Apollonia Ponti . I very confused. She says she needs space, but then go have drinks watch some fireworks. Then proceeds to tell me in detail about how if we were to ever get married she would want a tattoo of my name around her ring finger and that she still has some love for me in her gas tank. Was it the drink or true ? Then the next day she doesn't want to led me on. There's alot more.... 7 years living together is a long time. I missed a lot of signs from her. I become complacent I didn't appreciate her, I suffocated her I exhausted her. I learned these things from doing some self examination. In in a couple of months that she's been gone I believe I'm a changed man it's still a work in progress. I want to show her so badd about the new and improved me and what love is. We have a connection that is greater than normal. I really don't know what to do.
Hello Matthew, At the end of the day this woman is not treating you right. It seems that she knows she can do what she wants and still have you there. What I strongly suggest is to try no contact for at least 30 days. I know this will be difficult for you but you can do it. Take this time to work on yourself and get back to the happy, confident Matthew. :) I encourage you to book a session so I can guide you step by step. I am here if you need support! You got this! Apollonia
Hi mam, i love my girl so much, she is elder than me,we still love each other,one day when i was irritated ,we had some arguments, i dont knw its my mistake i hurted her too much by texting her,after that 3days we had no contact ,i texted her that am sorry,but being a stuborn girl she wasnt replied,finally i got mad n texted her too much,n went to meet her ,but she is still same mood,last i irritated her by texting her over n over,she blocked me,next day she texted me that "She will not go anywhere ,she is scared of people who call her or text her too much,it takes a lot to come back,she needs some time for herself,Mam please help me ...I need ur advice....plsss Appolonia Mam....
From what I’ve witnessed and been through, as long as the relationship was moving in the right direction and there wasn’t any major issues like with trust, intentions, communication etc... then listen to the woman if she needs space or time, let her figure her issues out while you build a better you. If this is the woman you really see a future with, it’s worth waiting for. Reassure your feelings with her and be assertive and make it known what you want and see with them.
Good advice from a matured person this is what i want to hear not from some people here whos looking for a fish godbless you 🙏 this gives me hope and patience
It hits harder when you were treating her like a princess and then all of a sudden she asks for “Space”. It’s actually funny when you think about it. All the time you’ve spent and all the effort you’ve put in that could be put on ones self 😂 but it’s all about accepting I guess. I mean you won’t stop living if she’s not there so just hang on and find your self.
My wife and I separated 32 days ago. I have also been sober for 32 days now. She told me she needs space and at first it was hard, but I knew I had to work on myself for another chance. I got in a program and started running and now I am just continuously making myself a better person. Lately I know things are getting better and shes starting to realize how serious I am, but she still needs to trust that I have changed. Thanks for the advice! I am a huge fan!
No don’t go down the road if it’s all your fault dude. You know it’s great that you’re not drinking and make sure you don’t do so anymore but believe me that’s not the only issue just keep going forward my suggestion would be getting Christian counseling when you get back together if you get back together I’m gonna say a prayer for you to wish you the best brother.
This has been so tough for me . Being married to her for 25 years space feels like a million miles away from her . I’m lonely and scared without her but I feel this is the best option to win her back
Look up Richard Cooper. You will learn how to find your purpose in life again and grow to become a better version of yourself. Apollonia has many great videos too to help you move forward.
i’m actually proud of myself and thankful for this video because i was able to finish a beautiful message perfectly by changing the “and for this i am sorry” to “honestly i should have seen this sooner and i am happy that i have used this opportunity to observe and build ideas on how to resolve these issues.” I appreciate your sharing of knowledge that men don’t always consider or seek for. I am proud of myself for seeking help for myself rather than beating myself up because it is truly healthy for me to work on myself and it may be what she needs to hear.
im very wary if someone uses this without a genuine reason .sometimes the partner asking for space has the upper hand in the relationship nd may be too cocky and think they can come and go and play with someones emotions.......best thing to do is give them what theyve asked for if person is genuine and they love you thy will return to work things out bec they value you .if they dont then theyve freed you to meet someone better who wont treat you that way .give them space its a win win x
Yes but you need to know how long to wait before moving on to someone else. So if they say they need space, then ask "for how long?" If they can't answer you then just leave them, don't look back, get over them, date and find someone new.
Need space? No worries, I'll give you plenty. I'm out. Moving on. Many times this is a soft breakup strategy and someone else has piqued her interest and she wants to see where that may take her. This strategy allows her to "find herself" but does not completely burn the bridge back to you if the new guy is not ultimately a better choice. As it relates to advice on self improvement...absolutely yes. We should all be on that goal all the time...in relationships and for ourselves as individuals.
Exactly.... they love keeping their options open for the better man. Even the video is biased. Like we have to do all the work. If a guy asks for space then he wants to go cheat but if she asks she wants to "find herself".
This is my first time commenting on a TH-cam video. I had to search the internet to find this because when she asked for space (about 2hrs ago) it was like she had sucked all the remaining life out of me. Watching your video however has given me hope. Hope for the future. Whether or not she comes back to me, I’m working on myself. I deserve the best version of me. Thank you Apollonia
Personal development is very key for your growth and attractiveness. Focus on this aspect in your life instead of her. Let things happen organically. She needs to equally do the work on her own.
My gf wanted a break for a week. She said she still wanted to be committed to me and she won’t see other guys. She asked for it because we were fighting a lot and she had a very important exam coming up and wanted to focus & thought that this 1 week break would help us, help us miss each other more, appreciate each other more & let her focus 100% on her final exam. Remember guys, when a girl asks for a break.. give it to her without hesitation.. but make sure she knows that it’s her idea and you support it 100%. Be confident about it even though deep down it hurts..because if you look needy and chase her and tell her not to move forward with the break, then you'll just loose value & look like a weak beta male. Also before the break starts ask her what she needs and set some ground rules & stick to them! Women are like cats, don’t chase them. Let them go. They will come to you. Guess what? It’s been exactly one week without no contact and she contacted me first saying she missed me and it feels like forever since we spoke to each other. 😊 Not going to lie this 1 week really made me appreciate her more and it helped us both grow together as a couple. Be strong guys! Let her come to you! And remember, no contact until she contacts you! A break doesn't always mean it's a break up or there is someone else :)
Dude same situation, she has exams in the coming months, she said that she wants to do something substantial in her life also she says she loves me, she asked me not to make girlfriends. She was all crying and saying that I am leaving you. She wished me new year after 3 days and I wished her back but didn't talk much. Now it is almost 15 days since I heard from her. Too many doubts are being raised in my mind. Any tips? How much shall I wait?
This really helped me... thanks dear... I noticed the more I was telling her sorry she was getting more angry & backing out.. but as soon as I stopped and gave her the space she wanted and work on my self and things she hate, she came back to me in less then 2weeks...
Hello Scent, Exactly! Keep your head in the game meaning focusing on you and putting yourself first. Personal growth and also make sure you continue to put yourself first and she will fall deeply more in love. :) I'm here if you need any further support. Apollonia
Apollonia Ponti thank you ma'am... are you trying to say me putting my self first in a relationship is a good idea? I thought women see it as being selfish? Trust me I have always put my gf first right from time, this our 3 years relationship now. But the issue is that, I don't even really know if she loves me as much as I do. Is very hard for her to encourage or support my hustle, she's never romantic to me, don't know if that is normal? And is (distance relationship) ... But after the misunderstanding we had last month, about me insulting her & insecurities.. the not caring got worst.
Hello Scent, Hmmm are you able to book a private session with me? www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching-2/ It seems like there is a lack of love language, communication, and support here. I would like to discuss this with you give you honest guidance and feedback. Hope to hear from you soon. Best, Apollonia
My man recently is asking for space and he told me in an argument the more you text or call the more you push me away ..that hit me hard and I haven't tried contacting him within a couple days and I'm super insecure and depressed rn especially cause its valentines day praying he's faithful and just trying to focus on myself
This is the first time i listened to a whole youtube video. I want to thank you for the advice. My gf broke up with me and decided she needed to move out and work on herself. I had just lost my sister and my grandpa 1 week before this. I panicked and I was so depressed I tried to harm myself. I started therapy yesterday. I am working on my issues so I could better myself. I want to give her true space. This way when I come back knowing my value and knowing who I am, I can be a better partner to her. Thank you for the inspirational videos.
Hi... I met a girl at the function.... Just after 5 days.. I asked her how was her previous valentines day... I wanted to know if she is in a relationship.... She began to tell me how they broke up..... I then told her... I wish to try something better with her..... So she said.... She needs time to think... Bit if i meed a quick answer then its a no..... So what do u think about her attitude?.... Was i too fast to tell her or she is just processing things....
When I was weak, I just deleted the number until I gained self-control to just let the number be. That comes from the desire of no longer wishing to feel anything other than peace. I also got to a point in my life where walking away and meaning it is an absolute game changer.
let the chick go and let her be alone...fix ur errors and be a happier man than u were before.life is too short.Keep moving fellaz & dnt invest in women!Real Eastate
This topic is made exactly for me. Four weeks ago I was talking to girl that I really love, she told me that she needs space. I was stuck and didn't know what to say. I just have stopped texting her, no call either. And then, we start talking again. Now I'm facing this big issue a lot of men use to be in: let's be friends. That really is a bad thing to hear. I don't see how to not get friendzoned...
You fell for the need space while she does herself, followed by the friend zone manipulation. Face it, women tend to avoid conflict and look for the easy out when they are not into you while they are already starting their plan b. Flip the script on her and breakup stating the relationship isn't meeting your needs. Let her know you need to find a woman who is honest and direct and cares and accepts your for who you are.
This I need space or need a break is going on right now in my life my girlfriend just said that she need a space and I have decided to give her a space and I'm trying to focus to develop my own life.. thanks for all information 👍❤️ let's see the result after couple a week's.
