In my view, if you invite someone out, you should pay. A business lunch or dinner. A formal date with a woman. If a group or people are meeting at a restaurant for breakfast, lunch the most wealthiest person should pay or it should be a business expense, corp 💳. Its tacky & gouche to make a issue over 💲 at a table. The waiters or servers look down on it & the person who offered will be mortified. 😲
@@DavidLLambertmobile If a group or people are meeting at a restaurant for breakfast, lunch the most wealthiest person should pay or it should be a business expense, corp 💳. I disagree completely. Anyone should pay their bill.
Hey man. I'm a guy in my 30s, raised in poor rural Poland. Now I live in Copenhagen and I feel like a Neanderthal every time I have to be social with my coworkers or Danish friends. Your videos really help me, keep up good work Sven.
Huh, I find it odd that you have had that experience in Denmark.. I’m Danish and I have the perception of danes to not be very polite or have very good manners at a restaurant for an example
A funny story Sven. My father worked for the JC Penney company and when he went for his lunch with Mr. Penney he was warned by the secretary because she liked him, to taste his food first before he salted it. Mr. Penney didn't trust anyone who seasoned their food before tasting it. My father was hired.
I took a chef training course years ago and the chef always said it was an insult to the chef, to salt your food before taking a sample..The chef would always say, try the food first , to see if it needs salt.
It makes sense. Why season something if you don't even know what you are seasoning it. (The only exception is a salad like a Caesar salad where cracked black pepper was not added in preparation).
:-) a colleague of mine, a french, always used the paper tissues, that we could get in our companies, low key cantine, the way, Raphael did show here. on his lap. and he always sat upright. would be amusing to see that in McDonald's
This fascinates me, as do all your vids. I am an Englishwoman and was taught all of these things from an early age. I was born when women wore hats and gloves, as did men, as a matter of course. It is nice to see people being educated about these things still. Thank you so much.
My grandparents would have loved the Gentleman's Gazette. I usually visited her and my grandfather at Christmas time. We always went to a nice restaurant at least once during the visit. I was given a proper etiquette lesson from my grandmother each visit. When we were visiting my grandparents would always pay the bill if it was just us at the dinner but if there were other friends of theirs joining then one interesting thing my grandfather would do would excuse himself during the meal or ahead of the meal to meet with the maitre di' in private. He would settle the bill at that time with the establishment. At the end of the meal, I remember the staff of the establishment would always come to the table and thank my grandfather for his patronage and ask that we all visit again soon. As I grew older I realized that he was paying ahead and tipping for service. I do not remember ever having poor service. Perhaps it is due to him settling the bill and tip in this manner.
Your grandfather was a true gentleman and a scholar. I think such a classy gesture today would never go unnoticed, even for the youngest & most uncouth of diners.
Well I'm from India and about a month ago i came here in Canada for study, what I noticed first thing was that people over here care for each other. I went to a mall and while entering A guy was on phone and as he was coming out i was entering he came out and hold the door for me even though he was on the phone which really surprised me. So now whenever i get the chance i do the same thing so that I can get mixed up with these guys.
Not going to lie: not sure how this ended up in my recommendations and I was a bit wary, considering the plethora of video series for gentlemen out there. However, the advice regarding wine tasting and when not to send back food (i.e. if it's your own dumb fault) is DEAD ON. I have rarely heard this in these sort of videos, and never as succinctly. Well done!
Aaron Sakulich my thoughts and situation exactly. The way he presents all this advice and the way he speaks isn’t outdated or narcissistic, unlike other ‘channels for men’, it’s considerate of different possible circumstances, and well presented. Brilliant channel.
Thank you so much, Sven & others. I am a Canadian who personally sees traditional courtesy & etiquette vanishing by the day. This is helpful as I desperately wanted to bring some of this beautiful kindness back to the everyday gentleman. Again, thank you!
It is sad , I live in Toronto and manners are going slowly , I thank the people waiting on me , they usually do not , thank me in return. I do not know if you know ,I have never been , but is Manitoba really as friendly as advertised on Manitoba car plates?
Well, I am actually on the west coast, not the east. British Columbia, not Manitoba. However, I have a lot of friends who live in Ma itobe who say people out, you know, on the streets and in public, they've gotten more common courtesy in Washington state. I believe it's just a matter of who it is you manage to meet. But I wouldn't say it's the 'Golden Province' of Canada, no.
@@doroparker1702 If I eat in a place regularly I try to get to know my servers. I'm more likely to get the best service, advice and attention if we have a good relationship. Plus it makes dining there more comfortable. Being a regular at any dining place from a coffe shop to a good quality restaurant is the best way to get the best experience.
@@brianmccarthy5557 As long as the restaurant is owned by a constant owner and the waiters stay longer than just one season this is true. We got some restaurants owned and run by families where grandma started a relationship and we still love it there. Our kids can get chocolate lavacake for desert no matter if it is on the menu. It is like visiting family and friends.
A tip on dining with kids is to feed them a light meal and keep them involved in conversations. I've had my kids dine with me in white table cloth restaurants since they're toddlers. They behave best when they're not famish. If we keep them engaged and if we keep our inside voice on, they'll also follow our lead. On paying the bill, if you're dining with Chinese clients or even hosts (not Chinese-American, but Chinese-Chinese), you'll find that they'll always insist on paying because that's the cultural etiquette. However, it's best to at least pretend to fight for the bill with them, even if they're the host. Fighting for the bill is considered part of being polite. Just letting them pay after they insist is considered rude. Of course, it's even worse if you're the host and your client paid. Don't expect to close any deal if you've done that.
11:55 In some eastern cultures we are taught that “you should go to the food, the food does not come to you”. So you would meet the food halfway or bend your head towards it, as it’s a sign of humility. To sit upright and bring the food to you can be seen as arrogant or uncultured. It’s amazing how some dining customs can differ so dramatically between cultures!
In western culture we consider that “the pig with his head in the trough” Usually seen with elbows on the table and about 20 centimetres from food to the mouth
My in-laws invite us to dinner at a rather stuffy place that I was very uncomfortable going to for the longest time. Your videos have heklped give me the knowledge and the confidence to not only be comfortable, but I’m one of the best dressed gents in the place now and the men all stop to look haha. Thanks for all you do!
"ideally, you should order off the menu without modifications" as a Chef I appreciate this point. other than reasons related to allergies, it kind of hurts a bit when someone arbitrarily decides "I don't want xyz on my food". There often is a lot of thought, effort and experimentation put into these dishes we create, and we do so with a passion for what we do. So it can be quite annoying to the kitchen staff when people want to make modifications to their food based solely of of what they think might make a dish better.
As an old Oilfield drilling hand. I just love this channel. Its like another planet. I am always delighted. liked and subscribed ages ago. There must be hope of redemption, even for Oilfield trash.
It's so interesting, I am from Iran and I grew up there. It's not written but our parents have learned us almost all of these rules traditionally. How small the world is!! Now I'm in North America and things are the same! Here we added some comfort to the rules which I find good. Thanks for video.
