I never believed men and women can be just friends which is why I dont date men that say they have female friends, in most cases one is attracted to the other one who doesnt feel the same or they already been together and became friends lol no thanks I'll pass
Did you see ATL housewives episode, Cynthia Bailey fiancee had all his female friends over to hang out. It was like 8 or 10 women. I don't trust him at all.
I'm not saying they are all bad, but women with a lot of dudes as friends are a red flag. The primary reason being is that she is the source of all the trouble. Ever notice when they say they don't like to hang around other women because women cause too much drama? Ask the women that were around her in reference to the drama and you will have your answer... (Here's a hint: It involves "extracurricular activities", LMAO!)
When I got serious with my lady I cut all the other ladies off. Whenever they reached out to me I told them straight that I'm in a committed relationship with the woman that's going to be my wife and mother of my children. If they keep trying to contact me and not respect my relationship I simply block them and move on.
Yep, I just cut my last male friend off this Monday because I realized that he was toooooooo close to me and I was telling him too much and allowing him to be my emotional support and he was doing the same thing too. He is a great guy and we liked each other but he has things going on that are deal breakers for me. No more blocking my husband!!! This is an on time word! Be blessed Tony!
YEEEESSS! U just inspired me to do this TO-DAY! I LITERALLY said those words an hour ago- touching all on me at Wal-Mart, I sd: "Stop! My future husband might be here. You not gon block my blessing!" 🤣
@GoldLoveee You are valuable and what you need WITHOUT, let me repeat that, WITHOUT the deal breakers is available to you. You should ask yourself if these things never changed would you be satisfied, if you would then they are not deal breakers, they are preferences. If you would not then cut your losses and get out of your own way so you can have your ideal man. DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS, know your value and understand that you have boundaries/deal breakers to protect you. To ignore and lower your own standards would be to betray yourself therefore showing this man that you don't even believe in your own standards which will open the door for him to disrespect because you are not respecting or honoring yourself or your standards. Please don't break your own heart💕
@@sadieashby2266 Yes, Yes! Life coach in the making. Two more months and I'll be certified. I want to see everybody live their best lives filled with real genuine love for self and others, and sometimes loving others means leaving them alone to grow without us enabling, pacifing, or being a crutch for them by lowering our own safety standards. I'm like OSHA and the health inspector I'm closing the doors on people, places, and things that aren't up to code. Everybody else should consider that too.
Im so happy a man admitted this. I have argued this with so many women. I believe these women enjoy the attention and its a safe situation of "waiting" for them too...
Yes your right. It's really sad to me they believe a man is just going to support them and they don't care about how half of them are just brothers. Women fail to realize rather your religious or not. A man is a man. Saved or unsaved. Women should understand you may like communication but a man is not a emotional pillow. I've heard many stories, Women prefer male friends over female friends due to no jealousy involved. If only women can understand a man can not think like a woman 🤦♂️
Nothin but truth that I learned the hard way!! A “friend” who has a girlfriend was calling & texting me for conversation & emotional support. He told me he doesn’t agree with how his girlfriend is raising her kids. I confided in him about a situation I went thru after a horrible date & he comforted me. Shortly after, he invited me over for drinks to celebrate my new job & before I knew it, went too far. 🤦🏽♀️ He even whispered in my ear how long he’s wanted me. For YEARS. I said “what about your girlfri...” & he shh’d me. After, I left feeling so confused. And now it’s awkward because I don’t want to be “used” for emotional support without all the benefits of a relationship. He’s clearly involved & I’m no side piece. I started keeping our conversations short. I don’t wanna hear about his girlfriend or the issues with the kids anymore. He’ll call or text every now & then to chat or send a funny meme. Still testing the waters... Tony is absolutely spot on with this.
Just the emotional connection is wrong! If a man is in a committed relationship his emotional support should come from his wife/ significant other. There is room for support from sisters and mother but even that has boundaries!
Yep ..I'm a single, Black, woman living in a small rural community...I won't even meet with my pastor alone...not that he is at all a bad guy, a church member husband stopped by to give me chickens they raised...he could not come in my house.... he's a nice man... nothing to do with him..I got the chicken and thanked him and sent him off...I'm old fashioned and realistic! I won't accept offers for free help in house projects! Not because I'm some beauty queen... I'm new to the community and they may just want to try me.....I do limited eye contact, conversation and I engage with the women... Not trying to be on Dr Phil 😂 You are right Tony!!!
Miss Yetta Please be extra careful with women in the church also. Some try to connect a bond thru a past event and swoop in to be attracted to you. Be careful.
My mother and grandmother always told me that there's no such thing as just a friend when dealing with the opposite sex. Every male friend I had either had feelings for me or saw me as sexually attractive. To make the long story short, some one always ends up catching feelings even when one is trying to keep it secret when trying to be just friends.
Yep, had a male friend and we were both attracted to each other. Never kissed or had sex but our treatment of each other was intimate. He got a gf and he told me we couldn't be "friends like we were." I respected his decisions and haven't spoken to him since. Yep...just friends all right...
My ex did exactly what Tony just said! He got soooo mad when I told him I felt uncomfortable about him and his female “best friend” .. he called me insecure, but I’d bet everything that deep down he really loves her as more than a friend.. this confirms it
Sasha Iman girl!!!! My ex texted his girl “friend” a month into our relationship that he had a wet dream about her. This message is so true!!! Just confirms it.
When a real woman gives her battles to God and trust God to make a move people do disappear. Trust and believe. You don’t have to write letters text or any of that. It has happen for me many times. I had to get out of a toxic relationship and I asked God and all my angels to please make a move . In three days the problem person called to say he was in Florida and did not know how he got there. He did not know anyone there he said he found himself getting in the bus to Florida . I never heard from him again. That’s when I knew I was in Gods hands and protected.
I'm still trying to learn how to do this... it always goes left... I keep telling myself to talk to God ...I always end up talking to a family member or friend 🤡
I agree! 100% truth! When i was in a relationship with my ex, he had a female friend (probably still has). I didn't feel good about her because we fought several times about his "friendship". In a meantime, i found his romantic messages addressed to her on FB when we weren't in a relationship.He was in love with her, she didn't care about him. The moral of the story: there's no friendship between men and women. It's either relationship or nothing. Point blank period!
I just broke up with a guy I really like because he has a female friend. I told him I didn't like it, he's acting like he dropped it. I'm not playing this game. Just him thinking it's okay to go fix her stuff when we're dating tells me what I need to know. I gotta let it burn. I don't have male friends. Every one of them was a potential partner, and every one of them gets the cold treatment after I get a boyfriend.
I once dated a man who had a female best friend that he would often talk about, hang out with, and do favors for constantly. It was extremely off putting. Not to mention, that spending that much time around a woman platonically made him slightly effeminate. Tony is right that spending too much time with the opposite sex just ends up repelling potential partners. If you are already that emotionally invested in another woman, there is no point in us dating.
Totally agree, we are not kids. This shouldn’t be something taught to adults.. we should know better . No such thing as female/ male friends unless he’s gay ! I don’t date men with “female friends”. I let them know from the start, then they think I’m jealous smh. The truth is I’m not stupid !
