Brilliant and so necessary. Excessive gentleness can be perceived as permission; a reaction that allows continuing delusion. That is not compassion. That can’t help and I would contend is cruel to others while encouraging arrogance in self.
We are taught to always be kind to everyone and end up being taken advantage of at times, but this teaching is so powerful! Thankyou again for the wisdom!
Thats part of life. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
The Four Noble Truths teach that suffering is an inevitable part of life. Have you ever reflected on how deeply understanding the causes of suffering could help you overcome life’s challenges?"
Same here. I'd like to share some knowledge. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists. Thanks.
It is really going to change my life. For the whole of my life I was excessively soft with everyone but unfortunately they took disadvantage of my nature. This story is immensely inspiring. Thank you for sharing. ❤
Yes, it helps in life. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
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Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
I am grateful for a great lessons! Sharing a lesson (formular) from my zen teachers so we can apply to solve life problems 1. Listening 2. Understanding = love 3. knowledge 4. Logical or rational 5. Wisdom 6. Compassion 7. Courage
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Wow, this Buddhist story really spoke to me. It reminded me of the importance of not being afraid to stand up for yourself and not let others take advantage of your kindness. It's so easy to get caught up in being "soft" to everyone, but this story inspires me to find a balance between being compassionate and asserting boundaries. Thank you for sharing this enlightening video!
This video has changed my life in a way I cannot explain. Thank you for teaching the importance of the middles way and not clinging to the rigidity of being overly gentle. It’s so important to be authentic while being compassionate
Sometimes the only way to successfully set boundaries after using all appropriate methods of skillful means requires the use of being harsh. This will ensure the person finally realizes your boundaries which are, at this point, impenetrable.
I agree with you.Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
I need to listen to this every day. Trying to defend myself from judgement and thinking less of myself for not convincing the perpretrator that he needs to respect me. Seems to happen when Im least expecting it. From my own son. I dont want to talk to him ever again. Again. Thank you for thia video. I will overcome my fears and live my life like someone left the gate open.
Thank you for this video. I have been wanting to change my habit of being too gentle. It makes me angry with myself. I have to develop equanimity to help myself in this situation. Namo buddhaya 🙏
This has been my true weakness all my life as a result I have totally isolated myself from people and after the passing of my daughter very recently my boundaries had been totally broken as I was at my weakest point in my life Now I get extremely panicked when being talked to plus most of the talk I am not interested in. I really need to address this issue. Thank you so muchhh
Hi there, community. I came across this video a few days ago. I was looking for answers due to way I have been feeling and thinking. My love life is not the best, and meeting a new person gives me anxiety. Anxiety for not corresponding to her, anxiety for losing her, anxiety if I will be target of another cheating experience. I'm almost 30 and feel disappointed that I couldn't get my feeling on track. This video is a relief. And soon, my life would probably continue as it is now. The reason I'm writing this is to raise awareness and unity. I'm not alone, and for those who can help give us a hand. Thank you.
Anxiety is a clinging to what could be and not receiving it, depression is clinging to what has happened and how it was. You got to be here, right now, and stop thinking about the what could be or what has been. Just be you and to hell with the consequences.
Admirable values of of his teaching on how to conduct our life wisely in dealing with others.Tq.for sharing valuable moral strength in personal development
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It's profound to learn Excessive Compassion = Enabling (that's crippling the person to be stuck in their ruts). Also, that's divine confirmation to emphasize that one can't heal in the place where they got sick, to begin with! God, please expand my horizon & equip me with insights to see my stop line + confidence to execute healthy boundaries. In Yeshua's Name , I pray. 🛐 Amen!🙏
Wise words ,However it's hard to change your nature ,Sometimes you need to put a hard shell on your back ,certainly in today's world ,As people see your kindness for weakness
Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
That's right, most people try to make him a "god", while Buddha himself said, "everyone can become buddha", its a philosophy of not living life as an animal, instinctual and reactionary, but like a human who has free will, that's why there are 6 paths(state of mind, not real places),Hell- > Preta-> Animal-> Asura -> Human -> Deva.
Buddhism is definitely a philosophy. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
I've never learn about Buddhist and yet i've been learnning those skill without know it exisit. it must been an natural for me in my domain, I've been self taught since i was 14 in 1976. don't ask me how i knew this
This seems to be a GPT generated script with the prompt being something along the lines of "Write some ways in which Buddhism isnt just about being "soft" to others. Thats why the narrative isnt allignining with the title. GPT just cant reconcile "who should a good Buddhist be hard on?" with the actual teachings of the Buddha. Thats actually really beautiful if you think about it :)
While the words here try to point to something, it really leaves everything up to interpretation. Saying "it's wise to set boundaries" it doesn't say which boundaries, when, how much? I don't deny that setting boundaries can help my "well-being"....but how do I decide what is truly necessary and what is just me avoiding things I don't like? Being kind, gentle and compassionate are all practices. If we decline to face situations, we forfeit the practice in difficult times where it might be of most use if we have the courage.
