Yes, that point where you feel even God has betrayed you. What was the point in trying so hard to be all good and giving when you only get betrayal and pain in return. After years of narcissistic abuse by parents, I ended up with a Narc husband and raised a Narc daughter. It was soul shattering. Desperation led me back to the Almighty and my faith was restored, when I saw the positive changes within me. I realised that this whole thing is not about waiting for revenge or retribution, but self-restoration. I stopped being a victim and became a survivor. I found the strength to become a warrior, to slay the demonic power which had shackled me.
Same with me. Narcissistic (& psychopathic) father, then a narcissist wife, then a narcissistic daughter. But when I finally got away from all of them & went no-contact, I became happy for the first time in my life.
Very inspiring! No one can know what you went through except you, therefore you have to fix you. Others do not have a say in how you do it. (But they will try). Listen to your heart and soul!
Kindly give me some pointers of what you did. My mom was narcissistic to me, and I ran into the arms of my narcissistic husband. I have three children and I have them to talk to. My husband has truly hurt my soul, deep within. I have stopped telling him anything about my goals, achievements, joys, experiences, anything and I'm finding that I'm happier. I talk to him much less often, and only when required to. However, the few interactions we have, (mainly because of our children), turn into arguments where he throws false accusations at me, turns and twists his version in every angle, then starts name calling me hurtful stuff like "scum". And I feel deeply hurt, after giving so much of my time, energy, emotional support, financial support, doing better than him in work life, literally supporting the full family, etc. I have tried going no contact by not interacting or talking to him much, but he tries to loop me in, like he's an angel and he doesn't know WHY I'm not talking to him. What did you do spiritually?
@karinadsouza4929 Long technical discussion here, I'll try to be brief. I want you to understand the following technical detail about NPD. They are trying to elicit "an emotional response." Notice we don't say just any kind of response. We specifically say, and we specifically mean "an EMOTIONAL response." The 4 prime aims of every narcissist are: 1. Control, 2. Narcissist Fuel, 3. Character Trait Acquisition 4. Residual Benefits. What you just touched on was 1, 2, & 3. He's picking fights. If he can get you to respond in an EMOTIONAL way he proves to himself he still has control over you by controlling your emotions. As he sees you react EMOTIONALLY by, say, getting angry & screaming, you see his "narcissistic smirk." You just confirmed his ability to control you. His brain rewards him with a little burst of neurotransmitters (dopamine, neuroprnephrin & SEROTONIN). We know it's serotonin because that one is why his pupils are dilating. Narcissist lack proper emotional functioning. By getting you to emotionally react, he can back-caluclate the trigger-reaction mechanism. Your reaction confirms he used a proper (effective) trigger. They use this to acquire traits from people. He's stealing (copying) behavior from you (a normal person) he can now use to help construct a "false self" (Character Trait Acquisition). You're helping him: 1. Establish control 2. Compensate for a lack of pleasure chemicals in his brain by getting his jollies tormenting you, and 3. Stealing your character traits to help him hide his true self from others by back-calculating proper human emotional behavior he doesn't really understand. I said a lot. You could write a long chapter in a psychology book around what I just said. This is more advanced material. What I want you to take away from this is... Want to have some advanced fun with this a$$hole? ACT WEIRD!! 😆 It totally throws them off. Do you remember the character "Data" from StarTrec The Next Generation? He was an android. That's why he was weird--no proper emotional functioning. Act autistic when forced to interact with him. He wants to watch your proper emotional functioning. DENY HIM THIS!!! Literally act weird, like you suddenly have Aspberger syndrome. Move & speak oddly. Yes, I'm damned serious. Act like you're a freaking robot. Pause oddly between words. Move with odd jerky movements. 😆 TRY IT!!!!! Then glance at him & watch him look in amazement & get angry. 😆 🤣 😂 He's expecting you to get angry so he can get his Narcissist Fuel & for the first time ever you're screwing everything up & he's not getting his usual dose of dopamine, neuroprene & serotonin. I first tried this on my sister (she's 55yo). After a half century of getting me angry to get her jollies I learned & tried this "robot stuff" on her. She got so confused 😆 followed by getting so angry the veins were pulsating on her forhead. She had always been able to get an angry emotional response out of me before. Now suddenly it wasn't working!!! She didn't understand why I was suddenly acting weird & she couldn't control me or get her sick jollies off me & she got so mad... 😆 🤣 😂 Then I left the room giggling & she all but punched the wall. They have no idea how to handel people who refuse to play into their twisted games. That's another technique. Act like you're about to get mad. Then pause. And burst out laughing. They have no idea how to handle your sudden & bizarre change of behavior. It ruins their silly narcissist games that have always worked for them. 😆 🤣 😂
1. Leaves you with a broken (but not unfixable!) soul, soul exhaustion, soul wound. Become aware of your limitations, boundaries 2. Bitterness & resentment from being used, be self compassionate 3. Desperation & dissatisfaction, grieve the loss "Soul ache": practice gratitude! 4. Spiritual oppression, connect with the Source to heal! Thank you Danish I've struggled with all of these and finding gratitude, self compassion, the core of the pain and letting go...healing the wounded soul for liberty!
Healing from narcissistic abuse is challenging but always possible. It often requires a multi-faceted approach, including therapy, support groups, and spiritual practices to rebuild self-worth, identity, and a sense of connection to something greater..
My exhaustion to the core, betrayal, broken soul, extreme fatigue, anger, oppression lead me to a definite moment when I felt my body give way, give up on one particular day that I will never forget and I knew I had been driven way too far. I was beyond normal. I began with auto immune diseases and just now 3 kinds of cancer. Don't let this happen you!!! I was always happy and loved life. Now I face the opposite. I'm fighting for my life ~ I want it back!!!
Danish, this is what places you head and shoulders above the rest!! A healer who combines the physical and spiritual in the process of healing. The two cannot be separated for true, restorative healing. THANK YOU!!!
