I always used to think "does this person likes me ?", but I ended up not giving a damn because you are amazing the way you are, and no one has the right to say that that's not true. There's people that are not going to like you, that's life. You just got to have confidence. And always think " I am worth it, I am powerful and I am amazing" that's how I stopped thinking of other people's thoughts about me. Hope this helped someone, have a great Monday !!!😄
I don't care what people think of me, oh my God I needed this so much, I've been hiding my true personality for a long time because I was afraid of hurting anyone's feelings, but what I've been doing is hurting myself for not being who I really am and seeking approval, but now I will turn into an asshole and feel good with myself, thank you I really needed this
Traveler Trash thank you very much for the kind words, is always good to feel about oneself without caring if people will like you or not, but pretending to be someone you are not you only lying to yourself and that's what I was doing
I care a LOT less than I used to. I have anxiety and depression and used to take everything so personally. And sometimes that still happens BUT over past couple years I’ve had to find strength to overcome battles and to find a way that whatever happens in life, whatever people say, I can remain grounded and be able to keep going whatever. It’s not easy but you have to keep working at it.
One day when I achieved my ultimate goal in life. I'll get up on the stage and mention this video for the audiences to watch. Thanks dude, this is amazing.
i’ve tried this stuff and it honestly works super well. everyday i tell myself that i’m doing ok and i’m doing fine and i shouldn’t care what others think and overtime it’s work super well! sure i still need improvement and i have my moments but when it comes down to things i really don’t care about others opinions.
from now i will never care about what people say and i will be myself and wont copy others or try to change my self . thanks for the video rafael thanks a bunch
I found this video really helpful. I suffer with anxiety and over think and over analyse everything and am constantly worrying about other people's perceptions of me. I really want to be one of those people who doesn't care what people think so it's something I'm working to change 😊
Speak your heart to them... And be clear on what you will do. Take a stand for yourself... For what you want in life... Then you will value yourself and when you value yourself... The world will slowly start valuing you... That's how your start working on your pathhh. Peace and love!
I do care a lot about that people thinks about me. And after watching this video I've realiced taht maybe I was trying to find approval in the wrong people. Thanks for such a nice video.
just before I watch this video Im already doing these things and it's true, it really works. I don't really mind what other people think of me or I don't seek approval and be mindful and present at anywhere. I feel comfortable wherever I am and in everything I do. I feel free and comfortable.
I'm always thinking what people think of me. Even strangers. I just can't handle this anymore. This is ruining me. My mind is always full of: he didn't laugh at my joke, he ignored me, why he don't like me... but now I will try to work with myself:) Thanks for the video bro:)
DreamzDraws I know exactly how you feel man, I've been going to the gym recently and I feel stronger than ever I highly recommend you to go to the gym.
I agree a lot with the 2. At work, there's an old lady, just because we've had one single conflict, that seemed to never will get off of her mind, no matter how much i have helped her, she does not remember that but only the conflict. So just stay away from people like that! Mentally... because you might have to work or study with them. But you can control your thoughts.
"BE INDEPENDENT OF THE GOOD AND BAD OPINIONS BY OTHERS" as per a brilliant life coach here at TH-cam University! WHY? His answer...."because they could be dead tomorrow and it doesn't really matter what they say or think in the end"!!! Good enough reason for me! Good video...thanks for sharing!
Wow this is really awesome. For so long I've been doing things just to seek the approval of my parents and friends. Even when i do my best to satisfy them, i still have this thought inside me saying i need to do more. i really can't tell if they are unconsciously making me think this way. This have made my self-esteem low, but from now on i'm done with that. I'll start doing things to gain just my approval. Thanks a lot for this video.
I’ve been struggling with what people think of me for years. It’s too the point where I’ve, what me niece explains to me... Lost myself. I couldn’t explain it, as I usually try to. But it felt so correct. Who am I? What do I do? Why? I barely even pay attention. Possibly hushing that other inner voice. That voice that wonders so much about the way other people see me as. Their thoughts. Their hopes. That I can finally keep focusing on my beliefs. (Something I need to remember as well) I’ll do my best to remember this information.
