I would like to point out as someone diagnosed with borderline personality disorder that not every person with this diagnosis is aggressive. There is a branch known as "quiet borderline" (like mine) doesnt is implosive and not explosive.
Fellow quiet pwBPD. I often wonder if the aggressive, highly manipulative people with the disorder are actually NPDs, or at least have it as a comorbidity with BPD. I find it strange that raging is in our diagnosis criteria but not narcs.
Janeane Marlow BPD people can have NPD, but not all of them have it. It really depends on childhood factors...also “quiet borderline” is also known as acting inward. Such as self harm or self hatred
@@phant0m0th_ yea its fairly common to see comorbidities, especially those in the same cluster group. What I mean is I think 'pure' BPD (I realize that sounds kinda daft, but bear with me) don't rage. I'm diagnosed BPD and the only criteria I don't meet is the raging. And the others with BPD I have met don't fit that either (assuming its the truth of course). I'd say most BPDs are quiet because of the self hatred. And the inappropriate displays of anger aren't the norm. But I understand the lines can get pretty blurred across diagnosis. Its just an opinion I have. I could be 100% incorrect.
Self-diagnosis is the first step to diagnosis. You have to recognize that, "Hey! I have some of those..." and then you have to work on getting actually diagnosed. The difference between people on the first step of diagnosis and people who are just self-diagnosing is that people who self-diagnose will usually look at the google entry of the disorder and never seek a true diagnosis, or they will use the disorder to excuse their actions.
@@lyndonleedalee1738 I agree plus some of us cant get actually diagnosed because they cant see a psychiatrist because of different reasons but the ones that self diagnose and use it as an excuse or to get attention are pathetic
As someone diagnosed with BPD, it’s more than just mood swings. you constantly overthink, always assume people are judging you, you jump to conclusions waaay to fast, if someone’s tone SLIGHTLY changes it makes you switch moods instantly but once you know they’re fine you feel immense guilt and go back to laughing it off. I’ll have guilt for the rest of my life for the way I’ve always treated my parents. I throw meltdowns nearly daily over the tiniest of tiny things, my dads even given me the nickname “5 year old” because I whine and act like a toddler who couldn’t get a toy over very small things. It’s hard to keep relationships because you lack trust in everyone, and once you find someone you get codependent and obsessed with them but once you’re finally with them you second guess yourself and try to gaslight yourself into thinking you don’t have feelings for them. everyone thinks you’re entitled and or lazy, and everyone just assumes you’re a bad person or a Karen. STOP WANTING THIS SHIT ITS NOT CUTE
this unfortunately is just the tip of the iceberg. I know I’m a decent human, but the BPD makes me think otherwise. I’ve done and said things no human in their right mind would even think about saying. I don’t mean the words, but when I’m in rage mode anything goes. I hope I can forgive myself and I hope our creator can forgive me. I don’t know who’s watching but I hope they know I wanna work on myself
I was diagnosed with MDD last year but the past week I’ve been looking into Bipolar 2 and BPD. Originally (so like at the beginning of the week) I thought I had Bipolar 2, but now I’m suspecting it is BPD, specifically because my hypomanic and depressed episodes fluctuate throughout the day. But the putoff for suspecting I’ve got BPD is that I’m 14, even though you can… have it prior to adulthood.. I would also like to describe my symptoms as internalised (so quiet Bipolar or, quiet BPD like another commenter mentioned). People may perceive me as perfectly fine on the outside but on the inside I’m actually really paranoid, anxious, sad, etc. Some examples would be: ~ the constant paranoia my friends are annoyed with me presence sitting with them so I isolate myself and one of them has always gotta invite me to sit with them and that they don’t genuinely consider me their friends because I never engage in socialising within the group. ~ the longer my friends do not reply to my texts, the more paranoid I’ll get they think I’m bugging them again. I’ll sometimes then send an apology text for annoying them/being a bad person (bc of that paranoia), and they’ll often reply in a matter of minutes or hours saying I’m all good, I didn’t do anything wrong they don’t hate me, etc.
I’m currently not bothered to type more and if you may even read all of the above, but there are many other symptoms I exhibit. I’m going to try getting prescribed medication soon. Hopefully my years of suffering (impacting my academics) will ease.
@@anonymmous ah you sound just like 14 year old me. I was diagnosed with DMDD, then with petulant BPD once I turned 18 since DMDD is normally for minors and my parents brainwashed the last psychiatrist so once I turned 18 and got my own I could tell her the whole hearted truth and she properly diagnosed me. It’ll get better once you get clarity and medication(: Its still a constant struggle bc of the 247 paranoia and self hate but I’m working on it slowly but surely. I know your pain and I promise it’ll get better SLOWLY but it’ll be half as bad once you get older, you get better at managing the thoughts and feelings once you realize it’s 99% in your head half the time. Just remember: nobody is out to get you and it’s mostly in your head. That’s what I wish I knew when I was your age.
I read that wrong and thought you meant disruptive mood dysregulation disorder but MDD is what they also slapped me with as well. If you think you have some form of personality disorder, the sooner you get treated the better or else you’ll be a senior In highschool not even able to get out of bed for school and then have to be left behind while your class is in college.
BPD is usually misinterpreted. This video is another classic case of that. It’s has a lot to do with problems of emotional regulation and your self identity, not so much aggressiveness or risky behavior but the emotional experience is what fuels things like that, so not everyone with it will have those traits.
THANK YOU!! also I'd like to add to your comment that it doesn't always revolve around the destruction of people around you like its said in the video, but sometimes solely revolves about destroying yourself... out of the 9 main symptoms of bpd, having minimum 5 of them is enough to potentially get diagnosed..
Yess! The aggression and the risky behaviours are results of the inability to control intense emotions, often caused by a fear of rejection/abandonment.
THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS OH MY GOD I'm literally not aggressive in the slightest, the riskiest thing I do is "build up pity" in genshin impact 😭 I wish people knew that bpd was about identity and emotions rather than depicting us as monsters
I find the schizotypal personality disorder the most difficult to wrap my head around. At what point do strange beliefs become a disorder? Once they are compulsive? Many geniuses would then fall into that category.
The main issue is how hard for them is to cooperate and function within society. Just like with schizoids, it might not be an issue for them, given they have skills and tools to achieve their ideal life alone, just like WW. When they need to contact the outside world, they are in need to translate their visions and make people believe in them enough to help. This might be a tall order at times, given that most of people are not exccentric, so the statistics are often against them. Not being able to do that results in being unfullfilled and alienated
"An enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the individual's culture." Ok let's unwrap this. You have people in our culture who believe in so-called strange things. This could be aliens, lizard people, UFOs, you name it. Add to this a cultural phenomenon wherein we worship entertainment and we have a whole industry dedicated to making outlandish stories seem plausible. Add to this the fact that strange phenomena exist in our world. Some are witness to it and others never have the privilege. Then there is the fact that we have increasingly intricate technologies that can fool the senses. So we are left with people who feel they are trying to tell everyone something extremely important, and those people will always feel gaslighted by people who have none of these experiences, or if they do, they manage to explain them away. It causes chaos. Compound that with any narcissistic venture that would profit from said beliefs or said chaos. Compound it again with people who have organic disorders, namely schizophrenia, who might physically see something that someone concurrently in their presence might not sense at all. What about ESP? Have you ever had a moment of premonition, or thought of someone as they called, or had a feeling about something that ended up coming true? Some people might think you are crazy for thinking that could possibly be the case. To them, everything is extremely cut and dried. Maybe they have NPD or BPD. Maybe neurotypical people are undesirable because they can't be controlled. There I go with my strange beliefs. Happy accident. Am I crazy? Disordered? Maybe it's in the eye of the beholder.
Hey, diagnosed Schizoid here. I just want to give my two cents. For one, thank you for not just flat out saying we're totally incapable of having friends or meaningful relationships. People often act like we're not able to form any kind of bond, when we are. I, for example, have a nice romantic relationship and friends who I'd fight for. It's just that I don't feel motivated to make new friends and I simply don't attach to a vast majority of people who talk to me. I don't generally want to go make friends with people, and I spend a lot of my time alone, which I'm content with. A lot of our behavior stems from our emotional detachment. The disorder as a whole is largely based in apathy and being emotionally detached. Now, as for my experience, I don't really feel a "need" to treat my SPD. It's as you said in the video, I'm honestly fine with myself the way I am. It does hamper some of my abilities to understand other people, but overall I don't mind it. My SPD was most likely caused by severe parental abuse (verbal and physical) I went through during some of my childhood and throughout my teens, as I can trace a lot of my Schizoid-related tendencies back to it. For example, I was punished for showing emotion, so I learned to not show it, and over time it lead to me simply not feeling it as one normally would. I almost always feel like an outsider looking in when it comes to society, as though there's a thick glass wall between me and them. A glass wall through which I can see and hear them, but simply can't get close or make contact. There are a number of other traits we exhibit which you didn't mention (understandably so since this is kind of a rapid-fire video), but you got the main point of what SPD is across well, and I appreciate your unbiased yet empathetic outlook on all of these disorders. A lot of people are quick to jump to conclusions that are incorrect. .. Not sure that a 50 Shades of Gray character is the best thing to compare us to though, haha. Honestly, I think comparing fictional characters to personality disorders as a whole isn't a very good idea, since it can give people false pretenses about these disorders.
Crypt Patrol that honestly sucks, but at the same time seems kinda convenient, idk since I'm not diagnosed with that disorder I obviously won't fully be able to understand what goes in your head
The thing you mentioned, how you feel like you're looking and interacting with people through glass, that's exactly how I feel. you hit the nail on the head with that. I feel so isolated and it can be so depressing, but at the same time... I don't really feel all that compelled to change it. i have a hard time feeling anything for longer than short bursts too, anything other than anxiety or depression. do you feel that way too? thanks for taking the time to comment on this video.
I have an opposing view on Cinderella being the example for dependent personality disorder. She’s actually quite independent and resourceful. Despite being abused and mistreated for years by her step family, she developed many healthy coping mechanisms to escape that hardship and made her own decisions to escape her household where she was basically enslaved. She simply hoped for freedom and grew as a person despite living in a toxic environment. It is true that she does depend on her animal friends, but that does not mean that she is not capable of doing thjngs on her own, as she does everything she can to survive in the hands of her abusive family. She is a survivor that used her resources and created a support group full of those that could help her and she ultimately fought against her family to live her own life.