@@user-df3eo9qx9pthere is but they can't accept accountability but they're going to get it and be held accountable regardless of what they want or desire ❤
Jesus will restore when you keep on praying. As Jesus says, we are not fighting against flesh and blood but of the evil spirits behind narcissism. The more you go closer to God, the devil through these personalities and situation will stop you to get closer to God. God gives clarity through people like you. God bless you sir. 🙏 Nothing is impossible with God...but impossible for Satan when you get closer to Jesus.
I've experienced all four of the symptoms of narcissists abuse. When out of my soul I scream I hate you I know I've hit bottom. No place to go but up: LORD 4give me my sorrow has dried my bones, my heart aches , my eyes tear. Heal these wounds I pray. My soul flutters like a fallen sparrow broken awaiting your touch. Amen 1:09
Yes. About 6 months later after I finally got rid of the narc i came down with extreme anxiety attacks for about 2 years and heart issues, alot of strange symptoms. Its been hell, didnt know if I could or would heal.. but finally am.. i was very weak.. i can never afford to be around another narc again as long as i live. i may not recover next tme if i do. I know this. He was so evil.. even to sit next to him i could feel a vaccuum sensation.. it was a dirty evil vaccuum. Only way I can decribe it. Its been 3 years.. i still just want to be alone so i can rest.. it was that bad.
There's thousands of videos about narcissists but yours are just so on point, so spot on, so on the mark and earilly so very true. Most of the things you say you're so right that you could almost be living in my house knowing my life! How did you get to be so educated about this? No one on the internet sums up a narc quite like you do. Wow. This is like the 4th video I've seen and they're scary true!
The thing about angry and bitterness, you do feel these, it's a normal process after what you've been through but if you're not actively working on yourself to be able to heal, these become a part of your personality and you take it out on others around you. I've seen somebody become bitter and rageful and not even be the slightest bit interested in healing themselves despite free masterclasses etc being available to them. It's like they lack the capacity to even recognise that their behaviour isn't normal, not even asking themselves if they're fed up with being angry all the time and nothing ever making them happy so they don't want to do anything to heal this. They feel guilty for the way they treat people and they do apologise but do nothing to try to change it. It's like a perpetual victim mindset. What happened to us is not our fault but it is our responsibility to heal ourselves, for the sake of our loved ones if we don't feel like doing it for ourselves.
I have experienced all types .I am feeling healed so much ❤Now the healing is going on and still I have not felt happy and joyful from core of the soul ❤ I pray for the divine source for completely healed in this life time ❤I choose for liberation in this life time ❤ I appreciate your efforts ❤ lots of love and gratitude❤
This video really does address many of the feelings a person that has suffered from narcissistic abuse goes through repeatedly. It’s even worse when it’s your mother & she is so vindictive & she is 90, & you, yourself are old likewise. Almost every area of my life has been affected regardless of how strong I am, regardless of how much counseling & self help I have received & regardless of how much I pray & try to be a strong spiritual person. I feel so hindered, so insecure & so beat down in any & most all efforts. And yes, it does make you feel so worthless & alone when you yourself are old too. I make a genuine effort to keep my mind on positive acts & active in mind enriching endeavors. Thank you for these words of insight & encouragement!
Yes. Diagnosed with Early Onset Parkinson's Disease at 39... I'm 47 now, and feel like I died but for some reason, I'm still here. The exhaustion I still feel goes all the way to my bones... like life-energy has been drained.
I have so many health problems. I have am immune deficiency (CVID) I have to get infusions for for the rest of my life just to stay alive,lung disease, autoimmune stuff, hypothyroidism, IBS, osteoarthritis,GERD,lrba deficiency which is what causes my immune deficiency and a bunch of other crap,etc. and that's not even including all the mental health stuff i was diagnosed with after all this abuse including BPD. Bpd is caused by childhood neglect, trauma, abuse and from growing up in an invalidating environment so now i have a lifelong incurable mental Illness on top of all my health problems and also have severe depression and anxiety, cptsd,adhd. Grew up in a narcissistic family and just got out of a relationship with a narcissist and I am so exhausted, mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually so so exhausted 😞. Sorry for the rant but needed to vent.
About 5 years ago I started working on my healing and trying to love myself , which is really hard to do when your still in the situation but I’ve learned to make and hold boundaries, and to stand up for myself and finding my way slowly back home to myself . I for many many years thought maybe I was the problem I mean I’m not perfect I have made mistakes and have said hurtful things , I’ve learned many lessons and have found comfort in source who showed me that I am not ALONE!
"Jesus is the Only way,God intervened for me 5.5 months ago,and before that as well! I should have "listened earlier to God and his Loving Intervention!"🙏💜🙏❤️
I am happy you are saying this!! I used and invented this term years ago!! I even have posts writing about it!! Yayyy. 🎉🎉🎉 soul wounds are much harder to heal!! Takes much longer than physical wounds. 🥰💚
You've nailed how I feel!! Why when he's not here am I packing and getting ready to go (it's hard to leave when you need to go 1,500 miles, you can't just slowly move your things that far).. Then when he's home it's like a spell comes over me and "it's not so bad".. Even though it is.. He never yells, because I do everything he wants, but it's all total control if I say the sky's really blue today he'll say it was bluer yesterday or what a fat bunny he'll say that other ones fatter.. Constant saying the opposite.. The lies, manipulation, 5 job changes so far this year, the drinking, flirting.... What's wrong with me.. Stockholm??? Witchcraft?
Absolutely true. Chronic fatigue wrecks your life. Since my mother died fairly recently I've not had a decent hug. My relatives don't hug and others give fleeting hugs. It's so hard to keep going..
