So much yapping about narcissism all over the internet, but NOBODY gives more accurate and effective solutions than you. It's like a whole different depth of understanding. Thank you so much for producing these gems.
My favorite version of that is when it’s someone who clearly has BPD complaining that their partner exercising normal boundaries is a Narcissist…like…uhhmmm…don’t know how to begin here how to tell you this….lol, you’re not experiencing what you think you are, and in fact…it’s actually way worse 😂😂
Yes to Somatic healing!!! 15 years being married to narcissist and his final discard has led me into Somatic therapy work. I am now working towards becoming a professional in the field of healing traumas via somatic therapy. 😊
My husband and I met in high school and I would call him my Superman… because he was always saving me… I wish I could go back and save myself instead of learning how to do this now
I'm coming up to a year after my breakup with a narcissist. After 8 1/2 years together. This video is incredibly resonant for me. I have so much work to do, and I'm so tired and broken right now. But thank you, you've helped me begin my healing process.
8 1/2 years for me too… even though so much inside me was screaming to bail the first year. Keep listening to that voice inside yourself- your own voice! It was drowned out by their noise but it was never silenced. It’s still there. WE are still here.
It was NOT HARD FOR ME. once I learned ABOUT NARCISSISTIC Personality I am forever learning more. Once I knew I fell in love with myself because of Narc mirroring me. And understood that Narc is INCAPABLE OF RAL LOVE AND EMPATHY. I BURID HI. and went straight into ❤ healing. Myself. I I’ll tell you this. I do believe This healing path will be for the rest of my life.
Wow, this was so interesting. The last part where you said, “Choose life” really struck a chord with me. I’ve said “I choose life” probably a million times in the last few months to myself. Instinctively I always felt that underneath all the cognitive muck there was this simple choice I had to make. Stay bound to the pillar of destruction or flounder my way into life. I know how the one ends, so might as well choose the other. This is about choosing real living, and connection to your body and soul in a deep, honest way. Once you can learn how to feel all those simple things we take for granted cognitively like empathy and kindness, and actually feel them for yourself, healing legitimately starts. It’s almost like they’re sent to force you to choose. They yank you right out of limbo and either drag you down to their world of emptiness or force you claw your way to higher ground if you choose life. The spiritual element of their purpose is spooky.
When the authentic voice sounds strange.... "Instinctively always felt underneath all the cognitive muck there was this simple choice" ... She was able to suppress my awareness of that instinct for 10 years. Anyone out there have that vibe or instinct? Don't ignore it! The heart always knows.
100% spot on and such an important step. I stopped watching your videos months ago as was going through this healing process, and listening to videos kept me a little stuck. It happened naturally as I listened to myself, and relied on myself, and no longer relied on TH-cam to help me through it. It’s only in hindsight now I realise this is what I was doing. Contentment and the feeling of safety in myself is pure bliss now. Thank you so so much. Weird to say that TH-cam saved my life, but it is very true. ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
Me too! I found that stopping myself from watching helped because I began to know, understand , and accept what has been an awful “relationship” with my husband for 22years, and I was finally ready to accept and move on. Now it feels so freeing and lovely and I am so thankful :)
Thank You, professor Vaknin. You have the best videos online. Healthy people do Not accept this duality. From the first sign of duality and evilness, he should be expelled. Unfortunately, to many good people fall for this deadly game. Kindness is often naivity and self destruction.
No one explains the narcissistic experience better than professor Vaknin. It’s 8 years since I divorced my narc husband, and every word resonates so well. Self love and healing the inner child have helped to regain my life. I feel I have become me 🥰 Much gratitude 🙏
Sam I love you, I hate you Sam, I love you Sam, I hate you Sam. Daughter of a narcissist here. I really appreciate your insight, it kills me to listen to it sometimes, I cry with remorse and shame, sometimes I get angry, other times I'm overwhelmed with feelings of acceptance and surrender. Being the daughter of a narcissist has been an incredible journey and a devastating journey rolled into one. I thank you very much for putting all of your information out there. Bless you Sam 🙏
It's been a year, I force myself every day to look up and take a step forward. I look, feel and do better than I have the entire 12 years I was with him but it's been a serious aggressive and determined challenge to fight every day to get here this far.
I'm so grateful I found you and these videos. I love how you describe the confounding dualities, miasmas and interjects. I have a renewed hope that I can unravel and individuate back to the source of the original assault: and be reborn.
