I Am Hiding My Income From My Wife
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A lot of these people need Dr Phil not Dave.
😂 Blow them up Tom!
They're better off with Dave's advice.
More like both 😂😂😂
Orlando Rivas im deceased 😂😂😂😂
They need the Bible. Worldly "help" from people who do not know God or the Bible will help zero with a spiritual/sin problem like this.
I am hiding my income from my _ex wife_.
Hide it well and let her think that she is killing you.
DH didn't hide his, just didn't inform her when he began to make more.
Exactly
bluewater454 Well aren't you all a bunch of winners...
S Davis You do know what "ex" means, right?
i dont think he wanted to admit she blows 160g a year
Or maybe he actually makes 110k a year, not 260k. That extra 150k is probably him imagining what he can get if he liquidates his company or slowly sells his ownership of it.
On what? I honestly dont know what you spend 160k on that holds no value at the end of it
Casino gambling, crazy night outs, hotels, 1st class tickets back and forth to Japan. You can easily spend 160k with no value but read my first comment, he doesn't have that 160k.
@@muserussell2377 my grandma was married 5 times. Each od her ex's said the same thing that she spent money like crazy. She's always redecorating the house every season. She also shops a lot on expensive shoes and clothes. She even spends a bunch on high tea hats and she never even attends those functions.
@@prissybell16 you would think after the 2 or third husband, that the next boyfriend would know to look for the clues.
He’s calling to vent, not get a solution.
He acts like she’s the boss. Man up!
she probably is the boss
Yes!!!
If she is bepolar , she could be very scary. I ve known a few of those or they are borderline, and they can make a 6 feet 2, 210 pounds man scared for their life. Also, if he ended up in this relationship he may have some issues or have some troubles like adhd or asperger syndrome. Why I say this? Because they have the type of personality that is so soft that they don t know what to do. So, the man up thing is kind of not really appropriate by necessity in this case.
weak men earning alot of money always have a women who siphons all his money into oblivion
That’s easy for you to say until you deal with a woman that has no intention of listening and does whatever she wants. It’s not about him not maning up as much as she may need to woman up
That women will ruin his life.. 43..and she need a cash allowance.
Dude... This is ridiculous
I had a woman like this. It Will never work unless she seeks help.
Men's are working donkeys man, for wat they making money, one day if he lost earnings who will take care
Sylwester Grega it’s mental illness.
Santhosh John .....what?
Service Business Tips 4 U ... if i was a man i would not want a woman like that ....noppppeee
Take her off the accounts. Take away the credit cards. Spending is her addiction. Your in denial. She'll spend you into bankruptcy. I had a family member who had to fille for divorce because of the wife's spending. My Aunt's spending, due to bipolar, has put her in poverty because my Uncle has passed away. She went from $150,000 in savings to 20,000 in debt in 2 years.
pretty common. some people blow through cash like nothing.
Men too.
Can't cut off money now. It's called financial abuse. The state with garnish your wages and send it to her.
Angel anytime people acknowledge the reality of marriage law it's considered hatred towards women. The laws are unfair and the "average" woman will feel little to no remorse while ruining your life.
Does bipolar affects someone's spending habbits?
$250k a year for a family and NO SAVINGS? THATS INSANE! My parents put my sister and I through college and have retirement savings on less than $50k a year total amongst both of them.
this channel is more addict than video game lol
Very more addict yes yes
Hoang Nguyen who are you telling? I know lol 😂
So true. I'm watching every day all the time when I open You tube. 😂😂
But sometimes it feels like when you watch one video, you know what they are all like. He gives the same advice, recommends the same book or two and his class.
Yeah honestly 😂 My recommends are all over the place. But I love this Channel
This man is not going to take Dave's advice. You can hear it in his voice.
Wait till the divorce happens.... "Hello, Dave, remember me?....where to begin....."
You shouldn't make assumptions like this without any proof
Everytime he said "You're right" all I heard was Denial Denial Denial. Nothing in this man's world is going to change because he won't change.