Same here. Although my mother was a narc (not now as she died last September) and she didn't give hugs if you gave her a hug she would freeze up just like my husband although I crave touch, sympathy and warmth. Doubt I will get them anytime soon 😌
Try going without any hugs at all decent or ‘indecent😉’ for 30 years, actually a whole lifetime, because my mother and family never hugged me. I ended up marrying a narc who was not a hugger nor cuddler. Talk about touch starved. Add in CPTSD and ADD. Left my narc husband after 10 years of abuse and two little children. My daughter is a narcissist who cut me off. My son is a schizophrenic. No emotional support from them. Very lonely, but very strong and determined to keep being interested in things that make life worth it - art, music, theatre, and film.
@@clairecarscallenI’m sorry you’ve gone through so much! Life isn’t over! Keep fighting! I believe you’ll be rewarded for the yrs of pain & misery you’ve experienced! God loves you! He’ll restore to you all that was lost! Reach out to him! I’m praying for you!
Along with 5 time prayers, also reading Quran with translation..It's the thing that saved me from going insane due to living with a narcissist ! It's my personal experience and it helps me to overcome all the negativity of the narcissist and strengthened me.
@@umesultan7148 escape as soon as possible. Insha Allah. There is no point in adjusting with them.. also try your level best to evade the triangulation.
I dove deeply into Lord God for healing and prayer. I experienced neurological issues . I am healing but the toll has been great. Skin issues worsen with even any contact with the narcissist. Your videos are the first ones I watched and have helped me greatly
The physical issues of having been the victim of narcissitic abuse is real ~ I’ve had all of them but now, after healing for 7 years, my energy to be productive has returned, though some of the physical illnesses linger.
I agree with you that emotional abuse can cause illness. People internalize their anger and pain and that can cause physical harm to themselves. Having a divine connection fills the void and completes you through gratitude, meditation, and being spiritually aware of yourself and the people around you.✌
i so needed to hear this today. I feel exhausted no matter what i eat or motivate myself or any exercise routine. Glas to know because energy is sucked out of soul
Receive Jesus into your heart and you will become a new creation in Christ. We need Jesus because no human being can fill us spiritually. Jesus can heal your so called soul wound.
In a way. This is the real face of truth. There is no filters, no fake smiles, or facade here at this point... it can be a really eventful way and technique to use to face your self in the mirror to truly look, love and feel again. You donnot recognize you, but you become a true "filter" for the pain... you have the power to fill your face equally too again. Instead of hardlooks imagine them to gold or take a moment to smile at yourself. Own the change and continue to see all that you were and what you can charge to be. Reclaim a new face and filter to help get the pollution out... charcoal face mask or the mud may not seem the best bust once you give yourself some fresh water and clean up... you are tighter, younger and more glow than before. Youve already been hit with the worst... now you can face even more bc weve been conditioned to it. In a sense too... your smiles are all true when weve been this low. So just share a smile out... for a cup of coffee or any little thing, or smile in a content moment... smile for you staying you and retrain that brain and release the face to feel good.
Thank you for another eye-opening video - Now it totally makes sense why, no matter how good the body may sleep, I am still exhausted. Thank you for providing this kind of help!
I REBUKE THIS IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 NO WEAPON FORM AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER, AND EVERY TONGUE RISES AGAINST ME IS CONDEMED IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS THE CHRIST🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Mind messers need strong boundaries. Im talking concrete boundaries. Throw out the anger if you can because your keeping a house fire going you didn't cause. Put fire out its not hurting your offender Narc.
I am expecting white spots on my legs and almost looks like I’m getting splotches on my neck. I’m so afraid that it’s permanent. I will be working very hard to heal mentally and physically. Thank you so much for your help. 🙏❤️
Mine kept nagging at me to pick up the slack so I grey rocked, total avalanche, I say "I'm no good to you dead!" Are we supposed to be extremely ill to catch a break and it's their lifestyle we're living, ridiculous!
I fight the tired almost paranoia. I’ve never been here. Parents both deeply mentally assaulting and a husband. Then Seven years after the 30 year marriage I partnered with the biggest wolf in sheeps clothing! I was struck in the relationship and shocked! The counselor asked if there was blood! Because there wasn’t he minimized my experience. Sick people and myCNS is really off since then. Outside help and these videos and a psychologist are helping yet I’m really struggling to feel safe and physically ok anywhere. Thanks Danish!
Also, know that the healing takes time..usually the same amount of time you’ve endured the abuse. 15 yrs abused….13 yrs later and I was well on my way…until I met a covert narcissist that shot me right back into the abuse cycle and I started to decline mentally….back to my bed, my safe place, or the bathtub; which I slept in for safety…because my skin would crawl sometimes just laying next to him. Whatever activities he was involved with outside the home..seemed to have an energy that followed him as well. I could feel it if he got too close to me. Maybe I developed a “spidey sense” to toxicity. Idk. But you can feel it.
What a powerful message and counseling. I wish I could have you with me all the time just to talk and listen to. Thankfully we have your many videos. I love, and relate to, each one.
I was with a selfish narcissist and I got sick two weeks after knowing him and was with him for two years and a year away I’m tired and sick and tired lots of illnesses.. so now what ?
I have been fighting for my life ever since, I am barely winning. 😢 I snapped finally and my energy got even more drained. I have had to see a team of doctors for a list of health problems. I am so exhausted, I got used for energy and entertainment and to get new fuel and I have imprisoned myself for my own protection.
I feel my brain is not functioning...once i was a very good student...but now i struggle to get passing marks...seems like something is constantly eating up my brain.... and it feels like there is some heavy rock inside my skull...i struggle to concentrate ... whatever i try to study feels like it's not getting absorbed in my brain as if there a layer of fog around my brain which is not letting anything positive inside my brain...what have I turned into...how can anyone let someone suffer so much and not even bother to say a sorry
I have experienced all the four things. Now I am healing slowly by doing meditation, being with gratitude whatever I have now and with mindfulness. Thank you very much for sharing . I have experienced all the things but I didn’t know these are from the narcissistic abuse
Danish, if hitting to any one blackmagic, sihr, shirk, poojaas, practicing this also will cause for cancer, tumour, mental issues, accident, loss of wealth, relatiinships, new deseases, that have no medicines..also will come to a person...if anyone needs healing always hear QURAN...no matter what your religion is, hear with intention to cure, use headphone, listen very carefully..
