Cass, my father was a pediatrician in the 80s and I remember him talking about how ADD (then) was a MEDICAL problem that needed treatment so kids didn’t grow up thinking they were bad people. My brother took Ritalin and ended up being an ER doctor who does extreme kayaking and runs marathons. I was in tears listening and so happy for you now.
I have ADD my whole life. I just figured it out now in my 30s. I thought i was just dumb and a slow kid. I dont talk much, im very quiet and awkward and a loner. I hope we have ritalin and aderall here in my country but they banned them😢
“What’s wrong with me? Nothing at all.” Wow. I’m over here weeping. I wish I could hug you. And thank you. I watch/listen to you all the time. You make me laugh and you make me cry and you make me want to get rid of all the things. And I LOVE it. But more than that, I’m so glad that you finally see yourself the way you were always meant to. You may never see this comment, and that’s fine. But I just had to say it. Thank you for all you do. 🥰
I know I already commented but i remembered an analogy that helped me. ADHD is like having two guys in your brain on an assembly line. The first guy is the guy who gathers the materials (information) and then sends it down the conveyor belt and the other guy sorts through it (executive function) . The first guy is super fast and enthusiastically throwing all the stuff onto the conveyor belt. The second guy is super tired and slow. The stimulants help the second guy keep up with the first guy. Us ADHDers intake more information from our environment than neurotypical people. We just struggle to sort between whats important and whats not.
That is most likely why these adhd kids- whether they know they have this, or not- absorb everyone else’s feelings about them and notice their facial cues and disappointments. More so than others It gets to them then. My son is frequently telling me about his teachers and when they have a bad day or occasionally get mad at him. All because of a face that they made or a single sentence that they said. He’s a 7th grader
Yes! Both me as a child then adult and my kids will pick up on cues (mostly real) that even the person doesn’t know their feeling (and some imagined) but really more often they are more sensitive to picking up all the information before the person feeling it or having it on their face even knows it. And we get into trouble by misdiagnosing their face or what we are feeling coming from them.
Listened to this podcast on Spotify the other day. Wanted to leave a comment here. Just wanna give you a big Hug Cas. And also you are incredible and resilient. And one of the most amazing humans i have had the pleasure to know over the years. ( Even if it is just online) I am so proud of you and you are such a great person. I was tearing up listening to your story of your childhood/teens. I am so happy you have created this beautiful life and family and found the things that you are passionate about. And I know that growing up with ADHD and not being diagnosed creates a lot of issues. Especially for a lot of girls. I really love you. And all of you. You aren't annoying. You are exciting. I just wanna give that inner child Cas a big hug and let her see your future and all the amazing things you have done. You blow me away!!!! Seriously!!!!!! You are such a caring loving person. You are definitely in the perfect place to reach others with like minds and let us know that we also are great. Because we all are. ❤ Thank you so much for sharing your story and thank you so much for all the things you have created or shared over the years. And your past has led you to who you are as a person today. So it may not be pretty but you have used what you have experienced and turned it into something beautiful. So very proud of you Cas! 😊❤
❤ this is exactly how I feel. I feel like Cas is my bestie in my head. 😂 she's been through so much and made it out the other side stronger and better than ever. I'm so proud of her. Go Cas!!xoxo
Well said... everything I have been feeling. Cas, I have to apologize because my daughter has experienced so much of what you have. She has yet to find her passion, and that's not something I can really help her with. But I'm so happy for you and I hope and pray my daughter will realize what a beautiful, talented and wonderful person she is and find the thing that brings her absolute joy. BTW, you help me too. I am visual but I can't remember what bug I am. No more hangers in the coat closet.... just hooks. It's great!
Cas, I believe your willingness to share your story is literally going to save lives. THANK YOU & HUGE HUGS! A study found that almost 1 in 4 girls with ADHD had attempted suicide by age 20. It says so much about the HARM of being misjudged and shamed for one's innate self that being homeless for years as a teenage girl and going hungry was preferable to home and school. I'm SO glad you made it to the other side! ❤
Hun our journeys are all similar yet different I just want to say thank you for spilling the truth and sharing your freedom my daughter said one time people who ease drop deserve to hear the truth and the truth is devastating the ease dropping is trying to hear what isn't for you yet.
This is a real example of a self fulfilling prophecy. When you label kids negative things, eventually they embrace them because it feels like they can't overcome these labels.
Cas, thank you for sharing your story! You are not alone! I am 62 (OLD! ha) and just learned 1 year ago I am ADHD! All these years wondering what was wrong with me. Now, my mom also knows she wasn't a "bad" mother. None of this was our fault. We've been reading many books on the subject, watching videos, etc. and are learning what's been going on, and more importantly, how to deal with it. You are helping many people with your story. Thank you for your courage and all your videos and podcasts. You are AMAZING!
Same, but I wish my parents were alive to know it! I remember my father telling me that my job was too figure out which of my many ideas were good ones. And he also said when he taught me to drive, he said that I should be very busy keeping track of looking left and right and far ahead, be aware of everything constantly and not have time to daydream. To this day I am a very safe driver.
Diagnosed at 63, I’ve explored many talks and books about ADHD. Yet your sharing helped me appreciate things about myself that I hadn’t thought about. Thank you for your humble, honest, and un-self-pitying talk. You are a blessing.
I just read their (@ADHD_Love) book Dirty Laundry, which helped me understand my (now adult) kids better, especially why they "can't " (make themselves) do certain things. And maybe myself? I didn't have ADHD as a child/younger adult, but they tell me I do now...(You mean it's not just 'menopause brain'?) 😂
Hi @michelesoto5919 ! Did you try just one kind of medication? They say 80% of us can get some help from meds but it might take trying different ones and getting the right dosage. I had to be approved by heart doc, but now I know my resting heart rate is DOWN after a year of Adderall. If you have not exhausted all the options, you may have given up too soon. If there are more options to try, maybe there is a med that works for you. Even though they're supposedly similar, Vyvanse made me angry but Adderall makes most things magically less annoying (as well as less boring.)
When you have adhd, you can’t say you were smart or not smart in school. If there wasn’t dopamine in it, you simply didn’t learn it. But the things you are interested in, Cas, where there is an endless flow of dopamine, you are Brilliant and you thrive. You’re a very thorough thinker, when something is worth the thought for you.
Cas, you don't have to apologize for getting emotional. You are such a beautiful, talented, and gifted lady who is helping so many people to declutter our homes and our thoughts, and now, by sharing your story, you are helping people with their health. You are an inspiration ❤
Wowzer! I’m totally in awe of your journey. I’m trying to figure out if I’m a bee or a butterfly and you’re out there setting the world on fire! I’m grateful for the human you have become and at the same time sad for the child that had such experiences. You’re WINNING girl and we’re all so grateful that you’re sharing your wisdom with us. ❤❤❤
This breaks my heart for you. I'm a little older than you (52), but I know they didn't understand as much as they do now about ADHD when I was young. It really makes me sad that you were so singled out and failed by your teachers. You have such a bright light and I always enjoy watching you for your fun, bubbly personality. It's so hard to be different in this world. Thank you for sharing your story. It is so helpful to me and I'm sure so many others. My son is neurodivergent and he is the light of my life. Sending you hugs. ❤ Please be proud of the person you are, who made her own way. Your story is so incredible and inspiring.
Cass, thank you for bringing attention to ADHD as a gift and not a curse or stigma. I am 77 and raised a grandson diagnosed with clinical acute ADHD and clinical acute ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). He was diagnosed when removed from 1st grade after 2 weeks, and sent to a school for behavioral disorders. Prior to that the pediatrician told me “all that kid needs is a good spanking “. I worked and would pick him up from day care and listened to a litany of offenses. I dreaded even getting out of the car! He was put on meds, and made it through to graduation. In those years, he showed a passion for music, he took guitar lessons, and drum lessons twice a week, he was born with some physical anomalies, so he had PT, OT, Speech and vision therapy three times a week. We were kept very busy. There were still behavioral issues, I was on every principal’s speed dial. He is 26 now, physically disabled, smart and in control. He lives a full life. I truly believe that ADHD, diagnosed and treated is a gift. Yes there are a lot of critics who say putting a child on meds is wrong, have never experienced the benefits. Thank you for this post. I’m sorry for the journey you had, but you survived and are an example for so many. I am so grateful for the blessings I had in raising this wonderful young man.
Thank you Cass for sharing such a personal story. I had a nephew with ADHD, but at the time, my sister didn't want to give him the medication. He had a completely different life. He too ended up on drugs that he couldn't seem to shake. He got hit by a car & died when he was only 28. I'm so happy you are here helping thousands of people instead of being trapped..
Medication isn’t always the answer and we can’t live with that regret. My daughter is constantly on and off medication and she can’t seem to find the right one.
That moment when the meds hit the first time.......and you don't have to fight 3 times harder to do 1/3 as well at the task........ It's like you have been dragging chains trying to run....and someone took them off.....
I really loved how at the end you took the ideas to the next level and asked the audience to think differently about the people in their lives and maybe even about themselves. My sister struggles with ADHD and other things as well but she hasn't yet been able to break free from all those lies everyone tells her about herself and I just want that for her so badly! I want her to see herself the way you see yourself. Thanks for encouraging me to help her find her passion. 💙 And never give up trying helping her see that she can still has a place in this neurotypical world.
That was wonderful!! It will absolutely help others. Thank you Cas for sharing your story. When i found your channel a few years ago, you made me realize that the reason that my daughter’s room was always a mess and that she always kept her closet doors open is , that she is a visual which is the opposite of me.
Ohh Cas 😢😢 I am 7 mins into this & I'm already sobbing 😭 what u are relating is heartbreaking & all I want to do is give a u great big hug 🫂 I am a 70+ yo grandmother to 5 granddaughters & 3 possibly 4 are on the Spectrum. The littlest one is the only one diagnosed (ADHD & Autism) & what u r describing so far is her to a T 😮😢 love'n'hugs sweetheart ♥️😘🫂💕 JQ 🇬🇧
Also, little Cassie sounds like an strong, smart, determined girl with a big beautiful spirit and a whole to offer all the people around her. I wish she could have been embraced and loved for exactly who she was!