Dave acts like she has some illness making her do this, but I know soooo many women who act the exact same way, then do the fake crying thing when they get caught, say they can't help it, get their husband to forgive them, then go right back to sponging off him! Once the money finally runs out, they take anything that's left via divorce and jump ship to some other sucker.
Keep hiding paper. She will try to divorce you, take the house l. Alimony and she will say you abused her and molested the kids.
I lived for 20 years in this man's shoes. My ex-wife spent every dime that she could get her hands on. She would drain our checking account faster than I could put money in it. I buried my head and didn't want to face the facts for years. Dave is exactly right when he says that she has a mental condition. It wasn't until I sat down with a counselor who talked to us both that I realized what I had to do. After three sessions she told me that it was a waste of time. the counselor told me that she was unwilling to change and that I had to leave if I wanted a better life. I wish I had done it earlier. I have since taken control of my life and my finances and am in a much better place. Five years after my divorce and I'm now free from debt and a lot happier.
Really glad to hear you made it out dude. Do you have any tips for spotting a woman like that early in the relationship?
Nice man.
no alimony?
@@pozloadescobar If she spends like mad, leave.
Glad things have worked out for you
wow!! never ever marry someone who cant handle money. if when your dating they are always broke and cant pay the bills having all kinds of problems.. big red flag.
if the man also cant handle money then it perfect fit:)
She has a mental health issue that she needs help with. I have Bipolar Disorder as well, and I needed a lot of help with resisting the impulse to spend all my money when I was first diagnosed. But, I was able to set up some parameters with my credit union so that I have to ask their permission to spend more than my daily allotment, and they will not let me spend money that I don't have.
Vaginals usually hide this...
cellogirl11RW wow I didnt know that was a thing. Id consider a credit union now if I see someone struggling. Good that you self helped yourself!
@@hulitumhansen352 🤣🤣🤣
All he needs is a separate account
@@alanburns9466 Yes -- on you, for such an idiotic comment.
@@alanburns9466 Should I be offended, or was that a "back handed" compliment? 😃
@@alanburns9466 I'll choose the compliment then. ;) Merry Christmas and a happy new year to you!
Rose Schulze you had me rolling! That was a great comeback
All he needs is to not marry a bipolar girl.
Dave can't help you when you are lying.
Right!
😂😂😂😂
ikr. sometimes it’s clear that Dave is taking the problem 10x more seriously than the caller!
yes
Haha yup. You can hear Dave's frustration as he tries to suss out the lies from the truth.
"You're spending like you're freaking in congress." -Dave Ramsey
Man!!! WHY DO YOU KEEP GIVING HER MONEY!? And truth is she isn't the only one sabotaging, it's you too sir.
He's probably thinking if he doesn't give her the money she'll get it any ways when she retaliates by filing for divorce and getting half of the value of his business
I think the husband needs counseling, too. A terrible, life-destroying cycle that the husband needs to break. Best to both of them.
They both need counseling for certain.
He doesn’t need counseling. He’s doing the only responsible thing he can do
@@fawkestheplotphoenix964 No, he does need counselling. He's being a push over/enabler. He has no backbone to stand up to her.
This is a very bizarre call... not sure what to make of this couple
Jen Talks Forever
She prys runs his finances dry. Happens to many a good man or women. Other spouse spends a bunch of $ while bringing in nothing.
It was my mid mission to spend every spare dollar that came into the house.
She's an irresponsible gold-digger.
Lying about his income. 260k in okc the guy would buy a new house every year and still have money left over
My mother is just like his wife !
I’m bi-polar and when I was married my wife had to take over the money because people with this condition have issues with impulse buying when there manic.
Thank you for telling the truth about this.
I just went through this with my ex wife. She's done...........all you can do is get out. Unless she's willing help herself you can't help her. I know you probably love her just like I did my wife. She went out and found her a guy who's willing to feed the fire. She'll burn him to the ground. It's a midlife crisis. My wife would not pay our mortgage and I wouldn't know until I got the late notice in the mail.
