Life is short (how to spend it wisely) ⏱
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I love how your mother is solo travelling regardless of her age ❤
...and marital status. It seems the expectation is when you have a partner that you will always travel as a pair!
@@claireh5661 So true! After marriage if we wanna travel alone sometime, even our own family thinks that it's weird.
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Yeah, that's so cool.
probably nor that old !
I just turned 25 and time with family has felt so important to me recently. Seeing my parents age and siblings get married and have kids has shown me how fleeting milestone moments are. No more letting time pass me by!
Omg same!! I just turned 25 and this is exactly what I feel 😍
I'm also 25❤️
Yes me too! Savor it all! ❤
me too ❤️
same here. I'm 26, and I moved home after being abroad for a few years for this reason. Travelling is fun, but nothing beats the feeling of family and community.
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1. Prioritise time with family.
2. Be intentional about friendships.
3. Cherish time with your kids.
4. Nurture health in relationships with co-workers, because you spend 8 hours a day with them.
5. Enjoy more the time that you are alone.
All these have got nothing to do with how short life is.
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Are you some kind of AI?
As someone who is in her 60's and have raised 3 children, watched 6 granddaughters grow to adulthood and have been widowed for 11 years, I felt every moment that you spoke about. I'm in the alone time now, a lot. I bury myself in work and projects to keep away the loneliness that creeps in from time to time. Time with family and friends gets even more valued when you get to this age. Thank you for an inspiring video.
I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME LONELINESS. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Have you tried introspection/self reflection? My understanding is that we are afraid of being alone (and try to escape it with work etc.) because we are afraid of having to look within. If you do that, there is nothing to be afraid of anymore, and you will have your inner team around you anytime you want. Meditation is also helpful. These days, I am often alone but never lonely. :)
Would you like to become penpals ? I'm in my late 20's but it might be interesting to share our experiences
@@koellekind I have a strong Spiritual practice. I do meditate every day. I am also an Ordained Non-Denominational Minister. I am not one to feel loneliness all the time. Just moments of it. I like my own company. Wintertime is harder for me because of not being able to work. I am a landscaper by trade and winter is my down time. So a lot more introspection/self reflection takes place because I'm not working. But I also do all my home projects, painting, repairs in the winter because I'm so busy the rest of the year.
You are not lonely my dear aunt being alone is not a bad thing I m 27 years old and I lv my own company I practice self care activities and also I spend tym.wid my family too you are such a strong lady we all lv u ❤️ 💖
The fact that your mother is going on a solo backpacking trip??? That's incredible, and the biggest takeaway from this video for me. That even when older, you can travel, explore the world... you don't have to do it all when you're young.
Second favorite takeaway: we often don't have to learn things, we just have to be reminded of them.
Absolutely! My parents are the same age do the same and they actually have more time to spend traveling ❤
As I’m getting older, I’m starting to realise that I’ve outgrown so many friendships from my school and university days. I’m much happier not wasting my resources on friendships that aren’t worth investing in anymore and rather focusing on my current life with my current relationships and commitments like work and hobbies.
absolutely spot on. it's the outcome we don't emotionally want, but the outcome we have to reluctantly accept, when it comes to friendships/relationships.
It's tough to go through this but worth it
I'm 32 and I was orphaned a little over a month ago. My mom died when I was 27, my dad just 10 days before Christmas last year. Family was always important to me, but I was also always on the go throughout my twenties. I don't have any regrets about living my life and I am grateful for the time I had with them, but if I could pass one piece of advice on to my peers, it would be not to take the time you have with your parents for granted.
My fiancé, who also lost his dad too early in life, and I now have to navigate getting married and establishing a family of our own with just one "grandparent", his mom, to support us and love us and our future kids, and we are so grateful to have her and we will do our best to enjoy the time we have with her fully.
As an introvert, I enjoy spending time alone. However, I want to learn more about how to enjoy time with others. Thank you for your youtube discussion.
I'm 52 years young and really enjoy my own company. I exercise outside, read and garden all by myself as I have a busy life and need alone time for self care. Love, love, love this channel and the return of teatime Tuesdays!
Love that you are busy but concerned about self care. Me, too. I am amazed to hear so much wisdom from a much younger person!
Love the idea of Tea time Tuesday's!!
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Spending more time alone sounds like heaven to me. I wish I had a job that didn't require to talk to anyone at all. Odd how few people acknowledge how good it feels to just be left alone.
I feel you on this. Retired a year ago from healthcare customer services. I told my friends that I just wanted to be left alone!
I love being alone. I work from home, my husband is on the road everyday. I thought I would love to start a family, but I don't really want to give up the alone time ...yet (I am 28 for context)
You will have alone time plenty when you're old and your spouse and kids are gone.
