I could never understand why my husband had a problem with us being in bed when he was up - door slamming, vacuuming, noisy footsteps round the house. I didn't realise this was part of his narcissistic chaos. Thank you.
So interesting because all I crave is aloneness, peace, quiet. I'm completely antisocial. No friends. Avoid the public. I just love being home and if someone comes to the door I hide, never answer.
Yes a former victim of NPD abuse I am. I don't even listen to music anymore like I did previously to the abuse. I hate earbuds unless my back is to a corner and I can see.
Get out! It won't change! Please I was the same! Life is great without them yes I loved him with all my stupid heart! You will never ever be happy with them! They WANT you to suffer
I have friends, but usually only get together on a one on one lunch, but then it takes me two to three days to recoup from going out and socializing. 😂
You are helping so many people. I had to laugh at your imitation of how they are because it is so accurate. 😂🤣 They all deserve Academy Awards for their fake portrayals to outsiders. Bless you, Danish!
Yeah on the one hand they deserve those Awards. But what is sad about that - you never get to know their authentic self. What is more horrific: They don´t even know themselves... So who are they exactly?
Narcissist makes people develop social anxiety... I spent years been judged, insulted, mocked, ridiculed, beaten and it was always "MY Fault !" They made me believe there is something fondamentally wrong with me and that I deserved all the horrible things life throws at me, when someone treated me badly and disrespected me, it was always my fault... Who would want to socialise again after experiencing this sort of thing ?
My ex was a doctor and we were invited to a function at Christmas and he told me to dress formally..so I bought the fancy mini ballgown, cocktail dress, matching shoes, the whole shebang! Turned up and nobody else was formal and I'd never met the other doctors or their wives before! His boss a man of 60 plus had on a tuxedo and bow tie...walked over to me, took my arm and said " we will partner up tonight, as his wife winked at me. She later told me in the loo that Jim had heard him tell me over the phone to dress formally and when he tried to gaslight his boss into saying he hadn't heard him say that, Jim knew exactly how to deal with him and wore his tuxedo to spare my blushes! Never forgot that man's kindness
This may look comical to those who haven't fully dealt with a narcissist, but you couldn't be more spot on in what you displayed with the masks. At 11:09, you mention torture and trauma. I'm so glad you brought this up because, yes, indeed, it is a real thing that they don't let you sleep. My wife and I had an argument where I would suggest that we talk about it the next day because I only had 4 hours of sleep before waking up to go to work at 4 a.m. She demanded that we talk about it that moment as she was calling me every curse word on the book. I told her goodnight and ignored her threats. I was so tired it didn't take much for me to doze off only to wake up to the splash of water on my face as she told me, "I said you're not resting until we resolve this." This was just one of a few other times she did this, then I left her to get away from her physical confrontations and verbal abuse. It's 7 months since we haven't had any contact, and I know that my actions of removing myself from under the roof we both lived in was for both our sakes. For me, it was my sanity. All I ever wanted was peace and did everything I could to keep things peaceful. It's the narcissist who can't find peace. They may pretend to be peaceful to get what they want out of you, but it isn't in them to think things through and rationalize within themselves and say, "Am I really being that bad?" For these people, that kind of self reflection just doesn't exist. Thank you for sharing and making these videos.
Nope. They just think we're the problem never them but when we try to walk, won't allow us to. I tricked mine, he never saw it coming. Its been two weeks and almost 2 days. I will never allow myself to be pulled in as he did me again with him or anyone else. It is why I watch these to make sense of the verbal abuse he put me through and so I can never be caught by one of these assholes ( that's an understatement ) again.💪🏾
A Narcissist's need for validation and importance is relentless! They pursue it with the same intensity as if it is air they need to breathe! You and I have the same importance to them as we have when needing a tissue to blow our noses...use and discard without a second thought! Look at yourself from the narcissists point of view...they do not see us as a living breathing person they see us as a resource only!
Vacation memories: My narcissistic sibling screamed her son out of bed in the middle of the night. He had forgotten to charge his camera that he would need the next day. I was stupid enough to mention the camera (the boy was asleep already). I would have just checked the camera and charged it. I didn't know she'd get so fueled. She ran up to the bedroom and started yelling like h_ll. According to her kids: it was a lucky incident that she didn't get physical with him. I'm still ashamed that I didn't put myself in between and stopped her. He was around 16 at that time.
This is too spot on 😳 My mum just has no understanding of boundaries or peace. As soon as she wakes up, she’ll start fights with either me or dad, yelling/controlling/nagging. When she finally leaves the house to go to shops or casino, there’s finally peace and quiet. Then in the night after coming home from the cas, she will be so noisy with no consideration of anyone else trying to sleep. You’d think most people would know not to be noisy beyond 10 or midnight but no. No point trying to explain anything to them either as they don’t listen or keep interrupting you.
@@nopereradicator Exactly, you can’t, it’s just adding fuel to the fire. The best thing is least amount of contact possible. If you try to say anything they think you’re “talking back” or if you match their energy by yelling back, it only drains your energy further.
In my opinion, Narc's wake up and focus on getting supply. That means finding new supply, romancing side supply, and abusing main supply. Sleep deprivation is soooo real 😢
Mornings were never complete for my malignant narcissist father unless one of the kids was miserable. He'd poke and poke or take away stuff, or control what we ate, or make fun of us, etc etc etc...6 months NO CONTACT and ive never been calmer, slept better, been more creative, or understood myself more. My soul is being nourished and I'm incredibly hopeful:)
This is 100 % my husband. I wish I had this awareness of pervasive narcissistic behavior 40 years ago!! Learning more everyday, but feel trapped, no way out😢
After the love bombing to make you drop your defenses, isolation and dependence upon them is next on their list to ensure a never-ending source of narcissistic supply through abuse. You are not alone in this. Find strength through a support group of people who also felt they were the only ones trapped! Remember who you were before the trauma bond he created! Hang on to that...you are way stronger than you know!
