I have been told by a relative that they respect my covert narcissist parent and will do their bidding. I have given up hope that anybody in my extended family will help me.
1. I would rather be alone than in bad company. 2. I would rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies. Just a few friends but with more value. 3. I started going to church to feel better, not because I think that I am better, not true. 4. To the Narcissists. Thanks for showing me who my real friends were. Great video with an awesome message, thank you Sir, it truly warmed my heart. ❤️❤️
Good point: "the narcissist didn't change anybody's mind" - learning this truth is definitely painful and I don't think anyone is prepared for that hard painful lesson.
I'm at this stage just now ... the realisation is devestating & confusing ALL OVER AGAIN 😔. Its hard to detach from friends (?!?) that's been in my life constantly for over 20yrs .... our kids all grown up together aswell. Doing my best though & I'm proud of myself - being furloughed from work due to lockdown has actually been a blessing in disguise 😆
Painful truth . The fly monkeys never liked us to start with . They just needed an excuse to dislike us believe crap the narc said . It's jealously probably
Every word you say is true. It hurts to be betrayed by your family and friends but the truth about the quality of the relationships sets you free! It is vital to distance yourself from those who never really cared for you.
I found it SO difficult grieving & letting go of certain friendships at the time.. & unfortunately went through a duluded period of trying to keep them in my life... I forgave myself & allowed myself room to grieve; then something amazing happened ✨ I saw the reality of who they were & no longer saw them in the same light I once did 💫 dissonance gone ✨ along with the feelings I had for them; it was nothing short of liberating 🌈☺️🌸
Agreed! Some of my friends didn't even know or have seen the last toxic person I was friends with, and after I told them my story, they took the side of the toxic individual...
Great perspective 👏 I agree with you, Narc abuse definitely opens your eyes to not just Narcissists but toxic friends around you too. It is a sad experience but a necessary one to allow healthier relationships into your life. God bless 🙏
Yep. My brother's first wife really got my family to show their true colors toward me. I guess that was her purpose cause like i figured, she wasnt around long and he remarried and i only talk to my mom and aunt every now and then. No more bros or cousins or other relatives. I was like fug it, im done!
Narc abuse is a 2 for 1 deal.... after you dump the narc, you ALSO lose any trash that was in your circle of ‘trusted’ family and friends, because they go with him.
Listen that’s all he’s talking to us if it fits you then just be holding your head up higher somebody hears you somebody good hears you it’s going to be OK
I’ve heard a lot of people here on TH-cam that children of malignant narcissists often become prey to other narcissists. How, when, where, I do not know but I suspect it’s going to happen while I try to fight the narcissists in court.
Read so many comments from different channels concerning this topic and it's just amazes me how many people out there are victims of these narcs. I thought I was the only one going through this all my life.
@@di4085 I’ve changed my name to yellowrose5551 in the fall of 2023 I decide to make contact with my ex after not seeing him for 2 1/2 years well that was pointless January 19, 2024. I said I’m done there’s no third time happening here.
My family members did more to destroy my family relationships through their example of how they treated me than with words. My children thought something was wrong with me because of the dismissiveness, the lack of love, the rude behavior toward me. It really is true; "more is caught than taught." Someone doesn't have to say anything against another person, all they have to do is ignore them, make disapproving grunting sounds and show total disinterest in your accomplishments while boasting about their own. Our entire culture in this region, the Pacific Northwest is narcissistic in nature.
Back in the day I thought I might move to Seattle when I came from the DC area. Thank God I choose to Southwest instead because I met some folks from there.. when I first moved here in the early 2000s, and I totally get what you're saying. I just thought, BULLET DODGED when I met one of those folks. Hail Arizona!!
When that happened to me I complained to God so much and He finally told me SO, THEY DID THAT TO MY SON TOO! Wow! I felt so bad for keep complaining. I repented quickly and never said it to God again. I’m in excellent company. Jesus told us if the world hates Him they will hate us also. Growth does hurt but the healing brings joy. The only one to help me is God. Glad to find your videos. Keep up the good work.
The key thing my family had in common. Was television, gambling bug, alcohol, drugs for some and gossip. I honored my Father, yet he acted like I didn't matter, if he wanted to, and would never explain what that slap was for...I felt like an appliance more than a daughter.
Thank you so much for this wonderful video, Kevin. Looking back and pondering, only now do I realize that everything was "situationship". It's the most horrific thing that I just realized that everything was never meant to be. Thank you so much and God bless you.
Narcissim is so mentally unhealthy. Through Kevins channel, we are able to spot, recognise and deal with it. But knowing that your friends and family have changed their perception about you is awful. Im just glad through education, we can prepare ourselves to deal with. The bible has many examples of being people mistrusted and lied too. Trust in God and he will never leave you. Let go of people that cause you pain, strife and grief. They serve no purpose but cause you pain.