Marvelous, as usual. More and more often I find there is a lot of comfort in knowing how to behave like a gentleman. When you understand proper etiquette and the reasons behind it, you can be relaxed knowing others aren't judging you negatively. Even if I am "low man on the totem pole" and may even not be dressed as expensively as others, they often forget and simply treat me as one of their own - because I am acting the part. I've often heard the excuse for poor manners or even the resistance to learning them actually results from ignorance masquerading to the juvenile "I just want to be me," "Those rules are just made up by people trying to act more important," and "I don't care what other's think... who died and left them to judge me?" The answers, in order, are 1. You are being you... a narcissistic buffoon 2. Those rules came into being as a way to show respect to others, an action wasted on a pretentious, self-centered child like yourself, and finally, 3. You are judged by everything you do. Your disrespect of others leaves the court of public opinion with only one verdict... you are condemned as a person of little if any value in a civilized society. You should get a job as a lighthouse keeper or fire lookout at Gila National Forest in New Mexico. Thanks. I'm glad I got that off my chest.
When I first started to watch these I didn't care to much for the the what I am wearing portion of the video. I have since learned the importance of it because now I see the different styles and contrasts of dressing like a gentleman. Thanks for improving my life.
We were raised in the wilds of Arizona, but our mother stressed the necessity to hold and use our utensils properly. It never occurred to me that I ate in any way oddly until one charity gala in California when my table mate insisted I’d either been raised in Europe or that my parents had been European by the way I handled my cutlery. It took me quite a while to convince her I was a yokel from a small town. lol
Really bad guide, I went to McDonald's with my gal and there was no host to greet us and in the only wardrobe I could find (which was very far into the restaurant) they said I wasn't allowed to be there. Then we sat at our table for a solid hour before any waiter showed up, and he had the audacity to tell us to go up to a counter to order the meal!
joke is on you, in Switzerland McD and Burger King actually offer table-service as of recently. Also they won the award for healthiest food several times in a row. Sometimes It feels like living in lala-land.
Great video. The differences between China and the western world are huge, including restaurante etiquette, this is what we need to know before we go to western countries.
Right but that doesn't mean China etiquette is wrong. I'm English but I slurp my noodles. I feel like some of these so-called etiquette that some of us still cling to is actually ways to be repressed and stuffy, instead of allow an evening to flow and be enjoyable. If I have to run through mental checklist before going on a dinner date, something is wrong. Honestly I'd rather stick to my good awareness of manners and respect for others than have to think precisely which fork and spoon goes where.
c j You are right, sometimes these “rules” can drive people crazy. I didn’t say Chinese etiquette is wrong, I said we as a Chinese need to know your habits and costumes before we go to your country. In Chinese, we have a word 入乡随俗, it means do the things local people do, or follow the etiquette as local people, it is just a matter of respect and behave properly in a different country and culture.
@Dojocho maybe the older generation Chinese, but not the younger gen. I have several Chinese friends in their 30s, and they are cultured and respectful when eating and shopping. Please don't dig up a relic of past behaviour by a few pushy people and state it as though fact.
One thing that often caught me out was if I was at a table where the seating was close together, I wasn`t sure what bread plate or wine glasses were mine. A good acronym to remember is the German car BMW. From the left B= bread plate on your left, M= meal (dinner plate) in the middle and W= wine glasses to your right.
xXKILLER56Xx You misunderstood the example. He is saying that if you were to order $100 worth of food and a $500 bottle of wine you would not leave, at 20%, a $120 tip. You would leave $20 for the food and perhaps another $5-10 tip for the work that went into uncorking and pouring the wine. Did that clarify it?
@@carlivandenis Who gives 20% of tip in the first place. Of what I have seen 10% is quite common in the US. And yeah, thats a really good amount of tip. If you give 10% tip in germany people are like: yoooo, thats a lot of tip cuz for a 50€ mealy most people dont give more than 2€ of tip, sometimes none at all. But I usually stick to that ~10%.
Disco Jellyfish you do as you like, but in the US where tipping has become solidified as supplemental pay to the staff, a 10% tip is very rude and should only be left when service is uncommonly poor (if ever). 20% is standard is standard is standard. Again, you do as you want. Slam doors and chew with your mouth open while you’re at it
@@michaelrunnels7660 Well Its just really rare that service is goog enough to be worth for 20% of tip. A few weeks ago I was customer of a quite expensive place. The dinner was good but the server was so insanely far away in his imagination that the cook had to bring me my dinner after he rang this bell 3 times. I gave him the amount of tip he deserved, which was just rounding up to the next full euro. I will not meet this place again. Good thing I found another place I will leave my money at in the future. Not only are the prices way more realistic, the food is better too and the service was fast, concettated and friendly, which is, why he also deserved a lot of tip. with a 25% tip maybe gave quite a lot, but I felt the servisce was worth it.
My co-worker went to Texas for a business meeting in our Dallas office. He wore a three piece suit (very dapper). He overheard a guy in the hallway ask "Whose the mafia type?"
as an italian i can say something about paying, if you're a student like me and you go out with friends, usually everyone pays for what they ordered, if you go with friends to a fancier place usually you just split by heads so that everyone has enough money to pay for the meal, its not something that's taught to us but it's instinct
As someone who by their chemistry lacks social etiquette, I've found videos like this and books like the Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette to do wonders for the Millennial generation's understanding of the correct way to do things. I get very excited whenever I see them come across the wire!
I'm from the South, and older, I always hold the door open for everyone in our group.( And anyone else either entering, or leaving the establishment. )
I live in Orlando. In 2019, you will often see a 20s age woman in a dress or nice outfit, nice shoes, purse, hair do. The "guy" will be in a tank top or sleeve less shirt, shorts, board shorts, flip flops or sandals. 🙄 no class, no concern.
I once went to a restaurant with a good friend (Bill Kirkpatrick) who educated me to always take the napkin and put in on your lap right when you sit down, before you've been served anything, or even ordering. I guess Bill knows, he's a fancy worldly guy, so I always remember this each time I sit down at a table.
I so desperately hope that more people follow the techniques in this series of videos. Baseball caps, sleeveless t-shirts, blaring TVs,' and cell phones destroy an experience.
I gotta say, a lot of the "acting" I see on the Gent's Gazette channel is not to my liking, but the acting in this video is gold! The "do not do"s are really well made and funny! And the waiter was a good sport as well! Thank you for this video! It's invaluable.
Nice to see that things my parents told me about are still up to date 30 years later. You should mention the volume of conversation though. So many loud people:/
As a General Manager of a Seafood & Steakhouse, bravo! These insights are well explained and incredibly accurate for the most part. Thank you for sharing. Cheers!