In my situation "i need space" meant that she wanted to date other men and see if she could find someone better. When she needs space then you had better go get some dates of your own.
Space is important it allows for each person to live and decompress from life’s stresses and struggles.. cause when life starts lifing you , things get real ..
I have to admit that I didn't think I would find myself at this stage in my life trying to grasp these so called famous words, "I need space." I met this beautiful lady less than two months ago & we connected in such an amazing way right from the start....., No fellows, I'm not talking about being intimate physically speaking. She wanted to wait & I had more respect for her because of it. We actually dated. Spent time together during lunch breaks, dinners, movies, parks, museums, etc.... In my humble opinion, if I had a checklist, she hit every single one of those boxes & added more boxes to check off that I didn't even think about. We talked so much throughout the day & night, sharing our most intimate experiences in every level. She used to say that she has never been treated with so much love & respect & I basically checked off all of her boxes & more & yes, after a month, we were definitely compatible in every level. I felt so connected with her like never before with anyone else. But then out of nowhere & unexpectedly, those famous words came out, she needs space. I have to admit that her request threw me off balance so to speak. She basically said that she doesn't understand why she is so scared of me walking away one day despite completely being transparent on who I am..., I'm basically an opened book with her. She said she felt perfect when she is next to me, but her mind tends to wonder when she is not......, wondering about the what "if's", especially when her past relationships have been disloyal & unfaithful in every aspect of her life. At first, I have to admit that I was speechless & I didn't know what to say because our relationship went from steamy hot to ice cold in less than 24 hrs. She says that there is no other man in her life & I believe that. We spoke about honesty & respect from the beginning to be our foundation & I have to admit it felt amazing to connect with a beautiful lady inside & out with those pillars being part of the relationship. So the questions come out as why the space? Why the sudden change? Did I do something wrong? Why so scare after being an opened book to her? Apollonia, I watched both of your clips on this topic & you made sense to me especially about just giving her the space she needed. My last message to her was, "I will give you the space you need & if for some Godly reason you would want to come bck, I will be here with opened arms & a loving heart." Whether or not that was the appropriate message, that's how I feel & I rather speak the truth than lying to myself. As of today, it has been over 24 hrs without any contact.... Does it suck, hell yeah it does, but I am a true believer that was meant to be, it is meant to be!!! Let's see how this end......, for now, I guess it is time to continue working on myself & seek some self-improvement. Feeling blessed & continue everyday to be the best image of myself. Thanks for listening!!! Much love & respect to everyone........
I was needy and was insecure I have to work on myself before getting back with her but I’m scared Bc I really want to be with her but I have to work on myself there is a 50/50 we can get back together and that’s all I want tbh
I tried all of this and she still left me for another man... If a female, wife or girlfriend dont like you anymore. Just move on: dont waste valuable years of your like trying to make it right with her.
Apollonia Ponti Exactly? Seriously? Just give up and move on? I’ve been with my wife for 18yrs (married for 6) with 3 daughters and she recently said we need a break for a while due to a lot of broken promises on my end. Am I supposed to give up and move on? No I’m going to give her some space so we can work on each other and hopefully come back together even stronger. It seems like everyone commenting is a 17yr teenie bopper in a 4 month long relationship where they are so easy to move on to the next or automatically assume the woman has another male lined up. More immature comments than not, do you have any videos aimed at grown ups in real mature relationships that are actually serious?
Sonny Samra same bus here , married 3 kids, broken promises on my end . I’m giving her space - we’ll see . I’m staying positive , and keeping myself happy as much as I can , either by Art, working out , hanging out with friends . Just staying busy
@J L Stop being sexist. And know that if this is your view of "all" women, then you'll only attract such low quality women into your life. Also believing in such a misogynist idea will keep you a low quality man, unattractive to high quality women. So do you want to become a high quality man or not? Do you want to attract high quality women or are you just going to give up, shun responsibility and comfort yourself with such lies as this "all women do this" stuff?
@@sonnysamra8733 I'm with you on this. You can't keep the faith, optimism and hard work forever though. If your wife finds another man, falls in love with him and falls out of love with you then it's OVER. Count your losses, show her just how much she has hurt and betrayed you (though in a respectful and non-violent manner), get your property, ask for shared custody of the children, cry out your sorrow, forgive, move on, learn from your mistakes and start dating anew. Your maturity will definitely attract new women, if you keep your confidence and your faith in love.
When a woman gives you enough smiles, eye contact, etc, and you know she always looks for you, then when it comes to ask her to call you and then says, I need time.... then it could mean anything, but mainly I think is she's just has no integrity, if you need space why lead a man on..... if she's really into you, she would never say that..... turn the tables by ignoring her and let her chase you
If a woman tells a guy she needs space she is pretty much telling a guy that things are over especially if she is playing hard to get. A woman that is a tease doesn't want you. Plain and simple. That has happened to me way to many times.
This is pretty good too.😃 She asked for space and I reluctantly gave it to her. After 8 days she called me up saying she wants to see me. We went out and had a pretty good time. Nothing serious. It was a bit awkward though. Emotions were still raw. I was having a hard time just being myself and not so seious. Now it's been 4 weeks without any contact whatsover. I'm giving her space, respecting her wishes and have begun working on myself, analyzing the relationship. It's painful facing my own fears. And scared to death not knowing what the outcome will be. 😨😱
Joe B Im kinda in the same boat with this one girl, We’ve known each other for almost a month now, I hung out with her for a whole week after the first day we met, the holidays were coming so we journeyed to go see our familys, keep in mind we texted almost all the time everyday and still texted when we left for holidays, like 3 days ago I was at work and she was getting frustrated that i wasnt texting her back enough, also keep in mind during this time a lot of stuff was going on with her family, her grandpa was in the hospital and then the next day her sister had to go to hospital so it was an emotional wreck for her, so me not texting kinda set her off, telling me she needs time to recollect herself and her emotions. She says she cares about me, but I’m giving her space at the moment I texted her yesterday letting her know that im wasnt gonna let go of her so easily because thats what she thought i was doing, which was a misunderstanding. I knew she really liked me she always invited me over to hangout or i’d take her out on a date somewhere. Does this mean its over between us or should i just wait it out?🤔
I pray that what you say may help out. Yesterday she told me she wants to focus on herself and that we need to be on a break. Obviously my ego side was trying to convince her but than at the same time I also spoke up and I acknowledged her concern and let her go. During this time I spent the day figuring out everything I’ve done wrong, we’ve been with each other for 7 years, we are engaged and out of no where she wanted to take a break. Before parting ways full of allergies, I spoke in her ears and said this is not the end, this is just the beginning. During this time I will focus on what I need to improve on. Thank you very much for your advice and I appreciate your time.
Stop saying sorry because it makes her relive how he made her hurt. That line is what I needed to hear. Thank you. I’m struggling with this giving her space thing. It is so difficult. But I’m willing to do whatever it takes for her. I’m still very much in love with her
Great video Apollonia and I’m sure this will help those who are struggling with the “I need space” issue. Your advice and tips are awesome! Thanks for sharing.
Your for too available, so your no longer Challenging to her, women need to earn you, that is why women chase men, because she wants to work to get you! And she needs to wonder about you! If your always doing the same things over and over again, that for sure as women say, makes for a boring relationship! Low level drama is good, if she never fear losing you, she will not see your true value!
The Survivalist how can I reach you guys I need help to get my x back ???.. she ask me for space and time cuz I Because I miss up with our relationship .:
That's childish teenager crap. My suggestion is for men and women to grow the hell up and humble themselves. If you are fortunate enough to have a good significant other, then you appreciate that person and not play those childish games. There are plenty of lonely hearts that love to have good person that you are tired of.
I think it's very onsided!!Self improvement for her ego and her emotional stimulation!!Nooo!that's bullshit!!When a couple love each other they don't need a BREAK! WTF is this!That's so narcissistic!Iam not saying that u should never improve your self or acknowledge your mistakes but that thing we call a "break" doesn't apply for human connection!People are not things! a relationship is not a football game!!I think when a man or a woman says I need space thats a bad sign!Neither she/he searching for something else or she/he trying to fuck someone else during the break or your partner already cheated on u and wants a break to fuck more freelly!! How is that possible!People for years of a relationship having space!!I guess u never know maybe it's a shity relationship!,Or instead of taking breaks maybe u should try to fix problems together as a team!!Not an individual!Fuck them!If your girl or boyfriend/husband says these words about space exploration leave them!Leave to travel through space!Go f@#$ your self!!Or maybe iam wrong and I need to improve my self!Is always me not the other person!!BULL@%^@×
I am going through a “break” right now and it has been the most challenging thing I ever thought of doing but I understand why we got to this break and I am more then willing to give her that so that I can become a better version of myself! I do love her so it hurts but I’m the bigger picture now and have to take care of myself! She did ask me once if I’m doing ok but never heard from her since. The only thing she said to me was “I’m sure we will cross paths at some point”... I replied with who knows maybe we will, Have a great evening. That was it. I want us to work so even if she didn’t reply I stand my ground and keep working on me.
"I need space" usually means she's qualifying a new guy. When that doesn't work out she'll come running back because you're a sure thing to her. Till next time she thinks she's found Mr right again. Guess what she'll be needing. If you said "space" you're a genius.
Gamoto Shistosou Lol, I qualified 5 women in the last 2 months, most lack any Wife Like Qualities That Every man wants in a woman! If you fail to do the research into them, you deserve to be crying down the line! Far too many people are so eager to get someone anyone, they just fill the position with whatever they can get!
My wife just pulled this on me. I work mid day to late night. I'll admit I'm not a perfect husband. But I work my ass off and love my job. She hates my job. She's jelly that I'm respected by the boss/owner. She hated my last job too... But didn't complain about the money though. If I didn't have a 2 year old and just bought a home, I would have already served her papers. Figuring out what my plan of actions going to be moving forward.