When I was still living with my parents they still beat me until the age of 21. After each beating and sermon that always took hours to end at times they really have a very good night sleep. I used this moment when I left home at 21. The best coping mechanism that I managed to formulate for my situation is SELF-TALK. Because I realized at an early aged even his relatives sided on them that I only have myself to keep. When I was young I always told myself to keep your composure, you are not insane, you will be alright and grow old not like them, tap myself at the back if you are happy today tomorrow will not be the same chaos is always around the corner, always evaluate your surroundings and always be alert because you are like walking in glass, etc. I remember counting the years up until I graduated college and promise my future old self that I will leave home once I graduated. And I kept that promise to my future self and I left home at the age of 21 when they have a very good night sleep.
Thank you!!!!! It's so hard to explain to others how hell-like it was living with a narcissist. Like individually each thing sounds so trite....they banged things around, walked in a measured threatening manner, threw open the bedroom door by hitting it with a vacuum cleaner coming in at 6 am on a Saturday....I was always sleep deprived! You do such a great job of explaining all of the MILLIONS of things they do that add up to a miserable existence. I appreciate your videos SO much and they have aided in my healing in a very big way....this is even after 10 years gone....thank you again!!! 💜
I suffered in a narcissistic cult family for 3 years and all these years i even doubted myself because of worst Gaslighting and smear campaigning by them.After watching your videos especially this i get a huge relief. I'm real i didn't say what has not happened. There were noone or no proof to believe the tantrums i suffer because of them. But for myself i understand now I'm not wrong always. Thanks to you Danish! Grateful for your knowledge, experience and service✨
Hahaha...Danish, your act is awesome!! This is all true. A narcissist, who has been discarded by me since 2021 and never forgot me, suddenly sent me this message in my online shop page. I copy: "Ι really love your store. Ιt looks amazing, the attention to detail is remarkable and your art unique. But I see that you have not achieved the dream you want your store to be". He woke up in the morning and started his scheduled abuse, ready to drink blood. Who knows where else. He has a list.
A backhanded compliment reveals your independence is getting to him. It is validation that you font need him.. Causing him injury. Ghosthim and keep up thegood work.👍
I don't know what I would have done after 2 decades of Narc abuse, had I not found this channel. Thanks from the bottom of my heart, and to everyone else that has suffered, you are not alone, there are lots of other people experiencing the same thing, you are not alone ❤ 🙏👍
Thankyou for educating people. I and my children realized a lot after watching videos and now we are coming out of the relationship, he is smear campaigning about me.
You got it! And I love the way you demonstrate it with the masks. I’m a visual person and it helps me a lot. My ex narcissist loved to wake up whichever son he was picking on and drag them out of bed in the middle of the night to berate and possibly beat them. No wonder I can’t sleep.
This guys KNOWS HIS STUFF!!!! He is bang on, with his finger on the pulse of the narcissist. The mask scenarios blew me away. This is SO accurate. I applaud him for relaying the narcissists tactics with such accuracy. 👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Oh my god, I knew my partner was a narcissist but you brought up traits of him I've never heard anyone else talk about. To a T. Very Little sleep, a night owl, falls asleep crazy quick, can't sit still for too long before getting sleepy, and doesn't allow me to sleep. Likes to pick fights with me at night and then gets to spend time alone drinking watching videos that entertain him after the fight. Wow. This video was so insightful.
My ex used to make mornings a torment for everyone. After we separated my daughter from a previous relationship finally told me he was yelling at her in the car all the way to school infront of his other children most mornings until she would cry. Alienated and slammed as soon as she was out of my sight. She would then struggle to settle into school and would often end up crying in the bathroom and missing first period and started getting into trouble for her attendance. In the mornings i would make breakfast and atleast 5 packed lunches and prepare all the children for their day as he sat there drinking his coffee not helping with an attitude because he would treat me as if I was about to go on holiday as the at home parent to 6 children(4 at school and 2 babies at home) compared to him going to work in an office. Even while breastfeeding and exhausted his expectations of me didn't change. We are now 3 years free from that abuse, eggshells and constant torment and now our mornings are now tension free.
Now I understand why I was so much energy drained always since years and how he felt so energetic... ... now I understand how he made me good for nothing after marriage in those years..how a throughout academically topper and a medico doctor...became good for nothing .....and he always blamed me and others for every single thing happening wrong...how he instilled permanent fear in every ones heart including me... Now I understand why these things were happening since years and never changed.... everyone near him is suffering. But due to gods blessings now I m coming to light from darkness...Now I am learning to save my energy...how to be diplomatic , speak less, following my passion ,my purpose of life.... And also trying to protect others from his torture by giving psychological support... what else I can do... Thank you Danish Bhai for making everything so clear ... it's so helpful..God bless you always.
Hi same here. 6 months ago I googled personal disorders and I found out about narcissism. I'm 16 years married with a narc. 16 years of crying suffering and trying to do my best. For what? For that wolf I married in church. Now I know who he is and i try to protect my 2 boys from his bad manners. I hope God will set me free from this marriage.
😆 LOL! This is awesome! So true! Love the different masks. . . . OMG!! My narc woke me up at 4:15am this morning by turning the lights on, slamming kitchen cabinet doors as he was getting his meds. . . on purpose! How ironic. "NO REST FOR THE WICKED"!!