See that’s the thing… I love having my alone time, but at the same time, I don’t. Every once and a while I go out with friends - it’s fun, but it drains me; but at the same time, I hate that it has to end bc I enjoy spending time with people. At the end of the day, I want to spend time with people, but my social skills suck… and they got worst during covid, so at college I’m trying to learn how to be social again; it’s hard. 😂
I am with you 100%. I renew well when alone. There are some people that thrive when in company of others.
I am 76 and always been rather solitary. I came to accept that part of my personality a long time ago, in spite of outside pressure to be more social. Your point is spot on that being alone doesn't necessarily equate to lonliness, many of us already living so, I have a small group of friends and family, but as I age the group is getting smaller as my kindred spirits are passing on. If you continue to live, that is the unavoidable journey, being comfortable in your own company is key to being at peace with solitude.
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I love your comments. Thank you for your word of wisdom!
31 here, and i'm a bit of an einzelgänger too. I love my family and friends, and work with people and would never trade this for anything, but i need some time with me. I love the time i have with myself even.
I know the phase where people are falling away around you will be painful, but i do not Dread it as much as a lot of people around me. It is part of life and i know i will get through that too, us humans are versatile if anything.
Thank you for your perspective!
I am 48 and can relate to that because I am kinda introvert too. I feel good when I am alone and I don't need many people in my life.
That quote is my motto all the time. " If you need a friend, God is sufficient" Master Nursi
As long as you are happy and healthy then there is no need to be more social. at least you are not a burden to someone else. you are a blessing.
It's hard to watch this video without getting emotional. I'm exactly at that phase in my life where I've become fully aware of how short our lives are and how quickly time goes by. There's a deep fear that I'm not spending my time as well as I should be.
Understandable to have that fear but its also important to try not to spend too much tim worrying about how you spend your time. Mistakes will always happen, don't dwell (easier said than done I know).
I didn’t expect this video to evoke such strong emotions in me, but had to hold back the tears when you spoke about feeling like you’d abandoned your family when you moved abroad. I felt that deeply 😩 the study was very interesting about how time and company does change as our life moves forward. A beautiful intentional and thought provoking video ♥️
Yes, that one hit hard :(
I can truly resonate with this feeling! I also teared up, when you spoke about moving abroad. I only moved 150 kms away and also feel like I left my family behind.
Omg this got me too! 🥺 I feel this so much now that I'm older and regret not spending more time with my parents previously.
Same here. I moved to the U.S. to study abroad temporarily when I was 18. Always thought I would moved back. But then graduate school, partner, career, now 2 kids. I always had that feeling of me abandoning my family. It totally made me tear up as well!
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Before my parents passed away, I spent numerous hours with them and took care of their daily lives. I was lucky that I chose to live close with my parents. This is something people overlook when planning their lives. Having grandparents around when growing up is something my children enjoyed and not common to others. My mother used to say that more talented children would move away because they have the abilities to move for their career sake. I think we all need to pause to think about that before we move away from our families. If we are talented, we should have better abilities to stay and contribute to our hometowns.
If family is good then what your saying is correct. What if your family members are narcissistic and want to pull you down? Will you say the same thing then?
There are always 2 sides. Don't simply highlight the good parts.
Not everyone has great families.
It's great that you have such a positive relationship with your family. For those who grew up in toxic households, the idea of spending less and less time with family honestly sounds like a blessing.
That is true
I have had a generally good family, and I feel so much for the ones that have suffered in bad families
I have witnessed these families myself
Parents have a huge role in the destiny of family
Unless you create a good family of your own
This is true, though in Sadia's context that would probably fall under "friends". But yes, we should never underestimate the value and importance of found family.
Agreed. Blood family is not necessarily a good thing.
Thanks, Sadia. The most important reminder for me here is 'learn how to be content with being alone'. Families can be broken, partners and friends can come and go, co-workers change faces, etc. At the end of the day, enjoy relationships but always remind ourselves to let them go when the time comes.
it's definitely so important to prioritise time with friends and family as you get older - they're things you take for granted when living at home and when at university, but after that you really have to put the effort in
the graph says to me: spend more time with friends + family, less with coworkers or choose coworkers that are friends too, try to be less alone, but when then embrace it, choose your partner wisely, because you will spent the most/ longest time with him/her. PS.your mama is so inspiring!
I found this to be soothing and informative. At almost 75 you can imagine the experiences I have under my belt. I am widowed and divorced and am at peace with it. I so value my time alone and guard it. I love my friends. I love my church family. I love my solitude. I am an artist a writer …I love quilting and cooking and praying. The seasons God provides are equal to the path He set before we were born….relax and breathe.🙏
"We need to be reminded more often than we need to be taught" ...So true! 🌸
Honestly i spend more and more time alone as a choice. I need it now that i’m happy with myself. I’m not forcing myself anymore in toxic relationships, my family included.