Codependency 101. Fueling the problem instead of standing up to it.
Hearing Dave recognize addiction as an illness has made my life.
It is amazing how little financial advice Dave gives in these videos and how much psychological relationship counseling he does.
get her a prepaid card for her spending money, after that she has to wait
Johnny yep....simple smart move!
What are you raising a 13 year old?
My 13 y o doesnt do that. Adults who do that, they put em under guardianship.
stop you're making the problem worst she is not a child she is a adult women she wants to spend money well have her spend her money she worked for
@@riftwalk2546 You kidding? She doesn't work for money. If he takes it away from her shes going to divorce him and the courts will just give her his money anyways. Doomed family.
Dave Ramsey 4:19 " oh bipolar" that got me cracking up 😂😂😂
This caller is _so_ annoying. He just keeps on wanting to tell a story. He's largely unresponsive, talks while Dave is talking and just doesn't seem to "get it".
+responsibleparty I think he's verbally processing mostly. He could probably use a few counseling sessions as well just to work through his frustration so that he can better manage w/o the emotion.
Leslie Fairman Verbally processing? That's a new term on me. You might be right, but if he's talking he can't hear what Dave is saying. So whatever he's processing, it's not what Dave has to say.
Everything is annoying until it happens to you. Stop attacking the caller and attack the actual issues.
responsibleparty yes
he needs some therapy also. Can you imagine the stress he must feel.
My dad has bipolar so this one hits home. He would spend $2000/day on one of his episodes and HE used to be the bread winner of the family
Man this caller is part of the problem and he’s blaming it on his wife. I don’t buy what he’s selling. Something doesn’t add up.
They need to be in counseling.
I would have had a separate account the first time she blew through all the money. Give her x amount a week like the child she is and don't let her take you down.
This caller was frustrating. Slow down and answer a question ffs.
+Larry Padilla
He did answer his question. Take her off the accounts!
+Adam Bottjen No I'm saying he wouldn't answer Dave's questions in the beginning. He just wanted to talk, not converse.
What kind of man allows his wife to spend like that, put her on an allowance and cut her out of all accounts. He who makes the money makes the rules
Friends of ours divorced over this issue. I know two men that had to say I can’t do this anymore because of their wives spending habits. Life is a partnership and you have to be on the same page.
So she is depressed. Clinically depressed, down, sullen, low energy, etc. So she compensates buy taking out the debit card, going online and buyung things to make up. So she needs a different outlet to relive her depression other than the endorphins she gets from spending money. Trying hiking, pick up a hobby, dp something out of your comfort zone. she just needs a new outlet.
+Jason Bourne Agreed. Shopping gives depressed people the instant satisfaction of happiness. But then days, or even minutes later they're sad again. She needs a new outlet that will give her both instant and prolonged happiness. Might take her a while to find it, but she can do it, with the help of her husband and therapist
+Jason Bourne he has spoiled her rotten she need to fend for herself and get tough again
JasonfromMinnesota It's not a matter of fending for herself. She is a human, not a wild animal. And she is not alone. They are in a marriage, a unison of two people who loves each other becoming one. And he hasn't spoiled her. He has allowed her spending to get out of control, that's not spoiling, it's laziness and irresponsibility. They need to work it out together.
+Jason Bourne Excellent observations.
+Jason Bourne Good idea, maybe she should make and sell stuff online, that way she's actually creating, and she'd feel more fulfilled. Plus, that would also help her use her time wisely instead of wasting it on shopping.
And then she'll divorce him when they're broke.
quad comparator i
She’s probably hiding the cash and getting ready to serve papers.
@@dantheautoman3821 Yeah, she is hiding money.