Thank-you for this content , it is so true and informative, I'm going too save this 📸 video . They are the most nausted and waste of space in this universe.
OMG! SPOT ON!! My father used to yell "Get up Get up in the morning! He got pissed when I was quiet, half awake, and grumpy because he scared the crap out of me! He would get angrier because I did not say "Good morning". If you woke him up the sh!t hit the fan!! So thinned skinned. To this day I hate it when people say "Good morning " to me. I feel forced to say it back. Instead I say hi
OMG YOU JUST SPOT ON TOLD MY NARCISSISTIC EXITING HUSBAND! He sleeps like a parrot 🦜. He’s out cold as soon as he sits down! He is fine on 6 hours/ night. He never lived alone.
With the exception of touching dishes, ( oh, no no no ... women's work) You nailed my father's behavior perfectly ~ my mother had no boundaries ~ she'd Wake up as if she'd had 2 pots of coffee, screaming out orders until she died at 85. Christmas Day 2023 7:00 a.m. she came into the guest room, sat in the chair and ordered me to take out the 2 coffee makers to the garbage. I broke all contact that day. She died 6 weeks later. THANK YOU! YOU ARE THE BEST AT SUMMING UP Narcissistic BEHAVIOR !!!!
This is my life story. It is ridiculous that there are in fact some people that are unable to see it, and understand it for themselves when you tell them. You are a very gifted person. Thank you so much for this....
The overt and acting out narcissists are rather easy to see. There are so skilled narcissists even grandiose ones, that can hide their negative sides better.
This sounds like my ex husband because he would complain about life at every meal, when he came home from work he would play music at an unreasonable volume to disturb everyone if we even told him about it- he would tell us to live with it, he would have up and down moods depending on who he was talking to- always an opportunity to talk about us in a negative way to whoever was on the phone, and always yelling for hours each day even during his favorite movies so he could blame us for yelling at us even if we hadn’t opened our mouths. I am so grateful that I don’t live with his schedule anymore.
After almost 30 years of narc abuse I probably shouldn't find this funny but you did such a good job. I started laughing at you putting on the masks. Hey! I can still laugh! Thank you!
This one really was TOO relatable. So much so that I got kind of triggered when re-living my experience with my narc father. He would torture us in the mornings like this. Particularly on the weekends when he didn't have to work. Me and my siblings would always hope to get to sleep in like our friends, because it's the weekend. But no. My dad would shout and yell, turn on all the lights, BLAST his music on his huge speakers sometimes to wake us up. The amount of anxiety this episode triggered is just a testament to how cruel my dad was, and how real that fear/anxiety was. And the deep sadness I also feel for my childhood self is profound. Because he had so little empathy or care for our real need for sleep or a calm voice. Kids do not get enough sleep as it is with how early school starts. He had no clue what we went through emotionally on a day to day basis. He was not very emotionally close to us or involved in our lives, yet he ran our lives like it was some kind of military :(
Maybe she needs to obtain a topical prescription for pain management along with something to wear over wherever she needs to apply it most. Good thing she has the right to do that sort of thing. That can help an elder make a full recovery from an injury. People who have become institutionalized while their care is being supervised by a narcissist do not have the right to choose simple things like that which could help them avoide becoming an addict who takes prescription pain killers taken by mouth.
Same thing my dad does. He naps when we’re all at work. Then when we are home is awake to monitor constantly. When we’re there he does this fake sleep where I know he’s not really sleep but wants to give the appearance he’s sleep so he can hear what we may say or do then store it as information. It sounds super crazy but he is and I’d have him out away if my sister and mom weren’t holding me bk. He’s a cancer to the family.
This was so true and comical at the same time. Only thing I’m having trouble with is, having images of seeing my children’s mother with another man! That’s literally the one thing keeping me around. I’m confused and tormented by the thoughts and images. Eventhough she’s a cancerous and evil covert narcissist Im literally stuck with leaving her and staying with her out of fear of seeing her with someone else. A part of me says let her go and the other part projects images and I’m in the middle completely confused! I’m the clear definition of a trauma bonded person. And not financially stable enough to be able to leave at the moment.
Wow. Good morning danish. Thank you thank you thank you I was her target from the womb. I was born with a target on my back. And it was not just her who fed off me but a life of 56 years of it. She handed all my beautiful peaceful energy to all those who needed the same dominance. I have seen her wound. I do understand yet the worst thing for me is The Smear The rush of insight this morning Thank you danish.
Thank you for a great video 😂 spot on! We can laugh about it now because we are far away from those crazy narcissists. I thank God for having helped us to figure the narcisism out. God bless you ❤
LOL this is the greatest video ever. I'm still struggling but I'm trying to get out of this relationship I've been in. My girlfriend has a twin sister who's also a narcissist my girlfriend is a covert narcissist. Their mother is also a narcissist .
My dad and ex husband was like your description. So nice to people outside the family and we thought if only he could be that nice to us what a difference that would make. Isn't it pathetic the impact these narcissist have on people.
In early days of my marriage, my husband used to begin his fights just when I was trying to sleep. He somehow knew when I am going into that deep slumber. He would then not let me sleep and begin his childish complaining. The same complain used to go on and on for days on end. And he would insist that I wake up early and prepare his lunchbox. It was pure torture. Glad it is over. But this routine thing is very very real. These are abnormal human beings.