Truly.shinning light. I never knew concepts so important. You are giving me a guide in the path of fiding my real self after a life time of abusive relationship and loss of identity. Thank you. ❤
Thank you, Sam! I am active in the process of individulization. Being myself definitely feels like foreign territory. It feels right because I am happier, but it still feels so uncomfortable, like I am doing something wrong. 😂 ... being able to understand why it feels so wrong helps out a lot with moving forward.
@Prof. Sam Vaknin I just emailed your Gmail account. I would appreciate your feedback, but I also understand that you are potentially too busy, and this possibly happens too much. Lol
One of the best videos! Your videos really really helped me a lot. I just broke up in September last year and I must admit, the story brought me closer to myself. I can say, I'm a grown woman now and love myself, like I never did before. Keep on the good work!! 🙏🏼❤️
I've left the narcissist after forty years, but he haunts my thoughts. I feel like a ghost floating around. Thank you, thank you, thank you Professor Vaknin . This is the next step. I know it will not be easy, but it is better than where I've been. I'm ready to start bringing my true self into being. Thank you for this valuable information and help. You're helping so many people to heal from Narcissistic abuse. Much appreciation.
Wow Sam! No one explained it to me in away that I was so so ABLE to move on and heal from the narcissist. I’ve watched so many videos on TH-cam but you are the only one who gave me so much clarity and understanding of the brain engineering of a narcissist that made me go woah I got it now. You gave me answers to every question with so much depth. Thank you
Looking back, like a tug of war, I dropped the rope 8 years before he died. I separated mentally/emotionally/physically and was finally ready to leave when he got the cancer diagnosis. He tried to destroy me on his way out (with the news of his double life in another city) but came back for me to take care of him, (4 months of hospice), which I did. It’s been almost a year he’s gone now, and I’m still dealing with the betrayals and lies, after 32 years is almost too much, still so painful
After 15y and 2y of living separate lives, his voice still lingers in my thoughts. Professor Vaknin, I am immensely grateful for your consistent brilliance. I have tuned into many of your presentations, which have been a tremendous source of support throughout my healing journey. Thank you once again.🕊️
Brilliant. We need your world influence. You are incredibly brave and I wish I could be there with you. Well, I'm with you in a virtual way. I've travelled to Russia and Israel. As a Canadian, I studied Political Science in Toronto, (had great and wise jewish professors), and years later I married (English husband died a couple of years ago). I moved to rural England (an hour north of London in 2004). Filtering through people and separating the fake crowns from people with awareness has been challenging. I naively involved myself with a narcissist/psychopath (he used threat of violence, lying, gas lighting and blame shifting in the devaluation stage, etc). Eventually I read about how this predator survives and ruins others. I am grateful for your information. I'm no longer bewildered or confused. I'm working on stopping his devaluation voice and thanks to you, it's working. I'm getting in touch with my mind and body. I'm trying different group settings through Age UK , (for seniors), and finding it challenging. My perception of others and my lacking confidence with assertion will need your video, Know yourself and love yourself. Thank you
Sam the more I follow you and study your work the more I realize that you are and continue to be a wonderful and fantastically critical anchor to so many, including me personally. Your work, efforts and depth of knowledge of psychology provides an invaluable blessing for countless others.. Please sir, continue to know that you are loved, admired and sorely depended on the world over and that your gifts will forever be recognized by the masses as ranking as high as any celebrated or renown other world celebrated peer or precursor in the field of psychology or human motivation and self help. You have and continue to be an oasis of help, encouragement, enlightenment and a blessing to this world. We hope, pray and wish you good health, strength and continued well being as you are and represent the personoa of a rare and much sought after treasure for so many around the world. Please keep being your remarkably uplifting and uniquely gifted/ talented and personable self.
You are by far the best, Prof. As I understand more why I was discarded, the fact that it wasn’t love, knowing more about her duality, the way she felt she was a goddess and so on, your words are a reality I’ve lived- the highs and lows. So, thank you again for being an integral part of my healing journey.
Got it!,thanks, the concept was/ has been inside my head, that there was a big mental hurrdle that I was struggling to overcome. but having it vocalised by an outside person gives one more of a breath to take in that it is actually real.
No one on the Internet has such an accurate description of the process and especially the healing. There is a validation in hearing the words especially after so much gaslighting. I feel hopeful for myself ready to “choose life” No more outsourcing for me.