I'm actually really happy that I came across this video. It's so inspiring. I always kept my mouth shut, in fear of others opinions of me. I literally sometimes feel socially paralyzed. It's like something happens that you don't approve of ,but just in the midst of the incident... You stop yourself from speaking up. I don't even know where it started. I don't want to be like this, however, I do want to express myself openly without hurting anyone ,but I also realize my happiness comes first. It is still a work in progress. I want to come out of my shell and stop being timid ,but first I got to reprogram my thinking. This is going to be a long journey 😅
Curly Girl I'm in the exact situation as you are. People don't understand how its like to not be able to communicate like others even when you have many things to say. It makes me look weird around people. I feel embarrassed whenever people notice how quite and unresponsive I am especially in collage. I pray that this is curable. Good luck
vena rina thank you and good luck to you too. I also like to watch Infinite Waters by a guy named Ralph. He has great videos on how to come out of your shell and just be yourself. Something I'm starting to learn is you can't please everyone. You can either be hated for being yourself or hated for pretending to be something you're not. We'll get there lol it's not going to be easy but we'll definitely get there 😊
I did until i realize that no matter what i did they would never like me. If i did good or bad, they still did not like me and worst....i did not like me. So i decided that me liking me was better because i have to be with me forever but in time i would not be with them.
In certain cases a lot of people need to care what others think of them. We refer to them as job interviews, therapy, parole boards for hearings, meeting parents of a future spouse etc.
I am not seeking approval from others Brainwash yourself with a different story I don't care what people think of me Don't need their approval I approve myself Hold this story in your mind 3 min a day atleast Sometimes no matter how Stay away reject their information Say " this is useless to me Keep applying steps =habit
honestly, I just don't care what other people think of me anymore. why? because I learned from myself including my friends or some people that I realized opinions or negative words won't matter to me because those words are not who I really are. since earlier, I had enough about my frustration from other people online so I tell myself to someone I love that "I am a Queen and a goddess. I am still the strong and most beautiful girl in the world and I don't care what people think of me or roast me in the comments no matter what! and I'm leaving those kind of people who put me down by blocking them".
This helped so much man, I really appreciate it. I started a new college recently and when I got there I was so scared, but I just kept saying in my head that I didn't care what they thought of me, I then told some jokes and people started to like me, my social life hasn't been this good in ages, thanks alot!
Quick tip, stop and realize that every person is thinking same thing about you and looking for YOUR validation as well. So remember that and it'll help
your videos are incredible, always look forward to the next one. i used to always care what people thought, because i was convinced that the world revolved around me, then i realized everyone has similar insecurities
This video was very satisfying for me to watch, because I started these steps by my self when I was 17. I did not feel very successful or attractive (no girlfriend etc.), till I kept telling my self to give a fk about what people think of me and that im a pretty cool guy (even if I did not feel like that, I kept on telling it to myself). Now a few years have passed, and I got to say: I feel self-confident, attractive and authentic. And people like it, so your video fits very well. I think these steps are very important to be happy and content in life.
I get judged and hated on all the time right off the bat. People tell me I have a very intense look to me and it makes me look confrontational and unapproachable. Most people take one look at me and assume I'm a douche for my appearance as well as the fact that I mind my own business and carry myself with confidence. Understand that people are ignorant as fuck and will size you up immediately and if there is one thing they don't like about you they will just write you off and not even give you a chance to show them that their assumptions are wrong. People will believe only what they want to believe. Very small minded and conformist thinking. Freakin clowns.....I just laugh at them.
I think the best way to get over this is to realize that everyone is kind of stupid, yourself included. No one is perfect, every single person has bad qualities, good qualities, etc. we are constantly thinking higher up of others and making ourselves seem not as good as them so you want to impress them. This is the issue. If you just realize not to take humanity so seriously and that we all don't know what we're doing, it is easier to not care.
Oh my god i was thinking about grade 6 and high school everyday someone is calling someone a mean name I was scared 😳 but then I watched this then I realized who cares plus I'm always myself thanks buddy ✌🏼your an amazing TH-camr keep it up
Thank you so so so much...this is exactly what i needed to hear..somehow..people seem to be wanting more and more..no matter how hard i try to change..i dont get credit..only more criticism. somewhere down the line i started to lose myself. i wanted some help in building myself up and then came up your vdo..and i know somewhere somehow it clicked. thanks a ton really!