Listen! This is a whole entire word Tony Gaskins! A person CAN NOT develop a lasting, committed and loving relationship with their partner if their energies are split. If a “friend” is “tending” to all of your emotional needs there is NO ROOM for a partner/spouse in your life. Periodt! Thank you for keeping it real!
I was once told by a guy “friend” that he considered everyone in his circle as a potential sex partner. I’m not sure if he meant both men and women in his circle but he is no longer my “friend”
Right but I have male friends, that I’ve known for 5 years plus, they might say lil things to try to test me , but I nip that crab in the butt real quick. Especially if I have a man.
Not all guys will try to sleep with u tho, dont generalise, I have a male bestfriend and we been friendss for yearrss and never had any types of other feelings towards each other
@@chynadoll77cyn59 if you know that ultimately their aim is to sleep with you and you don't want that, then why do you have Male friends??? Because you like the validation. You like to have something lined up for days when you're bored or lonely. Men and women cannot be friends.
Tony, you are telling the God honest truth. "Im not insecure my man can have women friends". 20 years of marriage one day. One too many friendly conversations lead to talk about underwear that lead to pictures and sexting.. Left me crying.. ya'll better listen to Tony and if it hasn't been you thank God and set the no friend boundaries.
I believe it. My ex... went to his ex baby mama to talk about me. Claiming she fair.... He told her all about me but keeps everything about her from me. You right... I don't trust him if I had a 10 foot pole.
Beware of a man with multiple female friends. I heard that before! It's sad for men to play immature child'd game .I'm a grown ass woman and I need a grown ass man!!💋
Without even watching the video, my immediate answer is NO. I have maybe one guy "friend", married or otherwise who have not at some point "come on" to me. That's the reason why I keep ALL married men at arms lengths, because, I am very aware that after a few conversations and some giggles from a woman, most men EASILY becomes like putty in the hands. Especially, if the woman is attractive. IMO
Do you know I just cut off a guy I really liked because of this! I told him from the start I was open to something more solid. Not that he had to be the one but it was what i wanted to be open to. Well after 3 months of spending time together, I had the feeling to ask him if he was seeing someone and he told me no but he had several close female friends who he spoke to several times a WEEK. How they shared personal issues and "helped" each other out. when I asked how they would feel about him being with one person, he told me they would wonder why her and not me. I cut it off so fast. He tried to get me to compromise. He said well how about once a week. I told him to take all the days in the week to talk to them and dont let me stop him from doing what he wanted to do. It was such an experience. we got along and thought we were hitting it off. He couldn't understand. the whole time i was poring into him, he was poring into someone else.....Such a huge lesson. Our values did not line up. He tried to make me feel like I was doing something wrong.
My ex had a arsenal of women as friends. He got mad when ever I expressed I felt it was inappropriate. He always got defensive and said, I’m not letting friends go I had before you. You’re too insecure. That’s what made me single. Nope! Bye.
Yeah he was messing with them. It happens on both sides. Example would be women in a relationship and yet have a lot of male friends. She would gaslight a lot but make no mistake, men and women can't be friends it's not possible especially two adults of opposite sex. They must be doing something and it's that simple
So you choose to get into a relationship with him knowing he had all these female friends. Then once you were in the relationship you decided to pressure him to drop all his female friends. You're controlling. Especially as he had these friends before he met you. I'm sure he'll have met someone that didn't try to destroy his life.
I really had 2 tell a guy "friend" this a lil while ago... He was hitting me up everyday and im like, i dont have no problems with you but i dont wanna talk 2 u everyday... Im looking pass u 4 my husband lol.
Listen to me!!! Tony is right. I saw it happen between my Aunt and a guy she thought was her friend for over 30 years....She moved back down south after a break up. He invited her to come hang out with him in ATL for the weekend. Then he made his move. She turned him down and they haven't spoken since. They were so called friends since their mid twenties. She is now 57 this happened around 4 years ago. So Tony is correct they will lie in waiting for the perfect time to make a move!
Ladies when I say this man is telling us the truth and nothing but the truth.....believe me he is on point 👌💯... No matter how many times you tell these guys "I don't like you like that" , they will keep things low and pop up with the chasing again after you have gotten comfortable.
My question is did Adam or Eve have friends? Did Noah have friends or Joseph of the opposite sex? David did have lady friends same with Solomon but you see what it turned out to be in the end. (Too many marriages or sweethearts) This is why you don't gain friendships and make it personal. Unless you guys want a relationship
@@christianhenry4173a friendship is a relationship. I have female friends but I’m also the type of guy who can get it on his own too. The ones who can’t say dudes be friends just so they can hit
I’m eating my lunch while watching this and I darn near spit my salad out when he said “She had a big ol tongue 😛 “ Lol, I’m crying over here! I love your messages, Tony!
I have been saying this since I was in college. I learned really quickly that men and women claiming that somebody of the opposite sex was like their best friend, brother or sister, usually meant that they had sexual history of some kind. Being a person waiting in the friend zone is not the same as being a friend.
I’m only into the first part of this video and I know I did the right thing by ending my relationship last night with my companion. He has a female friend who he was intimate with years ago (per him) and last night from his mouth he told me he speaks with her almost every other day. I ended that relationship immediately and like you said he got all emotional about it and not once said he would end the friendship, so I happily ended out relationship. Of course he’s not happy but my happiness is much more important than anyone else’s.
Yooooooo We got to protect Tony at ALL COST! We are literally in the 2nd month of 2020 and He’s given us WISDOM to shift your bloodline. Seriously . Now I watch the videos to gain knowledge and wait for him to say “ YOU HEEEEEREEEE MEEEH!” Because please believe a REAL READ is coming 😆😆😆😆 a NICE NASTY ONE! Keep snatching them lost souls out of darkness ✊🏽 because In all actuality the audience he’s speaking too will more than likely interact with his children as time evolves or in their generation ... that’s just how life is . So thanks TONY for walking In POWEEEEER💪🏽
I’ve been trying to have this same conversation with a friend. You can NOT be friends with a man, especially when that man is married. I see that as inappropriate, especially when he’s telling you his marital problems, talking to you late at night, and comes to your side whenever you need him...you are well beyond the friend zone in my opinion. I need to send her this video.
LB Creates I’ve been trying to tell my best friend of ten years that it’s not possible but she insist it is...and for ten years we go back to that debate. I came to that conclusion in my late 20s when my guy friend asked if we could be more. I was flabbergasted! “You mean u like me like a gf?!”...and she too have a similar relationship with a married guy. I’m like sis, “stop playing yourself.”
The 20s me I would argue, the 30s me, I HEAR NO LIES, YA HEAR ME!!!! I haven't had not one lil Ugly, just a "friend"....not shoot their shot eventually or say a subliminal msg letting me know they want it, NOT 1! I've had their girlfriends call/text my phone because I was brought up. I don't even give men ("friend") my number anymore because of that. I only give my number out unless we're dating....the others have to talk to me on social media outlets those associates. I truly learned this so many different ways.
