In the current state of my body journey, the title should read more as: Why I hate(d) my body 💕 sending love to anyone who’s dealing with stuff they don’t talk about.
Omfg ive never heard someone talk about how they didn’t like wearing pants, I was the same way when I was younger I only worse shorts and a jumper pulled all the way down to cover my butt cause I thought it was too big. I’d pretend to be sick every week cause I didn’t want to swim in PE cause I was scared people would look at my body in the sleep. Body dysmorphia is crazy. Thank you for talking about this❤️
question: what do y'all think of body neutrality, instead of being positive or negative about your body how about a neutral outlook, not assigning good or bad values but accepting your body as is because it just is.
But.... I thought thats what body positivity is all about? Accepting all bodies? Even tho I think the focus shouldnt be on how beautiful a body is, the goal should be to be the healthiest that person can be with their own individual circumstances.
Yes, like you are aware of your favorite and not so favorite body parts of yours. Having that balance and being okay with it because you are you and it is completely fine not being perfect. 💗
"I used to have all these Before pictures of my body on my phone, never really having the After photo, and I realized it's because there is no After" oh.my.god. You just made me realize this. Thank you Amy.
I feel like when I look in the mirror at home or when I look down at my body I think hm not bad, I look fairly average with some fat I could lose here and there. But as soon as I see a photo of myself or look in a mirror in a changeroom I have a mini breakdown because I look like an actual whale. The problem is not being able to tell which one's real or which one people are seeing 😭It doesn't help being a tall asian girl because I always feel so much physically bigger next to other girls (because technically I am) and it makes me feel so insecure. Just the fact that I have to wear size L and that my weight is almost double some of my petite friends kills me even though I know that no matter how skinny I am, I will never fit into an XS and will never be 50kg even if I cut my fckn arm off. Our society has such an unhealthy mindset about weight and size that I hate myself for even thinking these things! Thanks for talking about this Amy 💕
Really relate to this. And mirrors are everywhere, my workplace has mirrored elevators, the gym has mirrors everywhere, even walking along the street all the reflective glass.
You have no idea how much I resonate with this. All my gfs in my group are small and petite and I feel like the giant among them. So you are not alone. Makes me feel comforted that I'm not alone either 💛
I relate to this so much. Especially the part where you said where you're not able to tell which one's real. I feel like there's such a disconnect between the girl I see in the mirror, the girl I see in pictures and the girl people tell I am. I hope one day I'll be able to connect the three.
piece of advice to self-hate/insecurity: imagine the person you love the most and how you treat them. treat yourself like that, even when it feels wrong , practice it eg. if your love ones make a mistake, would you comfort them or tell them to hate themselves?
this is soooo true, but so hard, i try to imagine someone esle in my body and I would never tell them: you have thick thies or your hair is too thin...
It's so surreal to me that you have any kind of body dysmorphia or body related thing. Cause me, as a fat person, listen my all life that my body should be like yours. And I dont have that genetics or body type. I still suffer today, as at 25 years old, with coments and things from people that I dont know, and people in my family. The funy thing is, I'm healthy. All my exames are ok. So, seen your history makes me even more sad, this fucked up society screwing our minds and our bodys, as consequencies. I really wish you the best. Be healthy and happy, thats all that matters. And, you're beautiful
This kind of video and comments bellow make me so sad, just seeing how many people spent their teenage years obsessing about their bodies. The upside is that as you grow up, you become way more comfortable in your body and accept it the way it is (at least that's what happened to me). I guess it just takes time to get used to your own image...😀
it’s so amazing seeing influencers using their platform for good!! spreading awareness on body image is vital, especially in this day in age with social media and such. thank you for this beautiful video!! 💖💗💞
I pray for this day and age with fake body’s on social media. It’s nuts !! It takes time ....no one cares how you look, they are worried about how they look. That’s life . Life is hard , don’t make it harder on yourself. Please be true to yourself and be kind to your body . Self love is so important. You said it girl !! Love this video. You are wise beyond your years for sure ;)
I’ve also struggled with my body since I was suuuuper young. This video really resonated with me because we can see people who look so happy and flattering in their body, but actually struggle. Your videos have genuinely helped me so much with overcoming my own eating disorders. So even if your brain tells ya you don’t look the way you think you should, you’ve helped me love my body so continue the journey to love yours!
I feel you so much. I'm 20 right now but up until last year I never wore a top that shows off my shoulder. It hasn't been long but I don't understand myself from 2 years ago anymore. There's absolutely nothing wrong with my arms or shoulders. It's such a shame because I missed so many fun times just because I would've needed to show off my upper body (swimming for example). Last year I just stopped caring and started buying tops and loving how my body looks in them. Thanks for talking about this, have a nice day everyone!! :)
Body image gets better with age. We get heavier, slower, less energetic and our boobs sag. But we give less f**ks. I can live with that. Love the video btw.
I really appreciated how honest and vulnerable you were in this video ❤️ it took me a long time to realize that I didn't just have "bad eating habits" or a "bad diet", but that my eating was compulsive and I was constantly binging whenever I was stressed, but like you said I started taking better care of myself by working out more and sleeping more and it's made such a significant difference on my life. I'm really glad that you didn't just say "love youself!" because often that feels so impossible :'( also, just wanted to mention that I love how much your makeup looks have been changing! it gives me inspo for how I want to change up my looks as well!