I’m only 4 minutes into your video. I have always been called a motor mouth and a wiggle worm by my mother. I’m the middle of 3 girls. I am a visual association person. As a small child I liked to perform repetitive tasks, cutting paper into small bits, magnetic letters following each other in a train pattern, and Etch A Sketch, that my older sister wouldn’t let me play with. I always wanted to leave home. Being at school was my sanctuary. I was a sneak for anything sweet, eating lumps of brown sugar. I still don’t understand what other people understand . I just don’t get it about many things. I have had a very successful life through my frugality, but it has been a struggle. I have found that knitting helps me to be still. 💙
Yep, finding our "calling" in life seems to be even more important to us Neuro-Diverse types. Something that we have major passion and drive for... As well as other "special interests" that soothe us in between. Meanwhile Neuro-Typical brains are just happy to make money, and live a comfortable (ignorance is bliss?) life without the extra kinda "code of ethics" that we have from feeling everything in more detail / to a greater extent than they do... Just my observation/opinion. Feel free to correct me. ☮💗
@@HannahRainbow88 As an EEG for 41 years, I have found great enjoyment in wiring and recording brain activity. Yes, a repetitive task with variations in patient history and situations. Seeing the patterns of the EEG recordings seems so apparent to me. When I have trained others, I don’t understand how they can’t see the patterns. I’ve worked with a fun Neurologist for a lot of my hospital years. In fact I was there before him. While working in the hospital I had again found a niche. Thanks for your reply, it’s food for thought! 💙
Cas, have followed your channel for years and years and I want to thank you for bringing light into the mental health. The importance of having doctors that treat not just ADHD . My husband had a bad mental reaction to quit-smoking medication and lost his job , had to be on 24 hr monitoring for about 3 years ( therefore I had to work less and take time off work on and off ) lost friends who made up other stories in their head about what was happening ( 15 plus year friends) all because of ignorance and lack of support. We became homeless and had no prospects of getting on housing lists because we were NOT DRUG ADDICTS .. you saw that right . Hundreds of apartments were available to drug addicts before someone living with a mental health incident. My son went through the school system with an individual program with extra support ( because off the charts adhd ) thank fully we found medicine that worked fantastic for him. But even then, we would hear from really stupid new teachers who told us what your teachers told your parents : that we just had to hit him more. 😑 like wtf ? So talking and having the stigma of medication gone is key in overcoming mental health struggles.
Thank you so SO SO much for sharing. You mentioned so many things in this video that make such a difference. I am 34 years old and have two kids, one is 6-1/2 yr old boy who does the "annoying" things and my husband and I struggle at times to hold back from saying "stop being annoying!", when infact he is, in that moment. He is GREATLY seeking attention and doing "annoying" things to get it from his younger, 3 yr old sister, myself or my husband. Your explanation of your childhood broke my heart... Always being told you were annoying... It truly hurts my heart to know that; However, a positive thing that will come from sharing your experience, is a great reminder to refrain from calling our child annoying and instead try to provide that extra attention needed or talk to him and explain that he is likely seeking attention and how we can help get out his excited "jitters". I will be so much more thoughtful and refrain from saying "annoying" and causing that shame. On another note, I didn't discover I VERY likely have ADHD until I had children and my world was upside down trying to manage another schedule beside my own. All of the excessive items that come along with babies and children, my house was/is (getting SO much better) in absolute chaos. My brain was lacking (and still is..) so much sleep, the new items all needed a place to go, the new schedules, appointments, foods, toys, devices, etc. etc. My once tidy home was an absolute disaster and I could no longer make decisions. I had guilt about everything... Why did i buy that? I can't get rid of it... we spent so much. I'll take pics and post of facebook marketplace, offer up, let go -- I'll try to make back some of the money from all the spending. Only to be [typically] left with SO much more effort put out than I received back from a buyer. I am rambling lol.... Long story short -- THANK you SO much Cas for all you do! You have and are currently changing my life (as well as my family's life). I love you and appreciate everything you do. You changed the lives of myself, my husband and my children. It may sound dramatic, but it's true. I have let go of so many things I had guilt for, I realized my organizing style and therefor my house has been cleaner, more time with my family and less stress/guilt due to the mess/chaos. Love from Oregon, Kayla
❤ as someone that's been told "you talk too much", "you don't focus", "you're just being lazy", in school, this really hit home. I don't have ADHD, but I have several learning disabilities and still I was able to graduate high school and college. All of that to say, I made it to the other side of despite the fact that I had so many things going on at once in my brain. Your ADHD doesn't define you. You define you. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story. You never know who your story will touch and how deep of an impact your story will have on someone. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable and real. Please never apologize for crying on your podcast or ever. You are allowed to feel however you please. If that happens to make someone else uncomfortable, they can kick rocks with open-toe shoes. That's a "them" problem, not a "you" problem. Keep being your fun and bubbly self and those that are meant to be in your life will support you up close and personal or even from a distance. Keep up the great work. Shine on. I send you and little, inner Cas a big hug. 🤗❤️ oh my!! 🤦🏻♀️ this just turned into a novel. Ok. I'm shutting up now.xoxo
When you mentioned the 9 times table I had to comment again. (I’m the former spec Ed teacher). Here’s a trick..9x a number will be that number minus 1 and another number that equals 9. For example 9x6 has to start with a 5 (one less than 6) and 5 plus a number to equal 9. So 5+4 =9. So 9x6=54 9x7 answer starts with one less than 7. Which is 6. Now what plus six equals 9? That would be a 3. So the answer to 9x7=63. Some times I write it all down in columns. Do you see the patterns? Do you see the column that goes 0,1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8? Do you see the second column in the answer that goes 9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1,0? You’ll never forget the 9 times tables again. And for 9x1 it’s just 9, for 9x10 just add a zero. 90 and for 9x 11 just the 9 twice or 99. For 9x12 just add 9 to 99 or add 10 to 99 and minus 1 for an answer of 108. Hope this helps your kids. Good luck. 9x1=09 9x2=18 9x3=27 9x4=36 9x5=45 9x6=54 9x7= 63 9x8=72 9x9=81 9x10=90 9x11=99 9x12=108
Great Storytime. My son and hubby both have ADHD and I love hearing stories like this of successful people who have gone through the struggles but still have been able to accomplish goals.💙
I love your testimony I can resonate a lot with your story I got semi emotional with you. My middle child is very hyper active and videos like this gives me hope for him in his future. Thank you for people bringing more awareness to this. Keep doing what you are doing you are encouraging a lot of souls! You are more than enough! I’m sending a virtual hug to small Cassandra.
Wow! Your parents also sound ADHD! One of the symptoms is exhaustion throughout the day (whether the job was high tech, factory, or grocery store), just tremendous exhaustion. It’s not the norm to feel exhausted all the time, when a person is neither old nor sick.
I feel this way about the Phentermine I take for weight loss. It doesn't make me hyper or have more energy (which it does for a lot of people). It stops the voices in my head (so to speak), the ones that constantly nag me to focus on food. "Is it time to eat yet? How about now? How about now? When can we eat next. Stop doing that stupid thing and eat!!!" They are almost completely quieted. And when a thought does come into my head, I can put it aside and continue to focus on what I'm doing. I can even be hungry and ignore it. I am so grateful for it.
Hey hun, I just wanna say this (weight loss meds) is how I discovered my adhd … when those meds made me chilled, relaxed and actually able to hear what I really wanted because all the “talking” I felt didn’t stop in my head normally, calmed too, and I was functional….. that was at 19, I’m now 38…
Me too! It was the Phentermine in my appetite suppressant this last November that made me seek diagnosis. a I am 53 yr old and never thought I had ADHD. I thought my son did because of the hyperactiveness he displayed as a child. Then last Fall my daughter was diagnosed with inattentive type. Anyway, I am finding my way on some extremely expensive meds. Not sure it is the right med meds😅or dosage, but does take the edge off the impulsiveness and I feel like I can do things, accomplish things. My problem is my only dr. Is my gynecologist who has no experience with these meds. She sent me for Psychological testing, and when that confirmed what I suspected,that I have ADHD, she then prescribed meds. I recently asked a Family medicine Dr if he would be my primary Dr.because some personnel at the clinic told me I should have someone other than my gynecologist. Well he agreed to take me on but refused to adjust or change my ADHD meds. And one last thing when I did the Psych testing, I had already met my deductible so everything should have been covered. It was around $2500 dollars! Well my insurance co. only paid for part of it stating that they don’t pay for that particular diagnosis! What? Luckily, the Psych place I went to didn’t charge me everything they could have. So now I will have to find a Psychiatrist. Thanks for listening. There is so much going on in my head with this new awareness of myself. I probably need to talk or write about it.
The more I listen to stories like these, the better I understand myself, and the better I understand some of the children I serve each Sunday at my church. I’m working hard to REMEMBER to make an appointment with my GP for a referral to an ADHD specialist so I can start to get some answers and real, meaningful help. I’m 47, and my struggles have cost myself and my family SO MUCH. Thank you for sharing about your struggles and victories. You’re making a difference in my life, both through organizing/decluttering, and with my health. Imma stop now, soI don’t cry. Thank you, Cas.
omg! it’s insane that no one diagnosed you in your childhood/teens, it’s so sad that you went through all of these traumatic things! I’m so sorry! I was also not diagnosed until recently, in my 30’s… but as I’m not hyper active (at least outside my mind) I was a really quite kid, so it makes sense that I slipped through the system relatively easily, I only started struggling in my teens… but it’s really hard, incredibly hard the feeling of unfitness, guilty for not being able to perform as others, and feeling that it’s because you’re lazy, bad, annoying and so on… this is really a shared experience and it breaks a person! it is really a relief to understand that isn’t because we are horrible, but it’s a condition, we are just unique as anyone and it’s just a matter of finding the right way to enable us to do things. really nice to have met your channel!
Cassie, Thank you so much for your story. I am 65 and have had some issues like you. And never thought that could be my problem. And some family members I see those symptoms. Your story inspires me. Made me cry, laugh. Love you, God bless you and your family. Grace🌹
This podcast may have been the 1st life-changing moment for me and 1 of my children who I'm struggling to figure out why she's the way she is. Thank you for being vulnerable and well-spoken and share your amazing story, Cas!