Surely it's a normal part of human empathy to care what others think of you, as you care about them. You don't want them to not care about you at all - people just get annoyed when they're not thought of in the ways they'd like to be thought of. eg. the classic 'no one understands me' line. To not care at all what people think of you would be to completely disconnect from other people. What most people mean when they say this is 'not care about the bad things other people think about me, only the good.'
Thanks bro it's inspirational what I needed right now i had best friends they kept telling me to do all their work and at a certain point I almost started to fear them because they started to create more problems and I have to clean up their mess and so I left them and was happier but they became so jealous and started to curse me wherever I go and at a certain one idiot who was my ex close friend started to scream at me for no reason and he started to tell how can u be happy after u left us I will not let u be happy like this. I left them because even though I cared for them when I was with them they never cared for me they only used me like an animal but after I left them they are jelous of my happiness I was afraid of them for a certain point but after watching this I finally feel a little lightness in my heart thanks for the video
To be honest I have to be real with myself I do care. Like I care if I get called selfish greedy anything like that. It does get to me. I realized though that sometimes I have to confront these people like my older brother. But hey thats a helpful example at the beginning rich get richer poor get poorer.
that was really an amazing breakdown of this concept!! i thoroughly enjoyed your take on it and will forward the video to many of the friends and clients i help daily!! keep up the good work buddy!!!!!!!
This really helps me I have a spinal issue that causes my face and body to be under a ton of pressure the whole time which turns my face red I really am working on not giving a fuck about anyone to still continue my life and face the judgemental looks I see out of almost everyone
I’m constantly reminding myself that I’m good and I don’t need anyone’s approval. It’s scary at first but to be honest I’m more scared of living of life approval seeking than not. And ironically that’s when you get more validations
Great Content Thank You Rafael Brainwash urself Build conf I don't care. I just don't care I approve myself. I value own opin Block out some ppl Be you
2:40 I'd rather choose the way (good) parents talk to their children by encouraging them... I'll from now on tell myself: "I am/you are good" "I can/you can do this"... "I can/ you can learn everything you need to know for what you want to achieve" etc. ... B/c it's not about not caring what others think, b/c they may have a point and it is also important not to create unnecessary negative vibes, but to create an inner circle of encouragement, and if you don't have ppl like this, create your inner support and be your own mentor and the best friend you could ever have
Thank you man its helpful i don't care what other people say now l will be myself. I will put off the musk thats true i think i was starting to have depression because of thinking about other in everything single thing i do in my life now i realise that i was punishing myself.
As much as I like the idea of approving of myself and that being enough, I do highly disagree with avoiding people that criticise or belittle you etc.. It would be much healthier to learn how to deal with negativity in a healthy way instead.
I think about it a lot. I try to please everyone around me and I always try to help people even when they are treating me like trash and I know deep down they dont deserve the help. I always care about what people think of me because I also try to fit in and you're helping me understand that isnt necessary. If you have any ideas for follow up videos on how to shut out the inner voice in one on one and party settings, that'd really help me (and most likely others) out
Rafael Eliassen people at school call me a name that im very sensitive about im scared what they think and the popular kids might find out and spreaad it on social media im just scared
Awesome is the word to best describe your videos sir.. thanks very much for sharing... My request to you is to please share a video to maintain the emotional stability, that I struggle a lot with 😊
Thank u this helped me a lot.... Sometimes it happens to me when I go out with my friends (mostly some of them are fake) to talk to a girl... they would say jokes like "Look, he's talking to a girl" or " He will never get a gf " kind of things.... and this bothers me.... i feel like I want to punch them like shit (It's aint't about I never get or I can't get a girlfriend , because I had a lot of chances but I rejected them 'cause I didn't like them very well.... If she's not attracted to my, I usually ignore, but when I like somebody they reject me..... kinda bad feeling
LyricsVideoZone If I may say so...sounds to me like you need to ditch some if those people you hang with. Those who do don't support you or even undermine or criticize you are not your friends.