This was an incredibly healing video. A new perspective I hadn't considered. I was thinking lately that it really does communicate something about the people who go along with the narcissists slander. It exposes the "friendships" you thought you had for what they are. And really, its a greater reflection on their heartlessness than it is on you. Because seriously? You can't have much of a heart to gossip and target a single person in a mob like mentality. Who on earth can ever do that unless they are completely devoid of compassion, and putting themselves in the shoes of another? Avoid such people!
Thanks for shedding light on this confusing topic. One can go through life without fully knowing who truly cares and would stand up for you. It is difficult to accept loss of relationships with family members who I thought cared. On the flip side, this is the ultimate litmus test one which brings clarity in the end.
Thank you so much for this video - I've been having such a hard time since my 17yr narc abuse relationship ended (1st that) and then trying to figure out who out my friends has actually got my back & the devestating truth is ... not the closest 3 which I would tell EVERYTHING to ... it's all been used against me in one way or another this video however has just pushed me into such a clearer light ... Thank You xx
I am learning a lot from these videos that keep popping up as I do my research to help myself. Some Family and friends have moved away, some have scolded me. They have made up lies about me. They cause drama and say it’s me. It’s not! My husband is one of the biggest narcs and has turned the whole family against me. He loves it and tells me I’m the one who chased everyone away. I can’t believe that I married my worst enemy, I knew something was wrong with him, but just never knew, because he always made me think it was all me and my fault. I fell right into the biggest trap ever because I had such low self esteem. After I started going to church, they really let me have it. Nothing I did was right. I’m catching on and thank you!
Great video! I went through this recently my friend I met while she's getting divorce from a narcissist. I was actually realizing i dating one she would give me advice on the signs of what he was doing was narcissistic and emotional abuse. 6 years later he contacted her because he couldn't reach me and she's telling me to give him a second chance. I feel like if someone really cares about you they wouldn't feed into the narcissistic manipulation or whatever is going on here. So like you said over time their true colors have been shown and I need to block both of them and distance myself. I've gotten closer to where I need to be and a lot of self-care I'm actually really happy without the ex-boyfriend in my life. I don't want to be around people who get between me and God or pull me backwards from where I need to be. Thanks again for your videos and advice it's truly amazing what you've gone through and help others with! 🔥❤️🙏
Alot of my friends quite talking to me because of the covert narcissist with psychopath and sociopath traits Now my family doesn't believe a word he says So thankfully he has not turned my family against me
I was together in a relationship with a narcissist for a year, and that was 10 years ago. I’m still currently learning what a narcissist is, and it’s all exactly the way that she was. Thank you for this, bro.
Very true. I love the smear campaign because it reveals what people wish you were. If somebody appreciates your goodness, nobody will come and tell them otherwise.
You say what is happening.. and it's so true now I know that I am on the right track and let them stay out off my life..and have my own friends. And my own life
I really really needed this video, Thank you so much⚘and you are sooooo right these where shallow relationships anyway,I believed I was loved and accepted like I loved and accepted them while the emotional abused and humiliated me. It's all good healing, no contact, learning everything about narcissist abuse,living the absolute best life ever without them, It is not easy in anyway, I am finally happy and being the best person I can be..
Thank you 🙏 so very much 🌱 washing away the mud and dirt to reveal what’s truly good and whole 🌟🍀🌧 a true revelation. Turning blind naïveté into insightful wisdom - divine transformation 🙏🌟😘💕
Damn!!!! The entire path of CUTTING PEOPLE OFF is WHOA!!!! spot on... I have heard all of this felt all if it and suppressed myself for years because if this... I felt this and lived it!!! How much better I feel and am when I did this...keeping it grounded in the chapters in the bible..thank you!!! All I've heard since CUTTING OFF is the NEED FOR FAMILY TI GIVE THEM THAT COMFORT so missed by me...because now there are BOUNDARIES I HAVE IMPLEMENTED AND REINFORCE Scene, after the divorce to have my family remain friends and try to convince ME that I am wrong to limit contact and conversation... I owe nothing anymore... I have heard how my ex-wife has went to MY FAMILY... talking about now paying child support things about our post divorce matters the same way as was done when we were married... Telling if the story from GENESIS makes sense to what was going on the relationships I had with family was and is loose... I could hear myself telling I have known all if you all my life and yes I have and can fly off, but at anytime did any of you reference when I gave done this was s t EVER singular? Did it occur in a vacuum? Didn't think so, what happened was NO ONE wanted to take accountability to my feelings and that which I expressed, sure when I do wrong quick to tell me about, and even now when the stories were told about me you listen to what I do.. What about the time I went in ff to my ex-wife when she picked up our child from my house..she never TOLD of bringing another man with her and we're only separated...and the devilish coy grin when I realized this...sure tool with the punches but what if I didn't? How many news stories are there to someone dying because of situations like this...no reprimand for her only me and my words... That told of the shallowness and you know what... I don't owe any of them so good riddance the true worth was always shown being loyal and adhering held up until no more...nevermind what do they want now, what will I out up with...not that Thank you Kevin!!