Thank you, Dr. Vaknin for this video on healing from narcissistic abuse. I feel encouraged by this information, and knowing what the path to healing can be makes it easier to traverse.
thank you so much for these videos I have watched so many of yours. you are a amazing scholar ! your mastery of language is remarkable to say the least... these videos have helped me understand so much of the phycological transitions of my life... I will take my life back! thank you for being you!
I have to say that no body in English or Spanish , the most experienced in the web can not explain better or even same like you about narcissism My gratitude to you professor Sam
Danku. Geeft diep inzicht in hoe je zelf graag te zien en de processen van relaties en de impact op ons individuele en tegelijk de gemeenschappelijke Samenhang van alle mogelijke en onmogelijke bewust en onbewust. Ik wordt weer gelukkig want dit is echte genezing, oprecht dankbaar voor het geven en delen aan de mensen
I really just love you, Sam. You have helped so many people, including myself. I hope you realise that. I also hope that sharing your knowledge brings you inner peace, also. Much love and respect to you, sir, all the way from Perth, Western Australia
Beautiful sharing - checking out your recommended videos as well. I've had years of healing/yoga/meditation/deeply looking within and have had such success....not much of that critique voice left, thankkkkfullly......but I super LOVE trying all angles of scorching every last one out of my system...hence why I'll be checking the other videos out. Your take on this subject so interestingly reminds me of my deep esoteric self realization/yoga/spiritual scriptures innerstandings...I very much enjoy seeing how you actually connect these different pieces of the "puzzle" of life.
My best unrequested teacher - Mr Narc - nothing but greatful to whatever brang this self realisation lesson to my doorstep - i can learn, grow, be life educated whilst keeping all my virtues, motals, he cant............A spitirual prospective = A psychology prospective= An academic prospective = A caring friend/family prospective any which way you look at it, self realisation prospective is all that really matters - WHO you really are is what I got from a life and day with Mr Narc - what happens to them & can they evolve or veil ever be lifted the question remains........
The silence is total.....even the messages to the "golden child"; chosen, special, unique ,like no other; called on by God himself as the holy vessel to transform the world . Messages that have never in 50 years come to fruition, so I'm exchanging my "golden child " for something considerably less lofty .
Thank you Sam. Very well said and on point. I wished I came across your info 5 years ago. It is a roller coaster ride to healing yourself but it can be done. Finding my individuality took some work but after that metaphoric door was removed the rest seemed easier. Self love and having good personal boundaries is priceless. Just say from once living a life of anxiousness and fear to now living a life of no fear with self awareness , self love and healthy boundaries I feel alive , free , and happy. Living in the now and always moving forward. I will check out the links . Information is the power of healing. Thank you
I am Jewish from Israel I have just been thrown away by the narcissist for about the twenty time We have been together for a year Today I have chest pain panic attacks I am feel like I am losing my mind I still love him and miss him so much and feel like it’s my fault and maybe I was the wrong one In a year I have been beaten Strangled hit in front of my daughters Last week he told me he never loved me He has blocked me every where I always call him and beg him back I have not called him this time for six days But I am trying so hard not to contact him why is it so hard to stop loving him
Thank you so much I've been listening to You through months of my baby/mother relationship with my ex/friend narc I'm here now perfectly timed x you r soo spot on always sam ❤😢😊
Thank you sm. That is exactly what I need to do. Choosing life. And I need to stop calling him. Because even then he tells me YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN Life and tries to "help" me... Ridiculous, my abuser tries to help me... And then just minutes and hours after a deep talk he tells me STOP WRITING EMAILS I WON'T READ THEM. OTHER WOMAN HAD DONE THAT FOR ONE YEAR AND I EVEN WASN'T AWARE OF IT. And boom he had me again. I was so furious him talking again about another woman praising him. I asked why he did tell me that... He just answered MAYBE I DO IT SUBCONSCIOUSLY BUT IT'S NOT ON PURPOSE. I EVEN DON'T REALIZE IT. and that's a lie... I told him in the beginning that he always talks about other women and I don't like it. He does know very well. I really have to work through the process of individuation otherwise it will kill me. I have been so addicted to the pain of being with him because I thought he saved me. But he didn't. It's all lies. It's all a game. And his voice is still in my head. And also very loud. And I keep coming back to him. Just to feel the dosis of pain again. It has to stop. I have to see him for what he is. But as you said it's intermittent reinforcement that keeps me going. Hoping to get some of the motherhood again. It has to stop!!
