And also you are incredible and resilient. And one of the most amazing humans i have had the pleasure to know over the years. ( Even if it is just online) I am so proud of you and you are such a great person. I was tearing up listening to your story of your childhood/teens. I am so happy you have created this beautiful life and family and found the things that you are passionate about. And I know that growing up with ADHD and not being diagnosed creates a lot of issues. Especially for a lot of girls. I really love you. And all of you. You aren't annoying. You are exciting. I just wanna give that inner child Cas a big hug and let her see your future and all the amazing things you have done. You blow me away!!!! Seriously!!!!!! You are such a caring loving person. You are definitely in the perfect place to reach others with like minds and let us know that we also are great. Because we all are. ❤ Thank you so much for sharing your story and thank you so much for all the things you have created or shared over the years. And your past has led you to who you are as a person today. So it may not be pretty but you have used what you have experienced and turned it into something beautiful. So very proud of you Cas! 😊❤
I concur and could not have expressed it any better ❤❤❤
Exactly my sentiments.
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❤ this is exactly how I feel. I feel like Cas is my bestie in my head. 😂 she's been through so much and made it out the other side stronger and better than ever. I'm so proud of her. Go Cas!!xoxo
Well said... everything I have been feeling. Cas, I have to apologize because my daughter has experienced so much of what you have. She has yet to find her passion, and that's not something I can really help her with. But I'm so happy for you and I hope and pray my daughter will realize what a beautiful, talented and wonderful person she is and find the thing that brings her absolute joy.
BTW, you help me too. I am visual but I can't remember what bug I am. No more hangers in the coat closet.... just hooks. It's great!
Yes love to you all❤❤❤❤
Cas, I believe your willingness to share your story is literally going to save lives. THANK YOU & HUGE HUGS! A study found that almost 1 in 4 girls with ADHD had attempted suicide by age 20. It says so much about the HARM of being misjudged and shamed for one's innate self that being homeless for years as a teenage girl and going hungry was preferable to home and school. I'm SO glad you made it to the other side! ❤
Hun our journeys are all similar yet different I just want to say thank you for spilling the truth and sharing your freedom my daughter said one time people who ease drop deserve to hear the truth and the truth is devastating the ease dropping is trying to hear what isn't for you yet.
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When you have adhd, you can’t say you were smart or not smart in school. If there wasn’t dopamine in it, you simply didn’t learn it. But the things you are interested in, Cas, where there is an endless flow of dopamine, you are Brilliant and you thrive. You’re a very thorough thinker, when something is worth the thought for you.
I think every parent needs to watch this podcast! It would help so many children around the world! Thanks Cas for sharing your story ❤️ & hugs to you!
Cas, thank you for sharing your story! You are not alone! I am 62 (OLD! ha) and just learned 1 year ago I am ADHD! All these years wondering what was wrong with me. Now, my mom also knows she wasn't a "bad" mother. None of this was our fault. We've been reading many books on the subject, watching videos, etc. and are learning what's been going on, and more importantly, how to deal with it. You are helping many people with your story. Thank you for your courage and all your videos and podcasts. You are AMAZING!
Same, but I wish my parents were alive to know it! I remember my father telling me that my job was too figure out which of my many ideas were good ones. And he also said when he taught me to drive, he said that I should be very busy keeping track of looking left and right and far ahead, be aware of everything constantly and not have time to daydream. To this day I am a very safe driver.
Cas, you don't have to apologize for getting emotional. You are such a beautiful, talented, and gifted lady who is helping so many people to declutter our homes and our thoughts, and now, by sharing your story, you are helping people with their health. You are an inspiration ❤
Diagnosed at 63, I’ve explored many talks and books about ADHD. Yet your sharing helped me appreciate things about myself that I hadn’t thought about. Thank you for your humble, honest, and un-self-pitying talk. You are a blessing.
I’m 62 now, diagnosed a year and a half ago. Still figuring out how to say these same things.
@ADHD_Love is a wonderful resource!
I just read their (@ADHD_Love) book Dirty Laundry, which helped me understand my (now adult) kids better, especially why they "can't " (make themselves) do certain things. And maybe myself? I didn't have ADHD as a child/younger adult, but they tell me I do now...(You mean it's not just 'menopause brain'?) 😂
Diagnosed a few years ago too! Pulling hair out, meds don't seem to help! 😢
Going on 62. There seems to be no help for us!!
Hi @michelesoto5919 ! Did you try just one kind of medication? They say 80% of us can get some help from meds but it might take trying different ones and getting the right dosage. I had to be approved by heart doc, but now I know my resting heart rate is DOWN after a year of Adderall. If you have not exhausted all the options, you may have given up too soon.
If there are more options to try, maybe there is a med that works for you. Even though they're supposedly similar, Vyvanse made me angry but Adderall makes most things magically less annoying (as well as less boring.)
Cas, your story is very inspirational. I believe you are helping people, even telling your story. Exactly what you are meant to do. ❤
That moment when the meds hit the first time.......and you don't have to fight 3 times harder to do 1/3 as well at the task........
It's like you have been dragging chains trying to run....and someone took them off.....
This breaks my heart for you. I'm a little older than you (52), but I know they didn't understand as much as they do now about ADHD when I was young. It really makes me sad that you were so singled out and failed by your teachers. You have such a bright light and I always enjoy watching you for your fun, bubbly personality.