Yep, I have deleted two of so called friends. Now it's time for family narcs to go. Especially, since I have learned about narc destruction and their evilness. I can See clearly now. Thank you. GOD bless us all.
I absolutely love this video you speak the absolute truth, I appreciate your depiction of these people in the Bible I know a many of these people are miserable and they use the narcissist underhanded to get at me because they are jealous and envious and they want to project their misery on me, because it is easier to blame someone else rather than themselves, somebody else always got to be the bad guy!!!!!!!
I love watching your videos. You are always on point; it's like you know my family and situation. I'm the family scapegoat, or dumpster, and have cut all ties to save myself. Thank you for your knowledge, it makes me feel less alone
Great video,Kevin.I agree... I feel all these.you are so right,those relationships were shallow and I found better relationship with this community . Thanks kevin and the good Lord bless you more💖🙏
Dear Royal we,I m a dr ,worked in a hospital for 17 years,,as the head of the department..I left my job within 24 hrs since one of the bosses were very evil ,narccist..I couldn't stand it any longer..Left my beloved place and joined another place as Dr ,demoted position..These things are real..Run away from them before they suck your life out of you..Thank you for educating people like me ,victims
@Millicient Aspinet I m not an English language expert ..sorry to dissapoint u ..I was educated in Russian ..And English is not my first language..I had written my life story to The royal we..not to pass an English test or exam..Wrote my experience with my Narccist boss..Sorry to disappoint u with my language skills
Really original observations that are true. I have been evaluating a lot of relationships of late. They are shallow, they are dysfunctional and I see they always were. The term 'Subjective Criticism' is helpful. Having words to describe these phenomena makes for a framework of classifying these people and their crazymaking behaviour. Helpful. K ; )
This video was a gift ,God bless you for your ministry ,and your faithfulness to it. My husband carefully and deceptively left me after 26 years. I was completely blindsided. The saddest thing was for the 2 weeks he was planning his departure - he was the kindest most loving husband and I was rejoicing in the Lord, that he hadn’t finally stopped using me and decided to cherish me ,but it was all fake. When I reached out to friends, my closest friends, they said you must have done something bad, no-one just leaves after 26 years and ghosts you for no reason. I was so hurt, so confused. But now I totally get it and from your other videos I am gaining so many insights - Thank you so much, you are a blessing.[
Covert Narcissist for a mother. Had a large trigger a year ago with a confrontation and blow up that led to no contact. Would love to hear advise on grieving for past and for current lost relationships.
This video absolutely told my story 100%. I’ve been struggling more than ever with this exact scenario re: narcissist sister & my “best”(or so I thought!)friend who I grew up with. It’s been tremendously painful but you’ve confirmed my instincts & intuitions are & have been correct all along. I’ve already moved to another state due to work basically but have had many times of self doubt wondering if I’ve done the right thing or not but trying to keep my belief in God knowing that He’s in control over my life and has put me here for a reason. This is amazing to be finding the much needed clarity, especially when I least expected this morning. Thank you. I will be trying to contact you for a one on one in the near future. My name is Cathy. Thank you again so very much.
This make sense. The way I see it, is that many of those friendships that the narcissist turned against you, they were "neutral". They weren't really deep friends of you BUT also they hated you too much. The narcissist just exploited and triggered the bad nature of them, turning them against you. Is like the Lola Montez did about the King Ludwig, she turned the people against their own king.
This has so far been the BEST I have ever heard about this issue. 📌 I like the sentence : " What happens in Las Vegas stayes in Las Vegas ". So telling what happened in Las Vegas I am not gonna do. Social media is dangerous in that way.... Nothing could be a better advice for me these days in the ice cold feeling beeing in ANTARTICA. OMG my eyes needed seeing the whole map. Its tough learning it, its tough admitting it and its like hell knowing I have to start back on start again on the Family Monopoly. Next time I hope my car dont stop and everything I have is lost..... GOD BLESS EVERYBODY ❤️
What my last ex narc did was divide her own family in order to save her image telling everyone I got laid with her cousin sister...what I did was simple I told her cousin and Aunt now they know the truth and her family is divided. How far can a narcissit go to protect their own image how stupid is that?
Yep I was sad at first BUT… God allowed it so as to remove toxic people! 2 cousins, sister, aunt… but then I realized I don’t need them! And I found better people to be around
I am a senior married a long time to someone I don’t know. I’m frightened as I have no money I know he will leave me out in the cold. He’s now calling my friends and saying I need to be hospitalized for mental health treatment. I don’t know where my husband went im so confused. It’s been going on for a long time I just never looked at it made excuses ect. He’s so cruel. I told him yesterday the war is over make a time to get your things and arrange financial things sounds fun…not really. God holds my hand always has always will. I will not lose my faith and I just want peace. Love to you all I care I understand
yes, narcissists can changes people's minds, with lies that you may never even find out about. this can happen with co-workers, and friends of friends you aren't particularly close with, but that doesn't make those people shallow, and the ripple effects can reach you and the people closer to you to cause a great deal of damage.