Lieber Herr Schneider, ich habe diesen Kanal erst vor Kurzem entdeckt und muss sagen, dass er einfach nur super ist. Ich liebe es, mir hier Inspirationen zu holen und immer wieder Ihre tollen Looks anzuschauen. Machen Sie weiter so, wie bisher! Ich finde Sie, und natürlich auch Preston, super!👍🏼 Vielen herzlichen Dank für Ihre Mühe, die Sie sich jedes Mal geben... Es macht immer wieder sehr viel Spaß und ich schätze Sie sehr dafür! Ganz liebe Grüße Paul aus Niedersachsen. PS.: Ich weiß zwar nicht, wie viele deutsche Zuschauer Sie haben, aber ich persönlich würde mich freuen, wenn Sie vielleicht mal ein kleines deutsches Video machen würden. Das würde ich sehr spannend finden, wenn Sie mal die ganze Zeit deutsch sprechen würden. Es liegt natürlich bei Ihnen, ob Sie es für lohnend erachten.🙂😉
Ich kann mich dir nur anschließen, Gentleman's gazette ist einfach ein großartiger Kanal. Das ganze Team wirkt einfach nur freundlich, sympathisch und vor allem kompetent! Freundliche Grüße aus Sachsen Louis
Taking your children to lower class places and working your way up, while always teaching manners at every place, makes it easier to bring them to a higher class place. Also, it shows that you care about how your children act not just for you but for others.
It's amazing that grown men don't already know these details. I learned them before I was 20. I'd forgotten in Europe it asking for a menu modification just isn't the norm. In France, I've seen American customers asked to leave if they can't deal with the menu.
So happy that you did this! It is NECESSARY! So many people have terrible table manners. You see this frequently. Men who have no idea how to dress for the occasion, men wearing baseball caps at the table, not even considering pulling out a chair, fixating on their phones during the meal, and eschewing the napkin in favour of licking their fingers! This is COMMON! And it is worse, when they have children! My wife and I were recently at a fine restaurant, and the couple were doing all of these things, and the father was playing with the 8 year old and his younger sister, as they got up and walked around the table. People forget that there was a time when the only phone you had, was in your home. When you went out, you just enjoyed the evening. Today, so many people are self-indulgent. Fixated on the most trivial item on their phones, rather than engaging with their company.
Thank you for the guide! As someone from outside of Western nations, who grew up partially here, it can be hard to learn such etiquettes without your parents being able to help teach you. I will be keeping all of these lessons in mind.
Recently came across this channel when I was initially looking for info on a tweed blazer/suit. I've learned a lot. Great videos! The one thing I'm surprised you didn't mention (although maybe you did in the alcohol video) is when dining out don't be afraid to ask the sommelier for a wine recommendation. It's what we're trained for. The last thing you want to do is order the wrong wine for the meal and just ruin it all. Not to mention having to pay for it all! Red wine with fish? Sure SOME combinations work such as a pinot noir, but it's almost certainly not going to if you pick out a cabernet sauvignon from California or a shiraz from Australia. Anyways, keep up the awesome videos!
Great video! I think an episode on handshakes is in order. I saw some not so firm handshakes in his video. Its a pet peeve of mine when all I get in a handshake is the persons fingers. Im a firm believer that the webs of the thumb/index fingers should touch. No hard squeeze, but somewhat firm.
Easy to understand, like your illustrations, thank you. It's interesting to learn that a restaurant has become a venue not only to feed the hungry but for socialising.
Great content commentary and dining suggestions and pointers,👍although times sure have changed, its nice to hold some traditions, its classy and will take you higher In this crude but beautiful world we all live
AAAHHH! THANK YOU! There are some people with whom I spend a certain amount of time, usually including dining together, and they always clink the crystal - even when it's their own! - and it has always sort of freaked me out! I will continue to go along with it when with them, of course, since good manners includes never making people uncomfortable, but at least I now know NOT to clink elsewhere.
Nice follow-up to « table manners » video ! What I like about your videos is that you don’t tell your viewers the usual « be sure to subscribe » formula. Instead you just shows your channel’s logo with the word « subscribed ». Discreet and efficient! By the way have you done a video on gentleman’s manners? I wanted to know your opinion on hand kissing.
I discovered your channel and excellent advice about a year ago. Please keep the videos coming. I work in a bar/restaurant so I appreciate the tip on dining with children. For sure, don't be the person who lets the kids disturb other diners or make huge messes for the staff to clean.
Very informative video. I always said that they should offer a required course in Etiquette and Basic Economics (how to handle and invest your money) in American high schools. These are the things you need in life.
These are the things you learn at home. Your parents are responsible for your manners, not your school. At school you learn all other things. Maybe some hotels offer classes for basic manners and for advanced manners.
I just stumbled upon this channel recently, but I absolutely love it. Very informative. Nice guide to things we, as men, SHOULD know. But sometimes, we can use a little “refresher”, and this is a perfect way to remind us how to be gentlemen. Great videos!
We were taught table manners around the family dining table. We knew how to behave at table and how to eat properly before the age of 5 when we started school. One thing I noticed in your video that is at odds with the table manners I was taught, is that you hold a glass of white wine or a Champagne flute by its stem in order not to warm the chilled drink by the heat from your hand. A glass of red wine or Brandy should be held by the bowl of the glass.
I work in a Deli that serves sandwiches and such, but a little more upscale, as I wear dress shoes and dress pants with a polo. I really wish people would follow basic etiquette rules, even at a ready-to-eat establishment like mine. I am one of the few ones that enjoy customer service but I am always amazed at how entitled people act! 🧐 😂
You are 💯 correct but in the 2020s good luck having class, style or panache. 🧐. People or "men" who clean items, wear fashion, know proper methods seems like a relic or a pariah.
Zion Gallant I totally agree. I heard this once and I try to live by it .. “ act like you’ve been there and you wanna come back “ It drives me nuts the way adults act in public much less adolescents
It's been quite a while since I read these, but if I remember correctly, Amy Vanderbilt and Emily Post both say not to clink your glasses when toasting. Simply raise your glass and sip when everyone else does. If the toast is to oneself, raise the glass but don't drink at that moment. It's considered bad form to toast oneself. Maybe the rules have changed. I miss the days when we were mostly polite to each other. Thank you for this helpful video. Happy dining!
I'm a trans man, and I really appreciate the helpful advice. Having not been socialized with this information, I have to essentially relearn it as an adult, and videos like these have really helped me build my confidence. Thank you!
Your content is so thorough and so well laid out. I have learned a great deal and love the contrast between cultures. On a side note I bought my first Goodyear welted pair of shoes because of your videos. Thanks for your continuing education.
Here's a tip from my English Butler friend (Jayne Wrightsman, Betsy Whitney, valet for the Queen Mother) , instead of saying "Can I get..?", "May I have..", the royalty and royally rich always make request of staff by saying, "Would it be possible...?". He laughed while telling me this and said, "Of course everything is possible, but that is how they always ask for things". Of course, ordering in Restaurants, that don't fly, just say "I'll have the...". But asking for a something else, this is a nice affectation to ape. (I think).
Brits under 35, who obviously watch too much American TV, now all seem to say "Can I get..." instead of "May I have..." or "Could I have...". I find it infuriating!
2Bit Rasputin - In my day, you didn’t have to ask for a thing - staff were expected to anticipate any request before you were even aware of it yourself. Then the War came; the October Revolution ruined everything...
I was blessed early in my professional career where my Fortune 500 employer had my team participate in a restaurant etiquette course (as we hosted many of our international associates). It was a great time when private cars would pick us up at our homes when we traveled on business.and expense accounts were generous. Much different than today. Thank you for offering this helpful insight to fine dining.