It's so hard to be different in this world.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is so helpful to me and I'm sure so many others. My son is neurodivergent and he is the light of my life. Sending you hugs. ❤
Please be proud of the person you are, who made her own way. Your story is so incredible and inspiring.
Cass, thank you for bringing attention to ADHD as a gift and not a curse or stigma. I am 77 and raised a grandson diagnosed with clinical acute ADHD and clinical acute ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). He was diagnosed when removed from 1st grade after 2 weeks, and sent to a school for behavioral disorders. Prior to that the pediatrician told me “all that kid needs is a good spanking “. I worked and would pick him up from day care and listened to a litany of offenses. I dreaded even getting out of the car! He was put on meds, and made it through to graduation. In those years, he showed a passion for music, he took guitar lessons, and drum lessons twice a week, he was born with some physical anomalies, so he had PT, OT, Speech and vision therapy three times a week. We were kept very busy. There were still behavioral issues, I was on every principal’s speed dial. He is 26 now, physically disabled, smart and in control. He lives a full life. I truly believe that ADHD, diagnosed and treated is a gift. Yes there are a lot of critics who say putting a child on meds is wrong, have never experienced the benefits. Thank you for this post. I’m sorry for the journey you had, but you survived and are an example for so many. I am so grateful for the blessings I had in raising this wonderful young man.
Wowzer! I’m totally in awe of your journey. I’m trying to figure out if I’m a bee or a butterfly and you’re out there setting the world on fire! I’m grateful for the human you have become and at the same time sad for the child that had such experiences. You’re WINNING girl and we’re all so grateful that you’re sharing your wisdom with us. ❤❤❤
Thank you Cass for sharing such a personal story. I had a nephew with ADHD, but at the time, my sister didn't want to give him the medication. He had a completely different life. He too ended up on drugs that he couldn't seem to shake. He got hit by a car & died when he was only 28. I'm so happy you are here helping thousands of people instead of being trapped..
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Medication isn’t always the answer and we can’t live with that regret. My daughter is constantly on and off medication and she can’t seem to find the right one.
I’m so sorry for your loss. 😢
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I'm a writer and consider myself to be at least somewhat articulate, but I can't find the words to say how impactful this video is. And you aren't just fabulous at what you do... you're obviously a gifted speaker. I usually listen to TH-cam while I do other things, but this one had me stopped in my tracks doing nothing else but listening and feeling sorry for little Cassandra and so excited for grown Cassandra. Love that you allowed yourself to share this even though you think it was weird. It's not weird at all! (And you are NOT old! Because if you are, I'm ancient!) :)
Wow! Your parents also sound ADHD! One of the symptoms is exhaustion throughout the day (whether the job was high tech, factory, or grocery store), just tremendous exhaustion. It’s not the norm to feel exhausted all the time, when a person is neither old nor sick.
Thanks for sharing this, Cas, such an important message that shame so often hides. Your ADHD is helping so many people, me included. Diagnosed with ADHD as an adult too. 50 and still trying to figure out how not to suck at organizing and taking care of my home and life. Its why I came across your channel.
I really loved how at the end you took the ideas to the next level and asked the audience to think differently about the people in their lives and maybe even about themselves. My sister struggles with ADHD and other things as well but she hasn't yet been able to break free from all those lies everyone tells her about herself and I just want that for her so badly! I want her to see herself the way you see yourself. Thanks for encouraging me to help her find her passion. 💙 And never give up trying helping her see that she can still has a place in this neurotypical world.
I Can feel the pain Little Cassandra felt. Hug her.
She deserves it.
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This podcast may have been the 1st life-changing moment for me and 1 of my children who I'm struggling to figure out why she's the way she is. Thank you for being vulnerable and well-spoken and share your amazing story, Cas!
❤ as someone that's been told "you talk too much", "you don't focus", "you're just being lazy", in school, this really hit home. I don't have ADHD, but I have several learning disabilities and still I was able to graduate high school and college. All of that to say, I made it to the other side of despite the fact that I had so many things going on at once in my brain. Your ADHD doesn't define you. You define you. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story. You never know who your story will touch and how deep of an impact your story will have on someone. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable and real. Please never apologize for crying on your podcast or ever. You are allowed to feel however you please. If that happens to make someone else uncomfortable, they can kick rocks with open-toe shoes. That's a "them" problem, not a "you" problem. Keep being your fun and bubbly self and those that are meant to be in your life will support you up close and personal or even from a distance. Keep up the great work. Shine on. I send you and little, inner Cas a big hug. 🤗❤️ oh my!! 🤦🏻♀️ this just turned into a novel. Ok. I'm shutting up now.xoxo
Cas, have followed your channel for years and years and I want to thank you for bringing light into the mental health. The importance of having doctors that treat not just ADHD .
My husband had a bad mental reaction to quit-smoking medication and lost his job , had to be on 24 hr monitoring for about 3 years ( therefore I had to work less and take time off work on and off ) lost friends who made up other stories in their head about what was happening ( 15 plus year friends) all because of ignorance and lack of support. We became homeless and had no prospects of getting on housing lists because we were NOT DRUG ADDICTS .. you saw that right . Hundreds of apartments were available to drug addicts before someone living with a mental health incident.