Favorite video I've seen of yours. I'm new here. I've only been watching your videos for about a week now. I'm preparing to be a SAHM (still pregnant) so I've been decluttering and cleaning like a crazy person. I stumbled upon your videos and my first thought was "wow she is so hyper crazy" and I really liked the calmer videos I had been watching. Well, I kept hearing people talk about how amazing you are and since I don't believe in judging people by first impressions, I'd watch a few more of your videos. At first what annoyed me the most was how even though you were so wild, you made more sense than most of the other youtubers. I'm an ISTJ so I really appreciate some good ol' logic. (And yes, I am a cricket. Big surprise there.) But what is very fun about you is that the more videos I'd watch, the less wild you seem. Something I highly respect about you is that you know who you are and that is who you want to be. You aren't trying to change to fit in a normal box, but rather you are trying to change to become a better you. I think we all have something that makes us abnormal so we feel like we stick out in a crowd. I am dyslexic and I also had to work super super hard in school because I didn't want my friends to think I was stupid. On the outside, I looked normal and even my teachers thought I was very smart. They didn't know that I'd go home and cry because my brain wasn't connecting the dots and how many hours I'd study until I finally got it because on the inside my brain was screwing up letters and numbers and colors and I might as well forget about rhyming. I also turned out to be a high school dropout due to the stress of taking tests and feeling stupid. Anyways, I just wanted to say that you're very inspiring and I can see God working through you in amazing ways. Never apologize for being yourself and when people judge you for being wild and crazy hyper, just know that they are the ones missing out because they didn't take the time to see who you really are. I know I'm glad I did. Wish you the best and thanks for posting your videos so I don't feel alone as I am cleaning and going about my day. ❤
OMG Cas!!! . . . Thanks so much for telling your story!! I watch all your videos. You were my first entry to TH-cam years ago. You helped me to declutter, tidy, and organize my house... including my OFFICE. Which is my struggle room. Your honesty, vulnerability, and willingness to share and connect with your Clutterbug community are such a gift. It's clear you have found your calling. I'm grateful to be able to tag on with you on your journey. You have a long-time fan and follower in me. 🙏🏽
This broke my heart and made me cry, but you also CRACKED ME UP with that segue at :33 to the jail thumbnail! 🤣Classic Cas creativity & humor! 😄👏👏Meeting more friends with ADHD helped me realize I actually PREFER our filterless, endless conversational style. lol I try to remember, "I may not be everyone's cup of tea, but I'm somebody's double shot of whiskey." 🤩 "Get in where you fit in, go on and shine." 🌈🌱🌿💐🍀💖
I am so incredibly jealous that you received an answer to your Question about what was wrong with you when you were just 40 years old. I am 60 years old and i think i have ADHD - Inattentive type - but am still NOT diagnosed. But so much of what you have experienced, I am also experiencing as well. The only difference is that I am not physically hyper. My brain just goes a mile a minute 24/7 whenever I am not sleeping!! I know my passion. I love to write. But I dont yet know WHAT I want to write about. I am trying to get an appointment or a referral but my family doctor is being somewhat resistant. Because i am not hyper!!! That last line speaks to me - Passion plus Purpose equals Positivity - I gotta find that for me - and my son. He and I are both INATTENTIVE!!
Thanks for sharing this, Cas, such an important message that shame so often hides. Your ADHD is helping so many people, me included. Diagnosed with ADHD as an adult too. 50 and still trying to figure out how not to suck at organizing and taking care of my home and life. Its why I came across your channel.
Thanks for sharing, I am being assessed for ADHD in 2 weeks and I am 53! This feels like the most important thing to me as it may or may not explain my life. I am pretty terrified. Probably more frightened that I am sent away saying I don't have as then I have no explanation! Wish me luck! Ps, I am so pleased you found peace with who you are x
I was diagnosed at 60. If you do have it, please know this is not a bad diagnosis. Information is therapy to late- diagnosed people. Finding “the right difficult“ is key to motivation. If you can afford to hire somebody to do jobs that you really hate, do it it is money well spent. Housecleaning and accounting services have changed my life.
@@16demolka I had an initial meeting with psychiatrist who said I probably have it but I had extra papers to complete. He asked lots of questions. The assessment was OK but he is now of sick and my case passed on so further backlog so months to wait again. Thanks for asking, very kind of you 😊
I'm a writer and consider myself to be at least somewhat articulate, but I can't find the words to say how impactful this video is. And you aren't just fabulous at what you do... you're obviously a gifted speaker. I usually listen to TH-cam while I do other things, but this one had me stopped in my tracks doing nothing else but listening and feeling sorry for little Cassandra and so excited for grown Cassandra. Love that you allowed yourself to share this even though you think it was weird. It's not weird at all! (And you are NOT old! Because if you are, I'm ancient!) :)
This was a beautiful podcast, thank you so much. As a parent of five neurodiverse kids and being the same myself you made me so emotional. I have not yet managed to convince drs to assess for adhd, think it’s easier in us and Canada than the uk but all my kids have it. You speak so much truth and you sharing your story really does help other people because we then know that we are not alone, out behaviours are not just bad or weird. Thank you so much for sharing.
From you and others, I realized that I was an ADHD child. HOWEVER, I was a people pleaser and hated the feeling of being isolated. I have so many issues from that. One of my 2 favorite aunts used to call me an "airhead". I tried to steer away from answering questions/situations due to my natural responses because of the looks I would receive. 😢 I often asked myself what was wrong with me. 😢
It’s possible she doesn’t consider it a put down 😊 I’m just a couple of years older than Cas and I call myself old all the time. I don’t mind saying it, I say it because it feels goofy and fun. Still, I can’t say for sure how she feels about it. Just offering a different perspective. Hugs!
I feel ya sister!! As a mother who became diagnosed when her child was, it's an amazing feeling, knowing the reason I kept struggling and failing.couldnt finish things, and felt like the dog in Up, i.e. "Squirrel!" and wander off. And no impulse control. I always felt like a failure, when I would see what my friends could do. But they don't see the world like I do, No boxes, and the ability to ask why rules are there. So thank you for sharing your story! And thank you for figuring out how to help us adhders organize our homes!!❤
So many feels for little Cas, I can say schools are doing much better (my perspective is in Australia) my young childs school handles his ADHD with such respect . Thank you for your vulnerability! As a parent, I can't get enough information, perspective, empathy etc. Because it can be ALOT. xx
There's another TH-camr I'm subbed to who has ADHD, well, quite a few actually, but this gal in particular, Emily D Baker, she calls her ADHD her Superpower. That's what you have, Cas. A Superpower. Like all Superpowers, you had to learn how to harness it and put it to work for you, and you've done it. It sucks that you went through your life without understanding it, and without your family understanding. But look how far you've come. Love you, Cas. Edited to add : Lol, just after I finished my comment, you referred to it as a Superpower as well, love it.
As a former Special Ed teacher, I am so sorry you didn’t get the help in school you deserved. I have four children (two homegrown and 2 adopted) and after I quit teaching to be a stay at home mom, I fought like crazy for my ADHD son (youngest and adopted). I always told him his ADHD was a super power. He could do anything he put his mind to except school work. Luckily he had older sisters that helped him and when he got older he always had smart girlfriends that helped him. Today at age 25, he has a wife, two kids and his own trucking company. I still think he has super powers. He can hyper focus on things that matter to him and has unlimited energy to accomplish what he desires. My whole goal as a teacher was to find the way each kid learned best and point out their super powers. My class was fun and the so called “normal” kids begged to come to my class. I wish I had you as my student. You are a real success story now and I’m glad I found your channel.
Your story reminds me of a 2nd grader I had as a teacher in 1972 and it makes me smile. I figured out he was still learning something as he sat, kneeled, layed, curled under his desk and stood beside it or did headstands on the carpet, moving all the time, talking fairly quietly to himself. I took him out of the front group so others weren't distracted by him and just let him do his thing. He was diagnosed with ADHD and given ritalin, but, like you, that didn't stop everything, mostly his bombarded brain. His dad asked if I would keep him one more year because he lost a lot while we were figuring everything out. I loved him. He was so sweet and always wanted to do the right thing. The second year he caught up, I haven't seen him since, but often hoped he would get love and understanding along the way.
Cass, thank you. I am 45 and have a nearly identical story growing up in the 80’s. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my twenties but since have always been embarrassed about my ADHD, and needing medication just to remember and process information. I have a 4 year old daughter who is just like me, and I am working hard to get her into a specialist for a diagnosis because I don’t want her to be labeled as the bad kid like I was in school. I appreciate you telling your story, but also that you support medication. So many kids could thrive if their parents supported medicating them when nothing else works. And I think that we need to work towards de stigmatizing ADHD medication so that more kids can thrive.
I agree, and also hope more people understand and accommodate the parts of ADHD that don't respond to medication. If a jr. high teacher hadn't assumed my chronic lateness was a CHOICE I should be punished for, I could have learned about science instead of spending the entire term being babysat by the school's activity coordinator after the teacher permanently banned me from his class. If my high school homeroom teacher had paid attention to my clear signs of embarrassment and remorse for being late every day instead of presuming it was willful disrespect and refusing me entry to his class, I might not have dropped out of high school despite good grades. Ditto college, and multiple jobs. Greater understanding and acceptance can literally change someone's life! Good wishes to anyone who struggles with ADHD or supports others who do! ❤
Thank You❣️for being so vulnerable and telling your story. You are a beautiful blessing to this world and we need more people like you ❣️ My husband and 4 kids have ADHD and I do not have ADHD. It has been so hard to keep a clean house because I have been trying to get them to do my detailed organizing. I’m finally getting it! I need to make the common areas for a ladybug/butterfly not the cricket/bee that I am.
Thank you for sharing the real you, all the time. I'm in the midst of getting diagnosed, and it feels so damned good knowing that awesome women like you have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and want to help others ease into their own discovery journey. THANK YOU!
Omg, I am in tears. My son has ADHD and you might think that teachers knowing better would do better. My son was bullied by his teachers. I am glad that you are resident and you have a great family. ❤ PS never feel ashamed for telling your story. It's definitely inspiring and it will help many people.
Dude….First of all Cas….dont ever apologize for being emotional!!❤ A Great big hug to you for your vulnerability & for such a hard time you had with this!!! God has out you here for a reason, yes to help people with their homes but today….more importantly to have compassion for their selves or others in their lives who are struggling!! ❤❤❤ that’s huge!! I was also an unmedicated “ADHD’r”. I struggled in school also. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD when I took my daughter to a paediatrician who specialized in mood therapy. He recognized within a 15 minute conversation that I had ADHD. That label helped me so much. I know that I have watched you for years And identified with you so so many times. Whew so many emotions this stirred up😭. Thank you once again for -yes an emotional roller coaster ride - but most of all helping me today. The struggle is real. Now seeing my daughter go through this 😭. This video helps so much. In ways I don’t even know yet! It took me 4 days to get through this podcast!! Thank you!!!!! Cas for being amazing!! ❤❤❤
I am sorry that this was your experience in life. I think it's true that you can't know what each person is living through. Everyone has struggles and difficulties, but some are less apparent.