Another musician here (aspiring, late starter, self-taught classical pianist). I loved the video. I realised I've been doing these things out of instinct I guess for over a year now, and I still feel that I tend to fall back in that trap if I I'm not careful. So I think I still have to keep on consciously reminding myself that there is simply no point to care and worry about others opinions as much as I used too. And the main reason I'm leaving this comment is to say that (for me) this can be insanely difficult and I'm still not sure if I should get some kind of self-control training or therapy help or not, because this is the biggest sabotager of my fulfillment. Performing ( on the piano (or for that matter anything in front of many people) is my main issue. How do you not care in that situation? When you are the solo artist of the evening? How do you not care if let's say you are in a competition? Or you just want to get in to a university? On the solo evening it builds or distroys your reputation. In the competition the jury knows their thing and likewise at the uni and you have high personal interests in getting trough there. So how do you deal with all those like a pro because that's a must learn for me ASAP. And also for me while performing, minor flaws or hand shakieness start generating insecurity and a mind battle which also distract me from expressing myself artistically on thelevel I know I could. How could I get to overcome this? I suppose the negative brainwash should be cured with the positive one but I feel like I need a customized brainwash because the standard one just isn't enough for everything and in order to feel confident and secure in these not everyday situations I need to understand the proper solution to be ready.
Botond Kuti As a fellow musician I understand your feelings. Just wanted to suggest a video I found very helpful in this area in case it helps you too! m.th-cam.com/video/GYx0DZKth-8/w-d-xo.html Obviously the 'work' theme is transferable. Good luck!
you are not alone in this! you managed to succinctly put into words my experiences growing up playing classical piano - thought of performing brutal. my brother found success perfoming at CCM with beta blockers? i grew up and learned guitar, mando, flute, drums etc. and have had to learn to have fun and tend to perform out of the spotlight:))
I'm usually helping people out when in need. It's also part of my job as an assistant. But it turned out that I'm doing all the work because everybody knows I won't let them down. They're actually just using me. I often tried to just say "No" or "I don't care, it's not my problem/job to do" but they won't understand since I'd always done it before. How do I start to not care anymore without everybody freaking out over that sudden change of my behavior? (...and just now I realize that, once again, I'm caring too much about other people. Oh my... :'-)
sometimes you gotta be selfish, because in the end there is only you.
I always used to think "does this person likes me ?", but I ended up not giving a damn because you are amazing the way you are, and no one has the right to say that that's not true. There's people that are not going to like you, that's life. You just got to have confidence. And always think " I am worth it, I am powerful and I am amazing" that's how I stopped thinking of other people's thoughts about me. Hope this helped someone, have a great Monday !!!😄
I dont give A FUCK what people think of me. Starting now!
I don't care what people think of me, oh my God I needed this so much, I've been hiding my true personality for a long time because I was afraid of hurting anyone's feelings, but what I've been doing is hurting myself for not being who I really am and seeking approval, but now I will turn into an asshole and feel good with myself, thank you I really needed this
Traveler Trash thank you very much for the kind words, is always good to feel about oneself without caring if people will like you or not, but pretending to be someone you are not you only lying to yourself and that's what I was doing
same
I care a LOT less than I used to. I have anxiety and depression and used to take everything so personally. And sometimes that still happens BUT over past couple years I’ve had to find strength to overcome battles and to find a way that whatever happens in life, whatever people say, I can remain grounded and be able to keep going whatever. It’s not easy but you have to keep working at it.
One day when I achieved my ultimate goal in life. I'll get up on the stage and mention this video for the audiences to watch. Thanks dude, this is amazing.
i’ve tried this stuff and it honestly works super well. everyday i tell myself that i’m doing ok and i’m doing fine and i shouldn’t care what others think and overtime it’s work super well! sure i still need improvement and i have my moments but when it comes down to things i really don’t care about others opinions.
Well I'm hopping ur doing even better my friend !! I'm starting as right now w this tons of bless from El Salvador ♡
Keep going dear...Me too...
from now i will never care about what people say and i will be myself and wont copy others or try to change my self . thanks for the video rafael thanks a bunch
I found this video really helpful. I suffer with anxiety and over think and over analyse everything and am constantly worrying about other people's perceptions of me. I really want to be one of those people who doesn't care what people think so it's something I'm working to change 😊
My parents are hurting my feelings and exepting more from me than I can achieve, I want to just not take everything that much personal.
Speak your heart to them... And be clear on what you will do. Take a stand for yourself... For what you want in life... Then you will value yourself and when you value yourself... The world will slowly start valuing you... That's how your start working on your pathhh. Peace and love!
Yeah, they are thinking of your future better by hurting your present self...
You should born in India. You'll find your parents are so gentle.