Do you think it is possible that long-term narcissistic abuse could contribute to a person getting adrenal tumors? I had my left adrenal gland removed last year and now there are tumours in my right adrenal. I survived over 40 years of narcissistic abuse from my mother, and I was also married to one for a few years. I wonder if being stuck in fight or flight mode virtually every day of my life eventually mayhavepaved the way for these tumours to develop. Have you ever read anything about it? (Also, I agree somatic therapy is brilliant). Thanks so much
I had a parotid tumor removed 2020. 2 narcissistic parents and 13 years married to malignant narcissist and surrounded by other narcissistic family members and narcissistic co workers. I also struggle with other chronic health conditions. No contact with all toxic family now and out of the toxic work environments. YES. Constant fight/flight causes body to shut down and get disease. Adrenal fatigue, autoimmune conditions, growths/tumors,etc.
Is it safe to say it's the mother wound for us who continously find ourselves intertwined with narcissists? I always thought it was the fact my father was one, but now I'm not sure.
Same here...now my axis has shifted and im seeing things from an entirely new angle. All of this is very nuanced too in that i believe bith of my parents are borderline and narcissistic to varying degrees. Mother wears more of a mask.
Hi Sam. Would someone with bpd be able to have their own agency in this way as well, with these steps? I know from your previous videos that bpds outsource their agency, usually onto a narcissist, and so to individuate completely and find their sense of self may be a different process, if possible at all? Thanks so much! You are godsend!
So much yapping about narcissism all over the internet, but NOBODY gives more accurate and effective solutions than you. It's like a whole different depth of understanding. Thank you so much for producing these gems.
He has the gift of experience
Unless you are an academic, you have no way of knowing if Sam is on the money.
Agree, great man speaks what exactly you need to recover. Thanks to Sam
So very true… it’s always so much clearer whenever I listen to Dr. Vakin
My favorite version of that is when it’s someone who clearly has BPD complaining that their partner exercising normal boundaries is a Narcissist…like…uhhmmm…don’t know how to begin here how to tell you this….lol, you’re not experiencing what you think you are, and in fact…it’s actually way worse 😂😂
The contributions your brain has had on society and human behavior in general will be celebrated for generations
Right on time! “The narcissist regresses you to a two year old” … that makes SO much sense in so many ways…thank you
Yes to Somatic healing!!! 15 years being married to narcissist and his final discard has led me into Somatic therapy work. I am now working towards becoming a professional in the field of healing traumas via somatic therapy. 😊
6 months out after 30 years of marriage. I wake up every morning hearing his voice. 😢
Hang in there...shall hopefully become a whisper soon, and then hopefully just crickets one day 😊
Me too... But we can get past this to a better life. 🙏👍❤️
30 yrs married this year, 2 yrs ago he dumped me. But keeps love bombing me, then discarding me.
Can't divorce for 2 yrs, which is this Jan 30th!
My husband and I met in high school and I would call him my Superman… because he was always saving me… I wish I could go back and save myself instead of learning how to do this now
Thank you for this. My Narcussist died 8 months ago. I kept hearing him in my head. It seems to be fading now.
😂 the narc died? Thank god. The world is now a little bit better
I'm coming up to a year after my breakup with a narcissist. After 8 1/2 years together. This video is incredibly resonant for me. I have so much work to do, and I'm so tired and broken right now. But thank you, you've helped me begin my healing process.
Me 10 years
Me 18 years 😢
8 1/2 years for me too… even though so much inside me was screaming to bail the first year. Keep listening to that voice inside yourself- your own voice! It was drowned out by their noise but it was never silenced. It’s still there.
WE are still here.
20 years for me. Escaped 4 years ago. Hang in there, life gets better with no contact. My life is better than it’s ever been.
I pray your speeding healing. You can and will heal. 1 day at a time. You got this. Learn all you can.. Good luck. ❤
It was NOT HARD FOR ME. once I learned ABOUT NARCISSISTIC Personality I am forever learning more. Once I knew I fell in love with myself because of Narc mirroring me. And understood that Narc is INCAPABLE OF RAL LOVE AND EMPATHY. I BURID HI. and went straight into ❤ healing. Myself. I I’ll tell you this. I do believe This healing path will be for the rest of my life.
