thank you for this. instead of being afraid they're cheating though, i'm afraid that their feelings will vanish eventually since we're not together in person..
Same bro and i kind of see it happening to me already. She doesnt send me messages no more. Makes me sad because I know she probably met someone in her country thats better then me. Its ok though not salty just sad.
@@biohazarddream710 u call her once a day? Cause remember, to much constant communication isn't that great like the video discribed. If you have meaningful conversation for at least an hour at minimum. Every other day. I think ur good man. I can relate though. My girl doesn't message me all the time. But I'm ok with it. Cause the times that I do have calls with her. Their meaningful
1) meaningful gift (teddy bear, nightlights, hoodies) 2) know their schedule 3) have trust 4) quality communication (instead of over texting try to have meaningful conversation) 5) make time to see each other 6) embrace the challenges together
To all the people in LDR... I wish you all a happy and easy LDR full of joy and great moments I hope you all manage to be with your soul mate and have a great life together
from someone who has been in a long distance relationship i may give u some tips: 1-Yes u can love someone even if u didn't see him in real life and are apart(not everyone tho) 2-don't be too harsh on them 3-Make time for each other and understand each others routine 4-give him/her love and affection and care 5-Don't let jealousy come between u too 6- Don't blame him/her that they are far away 7- when u meet tell them that u are in love with them.( When he did i felt relieved that my personnality didnt change between phone and real life) 8-Give each other a gift that he/she can wear everyday or look at everyday (jewelery/key chain/a parfume etc) 9-He/she got feelings too and he/she get the same doubt as you from time to time 10-Think about the future..where u both will ne finally together and plan it with each other it will give both of you confort SENDING ALL MY LOVE TO YOU GUYS AND REAL LOVE ALWAYS WIN
I'm in a ldr right now and I honestly did 8 of these I've never blame him for anything, I give him my love and care, we talk a lot and I've always talked to my friends about him and how amazing of a person he is and I've told him so many times that I'm so in love with him and he said the same too and we plan to meet each other someday💞💞💞
I’m in a long distance relationship while attending Med school. One of the most important elements of a successful relationship is that you need to be physically and emotionally well yourself rather than relying on your partner for love and attention to heal. You need two whole pieces to make a full piece of love.
I am so thankful for your comment. You're entirely right. I would also say that being emotionally and physically well is crucial not only in love, but generally during lifespan. At the end, we spend most of our lives with ourselves.
Ik this too well...Me and my LDR gf wanted to meet already like 5 times. Everytime she said things like ,,Something popped out" or ,,I forgot that...". I didn't go camping with a group of friends so we can meet and I was already on my way to where we planned to meet and suddenly she just texted me that she got grounded for supporting the pride parade. A week later she said that she couldn't come since she was at a hospital...so she lied to me. I have constant anxiety cause I think that maybe I'm not good enough for her
@@Karim-rf5go Depression sucks, I know. But think of it this way: Somewhere in this world, there's someone especially for you. Maybe even in the comments of this video. I hope you get through it soon, and if not, you can talk to me. I'm here :)
I’m in a distance relationship rn and it’s very hard to handle. But we’re both willing to put efforts into it and make it work. Trust and patience is the key💗
Jaz x I feel you. I’ve been together with my partner for 13 months almost 14 now. We’ve only seen each other for two days each time. Cuddles are the best though. You learn to appreciate them. 💓😭
1. Give them a personal gift to hold on to. 2. Set routines and learn about each others schedules 3. Build trust and try not to jump to conclusions, dont assume the worst 4. It's not about quantity but quality 5. Make time to visit. But know that not all visits will be ideal and that is ok 6. Embrace the challenges together
Me and my gf are in a LDR since a year and 3 months now...but 1. She didn't even give me an adress to where I can send her a gift 2. That's easy since we live in the same country, but different parts 3.I try not to, but she lied to me a lot of times 4.I try to talk with her but she always wants to rp. 5. We wanted to meet 5 times already but she always had an excuse not to come. And then on the next week she had another excuse totally different from the original one 6.I try everything to overcome those...but she always needs to go when I try to talk with her about them Do you guys think that this won't work out?...
Daijiro Bengoshi {quiet, assassin} Well, from what you’re saying, I think that the relationship sounds a little unhealthy. I really do suggest that you should try to talk about it and how you can make it better.
My boyfriend and I of almost 3 years have only been long distance for two weeks and he's coming back this weekend because the transition into college has been especially difficult for him and he's been having some doubts about the relationship because he's so stressed out. He sent me this video and said "I needed this bad. I need to call you tomorrow." here's to hoping he needed number 6 the most, and for a good conversation on the phone.
One tip: treat it like a real relationship at all times. Because it is. She's not just the person you have Skype dates with and then get back to your real life. She's a part of your real life. Talking to her, doing things with her (virtual), treat them as if she's there with you. Because emotionally she is, and you should be too. You're friends, family, colleagues, strangers should all know about her like she can walk into the room at anytime. My long distance relationship is tough, but I'm happy. And so is she. We'll be together again someday. Best of luck to all of you others going the distance!
Kim Santos pls tell me the answer for the Q i have my whole life long! So how often u guys talk to each other. Or do you guys have like a specific time that u guys talk? And u talk every day?
I’m in a distant relationship as well, it’s not easy I won’t lie, especially with insecurities. But the one thing I can say to make it better for someone reading this, is look at the small details about your partner. Know them very well so that if something happens you don’t always assume the worst.
6 Tips on Maintaining LDRs: 1. Give them a personal gift to hold onto. 2. Set routines & learn about each other's schedules. 3. Build trust & try not to jump to conclusions. 4. It's not about the quantity (how often you talk), it's about quality (quality communication). 5. Make time to see each other, but know that every visit may not be ideal, & that's okay. 6. Embrace the challenges together.
@@Meijibby hello! 🙂 No need to be shy because it's your partner. You have to learn how to be comfortable or to not be shy with each other. Otherwise, what's the point of being together, right?
One important thing is not to allow the opposite sex comes close to you. There is nothing like “just a friend” simply keep yourself busy and try as much a possible to keep away the opposite sex
One thing my boyfriend and I do is plan video chat dates and share the same meal but cooked our own unique ways. Then we surprise each other with how creative we got. It's exciting to see the effort we each put into our dishes, which translates into the effort we put into our relationship. It's fantastic! ❤️
@@monicakushwaha475 You can plan together to make the same dish, such as spaghetti or steak or whatever you both know you enjoy. It doesn't have to be prepared the exact same way--you could each add your own personal flare to it, and surprise each other with your creativity and ingenuity. You could even make completely different meals, and impress each other with your particular expertise. It is one way you can learn about the abilities and preferences of the other person, and have fun doing it. 😊
Key thing is communication. My partner and I have 1 scheduled phonecall a week where we only talk about our feelings and/or concerns that we may be having, decisions that may affect the other, etc etc. Then we have spontaneous phone calls during the week where we just talk about anything from our day at work to the dog next door. We do this because we found that when we didnt, we would be hiding the "heavy feelings" from each other cause we didn't want to ruin our phonecalls by making them sad and have the other person worry. Of course thats sprinkled w morning/hope your having a good day/miss you/thinking bout you etc texts in between
This is such genius advice, I love that! I really want to try this out with my guy, as the communication aspect and going deep is so important. Yet the lighter type of conversations are important too.
So guys my boo is 3yrs older than me and yes we're in LDR, I really love her so much and surely I wanna marry her one day♥️ i just need blessings from everyone. 😇♥️
Yea it’s hard for sure, but it’s literally the best thing ever. Not having your partner there physically sucks but the second you hear from them makes a world of difference. Also the building anticipation to see them is indescribable and possibly the greatest feeling of love ever. I love it 🥰
Am in a long distance relationship too and sometime I feel longing to always talk to him and some times I this feeling of suspicion him not picking or returning the call after some days and I need to still be the one to remind him please in this situation what will I do ?
That's how my relationship started just before the pandemic. We were fortunate enough to meet twice before lockdown but 2 of our planned trips got cancelled and now its just become too expensive to travel, but we're hopeful.
I think the best advice really is to have your own life and to find a partner who's passionate about theirs as well. Me and my partner are busy with our lives that whenever we get to talk we spend so much time because we know we love each other and are not obsessed with spending all day with each other because we prioritize ourselves too. If you treat your partner as a desert for your efforts and not your main course or appetizer, life changes so much. You can be straight forward with them and also not strangle them with expectations because that also ruins relationships. Once you expect someone to act a certain way to your favour and not based on facts it'll just destroy them because you didn't try to understand so you're just in a relationship with you the image in your head.
I needed to see this. I didn’t expect to find someone so amazing and being so far away. That was my past relationship’s mistakes and caught myself being more understanding and open minded.
When my boyfriend last visited, he gave me a necklace. I wear it every day and even sleep in it, and when I stress, I fiddle with it and it calms me down because I feel physically closer to him. I have him my most valuable stuffed animal, a purple stuffed leopard that has a pouch of lavender for stress relief. It was a gift from my grandparents when I went through a major surgery last summer. It comforted me, and now it comforts him! I even sprayed it with my perfume for an extra touch which he loved. I miss him so so much, but I find comfort in knowing that I’ll see him again soon. Actually, I see him at the end of December, and I’m super excited!
I'm in a long distance relationship and he lives all the way in new Jersey I'm a Brit so there is a 5 hr difference which kills us both. He got me a really beautiful necklace but it snapped and that broke me. Ever since it snapped I have been feeling so sad and anxious and alone. I still feel it there but when I go to play with it it's not.
I'm dating a girl for 1.5 years and I'm going away for a while to work... My flight is in 4 hours and I can't sleep. I feel absolutely horrible. I'll miss you babe This feeling is certainly crushing
Although you may be upset about your girlfriend, just know that you'll see her soon. In no time, you'll be able to hold her in your arms and the time spent apart will be worth it. Stay strong! 👍
@@mandyzp After 6 months I returned home to continue some unfinished studies. During our time apart we kept in constant contact and worked around the 4 hour time difference between us. We talked and watched lots of movies together in our free time. It actually helped us grow closer as a couple but personally I don't know if I could keep that up for years on end. I truly respect those who do long distance for several years.
It's not easy at first,I have been away for 1 and half years now from my boyfriend but the love is growing stronger everyday, 6 months remaining to go back home.
Y’all. The military is brutal on relationships. To all my military couples, you got this!! Remember why you fell for each other and remember your goals!
My boyfriend who’s a marine is getting out in four weeks and I’m so full of hope that it’s gonna be easier for us from now on even tho he’s gonna be even further away than now
Being in a LDR is tough, but doable. I'm now 2 years in one. Just the thought of how far we have come is motivation enough to look forward to many more memories. Our love for each other is bigger than the distance that separates us. To those in LDR', it usually gets tough before it gets easy. So hold on tight keep on growing together. Best of luck!!
Honestly, going long distance made our relationship way stronger and healthier than it was before. Now we’re getting married in a little over a month ❤️
So ive been dating an exchange student for about 7 months and she has to go back to Mexico (i live in the USA) in 2 days i feel crushed because the covid virus made the return unexpected I really love this girl and you give me hope that mabey we could end up together forever.
I am in a LDR and gotta say that this is very important. Especially about the balance between quantity and quality of talks. This is sometimes hard to accept, when you want to be in thouch with that person all the time and have nothing to talk about, but it's worth the effort.
I feel you sometimes I felt like we were saying the same things everyday “how was your day?” Blabla and I was afraid that he was bored about it too, long distance relationships are hard but if you truly love them I guess it’s worth it.