You covered every base Danish👍 just a couple of things,, 1 have you noticed how they always "snatch" when passing them something? 2 they always talk to themselves during the night or day? Ciao❤️
You have my deepst sympathy! I came to the realisation lately that my boss is one of them. Thank be to the Lord I have gone through 10 years of conselling and am so whole now, that he can't have a grip on me. Simply to put it I know who I am, what my worth is, etc. I also learned in the past days that I am a sigma empath who poses a real threat to them. Funny, since the time I know who he really is, things seem to be more easy. I have nothing left to feel for him and his family but an utmost pity. Keep doing what You do, You are helping so many people! Emily from Budaepst Hungary
My fathers a narc and my older twin brothers are twin narcs that work together. None of them sleep much at all. They'd start throwing you off balance as soon as they wake you up. This always gives them advantage. I could see theier energy levels peek even higher, by being obsessive, unrelenting pests. This entertained my father so much he used to tape record it. What kind of an asshole does that. I,m almost 60 now and he still has those tapes. Thanx Danish you touched on something here that hits nerve with a lot of people. Sometimes I see them as little devils.
You touched on something I've been thinking about lately with the overt narcissist father and the covert narcissist mother. I've noticed a lot of what appear to be covert narcissist women that look for the overt narcissist man and wondered if you've come across that or have noticed that connection in your research at all.
Mine were night owls and stay up late. They wouldn’t allow anyone to go to sleep at a decent hour and then waking them up for appointments and such was a nightmare. I’m so thankful to see now the truth of what I was going through and I’m so happy I strengthened my boundaries and ultimately walked away.
Yes! Opinion (your own) Life You Authenticity Laughing Your greatness Speaking Moving The list goes on and on! Know your worth because it’s not an authentic person you’re dealing with! If you learn that it’s not you, it’s them.. you will thrive❤❤❤❤
We love the intro video lol what a nice way to make light of the nasty reality of these complicit narcissistic people.. it felt good to laugh a little but then your thorough explanation after provided a sense of closure. This sounds exactly like my mother, and other people in my life.
My mil is same , she starts her day by calling different people friends relatives in different mode exactly the way as you show in masks , earlier she used to go to neighbors for gossiping but now everyone knows her reality , she passes personal info of one person to another on phone to keep them hooked to her calls , talks laudly saying her it her natural tone which becomes so soft when she needs get her work done , spends four five hours daily on her health leaving household responsibilities for other members
Yup, totally experienced this more times than I can count, however, when they were up to no good, they would creep around being very quiet, moved almost ghost like, as they were going through my belongings, etc, but boy oh boy if they wanted me awake it’s crazy how loud they could be…
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I could never understand why my husband had a problem with us being in bed when he was up - door slamming, vacuuming, noisy footsteps round the house. I didn't realise this was part of his narcissistic chaos. Thank you.
Vaccuuming is realy nasty. Saturday/ Sunday morning banging the cleaner against doors.
@@danielapel1976 They are really into cleaning it seems.
I was never allowed to sit for more than 10 mins. before he went to bed I would have to look busy ,earn my keep and all that...🥺
Yep that was my dad.
I would get a filthy look if I dared to sit down. Yet all he wanted to do was sit in front of the TV 🤷
So interesting because all I crave is aloneness, peace, quiet. I'm completely antisocial. No friends. Avoid the public. I just love being home and if someone comes to the door I hide, never answer.
Yes a former victim of NPD abuse I am. I don't even listen to music anymore like I did previously to the abuse. I hate earbuds unless my back is to a corner and I can see.
Same
I cannot believe what you said, I live exactly in the same way! : I just want to hear the silence!
Get out! It won't change! Please I was the same! Life is great without them yes I loved him with all my stupid heart! You will never ever be happy with them! They WANT you to suffer
I have friends, but usually only get together on a one on one lunch, but then it takes me two to three days to recoup from going out and socializing. 😂
They wake up and sleep at fixed times, eat healthy, hydrate and workout. Then prevent everyone else from doing the same.
I have seen this in young male kids
Exactly
Well said 🎯🎯🎯
😂
This.
You are helping so many people. I had to laugh at your imitation of how they are because it is so accurate. 😂🤣 They all deserve Academy Awards for their fake portrayals to outsiders. Bless you, Danish!
Absolutely. They are being persecuted.and their character is stellar. Not.
Yeah on the one hand they deserve those Awards. But what is sad about that - you never get to know their authentic self. What is more horrific: They don´t even know themselves... So who are they exactly?
Me too, Danish did a great job of portraying it! Then, as he put the "Masks" on, it was terrifying & SO true! Narcs I've known also love waking you up at all hours of the night to fight, argue or simply bc THEY can't sleep. (Gee, wonder why!) And Narcs who immediately hit you when you wake up with the same tactics & excuses! TY Danish for answering a question I've personally had for a long time - how do the higher end NARCS have so much energy all day long with little or even no sleep? I'm SO sorry that Abuse happened to you. It wasn't your fault & you do NOT deserve to be treated SO horribly ever! So thankful for your channel in raising awareness SO effectively & helping us Survivors begin to heal & recover. TY Dear Brother! 🙌🏼💯🤗⭐💫©️
🪄Yes, they all deserve Oscars & Trophies for being the biggest BULLIES & the MOST FAKE on the planet.🪄 (And doing REAL, tremendous HARM!)©️
Narcissist makes people develop social anxiety... I spent years been judged, insulted, mocked, ridiculed, beaten and it was always "MY Fault !" They made me believe there is something fondamentally wrong with me and that I deserved all the horrible things life throws at me, when someone treated me badly and disrespected me, it was always my fault... Who would want to socialise again after experiencing this sort of thing ?