Chinese budist/I say dont let western changes way of thoughts in your own private pool of ones own journey. Be soft enough to bend and not hard enough to break.
Or as Krishnamurti put it “It’s no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” It’s seems that Buddha had the same predicament as Jesus, using words to describe the indescribable. The level of education in those days was marginal and literacy was relatively low, so it’s a blessing that much of this wisdom survived.
Don't be soft to those who are hard on me . Bad influence is the start of a bad tomorrow. Live today like it's the only day and tomorrow will be given to us to choose what we will do we with it.
Baha’i Teachings is a revival of the Buddhist Principles! Meaning, the fundamental Divine Teachings are renewed in This Day in the One Cause of God, in His new sent Manifestation - Baha’u’llah (The Glory of God)…. eternal in the past and eternal in the future! Yabaha ‘ul-abha!
**"Such a powerful video! The Buddhist perspective on setting boundaries and not being too soft with everyone is so eye-opening. How do you personally balance kindness with assertiveness in your relationships? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!"**
The teachings of this brother, not the religion that was formulated by man's opinion of what he said, just like we see in the many denominations of Christianity. Helping me on the path to meeting God Himself.
5:09 The Four Noble Truths teach that suffering is an inevitable part of life. Have you ever reflected on how deeply understanding the causes of suffering could help you overcome life’s challenges?"
You are more than foolish if you take My kindness for a weakness . In reality And I believe that it's is your own loss if you do so. Sadly I don't have to wish Bad on Anyone because I don't believe it to be necessary . nor warranted . It Not something I need in order to achieve peace. I Just do Me . And that is to be happy whenever possible . I don't allow others to determine my approach. By I'll feelings . To me it piontless to let them gain the upper hand on how you best portray yourself and your heart.
Well, I've tried this, and found the middle way, tried to help... but some people will not even respect the fact you have an alternative opinion. I'm finding women, and met some women I really admire, but others are really very abusive, and as I said won't even accept a difference of an opinion. I've just come out of prison, refused bail, which is why I went to prison and was hunger and water strike because I'm tired of the false allegations of such bullying women. And to be honest, I 'still' don't feel like I've done enough to change things.
To not be judged unfairly, and not just unfairly, people's efforts to do the right should be recognised@@PallasAndDove. Certainly, they shouldn't be criminalised, and a man judged on his gender rather than the merit of his character and what he is trying to achieve?
😂 Thank you for whatever you called teaching , teach . Talking nice doesn’t mean I’m soft or hard . What happened to your thinking or your thoughts. Do you have headaches cuz you keep repeat the same thing . Take some medicine to clear yourself 😂❤✌️
I would like to share my research because it has thrown up unique facts. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
It is Very misleading to "encourage" non-gentleness. & according to comments here, they've been misled.😢 Be Gentle Always in addition to discernment, wisdom etc. People pleasers & those who've yet to deal w/ their "attachments" may find, not being gentle to everyone, a fake easing of their internal stress. But it's not wholly healthy.
What form of Buddhism is this? Not Theravada...would Theravadins approve? I would say practice meditation on the four limitless states (love, compassion, rejoicing, equanimity) and don't care about being soft or hard care about the joy and bliss within yourself that destroys the concern of being hard or soft...enlightenment is the highest enjoyment, bliss, and freedom...think of a memory when you were very happy were you concerned with being hard or soft? What if you could always be happy all the time?
Mothers are too soft, a corrupt mother even more. It hurts the kid, the son of such mother or father will kill her or him for not teaching him to be respectful and considerate, make him realize being responsible and trustworthy makes you very likable and popular. This pampered son will find the world avoids him, wishes he were dead. He has a hard fate. He will one day realize his old parents avoid him too. Now too much hardness is going to hurt a little kid, you forgive many mistakes your kid makes, the punishment or lesson must not destroy the trust he has in his elders. Same is to be adhered to by his teachers. The middle path of Buddha was evolved so as to be reachable to family kind, his hard path for the monk had no relaxation. Not that he was a monk trainer either, he himself had followed the rules that his predecessors found useful. As monks we have to find happiness in the vast, can we be limited in bliss? No. Leave behind the concepts of "I", the "person", these are root for pain and pleasure cycle, break that circle to feel the process, find the strength of this imaginative process.