I'm currently in a long distance relationship and we just celebrated our 8th monthsary (virtual sadly) and everyday our relationship just keeps getting stronger. There are times that we argue but that's normal actually. The 3 top things we have to do in order to keep our relationship is by having the U.R.L. U- understanding If one doesn't have understanding then the relationship will go crazy and fall. R- respect Of course we have this, respect is really important (everybody probably knows why) L- love This is the reason why two people stayed together despite of any boundaries you are facing such as distance.
my girlfriend is in Minnesota and i’m in California but we broke ass college students somehow manage to see each other every few months. seeing everyone else’s replies on here really makes me feel like i have it easy. LDR is truly a beautiful thing bc it makes you appreciate every moment you have together.
I’m in Mississippi and my girlfriend is in Texas, we both work but somehow have managed to see each other every 3 months so far and have made it a promise to keep doing that. The promise of seeing each other every 3 months helps a lot
Ah, if only it was that nice. I moved to New York just recently and she lives in chile, so like, a 10 hour plane flight. I plan on going back for at most a month in the summer to visit, but idk how I'm going to do it. I really dont believe it will work out
I'm in georgia, my baby lives in alabama, and she is gonna be gone all summer, and can't FaceTime or call at night anymore. I know I'm gonna miss my best friend, but we've got our own activities, like playing chess online, and friendo! Its 78 days till she's home, but she does a show in Atlanta, in 61 days, so I'll see her soon!
My love and I are 3 years now and we are in a long distance relationship. We both found each other during the first hit of the pandemic and we are "PANDEMIC LOVERS" 🤭. In this long-distance relationship, we will experience lots of difficulties, arguments, fighting, and so on. But just like us (my love and I) choose each other and love each other. We don't know when and where or how we will able to see each other but we leave everything to God. We trust each other, I love him so much, and he made me happy each day. If you are in a long-distance relationship, Trust and believe in your partner. No matter what or no matter how it takes. Love your partner with all your heart and I know that waiting is worth it. ❤️
I've been in a long-distance relationship for 10 years. And all I have to say is Please Communicate your feelings. it's hard, but make it fun by playing couple quiz games like lovify. It kept our conversations interesting, especially on boring days. Never stop trying. Things will take time, but they'll work out in the end :)
@@rawmeseesoundsavvvy170 In initial days we too had lot's of issues. Wayyyyy lots, but with time and multiple breaks. Now our conflicts don't last more than 15 mins. It was hard but we have been through lots of tough conversations which we used to avoid initially.
I was about to study, but this video caught my attention. My princess, she lives 12,795 km away from me. We have been dating since 4/16/2020 I didn't expect my first relationship would be a long-distance I give her to her every day of every second, I'm planning to meet her within 3 years I hope she can wait for me. My birthday is coming up so I made a video for her to show her how much I love her can't wait to see her reactions. I will try to hold on to my partner no matter what happens 💪💗💖
I have been in the relationship for 4 years and we haven't still met 😅...but he is coming after 1 month and I am so excited to see him for the first time 😍
keshika thapa same 🥺 we are in a long distance relationship and we haven't met since 2 years but now we are fighting a lot and i don't know what to fo ? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I was and now married to my long distance relationship 😃 It can be daunting especially if your not from the same country. The most important thing is you need to decide what are the most important values for you and your partner, ie job over health care.
Noelle Watts 👍could give advice, i am now in a LDR relationships we are acquainted for more than a year, including our six months as a couple, it's very hard for me sometimes that she we are miles apart and couldn't even see her even video calling but our texting is constant every day, I've drawn everything encluding my soul because I love her, how will I know if she is true to me, we both a child and we accepted it, she is a military assign at war but on our conversation she promised me to leave her work soon she finish her contract with the Untied Nation.. What do I do,
He is in Tanzania and I’m in Canada. His values when we talk is family and his health but his actions speak differently. He is constantly working. No time for church or family and me . He says he loves me very much . I’m becoming lonely after 11 months and 3 tries of getting him a visa . He needs to prove to the government he has money for the travel, that he has a reason to go back to his home country ( his job or child or ill parents) He should have a clean criminal record, My guy was refused visa because he had never been outside his country his bank statements were not showing enough savings despite that I wrote that I will pay for his flight and accommodation.
This video triggered lots of tears. It's hard being apart. It reminded me of how much effort he puts in and the different ways in which he shows me he cares ❤
Me and my current girlfriend honestly can't stop talking to each other lol. Like we thought the same about getting burnt out but even when we have nothing to say on a call it's just nice having someone there. Plus we watch tons of videos and work on stuff together sharing hobbies etc.
Call me Toast Yeah exactly me and my BF is the same... Some days we won't have the most interesting conversations, but I also just like having him there, it kinda feels like when I'm at home and we're sitting in the living room doing each our thing... And watching series together is so fun, we're anime fans so a lot of stuff to see😁😁
I gotta say, I appreciate this comment thread. It's the same with my boyfriend. We're artists and sometimes we even work on our art deadlines on call, silently encouraging each other, going through the work together. That's only one example. I think it's soooo important to be able to feel comfortable in each other's silent company. It kinda gives a sense that you're naturally in sync. It's comforting.
That's really cool that that works for you guys! me and my boyfriend tried calling whilst working and doing other stuff but it just ended up with neither activity being done as well as if we had separated time to work and THEN time to talk
I've been in a really long distance relationship for over 4 years now and we are finally moving together in less than 2 months! My tip would be keep making plans together for when you'll be seeing each other, taking into consideration which date works the best for both of you. Life happens, specially when you have a job or you study, it's OK if you can't see each other in 4 months, just set a date to hold on to. And one more thing, think about when the distance will be over, decide where will you live, think when you roughly want it to happen. Going with the flow doesn't really work in this kind of relationships!
It must feel amazing to finally move in with her! I've been in a long distance relationship for over 2 and a half year and we were together before she left but finally seeing her again in my only dream! Hope everything is going amazing
I am currently in a long distance relationship and it is been over 8 months. I am studying at university in U.K. and my boyfriend is still in Lithuania studying. It is very hard to stay strong and go through my day knowing that he is very far away. I am trying to think positive and tell myself that it is going to be only a few years but is hard. We see each other rarely but for two weeks or more and still, it is not enough because up till now I saw him only two times. We love each other very much and we talk every day, we play games and watch movies or shows together at the same time while talking on Skype. We exchange pictures from time to time and most of them are silly ones :D To everyone that is going through long distance relationship, I can say that communication and honesty is a key as well as trusting one another and doing things together. Sometimes it may feel that the distance is not even there.
Thank you. I'm basically in the same scenario for about 5 months now and will be for at least 2 years. I try to keep positive and stay focused knowing that the struggle is only temporary and it will be worth it when we get back to each other. I wish you all the best of luck!
Thank you for your reply. I know that I am lucky to see him but next year will be way harder and I will try to survive but we might not see each other for a whole year. We both are going to have a hard year and some of my decisions will be very important and I still do not know what I am going to do. Also, I am afraid that I might lose him over my emotions and constant sadness. I am trying to not show him but he always notices if I am sad. But the thing is that I am only like this when we are apart when we are together I am always happy and smiling. So I just hope I am not going to lose him over my emotions and stupidity..
I'm from Lithuania too, but currently living in Germany. My girlfriend is from Singapore and we see each other every 2 months. We talk every single day for a few hours. There was no day when we didn't call each other. This kind of relationship is not easy, but it shows what true love is. I'm moving to Hong Kong in September and then we can see each other every month. I'm planning to marry my girl next year and then we can finally live togehter.
I am in a long distance relationship for nearly 3 years now. We live in different countries and can't visit each other so easily. Last time I could visit him was 2 years ago. But I trust him and we are looking forward to be together some day in the future :)
I met a man that's is so wonderful but we were talking it was true love fist we chat we spoken abut how we feel then he send video dirtiest video do u think we must go on with the relish ship I told him how I feel he said it OK he said he sorry I said I for give him because o love him that he's my world my life but he send a gain video so I not shore what must I do I am from East London he s over sea
But ldr till how long? I'm in an ldr and idk if he's planning to ever shift cities or anything :( so I'm not sure if all this effort is going to lead to anything :(
Started long distance relationship. Showing genuine interest how their day was, what they eat, showing that he/she is your priority. You are not physically with them, but in thoughts they are number 1.
my boyfriend and i talk daily and it feels good because it feels like we’re there together and talking about our day makes us feel closer! Almost like there’s no distance at all :)
I'm currently in a long distance relationship, and my bf plan on visiting in July after 11 months. The journey so far has been tough, exciting, and, well a bit challenging. Nothing good comes easy, and so its worth waiting for. And to those who are in a LDR please don't give up, hold on to your feelings and you won't regret it for as long as you are both trying. Xxx
Being in an LDR on this pandemic is so frustrating. Me and my boyfriend hadn't meet each other since we started because of the borders not opening for them to get inside our country. It's been a year now and we both had struggles and difficulties that it almost end our relationship but love binds us both and we keep holding on and praying and being hopeful for that one sweet day to finally see each other for the very first time.
Am facing thing too,he is in the U.S.A and am in Ghana. My mum thinks is already a year and have not set my eyes on him before so we should break up but we are strong for each other and focus with prayers things will work out for us
@@tabithathewholistic I know how that feels, for me it's the other way around..i am in Germany and he is in the USA..I wish you the best and that it works out for you two..i can't wait to meet my bf for the very first time..but til i can hold him in my arms, i will hold him in my heart..and hope he likes me in rl too..
currently in the same situation :(( we've been together for 8 months now and i am still hoping and wishing for the day that we will eventually meet irl will come as soon as possible.. it's so stressful to think about the future and it just made both of us insecure, asking questions like how much time do we have to face before meeting in person 😭 but we are working through it and we are hopeful to see each other once the pandemic dies down a bit and when there are very little travel restrictions.. i just don't want to be so old when i finally get to see him..
I hear all of you guys for sure! Apparently as of today we are trending towards "endemic status" and many mandates are being dropped globally, so let's cross our fingers and hope it's legit!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Never thought I would meet someone so far away- and won’t lie it could be as long as 3 years till we meet but- it’s been a bit over 6 months and man I love her so much. It’s so hard being so far from people who mean so much to you :(
Yeah it's true, I can say LDR makes relationships even more stronger.. We can experience each other everytime during chatting, in dreams everywhere and hope of meeting makes it more special
for anyone whos drifting apart from their ldr partner (like i am, known her for almost a year, only person who cares about me) from somebody with experience in long distance friendships, relationships etc, heres some advice from me 1) make them think about the positive things about you. say 'hey I really like my outfit and nobody is hyping me up. I kinda need it, can you maybe? :')' or 'omg I feel really confident today, look one min lemme send a pic'. if they don't hype you up or say that you look pretty, its gonna be difficult im sorry. 2) message them daily about your day, start to finish. they might ask questions and, when they respond, ask how theirs was. if they say 'it was okay' ask them for details, get them TALKING. that's important. 3) don't just like messages then wait for them to continue. DONT. WAIT. FOR. THEM. if they leave you on read or just like your message, start another conversation. 4) ask to call them. I personally have phone anxiety so, for the many years ive had online friendships/relationships, I don't call. but I think calling can be important. 5) tell them when ur crying. pity isn't usually the way but it can make them care for you. don't make up things and make your life seem worse than it is. that's plain lying. imma paste this on all videos like this. hope it helps
@emi jay first god bless u for trying to motivate some people but i think something else 1.If he/she leaves you on read dont try to start a new conversation probably he/she doesnt love you man 2.If he/she just text you with short txts like My day was good and doesnt ask you back,dont try to ask him or her for details I have been in ldr for 4 years and one day she decided to leave best advice if u guys face such problems RESPECT YOUR SELF you deserve better Have a nice day you all✌️
@@deaela783 yeah, I've been holding on for months and months. Thinking I could fix it and bring back to how it was before. But no, I just make it worse. Let go, before you lose yourself. Before the only love left between you will turn to hatred. Relationship can't go on one sidedly. If someone don't want you anymore, they don't at all. They will someday regret losing you. We get what we deserve always!
