Sex is not an equal risk between men and women we must know that. The woman incurres more risk from having sex and she must move that way. Learning to keep my legs closed and abstain made me a stronger woman. I am more clear on who I am and WHY my body is precious and sacred.
Since being abstinent it has opened my eyes and made me realize that there really aren't many men worth dating or being sexually attracted to in the first place. It's given me ALOT of clarity!
As believers, we are called to the narrow path. Many called, few chosen is by design. Simply put, most simply will not qualify and God is protecting us from the chaos that would otherwise ensue.🙏🏾✨✨
To any celibate ladies watching this please don’t think that because someone failed after 2 years or 6 years that you should just give up. People will tend to leave out the details that they were watching nasty movies or etc It’s really important that while your are abstinent it’s not just about abstaining from sex. You have to constantly pray and take every action to kill your lust by cutting off music, tv shows, movies, sexy clothing, Lustful thoughts, and bad associations. taking kissing off the table helps kill lust too especially in the first 3 months of dating
You shouldn’t tell because that’s something you don’t wear on your forehead especially if it’s intentional. These spirits out here are real , protect yourself and learn to move in silence 💯
Everything Tony says is real. I tested his theory on a guy last month by telling him I was abstinent and the FIRST thing out his mouth was “Oh I’m gonna get you to break that! I like a challenge.” 😵💫😳 He instantly went into game mode and wanted to be the one I got weak for smh. So yea, let’s keep that to ourselves.
I had a conversation with my brother and a few of his friends trying to enlighten them on this subject. Their comment was, if a woman won’t have sex with her man, he’s just going to go find it elsewhere. I responded that if he walks away, that’s a blessing from GOD. I also told them they need JESUS and to listen to Tony Gaskins videos!!💯
From now on I will not be telling a man that I am a virgin and abstaining. I used to always parade it on dating sites and first conversations, and that made me a victim of their games and pettiness. My mouth is closed, he can either put up or get LOSTD.
I hope the women who read this that are in that space or may be in that space soon, read this when they need it: Please don't tell him. Especially if you're a virgin. That was the biggest mistake I've ever made. I was 23 (25 now) ...and naively volunteered that information thinking that it would run him off and it backfired on me terribly. No one needs to know. If he tries you, your response can simply be "I'm not ready to go that far right now." Don't tolerate him pressing you about it either. You don't have to! He doesn't need to know why. It's not rude or cruel. Also, if you're already lusting after him, do not put yourself in a position that will jeopardize your committment to God. It is not a missed opportunity if you don't do it. It's not an experience you just have to have with that specific person. Thinking this way will cause you to fall. There are plenty of women he can sleep with. It doesn't have to be you and 9/10 he's dealing with multiple women anyway...so you may not be special to him... if there's a possibility to even think that you aren't then the answer should automatically be no. When you're special to a man he will treat you as such and you won't question it or be wondering how he feels. Women and men value sex on different levels and value their bodies differently as well. He will not see it as a special experience the way that you do...even if in the moment it was fake "special" You'll be a notch on his belt and he'll move to the next. Trust.
Just like they say “MOVE IN SILENCE” you should also “ABSTAIN IN SILENCE.” The subject doesn’t even have to come up. Your ACTIONS should speak LOUDER than your words. But…..If you not leading with or projecting “sex” in your attire, in your conversation or in your behavior then there’s nothing to say. Ladies, IF a man seems to only be interested in sex then that’s your cue. Bye Fred! A man who respects himself will respect you. Remember NO MEANS NO. I think the problem comes when women say one thing then do another. Men aren’t stupid. Well, some may be but it’s important that as a woman you’re not playing games. I told my now husband “sex wasn’t on the menu” I initially said it jokingly but he came back with “I’m not just looking to date and have sex, I’m looking for a wife.” That was my cue…Ok this man is serious. He’s not like ANY other man I met or dated. I then WATCHED (observed his actions) looking to see his character. We had moments where we came closer than we should (and that was more on me than him) if I can be transparent but I knew he’d be my husband. We dated and got married 2 years to the date we met.
I am a 38 years old woman and i never slept with any man in my life Thank God. I am proud of this and doing this for God. As far as i am not married, i am not sleeping with anyone
Its been almost 2 years for me, it is not easy. To be honest, I'm not looking for anyone, cause there's a lot of games, diseases, and dangers out here.
Great video, Tony. This is why some aspects of our lives should be private. Telling too much can be extremely dangerous and can also make us become a target.
Abstinence allows patience, genuiness, respect, accountability, & correct foundations to take place. True godly men will value that. Some1 has to really like u & for the long term to walk through it with u. But regardless still got to pray for discernment bc that devil will counterfeit any how to destroy ur soul. It also does not replace doing the work in a relationship... it's just a tool to help do things correctly & from the right place in honor of God.
@@tjaspire I totally agree one guy said he was a preacher but told me he has sex before he gets married and it would be hard not to. I thank God I never went there with him👍🏾
If you are abstaining for the right reason there is no need to broadcast it on social media. There is no need to tell everyone and tell the person that you are dating that you are abstaining This is because when they try you they will know then. A person with bad intentions will usually move on to someone else. Tony you and your family be blessed 🙏🙏🙏
Abstinence creates so much discernment in your heart and mind. It’s been almost 7 years for me. Wow - that sounds crazy!!!! But I was always in long term relationships from a teen, including abu-Ive ones long term. I started because I knew it was right and what God wanted, but for the first time, I can focus on me, my goals and dreams, and just Doing right. I am not telling anyone. It’s for myself
After what I have been through, I know exactly what to look out for and what to reject. There is nobody that handsome or rich that will bring me to lower my standards or accept his low standards.