To me seeing them less was a blessing. It’s sad but out of my control.
I relate to that. It sucks but it's reality, even when everything tells you you should be with family.
@@fallfanaticstudent i feel the same everytime when people say that spend time with family 😢i feel horrible
Being alone for me is my favorite, as a Buddhist practitioner it’s a time when I get to deepen into the subtle layers of Awareness. Awareness is that all encompassing presence that teaches me self love…where I’m not needing others to feel complete…it’s always growing and deepening. It’s an art to face the fears of aloneness…especially since society has many stigmas towards it. As an Artist I use creative projects and art as a way to enjoy being alone.
At the age of 38, I'm taking inventory of my life and contemplating how I want to spend the rest of it. I always hear my dad use the phrase "what's left is less than what's passed" when referring to life, and while no one knows how long they've got, there is a point you reach in your life where you know you've got less time, and as finite as that time is, it becomes infinitely more valuable.. As someone who never went after their dream of going to art school and becoming a 3D artist, and instead just made conventional choices with no real love for the path I'm on, I decided it was still important to teach myself 3D art.
As for my time left, I have to work the day job and maintain many relationships (parents, siblings, my own family, friends), but I still try to devote 30 hours a week to self-studying. Trying to balance your relationships, ambitions, and monotonous tasks isn't easy, but you've got to make the most of it. Adulting wasn't advertised as easy!
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Lovely thought provoking video Sadia. It's so important to love yourself and your journey called life. I'm in my late 50's. Our so called nest is empty now. My husband and I are enjoying our time together. It's very important to be alone and enjoy it. We don't have any grandkids yet. So we look forward to that time when it cmz. As for now we count our blessings and enjoy the ride, help those whom we can on the way ❤😊
I can see how that graph would be accurate. I will be 40 this year and that graph tracks accurately for me. I was married at 32 and widowed at 33. I've spent a lot of time alone already but I've made peace with doing things solo. I've sadly had to let go of decades long friendships and am just now trying to invest time in building new friendships- it's so hard. I do not have (and don't plan to have) children so making friends who have time for friendships is tough. Plus, people don't like death and get uncomfortable when I tell them I'm a widow. Especially now that I'm dating again. I'm still hopeful and am willing to put in the work to cultivate friendships so I know my people are out there. Most of my closest friends now are with significantly older people (older than my parents) and I'm learning a lot and I'm able to help teach them things as well. Family time has been crucial for me and thankfully I still have a wonderful relationship with my in laws!
You're incredible, Katy. What a story, thank you for taking the time to share it. I'm sorry to hear you lost your partner so soon after tying the knot, that must have been incredibly difficult, I can't even imagine. It's inspiring to hear, though, the connections you're making. And my goodness I adore talking to people my parents' age or older. Is it strange to say I prefer it to talking to people my own age? 😅 It feels less filtered, more authentic, and like you said: there's so much for learn! Anyway, thank you for sharing, Katy, and thanks for being here.
Deeply touched, Katy, and wishing that all happiness makes its way to you, by and by. Maybe some of those deepest long friendships could even come around if no force of expectations? I've watched some friends drift, but met such special people meanwhile, and by just keeping a kind, relaxed heart, things reconnect in their own ways, if healthy. (And I don't have kind&caring family members to lean on). eg People may degrade friendships with their insecurities and fears, but only after years you realize that their spouse was just giving them such a hard time at home that they were barely hanging on. Do your memories feel like eternal blessings or heartbreaking loss?🤗🌿🦋
The idea that time with family is precious and that it is in persistent decline as we age and as our parents age has really resonated with me lately. I just got back from 3+ weeks of travel with my parents and seeing family overseas, and it reminded me of the importance of keeping up relations with extended family and making time to be with my parents as I move more into adulthood. Thanks for this thought-provoking video, Sadia! Love all your PUL content as always ❤
So lovely you got to visit your family, Justine 🥰 and thank you so much!
Wholesome as ever :) I just want to add that my mom gave birth to me at age 42, which means at 70 she's living with me and we're spending a lot of our free time together, so she's kind of beating the trend and transitioning into retirement while still in the company of a young daughter. Keeping each other company teaches me wisdom and respect for the elderly while it challenges her to practise flexibility and an open mind to what my generation goes through. Not a life plan I had, just the way things unrolled for us, but I would recommend it to others who find it uncomfortable to be alone at any stage of their lives. I remember how it was considered lame to live with your parents after college... Also how taboo it was to have a kid at +40... I'm so happy my mom didn't listen, and neither did I.