Thank you so much Amy. I struggle with accepting my body even though other people see no problem. It’s difficult for me to see my body in a good way and hearing you go through the same made me feel less stressed and not shallow. I’ll probably never like my body for years to come but I’m challenging myself to just be accepting. Thank you❤️
I always feel like I talk about my body last like mentally in my mind. i recently noticed how much i worry about losing weight. i'm skinny but gaining weight makes me feel as if i should lose weight even though i'm underweight. it's hard and a process. i've always been a size zero and it terrifies me if i gain to a bigger size. thanks for this wonderful talk honestly, i never really think my weight as an issue but gonna talk to my therapist about this !
I don't like my body either. Other people always compliment me and say that they wish they had my body and I always feel unease. I've always struggled with weight gain and over eating. I'm not skinny and I'm not fat.. I'm in between with a big butt, thighs, hips, and my stomach is not flat nor huge. I like my curves but I want to slim down a lot and look good in my clothes. I'm healing myself and I recently started saying affirmations to help with my confidence. Deep down inside I don't like my body and I'm always trying to hide it. All I wear is tights and I don't really wear jeans either.
Amy you're a light to this world. As someone who battles two eating disorders (Bulimia, 5 years clean and Anorexia, 1 year into recovery) the idea of one day not hating my body feels like an utopic dream I'll never reach. I live a pretty stressful and hectic life and more often than not my stress leads me to fall into harmful patterns to deal with eat, by either binging or over restricting. I'm slowly learning to not punish myself for when I side track and over eat, and trying to take care of myself and respect my bodys wishes when regarding food. This video was a godsend, it always makes me feel so much better to know that I'm not alone in this struggle. That I'm not (that) broken. That my weight is not everything and that the bad thoughts on my head are lying, that I'm not a horrible monster for eating.That there is hope for me to feel better one day. Thank your for speaking up and your honesty, always. You deserve the best.
Thank you for being so natural and real. I hate my body most of the time and the other Idk I just don’t :/ I always compare myself to others. I always looked at the negative side. I am working on being happier and accepting who I am more. I still hate parts of me. Thank you for this video it helped me realize that others deal with the same thing.
thank you for sharing this video! there were so many points that you made that directly related to parts of my life, and i've recently been going back into old ways but i'm taking my time everyday and reminding myself everyday that i'm no where who or where i once was and that i'm grateful to be where i am now.
You're a truly beautiful person Amy, inside and out. I hope you realize that insecurity is truthfully impersonal. It is because we all (unconsciously) believe that we can only feel beautiful once (or if) we LOOK beautiful, and of course that's an unconscious choice that we have been following without recognition for the past 10 years. Thank you for your willingness to be vulnerable, to represent as a voice for change and the older sister younger gi rls need. You got this.
Loved the makeup look! And thank you for making videos like these, love hearing your thoughts. I have this constant battle between liking and hating my body, but at the end of the day, it is about loving myself for who I am and pushing away the society's idea of what the ideal body needs to be. Self-love and body positivity is a journey.
you have been a source of wisdom and inspiration for me since i was 14 (5 years ago), thank you for remaining so candid and vulnerable. you show that you can be successful, have meaningful relationships, and travel the world, while still working on bettering your mental health and that brings me a lot of peace.
you are so cool ! thank you for this vidéo. I suffered of skinny-shaming when I was little and it was a nightmare. I couldn't relax because I was constantly afraid someone notice my stupid skinny body. And make fun of it out loud it in front of everyone because when it happened I was ashamed, sad and powerless. Thank God it's over now
It's nav-ya shet-ty haha! I'm Indian. But anyways just wanted to say thank you for covering this topic, personally for me, in the past two years I have not worn any kind of skirts or shorts because I feel so insecure about being overweight. I don't show midriff, no tanks or sleeveless in general. I am always seen in a pair of jeans and a T-shirt. So you know the idea of wearing something other than that makes me ask so many questions about myself and my physical appearance. I hope I can change that about myself in the future. Love you, as always 💞
I had a similar experience in middle/high school. I hated my thighs and arms so I wouldn’t wear shorts, skirts... and tops that showed my arms. And these insecurities stopped me from doing a lot of fun teenage things like going the beach with my friends or going to parties. Now, when I think back, it makes me so sad for this teenage girl and everything she missed because of stupid insecurities !
I definitely felt famous having my question featured lol but anyways, I've always felt the need to lose weight my whole life because I've always been on the thicker side. Its hard sometimes being a size 14 when everyone you see around you isn't even in the double digits. I've always compared myself to the smaller people in my life so I always felt like losing weight was something I HAD to do. Obviously it is an everyday struggle but I am learning to love the body I have and am trying to view eating healthy and going to the gym as something that I enjoy doing instead of doing it just to see an end result.
As a parent, I would said: how brave are you talking so open about this issues in your personal life. We parents some times (maybe always) dont want to accept that our kids are facing something like this. Worst, that we ourself are suffering from some mental health illness. So much taboo, indifference, and even just thinking about it goes against all social acceptance. I learned that in my own family. Information was key to open my eyes, and look for help. So thanks for this precious video.
11:00 perhaps the feelings you described here were imposter syndrome. I follow another TH-camr named Tokidoki Traveller who talked about this. I relate so so much.
17:07 gotta work on putting morality on those things you just talked about cuz i feel like subconsciously my mind works like that about the things that i eat, so definitely gotta work on that 💕
Can I just say that your thighs and arms are beautiful. And are in fact very enviable. Hope you heal from your body dysmorphia you are a very strong girl. Love your content, keep up the good work Amy 😙
Thank you so much. I literally had a tear in my eyes while listening to how people are body shamed for their skinny bodies. This video helped me a lot.