I have been on my journey for 2 years now , and what a blessing this has been for self/love ! I will be waiting on my Husband! You have to have a sensitive spirit for God to hear his voice When counterfeits come! God will not let us down , faith 🙌🏾 I drink nothing but water and sparkling water!
After divorce, I just found myself on this journey. It wasn't a decision. It was almost natural. Like God just put me on that path to help me clear out all the noise. It has been well over 10 years. (I don't care to say how many :) It's very true what you say about having a strength that is beyond imaginable. And the clarity about what you want in your life. And the SECURITY, that what God has in store for you is even greater than the investment you made in yourself and in your commitment. Sending you all love and light. xo
All of this is exactly what happened with the man I gave my virginity to. Broke me down layer by layer and had me thinking that he really cared about me. And still tries to contact me till this day. It still hurts because I haven’t been with anyone else, but I guess that’s a good thing. I wish knew this 8 years ago, but oh well.
The Devil is everything u ever wanted, wrapped in a bow, perfect and all…don’t be deceived by these grown boys. They all got “egos” as Queens I wish everyone strength for 2022 and beyond..🙏🏽👑‼️❤️ Never forget your WORTH, Ladies! Stand Firm on your decisions. That’s how u stand out from the rest. Be that woman. 💯 It all comes down to Self Respect.
Great Topic☆ I have been Celibate for 2 years & I have noticed when I mention it around the opposite sex they think that's a Challenge & I realize now not to even discuss it▪︎It's my Journey not every one else's🌹
💓💕🌸🎉💕One year abstinent in March🌸😉💓💪🏾🎉 I've settled in to it now it was a bit tough in the middle. Now, I truly realize how precious my body is. How foolish it is to give yourself away to ppl who do not respect you who are not God sent for your life. Sex is beautiful but it is also dangerous. I am doing Ok but I do want to be hugged. I want to be hugged and feel closeness that part is very hard. But....praise God. No enemies in my bed.
I'm on my 3rd journey after a lengthy relationship failed. The 1st was 3yrs after my failed marriage. The 2nd was after an 11yr exclusive relationship. Now, I'm on 5yrs just for me and why I attract the same types of partners, manipulative associates & family who no longer support you once you stop giving. It's something I'm allowing or missing/ignoring the "red flags". I'm truly learning to listen to God & let HIM direct. Tony, your clips, seminars have proven very helpful. Thank you! 💞✌🏾👑
This message is right on time. I have restarted my abstinence journey within the last two months and I have been wondering how to explain to potential suitors about my journey or if I should say anything at all, but after listening to this message it confirmed that it is something that I should keep to myself. Someone who is actually trying to get to know you for you and won’t make sex priority right off the bat, they will actually want to get to know you for you and not how quickly you are willing to “ get on your bike”
same I dont say anything at all, I dont really date but lets say few have approached me and were not interested in getting to know me, they wont really engage and drop off. Like TG said they can have that one conversation or a few words with you and sense who you are. sense that 80% of the women dont talk like you, keep their opinion to themselves. If you show you have an opinion , it means you ll make your own decisions and have standards . I feel plenty of men , I dont know I havent met many but it seems they dont like it that women make their own decision. Keeping you legs and home closed until marriage is making a decision.
I don’t even want a man touching me. The first time doing the do with someone new feels so weird and awkward… not even going to lie. I’m over the sex stage in life. I’m so focused on me
This message is right on time. I'll be coming up on a year this Friday, it hasn't been easy, but has been proven to be worth it. A few weeks ago, I dealt with this scenario where I disclosed that I was celibate and he heard “challenge” because my why is rooted in purpose I was able to remain strong, but yes ladies do not disclose that you are abstaining until there is a real connection. He is still playing on my phone, but eventually, he'll move on. Also, men will be men, but be cautious around men than try to push sex early in the courtship.
It wasn’t a conscientious choice for me. After breaking up with my ex(10 years relation the first and last man I have slept with), I just found myself out of the dating journey. I invested on myself, my spiritual and material growth. 10 years without sharing my energy with anybody I’m not proud or ashamed about it. It is what it is, I had dates with a very few men but moved away at the earlier stages because of the lack of maturity, consistency, serial daters and the list goes on so no sex with any of them . My body is my sacred temple I respect and cherish it point blank period. It’s not even something difficult for me and never been because I have control of myself.I’am under God protective custody for sure✨🙏🏽.The next man I’ll share my temple with will be my husband, the man God have created for me I know that for sure I trust it amen. Btw happy new year to anyone reading this, don’t know what is your goal, purpose this year know that you got this, go for it you are blessed,worthy, capable just do it no more excuses. Stay bless y’all love and light from my heart into yours✨.
I agree. You can't be out here having sex with just anyone that's called giving your energy away. Save yourself for someone who wants your energy for life! Not just on a temporary basis.
Kudos to you Tony for not allowing any DMs to go through and for allowing your wife to see exactly what is being interchanged and with whom in your conversations with your clients. Never play with fire if you do not want to get burned. Protect your family and never ever will you regret it.
Definitely working towards building my relationship with God. Abstinence is not hard for me ( nobody checking for me , lol). But definitely wanting to remove Jezebel spirit or energy from me .
I am 29 and I'm 8 years In my journey.. so many people are surprised by that but I'm confident and comfortable with myself that I don't seek that attention from a man I want your heart sir man.