I would say a little of all 4 for me. As for healing. After what I have been through in my life and more so the last 5 years almost 6 now. I am a long way from healing. The best thing I have going for me is people are fighting in a war right now. I can’t let my problems bring me down if there is people that can forget there problems and fight for what’s right. I wouldn’t exist if not for the brave people that fight to protect people like me.
That's the werewolf inside takes no more bs, comes out to kill the vampire. Those who can transform at fullmoon (when things become clear) are the ones vampires fear the most.
Everyone listen to me and listen to me carefully! Don’t ever give those demons and their words power Danish seems to be the only other person on TH-cam other than me addressing curses and word spells they use that come true when you were young. Never take these narc family members words seriously! They are evil you are not.
Thanks you Danish i feel totaly broken, no strenght, whatever i do, i still feel empty and like i have been used like an object. I do not know yet how i can heal one day since the pain is so deep.
Yes my father is a malignant narcissist and having many dark tertrad traits and behaviour. My mom and younger sister are diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and I am diagnosed with depression. My mom also diagnosed with breast cancer😢😢
Where were u all this time. I wish I had found you long ago. Alhamdulillah!!!! I found u some days back. I hv been through everything that u speak abt. Now I need to recover ASAP .
Every single one! It’s been 3 yrs since divorce. He has alienated my daughter from me (not his daughter). She moved in with him and then he cut all contact with me. All after treating her like crap as well as myself when he lived here. I have rage, revenge feelings - desperation and loss of hope. She was 17 when she moved in with him and is now 18. And she is acting just like him. So much rage at him AND myself for allowing continued contact with him after divorce. 😢
My resentment grows more bitter over time and with each new attack from the abuser, because he refuses to go away. He's now let me know he is invading my private files and gathering evidence to use against me in a $1 million lawsuit if I try to evict him. He knows his rights as a squatter, and he is demanding them at the expense of my sanity and safety. He is ruthless. I do try to practice gratitude for the lapses in time between attacks when I can find hours of peace with my thoughts and prayers. But I know he is building a case in the background, and it terrifies me. I try to keep trusting in God's provision and protection, but I don't like that He is allowing this oppression to continue.
I have felt many times that if you have alot of trauma that you will feel trauma even after death. I have felt even after death I will get no peace. I felt like I was the only one who may feel this way being a typical American in the south other people in my community don't really understand my views. Glad that I'm not the only one who believes in restless souls.
Spiritual connection helps in healing process. While interacting with universe or God or ancient sadgurus one can get and find solutions through various ways. Everyday most of the time talk to universe by telling in-out emotions (thoughts, actions and feelings), listen to spiritual talks it heals. Surrender to the ancient Gurus who had God's connection. Serve food to ants which are in the neem tree and peepal tree (to reduce our past life karma and pray for toxic people to get away from one's life), Donate food orphanage Be calm while interacting with universe later one can sense the pain the internal organs of the body where one has to heal that part through self prayers only. No medicine can help to heal when one is into evil sufferings
When it comes to nurture your body, the food comes from the Earth, because Man is created from dust(Earth), but Spirit/ Soul comes from the Heavens and to nourish it, We must provide it its food , which is also from Heavens i.e. The Spiritual Book (The Quran , For Muslims)
Yes, that point where you feel even God has betrayed you. What was the point in trying so hard to be all good and giving when you only get betrayal and pain in return. After years of narcissistic abuse by parents, I ended up with a Narc husband and raised a Narc daughter. It was soul shattering. Desperation led me back to the Almighty and my faith was restored, when I saw the positive changes within me. I realised that this whole thing is not about waiting for revenge or retribution, but self-restoration. I stopped being a victim and became a survivor. I found the strength to become a warrior, to slay the demonic power which had shackled me.
Same with me. Narcissistic (& psychopathic) father, then a narcissist wife, then a narcissistic daughter. But when I finally got away from all of them & went no-contact, I became happy for the first time in my life.
Very inspiring! No one can know what you went through except you, therefore you have to fix you. Others do not have a say in how you do it. (But they will try). Listen to your heart and soul!
Same story here.I went through he'll.
Kindly give me some pointers of what you did. My mom was narcissistic to me, and I ran into the arms of my narcissistic husband. I have three children and I have them to talk to. My husband has truly hurt my soul, deep within. I have stopped telling him anything about my goals, achievements, joys, experiences, anything and I'm finding that I'm happier. I talk to him much less often, and only when required to. However, the few interactions we have, (mainly because of our children), turn into arguments where he throws false accusations at me, turns and twists his version in every angle, then starts name calling me hurtful stuff like "scum". And I feel deeply hurt, after giving so much of my time, energy, emotional support, financial support, doing better than him in work life, literally supporting the full family, etc.
I have tried going no contact by not interacting or talking to him much, but he tries to loop me in, like he's an angel and he doesn't know WHY I'm not talking to him.
What did you do spiritually?
@karinadsouza4929 Long technical discussion here, I'll try to be brief. I want you to understand the following technical detail about NPD.
They are trying to elicit "an emotional response." Notice we don't say just any kind of response. We specifically say, and we specifically mean "an EMOTIONAL response."
The 4 prime aims of every narcissist are:
1. Control,
2. Narcissist Fuel,
3. Character Trait Acquisition
4. Residual Benefits.
What you just touched on was 1, 2, & 3.