My son went through the school system with an individual program with extra support ( because off the charts adhd ) thank fully we found medicine that worked fantastic for him. But even then, we would hear from really stupid new teachers who told us what your teachers told your parents : that we just had to hit him more. 😑 like wtf ? So talking and having the stigma of medication gone is key in overcoming mental health struggles.
OMG Cas!!! . . . Thanks so much for telling your story!! I watch all your videos. You were my first entry to TH-cam years ago. You helped me to declutter, tidy, and organize my house... including my OFFICE. Which is my struggle room. Your honesty, vulnerability, and willingness to share and connect with your Clutterbug community are such a gift. It's clear you have found your calling. I'm grateful to be able to tag on with you on your journey. You have a long-time fan and follower in me. 🙏🏽
Oh Cassandra, this is a heart breaking story 😢 i am so sorry this happened to you. It is a miracle you got yourself out. You are amazing!
I’m only 4 minutes into your video. I have always been called a motor mouth and a wiggle worm by my mother. I’m the middle of 3 girls. I am a visual association person. As a small child I liked to perform repetitive tasks, cutting paper into small bits, magnetic letters following each other in a train pattern, and Etch A Sketch, that my older sister wouldn’t let me play with. I always wanted to leave home. Being at school was my sanctuary. I was a sneak for anything sweet, eating lumps of brown sugar. I still don’t understand what other people understand . I just don’t get it about many things. I have had a very successful life through my frugality, but it has been a struggle. I have found that knitting helps me to be still. 💙
Thanks for your insight! 💙
Yep, finding our "calling" in life seems to be even more important to us Neuro-Diverse types. Something that we have major passion and drive for... As well as other "special interests" that soothe us in between.
Meanwhile Neuro-Typical brains are just happy to make money, and live a comfortable (ignorance is bliss?) life without the extra kinda "code of ethics" that we have from feeling everything in more detail / to a greater extent than they do... Just my observation/opinion. Feel free to correct me. ☮💗
@@HannahRainbow88 As an EEG for 41 years, I have found great enjoyment in wiring and recording brain activity. Yes, a repetitive task with variations in patient history and situations. Seeing the patterns of the EEG recordings seems so apparent to me. When I have trained others, I don’t understand how they can’t see the patterns. I’ve worked with a fun Neurologist for a lot of my hospital years. In fact I was there before him. While working in the hospital I had again found a niche. Thanks for your reply, it’s food for thought! 💙
That was wonderful!! It will absolutely help others. Thank you Cas for sharing your story. When i found your channel a few years ago, you made me realize that the reason that my daughter’s room was always a mess and that she always kept her closet doors open is , that she is a visual which is the opposite of me.
Your story reminds me of a 2nd grader I had as a teacher in 1972 and it makes me smile. I figured out he was still learning something as he sat, kneeled, layed, curled under his desk and stood beside it or did headstands on the carpet, moving all the time, talking fairly quietly to himself. I took him out of the front group so others weren't distracted by him and just let him do his thing. He was diagnosed with ADHD and given ritalin, but, like you, that didn't stop everything, mostly his bombarded brain. His dad asked if I would keep him one more year because he lost a lot while we were figuring everything out. I loved him. He was so sweet and always wanted to do the right thing. The second year he caught up, I haven't seen him since, but often hoped he would get love and understanding along the way.
At 63, I'm beginning to realize the likelihood that I have ADHD. Cas, you gave me the courage to ask for an ADHD assessment. Thank you for your true grit.
Also, little Cassie sounds like an strong, smart, determined girl with a big beautiful spirit and a whole to offer all the people around her. I wish she could have been embraced and loved for exactly who she was!
This broke my heart and made me cry, but you also CRACKED ME UP with that segue at :33 to the jail thumbnail! 🤣Classic Cas creativity & humor! 😄👏👏Meeting more friends with ADHD helped me realize I actually PREFER our filterless, endless conversational style. lol I try to remember, "I may not be everyone's cup of tea, but I'm somebody's double shot of whiskey." 🤩 "Get in where you fit in, go on and shine." 🌈🌱🌿💐🍀💖
The more I listen to stories like these, the better I understand myself, and the better I understand some of the children I serve each Sunday at my church. I’m working hard to REMEMBER to make an appointment with my GP for a referral to an ADHD specialist so I can start to get some answers and real, meaningful help. I’m 47, and my struggles have cost myself and my family SO MUCH.
Thank you for sharing about your struggles and victories. You’re making a difference in my life, both through organizing/decluttering, and with my health. Imma stop now, soI don’t cry. Thank you, Cas.
Great Storytime. My son and hubby both have ADHD and I love hearing stories like this of successful people who have gone through the struggles but still have been able to accomplish goals.💙
I feel this way about the Phentermine I take for weight loss. It doesn't make me hyper or have more energy (which it does for a lot of people). It stops the voices in my head (so to speak), the ones that constantly nag me to focus on food. "Is it time to eat yet? How about now? How about now? When can we eat next. Stop doing that stupid thing and eat!!!" They are almost completely quieted. And when a thought does come into my head, I can put it aside and continue to focus on what I'm doing. I can even be hungry and ignore it. I am so grateful for it.