I’m 33 now I started at 26 when I broke up with my ex and my friends try to make me feel like it’s something wrong with me because it been about 7 years
I have shared my journey with other women to help them realize that Jesus can help us to change. I also point them to how much healing can take place when you wait. I don’t announce it to the world but I wait till I’m lead to speak on it wisely. Now people will always try to knock you down that’s a given you just stand strong regardless. We need to get used to and not be surprised by attacks and other forms of manipulation. Be strong in the word of God and stay focused.
Man, this ain't nothing, but the truth, been there and done it. Thank you for keeping this at the forefront, never heard anybody break it down, but I've lived it and your timing is errthang. Yah Bless
Thank you so much Tony for this informative video. I'm 53yrs old & have been on my abstinent journey for 8yrs now. For me it's even more than being a Christian & waiting for marriage. I've realized that my soul is at risk! When you sleep with someone you are at risk of soul-ties, STD's, unwanted pregnancies, demonic spirits, etc. 🎶Just like a tree that's planted by the waters, I shall not be moved!🎶 God bless you Tony for keeping us informed & educated on the games some men play.
After losing my parents and husband very close in time recently God had me to preserve myself not knowing he had a ram in the bush. I am remarried but he's in another country. We're trying to be together at lease every six months for a month until due process. It was hard at first but being married, deeply in love and fearing God is helping us thru. Thanks for being obedient you really helping us Tony.
I’ve been on one for over a year. When I started my journey I also got into therapy too! It brings so much clarity to life. Definitely had a jezebel spirit. I fasted that spirit away, but it does creep up every now and then and lurks around the corner. I call the police when she does that 😂
Thank you for this Tony. I have been taking your advice. This will be my 2nd year being abstinent. I made it through the first year and I am SO proud of myself, because there were times that it was hard. And I've been feeling down only because I'm seeing other women going on trips with men that they JUST STARTED TALKING TO, and men are hitting on me everyday but I haven't felt like any of them are worth my time. But I know deep down in order for these women to be going on trips with these dudes, most likely they are SLEEPING with them as well. And that is something I am no longer willing to do. So I'll continue to WAIT for God to bless me. I don't care what color he is or where he is from, just let him be a good man who is willing to RESPECT my decision to not lay up with him. If not, keep him away from me lol
@@Breanne_M That’s really nice. I appreciate that. Well I’ve been listening since 2019 somewhere around there. Oh and off cause I wasn’t always making the right decisions but I’ve stayed on track for a year. Still got some ways to go lol 😉
This was a tough lesson to learn, I had to pause this video because l realized that you're right and that's going to make dating so much harder but I know in my soul that's how I'm going to be able to have the discernment to choose my life partner. I've been in a relationship where sex was the 'important thing', I hated it - I was so lonely, now it's time to change the strategy. Thank you so much for sharing this with us 🙏. Stay blessed.
Thanks for this TG!!! I’m approaching 6 years abstinent-by the GRACE of God and to His glory. I’ve seen men desire to get close enough to challenge my stance [even believing men] I’ve fought my flesh on days it wanted it’s way. I’m protective now with what and how I share, but I’m grateful for your perspective- it helps to hear how a man thinks- from a man who knows both sides. ♥️🤜🏽🤛🏽🙏🏽
My reason for sharing my abstinence online is my purpose and ministry. I wanna be the exception of the rule. Majority of people are out here having soul ties and sex and no caring who they lay with. I totally agree that you will be looked at as a challenge but I pray for strength to be able to tell whether or not the person is for me really. I’m getting to the root of why I feel so strong about waiting and not letting sex lead me to places and with people that are not for me! Thank you Tony! God put you in this position for a reason! Keep teaching the people! ❤️
Thanks for that really. You helped me to make my final decision to stop fornicating. It was eyes opening for me that a guy is manipulating me and telling deceitful words
Fornication can be so over-stimulating for people, to the point where they can’t even enjoy a date if it’s not involved. Abstaining from sex allows you to stop and smell the roses, lol. You can actually appreciate small things, think critically, and love deeply.
Hahahahahhahahahahhaha him describing the situation of the small steps after the perfect date which leads to panties dropping, and you’re asking God for forgiveness, I know was meant to be real, but that was so real it was funny! I was busting out laughing.
Thank you for taking the time to explain this. I’ve heard you say before not to say up front you’re waiting and I never understood why. Now, I get it. This video was life changing for me based on the fact that all the advice you give has been 100% in line with my personal experiences. EVERY TIME I’ve said I’m waiting, it has unleashed demons from hell to challenge me on it. I’m never putting that out there again. It’s unnecessary. Thank you for explaining how to handle this!
This video had the Holy Spirit all up & thru it🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Some things need to remain just between you & God unless it’s being used for your Ministry…if someone is with you or is trying to get with you & you continue to abstain & they stay then that says they are valuing you & respecting you; if they refuse to wait that also let’s you know that they are wanting that & not respecting you & your vow you made to God; continue to do the right thing & even though it’s hard do not give in!! Ask God to continue to help you to resist temptation & He will do just that.. you definitely don’t want to be with someone who does not respect your celibacy & definitely does not value you! The right one will be willing to wait because his heart will be patterned after God’s. Thank you Tony for continuing to allow God to use you!!
Tony, many thanks for speaking on this topic! May OUR HEAVENLY FATHER KEEP BLESSING ABUNDANTLY You and Your Loved Ones IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!!!!