He's picking fights. If he can get you to respond in an EMOTIONAL way he proves to himself he still has control over you by controlling your emotions. As he sees you react EMOTIONALLY by, say, getting angry & screaming, you see his "narcissistic smirk." You just confirmed his ability to control you. His brain rewards him with a little burst of neurotransmitters (dopamine, neuroprnephrin & SEROTONIN). We know it's serotonin because that one is why his pupils are dilating.
Narcissist lack proper emotional functioning. By getting you to emotionally react, he can back-caluclate the trigger-reaction mechanism. Your reaction confirms he used a proper (effective) trigger. They use this to acquire traits from people. He's stealing (copying) behavior from you (a normal person) he can now use to help construct a "false self" (Character Trait Acquisition).
You're helping him:
1. Establish control
2. Compensate for a lack of pleasure chemicals in his brain by getting his jollies tormenting you, and
3. Stealing your character traits to help him hide his true self from others by back-calculating proper human emotional behavior he doesn't really understand.
I said a lot. You could write a long chapter in a psychology book around what I just said.
This is more advanced material. What I want you to take away from this is...
Want to have some advanced fun with this a$$hole? ACT WEIRD!! 😆 It totally throws them off.
Do you remember the character "Data" from StarTrec The Next Generation? He was an android. That's why he was weird--no proper emotional functioning. Act autistic when forced to interact with him. He wants to watch your proper emotional functioning. DENY HIM THIS!!! Literally act weird, like you suddenly have Aspberger syndrome. Move & speak oddly. Yes, I'm damned serious. Act like you're a freaking robot. Pause oddly between words. Move with odd jerky movements. 😆
TRY IT!!!!! Then glance at him & watch him look in amazement & get angry. 😆 🤣 😂
He's expecting you to get angry so he can get his Narcissist Fuel & for the first time ever you're screwing everything up & he's not getting his usual dose of dopamine, neuroprene & serotonin.
I first tried this on my sister (she's 55yo). After a half century of getting me angry to get her jollies I learned & tried this "robot stuff" on her. She got so confused 😆 followed by getting so angry the veins were pulsating on her forhead. She had always been able to get an angry emotional response out of me before. Now suddenly it wasn't working!!! She didn't understand why I was suddenly acting weird & she couldn't control me or get her sick jollies off me & she got so mad...
😆 🤣 😂 Then I left the room giggling & she all but punched the wall. They have no idea how to handel people who refuse to play into their twisted games. That's another technique. Act like you're about to get mad. Then pause. And burst out laughing. They have no idea how to handle your sudden & bizarre change of behavior. It ruins their silly narcissist games that have always worked for them. 😆 🤣 😂
1. Leaves you with a broken (but not unfixable!) soul, soul exhaustion, soul wound. Become aware of your limitations, boundaries
2. Bitterness & resentment from being used, be self compassionate
3. Desperation & dissatisfaction, grieve the loss
"Soul ache": practice gratitude!
4. Spiritual oppression, connect with the Source to heal!
Thank you Danish
I've struggled with all of these and finding gratitude, self compassion, the core of the pain and letting go...healing the wounded soul for liberty!
@@elizabethbettencourt1116 Thank you ……Well Said ! Many Blessings
@@hettykoster9447 love & blessings to you as well!
😍 ❤and more❤❤❤4 yourself 💏
Not as a selfish weapon but as a long time coming deserved self love❤. I like that
Healing from narcissistic abuse is challenging but always possible. It often requires a multi-faceted approach, including therapy, support groups, and spiritual practices to rebuild self-worth, identity, and a sense of connection to something greater..
My exhaustion to the core, betrayal, broken soul, extreme fatigue, anger, oppression lead me to a definite moment when I felt my body give way, give up on one particular day that I will never forget and I knew I had been driven way too far. I was beyond normal. I began with auto immune diseases and just now 3 kinds of cancer. Don't let this happen you!!! I was always happy and loved life. Now I face the opposite. I'm fighting for my life ~ I want it back!!!
Im so sorry. I said a prayer for you. You can and will heal from this.
Danish, this is what places you head and shoulders above the rest!! A healer who combines the physical and spiritual in the process of healing. The two cannot be separated for true, restorative healing. THANK YOU!!!
God bless you sir. ❤ Jesus helped me through this hell, many narcissists put me through.
Danish, you're the best when it comes to narcissism.
the numbness that you feel after being struck by a narcissist is that the trauma bond
it just dawned on me the narcissist is a living weapon.
A deadly weapon indeed.
with no need for accountability personally or legally
A weapon of the devil.
@@user-df3eo9qx9pthere is but they can't accept accountability but they're going to get it and be held accountable regardless of what they want or desire ❤
@@bwilkinson0but they are dead in their hearts and souls
Jesus will restore when you keep on praying. As Jesus says, we are not fighting against flesh and blood but of the evil spirits behind narcissism. The more you go closer to God, the devil through these personalities and situation will stop you to get closer to God. God gives clarity through people like you. God bless you sir. 🙏 Nothing is impossible with God...but impossible for Satan when you get closer to Jesus.
Thank you!
I know that Jesus is with me right now but, it hurts so bad!!! 😪💔
I've experienced all four of the symptoms of narcissists abuse.
When out of my soul I scream I hate you I know I've hit bottom.
No place to go but up: LORD 4give me my sorrow has dried my bones, my heart aches , my eyes tear. Heal these wounds I pray. My soul flutters like a fallen sparrow broken awaiting your touch. Amen 1:09
Yes. About 6 months later after I finally got rid of the narc i came down with extreme anxiety attacks for about 2 years and heart issues, alot of strange symptoms. Its been hell, didnt know if I could or would heal.. but finally am.. i was very weak.. i can never afford to be around another narc again as long as i live. i may not recover next tme if i do. I know this. He was so evil.. even to sit next to him i could feel a vaccuum sensation.. it was a dirty evil vaccuum. Only way I can decribe it. Its been 3 years.. i still just want to be alone so i can rest.. it was that bad.
Thank you for this. For these words. This compassion. This validation. For shining a light for growth and healing.