❤️❤️❤️The gentleman with you. His hat 💫⭐️💫⭐️💫⭐️⭐️💫⭐️💫 Love his style!!! Yes I find it sad that the gentleman does not pull out the chair for the lady in America
Remember if a woman wants equal rights that means that she does not necessarily expect a man to pull out a chair for her. Remember many etiquette rules towards women where based on the fact they were not considered equal to men.
Equal rights have nothing to do with manners and behavior in a restaurant or in public. There are rules for educated people. You show that you are part of cultivated society when you can behave accordingly.
Good advice on complaints. I remember a guest posting a yelp complaint while she was still in the restaurant. Moreover, one of her complaints about policy was clearly stated in the menu.
The real hero of etiquette at formal dining events is the one that suggests retiring to the lounge or initiates the comfortable slouch at around the time of digestifs, port or brandy/whisky or coffee or whatever. There is nothing worse than the 30 min pause after the food is finished when people are still acting like the dinner must go on.
So tonight, I was on the ground adjusting the steering linkage of my Minnesota gravity wagon. This video came on and I found it very interesting and entertaining of thinking of all the mistakes I made in the restaurant. I plan to go to a nice place to practice my new skills. Sven, you say you're in the Midwest if you're ever in Minnesota I'll buy you a drink. Thanks for the education! I'll finish the work on my wagon tomorrow night. Got to take the oats to the mill on Saturday.
I worked in the wedding industry as a videographer for 10 years. Often we would be seated on a table of work friends & it was a pause before dining commenced. The array of cutlery was daunting to most as was the array of glasses before them. Thankfully I was raised with manners & having been a silver service waiter in my youth, I was aware of what silverware to use. As a former Maitre De I observed many faux pas with diners but it was never polite to speak up.
@@roselee4445 YES - Sibling was notorious for pinching a bread roll on the right. We were at a wedding & he was in the bridal party & the best man complained. I could tell you a funny story at a ball where he pinched the bread roll off the side plate of the Step Father Of Baz Luhrnan - Hollywood Director
It is becoming difficult to find restaurants with table cloths - even good ones with exceptional menus will sit you down at a bare table and set it with utensils rolled up in paper serviettes. Hardly ever see a dress code. Usually, well dressed patrons wear the ubiquitous blue jeans with a sports shirt. Men, in particular, seem to compete for the most casual back yard attire. This is a shame because I like to be elegant.
In which country is this? Only in fast food places or at bars with small snacks you will find tables without cloth. This video is about restaurants not about fast food places.
@@doroparker1702 maybe in Europe, but many restaurants the table is still half arse wet from the wipe, can see the missed areas, the server is offended if one asks for napkin to dry, water dripping off edge of table, seat wet where she used same cloth, wiped table with space cloth shevwiped seat where child standing on seat, had been in toilet, cutlery stopped on wet nasty table no service or anything,,,,, where, you ask, cheesecake factory mediocre place but not fast food
@@doroparker1702 A little, tiny country called the United States which you may have never heard of. Well worth a little of your attention, though I realize you have other things on your mind.
Nice video. I enjoyed being reminded that European restaurants aren't shy about asking guests to leave. I would enjoy a video on hosting a dinner party at one's home.
My father taught me - even if you are invited, always have enough money with you to pay for everyone if necessary
This is so true . Thats why i eat alone
Der lachende Vagabund
My father never needed to teach me to carry enough money.
The lesson was unnecessary. Lol.
In my view, if you invite someone out, you should pay. A business lunch or dinner. A formal date with a woman. If a group or people are meeting at a restaurant for breakfast, lunch the most wealthiest person should pay or it should be a business expense, corp 💳. Its tacky & gouche to make a issue over 💲 at a table. The waiters or servers look down on it & the person who offered will be mortified. 😲
Eat and run mate
@@DavidLLambertmobile If a group or people are meeting at a restaurant for breakfast, lunch the most wealthiest person should pay or it should be a business expense, corp 💳.
I disagree completely. Anyone should pay their bill.
Shoutout to Preston for being the third wheel in this one
Bro I feel his pain.
Hahah!
Nathan Borms he is enjoying getting away without paying. May be he should follow these rules as well
You do realize that a third wheel makes the vehicle more stable?
Nathan Borms *until later in the evening 😉
Hey man. I'm a guy in my 30s, raised in poor rural Poland. Now I live in Copenhagen and I feel like a Neanderthal every time I have to be social with my coworkers or Danish friends. Your videos really help me, keep up good work Sven.
If you go back home you will be more at ease.
emceha or u choose the wrong crowd
Huh, I find it odd that you have had that experience in Denmark.. I’m Danish and I have the perception of danes to not be very polite or have very good manners at a restaurant for an example
Well it's a cheap price for a sturdy east-european head, ready to outdrink any western spies
it's all in your head buddy
A funny story Sven. My father worked for the JC Penney company and when he went for his lunch with Mr. Penney he was warned by the secretary because she liked him, to taste his food first before he salted it. Mr. Penney didn't trust anyone who seasoned their food before tasting it.
My father was hired.
I took a chef training course years ago and the chef always said it was an insult to the chef, to salt your food before taking a sample..The chef would always say, try the food first , to see if it needs salt.
It makes sense. Why season something if you don't even know what you are seasoning it. (The only exception is a salad like a Caesar salad where cracked black pepper was not added in preparation).
This is fire
OMG. As a college student in 1968, I was interviewed for a position with JCP and received this same advice. Got the job, too.
My father taught me to taste the food before I use salt
Can’t wait to apply those skills at McDonald’s.
Remember to tip 15 to 20%
I tried this. A young man (whom I can only assume was the waiter) asked to take my jacket. I have not seen him or the jacket since that day.
:-) a colleague of mine, a french, always used the paper tissues, that we could get in our companies, low key cantine, the way, Raphael did show here. on his lap. and he always sat upright. would be amusing to see that in McDonald's
It's proper to have good manners anywhere!
I can't wait to apply at my own house.
This fascinates me, as do all your vids. I am an Englishwoman and was taught all of these things from an early age. I was born when women wore hats and gloves, as did men, as a matter of course. It is nice to see people being educated about these things still. Thank you so much.
We wish the hats and gloves would come back into fashion.
Ok boomer.
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Bosvigo's seriously wish I knew someone like you
Agreed
My grandparents would have loved the Gentleman's Gazette. I usually visited her and my grandfather at Christmas time. We always went to a nice restaurant at least once during the visit. I was given a proper etiquette lesson from my grandmother each visit. When we were visiting my grandparents would always pay the bill if it was just us at the dinner but if there were other friends of theirs joining then one interesting thing my grandfather would do would excuse himself during the meal or ahead of the meal to meet with the maitre di' in private. He would settle the bill at that time with the establishment. At the end of the meal, I remember the staff of the establishment would always come to the table and thank my grandfather for his patronage and ask that we all visit again soon. As I grew older I realized that he was paying ahead and tipping for service. I do not remember ever having poor service. Perhaps it is due to him settling the bill and tip in this manner.
Your grandfather was a true gentleman and a scholar. I think such a classy gesture today would never go unnoticed, even for the youngest & most uncouth of diners.
Your grandfather certainly had great manners and was a fine gentleman.