@@darriuscole8544 not the craziest thing I’ve heard. Had a friend from hs who got married right out of school and his uncle gave him a job. He was making decent money all things considered. Sadly he was always stressed about money and he couldn’t figure out where it was all going until he got served at work and she not only had been “stealing” the money but had already bought a house with her new bf. And the saddest part was she got to keep their house which she sold and used the money to pay off her new home. Now he’s 27 and living with his parent s and paying loads in child support. And people wonder why I don’t want to get married.
I had a mad cow of a wife like this. I had to divorce her, as she would not stop.
Cali Curmudgeon did you have kids with her?
jasonpgallery thankfully no
Cali Curmudgeon lucky man
Been there, done that as well. Afterwards, it was like my salary was multiplied tenfold, no shittin. Raised our kid by myself, paid alimony, didn't get child support, saved for retirement, paid everything off, and still had money left over. Have no earthly idea how it could get blown so fast unless she was burning in the backyard!
She will not stop..no matter what..
Some people are addicted to spending... I had someone pass away some time ago and the wife got 600k from insurance and they blew threw allllllll the money wasted it buying new cars for other people going to 5 star Hotels clothes and everything....
my mother , bless her heart, was this way with money in my family and it was financially devastating and my father let it happen.. it is crazy because both my sister and I are EXTREME savers and the opposite of my mom.
I didn't have a mental issue and I did exactly what his wife did. I just didn't know how to take care of money for 30 years. Until I turned 57 I realized it. Then I turned everything around and now I can't spend a penny.
Iv'e hid my income from everyone my whole life, Iv'e always said i was broke, and im certain thats the only reason iv'e build such an incredible wealth.
Sure i can see your diamonds from here...
I will start doing this
He sounds he was drinking...
She spends 160k a year and there aren't new homes in this drive way. . . Hate to say that she may need a drug test. . . I mean if she was buying things over 9 years she would be a hoarder . People have spent this kind of money on drugs annnnd either his math is off or their is a drug issue. That's like 12k a month , is she flying to Paris every month for 9 years
Khadijah Washington or just a lot of coco chanel purses
he would have said she has purses,. . .I just think she is on coco!
Khadijah Washington I thought the same thing.
Or buying a new Hermes bag every month lol
Khadijah Washington balenciaga type spending habits
Dave pulls out calculator....to fact check this guy....he KNEW something was up....
SC yea she spending the 160k before he gets to save
Yeah, but he ALWAYS uses the calculator. It has to make sense for him to help them!
She is SPENDING 160k Dave, pay attention lol
But his 1800 a week doesn't add up to 260K by any means. He's wondering where the money is coming from. He understands she's overspending.
Get her help!
He sounds like he is lying.
uhh well he claimed his PAY CHECK was 1800 and then had to backtrack, and that that was gone down to 0. I think he is lying about his income. not that it matters, cause about 100g in OK is still quite good. but they both have problems clearly
Emerson Herndon he’s trying to get him to say it out loud so it sinks in.
I'm not surprised that this guy makes 260K a year, he's one heck of a salesman. Like the most ruthless salespeople, he won't give a direct answer to a direct question, instead telling stories designed to influence you to be on his side. Probably his wife really is a problem, but if so I suspect the two of them kind of deserve each other.
Agreed.
Soon as he started talking about his daughter put him onto Dave, Dave cut him straight off lol
I like your angle.
This happened to a family member, but wife worked too. When she finished spending her earnings, she'd spend whatever was in their joint accounts. Eventually, they lost their home. He refused to take back the financial reigns. He let her illness go untreated, and later she had dementia.
Prayers for that woman that she can get well.
260K per year give that to me ill make us a millionaire! Mr. Ramsey tell this man like it is.
Miss Chenda when did they stopped making these Angels
Miguel Contreras it's a trap
It’s all relative to where you live. I make $130,000 and I’m broke because I live in taxachusetts.
@@CherylMacKay11f Oklahoma City is not expensive. Get out of Taxachusetts and improve your life. The only reason they get away with it is because people let them.