There's thousands of videos about narcissists but yours are just so on point, so spot on, so on the mark and earilly so very true. Most of the things you say you're so right that you could almost be living in my house knowing my life! How did you get to be so educated about this? No one on the internet sums up a narc quite like you do. Wow. This is like the 4th video I've seen and they're scary true!
The thing about angry and bitterness, you do feel these, it's a normal process after what you've been through but if you're not actively working on yourself to be able to heal, these become a part of your personality and you take it out on others around you.
I've seen somebody become bitter and rageful and not even be the slightest bit interested in healing themselves despite free masterclasses etc being available to them. It's like they lack the capacity to even recognise that their behaviour isn't normal, not even asking themselves if they're fed up with being angry all the time and nothing ever making them happy so they don't want to do anything to heal this.
They feel guilty for the way they treat people and they do apologise but do nothing to try to change it. It's like a perpetual victim mindset.
What happened to us is not our fault but it is our responsibility to heal ourselves, for the sake of our loved ones if we don't feel like doing it for ourselves.
I’ve experianced them all….. 😔
I have a wounded soul and a long way to go, but I Thank God I have a SOUL 🙏🏻
I have experienced all types .I am feeling healed so much ❤Now the healing is going on and still I have not felt happy and joyful from core of the soul ❤ I pray for the divine source for completely healed in this life time ❤I choose for liberation in this life time ❤ I appreciate your efforts ❤ lots of love and gratitude❤
This video really does address many of the feelings a person that has suffered from narcissistic abuse goes through repeatedly. It’s even worse when it’s your mother & she is so vindictive & she is 90, & you, yourself are old likewise. Almost every area of my life has been affected regardless of how strong I am, regardless of how much counseling & self help I have received & regardless of how much I pray & try to be a strong spiritual person. I feel so hindered, so insecure & so beat down in any & most all efforts. And yes, it does make you feel so worthless & alone when you yourself are old too. I make a genuine effort to keep my mind on positive acts & active in mind enriching endeavors. Thank you for these words of insight & encouragement!
Yes. Diagnosed with Early Onset Parkinson's Disease at 39... I'm 47 now, and feel like I died but for some reason, I'm still here.
The exhaustion I still feel goes all the way to my bones... like life-energy has been drained.
To be liberated from the narcissist you can follow the Lord’s commandments, if you perseverate He will intervene.
Indeed
I have so many health problems. I have am immune deficiency (CVID) I have to get infusions for for the rest of my life just to stay alive,lung disease, autoimmune stuff, hypothyroidism, IBS, osteoarthritis,GERD,lrba deficiency which is what causes my immune deficiency and a bunch of other crap,etc. and that's not even including all the mental health stuff i was diagnosed with after all this abuse including BPD. Bpd is caused by childhood neglect, trauma, abuse and from growing up in an invalidating environment so now i have a lifelong incurable mental Illness on top of all my health problems and also have severe depression and anxiety, cptsd,adhd. Grew up in a narcissistic family and just got out of a relationship with a narcissist and I am so exhausted, mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually so so exhausted 😞. Sorry for the rant but needed to vent.
You need to vent, and this is the perfect place. Everyone understands. It's a safe place. May you have peace.💜
@@cindys.9688 thank you I appreciate it ❤️
I have never resonated with with something so much by body is literally shaking , thank you for sharing this 💜
About 5 years ago I started working on my healing and trying to love myself , which is really hard to do when your still in the situation but I’ve learned to make and hold boundaries, and to stand up for myself and finding my way slowly back home to myself . I for many many years thought maybe I was the problem I mean I’m not perfect I have made mistakes and have said hurtful things , I’ve learned many lessons and have found comfort in source who showed me that I am not ALONE!
"Jesus is the Only way,God intervened for me 5.5 months ago,and before that as well! I should have "listened earlier to God and his Loving Intervention!"🙏💜🙏❤️
How did He intervene? Did the narc go away?
How is it whenever I'm going through something because of this narcissist, your videos pop up on my feed. God is really trying convey something!
Same here!! 🙂🙏✝️
I am happy you are saying this!! I used and invented this term years ago!! I even have posts writing about it!! Yayyy. 🎉🎉🎉 soul wounds are much harder to heal!! Takes much longer than physical wounds. 🥰💚
Absolutely 💯
You've nailed how I feel!!
Why when he's not here am I packing and getting ready to go (it's hard to leave when you need to go 1,500 miles, you can't just slowly move your things that far).. Then when he's home it's like a spell comes over me and "it's not so bad".. Even though it is.. He never yells, because I do everything he wants, but it's all total control if I say the sky's really blue today he'll say it was bluer yesterday or what a fat bunny he'll say that other ones fatter.. Constant saying the opposite.. The lies, manipulation, 5 job changes so far this year, the drinking, flirting.... What's wrong with me.. Stockholm??? Witchcraft?
Absolutely true. Chronic fatigue wrecks your life. Since my mother died fairly recently I've not had a decent hug. My relatives don't hug and others give fleeting hugs. It's so hard to keep going..
Same here. Although my mother was a narc (not now as she died last September) and she didn't give hugs if you gave her a hug she would freeze up just like my husband although I crave touch, sympathy and warmth. Doubt I will get them anytime soon 😌
@@NM-gy6tx your husband could go to hugging school!
Try going without any hugs at all decent or ‘indecent😉’ for 30 years, actually a whole lifetime, because my mother and family never hugged me. I ended up marrying a narc who was not a hugger nor cuddler.
Talk about touch starved.
Add in CPTSD and ADD.
Left my narc husband after 10 years of abuse and two little children. My daughter is a narcissist who cut me off. My son is a schizophrenic. No emotional support from them.
Very lonely, but very strong and determined to keep being interested in things that make life worth it - art, music, theatre, and film.