Hi there I just want to tell you how beautiful your testamony was even though I just commented I had to rewatch this again and save it to rewatch more. I feel very validated, I have felt broken for so many reasons for more years than I can count, This is huge, I don't know where to go to figure things out & to put myself in the right order somehow, to spend the rest of my life living as I should with peace , love and understanding & giving myself grace. Just listening to what you have said on this podcast letting me know not to blame myself anymore its never been my fault. Thank you.
Thank you Cas for being so brave to share your wild story with us all. I'm a dance teacher (for 42yrs) and I have a much better understanding of ADHD in children now which explains why during a dance concert last year backstage in the CHAOTIC dressing room a (said graciously) notorious ADHD student sat in the thick of everyone reading a book calmly for AGES! When I realised who it was I was completely ASTONISHED! However when the book was put down the usual behaviour came pouring out again! I'll share this podcast with the mother and principal of the school because you've really explained it (from your experience) very well and I'm sure they will benefit like I have. For the record I think you're amazing & if I could do ¼ of the things that you can do and get done I'd be happy. God bless Obelia from Australia 🦘
Thank you again for sharing everything you have gone through and being open about it all, and tricks and tips that you have found helpful! This video spoke so much to me about everything my 7yo daughter went through and makes my heart hurt so bad knowing how the previous schools and other kids have treated her and shes only in 2nd grade! it was hard getting her diagnosed because she wasn't displaying your "typical" adhd symptoms and was very close on the spectrum. Knowing what I know now, her type of adhd is actually common for little girls but much harder to diagnose. We tried homopathic routes, that didn't work, behavioral services, 1 medication which epically failed and finally found the right one that helps her. she has even told us how much better she feels on it and that everything isnt so "noisy" to her (her words!) ive been going down rabbit holes learning everything i can to potentially help her, trying new systems when one doesnt work, switching them up etc. she's been doing great using the clipboard system from Jordan Page. I modified it and we've seen such improvements already.
Thank you for sharing this about yourself. My daughter has ADHD, is 14 and does take medication but we still struggle at times, especially in these teen years. Your podcast helped me still, as sometimes I am not patient enough or kind enough. Thank you for sharing and thank you for the tips. Also, you are doing amazing things!
Thanks so much for sharing your story despite how scary that can be. You are so strong! I can relate to some of the things that you shared and wish that I could have had you as a friend when I was a kid! We are close to the same age and my story is unique and different from yours, but as a fellow person with ADHD so much of it hits home! I won’t share my story here, but please know that you gave comfort to my inner 10 year old that was remembering a very painful school experience. Hugs to you and your inner Cas girl!
Thank you so much, Cas! I am double trouble, because trauma responses covered up many of my adhd symptoms. The more I work through the trauma, the more apparent the adhd becomes. Haven't been diagnosed because this is really hard to achieve in Germany as an adult. I feel like there is a lot wrong with me, but watching you helps. So thank you ❤
At 63, I'm beginning to realize the likelihood that I have ADHD. Cas, you gave me the courage to ask for an ADHD assessment. Thank you for your true grit.
Thank you Cass. ❤. My entire 40 something year career as an occupational therapist was working with neurodivergent people. My favorite was treating behavioral children or teens. Your story was a gift to all indeed.
Diagnosed at 35, as a guy with inattentive type, just got looked over. I still can't do math, still count on my fingers, the speed math at the chaulk board was horrible for me.
I'm a woman your age with ADHD, too. You have come such a long way and should be very proud of yourself. Thank you for bringing so candid and sharing your story ❤️
I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (3yrs ago) and the med that I was put on was the only “antidepressant” that has ever really worked for me… when trying to explain it to my husband I told him that “it took dodgeball and turned it into kickball… like it made my thoughts line up and take turns… even if they do it in very quick succession, it’s different from when they’re all coming at me at the same time…”
This is so heartbreaking… Thank you so much for sharing, that has to be so tough. This is why I don’t say “Good girl/boy, bad girl/boy!” to my kids. My husband is a textbook ADHD kid/adult and he has horror stories about being the ‘hyper’ kid or the ‘ADHD’ kid both in school and at medical provider’s offices. It’s wild how adults have such an impact on kids with their words.
I cannot thank you enough for posting this loving and inspiring video. I know from personal experience this video has the potential of changing lives. You're an angel with a big halo and big fluffy wings for taking the time, patience, and dedication to create it, and the love and courage to post it. ❤😇🙌💐
Thank you for sharing your incredible biography. You are a very intelligent, passionate, creative, good and young looking woman I wish I had just a couple of days around me. But at least you have this podcast for inspiration. ❤
This hits so hard, the part where you said you wanted so bad to be a good girl, but you were impulsive, lazy, dumb, and bad. I was the same. But it manifested as being too quiet, awkward, embarrassingly shy, because I can only think of the right thing to say when someone else is talking. So I was either interrupting or completely blank. I also have SPD (sensory processing disorder) so brushing my hair, I was screaming. My brother loved to hurt, poke me, overstimulate me til I screamed. And I was miserable. Because I was quiet, at school, and good, and tried hard, no one even considered it that I might be on the spectrum. But as an adult, as a sahm, I found out that I have autism and adhd both.
Thank you for being so open about your past, your ADHD struggles, and your journey to where you are now! You have come a long ways! I have watched your channel for years and love seeing this deep dive. Many of your suggestions (life, organzing, ADHD etc) have helped me and even my daughter who has ADHD immensly! Not sure if it is something you would ever do, but I would also love to know how your journey was around learning about making content, videoing, editing etc.
Oh Cas, my heart breaks for that little girl who thought she was annoying and dumb. My little girl always thought she was an idiot because that was my mom’s name for me. I just wanted you to know you are not those things people said about you. You are precious just the way you are. I’m so happy for you that you have been able to become the sweet, young lady you are. You are loved. You are an inspiration to those of us who are living with ADHD.
Thank you so so much for this podcast! You sharing this story was so greatly useful! Your whole story helped me to understand my daughter so much! Wow!
I sat at my front office desk and cried as you gave us your backgrou.d story because it completely parallels mine down to the sugar allergy!!! My heart aches for all of us who were treated so poorly for the underlying undiagnosed add/adhd!!! Thank you for sharing!!!!
You are not old. You are middle-aged... I was born in 1968... am I ancient... my mom was born in 1938. Is she prehistoric? Trying to be cool by showing how uncool you are is not helpful. I think of you as someone who believes in self empowerment... talking negatively about yourself is not self empowerment... and does become you.
It’s possible she doesn’t consider it a put down 😊 I’m just a couple of years older than Cas and I call myself old all the time. I don’t mind saying it, I say it because it feels goofy and fun. Still, I can’t say for sure how she feels about it. Just offering a different perspective. Hugs!
Cas. Wow. You had hinted at some of your past difficulties, but I had no idea how extreme. I'm SO glad you shared your story with us. Your determination to succeed, your ability to reframe negatives into positives, and your constant (successful!) efforts at self-development are truly inspirational. ❤
Oh my goodness, you are a miracle in my life! The only positive thing yt brought to me was you. I have learned I might have Parkinson's disease and while looking up videos to learn more (and yep, I do have lot of symptoms but I'm hoping they're from the other crap I've been diagnosed with throughout the years). I am going to be 45 (and no, we are not old ladies! I know you're joking:)) and I really don't need another disabling condition. So somehow, a video of yours came up and I clicked on it. For several days now, I have only been watching your videos! You are INCREDIBLE! I have learned so much and I'm not gonna stop. I will rewatch them all several times too. I have them saved to many playlists. Your sense of humor is amazing, your debth of knowledge and skills to help others (not only declutter, but actually stick with it?!), your compassion, your ability to make videos that are engaging the entire video (I always watch to the end) and packed with info, etc, there are so many other things but maybe I'll email you. My adult sister was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago after one of her own kids was diagnosed with it. We have a ton of similar behaviors so I finally asked my NP to refer me to a psychiatrist and she did. At the end of our appointment, he told me he actually couldn't diagnose me, that I would need to go get tested, and that was it. Well. I can't afford the testing and my insurance won't pay for it so I am still undiagnosed. Because most of your videos have me chocked up for being truly seen and heard and advised and of my sister's diagnoses, I think the diagnosis for me is confirmed. All that to say: THANK YOU! (I will email you or send you a fb message some day soon!
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Cass, my father was a pediatrician in the 80s and I remember him talking about how ADD (then) was a MEDICAL problem that needed treatment so kids didn’t grow up thinking they were bad people. My brother took Ritalin and ended up being an ER doctor who does extreme kayaking and runs marathons. I was in tears listening and so happy for you now.
I have ADD my whole life. I just figured it out now in my 30s. I thought i was just dumb and a slow kid. I dont talk much, im very quiet and awkward and a loner. I hope we have ritalin and aderall here in my country but they banned them😢
“What’s wrong with me? Nothing at all.” Wow. I’m over here weeping. I wish I could hug you. And thank you. I watch/listen to you all the time. You make me laugh and you make me cry and you make me want to get rid of all the things. And I LOVE it. But more than that, I’m so glad that you finally see yourself the way you were always meant to. You may never see this comment, and that’s fine. But I just had to say it. Thank you for all you do. 🥰
I know I already commented but i remembered an analogy that helped me. ADHD is like having two guys in your brain on an assembly line. The first guy is the guy who gathers the materials (information) and then sends it down the conveyor belt and the other guy sorts through it (executive function) . The first guy is super fast and enthusiastically throwing all the stuff onto the conveyor belt. The second guy is super tired and slow. The stimulants help the second guy keep up with the first guy. Us ADHDers intake more information from our environment than neurotypical people. We just struggle to sort between whats important and whats not.
That is most likely why these adhd kids- whether they know they have this, or not- absorb everyone else’s feelings about them and notice their facial cues and disappointments. More so than others
It gets to them then. My son is frequently telling me about his teachers and when they have a bad day or occasionally get mad at him. All because of a face that they made or a single sentence that they said. He’s a 7th grader
Yes! Both me as a child then adult and my kids will pick up on cues (mostly real) that even the person doesn’t know their feeling (and some imagined) but really more often they are more sensitive to picking up all the information before the person feeling it or having it on their face even knows it. And we get into trouble by misdiagnosing their face or what we are feeling coming from them.