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For those reading this right now, remember, you cannot get well in the same environment that made you ill. Hope this helps you today.
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Yes, it did
You can if you believe in yourself.
What other's think of you is none of your business, THE BUDDHA
Absolutely true.....
Brilliant and so necessary. Excessive gentleness can be perceived as permission; a reaction that allows continuing delusion. That is not compassion. That can’t help and I would contend is cruel to others while encouraging arrogance in self.
We are taught to always be kind to everyone and end up being taken advantage of at times, but this teaching is so powerful! Thankyou again for the wisdom!
Thats part of life. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
*The wisdom of Buddhism is like a guiding light in my life. 🕊 It's about embracing the present moment and spreading kindness. 💖*
This video resonates with me.... I hate how my gentleness always places me in a position to be used 😭😭😭😭
Another way of seeing it is that you’re useful if you ever feel useless look back on the times you were used . You have utility. You’re a resource! 😊
Very true.
The Four Noble Truths teach that suffering is an inevitable part of life. Have you ever reflected on how deeply understanding the causes of suffering could help you overcome life’s challenges?"
5:20 💫 "Understanding karma from this perspective really helps me reflect on my actions. Thank you!"
Same here. I'd like to share some knowledge. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists. Thanks.
Although this video wasn't what I was expecting, it's nice to see an approach to Buddhism that's not all “sunshine and rainbows.”
I really admire how you convey knowledge about Buddhism; it’s fantastic! 📿
It is really going to change my life. For the whole of my life I was excessively soft with everyone but unfortunately they took disadvantage of my nature. This story is immensely inspiring.
Thank you for sharing. ❤
Thanks for sharing!!
Yes, it helps in life. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
"This video made me smile and appreciate the beauty of life around me."
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Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
This story has taught me to go through life accepting how to live abalanced life ❤ Thank you
I am grateful for a great lessons!
Sharing a lesson (formular) from my zen teachers so we can apply to solve life problems
1. Listening
2. Understanding = love
3. knowledge
4. Logical or rational
5. Wisdom
6. Compassion
7. Courage
Buddhist teachings is so practical. How one can apply in every situation, everyday. Such great wisdom that brings PEACE in today's chaotic world.
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Thankyou.
You're welcome
Wow, this Buddhist story really spoke to me. It reminded me of the importance of not being afraid to stand up for yourself and not let others take advantage of your kindness. It's so easy to get caught up in being "soft" to everyone, but this story inspires me to find a balance between being compassionate and asserting boundaries. Thank you for sharing this enlightening video!
This video has changed my life in a way I cannot explain. Thank you for teaching the importance of the middles way and not clinging to the rigidity of being overly gentle. It’s so important to be authentic while being compassionate
Glad it was helpful!
Sometimes the only way to successfully set boundaries after using all appropriate methods of skillful means requires the use of being harsh. This will ensure the person finally realizes your boundaries which are, at this point, impenetrable.
I agree with you.Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
❤❤❤❤ i needed this😢😢😢
Glad it helped you!
I enjoyed this ❤
Thank You for listening 🙏
It is your determination and persistence that will make you a successful person..
Good job and all the BEST to you.
I need to listen to this every day. Trying to defend myself from judgement and thinking less of myself for not convincing the perpretrator that he needs to respect me. Seems to happen when Im least expecting it. From my own son. I dont want to talk to him ever again. Again. Thank you for thia video. I will overcome my fears and live my life like someone left the gate open.
Thank you
Thank you for this video. I have been wanting to change my habit of being too gentle. It makes me angry with myself. I have to develop equanimity to help myself in this situation. Namo buddhaya 🙏
But maybe that is who you are. You can’t change your nature.
This has been my true weakness all my life as a result I have totally isolated myself from people and after the passing of my daughter very recently my boundaries had been totally broken as I was at my weakest point in my life Now I get extremely panicked when being talked to plus most of the talk I am not interested in. I really need to address this issue. Thank you so muchhh
I am so sorry to hear that your daughter has passed away.
Resonatingly profound. Thank you
You are so welcome
Hi there, community. I came across this video a few days ago. I was looking for answers due to way I have been feeling and thinking. My love life is not the best, and meeting a new person gives me anxiety. Anxiety for not corresponding to her, anxiety for losing her, anxiety if I will be target of another cheating experience. I'm almost 30 and feel disappointed that I couldn't get my feeling on track. This video is a relief. And soon, my life would probably continue as it is now. The reason I'm writing this is to raise awareness and unity. I'm not alone, and for those who can help give us a hand. Thank you.