@@clairecarscallenI’m sorry you’ve gone through so much! Life isn’t over! Keep fighting! I believe you’ll be rewarded for the yrs of pain & misery you’ve experienced! God loves you! He’ll restore to you all that was lost! Reach out to him! I’m praying for you!
5 time namaz will helped me to overcome that problem ❤
Along with 5 time prayers, also reading Quran with translation..It's the thing that saved me from going insane due to living with a narcissist ! It's my personal experience and it helps me to overcome all the negativity of the narcissist and strengthened me.
@@umesultan7148 escape as soon as possible. Insha Allah. There is no point in adjusting with them.. also try your level best to evade the triangulation.
I dove deeply into Lord God for healing and prayer. I experienced neurological issues . I am healing but the toll has been great. Skin issues worsen with even any contact with the narcissist. Your videos are the first ones I watched and have helped me greatly
The physical issues of having been the victim of narcissitic abuse is real ~ I’ve had all of them but now, after healing for 7 years, my energy to be productive has returned, though some of the physical illnesses linger.
Jesus restores my soul thank you Danish for giving understanding
More GRATITUDE and LESS ATTITUDE 🙏 ✨️ 🙌 ❤️ 😌
My faith studying the scriptures was broken by the Narcissist
Yes. I always thought THIS time would work. 😪
Thank you for reminding us to practice gratitude 🙏
Thank you so much , really needed advice.
excellent advice- gratitude!. This is the first time I heard it. The oppression is real Danish, and you just want to be free.
I agree with you that emotional abuse can cause illness. People internalize their anger and pain and that can cause physical harm to themselves. Having a divine connection fills the void and completes you through gratitude, meditation, and being spiritually aware of yourself and the people around you.✌
i so needed to hear this today. I feel exhausted no matter what i eat or motivate myself or any exercise routine. Glas to know because energy is sucked out of soul
Receive Jesus into your heart and you will become a new creation in Christ. We need Jesus because no human being can fill us spiritually. Jesus can heal your so called soul wound.
Jesus is The Life no doubt about it He is healing me I am me now!!!!
Amen 🙏💕
The Surrender Prayer is excellent.
@@margaretwhelan1475What is that? Please share......🙂
@jangunning1676 Google it. Repeat the prayer 9times. Jesus I surrender everything to you take care of everything. Never fails🙏
Thank you ~ my partner is deeply programmed by his mom who he continues to allow free reign to hurt everyone. My little broken robot.
In a way. This is the real face of truth. There is no filters, no fake smiles, or facade here at this point... it can be a really eventful way and technique to use to face your self in the mirror to truly look, love and feel again. You donnot recognize you, but you become a true "filter" for the pain... you have the power to fill your face equally too again. Instead of hardlooks imagine them to gold or take a moment to smile at yourself. Own the change and continue to see all that you were and what you can charge to be. Reclaim a new face and filter to help get the pollution out... charcoal face mask or the mud may not seem the best bust once you give yourself some fresh water and clean up... you are tighter, younger and more glow than before. Youve already been hit with the worst... now you can face even more bc weve been conditioned to it. In a sense too... your smiles are all true when weve been this low. So just share a smile out... for a cup of coffee or any little thing, or smile in a content moment... smile for you staying you and retrain that brain and release the face to feel good.
Thank you for another eye-opening video - Now it totally makes sense why, no matter how good the body may sleep, I am still exhausted. Thank you for providing this kind of
help!
Meditation is the power...v need..to get freedom..👍
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Danish … you are so great and explain Narcissism so well. We love you!!
I REBUKE THIS IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 NO WEAPON FORM AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER, AND EVERY TONGUE RISES AGAINST ME IS CONDEMED IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS THE CHRIST🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Mind messers need strong boundaries. Im talking concrete boundaries. Throw out the anger if you can because your keeping a house fire going you didn't cause. Put fire out its not hurting your offender Narc.
I am expecting white spots on my legs and almost looks like I’m getting splotches on my neck. I’m so afraid that it’s permanent. I will be working very hard to heal mentally and physically. Thank you so much for your help. 🙏❤️
Mine kept nagging at me to pick up the slack so I grey rocked, total avalanche, I say "I'm no good to you dead!" Are we supposed to be extremely ill to catch a break and it's their lifestyle we're living, ridiculous!
I never thought that this was how I was feeling, but now I can feel it more now more than ever
Yes , I can feel all the stress and depreciating signs .
I fight the tired almost paranoia. I’ve never been here. Parents both deeply mentally assaulting and a husband. Then Seven years after the 30 year marriage I partnered with the biggest wolf in sheeps clothing! I was struck in the relationship and shocked! The counselor asked if there was blood! Because there wasn’t he minimized my experience. Sick people and myCNS is really off since then. Outside help and these videos and a psychologist are helping yet I’m really struggling to feel safe and physically ok anywhere. Thanks Danish!
Going through all that since birth , the child learns to rely on God ..... She says " it's your destiny"
You're so awesome and thank you for speaking up for us. Your video also made me aware of other issues narcissistic abuse caused.
It feels like they murdered my soul !!! I'm healing have come a long ways, still have alot of healing left to do. ❤
Also, know that the healing takes time..usually the same amount of time you’ve endured the abuse. 15 yrs abused….13 yrs later and I was well on my way…until I met a covert narcissist that shot me right back into the abuse cycle and I started to decline mentally….back to my bed, my safe place, or the bathtub; which I slept in for safety…because my skin would crawl sometimes just laying next to him. Whatever activities he was involved with outside the home..seemed to have an energy that followed him as well. I could feel it if he got too close to me. Maybe I developed a “spidey sense” to toxicity. Idk. But you can feel it.
Thank you for your wisdom
What a powerful message and counseling. I wish I could have you with me all the time just to talk and listen to. Thankfully we have your many videos. I love, and relate to, each one.
Our 3rd eye infected with their poisons!
always connect with God for your protection.🙏
I was with a selfish narcissist and I got sick two weeks after knowing him and was with him for two years and a year away I’m tired and sick and tired lots of illnesses.. so now what ?
