I have listened to this video 7 times, and each time I learn more and realize its value in my life. I suggest listening several times. Roxy gives excellent examples and models for the non-violent response and figuring out my own needs.
@SharpLeft Thank you for capturing Roxy teaching NVC basics!! Her teaching style is super inspiring to me! I am so grateful to have this to share with others :)
Rebekah solarwillpower Google! :) I just searched for Nonviolent Communication practitioners in the Bay Area, and her website came up. I got in touch and asked if she wanted to do a trade, I filmed some clips for her and she did this interview for me. I was stoked that she said yes! And I definitely learned things from making this video.
Rebekah solarwillpower please don’t use words like articulate when referring to a Black woman. I’m sure you mean no harm but....just google it, you’ll see.
@@PilatesWithCicely so true! I learned this by mistake. "Articulate" and "eloquent" are generally not received as compliments by black women or men... I am not sure if there are sensitivities with other BIPoC or not, but I appreciate that it is a sensitivity among many African Americans and black people in the USA. Having said that, I am inspired by Roxy as I find her ability to express these teachings with a remarkable level of clarity and organization of thought that is notable in the world of NVC certified trainers. I consistently enjoy learning from her.
I think mentioning the founder of NVC, Marshall Rosenberg, should be the starting point... thanks for explaining how you understand Marshall Rosenberg's way of being in the world
Why is that important to you? Marshall had a vision of expanding peace and love in the world. He founded NVC so that people could take his framework, add their own wisdom and experiential knowledge, and share compassionate communication with the world. NVC has become what it is today in part because of hundreds, if not thousands, of other practitioners sharing and evolving and adding to the form. Knowing what I know of Rosenberg, I don't think he'd care one bit about whether he was mentioned in every single video on NVC. This is not a standalone resource. I encourage everyone to find more resources on NVC and expand your learnings on the topic.
@BodeRiis I agree what I really loved about rosenberg's ideas and concepts is that they stood on their own and still held true without him in the picture. Methods and tenchiques tied to one individual are generally a huge red flag for me.
Her using examples about being loud or yelling are not observational from a. NVC consciousness point of view. Apart from that, it's a very helpful video
How would you observe when someone is using a louder volume than they normally do? I understand what you're saying but I think the point is that observations must be nonjudgmental, and I interpret "yelling" to be value-neutral. What are your thoughts?
Thanks for letting me know about the closed captions. I unlisted a lot of videos a few months ago, after the Posie Parker protest in New Zealand a lot of local trans folks myself included were hit with immense amounts of online transphobia, so I took a social media break and closed comments on many of my videos, while unlisting others. I have made the video with the alien public again, and I'll look into the CC on this one when I have time. Thank you
@@BodeRiis Thank _you_ for making my name in the credits public again, I feel like Rockfeller with his name on a plaque on a library wall when I see it lol
I think it can still be true that one can try and reach them by attempting to empathize with what might be going on for them. I think most people can learn empathy, if they’re open to it. “Don’t let what looks like a bloated ego and narcissism fool you into thinking there’s a lack of shame. Shame and fear are almost always driving that unethical behavior. We’re now seeing that shame often fuels narcissistic behavior. In fact, I define narcissism as the shame-based fear of being ordinary. Grandiosity and bluster are easy to assign to an overinflated ego. It’s tough to get a glimpse of the fear and lack of self-worth that are actually behind the posturing and selfishness because posturing leads to weaponizing hurt and turning it on other people. The last thing people like that need is more shame. More accountability for their behavior and lack of empathy? Yes. More shame just makes them more dangerous, gives them the opportunity to redirect attention to the shaming behavior, and, weirdly, can drum up support from others who are also looking for a way to discharge their pain and an enemy to blame.” Brené Brown
They might not respond on an empathic level even however you might communicate but how you hear what they say to you is an important part of the interaction. Nvc doesn't get people behaving contrary to their desires it affects what you can do in the situation and to see what is happening without obscuring the details with personal evaluations and judgements.
Her voice is so relaxing and tender ❤
I have listened to this video 7 times, and each time I learn more and realize its value in my life. I suggest listening several times. Roxy gives excellent examples and models for the non-violent response and figuring out my own needs.
Amazing video
This video needs to reach more people!! I keep re-visiting it again and again and sharing it again and again.
I have listened to it a handful of times over the months, and say it should be re-visited. Each time I listen I get more understanding of NVC.
This is very powerful. I’m very interested in learning about this method.
Thank you for the real life examples.
And realy cheking our mind set.
Thank you for this powerfully enlightening and clear explanation of NVC.