This is a very well thought out way to describe Cinderella that I completely agree with and haven't heard before! I don't understand why a bunch of people didn't take the time to think about what you painstakingly wrote, but I did. Thank you.
As someone with BPD, it is important to know that this personality disorder often leads to other mental condition such as repetitive depression or anxiety disorders, sometimes even dissociation. Seeking help can really be useful to someone with this condition. Even if you're too young to be diagnosed, just having the help for your tough exeperiences might really help you.
last year I was diagnosed with schizoid. Honestly I am glad for that. Knowing that you are completely okay with not having any relationship with anyone is really a bliss.
i could not have a relationship because there are no girls in school to relate to,,, (thats why i hate valentines day, and they try to catagorize me as a schiz.)))
I'm really glad you differentiated between Bipolar and Borderline. I was misdiagnosed with Bipolar a couple of years ago, and it led to multiple stays in the psych ward because my therapy was about bipolar, and not borderline.
I was diagnosed with dysthymia 20 years ago. I got tested by the psych ward, they told me I had BPD with traits of bipolar. A few years ago, I was arrested and went to jail for attacking my husband with hot soup and throwing a knife at him. Now that I am out, I am switching on a dime. He doesn't know who I am anymore. I have been on everything out there, Nothing seems to work. I cry myself to sleep every night. I'm so thankful that he still loves me and is still my husband. In July it will be 30 years we are married.
@@michellekinmond8126 I'm sorry to hear that Hopefully you didn't lose your loved one My boyfriend is high-functioning psychopath and also sociopath psychopathic shizophrenic narcissistic and was diagnosed by therapist and doctors And maybe also is bordeline and obssesed compulsive disorder but not sure but is of course obssesed over me I love him the way he is We shouldn't judge people just because they have mental or personality disorders
Just remember that even though stereotypes about personality disorders may make them seem scary, most of the time people with pds are not dangerous or scary or bad people. They deserve your kindness above all.
Lol, I'm a psycopath and am dangerous and scary on purpose. Because most people aren't forward thinking enough to be worth their space in the gene pool. I'm superior to most everybody on the evolutionary spectrum, and somehow, that makes me the bad guy. I'm an overachiever, and if that makes me a monster well, then what I'm aiming to acomplish makes me a god, and being a God makes me right.
@@Anima_1.1The stigma and lack of education (and funding) regarding mental health problems and their treatments are major contributors as to why many remain dangerous and undiagnosed
@yung-megafone that's just not true. It's about incentive to change. People in general are notoriously disinclined to welcome change. Those that do, do it for ultimately selfish reasons, like improving on your own life, sadness, trauma etc. We are talking about changing a personalty style. Well these personalities are predatorial in nature, and that works for them. It is definitely waaay easier to just continue rather than face the fact that you're essentially not a good human, regardless of the reasons why. I do have compassion for the trauma, but that's not even always the case (some narcisists were smothered with love, for example). Point of it is, my trauma was imposed on me but its my job to change that. Antisocial personalities lack the incentive and they are very, very often, oblivious at their own condition. Truly, not everything can be changed. And it's not our job to do it or put ourselves in the path of danger, and this is speaking as a former people pleaser who really, really likes humans in general and thinks we are frail, breakable and deserving of kindness. So were I to choose if I show kindness to myself of someone on the Spektrum, I will show them up until some point, then I won't anymore. I will show kindness to myself rather, because I matter, too. And I haven't been predatorial, so I deserve it more.
*I wonder how often a personality disorder really causes problems for people and how often it's their environment who don't understand those people and just see them as "weird".*
Brains Applied - Unraveling The Human Mind- that’s what I’m wondering. I was watching a video on complex trauma and I learned that we live in a complex trauma rich society yet hardly anyone talks about it.
An incredibly daft comment. When’s. Majority of people do not exhibit these symptoms and a single person in that same group does then it’s likely that person is different.
I know that cluster b personality disorder can be absolutely be disruptive (nightmare) for families. Specifically that I have suffered from other people having include borderline and narcissism. These people have all but ruined my life by having to deal with them
Me too because my family refuses to acknowledge that there bullying and seeing my mom being physically as well as myself cant possibly make a person sad angry and lonely. Instead they claim your weird or crazy or should forget and let go but when they have damaged you you need to fox the damage then maybe wed have a chanve
It' absolutely is possible though...who would go to that extreme .. and why are they against you .? Sounds like pressure humiliation actually "abuse " and too much to think about people should be able to speak their mind not living in fear that the thing said is going to slam ya back in face.
hey!! as someone who is *actually* diagnosed with schizotypal, i think this video is quite nice where it actually covers personality disorders in a way that isnt boring those watching. i’m happy that you used characters in popular films and real people. thank you for making this video!
It annoys me that Borderline is a disorder but the abuse that created it isn’t. There’s always a way to make the victim ‘wrong’ while the perpetrator remains unseen and unacknowledged.
Tania PinkSky i agree! The stigma around BPD is so horrible. I wish there was more knowledge in the community about it, or even better, changing the diagnosis to C-PTSD because that is what it is.
Yessss pls, I’ve seen more than 3 psychiatrists and they don’t know which one I have or if it’s both, regardless the symptoms are very similar and you can treat both similarly
Why would one expect in-depth details in a general summary that’s a 11 minute TH-cam video? If people feel they may have BPD, they should seek professional help for a more personal explanation & treatments.
@@casey2401 didn't expect in-depth detail (which is impossible tbh), but they could have put in those extra 30 secs to describe it a bit more. They minimalized it to an extent, that people will misinterpret it. For example: I'm from Germany and everything people here know about bpd is that cutting and suicide is a thing, which is not fully true. If anyone feels like they might have problems with their mental health, they should seek professional help
I’m glad that it was acknowledged that people who have personality disorders deserve to be treated with empathy and consideration because a lot of us have been through horrific abuse which caused our disorders to begin with!
We do need empathy. I am happy for those who have it. I have a husband who has no empathy. I am constantly abused emotionally, spoken to like a homeless person on the street, when I cry, he walks away. But he is a good provider, makes sure I am Fed and have clothes and bedding. He is always telling me that he loves me. LOL. We're married 30 years this year.
@@michellekinmond8126 Well just be careful My boyfriend is high-functioning psychopath and also sociopath psychopathic shizophrenic narcissistic and was diagnosed by therapist and doctors And maybe also is bordeline and obssesed compulsive disorder but not sure but is of course obssesed over me I love him the way he is We shouldn't judge people just because they have mental or personality disorders
I could remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with bipolar. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES very sure of mycologist Predroavaro. This treatment worked for me. Helped me got rid of my addiction and ADHD. Never had to take shrooms after then.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
It's scary how well the section of the video describing Avoidant Personality Disorder felt relatable to me. for the past few months of highschool I've been nearly 24/7 obsessively thinking about my friends and how I'd want them to appreciate me and shower me with their attention,,, but instead of doing anything and deepening my bond with them I've felt paralyzed by fear of how they might react, or that they don't talk to me now because they get along with each other so well and just see me as a weirdo outsider now who stopped talking to them, even though they still hang around. and observe them talk. Doing anything about this feels so hard and I feel paralyzed, like joining in on their conversations is the most dreadful task and i am simply too awkward to talk to ::_:: I'm already talking to a therapist about this and my other issues, but i still can't muster up any courage for change; don't mind me venting here a little bit, and also thank you for reading til the end
I have a long list of professional diagnosis. One is BPD also DID. Trauma, self doubt and fear are crippling. I truly hope you can move past your fears. I personally have all those fears but I feel everything in this world that has gone wrong for anyone I know is my fault. I feel I have to step away from everyone for their best interest. That I just hurt them. I hope you can't relate to me. This is literally hell. What is happening to you is different but also sounds like hell. I hope you find what you need to heal yourself. Good luck 🤞
I have avoidant personality disorder also. The nice thing about it is it can improve with time and exposure to putting yourself out there socially/ facing your fears/ experiencing some social failures and growing from them. I feel like I've vastly improved over the years. So don't worry, just keep at it. Keep challenging yourself and don't give up!
I think I have a bit of avoidant personality too, coupled with introversion. I feel anxious around people who are my friends and I don’t feel comfortable in conversations. I see others as having a better sense of humor and telling more interesting stories. I’ve tried reading books on increasing my sense of humor, storytelling, conversation starters, and conversational style and flow. I’ve watched TH-cams on verbal communication and having quicker thought processes/speech responses to be a better communicator. Honestly, it has helped me to a small degree, but I still overthink and over analyze the way others perceive me. I think that makes me appear less confident, which is also less appealing to others. It’s exhausting and makes me want to stay home in my safe space.
@@ahgunter I understand the desire to hole up at home. The improvement happens so painstakingly slow. But it does happen with a lot of blood, sweat and tears, and maybe some "giving up" times in between :p All we can do is be a tiny hair better than we were yesterday. It would be great to have the superpower to change all at once though, wouldn't it? haha
You bet on listening till the end of your talking. Keep going you get better every day. Goodness & mercy shall follow you all the rest of your days. Peace. Hope xo
I worked for 30 years as a mental health professional. I would love to write a book about bpd and the extreme, dramatic and dangerous behavior patterns i witnessed. This is the hardest disorder to identify and to understand in my opinion.