I am 23 and just made a year abstinent. At first I thought the right thing to do was announce it off rip to really save both of our time lol, but now I kinda understand why you would say not to come out and say it directly so they won’t go into game mode. But still at this age it could be hard to find that just “getting to know”
This was great. Its been 11 years+ however, its been 3.5 on purpose. Yet, im not being pursued. So..not really challenged that way. Went from 25 years in DC college & life etc back home to WV. So having to relearn about my own culture that i haven't completely related to (esp. On race & political attitudes) since i was 5yrs old. lol anyway. I guess im being protected by The Lord. This Is a GREAT Lesson !!
I'm 35 yrs old and you just schooled me. I could not understand this. I feel like you'd be great to talk w young girls who don't have father's in the home as well.
I'm so glad you speaking about that guy. I was saying this and something in his eye looked deceptive. He had me for a little but something started to recognize a womanizer.
I was reading scriptures about a week ago and trying to just mentally refocus myself . This guy who I was talking to , haven’t talked to him in days ( we wasn’t getting along , very secretive guy may I add) calls out the blue right after I was done reading my bible scriptures . I believe the devil sent him my way as a test and I failed that test , but that’s over with .
This is one of my favourite topics Mr. Gaskins. There are a lot of these seducing spirits that have gone out in the world. That was spot on. Thankyou and God bless you and your family. In 2022 we're moving in Power! God's Power that is.
Preach Brother Preach!!! You dropping that revelation knowledge. Jesus answers prayers thru Tony Gaskin. You set me free with this video. I was trying to figure out why this guy kept asking me if I was abstinent and I was about to answer him but the Holy Spirit stopped me and I just changed the subject. Was second guessing myself afterwards thou, maybe I should have told him yes I am abstaining. But now I know I did the right thing because he has been known to try to play games before. So you are correct in your advice. I am not confused any more. Thank You 🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏👍
Giving your body too soon is similar to putting too much salt on a dish you're cooking. You can't take it back. In the end, the dish is ruined and you have to throw it out.
This was a blessing because I'm there now. Unfortunately I have divulged this to someone I've been communicating with. He's still being involved and consistent and says he respects my boundaries. Only time will tell but I'll heed to this for the future if needed. It's a lot out here in these single streets 🙏🏽
I don't know if you realize the information you share helps change people's lives and perspectives not in that order I truly appreciate you you're in my prayers thank you Tony
Lord, I know Your timing is better than mine and I don't mean to rush You, but can You make Mr Tony a billionaire soon? Please. I need to be watching his network already. If this ain't the whole game, I wanna see what it is already. Patiently, impatiently waiting. Be blessed.
You hit it on the nose! This was good. Thank you for discussing. I agree with you, abstinence in my opinion ( as you stated) is not a conversation you discuss with everyone or everywhere ( it’s a time and place for everything ) unless God is leading you to. I thank God for my journey. Only the Holy Ghost has bought me this far. It’s not of my strength but God.
Also if you have to turn down a man for sex. He’s already displaying poor headship skills and it’s rare for him to change.A man is going to feel tempted but out of love for god and respect for you he’s going to fight and put boundaries in place and set the tone for the relationship
Bro Tony this message is right on time am on the abstinence journey now almost now 2 years . Working on self getting New knowledge it's been so much peace in my life. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen Tony i am blessed whenever this happens I’ll be humble enough god bless your heart …❤️ That’s something I wouldn’t talk about to everyone I am to shy 🙈
No sex before marriage weeds out the non serious guys, having sex puts us women at risk to being played, hard to accept, but no sex protects women
Sex is not an equal risk between men and women we must know that. The woman incurres more risk from having sex and she must move that way. Learning to keep my legs closed and abstain made me a stronger woman. I am more clear on who I am and WHY my body is precious and sacred.
Since being abstinent it has opened my eyes and made me realize that there really aren't many men worth dating or being sexually attracted to in the first place. It's given me ALOT of clarity!
As believers, we are called to the narrow path. Many called, few chosen is by design.
Simply put, most simply will not qualify and God is protecting us from the chaos that would otherwise ensue.🙏🏾✨✨
To any celibate ladies watching this please don’t think that because someone failed after 2 years or 6 years that you should just give up. People will tend to leave out the details that they were watching nasty movies or etc It’s really important that while your are abstinent it’s not just about abstaining from sex. You have to constantly pray and take every action to kill your lust by cutting off music, tv shows, movies, sexy clothing, Lustful thoughts, and bad associations. taking kissing off the table helps kill lust too especially in the first 3 months of dating
Amen...purity all the way around 🙌🏾
@@ldwoods3237 yes! If we can master putting boundaries in place with ourselves then we can master boundaries when dating
You shouldn’t tell because that’s something you don’t wear on your forehead especially if it’s intentional. These spirits out here are real , protect yourself and learn to move in silence 💯
Amen
Everything Tony says is real. I tested his theory on a guy last month by telling him I was abstinent and the FIRST thing out his mouth was “Oh I’m gonna get you to break that! I like a challenge.” 😵💫😳 He instantly went into game mode and wanted to be the one I got weak for smh. So yea, let’s keep that to ourselves.
Lol be careful testing that out! 🙀
Thanks 😊
I had a conversation with my brother and a few of his friends trying to enlighten them on this subject. Their comment was, if a woman won’t have sex with her man, he’s just going to go find it elsewhere. I responded that if he walks away, that’s a blessing from GOD. I also told them they need JESUS and to listen to Tony Gaskins videos!!💯
From now on I will not be telling a man that I am a virgin and abstaining. I used to always parade it on dating sites and first conversations, and that made me a victim of their games and pettiness. My mouth is closed, he can either put up or get LOSTD.