It’s hard after hitting that 4 year mark. The feeling of loneliness and depression is too strong. Even though I Love her to death. I feel like I’m dying inside slowly. I tried my best but love is a two way street. Thanks for the tips tho
@@stevenm6200 hey stranger, just know you can make it. youve come this far and were so proud of you. life is full of challenges but you can do it. look at it at a different angle, find a new perspective. just know that you can and will, make it. you are going to do amazing things!!
If you love each other, distance is not the reason for you to break up. Me and my boyfriend, are in a long distance, I mean not that really far, but during this pandemic, we can't see each other.. So we just chat everyday, and I can tell ya I really miss him like hell. Chats or calls are not enough for us. But even how much we missed each other, we can't do anything about it. And I told him that if how long this will lasts, there's nothing gonna change how I truly love him, even we're apart, I will stay consistent no matter what. Long distance in a relationship is a challenge. This will truly show how powerful your love is. Even the both of you are from the different world apart, if you love that person, he/she will stay in your heart forever.
I've been in a ldr for 2 years, we've met the first time when I was in korea for a vacation and we finally moved in together earlier this month, as i got a university near his place! :') we are engaged.
I am currently having a relationship with a girl from Germany and I live in Belgium. She is so lovely and worth every effort to see her. For us it's the little things that matter while still respecting eachother. We don't stalk eachother but we have meaningful, fun and lovely conversations. We even meet up in the middle and we even try to teach eachother our culture and language which is always fun. Sometimes it gets hard but we realize the thing that makes it hard is not being with eachother. We love eachother and we keep fighting for this to work and things are going steady as it is now. This video truly made me smile and I sent it to my girlfriend 😁
In a long distance relationship for almost 9 months and he will finally be here next week for good. I don't really believe LDR's could work but we did it. Through effort, patience, staying connected and being open to each other. Some things are really worth the wait To all the LDR couples out there, stay strong!
@@inyaaa_i love to hear it!!! You gave me, & my girl hope!! She’s only 4 hours away driving so, I picked her up the day after my comment, & she just flew back home today… I can’t really complain tho bc, you guys were literally in different countries!!
I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a year and we're doing great! it makes our relationship stronger, the hard part is that you have to explain to your family and friends about the relationship ^^;
I know the feeling...!! but knowing Gods plan for you in relationship is the only thing to hold unto ...am currently on it....before and after marriage!! And will love to share my expirence soon!!!
I’ve been in a LDR for about a year and some months. My first time meeting him my heart nearly skipped a beat because I knew and felt like I had met my best friend/true love. I honestly don’t have a problem with it me and my partner actually have came to an conclusion it is and will help us grow. We definitely try to see one another when we can which is helpful but when we separate we miss one another like crazy. I’ve had negative people in my ear about things but I know him and he knows me. What I’m basically saying is love on your person and continue to stand strong ❤️
Watching this vid and reading the comment section cheers me up, I think I'll be able to handle LDR better than before Thanks guys Edit: And stay strong guys to those who have LDR other than me
I ruined the best relationship I ever had (LDR) because we communicated too much. The tip on texting longer, more quality filled messages rather than short ones every minute is spot on.
1- personal gift memorable 2-learn about each other routine Know about his schedules 3-build trust not get conclusions soon 4-focus on quality not quantity 5-make time to see each other 5.1- do fun activities 6- embrace the challenges together 7-
Follow my boyfriend on Instagram, he'll be talking about our LDR, I'm Brazilian and he's American... he'll also talk about our goals, Q&A, show routine, give aways and many more things.⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️✔️✔️ @jacob.p.kruger Thank you for support us.
I try to avoid those thoughts that the majority of TH-camrs and comments convey. They say that in any way LDR is impossible doesn't matter if you are in them for 2 month or 10 years. Maybe some of that is true but it always depends on people and their personalities. I am quite sad being for 3 years in LDR and I don't want to give up on it just "to try sth else- what if it good" like my friends advice. My close friends say that it is a desperate thing but there is still something miraculous in LDR- awaited meetings, trips planning, mental bond that is just between you two when you are 3000 km away but chatting feels you as if he is just next to you. I just hope that waiting worth it.... I wish you all good luck and happy ending in such a complicated but worthwhile issue.
Hold on to that miraculous feeling. Some couples that live in the same city as their mate don’t have that. It may be different. It may be hard to get used to at times but it’s worth it.
Been in a LDR for 3 years now. This video was so lovely and reassuring, and I needed to hear that point about quality over quanitity. I've got so used to speaking every day and so frequently, but sometimes his job or my university schedule won't allow that, as a result I start to feel upset. I'm definitely going to work on myself more.
I feel like long distance can be really hard, but only because you miss your partner so much and it's hard to see them or talk to them as much as you would like. However, I think being able to connect on such a deep level without needing to physically be next to each other is a huge benefit. Especially if your love languages line up. My bf and I's top two are quality time and words of affirmation, which both can still be easily achieved through online communication. I love being able to talk to someone I find so interesting who can make me laugh my ass off and also take me down intellectual rabbit holes. At the same time it allows us time for ourselves to be independent and work towards our goals so we can one day close the gap in our long distance relationship :)
I am in a distance relationship and I can say that is the best thing in my life. Distance showed me how my boyfriend really cared and how strong his feelings are (the same for me). We do have schedules and small talks when we have time given that we study most of the day. Our relationship is stronger than ever and I have never had such a stabke bond with someone. We managed to be friends and lovers even at a certain distance. If you really love your partner you do everything. You can live your life and enjoy what is in front of you. It's not virtual because you know you'll only have to wait until the time has come to hug your love again. It's a combination of patience, attention and a lot of empathy. The feelings are real and even though it is hard, because you miss him/her just think about all the tranquility, peace, fun, empathy, care, love and strenght that person gives you. It works for me. (I live in London and my boyfriend in Rome)
I'm 19 and I'm really inlove with someone far away from me. We haven't seen each other in real life. We were friends for almost a year through this game (codm). We've been through a lot when we were just friends. We are comfortable with each other. I don't know when did I realize that I love him. He makes me feel assured. He is the first man that I love and I will love. The part that I really love about him is he talks about the future and includes me with it. Like "someday, when we get married, we'll build this house.... I will work hard for our family..." He is also looking forward to seeing me. I'm from Philippines, he's in Luzon and I'm from Mindanao. I am here watching this video to learn and to be a good lover. I know my love is an enough reason for me to love him fully. But I am not forgetting the fact that our relationship will never be perfect, but I will just trust him, trust myself and trust God.
As long as that person is welding to wait for you No matter how long it takes To see you And trust each other And keep your relationship strong Even for a far distance relationship There's nothing that can break As long as you guys Just have faith And are willing to Have that communication with each other
I think about it like this: I first make sure that I am happy and cheerful in my own life, doing things with friends and family to keep myself in a good mood. Cuz then when I text him, I can maybe spread that happiness to him and cheer him up too💖
I love seeing these couples who claim to be in a LDR because of the quarantine- I'm already in a long distance relationship (nothing happened at all to my relationship lol) so it's really funny to see all these people and just go "this your first time?"
I have been in a long distance relationship with a man I think of as my soulmate for almost three years. Honestly, this is one of the best relationships I've ever had. We are incredibly close even though we have never met and we have not had a single hiccup that we could not overcome. I recommend you communicate because not all perfect mates are within waking distance. We are 1,000+ miles apart, but we have made it work this long and that means others can too. We plan on meeting soon and after that maybe getting married if we are both certain. It's possible. Don't give up in this sort of relationship because, if the distance is far enough, know that they are worth that tenfold and so are you. Good luck to everyone who is dating long distance and please let me know if you have any questions. I'm always happy to help.
i'm currently in long distance relationship for about a year, first we were hectic and often jumped to conclusions but now we're stable. we call every single day for 4+ hours. I know it's a little bit too much and may backfire but it just suits us well. When we get bored of the same lifestyle we calmly tell each other that we're starting to get bored and take phone call breaks for a day or two, it works! And my advice is let your partner know that you're not cheating by telling them first about your day or schedule before your partner asks about it. Asking each and everytime is tiring for your partner and makes them think that they're being annoying and starts hiding their insecurities, this breaks down the calm relationship and stirs fights. Cheers! PS: my GF is not the same nationality as me :) If you need advice on this point ask me about it.
That's what I did yesterday asked my bfs schedule so I'd know when I can chat with him and call him. Got him an birthday present yesterday and he was so extra cute about it I loved it. Such an handsome sweet Argentinian man. Freaking love him so much. Haven't felt like this in years.
My girlfriend lives in another country and we have never seen each other in person....so this was quite relatable to me, except here you're assuming the couple have met face to face before
Team APA I have recently broken up with my long distance bf due to...absence in speaking and when we did it wasn’t even a quality time (as the video said) I felt like he and I needed something better considering the fact we have never met. But I do agree that they were assuming that people have met and then became long distance. It would have been more relatable if they made it from someone of your or I perspective
I fell in love with a girl online, and we both confessed to each other last night. She is on the other side of the country, but I feel so close to her through the things we enjoy together, like writing and drawing. I will say we fell in love at an inconvenient time 😅 with the quarantine and the fact that we are both starting college soon. Life is changing so fast but we still found each other. I don’t know what will happen, but I know I don’t want to let her go.
@@Satan666Official still together! And I’m finally going to meet her in person on July 13! It’s been a wonderful, crazy, emotional year, and I’m so glad she has been there with me through it all :)
I just started mine. Honestly, they make me a bit scared because I don't know if my partner would cheat on me, there's never a way to know it, so I'm always paranoid or sensitive... :(
Maybe everyone will brain wash you like, “how do you know if he is not, how do you know where he is or what he is doing right now” kind of. But girl you do trust him and believed that you can pass this time together. So be confident!
These are some great tips and I was doing this even before finding this video. Honestly me and my BF got even more bonded and closer together with long distance then what we would've if we dated regularly. Bcs we have an honest relationship and I can always tell him if something is bothering me or if I'd like him to put in more effort and he actually listens. So when we do meet and see each other in person it won't be awkward cus we've talked for so long now and basically know everything about each other. The only thing that's really hard is sometimes I feel lonely and really wanna be in his arms but he's far away but I know we will be together for good one day. It is our destiny.
18 months, I'm in high school and her parents are strict. Her parents don't wanna take the risk, but imma boutta break into her house and sneak her out at this point, she said she's down 😂
@@boxmeme8010 this girl just really broke my heart yesterday she was my first ever girlfriend, I did so fucking much for her and she did a break up prank on me, I did one to her to get her back she ended it....
The timing is perfect. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two months now and he's planning to visit during summer vacation... I'm a super anxious person and jump to conclusions quickly but I've talked to him about it and he's so sweet and understanding. I'm incredibly happy and can't wait to see him. The only thing I'm worried about is how I'm going to tell my parents, it's not like they're super strict but I'm scared they might not take us seriously. (plus I'm glad we "only" live 5 hours apart, by car)
I'm in the exact same situation 🤣 two months together, and he will come to me on summer...the only thing is that he lives in spain and i live in serbia, so the distance is relatively big
I’m in a LDR with my GF. She lives in Georgia and I live in Louisiana. I go down there to visit here at least twice(some months only once) a month for 2-4 days. Our year anniversary is coming up. It’s not that hard being in a LDR for us because we both exactly alike and we both know we want each other for life. We both agree we are each other soulmates. We only six hours away(driving) from one another. It’s not that bad if I just wanted to see her for the day I’ll just drive in the early morning. Get there around 12. Leave around 6 and be back home at 12. I see some people saying that the person they in a LDR with is their soulmate, well If you really believe that then you should be fine. TIPS 1-Always make time. I usually talk to her for most of the day and text for the other 2- Humor. Making someone laugh goes a long way 3- Talk with their family. This one was actually hard for me. Her family approach me first but it makes things easier 4- If you can go see them once a month. 5- When you finally do see them leave something with them and take one of their possessions. Somethings that means a lot to them. I took my GF bracelet and her necklace her late grandma gave her. If y’all have any questions y’all want to ask about me and GF relationship or any advice y’all need just comment. I will reply.