My ex was a doctor and we were invited to a function at Christmas and he told me to dress formally..so I bought the fancy mini ballgown, cocktail dress, matching shoes, the whole shebang! Turned up and nobody else was formal and I'd never met the other doctors or their wives before! His boss a man of 60 plus had on a tuxedo and bow tie...walked over to me, took my arm and said " we will partner up tonight, as his wife winked at me. She later told me in the loo that Jim had heard him tell me over the phone to dress formally and when he tried to gaslight his boss into saying he hadn't heard him say that, Jim knew exactly how to deal with him and wore his tuxedo to spare my blushes! Never forgot that man's kindness
.So sorry .
Sounds like my mother
This was my experience too.
This may look comical to those who haven't fully dealt with a narcissist, but you couldn't be more spot on in what you displayed with the masks.
At 11:09, you mention torture and trauma. I'm so glad you brought this up because, yes, indeed, it is a real thing that they don't let you sleep.
My wife and I had an argument where I would suggest that we talk about it the next day because I only had 4 hours of sleep before waking up to go to work at 4 a.m.
She demanded that we talk about it that moment as she was calling me every curse word on the book. I told her goodnight and ignored her threats. I was so tired it didn't take much
for me to doze off only to wake up to the splash of water on my face as she told me, "I said you're not resting until we resolve this."
This was just one of a few other times she did this, then I left her to get away from her physical confrontations and verbal abuse. It's 7 months since we haven't had any contact, and I know that my actions of removing myself from under the roof we both lived in was for both our sakes.
For me, it was my sanity. All I ever wanted was peace and did everything I could to keep things peaceful. It's the narcissist who can't find peace. They may pretend to be peaceful to get what they want out of you, but it isn't in them to think things through and rationalize within themselves and say, "Am I really being that bad?" For these people, that kind of self reflection just doesn't exist.
Thank you for sharing and making these videos.
Nope. They just think we're the problem never them but when we try to walk, won't allow us to. I tricked mine, he never saw it coming. Its been two weeks and almost 2 days. I will never allow myself to be pulled in as he did me again with him or anyone else. It is why I watch these to make sense of the verbal abuse he put me through and so I can never be caught by one of these assholes ( that's an understatement ) again.💪🏾
They are calculating,watching you to steal all what they can!
True
Therefore you have to learn to set boundaries and to say no. It is necessary and very important if you deal with people.
@@IsabellaPiesch thanx
true my father is like that always watching every move you will made in your house
A Narcissist's need for validation and importance is relentless!
They pursue it with the same intensity as if it is air they need to breathe!
You and I have the same importance to them as we have when needing a tissue to blow our noses...use and discard without a second thought!
Look at yourself from the narcissists point of view...they do not see us as a living breathing person they see us as a resource only!
Yes, but their braying arrogance drives people away.
"let me wash my hands of responsibility" hahaha that was great
Actually between last 2 husbands and parents, it has been abuse my whole life. But I am still here.
Same with me! I married 2 men like my father !!
You are so accurate. I feel bad that you know narcissism so well due to your parents.
That's what makes him such a great teacher and so understanding. ❤
Spot on! It takes a long time to recover from these beasts!
You described their day perfectly!! The sleep deprivation is such a heavy betrayal. It's betrayal.
Vacation memories:
My narcissistic sibling screamed her son out of bed in the middle of the night. He had forgotten to charge his camera that he would need the next day. I was stupid enough to mention the camera (the boy was asleep already). I would have just checked the camera and charged it. I didn't know she'd get so fueled. She ran up to the bedroom and started yelling like h_ll.
According to her kids: it was a lucky incident that she didn't get physical with him. I'm still ashamed that I didn't put myself in between and stopped her. He was around 16 at that time.
😂 😂😂
DUDE MISSED HIS CALLING, IT'S COMEDY.
Laughed so hard! Needed that.
Me too! 😂
True...
Totally agree. I'm crying laughing!!! " washing my hands of responsibility". 😂😂😂
😂😂😂 I love the washing my hands of responsibility. I'm dying inside. That's my dad.
"yeah, go away" lol
My dad as well lol a little child smh
Said so accurately
My daughter. 😢
This is too spot on 😳 My mum just has no understanding of boundaries or peace. As soon as she wakes up, she’ll start fights with either me or dad, yelling/controlling/nagging. When she finally leaves the house to go to shops or casino, there’s finally peace and quiet. Then in the night after coming home from the cas, she will be so noisy with no consideration of anyone else trying to sleep. You’d think most people would know not to be noisy beyond 10 or midnight but no. No point trying to explain anything to them either as they don’t listen or keep interrupting you.
@@jbrown2908yeah deffo do it back lol
@@jbrown2908Bad advice. Never try to outcrazy a crazy person. They will take it as a challenge and beat you with experience.
@@nopereradicator Exactly, you can’t, it’s just adding fuel to the fire. The best thing is least amount of contact possible. If you try to say anything they think you’re “talking back” or if you match their energy by yelling back, it only drains your energy further.
Our moms must be twins.. get far away from her..
In my opinion, Narc's wake up and focus on getting supply. That means finding new supply, romancing side supply, and abusing main supply. Sleep deprivation is soooo real 😢
Mornings were never complete for my malignant narcissist father unless one of the kids was miserable. He'd poke and poke or take away stuff, or control what we ate, or make fun of us, etc etc etc...6 months NO CONTACT and ive never been calmer, slept better, been more creative, or understood myself more. My soul is being nourished and I'm incredibly hopeful:)
This is 100 % my husband. I wish I had this awareness of pervasive narcissistic behavior 40 years ago!! Learning more everyday, but feel trapped, no way out😢
After the love bombing to make you drop your defenses, isolation and dependence upon them is next on their list to ensure a never-ending source of narcissistic supply through abuse.
You are not alone in this. Find strength through a support group of people who also felt they were the only ones trapped! Remember who you were before the trauma bond he created!