Hey hun, I just wanna say this (weight loss meds) is how I discovered my adhd … when those meds made me chilled, relaxed and actually able to hear what I really wanted because all the “talking” I felt didn’t stop in my head normally, calmed too, and I was functional….. that was at 19, I’m now 38…
Me too! It was the Phentermine in my appetite suppressant this last November that made me seek diagnosis. a I am 53 yr old and never thought I had ADHD. I thought my son did because of the hyperactiveness he displayed as a child. Then last Fall my daughter was diagnosed with inattentive type. Anyway, I am finding my way on some extremely expensive meds. Not sure it is the right med meds😅or dosage, but does take the edge off the impulsiveness and I feel like I can do things, accomplish things. My problem is my only dr. Is my gynecologist who has no experience with these meds. She sent me for Psychological testing, and when that confirmed what I suspected,that I have ADHD, she then prescribed meds. I recently asked a Family medicine Dr if he would be my primary Dr.because some personnel at
the clinic told me I should have someone other than my gynecologist. Well he agreed to take me on but refused to adjust or change my ADHD meds. And one last thing when I did the Psych testing, I had already met my deductible so everything should have been covered. It was around $2500 dollars! Well my insurance co. only paid for part of it stating that they don’t pay for that particular diagnosis! What? Luckily, the Psych place I went to didn’t charge me everything they could have. So now I will have to find a Psychiatrist. Thanks for listening. There is so much going on in my head with this new awareness of myself. I probably need to talk or write about it.
Thank you so SO SO much for sharing. You mentioned so many things in this video that make such a difference. I am 34 years old and have two kids, one is 6-1/2 yr old boy who does the "annoying" things and my husband and I struggle at times to hold back from saying "stop being annoying!", when infact he is, in that moment. He is GREATLY seeking attention and doing "annoying" things to get it from his younger, 3 yr old sister, myself or my husband. Your explanation of your childhood broke my heart... Always being told you were annoying... It truly hurts my heart to know that; However, a positive thing that will come from sharing your experience, is a great reminder to refrain from calling our child annoying and instead try to provide that extra attention needed or talk to him and explain that he is likely seeking attention and how we can help get out his excited "jitters". I will be so much more thoughtful and refrain from saying "annoying" and causing that shame. On another note, I didn't discover I VERY likely have ADHD until I had children and my world was upside down trying to manage another schedule beside my own. All of the excessive items that come along with babies and children, my house was/is (getting SO much better) in absolute chaos. My brain was lacking (and still is..) so much sleep, the new items all needed a place to go, the new schedules, appointments, foods, toys, devices, etc. etc. My once tidy home was an absolute disaster and I could no longer make decisions. I had guilt about everything... Why did i buy that? I can't get rid of it... we spent so much. I'll take pics and post of facebook marketplace, offer up, let go -- I'll try to make back some of the money from all the spending. Only to be [typically] left with SO much more effort put out than I received back from a buyer. I am rambling lol.... Long story short -- THANK you SO much Cas for all you do! You have and are currently changing my life (as well as my family's life). I love you and appreciate everything you do. You changed the lives of myself, my husband and my children. It may sound dramatic, but it's true. I have let go of so many things I had guilt for, I realized my organizing style and therefor my house has been cleaner, more time with my family and less stress/guilt due to the mess/chaos. Love from Oregon, Kayla
Cass, thank you. I am 45 and have a nearly identical story growing up in the 80’s. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my twenties but since have always been embarrassed about my ADHD, and needing medication just to remember and process information. I have a 4 year old daughter who is just like me, and I am working hard to get her into a specialist for a diagnosis because I don’t want her to be labeled as the bad kid like I was in school. I appreciate you telling your story, but also that you support medication. So many kids could thrive if their parents supported medicating them when nothing else works. And I think that we need to work towards de stigmatizing ADHD medication so that more kids can thrive.
THIS!! We are setting them up to thrive, instead of them hiding in survival mode like we had to. 💗👏
I agree, and also hope more people understand and accommodate the parts of ADHD that don't respond to medication. If a jr. high teacher hadn't assumed my chronic lateness was a CHOICE I should be punished for, I could have learned about science instead of spending the entire term being babysat by the school's activity coordinator after the teacher permanently banned me from his class.
If my high school homeroom teacher had paid attention to my clear signs of embarrassment and remorse for being late every day instead of presuming it was willful disrespect and refusing me entry to his class, I might not have dropped out of high school despite good grades.
Ditto college, and multiple jobs.
Greater understanding and acceptance can literally change someone's life!
Good wishes to anyone who struggles with ADHD or supports others who do! ❤
I'm a woman your age with ADHD, too. You have come such a long way and should be very proud of yourself. Thank you for bringing so candid and sharing your story ❤️
Thanks for sharing, I am being assessed for ADHD in 2 weeks and I am 53! This feels like the most important thing to me as it may or may not explain my life. I am pretty terrified. Probably more frightened that I am sent away saying I don't have as then I have no explanation! Wish me luck! Ps, I am so pleased you found peace with who you are x
I was diagnosed at 60. If you do have it, please know this is not a bad diagnosis. Information is therapy to late- diagnosed people. Finding “the right difficult“ is key to motivation. If you can afford to hire somebody to do jobs that you really hate, do it it is money well spent. Housecleaning and accounting services have changed my life.
@polly1141 let us know how the assesment went :)
@@ameleh61 Thank you.