Thank you for this. I’m heading into a LDR with my girl of 4 months. It took us both by extreme surprise and I’m just so hurt atm. Not sure how everything will pan out and I’m scared but I know she is worth it. Any advice? I can’t help but feel so anxious for the future… thanks
My first healthy relationship has been the long distance one I am in now! It has been hard but so worth it! We are almost one and half years and growing strong!!
me and my partner have been in a ldr for a year (one more month till it’s over!) and we have two scheduled face time “dates” each week and we always look forward to them so much. one thing we noticed is that we have had some really deep conversations and learned so much about each other’s thoughts and opinions on different things - and we really believe it would’ve taken double or even triple the time to have had some of the conversations we’ve had if we weren’t ldr. when we weren’t ldr, we’d take shared time together more for granted, or we’d do stuff together or just make out lol. but being ldr, during these designated times together, we’d put our things down and just talk and listen each other. it’s helped us really learn more about each other and also given us space to grow individually. we’ve talked about emotional, political, spiritual, super personal topics, our aspirations, our goals, our fears, etc. with each other and i really dont think we would’ve reached this level of non-physical closeness w/o being in a ldr. there is emotional/spiritual/intellectual intimacy that you can reach with a partner beyond just physical intimacy and i feel like people don’t really talk about that! i know physical intimacy has given me a false idea of how close i am with someone in the past, so it’s been a blessing to grow so intimately with someone in different ways and also have time to root myself in my community and friends (your community does not = your partner!!) in so many ways, ldr has taught me patience, healthy boundaries, and a better understanding of love, and i am super thankful. this was SO long SORRY but i just wanted to say this bc i know ldrs aren’t easy, but they can be beautiful !
One tip I can give, is to make your partner feel like you're there by constantly supporting them and be part of their life as if you never leaved. People won't remember what you do, they will remember how you made them feel.
We've been in a long distance relationship for over 3 years, with over 8400km between us. I can say for sure it's not easy but I am here to tell you that it's worth the pain to get that time with them. Keep fighting. We have to wait over one year to see each other but it's definitely possible
how to deal with insecurities, im feeling really anxious and feeling like we are drifting but he is gettin on with work but im really anxious and insecure anyway and i feel like hes more focused on work and not me.
@@Jasiibuu yeah we always try to call once a day and send messages so the other person feels like they're spending their day with you. Sending photos of what you're doing and checking in on each other ☺️
@@laaaaaaaa533 sorry to hear that 😢 it's really tough when someone is busy with work and you feel you're drifting. Try planning in some time to do something together like watch a film at a certain time each day you know you're both free. If you've communicated this anxiety and they don't make the effort to keep in contact, maybe it's time to think you deserve someone who will do this for you. Best of luck x
0:25 It all boils to one word effort 0:35 Give them a personal gift 0:55 Schedule 1:35 Trust 2:10 Quality communication 2:50 Make time to see each other 3:30 Embrace the challeges together 3:50 Long distance is temporary 4:05 Common misconception: In order for things to work I need to sacrifice my needs and desires for my partner/don't forget the bigger picture, why you've stayed with your partner for this long
been with my boyfriend for 4 months and it might takes us one or two years to see each other in person, i get so excited whenever i think about it! im in south asia and hes in america we have 16 hours difference which sucks but it makes us even more cherish every seconds we have together:)
omg me too! I'm from south east asia and my boyfriend's from america. we've been together for only about a month and a half and we've already made many plans for the future. the soonest we'll be able to meet is in about 3 years. good luck to you and your boyfriend!
I failed twice in LDR. Even still, there were good memories, and they were good partners who taught me many great things in life. If anyone who is in one I wish them the best, either to have things work out, or learn from them.
I struggle to upload once a week and you guys are uploading 1 video per day lol. I admire the hustle though, you guys never cease to come up with creative videos. Keep it up :)
So the 6 tips of kong dist. Relationship are: 1. Give them a personal gift to hold on to 2. Set routines and learn about each other's schedule 3. Build trust and try not to jump to conclusions 4. It's not about quantity, it's about quality 5. Make time to see each other, but know that every visit may not be ideal, and that's ok 6. Embrace the challenges together ❤️💙
I have been in a relationship twice and both LDR, while the previous one was a lot of effort and taxing and emotionally draining, my current one is so much more incredible in every way. Cut to the chase, it is all about the person you are with, be with someone who makes efforts for you, respects you. I have never been happier as of now. ❤️ Love to every LDR couple
Happy Monday everyone! Are you in a long distance relationship?
Yeah, I am. ^^
I am!
Psych2Go i was🤷🏽♂️
How was it? =)
Hopefully soon!! But probably not cuz she's straight...😟
thank you for this. instead of being afraid they're cheating though, i'm afraid that their feelings will vanish eventually since we're not together in person..
If they love you, it wont become like that
Same bro and i kind of see it happening to me already. She doesnt send me messages no more. Makes me sad because I know she probably met someone in her country thats better then me. Its ok though not salty just sad.
BIOHAZARD DREAM try your best to not feel like that; if it’s true love it will work; just focus on you for now
@@estherdurin Yeah ive been trying to keep my head above the water but it tough man. Really have a lot of feeling for this girl.
@@biohazarddream710 u call her once a day? Cause remember, to much constant communication isn't that great like the video discribed. If you have meaningful conversation for at least an hour at minimum. Every other day. I think ur good man. I can relate though. My girl doesn't message me all the time. But I'm ok with it. Cause the times that I do have calls with her. Their meaningful
I never thought my first relationship would be a long distance relationship but I’m not complaining💕💕
same
Same xD
Same
omfggg same!!
How long?
To all LDR couples like us STAY STRONG.....STAY STRONG
SIOMAI [XR] my GF lives on another continent. I went to visit my fam there and met her now we are in a ldr
we can do this!!
SIOMAI [XR] Yes🙌🏽
Thank you
💪🏼i just saw my boyfriend for the first time 3 days ago and he lives about 2 hours away from me
1) meaningful gift (teddy bear, nightlights, hoodies)
2) know their schedule
3) have trust
4) quality communication (instead of over texting try to have meaningful conversation)
5) make time to see each other
6) embrace the challenges together
My bf and I have done 5 out of the 6, but we’re planning the last one after I graduate high school 😊
Thank you!
On point
What if your girlfriend calls you controlling for wanting to know their schedule
@@Andrewgarrett218 Explain her your reason as to why you want to know her schedule
To all the people in LDR... I wish you all a happy and easy LDR full of joy and great moments
I hope you all manage to be with your soul mate and have a great life together
i ll just start one . wish me luck
aw thnx
Thx...I also hope this will work out...it's going ,,meh" since a year tho
Thank you. Hope you somebody to be with if you don’t have one if you do then I hope you guys the best of luck
nais noko thank you fam 🙏🏽
Me and my boyfriend literally make ourselves cry with laughter for 3 hours, I think that’s pretty quality to me 💕💕
You guys call everyday or occasionally?
Heyy Boo as much as we can, on average 3 times a week
@@fnaf2ventnoise330 damn I call mine everyday, but I always make her upset so here I am trying to get better for her 😓
@@Glastrie lucky, i wish mine would do that quite honestly..
@@Seekiepee i would like to know more as to why you wanna do it
from someone who has been in a long distance relationship i may give u some tips:
1-Yes u can love someone even if u didn't see him in real life and are apart(not everyone tho)
2-don't be too harsh on them
3-Make time for each other and understand each others routine
4-give him/her love and affection and care
5-Don't let jealousy come between u too
6- Don't blame him/her that they are far away
7- when u meet tell them that u are in love with them.( When he did i felt relieved that my personnality didnt change between phone and real life)
8-Give each other a gift that he/she can wear everyday or look at everyday (jewelery/key chain/a parfume etc)
9-He/she got feelings too and he/she get the same doubt as you from time to time
10-Think about the future..where u both will ne finally together and plan it with each other it will give both of you confort
SENDING ALL MY LOVE TO YOU GUYS AND REAL LOVE ALWAYS WIN
11-TALK AND COMMUNICATE IT'S NOT THAT HARD IF U ARE SUSPICIOUS ABOUT SMTG JUST ASK
I'm in a ldr right now and I honestly did 8 of these I've never blame him for anything, I give him my love and care, we talk a lot and I've always talked to my friends about him and how amazing of a person he is and I've told him so many times that I'm so in love with him and he said the same too and we plan to meet each other someday💞💞💞
Love this! 💕🌸
Seriously, thank you so much. I really needed this
@@asmaanaji8806 how long can the talking go per day?
I’m in a long distance relationship while attending Med school. One of the most important elements of a successful relationship is that you need to be physically and emotionally well yourself rather than relying on your partner for love and attention to heal. You need two whole pieces to make a full piece of love.
I am so thankful for your comment. You're entirely right. I would also say that being emotionally and physically well is crucial not only in love, but generally during lifespan. At the end, we spend most of our lives with ourselves.
That last sentence I was told in therapy 😢. In a LDR too. Mine is tog not really long but we don’t meet often, it sucks😢😢
disagree
Thank you for this... I needed it
Im currently in a long distance relationship, and anxiety kills my everyday.
Maybe it isnt for you sweetheart think about it 💖
@@sarag.4562 I'm sick of being alwayse depressed and I just want to find someone who I can trust and deeply love...
Ik this too well...Me and my LDR gf wanted to meet already like 5 times. Everytime she said things like ,,Something popped out" or ,,I forgot that...". I didn't go camping with a group of friends so we can meet and I was already on my way to where we planned to meet and suddenly she just texted me that she got grounded for supporting the pride parade. A week later she said that she couldn't come since she was at a hospital...so she lied to me. I have constant anxiety cause I think that maybe I'm not good enough for her
@@Karim-rf5go Depression sucks, I know. But think of it this way: Somewhere in this world, there's someone especially for you. Maybe even in the comments of this video. I hope you get through it soon, and if not, you can talk to me. I'm here :)
migoy I feel you. My girlfriend just left last week and it’s been hard on me.
I’m in a distance relationship rn and it’s very hard to handle. But we’re both willing to put efforts into it and make it work. Trust and patience is the key💗
So well said!
How do u do it
Me too ......
Same here
@@Psych2go na I have been single for a while
I trust my lil babyboy, but it’s so hard not being able to give him endless cuddles and kisses ;(
right? ;(
Facts
Same here :(
Yeaah right!
Jaz x I feel you. I’ve been together with my partner for 13 months almost 14 now. We’ve only seen each other for two days each time. Cuddles are the best though. You learn to appreciate them. 💓😭
1. Give them a personal gift to hold on to.
2. Set routines and learn about each others schedules
3. Build trust and try not to jump to conclusions, dont assume the worst
4. It's not about quantity but quality
5. Make time to visit. But know that not all visits will be ideal and that is ok
6. Embrace the challenges together
Thank u
Me and my gf are in a LDR since a year and 3 months now...but
1. She didn't even give me an adress to where I can send her a gift
2. That's easy since we live in the same country, but different parts
3.I try not to, but she lied to me a lot of times
4.I try to talk with her but she always wants to rp.
5. We wanted to meet 5 times already but she always had an excuse not to come. And then on the next week she had another excuse totally different from the original one
6.I try everything to overcome those...but she always needs to go when I try to talk with her about them
Do you guys think that this won't work out?...
Daijiro Bengoshi {quiet, assassin} Well, from what you’re saying, I think that the relationship sounds a little unhealthy. I really do suggest that you should try to talk about it and how you can make it better.