Thank you Amy for this video as I have been in treatment and recovery for my bulimia/anorexia and have been for almost a decade I really felt I could connect with you in this video! You are an amazing beautiful person and thank you again for this video!
this made me think about how i suffered on my own body image issues. social media really plays a big part in those things since we all get to see so many people in a short amount of time. this is really why diversity in body types for brands matter so much; to normalize seeing people in different sizes and allow the viewer to accept themselves more. this video is soooo important, thank you amy! all the love 💜
I felt the same about my body for a long time, I thought if I lost weight I would be happy and get a boyfriend. Today after a lot of self love I'm 40 pounds heavier and I love my body and I have a boyfriend who loves me too, love you amy:)))
The body dismorphic ideas are sometimes so bizarre, e.g. my "perceived flaw" is my head, I'm perfectly certain it's absolutely huge and my face too long. Every single person I asked told me it's oval shaped but perfectly adequate to my body, (I even asked on Reddit), but I just can't get a rid of that idea. I think I got it in an art class when the teacher had us measure whether we would fit the classical sculpture standard of your head "fitting" 3 times into your torso and 4 times into your legs...
love this video so much. I think it may be one of my favorites of yours tbh! but such a good reminder that we need to be kinder to ourselves and love ourselves for who we are because at the end of the day we go to bed and wake up with this body, no one else.
it definitely helped. thank you so much. it takes courage to share all of this with the entire world, so thank you so much for your bravery ; and maybe this is weird to say idk but I am proud of you 🦋
AMYYYYYYYY you are such a gem!!!!!! I don't know how much i need to emphasize on this but you are truly an amazing bomb ass person. So many people need to hear what you have to say. I truly enjoy your am with Amy. I think it should be turned into a podcast.
I resonated with you so much especially my arms. I never wear any sleeveless top ever since I realised my arms are so fat compared to others. I couldn’t look into the mirror with my bare arms out there, I don’t like to take photos as well because my upper body look huge. I can get really upset and frustrated looking myself in the mirror. I’m trying to do workout for few weeks now and I hope it can get slimmer one day, or even better, I can embrace my flaws.
I struggled with the same problem for years :( I used to hate my legs(especially thighs) and my butt because I thought they were too thick and huge. I never wore a fitting t-shirt because it wouldn't cover my butt and I only wore super baggy pants. Things got better but than before but I still tend to hate my legs and my butt when I go to the fitting room😢 Thank you so much for another amazing AM with Amy episode!!! ♥️ I should remember that everyone is beautiful no matter how close their thighs are :)
Amy is really smart and i love listening to her. I dont want to say that someone is making a big deal of something or to make someones problem smaller. I just want to say, I am from Serbia and never have I heard someone speaking about this, or baheving like that. I have friends in all "shapes and sizes" but none of tham have this problem, thay all have so much confidence. I just think that society in US or countries that are rich somehow ar making people (meinly girls) hating their body... its sad... in my life I never heard thet someone hates their body so much... and I see that problem so often on instagram and youtube and never from someone from balkan or some other not so rich countrie
You're so beautiful I can't even put into words! In and out! Really! I'm so happy that I got to know you. It's been 3 years I think since I discovered your channel and it's been changing my life! I'm so thankful! And I want to be like you and help people with this issues!
Its crazy cause I have had the same hate for my thighs I always wore long shirts with pants and always layered up. I've also only started wearing bikini's 2 years ago. It's amazing to have someone speak about something so real.
This comes right in time... over summer I gained 4 kg and I feel like shit. I am totally conscious that my body is totally fine, but I feel like I used to be the skinny girl, and now I am not like that any more. I'm also a ballerina and I am always surrounded by super fit dancers. Thank you for sharing your story, I can totally relate!
Thank you so much for making this video. Im never going to be disappointed by your work. You are helping people and i really hope you will get better amy ! Ily ❤️
This is such an interesting video! I've definitely had similar experiences particularly with my thighs. I was so insecure about them throughout secondary school. It was the summer before sixth form when I made the decision to stop being so hateful toward my body of course this takes a lot of work ofc. Part of that was deciding to stop wearing skinny Jeans- to this day I never wear skinny Jeans, I wear trousers, other cut jeans wide cut, straight etc and I never buy clothes that dont fit my own body! I think what helped me was realising these Jean's represented a mould and as a 5'2 54kg person at the time, 32in size UK 8 was not for me. Long story short as you said Jean's were a huge problem!
Wow, I completely related to the jeans aspect. Growing up, I did gymnastics and all I would see around me were people with these perfect looking bodies, and I would always look down on myself because I didn't look like them. I [thought] I had larger thighs, a larger stomach, larger arms, larger everything. I avoided showing anything above my elbows and avoided wearing jeans for the longest time. If I wore jeans, I never thought I looked good in them. Throughout the winter, I would wear only sweatshirts. Going into the summer seasons were particularly hard for me, as I tried to hide my body behind large sweatshirts and pants so I'd wear those items until I couldn't handle the heat anymore... I never thought I had body dysmorphia, that I was just self-conscious of my body because I was actually fat. but hearing you talk about it is making me come to the realization that it was likely just all in my head. I'm at a much better place now than back then. I still struggle with showing my arms, but I wear jeans nearly every day now as I have grown more confident in myself over the past few years. I still have a long way to go, but it's a journey I'm glad I have with me and am working every day to overcome.