Thank you Toni Gaskin for taking us inside the mind of a man. This is why I have no guy friends! I want only one man to be my husband and best friend. 🙏 God bless you thank you again for helping us women you are also hilarious.
Im crying,' lil ugly' and the frog analogies..🤣 Appreciate the honesty and the realness because we need this! Really important for us to know and here from a real dude.
So true one person will become attached. Secret attraction It is similar to u having a crush on someone who never approaches you because they dont see you the same way.
🤣🤣😂😂😂Your stories are too funny but thank-you for sharing this information! When I was married, my ex- husband tried to make me feel like I was insecure because of his best friend. Women have intuition about another female point blank period!!
Yes!!.. I'm in this situation right now. Trying to tell my partner his female friend wants him and he don't believe me..he say I'm jealous and insecure. But I know I'm not. Men are so stupid
Broke up with an ex: we were both in our early 20s at the time. Me: "we can be friends" Ex: "no we can't" I'm 35 now and I know better than to ever utter those words again‼️😁 Be Blessed❣️🙏🏾
I recently dumped a guy whom I was dating. And he sent me a pic of him holding hands with the female friend. I felt so disrespected and I dumped him. There's no man that can be that close to a female and claim to be just friends. No ways
exactly!!!! It's just smoke and mirrors that they, these cowardly men, put up!!!! No normal hetero man hangs around and out with a reasonably attractive hetero woman without any sexual liking towards her! No man!
I had a long term friend for years. We were attracted to each other but never crossed the line. I moved to another state and had not seen him in years. He visited me at my home, and guess what happened. Yep.. That was the first and last time. All those years of conversing and sharing intimate thoughts came to a head. All those years, we labeled each other as just friends...Thankfully, neither of us were dating anyone so no infidelity here.
@@Glamrocs @ Glamrocs yes that can happen and fortunately for us it didn't. But, the distance and the fact that we both started dating put us is the Friends Twice Removed box; which is working just fine LOL!
I haven't even finished watching the video and he is right. I have struggled with this in my previous relationship. I didn't openly allow my ex boyfriend to have a female friend. I felt deep down inside that he loved her. They called each other bro and sister. I felt like the only reason why they didn't date or become Bf or Gf was because she didn't want him in that way. He didn't want to see my point of view though. His own sister even admitted to me that he used to like her... I knew that for myself. Although she had a boyfriend of her own, I felt like my boyfriend at the time was there to stroke her ego on a continuous basis. They have known each other since high school too. He talked to her frequently meaning a few times out the week but never talked to her around me. Sounds odd. I know right. Once I told him to dropped her, he argued with me for awhile. He felt like I was ruining their friendship. His older male cousin had to tell him that losing me wasn't worth it before he actually decided to stop talking to her. In the meantime I felt insecure about it and I even doubted my decision at times but this video gave me the confirmation that I needed and I am so thankful for it. Foreal. Keep up the good work !
@@bodiendominique400 He finally decided to have a conversation with her about boundaries and them not talking as much or at all. Of course, I wasn't around when this conversation took place but from what he told me that she was mad basically 🤷🏾♀️.
My best male friend and I have been friends for 17 years and I used to think men and women could be just friends because I didn’t see him that way.. until one day I realized he’s exactly what I needed in a husband. It’s the perfect situation - to be best friends with your spouse! He told me he’s been in love with me since we were teenagers and I feel lucky knowing that he loved me so consistently even when he didn’t get what he wanted immediately. It’s said men look for sex and find love and women look for love and find sex. I highly suggest young men to remain friends with the woman they want to marry someday.
You are 100% right Tony. I always knew that anyway. My friends are so naive and don’t realise that guys wait for years to make their move and in the meantime they see other women.
Friends with benefits - in waiting. That resonated with me. A majority of the men I’ve encountered in my life fall into that category. Which makes it very hard for me to trust them.
I watched this video a few years ago…& one “friend” came to mind…now I’m watching it again & the same person is coming to mind…he’s definitely NOT my friend & has been doing the VERY thing TG says…my friend isn’t ugly at all though but I know his true character because I’ve seen him in relationships. He’s helped me moved after a break up, bought me a care basket when I had covid, bailed me outta jail & helped me out during my struggle…I see him as a friend but once he wouldn’t stop talking to me after his fiancée didn’t like me for no reason, I see now, she knew HE liked me for way more than a friend…I knew what was going on then. He just said today how my butt looked so good he wanted to grab it & I told him he would’ve been getting up off the floor too! Anyways, this was confirmation for me. I have to stop talking to him because he definitely is waiting his turn 🤦🏾♀️…known him since 2015….it’s 2023.
Wow, right out the gate, I agree. First many people overuse the word friend when they mean acquaintance or associate. Second just coz you think it’s platonic doesn’t mean you know 100% what going on in the other person’s mind and lastly, yeh no matter how long you’ve been friends, once one of you has the opportunity to be in a serious relationship, the relationship needs to take priority or there will be problems. So you are pretty much investing in a friendship that can (and should) be downgraded in a moment’s notice.
Thank you. I am in a current "friendship" and had a lot of questions. Beginning to rethink this. Past friendships with men ended awkwardly. It is all beginning to make sense now. I never thought that this energy was blocking potential mates. Mind officially blown.
Be blessed Tony!!! This is so true! I tried to remain friends with my ex’s and without fail, they always tried to shoot their shot! I had a male associate who would get super jealous of my current relationship so I had to cut him off!
Bosslady Pebbles I have been cutting folks off. My mom tried to tell me over the years. Ex boyfriends,Ex Lovers, and evening a friend if need be. And my sister tried to tell me too. I have cleaned my slate. You and all of us will be blessed for letting them go. After thinking about all what he said I think this is how I’ve lost out on some people that were good for me over the years. Amen our God has gave us all another chance to make things right even if not with that one that we wanted to be with.
Yes indeed! I’m so proud of you for doing the work that was necessary for you to have what God has for you! We’re here to support and encourage each other because it’s not easy! Be blessed girl! We are here to help you along the way
marla c Yes indeed! I’m so proud of you for doing the work that was necessary for you to have what God has for you! We’re here to support and encourage each other because it’s not easy! Be blessed girl! We are here to help you along the way
This is so true. I am so glad you brought this out about men and women being friends. I've always felt this way. At the same time I didnt realize when men were shooting their shot at me . I was so oblivious. This was an eye-opener and an "Aha" moment.
Luckily I have a few male friends from over 20 years ago. They are now married and we have absolutely never had anything sexual happen. But, I feel like if a man has the right set of circumstances line up and he thinks he can get away with it...........look. I don't put anything past any man. Good video Tony! Be blessed!
@@14kurtismiller since I got divorced two have taken themselves off my friends list. They tried to shoot their shot. It makes me sad. Like is Tony the only loyal dude out here???? It's disgusting....like what is it all for?
I had a couple of exes that had female friends smh. But when I looked deeper they use to sleep together in the past and now they are calling each other friends. Never again.
I just stopped talking to a guy who has female friends. He was out with one at 3am. I don’t have any male friends at all. I don’t want a man that has female friends.