I am diagnosed with DPD. It is very difficult to function at work because of my fear of messing up tasks. If im not given a specific checklist of things to do, i get upset and anxious and even if i have a list i need coworkers to assure me that im doing the tasks correctly. I work at mcd and even though im shy, working at the counter is my favorite position because all i need to do is listen to what the customer wants, and then push some buttons. Its important to me that im told what to do and given instructions, but also constantly reminded of them. Along side this i have anxiety about bothering people and my need for instruction combats my need to not be a burden. All this coupled with the fact i have anxiety about being away from my mom and my home makes working difficult and i kind of wish i could explain this to others so that they understand. Thanks for reading :3
heiko drak I relate so bad, doing school tasks are so hard for me, when there's the teacher that can assure me I'm doing it right I'm confident in my work but when it comes to tests, it's like I know it but I just feel like I'm doing it wrong, it gives me so much stress and anxiety, I feel like this also effects my leadership skills, I always thought I was a born leader, but feeling as if I might do the wrong thing and bring down the whole groups has a toll on me, it's like so fucking hard, I feel it's just me being over dramatic and scared of being wrong, but like how the heck am I supposed live with this
I've been diagnosed with multiple different personality disorders in my life. My ex girlfriends psychiatrist labeled me as borderline when she didn't even meet me in person. Another psychologist diagnosed me as personality disorder not otherwise specified after meeting me for 5 minutes. I used to think I was antisocial and psychopathic because I have a lack of empathy and emotions. But I have finally learned I'm schizophrenic and now I'm on the right medication.
I’m glad you are feeling better. Honestly - a diagnosis on the basis of an exe’s version is no diagnosis at all. Extremely unprofessional. Also a diagnosis after 5 minutes or even an hour or two. Also unprofessional. Glad you found the right help.
The psychiatrist and psychologist have disorders themselves. Everyone can be classified with mental conditions. Get off the drugs and don’t blindly believe what people say
@@reikaratnam uh I don't blindly believe what people say. I'm schizophrenic that's a fact and it's real. I used to think medication was stupid nonsense until I got the right medicine for me. It helps and I realize people with mental illness have a hard time with taking meds and believing in psychiatry but sometimes you find the right ones and it helps. Luckily for me I just have to get an injection once a month and I don't flip out and have severe anger and delusions.
This was a very informative video. But it also saddens me to think that there are so many disorders out there that get triggered by poor emotional experiences. The world would be such a better place if we could just treat others with the same kindness and patience that we expect for ourselves. I know it is not something that happens overnight, but I wish to slowly work towards building myself into a kinder and more empathetic version of myself.
I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and avoidant personality disorder. BPD is such a complicate disorder, it used to be called emotional intensity disorder, the extreme emotions I was feeling literally gave me a heart attack at the age of 23. With therapy things got better.
I also have BPD. It is very complicated. I gave my husband a heart attack b/c he got so stressed out at me. Then the feelings of guilt come over you and you feel like shit and want to end your life.
Lol very true, this is real life and people go through things and everyone is going to have a Lil of these issues. I do think there is a severity in some people and they my need help.
I have ocd. And I’m not just saying that. I was diagnosed when I was 6 because it was so severe (and still is). I would spend my time plucking out my eyelashes, picking at myself, engaging in repetitive and unnecessary behaviors. And it honestly hurts my feelings when people throw the term ocd around so lightly or just think that they have it because they’re organized.
I have had OCD for as long as I can remember. My number is 2, I pick at my scabs (My whole body except my face is scarred from picking and burns), I repeat things until I think they are perfect. I know how you feel. My daughter had it when she was younger, her number was 8. Every night before bed she would do everything 8 times, it drove us batty. (Brushing teeth, knocking, etc...). Thankfully she grew out of it, I still have it though. It is not a happy thing to have.
@@kayjay8790 Patrick Bateman was more delusional and psychotic. You never know for sure if he's hallucinating killing people or actually a cold hearted psychopathic killer.
Mike Delzoppo that’s what the psycho in american psycho means. Just like the movie psycho. It stands for psychotic, not psychopathic. Or rather it’s up to the reader/viewer to decide.
It's not unrealistic to have intense paranoia in this time.. with all the smart devices listening to everything and with access to all your photos and camera on your phone and laptops, then with all these things being brought up about politicians that they did YEARS ago, etc... I don't think it's crazy to worry about that only except for the fact that the only way to avoid it is live off the grid and thats practically impossible now.
I agree.... I am very off grid..... each year I get more so.... I don't want to participate in this wicked and corrupt society in as much as is possible.... I'm in survival mode... have been for several years.... homeless.... living simple in a van..... preparing to put on a backpack and vanish when that becomes my only option.
Yep. I was looking at a map on my phone earlier and it was near a place I visited yesterday. I have location and voice activation off. My friend sent me a photo he took of me at this place and I clicked save. While looking at the map - a notice from google comes up with the photo my friend sent asking if I wanted to add the photo to google search so others would see this place. I was F off google, you shouldn’t have my photo at all. How do you know where it was taken? (The map I was looking at did have the place I visited on it but I was looking at a much bigger map of the area looking for something else) Phones are scary these days
There is a different between logical paranoia and having a paranoid disorder. Feeling wary of our president due to new negative info from past presidents is not the same as being obsessed with our president being an alien.
There is such a mix of personality traits within each PD. Like most people believe that narcissistic personality disorder is attached to grandiosity. It's not. My ex husband I never knew he was narcissistic until I went to therapy only to realize that he was covert or vulnerable narcissistic. There are some excellent books out there on personality disorder. One of the first things you feel is you're the narcissist I was the one who believed I was crazy and it was him making me think that for years. 😢
Covert narcs are hard to understand and most people don't even know it exists. Was married 26 years to one. Once you have your eyes opened your life truly changes, especially if you get professional help. Good luck with your journey.
Thank you 🙏🏾 for this. I took the Test. And I found out that I’m really Healthy mentally and emotionally for the first time in my Life. I’ve been in talk therapy for 3 years and it’s paying off. 😊
i love these windows into soul. As a survivor of a serious stroke at 17 I was never checked up on throughout my life. At 66 now I will write my story both good and bad. Gives me something to do.
I think I might have avoident personality disorder. I have a constant fear of doing things or even answering questions because I feel like others will judge me so I normally stay silent and try not to be noticed. Just yesterday I broke down to someone saying how I feel like I'm suffocating when I have to interact with others or people have to notice me because I feel as if they are judging me.
I really appreciate this video. I was diagnosed with BPD a little while ago. I sent this to people I'm close to so they can better understand. you put it better than I ever could lol
Oh, it's good to hear about NPD, as someone who's diagnosed with it I can say that I kinda hate it but I don't wanna change it at the same time. It's hard to live knowing that I am a narcissist while I don't to be 1 of them. But I started to dealing with it and I just started to ignore *everything* so now I'm not putting anyone in the 1st place. But I still trynna to fight my desire of being a World Leader who can control every president/king/queen or whatever they have from every single country. Being a conscious narcissist is very hard to live like a "normal person"
I seem to attract all of them which is why I enjoy my own company. It's far easier and less hassle than dealing with other people's shite all the time.
A little anecdote on the nature of genius and psychological disorders: reminds me of a story I read years ago on the late mathematician John Nash of a Beautiful Mind; after the Nobel Laureate in economics had nearly succumbed to his schizophrenia, he found himself in a room with a frustrated colleague pacing about and asking him questions. The colleague asked John: "How could you; a Nobel Prize-winning mathematician of the highest caliber, believe that _aliens_ were sending you signals in magazines??!!?" John: "Because the messages came to me in the same way as my mathematical ideas."
I love that you talk fast since you're still so easy to understand. Seems like everyone else either have really long intros, talk too slow, repeat themselves, or talk about a bunch of unrelated stuff. I much prefer your style!
I love this, I have borderline personality, my hubby has bipolar disorder this was a very accurate explanation in an easy to understand format. I think education on these things is super important to reduce the stigma attached to them. Thank you.
1:17 though it’s important to be empathetic and understanding regardless of anything nobody has the right to abuse you due to their traumatic history. Ever.
As someone with avoidant PD i just want to put out there to what extremes many people who suffer from this PD go in order to avoid certain things/situations/people/..: i would harm myself so badly to avoid going to school for example. Or poison myself in order to not meet up with someone i didnt like but was too scared to tell them. I know people who did far worse things in order to avoid these feelings of anxiety/helplessness/embarrassment/... And still avoidant PD is often seen as a PD thats not "that bad". And that is just stupid
I greatly appreciate a video explaining how ASPD is a spectrum and not all of us with this diagnosis is a horrible evil person at heart. Most videos I see say that. And most people who find out I’m diagnosed go from being a close to friend to “what do you want out of me. It’s impossible for people like you to have friends”. After going in and out of therapy for a couple years both of my will and not. I found that I’m not a terrible person and I don’t have to act like the monster people think I am. Because who cares if they’ll never see me anything else. I know me and I do have a few close friends which is better than a ton of shitty people I have to become an actor around. For me my problems came about due to adoption trauma and “learning from infancy that the only way to get what you need to survive you have to act out, manipulate, and steal” and “connections and emotions are dangerous because everyone is just going to hurt or leave you eventually”. It’s not easy to unlearn stuff like that. It’s not even a conscious process but something instinctual that I didn’t even know I did until my third therapist.
My psychiatrist says I borderline personality disorder because of me being emotionally and physically abused and abandoned and bullied as a child and having low self esteem issues I was also diagnosed with depression and ptsd
I have been diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder. I have been to treatment and counceling for a year now. It defenently has helped in many ways.😊
David Neraas I can identify with that a bit, but I'm autistic, so, I don't know whether it's just that. There was definitely a time when I was very wary of people and didn't get out much because of it though.
As a young lady with a diagnosed borderline personality disorder, and autism, I can joyfully say these videos are becoming very helpful, so thankyou very much 🙃
I recognise with avoidant personality disorder due to years of bullying, abuse ect i really should get helped and try to get diagnosed after i become an adult or smth
I got diagnosed last year after thinking I was broken and just messed up. I suggest getting diagnosed because (i don’t mean to scare you) It can get worse when you age without tending to your mental health. Im still yet to figure out the perfect psychologist but the thought that I’m not alone in this and there is help really eases it for me ☺️
let us also keep in mind that we shouldn't categorize/label ourselves even if diagnosed with one of these disorders. this is only a small part of us and doesn't encompass the full beauty of our individual personalities. there are great things about each of these personality types. please don't think there's anything wrong with you!