I've never had an eating disorder but I've always been underweight and sometimes I feel insecure about how thin I look and at times gasp at my pictures because of how thin my ankles look or my arms, I like when clothes sit well on me so I have some curvature because it's really not nice when clothes hang too loose because it makes me kinda look like a child. Also there were a few people in the past who called me anorexic even though I never had it and have a good appetite, I felt like I looked odd in some way and the way I was wasn't normal or valid
We are all beautiful in our own way. Thanks for opening up Amy, it must’ve been really hard. And also I love how you explain things, it’s so calming ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hey Amy I enjoyed watching your video. I am also a Korean woman living in Korea and I feel you so much that Korean beauty standard is insane. Every day I see girls asking others on internet how much other idols weigh and trying to set their goals on that weight. People say 5'3 weighing over 50kg is chubby. Many youtubers promote starving yourself as a diet plan. I believe educating eating disorder and body dysmorphia is equally important as sex education or smoke education.
Thank you for being very frank with your issues, it seems like you are still struggling as I notice you been talking for an awful long time about the body image issue but you don't quite know what to do, I really felt an urge to tell you to try the Buddha way out of suffering and gain a better understanding that suffering like stems from a false idea of our " self", and accept impermanence to be the truth instead. You are not your looks or body image but compassion.
Thank you for sharing your Story and being so open about it. I looooooove your videos. I relate so much to you and everything that you said I was like yeah I think the same way. So keep doing this great work and sharing it with us because you really make a change and help people
I just started watching this channel and I love it for the first 40 min I am already so inspired by you . I am subscribed and I feel like this channel will help young and old women My story would be I feel ugly in my face but I love my body and one of my friends doesn’t notice but she says little thing to me like your hair looks puffy and I already know that but she just added to my insucurady. Now I am working on being more positive
I remember hiding under my desk in 3rd grade when I was named student of the week and my dance picture of me in a leotard was shown on the wall. I remember thinking that I was so fat and ugly and embarrassed. I just laughed it off with self deprecating humor. In 4th grade 2 boys made fun of my dress and during recess I tried taking the string that you tie behind and tied it around my waist as tight as possible. I couldn't breath and I had double knotted it. A teacher had to help me untie it so I could breathe.
I can’t help but think I look fat and it really bothers me, to the point where whenever I sit down, I put a pillow on my lap to cover up my stomach and thighs. I always switch my opinion on my body like one day I may thing I might need to workout but some other day I think my body looks great. Whenever I see someone skinnier then me, it just makes me more self conscious
I have this things where I hate my calves. Idk why, but to me they seem huuuggeee. I don't like tot talk about it because I don't want to attract attention to it. But I once told my friends and they were so surprised about that I thought they were so huge. They said they were totally normal, not super skinny, but definitely not huge. That helped me a lot, having that outside view made me realize that I view my body completely differently from other people. So, I still don't like m calves, but I'm ok with it, I don't cover them with jeans all the time now. Looking at it now, I do ballet, it's completely normal that my calves aren't super skinny. Of course it's the way my body is built, but my calves have no fat at all, it's the same with my thighs. No fat, it's all muscle, but I feel like my thighs look pretty nice because of that, they don't look fat, they look... Tight? I do feel like I'm not skinny enough. I mean, I'm not even fat... I'm just not as skinny as I would want to be, but I'm pretty sure that if I'd be that skinny It'd be very unhealthy to be that skinny for me. I'm not built to be that skinny. I feel like my frame isn't tiny enough, I feel like my bust is too big, my hips are too wide. I can't even do anything about it, it just makes me feel bad.
That’s the hardest part!! What she said was so true, and original in her own way, but I’ve heard similar things before. I just need to incorporate what I’ve heard more
I feel like I have to add that sex is not about finding each others body attractive, but about feeling attracted to the chemistry between each other. when there is not that chemistry, that vibe, the sex won't be as good. If he or she also looks good, it's a bonus. Won't deny that, haha!
I have been realyzing that some “little comments” that people do about your appearance affect us more than you expect (even if they don’t mean to). “Oh, you’re so skinny, you should eat more” or “you realize you’re getting bald?”. This comments are not little at all and they can affect someone internally more than we imagine. So, the best to do is really accept who you are and be happy, no one will love you more than yourself.
I’m so happy you made this video because I’ve been waiting for a while now to hear your wise words pertaining body image💗 love you Amy!! You’re a brutally soft woman!!
In the current state of my body journey, the title should read more as: Why I hate(d) my body
💕 sending love to anyone who’s dealing with stuff they don’t talk about.
Omfg ive never heard someone talk about how they didn’t like wearing pants, I was the same way when I was younger I only worse shorts and a jumper pulled all the way down to cover my butt cause I thought it was too big. I’d pretend to be sick every week cause I didn’t want to swim in PE cause I was scared people would look at my body in the sleep. Body dysmorphia is crazy. Thank you for talking about this❤️
question: what do y'all think of body neutrality, instead of being positive or negative about your body how about a neutral outlook, not assigning good or bad values but accepting your body as is because it just is.
But.... I thought thats what body positivity is all about? Accepting all bodies? Even tho I think the focus shouldnt be on how beautiful a body is, the goal should be to be the healthiest that person can be with their own individual circumstances.
@Nyanchama I love this!
Izume Yu but she’s not talking about body positivity, she said body neutrality lol
Yes, like you are aware of your favorite and not so favorite body parts of yours. Having that balance and being okay with it because you are you and it is completely fine not being perfect. 💗
"I used to have all these Before pictures of my body on my phone, never really having the After photo, and I realized it's because there is no After"
oh.my.god.
You just made me realize this. Thank you Amy.
Marissa Rodriguez Pff this is me all the way
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"The boobs stay. The boyfriend has to go."
Thank you Amy for my new motto in life!