I just discover your channel today, you are amazing. First, because ou talk to men, while most of other coaches talk to women! and as a woman, it's easier for me to understand the situation when you expose men problems, and why they maybe needy, or so demanding, etc! Thank you for your time help and advices!
I love this advice Apollonia. Space would've saved a relationship I lost and I'm learning its importance even in marriage. Sometimes my thoughts scare me but its a great place to be knowing where Im at. Thank you.
You are a rock star! This really helps me. I just went through a break up but she left it open with the space thing. I did nothing wrong ..she gave me the feeling overwhelmed and not sure what sure wants things. Not in all fairness she is only 7 months out of an 8 year marriage. She was emotional divorced for years and I was her first relationship out of divorce.
I feel this has helped me handle myself and be a better person towards my partner in working on the things I have done wrong..and changing for the betterment of both our lives and our relationship..I think this helps to also bring more understanding to the little things us men overlook
But sometimes it is just space and things do get better than before... as the video eloquently explain... giving up easily is just reflect th relationship wasn’t that deep ... 😊👍🏿👍🏿
Me and this girl were/are really hitting it off. She is an introvert and something extremely stressful popped up in her personal life(that she didnt want to tell me but thats fine). I have such anxiety involving this. Its only been four days but we never defined the terms of space. Im totally fine with giving her the space she needs because im really concerned about her wellbeing but damn and i flooded with anxious worrying thoughts. I hate to admit it, but i think this space is helping me just as much since its highlighted some things i wish to improve about myself. I wish i asked her right away how long until we can reconvene but i didnt want to put her on the spot and make her more stressed. Idk if i have a question but Im struggling here.
I am rapidly gaining perspective. I know my worth. Its in my best interest to endure this, and i know she will see that. If not she should. She’s a smart cookie and so am I.
This resonates with me so much. I was seeing her for two weeks and then she said she needed space. It's been four days and I never asked her how long and I'm anxious about it.
We broke up (technically werent together. 1 month, 2 dates and constant contact, slight LDR 40miles). I said the word love in a poem i wrote her and i sent her flowers and she got spooked. She said i developed an attachment, and she did say she doesnt know what she was looking for in the beginning. I guess i know thats a red flag potentially for what im looking for. even tho she said i was lovely to be around. And talked like she planned to be with me for a long time. I could have played it cooler, but i think she would have broken up anyway down the line, so i guess its better now than later. Back to the drawing board. Hopefully the time between potential partners is a lot less this time.
I am confused on who people really are and now that you have came in my focus really goes to who I think you are but I'm I'm confused I would I will not be confused anymore I believe it from the bottom of my heart and I think the universe for that because the universe is going to tell me the truth
I feel this woman in church has been neglected by her husband haven't seen him there in TWO YEARS. Recently her I got acquainted over three month period with very limited contact. I expressed myself in ways she'd understand: accepted church duty, heard about her education music career, she retorted painfully she doesn't play piano at home. I later gave her some piano music from my deceased mom as a keepsake. I showed self confidence by looking in her eyes. Now we're not talking, just space.
My girlfriend right now says she needs space, she says she’s always angry and just needs time to collect her thoughts, alone. Thing is I’m back at my parents while I can’t be at home, we’ve lived together for the past year, most of my stuff is still there, legally my address is there etc. It’s been 3 days now and I don’t know what to do. I love her with everything I have and I just want things to be what they were. I was a bit insecure with my past and I didn’t realize I was even taking that out on her. I’ve apologized and told her I’ll do better. She’s says every part of her wants me there, but she doesn’t want to blow up again. I’m so confused right now. I told her I would work on my things, but it’s killing me, I miss waking up to her every morning, I miss being able to hold her, I just miss her and being beside her. I just feel so lonely and depressed as hell, barely can eat, barely can sleep. Only thing I’m looking forward to is going to work later today so I can distract myself.
Honestly, give them the gift of space. I won’t chase any woman. I’m dealing with this right now and it’s on me. She will be back. The crazy thing is I like her but I’m fine without her.
Hello thank you for the reinforced thoughts. I work on myself daily. I m aware that you can't make a think. They have choices that they make for themselves. To be happy within themselves not for you but . I have been avoiding the narcissistic personal disorders for this very reason.
My girlfriend told me this I’ve been with her for 4yrs but she still love me she said we can start off as friends and slowly ease our way back into a Relationship
98% of comments on here say "I need space" means she is breaking up / broke up / don't want to hurt us, etc. I want to know one thing. She has been pretty depressed with her kids not being around, her job sucks, her boss treats her like crap. She stated that she needs to find happiness and get her life on track. She then stated that she needs to get her life in order then she will think if we can get back together. Does that have any promising tone or am I just doomed? I told her that if she wanted to break up, to please just let me know because I would rather start healing now rather than having to wait 6 months to find out she can't have me in her life then begin the healing process then. She reiterated that she needs space to get her life in order.
WOW! This video speaks to me. It was informative& enlightening. I am out of my relationship, but this video gave me perspective for future relationships.
I have been in a relationship with my girl for two months. For many times she told me she is not an active one in a relationship. And she seldom initiates a conversation with me. I am the one who always start the conversations and ask to hang out together. This makes me feel insecure in this relationship. She once told me she needs space, but I could not control myself and I kept texting her and asking her out, until recently we had a fight with each other, because that she went out for a holiday with friends without telling me. I was angry with that but soon I said sorry to her when it was late. When I talked to her friend, he (male) told me she needed space. Now she is still in her vocation, and I could do nothing but give her space. What I want to know is that if I change myself, and if I give her space, whether she will change herself in the future, which means be active in this relationship.
Thank you so much for this video, It helped to realize how much I was doing that wasn't fair to my wife and daughter. I have wrote them down and am ready to talk about them with her if she decides she is ready to talk. I feel a burden lifted and am ready top stand up against myself to help our relationship if given the chance.
When she says she needs space, she is telling you she has found a new man and wants to experiment with him before making a final decision. Understand you are not her first priority and you should go no contact and start on your new life path
Seeing someone on and off for a few years. I’ve been more openly expressive this past year about my feelings for him. Said he is having a hard time - going through a lot and isn’t in a place to be in a relationship right now. Needs space and time. Feels like he is taking advantage of me and doesn’t feel good about that. I care and love him. I told him how I feel and that I will respect his wishes for space and time but know that I am here and hope that when he’s ready he reconnects with me. What does this all mean? Heart hurts...
I tried this with my woman, beg her, make her see possibility of what the future holds, spend more money but she still left me, I feel is better to let her go and be the best and happier man on earth, though you make more sense in the video.
Been married almost 20 years. Wife was out of town last week for work and went out with workers. Had way to much to drink and kissed another random guy. She’s never done this before and if she wasn’t drinking would not do it. She admitted she was pretty drunk should have stopped and went to hotel but was having fun. Came home and told me about it. She’s back out of town for work for the week. I felt sick all week with worry. Sent flowers, nice texts and such. Iv never been a romantic guy and I know that. She told me I’m making her feel uncomfortable because I’m not being myself. I expressed that I’m scared and home alone with no one to talk to about this and it’s sitting on me. She said she doesn’t know if it’s to late and I’m her very best friend and she loves me but needs space. I’m just torn on what I do. It’s been 20 years our kids are grown and I’m not ready to give up on her. Our first 10 years was a nightmare and we made it through that. These last 10 years have been really good. Just not sure what’s going on with her. Is it me? Is it stress from work? She is very devoted to her career and They have a lot going on right now.
What tips do you have when your partner asks for space due to stress from work. What's a good time frame before you try and reach back out, or just let your partner come to you. Thanks for this video it provided some I sight
Be polite, no drama, and give her space. Lots of space. Lots and lots of space. Don’t sit at home Doing nothing waiting for her to call. Go out with your buddies. After about one week start dating other lady’s. When she calls you again, do not be instantly available. Your time has value. You should not be anyone’s servant. Make her put forth some effort.
Hi, I broke her trust and lied, which was a mistake on my part but if this really is the love that I need it to be, I need to give her the space she's asking for. I'll take your advice because if she does come back, I'll show her the change in me as an individual and I'll work on myself so that I'll be the best possible person that I can be, for my next relationship Thank you!! I needed this.
My wife has asked for space, she told me that she doesn't love me like she used to. I know I have messed up in the past but I want are marriage to get amazing again.
Thank you so much you've been doing a great job here My ldr (about 2hrs30mins drive) girl has these attitude of cancelling plans, going cold and distant for no apparent reason. These have happened alot of time. But she kept saying that she loves me. What could be wrong? What can I do about it? Truth is I love her
Great video. girl I’m seeing is feeling the pressure with her job and trying to come home & it’s stressing her out. She feels bad shes moaning at me and not being fair on me which I was understood & want to support. However this is adding to the stress..so she’s basically asked for space earlier today..so I said ok I’ll give you space, I don’t want to be defining object in your stress so get in contact when you feel that your ready. Right thing to do?
Hi there, your video is very helpful. I going though this “just need a space” . I told her I will give her space . After 2 days I txt her to check that if she is doing okay and just want to say hi. She responded to me about her weekend plans. On the other side , I go to the gym everyday, went for hike . But this is hard time . I miss her so much . We planned our wedding in next 2 months but now things are cancelled but it’s okay . I just want her to be okay and healthy.
Hellp pankaj, It's a test of will power my friend! If she needs space to become healthy then that's important. You can do it just focus on you but if you need further guidance please reach out to me for a private session. Best, Apollonia
What if this happens after only two months in the pre-exclusive stage with a woman who is seeking a long-term partner but insists on “taking it slow.” There was a mistake made and feelings of overwhelm which caused fear and anxiety in the woman.