Hi Kevin...in the same token as you say about being over numbered...I Thanked the Narc for doing the filtering my job for me...I asked him to do more--- like go ahead... be my slave -----got him so angry....still never changed
My father is narcissist. What iam supposed to do with this person. Iam so done with his smear campaign. He has turned almost every one of our family members against me. Sometimes it hurts soo much when the people you thought would be your support system but turning against you just by listening to this narcissist. Everyone in my family knows how much responsible person that iam. But unfortunately when things are not working for me everyone are like holding me accountable for my father's irresponsibility. 😢. Now i don't even have hope in my life. I don't understand why god is not helping me. I have completely hit rock bottom. Iam tired both physically and emotionally. Please god please help me. I can't take it anymore. If this continues i don't know how much longer i can survive. Please🙏
My mother did this to me with her family members in another state. I. DO. NOT. CARE. When I was went there for my grandmother’s funeral, everyone gave me the cold shoulder.
This is what I say. The narc cannot turn the people who love me against me if anything he's done me a favor! I actually thank him for helping weed those people out
That is what I did. When I changed my number due to the harassment from the ex. I only gave a few my new number. The brother that I had gone to when the abuse first started and he refused to help me . I didn’t give him my number. But he is also mad at me because I took money out of my bank that the ex and I had to leave the relationship. I don’t expect anyone to understand but I don’t feel anyone has a right to judge me either.
Kevin, God BLESS You and Your Family 🙏 Thank You So My Much For Your Wonderful Videos, I Think God Send You My Angel, To Heal My Broken 💔... Thank You for Sharing Your Godly Wisdom With Us. 😇🌹🤗❤️😘
Lost everything. The thing goes to church every Sunday. Most were jealous who turned on me anyways…mean n ugly women…seething for decades the narc capitalized on it. Glad they’re all gone. Seriously. Finally alive after 50 years.
My narc pinched one of my friends in September. She hated his guts. But he started messaging her and she fell for his charm. She has gone onto his side and he's now posting love hearts on all her photos. I feel broken.
Those individuals can be just as bad toward you as the narcissist is themselves! It is devastating!
Sure is
My cousin knew what they narcissist was doin and was on the narcissist side
They are criminal creatures as the narcissist is.
I have been told by a relative that they respect my covert narcissist parent and will do their bidding. I have given up hope that anybody in my extended family will help me.
@@sonnyca wow
“Abuse is always progressive (gets worse, not better if not addressed).” TRUTH!💯👍🔥
1. I would rather be alone than in bad company.
2. I would rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies. Just a few friends but with more value.
3. I started going to church to feel better, not because I think that I am better, not true.
4. To the Narcissists. Thanks for showing me who my real friends were.
Great video with an awesome message, thank you Sir, it truly warmed my heart. ❤️❤️
Amen to Jesus allowing my fellow human to say this for me online! Praise JESUS. I needed to hear this
Good point: "the narcissist didn't change anybody's mind" - learning this truth is definitely painful and I don't think anyone is prepared for that hard painful lesson.
I'm at this stage just now ... the realisation is devestating & confusing ALL OVER AGAIN 😔. Its hard to detach from friends (?!?) that's been in my life constantly for over 20yrs .... our kids all grown up together aswell. Doing my best though & I'm proud of myself - being furloughed from work due to lockdown has actually been a blessing in disguise 😆
Painful truth . The fly monkeys never liked us to start with . They just needed an excuse to dislike us believe crap the narc said . It's jealously probably
True.
Every word you say is true. It hurts to be betrayed by your family and friends but the truth about the quality of the relationships sets you free! It is vital to distance yourself from those who never really cared for you.
"the truth about the quality of the relationship sets you free!" Brilliant!
100%!!
I found it SO difficult grieving & letting go of certain friendships at the time.. & unfortunately went through a duluded period of trying to keep them in my life... I forgave myself & allowed myself room to grieve; then something amazing happened ✨ I saw the reality of who they were & no longer saw them in the same light I once did 💫 dissonance gone ✨ along with the feelings I had for them; it was nothing short of liberating 🌈☺️🌸
Agreed! Some of my friends didn't even know or have seen the last toxic person I was friends with, and after I told them my story, they took the side of the toxic individual...
That shows how disgusting they really are.
Unbelievable… I’m sorry. I understand your pain. God bless you. Be strong.