@@16demolka I had an initial meeting with psychiatrist who said I probably have it but I had extra papers to complete. He asked lots of questions. The assessment was OK but he is now of sick and my case passed on so further backlog so months to wait again. Thanks for asking, very kind of you 😊
Hi Cass,
I, too, was born in 1979 and didn't get diagnosed til a few years ago, also!
You're not alone. Thank you for being so vulnerable ❤
I love your testimony I can resonate a lot with your story I got semi emotional with you. My middle child is very hyper active and videos like this gives me hope for him in his future. Thank you for people bringing more awareness to this. Keep doing what you are doing you are encouraging a lot of souls! You are more than enough! I’m sending a virtual hug to small Cassandra.
As a former Special Ed teacher, I am so sorry you didn’t get the help in school you deserved. I have four children (two homegrown and 2 adopted) and after I quit teaching to be a stay at home mom, I fought like crazy for my ADHD son (youngest and adopted). I always told him his ADHD was a super power. He could do anything he put his mind to except school work. Luckily he had older sisters that helped him and when he got older he always had smart girlfriends that helped him. Today at age 25, he has a wife, two kids and his own trucking company. I still think he has super powers. He can hyper focus on things that matter to him and has unlimited energy to accomplish what he desires. My whole goal as a teacher was to find the way each kid learned best and point out their super powers. My class was fun and the so called “normal” kids begged to come to my class. I wish I had you as my student. You are a real success story now and I’m glad I found your channel.
❤ What a beautiful story. Thank you for being the difference in children's lives.
Dude….First of all Cas….dont ever apologize for being emotional!!❤ A Great big hug to you for your vulnerability & for such a hard time you had with this!!!
God has out you here for a reason, yes to help people with their homes but today….more importantly to have compassion for their selves or others in their lives who are struggling!! ❤❤❤ that’s huge!!
I was also an unmedicated “ADHD’r”. I struggled in school also. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD when I took my daughter to a paediatrician who specialized in mood therapy. He recognized within a 15 minute conversation that I had ADHD. That label helped me so much. I know that I have watched you for years And identified with you so so many times. Whew so many emotions this stirred up😭. Thank you once again for -yes an emotional roller coaster ride - but most of all helping me today. The struggle is real. Now seeing my daughter go through this 😭. This video helps so much. In ways I don’t even know yet!
It took me 4 days to get through this podcast!! Thank you!!!!! Cas for being amazing!! ❤❤❤
Omg, I am in tears. My son has ADHD and you might think that teachers knowing better would do better. My son was bullied by his teachers. I am glad that you are resident and you have a great family. ❤ PS never feel ashamed for telling your story. It's definitely inspiring and it will help many people.
When you mentioned the 9 times table I had to comment again. (I’m the former spec Ed teacher). Here’s a trick..9x a number will be that number minus 1 and another number that equals 9. For example 9x6 has to start with a 5 (one less than 6) and 5 plus a number to equal 9. So 5+4 =9. So 9x6=54 9x7 answer starts with one less than 7. Which is 6. Now what plus six equals 9? That would be a 3. So the answer to 9x7=63. Some times I write it all down in columns. Do you see the patterns? Do you see the column that goes 0,1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8? Do you see the second column in the answer that goes 9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1,0? You’ll never forget the 9 times tables again. And for 9x1 it’s just 9, for 9x10 just add a zero. 90 and for 9x 11 just the 9 twice or 99. For 9x12 just add 9 to 99 or add 10 to 99 and minus 1 for an answer of 108. Hope this helps your kids. Good luck.
9x1=09
9x2=18
9x3=27
9x4=36
9x5=45
9x6=54
9x7= 63
9x8=72
9x9=81
9x10=90
9x11=99
9x12=108
Awesome
Ohh Cas 😢😢 I am 7 mins into this & I'm already sobbing 😭 what u are relating is heartbreaking & all I want to do is give a u great big hug 🫂 I am a 70+ yo grandmother to 5 granddaughters & 3 possibly 4 are on the Spectrum. The littlest one is the only one diagnosed (ADHD & Autism) & what u r describing so far is her to a T 😮😢 love'n'hugs sweetheart ♥️😘🫂💕 JQ 🇬🇧
Thank you Cas, you are helping so many people that you will never meet or even know. ❤
There's another TH-camr I'm subbed to who has ADHD, well, quite a few actually, but this gal in particular, Emily D Baker, she calls her ADHD her Superpower. That's what you have, Cas. A Superpower. Like all Superpowers, you had to learn how to harness it and put it to work for you, and you've done it. It sucks that you went through your life without understanding it, and without your family understanding. But look how far you've come. Love you, Cas.
Edited to add : Lol, just after I finished my comment, you referred to it as a Superpower as well, love it.
Wow. You should be SOOO PROUD OF YOURSELF ! ❤❤❤ This sentence made me cry. 22:53.
HUGE hugs.the job creation program, government program.
Thank you thank you thank you 😭😭😭🤩🤩🤩🫶🫶🫶❤️❤️❤️
Favorite video I've seen of yours.
I'm new here. I've only been watching your videos for about a week now. I'm preparing to be a SAHM (still pregnant) so I've been decluttering and cleaning like a crazy person. I stumbled upon your videos and my first thought was "wow she is so hyper crazy" and I really liked the calmer videos I had been watching. Well, I kept hearing people talk about how amazing you are and since I don't believe in judging people by first impressions, I'd watch a few more of your videos.