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12 years abstinent!!! I don’t announce it, because it’s not the norm and I don’t need anyone’s opinion or influence to tell me what’s right for me.
I hope the women who read this that are in that space or may be in that space soon, read this when they need it:
Please don't tell him. Especially if you're a virgin. That was the biggest mistake I've ever made. I was 23 (25 now) ...and naively volunteered that information thinking that it would run him off and it backfired on me terribly. No one needs to know. If he tries you, your response can simply be "I'm not ready to go that far right now." Don't tolerate him pressing you about it either. You don't have to! He doesn't need to know why. It's not rude or cruel. Also, if you're already lusting after him, do not put yourself in a position that will jeopardize your committment to God. It is not a missed opportunity if you don't do it. It's not an experience you just have to have with that specific person. Thinking this way will cause you to fall. There are plenty of women he can sleep with. It doesn't have to be you and 9/10 he's dealing with multiple women anyway...so you may not be special to him... if there's a possibility to even think that you aren't then the answer should automatically be no. When you're special to a man he will treat you as such and you won't question it or be wondering how he feels.
Women and men value sex on different levels and value their bodies differently as well. He will not see it as a special experience the way that you do...even if in the moment it was fake "special" You'll be a notch on his belt and he'll move to the next. Trust.
So raw, so true!
Just like they say “MOVE IN SILENCE” you should also “ABSTAIN IN SILENCE.” The subject doesn’t even have to come up. Your ACTIONS should speak LOUDER than your words. But…..If you not leading with or projecting “sex” in your attire, in your conversation or in your behavior then there’s nothing to say. Ladies, IF a man seems to only be interested in sex then that’s your cue. Bye Fred! A man who respects himself will respect you.
Remember NO MEANS NO. I think the problem comes when women say one thing then do another. Men aren’t stupid. Well, some may be but it’s important that as a woman you’re not playing games.
I told my now husband “sex wasn’t on the menu” I initially said it jokingly but he came back with “I’m not just looking to date and have sex, I’m looking for a wife.”
That was my cue…Ok this man is serious. He’s not like ANY other man I met or dated. I then WATCHED (observed his actions) looking to see his character. We had moments where we came closer than we should (and that was more on me than him) if I can be transparent but I knew he’d be my husband. We dated and got married 2 years to the date we met.
Abstinence allows you to know what you want and know what you do not want. Purity
I am a 38 years old woman and i never slept with any man in my life Thank God. I am proud of this and doing this for God. As far as i am not married, i am not sleeping with anyone
38yrs 😦😶
31 years 😊
Praise God!! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
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Its been almost 2 years for me, it is not easy. To be honest, I'm not looking for anyone, cause there's a lot of games, diseases, and dangers out here.
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Keep going sis! I'm 7 years in...it gets easier with time.
It's going on 8 years for me. Its made being selective much easier. I find my singleness peaceful and have taken the time to work on myself.
Great video, Tony. This is why some aspects of our lives should be private. Telling too much can be extremely dangerous and can also make us become a target.
Abstinence allows patience, genuiness, respect, accountability, & correct foundations to take place. True godly men will value that. Some1 has to really like u & for the long term to walk through it with u. But regardless still got to pray for discernment bc that devil will counterfeit any how to destroy ur soul. It also does not replace doing the work in a relationship... it's just a tool to help do things correctly & from the right place in honor of God.
Exactly 👍🏾💯😊
@@tjaspire I totally agree one guy said he was a preacher but told me he has sex before he gets married and it would be hard not to. I thank God I never went there with him👍🏾
@Fiifi Quartey yes. I so agree!
If you are abstaining for the right reason there is no need to broadcast it on social media. There is no need to tell everyone and tell the person that you are dating that you are abstaining This is because when they try you they will know then. A person with bad intentions will usually move on to someone else. Tony you and your family be blessed 🙏🙏🙏
Abstinence creates so much discernment in your heart and mind. It’s been almost 7 years for me. Wow - that sounds crazy!!!! But I was always in long term relationships from a teen, including abu-Ive ones long term. I started because I knew it was right and what God wanted, but for the first time, I can focus on me, my goals and dreams, and just Doing right. I am not telling anyone. It’s for myself
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After what I have been through, I know exactly what to look out for and what to reject. There is nobody that handsome or rich that will bring me to lower my standards or accept his low standards.
Some things MUST remain Private!! I don't understand announcing Everything. I totally Agree with Everything Tony Said.
I have been on my journey for 2 years now , and what a blessing this has been for self/love ! I will be waiting on my Husband! You have to have a sensitive spirit for God to hear his voice When counterfeits come! God will not let us down , faith 🙌🏾 I drink nothing but water and sparkling water!
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Amen 🙏🏾
After divorce, I just found myself on this journey. It wasn't a decision. It was almost natural. Like God just put me on that path to help me clear out all the noise. It has been well over 10 years. (I don't care to say how many :) It's very true what you say about having a strength that is beyond imaginable. And the clarity about what you want in your life. And the SECURITY, that what God has in store for you is even greater than the investment you made in yourself and in your commitment. Sending you all love and light. xo
All of this is exactly what happened with the man I gave my virginity to. Broke me down layer by layer and had me thinking that he really cared about me. And still tries to contact me till this day. It still hurts because I haven’t been with anyone else, but I guess that’s a good thing. I wish knew this 8 years ago, but oh well.