Great analogy
My "second guy" ( executive function) throws everything from the conveyor belt straight onto the floor, or out the window.
This is so helpful.❤
Listened to this podcast on Spotify the other day. Wanted to leave a comment here. Just wanna give you a big Hug Cas. And also you are incredible and resilient. And one of the most amazing humans i have had the pleasure to know over the years. ( Even if it is just online) I am so proud of you and you are such a great person. I was tearing up listening to your story of your childhood/teens. I am so happy you have created this beautiful life and family and found the things that you are passionate about. And I know that growing up with ADHD and not being diagnosed creates a lot of issues. Especially for a lot of girls. I really love you. And all of you. You aren't annoying. You are exciting. I just wanna give that inner child Cas a big hug and let her see your future and all the amazing things you have done. You blow me away!!!! Seriously!!!!!! You are such a caring loving person. You are definitely in the perfect place to reach others with like minds and let us know that we also are great. Because we all are. ❤ Thank you so much for sharing your story and thank you so much for all the things you have created or shared over the years. And your past has led you to who you are as a person today. So it may not be pretty but you have used what you have experienced and turned it into something beautiful. So very proud of you Cas! 😊❤
I agree wholeheartedly! You are an amazing person, Cas. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. You are helping countless people. Bless you ❤
I concur and could not have expressed it any better ❤❤❤
Exactly my sentiments.
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❤ this is exactly how I feel. I feel like Cas is my bestie in my head. 😂 she's been through so much and made it out the other side stronger and better than ever. I'm so proud of her. Go Cas!!xoxo
Well said... everything I have been feeling. Cas, I have to apologize because my daughter has experienced so much of what you have. She has yet to find her passion, and that's not something I can really help her with. But I'm so happy for you and I hope and pray my daughter will realize what a beautiful, talented and wonderful person she is and find the thing that brings her absolute joy.
BTW, you help me too. I am visual but I can't remember what bug I am. No more hangers in the coat closet.... just hooks. It's great!
Cas, I believe your willingness to share your story is literally going to save lives. THANK YOU & HUGE HUGS! A study found that almost 1 in 4 girls with ADHD had attempted suicide by age 20. It says so much about the HARM of being misjudged and shamed for one's innate self that being homeless for years as a teenage girl and going hungry was preferable to home and school. I'm SO glad you made it to the other side! ❤
Hun our journeys are all similar yet different I just want to say thank you for spilling the truth and sharing your freedom my daughter said one time people who ease drop deserve to hear the truth and the truth is devastating the ease dropping is trying to hear what isn't for you yet.
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This is a real example of a self fulfilling prophecy. When you label kids negative things, eventually they embrace them because it feels like they can't overcome these labels.
Cas, thank you for sharing your story! You are not alone! I am 62 (OLD! ha) and just learned 1 year ago I am ADHD! All these years wondering what was wrong with me. Now, my mom also knows she wasn't a "bad" mother. None of this was our fault. We've been reading many books on the subject, watching videos, etc. and are learning what's been going on, and more importantly, how to deal with it. You are helping many people with your story. Thank you for your courage and all your videos and podcasts. You are AMAZING!
Same, but I wish my parents were alive to know it! I remember my father telling me that my job was too figure out which of my many ideas were good ones. And he also said when he taught me to drive, he said that I should be very busy keeping track of looking left and right and far ahead, be aware of everything constantly and not have time to daydream. To this day I am a very safe driver.
I think every parent needs to watch this podcast! It would help so many children around the world! Thanks Cas for sharing your story ❤️ & hugs to you!
Diagnosed at 63, I’ve explored many talks and books about ADHD. Yet your sharing helped me appreciate things about myself that I hadn’t thought about. Thank you for your humble, honest, and un-self-pitying talk. You are a blessing.
I’m 62 now, diagnosed a year and a half ago. Still figuring out how to say these same things.
@ADHD_Love is a wonderful resource!
I just read their (@ADHD_Love) book Dirty Laundry, which helped me understand my (now adult) kids better, especially why they "can't " (make themselves) do certain things. And maybe myself? I didn't have ADHD as a child/younger adult, but they tell me I do now...(You mean it's not just 'menopause brain'?) 😂
Diagnosed a few years ago too! Pulling hair out, meds don't seem to help! 😢
Going on 62. There seems to be no help for us!!
Hi @michelesoto5919 ! Did you try just one kind of medication? They say 80% of us can get some help from meds but it might take trying different ones and getting the right dosage. I had to be approved by heart doc, but now I know my resting heart rate is DOWN after a year of Adderall. If you have not exhausted all the options, you may have given up too soon.
If there are more options to try, maybe there is a med that works for you. Even though they're supposedly similar, Vyvanse made me angry but Adderall makes most things magically less annoying (as well as less boring.)
When you have adhd, you can’t say you were smart or not smart in school. If there wasn’t dopamine in it, you simply didn’t learn it. But the things you are interested in, Cas, where there is an endless flow of dopamine, you are Brilliant and you thrive. You’re a very thorough thinker, when something is worth the thought for you.
Cas, your story is very inspirational. I believe you are helping people, even telling your story. Exactly what you are meant to do. ❤
Cas, you don't have to apologize for getting emotional. You are such a beautiful, talented, and gifted lady who is helping so many people to declutter our homes and our thoughts, and now, by sharing your story, you are helping people with their health. You are an inspiration ❤
Wowzer! I’m totally in awe of your journey. I’m trying to figure out if I’m a bee or a butterfly and you’re out there setting the world on fire! I’m grateful for the human you have become and at the same time sad for the child that had such experiences. You’re WINNING girl and we’re all so grateful that you’re sharing your wisdom with us. ❤❤❤
This breaks my heart for you. I'm a little older than you (52), but I know they didn't understand as much as they do now about ADHD when I was young. It really makes me sad that you were so singled out and failed by your teachers. You have such a bright light and I always enjoy watching you for your fun, bubbly personality.
It's so hard to be different in this world.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is so helpful to me and I'm sure so many others. My son is neurodivergent and he is the light of my life. Sending you hugs. ❤
Please be proud of the person you are, who made her own way. Your story is so incredible and inspiring.
Cass, thank you for bringing attention to ADHD as a gift and not a curse or stigma. I am 77 and raised a grandson diagnosed with clinical acute ADHD and clinical acute ODD (oppositional defiant disorder). He was diagnosed when removed from 1st grade after 2 weeks, and sent to a school for behavioral disorders. Prior to that the pediatrician told me “all that kid needs is a good spanking “. I worked and would pick him up from day care and listened to a litany of offenses. I dreaded even getting out of the car! He was put on meds, and made it through to graduation. In those years, he showed a passion for music, he took guitar lessons, and drum lessons twice a week, he was born with some physical anomalies, so he had PT, OT, Speech and vision therapy three times a week. We were kept very busy. There were still behavioral issues, I was on every principal’s speed dial. He is 26 now, physically disabled, smart and in control. He lives a full life. I truly believe that ADHD, diagnosed and treated is a gift. Yes there are a lot of critics who say putting a child on meds is wrong, have never experienced the benefits. Thank you for this post. I’m sorry for the journey you had, but you survived and are an example for so many. I am so grateful for the blessings I had in raising this wonderful young man.
Thank you Cass for sharing such a personal story. I had a nephew with ADHD, but at the time, my sister didn't want to give him the medication. He had a completely different life. He too ended up on drugs that he couldn't seem to shake. He got hit by a car & died when he was only 28. I'm so happy you are here helping thousands of people instead of being trapped..
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Medication isn’t always the answer and we can’t live with that regret. My daughter is constantly on and off medication and she can’t seem to find the right one.
I’m so sorry for your loss. 😢
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I Can feel the pain Little Cassandra felt. Hug her.
She deserves it.
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That moment when the meds hit the first time.......and you don't have to fight 3 times harder to do 1/3 as well at the task........
It's like you have been dragging chains trying to run....and someone took them off.....
Oh Cassandra, this is a heart breaking story 😢 i am so sorry this happened to you. It is a miracle you got yourself out. You are amazing!
I really loved how at the end you took the ideas to the next level and asked the audience to think differently about the people in their lives and maybe even about themselves. My sister struggles with ADHD and other things as well but she hasn't yet been able to break free from all those lies everyone tells her about herself and I just want that for her so badly! I want her to see herself the way you see yourself. Thanks for encouraging me to help her find her passion. 💙 And never give up trying helping her see that she can still has a place in this neurotypical world.
That was wonderful!! It will absolutely help others. Thank you Cas for sharing your story. When i found your channel a few years ago, you made me realize that the reason that my daughter’s room was always a mess and that she always kept her closet doors open is , that she is a visual which is the opposite of me.
Ohh Cas 😢😢 I am 7 mins into this & I'm already sobbing 😭 what u are relating is heartbreaking & all I want to do is give a u great big hug 🫂 I am a 70+ yo grandmother to 5 granddaughters & 3 possibly 4 are on the Spectrum. The littlest one is the only one diagnosed (ADHD & Autism) & what u r describing so far is her to a T 😮😢 love'n'hugs sweetheart ♥️😘🫂💕 JQ 🇬🇧
Also, little Cassie sounds like an strong, smart, determined girl with a big beautiful spirit and a whole to offer all the people around her. I wish she could have been embraced and loved for exactly who she was!
I’m only 4 minutes into your video. I have always been called a motor mouth and a wiggle worm by my mother. I’m the middle of 3 girls. I am a visual association person. As a small child I liked to perform repetitive tasks, cutting paper into small bits, magnetic letters following each other in a train pattern, and Etch A Sketch, that my older sister wouldn’t let me play with. I always wanted to leave home. Being at school was my sanctuary. I was a sneak for anything sweet, eating lumps of brown sugar. I still don’t understand what other people understand . I just don’t get it about many things. I have had a very successful life through my frugality, but it has been a struggle. I have found that knitting helps me to be still. 💙
Thanks for your insight! 💙
Yep, finding our "calling" in life seems to be even more important to us Neuro-Diverse types. Something that we have major passion and drive for... As well as other "special interests" that soothe us in between.