Thank you for confirmation. I've been praying and asking God who this man is that recently popped up in my life asking to be my friend and take me out to lunch but he has a live in girlfriend who he claims is cheating on him. I told him no i'm not going out on a date with a man that has a girlfriend and he told me he's willing to wait as long as he has too even for a year. but just confirmed what i was feeling in my spirit about him being sent from the Devil as a distraction so now it makes sense he was sent to keep me from noticing my future husband which must mean he's very close. thank you and God Bless you for exposing these little boys.
My ex had female “friends” come to find out he had slept with all of them. My spidey sense was going off but i didn’t listen. Finally asked God for a spirit of discernment and everything came out. They were sexting then he cheated on me with one of them, i.e. why he’s an ex. They knew about me but they were in love with him and they stuck around for it. It had happened in all his relationships before. Now he wants to be my friend. Ha. Funny story though. Those friends ultimately moved on to their men and cut him off. They respected their relationship but didn’t care about mine. 🤦🏽♀️ Guess he just lonely now and trying to build up a new roster.
Yeah I'm questioning if this happened with my husband and his female friends... He told her after he married me that he wished he had married her..How did you find out that he had sex with his friends and why would they keep his secret?
Shante S Sorry girl, just saw your message. I saw the messages and things he’d say to me didn’t sit right if they were just friends so I’d just outright ask him. His excuse was he didn’t like ending things on bad terms in other words he liked keeping those doors open. 🙄
I watch every video you post, and I started watching this one and was boutta turn it off, it was too close to home lol!! ( I stopped talking to my male friend last week because of him taking it too far, repeatedly) I still feel a little hurt that it had to come to our friendship ending, and yo video was SPOT ON, it hurt lol. But God had told me to let him go, he is in the way. Then you just said that the same thing about the energy transfere!!!😭. I thank God for you Tony, I have grown so much watching your video. Be blessed, love ya brother Tony!
Almost in my 40s and never had a male friend who DIDN'T like me.
Yup!
Ain't that the truth
Exactly
You never will....
@mizzmolly Not everyone
“Energy does not die , it transfers “
This right here!!!😂
Phew!!! I gasped when he said that
My husband and I both agreed there is No such thing as an opposite sex friend..He's my only friend..I'm his only friend...PERIOD
What if that women gave him a place to stay
@@bufubufu8258 he can keep staying with her for good!
Sheila King wish we did that , now we’re going thru a divorce.
What if the friend was a coworker he had to travel with alot and they became friends?
Amen
I never believed men and women can be just friends which is why I dont date men that say they have female friends, in most cases one is attracted to the other one who doesnt feel the same or they already been together and became friends lol no thanks I'll pass
Did you see ATL housewives episode, Cynthia Bailey fiancee had all his female friends over to hang out. It was like 8 or 10 women. I don't trust him at all.
100% agree
All the men friends I’ve had, ended up expressing that they wanted to have sex, directly or indirectly so no, women and men cannot be Friends
I'm not saying they are all bad, but women with a lot of dudes as friends are a red flag. The primary reason being is that she is the source of all the trouble. Ever notice when they say they don't like to hang around other women because women cause too much drama? Ask the women that were around her in reference to the drama and you will have your answer...
(Here's a hint: It involves "extracurricular activities", LMAO!)
Kelci Bee yes, I was thinking the same thing! I bet Mike has slept with one of those female friends!!
When I got serious with my lady I cut all the other ladies off. Whenever they reached out to me I told them straight that I'm in a committed relationship with the woman that's going to be my wife and mother of my children. If they keep trying to contact me and not respect my relationship I simply block them and move on.
Amen, wish more men would do the same as you! A grown man for sure! 🙏
Bravo!! 👏👏👏👏
Amen
You did the right thing👏
You are different
You might not know this BUT you are a comedian in the midst of your ministry.
Girl say that. This man is hilarious!!
Cynthia Wright yessss
Yesss😂
Yes lol
Cynthia Wright “tore out the frame” 🤣😂🤣 that was a new one for me
Yep, I just cut my last male friend off this Monday because I realized that he was toooooooo close to me and I was telling him too much and allowing him to be my emotional support and he was doing the same thing too. He is a great guy and we liked each other but he has things going on that are deal breakers for me. No more blocking my husband!!! This is an on time word! Be blessed Tony!
You share everything with the one you love, not people out side of your relationship, that's madness.
@@14kurtismiller That's true, I only need one male friend and that's my husband. As Tony says, " POINT BLANK PERIOD."
YEEEESSS! U just inspired me to do this TO-DAY! I LITERALLY said those words an hour ago- touching all on me at Wal-Mart, I sd: "Stop! My future husband might be here. You not gon block my blessing!" 🤣
@GoldLoveee You are valuable and what you need WITHOUT, let me repeat that, WITHOUT the deal breakers is available to you. You should ask yourself if these things never changed would you be satisfied, if you would then they are not deal breakers, they are preferences. If you would not then cut your losses and get out of your own way so you can have your ideal man. DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS, know your value and understand that you have boundaries/deal breakers to protect you. To ignore and lower your own standards would be to betray yourself therefore showing this man that you don't even believe in your own standards which will open the door for him to disrespect because you are not respecting or honoring yourself or your standards. Please don't break your own heart💕
@@sadieashby2266 Yes, Yes! Life coach in the making. Two more months and I'll be certified. I want to see everybody live their best lives filled with real genuine love for self and others, and sometimes loving others means leaving them alone to grow without us enabling, pacifing, or being a crutch for them by lowering our own safety standards. I'm like OSHA and the health inspector I'm closing the doors on people, places, and things that aren't up to code. Everybody else should consider that too.
Im so happy a man admitted this. I have argued this with so many women. I believe these women enjoy the attention and its a safe situation of "waiting" for them too...
So true. Loved the attention from my male friends. Now I know better. Thank you Tony
After watching this as a man, it had offended me at first but it is all true
all the best to you and everyone who sees this comment and video.
They feel like they’re competing with other women. It’s sick. Then when it happens back to them they want to be sad lol
100% this
Yes your right. It's really sad to me they believe a man is just going to support them and they don't care about how half of them are just brothers.
Women fail to realize rather your religious or not. A man is a man. Saved or unsaved. Women should understand you may like communication but a man is not a emotional pillow. I've heard many stories, Women prefer male friends over female friends due to no jealousy involved. If only women can understand a man can not think like a woman 🤦♂️
Wowww, energy does not die, it just transfers. When you have a male friend, you’re blocking your husband. Wowwww.
Yeah, that was deep...blew my mind.
Wow. Really! Wow..
I believe that male energy blocks the husband as well. Ladies. Be careful.
Gem Gem It does , I told my male friend he’ll get a invite to my wedding and he suck his teeth.
Glamrocs Makeup 😂 yup that’s no friend !
Oooohh this is too true
I'm starting to believe it is true
True and vice versa
Dangggg. I wasn’t ready for that! “Friends with benefits in waiting.” Good info!