Really good advice, not always easy to follow. My story is that I met this gorgeous woman, and contrary to both of our intentions we fell in love and pursued each other for over a year. There were a couple of rocky moments, but in between those there were beautiful notes, texts, letters, thoughtful gifts, and many hours of talking and hanging together. I found my soulmate and we both adored one another. My partner was at the end of separation/divorce/settlement after a few years, but had to finalise. Her children also still finishing school caused a pressure and somehow all of that came between us and pushed her away. I became oversensitive and needy, not realising what was going on, though we were able to stay together through Christmas and then her birthday. We have been on a break now for two months as she needed space, and even though we have had a few dates recently, that seemed to go really well! She says she just doesn't want a relationship now. Happy to have dates, suggests breakfast, wants to be with me on my birthday. To say the least I'm a little confused and have never wanted any relationship to work more than this one.
I've been seeing this girl for about four months and yesterday I got the "I need space" text and I'm freaking out. I told her that of course I will give you that space if that's what you really want. We agreed to meet when she felt like she's ready. I have no idea what say to her when we meet. It hurts so much right now.
Apollonia Ponti thank you for your response. She told that there was so much going on her life right now that she needs to be alone for a little while.
Thanks for the advice. My lady told me she don't want the title of being boyfriend and girlfriend, after 7 years. She still coming over for my bday but I don't kno what to expect. I wanted to propose to her in 2018 but we could never see eye to eye.
Hi Apollonia. I've been watching most of you videos about being to needy and giving space and alot of others but im still having a hard time during this covid thing and wanted to book a phone call session.
Hello Apollonia! First of all I love your videos. I need help, my girlfriend were having many arguments and last month she broke up with me because I got mad at her and when I get mad I shut down and don't like to talk to anyone. She thought I was ignoring her in which I wasn't, I know is something I need to work on I know. Anyways she broke up and days later she sends me a message saying that she still cared about me and that she needed space and if I needed her to message her but that their were boundaries. She still says I love you every know and then. I don't know what to do help!!!! I love her a lot.
Great points @apolloniaponti. I am in some of these situations and I think all human beings will at some point in time. It's all a mixture because we are all different. But self discovery of oneself is what I need to do to become a better person. And hopefully that will become the change she sees in me for us to grow.
Sorry for asking you a bit late. But can you tell me the result? Did these tips help you? I'm in this situation right now and desperate looking for advice
hi apollonia. 1st time visiting. im married to my wife nearly 8 years we been together over 9 years. She asked for space i agreed and gave it to her, so i left the home. i moved out of our house and into an apartment. Its been 33 days since i left our home. Since i left ive gone no contact and have no social media. She has been the one reaching out to me. Meanwhile shes the one wanting to end things. The first night in the apt she called me for which i answered a hf hr later. all she did was vent on me with random things i stayed calm and spoke gentle throughout. a week later she calls again i didnt answer she then texts a hf hr later "good evening. sorry to bother. hope all is ok with you. listen dogs keep getting out of the yard. i think its best we find a house for people to play with them as they are home all day alone. if they stay i will chain them. let me know. have a good night." i didnt answer she texts again 2 hrs later look i know you love these dogs so me and mom will build fence in back within yard to keep them in. goodbye". i answered back the following evening 24 hrs later " hi" "appreciate you letting me know and going ahead and doing this" "everything is going good and hope the same for you". she read but didnt respond. however i went by the house 4 days later to bring the dogs to wash only to find them chained. clearly probably angry i didnt answer her accordingly that i made her stew so she chained them. i brought them to professional to be cleaned then chained them as she had them but following day i went back and took them. i took their food and toys too. she texted an hr after i took them saying "good afternoon" "did you take the dogs?" i replied 2 hrs later " yes i did" she mustve been waiting by the phone as she was offline when i sent it and she replied immediately. and all her texts were within same time frame and in sort of a panic " you couldve sent a msf. msg." "where did you go with them?" "at least for me to know." i didnt respond and still havent. yet a week and a hf later she calls her son asking if he heard from me and how im doing. then demands he go to my apartment to drop some things off. random things a pair of black pants and a belt, a letter from the mail, hf some rent money from apartment we have, and requesting info from me so she can file my taxes on my behalf. i had to sign something and she needed tax paperwork for last 3 yrs from my jobs. so i ignore her and she asking how iam and if he heard from me then looking to do this favor for me in regards my taxes which shes never done or offered. what gives appolonia? i provided her son the info with no message for her and dropped the paperwork off in her mothers mailbox recently. a few days ago i was walking from the gym (car in shop) with my shirt off and glanced to my right and there she was riding past me to work. her windows were up and tinted im pretty sure she seen me as she drove slow enough for me to read her front plate. yet she did nothing no honk no rolling window down. perhaps she was on the phone, or didnt see me possible but doubtful. last sunday a few days after her son stopped by i took him and his friend out to lunch and on a boattrip without asking her (she was at work). he posted on his ig story feed and she asked the following morning where he was and he told her out to lunch with me and out on the boat for which she replied "alright" . she seems to reachout somehow someway every week to week and a hf. whats my next play apollonia? if she reaches out again what shall i do? look forward to hearing from you.
I hear people all the time saying, oh she wants a break just to go get other laid, but listen to the older generation, the older generation always knows more because they have been through more
Thank you so much for your help with this, I have been struggling with space, and you have given me great perspective, liked & subscribed! Where can I download your free e-book for men?
Ur advice is so solid and real this has worked 4 me literally !!!!! U are a great woman ! This world is such a better place because ur here in it with us. Just simply love love love u !!
my boyfriend told me he needs space and we are suppose to go to my sister wedding,don't know if I should call him or leave him to be.Your advice is candid needed.
Hello Alesinloye, I would wait a couple days before the wedding. Honor his need for space and then follow up with him later unless he follows up with you. Which he should. He should reach out to let you know. Best, Apollonia
Sometimes its not all about you. If you force her right now, there will be resentment in the long run. Respect is the key, work on yourself while waiting for her and acknowlegde also the part you f*ck up your relationship.If she doesnt come back atleast you have done better with your life and not just wasted time waiting for her to come back. P.S To anyway rearing this, remember your beautiful inside in out.peace 🤟
I've been in a relationship for 4 years. He told me needed more space about a year ago. We still see each other o a couple of times a week. He is very sneaky and I know more than he is aware of. He has at least talked to other women. He tells me to "behave"! I have reached a point to where I don't know to give up and go on or keep going. He has to be the center of attention all the time no.matter where we or he goes. This bothers me.
The advice you gave was clear cut and straightforward but are there any components I need to add if the relationship is long distance.....I am in a long term drug treatment program and my girlfriend is 5 hours away....we have hit the point where she has said that she wants me to stop overwhelming her with I love you’s she doesn’t want to break up but she said she is sensing insecurity and she doesn’t want that in a man....I started watching your videos today because I wanna get it right....we are both very sensual and we dated in the past while we were both in active addiction she thinks that I am replacing my drug addiction with her....she is also going through a busy time trying to get housing and reconnect with her children....I love her and want her in my life forever....HELP.....also I do have past abandonment and rejection issues but I am committed to changing I have been clean from drugs for 8 months so far and she has been clean for 2 years
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Apollonia Ponti . I very confused. She says she needs space, but then go have drinks watch some fireworks. Then proceeds to tell me in detail about how if we were to ever get married she would want a tattoo of my name around her ring finger and that she still has some love for me in her gas tank. Was it the drink or true ? Then the next day she doesn't want to led me on. There's alot more.... 7 years living together is a long time. I missed a lot of signs from her. I become complacent I didn't appreciate her, I suffocated her I exhausted her. I learned these things from doing some self examination. In in a couple of months that she's been gone I believe I'm a changed man it's still a work in progress. I want to show her so badd about the new and improved me and what love is. We have a connection that is greater than normal. I really don't know what to do.
Hello Matthew,
At the end of the day this woman is not treating you right. It seems that she knows she can do what she wants and still have you there. What I strongly suggest is to try no contact for at least 30 days. I know this will be difficult for you but you can do it. Take this time to work on yourself and get back to the happy, confident Matthew. :) I encourage you to book a session so I can guide you step by step. I am here if you need support! You got this!
Apollonia
Hi mam, i love my girl so much, she is elder than me,we still love each other,one day when i was irritated ,we had some arguments, i dont knw its my mistake i hurted her too much by texting her,after that 3days we had no contact ,i texted her that am sorry,but being a stuborn girl she wasnt replied,finally i got mad n texted her too much,n went to meet her ,but she is still same mood,last i irritated her by texting her over n over,she blocked me,next day she texted me that "She will not go anywhere ,she is scared of people who call her or text her too much,it takes a lot to come back,she needs some time for herself,Mam please help me ...I need ur advice....plsss Appolonia Mam....
Apollonia Ponti Mam pls reply to my comment,What should i do?
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From what I’ve witnessed and been through, as long as the relationship was moving in the right direction and there wasn’t any major issues like with trust, intentions, communication etc... then listen to the woman if she needs space or time, let her figure her issues out while you build a better you. If this is the woman you really see a future with, it’s worth waiting for. Reassure your feelings with her and be assertive and make it known what you want and see with them.
Did it happen to you and did she come back?
Good advice from a matured person this is what i want to hear not from some people here whos looking for a fish godbless you 🙏 this gives me hope and patience
For how long should one give the other space
@@dibyojyotichoudhury2136 I think a month at max
@@dibyojyotichoudhury2136as long as they reach back out to you
It hits harder when you were treating her like a princess and then all of a sudden she asks for “Space”. It’s actually funny when you think about it. All the time you’ve spent and all the effort you’ve put in that could be put on ones self 😂 but it’s all about accepting I guess. I mean you won’t stop living if she’s not there so just hang on and find your self.