Wow, this was so interesting. The last part where you said, “Choose life” really struck a chord with me. I’ve said “I choose life” probably a million times in the last few months to myself. Instinctively I always felt that underneath all the cognitive muck there was this simple choice I had to make. Stay bound to the pillar of destruction or flounder my way into life. I know how the one ends, so might as well choose the other. This is about choosing real living, and connection to your body and soul in a deep, honest way. Once you can learn how to feel all those simple things we take for granted cognitively like empathy and kindness, and actually feel them for yourself, healing legitimately starts. It’s almost like they’re sent to force you to choose. They yank you right out of limbo and either drag you down to their world of emptiness or force you claw your way to higher ground if you choose life. The spiritual
element of their purpose is spooky.
Thank You so very much for you said here.
Paul Smit, wonderful! Thank you. Loved this part especially: "I know how the one ends, so might as well choose the other."
When the authentic voice sounds strange.... "Instinctively always felt underneath all the cognitive muck there was this simple choice" ... She was able to suppress my awareness of that instinct for 10 years. Anyone out there have that vibe or instinct? Don't ignore it! The heart always knows.
Wow..just wow..I left three weeks ago! I have to grow up at 70 years old..I'm overwhelmed by the truth.
Wow, perfectly said x
100% spot on and such an important step. I stopped watching your videos months ago as was going through this healing process, and listening to videos kept me a little stuck. It happened naturally as I listened to myself, and relied on myself, and no longer relied on TH-cam to help me through it. It’s only in hindsight now I realise this is what I was doing. Contentment and the feeling of safety in myself is pure bliss now. Thank you so so much. Weird to say that TH-cam saved my life, but it is very true. ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
Me too! I found that stopping myself from watching helped because I began to know, understand , and accept what has been an awful “relationship” with my husband for 22years, and I was finally ready to accept and move on. Now it feels so freeing and lovely and I am so thankful :)
@@ohmoflife1 gosh 22 years. Crikey. Mine was 11 years. What a journey hey!! Is he now ex husband? 💕
Your comment and experience resonates deeply with my own.
i became authentic my self , they can copy paste my personality but they dont have essence like me
Thank You, professor Vaknin. You have the best videos online. Healthy people do Not accept this duality. From the first sign of duality and evilness, he should be expelled. Unfortunately, to many good people fall for this deadly game. Kindness is often naivity and self destruction.
No one explains the narcissistic experience better than professor Vaknin. It’s 8 years since I divorced my narc husband, and every word resonates so well. Self love and healing the inner child have helped to regain my life. I feel I have become me 🥰
Much gratitude 🙏
Sam I love you, I hate you Sam, I love you Sam, I hate you Sam. Daughter of a narcissist here. I really appreciate your insight, it kills me to listen to it sometimes, I cry with remorse and shame, sometimes I get angry, other times I'm overwhelmed with feelings of acceptance and surrender. Being the daughter of a narcissist has been an incredible journey and a devastating journey rolled into one. I thank you very much for putting all of your information out there. Bless you Sam 🙏
Hi where you are from.
I get what you mean, I have the same problem too
It's been a year, I force myself every day to look up and take a step forward. I look, feel and do better than I have the entire 12 years I was with him but it's been a serious aggressive and determined challenge to fight every day to get here this far.
Just 1% better today than yesterday. Thats all. Don’t overwhelm yourself. Small tiny progress steps. ❤❤
@@Brittaba 💝 Thanks Friend
"And God said: Let there be light, and there was light " - Genesis 1:3
Amen!
14:28 ..titanic of your shared fantasy is sinking ..having hit the iceberg of abuse & reality..
👌 ah this..
Ah so love seeing your face. I appreciate your words of wisdom. You've literally have saved my life.
I'm so grateful I found you and these videos. I love how you describe the confounding dualities, miasmas and interjects. I have a renewed hope that I can unravel and individuate back to the source of the original assault: and be reborn.
Truly.shinning light. I never knew concepts so important. You are giving me a guide in the path of fiding my real self after a life time of abusive relationship and loss of identity. Thank you. ❤
I am mother 77 years old with a narcissistic son and do not know how this will end,I want my life back.🦋💔🇸🇪
I'm just unable to find the right words to describe the importance of all the work you Professor are doing here. Thank you for all!
What a beautiful metaphor…go into the desert of your mind and make it flower with your essence! Thank you Sam 🙏🏼
I am working hard to actualize and individuated, silence the introjects in my head. Thank Sam
This was is great advice regardless of having endured narcissistic abuse or not.
Thank you, Sam! I am active in the process of individulization. Being myself definitely feels like foreign territory. It feels right because I am happier, but it still feels so uncomfortable, like I am doing something wrong. 😂 ... being able to understand why it feels so wrong helps out a lot with moving forward.