Absolute jealous sick cowards God bless any of us who are going threw this !!! 🙏
Great perspective 👏
I agree with you, Narc abuse definitely opens your eyes to not just Narcissists but toxic friends around you too. It is a sad experience but a necessary one to allow healthier relationships into your life. God bless 🙏
You find out what ppl thought of you the whole time. So hurtful.
Yep. My brother's first wife really got my family to show their true colors toward me. I guess that was her purpose cause like i figured, she wasnt around long and he remarried and i only talk to my mom and aunt every now and then. No more bros or cousins or other relatives. I was like fug it, im done!
@@ginatucci201 the damage they do man. So big
It’s very hurtful,
I need to learn more about this
@@triplekids3 Would love to hear your story. Most of the survivors i talk to had lots of support and it still is/was so hard.
I am so grateful for your channel.. I have had many shallow relationships that led nowhere, even with family
Amen, Tasha!!! Time to get rid of these people
@@Darbaby000 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Narc abuse is a 2 for 1 deal.... after you dump the narc, you ALSO lose any trash that was in your circle of ‘trusted’ family and friends, because they go with him.
You’re not alone. Be strong. God has much better for you & is always with you.
This is exactly what I’m going through right now. 😔
Listen that’s all he’s talking to us if it fits you then just be holding your head up higher somebody hears you somebody good hears you it’s going to be OK
I’ve heard a lot of people here on TH-cam that children of malignant narcissists often become prey to other narcissists. How, when, where, I do not know but I suspect it’s going to happen while I try to fight the narcissists in court.
me too
Me too
Stay strong! I'm going through the same thing, and it's a horrible situation. However, I'm glad it happen.
They never bothered to know who you truly were. There loss
That is so true and that is my own daughter.
@@wandak3025 ... same
They love acting like you’re the problem but will NOT let you remove yourself from them 😂😂😂😂😂 please make it make sense
Facts!!!!!😂
I left the toxic people in my family 5 months ago I’m not going back ever I’m finally finding peace and freedom at 56
Congratulations for leaving. Trust God…
Read so many comments from different channels concerning this topic and it's just amazes me how many people out there are victims of these narcs. I thought I was the only one going through this all my life.
@@di4085 I’ve changed my name to yellowrose5551 in the fall of 2023 I decide to make contact with my ex after not seeing him for 2 1/2 years well that was pointless January 19, 2024. I said I’m done there’s no third time happening here.
Same at 51-yrs! I have not talked to my 3 EX-siblings for a few years now. Life is so much better. No more cognitive dissonance!!
My family members did more to destroy my family relationships through their example of how they treated me than with words. My children thought something was wrong with me because of the dismissiveness, the lack of love, the rude behavior toward me. It really is true; "more is caught than taught." Someone doesn't have to say anything against another person, all they have to do is ignore them, make disapproving grunting sounds and show total disinterest in your accomplishments while boasting about their own. Our entire culture in this region, the Pacific Northwest is narcissistic in nature.
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Back in the day I thought I might move to Seattle when I came from the DC area. Thank God I choose to Southwest instead because I met some folks from there.. when I first moved here in the early 2000s, and I totally get what you're saying. I just thought, BULLET DODGED when I met one of those folks. Hail Arizona!!
When that happened to me I complained to God so much and He finally told me SO, THEY DID THAT TO MY SON TOO! Wow! I felt so bad for keep complaining. I repented quickly and never said it to God again. I’m in excellent company. Jesus told us if the world hates Him they will hate us also. Growth does hurt but the healing brings joy. The only one to help me is God. Glad to find your videos. Keep up the good work.
Yep, all turned against me.
The key thing my family had in common. Was television, gambling bug, alcohol, drugs for some and gossip. I honored my Father, yet he acted like I didn't matter, if he wanted to, and would never explain what that slap was for...I felt like an appliance more than a daughter.
Oh my goodness! Been praying for a video like this. It happened to me, God Bless you!
Thanks for the encouragement will keep moving forward.
Thank you so much for this wonderful video, Kevin. Looking back and pondering, only now do I realize that everything was "situationship". It's the most horrific thing that I just realized that everything was never meant to be. Thank you so much and God bless you.
Omg I’m going through this right now. God is talking to me through you. 🙏
Me too - it's awful xx
Amen very true 🙏
Narcissim is so mentally unhealthy. Through Kevins channel, we are able to spot, recognise and deal with it. But knowing that your friends and family have changed their perception about you is awful. Im just glad through education, we can prepare ourselves to deal with. The bible has many examples of being people mistrusted and lied too. Trust in God and he will never leave you. Let go of people that cause you pain, strife and grief. They serve no purpose but cause you pain.
True they're very good covincers by telling people untruths about you and people believe them.