It’s so true
Nothin but truth that I learned the hard way!! A “friend” who has a girlfriend was calling & texting me for conversation & emotional support. He told me he doesn’t agree with how his girlfriend is raising her kids. I confided in him about a situation I went thru after a horrible date & he comforted me. Shortly after, he invited me over for drinks to celebrate my new job & before I knew it, went too far. 🤦🏽♀️
He even whispered in my ear how long he’s wanted me. For YEARS. I said “what about your girlfri...” & he shh’d me. After, I left feeling so confused. And now it’s awkward because I don’t want to be “used” for emotional support without all the benefits of a relationship. He’s clearly involved & I’m no side piece. I started keeping our conversations short. I don’t wanna hear about his girlfriend or the issues with the kids anymore. He’ll call or text every now & then to chat or send a funny meme. Still testing the waters...
Tony is absolutely spot on with this.
Just the emotional connection is wrong! If a man is in a committed relationship his emotional support should come from his wife/ significant other. There is room for support from sisters and mother but even that has boundaries!
Amen!
Yes🙌🙌
❤
Yep ..I'm a single, Black, woman living in a small rural community...I won't even meet with my pastor alone...not that he is at all a bad guy, a church member husband stopped by to give me chickens they raised...he could not come in my house.... he's a nice man... nothing to do with him..I got the chicken and thanked him and sent him off...I'm old fashioned and realistic! I won't accept offers for free help in house projects! Not because I'm some beauty queen... I'm new to the community and they may just want to try me.....I do limited eye contact, conversation and I engage with the women... Not
trying to be on Dr Phil 😂
You are right Tony!!!
Good decision
Good strategy because otherwise you will be ostracized
Miss Yetta Please be extra careful with women in the church also. Some try to connect a bond thru a past event and swoop in to be attracted to you. Be careful.
You're a smart woman :)
My mother and grandmother always told me that there's no such thing as just a friend when dealing with the opposite sex. Every male friend I had either had feelings for me or saw me as sexually attractive. To make the long story short, some one always ends up catching feelings even when one is trying to keep it secret when trying to be just friends.
@@Dana_inc I wish I could agree. I haven't experienced it unless he was gay.
Tony tell your wife, I said, thank you for sharing you with us. Thank you for sharing your gift with us!!
I’ve always agreed that these types of relationships can transform into developing feelings. I have debated this many times.
Angel - Words of Life - Howard I agree too. Like Tony said even “lil ugly” can become attractive after multiple consistent conversations.
Marisha Lewis 😂 😂 yes, you’re right even “little ugly” too! I couldn’t stop laughing when he said that!
Indigogoddess1111 Stevens no lies told 🤣
Situationships
I feel like this happens on both sides
Yep, had a male friend and we were both attracted to each other. Never kissed or had sex but our treatment of each other was intimate. He got a gf and he told me we couldn't be "friends like we were." I respected his decisions and haven't spoken to him since. Yep...just friends all right...
I'm not gon lie, I tried to dodge this video and then it popped up again. I needed this message, it was hard to hear, but I needed this pill!
Truth.... someone always ends up lusting and crushing on the other. I learned!!! Thank you and be blessed!
One of my biggest regrets was falling for a man with ONLY female friends. Everything you said is true. I feel validated listening to this.
EXACTLY ‼️
@kenyagirly what does that mean?
@kenyagirly are you narcissistic attention seeking type that love to have guy flock over her lol
@BeautyQueen2023X so you are the disrespectful and insensitive female friend??
A woman’s intuition never LIE hallelujah......Be blessed 👏👏👏👏👏👏
This ☝️👏👏👏💯💯 100% true 🎯
He said..what does that sound like?🤯🤯🤯 exactly like building a relationship and abstaining until marriage 🤦🏽♀️..point blank period...message received
Yes Sherell, message on point!
I agree with this ! I’ve had so many males friends like me. Also, they distracted me from dating because of always being there for me.
Ditto 💯💯💯
My ex did exactly what Tony just said! He got soooo mad when I told him I felt uncomfortable about him and his female “best friend” .. he called me insecure, but I’d bet everything that deep down he really loves her as more than a friend.. this confirms it
Sasha Iman girl!!!! My ex texted his girl “friend” a month into our relationship that he had a wet dream about her. This message is so true!!! Just confirms it.
Adriana Renee smh 🤦🏽♀️
Went through exactly the same thing. Consequently he is now my ex because he wouldn't give up his " best friend. "
@@caroloshea7830 much love. Looking back, I definitely made the right decision, our intuition is our best guide💞
I am so glad I am not the only one . Plus I got cheated one or the friend was his ex
When a real woman gives her battles to God and trust God to make a move people do disappear. Trust and believe. You don’t have to write letters text or any of that. It has happen for me many times. I had to get out of a toxic relationship and I asked God and all my angels to please make a move . In three days the problem person called to say he was in Florida and did not know how he got there. He did not know anyone there he said he found himself getting in the bus to Florida . I never heard from him again. That’s when I knew I was in Gods hands and protected.
No.
Once i am done with a guy, I am done with him!
Same here 💯
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That's me....I don't need no mo friends....
I don't tell my hopes and dreams to nobody. Lol
Brit Brat I been slow to this part, but I got it.😉
Virgo?
@ASHE 360 human 🤣😂
I'm still trying to learn how to do this... it always goes left... I keep telling myself to talk to God ...I always end up talking to a family member or friend 🤡
I agree! 100% truth! When i was in a relationship with my ex, he had a female friend (probably still has). I didn't feel good about her because we fought several times about his "friendship". In a meantime, i found his romantic messages addressed to her on FB when we weren't in a relationship.He was in love with her, she didn't care about him.
The moral of the story: there's no friendship between men and women. It's either relationship or nothing. Point blank period!
I just broke up with a guy I really like because he has a female friend. I told him I didn't like it, he's acting like he dropped it. I'm not playing this game. Just him thinking it's okay to go fix her stuff when we're dating tells me what I need to know. I gotta let it burn. I don't have male friends. Every one of them was a potential partner, and every one of them gets the cold treatment after I get a boyfriend.
I once dated a man who had a female best friend that he would often talk about, hang out with, and do favors for constantly. It was extremely off putting. Not to mention, that spending that much time around a woman platonically made him slightly effeminate. Tony is right that spending too much time with the opposite sex just ends up repelling potential partners. If you are already that emotionally invested in another woman, there is no point in us dating.
@krinka - well done!!! You protected your dignity and your peace of mind by dropping him!!!
He will wear you out and twice on Sunday😂🤣😂...you are so right TGaskins!! He is a man first. I agree with you...the flesh is week. Don't play.
Totally agree, we are not kids. This shouldn’t be something taught to adults.. we should know better . No such thing as female/ male friends unless he’s gay ! I don’t date men with “female friends”. I let them know from the start, then they think I’m jealous smh. The truth is I’m not stupid !
Listen! This is a whole entire word Tony Gaskins! A person CAN NOT develop a lasting, committed and loving relationship with their partner if their energies are split. If a “friend” is “tending” to all of your emotional needs there is NO ROOM for a partner/spouse in your life. Periodt! Thank you for keeping it real!
omg I always said men and women cannot be friends! I never had a male friend NOT attempt to overstep!