@@vanessa.karin_ Yeah, because something that is highly demonized already and very complex to deal with is being listed as a half assed summary in a youtube video. It doesn't help the image it already has. Like he just names a few very broad symptoms that barely cover the actual disorder and then started naming characters that have it
Ever since I discovered personality disorders when I was 16 and I suspect I might have Avoidant personality disorder or Schizoid. I was brought up as an only child with a alcoholic and emotionally abusive and neglectful single mother. I was always anxious and withdrawn as a child, and I suspect I've been asexual since I was at least 13. I've always had a deep and rich imagination and love to read and write creatively. I don't think I can connect emotionally with other people and I just don't understand family or romantic relationships. I'm 30 this year and child free and always had a weird aversion to sex. I can joke about it sometimes but the thought of actually doing it grosses me out so I never bothered. I always thought there was something incredibly wrong with me because I didn't feel comfortable dating anyone and am terrified of getting pregnant.
AMiah no one. Because any character through media or books aren’t usually good representations. These disorders show up in people differently so basing it off of one person isn’t a good idea. Not only that, but there’s usually a stigma behind plenty of mental illnesses.
Um bruh I personally feel a lot better when I see characters with my disorder because it brings light to it I just dont like how they make the rage such a huge factor because usually people with my disorder are fairly quiet and not prone to rage unless hurt
@@totalrandomchick1488 most fictious characters do a poor job at representing an entire disorder just by mere fact that it's on television and there is stigma and fluff added to such character for the storyline.
taho THANK YOU! It may make you feel less alone but just join a group online or something else....characters almost always show the negative aspects and stereotypes. Like depression is always some sad girl who hates life and doesn’t want to be around people. That might be some people but not a whole lot..... Good comment 👌🔥👌🔥
Malignant narcissism and in therapy over 10 years,as child conduct disorder which could be defined as mild aspd, i do feel empathy and love when it comes to certain moments and situations selectivly tho to some people usually only one or two people in my life,but this is stigmatised alot
What some perceive as a personality disorder is often survival tactics to keep people away from them. After all, one is impossible to be emotionally abused if they keep others away from them. Self protection should always be a priority over ridiculous social interactions and connections. Being social accomplishes little, in life. But protecting yourself accomplishes a lot. It is time to stop overstating that being social is so important. It really is not. As for talk therapy, it only makes some people miserable. I know I will never return to a mental therapist again. It is a horrible experience that accomplished nothing.
@@ninamc6116 I guess therapy works for people that are highly social. That just happens to not be me. Working physically as hard as possible seems to have a very therapeutic effect on my mind. Thus, I am constantly building things, repairing things, and modifying things. The harder the work, the better for my mind. I do not work out. All that effort benefits the body and mind but accomishes no third benefit. The hard work I do on my property has accomplished am incredible amount on my property and I do it alone. No evil talk therapist required.
I’ve recently been diagnosed with bpd. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, to cause me to be this way. Im constantly scared that the people around me will get frustrated with me and leave. I don’t know what to do or what can fix me. Im giving up self harm, whilst I do have a weird attachment to the scars they are ugly and and make me self conscious. But I need something, I can’t be out of control and for the last 3ish weeks I’ve been relapsing back into disordered eating. I remember being so proud, going days without eating and I just want to be happy again.
Forgot to mention the part where people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are actually very hurt on the inside and their disorders stems from early on childhood neglect or abuse. The person with this disorder is actually operating like a very hurt little kid.
I hate to say this, but I suspect from your comment you have 14 personality disorders, and counting...🥶. Don't stress, I haven't even watched the video yet.. is that the sign of a lazy git personality disorder? (Americans: 'git' means stupid and a lowlife) hmm... So I'm not a narcicst, I can't even spell it, but I may well be a procastomaniac, and nobody can spell that, which makes me a megalomaniac 🐈, I mean 💥💪 👹🦖⚡ I need to watch the video
I went through a whole diagnostic process from the end of 2022 to may 2023, and was tested for several personality disorders. The three that made sense were schizoid, avoidant and dependent (avoidant and dependent has been said to me by doctors since 2018). However, I was never given these diagnoses because it turned out I'm autistic and have ADHD and at the time PTSD. My schizoid tendencies could easily be explained by my autism, so this wasn't even mentioned in the conclusion of my diagnostic report. The other two were however, since the psychologist just.. didn't know. I could have one or both, and since my symptoms were pretty severe she decided to still include it in her conclusions. But I'll never know for sure though. I know where my difficulties lie and I'm in therapy, but never knowing for sure because I'm autistic and ADHD feels a little strange. People can be so complex, it's fascinating honestly.
OCPD and Hermione Granger- No. Hermione is simply a very clever person who has in her head a lot of information that is useful to others. She can be bossy, but she isn't manipulative. For a person to be considered as having a "personality disorder", then the characteristics which are affecting them ust impact really negatively on their life. Hermione's intelligence and skills DO NOT impact negatively on her on her friends, after the boy's initial gripe caused mainly by the fact that she is both intelligent and bossy. Hermione very quickly matures into a tolerable "clever person". The person in the Harry Potter series wh is an ABSOLUTELY PERFECT EXAMPLE of a OCPD is Dolores Umbridge. Dolores sees herself as the absolutely perfect employee of the Ministry of Magic, and the Minister for Magic in particular. What Umbridge likes to do, above all things, is enforce correctness upon other people. To this end, she sets rules which impose impossible burdens on the children, so that she can have the pleasure of correcting their errors. She continually finds situations in which she can enforce some arbitrary rule. In the movie, the measuring of Professor Flitwick, it is sign of how this rule-making can be pushed to a ridiculous extent. While on this track, Gilderoy Lockart is absolutely typical of the overt Narcissist. He is a highly incompetent wizard, hiding behind a screen of self-agrandisement, and not at all mbarrassed about taking upon himself the glory that rightly belongs to others.
MandyJMaddison I agree with the “it doesn’t affect henriones life” but like. 1) please don’t stigmatize OCPD or other disorders and 2) Dolores is a controlling asshole. Not disabled. my mother is an abusive controlling asshole but she has no PD; she just sucks. it happens.
Alexis Ermis, No. Dolores was not Narcissistic. Compare her behaviour to that of Gilderoy Lochart, the typical Narcissist She was not a "self-promoter", she was a Sergeant Major. She loved the power of control, and enforcing, but it worked for her when there was always a senior person to whom she could pass the buck. She was an absolute control freak. It is Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder. Don't muddle it up with "Obsessive Compulsive Disorder" which causes people to overdo ordinary daily things (like checking that they have locked the door). It is unfortunate that the two conditions have such similar names, but very different affects. Obsssive Compulsive Personality Disorder can be a very serious condition because, like full-on Nacissistic Personality Disorder, or Antisocial Personality Disorder, it can profoundly affect the people around you. Like Narcissistic Personality Disorder, it is outwardly directed. The OCPD cannot function without other people who they can control and bully.
Em em, You ask me not to "stigmatise" OCPD. The point is that if the person is not SERIOUSLY affected by the problem then it is not a "Personality Disorder". They merely have certain personal characteristics. Hermione Granger, for example, is right on task and is a high achiever. Dolores has all the characteristics of a serious personality disorder. And it is indeed disabling, because it affects all her relationships. People like Dolores are rarely happy, even when they are feeling an enormous sense of achievement at having crushed the rebellious spirit of some poor underling
Hai! Diagnosed bpd here!!, borderline personality disorder is so much more than what you described it as there are a bunch of different types me personally, I have quiet BPD, for me it’s not being able to regulate my emotions it’s constant fears of people leaving me it’s taking out anything negative on myself. It’s constant mood swings, not knowing how I’m going to feel the next day or within the hour. It’s losing friendships and relationships because I don’t know how to handle certain situations in certain words it’s not knowing what trauma I have in the past until it comes up randomly throughout the days or weeks or months or years, it’s constantly feeling tired and scared that somethings going to happen to me it’s constantly being worried that my significant other hates me and that they’re going to leave me which causes me to try to leave them before they leave me. It’s a constant battle in my head it’s not being able to feel emotions regularly. It’s always feeling like you’re different and not able to fit in with other people. It’s so much more than what people like to say it is and I hate when people tell us that we are bad people for it when we really can’t help it. That’s what a personality disorder is, it affects your personality
OMG! I lived with a woman for 3 years who had to have that Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She thought she was so smart, she had written these stories and I was helping her get them on to the computer - she was totally blind. I suggested she ditch the prologue and then I pointed out all the stuff she had wrong in the first chapter. She decided to not use my help again. She had decided after her mother's death that she was going to do only stuff for herself. Except I told her that she lived in my house, she had to follow certain rules. She could be all about herself in her room but not in the rest of the house. I finally had to evict her because of her behavior.
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The psychological community can label all these disorders?? Why can't they send a letter to this government. Asking all of them to come in and receive treatment for it's disorders. Start there first ❤
You know I’m learning English and I already understand a lot, besides I’m interested in these kind of videos... they’re just interesting, and watching them in English is just fun for me. Keep going! :D
Doesn't mean much unless you meet the diagnosis criteria. Just because I sneezed earlier doesn't mean I have a cold, nor does that if I get sad I have depression and 93 other illnesses. Many people can claim they have traits from all, but shit, I guess it's a perfect time to say "nobody's perfect", right?
You should look into Attachment Theory/ attachment styles. Perhaps you have one of the insecure attachment styles and you can work on that and develop a more secure style of relating.
Everyone on the planet will have at least one trait from one list of Personality disorders, usual more. For a diagnosis you have to fulfill a certain number of these traits, and have them be pervasive over your adult life time. Sure, maybe you have rampant fantasies all the time (for example), but if thats the only thing you are doing, its not a sign of schizotypal PD. Or say you 'split' on a regular basis. Doesn't mean you're borderline.
Diagnosed with dependent personality disorder, I can attest to the statement that it is very challenging to just about anything when you don’t experience healthy attachment. Therapy helps :)
Generally good definitions, but your explanation of Borderline personality disorder was somewhat lacking. It's mainly characterized by an unstable sense of self and unstable interpersonal relationships. This can manifest in sufferers changing their appearance, jobs, hobbies, and beliefs seemingly out of nowhere. In their relationships, they go through periods of intense overvaluing of their partner followed by intense periods of devaluing them. People with BPD greatly suffer from an inner turmoil due to their unstable sense of self that can manifest in behaviors that harm themselves and, often inadvertently, others. Unfortunately, self-harm and suicide are more common with BPD though many people who have it can learn to live happy and healthy lives through things like DBT
Very happy that you mentioned classic signs and behaviors of borderline personality disorder, but I just wish you would’ve touched on the quiet type too. Many people diagnosed with BPD can’t relate to the classic signs of the diagnosis which makes them question themselves even more, and that’s the last thing someone with BPD needs. We need more acknowledgement of the quiet borderline personality disorder type.