At the age of 33, I suddenly became afraid of being alone in the future. I have a good relationship with my mom, have some good friends, and generally easy to meet good friends in a new place. Having no romantic relationship scared me. Apparently, I had a low self esteem. This is what I am working on right now, and I am happy that I realised this so I can be more comfortable with myself; be the best friend of myself, for my future.
I’m 28, traveling solo in a camper van to national parks, been on the road for 8 months. But now making the 2,000 mile drive home to surprise my soon-to-be 102 year old grandma for her birthday on Valentine’s Day. Family time is definitely something all this solitude on the road has made me appreciate more than ever!
Thank you for making another beautiful video!!
That sounds like a dream, James, and happy early birthday to your grandma! 102, that's incredible! 🥳
Thanks, Sadia!
Loved the video! My husband and I are introverts and cherish our alone time. We each have our hobbies and projects so we are not bored or lonely. I'm home alone now and appreciate the quiet peace I'm feeling. Hope you have a beautiful day 💓
It's comforting to know that I'm not alone in feeling homesick and somewhat guilty for leaving home. This is the perfect reminder that no matter what life you choose, your time must be directed towards the relationships you cherish the most, including the one with yourself! ❤️
Agree 200% that Life is short and time is running, so very important to Live and spend life with real loved one's before we Leave
I live in a different country than my parents and struggle with guilty and sad feelings that I abandoned them, especially my mom. It's tough but it helps to know I'm not the only one who feels that weight ❤
These tea time tuesdays are beautiful sadia, feels like having a cup of tea with my sister and chatting about something very dear. May God Bless you, thanks for bringing joy to our lives with your heartfelt conversations ❤
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I love that you don't demonise the idea of spending time alone. I feel like too many people are afraid to be alone and for some of these people, it's a real missed opportunity for understanding more about themselves
It's the other way around actually. Hyper independence is the new normal
I believe building a good relationship with yourself should be first as this will be the foundation of your relationship with others
It always amazes me how a TH-cam channel that's mainly focused on cooking can make me cry :D as a person who would like to emigrate and who regularly feels guilty about it, what you said at 2:06 really resonates with me makes me feel a lot better.Thank you so much ❤ I also love what you said at 7:42, so true.
I loved this video. Im blessed in my season of 30, had my first baby at 27 with my fiancé and am now a stay at home mom. I cant think of anything more rewarding than being able to wake up and soak in all of my toddlers young years. We’re choosing to homeschool next year as well. This time has given me more time to spend with my mom and grandma as well❤
Thats beautiful! Coming from a grandma, you're making the right choice. I worked a full time job for 2 years when my kids were grade school age and i couldnt do it anymore. That was 2 years i will never get back. I went back to part-time and have never regretted the lack of income. So many moms i knew then would cry over their baby growing up, etc, but i always rejoiced at the milestones instead of grieving the loss of their babihood. Enjoy it and release them ever-so-slowly and you wont be sorry. Xxx
Love this ❤ thank you for the reminder!
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I'm in my 20's and I have wonderful friends and co-workers but nothing beat the time when I'm alone. It's not being lonely, it's being free to be yourself without fear or judgment. It's doing whatever you want without compromising. It's going wherever whenever without having to plan with anyone. It's doing too much or too little of something completely guilt free. It's getting to know yourself and work on yourself without any interference. Let yourself become your own best friend, trust me that way you will never be lonely 🙏
Family and friends are what’s important! I’ve been away for 3 years and now heading back home, I’m looking forward to it and thank you for your words of wisdom!
this is so introspective and honestly making me quite emotional, it's so healing to prioritize purposeful time with family and I think the graph just emphasizes this. Instead of letting hours pass by looking at a screen, we should really make something of the moment 💗
Hearing your life story is so beautiful I’m glad I chose to watch this episode thank you
Thanks so much, Lucy 🤗
This is a story I also share with my students and radio audience, but I must commend you for your compassion as you created this presentation for a vast audience. Really thoughtful!
In a week I will turn 69?!?! My father told me that time goes faster as we age and he was right. Spending time with those you love is so important and precious and unfortunately getting shorter for me. Live each day to the fullest. Tell your children, grandchildren and spouse how much you love them every day. ❤
Nice. Use it as best as you can
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I was shocked! But realize it is so true. I am 58 and find I spend a lot of time alone. Need to work on making the most of that time
I couldn't hold back the tears when you spoke of being alone. Our youngest daughter has "left the nest" to become a doctor. I am so proud of her, yet there is now a void. I am learning that there is more to life than being a mother. I have interests, goals and habits that had to be put on the back burner because being a mother was my one #1 priority as it should be. I will always cherish every moment of my now adult children lives. But have come to realize I too am just as important. Learning self-care has been really neat.