I was once told by a guy “friend” that he considered everyone in his circle as a potential sex partner. I’m not sure if he meant both men and women in his circle but he is no longer my “friend”
Yeaaa I really don’t have male friends like that. At the end of the day they try to sleep with you 😆. I always keep my distance.
Right but I have male friends, that I’ve known for 5 years plus, they might say lil things to try to test me , but I nip that crab in the butt real quick. Especially if I have a man.
That's what happen.... eventually
Tony, you are really making me think🤔
Not all guys will try to sleep with u tho, dont generalise, I have a male bestfriend and we been friendss for yearrss and never had any types of other feelings towards each other
@@chynadoll77cyn59 if you know that ultimately their aim is to sleep with you and you don't want that, then why do you have Male friends??? Because you like the validation. You like to have something lined up for days when you're bored or lonely. Men and women cannot be friends.
You never know what’s going on in another person mind. I believe that men and women CANNOT be only friends
The hardest part is the woman always believes and convinces herself that the friendship is genuine while in reality it's not.
So by that logic, I can’t have any friends because I’m bisexual?
If one of the genders plans on having sex with the other gender they are More than friends
Agree....
@@rashelm.32 Lol...u silly
I cannot with "lil ugly" and "looks challenged"! lmbo!
Ms. Jac512 🤣
Haha yeah🤣
Tony, you are telling the God honest truth. "Im not insecure my man can have women friends". 20 years of marriage one day. One too many friendly conversations lead to talk about underwear that lead to pictures and sexting.. Left me crying.. ya'll better listen to Tony and if it hasn't been you thank God and set the no friend boundaries.
No because they lie! They say they're ok with being friends but there's always an agenda.
Yep and a lot of denial too
I believe it. My ex... went to his ex baby mama to talk about me. Claiming she fair.... He told her all about me but keeps everything about her from me. You right... I don't trust him if I had a 10 foot pole.
Beware of a man with multiple female friends. I heard that before! It's sad for men to play immature child'd game .I'm a grown ass woman and I need a grown ass man!!💋
If you get a man that you love and his pure he might be doing it unknowingly educate him about the matter first before pushing him away.
Men are hunters by nature, which is why they can and will wait 10-20 years for you. 👌🏻👍
I've passed out about 10 times listening to Tony...Amen to everything in this video!!!
Without even watching the video, my immediate answer is NO. I have maybe one guy "friend", married or otherwise who have not at some point "come on" to me. That's the reason why I keep ALL married men at arms lengths, because, I am very aware that after a few conversations and some giggles from a woman, most men EASILY becomes like putty in the hands. Especially, if the woman is attractive. IMO
google user ikr. It’s like wats the point of being friends with a married man
We agree!! We have a video about it called just friends and the answer is no for best friends
Yeah sounds about right. I have guy "friends".I had to keep my distance from them cause they like me a little more than that.
Married men always want to be my friend and talk to me
@@dominiqueblagojevic9447 Me too Those are definitely the ones to set boundaries with
Do you know I just cut off a guy I really liked because of this! I told him from the start I was open to something more solid. Not that he had to be the one but it was what i wanted to be open to. Well after 3 months of spending time together, I had the feeling to ask him if he was seeing someone and he told me no but he had several close female friends who he spoke to several times a WEEK. How they shared personal issues and "helped" each other out. when I asked how they would feel about him being with one person, he told me they would wonder why her and not me. I cut it off so fast. He tried to get me to compromise. He said well how about once a week. I told him to take all the days in the week to talk to them and dont let me stop him from doing what he wanted to do.
It was such an experience. we got along and thought we were hitting it off. He couldn't understand. the whole time i was poring into him, he was poring into someone else.....Such a huge lesson. Our values did not line up. He tried to make me feel like I was doing something wrong.
"If you get froggy, he'll let you leap and tear you out the frame." 😄They'll wait 10, 20 years...I so believe this!!
Me too
Demetria Calvin what is froggy??!
10-20 years?!?! Mind is blown
@@redpillqueen8888 it means having the desire to leap into something.
@@cireyes92 I know. 🤯🙌🏽
All 45 minutes and 27 seconds of this video is straight gold.
My ex had a arsenal of women as friends. He got mad when ever I expressed I felt it was inappropriate. He always got defensive and said, I’m not letting friends go I had before you. You’re too insecure. That’s what made me single. Nope! Bye.
Yeah he was messing with them. It happens on both sides. Example would be women in a relationship and yet have a lot of male friends. She would gaslight a lot but make no mistake, men and women can't be friends it's not possible especially two adults of opposite sex. They must be doing something and it's that simple
So you choose to get into a relationship with him knowing he had all these female friends. Then once you were in the relationship you decided to pressure him to drop all his female friends. You're controlling. Especially as he had these friends before he met you. I'm sure he'll have met someone that didn't try to destroy his life.
I’m literally crying about the story he told about the looks challenge “friend” 😂😂
foreverApril yess!!!! 🤣😂😂😂😂
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Tony be so serious but he is hillarious
😂😂😂😂
😆they are the nicest people
I really had 2 tell a guy "friend" this a lil while ago... He was hitting me up everyday and im like, i dont have no problems with you but i dont wanna talk 2 u everyday... Im looking pass u 4 my husband lol.
Listen to me!!! Tony is right. I saw it happen between my Aunt and a guy she thought was her friend for over 30 years....She moved back down south after a break up. He invited her to come hang out with him in ATL for the weekend. Then he made his move. She turned him down and they haven't spoken since. They were so called friends since their mid twenties. She is now 57 this happened around 4 years ago. So Tony is correct they will lie in waiting for the perfect time to make a move!
@Indigogoddess1111 Stevens Yess... he was!!!
"If you keep leaping, he'll let you be his lillypad" 😂😂
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Lmao
Y’all needs ta stop 🤣🤣🤣
True
😂😂😂
“I’m here looking like a Hershey kisss with the sun in my face” what 😂😂😭😭
I had a guy who told me “I’m a man first.” From then on I knew he wasn’t a friend.
Always remember the chris rock joke about the BREAK GLASS IN CASE OF EMERGENCY male/female friend dynamic....lol..🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Yep..."a d**k in a glass jar" in case of emergency break open glass 😂😂😂😂
Ladies when I say this man is telling us the truth and nothing but the truth.....believe me he is on point 👌💯... No matter how many times you tell these guys "I don't like you like that" , they will keep things low and pop up with the chasing again after you have gotten comfortable.
this is the unadulterate truth of the word. Tony is speaking facts. love this. i was smiling throughout the entire video.
Tony, I use to believe that men and women could be friends until I listen to your explanation that we really cannot be true true friends. I get it😁
For sure, a man will touch his friends. They rap to you in an undercover smooth way. Don't think they not checking you out as you walk away...
Me too. Thanks for opening up my eyes.
We talked about this in church tonight. It's just the way it is. I'm 60 and finale accepting this as TRUTH! 👌🤓
My question is did Adam or Eve have friends?
Did Noah have friends or Joseph of the opposite sex?