This was an incredibly healing video. A new perspective I hadn't considered. I was thinking lately that it really does communicate something about the people who go along with the narcissists slander. It exposes the "friendships" you thought you had for what they are. And really, its a greater reflection on their heartlessness than it is on you. Because seriously? You can't have much of a heart to gossip and target a single person in a mob like mentality. Who on earth can ever do that unless they are completely devoid of compassion, and putting themselves in the shoes of another? Avoid such people!
True words. Who gangs up on their own family that they grew up with?
Nice smile. Hope you are doing well.
My heart is beating so fast
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Breathe! Wishing all the best with your healing❤
We're never completely alone GOD is always with us!
Thanks for shedding light on this confusing topic. One can go through life without fully knowing who truly cares and would stand up for you. It is difficult to accept loss of relationships with family members who I thought cared. On the flip side, this is the ultimate litmus test one which brings clarity in the end.
Thank you so much for this video - I've been having such a hard time since my 17yr narc abuse relationship ended (1st that) and then trying to figure out who out my friends has actually got my back & the devestating truth is ... not the closest 3 which I would tell EVERYTHING to ... it's all been used against me in one way or another this video however has just pushed me into such a clearer light ... Thank You xx
I am learning a lot from these videos that keep popping up as I do my research to help myself.
Some Family and friends have moved away, some have scolded me. They have made up lies about me. They cause drama and say it’s me. It’s not! My husband is one of the biggest narcs and has turned the whole family against me. He loves it and tells me I’m the one who chased everyone away. I can’t believe that I married my worst enemy, I knew something was wrong with him, but just never knew, because he always made me think it was all me and my fault. I fell right into the biggest trap ever because I had such low self esteem. After I started going to church, they really let me have it. Nothing I did was right. I’m catching on and thank you!
Great video! I went through this recently my friend I met while she's getting divorce from a narcissist. I was actually realizing i dating one she would give me advice on the signs of what he was doing was narcissistic and emotional abuse. 6 years later he contacted her because he couldn't reach me and she's telling me to give him a second chance. I feel like if someone really cares about you they wouldn't feed into the narcissistic manipulation or whatever is going on here. So like you said over time their true colors have been shown and I need to block both of them and distance myself. I've gotten closer to where I need to be and a lot of self-care I'm actually really happy without the ex-boyfriend in my life. I don't want to be around people who get between me and God or pull me backwards from where I need to be. Thanks again for your videos and advice it's truly amazing what you've gone through and help others with! 🔥❤️🙏
Alot of my friends quite talking to me because of the covert narcissist with psychopath and sociopath traits Now my family doesn't believe a word he says So thankfully he has not turned my family against me
This is the most understanding explanation for such a miserable situation your blessed ty for sharing 🙏
It's all out of our hands. The best thing is, in all of this, I never abandoned myself.😊
I was together in a relationship with a narcissist for a year, and that was 10 years ago. I’m still currently learning what a narcissist is, and it’s all exactly the way that she was. Thank you for this, bro.
I learned a lot of people’s hearts
Very true. I love the smear campaign because it reveals what people wish you were. If somebody appreciates your goodness, nobody will come and tell them otherwise.
You say what is happening.. and it's so true now I know that I am on the right track and let them stay out off my life..and have my own friends. And my own life
I really really needed this video, Thank you so much⚘and you are sooooo right these where shallow relationships anyway,I believed I was loved and accepted like I loved and accepted them while the emotional abused and humiliated me. It's all good healing, no contact, learning everything about narcissist abuse,living the absolute best life ever without them, It is not easy in anyway, I am finally happy and being the best person I can be..
This throws light on a situation I'm part of, become aware of, (daughter in law) thanks
Every thing you say is happening to me thanks for the affirmation God bless you.
Thank you 🙏 so very much 🌱 washing away the mud and dirt to reveal what’s truly good and whole 🌟🍀🌧 a true revelation.
Turning blind naïveté into insightful wisdom - divine transformation 🙏🌟😘💕
Every word you said is true.
Awesome video, great words of wisdom, some r 4 us some are not. Thank you
Thank you “The Royal We”! ❤
The outnumberedness did have an effect on me for sure.
Damn!!!!
The entire path of CUTTING PEOPLE OFF is WHOA!!!! spot on... I have heard all of this felt all if it and suppressed myself for years because if this... I felt this and lived it!!! How much better I feel and am when I did this...keeping it grounded in the chapters in the bible..thank you!!!
All I've heard since CUTTING OFF is the NEED FOR FAMILY TI GIVE THEM THAT COMFORT so missed by me...because now there are BOUNDARIES I HAVE IMPLEMENTED AND REINFORCE
Scene, after the divorce to have my family remain friends and try to convince ME that I am wrong to limit contact and conversation... I owe nothing anymore...
I have heard how my ex-wife has went to MY FAMILY... talking about now paying child support things about our post divorce matters the same way as was done when we were married...
Telling if the story from GENESIS makes sense to what was going on the relationships I had with family was and is loose...