Thx for the tip. Who knows, maybe it will be something
My boyfriend and I of almost 3 years have only been long distance for two weeks and he's coming back this weekend because the transition into college has been especially difficult for him and he's been having some doubts about the relationship because he's so stressed out. He sent me this video and said "I needed this bad. I need to call you tomorrow." here's to hoping he needed number 6 the most, and for a good conversation on the phone.
One tip: treat it like a real relationship at all times. Because it is. She's not just the person you have Skype dates with and then get back to your real life. She's a part of your real life. Talking to her, doing things with her (virtual), treat them as if she's there with you. Because emotionally she is, and you should be too. You're friends, family, colleagues, strangers should all know about her like she can walk into the room at anytime.
My long distance relationship is tough, but I'm happy. And so is she. We'll be together again someday.
Best of luck to all of you others going the distance!
Thank you!♡♡ And I hope y'all are in each others arms someday.
We're 5 years long distance as of now. He's visiting my country every year.
That is so great
What countries you both are in
Is this a relationship?
Kim Santos pls tell me the answer for the Q i have my whole life long! So how often u guys talk to each other. Or do you guys have like a specific time that u guys talk? And u talk every day?
Kim Santos good on ya! I wish you two the best :)
This actually gives me a lot of hope. My boyfriend is looking at schools in Europe. I live in the US.
I’m in a distant relationship as well, it’s not easy I won’t lie, especially with insecurities. But the one thing I can say to make it better for someone reading this, is look at the small details about your partner. Know them very well so that if something happens you don’t always assume the worst.
Yeahh thanks small things matter.
6 Tips on Maintaining LDRs:
1. Give them a personal gift to hold onto.
2. Set routines & learn about each other's schedules.
3. Build trust & try not to jump to conclusions.
4. It's not about the quantity (how often you talk), it's about quality (quality communication).
5. Make time to see each other, but know that every visit may not be ideal, & that's okay.
6. Embrace the challenges together.
@@Meijibby hello! 🙂 No need to be shy because it's your partner. You have to learn how to be comfortable or to not be shy with each other. Otherwise, what's the point of being together, right?
Trusfrated lol seriously
One important thing is not to allow the opposite sex comes close to you. There is nothing like “just a friend” simply keep yourself busy and try as much a possible to keep away the opposite sex
Ugh I made the 3 one mistake few times 🥲
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One thing my boyfriend and I do is plan video chat dates and share the same meal but cooked our own unique ways. Then we surprise each other with how creative we got. It's exciting to see the effort we each put into our dishes, which translates into the effort we put into our relationship. It's fantastic! ❤️
This is so cute I’m definitely gonna try this with him
I and my boyfriend try this but it doesn't happened like we plan
Since he's busy with work most times
But we do have game nights
That’s so sweet.. what kind of dates you guys plan? Need some ideas please
@@monicakushwaha475 You can plan together to make the same dish, such as spaghetti or steak or whatever you both know you enjoy. It doesn't have to be prepared the exact same way--you could each add your own personal flare to it, and surprise each other with your creativity and ingenuity. You could even make completely different meals, and impress each other with your particular expertise. It is one way you can learn about the abilities and preferences of the other person, and have fun doing it. 😊
This is harder when there is like a major time difference but thank you for the advice I think this a cute idea that I have never tried.
Key thing is communication. My partner and I have 1 scheduled phonecall a week where we only talk about our feelings and/or concerns that we may be having, decisions that may affect the other, etc etc. Then we have spontaneous phone calls during the week where we just talk about anything from our day at work to the dog next door. We do this because we found that when we didnt, we would be hiding the "heavy feelings" from each other cause we didn't want to ruin our phonecalls by making them sad and have the other person worry. Of course thats sprinkled w morning/hope your having a good day/miss you/thinking bout you etc texts in between
Interesting point!
A very good advice and I liked your idea!
Thank you
Thanks
This is such genius advice, I love that! I really want to try this out with my guy, as the communication aspect and going deep is so important. Yet the lighter type of conversations are important too.
the positivity in the comments
So guys my boo is 3yrs older than me and yes we're in LDR, I really love her so much and surely I wanna marry her one day♥️ i just need blessings from everyone. 😇♥️
So sweet
KingAmorProductions Imvu awh ship
@@StarMadeSwervo I'm 12 and my boyfriend is 15, online relationship :)
I wish all of us good luck!! I'm also in a LDR. We all know we want to marry our partner one day.
Lots of love from India Bhai❣️
Yea it’s hard for sure, but it’s literally the best thing ever. Not having your partner there physically sucks but the second you hear from them makes a world of difference. Also the building anticipation to see them is indescribable and possibly the greatest feeling of love ever. I love it 🥰
True!!!!💖
When you finally see them it's insane
Yup
Am in a long distance relationship too and sometime I feel longing to always talk to him and some times I this feeling of suspicion him not picking or returning the call after some days and I need to still be the one to remind him please in this situation what will I do ?
just hear from them make my day or night so much better
You also have to consider relationships that started online with the intention to eventually meet at some point in the future.
@Sarah Isaac I'm sorry but I am SO CONFUSED!! Are you tryna start some marketing scheme or something?
I'm in the same situation rn
@@Feziboy ignore them. It's just scammers trying to steal your money
Huh
That's how my relationship started just before the pandemic. We were fortunate enough to meet twice before lockdown but 2 of our planned trips got cancelled and now its just become too expensive to travel, but we're hopeful.
I think the best advice really is to have your own life and to find a partner who's passionate about theirs as well. Me and my partner are busy with our lives that whenever we get to talk we spend so much time because we know we love each other and are not obsessed with spending all day with each other because we prioritize ourselves too. If you treat your partner as a desert for your efforts and not your main course or appetizer, life changes so much. You can be straight forward with them and also not strangle them with expectations because that also ruins relationships. Once you expect someone to act a certain way to your favour and not based on facts it'll just destroy them because you didn't try to understand so you're just in a relationship with you the image in your head.
Thanka man for this realization. Badly need this.
I needed to see this. I didn’t expect to find someone so amazing and being so far away. That was my past relationship’s mistakes and caught myself being more understanding and open minded.
thank you bro, really really needed this
Best advice
I needed this. I think I have high expectations and I’m putting a weight on my LDR bf. Thank you
When my boyfriend last visited, he gave me a necklace. I wear it every day and even sleep in it, and when I stress, I fiddle with it and it calms me down because I feel physically closer to him. I have him my most valuable stuffed animal, a purple stuffed leopard that has a pouch of lavender for stress relief. It was a gift from my grandparents when I went through a major surgery last summer. It comforted me, and now it comforts him! I even sprayed it with my perfume for an extra touch which he loved. I miss him so so much, but I find comfort in knowing that I’ll see him again soon. Actually, I see him at the end of December, and I’m super excited!
Am happy for you and your boyfriend. Am about to enter into LDR and I think it will be the most beautiful thing that will happen to us
@zumzy u No.
for my last birthday that was a few months into our relationship she gave me an old ring of her, ive worm it everyday since 😍
i hope i see my guy soon 🥺
I'm in a long distance relationship and he lives all the way in new Jersey I'm a Brit so there is a 5 hr difference which kills us both.
He got me a really beautiful necklace but it snapped and that broke me.
Ever since it snapped I have been feeling so sad and anxious and alone.
I still feel it there but when I go to play with it it's not.
I'm dating a girl for 1.5 years and I'm going away for a while to work... My flight is in 4 hours and I can't sleep. I feel absolutely horrible. I'll miss you babe
This feeling is certainly crushing
Although you may be upset about your girlfriend, just know that you'll see her soon. In no time, you'll be able to hold her in your arms and the time spent apart will be worth it. Stay strong! 👍
you are in each others hearts and beings.. and in there.. there is no distance and no time
UPDATE ?
@@mandyzp After 6 months I returned home to continue some unfinished studies.
During our time apart we kept in constant contact and worked around the 4 hour time difference between us. We talked and watched lots of movies together in our free time.
It actually helped us grow closer as a couple but personally I don't know if I could keep that up for years on end. I truly respect those who do long distance for several years.
It's not easy at first,I have been away for 1 and half years now from my boyfriend but the love is growing stronger everyday, 6 months remaining to go back home.
Y’all. The military is brutal on relationships. To all my military couples, you got this!! Remember why you fell for each other and remember your goals!
My boyfriend who’s a marine is getting out in four weeks and I’m so full of hope that it’s gonna be easier for us from now on even tho he’s gonna be even further away than now
ok boomer
@@clarimar108 stfu zoomer
@@user-pr6gn2un8z damn, I’ve never seen a more boomer reply in my life
@@clarimar108 whatever you say so
Being in a LDR is tough, but doable. I'm now 2 years in one. Just the thought of how far we have come is motivation enough to look forward to many more memories. Our love for each other is bigger than the distance that separates us.
To those in LDR', it usually gets tough before it gets easy. So hold on tight keep on growing together. Best of luck!!
How did it work out?
Have you got to met each other already?
Honestly, going long distance made our relationship way stronger and healthier than it was before. Now we’re getting married in a little over a month ❤️
So ive been dating an exchange student for about 7 months and she has to go back to Mexico (i live in the USA) in 2 days i feel crushed because the covid virus made the return unexpected I really love this girl and you give me hope that mabey we could end up together forever.
little_pappa junior I’m so sorry to hear that! Just remember the harder the goodbye, the better your reunion will be!
Thank you for that. I’m so scared for this transition and that made me happy to hear.
Chloe Nepinsky it’s honestly really hard but look as it as an opportunity to get better for each other
congrats
so who's here after the coronavirus quarantine started? 😢
Yup. I miss my SO.
yup
@@tseries6622 yes
mhm
Sucks soooo much
I am in a LDR and gotta say that this is very important. Especially about the balance between quantity and quality of talks. This is sometimes hard to accept, when you want to be in thouch with that person all the time and have nothing to talk about, but it's worth the effort.
Agatha what does LDR mean?
NoCopyright Mix
It stands for Long Distance Relationship
I feel you sometimes I felt like we were saying the same things everyday “how was your day?” Blabla and I was afraid that he was bored about it too, long distance relationships are hard but if you truly love them I guess it’s worth it.
Maude Jourdain you're right
I agree u with this, most of the time you wanted to talk so much with things but ended up thinking your partner not interested at all too.
I'm currently in a long distance relationship and we just celebrated our 8th monthsary (virtual sadly) and everyday our relationship just keeps getting stronger. There are times that we argue but that's normal actually. The 3 top things we have to do in order to keep our relationship is by having the U.R.L.
U- understanding
If one doesn't have understanding then the relationship will go crazy and fall.
R- respect
Of course we have this, respect is really important (everybody probably knows why)
L- love
This is the reason why two people stayed together despite of any boundaries you are facing such as distance.
❤️❤️❤️
my girlfriend is in Minnesota and i’m in California but we broke ass college students somehow manage to see each other every few months. seeing everyone else’s replies on here really makes me feel like i have it easy. LDR is truly a beautiful thing bc it makes you appreciate every moment you have together.
ayee i’m in mn and my gf is in florida
I am in a long distance relationship we have been talking a year,he stays in england,and u stay in the United states,we met on Facebook.
I’m in Mississippi and my girlfriend is in Texas, we both work but somehow have managed to see each other every 3 months so far and have made it a promise to keep doing that. The promise of seeing each other every 3 months helps a lot
Im gonna see her again next 1 year and 8 months😐 but damn we have a strong bond😍
Ah, if only it was that nice. I moved to New York just recently and she lives in chile, so like, a 10 hour plane flight. I plan on going back for at most a month in the summer to visit, but idk how I'm going to do it. I really dont believe it will work out
I have a boyfriend in Oklahoma.
I live in Texas.
*_ROAD TRIP_*
graphic organizer :0!! i have a girlfriend in north carolina
i live in o k l a h o m a
*_ALSO ROAD TRIP_*
ven i have a boyfriend in North Carolina and I live in California.