The Devil is everything u ever wanted, wrapped in a bow, perfect and all…don’t be deceived by these grown boys. They all got “egos” as Queens I wish everyone strength for 2022 and beyond..🙏🏽👑‼️❤️ Never forget your WORTH, Ladies! Stand Firm on your decisions. That’s how u stand out from the rest. Be that woman. 💯 It all comes down to Self Respect.
Great Topic☆ I have been Celibate for 2 years & I have noticed when I mention it around the opposite sex they think that's a Challenge & I realize now not to even discuss it▪︎It's my Journey not every one else's🌹
💓💕🌸🎉💕One year abstinent in March🌸😉💓💪🏾🎉 I've settled in to it now it was a bit tough in the middle. Now, I truly realize how precious my body is. How foolish it is to give yourself away to ppl who do not respect you who are not God sent for your life. Sex is beautiful but it is also dangerous. I am doing Ok but I do want to be hugged. I want to be hugged and feel closeness that part is very hard. But....praise God. No enemies in my bed.
“Respect boundaries, stick around, wait and see what happens or leave.” TG
I'm on my 3rd journey after a lengthy relationship failed. The 1st was 3yrs after my failed marriage. The 2nd was after an 11yr exclusive relationship. Now, I'm on 5yrs just for me and why I attract the same types of partners, manipulative associates & family who no longer support you once you stop giving. It's something I'm allowing or missing/ignoring the "red flags". I'm truly learning to listen to God & let HIM direct. Tony, your clips, seminars have proven very helpful. Thank you! 💞✌🏾👑
See this is exactly why I won’t even entertain a guy who doesn’t share the same core values as me to save myself the headache.
For sure !!
If it's your growth,it doesn't need recognition.
This message is right on time. I have restarted my abstinence journey within the last two months and I have been wondering how to explain to potential suitors about my journey or if I should say anything at all, but after listening to this message it confirmed that it is something that I should keep to myself. Someone who is actually trying to get to know you for you and won’t make sex priority right off the bat, they will actually want to get to know you for you and not how quickly you are willing to “ get on your bike”
same I dont say anything at all, I dont really date but lets say few have approached me and were not interested in getting to know me, they wont really engage and drop off. Like TG said they can have that one conversation or a few words with you and sense who you are. sense that 80% of the women dont talk like you, keep their opinion to themselves. If you show you have an opinion , it means you ll make your own decisions and have standards .
I feel plenty of men , I dont know I havent met many but it seems they dont like it that women make their own decision. Keeping you legs and home closed until marriage is making a decision.
Exactly!! I agree 1000 %
@@irlandaise5631 sis, I felt your comment! It really resonated with me. I feel like a lot of men can sense my energy and know to keep it pushing 😅.
I wouldn't say anything at all. Any man bringing up sex like that would be a red flag to me 🤷🏾♀️
Like my Mom say don't talk about it. Be about it. Don't tell nothing just keep yourself.
I don’t even want a man touching me. The first time doing the do with someone new feels so weird and awkward… not even going to lie. I’m over the sex stage in life. I’m so focused on me
No matter how long you've been in if you don't Stay in the spirit you can still fall. 👍🏾
Recognizing the triggers are absolutely are really,real.
This message is right on time. I'll be coming up on a year this Friday, it hasn't been easy, but has been proven to be worth it. A few weeks ago, I dealt with this scenario where I disclosed that I was celibate and he heard “challenge” because my why is rooted in purpose I was able to remain strong, but yes ladies do not disclose that you are abstaining until there is a real connection. He is still playing on my phone, but eventually, he'll move on. Also, men will be men, but be cautious around men than try to push sex early in the courtship.
It wasn’t a conscientious choice for me. After breaking up with my ex(10 years relation the first and last man I have slept with), I just found myself out of the dating journey. I invested on myself, my spiritual and material growth. 10 years without sharing my energy with anybody I’m not proud or ashamed about it. It is what it is, I had dates with a very few men but moved away at the earlier stages because of the lack of maturity, consistency, serial daters and the list goes on so no sex with any of them . My body is my sacred temple I respect and cherish it point blank period. It’s not even something difficult for me and never been because I have control of myself.I’am under God protective custody for sure✨🙏🏽.The next man I’ll share my temple with will be my husband, the man God have created for me I know that for sure I trust it amen.
Btw happy new year to anyone reading this, don’t know what is your goal, purpose this year know that you got this, go for it you are blessed,worthy, capable just do it no more excuses. Stay bless y’all love and light from my heart into yours✨.
I agree. You can't be out here having sex with just anyone that's called giving your energy away. Save yourself for someone who wants your energy for life! Not just on a temporary basis.
Kudos to you Tony for not allowing any DMs to go through and for allowing your wife to see exactly what is being interchanged and with whom in your conversations with your clients. Never play with fire if you do not want to get burned. Protect your family and never ever will you regret it.
Definitely working towards building my relationship with God. Abstinence is not hard for me ( nobody checking for me , lol). But definitely wanting to remove Jezebel spirit or energy from me .
It been six years and it’s worth it. It’s not easy buts it’s possible. I learned from TG not to lead with that. A man doesn’t need to know.
I am 29 and I'm 8 years In my journey.. so many people are surprised by that but I'm confident and comfortable with myself that I don't seek that attention from a man I want your heart sir man.
I’m 33 now I started at 26 when I broke up with my ex and my friends try to make me feel like it’s something wrong with me because it been about 7 years
1 Corinthian 6:18. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Tony is amazing! I been abstinence for 10 years so I needed to hear this...