Great stuff!
Thank you Roxy!
I really appreciate the way this was broken down. Thank you
Thank you Ma for this wonderful video. I listened all the way through. It will help in my thesis at Masters level.
Really enjoyed this, so well expressed, thanks for posting
@SharpLeft Thank you for capturing Roxy teaching NVC basics!! Her teaching style is super inspiring to me! I am so grateful to have this to share with others :)
Thanks! This is definitely my favorite video on this channel. Please do share it around! ✨
thank you Roxy! I am constantly inspired by what you share :)
This is excellent Bode, thanks for sharing this. I’m curious about how you found Dr. Manning. She is so articulate!
Rebekah solarwillpower Google! :) I just searched for Nonviolent Communication practitioners in the Bay Area, and her website came up. I got in touch and asked if she wanted to do a trade, I filmed some clips for her and she did this interview for me. I was stoked that she said yes! And I definitely learned things from making this video.
SharpLeft That’s awesome! Good trade.
Rebekah solarwillpower please don’t use words like articulate when referring to a Black woman. I’m sure you mean no harm but....just google it, you’ll see.
@@PilatesWithCicely so true! I learned this by mistake. "Articulate" and "eloquent" are generally not received as compliments by black women or men... I am not sure if there are sensitivities with other BIPoC or not, but I appreciate that it is a sensitivity among many African Americans and black people in the USA. Having said that, I am inspired by Roxy as I find her ability to express these teachings with a remarkable level of clarity and organization of thought that is notable in the world of NVC certified trainers. I consistently enjoy learning from her.
I think mentioning the founder of NVC, Marshall Rosenberg, should be the starting point... thanks for explaining how you understand Marshall Rosenberg's way of being in the world
Why is that important to you?
Marshall had a vision of expanding peace and love in the world. He founded NVC so that people could take his framework, add their own wisdom and experiential knowledge, and share compassionate communication with the world. NVC has become what it is today in part because of hundreds, if not thousands, of other practitioners sharing and evolving and adding to the form. Knowing what I know of Rosenberg, I don't think he'd care one bit about whether he was mentioned in every single video on NVC.
This is not a standalone resource. I encourage everyone to find more resources on NVC and expand your learnings on the topic.
@BodeRiis I agree what I really loved about rosenberg's ideas and concepts is that they stood on their own and still held true without him in the picture. Methods and tenchiques tied to one individual are generally a huge red flag for me.
Her using examples about being loud or yelling are not observational from a. NVC consciousness point of view. Apart from that, it's a very helpful video
How would you observe when someone is using a louder volume than they normally do? I understand what you're saying but I think the point is that observations must be nonjudgmental, and I interpret "yelling" to be value-neutral. What are your thoughts?
Hey, something happened to the closed captions…
Also, what happened to the full video with the alien and everything?
Thanks for letting me know about the closed captions.
I unlisted a lot of videos a few months ago, after the Posie Parker protest in New Zealand a lot of local trans folks myself included were hit with immense amounts of online transphobia, so I took a social media break and closed comments on many of my videos, while unlisting others. I have made the video with the alien public again, and I'll look into the CC on this one when I have time.
Thank you
@@BodeRiis Thank _you_ for making my name in the credits public again, I feel like Rockfeller with his name on a plaque on a library wall when I see it lol
👍🤗🙏
How would this work with narcissists? Would it even work since they don't think about others needs?
I think it can still be true that one can try and reach them by attempting to empathize with what might be going on for them. I think most people can learn empathy, if they’re open to it.
“Don’t let what looks like a bloated ego and narcissism fool you into thinking there’s a lack of shame. Shame and fear are almost always driving that unethical behavior. We’re now seeing that shame often fuels narcissistic behavior. In fact, I define narcissism as the shame-based fear of being ordinary.
Grandiosity and bluster are easy to assign to an overinflated ego. It’s tough to get a glimpse of the fear and lack of self-worth that are actually behind the posturing and selfishness because posturing leads to weaponizing hurt and turning it on other people.
The last thing people like that need is more shame. More accountability for their behavior and lack of empathy? Yes. More shame just makes them more dangerous, gives them the opportunity to redirect attention to the shaming behavior, and, weirdly, can drum up support from others who are also looking for a way to discharge their pain and an enemy to blame.”
Brené Brown
They might not respond on an empathic level even however you might communicate but how you hear what they say to you is an important part of the interaction. Nvc doesn't get people behaving contrary to their desires it affects what you can do in the situation and to see what is happening without obscuring the details with personal evaluations and judgements.