I feel like when I look in the mirror at home or when I look down at my body I think hm not bad, I look fairly average with some fat I could lose here and there. But as soon as I see a photo of myself or look in a mirror in a changeroom I have a mini breakdown because I look like an actual whale. The problem is not being able to tell which one's real or which one people are seeing 😭It doesn't help being a tall asian girl because I always feel so much physically bigger next to other girls (because technically I am) and it makes me feel so insecure. Just the fact that I have to wear size L and that my weight is almost double some of my petite friends kills me even though I know that no matter how skinny I am, I will never fit into an XS and will never be 50kg even if I cut my fckn arm off. Our society has such an unhealthy mindset about weight and size that I hate myself for even thinking these things! Thanks for talking about this Amy 💕
omg I relate so much :(
Really relate to this. And mirrors are everywhere, my workplace has mirrored elevators, the gym has mirrors everywhere, even walking along the street all the reflective glass.
A 88 I can relate to you so much!! I struggle with this daily too
You have no idea how much I resonate with this. All my gfs in my group are small and petite and I feel like the giant among them. So you are not alone. Makes me feel comforted that I'm not alone either 💛
I relate to this so much. Especially the part where you said where you're not able to tell which one's real. I feel like there's such a disconnect between the girl I see in the mirror, the girl I see in pictures and the girl people tell I am. I hope one day I'll be able to connect the three.
piece of advice to self-hate/insecurity:
imagine the person you love the most and how you treat them. treat yourself like that, even when it feels wrong , practice it
eg. if your love ones make a mistake, would you comfort them or tell them to hate themselves?
this is soooo true, but so hard, i try to imagine someone esle in my body and I would never tell them: you have thick thies or your hair is too thin...
It's so surreal to me that you have any kind of body dysmorphia or body related thing. Cause me, as a fat person, listen my all life that my body should be like yours. And I dont have that genetics or body type. I still suffer today, as at 25 years old, with coments and things from people that I dont know, and people in my family. The funy thing is, I'm healthy. All my exames are ok.
So, seen your history makes me even more sad, this fucked up society screwing our minds and our bodys, as consequencies.
I really wish you the best. Be healthy and happy, thats all that matters. And, you're beautiful
I know you just uploaded this, but sending love and hugs your way especially for being vulnerable and open with us.
This kind of video and comments bellow make me so sad, just seeing how many people spent their teenage years obsessing about their bodies. The upside is that as you grow up, you become way more comfortable in your body and accept it the way it is (at least that's what happened to me). I guess it just takes time to get used to your own image...😀
it’s so amazing seeing influencers using their platform for good!! spreading awareness on body image is vital, especially in this day in age with social media and such. thank you for this beautiful video!! 💖💗💞
I pray for this day and age with fake body’s on social media. It’s nuts !! It takes time ....no one cares how you look, they are worried about how they look. That’s life . Life is hard , don’t make it harder on yourself. Please be true to yourself and be kind to your body . Self love is so important. You said it girl !! Love this video. You are wise beyond your years for sure ;)
I’ve also struggled with my body since I was suuuuper young. This video really resonated with me because we can see people who look so happy and flattering in their body, but actually struggle. Your videos have genuinely helped me so much with overcoming my own eating disorders. So even if your brain tells ya you don’t look the way you think you should, you’ve helped me love my body so continue the journey to love yours!
I feel you so much. I'm 20 right now but up until last year I never wore a top that shows off my shoulder. It hasn't been long but I don't understand myself from 2 years ago anymore. There's absolutely nothing wrong with my arms or shoulders. It's such a shame because I missed so many fun times just because I would've needed to show off my upper body (swimming for example). Last year I just stopped caring and started buying tops and loving how my body looks in them. Thanks for talking about this, have a nice day everyone!! :)
Body image gets better with age. We get heavier, slower, less energetic and our boobs sag. But we give less f**ks.
I can live with that.
Love the video btw.
I really appreciated how honest and vulnerable you were in this video ❤️ it took me a long time to realize that I didn't just have "bad eating habits" or a "bad diet", but that my eating was compulsive and I was constantly binging whenever I was stressed, but like you said I started taking better care of myself by working out more and sleeping more and it's made such a significant difference on my life. I'm really glad that you didn't just say "love youself!" because often that feels so impossible :'( also, just wanted to mention that I love how much your makeup looks have been changing! it gives me inspo for how I want to change up my looks as well!
"the body doesn't need to change, the partner does"
Thank you so much Amy. I struggle with accepting my body even though other people see no problem. It’s difficult for me to see my body in a good way and hearing you go through the same made me feel less stressed and not shallow. I’ll probably never like my body for years to come but I’m challenging myself to just be accepting. Thank you❤️
I always feel like I talk about my body last like mentally in my mind. i recently noticed how much i worry about losing weight. i'm skinny but gaining weight makes me feel as if i should lose weight even though i'm underweight. it's hard and a process. i've always been a size zero and it terrifies me if i gain to a bigger size. thanks for this wonderful talk honestly, i never really think my weight as an issue but gonna talk to my therapist about this !
I don't like my body either. Other people always compliment me and say that they wish they had my body and I always feel unease. I've always struggled with weight gain and over eating. I'm not skinny and I'm not fat.. I'm in between with a big butt, thighs, hips, and my stomach is not flat nor huge. I like my curves but I want to slim down a lot and look good in my clothes. I'm healing myself and I recently started saying affirmations to help with my confidence. Deep down inside I don't like my body and I'm always trying to hide it. All I wear is tights and I don't really wear jeans either.
I’m really happy you’re here, Amy.
Amy you're a light to this world.