@@jimroscovius totally agree. I did get out of taxachusettes since I posted. I live in NH. On a farm. .
ive had the same situation before. i had a good job making plenty but it was a seasonal job, i made around 60,000/year but only worked around 6-8 months so i knew i had to save for the dry time but the wife wouldn't. she grew up living paycheck to paycheck and thats all she knew so every week she found something to spend everything on while i was at work. because of that we almost ended up homeless so i had to do like dave said and make a new account she didnt have access to. now i make even more money that she cant get into and i just tell her i have to put it in savings for peace of mind
I know two couples who went through this... there is hope. The wives were bipolar and spent a great deal of money. The husbands got control of the money, got their wives the treatment they needed, and the families got back on track. It does take a very strong and loving man to do this, but I've seen it done and done well.
It’s funny how different are stories are , I know a few married women who are bipolar and they despite counseling , therapy and countless other things that were done to help them. Ran their families money and credit into bankruptcy then divorce. Bipolar disorder is not something that just goes away it is unbalanced chemicals in their brain. I talked to several doctors who I’ve worked with and they all said the same thing. There isn’t a cure , it is more of a balancing act- where I work there are entire floors/ wings full of bipolar patients. Let me tell you every day is a adventure
@@bobdees6428imagine living with it (cries to myself)
@@bobdees6428Any ailment can go away through the blood of Jesus. There are cases of people getting healed of bipolar.
This dude has no balls. He is worried about his money, but his wife has mental problems with depression.
Wrong. All biological men have testicles. Gotem.
Those mental problems will only increase the chance of a divorce and then she can forcibly take his income.
this guy runs a business?
Matt Hannel he's wipped
He's hiding something too....
Qu Zee no hes just scared to admit she spends 160k a year
😭😭😭
He started dating her when she was a kid and took care of her so she is still acting like a kid
That's what happened to me
I took my wife at 19 and took care of her now she is 40yrs old and still act like a kid.
She is getting better but it's been a struggle.
nanah p “I took my wife” .. no wonder she acts like child. You “took” her?? Yikes..
@@Kudos2Kawaii "do you take x to be your lawfully wedded wife". Unless you're pointing out the incorrect word, which is fair play
I'm hiding a 2nd job & money from my husband. He's WAY TOO controlling with the finances to the point that we go hungry some days and can't get groceries without getting yelled at. =(
Sounds like ur married to a full blown narcissist. Get out and on your own as soon as you can. Even if it means having two jobs and being on some gov. assistance for a while. Those types of ppl are dangerous. I mean if you're gonna be poor either way, at least be poor in peace.
Agreed. You deserve better than that. Get rid of him.
God bless you. I hope things get much better.
I am sorry to say this. But please get out as soon as possible. You deserve a better life. I will surely keep you in prayers.
I hate to say this but this all qualifies as abuse. For the sake of you and the kids get away, far away as quickly as possible.
I've become obsessed watching Dave & co all the way from UK.
GREAT ADVICE in every video
Dave’s face in these thumbnails are freaking hilarious😂😂😂😂
Dave is right! I'm bad with money. My husband is excellent. So he manages all of the money in his own account. I have my own account (in a different bank) and receive an "allowance." I'm not proud of this, but it works very well for us. Both are happy. I'm sad that my husband is stuck paying all the bills, doing taxes, etc., but it works very well. I'm not depressed, but just bad with finances.
My grandpa was a CEO and gave my grandma an allowance every week. She spent a lot of her time volunteering so it had nothing to do with her character. He was just very organized and kept the finances that way too - he was a great leader
What you're saying is you can't control your spending. At least be honest!
Going through this right now. Thanks DR for the topic.
I saw myself in the husband of this story, and my ex in his wife. He still love his wife too much to accept that she's using him. But one day he has to take away that money and see for himself if she's truly depressed as she said she is or not.
Love your advice Dave. It's not to punish her. It's to take of her and even avoid device in the future
I am addicted to this channel! Lots of great advice and life lessons from other people’s mistakes.