Hang on to that...you are way stronger than you know!
Rather late than never. Your life is more important than anything else. I continue to pray for your health and safety🙏♾️
Love the skits.
Me to same situation now 40 yrs suffering
There is ALWAYS a way out.. you can start living or die as a victim.. you decide
So true... can sleep instantly, anytime, anywhere! However, can stay awake for eternity if it suits them!
When I was still living with my parents they still beat me until the age of 21. After each beating and sermon that always took hours to end at times they really have a very good night sleep. I used this moment when I left home at 21.
The best coping mechanism that I managed to formulate for my situation is SELF-TALK. Because I realized at an early aged even his relatives sided on them that I only have myself to keep. When I was young I always told myself to keep your composure, you are not insane, you will be alright and grow old not like them, tap myself at the back if you are happy today tomorrow will not be the same chaos is always around the corner, always evaluate your surroundings and always be alert because you are like walking in glass, etc.
I remember counting the years up until I graduated college and promise my future old self that I will leave home once I graduated. And I kept that promise to my future self and I left home at the age of 21 when they have a very good night sleep.
I CAN'T BELIEVE!!!YOU DESCRIBED ALL IN INTRODUCTION!!!
Danish never faltered. He's on point all the time. God bless you Danish. I know you're helping a lot of people identify the narcissists.
Thank you!!!!! It's so hard to explain to others how hell-like it was living with a narcissist. Like individually each thing sounds so trite....they banged things around, walked in a measured threatening manner, threw open the bedroom door by hitting it with a vacuum cleaner coming in at 6 am on a Saturday....I was always sleep deprived! You do such a great job of explaining all of the MILLIONS of things they do that add up to a miserable existence. I appreciate your videos SO much and they have aided in my healing in a very big way....this is even after 10 years gone....thank you again!!! 💜
You really portrayed how they live.
It always blows my mind how EXACTLY your assessment fits our narcissist. Its just crazy.
I suffered in a narcissistic cult family for 3 years and all these years i even doubted myself because of worst Gaslighting and smear campaigning by them.After watching your videos especially this i get a huge relief. I'm real i didn't say what has not happened. There were noone or no proof to believe the tantrums i suffer because of them. But for myself i understand now I'm not wrong always. Thanks to you Danish! Grateful for your knowledge, experience and service✨
Hahaha...Danish, your act is awesome!! This is all true.
A narcissist, who has been discarded by me since 2021 and never forgot me, suddenly sent me this message in my online shop page. I copy:
"Ι really love your store. Ιt looks amazing, the attention to detail is remarkable and your art unique. But I see that you have not achieved the dream you want your store to be".
He woke up in the morning and started his scheduled abuse, ready to drink blood. Who knows where else. He has a list.
Detach and BLOCK HIM
@@susannablessings5773Of course
A backhanded compliment reveals your independence is getting to him. It is validation that you font need him.. Causing him injury. Ghosthim and keep up thegood work.👍
@@sunshinedayz2172😵💫🙄
Ghost him? You don’t need him🙏🏻
I don't know what I would have done after 2 decades of Narc abuse, had I not found this channel. Thanks from the bottom of my heart, and to everyone else that has suffered, you are not alone, there are lots of other people experiencing the same thing, you are not alone ❤ 🙏👍
Thankyou for educating people. I and my children realized a lot after watching videos and now we are coming out of the relationship, he is smear campaigning about me.
You got it! And I love the way you demonstrate it with the masks. I’m a visual person and it helps me a lot. My ex narcissist loved to wake up whichever son he was picking on and drag them out of bed in the middle of the night to berate and possibly beat them. No wonder I can’t sleep.
This guys KNOWS HIS STUFF!!!! He is bang on, with his finger on the pulse of the narcissist. The mask scenarios blew me away. This is SO accurate. I applaud him for relaying the narcissists tactics with such accuracy. 👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
So true, living with the devil / Narcissists...life is never a balance
Oh my god, I knew my partner was a narcissist but you brought up traits of him I've never heard anyone else talk about. To a T. Very Little sleep, a night owl, falls asleep crazy quick, can't sit still for too long before getting sleepy, and doesn't allow me to sleep. Likes to pick fights with me at night and then gets to spend time alone drinking watching videos that entertain him after the fight. Wow. This video was so insightful.
My ex used to make mornings a torment for everyone. After we separated my daughter from a previous relationship finally told me he was yelling at her in the car all the way to school infront of his other children most mornings until she would cry. Alienated and slammed as soon as she was out of my sight. She would then struggle to settle into school and would often end up crying in the bathroom and missing first period and started getting into trouble for her attendance.
In the mornings i would make breakfast and atleast 5 packed lunches and prepare all the children for their day as he sat there drinking his coffee not helping with an attitude because he would treat me as if I was about to go on holiday as the at home parent to 6 children(4 at school and 2 babies at home) compared to him going to work in an office.
Even while breastfeeding and exhausted his expectations of me didn't change.
We are now 3 years free from that abuse, eggshells and constant torment and now our mornings are now tension free.
Seriously a narcissist never think about a victim pain and sleep easily to say I want to sleep now 🙁
excellent man, "chaos" is the right word
I can’t imagine having BOTH parents as narcs….you my friend are a walking miracle!!! 🙌🏼 🌟 ❤
Now I understand why I was so much energy drained always since years and how he felt so energetic... ...
now I understand how he made me good for nothing after marriage in those years..how a throughout academically topper and a medico doctor...became good for nothing .....and he always blamed me and others for every single thing happening wrong...how he instilled permanent fear in every ones heart including me...
Now I understand why these things were happening since years and never changed.... everyone near him is suffering.