*H E L L A R O A D T R I P*
Isabelle Gonzales I have a girlfriend in Arizona and I live in Louisiana
*MIGHTY ROAD TRIP*
I'm in georgia, my baby lives in alabama, and she is gonna be gone all summer, and can't FaceTime or call at night anymore. I know I'm gonna miss my best friend, but we've got our own activities, like playing chess online, and friendo! Its 78 days till she's home, but she does a show in Atlanta, in 61 days, so I'll see her soon!
I live in Texas , my boyfriend lives in Korea. 😭
My love and I are 3 years now and we are in a long distance relationship. We both found each other during the first hit of the pandemic and we are "PANDEMIC LOVERS" 🤭. In this long-distance relationship, we will experience lots of difficulties, arguments, fighting, and so on. But just like us (my love and I) choose each other and love each other. We don't know when and where or how we will able to see each other but we leave everything to God. We trust each other, I love him so much, and he made me happy each day.
If you are in a long-distance relationship, Trust and believe in your partner. No matter what or no matter how it takes. Love your partner with all your heart and I know that waiting is worth it. ❤️
I've been in a long-distance relationship for 10 years. And all I have to say is Please Communicate your feelings. it's hard, but make it fun by playing couple quiz games like lovify. It kept our conversations interesting, especially on boring days. Never stop trying. Things will take time, but they'll work out in the end :)
10 years 👀⁉️ It's been just almost 2 years for me and I'm struggling to keep the relationship together.
@@rawmeseesoundsavvvy170 In initial days we too had lot's of issues. Wayyyyy lots, but with time and multiple breaks. Now our conflicts don't last more than 15 mins. It was hard but we have been through lots of tough conversations which we used to avoid initially.
10 years? How often to you see each other in person?
I was about to study, but this video caught my attention. My princess, she lives 12,795 km away from me. We have been dating since 4/16/2020 I didn't expect my first relationship would be a long-distance I give her to her every day of every second, I'm planning to meet her within 3 years I hope she can wait for me. My birthday is coming up so I made a video for her to show her how much I love her can't wait to see her reactions. I will try to hold on to my partner no matter what happens
💪💗💖
I'm happy for you. Good luck
I’ll be waiting for the video brother good will have blessed you
@@jcoolguy1548 Thank you so much
@@japan6111 I already had the video posted but it's in private, if you're interested I will give you the link.
Ringo Nguyen let me see that
I have been in the relationship for 4 years and we haven't still met 😅...but he is coming after 1 month and I am so excited to see him for the first time 😍
keshika thapa how was it?
How was it? 😍😍
keshika thapa same 🥺 we are in a long distance relationship and we haven't met since 2 years but now we are fighting a lot and i don't know what to fo ? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
All the best
He is from where??
I was and now married to my long distance relationship 😃 It can be daunting especially if your not from the same country.
The most important thing is you need to decide what are the most important values for you and your partner, ie job over health care.
Congrats! I have to wait another year for my man to come to Canada :) it would be 3 years of long distance.
Noelle Watts congratulations ^^
Noelle Watts 👍could give advice, i am now in a LDR relationships we are acquainted for more than a year, including our six months as a couple, it's very hard for me sometimes that she we are miles apart and couldn't even see her even video calling but our texting is constant every day, I've drawn everything encluding my soul because I love her, how will I know if she is true to me, we both a child and we accepted it, she is a military assign at war but on our conversation she promised me to leave her work soon she finish her contract with the Untied Nation.. What do I do,
He is in Tanzania and I’m in Canada. His values when we talk is family and his health but his actions speak differently. He is constantly working. No time for church or family and me . He says he loves me very much . I’m becoming lonely after 11 months and 3 tries of getting him a visa .
He needs to prove to the government he has money for the travel, that he has a reason to go back to his home country ( his job or child or ill parents)
He should have a clean criminal record,
My guy was refused visa because he had never been outside his country his bank statements were not showing enough savings despite that I wrote that I will pay for his flight and accommodation.
This video triggered lots of tears. It's hard being apart. It reminded me of how much effort he puts in and the different ways in which he shows me he cares ❤
Indeed 💞💋
I know right 😢❤️🩹
Me and my current girlfriend honestly can't stop talking to each other lol. Like we thought the same about getting burnt out but even when we have nothing to say on a call it's just nice having someone there. Plus we watch tons of videos and work on stuff together sharing hobbies etc.
Call me Toast Yeah exactly me and my BF is the same... Some days we won't have the most interesting conversations, but I also just like having him there, it kinda feels like when I'm at home and we're sitting in the living room doing each our thing... And watching series together is so fun, we're anime fans so a lot of stuff to see😁😁
I gotta say, I appreciate this comment thread. It's the same with my boyfriend. We're artists and sometimes we even work on our art deadlines on call, silently encouraging each other, going through the work together. That's only one example. I think it's soooo important to be able to feel comfortable in each other's silent company. It kinda gives a sense that you're naturally in sync. It's comforting.
Great addition! Definitely, being able to share normal quiet time is also important to developing a sense of trust and normality.
That's really cool that that works for you guys! me and my boyfriend tried calling whilst working and doing other stuff but it just ended up with neither activity being done as well as if we had separated time to work and THEN time to talk
Same. We even play games over Skype like memory. It seems cheesy but it makes things even more fun 🌸
I've been in a really long distance relationship for over 4 years now and we are finally moving together in less than 2 months! My tip would be keep making plans together for when you'll be seeing each other, taking into consideration which date works the best for both of you. Life happens, specially when you have a job or you study, it's OK if you can't see each other in 4 months, just set a date to hold on to. And one more thing, think about when the distance will be over, decide where will you live, think when you roughly want it to happen. Going with the flow doesn't really work in this kind of relationships!
U living together? And how did that work out by moving to other countrys
fromtheinsidex man you just gave me hope
It must feel amazing to finally move in with her! I've been in a long distance relationship for over 2 and a half year and we were together before she left but finally seeing her again in my only dream! Hope everything is going amazing
i m also in a long distance relationship..😊
I'm not even in a relationship, but I just really enjoy watching psyche2go videos. I don't know why 😅.
Thanks haha! We're really flattered and proud :')
typical like me
Same
lol same 😂😂
just communicate and trust each other, been in one since 2 years and still going strong 🤟
Have you met each other in person already?
I am currently in a long distance relationship and it is been over 8 months. I am studying at university in U.K. and my boyfriend is still in Lithuania studying. It is very hard to stay strong and go through my day knowing that he is very far away. I am trying to think positive and tell myself that it is going to be only a few years but is hard. We see each other rarely but for two weeks or more and still, it is not enough because up till now I saw him only two times. We love each other very much and we talk every day, we play games and watch movies or shows together at the same time while talking on Skype. We exchange pictures from time to time and most of them are silly ones :D To everyone that is going through long distance relationship, I can say that communication and honesty is a key as well as trusting one another and doing things together. Sometimes it may feel that the distance is not even there.
Thank you. I'm basically in the same scenario for about 5 months now and will be for at least 2 years. I try to keep positive and stay focused knowing that the struggle is only temporary and it will be worth it when we get back to each other. I wish you all the best of luck!
Thank you for your reply. I know that I am lucky to see him but next year will be way harder and I will try to survive but we might not see each other for a whole year. We both are going to have a hard year and some of my decisions will be very important and I still do not know what I am going to do. Also, I am afraid that I might lose him over my emotions and constant sadness. I am trying to not show him but he always notices if I am sad. But the thing is that I am only like this when we are apart when we are together I am always happy and smiling. So I just hope I am not going to lose him over my emotions and stupidity..
Thank you, and sorry for long reply. I wish you all the best too!
Skaistė Pėstininkaitė g
I'm from Lithuania too, but currently living in Germany. My girlfriend is from Singapore and we see each other every 2 months. We talk every single day for a few hours. There was no day when we didn't call each other. This kind of relationship is not easy, but it shows what true love is. I'm moving to Hong Kong in September and then we can see each other every month. I'm planning to marry my girl next year and then we can finally live togehter.
I am in a long distance relationship for nearly 3 years now. We live in different countries and can't visit each other so easily. Last time I could visit him was 2 years ago. But I trust him and we are looking forward to be together some day in the future :)
風蘭 (Fulan) which countries are you living ? I admire you, I've been in a LDR for about 15 months and I am getting tired, how do you do it ? :(
hey lizzie don't ever give up on him by saying you're tried
Best wishes 😊👍
I met a man that's is so wonderful but we were talking it was true love fist we chat we spoken abut how we feel then he send video dirtiest video do u think we must go on with the relish ship I told him how I feel he said it OK he said he sorry I said I for give him because o love him that he's my world my life but he send a gain video so I not shore what must I do I am from East London he s over sea
I wish you two the best.
I cant express how true "EFFORT" is... Im going 7 years strong! LDR DO WORK!
But ldr till how long? I'm in an ldr and idk if he's planning to ever shift cities or anything :( so I'm not sure if all this effort is going to lead to anything :(
Started long distance relationship. Showing genuine interest how their day was, what they eat, showing that he/she is your priority. You are not physically with them, but in thoughts they are number 1.
Yes
Daily conversation or phone calls along with sharing about the day we had really makes relationships stronger and healthier 😊
Been there, done that. Didnt work out too well..
my boyfriend and i talk daily and it feels good because it feels like we’re there together and talking about our day makes us feel closer! Almost like there’s no distance at all :)
Still hard not being there physically though, but I definitely agree
I’m in LDR for 9 years. It’s so hard bc I miss him a lot!
That's so long. Consider of getting married?
aua, 9 years, how do you survive, whats keeping you guys apart for so long?
Do u see them sometimes ?
9 years?!? Man i couldnt do it imma be honest
I dont think 9 years is good tbh tho you and or the other person see each other?
I'm currently in a long distance relationship, and my bf plan on visiting in July after 11 months. The journey so far has been tough, exciting, and, well a bit challenging.
Nothing good comes easy, and so its worth waiting for. And to those who are in a LDR please don't give up, hold on to your feelings and you won't regret it for as long as you are both trying. Xxx
Thank you for giving me hope :)
are you guys still together,
Being in an LDR on this pandemic is so frustrating. Me and my boyfriend hadn't meet each other since we started because of the borders not opening for them to get inside our country. It's been a year now and we both had struggles and difficulties that it almost end our relationship but love binds us both and we keep holding on and praying and being hopeful for that one sweet day to finally see each other for the very first time.
I totally get it!! I'm in the US and my guy is in Germany!
Am facing thing too,he is in the U.S.A and am in Ghana. My mum thinks is already a year and have not set my eyes on him before so we should break up but we are strong for each other and focus with prayers things will work out for us
@@tabithathewholistic I know how that feels, for me it's the other way around..i am in Germany and he is in the USA..I wish you the best and that it works out for you two..i can't wait to meet my bf for the very first time..but til i can hold him in my arms, i will hold him in my heart..and hope he likes me in rl too..
currently in the same situation :(( we've been together for 8 months now and i am still hoping and wishing for the day that we will eventually meet irl will come as soon as possible.. it's so stressful to think about the future and it just made both of us insecure, asking questions like how much time do we have to face before meeting in person 😭 but we are working through it and we are hopeful to see each other once the pandemic dies down a bit and when there are very little travel restrictions.. i just don't want to be so old when i finally get to see him..