Hi Sadia! Your videos always come when I need them. I am only 22 years old now but already moved out when I was 20. For me I mainly focus on acceptance. Accepting how my life went with all it's rough but also beautiful times. I went through several depressive times because of all the bad things that happened to me and are happening in the world everyday.. Sometimes I am forgetting to see the bright side of life. So it always helps me to see my sisters and their children and the rest of my family. That's really something that I prioritize a lot as well 😊 close friends and people that love you the way you are are so important for my well being.
This is the first pick up limes video I’ve ever seen and I stumbled on it by accident. I was total crying by the end. I’ve watched it twice so I don’t miss any information. I’m the mom of three and it’s easy to get caught up in the little petty day to day things and miss out on living. This video really makes me want to slow down and enjoy the little things that are happening. You have a very kind, gentle way of delivering your message that motivates me and gives me hope. Thank you so very much for making this.
Your content is so refreshing, no trying hard to impress, clickbaiting with thumbnails or throwing as much as possible at the viewer. It felt personal and thought provoking.
Cherishing every moment be it with your family, friends, coworkers or alone, I think that's a fundamental enhancer of living.
Yes, its hard to be imigrant and integrate, anywhere even for East European. She came from a beautiful and pure country. Eastern can understand that
Thanks for your video!
I identify a lot with that feeling of having "abandoned" my parents, I have been an immigrant for 16 years, a couple of years ago my relationship ended and it made me realize many things including the value of time and how to use it well I decided to give priority to my family and now I communicate more with them and I will do everything possible to be able to travel more often and spend more quality time with them. I hope I can have my own family so I can instill in them how valuable relationships are. And regarding friends, I have many good ones and I am grateful for that, I think it is very important to keep them but also to develop and deepen our ability to form relationships at any age ❤❤
Hi Sadia, love your channel, and all the thoughts you provoke in these tea chats. I think we cycle thru life as should be: social and playful in our younger years, romance and friendships in young adulthood, and as we grow thru our 20's, 30's etc and watch our parents age, we get a newer perspective of time as you said. Such a wonderful full journey, filled with self awareness and acceptance and appreciation for how we spend our precious time. Now at 63 yrs old more than ever, time with family is heightened, and time with myself is the best of all. I wouldn't have it any other way.
You, sharing your stories with the world is appreciated. You have a kind voice. Your story touches with thoughts so many of us have about moving away, trying new places and finding new journeys. Thank you for sharing. Not only are you an amazing teacher for plant based eating but good health for our souls. Thank you 😊 🙏
I'm 26 now and seems like I'm on the same loop with you and your mom. Left all my loved ones and comfort zone and moved to Canada a month back. It really saddens me thinking how much less time I may be able to spend with my parents, as they are in their 60's and 70's. Going through the phase of learning to live alone and just in a blink of eye, everything changed so fast! I hope we'll evolve with less regrets and enjoy the days in this world.
bro, ya're such a brave man and I wish you and your family good!
This video brought tears in my eyes actually. It does truly feels like that I have grown up in a blink of eyes yet it's hard to spent more time to my loved ones.
Thank you for this type of content! it's always a good reminder to cherish those moments with your loved ones and friends all the time. I've recently gotten out of a long-term relationship and it's made me closer with my family than before and I love getting to spend any amount of time with my parents and siblings now. :)
Wow! So relatable topic! Getting perspective of time is difficult but very necessary. Some of the ways to enjoy one's own company is reading, being in nature so you don't feel lonely, catering to your hobbies and self-care seem appealing to me. Thanks for making so relevant and genuine topic Sadia!
Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts, Sadia! To determine the value of our one and only life, we get so caught up in our individual goals and achievements that we forget to treasure the current blessing of a time we get to spend with our loved ones, who may or may not be with us in the next part of our journey. This is a soulful reminder not to forget the ones who've helped lay our foundations, cherish, and invest time in relationships that bring value to our lives.
Thank you for you video! I feel the same Sadia. I live away from my parents, have my own family but still miss them so much. Seeing them ageing makes me feel anxious, though at the same time grateful for having them for long in my life!
Wish all the best to your family and you! I am sure your parents are so proud of you ☺
My Dad would always tell me to appreciate each day and season because when I get older time will go by so fast...and it's SO true! I'm definitely going to be working on contacting and spending more time with loved ones!
So this video was just an ad that consumed my time. The irony.
Unfortunately, my family lost my youngest brother a few years ago, he was just 24. And we all became super aware of how important time with family is. Not only is life short, but we never know how long we actually have. So we have become closer and it shifted my perspective on what is actually important in life. Time with loved ones really is what matters most 💛
So sorry for such a devastating loss. Thank you for sharing .