Meanwhile Neuro-Typical brains are just happy to make money, and live a comfortable (ignorance is bliss?) life without the extra kinda "code of ethics" that we have from feeling everything in more detail / to a greater extent than they do... Just my observation/opinion. Feel free to correct me. ☮💗
@@HannahRainbow88 As an EEG for 41 years, I have found great enjoyment in wiring and recording brain activity. Yes, a repetitive task with variations in patient history and situations. Seeing the patterns of the EEG recordings seems so apparent to me. When I have trained others, I don’t understand how they can’t see the patterns. I’ve worked with a fun Neurologist for a lot of my hospital years. In fact I was there before him. While working in the hospital I had again found a niche. Thanks for your reply, it’s food for thought! 💙
Cas, have followed your channel for years and years and I want to thank you for bringing light into the mental health. The importance of having doctors that treat not just ADHD .
My husband had a bad mental reaction to quit-smoking medication and lost his job , had to be on 24 hr monitoring for about 3 years ( therefore I had to work less and take time off work on and off ) lost friends who made up other stories in their head about what was happening ( 15 plus year friends) all because of ignorance and lack of support. We became homeless and had no prospects of getting on housing lists because we were NOT DRUG ADDICTS .. you saw that right . Hundreds of apartments were available to drug addicts before someone living with a mental health incident.
My son went through the school system with an individual program with extra support ( because off the charts adhd ) thank fully we found medicine that worked fantastic for him. But even then, we would hear from really stupid new teachers who told us what your teachers told your parents : that we just had to hit him more. 😑 like wtf ? So talking and having the stigma of medication gone is key in overcoming mental health struggles.
Thank you so SO SO much for sharing. You mentioned so many things in this video that make such a difference. I am 34 years old and have two kids, one is 6-1/2 yr old boy who does the "annoying" things and my husband and I struggle at times to hold back from saying "stop being annoying!", when infact he is, in that moment. He is GREATLY seeking attention and doing "annoying" things to get it from his younger, 3 yr old sister, myself or my husband. Your explanation of your childhood broke my heart... Always being told you were annoying... It truly hurts my heart to know that; However, a positive thing that will come from sharing your experience, is a great reminder to refrain from calling our child annoying and instead try to provide that extra attention needed or talk to him and explain that he is likely seeking attention and how we can help get out his excited "jitters". I will be so much more thoughtful and refrain from saying "annoying" and causing that shame. On another note, I didn't discover I VERY likely have ADHD until I had children and my world was upside down trying to manage another schedule beside my own. All of the excessive items that come along with babies and children, my house was/is (getting SO much better) in absolute chaos. My brain was lacking (and still is..) so much sleep, the new items all needed a place to go, the new schedules, appointments, foods, toys, devices, etc. etc. My once tidy home was an absolute disaster and I could no longer make decisions. I had guilt about everything... Why did i buy that? I can't get rid of it... we spent so much. I'll take pics and post of facebook marketplace, offer up, let go -- I'll try to make back some of the money from all the spending. Only to be [typically] left with SO much more effort put out than I received back from a buyer. I am rambling lol.... Long story short -- THANK you SO much Cas for all you do! You have and are currently changing my life (as well as my family's life). I love you and appreciate everything you do. You changed the lives of myself, my husband and my children. It may sound dramatic, but it's true. I have let go of so many things I had guilt for, I realized my organizing style and therefor my house has been cleaner, more time with my family and less stress/guilt due to the mess/chaos. Love from Oregon, Kayla
❤ as someone that's been told "you talk too much", "you don't focus", "you're just being lazy", in school, this really hit home. I don't have ADHD, but I have several learning disabilities and still I was able to graduate high school and college. All of that to say, I made it to the other side of despite the fact that I had so many things going on at once in my brain. Your ADHD doesn't define you. You define you. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story. You never know who your story will touch and how deep of an impact your story will have on someone. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable and real. Please never apologize for crying on your podcast or ever. You are allowed to feel however you please. If that happens to make someone else uncomfortable, they can kick rocks with open-toe shoes. That's a "them" problem, not a "you" problem. Keep being your fun and bubbly self and those that are meant to be in your life will support you up close and personal or even from a distance. Keep up the great work. Shine on. I send you and little, inner Cas a big hug. 🤗❤️ oh my!! 🤦🏻♀️ this just turned into a novel. Ok. I'm shutting up now.xoxo
When you mentioned the 9 times table I had to comment again. (I’m the former spec Ed teacher). Here’s a trick..9x a number will be that number minus 1 and another number that equals 9. For example 9x6 has to start with a 5 (one less than 6) and 5 plus a number to equal 9. So 5+4 =9. So 9x6=54 9x7 answer starts with one less than 7. Which is 6. Now what plus six equals 9? That would be a 3. So the answer to 9x7=63. Some times I write it all down in columns. Do you see the patterns? Do you see the column that goes 0,1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8? Do you see the second column in the answer that goes 9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1,0? You’ll never forget the 9 times tables again. And for 9x1 it’s just 9, for 9x10 just add a zero. 90 and for 9x 11 just the 9 twice or 99. For 9x12 just add 9 to 99 or add 10 to 99 and minus 1 for an answer of 108. Hope this helps your kids. Good luck.
9x1=09
9x2=18
9x3=27
9x4=36
9x5=45
9x6=54
9x7= 63
9x8=72
9x9=81
9x10=90
9x11=99
9x12=108
Awesome
Great Storytime. My son and hubby both have ADHD and I love hearing stories like this of successful people who have gone through the struggles but still have been able to accomplish goals.💙
I love your testimony I can resonate a lot with your story I got semi emotional with you. My middle child is very hyper active and videos like this gives me hope for him in his future. Thank you for people bringing more awareness to this. Keep doing what you are doing you are encouraging a lot of souls! You are more than enough! I’m sending a virtual hug to small Cassandra.
I was born in 1965 …..
I was dyslexic with ADHD. They thought I was disruptive lazy stupid I was just bored.
Wow! Your parents also sound ADHD! One of the symptoms is exhaustion throughout the day (whether the job was high tech, factory, or grocery store), just tremendous exhaustion. It’s not the norm to feel exhausted all the time, when a person is neither old nor sick.
I feel this way about the Phentermine I take for weight loss. It doesn't make me hyper or have more energy (which it does for a lot of people). It stops the voices in my head (so to speak), the ones that constantly nag me to focus on food. "Is it time to eat yet? How about now? How about now? When can we eat next. Stop doing that stupid thing and eat!!!" They are almost completely quieted. And when a thought does come into my head, I can put it aside and continue to focus on what I'm doing. I can even be hungry and ignore it. I am so grateful for it.
Hey hun, I just wanna say this (weight loss meds) is how I discovered my adhd … when those meds made me chilled, relaxed and actually able to hear what I really wanted because all the “talking” I felt didn’t stop in my head normally, calmed too, and I was functional….. that was at 19, I’m now 38…
Me too! It was the Phentermine in my appetite suppressant this last November that made me seek diagnosis. a I am 53 yr old and never thought I had ADHD. I thought my son did because of the hyperactiveness he displayed as a child. Then last Fall my daughter was diagnosed with inattentive type. Anyway, I am finding my way on some extremely expensive meds. Not sure it is the right med meds😅or dosage, but does take the edge off the impulsiveness and I feel like I can do things, accomplish things. My problem is my only dr. Is my gynecologist who has no experience with these meds. She sent me for Psychological testing, and when that confirmed what I suspected,that I have ADHD, she then prescribed meds. I recently asked a Family medicine Dr if he would be my primary Dr.because some personnel at
the clinic told me I should have someone other than my gynecologist. Well he agreed to take me on but refused to adjust or change my ADHD meds. And one last thing when I did the Psych testing, I had already met my deductible so everything should have been covered. It was around $2500 dollars! Well my insurance co. only paid for part of it stating that they don’t pay for that particular diagnosis! What? Luckily, the Psych place I went to didn’t charge me everything they could have. So now I will have to find a Psychiatrist. Thanks for listening. There is so much going on in my head with this new awareness of myself. I probably need to talk or write about it.
Cassie, thank you for putting my daughters perspective on ADHD. I honestly never realized how difficult it was for her.
The more I listen to stories like these, the better I understand myself, and the better I understand some of the children I serve each Sunday at my church. I’m working hard to REMEMBER to make an appointment with my GP for a referral to an ADHD specialist so I can start to get some answers and real, meaningful help. I’m 47, and my struggles have cost myself and my family SO MUCH.
Thank you for sharing about your struggles and victories. You’re making a difference in my life, both through organizing/decluttering, and with my health. Imma stop now, soI don’t cry. Thank you, Cas.
omg! it’s insane that no one diagnosed you in your childhood/teens, it’s so sad that you went through all of these traumatic things! I’m so sorry!
I was also not diagnosed until recently, in my 30’s… but as I’m not hyper active (at least outside my mind) I was a really quite kid, so it makes sense that I slipped through the system relatively easily, I only started struggling in my teens…
but it’s really hard, incredibly hard the feeling of unfitness, guilty for not being able to perform as others, and feeling that it’s because you’re lazy, bad, annoying and so on… this is really a shared experience and it breaks a person! it is really a relief to understand that isn’t because we are horrible, but it’s a condition, we are just unique as anyone and it’s just a matter of finding the right way to enable us to do things.
really nice to have met your channel!
Cassie, Thank you so much for your story. I am 65 and have had some issues like you. And never thought that could be my problem. And some family members I see those symptoms. Your story inspires me. Made me cry, laugh. Love you, God bless you and your family. Grace🌹
This podcast may have been the 1st life-changing moment for me and 1 of my children who I'm struggling to figure out why she's the way she is. Thank you for being vulnerable and well-spoken and share your amazing story, Cas!
Favorite video I've seen of yours.
I'm new here. I've only been watching your videos for about a week now. I'm preparing to be a SAHM (still pregnant) so I've been decluttering and cleaning like a crazy person. I stumbled upon your videos and my first thought was "wow she is so hyper crazy" and I really liked the calmer videos I had been watching. Well, I kept hearing people talk about how amazing you are and since I don't believe in judging people by first impressions, I'd watch a few more of your videos.
At first what annoyed me the most was how even though you were so wild, you made more sense than most of the other youtubers. I'm an ISTJ so I really appreciate some good ol' logic. (And yes, I am a cricket. Big surprise there.)
But what is very fun about you is that the more videos I'd watch, the less wild you seem.
Something I highly respect about you is that you know who you are and that is who you want to be. You aren't trying to change to fit in a normal box, but rather you are trying to change to become a better you.