Well I'm from India and about a month ago i came here in Canada for study, what I noticed first thing was that people over here care for each other. I went to a mall and while entering A guy was on phone and as he was coming out i was entering he came out and hold the door for me even though he was on the phone which really surprised me. So now whenever i get the chance i do the same thing so that I can get mixed up with these guys.
@@Dabhach1 You got them!
Not going to lie: not sure how this ended up in my recommendations and I was a bit wary, considering the plethora of video series for gentlemen out there. However, the advice regarding wine tasting and when not to send back food (i.e. if it's your own dumb fault) is DEAD ON. I have rarely heard this in these sort of videos, and never as succinctly. Well done!
Aaron Sakulich my thoughts and situation exactly. The way he presents all this advice and the way he speaks isn’t outdated or narcissistic, unlike other ‘channels for men’, it’s considerate of different possible circumstances, and well presented. Brilliant channel.
Thank you so much, Sven & others. I am a Canadian who personally sees traditional courtesy & etiquette vanishing by the day. This is helpful as I desperately wanted to bring some of this beautiful kindness back to the everyday gentleman. Again, thank you!
It is our pleasure. :)
It is sad , I live in Toronto and manners are going slowly , I thank the people waiting on me , they usually do not , thank me in return. I do not know if you know ,I have never been , but is Manitoba really as friendly as advertised on Manitoba car plates?
Well, I am actually on the west coast, not the east. British Columbia, not Manitoba. However, I have a lot of friends who live in Ma itobe who say people out, you know, on the streets and in public, they've gotten more common courtesy in Washington state. I believe it's just a matter of who it is you manage to meet. But I wouldn't say it's the 'Golden Province' of Canada, no.
@@doroparker1702 If I eat in a place regularly I try to get to know my servers. I'm more likely to get the best service, advice and attention if we have a good relationship. Plus it makes dining there more comfortable. Being a regular at any dining place from a coffe shop to a good quality restaurant is the best way to get the best experience.
@@brianmccarthy5557 As long as the restaurant is owned by a constant owner and the waiters stay longer than just one season this is true.
We got some restaurants owned and run by families where grandma started a relationship and we still love it there.
Our kids can get chocolate lavacake for desert no matter if it is on the menu.
It is like visiting family and friends.
A tip on dining with kids is to feed them a light meal and keep them involved in conversations. I've had my kids dine with me in white table cloth restaurants since they're toddlers. They behave best when they're not famish. If we keep them engaged and if we keep our inside voice on, they'll also follow our lead.
On paying the bill, if you're dining with Chinese clients or even hosts (not Chinese-American, but Chinese-Chinese), you'll find that they'll always insist on paying because that's the cultural etiquette. However, it's best to at least pretend to fight for the bill with them, even if they're the host. Fighting for the bill is considered part of being polite. Just letting them pay after they insist is considered rude. Of course, it's even worse if you're the host and your client paid. Don't expect to close any deal if you've done that.
11:55 In some eastern cultures we are taught that “you should go to the food, the food does not come to you”. So you would meet the food halfway or bend your head towards it, as it’s a sign of humility. To sit upright and bring the food to you can be seen as arrogant or uncultured. It’s amazing how some dining customs can differ so dramatically between cultures!
Yes read up first , but I understood him to say, in USA, ON CONTINENT, IN EUROPE
In western culture we consider that “the pig with his head in the trough”
Usually seen with elbows on the table and about 20 centimetres from food to the mouth
My in-laws invite us to dinner at a rather stuffy place that I was very uncomfortable going to for the longest time. Your videos have heklped give me the knowledge and the confidence to not only be comfortable, but I’m one of the best dressed gents in the place now and the men all stop to look haha. Thanks for all you do!
Etiquette, dressing up, and high class things have always fascinated me. Love this channel so much.
"ideally, you should order off the menu without modifications" as a Chef I appreciate this point. other than reasons related to allergies, it kind of hurts a bit when someone arbitrarily decides "I don't want xyz on my food". There often is a lot of thought, effort and experimentation put into these dishes we create, and we do so with a passion for what we do. So it can be quite annoying to the kitchen staff when people want to make modifications to their food based solely of of what they think might make a dish better.
You ever think that maybe certain people aren't fans of certain things, so they're paying you to do it the way they wanted?
As an old Oilfield drilling hand. I just love this channel. Its like another planet. I am always delighted. liked and subscribed ages ago. There must be hope of redemption, even for Oilfield trash.
When the corporal in our company asked where I learn my dining etiquette from, I said that I learned from Gentlemen's Gazette 👍
I wouldn’t expect he was impressed.
Should had lied lol
It's so interesting, I am from Iran and I grew up there. It's not written but our parents have learned us almost all of these rules traditionally. How small the world is!! Now I'm in North America and things are the same! Here we added some comfort to the rules which I find good. Thanks for video.
Marvelous, as usual. More and more often I find there is a lot of comfort in knowing how to behave like a gentleman. When you understand proper etiquette and the reasons behind it, you can be relaxed knowing others aren't judging you negatively. Even if I am "low man on the totem pole" and may even not be dressed as expensively as others, they often forget and simply treat me as one of their own - because I am acting the part.
I've often heard the excuse for poor manners or even the resistance to learning them actually results from ignorance masquerading to the juvenile "I just want to be me," "Those rules are just made up by people trying to act more important," and "I don't care what other's think... who died and left them to judge me?" The answers, in order, are 1. You are being you... a narcissistic buffoon 2. Those rules came into being as a way to show respect to others, an action wasted on a pretentious, self-centered child like yourself, and finally, 3. You are judged by everything you do. Your disrespect of others leaves the court of public opinion with only one verdict... you are condemned as a person of little if any value in a civilized society. You should get a job as a lighthouse keeper or fire lookout at Gila National Forest in New Mexico.
Thanks. I'm glad I got that off my chest.
"the tone makes the music" man you can feel his german identity strongly with that phrase!
When I first started to watch these I didn't care to much for the the what I am wearing portion of the video. I have since learned the importance of it because now I see the different styles and contrasts of dressing like a gentleman. Thanks for improving my life.
And the lives of those around you! Civlisation truly has it's benefits.
We were raised in the wilds of Arizona, but our mother stressed the necessity to hold and use our utensils properly.
It never occurred to me that I ate in any way oddly until one charity gala in California when my table mate insisted I’d either been raised in Europe or that my parents had been European by the way I handled my cutlery.
It took me quite a while to convince her I was a yokel from a small town. lol
We gotta find a date for Preston!
That lady is his wife.
@@iqbalroskolnikov1391 Yeah, I know. We still need to fix single Preston up though.
@@iqbalroskolnikov1391 4:52 I hope that's his wife.
This video just highlights to me how much etiquette society as lost. Thanks for the refresher course 👍🏾.
If the glass has a stem, hold it by the stem. Yes! The stem is there so the temperature of your hand does not affect the temperature of the beverage.
These people are Neanderthals, George!
But if it`s a red wine you might want to increase the temperature slightly, holding it by the bowl will do just that
Didn’t know this gunna look fancy when I get smashed
@@admiralcraddock464 You should never touch the bowl of the glass. Fingerprints are bad.
Especially for a champagne flute. Warm glass of bubbly? Heaven forbid!