David did have lady friends same with Solomon but you see what it turned out to be in the end. (Too many marriages or sweethearts)
This is why you don't gain friendships and make it personal. Unless you guys want a relationship
@@christianhenry4173a friendship is a relationship. I have female friends but I’m also the type of guy who can get it on his own too. The ones who can’t say dudes be friends just so they can hit
I’m eating my lunch while watching this and I darn near spit my salad out when he said “She had a big ol tongue 😛 “ Lol, I’m crying over here! I love your messages, Tony!
Shia S. I’m dead 😂😂😂😂😂
Tony's wife is very lucky and I'm sure vice versa.
I have been saying this since I was in college. I learned really quickly that men and women claiming that somebody of the opposite sex was like their best friend, brother or sister, usually meant that they had sexual history of some kind. Being a person waiting in the friend zone is not the same as being a friend.
You just explained what I’m currently experiencing.
Great video!! Had this happen to me in my early 20s, he’s speaking the truth. Speaking for men, we know what it is from day 1
Absolutely right on point. Men and women build a relationship that leads to marriage through friendship. Interaction with intent and purpose.....
Tony is telling the truth
Listen up Ladies
yup!!!
I’m only into the first part of this video and I know I did the right thing by ending my relationship last night with my companion. He has a female friend who he was intimate with years ago (per him) and last night from his mouth he told me he speaks with her almost every other day. I ended that relationship immediately and like you said he got all emotional about it and not once said he would end the friendship, so I happily ended out relationship. Of course he’s not happy but my happiness is much more important than anyone else’s.
Yooooooo We got to protect Tony at ALL COST! We are literally in the 2nd month of 2020 and He’s given us WISDOM to shift your bloodline. Seriously . Now I watch the videos to gain knowledge and wait for him to say “ YOU HEEEEEREEEE MEEEH!” Because please believe a REAL READ is coming 😆😆😆😆 a NICE NASTY ONE! Keep snatching them lost souls out of darkness ✊🏽 because In all actuality the audience he’s speaking too will more than likely interact with his children as time evolves or in their generation ... that’s just how life is . So thanks TONY for walking In POWEEEEER💪🏽
I’ve been trying to have this same conversation with a friend. You can NOT be friends with a man, especially when that man is married. I see that as inappropriate, especially when he’s telling you his marital problems, talking to you late at night, and comes to your side whenever you need him...you are well beyond the friend zone in my opinion. I need to send her this video.
LB Creates I’ve been trying to tell my best friend of ten years that it’s not possible but she insist it is...and for ten years we go back to that debate. I came to that conclusion in my late 20s when my guy friend asked if we could be more. I was flabbergasted! “You mean u like me like a gf?!”...and she too have a similar relationship with a married guy. I’m like sis, “stop playing yourself.”
She not a friend. She’s a backup plan/safety net. Lol
The 20s me I would argue, the 30s me, I HEAR NO LIES, YA HEAR ME!!!! I haven't had not one lil Ugly, just a "friend"....not shoot their shot eventually or say a subliminal msg letting me know they want it, NOT 1! I've had their girlfriends call/text my phone because I was brought up. I don't even give men ("friend") my number anymore because of that. I only give my number out unless we're dating....the others have to talk to me on social media outlets those associates. I truly learned this so many different ways.
You go girl. I’m living and learning only 26 but reflecting on how SILLLY i was in college ! Hard to be kind to myself when i reflect
@@BreeziDeezi I understand completely. Life's lessons🤎
I've never allowed my man to have a female bestfriend! P-e-r-I-o-d! Word!
Thank you Toni Gaskin for taking us inside the mind of a man. This is why I have no guy friends! I want only one man to be my husband and best friend. 🙏 God bless you thank you again for helping us women you are also hilarious.
Out the frame, and twice on sunday 🤣 cheers
FLVRE music 🤣🤣😂
Im crying,' lil ugly' and the frog analogies..🤣 Appreciate the honesty and the realness because we need this! Really important for us to know and here from a real dude.
So true one person will become attached. Secret attraction
It is similar to u having a crush on someone who never approaches you because they dont see you the same way.
I kept entertaining him as a “friend” because I liked him as a boyfriend/husband
🤣🤣😂😂😂Your stories are too funny but thank-you for sharing this information! When I was married, my ex- husband tried to make me feel like I was insecure because of his best friend. Women have intuition about another female point blank period!!
Janel Sellers same!
Mine did the same. He had her as a best friend for years even had he phone number listed under a guys name
Just like men known other men, women know other women too.
Yes!!.. I'm in this situation right now. Trying to tell my partner his female friend wants him and he don't believe me..he say I'm jealous and insecure. But I know I'm not. Men are so stupid
Broke up with an ex: we were both in our early 20s at the time.
Me: "we can be friends"
Ex: "no we can't"
I'm 35 now and I know better than to ever utter those words again‼️😁
Be Blessed❣️🙏🏾
My sociology professor in undergrad said a similar message, but 20 year old me brushed it off. I get it now-and I don’t allow men to be my “friend.”
I recently dumped a guy whom I was dating. And he sent me a pic of him holding hands with the female friend. I felt so disrespected and I dumped him. There's no man that can be that close to a female and claim to be just friends. No ways
exactly!!!! It's just smoke and mirrors that they, these cowardly men, put up!!!! No normal hetero man hangs around and out with a reasonably attractive hetero woman without any sexual liking towards her! No man!
10 mins in, heard some good stuff. Proceed...
I had a long term friend for years. We were attracted to each other but never crossed the line. I moved to another state and had not seen him in years. He visited me at my home, and guess what happened. Yep.. That was the first and last time. All those years of conversing and sharing intimate thoughts came to a head. All those years, we labeled each other as just friends...Thankfully, neither of us were dating anyone so no infidelity here.
Sinya B This also happened to me and ruined our friendship. He’s my associate now . I keep conversations short.
@@Glamrocs @ Glamrocs yes that can happen and fortunately for us it didn't. But, the distance and the fact that we both started dating put us is the Friends Twice Removed box; which is working just fine LOL!
Lol 😆 God has a sense of humor with friendships
I haven't even finished watching the video and he is right. I have struggled with this in my previous relationship. I didn't openly allow my ex boyfriend to have a female friend. I felt deep down inside that he loved her. They called each other bro and sister. I felt like the only reason why they didn't date or become Bf or Gf was because she didn't want him in that way. He didn't want to see my point of view though. His own sister even admitted to me that he used to like her... I knew that for myself. Although she had a boyfriend of her own, I felt like my boyfriend at the time was there to stroke her ego on a continuous basis. They have known each other since high school too. He talked to her frequently meaning a few times out the week but never talked to her around me. Sounds odd. I know right. Once I told him to dropped her, he argued with me for awhile. He felt like I was ruining their friendship. His older male cousin had to tell him that losing me wasn't worth it before he actually decided to stop talking to her. In the meantime I felt insecure about it and I even doubted my decision at times but this video gave me the confirmation that I needed and I am so thankful for it. Foreal. Keep up the good work !
...to stroke the ego 🎌
You can if the sex was crap
So what happened after his cousin talked to him?