I have experienced what Tony was talking about... the wrong people try to get you to fall and unfortunately I have fallen for such a person
I have shared my journey with other women to help them realize that Jesus can help us to change. I also point them to how much healing can take place when you wait. I don’t announce it to the world but I wait till I’m lead to speak on it wisely. Now people will always try to knock you down that’s a given you just stand strong regardless. We need to get used to and not be surprised by attacks and other forms of manipulation. Be strong in the word of God and stay focused.
Man, this ain't nothing, but the truth, been there and done it. Thank you for keeping this at the forefront, never heard anybody break it down, but I've lived it and your timing is errthang. Yah Bless
Thank you for accepting the Most High calling in your life.
Thank you so much Tony for this informative video. I'm 53yrs old & have been on my abstinent journey for 8yrs now. For me it's even more than being a Christian & waiting for marriage. I've realized that my soul is at risk!
When you sleep with someone you are at risk of soul-ties, STD's, unwanted pregnancies, demonic spirits, etc.
🎶Just like a tree that's planted by the waters, I shall not be moved!🎶
God bless you Tony for keeping us informed & educated on the games some men play.
After losing my parents and husband very close in time recently God had me to preserve myself not knowing he had a ram in the bush. I am remarried but he's in another country. We're trying to be together at lease every six months for a month until due process. It was hard at first but being married, deeply in love and fearing God is helping us thru. Thanks for being obedient you really helping us Tony.
Even having the need/desire to post about this journey publicly kind of shows that the person needs abstinence more than they think
Moving in silence is key. Your actions speak louder than words. Surprise them.
I’ve been on one for over a year. When I started my journey I also got into therapy too! It brings so much clarity to life. Definitely had a jezebel spirit. I fasted that spirit away, but it does creep up every now and then and lurks around the corner. I call the police when she does that 😂
The police😂👏🏾👏🏾
@@tiffanylane0 😂 straight to jail. I Don’t have time for her 😂
How can one know if that spirit Is in yourself? How can one get rid of it? Why this Is not a topic on TV or why we dont have More inf abt it?
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Same!
You're so right Tony and that's why it's not an announcement to be made, it's actually between you and God!
Thank you for this Tony. I have been taking your advice. This will be my 2nd year being abstinent. I made it through the first year and I am SO proud of myself, because there were times that it was hard. And I've been feeling down only because I'm seeing other women going on trips with men that they JUST STARTED TALKING TO, and men are hitting on me everyday but I haven't felt like any of them are worth my time. But I know deep down in order for these women to be going on trips with these dudes, most likely they are SLEEPING with them as well. And that is something I am no longer willing to do. So I'll continue to WAIT for God to bless me. I don't care what color he is or where he is from, just let him be a good man who is willing to RESPECT my decision to not lay up with him. If not, keep him away from me lol
You must be new here. You should join the blessed tribe. God bless you.
@@Breanne_M That’s really nice. I appreciate that. Well I’ve been listening since 2019 somewhere around there. Oh and off cause I wasn’t always making the right decisions but I’ve stayed on track for a year. Still got some ways to go lol 😉
@@LA-wv7gf And those relationships tend to end just a quickly as they start. So I know I aint missing nothing lol
This was a tough lesson to learn, I had to pause this video because l realized that you're right and that's going to make dating so much harder but I know in my soul that's how I'm going to be able to have the discernment to choose my life partner. I've been in a relationship where sex was the 'important thing', I hated it - I was so lonely, now it's time to change the strategy. Thank you so much for sharing this with us 🙏. Stay blessed.
Thanks for this TG!!!
I’m approaching 6 years abstinent-by the GRACE of God and to His glory.
I’ve seen men desire to get close enough to challenge my stance [even believing men] I’ve fought my flesh on days it wanted it’s way. I’m protective now with what and how I share, but I’m grateful for your perspective- it helps to hear how a man thinks- from a man who knows both sides. ♥️🤜🏽🤛🏽🙏🏽
My reason for sharing my abstinence online is my purpose and ministry. I wanna be the exception of the rule. Majority of people are out here having soul ties and sex and no caring who they lay with. I totally agree that you will be looked at as a challenge but I pray for strength to be able to tell whether or not the person is for me really. I’m getting to the root of why I feel so strong about waiting and not letting sex lead me to places and with people that are not for me! Thank you Tony! God put you in this position for a reason! Keep teaching the people! ❤️
"...one thing led to another...." 😂😂😂 Personally I think that is the expression I have heard ppl use the most.
Thanks for that really. You helped me to make my final decision to stop fornicating. It was eyes opening for me that a guy is manipulating me and telling deceitful words
Fornication can be so over-stimulating for people, to the point where they can’t even enjoy a date if it’s not involved. Abstaining from sex allows you to stop and smell the roses, lol. You can actually appreciate small things, think critically, and love deeply.
Hahahahahhahahahahhaha him describing the situation of the small steps after the perfect date which leads to panties dropping, and you’re asking God for forgiveness, I know was meant to be real, but that was so real it was funny! I was busting out laughing.
Thank you for taking the time to explain this. I’ve heard you say before not to say up front you’re waiting and I never understood why. Now, I get it. This video was life changing for me based on the fact that all the advice you give has been 100% in line with my personal experiences. EVERY TIME I’ve said I’m waiting, it has unleashed demons from hell to challenge me on it. I’m never putting that out there again. It’s unnecessary. Thank you for explaining how to handle this!