I could hear myself telling I have known all if you all my life and yes I have and can fly off, but at anytime did any of you reference when I gave done this was s t EVER singular? Did it occur in a vacuum? Didn't think so, what happened was NO ONE wanted to take accountability to my feelings and that which I expressed, sure when I do wrong quick to tell me about, and even now when the stories were told about me you listen to what I do..
What about the time I went in ff to my ex-wife when she picked up our child from my house..she never TOLD of bringing another man with her and we're only separated...and the devilish coy grin when I realized this...sure tool with the punches but what if I didn't? How many news stories are there to someone dying because of situations like this...no reprimand for her only me and my words...
That told of the shallowness and you know what... I don't owe any of them so good riddance the true worth was always shown being loyal and adhering held up until no more...nevermind what do they want now, what will I out up with...not that
Thank you Kevin!!
Amen.....your family/friends weren't who you thought anyway period. Thank the for that eye opener and nothing else. 😴😴
I did not understand what was happening until I did 🙏
Just the reassurance I needed❤ Thank you!
Yep, I have deleted two of so called friends. Now it's time for family narcs to go.
Especially, since I have learned about narc destruction and their evilness.
I can See clearly now.
Thank you.
GOD bless us all.
I absolutely love this video you speak the absolute truth, I appreciate your depiction of these people in the Bible I know a many of these people are miserable and they use the narcissist underhanded to get at me because they are jealous and envious and they want to project their misery on me, because it is easier to blame someone else rather than themselves, somebody else always got to be the bad guy!!!!!!!
I love watching your videos. You are always on point; it's like you know my family and situation. I'm the family scapegoat, or dumpster, and have cut all ties to save myself. Thank you for your knowledge, it makes me feel less alone
Yes, creating distance is key 🎯💯
Great video,Kevin.I agree... I feel all these.you are so right,those relationships were shallow and I found better relationship with this community . Thanks kevin and the good Lord bless you more💖🙏
Yes people underestimate how this is a real thing.
Thank you so much for changing ppl life very appreciated 💯🧡
Dear Royal we,I m a dr ,worked in a hospital for 17 years,,as the head of the department..I left my job within 24 hrs since one of the bosses were very evil ,narccist..I couldn't stand it any longer..Left my beloved place and joined another place as Dr ,demoted position..These things are real..Run away from them before they suck your life out of you..Thank you for educating people like me ,victims
@Millicient Aspinet
I m not an English language expert ..sorry to dissapoint u ..I was educated in Russian ..And English is not my first language..I had written my life story to The royal we..not to pass an English test or exam..Wrote my experience with my Narccist boss..Sorry to disappoint u with my language skills
I prefer using the term Target, not victim
Thank you Kevin!
Really original observations that are true. I have been evaluating a lot of relationships of late. They are shallow, they are dysfunctional and I see they always were. The term 'Subjective Criticism' is helpful. Having words to describe these phenomena makes for a framework of classifying these people and their crazymaking behaviour.
Helpful. K ; )
Great video Kevin , thank you 🤗👌
Great advice. 👍
yes this is going on with my family. My narc dad must be saying things to them.. it is so hard.... so painful....
This video was a gift ,God bless you for your ministry ,and your faithfulness to it. My husband carefully and deceptively left me after 26 years. I was completely blindsided. The saddest thing was for the 2 weeks he was planning his departure - he was the kindest most loving husband and I was rejoicing in the Lord, that he hadn’t finally stopped using me and decided to cherish me ,but it was all fake. When I reached out to friends, my closest friends, they said you must have done something bad, no-one just leaves after 26 years and ghosts you for no reason. I was so hurt, so confused. But now I totally get it and from your other videos I am gaining so many insights - Thank you so much, you are a blessing.[
Covert Narcissist for a mother. Had a large trigger a year ago with a confrontation and blow up that led to no contact. Would love to hear advise on grieving for past and for current lost relationships.
I like who tells me directly the truth about to me instead of gossip about me.
This video absolutely told my story 100%. I’ve been struggling more than ever with this exact scenario re: narcissist sister & my “best”(or so I thought!)friend who I grew up with. It’s been tremendously painful but you’ve confirmed my instincts & intuitions are & have been correct all along. I’ve already moved to another state due to work basically but have had many times of self doubt wondering if I’ve done the right thing or not but trying to keep my belief in God knowing that He’s in control over my life and has put me here for a reason. This is amazing to be finding the much needed clarity, especially when I least expected this morning. Thank you. I will be trying to contact you for a one on one in the near future. My name is Cathy. Thank you again so very much.
This make sense. The way I see it, is that many of those friendships that the narcissist turned against you, they were "neutral". They weren't really deep friends of you BUT also they hated you too much. The narcissist just exploited and triggered the bad nature of them, turning them against you. Is like the Lola Montez did about the King Ludwig, she turned the people against their own king.