At first what annoyed me the most was how even though you were so wild, you made more sense than most of the other youtubers. I'm an ISTJ so I really appreciate some good ol' logic. (And yes, I am a cricket. Big surprise there.)
But what is very fun about you is that the more videos I'd watch, the less wild you seem.
Something I highly respect about you is that you know who you are and that is who you want to be. You aren't trying to change to fit in a normal box, but rather you are trying to change to become a better you.
I think we all have something that makes us abnormal so we feel like we stick out in a crowd. I am dyslexic and I also had to work super super hard in school because I didn't want my friends to think I was stupid. On the outside, I looked normal and even my teachers thought I was very smart. They didn't know that I'd go home and cry because my brain wasn't connecting the dots and how many hours I'd study until I finally got it because on the inside my brain was screwing up letters and numbers and colors and I might as well forget about rhyming. I also turned out to be a high school dropout due to the stress of taking tests and feeling stupid.
Anyways, I just wanted to say that you're very inspiring and I can see God working through you in amazing ways. Never apologize for being yourself and when people judge you for being wild and crazy hyper, just know that they are the ones missing out because they didn't take the time to see who you really are. I know I'm glad I did.
Wish you the best and thanks for posting your videos so I don't feel alone as I am cleaning and going about my day. ❤
Omg ❤I wish I could reach through the internet and give you a big hug. You are truly amazing 🤩
Very well said. What a terrible tragedy. My heart goes out to the whole family
This was a beautiful podcast, thank you so much. As a parent of five neurodiverse kids and being the same myself you made me so emotional. I have not yet managed to convince drs to assess for adhd, think it’s easier in us and Canada than the uk but all my kids have it. You speak so much truth and you sharing your story really does help other people because we then know that we are not alone, out behaviours are not just bad or weird. Thank you so much for sharing.
Oh Cas, my heart breaks for that little girl who thought she was annoying and dumb. My little girl always thought she was an idiot because that was my mom’s name for me. I just wanted you to know you are not those things people said about you. You are precious just the way you are. I’m so happy for you that you have been able to become the sweet, young lady you are. You are loved. You are an inspiration to those of us who are living with ADHD.
I sat at my front office desk and cried as you gave us your backgrou.d story because it completely parallels mine down to the sugar allergy!!! My heart aches for all of us who were treated so poorly for the underlying undiagnosed add/adhd!!! Thank you for sharing!!!!
Thank you so much, Cas! I am double trouble, because trauma responses covered up many of my adhd symptoms. The more I work through the trauma, the more apparent the adhd becomes. Haven't been diagnosed because this is really hard to achieve in Germany as an adult. I feel like there is a lot wrong with me, but watching you helps. So thank you ❤
You’re Soooo Awesome!!! And I Love You!!! You made me cry talking about your testimony because it reminded me of my so much of my testimony. But won’t God make a way out of no way. He didn’t it for you because he Loves you. He showed you , you and what he can transform you into. Hallelujah and thank you Jesus.❤
27:42 What I'm hearing is, "hurt people HELP people" when they put in the hard work. I love that so much more than "hurt people, hurt people"
Thank you Cass. ❤. My entire 40 something year career as an occupational therapist was working with neurodivergent people. My favorite was treating behavioral children or teens. Your story was a gift to all indeed.
Thank You❣️for being so vulnerable and telling your story. You are a beautiful blessing to this world and we need more people like you ❣️ My husband and 4 kids have ADHD and I do not have ADHD. It has been so hard to keep a clean house because I have been trying to get them to do my detailed organizing. I’m finally getting it! I need to make the common areas for a ladybug/butterfly not the cricket/bee that I am.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (3yrs ago) and the med that I was put on was the only “antidepressant” that has ever really worked for me… when trying to explain it to my husband I told him that “it took dodgeball and turned it into kickball… like it made my thoughts line up and take turns… even if they do it in very quick succession, it’s different from when they’re all coming at me at the same time…”
Cas. Wow. You had hinted at some of your past difficulties, but I had no idea how extreme. I'm SO glad you shared your story with us. Your determination to succeed, your ability to reframe negatives into positives, and your constant (successful!) efforts at self-development are truly inspirational. ❤
I am undiagnosed, but thanks for sharing! I hate my ADHD because it makes my mom, sis & sometimes even my hubby tell me I'm broken & just need to be more disciplined & work harder. Nope. Tried that! Depression often rules me & the only thing that keeps me going is my children.
You're my superhero! I love all your content! You are such an inspiration & my goal is to declutter first, so then I CAN find my passion!!! ❤
You are my superhero! I love all your content! I plan to declutter this year & then fins my passion! ❤
Cassie, Thank you so much for your story. I am 65 and have had some issues like you. And never thought that could be my problem. And some family members I see those symptoms. Your story inspires me. Made me cry, laugh. Love you, God bless you and your family. Grace🌹
I so appreciate you sharing your ADHD story. The thought of you hoping we won't judge you brings tears to my eyes. We all just love you. I also have ADHD and the struggle is real! perfectionism paralysis is especially bad with me.