My problem is the fact, that I have all the symptoms of a lot of disorders and conditions (generalised anxiety disorder, scyzophrenia, dependent personality disorder (called infantile disorder here), borderline personality disorder, psychopathy, histrionic personality disorder, obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, ofc depression follows them) and doctors don't know how to treat me. I never lost touch with reality completely, but all of those symptoms prevent me from doing even something I enjoy doing. Also, they stack on one another (for example, planning of everything from obsessive-compulsive personality disorder combines with irrational fears from the generalised anxiety disorder causing the creation of massive plans on how to survive certain hypothetical situations)
Fabienne Schriek I’ve been diagnosed. So have other people I know. And I know the difference between someone who is healthy mentally and someone who is disordered. It runs in my family.
I’ve read somewhere that people can’t have both the diagnosis of autism and the diagnosis of schizoid personality disorder. But to be brutally honest, I don’t know just how true that is, because I was recently professionally diagnosed with autism, and my parents and I are speculating that I could possibly have schizoid personality disorder as well. But if it’s true that someone can’t have both autism and schizoid personality disorder, then my parents and I would have to figure out what else is really going on for me. I also have ADHD, cerebral palsy, anxiety, and depression. The cerebral palsy has been caused by a brain injury that I had before I was born. Also people really need to understand that self diagnosis isn’t a good idea in general because it’s very problematic in the long run, especially for people who have been given a professional diagnosis of these disorders.
I have an actual separate darker version of myself. She has no name but she's been with me since I was 8 years old. Over the years, I have gotten some control over her, but sometimes she'll break free and control me. It's honestly like flipping a switch. Sometimes I can't control it. It's not a bad thing, it's good for her to do it sometimes because I hold in my emotions and she enables me to display them. If I could discribe her, I'd say she is a ferocious lion and like a vengeful goddess. I don't know if everyone has these Shadow aspects of themselves but they definitely help sometimes especially if you alone have trouble standing up for yourself.
@@erikap862 You might be right. I'm all messed up tbh. When my adopted parents divorced when I was 8, my adopted mom got more abusive and I started getting bullied in school once I hit 4th grade 2 years after. The abuse was physical and verbal every day and no matter how much I begged someone to help me, nothing was done about it. I was harshly bullied in school but it didn't start to actually effect me until 6th grade. At this point I was trying to change and get their approval but it never happened. Once I was in 7th grade, that's when I started becoming suicidal and hopeless. I committed suicide a lot but they were never successfull and then that's when this other personality reared her head. I became a different person all together. I was depressed, hopeless, but she had given me strength to run away and stand up for myself. She told me that I could not depend on others to help me anymore. That I had to save myself. After her appearance, I kept to myself often. When someone would be rude towards me, I wouldn't pay them any mind nor talk to them. I dressed up to school for myself, but I never did talk to anyone say for a few friends. I started thinking for myself. My grades kept getting worse save for the classes I actually liked, but other than that, I stopped caring about them. I stopped caring about everything. Whatever I wanted to learn, I was good at, but whatever I didn't, I flunked. Back then I thought, "Why should I care about them and what they think when no one cares about me? What makes them so special?" I've been through a lot. So much, that I can't write it all down. I've been abused, bullied, raped, molested, almost murdered a few times, almost drowned under my grandma's dock once, beaten up, starved, and at one point my other side wanted to murder my adopted mom at one point. I've lived in Hell most of my life, it's hard to function normally and find peace when it's just as much of a Hell in the real world. Sometimes, it's hard to tell if I am even in this body of mine anymore. I feel so disconnected from this reality. I feel like I belong somewhere else. Humans are horrible.
@@maddiebyfaith it will get better. You are strong and good. You are literally the child of The King. God made you and all other beautiful things. You have a purpose in the world that no one else can fulfill. ☺
I have to go to counseling/therapy every week because I have several of these. Mostly schizoid, ocpd, and paranoid. They’re actually having issues narrowing down exactly which ones just because I display symptoms on all. I’ve been abused most of childhood on different ways and my biological family was full of people with ASPD. My bio mother had schizophrenia. Also have CPTSD. Never knew I had so much going on till recently honestly but I’m getting the help I need for them.
I got a personality disorder diagnosis, i spoke to the doc for 2 hours and answered about 500 questions on 3 different questionnaires to get a diagnosis. You can't and shouldn't want to self diagnose.
Unfortunately, personality disorders typically are ‘rigid’ forms of behavior that are resistant to change. As a retired therapist, I have experienced that they can be difficult to treat with talk therapy. Dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT). has shown good response for borderline personality disorders, but it requires a great amount of desire to change on the client’s part as it is a long, arduous group therapy process. However, if a person with a PD is motivated to change, they should absolutely get therapy!
Agree and the BPD I’ve interacted with who took that to heart, ended up far happier in their lives, and giving great life advice to others struggling with it. It takes a lot of work and bravery to face such things, I was very proud of those folks.
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
@@ThePandababy13 "Psychiatry is politics, pure and simple." -Thomas Szasz, greatest critic of psychiatry. For example, runaway slaves were supposed to be "drapetomaniacs."
Most of the time solitude is fine. However if it leads a person to excessively cut off healthy relationships between friends and family, it can be a problem. It can also be bad for jobs that deal with the public.
"Always try to be empathetic and understanding with people who have disorders" Does this also apply to psychopaths aka the people who physiologically can't feel or appreciate your empathy and will try to exploit it?
@@meera2531 That's easier said than done, psychopaths are often the ones to play not by the rules, they will exploit all the chances you give them (unconsciously so) and they will have you in the palm of thier hand disregarding (or manipulating) your wants and needs. And yes, I know it doesn't apply to all of them as psychopaths can be very different depending on the other personality traits, but what I've described and what we know from the popular culture is the closest thing we have to litteral antichrist with no possibility of reforming (their brains are wired differently). Thus, offering your compassion to a psychopath is cardinally wrong in my opinion.
@@Ushakov_Mykyta that's why I said it depends... it depends on how severe their condition is. You can offer your compassion from a distance as well. Setting boundaries and rules for them is important. If they want to engage with you they will need to follow them. Else you part ways.
I would like to point out as someone diagnosed with borderline personality disorder that not every person with this diagnosis is aggressive. There is a branch known as "quiet borderline" (like mine) doesnt is implosive and not explosive.
I have this diagnosis I am not usually loud but can be agressive when triggered.
Fellow quiet pwBPD. I often wonder if the aggressive, highly manipulative people with the disorder are actually NPDs, or at least have it as a comorbidity with BPD. I find it strange that raging is in our diagnosis criteria but not narcs.
Janeane Marlow BPD people can have NPD, but not all of them have it. It really depends on childhood factors...also “quiet borderline” is also known as acting inward. Such as self harm or self hatred
@@phant0m0th_ yea its fairly common to see comorbidities, especially those in the same cluster group. What I mean is I think 'pure' BPD (I realize that sounds kinda daft, but bear with me) don't rage. I'm diagnosed BPD and the only criteria I don't meet is the raging. And the others with BPD I have met don't fit that either (assuming its the truth of course). I'd say most BPDs are quiet because of the self hatred. And the inappropriate displays of anger aren't the norm. But I understand the lines can get pretty blurred across diagnosis. Its just an opinion I have. I could be 100% incorrect.
@@candacecasey5634 Same. I was diagnosed when I was 12.
I wish people would stop thinking that self diagnosing themselves with serious disorders are fun🤷🏻♀️🤦♀️🙄
What's more, armchair diagnosis from people that don't know you well or do and either way do so viscously.
I didn't diagnose myself a psychiatrist did.
Candace Casey then why are you answering to this thread?
Self-diagnosis is the first step to diagnosis. You have to recognize that, "Hey! I have some of those..." and then you have to work on getting actually diagnosed.
The difference between people on the first step of diagnosis and people who are just self-diagnosing is that people who self-diagnose will usually look at the google entry of the disorder and never seek a true diagnosis, or they will use the disorder to excuse their actions.
@@lyndonleedalee1738 I agree plus some of us cant get actually diagnosed because they cant see a psychiatrist because of different reasons but the ones that self diagnose and use it as an excuse or to get attention are pathetic
As someone diagnosed with BPD, it’s more than just mood swings. you constantly overthink, always assume people are judging you, you jump to conclusions waaay to fast, if someone’s tone SLIGHTLY changes it makes you switch moods instantly but once you know they’re fine you feel immense guilt and go back to laughing it off. I’ll have guilt for the rest of my life for the way I’ve always treated my parents. I throw meltdowns nearly daily over the tiniest of tiny things, my dads even given me the nickname “5 year old” because I whine and act like a toddler who couldn’t get a toy over very small things. It’s hard to keep relationships because you lack trust in everyone, and once you find someone you get codependent and obsessed with them but once you’re finally with them you second guess yourself and try to gaslight yourself into thinking you don’t have feelings for them. everyone thinks you’re entitled and or lazy, and everyone just assumes you’re a bad person or a Karen. STOP WANTING THIS SHIT ITS NOT CUTE
this unfortunately is just the tip of the iceberg. I know I’m a decent human, but the BPD makes me think otherwise. I’ve done and said things no human in their right mind would even think about saying. I don’t mean the words, but when I’m in rage mode anything goes. I hope I can forgive myself and I hope our creator can forgive me. I don’t know who’s watching but I hope they know I wanna work on myself
I was diagnosed with MDD last year but the past week I’ve been looking into Bipolar 2 and BPD. Originally (so like at the beginning of the week) I thought I had Bipolar 2, but now I’m suspecting it is BPD, specifically because my hypomanic and depressed episodes fluctuate throughout the day. But the putoff for suspecting I’ve got BPD is that I’m 14, even though you can… have it prior to adulthood..
I would also like to describe my symptoms as internalised (so quiet Bipolar or, quiet BPD like another commenter mentioned).