I think we all have something that makes us abnormal so we feel like we stick out in a crowd. I am dyslexic and I also had to work super super hard in school because I didn't want my friends to think I was stupid. On the outside, I looked normal and even my teachers thought I was very smart. They didn't know that I'd go home and cry because my brain wasn't connecting the dots and how many hours I'd study until I finally got it because on the inside my brain was screwing up letters and numbers and colors and I might as well forget about rhyming. I also turned out to be a high school dropout due to the stress of taking tests and feeling stupid.
Anyways, I just wanted to say that you're very inspiring and I can see God working through you in amazing ways. Never apologize for being yourself and when people judge you for being wild and crazy hyper, just know that they are the ones missing out because they didn't take the time to see who you really are. I know I'm glad I did.
Wish you the best and thanks for posting your videos so I don't feel alone as I am cleaning and going about my day. ❤
OMG Cas!!! . . . Thanks so much for telling your story!! I watch all your videos. You were my first entry to TH-cam years ago. You helped me to declutter, tidy, and organize my house... including my OFFICE. Which is my struggle room. Your honesty, vulnerability, and willingness to share and connect with your Clutterbug community are such a gift. It's clear you have found your calling. I'm grateful to be able to tag on with you on your journey. You have a long-time fan and follower in me. 🙏🏽
This broke my heart and made me cry, but you also CRACKED ME UP with that segue at :33 to the jail thumbnail! 🤣Classic Cas creativity & humor! 😄👏👏Meeting more friends with ADHD helped me realize I actually PREFER our filterless, endless conversational style. lol I try to remember, "I may not be everyone's cup of tea, but I'm somebody's double shot of whiskey." 🤩 "Get in where you fit in, go on and shine." 🌈🌱🌿💐🍀💖
I am so incredibly jealous that you received an answer to your Question about what was wrong with you when you were just 40 years old. I am 60 years old and i think i have ADHD - Inattentive type - but am still NOT diagnosed. But so much of what you have experienced, I am also experiencing as well. The only difference is that I am not physically hyper. My brain just goes a mile a minute 24/7 whenever I am not sleeping!! I know my passion. I love to write. But I dont yet know WHAT I want to write about. I am trying to get an appointment or a referral but my family doctor is being somewhat resistant. Because i am not hyper!!! That last line speaks to me - Passion plus Purpose equals Positivity - I gotta find that for me - and my son. He and I are both INATTENTIVE!!
Thanks for sharing this, Cas, such an important message that shame so often hides. Your ADHD is helping so many people, me included. Diagnosed with ADHD as an adult too. 50 and still trying to figure out how not to suck at organizing and taking care of my home and life. Its why I came across your channel.
Thanks for sharing, I am being assessed for ADHD in 2 weeks and I am 53! This feels like the most important thing to me as it may or may not explain my life. I am pretty terrified. Probably more frightened that I am sent away saying I don't have as then I have no explanation! Wish me luck! Ps, I am so pleased you found peace with who you are x
I was diagnosed at 60. If you do have it, please know this is not a bad diagnosis. Information is therapy to late- diagnosed people. Finding “the right difficult“ is key to motivation. If you can afford to hire somebody to do jobs that you really hate, do it it is money well spent. Housecleaning and accounting services have changed my life.
@polly1141 let us know how the assesment went :)
@@ameleh61 Thank you.
@@16demolka I had an initial meeting with psychiatrist who said I probably have it but I had extra papers to complete. He asked lots of questions. The assessment was OK but he is now of sick and my case passed on so further backlog so months to wait again. Thanks for asking, very kind of you 😊
I'm a writer and consider myself to be at least somewhat articulate, but I can't find the words to say how impactful this video is. And you aren't just fabulous at what you do... you're obviously a gifted speaker. I usually listen to TH-cam while I do other things, but this one had me stopped in my tracks doing nothing else but listening and feeling sorry for little Cassandra and so excited for grown Cassandra. Love that you allowed yourself to share this even though you think it was weird. It's not weird at all! (And you are NOT old! Because if you are, I'm ancient!) :)
This was a beautiful podcast, thank you so much. As a parent of five neurodiverse kids and being the same myself you made me so emotional. I have not yet managed to convince drs to assess for adhd, think it’s easier in us and Canada than the uk but all my kids have it. You speak so much truth and you sharing your story really does help other people because we then know that we are not alone, out behaviours are not just bad or weird. Thank you so much for sharing.
From you and others, I realized that I was an ADHD child. HOWEVER, I was a people pleaser and hated the feeling of being isolated. I have so many issues from that. One of my 2 favorite aunts used to call me an "airhead". I tried to steer away from answering questions/situations due to my natural responses because of the looks I would receive. 😢 I often asked myself what was wrong with me. 😢
Wish you would stop saying 'I'm old' cuz you are not... and it is a constant putdown on yourself.
It’s possible she doesn’t consider it a put down 😊 I’m just a couple of years older than Cas and I call myself old all the time. I don’t mind saying it, I say it because it feels goofy and fun. Still, I can’t say for sure how she feels about it. Just offering a different perspective. Hugs!
Thank you Cas, you are helping so many people that you will never meet or even know. ❤
Omg ❤I wish I could reach through the internet and give you a big hug. You are truly amazing 🤩
I feel ya sister!! As a mother who became diagnosed when her child was, it's an amazing feeling, knowing the reason I kept struggling and failing.couldnt finish things, and felt like the dog in Up, i.e. "Squirrel!" and wander off. And no impulse control. I always felt like a failure, when I would see what my friends could do. But they don't see the world like I do, No boxes, and the ability to ask why rules are there. So thank you for sharing your story! And thank you for figuring out how to help us adhders organize our homes!!❤
Thank you thank you thank you 😭😭😭🤩🤩🤩🫶🫶🫶❤️❤️❤️
So many feels for little Cas, I can say schools are doing much better (my perspective is in Australia) my young childs school handles his ADHD with such respect . Thank you for your vulnerability! As a parent, I can't get enough information, perspective, empathy etc. Because it can be ALOT. xx
There's another TH-camr I'm subbed to who has ADHD, well, quite a few actually, but this gal in particular, Emily D Baker, she calls her ADHD her Superpower. That's what you have, Cas. A Superpower. Like all Superpowers, you had to learn how to harness it and put it to work for you, and you've done it. It sucks that you went through your life without understanding it, and without your family understanding. But look how far you've come. Love you, Cas.
Edited to add : Lol, just after I finished my comment, you referred to it as a Superpower as well, love it.
As a former Special Ed teacher, I am so sorry you didn’t get the help in school you deserved. I have four children (two homegrown and 2 adopted) and after I quit teaching to be a stay at home mom, I fought like crazy for my ADHD son (youngest and adopted). I always told him his ADHD was a super power. He could do anything he put his mind to except school work. Luckily he had older sisters that helped him and when he got older he always had smart girlfriends that helped him. Today at age 25, he has a wife, two kids and his own trucking company. I still think he has super powers. He can hyper focus on things that matter to him and has unlimited energy to accomplish what he desires. My whole goal as a teacher was to find the way each kid learned best and point out their super powers. My class was fun and the so called “normal” kids begged to come to my class. I wish I had you as my student. You are a real success story now and I’m glad I found your channel.
❤ What a beautiful story. Thank you for being the difference in children's lives.
Your story reminds me of a 2nd grader I had as a teacher in 1972 and it makes me smile. I figured out he was still learning something as he sat, kneeled, layed, curled under his desk and stood beside it or did headstands on the carpet, moving all the time, talking fairly quietly to himself. I took him out of the front group so others weren't distracted by him and just let him do his thing. He was diagnosed with ADHD and given ritalin, but, like you, that didn't stop everything, mostly his bombarded brain. His dad asked if I would keep him one more year because he lost a lot while we were figuring everything out. I loved him. He was so sweet and always wanted to do the right thing. The second year he caught up, I haven't seen him since, but often hoped he would get love and understanding along the way.
Cass, thank you. I am 45 and have a nearly identical story growing up in the 80’s. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my twenties but since have always been embarrassed about my ADHD, and needing medication just to remember and process information. I have a 4 year old daughter who is just like me, and I am working hard to get her into a specialist for a diagnosis because I don’t want her to be labeled as the bad kid like I was in school. I appreciate you telling your story, but also that you support medication. So many kids could thrive if their parents supported medicating them when nothing else works. And I think that we need to work towards de stigmatizing ADHD medication so that more kids can thrive.
THIS!! We are setting them up to thrive, instead of them hiding in survival mode like we had to. 💗👏
I agree, and also hope more people understand and accommodate the parts of ADHD that don't respond to medication. If a jr. high teacher hadn't assumed my chronic lateness was a CHOICE I should be punished for, I could have learned about science instead of spending the entire term being babysat by the school's activity coordinator after the teacher permanently banned me from his class.
If my high school homeroom teacher had paid attention to my clear signs of embarrassment and remorse for being late every day instead of presuming it was willful disrespect and refusing me entry to his class, I might not have dropped out of high school despite good grades.
Ditto college, and multiple jobs.
Greater understanding and acceptance can literally change someone's life!
Good wishes to anyone who struggles with ADHD or supports others who do! ❤
Thank You❣️for being so vulnerable and telling your story. You are a beautiful blessing to this world and we need more people like you ❣️ My husband and 4 kids have ADHD and I do not have ADHD. It has been so hard to keep a clean house because I have been trying to get them to do my detailed organizing. I’m finally getting it! I need to make the common areas for a ladybug/butterfly not the cricket/bee that I am.
Oh, I can SO relate. Annoying, critical, lazy, dumb, bad - and don’t forget, talks too much !
Thank you for sharing the real you, all the time. I'm in the midst of getting diagnosed, and it feels so damned good knowing that awesome women like you have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and want to help others ease into their own discovery journey. THANK YOU!
Omg, I am in tears. My son has ADHD and you might think that teachers knowing better would do better. My son was bullied by his teachers. I am glad that you are resident and you have a great family. ❤ PS never feel ashamed for telling your story. It's definitely inspiring and it will help many people.
Dude….First of all Cas….dont ever apologize for being emotional!!❤ A Great big hug to you for your vulnerability & for such a hard time you had with this!!!
God has out you here for a reason, yes to help people with their homes but today….more importantly to have compassion for their selves or others in their lives who are struggling!! ❤❤❤ that’s huge!!