How did you know they spoke a few times a week? What made you feel it was love, and did they meet up?
@@bodiendominique400 He finally decided to have a conversation with her about boundaries and them not talking as much or at all. Of course, I wasn't around when this conversation took place but from what he told me that she was mad basically 🤷🏾♀️.
My best male friend and I have been friends for 17 years and I used to think men and women could be just friends because I didn’t see him that way.. until one day I realized he’s exactly what I needed in a husband. It’s the perfect situation - to be best friends with your spouse! He told me he’s been in love with me since we were teenagers and I feel lucky knowing that he loved me so consistently even when he didn’t get what he wanted immediately. It’s said men look for sex and find love and women look for love and find sex. I highly suggest young men to remain friends with the woman they want to marry someday.
You are 100% right Tony. I always knew that anyway. My friends are so naive and don’t realise that guys wait for years to make their move and in the meantime they see other women.
Friends with benefits - in waiting. That resonated with me. A majority of the men I’ve encountered in my life fall into that category. Which makes it very hard for me to trust them.
I watched this video a few years ago…& one “friend” came to mind…now I’m watching it again & the same person is coming to mind…he’s definitely NOT my friend & has been doing the VERY thing TG says…my friend isn’t ugly at all though but I know his true character because I’ve seen him in relationships.
He’s helped me moved after a break up, bought me a care basket when I had covid, bailed me outta jail & helped me out during my struggle…I see him as a friend but once he wouldn’t stop talking to me after his fiancée didn’t like me for no reason, I see now, she knew HE liked me for way more than a friend…I knew what was going on then.
He just said today how my butt looked so good he wanted to grab it & I told him he would’ve been getting up off the floor too! Anyways, this was confirmation for me. I have to stop talking to him because he definitely is waiting his turn 🤦🏾♀️…known him since 2015….it’s 2023.
Wow, right out the gate, I agree. First many people overuse the word friend when they mean acquaintance or associate. Second just coz you think it’s platonic doesn’t mean you know 100% what going on in the other person’s mind and lastly, yeh no matter how long you’ve been friends, once one of you has the opportunity to be in a serious relationship, the relationship needs to take priority or there will be problems. So you are pretty much investing in a friendship that can (and should) be downgraded in a moment’s notice.
Thank you. I am in a current "friendship" and had a lot of questions. Beginning to rethink this. Past friendships with men ended awkwardly. It is all beginning to make sense now. I never thought that this energy was blocking potential mates. Mind officially blown.
THIS MAN IS THE TRUTH!!!!!!!
Be blessed Tony!!! This is so true! I tried to remain friends with my ex’s and without fail, they always tried to shoot their shot! I had a male associate who would get super jealous of my current relationship so I had to cut him off!
Bosslady Pebbles I have been cutting folks off. My mom tried to tell me over the years. Ex boyfriends,Ex Lovers, and evening a friend if need be. And my sister tried to tell me too. I have cleaned my slate. You and all of us will be blessed for letting them go. After thinking about all what he said I think this is how I’ve lost out on some people that were good for me over the years. Amen our God has gave us all another chance to make things right even if not with that one that we wanted to be with.
Yes indeed! I’m so proud of you for doing the work that was necessary for you to have what God has for you! We’re here to support and encourage each other because it’s not easy! Be blessed girl! We are here to help you along the way
marla c Yes indeed! I’m so proud of you for doing the work that was necessary for you to have what God has for you! We’re here to support and encourage each other because it’s not easy! Be blessed girl! We are here to help you along the way
Lil’ ugly, looks challenged, you hear me? 😂😂😂 so funny. So good.
This is so true. I am so glad you brought this out about men and women being friends. I've always felt this way. At the same time I didnt realize when men were shooting their shot at me . I was so oblivious. This was an eye-opener and an "Aha" moment.
Luckily I have a few male friends from over 20 years ago. They are now married and we have absolutely never had anything sexual happen. But, I feel like if a man has the right set of circumstances line up and he thinks he can get away with it...........look. I don't put anything past any man. Good video Tony! Be blessed!
It can still happen. Married or not people are not always happy in their marriage, and can be patient enough to wait you out.
If you are friends with the wives like sister watch yo self
@@14kurtismiller since I got divorced two have taken themselves off my friends list. They tried to shoot their shot. It makes me sad. Like is Tony the only loyal dude out here???? It's disgusting....like what is it all for?
@@m.williams3497 I would never cheat with a married man. Some lines you just don't cross. Ain't enough loneliness in the world. I shut that crap down.
@@t.l1357 They may have always liked you but figured that you were weak so they'd strike.
Be Blessed in Palo Alto stay safe and productive
I had a couple of exes that had female friends smh. But when I looked deeper they use to sleep together in the past and now they are calling each other friends. Never again.
I just stopped talking to a guy who has female friends. He was out with one at 3am. I don’t have any male friends at all. I don’t want a man that has female friends.
Mrs Gaskins, please come & get your husband's phone- he is too hilarious..and definitely accurate.😂
I had to cut off a male friend. We were friends for over 10yrs however he was getting too touchy-feely ....it was very creepy and uncomfortable😣...
Thank you for confirmation. I've been praying and asking God who this man is that recently popped up in my life asking to be my friend and take me out to lunch but he has a live in girlfriend who he claims is cheating on him. I told him no i'm not going out on a date with a man that has a girlfriend and he told me he's willing to wait as long as he has too even for a year. but just confirmed what i was feeling in my spirit about him being sent from the Devil as a distraction so now it makes sense he was sent to keep me from noticing my future husband which must mean he's very close. thank you and God Bless you for exposing these little boys.
My ex had female “friends” come to find out he had slept with all of them. My spidey sense was going off but i didn’t listen. Finally asked God for a spirit of discernment and everything came out. They were sexting then he cheated on me with one of them, i.e. why he’s an ex. They knew about me but they were in love with him and they stuck around for it. It had happened in all his relationships before. Now he wants to be my friend. Ha.
Funny story though. Those friends ultimately moved on to their men and cut him off. They respected their relationship but didn’t care about mine. 🤦🏽♀️ Guess he just lonely now and trying to build up a new roster.
Wow. Much respect for your journey
No he wants to be your friend 😁 grown boy
Yeah I'm questioning if this happened with my husband and his female friends... He told her after he married me that he wished he had married her..How did you find out that he had sex with his friends and why would they keep his secret?
Girl them Spidey senses be true though and they will have you thinking you crazy.
Shante S Sorry girl, just saw your message. I saw the messages and things he’d say to me didn’t sit right if they were just friends so I’d just outright ask him. His excuse was he didn’t like ending things on bad terms in other words he liked keeping those doors open. 🙄
I watch every video you post, and I started watching this one and was boutta turn it off, it was too close to home lol!! ( I stopped talking to my male friend last week because of him taking it too far, repeatedly) I still feel a little hurt that it had to come to our friendship ending, and yo video was SPOT ON, it hurt lol. But God had told me to let him go, he is in the way. Then you just said that the same thing about the energy transfere!!!😭. I thank God for you Tony, I have grown so much watching your video. Be blessed, love ya brother Tony!