People may perceive me as perfectly fine on the outside but on the inside I’m actually really paranoid, anxious, sad, etc.
Some examples would be:
~ the constant paranoia my friends are annoyed with me presence sitting with them so I isolate myself and one of them has always gotta invite me to sit with them and that they don’t genuinely consider me their friends because I never engage in socialising within the group.
~ the longer my friends do not reply to my texts, the more paranoid I’ll get they think I’m bugging them again. I’ll sometimes then send an apology text for annoying them/being a bad person (bc of that paranoia), and they’ll often reply in a matter of minutes or hours saying I’m all good, I didn’t do anything wrong they don’t hate me, etc.
I’m currently not bothered to type more and if you may even read all of the above, but there are many other symptoms I exhibit.
I’m going to try getting prescribed medication soon. Hopefully my years of suffering (impacting my academics) will ease.
@@anonymmous ah you sound just like 14 year old me. I was diagnosed with DMDD, then with petulant BPD once I turned 18 since DMDD is normally for minors and my parents brainwashed the last psychiatrist so once I turned 18 and got my own I could tell her the whole hearted truth and she properly diagnosed me. It’ll get better once you get clarity and medication(: Its still a constant struggle bc of the 247 paranoia and self hate but I’m working on it slowly but surely. I know your pain and I promise it’ll get better SLOWLY but it’ll be half as bad once you get older, you get better at managing the thoughts and feelings once you realize it’s 99% in your head half the time. Just remember: nobody is out to get you and it’s mostly in your head. That’s what I wish I knew when I was your age.
I read that wrong and thought you meant disruptive mood dysregulation disorder but MDD is what they also slapped me with as well. If you think you have some form of personality disorder, the sooner you get treated the better or else you’ll be a senior In highschool not even able to get out of bed for school and then have to be left behind while your class is in college.
BPD is usually misinterpreted. This video is another classic case of that. It’s has a lot to do with problems of emotional regulation and your self identity, not so much aggressiveness or risky behavior but the emotional experience is what fuels things like that, so not everyone with it will have those traits.
THANK YOU!! also I'd like to add to your comment that it doesn't always revolve around the destruction of people around you like its said in the video, but sometimes solely revolves about destroying yourself... out of the 9 main symptoms of bpd, having minimum 5 of them is enough to potentially get diagnosed..
i have bpd and im always compared to really shitty people lmao
Yess! The aggression and the risky behaviours are results of the inability to control intense emotions, often caused by a fear of rejection/abandonment.
THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS OH MY GOD
I'm literally not aggressive in the slightest, the riskiest thing I do is "build up pity" in genshin impact 😭 I wish people knew that bpd was about identity and emotions rather than depicting us as monsters
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I find the schizotypal personality disorder the most difficult to wrap my head around. At what point do strange beliefs become a disorder? Once they are compulsive? Many geniuses would then fall into that category.
The main issue is how hard for them is to cooperate and function within society. Just like with schizoids, it might not be an issue for them, given they have skills and tools to achieve their ideal life alone, just like WW. When they need to contact the outside world, they are in need to translate their visions and make people believe in them enough to help. This might be a tall order at times, given that most of people are not exccentric, so the statistics are often against them. Not being able to do that results in being unfullfilled and alienated
@@mateuszkarczewski9125 great and very clarifying response. Thank you.
"An enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the individual's culture."
Ok let's unwrap this.
You have people in our culture who believe in so-called strange things. This could be aliens, lizard people, UFOs, you name it.
Add to this a cultural phenomenon wherein we worship entertainment and we have a whole industry dedicated to making outlandish stories seem plausible.
Add to this the fact that strange phenomena exist in our world. Some are witness to it and others never have the privilege.
Then there is the fact that we have increasingly intricate technologies that can fool the senses.
So we are left with people who feel they are trying to tell everyone something extremely important, and those people will always feel gaslighted by people who have none of these experiences, or if they do, they manage to explain them away. It causes chaos. Compound that with any narcissistic venture that would profit from said beliefs or said chaos. Compound it again with people who have organic disorders, namely schizophrenia, who might physically see something that someone concurrently in their presence might not sense at all. What about ESP? Have you ever had a moment of premonition, or thought of someone as they called, or had a feeling about something that ended up coming true? Some people might think you are crazy for thinking that could possibly be the case. To them, everything is extremely cut and dried. Maybe they have NPD or BPD. Maybe neurotypical people are undesirable because they can't be controlled. There I go with my strange beliefs. Happy accident. Am I crazy? Disordered? Maybe it's in the eye of the beholder.
Ever hear of Alice In Wonderland Disorder?
@@saterthezombie.9574 It's called Alice in Wonderland syndrome
*~TIME STAMPS~*
Definition of Personality Disorders - 0:35
CLUSTER A (ODD DISORDERS)
Paranoid Personality Disorder - 2:02
Schizoid Personality Disorder - 3:06
Schizotypal Personality Disorder - 3:55
CLUSTER B (DRAMATIC DISORDERS)
Antisocial Personality Disorder - 4:56
Narcissistic Personality Disorder - 5:43
Histrionic Personality Disorder - 6:32
Borderline Personality Disorder - 7:10
CLUSTER C (ANXIOUS DISORDERS)
Avoidant Personality Disorder - 8:05
Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder - 8:46
Dependent Personality Disorder - 9:35
Conclusion - 10:15
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Hey, diagnosed Schizoid here. I just want to give my two cents. For one, thank you for not just flat out saying we're totally incapable of having friends or meaningful relationships. People often act like we're not able to form any kind of bond, when we are. I, for example, have a nice romantic relationship and friends who I'd fight for. It's just that I don't feel motivated to make new friends and I simply don't attach to a vast majority of people who talk to me. I don't generally want to go make friends with people, and I spend a lot of my time alone, which I'm content with. A lot of our behavior stems from our emotional detachment. The disorder as a whole is largely based in apathy and being emotionally detached.
Now, as for my experience, I don't really feel a "need" to treat my SPD. It's as you said in the video, I'm honestly fine with myself the way I am. It does hamper some of my abilities to understand other people, but overall I don't mind it. My SPD was most likely caused by severe parental abuse (verbal and physical) I went through during some of my childhood and throughout my teens, as I can trace a lot of my Schizoid-related tendencies back to it. For example, I was punished for showing emotion, so I learned to not show it, and over time it lead to me simply not feeling it as one normally would.
I almost always feel like an outsider looking in when it comes to society, as though there's a thick glass wall between me and them. A glass wall through which I can see and hear them, but simply can't get close or make contact. There are a number of other traits we exhibit which you didn't mention (understandably so since this is kind of a rapid-fire video), but you got the main point of what SPD is across well, and I appreciate your unbiased yet empathetic outlook on all of these disorders. A lot of people are quick to jump to conclusions that are incorrect.
.. Not sure that a 50 Shades of Gray character is the best thing to compare us to though, haha. Honestly, I think comparing fictional characters to personality disorders as a whole isn't a very good idea, since it can give people false pretenses about these disorders.
Crypt Patrol that honestly sucks, but at the same time seems kinda convenient, idk since I'm not diagnosed with that disorder I obviously won't fully be able to understand what goes in your head
this is exactly how i feel. have not been diagnosed with anything so idk
Crypt Patrol, I can absolutely relate to you. I guess we should have some chat, wdut?
Lots of people are bit odd. Being unemotional often makes a good decision maker
You dont have your judgement fogged
The thing you mentioned, how you feel like you're looking and interacting with people through glass, that's exactly how I feel. you hit the nail on the head with that. I feel so isolated and it can be so depressing, but at the same time... I don't really feel all that compelled to change it. i have a hard time feeling anything for longer than short bursts too, anything other than anxiety or depression. do you feel that way too? thanks for taking the time to comment on this video.
I have an opposing view on Cinderella being the example for dependent personality disorder. She’s actually quite independent and resourceful. Despite being abused and mistreated for years by her step family, she developed many healthy coping mechanisms to escape that hardship and made her own decisions to escape her household where she was basically enslaved. She simply hoped for freedom and grew as a person despite living in a toxic environment. It is true that she does depend on her animal friends, but that does not mean that she is not capable of doing thjngs on her own, as she does everything she can to survive in the hands of her abusive family. She is a survivor that used her resources and created a support group full of those that could help her and she ultimately fought against her family to live her own life.
This is a very well thought out way to describe Cinderella that I completely agree with and haven't heard before! I don't understand why a bunch of people didn't take the time to think about what you painstakingly wrote, but I did. Thank you.
Agreed ! Very astute !
@@bobbivaneman1584Another Agree to Agreeing
Yeah correct
As someone with BPD, it is important to know that this personality disorder often leads to other mental condition such as repetitive depression or anxiety disorders, sometimes even dissociation. Seeking help can really be useful to someone with this condition. Even if you're too young to be diagnosed, just having the help for your tough exeperiences might really help you.
I have tried multiple times to get help for my dysthymia and now I have symptoms of bipolar.
But I just never "clicked" with anyone.
last year I was diagnosed with schizoid. Honestly I am glad for that. Knowing that you are completely okay with not having any relationship with anyone is really a bliss.
Same here
i could not have a relationship because there are no girls in school to relate to,,, (thats why i hate valentines day, and they try to catagorize me as a schiz.)))
Same bro
Yup, being schizoid feels good :)
I'm really glad you differentiated between Bipolar and Borderline. I was misdiagnosed with Bipolar a couple of years ago, and it led to multiple stays in the psych ward because my therapy was about bipolar, and not borderline.
I was diagnosed with dysthymia 20 years ago. I got tested by the psych ward, they told me I had BPD with traits of bipolar.
A few years ago, I was arrested and went to jail for attacking my husband with hot soup and throwing a knife at him.
Now that I am out, I am switching on a dime. He doesn't know who I am anymore.
I have been on everything out there,
Nothing seems to work. I cry myself to sleep every night.
I'm so thankful that he still loves me and is still my husband. In July it will be 30 years we are married.