As someone who battles two eating disorders (Bulimia, 5 years clean and Anorexia, 1 year into recovery) the idea of one day not hating my body feels like an utopic dream I'll never reach. I live a pretty stressful and hectic life and more often than not my stress leads me to fall into harmful patterns to deal with eat, by either binging or over restricting. I'm slowly learning to not punish myself for when I side track and over eat, and trying to take care of myself and respect my bodys wishes when regarding food. This video was a godsend, it always makes me feel so much better to know that I'm not alone in this struggle. That I'm not (that) broken. That my weight is not everything and that the bad thoughts on my head are lying, that I'm not a horrible monster for eating.That there is hope for me to feel better one day.
Thank your for speaking up and your honesty, always. You deserve the best.
Thank you for being so natural and real. I hate my body most of the time and the other Idk I just don’t :/ I always compare myself to others. I always looked at the negative side. I am working on being happier and accepting who I am more. I still hate parts of me. Thank you for this video it helped me realize that others deal with the same thing.
thank you for sharing this video! there were so many points that you made that directly related to parts of my life, and i've recently been going back into old ways but i'm taking my time everyday and reminding myself everyday that i'm no where who or where i once was and that i'm grateful to be where i am now.
I never clicked so fast cuz of how much I relate to the title 🥺
This video is so so so so important and validating and empowering. Thank you Amy for being you and for being so honest ❤️😭
You're a truly beautiful person Amy, inside and out. I hope you realize that insecurity is truthfully impersonal. It is because we all (unconsciously) believe that we can only feel beautiful once (or if) we LOOK beautiful, and of course that's an unconscious choice that we have been following without recognition for the past 10 years. Thank you for your willingness to be vulnerable, to represent as a voice for change and the older sister younger gi
rls need. You got this.
Loved the makeup look! And thank you for making videos like these, love hearing your thoughts. I have this constant battle between liking and hating my body, but at the end of the day, it is about loving myself for who I am and pushing away the society's idea of what the ideal body needs to be. Self-love and body positivity is a journey.
I love these talkative videos. Love brain talks.
I love the raw emotions when talking ,my favorite types of TH-cam videos , and a get ready with me is a great bonus!
you highkeyed saved my life.
you have been a source of wisdom and inspiration for me since i was 14 (5 years ago), thank you for remaining so candid and vulnerable. you show that you can be successful, have meaningful relationships, and travel the world, while still working on bettering your mental health and that brings me a lot of peace.
I found her last year being 15 and she's helped me a lot
I’m in my twenties and I went through exactly the same thing you did. It didn’t help that my family was also critical of my body. I
you are so cool ! thank you for this vidéo. I suffered of skinny-shaming when I was little and it was a nightmare. I couldn't relax because I was constantly afraid someone notice my stupid skinny body. And make fun of it out loud it in front of everyone because when it happened I was ashamed, sad and powerless. Thank God it's over now
It's nav-ya shet-ty haha! I'm Indian. But anyways just wanted to say thank you for covering this topic, personally for me, in the past two years I have not worn any kind of skirts or shorts because I feel so insecure about being overweight. I don't show midriff, no tanks or sleeveless in general. I am always seen in a pair of jeans and a T-shirt. So you know the idea of wearing something other than that makes me ask so many questions about myself and my physical appearance. I hope I can change that about myself in the future. Love you, as always 💞
This is why I freaking love you. Thank you for talking about crucial subjects like this one. This is what’s important and real. Love you
I had a similar experience in middle/high school. I hated my thighs and arms so I wouldn’t wear shorts, skirts... and tops that showed my arms. And these insecurities stopped me from doing a lot of fun teenage things like going the beach with my friends or going to parties. Now, when I think back, it makes me so sad for this teenage girl and everything she missed because of stupid insecurities !
I definitely felt famous having my question featured lol but anyways, I've always felt the need to lose weight my whole life because I've always been on the thicker side. Its hard sometimes being a size 14 when everyone you see around you isn't even in the double digits. I've always compared myself to the smaller people in my life so I always felt like losing weight was something I HAD to do. Obviously it is an everyday struggle but I am learning to love the body I have and am trying to view eating healthy and going to the gym as something that I enjoy doing instead of doing it just to see an end result.
As a parent, I would said: how brave are you talking so open about this issues in your personal life. We parents some times (maybe always) dont want to accept that our kids are facing something like this. Worst, that we ourself are suffering from some mental health illness. So much taboo, indifference, and even just thinking about it goes against all social acceptance. I learned that in my own family. Information was key to open my eyes, and look for help. So thanks for this precious video.
11:00 perhaps the feelings you described here were imposter syndrome. I follow another TH-camr named Tokidoki Traveller who talked about this. I relate so so much.
17:07 gotta work on putting morality on those things you just talked about cuz i feel like subconsciously my mind works like that about the things that i eat, so definitely gotta work on that 💕
Can I just say that your thighs and arms are beautiful. And are in fact very enviable. Hope you heal from your body dysmorphia you are a very strong girl. Love your content, keep up the good work Amy 😙
Thank you so much. I literally had a tear in my eyes while listening to how people are body shamed for their skinny bodies. This video helped me a lot.
ur necklace says amy but it also looks like a running doggo haha
Thank you Amy for this video as I have been in treatment and recovery for my bulimia/anorexia and have been for almost a decade I really felt I could connect with you in this video! You are an amazing beautiful person and thank you again for this video!
this made me think about how i suffered on my own body image issues. social media really plays a big part in those things since we all get to see so many people in a short amount of time. this is really why diversity in body types for brands matter so much; to normalize seeing people in different sizes and allow the viewer to accept themselves more.
this video is soooo important, thank you amy! all the love 💜
I felt the same about my body for a long time, I thought if I lost weight I would be happy and get a boyfriend. Today after a lot of self love I'm 40 pounds heavier and I love my body and I have a boyfriend who loves me too, love you amy:)))
I hate bodyshaming. I am big and is constantly reminded by social media and media in general that I am not attractive...
i keep coming back to this video 😭😭😭💛💛 self love is hard
The body dismorphic ideas are sometimes so bizarre, e.g. my "perceived flaw" is my head, I'm perfectly certain it's absolutely huge and my face too long. Every single person I asked told me it's oval shaped but perfectly adequate to my body, (I even asked on Reddit), but I just can't get a rid of that idea. I think I got it in an art class when the teacher had us measure whether we would fit the classical sculpture standard of your head "fitting" 3 times into your torso and 4 times into your legs...