This is so inspiring thanks for sharing your story. I started my path to reinventing myself a year ago, I'm now living healthier, confident, stronger, making 6 figures, having leisure to enjoy family &friends. I feel happier and living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone "you can start anytime to have a reset it's worth it! I'm striving to continue growing cus it's a journey❤
Congratulations sis! Thanks for encouraging others with your story, I will love to get tips from you too.
@@juliet800 Change your mindset, read self-help books, expand knowledge, budget and don't spend on impulse, save, take your finances seriously, eat healthy, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope it is useful to you.
How did you grow to 6 Figure? I'm honestly trying to work on my personal finance this year.
Congratulations to you Mariana keep it going👍
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love this Sadia, choosing to spend quality time with family and people we love is such a blessing and we think we have all the time in the world and neglect them sometimes, but this is a great reminder. thank you!
As someone who also moved abroad by choice, the moment you said you felt like you abandoned your family I just started bawling because I just felt so guilty for leaving them and not being there. Being able to see them only a few times a year and seeing them age, really makes me see how precious that time is and that we should spend it more intentionally. Thank you for this beautiful video.
I'm 51 and I have 3 daughters that are also fast growing as we all do. They are 24, 21 and 20. I often reflect on how the years go by so fast. Family is everything and your right it's important to check in and foster those relationships and it's equally important to have a few genuine true friends in our lives but sadly not everyone is that fortunate. Loneliness can be extremely hard and makes me sad. My mum is 80 and she and my dad also migrated from Ukraine to give us a better life back in April 1975 but my dad passed away in December that year. My mum raised me and my brother on her own whilst grieving the loss of her soulmate and learning a new language. I find now that I'm an adult myself I value and appreciate all get hardships more so than I did as a child. Time is a valuable commodity but isn't it funny how much of it we waste. You're very brave moving away from your family. I don't think I could ever do that.
I am in my 30s and nothing to show for it. I do need financial liberation so badly.
The fact that you’re watching videos like these in your 30s means you have a pretty good future in front of you 👊.
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Dave Ramsey. Search him and follow his method.
I am 56 and I agree with all of this..focusing on your loved ones, a few good friends..automatically makes it more intentional to make the time happen, I also like less talk and engage more in activities with others like a good game of rummy with my 85 year old MIL..thank you!!
I love how relatable these videos are (may not be exactly.. but) The guilt at the back of my mind when I think of my dream life I want to build, and how much of it is with a partner, co-workers and friends, and very little with my family. It feels nice to know that it will be the case, and to make most of the time with fam when it does exist. And the struggle to be always happy or okay with being alone is ever present.
This video is scary and reassuring at the same time🥺
I am 65 years old. My wife is 4 years older. I am still working. We moved to an older house 12 years ago. I had more energy then to upgrade the home and still not finished. I get anxious now we are getting old and kids are grown. I have a hard time to adjust with aging and adjust being alone. Your video made me to think that there are others like me. It is inspiring.
I love this Video...I am currently stressed out about how fast time flies and adulthood in general. You definitely helped me ❤️btw loveeee the scenes with your family😍
I just love how calm and soothing your videos are. I was feeling restless and came across this one, much appreciated!
I love how you touch on topics that resonate with so many of us and evoke so many emotions. I could hug you now❤
I am 68 years old. I spend time to myself in order to reduce exposure to the drama I experienced as a younger person. I realize I don't have as much time going forward as I did before. I aim for peace more than connection with many others. I have a small group of associates. I am almost never lonely.
This was so interesting! Since University I have stayed living with my family, and as a 23-year old this has admittedly been quite late. But I am going to move out next year to study singing at conservatoire - but even before moving I have noticed I spend the most time with my boyfriend and while myself and my other friends have been working more since uni there is less time to see each other. Kind of excited to be studying again so I can have more time with friends and family. Working as a freelance musician is so rewarding, but because you go from project to project it is easy to get swept away with work and forget to take some time out between projects. Similarly, having taken up TH-cam has great rewards but also means I always feel I can be "doing" something
I have been worrying over my life pretty much as of late, like how to use my time wisely and effectively. Then yeah you uploaded one! I would say your channel is the most comforting one whether it’s related to foods or ideas about how to be grateful with the life we have got. Thanks to you! Please bring videos like this more often. Sending love and best wishes on your way💖
This really hit home for me. I'v been living alone for the past 12 years. traveled for my studies and got a job abroad.