@@michellekinmond8126 I'm sorry to hear that Hopefully you didn't lose your loved one My boyfriend is high-functioning psychopath and also sociopath psychopathic shizophrenic narcissistic and was diagnosed by therapist and doctors
And maybe also is bordeline and obssesed compulsive disorder but not sure but is of course obssesed over me I love him the way he is
We shouldn't judge people just because they have mental or personality disorders
How is ur bf a psychopath? I heard they don’t form emotional connections for anyone and can’t love anyone
Just remember that even though stereotypes about personality disorders may make them seem scary, most of the time people with pds are not dangerous or scary or bad people. They deserve your kindness above all.
The rest of them dangerous scary personalities can get f**ked
They are not dangerous on purpose. But they are dangerous, including to themselves.
Lol, I'm a psycopath and am dangerous and scary on purpose. Because most people aren't forward thinking enough to be worth their space in the gene pool. I'm superior to most everybody on the evolutionary spectrum, and somehow, that makes me the bad guy. I'm an overachiever, and if that makes me a monster well, then what I'm aiming to acomplish makes me a god, and being a God makes me right.
@@Anima_1.1The stigma and lack of education (and funding) regarding mental health problems and their treatments are major contributors as to why many remain dangerous and undiagnosed
@yung-megafone that's just not true. It's about incentive to change. People in general are notoriously disinclined to welcome change. Those that do, do it for ultimately selfish reasons, like improving on your own life, sadness, trauma etc. We are talking about changing a personalty style. Well these personalities are predatorial in nature, and that works for them. It is definitely waaay easier to just continue rather than face the fact that you're essentially not a good human, regardless of the reasons why. I do have compassion for the trauma, but that's not even always the case (some narcisists were smothered with love, for example). Point of it is, my trauma was imposed on me but its my job to change that. Antisocial personalities lack the incentive and they are very, very often, oblivious at their own condition. Truly, not everything can be changed. And it's not our job to do it or put ourselves in the path of danger, and this is speaking as a former people pleaser who really, really likes humans in general and thinks we are frail, breakable and deserving of kindness. So were I to choose if I show kindness to myself of someone on the Spektrum, I will show them up until some point, then I won't anymore. I will show kindness to myself rather, because I matter, too. And I haven't been predatorial, so I deserve it more.
*I wonder how often a personality disorder really causes problems for people and how often it's their environment who don't understand those people and just see them as "weird".*
Brains Applied - Unraveling The Human Mind- that’s what I’m wondering. I was watching a video on complex trauma and I learned that we live in a complex trauma rich society yet hardly anyone talks about it.
An incredibly daft comment. When’s. Majority of people do not exhibit these symptoms and a single person in that same group does then it’s likely that person is different.
I know that cluster b personality disorder can be absolutely be disruptive (nightmare) for families. Specifically that I have suffered from other people having include borderline and narcissism. These people have all but ruined my life by having to deal with them
Me too because my family refuses to acknowledge that there bullying and seeing my mom being physically as well as myself cant possibly make a person sad angry and lonely. Instead they claim your weird or crazy or should forget and let go but when they have damaged you you need to fox the damage then maybe wed have a chanve
Lorsna gomaz absolutely
Idk bout yall but i always asume everything i say can be used against me
It' absolutely is possible though...who would go to that extreme .. and why are they against you .? Sounds like pressure humiliation actually "abuse " and too much to think about people should be able to speak their mind not living in fear that the thing said is going to slam ya back in face.
Lisa D'Amato amen to that!!💗
Yes. Never say anything to someone over text. If u need to vent, ask to call
Exactly
From the Future I think it’s all from previous experiences in life
hey!! as someone who is *actually* diagnosed with schizotypal, i think this video is quite nice where it actually covers personality disorders in a way that isnt boring those watching. i’m happy that you used characters in popular films and real people. thank you for making this video!
Now let’s talk about the link between Borderline Personality Disorder and Complex PTSD
Jess could even throw in an anxious avoidant attachment style caused by childhood abuse/neglect.
It annoys me that Borderline is a disorder but the abuse that created it isn’t. There’s always a way to make the victim ‘wrong’ while the perpetrator remains unseen and unacknowledged.
Tania PinkSky i agree! The stigma around BPD is so horrible. I wish there was more knowledge in the community about it, or even better, changing the diagnosis to C-PTSD because that is what it is.
Yessss pls, I’ve seen more than 3 psychiatrists and they don’t know which one I have or if it’s both, regardless the symptoms are very similar and you can treat both similarly
I wish they would I keep telling them I have c ptsd and they just diagnose bpd it's so wrong
Can't speak for the other ones, but having bpd myself: it's so much more than you described
Sameeee
yup
Mine is genetic and the shit I went through did not help lol
Why would one expect in-depth details in a general summary that’s a 11 minute TH-cam video? If people feel they may have BPD, they should seek professional help for a more personal explanation & treatments.
@@casey2401 didn't expect in-depth detail (which is impossible tbh), but they could have put in those extra 30 secs to describe it a bit more. They minimalized it to an extent, that people will misinterpret it. For example: I'm from Germany and everything people here know about bpd is that cutting and suicide is a thing, which is not fully true.
If anyone feels like they might have problems with their mental health, they should seek professional help
I’m glad that it was acknowledged that people who have personality disorders deserve to be treated with empathy and consideration because a lot of us have been through horrific abuse which caused our disorders to begin with!
We do need empathy. I am happy for those who have it. I have a husband who has no empathy. I am constantly abused emotionally, spoken to like a homeless person on the street, when I cry, he walks away.
But he is a good provider, makes sure I am Fed and have clothes and bedding. He is always telling me that he loves me. LOL. We're married 30 years this year.
@@michellekinmond8126 youve been married for longer than i been alive but that is def not healthy that is abuse
@@michellekinmond8126 Well just be careful My boyfriend is high-functioning psychopath and also sociopath psychopathic shizophrenic narcissistic and was diagnosed by therapist and doctors
And maybe also is bordeline and obssesed compulsive disorder but not sure but is of course obssesed over me I love him the way he is
We shouldn't judge people just because they have mental or personality disorders
@@michellekinmond8126Codependency is an issue you may want to investigate.
I could remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with bipolar. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES very sure of mycologist Predroavaro. This treatment worked for me. Helped me got rid of my addiction and ADHD. Never had to take shrooms after then.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
Yes he's Predroavaro a good mycologist. I know few friends who overcame ptsd and anxiety with the help of shrooms.
It's scary how well the section of the video describing Avoidant Personality Disorder felt relatable to me.
for the past few months of highschool I've been nearly 24/7 obsessively thinking about my friends and how I'd want them to appreciate me and shower me with their attention,,, but instead of doing anything and deepening my bond with them I've felt paralyzed by fear of how they might react, or that they don't talk to me now because they get along with each other so well and just see me as a weirdo outsider now who stopped talking to them, even though they still hang around. and observe them talk.
Doing anything about this feels so hard and I feel paralyzed, like joining in on their conversations is the most dreadful task and i am simply too awkward to talk to ::_::
I'm already talking to a therapist about this and my other issues, but i still can't muster up any courage for change; don't mind me venting here a little bit, and also thank you for reading til the end
I have a long list of professional diagnosis. One is BPD also DID. Trauma, self doubt and fear are crippling. I truly hope you can move past your fears. I personally have all those fears but I feel everything in this world that has gone wrong for anyone I know is my fault. I feel I have to step away from everyone for their best interest. That I just hurt them. I hope you can't relate to me. This is literally hell. What is happening to you is different but also sounds like hell. I hope you find what you need to heal yourself. Good luck 🤞
I have avoidant personality disorder also. The nice thing about it is it can improve with time and exposure to putting yourself out there socially/ facing your fears/ experiencing some social failures and growing from them. I feel like I've vastly improved over the years. So don't worry, just keep at it. Keep challenging yourself and don't give up!
I think I have a bit of avoidant personality too, coupled with introversion. I feel anxious around people who are my friends and I don’t feel comfortable in conversations. I see others as having a better sense of humor and telling more interesting stories. I’ve tried reading books on increasing my sense of humor, storytelling, conversation starters, and conversational style and flow. I’ve watched TH-cams on verbal communication and having quicker thought processes/speech responses to be a better communicator. Honestly, it has helped me to a small degree, but I still overthink and over analyze the way others perceive me. I think that makes me appear less confident, which is also less appealing to others. It’s exhausting and makes me want to stay home in my safe space.
@@ahgunter I understand the desire to hole up at home. The improvement happens so painstakingly slow. But it does happen with a lot of blood, sweat and tears, and maybe some "giving up" times in between :p All we can do is be a tiny hair better than we were yesterday. It would be great to have the superpower to change all at once though, wouldn't it? haha
You bet on listening till the end of your talking. Keep going you get better every day. Goodness & mercy shall follow you all the rest of your days. Peace. Hope xo
I worked for 30 years as a mental health professional. I would love to write a book about bpd and the extreme, dramatic and dangerous behavior patterns i witnessed. This is the hardest disorder to identify and to understand in my opinion.
It’s thrown around way too much. I’m a nurse. When you see an actual person with BPD it’s pretty apparent.
I am diagnosed with DPD. It is very difficult to function at work because of my fear of messing up tasks. If im not given a specific checklist of things to do, i get upset and anxious and even if i have a list i need coworkers to assure me that im doing the tasks correctly. I work at mcd and even though im shy, working at the counter is my favorite position because all i need to do is listen to what the customer wants, and then push some buttons. Its important to me that im told what to do and given instructions, but also constantly reminded of them. Along side this i have anxiety about bothering people and my need for instruction combats my need to not be a burden. All this coupled with the fact i have anxiety about being away from my mom and my home makes working difficult and i kind of wish i could explain this to others so that they understand. Thanks for reading :3
I have depression and bpd but I really relate to some of this! It's so much going on sometimes in my brain. I wish you best of luck with everything!!
@Layered Hollister Polos oh that's interesting, thanks for sharing!