Individuation. You are welcome.
@Prof. Sam Vaknin I just emailed your Gmail account. I would appreciate your feedback, but I also understand that you are potentially too busy, and this possibly happens too much. Lol
Thank you! Finally something for those who have identified the problem and would do something about that nasty joy-sucking voice in our heads!
Now I know what the biblical meaning of separate the wheat from the tare means .
Ive been praying for guidance and a “curriculum” for what to do … THANK YOU.
One of the best videos! Your videos really really helped me a lot. I just broke up in September last year and I must admit, the story brought me closer to myself. I can say, I'm a grown woman now and love myself, like I never did before. Keep on the good work!! 🙏🏼❤️
I've left the narcissist after forty years, but he haunts my thoughts. I feel like a ghost floating around. Thank you, thank you, thank you Professor Vaknin . This is the next step. I know it will not be easy, but it is better than where I've been. I'm ready to start bringing my true self into being. Thank you for this valuable information and help. You're helping so many people to heal from Narcissistic abuse. Much appreciation.
Wow Sam! No one explained it to me in away that I was so so ABLE to move on and heal from the narcissist.
I’ve watched so many videos on TH-cam but you are the only one who gave me so much clarity and understanding of the brain engineering of a narcissist that made me go woah I got it now.
You gave me answers to every question with so much depth. Thank you
Looking back, like a tug of war, I dropped the rope 8 years before he died. I separated mentally/emotionally/physically and was finally ready to leave when he got the cancer diagnosis. He tried to destroy me on his way out (with the news of his double life in another city) but came back for me to take care of him, (4 months of hospice), which I did. It’s been almost a year he’s gone now, and I’m still dealing with the betrayals and lies, after 32 years is almost too much, still so painful
@@wendydaniel1110 appreciate that 🙏
You’re free! His deception and revelations were his and now he is gone. Wishing you healing and some new found peace (life and in mind).
@@macnchessplz thank you for your kindness
Out of all the videos I've watched, your was the most straight forward, realistic and practical. It is not easy, but doable. Thank you very much.
After 15y and 2y of living separate lives, his voice still lingers in my thoughts. Professor Vaknin, I am immensely grateful for your consistent brilliance. I have tuned into many of your presentations, which have been a tremendous source of support throughout my healing journey. Thank you once again.🕊️
Brilliant. We need your world influence. You are incredibly brave and I wish I could be there with you. Well, I'm with you in a virtual way. I've travelled to Russia and Israel.
As a Canadian, I studied Political Science in Toronto, (had great and wise jewish professors), and years later I married (English husband died a couple of years ago). I moved to rural England (an hour north of London in 2004).
Filtering through people and separating the fake crowns from people with awareness has been challenging. I naively involved myself with a narcissist/psychopath (he used threat of violence, lying, gas lighting and blame shifting in the devaluation stage, etc).
Eventually I read about how this predator survives and ruins others. I am grateful for your information. I'm no longer bewildered or confused. I'm working on stopping his devaluation voice and thanks to you, it's working. I'm getting in touch with my mind and body.
I'm trying different group settings through Age UK , (for seniors), and finding it challenging. My perception of others and my lacking confidence with assertion will need your video, Know yourself and love yourself. Thank you
I love you Sam, thank you so so so much for everything!❤
Sam the more I follow you and study your work the more I realize that you are and continue to be a wonderful and fantastically critical anchor to so many, including me personally. Your work, efforts and depth of knowledge of psychology provides an invaluable blessing for countless others.. Please sir, continue to know that you are loved, admired and sorely depended on the world over and that your gifts will forever be recognized by the masses as ranking as high as any celebrated or renown other world celebrated peer or precursor in the field of psychology or human motivation and self help. You have and continue to be an oasis of help, encouragement, enlightenment and a blessing to this world. We hope, pray and wish you good health, strength and continued well being as you are and represent the personoa of a rare and much sought after treasure for so many around the world. Please keep being your remarkably uplifting and uniquely gifted/ talented and personable self.
It feels like blank out. Thank you for this video! Your video popped up at the right time.
You are by far the best, Prof. As I understand more why I was discarded, the fact that it wasn’t love, knowing more about her duality, the way she felt she was a goddess and so on, your words are a reality I’ve lived- the highs and lows. So, thank you again for being an integral part of my healing journey.
It blows my mind how you know my emotions..