Anxiety is a clinging to what could be and not receiving it, depression is clinging to what has happened and how it was. You got to be here, right now, and stop thinking about the what could be or what has been. Just be you and to hell with the consequences.
Admirable values of of his teaching on how to conduct our life wisely in dealing with others.Tq.for sharing valuable moral strength in personal development
Thank you ❤🙏
This is my new daily aspirational reading - to reflect, ponder and meditate upon.
Namaste ✨🌌🕊️
You are so welcome
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It's profound to learn Excessive Compassion = Enabling (that's crippling the person to be stuck in their ruts).
Also, that's divine confirmation to emphasize that one can't heal in the place where they got sick, to begin with!
God, please expand my horizon & equip me with insights to see my stop line + confidence to execute healthy boundaries. In Yeshua's Name , I pray. 🛐 Amen!🙏
"Thank you for the sharing. It's so inspiring. 🙏👍
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Beautifully presented. May it light the way for our New Humanity.
Wise words ,However it's hard to change your nature ,Sometimes you need to put a hard shell on your back ,certainly in today's world ,As people see your kindness for weakness
I too agree
Yes we were taught by so called society being humble and kind was considered good and end up being thrashed up by these people 😢
Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
Thank you for the wisdom please share more
Namasté! 🕉️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🕉️❤❤❤💐🕉️
Thankyou
Pls share more stories about Buddha
We sure will share more stories.
Thank You for listening 🙏
Can’t believe this
Especially true for the simps! Stop being a simp to women.
Namo Buddhaya🙏
Thankyou at this moment I desperately needed to hear this thankyou ❤🎉
Glad it was helpful
Great Saturday morning start
Listen at the end of the voice narration...
"Around ooose...open heeerts" 😂
This video is so valuable. But I'm reminded about balance with levity.
I see Buddhism as more a philosophy than a religion.
That's right, most people try to make him a "god", while Buddha himself said, "everyone can become buddha", its a philosophy of not living life as an animal, instinctual and reactionary, but like a human who has free will, that's why there are 6 paths(state of mind, not real places),Hell- > Preta-> Animal-> Asura -> Human -> Deva.
Buddhism is definitely a philosophy. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
You are the god of your self,
I've never learn about Buddhist and yet i've been learnning those skill without know it exisit. it must been an natural for me in my domain, I've been self taught since i was 14 in 1976. don't ask me how i knew this
You are recognising the teachings that you studied in a previous life.
Very well explained
Too honest person always been humited.. Honesty never wins why
Have lies won?
At least if you honest, you can fail with dignity.
Thank you 🙏
You’re welcome 😊
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Randy Orton is Awesome!!!
Wonderful! I love your narration.
AI is amazing!
Glad you enjoy it!
This seems to be a GPT generated script with the prompt being something along the lines of "Write some ways in which Buddhism isnt just about being "soft" to others.
Thats why the narrative isnt allignining with the title.
GPT just cant reconcile "who should a good Buddhist be hard on?" with the actual teachings of the Buddha.
Thats actually really beautiful if you think about it :)
While the words here try to point to something, it really leaves everything up to interpretation. Saying "it's wise to set boundaries" it doesn't say which boundaries, when, how much? I don't deny that setting boundaries can help my "well-being"....but how do I decide what is truly necessary and what is just me avoiding things I don't like?
Being kind, gentle and compassionate are all practices. If we decline to face situations, we forfeit the practice in difficult times where it might be of most use if we have the courage.
If we focus on the root cause of most of our suffering and become our true selves, those things happen naturally.
Sometimes, it is better to not think.
Yes, most of the time.
This is a great channel I regularly follow...
Chinese budist/I say dont let western changes way of thoughts in your own private pool of ones own journey.
Be soft enough to bend and not hard enough to break.
Very valuable lessons with many more things to get. May you accumulate much merits.
Many many thanks
Or as Krishnamurti put it “It’s no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” It’s seems that Buddha had the same predicament as Jesus, using words to describe the indescribable. The level of education in those days was marginal and literacy was relatively low, so it’s a blessing that much of this wisdom survived.
Informative ♥ Good research tool's
this was so enlightening ❤🙏❤
Thankyou 🙏
Don't be soft to those who are hard on me . Bad influence is the start of a bad tomorrow. Live today like it's the only day and tomorrow will be given to us to choose what we will do we with it.
Agree, not be hard and unkind to everyone. being nice you do get walked on by others. But we like people being nice to us don't we?
Baha’i Teachings is a revival of the Buddhist Principles! Meaning, the fundamental Divine Teachings are renewed in This Day in the One Cause of God, in His new sent Manifestation - Baha’u’llah (The Glory of God)…. eternal in the past and eternal in the future! Yabaha ‘ul-abha!