Read Rich Coopers Unplugged Alpha book
My wife and I separated 32 days ago. I have also been sober for 32 days now. She told me she needs space and at first it was hard, but I knew I had to work on myself for another chance. I got in a program and started running and now I am just continuously making myself a better person. Lately I know things are getting better and shes starting to realize how serious I am, but she still needs to trust that I have changed. Thanks for the advice! I am a huge fan!
I hope it worked out ❤
No don’t go down the road if it’s all your fault dude. You know it’s great that you’re not drinking and make sure you don’t do so anymore but believe me that’s not the only issue just keep going forward my suggestion would be getting Christian counseling when you get back together if you get back together I’m gonna say a prayer for you to wish you the best brother.
This has been so tough for me . Being married to her for 25 years space feels like a million miles away from her . I’m lonely and scared without her but I feel this is the best option to win her back
Look up Richard Cooper. You will learn how to find your purpose in life again and grow to become a better version of yourself. Apollonia has many great videos too to help you move forward.
Same boat. Married 17+ years.
Did you get her back?
Did you get her back? been a year, need update 🙏
What the hell is wrong with women nowadays? Mine was 4 months old and already needs space.
i’m actually proud of myself and thankful for this video because i was able to finish a beautiful message perfectly by changing the “and for this i am sorry” to “honestly i should have seen this sooner and i am happy that i have used this opportunity to observe and build ideas on how to resolve these issues.”
I appreciate your sharing of knowledge that men don’t always consider or seek for. I am proud of myself for seeking help for myself rather than beating myself up because it is truly healthy for me to work on myself and it may be what she needs to hear.
im very wary if someone uses this without a genuine reason .sometimes the partner asking for space has the upper hand in the relationship nd may be too cocky and think they can come and go and play with someones emotions.......best thing to do is give them what theyve asked for if person is genuine and they love you thy will return to work things out bec they value you .if they dont then theyve freed you to meet someone better who wont treat you that way .give them space its a win win x
Yes but you need to know how long to wait before moving on to someone else.
So if they say they need space, then ask "for how long?" If they can't answer you then just leave them, don't look back, get over them, date and find someone new.
This is great advice. Even as I tell
Myself not to act, it’s hard to fight the urge to reach out.
Need space? No worries, I'll give you plenty. I'm out. Moving on.
Many times this is a soft breakup strategy and someone else has piqued her interest and she wants to see where that may take her. This strategy allows her to "find herself" but does not completely burn the bridge back to you if the new guy is not ultimately a better choice.
As it relates to advice on self improvement...absolutely yes. We should all be on that goal all the time...in relationships and for ourselves as individuals.
Exactly.... they love keeping their options open for the better man. Even the video is biased. Like we have to do all the work. If a guy asks for space then he wants to go cheat but if she asks she wants to "find herself".
This is my first time commenting on a TH-cam video. I had to search the internet to find this because when she asked for space (about 2hrs ago) it was like she had sucked all the remaining life out of me. Watching your video however has given me hope. Hope for the future. Whether or not she comes back to me, I’m working on myself. I deserve the best version of me. Thank you Apollonia
Personal development is very key for your growth and attractiveness. Focus on this aspect in your life instead of her. Let things happen organically. She needs to equally do the work on her own.
My gf wanted a break for a week. She said she still wanted to be committed to me and she won’t see other guys. She asked for it because we were fighting a lot and she had a very important exam coming up and wanted to focus & thought that this 1 week break would help us, help us miss each other more, appreciate each other more & let her focus 100% on her final exam. Remember guys, when a girl asks for a break.. give it to her without hesitation.. but make sure she knows that it’s her idea and you support it 100%. Be confident about it even though deep down it hurts..because if you look needy and chase her and tell her not to move forward with the break, then you'll just loose value & look like a weak beta male. Also before the break starts ask her what she needs and set some ground rules & stick to them! Women are like cats, don’t chase them. Let them go. They will come to you. Guess what? It’s been exactly one week without no contact and she contacted me first saying she missed me and it feels like forever since we spoke to each other. 😊 Not going to lie this 1 week really made me appreciate her more and it helped us both grow together as a couple. Be strong guys! Let her come to you! And remember, no contact until she contacts you! A break doesn't always mean it's a break up or there is someone else :)
Thank you for your comment! If someone is asking you for space give it to them. Remember, You should avoid acting needy and clingy.
Too bad I saw this too late
Dude same situation, she has exams in the coming months, she said that she wants to do something substantial in her life also she says she loves me, she asked me not to make girlfriends. She was all crying and saying that I am leaving you. She wished me new year after 3 days and I wished her back but didn't talk much. Now it is almost 15 days since I heard from her. Too many doubts are being raised in my mind. Any tips? How much shall I wait?
@@conservativelibbu hey did everything go off fine?
My girlfriend asked me to give space and to move it on at the same time, what does it means...
This really helped me... thanks dear... I noticed the more I was telling her sorry she was getting more angry & backing out.. but as soon as I stopped and gave her the space she wanted and work on my self and things she hate, she came back to me in less then 2weeks...
Hello Scent,
Exactly! Keep your head in the game meaning focusing on you and putting yourself first. Personal growth and also make sure you continue to put yourself first and she will fall deeply more in love. :) I'm here if you need any further support.
Apollonia
Apollonia Ponti thank you ma'am... are you trying to say me putting my self first in a relationship is a good idea? I thought women see it as being selfish? Trust me I have always put my gf first right from time, this our 3 years relationship now. But the issue is that, I don't even really know if she loves me as much as I do. Is very hard for her to encourage or support my hustle, she's never romantic to me, don't know if that is normal? And is (distance relationship) ... But after the misunderstanding we had last month, about me insulting her & insecurities.. the not caring got worst.
Hello Scent,
Hmmm are you able to book a private session with me? www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching-2/ It seems like there is a lack of love language, communication, and support here. I would like to discuss this with you give you honest guidance and feedback. Hope to hear from you soon.
Best,
Apollonia
My man recently is asking for space and he told me in an argument the more you text or call the more you push me away ..that hit me hard and I haven't tried contacting him within a couple days and I'm super insecure and depressed rn especially cause its valentines day praying he's faithful and just trying to focus on myself
This is the first time i listened to a whole youtube video. I want to thank you for the advice. My gf broke up with me and decided she needed to move out and work on herself. I had just lost my sister and my grandpa 1 week before this. I panicked and I was so depressed I tried to harm myself. I started therapy yesterday. I am working on my issues so I could better myself. I want to give her true space. This way when I come back knowing my value and knowing who I am, I can be a better partner to her. Thank you for the inspirational videos.
Hi... I met a girl at the function.... Just after 5 days.. I asked her how was her previous valentines day... I wanted to know if she is in a relationship.... She began to tell me how they broke up..... I then told her... I wish to try something better with her..... So she said.... She needs time to think... Bit if i meed a quick answer then its a no..... So what do u think about her attitude?.... Was i too fast to tell her or she is just processing things....
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I will take matters into my own
Hands and improve myself 👍appollonia you are always on 🎯
When I was weak, I just deleted the number until I gained self-control to just let the number be. That comes from the desire of no longer wishing to feel anything other than peace. I also got to a point in my life where walking away and meaning it is an absolute game changer.
Wow, very powerful teaching for us men. I was needy while my girlfriend needed space. 🙏
let the chick go and let her be alone...fix ur errors and be a happier man than u were before.life is too short.Keep moving fellaz & dnt invest in women!Real Eastate
Real!
Yup, means she is over you.
You're right bro
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You right
This topic is made exactly for me. Four weeks ago I was talking to girl that I really love, she told me that she needs space. I was stuck and didn't know what to say. I just have stopped texting her, no call either. And then, we start talking again. Now I'm facing this big issue a lot of men use to be in: let's be friends.
That really is a bad thing to hear.
I don't see how to not get friendzoned...
You fell for the need space while she does herself, followed by the friend zone manipulation. Face it, women tend to avoid conflict and look for the easy out when they are not into you while they are already starting their plan b. Flip the script on her and breakup stating the relationship isn't meeting your needs. Let her know you need to find a woman who is honest and direct and cares and accepts your for who you are.
The friend zone thing is soooo boring to hear 🤨🙄😤
This I need space or need a break is going on right now in my life my girlfriend just said that she need a space and I have decided to give her a space and I'm trying to focus to develop my own life.. thanks for all information 👍❤️ let's see the result after couple a week's.
Hey bro!
What happend next?
Any updates ?
What happened now, bro?
In my situation "i need space" meant that she wanted to date other men and see if she could find someone better. When she needs space then you had better go get some dates of your own.
Space is important it allows for each person to live and decompress from life’s stresses and struggles.. cause when life starts lifing you , things get real ..
I have to admit that I didn't think I would find myself at this stage in my life trying to grasp these so called famous words, "I need space." I met this beautiful lady less than two months ago & we connected in such an amazing way right from the start....., No fellows, I'm not talking about being intimate physically speaking. She wanted to wait & I had more respect for her because of it.
We actually dated. Spent time together during lunch breaks, dinners, movies, parks, museums, etc.... In my humble opinion, if I had a checklist, she hit every single one of those boxes & added more boxes to check off that I didn't even think about. We talked so much throughout the day & night, sharing our most intimate experiences in every level.
She used to say that she has never been treated with so much love & respect & I basically checked off all of her boxes & more & yes, after a month, we were definitely compatible in every level. I felt so connected with her like never before with anyone else.
But then out of nowhere & unexpectedly, those famous words came out, she needs space. I have to admit that her request threw me off balance so to speak. She basically said that she doesn't understand why she is so scared of me walking away one day despite completely being transparent on who I am..., I'm basically an opened book with her. She said she felt perfect when she is next to me, but her mind tends to wonder when she is not......, wondering about the what "if's", especially when her past relationships have been disloyal & unfaithful in every aspect of her life.