Having people around me when I'm on holidays feels sooo warm :(
I loved raising my kids more than anything. And when they left home. I prayed we did the right things and they would make the right choices. So far, they are all 3 doing well and are fine, upstanding people. I miss being able to see them regularly, but I'm also happy they're making their own life and are happy making their families. I'm very used to an empty nest and i like it. I'm married, but enjoy alone time more than ever. Not that i don't want to be married! I love my husband dearly! But i think I will do well if ever I'm alone in life. Its ok. My sister's husband of 45 yrs passed recently, and shes ok. My dad passed 9 years ago and my mom has days where shes ok, but mostly she grieves and misses him daily. She never fostered relationships outside the home and that's part of the problem. Also shes 85 and almost everybody's passed, so......I don't want to be like that. Connections are important, but we have to be ok with being alone too. Its not as bad as it sounds.
A touching story and message, Jill, thank you for taking the time to share, and my condolences for the loss of your brother-in-law (especially so young), and your dad. Thank you for the meaningful reminder 🙏
@@PickUpLimes Thank you so much....Just to clarify....my brother in law wasn't 45 yrs old. They had been married for 45 years. I didn't realize how that looked when i wrote it. So he was 67, had been fighting lung cancer for 4 years and nature took its course and he passed quietly. He smoked for most of his life and we all know he brought it on himself, but the time he had with the disease brought on quiet reflection and gave him time to get his affairs in order etc. He was one of those guys that knew how to do anything, everybody called him for advice, he was loved by all and his passing was bitter sweet. We cried, but mostly celebrated his life.....we're ok. Our lives have been enriched by having known him so how can we grieve a love like that? Same with my dad. He was awesome! I had no unfinished business with him and now i know he's in Heaven where he is waiting for the rest of us. How can i grieve for him with that knowledge? I think that's the most important part....that we love deeply and have no regrets. Take care and love deeply.
Thank you for making this video. I just turned 70. I retired when covid hit. I think that the pandemic has taught me much about cherishing time with others and cherishing my time alone. I love my alone time, which is primary now. And I am very conscious of making sure that I have quality connections and a habit of connecting with family and close friends. For me, this time of life is about having a choice to be alone or with others, tending to close family and friend relationships very consciously, and giving myself the time to have a deeper relationship with my creative self. Most of the time I experience a sweet contentment when alone. But I do find I struggle a bit with a feeling of having to let things go and to be open to changes that are out of my control. Lots of things fall away as we age into elderhood. Our bodies rebel some (we may lose some functions and parts!) , friends and acquaintances begin to pass on, children and friends make changes of location, and maybe we do as well. This takes some adjustment but is revelatory and worth exploring. So, even though there is more time alone in the later years, there is a lot happening and a lot of growth. I have made a point of cultivating close supportive friendships, building a history with my dear friends, and being the kind of parent that celebrates my children's changes and adventures. All times of life have their gifts and challenges. But, as you say, time is short. Maybe one of the gifts of being older is knowing that fact because mortality is on the horizon. There is no time to 'waste'...and all of our dear ones must be savored and treasured NOW. Once again, thanks for opening this discussion!
I love this video so much! I find myself spending more time in the present moment as I get older and appreciating so much more whether it be with family, friends, or coworkers.. I do have to spend more time being present with myself. I think that being intentional and present in our day to day is what makes it so much better. 💖
Beautifully said.... Good for you to have chosen BetterHelp as sponsors and they did well to come to you, too. I've been an expat for all my life and know how missing an entire family can be. Whatever the case is or might be for anyone out there, thank you for putting this out for whomever might need a little hand up
It’s funny to me that when she sees that we increasingly spend time alone, she feels inspired to become comfortable with her own company. My first thought was how to aggressively avoid being alone.
Your video always put a big smile on my face! it’s beautiful, well structured, and full of life and joy! Thank you!
After surviving a massive heart attack in April 2020, I had to take a real look at my life. Stress was uppermost in my life so I had to change my life quickly. Then horrible anxiety took over my life, so more needed to change. Watching all your videos has really helped in my healing process. I have now moved state in Australia from Queensland back to NSW, my fiancée and I are finally together after being separated by covid restrictions for over 2.5 years, I have a great job after not having worked for 19 months due to covid restrictions, my stress is under control, my anxiety is a work in progress, however I am playing my guitars every day and doing my photography. Life is improving rapidly. Thank you for all your amazing content.
I just love your contents. You voice is so calming and what you share is often inspiring and thought provoking. I've become a mum in recent years and I am definitely finding that children grow up so fast. There are often moments where I wish I get to run away because parenting absolutely pushes us to our very limit. At the same time, I wouldn't trade any of the moments I have with my child for anything in this world. I know it will break my heart when he flies the roost but for now, I will enjoy every moment I get with him. Thank you for your reminder of how precious our time is and that life truly is short.
I think you grow into yourself as you age, ideally, and that making peace with yourself and your world as you are doing is a necessary first step. As I've grown older I seem to need more space in my days to process thoughts that a long life can encourage. Your natural introspection will do you well. Thanks for the food and the insights.