I have been fighting for my life ever since, I am barely winning. 😢 I snapped finally and my energy got even more drained. I have had to see a team of doctors for a list of health problems. I am so exhausted, I got used for energy and entertainment and to get new fuel and I have imprisoned myself for my own protection.
I feel my brain is not functioning...once i was a very good student...but now i struggle to get passing marks...seems like something is constantly eating up my brain.... and it feels like there is some heavy rock inside my skull...i struggle to concentrate ... whatever i try to study feels like it's not getting absorbed in my brain as if there a layer of fog around my brain which is not letting anything positive inside my brain...what have I turned into...how can anyone let someone suffer so much and not even bother to say a sorry
I have experienced all the four things. Now I am healing slowly by doing meditation, being with gratitude whatever I have now and with mindfulness. Thank you very much for sharing . I have experienced all the things but I didn’t know these are from the narcissistic abuse
So true Sir. So true.
Connect to the Supreme love and higher conscious to heal and regain yourself
I am new to your expertise and comments, but it resonates strongly. So thank you ✌️
Thank you for these videos, they're really helpful.
Namaz and zikre console me.
This episode is a gem... Thank you 🙏
Thank you for validation
Danish, if hitting to any one blackmagic, sihr, shirk, poojaas, practicing this also will cause for cancer, tumour, mental issues, accident, loss of wealth, relatiinships, new deseases, that have no medicines..also will come to a person...if anyone needs healing always hear QURAN...no matter what your religion is, hear with intention to cure, use headphone, listen very carefully..
Bible is it
@@denisemarsack6604 please respect other people point of view.
@@denisemarsack6604 can u say a verse that same to bible? Then ill agree
8:23... Danish says a naughty word. 😆 Caught me off guard. I've never heard him swear before. That was hilarious. Thanks.
Thankyou so much ❤️❤️❤️
We have experienced all ...
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One priest described narcissistic people as having demons hiding behind the personality disorder.
True
❤Thank you sir! Yes.🙌
Very correct.
Thank you, Danish!
I would say a little of all 4 for me. As for healing. After what I have been through in my life and more so the last 5 years almost 6 now. I am a long way from healing. The best thing I have going for me is people are fighting in a war right now. I can’t let my problems bring me down if there is people that can forget there problems and fight for what’s right. I wouldn’t exist if not for the brave people that fight to protect people like me.
That's the werewolf inside takes no more bs, comes out to kill the vampire.
Those who can transform at fullmoon (when things become clear) are the ones vampires fear the most.
Everyone listen to me and listen to me carefully! Don’t ever give those demons and their words power
Danish seems to be the only other person on TH-cam other than me addressing curses and word spells they use that come true when you were young. Never take these narc family members words seriously! They are evil you are not.
Thanks you Danish i feel totaly broken, no strenght, whatever i do, i still feel empty and like i have been used like an object. I do not know yet how i can heal one day since the pain is so deep.
Yes my father is a malignant narcissist and having many dark tertrad traits and behaviour. My mom and younger sister are diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and I am diagnosed with depression. My mom also diagnosed with breast cancer😢😢
All are very very true... fantastic episode...
Can you say anything about Karma and suffering of narcisstic abuse?😢
Where were u all this time. I wish I had found you long ago. Alhamdulillah!!!! I found u some days back. I hv been through everything that u speak abt.
Now I need to recover ASAP .
its always this time..this time … ties must be broken
They will destroy you outside and inside 😮
Every single one! It’s been 3 yrs since divorce. He has alienated my daughter from me (not his daughter). She moved in with him and then he cut all contact with me. All after treating her like crap as well as myself when he lived here. I have rage, revenge feelings - desperation and loss of hope. She was 17 when she moved in with him and is now 18. And she is acting just like him. So much rage at him AND myself for allowing continued contact with him after divorce. 😢
My resentment grows more bitter over time and with each new attack from the abuser, because he refuses to go away. He's now let me know he is invading my private files and gathering evidence to use against me in a $1 million lawsuit if I try to evict him. He knows his rights as a squatter, and he is demanding them at the expense of my sanity and safety. He is ruthless. I do try to practice gratitude for the lapses in time between attacks when I can find hours of peace with my thoughts and prayers. But I know he is building a case in the background, and it terrifies me. I try to keep trusting in God's provision and protection, but I don't like that He is allowing this oppression to continue.
It never ends!
Mynmother always kept me in shame
I have felt many times that if you have alot of trauma that you will feel trauma even after death. I have felt even after death I will get no peace. I felt like I was the only one who may feel this way being a typical American in the south other people in my community don't really understand my views. Glad that I'm not the only one who believes in restless souls.
💯💯💣absolutely truths!
In the month I start living whith my ex husband, I developped Psoriasis that lasted 6 months
There are a few things on a soul level and one is definitely rage and chronic gut issues 5yrs, but not in the murderous way just huge amounts of rage.
Spiritual connection helps in healing process. While interacting with universe or God or ancient sadgurus one can get and find solutions through various ways. Everyday most of the time talk to universe by telling in-out emotions (thoughts, actions and feelings), listen to spiritual talks it heals.
Surrender to the ancient Gurus who had God's connection.
Serve food to ants which are in the neem tree and peepal tree (to reduce our past life karma and pray for toxic people to get away from one's life),
Donate food orphanage
Be calm while interacting with universe later one can sense the pain the internal organs of the body where one has to heal that part through self prayers only.
No medicine can help to heal when one is into evil sufferings
When it comes to nurture your body, the food comes from the Earth, because Man is created from dust(Earth), but Spirit/ Soul comes from the Heavens and to nourish it, We must provide it its food , which is also from Heavens i.e. The Spiritual Book (The Quran , For Muslims)
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Listen to preaching of ISKCON temple and take spiritual bliss