I do care a lot about that people thinks about me. And after watching this video I've realiced taht maybe I was trying to find approval in the wrong people. Thanks for such a nice video.
just before I watch this video Im already doing these things and it's true, it really works. I don't really mind what other people think of me or I don't seek approval and be mindful and present at anywhere. I feel comfortable wherever I am and in everything I do. I feel free and comfortable.
This video changed my life completely, thank you for what you have done for me!
If people figure out you need their approval they'll never give it to you! Great point!
I'm always thinking what people think of me. Even strangers. I just can't handle this anymore. This is ruining me. My mind is always full of: he didn't laugh at my joke, he ignored me, why he don't like me... but now I will try to work with myself:) Thanks for the video bro:)
DreamzDraws I know exactly how you feel man, I've been going to the gym recently and I feel stronger than ever I highly recommend you to go to the gym.
I agree a lot with the 2. At work, there's an old lady, just because we've had one single conflict, that seemed to never will get off of her mind, no matter how much i have helped her, she does not remember that but only the conflict. So just stay away from people like that! Mentally... because you might have to work or study with them. But you can control your thoughts.
This is the one video on the Internet that has actually given me hope of going back to school now that the summer is over so thank you
I am so tired of caring so much about others. It's draining and i want to stop. Maybe at some point i won't care anymore.
SeekerOfInnocence I’m to the point to where I don’t care what others say either like F it all it is what it is
I have bad anxiety and I get upset easily about what people tell me but this is helping me thank you so much
Olivia Rodriguez same, it sucks
@@nonyaloser633 but it gets better
Olivia Rodriguez your right
"BE INDEPENDENT OF THE GOOD AND BAD OPINIONS BY OTHERS" as per a brilliant life coach here at TH-cam University! WHY? His answer...."because they could be dead tomorrow and it doesn't really matter what they say or think in the end"!!! Good enough reason for me! Good video...thanks for sharing!
Wow this is really awesome. For so long I've been doing things just to seek the approval of my parents and friends. Even when i do my best to satisfy them, i still have this thought inside me saying i need to do more. i really can't tell if they are unconsciously making me think this way. This have made my self-esteem low, but from now on i'm done with that. I'll start doing things to gain just my approval. Thanks a lot for this video.
I’ve been struggling with what people think of me for years. It’s too the point where I’ve, what me niece explains to me... Lost myself.
I couldn’t explain it, as I usually try to. But it felt so correct. Who am I? What do I do? Why? I barely even pay attention.
Possibly hushing that other inner voice. That voice that wonders so much about the way other people see me as. Their thoughts. Their hopes. That I can finally keep focusing on my beliefs. (Something I need to remember as well)
I’ll do my best to remember this information.
I'm actually really happy that I came across this video. It's so inspiring. I always kept my mouth shut, in fear of others opinions of me. I literally sometimes feel socially paralyzed. It's like something happens that you don't approve of ,but just in the midst of the incident... You stop yourself from speaking up. I don't even know where it started. I don't want to be like this, however, I do want to express myself openly without hurting anyone ,but I also realize my happiness comes first. It is still a work in progress. I want to come out of my shell and stop being timid ,but first I got to reprogram my thinking. This is going to be a long journey 😅
Curly Girl I'm in the exact situation as you are. People don't understand how its like to not be able to communicate like others even when you have many things to say. It makes me look weird around people. I feel embarrassed whenever people notice how quite and unresponsive I am especially in collage. I pray that this is curable. Good luck
vena rina thank you and good luck to you too. I also like to watch Infinite Waters by a guy named Ralph. He has great videos on how to come out of your shell and just be yourself. Something I'm starting to learn is you can't please everyone. You can either be hated for being yourself or hated for pretending to be something you're not. We'll get there lol it's not going to be easy but we'll definitely get there 😊
The best way to be with people you don't like if you have to spend time with them is only speak if you're spoken to!
omg finally something concise. other vids were too wordy and never really offered the 'how' part. thank you!!
I did until i realize that no matter what i did they would never like me. If i did good or bad, they still did not like me and worst....i did not like me. So i decided that me liking me was better because i have to be with me forever but in time i would not be with them.
Kushina sameee
In certain cases a lot of people need to care what others think of them.