Life is even shorter if one adopts a hustle mindset/habit, trying to see or meet somebody does not mean time well spent if your mind wasn't there or is in turbo mode all the time, the next minute after departure you completely obliterate them from your memory. This basically reduces people in your life to a tool for killing your own boredom or guilt from not seeing them. Hence, the lesson shouldn't be trying to spend more time with whoever it is, it should be learning to truly value people as authentic human beings.
That's a beautiful take away, Marmotian, thank you for taking the time to share!
Very much relate to your discussion of time spent in relationships and even the paid promotion (therapy for homesickness). I especially appreciate you shared that you “abandoned” your family but your mom did the same. Can’t relate more. ❤
This was a very heartfelt video. I would say the studies are spot on. Many of us find ourselves spending more time alone because as time comes and goes we are evolving. I’ve experienced many people passing over the last ten years. So my circle has gotten smaller. I’m much older, I’ll be 62 in a few weeks and people my age sometimes want to be at home or not as active. Though many of us are pushing back on that narrative because some do exercise, keep our minds active and desires have not died.
Thank you again for sharing this! It may be a topic I’ll have with my family and friends to hopefully make sure we hold one another accountable to connect more.
I experienced the exact opposite of the graph you showed. I grew up disconnected from my family, living mostly with my friends. In my young adult life, I experienced the most lonely time of my life due to poverty and not being able to find a job. I had neither family nor friends with me. From the age of 30, all my social relationships have just started to get stronger. Family, co-workers, and deep friend relationships. And as I predict, as I get older, I will meet more people like myself and have a more crowded but distinguished social life. :)
How interesting to watch this so close to when I decided I need to figure out how to have more people in my life. I realized I'm lonely too much. I raised 4 children spread out with 11 years between the oldest and youngest. I homeschooled many years, which meant constant company. It felt like I was going to have children at home all my life - but, poof, they grew up 😉- and after around 30 years of having regular company (of at least 1 offspring) throughout the course of my day, I was alone. My husband suggested going back to work, but after a while I longed for home and just homemaking again even if it meant learning to be comfortable with myself in a quiet house. Home is where I'm happiest, but I realized last week that it is time to be more intentional in friendships. I want to find the balance between peaceful time alone (as I work around my home) and enjoying people. I haven't nailed anything down yet, but I'm thinking about it.
Or perhaps even foster care / volunteering in some family spaces (eg with new mums who need help, or in a youth centre)
Thanks for the video! Being a mom of two kids, 4 and 6 years old, it was so good to see your mom in a solo backpack trip, it kinda reminded me that I will be able to do this again when they grow up!
Hi Sadia
Recently I have been going into guilt trips regarding whether or not we are giving much of time and attention to our parents in return of what they gave us. This study and your perspective help to clarify that. Thank you so much for being courageous enough to talk on such crucial but neglected topic.
Can we stop for a moment and appreciate the quality of your videos (content + form) 🤩 we rarely come across content this good and wholesome, keep going your efforts are very much seen ❤
Beautiful ❤️
Such a meaningful thought, and thank you for making this video.
This is a very inspiring video. Now that I'm in my late 50's and recently widowed, I had a new appreciation of how I spend my time wisely. Thank you for always motivating us to be a better version of ourselves!
I used to watch all of your videos during lockdown and I saw it today out of nowhere. So happy to see you again, it brings back so many memories to me..☺️
I am 30, unmarried and already spending a lot of time alone and I enjoy it!!
It is absolutely inspiring and life affirming to see this study that you’ve reflected upon this video. I am soon turning 35 and craving for solitary activities, such as reading book or visiting a local café, or going for a long stroll is something I deeply enjoy. I have many friends, but have not, unfortunately found a friend that I can share a deep kinship. However, I am happy to say that because of long to be alone, I have found a deep friendship with my own self. If there is one wisdom that I would impart to anyone it is this: to know thyself. Recently, I have entertained the idea to go on a solo trip to Ireland and I found it surprising how many of my friends, coworkers and family members thought it very strange to trave alone. I am happily married with two wonderful girls who are too young to be traveling with me, but I am absolutely willing to go on a trip just for the pure purposes of reflection and self understanding because if anything, this is what allows me to be more compassionate, and empathetic towards others . Does anyone feel similarly like this?.
I'm about to turn 33 in a few hours and this video has beautifully made me realize how fast we're growing old and that our parents need us during their old age.
I totally resonate with you wrt the feeling of abandoning the family/parents to settle abroad and make a better living. I love all of your videos, but this one hits in a different way
happy late birthday!! best wishes to you
thank you for sharing this. love the awakening notes of the evolution of our connections. there's a season for everyone.