Really bad guide, I went to McDonald's with my gal and there was no host to greet us and in the only wardrobe I could find (which was very far into the restaurant) they said I wasn't allowed to be there. Then we sat at our table for a solid hour before any waiter showed up, and he had the audacity to tell us to go up to a counter to order the meal!
And the Wine Steward at McDonald's wheels around a mop bucket.
Similar experience but the wine machine was out of order
joke is on you, in Switzerland McD and Burger King actually offer table-service as of recently. Also they won the award for healthiest food several times in a row.
Sometimes It feels like living in lala-land.
Lol
That "they said I wasn't allowed to be there" really got me.
You Sir are a blessing for us socially awkward souls. Keep up the good work !
Great video. The differences between China and the western world are huge, including restaurante etiquette, this is what we need to know before we go to western countries.
Right but that doesn't mean China etiquette is wrong. I'm English but I slurp my noodles. I feel like some of these so-called etiquette that some of us still cling to is actually ways to be repressed and stuffy, instead of allow an evening to flow and be enjoyable.
If I have to run through mental checklist before going on a dinner date, something is wrong. Honestly I'd rather stick to my good awareness of manners and respect for others than have to think precisely which fork and spoon goes where.
c j You are right, sometimes these “rules” can drive people crazy. I didn’t say Chinese etiquette is wrong, I said we as a Chinese need to know your habits and costumes before we go to your country. In Chinese, we have a word 入乡随俗, it means do the things local people do, or follow the etiquette as local people, it is just a matter of respect and behave properly in a different country and culture.
@@Danielxulu nice
@Dojocho maybe the older generation Chinese, but not the younger gen. I have several Chinese friends in their 30s, and they are cultured and respectful when eating and shopping. Please don't dig up a relic of past behaviour by a few pushy people and state it as though fact.
徐璐 so, the Chinese equivalent of “When in Rome”.
Fellas! Listen to this man. You would be amazed at how good you will feel knowing what to do in any situation. And you will be super cool.
One thing that often caught me out was if I was at a table where the seating was close together, I wasn`t sure what bread plate or wine glasses were mine. A good acronym to remember is the German car BMW. From the left B= bread plate on your left, M= meal (dinner plate) in the middle and W= wine glasses to your right.
I love this!!! Awesome tip to remember! Thanks 🙏
"If you order a $500 bottle of wine" yeah... maybe the video is not for me
xXKILLER56Xx You misunderstood the example. He is saying that if you were to order $100 worth of food and a $500 bottle of wine you would not leave, at 20%, a $120 tip. You would leave $20 for the food and perhaps another $5-10 tip for the work that went into uncorking and pouring the wine. Did that clarify it?
@@carlivandenis Who gives 20% of tip in the first place. Of what I have seen 10% is quite common in the US. And yeah, thats a really good amount of tip. If you give 10% tip in germany people are like: yoooo, thats a lot of tip cuz for a 50€ mealy most people dont give more than 2€ of tip, sometimes none at all. But I usually stick to that ~10%.
Disco Jellyfish you do as you like, but in the US where tipping has become solidified as supplemental pay to the staff, a 10% tip is very rude and should only be left when service is uncommonly poor (if ever). 20% is standard is standard is standard. Again, you do as you want. Slam doors and chew with your mouth open while you’re at it
@@disco.jellyfish The tipping guide is for fine dining, not a breakfast cafe.
@@michaelrunnels7660 Well Its just really rare that service is goog enough to be worth for 20% of tip. A few weeks ago I was customer of a quite expensive place. The dinner was good but the server was so insanely far away in his imagination that the cook had to bring me my dinner after he rang this bell 3 times. I gave him the amount of tip he deserved, which was just rounding up to the next full euro. I will not meet this place again.
Good thing I found another place I will leave my money at in the future. Not only are the prices way more realistic, the food is better too and the service was fast, concettated and friendly, which is, why he also deserved a lot of tip. with a 25% tip maybe gave quite a lot, but I felt the servisce was worth it.
Three piece suit + pocket watch + classic men's hat= Gold.
My co-worker went to Texas for a business meeting in our Dallas office. He wore a three piece suit (very dapper).
He overheard a guy in the hallway ask "Whose the mafia type?"
But some drug store cowpokes leave hat on at tables, or worse put it on the table,,, hair people
as an italian i can say something about paying,
if you're a student like me and you go out with friends, usually everyone pays for what they ordered, if you go with friends to a fancier place usually you just split by heads so that everyone has enough money to pay for the meal, its not something that's taught to us but it's instinct
That makes sense. Very good to know.
After watching this channel for now almost a week
I am getting transformed day by day and getting enlightened
As someone who by their chemistry lacks social etiquette, I've found videos like this and books like the Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette to do wonders for the Millennial generation's understanding of the correct way to do things. I get very excited whenever I see them come across the wire!
I'm from the South, and older, I always hold the door open for everyone in our group.( And anyone else either entering, or leaving the establishment. )
God bless you 💫✨💫✨💫mother for raising a gentleman 🤗
God bless you for your kindness.
Absolutely correct! Mr. Raphael needs to learn these points of protocol.
My mom is from the south...she taught me the same. Thanks Mom
I live in Orlando. In 2019, you will often see a 20s age woman in a dress or nice outfit, nice shoes, purse, hair do. The "guy" will be in a tank top or sleeve less shirt, shorts, board shorts, flip flops or sandals. 🙄 no class, no concern.
@@DavidLLambertmobile
We see that here in Canada also. The woman deserves much better and it looks ridiculous. No manners or respect on the guys part.
Never clicked so fast, great Vid Raphael.
I once went to a restaurant with a good friend (Bill Kirkpatrick) who educated me to always take the napkin and put in on your lap right when you sit down, before you've been served anything, or even ordering. I guess Bill knows, he's a fancy worldly guy, so I always remember this each time I sit down at a table.
Americans let it dangle from their necks it's crazy 🤣
12:50, wow, Germany never disappoints; talk about being intense.
I so desperately hope that more people follow the techniques in this series of videos. Baseball caps, sleeveless t-shirts, blaring TVs,' and cell phones destroy an experience.
Agreed!
I gotta say, a lot of the "acting" I see on the Gent's Gazette channel is not to my liking, but the acting in this video is gold! The "do not do"s are really well made and funny! And the waiter was a good sport as well!
Thank you for this video! It's invaluable.
Thank God there are still man out there whos interested in etiquette!
Nice to see that things my parents told me about are still up to date 30 years later. You should mention the volume of conversation though. So many loud people:/
As a General Manager of a Seafood & Steakhouse, bravo! These insights are well explained and incredibly accurate for the most part. Thank you for sharing. Cheers!
I'm going out will my girlfriend's family next week. Thank you so much!
How did it go?
This is the first time I watched any of your videos but it made me very comfortable and almost addicted to wanting to better myself and my manners
Lieber Herr Schneider,
ich habe diesen Kanal erst vor Kurzem entdeckt und muss sagen, dass er einfach nur super ist. Ich liebe es, mir hier Inspirationen zu holen und immer wieder Ihre tollen Looks anzuschauen.