We refer to them as job interviews, therapy, parole boards for hearings, meeting parents of a future spouse etc.
picture me trollin' ugh in context mate in context
Yep if I want friends or jobs or anything I need to care
I am not seeking approval from others
Brainwash yourself with a different story
I don't care what people think of me
Don't need their approval I approve myself
Hold this story in your mind 3 min a day atleast
Sometimes no matter how
Stay away reject their information
Say " this is useless to me
Keep applying steps =habit
honestly, I just don't care what other people think of me anymore. why? because I learned from myself including my friends or some people that I realized opinions or negative words won't matter to me because those words are not who I really are. since earlier, I had enough about my frustration from other people online so I tell myself to someone I love that "I am a Queen and a goddess. I am still the strong and most beautiful girl in the world and I don't care what people think of me or roast me in the comments no matter what! and I'm leaving those kind of people who put me down by blocking them".
when you're an artist and you're very conflicted about this video. but I will still listen and learn from this video
This helped so much man, I really appreciate it. I started a new college recently and when I got there I was so scared, but I just kept saying in my head that I didn't care what they thought of me, I then told some jokes and people started to like me, my social life hasn't been this good in ages, thanks alot!
Quick tip, stop and realize that every person is thinking same thing about you and looking for YOUR validation as well. So remember that and it'll help
I'm watching this every morning from here on out. Your awesome.
Glad you enjoy it!
your videos are incredible, always look forward to the next one. i used to always care what people thought, because i was convinced that the world revolved around me, then i realized everyone has similar insecurities
AVOID using negative words like; DON'T, CANNOT, NEVER, WON'T especially in affirmations or afformations.
It's all good. You have good intentions, so thank U!
I used to care, now I am 100 percent authentic. Mucho gracias!
People must eliminate the thoughts and emotions degreenesses because thoughts and emotions are our worst enemy. Must always be a fluid mind
This video was very satisfying for me to watch, because I started these steps by my self when I was 17. I did not feel very successful or attractive (no girlfriend etc.), till I kept telling my self to give a fk about what people think of me and that im a pretty cool guy (even if I did not feel like that, I kept on telling it to myself). Now a few years have passed, and I got to say: I feel self-confident, attractive and authentic. And people like it, so your video fits very well. I think these steps are very important to be happy and content in life.
I don't care what they say. I ROCK!
Hmm yes... reject the negative opinions. I've never known how to deflect them! Now I do :)
I get judged and hated on all the time right off the bat. People tell me I have a very intense look to me and it makes me look confrontational and unapproachable. Most people take one look at me and assume I'm a douche for my appearance as well as the fact that I mind my own business and carry myself with confidence. Understand that people are ignorant as fuck and will size you up immediately and if there is one thing they don't like about you they will just write you off and not even give you a chance to show them that their assumptions are wrong. People will believe only what they want to believe. Very small minded and conformist thinking. Freakin clowns.....I just laugh at them.
Thank you for sharing! This video might help you a bit more actually: th-cam.com/video/hGBqQWyq6_8/w-d-xo.html
I think the best way to get over this is to realize that everyone is kind of stupid, yourself included. No one is perfect, every single person has bad qualities, good qualities, etc. we are constantly thinking higher up of others and making ourselves seem not as good as them so you want to impress them. This is the issue. If you just realize not to take humanity so seriously and that we all don't know what we're doing, it is easier to not care.
And starting now! Hell yeah I dig this.
Oh my god i was thinking about grade 6 and high school everyday someone is calling someone a mean name I was scared 😳 but then I watched this then I realized who cares plus I'm always myself thanks buddy ✌🏼your an amazing TH-camr keep it up
I worry about what people think of me and really enjoyed this video and wrote down the excercise and want to try it. Thanx alot keep'em coming!
Just what I needed to see right now. Thanks!
Thank you and glad you enjoyed the video
Thank you so so so much...this is exactly what i needed to hear..somehow..people seem to be wanting more and more..no matter how hard i try to change..i dont get credit..only more criticism. somewhere down the line i started to lose myself. i wanted some help in building myself up and then came up your vdo..and i know somewhere somehow it clicked. thanks a ton really!
This helped me so much thnx ☺️☺️☺️
Surely it's a normal part of human empathy to care what others think of you, as you care about them. You don't want them to not care about you at all - people just get annoyed when they're not thought of in the ways they'd like to be thought of. eg. the classic 'no one understands me' line.