This has so far been the BEST I have ever heard about this issue. 📌
I like the sentence : " What happens in Las Vegas stayes in Las Vegas ". So telling what happened in Las Vegas I am not gonna do. Social media is dangerous in that way....
Nothing could be a better advice for me these days in the ice cold feeling beeing in ANTARTICA.
OMG my eyes needed seeing the whole map.
Its tough learning it, its tough admitting it and its like hell knowing I have to start back on start again on the Family Monopoly. Next time I hope my car dont stop and everything I have is lost.....
GOD BLESS EVERYBODY ❤️
Who care about hateful rumours toxic people!💪⚖️
What my last ex narc did was divide her own family in order to save her image telling everyone I got laid with her cousin sister...what I did was simple I told her cousin and Aunt now they know the truth and her family is divided. How far can a narcissit go to protect their own image how stupid is that?
I'm so appreciate being a part of this family KEVIN🎀💕" THE ROYAL WE""🎀🎀💕💕I"" FEEL BLESSED🎀💕"BY""GOD🎀🎀💕💕" TO HAVE FOUND THIS CHANNEL🎀 PRAISE GOD💕🎀🎀
Yep I was sad at first BUT… God allowed it so as to remove toxic people! 2 cousins, sister, aunt… but then I realized I don’t need them! And I found better people to be around
Mine turned my cousin against me
Like a rose bush, all the dead branches must be cut off for the new blooms to come....hallelujah ❣️🌹
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"Abuse is always Progressive..." ~ TRWe
I am a senior married a long time to someone I don’t know. I’m frightened as I have no money I know he will leave me out in the cold. He’s now calling my friends and saying I need to be hospitalized for mental health treatment. I don’t know where my husband went im so confused. It’s been going on for a long time I just never looked at it made excuses ect. He’s so cruel. I told him yesterday the war is over make a time to get your things and arrange financial things sounds fun…not really. God holds my hand always has always will. I will not lose my faith and I just want peace. Love to you all I care I understand
I feel like these are my words exactly..
Yes. Thank you ❤
Kevin. You are so right! Keep the great videos coming. Peace to you and your subscribers!!! 👍😁
yes, narcissists can changes people's minds, with lies that you may never even find out about. this can happen with co-workers, and friends of friends you aren't particularly close with, but that doesn't make those people shallow, and the ripple effects can reach you and the people closer to you to cause a great deal of damage.
Wonderful... information
How can a whole group of people against me be the problem? I am only one person. If they all hate me… then I must be the problem
Hi Kevin...in the same token as you say about being over numbered...I Thanked the Narc for doing the filtering my job for me...I asked him to do more--- like go ahead... be my slave -----got him so angry....still never changed
My father is narcissist. What iam supposed to do with this person. Iam so done with his smear campaign. He has turned almost every one of our family members against me. Sometimes it hurts soo much when the people you thought would be your support system but turning against you just by listening to this narcissist. Everyone in my family knows how much responsible person that iam. But unfortunately when things are not working for me everyone are like holding me accountable for my father's irresponsibility. 😢. Now i don't even have hope in my life. I don't understand why god is not helping me. I have completely hit rock bottom. Iam tired both physically and emotionally. Please god please help me. I can't take it anymore. If this continues i don't know how much longer i can survive. Please🙏
My mother did this to me with her family members in another state. I. DO. NOT. CARE.
When I was went there for my grandmother’s funeral, everyone gave me the cold shoulder.
Thank you!!!!!!
I wouldn't have put better words on it. Thank you.
You are a God send. The Lord bless you for what you do!!!
This is what I say. The narc cannot turn the people who love me against me if anything he's done me a favor! I actually thank him for helping weed those people out
Facts. I’d rather be the villain than a people pleaser lol 😂
This is great🙌
That is what I did. When I changed my number due to the harassment from the ex. I only gave a few my new number. The brother that I had gone to when the abuse first started and he refused to help me . I didn’t give him my number. But he is also mad at me because I took money out of my bank that the ex and I had to leave the relationship. I don’t expect anyone to understand but I don’t feel anyone has a right to judge me either.
Wow I love this perspective!!!
Kevin, God BLESS You and Your Family 🙏 Thank You So My Much For Your Wonderful Videos, I Think God Send You My Angel, To Heal My Broken 💔...
Thank You for Sharing Your Godly Wisdom With Us.
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Lost everything. The thing goes to church every Sunday. Most were jealous who turned on me anyways…mean n ugly women…seething for decades the narc capitalized on it. Glad they’re all gone. Seriously. Finally alive after 50 years.
So good is this video🎀🎀 thank you🎀 Kevin🎀🎀
My narc pinched one of my friends in September. She hated his guts. But he started messaging her and she fell for his charm. She has gone onto his side and he's now posting love hearts on all her photos. I feel broken.
Thanks for your invitation 🌷
Thankyou x
I like your videos!! Keep on the good work bro.