Machen Sie weiter so, wie bisher! Ich finde Sie, und natürlich auch Preston, super!👍🏼
Vielen herzlichen Dank für Ihre Mühe, die Sie sich jedes Mal geben... Es macht immer wieder sehr viel Spaß und ich schätze Sie sehr dafür!
Ganz liebe Grüße
Paul aus Niedersachsen.
PS.: Ich weiß zwar nicht, wie viele deutsche Zuschauer Sie haben, aber ich persönlich würde mich freuen, wenn Sie vielleicht mal ein kleines deutsches Video machen würden. Das würde ich sehr spannend finden, wenn Sie mal die ganze Zeit deutsch sprechen würden. Es liegt natürlich bei Ihnen, ob Sie es für lohnend erachten.🙂😉
Ich kann mich dir nur anschließen, Gentleman's gazette ist einfach ein großartiger Kanal. Das ganze Team wirkt einfach nur freundlich, sympathisch und vor allem kompetent!
Freundliche Grüße aus Sachsen
Louis
Louis Tostmann Genau! Sie stehen auch für den klassischen Gentleman...
Ich kann deinem Kommentar nur zustimmen. Hier lerne ich so viele Dinge die viele Menschen meiner Generation scheinbar vergessen haben...
Ich schließe mich ebenfalls an. Gentlemen’s Gazette hat mein Leben bereichert
Ich finde ihm interessant. Sein Englisch is perfekt.
Taking your children to lower class places and working your way up, while always teaching manners at every place, makes it easier to bring them to a higher class place. Also, it shows that you care about how your children act not just for you but for others.
Amen!
It's amazing that grown men don't already know these details. I learned them before I was 20. I'd forgotten in Europe it asking for a menu modification just isn't the norm. In France, I've seen American customers asked to leave if they can't deal with the menu.
French people were probably thinking you were British. They tolerate Americans much more.
So happy that you did this! It is NECESSARY! So many people have terrible table manners. You see this frequently. Men who have no idea how to dress for the occasion, men wearing baseball caps at the table, not even considering pulling out a chair, fixating on their phones during the meal, and eschewing the napkin in favour of licking their fingers! This is COMMON! And it is worse, when they have children!
My wife and I were recently at a fine restaurant, and the couple were doing all of these things, and the father was playing with the 8 year old and his younger sister, as they got up and walked around the table.
People forget that there was a time when the only phone you had, was in your home. When you went out, you just enjoyed the evening.
Today, so many people are self-indulgent. Fixated on the most trivial item on their phones, rather than engaging with their company.
When Raphael blew the soup I laughed so hard
Thank you for the guide! As someone from outside of Western nations, who grew up partially here, it can be hard to learn such etiquettes without your parents being able to help teach you. I will be keeping all of these lessons in mind.
Recently came across this channel when I was initially looking for info on a tweed blazer/suit. I've learned a lot. Great videos!
The one thing I'm surprised you didn't mention (although maybe you did in the alcohol video) is when dining out don't be afraid to ask the sommelier for a wine recommendation. It's what we're trained for. The last thing you want to do is order the wrong wine for the meal and just ruin it all. Not to mention having to pay for it all!
Red wine with fish? Sure SOME combinations work such as a pinot noir, but it's almost certainly not going to if you pick out a cabernet sauvignon from California or a shiraz from Australia.
Anyways, keep up the awesome videos!
Colour combination of his suit here is really awesome.
Great video! I think an episode on handshakes is in order. I saw some not so firm handshakes in his video. Its a pet peeve of mine when all I get in a handshake is the persons fingers. Im a firm believer that the webs of the thumb/index fingers should touch. No hard squeeze, but somewhat firm.
All we'll say for now is: stay tuned! ;)
- Preston
Limp and sweaty
Nothing better than Manny’s in Minneapolis. It makes me so happy to know that the Gentlemen’s Gazette is from MN; love it!
Take a shot every time Sven recommends the “table manners” video
and you'd will finish the entire bottle doing so
I'm wasted. Very ungentlemanly
There should be no where in the entire world that anyone should be anything but polite and grateful to anyone who serves others.
I love your channel! Long time fan. Keep going, stylish as always.
Easy to understand, like your illustrations, thank you. It's interesting to learn that a restaurant has become a venue not only to feed the hungry but for socialising.
Manny's is a fantastic restaurant! I've always had exceptional experiences there.
And, again, you have to appreciate a good food server. like a good bartender who makes your cocktail. It is a talent to archive. It makes the evening.
The “Savage Raphael” character in the video made me laugh audibly while watching this! Great video by the way :)
Great content commentary and dining suggestions and pointers,👍although times sure have changed, its nice to hold some traditions, its classy and will take you higher In this crude but beautiful world we all live
Great video. My mother taught me most of this from a young age! Thanks.
My dear, thank you for all your videos.
With you, I am perfecting my manners (with the means that I have) and I am catching up in English.
loved how beautifully this video was made. slow pace, amazing information and great narration. i loved the whole video. keep it going
I love your subtle humor
I would also note as a caveat that when drinking from a host's fine crystal (for instance, in a home) you NEVER EVER EVER ”clink” their crystal.
Well, you shouldn't "clink" anyway.
AAAHHH! THANK YOU! There are some people with whom I spend a certain amount of time, usually including dining together, and they always clink the crystal - even when it's their own! - and it has always sort of freaked me out! I will continue to go along with it when with them, of course, since good manners includes never making people uncomfortable, but at least I now know NOT to clink elsewhere.
Clinking is superstitious so I avoid it. But that's a very good point
Ummmm... I have Riedel sommelier series glassware at my house and we touch glasses gently.
The more I see you're videos , the more I like it . Thank you for sharing your videos . I feel enlightened .
Nice follow-up to « table manners » video ! What I like about your videos is that you don’t tell your viewers the usual « be sure to subscribe » formula. Instead you just shows your channel’s logo with the word « subscribed ». Discreet and efficient!
By the way have you done a video on gentleman’s manners? I wanted to know your opinion on hand kissing.
I'm a lady and I love it when a man kisses my hand!
2021 here... I couldn't finish watching this.... to many tears.
Manny's steakhouse is awesome, one of my favorite spots!
I discovered your channel and excellent advice about a year ago. Please keep the videos coming.
I work in a bar/restaurant so I appreciate the tip on dining with children. For sure, don't be the person who lets the kids disturb other diners or make huge messes for the staff to clean.
Very informative video. I always said that they should offer a required course in Etiquette and Basic Economics (how to handle and invest your money) in American high schools.
These are the things you need in life.
These are the things you learn at home. Your parents are responsible for your manners, not your school.
At school you learn all other things.
Maybe some hotels offer classes for basic manners and for advanced manners.
Servers should be taught as well, they often grab plates while one has the fork in mouth or in hands, I sit there stunned
I just stumbled upon this channel recently, but I absolutely love it. Very informative. Nice guide to things we, as men, SHOULD know. But sometimes, we can use a little “refresher”, and this is a perfect way to remind us how to be gentlemen. Great videos!
These are really helpful, thank you. The three of you are putting out some great videos.
We were taught table manners around the family dining table. We knew how to behave at table and how to eat properly before the age of 5 when we started school.