I hear all of you guys for sure! Apparently as of today we are trending towards "endemic status" and many mandates are being dropped globally, so let's cross our fingers and hope it's legit!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Never thought I would meet someone so far away- and won’t lie it could be as long as 3 years till we meet but- it’s been a bit over 6 months and man I love her so much. It’s so hard being so far from people who mean so much to you :(
That’s literally me with my man😭💕
Yeah it's true, I can say LDR makes relationships even more stronger.. We can experience each other everytime during chatting, in dreams everywhere and hope of meeting makes it more special
Whats the update
lmao I'm in the same situation, we've made a bucket list for when we meet :)), can't wait for the day I won't need a phone to tell him gm and gn :")
that's me with my girl
for anyone whos drifting apart from their ldr partner (like i am, known her for almost a year, only person who cares about me) from somebody with experience in long distance friendships, relationships etc, heres some advice from me
1) make them think about the positive things about you. say 'hey I really like my outfit and nobody is hyping me up. I kinda need it, can you maybe? :')' or 'omg I feel really confident today, look one min lemme send a pic'. if they don't hype you up or say that you look pretty, its gonna be difficult im sorry.
2) message them daily about your day, start to finish. they might ask questions and, when they respond, ask how theirs was. if they say 'it was okay' ask them for details, get them TALKING. that's important.
3) don't just like messages then wait for them to continue. DONT. WAIT. FOR. THEM. if they leave you on read or just like your message, start another conversation.
4) ask to call them. I personally have phone anxiety so, for the many years ive had online friendships/relationships, I don't call. but I think calling can be important.
5) tell them when ur crying. pity isn't usually the way but it can make them care for you. don't make up things and make your life seem worse than it is. that's plain lying.
imma paste this on all videos like this. hope it helps
thank you so much, this does help a lot!! have a nice day!
@emi jay first god bless u for trying to motivate some people but i think something else
1.If he/she leaves you on read dont try to start a new conversation probably he/she doesnt love you man
2.If he/she just text you with short txts like My day was good and doesnt ask you back,dont try to ask him or her for details
I have been in ldr for 4 years and one day she decided to leave best advice if u guys face such problems
RESPECT YOUR SELF you deserve better
Have a nice day you all✌️
@@deaela783 yeah, I've been holding on for months and months. Thinking I could fix it and bring back to how it was before. But no, I just make it worse. Let go, before you lose yourself. Before the only love left between you will turn to hatred. Relationship can't go on one sidedly. If someone don't want you anymore, they don't at all. They will someday regret losing you. We get what we deserve always!
It’s hard after hitting that 4 year mark. The feeling of loneliness and depression is too strong. Even though I Love her to death. I feel like I’m dying inside slowly. I tried my best but love is a two way street. Thanks for the tips tho
@@stevenm6200 hey stranger, just know you can make it. youve come this far and were so proud of you. life is full of challenges but you can do it. look at it at a different angle, find a new perspective. just know that you can and will, make it. you are going to do amazing things!!
If you love each other, distance is not the reason for you to break up. Me and my boyfriend, are in a long distance, I mean not that really far, but during this pandemic, we can't see each other.. So we just chat everyday, and I can tell ya I really miss him like hell. Chats or calls are not enough for us. But even how much we missed each other, we can't do anything about it.
And I told him that if how long this will lasts, there's nothing gonna change how I truly love him, even we're apart, I will stay consistent no matter what.
Long distance in a relationship is a challenge. This will truly show how powerful your love is. Even the both of you are from the different world apart, if you love that person, he/she will stay in your heart forever.
Anyone else crying? My tears are from happiness because I really think this can work.
Mhmm
I've been in a ldr for 2 years, we've met the first time when I was in korea for a vacation and we finally moved in together earlier this month, as i got a university near his place!
:') we are engaged.
Congratulations
Congratulations ❤️✨
Congrats!!!
This's really cheering up 🔥↗️
Idk u but I'm so happy for you
I adore my girlfriend. The quarantine has thrown us into a long distance relationship. But we’ll be together soon, sweetheart! I love you!
this is so pure. as a man in a ldr, what do you usually talk about with your partner?
I am currently having a relationship with a girl from Germany and I live in Belgium. She is so lovely and worth every effort to see her. For us it's the little things that matter while still respecting eachother. We don't stalk eachother but we have meaningful, fun and lovely conversations. We even meet up in the middle and we even try to teach eachother our culture and language which is always fun. Sometimes it gets hard but we realize the thing that makes it hard is not being with eachother. We love eachother and we keep fighting for this to work and things are going steady as it is now.
This video truly made me smile and I sent it to my girlfriend 😁
Woah! Thats so cool man! How is it going now? :)
In a long distance relationship for almost 9 months and he will finally be here next week for good. I don't really believe LDR's could work but we did it. Through effort, patience, staying connected and being open to each other. Some things are really worth the wait
To all the LDR couples out there, stay strong!
Thank you ✨️
How is everything today?? Are you guys still together?? I’m having a rough time in my LDR, & this just gave me some hope…
@@HisImperialMaj3sty Yes. We just celebrated our 34th month together yesterday.
@@inyaaa_i love to hear it!!! You gave me, & my girl hope!! She’s only 4 hours away driving so, I picked her up the day after my comment, & she just flew back home today… I can’t really complain tho bc, you guys were literally in different countries!!
I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a year and we're doing great! it makes our relationship stronger, the hard part is that you have to explain to your family and friends about the relationship ^^;
Twist pop mhm and it’s especially hard when they don’t agree with it and tell you that it’s not gonna work out
@@ludem. right!
Omegamw I'm waiting for that moment....
I'm in Long distance relationship and anxiety is killing me every single day... :(
Don't worry it's okay!Keep strong!I understand!
I feel the pain :(
アンキーNightcore Feels stay strong, it'll be fine
I hope you have been able to work through the anxiety of your LDR 🌺🌞🌻✨
I know the feeling...!! but knowing Gods plan for you in relationship is the only thing to hold unto ...am currently on it....before and after marriage!! And will love to share my expirence soon!!!
It is incredible how unrelated this is to my life........especially the "relationship" part.
Lol. Want a video on how to get into one? :)
Psych2Go hahaha i need more than a video, like a miracle or something. Have one of those?
worst part is how other people make it seem so easy...
Psych2Go Please do a video on how to talk to your crush if you are really shy.
pirredude so do you bother watching it and commenting???
I’ve been in a LDR for about a year and some months. My first time meeting him my heart nearly skipped a beat because I knew and felt like I had met my best friend/true love. I honestly don’t have a problem with it me and my partner actually have came to an conclusion it is and will help us grow. We definitely try to see one another when we can which is helpful but when we separate we miss one another like crazy. I’ve had negative people in my ear about things but I know him and he knows me. What I’m basically saying is love on your person and continue to stand strong ❤️
"Take a step back and think about why you held on for so long in the first place." 🙏
Watching this vid and reading the comment section cheers me up, I think I'll be able to handle LDR better than before
Thanks guys
Edit: And stay strong guys to those who have LDR other than me
I met mine by gaming too lmao
@@calpicobaby139 lol same
I ruined the best relationship I ever had (LDR) because we communicated too much. The tip on texting longer, more quality filled messages rather than short ones every minute is spot on.
1- personal gift memorable
2-learn about each other routine
Know about his schedules
3-build trust not get conclusions soon
4-focus on quality not quantity
5-make time to see each other
5.1- do fun activities
6- embrace the challenges together
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Someone whose in a long distant relationship advice:
Don’t spam them unless they’re fine with it because it can make them annoyed
Follow my boyfriend on Instagram, he'll be talking about our LDR, I'm Brazilian and he's American... he'll also talk about our goals, Q&A, show routine, give aways and many more things.⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️✔️✔️
@jacob.p.kruger
Thank you for support us.
I only text if he texts me: )
this is true! both my bf and i spam each other sometimes, but not all the time obviously - different things for different people : ]
we spam each other and we're fine with it
@@x_sushirolls_x716 well I think you should text him first sometimes, because he might wonder why you never text first.
I try to avoid those thoughts that the majority of TH-camrs and comments convey. They say that in any way LDR is impossible doesn't matter if you are in them for 2 month or 10 years. Maybe some of that is true but it always depends on people and their personalities. I am quite sad being for 3 years in LDR and I don't want to give up on it just "to try sth else- what if it good" like my friends advice. My close friends say that it is a desperate thing but there is still something miraculous in LDR- awaited meetings, trips planning, mental bond that is just between you two when you are 3000 km away but chatting feels you as if he is just next to you.
I just hope that waiting worth it....
I wish you all good luck and happy ending in such a complicated but worthwhile issue.
Hold on to that miraculous feeling. Some couples that live in the same city as their mate don’t have that. It may be different. It may be hard to get used to at times but it’s worth it.
Hey if you have the dedication to wait until you can finnaly meet your meant to be
Been in a LDR for 3 years now. This video was so lovely and reassuring, and I needed to hear that point about quality over quanitity. I've got so used to speaking every day and so frequently, but sometimes his job or my university schedule won't allow that, as a result I start to feel upset. I'm definitely going to work on myself more.
Hello!
Hi maria what country are you from?
Can you update us??
I completely forgot I wrote this coment! I've been living in his country since last year and we are engaged 😊
@@Mariamomo_ I'm so happy hearing that 😄, do you have any advice for someone who's been in ldr for 3 months?
I feel like long distance can be really hard, but only because you miss your partner so much and it's hard to see them or talk to them as much as you would like. However, I think being able to connect on such a deep level without needing to physically be next to each other is a huge benefit. Especially if your love languages line up. My bf and I's top two are quality time and words of affirmation, which both can still be easily achieved through online communication. I love being able to talk to someone I find so interesting who can make me laugh my ass off and also take me down intellectual rabbit holes. At the same time it allows us time for ourselves to be independent and work towards our goals so we can one day close the gap in our long distance relationship :)
I am in a distance relationship and I can say that is the best thing in my life. Distance showed me how my boyfriend really cared and how strong his feelings are (the same for me). We do have schedules and small talks when we have time given that we study most of the day. Our relationship is stronger than ever and I have never had such a stabke bond with someone. We managed to be friends and lovers even at a certain distance. If you really love your partner you do everything. You can live your life and enjoy what is in front of you. It's not virtual because you know you'll only have to wait until the time has come to hug your love again. It's a combination of patience, attention and a lot of empathy. The feelings are real and even though it is hard, because you miss him/her just think about all the tranquility, peace, fun, empathy, care, love and strenght that person gives you. It works for me. (I live in London and my boyfriend in Rome)
I'm 19 and I'm really inlove with someone far away from me. We haven't seen each other in real life. We were friends for almost a year through this game (codm). We've been through a lot when we were just friends. We are comfortable with each other. I don't know when did I realize that I love him. He makes me feel assured. He is the first man that I love and I will love.
The part that I really love about him is he talks about the future and includes me with it. Like "someday, when we get married, we'll build this house.... I will work hard for our family..." He is also looking forward to seeing me. I'm from Philippines, he's in Luzon and I'm from Mindanao.
I am here watching this video to learn and to be a good lover. I know my love is an enough reason for me to love him fully. But I am not forgetting the fact that our relationship will never be perfect, but I will just trust him, trust myself and trust God.
As long as that person is welding to wait for you
No matter how long it takes
To see you
And trust each other
And keep your relationship strong
Even for a far distance relationship
There's nothing that can break
As long as you guys
Just have faith
And are willing to
Have that communication with each other
I think about it like this: I first make sure that I am happy and cheerful in my own life, doing things with friends and family to keep myself in a good mood. Cuz then when I text him, I can maybe spread that happiness to him and cheer him up too💖
Thank you so much for these words
Bro literally every couple has a LDRS now in 2020
I love seeing these couples who claim to be in a LDR because of the quarantine- I'm already in a long distance relationship (nothing happened at all to my relationship lol) so it's really funny to see all these people and just go "this your first time?"
callme booboo nah.. it’s not long distance
bro my boyfriend is 4k miles away. y’all being an hour away ain’t long distance. pick a struggle.
@@swaggyghoulies2690 mine is 3hrs away
👁👄👁 Me with a partner who lives in England and me in America.