Mr Tony the best thing a woman can do in this day and age is keep her legs closed…
This video had the Holy Spirit all up & thru it🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Some things need to remain just between you & God unless it’s being used for your Ministry…if someone is with you or is trying to get with you & you continue to abstain & they stay then that says they are valuing you & respecting you; if they refuse to wait that also let’s you know that they are wanting that & not respecting you & your vow you made to God; continue to do the right thing & even though it’s hard do not give in!! Ask God to continue to help you to resist temptation & He will do just that.. you definitely don’t want to be with someone who does not respect your celibacy & definitely does not value you! The right one will be willing to wait because his heart will be patterned after God’s. Thank you Tony for continuing to allow God to use you!!
Tony, many thanks for speaking on this topic! May OUR HEAVENLY FATHER KEEP BLESSING ABUNDANTLY You and Your Loved Ones IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!!
AMEN!!!!
Yupim here😂and I watched this video two years and still did the same things and still wasted my time.ill do it gods way now
You right about that. Love making is deeper than the entanglement. Its the intimacy.
I am 23 and just made a year abstinent. At first I thought the right thing to do was announce it off rip to really save both of our time lol, but now I kinda understand why you would say not to come out and say it directly so they won’t go into game mode. But still at this age it could be hard to find that just “getting to know”
This was great. Its been 11 years+ however, its been 3.5 on purpose. Yet, im not being pursued. So..not really challenged that way. Went from 25 years in DC college & life etc back home to WV. So having to relearn about my own culture that i haven't completely related to (esp. On race & political attitudes) since i was 5yrs old. lol anyway. I guess im being protected by The Lord. This Is a GREAT Lesson !!
I'm 35 yrs old and you just schooled me. I could not understand this. I feel like you'd be great to talk w young girls who don't have father's in the home as well.
Great video as usual Tony. There are imposters out there playing Prince Charming only to ruin you’re discipline. Stay strong ladies/guys💪❤️
I'm so glad you speaking about that guy. I was saying this and something in his eye looked deceptive. He had me for a little but something started to recognize a womanizer.
I was reading scriptures about a week ago and trying to just mentally refocus myself . This guy who I was talking to , haven’t talked to him in days ( we wasn’t getting along , very secretive guy may I add) calls out the blue right after I was done reading my bible scriptures . I believe the devil sent him my way as a test and I failed that test , but that’s over with .
Recognize your territory,triggers and your hurt!
Tony you definitely be spot on!!!!
So real and honest about things always🙌🏽 Much respected✊🏾
Oh noooo not the loose bootied🤣🤣🤣I’m ☠️
This is one of my favourite topics Mr. Gaskins. There are a lot of these seducing spirits that have gone out in the world. That was spot on. Thankyou and God bless you and your family. In 2022 we're moving in Power! God's Power that is.
RealTalk💯💯💯 I agree It don’t have to be a conversation thanks TG
Preach Brother Preach!!! You dropping that revelation knowledge. Jesus answers prayers thru Tony Gaskin. You set me free with this video. I was trying to figure out why this guy kept asking me if I was abstinent and I was about to answer him but the Holy Spirit stopped me and I just changed the subject. Was second guessing myself afterwards thou, maybe I should have told him yes I am abstaining. But now I know I did the right thing because he has been known to try to play games before. So you are correct in your advice. I am not confused any more. Thank You 🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏👍
Great video, sharing!
Giving your body too soon is similar to putting too much salt on a dish you're cooking. You can't take it back. In the end, the dish is ruined and you have to throw it out.
This was a blessing because I'm there now. Unfortunately I have divulged this to someone I've been communicating with. He's still being involved and consistent and says he respects my boundaries. Only time will tell but I'll heed to this for the future if needed. It's a lot out here in these single streets 🙏🏽
This conversation has and is spoken to my soul I feel this. Thank you so much 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I don't know if you realize the information you share helps change people's lives and perspectives not in that order I truly appreciate you you're in my prayers thank you Tony
Guilty I be thinking like how I’m doing this and everybody else getting married lol! Lord forgive me!
Your so real Tony. Always so sincere.
As always, great message! 👍🏼 Stay blessed 🙏🏼
Lord, I know Your timing is better than mine and I don't mean to rush You, but can You make Mr Tony a billionaire soon? Please. I need to be watching his network already. If this ain't the whole game, I wanna see what it is already. Patiently, impatiently waiting. Be blessed.
You hit it on the nose! This was good. Thank you for discussing. I agree with you, abstinence in my opinion ( as you stated) is not a conversation you discuss with everyone or everywhere ( it’s a time and place for everything ) unless God is leading you to. I thank God for my journey. Only the Holy Ghost has bought me this far. It’s not of my strength but God.
Happy Monday Unk"and Blessed Tribe fam's!!👑👊🏾
Happy Monday 2 U as well☺
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Also if you have to turn down a man for sex. He’s already displaying poor headship skills and it’s rare for him to change.A man is going to feel tempted but out of love for god and respect for you he’s going to fight and put boundaries in place and set the tone for the relationship
Thank you Tony.
Ruuuuunnnn. Flee youthful lust 🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏾♂️🏃🏾♂️
I’ve been on my journey for over a year. Thank you for this advice!
Wow! What a powerful message Tony. This was definitely received. Thank you 😊 🙏🏾
Bro Tony this message is right on time am on the abstinence journey now almost now 2 years . Working on self getting New knowledge it's been so much peace in my life. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen Tony i am blessed whenever this happens I’ll be humble enough god bless your heart …❤️ That’s something I wouldn’t talk about to everyone I am to shy 🙈
Yeah I totally agree thaanks better to miss out than stuff up... won't cry if you don't have anything to lose.. if dont start you don't break up...