One thing I noticed in your video that is at odds with the table manners I was taught, is that you hold a glass of white wine or a Champagne flute by its stem in order not to warm the chilled drink by the heat from your hand. A glass of red wine or Brandy should be held by the bowl of the glass.
I work in a Deli that serves sandwiches and such, but a little more upscale, as I wear dress shoes and dress pants with a polo. I really wish people would follow basic etiquette rules, even at a ready-to-eat establishment like mine. I am one of the few ones that enjoy customer service but I am always amazed at how entitled people act! 🧐 😂
You are 💯 correct but in the 2020s good luck having class, style or panache. 🧐. People or "men" who clean items, wear fashion, know proper methods seems like a relic or a pariah.
Zion Gallant
I totally agree. I heard this once and I try to live by it ..
“ act like you’ve been there and you wanna come back “
It drives me nuts the way adults act in public much less adolescents
It's been quite a while since I read these, but if I remember correctly, Amy Vanderbilt and Emily Post both say not to clink your glasses when toasting. Simply raise your glass and sip when everyone else does. If the toast is to oneself, raise the glass but don't drink at that moment. It's considered bad form to toast oneself.
Maybe the rules have changed. I miss the days when we were mostly polite to each other. Thank you for this helpful video. Happy dining!
I'm a trans man, and I really appreciate the helpful advice. Having not been socialized with this information, I have to essentially relearn it as an adult, and videos like these have really helped me build my confidence. Thank you!
Speaking as a trans woman, I know you will crush this 😄
@@The_Daily_Tomato awe thx!
Your content is so thorough and so well laid out. I have learned a great deal and love the contrast between cultures. On a side note I bought my first Goodyear welted pair of shoes because of your videos. Thanks for your continuing education.
The best TH-cam Chanel! Dankeschön 😍
Wonderful to hear such polite tips directed at being a good person.
Here's a tip from my English Butler friend (Jayne Wrightsman, Betsy Whitney, valet for the Queen Mother) , instead of saying "Can I get..?", "May I have..", the royalty and royally rich always make request of staff by saying, "Would it be possible...?". He laughed while telling me this and said, "Of course everything is possible, but that is how they always ask for things". Of course, ordering in Restaurants, that don't fly, just say "I'll have the...". But asking for a something else, this is a nice affectation to ape. (I think).
Brits under 35, who obviously watch too much American TV, now all seem to say "Can I get..." instead of "May I have..." or "Could I have...". I find it infuriating!
I always thought "may I have" was polite. But I suppose there *are* more elegant ways to phrase it.
@@MarkWilliams-gy9bi
A lot of people I hear just say,
"give me..." No manners.
2Bit Rasputin
Would it be possible....
....to seem more pretentious!?
2Bit Rasputin - In my day, you didn’t have to ask for a thing - staff were expected to anticipate any request before you were even aware of it yourself. Then the War came; the October Revolution ruined everything...
I love Preston's reaction in the little clip where Raphael arrives late, good stuff.
I love the fact I’m seeing Minneapolis! Sven I hope to run into you someday either out and about or on a racquetball court! Happy holidays GG team!
I was blessed early in my professional career where my Fortune 500 employer had my team participate in a restaurant etiquette course (as we hosted many of our international associates). It was a great time when private cars would pick us up at our homes when we traveled on business.and expense accounts were generous. Much different than today.
Thank you for offering this helpful insight to fine dining.
❤️❤️❤️The gentleman with you. His hat 💫⭐️💫⭐️💫⭐️⭐️💫⭐️💫
Love his style!!!
Yes I find it sad that the gentleman does not pull out the chair for the lady in America
Remember if a woman wants equal rights that means that she does not necessarily expect a man to pull out a chair for her. Remember many etiquette rules towards women where based on the fact they were not considered equal to men.
Equal rights have nothing to do with manners and behavior in a restaurant or in public.
There are rules for educated people.
You show that you are part of cultivated society when you can behave accordingly.
Good advice on complaints. I remember a guest posting a yelp complaint while she was still in the restaurant. Moreover, one of her complaints about policy was clearly stated in the menu.
British etiquette allows tipping the soup bowl, but one tilts the bowl away from you, not towards you like one might with cereal
The real hero of etiquette at formal dining events is the one that suggests retiring to the lounge or initiates the comfortable slouch at around the time of digestifs, port or brandy/whisky or coffee or whatever. There is nothing worse than the 30 min pause after the food is finished when people are still acting like the dinner must go on.
Me watching this in bed while stuffing my face with Cheetos.
same. although with me it's usually exercise vids!
Keep elbows off your pillow please
So tonight, I was on the ground adjusting the steering linkage of my Minnesota gravity wagon.
This video came on and I found it very interesting and entertaining of thinking of all the mistakes I made in the restaurant. I plan to go to a nice place to practice my new skills.
Sven, you say you're in the Midwest if you're ever in Minnesota I'll buy you a drink. Thanks for the education!
I'll finish the work on my wagon tomorrow night.
Got to take the oats to the mill on Saturday.
Thanks for uploading such an infomating things
I worked in the wedding industry as a videographer for 10 years. Often we would be seated on a table of work friends & it was a pause before dining commenced. The array of cutlery was daunting to most as was the array of glasses before them. Thankfully I was raised with manners & having been a silver service waiter in my youth, I was aware of what silverware to use. As a former Maitre De I observed many faux pas with diners but it was never polite to speak up.
Yes, especially annoying when your neighbor grabs your cutlery or drinks from your glass from ignorance then u ate left stranded
@@roselee4445 YES - Sibling was notorious for pinching a bread roll on the right. We were at a wedding & he was in the bridal party & the best man complained. I could tell you a funny story at a ball where he pinched the bread roll off the side plate of the Step Father Of Baz Luhrnan - Hollywood Director
It is becoming difficult to find restaurants with table cloths - even good ones with exceptional menus will sit you down at a bare table and set it with utensils rolled up in paper serviettes. Hardly ever see a dress code. Usually, well dressed patrons wear the ubiquitous blue jeans with a sports shirt. Men, in particular, seem to compete for the most casual back yard attire.
This is a shame because I like to be elegant.
Fergus Mallon
I blame baby boomers
Maybe you shouldn't eat at McDonald's so much. And how is anything you said stopping you from being elegant? Quit whining.
In which country is this?
Only in fast food places or at bars with small snacks you will find tables without cloth.
This video is about restaurants not about fast food places.
@@doroparker1702 maybe in Europe, but many restaurants the table is still half arse wet from the wipe, can see the missed areas, the server is offended if one asks for napkin to dry, water dripping off edge of table, seat wet where she used same cloth, wiped table with space cloth shevwiped seat where child standing on seat, had been in toilet, cutlery stopped on wet nasty table no service or anything,,,,, where, you ask, cheesecake factory mediocre place but not fast food
@@doroparker1702 A little, tiny country called the United States which you may have never heard of. Well worth a little of your attention, though I realize you have other things on your mind.
Nice video. I enjoyed being reminded that European restaurants aren't shy about asking guests to leave. I would enjoy a video on hosting a dinner party at one's home.
Stupendous video! I’d love to dine with Raphael and Preston.
Let's not forget his wife
Thank you. You people are amazing. I wish I knew someone in my life that dresses nice.