To not care at all what people think of you would be to completely disconnect from other people. What most people mean when they say this is 'not care about the bad things other people think about me, only the good.'
Thanks bro it's inspirational what I needed right now i had best friends they kept telling me to do all their work and at a certain point I almost started to fear them because they started to create more problems and I have to clean up their mess and so I left them and was happier but they became so jealous and started to curse me wherever I go and at a certain one idiot who was my ex close friend started to scream at me for no reason and he started to tell how can u be happy after u left us I will not let u be happy like this. I left them because even though I cared for them when I was with them they never cared for me they only used me like an animal but after I left them they are jelous of my happiness I was afraid of them for a certain point but after watching this I finally feel a little lightness in my heart thanks for the video
But remember theirs a difference between not caring and being ignorant
THIS IS GREAT I FEEL MUCH BETTER
Thank you
Just what I needed to hear. Thank you.
To be honest I have to be real with myself I do care. Like I care if I get called selfish greedy anything like that. It does get to me. I realized though that sometimes I have to confront these people like my older brother. But hey thats a helpful example at the beginning rich get richer poor get poorer.
Outstanding in every area--BRILLIANT WORK!!
Rafael Eliassen No--thank YOU. You've created a channel that truly stands out, & I'm certain is helping a great many people.
Nice!! Loving the animated videos, this one is even better than the last. Great work Rafa!
This and the stop overthinking video are so great and helpful! Thank you so much!
But could you maybe summarise all the points in the description because I can't remember every point after watching
that was really an amazing breakdown of this concept!! i thoroughly enjoyed your take on it and will forward the video to many of the friends and clients i help daily!! keep up the good work buddy!!!!!!!
I never care what other people think. I am An absolute Success
This really helps me I have a spinal issue that causes my face and body to be under a ton of pressure the whole time which turns my face red I really am working on not giving a fuck about anyone to still continue my life and face the judgemental looks I see out of almost everyone
☺hope your ok
Kiera Rose doing the best i can thank you for taking to time tp typ that 😁
So much thanks for your video!
I’m constantly reminding myself that I’m good and I don’t need anyone’s approval. It’s scary at first but to be honest I’m more scared of living of life approval seeking than not. And ironically that’s when you get more validations
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Brainwash urself
Build conf
I don't care. I just don't care
I approve myself. I value own opin
Block out some ppl
Be you
Helpful video! Thank you:)
Fantastic video, thank you.
AMAZING ADVICE AND DEFINITELY EXCELLENT EXAMPLES!!!! Love it a ton!!!!!!!
So good man, wow! Enjoyed every second of this one
the thing stopping me from doing this is the really judgemental people, but i guess their opinions don’t matter
2:40 I'd rather choose the way (good) parents talk to their children by encouraging them... I'll from now on tell myself: "I am/you are good" "I can/you can do this"... "I can/ you can learn everything you need to know for what you want to achieve" etc. ... B/c it's not about not caring what others think, b/c they may have a point and it is also important not to create unnecessary negative vibes, but to create an inner circle of encouragement, and if you don't have ppl like this, create your inner support and be your own mentor and the best friend you could ever have
Well said!
that's good. Personally, I just say, "fuck it."
really needed to hear this insight today thank you!!
I did care what people think me but not what they say so this will help
i want to thank you...
thank you
well done! greet video!
Why is it that you post a video right when I need it the most? Hehe, loved it! Keep up these style videos they are amazing :D
always enjoy your videos :3
I really liked this video. Simple and practical. Good stuff. Thanks Rafael
Totally awesome i changed my story
I am a great father n man etc
Thank you man its helpful i don't care what other people say now l will be myself. I will put off the musk thats true i think i was starting to have depression because of thinking about other in everything single thing i do in my life now i realise that i was punishing myself.
I relate to this loads bro
This is Amazing !
This made me smile thank you very much for this video.
My mind is blown 😱😱
Holy moly I finally understand... thanks so much 💖💖💖
This video is moot to those with anxiety levels far and above normalcy
The only person who's approval ultimately matters is ourselves' :)
yes!I am bothered by their opinion.because they are best friends and I can't go away from them
Thank you for the video, it really helps to hear this words from others. Subscribed!