At first, I have to admit that I was speechless & I didn't know what to say because our relationship went from steamy hot to ice cold in less than 24 hrs. She says that there is no other man in her life & I believe that. We spoke about honesty & respect from the beginning to be our foundation & I have to admit it felt amazing to connect with a beautiful lady inside & out with those pillars being part of the relationship.
So the questions come out as why the space? Why the sudden change? Did I do something wrong? Why so scare after being an opened book to her?
Apollonia, I watched both of your clips on this topic & you made sense to me especially about just giving her the space she needed. My last message to her was, "I will give you the space you need & if for some Godly reason you would want to come bck, I will be here with opened arms & a loving heart." Whether or not that was the appropriate message, that's how I feel & I rather speak the truth than lying to myself.
As of today, it has been over 24 hrs without any contact.... Does it suck, hell yeah it does, but I am a true believer that was meant to be, it is meant to be!!!
Let's see how this end......, for now, I guess it is time to continue working on myself & seek some self-improvement. Feeling blessed & continue everyday to be the best image of myself.
Thanks for listening!!! Much love & respect to everyone........
Bro.
I need an update on your story. God bless you
I would have also told the same answer to her (i mean my partner). Hope she's back with you, if the space was not asked for a replacement.
What happened dealt with the same thing exactly
I met her too, after 8 yrs she need space bro😅
Update? Im in the same situation
I was needy and was insecure I have to work on myself before getting back with her but I’m scared Bc I really want to be with her but I have to work on myself there is a 50/50 we can get back together and that’s all I want tbh
People need space. Don't be around each other 24/7 or too much..we each need alone time in a healthy relationship
I tried all of this and she still left me for another man...
If a female, wife or girlfriend dont like you anymore.
Just move on: dont waste valuable years of your like trying to make it right with her.
Exactly!
Apollonia Ponti Exactly? Seriously? Just give up and move on? I’ve been with my wife for 18yrs (married for 6) with 3 daughters and she recently said we need a break for a while due to a lot of broken promises on my end. Am I supposed to give up and move on? No I’m going to give her some space so we can work on each other and hopefully come back together even stronger. It seems like everyone commenting is a 17yr teenie bopper in a 4 month long relationship where they are so easy to move on to the next or automatically assume the woman has another male lined up. More immature comments than not, do you have any videos aimed at grown ups in real mature relationships that are actually serious?
Sonny Samra same bus here , married 3 kids, broken promises on my end . I’m giving her space - we’ll see . I’m staying positive , and keeping myself happy as much as I can , either by Art, working out , hanging out with friends . Just staying busy
@J L Stop being sexist. And know that if this is your view of "all" women, then you'll only attract such low quality women into your life. Also believing in such a misogynist idea will keep you a low quality man, unattractive to high quality women. So do you want to become a high quality man or not? Do you want to attract high quality women or are you just going to give up, shun responsibility and comfort yourself with such lies as this "all women do this" stuff?
@@sonnysamra8733 I'm with you on this. You can't keep the faith, optimism and hard work forever though. If your wife finds another man, falls in love with him and falls out of love with you then it's OVER.
Count your losses, show her just how much she has hurt and betrayed you (though in a respectful and non-violent manner), get your property, ask for shared custody of the children, cry out your sorrow, forgive, move on, learn from your mistakes and start dating anew. Your maturity will definitely attract new women, if you keep your confidence and your faith in love.
When a woman gives you enough smiles, eye contact, etc, and you know she always looks for you, then when it comes to ask her to call you and then says, I need time.... then it could mean anything, but mainly I think is she's just has no integrity, if you need space why lead a man on..... if she's really into you, she would never say that..... turn the tables by ignoring her and let her chase you
If a woman tells a guy she needs space she is pretty much telling a guy that things are over especially if she is playing hard to get. A woman that is a tease doesn't want you. Plain and simple. That has happened to me way to many times.
Same thing with a man
This is pretty good too.😃 She asked for space and I reluctantly gave it to her. After 8 days she called me up saying she wants to see me. We went out and had a pretty good time. Nothing serious. It was a bit awkward though. Emotions were still raw. I was having a hard time just being myself and not so seious. Now it's been 4 weeks without any contact whatsover. I'm giving her space, respecting her wishes and have begun working on myself, analyzing the relationship. It's painful facing my own fears. And scared to death not knowing what the outcome will be. 😨😱
Joe B Im kinda in the same boat with this one girl, We’ve known each other for almost a month now, I hung out with her for a whole week after the first day we met, the holidays were coming so we journeyed to go see our familys, keep in mind we texted almost all the time everyday and still texted when we left for holidays, like 3 days ago I was at work and she was getting frustrated that i wasnt texting her back enough, also keep in mind during this time a lot of stuff was going on with her family, her grandpa was in the hospital and then the next day her sister had to go to hospital so it was an emotional wreck for her, so me not texting kinda set her off, telling me she needs time to recollect herself and her emotions. She says she cares about me, but I’m giving her space at the moment I texted her yesterday letting her know that im wasnt gonna let go of her so easily because thats what she thought i was doing, which was a misunderstanding. I knew she really liked me she always invited me over to hangout or i’d take her out on a date somewhere. Does this mean its over between us or should i just wait it out?🤔
My experience is if someone wants space or is trying to create distance, they were never really into it in the first place
I pray that what you say may help out. Yesterday she told me she wants to focus on herself and that we need to be on a break. Obviously my ego side was trying to convince her but than at the same time I also spoke up and I acknowledged her concern and let her go.
During this time I spent the day figuring out everything I’ve done wrong, we’ve been with each other for 7 years, we are engaged and out of no where she wanted to take a break. Before parting ways full of allergies, I spoke in her ears and said this is not the end, this is just the beginning. During this time I will focus on what I need to improve on. Thank you very much for your advice and I appreciate your time.
Stop saying sorry because it makes her relive how he made her hurt. That line is what I needed to hear. Thank you. I’m struggling with this giving her space thing. It is so difficult. But I’m willing to do whatever it takes for her. I’m still very much in love with her
Hmmm. You really brought up a few reasons I never thought about. Great video as usual.
You must know that this video of yours have saved relationship! Thank you :)
Great video Apollonia and I’m sure this will help those who are struggling with the “I need space” issue. Your advice and tips are awesome! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Dal.
Your for too available, so your no longer Challenging to her, women need to earn you, that is why women chase men, because she wants to work to get you! And she needs to wonder about you! If your always doing the same things over and over again, that for sure as women say, makes for a boring relationship! Low level drama is good, if she never fear losing you, she will not see your true value!
Oh okay got it now my friend said she needs space
The Survivalist how can I reach you guys I need help to get my x back ???.. she ask me for space and time cuz I Because I miss up with our relationship .:
That's childish teenager crap. My suggestion is for men and women to grow the hell up and humble themselves. If you are fortunate enough to have a good significant other, then you appreciate that person and not play those childish games. There are plenty of lonely hearts that love to have good person that you are tired of.
I think it's very onsided!!Self improvement for her ego and her emotional stimulation!!Nooo!that's bullshit!!When a couple love each other they don't need a BREAK!
WTF is this!That's so narcissistic!Iam not saying that u should never improve your self or acknowledge your mistakes but that thing we call a "break" doesn't apply for human connection!People are not things! a relationship is not a football game!!I think when a man or a woman says I need space thats a bad sign!Neither she/he searching for something else or she/he trying to fuck someone else during the break or your partner already cheated on u and wants a break to fuck more freelly!!
How is that possible!People for years of a relationship having space!!I guess u never know maybe it's a shity relationship!,Or instead of taking breaks maybe u should try to fix problems together as a team!!Not an individual!Fuck them!If your girl or boyfriend/husband says these words about space exploration leave them!Leave to travel through space!Go f@#$ your self!!Or maybe iam wrong and I need to improve my self!Is always me not the other person!!BULL@%^@×
What if your not too available or anything
I need to give her space. Awesome video! 😊 thank you
I am going through a “break” right now and it has been the most challenging thing I ever thought of doing but I understand why we got to this break and I am more then willing to give her that so that I can become a better version of myself! I do love her so it hurts but I’m the bigger picture now and have to take care of myself!
She did ask me once if I’m doing ok but never heard from her since. The only thing she said to me was “I’m sure we will cross paths at some point”...
I replied with who knows maybe we will, Have a great evening.
That was it. I want us to work so even if she didn’t reply I stand my ground and keep working on me.
Jeremy Nicholls Bruh. She gone, fam.
She gone let her go
"I need space" usually means she's qualifying a new guy. When that doesn't work out she'll come running back because you're a sure thing to her. Till next time she thinks she's found Mr right again. Guess what she'll be needing. If you said "space" you're a genius.
Gamoto Shistosou Lol, I qualified 5 women in the last 2 months, most lack any Wife Like Qualities That Every man wants in a woman! If you fail to do the research into them, you deserve to be crying down the line! Far too many people are so eager to get someone anyone, they just fill the position with whatever they can get!
Oh snap! lol
My wife just pulled this on me.
I work mid day to late night. I'll admit I'm not a perfect husband. But I work my ass off and love my job. She hates my job. She's jelly that I'm respected by the boss/owner. She hated my last job too... But didn't complain about the money though. If I didn't have a 2 year old and just bought a home, I would have already served her papers. Figuring out what my plan of actions going to be moving forward.
@@I_like_turtles_67 I'm in the same situation. What eventually happened?
Very smart way isn't it. Basically you are my 2nd option till I found Mr.Right! You are a backup.
Apollonia, I love your videos. You're so knowledgeable and detailed. Thanks for sharing!
Ahhhh music to my ears. Thank you so much!
I just discover your channel today, you are amazing. First, because ou talk to men, while most of other coaches talk to women! and as a woman, it's easier for me to understand the situation when you expose men problems, and why they maybe needy, or so demanding, etc! Thank you for your time help and advices!