I literally love how your skins looking right now😭girl you’re glowing
love this video so much. I think it may be one of my favorites of yours tbh! but such a good reminder that we need to be kinder to ourselves and love ourselves for who we are because at the end of the day we go to bed and wake up with this body, no one else.
it definitely helped. thank you so much. it takes courage to share all of this with the entire world, so thank you so much for your bravery ; and maybe this is weird to say idk but I am proud of you 🦋
AMYYYYYYYY you are such a gem!!!!!! I don't know how much i need to emphasize on this but you are truly an amazing bomb ass person. So many people need to hear what you have to say. I truly enjoy your am with Amy. I think it should be turned into a podcast.
I resonated with you so much especially my arms. I never wear any sleeveless top ever since I realised my arms are so fat compared to others. I couldn’t look into the mirror with my bare arms out there, I don’t like to take photos as well because my upper body look huge. I can get really upset and frustrated looking myself in the mirror. I’m trying to do workout for few weeks now and I hope it can get slimmer one day, or even better, I can embrace my flaws.
I struggled with the same problem for years :( I used to hate my legs(especially thighs) and my butt because I thought they were too thick and huge. I never wore a fitting t-shirt because it wouldn't cover my butt and I only wore super baggy pants. Things got better but than before but I still tend to hate my legs and my butt when I go to the fitting room😢 Thank you so much for another amazing AM with Amy episode!!! ♥️ I should remember that everyone is beautiful no matter how close their thighs are :)
U just speak my mind i feel less lonely thank s amy
Amy is really smart and i love listening to her. I dont want to say that someone is making a big deal of something or to make someones problem smaller. I just want to say, I am from Serbia and never have I heard someone speaking about this, or baheving like that. I have friends in all "shapes and sizes" but none of tham have this problem, thay all have so much confidence. I just think that society in US or countries that are rich somehow ar making people (meinly girls) hating their body... its sad... in my life I never heard thet someone hates their body so much... and I see that problem so often on instagram and youtube and never from someone from balkan or some other not so rich countrie
You’re beautiful Amy! Thank you for being real with us. Sending you all the love!
You're so beautiful I can't even put into words! In and out! Really! I'm so happy that I got to know you. It's been 3 years I think since I discovered your channel and it's been changing my life! I'm so thankful! And I want to be like you and help people with this issues!
Such an important topic amy! Im glad how openly u can talk about this and inspire woman to try change their mindset.❤️
Its crazy cause I have had the same hate for my thighs I always wore long shirts with pants and always layered up. I've also only started wearing bikini's 2 years ago. It's amazing to have someone speak about something so real.
This comes right in time... over summer I gained 4 kg and I feel like shit. I am totally conscious that my body is totally fine, but I feel like I used to be the skinny girl, and now I am not like that any more. I'm also a ballerina and I am always surrounded by super fit dancers.
Thank you for sharing your story, I can totally relate!
Thank you so much for making this video. Im never going to be disappointed by your work. You are helping people and i really hope you will get better amy ! Ily ❤️
i seriously love this series and you, amy. im also in love with this look in particular!!
Great chat Amy, I can relate to the struggle with upper arms so much, it’s still an ongoing process. And the makeup is so beautiful! ✨
This is such an interesting video! I've definitely had similar experiences particularly with my thighs. I was so insecure about them throughout secondary school. It was the summer before sixth form when I made the decision to stop being so hateful toward my body of course this takes a lot of work ofc. Part of that was deciding to stop wearing skinny Jeans- to this day I never wear skinny Jeans, I wear trousers, other cut jeans wide cut, straight etc and I never buy clothes that dont fit my own body! I think what helped me was realising these Jean's represented a mould and as a 5'2 54kg person at the time, 32in size UK 8 was not for me. Long story short as you said Jean's were a huge problem!
I am soo grateful for you posting this video, this has helped me soo much, thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤🙌🏾 thank you thank you
Wow, I completely related to the jeans aspect. Growing up, I did gymnastics and all I would see around me were people with these perfect looking bodies, and I would always look down on myself because I didn't look like them. I [thought] I had larger thighs, a larger stomach, larger arms, larger everything. I avoided showing anything above my elbows and avoided wearing jeans for the longest time. If I wore jeans, I never thought I looked good in them. Throughout the winter, I would wear only sweatshirts. Going into the summer seasons were particularly hard for me, as I tried to hide my body behind large sweatshirts and pants so I'd wear those items until I couldn't handle the heat anymore... I never thought I had body dysmorphia, that I was just self-conscious of my body because I was actually fat. but hearing you talk about it is making me come to the realization that it was likely just all in my head. I'm at a much better place now than back then. I still struggle with showing my arms, but I wear jeans nearly every day now as I have grown more confident in myself over the past few years. I still have a long way to go, but it's a journey I'm glad I have with me and am working every day to overcome.
Hi Amy! You make me happy. Thankyouu.