Thank you for sharing the real you, all the time. I'm in the midst of getting diagnosed, and it feels so damned good knowing that awesome women like you have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and want to help others ease into their own discovery journey. THANK YOU!
Thank you for speaking your truths . Opening your past is not easy . Your steps are so monumental for others to hear and feel with our hearts. Showing emotion is healing .
Cas, you're an incredible person and have taught me so much on how to declutter and organize! Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your adhd story. I'm mid 40's now and was dx adhd in my early 30's after having my 2nd child and getting completely overwhelmed with life, work, parenting, marriage, all the things. Finding out I wasn't broken and just made differently was life changing. Then I created my personal toolbox on what worked for me to function in different areas of my life. Your story will help so many. Keep sharing!! Love you and your work.
YOU ARE A WONDERFUL HUMAN BEING ❤❤❤ pls never think anything else about yourself!
Oh, I can SO relate. Annoying, critical, lazy, dumb, bad - and don’t forget, talks too much !
Thank you for sharing this about yourself. My daughter has ADHD, is 14 and does take medication but we still struggle at times, especially in these teen years. Your podcast helped me still, as sometimes I am not patient enough or kind enough. Thank you for sharing and thank you for the tips. Also, you are doing amazing things!
Thank you so so much for this podcast! You sharing this story was so greatly useful! Your whole story helped me to understand my daughter so much! Wow!
Cass you are very brave telling your whole story. I just want to give you a hug. How hard it must have been for you and your parents.
Cass, this was such a great video. I was that little girl too who never was allowed to go to recess. Singled out and out of place. I’m 62 and finally in my mid 50’s realize that I was born to stand out. I started watching you 8 years ago and you have completely changed my life. From cluttered and overwhelmed to a place for everything and so much decluttered. I’m now In TYHB course and I’ve come even farther. I’m going to share this link with my husband so he can see how hard things can be for me. And understand why my forgetting is not on purpose, I’m not trying to make his life hard. Thank you for putting this out there. A dear declutter friend of mine attended the conference you mentioned and spoke to you. She told me how inspiring the talk was and wonderful you are in person. I’m glad now I got to here it personally! Hugs and Thanks!
"If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive." - Dr. Brene Brown
Keep sharing your story, Cas!!!! You bring light to others through your courage and vulnerability!! ❤
I didnt click on this right away but im so glad i decided to listen! Your whole story spoke to me and learning how to empathize with others and how to best NOT create lasting trauma with my 7yr old stepson. He is not as energetic as you describe yourself but I get frustrated at times due to his behavior and your explanation truly helped me see how I should better love him and guide him. Thank you cass for being so vulnerable ♡
I cannot thank you enough for posting this loving and inspiring video. I know from personal experience this video has the potential of changing lives. You're an angel with a big halo and big fluffy wings for taking the time, patience, and dedication to create it, and the love and courage to post it. ❤😇🙌💐
Thank you again for sharing everything you have gone through and being open about it all, and tricks and tips that you have found helpful! This video spoke so much to me about everything my 7yo daughter went through and makes my heart hurt so bad knowing how the previous schools and other kids have treated her and shes only in 2nd grade! it was hard getting her diagnosed because she wasn't displaying your "typical" adhd symptoms and was very close on the spectrum. Knowing what I know now, her type of adhd is actually common for little girls but much harder to diagnose. We tried homopathic routes, that didn't work, behavioral services, 1 medication which epically failed and finally found the right one that helps her. she has even told us how much better she feels on it and that everything isnt so "noisy" to her (her words!) ive been going down rabbit holes learning everything i can to potentially help her, trying new systems when one doesnt work, switching them up etc. she's been doing great using the clipboard system from Jordan Page. I modified it and we've seen such improvements already.
I found your Clutter Bug TH-cam channel in June of 2023 because my 12 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD by our family doctor.
As I sat in the doctor's office with my daughter and a list of concerns from the school. I told my doctor the school list and I mentioned to her that I had the exact same issues as my daughter does at age 12. I can relate to a lot of things that you've experienced in your life. Thank you for sharing your story. I listened to this on Monday on Amazon Music.
Thanks so much for sharing your story despite how scary that can be. You are so strong! I can relate to some of the things that you shared and wish that I could have had you as a friend when I was a kid! We are close to the same age and my story is unique and different from yours, but as a fellow person with ADHD so much of it hits home! I won’t share my story here, but please know that you gave comfort to my inner 10 year old that was remembering a very painful school experience. Hugs to you and your inner Cas girl!
0:51 I’m 56 and was diagnosed with ADHD just over a year ago. I say I’m glad I know now what type of bonkers I am! Your adhd was the reason I started following you, that and to get organised obvs 😂 you’re amazeballs 🙌xx
Oh Cass!!! A fellow girl with ADD --diagnosised as an adult like you.
This is so brave.....
Bigs hugs - I think we are kindred spirits ❤
Thank you for verbalizing and normalizing how I’ve felt my whole life. I’m undiagnosed, but I’m certain that I also have ADHD. The hardest part about it, that I heard you mention as well, is that it chips away at your self esteem starting at a super young age. I’ve been through a few tough bouts with depression and I started to spiral because I felt like I couldn’t do anything right, so I became paralyzed and didn’t do anything. It gives me hope to see someone with similar struggles share their story and use it to help others not feel that pain. I love watching your content and this was my favorite video yet. Thank you for having the courage to share the hard parts!