Y'all keep talking about females needing space....my boyfriend told me he needs more space, yet calls me several times a day to "check in"!
I love this advice Apollonia. Space would've saved a relationship I lost and I'm learning its importance even in marriage. Sometimes my thoughts scare me but its a great place to be knowing where Im at. Thank you.
You are a rock star! This really helps me. I just went through a break up but she left it open with the space thing. I did nothing wrong ..she gave me the feeling overwhelmed and not sure what sure wants things. Not in all fairness she is only 7 months out of an 8 year marriage. She was emotional divorced for years and I was her first relationship out of divorce.
Regardless if her and I get back together, this made me better. Im good with that. Thank you 🙏🏼
Going through this now...well a break from the relationship. Im going to utilize your advice coach
Pat Ftw did it work
What happened
Come on we need to know
I feel this has helped me handle myself and be a better person towards my partner in working on the things I have done wrong..and changing for the betterment of both our lives and our relationship..I think this helps to also bring more understanding to the little things us men overlook
I'm so glad this helped!
She say's "I Need Space" = I've meet someone on social media, i am glued to my phone, you can go away so i can chase a fantasy.... Good Bye
This is what happened to me sadly
that happend to me
Exactly!
If she tells me she needs space I tell her " NASA is hiring. And move on 😁
Ornelas Jorge Rightcheous tho
Dude!!! #epic
Dude that is awesome
But sometimes it is just space and things do get better than before... as the video eloquently explain... giving up easily is just reflect th relationship wasn’t that deep ... 😊👍🏿👍🏿
" NASA is hiring " Classic bro, I'm going to use this next time 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Me and this girl were/are really hitting it off. She is an introvert and something extremely stressful popped up in her personal life(that she didnt want to tell me but thats fine). I have such anxiety involving this. Its only been four days but we never defined the terms of space. Im totally fine with giving her the space she needs because im really concerned about her wellbeing but damn and i flooded with anxious worrying thoughts. I hate to admit it, but i think this space is helping me just as much since its highlighted some things i wish to improve about myself. I wish i asked her right away how long until we can reconvene but i didnt want to put her on the spot and make her more stressed. Idk if i have a question but Im struggling here.
I am rapidly gaining perspective. I know my worth. Its in my best interest to endure this, and i know she will see that. If not she should. She’s a smart cookie and so am I.
This resonates with me so much. I was seeing her for two weeks and then she said she needed space. It's been four days and I never asked her how long and I'm anxious about it.
We broke up (technically werent together. 1 month, 2 dates and constant contact, slight LDR 40miles). I said the word love in a poem i wrote her and i sent her flowers and she got spooked. She said i developed an attachment, and she did say she doesnt know what she was looking for in the beginning. I guess i know thats a red flag potentially for what im looking for.
even tho she said i was lovely to be around. And talked like she planned to be with me for a long time.
I could have played it cooler, but i think she would have broken up anyway down the line, so i guess its better now than later. Back to the drawing board. Hopefully the time between potential partners is a lot less this time.
@@CharlieDebts you did the right thing. Trust me. That she got spooked means she wasn't ready. Nothing on you mate. Hope you found someone better
Avoidant attachment is a real thing, but take space and improve your own life is the best case scenario
I am confused on who people really are and now that you have came in my focus really goes to who I think you are but I'm I'm confused I would I will not be confused anymore I believe it from the bottom of my heart and I think the universe for that because the universe is going to tell me the truth
I feel this woman in church has been neglected by her husband haven't seen him there in TWO YEARS. Recently her I got acquainted over three month period with very limited contact. I expressed myself in ways she'd understand: accepted church duty, heard about her education music career, she retorted painfully she doesn't play piano at home. I later gave her some piano music from my deceased mom as a keepsake. I showed self confidence by looking in her eyes. Now we're not talking, just space.
My girlfriend right now says she needs space, she says she’s always angry and just needs time to collect her thoughts, alone. Thing is I’m back at my parents while I can’t be at home, we’ve lived together for the past year, most of my stuff is still there, legally my address is there etc. It’s been 3 days now and I don’t know what to do. I love her with everything I have and I just want things to be what they were. I was a bit insecure with my past and I didn’t realize I was even taking that out on her. I’ve apologized and told her I’ll do better. She’s says every part of her wants me there, but she doesn’t want to blow up again. I’m so confused right now. I told her I would work on my things, but it’s killing me, I miss waking up to her every morning, I miss being able to hold her, I just miss her and being beside her. I just feel so lonely and depressed as hell, barely can eat, barely can sleep. Only thing I’m looking forward to is going to work later today so I can distract myself.
Did you ever get it back ?
Wow. Thank you. Really is exactly what I needed to hear💯
Honestly, give them the gift of space. I won’t chase any woman. I’m dealing with this right now and it’s on me. She will be back. The crazy thing is I like her but I’m fine without her.
what happened?
You have no idea how much you have helped me . Thank you
Hello thank you for the reinforced thoughts. I work on myself daily. I m aware that you can't make a think. They have choices that they make for themselves. To be happy within themselves not for you but . I have been avoiding the narcissistic personal disorders for this very reason.
My girlfriend told me this I’ve been with her for 4yrs but she still love me she said we can start off as friends and slowly ease our way back into a Relationship
update?
98% of comments on here say "I need space" means she is breaking up / broke up / don't want to hurt us, etc. I want to know one thing. She has been pretty depressed with her kids not being around, her job sucks, her boss treats her like crap. She stated that she needs to find happiness and get her life on track. She then stated that she needs to get her life in order then she will think if we can get back together. Does that have any promising tone or am I just doomed? I told her that if she wanted to break up, to please just let me know because I would rather start healing now rather than having to wait 6 months to find out she can't have me in her life then begin the healing process then. She reiterated that she needs space to get her life in order.
Thank you apollonia, ill just embrace the pain and improve myself into the best version of me
WOW! This video speaks to me. It was informative& enlightening. I am out of my relationship, but this video gave me perspective for future relationships.
Awesome! I am so happy to hear your feedback. Thanks, Mike.
-Apollonia
Apollonia Ponti FYI I spent the weekend binge watching your TH-cam videos. I took notes on all of the relevant information. Its was fantastic!
Your words are cherished in my heart!! Thanks, Mike. Becuase of people like you I continue to do what I do. :)
I have been in a relationship with my girl for two months. For many times she told me she is not an active one in a relationship. And she seldom initiates a conversation with me. I am the one who always start the conversations and ask to hang out together. This makes me feel insecure in this relationship. She once told me she needs space, but I could not control myself and I kept texting her and asking her out, until recently we had a fight with each other, because that she went out for a holiday with friends without telling me. I was angry with that but soon I said sorry to her when it was late. When I talked to her friend, he (male) told me she needed space. Now she is still in her vocation, and I could do nothing but give her space. What I want to know is that if I change myself, and if I give her space, whether she will change herself in the future, which means be active in this relationship.
Thank you so much for this video, It helped to realize how much I was doing that wasn't fair to my wife and daughter. I have wrote them down and am ready to talk about them with her if she decides she is ready to talk. I feel a burden lifted and am ready top stand up against myself to help our relationship if given the chance.
When she says she needs space, she is telling you she has found a new man and wants to experiment with him before making a final decision. Understand you are not her first priority and you should go no contact and start on your new life path
Seeing someone on and off for a few years. I’ve been more openly expressive this past year about my feelings for him. Said he is having a hard time - going through a lot and isn’t in a place to be in a relationship right now. Needs space and time. Feels like he is taking advantage of me and doesn’t feel good about that. I care and love him. I told him how I feel and that I will respect his wishes for space and time but know that I am here and hope that when he’s ready he reconnects with me. What does this all mean? Heart hurts...
I tried this with my woman, beg her, make her see possibility of what the future holds, spend more money but she still left me, I feel is better to let her go and be the best and happier man on earth, though you make more sense in the video.
I'm glad you found this video helpful. Yes, your happiness should always come first.
Best,
Apollonia
Been married almost 20 years. Wife was out of town last week for work and went out with workers. Had way to much to drink and kissed another random guy. She’s never done this before and if she wasn’t drinking would not do it. She admitted she was pretty drunk should have stopped and went to hotel but was having fun. Came home and told me about it. She’s back out of town for work for the week. I felt sick all week with worry. Sent flowers, nice texts and such. Iv never been a romantic guy and I know that. She told me I’m making her feel uncomfortable because I’m not being myself. I expressed that I’m scared and home alone with no one to talk to about this and it’s sitting on me. She said she doesn’t know if it’s to late and I’m her very best friend and she loves me but needs space. I’m just torn on what I do. It’s been 20 years our kids are grown and I’m not ready to give up on her. Our first 10 years was a nightmare and we made it through that. These last 10 years have been really good. Just not sure what’s going on with her. Is it me? Is it stress from work? She is very devoted to her career and They have a lot going on right now.
What tips do you have when your partner asks for space due to stress from work. What's a good time frame before you try and reach back out, or just let your partner come to you.
Thanks for this video it provided some I sight
Why there is less likes in this video. This deserve lots of likes.
Good video
Love from India :)
Lokesh,
Thanks so much! :)
Best,
Apollonia
@@ApolloniaPonti wow you replied! Thank you so much
You have a new subscriber today
Be polite, no drama, and give her space. Lots of space. Lots and lots of space. Don’t sit at home Doing nothing waiting for her to call. Go out with your buddies. After about one week start dating other lady’s. When she calls you again, do not be instantly available. Your time has value. You should not be anyone’s servant. Make her put forth some effort.
Hi, I broke her trust and lied, which was a mistake on my part but if this really is the love that I need it to be, I need to give her the space she's asking for. I'll take your advice because if she does come back, I'll show her the change in me as an individual and I'll work on myself so that I'll be the best possible person that I can be, for my next relationship
Thank you!! I needed this.