I've never had an eating disorder but I've always been underweight and sometimes I feel insecure about how thin I look and at times gasp at my pictures because of how thin my ankles look or my arms, I like when clothes sit well on me so I have some curvature because it's really not nice when clothes hang too loose because it makes me kinda look like a child. Also there were a few people in the past who called me anorexic even though I never had it and have a good appetite, I felt like I looked odd in some way and the way I was wasn't normal or valid
What you are is what you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We are all beautiful in our own way. Thanks for opening up Amy, it must’ve been really hard. And also I love how you explain things, it’s so calming ❤️❤️❤️❤️
thank you for explaining that fat shaming doesnt hold the same societal affects as skinny shaming!!!
Hey Amy I enjoyed watching your video. I am also a Korean woman living in Korea and I feel you so much that Korean beauty standard is insane. Every day I see girls asking others on internet how much other idols weigh and trying to set their goals on that weight. People say 5'3 weighing over 50kg is chubby. Many youtubers promote starving yourself as a diet plan. I believe educating eating disorder and body dysmorphia is equally important as sex education or smoke education.
Thank you for being very frank with your issues, it seems like you are still struggling as I notice you been talking for an awful long time about the body image issue but you don't quite know what to do, I really felt an urge to tell you to try the Buddha way out of suffering and gain a better understanding that suffering like stems from a false idea of our " self", and accept impermanence to be the truth instead. You are not your looks or body image but compassion.
Thank you for sharing your Story and being so open about it. I looooooove your videos. I relate so much to you and everything that you said I was like yeah I think the same way. So keep doing this great work and sharing it with us because you really make a change and help people
주변에 마르고 예쁜애들이 넘 많으니 나도 모르게 비교하게됨 허벅지랑 팔뚝살에 살있으면 옷입어도 안예쁜것같고ㅜㅜ 공감하고가요
OMG SHE ANSWERED ME!!
I just started watching this channel and I love it for the first 40 min I am already so inspired by you . I am subscribed and I feel like this channel will help young and old women
My story would be I feel ugly in my face but I love my body and one of my friends doesn’t notice but she says little thing to me like your hair looks puffy and I already know that but she just added to my insucurady. Now I am working on being more positive
So good that you are talking about this!!!!
I looooooove this. Thank you thank you thank you keep talking about these issues!
Thank you, Amy!
I think your a wonderful person. Very pretty and great personality. So Amy thanks for your videos. 😊
"..and on top of that, I'm Korean" OH, DID I JUST FEEL THAT
I remember hiding under my desk in 3rd grade when I was named student of the week and my dance picture of me in a leotard was shown on the wall. I remember thinking that I was so fat and ugly and embarrassed. I just laughed it off with self deprecating humor. In 4th grade 2 boys made fun of my dress and during recess I tried taking the string that you tie behind and tied it around my waist as tight as possible. I couldn't breath and I had double knotted it. A teacher had to help me untie it so I could breathe.
I can’t help but think I look fat and it really bothers me, to the point where whenever I sit down, I put a pillow on my lap to cover up my stomach and thighs. I always switch my opinion on my body like one day I may thing I might need to workout but some other day I think my body looks great. Whenever I see someone skinnier then me, it just makes me more self conscious
I use to hate my stomach because it the location fat hits first it took a while for me to truly appreciate my body.
I have this things where I hate my calves. Idk why, but to me they seem huuuggeee. I don't like tot talk about it because I don't want to attract attention to it. But I once told my friends and they were so surprised about that I thought they were so huge. They said they were totally normal, not super skinny, but definitely not huge. That helped me a lot, having that outside view made me realize that I view my body completely differently from other people. So, I still don't like m calves, but I'm ok with it, I don't cover them with jeans all the time now.
Looking at it now, I do ballet, it's completely normal that my calves aren't super skinny. Of course it's the way my body is built, but my calves have no fat at all, it's the same with my thighs. No fat, it's all muscle, but I feel like my thighs look pretty nice because of that, they don't look fat, they look... Tight?
I do feel like I'm not skinny enough. I mean, I'm not even fat... I'm just not as skinny as I would want to be, but I'm pretty sure that if I'd be that skinny It'd be very unhealthy to be that skinny for me. I'm not built to be that skinny. I feel like my frame isn't tiny enough, I feel like my bust is too big, my hips are too wide. I can't even do anything about it, it just makes me feel bad.
i really needed to hear this. more than hear, but understand it. thank you.
That’s the hardest part!! What she said was so true, and original in her own way, but I’ve heard similar things before. I just need to incorporate what I’ve heard more
Mendi me too omg
I feel like I have to add that sex is not about finding each others body attractive, but about feeling attracted to the chemistry between each other. when there is not that chemistry, that vibe, the sex won't be as good. If he or she also looks good, it's a bonus. Won't deny that, haha!
love your videos so much, i started the morning pages because of you, and your videos always make me happy ❤️
I have been realyzing that some “little comments” that people do about your appearance affect us more than you expect (even if they don’t mean to). “Oh, you’re so skinny, you should eat more” or “you realize you’re getting bald?”. This comments are not little at all and they can affect someone internally more than we imagine. So, the best to do is really accept who you are and be happy, no one will love you more than yourself.
I’m so happy you made this video because I’ve been waiting for a while now to hear your wise words pertaining body image💗 love you Amy!! You’re a brutally soft woman!!
So relatable... thank you for being so open :)
damn you are extremely likeable AMY!!!!!!!
Love that top !! Beautiful on you !
So well spoken
You perfect Amy, keep on Rockinger!
THIS. Just this. It is what i needed to hear.