Excellent advice, Dave! I’ve recently been diagnosed Bipolar II at 48 after a hypo manic episode. Shopping was thing. Thankfully we’ve come to you!
I did that from day one. Keep bank accounts separate even when married
And that will keep your marriage longer👍
Best advice, absolutely agree!
Dumb advice, and not Dave's advice.
You can combine money and have it work out when neither of the two of you are a spendaholic 😅
@@julietibbetts9262 😆 🤣 😂. When she stops spending, thats when.
Till then
She be likev
" oh well, thought you were helping me out"
" youll figure it out"
All because I make way more then her. Thats BS
This guy is beating around the bush in his answers. I wonder what his agenda is.
I'd like to know the real story...
I'd like to know the real story...
Dave has a good point. I hop things turn out better for this family.
I truly wish my parents could have heard this. It would have made such a big difference in our lives
Wife is running game!
Gotta man up as head of the household and take care of his wife and finances
He should've man'd up at the beginning of the relationship.
She’s blatantly stealing from the household
"Fired up and wired up" 😃👍like that one.
I can watch these vídeos nonstop for hours
Picking a spouse with similar values is so important! They definitely need to get counseling. I don't know if divorce is a good idea because she'll just get alimony.
This guy is so frustrating & grow some balls & takes some ownership as well.
Sani Laomahei nah it’s all the wife’s fault
“The money, it’s erased TO ZERO.”
I think he said "it's a race to zero".
I would follow Mr. Ramsey's advice. Dave you are such a wise man. I admire your personality, traits, and character. You have a beautiful mind. We are so blessed to have you.
Oh my gosh I love to watch these videos , I learn so much ..
Wow!!! I cant get enough of Dave's tremendously straightforward and Real advice!! Many times its Not what we want to hear, but so much needed!?
Also make sure she can't sign up for credit cards or lines of credit!
Yes mr Ramsey! Best advice I have ever heard so far from yur wise words!
Dave is really helping people
Freeze your credit reports also.
I dont think this guy makes 260k a year if he does he is spending just as much as she is.
Right I call bs...
Start moving your assets into a series of off shore trusts and pay her what you want. If she wants to leave she wouldn't see a dime. Thats ridiculous
12 years old love you show helps me think about my future
Great call Dave.
BAD call dave jan 2008 said it was no crash coming its on youtube
That awkward moment Dave Ramsey pulls out a calculator while your speaking
He needs counseling. HE knows all the details but HE won't act on it for either her benefit or their benefit as a family!
Dave is awesome man
"and you're spending like you're freaking in congress"
smart man. wish I had done the same. ex wife ran me dry and then ran off when the money was gone. I would hide money away for sure. At minimum the cost of an apartment every month. That way if she dumps you, you have a place to live for a year.
Outdoors Nevada nah mate your thinking of the cleaver daughter who recommended her father speak to Dave
There's no shame in putting money away and not telling your spouse....whether male or female. If your spouse is a spender you better put money away.
Rather that than to be in serious debt or bankrupt.
6:36 Totally thought he was going for the mute button there for a second LOL
The moment the guy mentioned mental issues the whole argument changed
He sounds like he has a spending problem.
There are some people who spend everything they get and others spend more. He married a person that spends 110%.
Dealing with those with depression/anxiety are extremely difficult, especially when you don't understand their "struggle".
You can still be compassionate and limit access to money.
I bet his truck cost $80k.
It’s fine he can afford it at that kind of money
This dude is scared of his wife. He said, "Easier said than done", are you serious?! It's you're cash bro man up! Geeeeeeesh
This broke my heart
He is the biggest enabler in the world. She cannot control her spending, and she will continue to ruin your family. Nor are you helping her by giving her $$$, which is her drug.
Take her of the account and give her a prepaid debitcard- its Common sense😂
It sounded like he was going to cry ☹️☹️☹️
Been there. Done that. I feel for this guy.
I have the opposite going on (husband the big expender) and it’s terrible to be in this kind of situation 😓