My wife has asked for space, she told me that she doesn't love me like she used to. I know I have messed up in the past but I want are marriage to get amazing again.
Thank you so much you've been doing a great job here
My ldr (about 2hrs30mins drive) girl has these attitude of cancelling plans, going cold and distant for no apparent reason. These have happened alot of time. But she kept saying that she loves me. What could be wrong? What can I do about it? Truth is I love her
Great video. girl I’m seeing is feeling the pressure with her job and trying to come home & it’s stressing her out. She feels bad shes moaning at me and not being fair on me which I was understood & want to support. However this is adding to the stress..so she’s basically asked for space earlier today..so I said ok I’ll give you space, I don’t want to be defining object in your stress so get in contact when you feel that your ready. Right thing to do?
thank you Apollonia, the video makes me feel better at this time I feel like I have a new direction to continue my relationship.
Hi there, your video is very helpful. I going though this “just need a space” . I told her I will give her space . After 2 days I txt her to check that if she is doing okay and just want to say hi. She responded to me about her weekend plans. On the other side , I go to the gym everyday, went for hike . But this is hard time . I miss her so much . We planned our wedding in next 2 months but now things are cancelled but it’s okay . I just want her to be okay and healthy.
Hellp pankaj,
It's a test of will power my friend! If she needs space to become healthy then that's important. You can do it just focus on you but if you need further guidance please reach out to me for a private session.
Best,
Apollonia
update?
What if this happens after only two months in the pre-exclusive stage with a woman who is seeking a long-term partner but insists on “taking it slow.” There was a mistake made and feelings of overwhelm which caused fear and anxiety in the woman.
Hi Apollonia you give out good suggestions about relationships that needs space good psychology educational video
Really good advice, not always easy to follow. My story is that I met this gorgeous woman, and contrary to both of our intentions we fell in love and pursued each other for over a year. There were a couple of rocky moments, but in between those there were beautiful notes, texts, letters, thoughtful gifts, and many hours of talking and hanging together. I found my soulmate and we both adored one another. My partner was at the end of separation/divorce/settlement after a few years, but had to finalise. Her children also still finishing school caused a pressure and somehow all of that came between us and pushed her away. I became oversensitive and needy, not realising what was going on, though we were able to stay together through Christmas and then her birthday. We have been on a break now for two months as she needed space, and even though we have had a few dates recently, that seemed to go really well! She says she just doesn't want a relationship now. Happy to have dates, suggests breakfast, wants to be with me on my birthday. To say the least I'm a little confused and have never wanted any relationship to work more than this one.
I’m in this sameeeee boat wow
Endeded it. It's over man.
Every man in this world should here this video
I've been seeing this girl for about four months and yesterday I got the "I need space" text and I'm freaking out. I told her that of course I will give you that space if that's what you really want. We agreed to meet when she felt like she's ready. I have no idea what say to her when we meet. It hurts so much right now.
Kimmo,
Just remain calm and ask her why this happened. Have the most mature approach when you see her.
Best,
Apollonia
Apollonia Ponti thank you for your response. She told that there was so much going on her life right now that she needs to be alone for a little while.
She is telling you to forget her,,
Thanks for the advice. My lady told me she don't want the title of being boyfriend and girlfriend, after 7 years. She still coming over for my bday but I don't kno what to expect. I wanted to propose to her in 2018 but we could never see eye to eye.
Wow. Unbelievably intuitive.
What a smart person. Many thanks. Alex
Hi Apollonia. I've been watching most of you videos about being to needy and giving space and alot of others but im still having a hard time during this covid thing and wanted to book a phone call session.
Great video it definitely speaks to exactly what im going through but I wish I could get specific answers from you to help me out
Like wise that's what I need to do is explain my situation to her and she give me 101 tips from there then I will take heed
Hello Apollonia! First of all I love your videos. I need help, my girlfriend were having many arguments and last month she broke up with me because I got mad at her and when I get mad I shut down and don't like to talk to anyone. She thought I was ignoring her in which I wasn't, I know is something I need to work on I know. Anyways she broke up and days later she sends me a message saying that she still cared about me and that she needed space and if I needed her to message her but that their were boundaries. She still says I love you every know and then. I don't know what to do help!!!! I love her a lot.
Grow up and stop shutting down and ignoring people. Period. You are wrong for that.
She didnt ask for it. I gave it to her and paced my communication.
The end was beautiful
Wife just told she needs a break after more than 10 years of marriage and she needs to miss me. Was told she does not feel loved by me.
Great points @apolloniaponti. I am in some of these situations and I think all human beings will at some point in time. It's all a mixture because we are all different. But self discovery of oneself is what I need to do to become a better person. And hopefully that will become the change she sees in me for us to grow.
Sorry for asking you a bit late. But can you tell me the result? Did these tips help you?
I'm in this situation right now and desperate looking for advice
hi apollonia. 1st time visiting. im married to my wife nearly 8 years we been together over 9 years. She asked for space i agreed and gave it to her, so i left the home. i moved out of our house and into an apartment. Its been 33 days since i left our home. Since i left ive gone no contact and have no social media. She has been the one reaching out to me. Meanwhile shes the one wanting to end things. The first night in the apt she called me for which i answered a hf hr later. all she did was vent on me with random things i stayed calm and spoke gentle throughout. a week later she calls again i didnt answer she then texts a hf hr later "good evening. sorry to bother. hope all is ok with you. listen dogs keep getting out of the yard. i think its best we find a house for people to play with them as they are home all day alone. if they stay i will chain them. let me know. have a good night." i didnt answer she texts again 2 hrs later look i know you love these dogs so me and mom will build fence in back within yard to keep them in. goodbye". i answered back the following evening 24 hrs later " hi" "appreciate you letting me know and going ahead and doing this" "everything is going good and hope the same for you". she read but didnt respond. however i went by the house 4 days later to bring the dogs to wash only to find them chained. clearly probably angry i didnt answer her accordingly that i made her stew so she chained them. i brought them to professional to be cleaned then chained them as she had them but following day i went back and took them. i took their food and toys too. she texted an hr after i took them saying "good afternoon" "did you take the dogs?" i replied 2 hrs later " yes i did" she mustve been waiting by the phone as she was offline when i sent it and she replied immediately. and all her texts were within same time frame and in sort of a panic " you couldve sent a msf. msg." "where did you go with them?" "at least for me to know." i didnt respond and still havent. yet a week and a hf later she calls her son asking if he heard from me and how im doing. then demands he go to my apartment to drop some things off. random things a pair of black pants and a belt, a letter from the mail, hf some rent money from apartment we have, and requesting info from me so she can file my taxes on my behalf. i had to sign something and she needed tax paperwork for last 3 yrs from my jobs. so i ignore her and she asking how iam and if he heard from me then looking to do this favor for me in regards my taxes which shes never done or offered. what gives appolonia? i provided her son the info with no message for her and dropped the paperwork off in her mothers mailbox recently. a few days ago i was walking from the gym (car in shop) with my shirt off and glanced to my right and there she was riding past me to work. her windows were up and tinted im pretty sure she seen me as she drove slow enough for me to read her front plate. yet she did nothing no honk no rolling window down. perhaps she was on the phone, or didnt see me possible but doubtful. last sunday a few days after her son stopped by i took him and his friend out to lunch and on a boattrip without asking her (she was at work). he posted on his ig story feed and she asked the following morning where he was and he told her out to lunch with me and out on the boat for which she replied "alright"
. she seems to reachout somehow someway every week to week and a hf. whats my next play apollonia? if she reaches out again what shall i do? look forward to hearing from you.
I hear people all the time saying, oh she wants a break just to go get other laid, but listen to the older generation, the older generation always knows more because they have been through more
Thank you so much for your help with this, I have been struggling with space, and you have given me great perspective, liked & subscribed! Where can I download your free e-book for men?
Ur advice is so solid and real this has worked 4 me literally !!!!! U are a great woman ! This world is such a better place because ur here in it with us. Just simply love love love u !!
my boyfriend told me he needs space and we are suppose to go to my sister wedding,don't know if I should call him or leave him to be.Your advice is candid needed.
Hello Alesinloye,
I would wait a couple days before the wedding. Honor his need for space and then follow up with him later unless he follows up with you. Which he should. He should reach out to let you know.
Best,
Apollonia
26 year and its over. He need space its been 5 months . i was chancing him . Now i am not calling him or texting him
liz meloche any updates ?
Thank you this changed my life
Sometimes its not all about you. If you force her right now, there will be resentment in the long run. Respect is the key, work on yourself while waiting for her and acknowlegde also the part you f*ck up your relationship.If she doesnt come back atleast you have done better with your life and not just wasted time waiting for her to come back.
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To anyway rearing this, remember your beautiful inside in out.peace 🤟
I've been in a relationship for 4 years. He told me needed more space about a year ago. We still see each other o a couple of times a week. He is very sneaky and I know more than he is aware of. He has at least talked to other women. He tells me to "behave"! I have reached a point to where I don't know to give up and go on or keep going. He has to be the center of attention all the time no.matter where we or he goes. This bothers me.
The advice you gave was clear cut and straightforward but are there any components I need to add if the relationship is long distance.....I am in a long term drug treatment program and my girlfriend is 5 hours away....we have hit the point where she has said that she wants me to stop overwhelming her with I love you’s she doesn’t want to break up but she said she is sensing insecurity and she doesn’t want that in a man....I started watching your videos today because I wanna get it right....we are both very sensual and we dated in the past while we were both in active addiction she thinks that I am replacing my drug addiction with her....she is also going through a busy time trying to get housing and reconnect with her children....I love her and want her in my life forever....HELP.....also I do have past abandonment and rejection issues but I am committed to changing I have been clean from drugs for 8 months so far and she has been clean for 2 years
I needed this Thankyou so much