Cass, thank you so much for sharing this. So many people are struggling with addiction, poverty, and being ostracized by society. Your story shows how much people with difficult pasts can mature and build healthy lives. You reminded me that we are all works in progress, and life can get better.
I have been waiting SO LONG for this story ♥️ 🙌🏻 We love you Cass and we wouldn’t trade you for anything! You are an AMAZING human being ♥️🙌🏻 I’m so proud of you
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your personal history. Please don't feel the need to apologize for being emotional. These honest conversations and vulnerability are so important to our society evolving. Big hugs to your internal little Cas ❤
Wow I had no idea about your back story Cass, you are a true inspiration! I loved getting to know you better through this video and thank you for being so vulnerable with us! You are such a bright light and are helping so many people ❤
I feel ya sister!! As a mother who became diagnosed when her child was, it's an amazing feeling, knowing the reason I kept struggling and failing.couldnt finish things, and felt like the dog in Up, i.e. "Squirrel!" and wander off. And no impulse control. I always felt like a failure, when I would see what my friends could do. But they don't see the world like I do, No boxes, and the ability to ask why rules are there. So thank you for sharing your story! And thank you for figuring out how to help us adhders organize our homes!!❤
I can see why you got into organizing because having a non-detailed organizational style is such a treat for those of us whose brains are like popcorn poppers with ideas frantically bouncing around constantly. Having that external order is calming 'cause we certainly not calm on the inside. I'm 73 and was only diagnosed with ADHD less than 10 years ago. If I'd only known!! It explained everything! Now, with the help from people like you, I have developed systems to help me. And my life is so much more calm and productive. Keep up the good work, Cass!
I cried when I listened to you talk about your childhood. I was the same way! I had similar experiences with teachers humiliating me in front of my peers, etc. I have ADHD, I’m 54, and I was just diagnosed two years ago. I’m now on medication and it has saved my life and my marriage.
Don’t get me wrong, I still struggle, but just not as much. I needed to hear your words today. Thank you for sharing your deeply personal story.
You are truly amazing!!! Thank you so much!
You must have a wonderfully patient husband, a model for others with ADHD spouses. I love the pictures of your beautiful family; may God bless you for sharing this marvelous story.
He is very patient and supportive, but I annoy him sometimes too ☺
Please make more videos like this. ❤ I was diagnosed just a couple weeks ago at 42 and it feels so important to know there are other people out there like me. This made me cry along with you. Just thank you. 🙏🏼
Oh Cas! My heart goes out to that girl/young woman🥺 I’m so glad you finally got the answer to your heartbreaking past. Your stories of when you were a little child remind me of my little sister in school back in the 80s. You are beautiful, smart, special, and so so loved. Never forget that.
This is so heartbreaking… Thank you so much for sharing, that has to be so tough. This is why I don’t say “Good girl/boy, bad girl/boy!” to my kids. My husband is a textbook ADHD kid/adult and he has horror stories about being the ‘hyper’ kid or the ‘ADHD’ kid both in school and at medical provider’s offices. It’s wild how adults have such an impact on kids with their words.
I think you are utterly brilliant to be so aware at 15 to see adult life wasn't what you wanted. You are amazing to come up with helping us de-clutter, THANK YOU!!!
Dear Cas,
This was not, I repeat not a weird podcast. This was an incredible inspiring podcast. You are helping and guiding other people who struggle with the problems you yourself have struggled with.
And please don't apologize for being emotional. This is what make eatch person real and dynamic. And you are real and dynamic. Just be and stay who you are, who you are meant to be. You are good! With regards from the Netherlands, Lily
I'm a teacher and I also was diagnosed late with ADHD (42). My parents went with fear-based systems, so I completely relate with the constant criticism/frustration with the fundamental elements of who you are. It's so deeply wounding. I am so grateful for the diagnosis and the treatment, which are both transforming my life. You and your work were some of the first steps in that healing, as you showed me that I'm not messy or lazy or bad; I'm just a bee who was raised by a grasshopper! I wish I could go back in time and hug little Cas and little Carly and show them a better way. One of the joys of my adult life has been doing that for the students I teach.
So grateful for you and your incredible brain, Cas! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this part of your story! 💖💖💖💖
Cas… you perfectly sassy, wonderful girl! I’m a long time follower and someone who’s home life has been made better because of your help. But this is by far my favorite video of yours. You’ve graciously, vulnerably shared your story with us and it endears you to me ever more! We’ve all made mistakes, made poor choices at times, and felt shame or embarrassment. You are a shining example of turning it all around! A friend once said, no matter how far off course we go, it’s never too late to turn around and head in a new direction. Bravo! Bravo! Bravo to you… for taking back your power and soaring with it! ❤️❤️❤️
Cas I’m 7 min in and I’m 😭. I was also in the hall by myself in the 6th grade. Always felt so different and weird. I got diagnosed the first time when I was 13 but my mom wouldn’t put me on meds. I’m 37 now and ironically I just had to put my almost 8-year-old on meds. I cried, because of course I had some judgment from my in-laws and a couple of people. I REFUSE to make my daughter’s life harder than it has to be. withholding meds from someone like us is like keeping glasses from someone who doesn’t have good vision. Thank you so much for sharing your story. LOVE YOU CAS❤️🩹