I was also an unmedicated “ADHD’r”. I struggled in school also. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD when I took my daughter to a paediatrician who specialized in mood therapy. He recognized within a 15 minute conversation that I had ADHD. That label helped me so much. I know that I have watched you for years And identified with you so so many times. Whew so many emotions this stirred up😭. Thank you once again for -yes an emotional roller coaster ride - but most of all helping me today. The struggle is real. Now seeing my daughter go through this 😭. This video helps so much. In ways I don’t even know yet!
It took me 4 days to get through this podcast!! Thank you!!!!! Cas for being amazing!! ❤❤❤
YOU ARE A WONDERFUL HUMAN BEING ❤❤❤ pls never think anything else about yourself!
I am sorry that this was your experience in life. I think it's true that you can't know what each person is living through. Everyone has struggles and difficulties, but some are less apparent.
Hi there I just want to tell you how beautiful your testamony was even though I just commented I had to rewatch this again and save it to rewatch more. I feel very validated, I have felt broken for so many reasons for more years than I can count, This is huge, I don't know where to go to figure things out & to put myself in the right order somehow, to spend the rest of my life living as I should with peace , love and understanding & giving myself grace. Just listening to what you have said on this podcast letting me know not to blame myself anymore its never been my fault. Thank you.
Thank you Cas for being so brave to share your wild story with us all.
I'm a dance teacher (for 42yrs) and I have a much better understanding of ADHD in children now which explains why during a dance concert last year backstage in the CHAOTIC dressing room a (said graciously) notorious ADHD student sat in the thick of everyone reading a book calmly for AGES! When I realised who it was I was completely ASTONISHED! However when the book was put down the usual behaviour came pouring out again!
I'll share this podcast with the mother and principal of the school because you've really explained it (from your experience) very well and I'm sure they will benefit like I have.
For the record I think you're amazing & if I could do ¼ of the things that you can do and get done I'd be happy.
God bless
Obelia
from Australia 🦘
Thank you again for sharing everything you have gone through and being open about it all, and tricks and tips that you have found helpful! This video spoke so much to me about everything my 7yo daughter went through and makes my heart hurt so bad knowing how the previous schools and other kids have treated her and shes only in 2nd grade! it was hard getting her diagnosed because she wasn't displaying your "typical" adhd symptoms and was very close on the spectrum. Knowing what I know now, her type of adhd is actually common for little girls but much harder to diagnose. We tried homopathic routes, that didn't work, behavioral services, 1 medication which epically failed and finally found the right one that helps her. she has even told us how much better she feels on it and that everything isnt so "noisy" to her (her words!) ive been going down rabbit holes learning everything i can to potentially help her, trying new systems when one doesnt work, switching them up etc. she's been doing great using the clipboard system from Jordan Page. I modified it and we've seen such improvements already.
Beautiful inspirational story, well told. You are a blessing Cass.
Thank you for sharring your life stories with us. You are amazing person. ❤🎉
Thank you for sharing this about yourself. My daughter has ADHD, is 14 and does take medication but we still struggle at times, especially in these teen years. Your podcast helped me still, as sometimes I am not patient enough or kind enough. Thank you for sharing and thank you for the tips. Also, you are doing amazing things!
Thank you Cas. This was really helpful.
I can relate and I'm 73. And I still think I'm all those things. I try to make a joke. I watch you for the decluttering and you really help me lots.
Thank you so much, Cas, I wish I could think of words to describe how helpful your sharing was. I love you and appreciate you!
Thanks so much for sharing your story despite how scary that can be. You are so strong! I can relate to some of the things that you shared and wish that I could have had you as a friend when I was a kid! We are close to the same age and my story is unique and different from yours, but as a fellow person with ADHD so much of it hits home! I won’t share my story here, but please know that you gave comfort to my inner 10 year old that was remembering a very painful school experience. Hugs to you and your inner Cas girl!
Thank you so much, Cas! I am double trouble, because trauma responses covered up many of my adhd symptoms. The more I work through the trauma, the more apparent the adhd becomes. Haven't been diagnosed because this is really hard to achieve in Germany as an adult. I feel like there is a lot wrong with me, but watching you helps. So thank you ❤
At 63, I'm beginning to realize the likelihood that I have ADHD. Cas, you gave me the courage to ask for an ADHD assessment. Thank you for your true grit.
Beautiful. Thank you Cass.
Thank you Cass. ❤. My entire 40 something year career as an occupational therapist was working with neurodivergent people. My favorite was treating behavioral children or teens. Your story was a gift to all indeed.
Great podcast. 🥰 (Your makeup looks great btw. 🙂)
Cass you are very brave telling your whole story. I just want to give you a hug. How hard it must have been for you and your parents.
Diagnosed at 35, as a guy with inattentive type, just got looked over. I still can't do math, still count on my fingers, the speed math at the chaulk board was horrible for me.
Hi Cass,
I, too, was born in 1979 and didn't get diagnosed til a few years ago, also!
You're not alone. Thank you for being so vulnerable ❤
Imagine the 50s and 60s! I never shut up
27:42 What I'm hearing is, "hurt people HELP people" when they put in the hard work. I love that so much more than "hurt people, hurt people"
This is so amazing. Thanks alot.
I'm a woman your age with ADHD, too. You have come such a long way and should be very proud of yourself. Thank you for bringing so candid and sharing your story ❤️
Wow. You should be SOOO PROUD OF YOURSELF ! ❤❤❤ This sentence made me cry. 22:53.
HUGE hugs.the job creation program, government program.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (3yrs ago) and the med that I was put on was the only “antidepressant” that has ever really worked for me… when trying to explain it to my husband I told him that “it took dodgeball and turned it into kickball… like it made my thoughts line up and take turns… even if they do it in very quick succession, it’s different from when they’re all coming at me at the same time…”
This is so heartbreaking… Thank you so much for sharing, that has to be so tough. This is why I don’t say “Good girl/boy, bad girl/boy!” to my kids. My husband is a textbook ADHD kid/adult and he has horror stories about being the ‘hyper’ kid or the ‘ADHD’ kid both in school and at medical provider’s offices. It’s wild how adults have such an impact on kids with their words.
I cannot thank you enough for posting this loving and inspiring video. I know from personal experience this video has the potential of changing lives. You're an angel with a big halo and big fluffy wings for taking the time, patience, and dedication to create it, and the love and courage to post it. ❤😇🙌💐
Thank you for sharing your incredible biography. You are a very intelligent, passionate, creative, good and young looking woman I wish I had just a couple of days around me. But at least you have this podcast for inspiration. ❤
Oh Cass!!! A fellow girl with ADD --diagnosised as an adult like you.
This is so brave.....
Bigs hugs - I think we are kindred spirits ❤
This hits so hard, the part where you said you wanted so bad to be a good girl, but you were impulsive, lazy, dumb, and bad. I was the same. But it manifested as being too quiet, awkward, embarrassingly shy, because I can only think of the right thing to say when someone else is talking. So I was either interrupting or completely blank. I also have SPD (sensory processing disorder) so brushing my hair, I was screaming. My brother loved to hurt, poke me, overstimulate me til I screamed. And I was miserable. Because I was quiet, at school, and good, and tried hard, no one even considered it that I might be on the spectrum. But as an adult, as a sahm, I found out that I have autism and adhd both.
I relate to either being blank or needing to interrupt or I'll lose the thought.
Thank you for being so open about your past, your ADHD struggles, and your journey to where you are now! You have come a long ways! I have watched your channel for years and love seeing this deep dive. Many of your suggestions (life, organzing, ADHD etc) have helped me and even my daughter who has ADHD immensly! Not sure if it is something you would ever do, but I would also love to know how your journey was around learning about making content, videoing, editing etc.
Oh Cas, my heart breaks for that little girl who thought she was annoying and dumb. My little girl always thought she was an idiot because that was my mom’s name for me. I just wanted you to know you are not those things people said about you. You are precious just the way you are. I’m so happy for you that you have been able to become the sweet, young lady you are. You are loved. You are an inspiration to those of us who are living with ADHD.
Thank you so so much for this podcast! You sharing this story was so greatly useful! Your whole story helped me to understand my daughter so much! Wow!
I judge you to be a wonderful person.
I sat at my front office desk and cried as you gave us your backgrou.d story because it completely parallels mine down to the sugar allergy!!! My heart aches for all of us who were treated so poorly for the underlying undiagnosed add/adhd!!! Thank you for sharing!!!!
You are not old. You are middle-aged... I was born in 1968... am I ancient... my mom was born in 1938. Is she prehistoric? Trying to be cool by showing how uncool you are is not helpful. I think of you as someone who believes in self empowerment... talking negatively about yourself is not self empowerment... and does become you.
It’s possible she doesn’t consider it a put down 😊 I’m just a couple of years older than Cas and I call myself old all the time. I don’t mind saying it, I say it because it feels goofy and fun. Still, I can’t say for sure how she feels about it. Just offering a different perspective. Hugs!
Cas. Wow. You had hinted at some of your past difficulties, but I had no idea how extreme. I'm SO glad you shared your story with us. Your determination to succeed, your ability to reframe negatives into positives, and your constant (successful!) efforts at self-development are truly inspirational. ❤
Oh my goodness, you are a miracle in my life! The only positive thing yt brought to me was you. I have learned I might have Parkinson's disease and while looking up videos to learn more (and yep, I do have lot of symptoms but I'm hoping they're from the other crap I've been diagnosed with throughout the years). I am going to be 45 (and no, we are not old ladies! I know you're joking:)) and I really don't need another disabling condition. So somehow, a video of yours came up and I clicked on it. For several days now, I have only been watching your videos! You are INCREDIBLE! I have learned so much and I'm not gonna stop. I will rewatch them all several times too. I have them saved to many playlists. Your sense of humor is amazing, your debth of knowledge and skills to help others (not only declutter, but actually stick with it?!), your compassion, your ability to make videos that are engaging the entire video (I always watch to the end) and packed with info, etc, there are so many other things but maybe I'll email you. My adult sister was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago after one of her own kids was diagnosed with it. We have a ton of similar behaviors so I finally asked my NP to refer me to a psychiatrist and she did. At the end of our appointment, he told me he actually couldn't diagnose me, that I would need to go get tested, and that was it. Well. I can't afford the testing and my insurance won't pay for it so I am still undiagnosed. Because most of your videos have me chocked up for being truly seen and heard and advised and of my sister's diagnoses, I think the diagnosis for me is confirmed. All that to say: THANK YOU! (I will email you or send you a fb message some day soon!