Yoga Nidra ❤extremely helpful for embodiment
Definitely ❤
Got it!,thanks, the concept was/ has been inside my head, that there was a big mental hurrdle that I was struggling to overcome. but having it vocalised by an outside person gives one more of a breath to take in that it is actually real.
No one on the Internet has such an accurate description of the process and especially the healing. There is a validation in hearing the words especially after so much gaslighting. I feel hopeful for myself ready to “choose life”
No more outsourcing for me.
Thank you, Dr. Vaknin for this video on healing from narcissistic abuse. I feel encouraged by this information, and knowing what the path to healing can be makes it easier to traverse.
A genuine heart-felt thank you. This was a missing peice of the puzzle in my mind. It gives me a peice of solid ground to build on.
thank you so much for these videos I have watched so many of yours. you are a amazing scholar ! your mastery of language is remarkable to say the least... these videos have helped me understand so much of the phycological transitions of my life... I will take my life back! thank you for being you!
I have to say that no body in English or Spanish , the most experienced in the web can not explain better or even same like you about narcissism
My gratitude to you professor Sam
Thank you, professor. This is so amazing and beautifully said.
Professor, you are a saviour. This knowledge is golden 💗 thank you for your generous help and support🙏🙇♀️🌷
Danku. Geeft diep inzicht in hoe je zelf graag te zien
en de processen van relaties en de impact op ons individuele en tegelijk de gemeenschappelijke
Samenhang van alle mogelijke en onmogelijke bewust en onbewust. Ik wordt weer gelukkig want dit is echte genezing, oprecht dankbaar voor het geven en delen aan de mensen
I really just love you, Sam.
You have helped so many people, including myself.
I hope you realise that. I also hope that sharing your knowledge brings you inner peace, also.
Much love and respect to you, sir, all the way from Perth, Western Australia
❤Many thanks Dr.Vaknin❤ been learning amazing things from you since 2016 and will continue to absorb your work. Thank you, sir. So much.
Beautiful sharing - checking out your recommended videos as well. I've had years of healing/yoga/meditation/deeply looking within and have had such success....not much of that critique voice left, thankkkkfullly......but I super LOVE trying all angles of scorching every last one out of my system...hence why I'll be checking the other videos out.
Your take on this subject so interestingly reminds me of my deep esoteric self realization/yoga/spiritual scriptures innerstandings...I very much enjoy seeing how you actually connect these different pieces of the "puzzle" of life.
This is so very painfully true
My best unrequested teacher - Mr Narc - nothing but greatful to whatever brang this self realisation lesson to my doorstep - i can learn, grow, be life educated whilst keeping all my virtues, motals, he cant............A spitirual prospective = A psychology prospective= An academic prospective = A caring friend/family prospective any which way you look at it, self realisation prospective is all that really matters - WHO you really are is what I got from a life and day with Mr Narc - what happens to them & can they evolve or veil ever be lifted the question remains........
i love you how you explain things in a scientific manner. others don't
Prof Sam Vaknin thank you again for another of many of your truly inspirational videos. You are a true diamond and you have such a wonderful gift.
The silence is total.....even the messages to the "golden child"; chosen, special, unique ,like no other; called on by God himself as the holy vessel to transform the world . Messages that have never in 50 years come to fruition, so I'm exchanging my "golden child " for something considerably less lofty .
5 years of TH-cam videos on this topic and this is my last one. Finally. Thank you Sam🙏
Thank you Sam. Very well said and on point. I wished I came across your info 5 years ago. It is a roller coaster ride to healing yourself but it can be done. Finding my individuality took some work but after that metaphoric door was removed the rest seemed easier. Self love and having good personal boundaries is priceless.
Just say from once living a life of anxiousness and fear to now living a life of no fear with self awareness , self love and healthy boundaries I feel alive , free , and happy. Living in the now and always moving forward.
I will check out the links . Information is the power of healing. Thank you
Thank you for your passionate teachings and help. God bless you.
You really are a punk rock overlord from space. And that’s a massive compliment
I am Jewish from Israel I have just been thrown away by the narcissist for about the twenty time
We have been together for a year
Today I have chest pain panic attacks
I am feel like I am losing my mind
I still love him and miss him so much and feel like it’s my fault and maybe I was the wrong one
In a year I have been beaten
Strangled hit in front of my daughters
Last week he told me he never loved me
He has blocked me every where
I always call him and beg him back
I have not called him this time for six days
But I am trying so hard not to contact him why is it so hard to stop loving him
Thank you so much Dear Professor. ❤
Wow!