The West politicians need the East lessons to make world peace. BEAUTIFUL PRESENTATION.
You may say that again n again n again n again! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Loving Buddha teachings!🙏
Tuff Love 💪🏾
nice
Thanks!
**"Such a powerful video! The Buddhist perspective on setting boundaries and not being too soft with everyone is so eye-opening. How do you personally balance kindness with assertiveness in your relationships? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!"**
The teachings of this brother, not the religion that was formulated by man's opinion of what he said, just like we see in the many denominations of Christianity. Helping me on the path to meeting God Himself.
True!
These are the teachings of Hindu philosophy!!
Amazing Video which Voice over AI do u use?
Definitely NOT an AI voice. Sorry 😞
That which resists is slowly eroded by the running waters
I do not wish to be part of any religious denomination. However I enjoy such cultures.
5:09 The Four Noble Truths teach that suffering is an inevitable part of life. Have you ever reflected on how deeply understanding the causes of suffering could help you overcome life’s challenges?"
You are more than foolish if you take My kindness for a weakness . In reality And I believe that it's is your own loss if you do so. Sadly I don't have to wish Bad on Anyone because I don't believe it to be necessary . nor warranted . It Not something I need in order to achieve peace. I Just do Me . And that is to be happy whenever possible . I don't allow others to determine my approach. By I'll feelings . To me it piontless to let them gain the upper hand on how you best portray yourself and your heart.
@0:13 Gotham city buddha
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Each person is unique ie there will be a' holes lol .. treat accordingly!@
Are we able to ask about something we need education on?
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Well, I've tried this, and found the middle way, tried to help... but some people will not even respect the fact you have an alternative opinion.
I'm finding women, and met some women I really admire, but others are really very abusive, and as I said won't even accept a difference of an opinion.
I've just come out of prison, refused bail, which is why I went to prison and was hunger and water strike because I'm tired of the false allegations of such bullying women.
And to be honest, I 'still' don't feel like I've done enough to change things.
What do you need to change?
To not be judged unfairly, and not just unfairly, people's efforts to do the right should be recognised@@PallasAndDove.
Certainly, they shouldn't be criminalised, and a man judged on his gender rather than the merit of his character and what he is trying to achieve?
How to be hard and not to be gentle ?
TELLING
Is it Buddhism and Zen are same ?
Very hard to implement
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How do I balance in the middle way living with a narcissist and their flying monkeys
😂 Thank you for whatever you called teaching , teach . Talking nice doesn’t mean I’m soft or hard . What happened to your thinking or your thoughts. Do you have headaches cuz you keep repeat the same thing . Take some medicine to clear yourself 😂❤✌️
I would like to share my research because it has thrown up unique facts. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
It is Very misleading to "encourage" non-gentleness. & according to comments here, they've been misled.😢 Be Gentle Always in addition to discernment, wisdom etc. People pleasers & those who've yet to deal w/ their "attachments" may find, not being gentle to everyone, a fake easing of their internal stress. But it's not wholly healthy.
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So don't be gentle be compassionate?
Depends on the person.
Just do what feels right to you without giving too much of yourself away in the process.
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What form of Buddhism is this? Not Theravada...would Theravadins approve? I would say practice meditation on the four limitless states (love, compassion, rejoicing, equanimity) and don't care about being soft or hard care about the joy and bliss within yourself that destroys the concern of being hard or soft...enlightenment is the highest enjoyment, bliss, and freedom...think of a memory when you were very happy were you concerned with being hard or soft? What if you could always be happy all the time?
I don't believe the Buddha would approve of so many materialistic advertisements.
Mothers are too soft, a corrupt mother even more. It hurts the kid, the son of such mother or father will kill her or him for not teaching him to be respectful and considerate, make him realize being responsible and trustworthy makes you very likable and popular. This pampered son will find the world avoids him, wishes he were dead. He has a hard fate. He will one day realize his old parents avoid him too. Now too much hardness is going to hurt a little kid, you forgive many mistakes your kid makes, the punishment or lesson must not destroy the trust he has in his elders. Same is to be adhered to by his teachers.
The middle path of Buddha was evolved so as to be reachable to family kind, his hard path for the monk had no relaxation. Not that he was a monk trainer either, he himself had followed the rules that his predecessors found useful. As monks we have to find happiness in the vast, can we be limited in bliss? No. Leave behind the concepts of "I", the "person", these are root for pain and pleasure cycle, break that circle to feel the process, find the strength of this imaginative process.
If you never had shit in this life, desire less
i tell my self.
dont mistake this for being direct.
it doesnt work.
Budia born in Nepal not a India.