But due to gods blessings now I m coming to light from darkness...Now I am learning to save my energy...how to be diplomatic , speak less, following my passion ,my purpose of life....
And also trying to protect others from his torture by giving psychological support... what else I can do...
Thank you Danish Bhai for making everything so clear ... it's so helpful..God bless you always.
Hi same here. 6 months ago I googled personal disorders and I found out about narcissism. I'm 16 years married with a narc. 16 years of crying suffering and trying to do my best. For what? For that wolf I married in church.
Now I know who he is and i try to protect my 2 boys from his bad manners. I hope God will set me free from this marriage.
I enjoy my peace and never feel bored. If you can be happy with yourself that is growth
😆 LOL! This is awesome! So true! Love the different masks. . . . OMG!! My narc woke me up at 4:15am this morning by turning the lights on, slamming kitchen cabinet doors as he was getting his meds. . . on purpose! How ironic. "NO REST FOR THE WICKED"!!
Thank you, Danish! Keep up the good work! God bless you, Earth Angel ❤
How true.... they want hatred you want love. This is so accurate, poor me total victim.
100%correct my MIL makes sounds...she shouts at maid ,talk loudly over phone,drag furnitures,ring pooja bell for long,does yoga loudly etc
Thank-you for this content , it is so true and informative, I'm going too save this 📸 video . They are the most nausted and waste of space in this universe.
OMG! SPOT ON!! My father used to yell "Get up Get up in the morning! He got pissed when I was quiet, half awake, and grumpy because he scared the crap out of me! He would get angrier because I did not say "Good morning". If you woke him up the sh!t hit the fan!! So thinned skinned. To this day I hate it when people say "Good morning " to me. I feel forced to say it back. Instead I say hi
They don't have to sleep because they're fueled by evil. Thank you!
OMG YOU JUST SPOT ON TOLD MY NARCISSISTIC EXITING HUSBAND! He sleeps like a parrot 🦜. He’s out cold as soon as he sits down! He is fine on 6 hours/ night. He never lived alone.
With the exception of touching dishes, ( oh, no no no ... women's work) You nailed my father's behavior perfectly ~ my mother had no boundaries ~ she'd Wake up as if she'd had 2 pots of coffee, screaming out orders until she died at 85. Christmas Day 2023 7:00 a.m. she came into the guest room, sat in the chair and ordered me to take out the 2 coffee makers to the garbage. I broke all contact that day. She died 6 weeks later.
THANK YOU! YOU ARE THE BEST AT SUMMING UP Narcissistic BEHAVIOR !!!!
This is my life story. It is ridiculous that there are in fact some people that are unable to see it, and understand it for themselves when you tell them. You are a very gifted person. Thank you so much for this....
The overt and acting out narcissists are rather easy to see. There are so skilled narcissists even grandiose ones, that can hide their negative sides better.
Waking up nauseated every single day, nervous when I was out too long unless I was at work.
This sounds like my ex husband because he would complain about life at every meal, when he came home from work he would play music at an unreasonable volume to disturb everyone if we even told him about it- he would tell us to live with it, he would have up and down moods depending on who he was talking to- always an opportunity to talk about us in a negative way to whoever was on the phone, and always yelling for hours each day even during his favorite movies so he could blame us for yelling at us even if we hadn’t opened our mouths. I am so grateful that I don’t live with his schedule anymore.
This is so accurate - the victim mask reminds me of my narc mother.
Danish Bashir, amidst this difficult time I am going through, you help me smile with your sense of humour. Thank you
Thank you for "sharing important information on narc's!"
After almost 30 years of narc abuse I probably shouldn't find this funny but you did such a good job. I started laughing at you putting on the masks. Hey! I can still laugh! Thank you!
Totally right on...
You Danish are helping a lot of people I look forward to your videos
Danish, you are hilarious. Thanks for being one of the top narc-slayers!! God bless. This is good to know.
😂 very well done… and it’s absolutely amazing how fast they fall asleep! It’s 100% true. 😮
This one really was TOO relatable. So much so that I got kind of triggered when re-living my experience with my narc father. He would torture us in the mornings like this. Particularly on the weekends when he didn't have to work. Me and my siblings would always hope to get to sleep in like our friends, because it's the weekend. But no. My dad would shout and yell, turn on all the lights, BLAST his music on his huge speakers sometimes to wake us up. The amount of anxiety this episode triggered is just a testament to how cruel my dad was, and how real that fear/anxiety was. And the deep sadness I also feel for my childhood self is profound. Because he had so little empathy or care for our real need for sleep or a calm voice. Kids do not get enough sleep as it is with how early school starts. He had no clue what we went through emotionally on a day to day basis. He was not very emotionally close to us or involved in our lives, yet he ran our lives like it was some kind of military :(
My mother hasn’t slept in over 50 years. She takes brief naps in the afternoon when nobody is home.
Maybe she needs to obtain a topical prescription for pain management along with something to wear over wherever she needs to apply it most. Good thing she has the right to do that sort of thing. That can help an elder make a full recovery from an injury. People who have become institutionalized while their care is being supervised by a narcissist do not have the right to choose simple things like that which could help them avoide becoming an addict who takes prescription pain killers taken by mouth.
Same thing my dad does. He naps when we’re all at work. Then when we are home is awake to monitor constantly. When we’re there he does this fake sleep where I know he’s not really sleep but wants to give the appearance he’s sleep so he can hear what we may say or do then store it as information. It sounds super crazy but he is and I’d have him out away if my sister and mom weren’t holding me bk. He’s a cancer to the family.