I'm in a long distance relationship. We are celebrating our eighth month this December. I'm gonna meet him next year. Super excited!❤️
I'm the same with you! But I'm not sure when we can meet because of the pandemic
@@ManhuiLuo Let us hope for the best next year. Good luck!❤️
I have been in a long distance relationship with a man I think of as my soulmate for almost three years. Honestly, this is one of the best relationships I've ever had. We are incredibly close even though we have never met and we have not had a single hiccup that we could not overcome. I recommend you communicate because not all perfect mates are within waking distance. We are 1,000+ miles apart, but we have made it work this long and that means others can too. We plan on meeting soon and after that maybe getting married if we are both certain. It's possible. Don't give up in this sort of relationship because, if the distance is far enough, know that they are worth that tenfold and so are you. Good luck to everyone who is dating long distance and please let me know if you have any questions. I'm always happy to help.
i'm currently in long distance relationship for about a year, first we were hectic and often jumped to conclusions but now we're stable. we call every single day for 4+ hours. I know it's a little bit too much and may backfire but it just suits us well. When we get bored of the same lifestyle we calmly tell each other that we're starting to get bored and take phone call breaks for a day or two, it works!
And my advice is let your partner know that you're not cheating by telling them first about your day or schedule before your partner asks about it. Asking each and everytime is tiring for your partner and makes them think that they're being annoying and starts hiding their insecurities, this breaks down the calm relationship and stirs fights. Cheers!
PS: my GF is not the same nationality as me :) If you need advice on this point ask me about it.
That's what I did yesterday asked my bfs schedule so I'd know when I can chat with him and call him. Got him an birthday present yesterday and he was so extra cute about it I loved it. Such an handsome sweet Argentinian man. Freaking love him so much. Haven't felt like this in years.
@@MangoPop OMG your bf was born on 13th august? if so what a coincidence my GF was also born on 13th August!
@@EverLastingLov Leo gang 😂
My girlfriend lives in another country and we have never seen each other in person....so this was quite relatable to me, except here you're assuming the couple have met face to face before
Team APA same
Same here. Wishing you all the best.
Team APA I have recently broken up with my long distance bf due to...absence in speaking and when we did it wasn’t even a quality time (as the video said) I felt like he and I needed something better considering the fact we have never met.
But I do agree that they were assuming that people have met and then became long distance. It would have been more relatable if they made it from someone of your or I perspective
Same here ;-;
Yh
I fell in love with a girl online, and we both confessed to each other last night. She is on the other side of the country, but I feel so close to her through the things we enjoy together, like writing and drawing. I will say we fell in love at an inconvenient time 😅 with the quarantine and the fact that we are both starting college soon. Life is changing so fast but we still found each other. I don’t know what will happen, but I know I don’t want to let her go.
Update? 🙈
@@Satan666Official still together! And I’m finally going to meet her in person on July 13! It’s been a wonderful, crazy, emotional year, and I’m so glad she has been there with me through it all :)
@@CherylJLand That's fantastic. I have been in my own for almost a year, and we will be meeting in 3 months ❤❤❤
@@CherylJLand so how's ur meet up with her?❣
@@astrid4040 best week of my life. Can’t believe I got to hold her. She is a soulmate.
I just started mine. Honestly, they make me a bit scared because I don't know if my partner would cheat on me, there's never a way to know it, so I'm always paranoid or sensitive... :(
Meh Trust is very important! They chose you for a reason :)
Same :( just today -.-
Maybe everyone will brain wash you like, “how do you know if he is not, how do you know where he is or what he is doing right now” kind of. But girl you do trust him and believed that you can pass this time together. So be confident!
Meh same
and my bf just not write me often as usually,he said that he is busy with his work.I'm confusing....
These are some great tips and I was doing this even before finding this video. Honestly me and my BF got even more bonded and closer together with long distance then what we would've if we dated regularly. Bcs we have an honest relationship and I can always tell him if something is bothering me or if I'd like him to put in more effort and he actually listens. So when we do meet and see each other in person it won't be awkward cus we've talked for so long now and basically know everything about each other. The only thing that's really hard is sometimes I feel lonely and really wanna be in his arms but he's far away but I know we will be together for good one day. It is our destiny.
It make me feel inside and the last thing sometimes we really want each other but..... But I hope we all meet our better half soon.. ❣️
18 months, I'm in high school and her parents are strict. Her parents don't wanna take the risk, but imma boutta break into her house and sneak her out at this point, she said she's down 😂
Nice lol. Good luck
Update bro !!
Lol
@@Crashgotoohard she was cheating on me 😑
@@boxmeme8010 this girl just really broke my heart yesterday she was my first ever girlfriend, I did so fucking much for her and she did a break up prank on me, I did one to her to get her back she ended it....
The timing is perfect. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two months now and he's planning to visit during summer vacation... I'm a super anxious person and jump to conclusions quickly but I've talked to him about it and he's so sweet and understanding. I'm incredibly happy and can't wait to see him. The only thing I'm worried about is how I'm going to tell my parents, it's not like they're super strict but I'm scared they might not take us seriously. (plus I'm glad we "only" live 5 hours apart, by car)
-Syril Sapiophile- I’m in like the exact same situation as you haha. if only I could tell my parents things would be 100 times easier.
Phoenix breeze I'm sure it'll work out for us both in the end. :)
I'm in the exact same situation 🤣 two months together, and he will come to me on summer...the only thing is that he lives in spain and i live in serbia, so the distance is relatively big
Katherine wishing y’all the best!!
-Syril Sapiophile- I hope it does!! wishing you the best!
I’m in a LDR with my GF. She lives in Georgia and I live in Louisiana. I go down there to visit here at least twice(some months only once) a month for 2-4 days. Our year anniversary is coming up. It’s not that hard being in a LDR for us because we both exactly alike and we both know we want each other for life. We both agree we are each other soulmates. We only six hours away(driving) from one another. It’s not that bad if I just wanted to see her for the day I’ll just drive in the early morning. Get there around 12. Leave around 6 and be back home at 12. I see some people saying that the person they in a LDR with is their soulmate, well If you really believe that then you should be fine.
TIPS
1-Always make time. I usually talk to her for most of the day and text for the other
2- Humor. Making someone laugh goes a long way
3- Talk with their family. This one was actually hard for me. Her family approach me first but it makes things easier
4- If you can go see them once a month.
5- When you finally do see them leave something with them and take one of their possessions. Somethings that means a lot to them. I took my GF bracelet and her necklace her late grandma gave her.
If y’all have any questions y’all want to ask about me and GF relationship or any advice y’all need just comment. I will reply.
Thank you for this. I’m heading into a LDR with my girl of 4 months. It took us both by extreme surprise and I’m just so hurt atm. Not sure how everything will pan out and I’m scared but I know she is worth it. Any advice? I can’t help but feel so anxious for the future… thanks
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My first healthy relationship has been the long distance one I am in now! It has been hard but so worth it! We are almost one and half years and growing strong!!
me and my partner have been in a ldr for a year (one more month till it’s over!) and we have two scheduled face time “dates” each week and we always look forward to them so much. one thing we noticed is that we have had some really deep conversations and learned so much about each other’s thoughts and opinions on different things - and we really believe it would’ve taken double or even triple the time to have had some of the conversations we’ve had if we weren’t ldr.
when we weren’t ldr, we’d take shared time together more for granted, or we’d do stuff together or just make out lol. but being ldr, during these designated times together, we’d put our things down and just talk and listen each other. it’s helped us really learn more about each other and also given us space to grow individually. we’ve talked about emotional, political, spiritual, super personal topics, our aspirations, our goals, our fears, etc. with each other and i really dont think we would’ve reached this level of non-physical closeness w/o being in a ldr.
there is emotional/spiritual/intellectual intimacy that you can reach with a partner beyond just physical intimacy and i feel like people don’t really talk about that! i know physical intimacy has given me a false idea of how close i am with someone in the past, so it’s been a blessing to grow so intimately with someone in different ways and also have time to root myself in my community and friends (your community does not = your partner!!)
in so many ways, ldr has taught me patience, healthy boundaries, and a better understanding of love, and i am super thankful. this was SO long SORRY but i just wanted to say this bc i know ldrs aren’t easy, but they can be beautiful !
One tip I can give, is to make your partner feel like you're there by constantly supporting them and be part of their life as if you never leaved.
People won't remember what you do, they will remember how you made them feel.
We've been in a long distance relationship for over 3 years, with over 8400km between us. I can say for sure it's not easy but I am here to tell you that it's worth the pain to get that time with them. Keep fighting. We have to wait over one year to see each other but it's definitely possible
Do u guys call eachother everyday to maintain commutation
how to deal with insecurities, im feeling really anxious and feeling like we are drifting but he is gettin on with work but im really anxious and insecure anyway and i feel like hes more focused on work and not me.
@@Jasiibuu yeah we always try to call once a day and send messages so the other person feels like they're spending their day with you. Sending photos of what you're doing and checking in on each other ☺️
@@laaaaaaaa533 sorry to hear that 😢 it's really tough when someone is busy with work and you feel you're drifting. Try planning in some time to do something together like watch a film at a certain time each day you know you're both free. If you've communicated this anxiety and they don't make the effort to keep in contact, maybe it's time to think you deserve someone who will do this for you. Best of luck x
Thank You
0:25 It all boils to one word effort
0:35 Give them a personal gift
0:55 Schedule
1:35 Trust
2:10 Quality communication
2:50 Make time to see each other
3:30 Embrace the challeges together
3:50 Long distance is temporary
4:05 Common misconception: In order for things to work I need to sacrifice my needs and desires for my partner/don't forget the bigger picture, why you've stayed with your partner for this long
SMELL HELPS A LOT. We exchange a shirt every visit and it feels amazing to be able to smell her during those lonely nights.
Whoa.
Currently married to a marine. He’s in japan, and I’m in Michigan lol. Haven’t seen him in 6 months :( I’ll be moving there soon though 💖
Good Luck
japanese, marine... it all adds up, he's planning on saving the world
been with my boyfriend for 4 months and it might takes us one or two years to see each other in person, i get so excited whenever i think about it! im in south asia and hes in america we have 16 hours difference which sucks but it makes us even more cherish every seconds we have together:)
Katevyren KK similar story ❤
omg me too! I'm from south east asia and my boyfriend's from america. we've been together for only about a month and a half and we've already made many plans for the future. the soonest we'll be able to meet is in about 3 years. good luck to you and your boyfriend!
Can you give me some advice for LDR pls? I'm also from SE asia and My girlfriend is from Europe.
I failed twice in LDR. Even still, there were good memories, and they were good partners who taught me many great things in life. If anyone who is in one I wish them the best, either to have things work out, or learn from them.
I am in one it's a challenge even tho it's kinda on and off i am still holding on
@@Kim88581 good luck 🙏
I struggle to upload once a week and you guys are uploading 1 video per day lol.
I admire the hustle though, you guys never cease to come up with creative videos. Keep it up :)
Masculine Man they have a team of people
I feel like you constantly comment the same things on other people's self help channels for self promotion
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Stop promoting your channel under the deception and disguise of praising this channel, not everyone are idiots
Masculine Man Thanks for your support!
I did it all when I was 22 years old. Now, I'm already 24 and we are married.
(FYI: We never met before we got onto love)[Found her throught Facebook]
A pui dawn e💕
So the 6 tips of kong dist. Relationship are:
1. Give them a personal gift to hold on to
2. Set routines and learn about each other's schedule
3. Build trust and try not to jump to conclusions
4. It's not about quantity, it's about quality
5. Make time to see each other, but know that every visit may not be ideal, and that's ok
6. Embrace the challenges together ❤️💙
I have been in a relationship twice and both LDR, while the previous one was a lot of effort and taxing and emotionally draining, my current one is so much more incredible in every way. Cut to the chase, it is all about the person you are with, be with someone who makes efforts for you, respects you. I have never been happier as of now. ❤️ Love to every LDR couple