Very well put and articulated.
Like you are mirroring what im going through in my healing jiurney in beautiful words.
Thanks for your work ❤
Thank you Prof. Vaknin for this roadmap I need so much of.
Thanks so much!
Learning with your videos!
thank you, Sam, it's your combination of skepticism and poetic zest that make your videos so uniquely effective.
Thank you so much I've been listening to You through months of my baby/mother relationship with my ex/friend narc I'm here now perfectly timed x you r soo spot on always sam ❤😢😊
Wow. This is just perfect. Thank you, so much.
Thank u for this, it's really helpful but on the other hand, sometimes it feels kinda hopeless :(
Nice advice Professor. Thank you
Professor Vaknin, thank you.
Thank you so much for being willing to help us.
Thank youuuuuu SO much!
The last few minutes made me wake up 👏🏻🙏🏻
That is exactly right. All gone. Very keen analysis. You grow up all over again. But now wise.
Thank you for saving my life! ❤
Have just written to Russian embassy.
Im here listening again!!!! Thank you So much Mr Sam
This was really good. Thank you.
That was so helpful. Thank you ❤
Such a rampant condition… its all around us.. yet no solution or cure for it anywhere..!!😢
Thank you Prof Vaknin
Thank you sm. That is exactly what I need to do. Choosing life. And I need to stop calling him. Because even then he tells me YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN Life and tries to "help" me... Ridiculous, my abuser tries to help me... And then just minutes and hours after a deep talk he tells me STOP WRITING EMAILS I WON'T READ THEM. OTHER WOMAN HAD DONE THAT FOR ONE YEAR AND I EVEN WASN'T AWARE OF IT.
And boom he had me again. I was so furious him talking again about another woman praising him. I asked why he did tell me that... He just answered MAYBE I DO IT SUBCONSCIOUSLY BUT IT'S NOT ON PURPOSE. I EVEN DON'T REALIZE IT. and that's a lie... I told him in the beginning that he always talks about other women and I don't like it. He does know very well. I really have to work through the process of individuation otherwise it will kill me. I have been so addicted to the pain of being with him because I thought he saved me. But he didn't. It's all lies. It's all a game. And his voice is still in my head. And also very loud. And I keep coming back to him. Just to feel the dosis of pain again. It has to stop. I have to see him for what he is. But as you said it's intermittent reinforcement that keeps me going. Hoping to get some of the motherhood again. It has to stop!!
Thank you, dear Sam
Thank you 🙏 having clear instructions on what to do after unmasking a narcissist gives hope❤
Do you think it is possible that long-term narcissistic abuse could contribute to a person getting adrenal tumors? I had my left adrenal gland removed last year and now there are tumours in my right adrenal. I survived over 40 years of narcissistic abuse from my mother, and I was also married to one for a few years. I wonder if being stuck in fight or flight mode virtually every day of my life eventually mayhavepaved the way for these tumours to develop. Have you ever read anything about it? (Also, I agree somatic therapy is brilliant). Thanks so much
I had a parotid tumor removed 2020.
2 narcissistic parents and 13 years married to malignant narcissist and surrounded by other narcissistic family members and narcissistic co workers. I also struggle with other chronic health conditions. No contact with all toxic family now and out of the toxic work environments. YES. Constant fight/flight causes body to shut down and get disease. Adrenal fatigue, autoimmune conditions, growths/tumors,etc.
Amazing video. Just utterly amazing. תודה סמי :~)
Thank you so much, Professor!
Gracias, saludos de Sonora, México
Beautiful!!
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Dear Prof. Sam, thank you very much!
Thank you.
Thank you thank you...your words are life saving 🙏
Thank you for all your insights and great help!
Is it safe to say it's the mother wound for us who continously find ourselves intertwined with narcissists? I always thought it was the fact my father was one, but now I'm not sure.
Mother.
Same here...now my axis has shifted and im seeing things from an entirely new angle. All of this is very nuanced too in that i believe bith of my parents are borderline and narcissistic to varying degrees. Mother wears more of a mask.
Hi Sam. Would someone with bpd be able to have their own agency in this way as well, with these steps? I know from your previous videos that bpds outsource their agency, usually onto a narcissist, and so to individuate completely and find their sense of self may be a different process, if possible at all? Thanks so much! You are godsend!
Yes. This applies to all intimate partners of narcissists.
You’re saving my life.