Loved this Danish more of this 👍👍
This was so true and comical at the same time. Only thing I’m having trouble with is, having images of seeing my children’s mother with another man! That’s literally the one thing keeping me around. I’m confused and tormented by the thoughts and images. Eventhough she’s a cancerous and evil covert narcissist Im literally stuck with leaving her and staying with her out of fear of seeing her with someone else. A part of me says let her go and the other part projects images and I’m in the middle completely confused! I’m the clear definition of a trauma bonded person. And not financially stable enough to be able to leave at the moment.
Your channel has answered 16 years of my queries. Specially about sleep.
Finally I am so happy to be being by myself in the morning. It took so long.
So true it's amazing how much energy they have to create caos
Wow. Good morning danish. Thank you thank you thank you
I was her target from the womb. I was born with a target on my back. And it was not just her who fed off me but a life of 56 years of it.
She handed all my beautiful peaceful energy to all those who needed the same dominance.
I have seen her wound. I do understand yet the worst thing for me is The Smear
The rush of insight this morning
Thank you danish.
The introduction is spot on
Thank you for a great video 😂 spot on! We can laugh about it now because we are far away from those crazy narcissists. I thank God for having helped us to figure the narcisism out. God bless you ❤
Yes I also have a sleepless problem and something morning fights so sad.
Thank you, Danish Bashir. This is very precise, and so helpful.
Bro , thank you a million times .
LOL this is the greatest video ever. I'm still struggling but I'm trying to get out of this relationship I've been in. My girlfriend has a twin sister who's also a narcissist my girlfriend is a covert narcissist. Their mother is also a narcissist .
My dad and ex husband was like your description. So nice to people outside the family and we thought if only he could be that nice to us what a difference that would make. Isn't it pathetic the impact these narcissist have on people.
In early days of my marriage, my husband used to begin his fights just when I was trying to sleep. He somehow knew when I am going into that deep slumber. He would then not let me sleep and begin his childish complaining. The same complain used to go on and on for days on end. And he would insist that I wake up early and prepare his lunchbox. It was pure torture. Glad it is over. But this routine thing is very very real. These are abnormal human beings.
Both my Ex & my mother were huge gossips yet my mother & my Ex lecture about tight lip about inside home activities
You covered every base Danish👍 just a couple of things,, 1 have you noticed how they always "snatch" when passing them something? 2 they always talk to themselves during the night or day? Ciao❤️
@johnwright9373 Yes,I can identify with that one,and twice as much affection.
Danish! I love this video. This is too good.
Brilliant work Danish! Thanks
Dude … you’re a good actor 🎭
❤such behavior knows no bounds and ultimately brings a null and void burden.
You have my deepst sympathy! I came to the realisation lately that my boss is one of them. Thank be to the Lord I have gone through 10 years of conselling and am so whole now, that he can't have a grip on me. Simply to put it I know who I am, what my worth is, etc. I also learned in the past days that I am a sigma empath who poses a real threat to them. Funny, since the time I know who he really is, things seem to be more easy. I have nothing left to feel for him and his family but an utmost pity.
Keep doing what You do, You are helping so many people!
Emily from Budaepst Hungary
Thank you for helping people Danish God bless you this helps so much
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Thank you , Danish Bashir , Amazing Teaching ,
Gods Blessings in Jesus , The Lord Jesus Christ ,
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My fathers a narc and my older twin brothers are twin narcs that work together. None of them sleep much at all. They'd start throwing you off balance as soon as they wake you up. This always gives them advantage. I could see theier energy levels peek even higher, by being obsessive, unrelenting pests. This entertained my father so much he used to tape record it. What kind of an asshole does that. I,m almost 60 now and he still has those tapes. Thanx Danish you touched on something here that hits nerve with a lot of people. Sometimes I see them as little devils.
You touched on something I've been thinking about lately with the overt narcissist father and the covert narcissist mother. I've noticed a lot of what appear to be covert narcissist women that look for the overt narcissist man and wondered if you've come across that or have noticed that connection in your research at all.
You are spot on!
Mine were night owls and stay up late. They wouldn’t allow anyone to go to sleep at a decent hour and then waking them up for appointments and such was a nightmare. I’m so thankful to see now the truth of what I was going through and I’m so happy I strengthened my boundaries and ultimately walked away.
Bravo Bravo 👏 Dear Sir Danish. Educational and Entertaining. Thank you!
Totally true. You Described my ex. Mostly about not respecting bedtime and the terror of breakfast.
😮😮😮😮 this is so accurate!!
Yes! Opinion (your own)
Life
You
Authenticity
Laughing
Your greatness
Speaking
Moving
The list goes on and on! Know your worth because it’s not an authentic person you’re dealing with! If you learn that it’s not you, it’s them.. you will thrive❤❤❤❤
Good luck Danish! an accurate observation,Ma Sha Allah.
We love the intro video lol what a nice way to make light of the nasty reality of these complicit narcissistic people.. it felt good to laugh a little but then your thorough explanation after provided a sense of closure. This sounds exactly like my mother, and other people in my life.
My mil is same , she starts her day by calling different people friends relatives in different mode exactly the way as you show in masks , earlier she used to go to neighbors for gossiping but now everyone knows her reality , she passes personal info of one person to another on phone to keep them hooked to her calls , talks laudly saying her it her natural tone which becomes so soft when she needs get her work done , spends four five hours daily on her health leaving household responsibilities for other members
Yup, totally experienced this more times than I can count, however, when they were up to no good, they would creep around being very quiet, moved almost ghost like, as they were going through my belongings, etc, but boy oh boy if they wanted me awake it’s crazy how loud they could be…
TY, Danish for sharing your experience with us. 😢
This explains so so much.