Thanks for this, it really did help me❤❤
So happy it did!
bouta start practicing this thanks ill let you know what happens aswell as meditating
thank you this really inspire because i do music and i be worry what people think about my music
thank you
Great video and very helpful. Thanks! Thanks! Thanks!
This somewhat works.
As much as I like the idea of approving of myself and that being enough, I do highly disagree with avoiding people that criticise or belittle you etc.. It would be much healthier to learn how to deal with negativity in a healthy way instead.
Self respect for the win
I think about it a lot. I try to please everyone around me and I always try to help people even when they are treating me like trash and I know deep down they dont deserve the help. I always care about what people think of me because I also try to fit in and you're helping me understand that isnt necessary. If you have any ideas for follow up videos on how to shut out the inner voice in one on one and party settings, that'd really help me (and most likely others) out
Rafael Eliassen people at school call me a name that im very sensitive about im scared what they think and the popular kids might find out and spreaad it on social media im just scared
Awesome is the word to best describe your videos sir.. thanks very much for sharing... My request to you is to please share a video to maintain the emotional stability, that I struggle a lot with 😊
Thank u this helped me a lot.... Sometimes it happens to me when I go out with my friends (mostly some of them are fake) to talk to a girl... they would say jokes like "Look, he's talking to a girl" or " He will never get a gf " kind of things.... and this bothers me.... i feel like I want to punch them like shit (It's aint't about I never get or I can't get a girlfriend , because I had a lot of chances but I rejected them 'cause I didn't like them very well.... If she's not attracted to my, I usually ignore, but when I like somebody they reject me..... kinda bad feeling
LyricsVideoZone If I may say so...sounds to me like you need to ditch some if those people you hang with. Those who do don't support you or even undermine or criticize you are not your friends.
Another musician here (aspiring, late starter, self-taught classical pianist). I loved the video. I realised I've been doing these things out of instinct I guess for over a year now, and I still feel that I tend to fall back in that trap if I I'm not careful. So I think I still have to keep on consciously reminding myself that there is simply no point to care and worry about others opinions as much as I used too. And the main reason I'm leaving this comment is to say that (for me) this can be insanely difficult and I'm still not sure if I should get some kind of self-control training or therapy help or not, because this is the biggest sabotager of my fulfillment. Performing ( on the piano (or for that matter anything in front of many people) is my main issue. How do you not care in that situation? When you are the solo artist of the evening? How do you not care if let's say you are in a competition? Or you just want to get in to a university? On the solo evening it builds or distroys your reputation. In the competition the jury knows their thing and likewise at the uni and you have high personal interests in getting trough there. So how do you deal with all those like a pro because that's a must learn for me ASAP.
And also for me while performing, minor flaws or hand shakieness start generating insecurity and a mind battle which also distract me from expressing myself artistically on thelevel I know I could. How could I get to overcome this? I suppose the negative brainwash should be cured with the positive one but I feel like I need a customized brainwash because the standard one just isn't enough for everything and in order to feel confident and secure in these not everyday situations I need to understand the proper solution to be ready.
Botond Kuti As a fellow musician I understand your feelings. Just wanted to suggest a video I found very helpful in this area in case it helps you too! m.th-cam.com/video/GYx0DZKth-8/w-d-xo.html Obviously the 'work' theme is transferable. Good luck!
you are not alone in this! you managed to succinctly put into words my experiences growing up playing classical piano - thought of performing brutal. my brother found success perfoming at CCM with beta blockers? i grew up and learned guitar, mando, flute, drums etc. and have had to learn to have fun and tend to perform out of the spotlight:))
brother ur doing great...
Thank you for this video x
do you have a video on stop thinking bad of myself. i think im myself's worst critic i guess..... good vid though thumbs up
I'm usually helping people out when in need. It's also part of my job as an assistant. But it turned out that I'm doing all the work because everybody knows I won't let them down. They're actually just using me. I often tried to just say "No" or "I don't care, it's not my problem/job to do" but they won't understand since I'd always done it before.
How do I start to not care anymore without everybody freaking out over that sudden change of my behavior?
(...and just now I realize that, once again, I'm caring too much about other people. Oh my... :'-)
Thank you so much, I'll definitely work on it! :)
i don't care what ppl say. i want to be myself. btw thanks for the video.
Thank you for this!
I needed this .
Thank you