I also wish you the best, thank you, kind stranger 😊
i was diagnosed with dpd too. it’s rough i understand
heiko drak I relate so bad, doing school tasks are so hard for me, when there's the teacher that can assure me I'm doing it right I'm confident in my work but when it comes to tests, it's like I know it but I just feel like I'm doing it wrong, it gives me so much stress and anxiety, I feel like this also effects my leadership skills, I always thought I was a born leader, but feeling as if I might do the wrong thing and bring down the whole groups has a toll on me, it's like so fucking hard, I feel it's just me being over dramatic and scared of being wrong, but like how the heck am I supposed live with this
@@christine7431 So, was i! I'm pretty independent, though. I just have a few dependent traits
I've been diagnosed with multiple different personality disorders in my life. My ex girlfriends psychiatrist labeled me as borderline when she didn't even meet me in person. Another psychologist diagnosed me as personality disorder not otherwise specified after meeting me for 5 minutes. I used to think I was antisocial and psychopathic because I have a lack of empathy and emotions. But I have finally learned I'm schizophrenic and now I'm on the right medication.
I’m glad you are feeling better.
Honestly - a diagnosis on the basis of an exe’s version is no diagnosis at all. Extremely unprofessional.
Also a diagnosis after 5 minutes or even an hour or two.
Also unprofessional. Glad you found the right help.
Or narcissism
The psychiatrist and psychologist have disorders themselves. Everyone can be classified with mental conditions. Get off the drugs and don’t blindly believe what people say
@@reikaratnam uh I don't blindly believe what people say. I'm schizophrenic that's a fact and it's real. I used to think medication was stupid nonsense until I got the right medicine for me. It helps and I realize people with mental illness have a hard time with taking meds and believing in psychiatry but sometimes you find the right ones and it helps. Luckily for me I just have to get an injection once a month and I don't flip out and have severe anger and delusions.
@@reikaratnam EXACTLY! 100% agree with you!
This was a very informative video. But it also saddens me to think that there are so many disorders out there that get triggered by poor emotional experiences. The world would be such a better place if we could just treat others with the same kindness and patience that we expect for ourselves. I know it is not something that happens overnight, but I wish to slowly work towards building myself into a kinder and more empathetic version of myself.
I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and avoidant personality disorder. BPD is such a complicate disorder, it used to be called emotional intensity disorder, the extreme emotions I was feeling literally gave me a heart attack at the age of 23. With therapy things got better.
I also have BPD. It is very complicated. I gave my husband a heart attack b/c he got so stressed out at me. Then the feelings of guilt come over you and you feel like shit and want to end your life.
Who the hell are "Normal People? They exist? " 🤣😂🤣
Love Love No they don’t. They are non existent people that everyone should feel bad about not measuring up to. Lol 😂
Not according to the DSM. Everyone has a serious mental health condition and needs to be in therapy for the rest of their lives.
No shit man! Is there anybody who doesn't have issues?
Lol very true, this is real life and people go through things and everyone is going to have a Lil of these issues. I do think there is a severity in some people and they my need help.
There is no such thing as a normal person.
I have ocd. And I’m not just saying that. I was diagnosed when I was 6 because it was so severe (and still is). I would spend my time plucking out my eyelashes, picking at myself, engaging in repetitive and unnecessary behaviors. And it honestly hurts my feelings when people throw the term ocd around so lightly or just think that they have it because they’re organized.
I have had OCD for as long as I can remember. My number is 2, I pick at my scabs (My whole body except my face is scarred from picking and burns), I repeat things until I think they are perfect. I know how you feel.
My daughter had it when she was younger, her number was 8. Every night before bed she would do everything 8 times, it drove us batty. (Brushing teeth, knocking, etc...).
Thankfully she grew out of it, I still have it though. It is not a happy thing to have.
Yeah same here. I have had symptoms since I was like 8. But in my early twenties it got so bad that I was house bound for a year and a half.
Ocd and ocpd are very different
American psycho was a highly inaccurate version of aspd. A more accurate yet extreme version would be Anton chigurh from no country for old men
Craig Richard how so? Please explain I’m interested in how you came to this conclusion (psych major hehe). ☺️
@@kayjay8790 Patrick Bateman was more delusional and psychotic. You never know for sure if he's hallucinating killing people or actually a cold hearted psychopathic killer.
Or Kevin from We Need To Talk About Kevin
Mike Delzoppo that’s what the psycho in american psycho means.
Just like the movie psycho.
It stands for psychotic, not psychopathic. Or rather it’s up to the reader/viewer to decide.
@@VampiraVonGhoulscout Kevin in that movie is a sociopath it shows that he had a bad childhood
It's not unrealistic to have intense paranoia in this time.. with all the smart devices listening to everything and with access to all your photos and camera on your phone and laptops, then with all these things being brought up about politicians that they did YEARS ago, etc... I don't think it's crazy to worry about that only except for the fact that the only way to avoid it is live off the grid and thats practically impossible now.
Thank you! Smart woman! Finally someone who is willing to speak truth.
I agree.... I am very off grid..... each year I get more so.... I don't want to participate in this wicked and corrupt society in as much as is possible.... I'm in survival mode... have been for several years.... homeless.... living simple in a van..... preparing to put on a backpack and vanish when that becomes my only option.
Yep. I was looking at a map on my phone earlier and it was near a place I visited yesterday. I have location and voice activation off.
My friend sent me a photo he took of me at this place and I clicked save.
While looking at the map - a notice from google comes up with the photo my friend sent asking if I wanted to add the photo to google search so others would see this place.
I was F off google, you shouldn’t have my photo at all. How do you know where it was taken?
(The map I was looking at did have the place I visited on it but I was looking at a much bigger map of the area looking for something else)
Phones are scary these days
There is a different between logical paranoia and having a paranoid disorder. Feeling wary of our president due to new negative info from past presidents is not the same as being obsessed with our president being an alien.
I think there's being smart and aware and there's paranoia that's irrational.
There is such a mix of personality traits within each PD. Like most people believe that narcissistic personality disorder is attached to grandiosity. It's not. My ex husband I never knew he was narcissistic until I went to therapy only to realize that he was covert or vulnerable narcissistic. There are some excellent books out there on personality disorder. One of the first things you feel is you're the narcissist I was the one who believed I was crazy and it was him making me think that for years. 😢
Covert narcs are hard to understand and most people don't even know it exists. Was married 26 years to one. Once you have your eyes opened your life truly changes, especially if you get professional help. Good luck with your journey.
Mom, grandma, random old lady: omg you're so handsome
Me: *thumbnail*
Thank you 🙏🏾 for this. I took the Test. And I found out that I’m really Healthy mentally and emotionally for the first time in my Life. I’ve been in talk therapy for 3 years and it’s paying off. 😊
i love these windows into soul. As a survivor of a serious stroke at 17 I was never checked up on throughout my life. At 66 now I will write my story both good and bad. Gives me something to do.
I think I might have avoident personality disorder. I have a constant fear of doing things or even answering questions because I feel like others will judge me so I normally stay silent and try not to be noticed. Just yesterday I broke down to someone saying how I feel like I'm suffocating when I have to interact with others or people have to notice me because I feel as if they are judging me.
I really appreciate this video. I was diagnosed with BPD a little while ago. I sent this to people I'm close to so they can better understand. you put it better than I ever could lol
Oh, it's good to hear about NPD, as someone who's diagnosed with it I can say that I kinda hate it but I don't wanna change it at the same time. It's hard to live knowing that I am a narcissist while I don't to be 1 of them. But I started to dealing with it and I just started to ignore *everything* so now I'm not putting anyone in the 1st place. But I still trynna to fight my desire of being a World Leader who can control every president/king/queen or whatever they have from every single country. Being a conscious narcissist is very hard to live like a "normal person"
I seem to attract all of them which is why I enjoy my own company. It's far easier and less hassle than dealing with other people's shite all the time.
jjwebster1 same fml
True that! Same here!
How much time do you spend with other people on a weekly basis?
I was looking for someone to say (some if not all u feel..but now I feel sad for you bc it's baddd
A little anecdote on the nature of genius and psychological disorders: reminds me of a story I read years ago on the late mathematician John Nash of a Beautiful Mind; after the Nobel Laureate in economics had nearly succumbed to his schizophrenia, he found himself in a room with a frustrated colleague pacing about and asking him questions.
The colleague asked John: "How could you; a Nobel Prize-winning mathematician of the highest caliber, believe that _aliens_ were sending you signals in magazines??!!?"
John: "Because the messages came to me in the same way as my mathematical ideas."
I love that you talk fast since you're still so easy to understand. Seems like everyone else either have really long intros, talk too slow, repeat themselves, or talk about a bunch of unrelated stuff. I much prefer your style!
Totally AGREE! 😁👍
I love this, I have borderline personality, my hubby has bipolar disorder this was a very accurate explanation in an easy to understand format. I think education on these things is super important to reduce the stigma attached to them. Thank you.
Dominica Witt bi polar is not a personality disorder. However I wish you both well
Hey, got bpd myself, but I think it's not been accurately explained at all. They should have taken some extra time, because bpd is so complex
@@ThePandababy13 Indeed,they should
@Necro Fell wtf
@Necro Fell yes true but its not really nice to curse people around
I gave up after about 90 seconds. This guy must be on speed
I had to put it on 0.75x
@Daniel Embree 😂
And here i am watching this on x2😂
@@gayatri-ydkh same
Is it weird that I don't have a problem with his talking speed? Sounds normal to me
1:17 though it’s important to be empathetic and understanding regardless of anything nobody has the right to abuse you due to their traumatic history. Ever.
As someone with avoidant PD i just want to put out there to what extremes many people who suffer from this PD go in order to avoid certain things/situations/people/..: i would harm myself so badly to avoid going to school for example. Or poison myself in order to not meet up with someone i didnt like but was too scared to tell them. I know people who did far worse things in order to avoid these feelings of anxiety/helplessness/embarrassment/...
And still avoidant PD is often seen as a PD thats not "that bad". And that is just stupid
Personality Disorders Summed Up -
Cluster A (Odd, bizarre, eccentric)
Paranoid
Schizoid
Schizotypal
Cluster B (Dramatic, erratic)
Antisocial
Borderline
Histrionic
Narcissistic
Cluster C (Anxious, fearful)
Avoidant
Dependent
Obsessive-compulsive
I greatly appreciate a video explaining how ASPD is a spectrum and not all of us with this diagnosis is a horrible evil person at heart. Most videos I see say that. And most people who find out I’m diagnosed go from being a close to friend to “what do you want out of me. It’s impossible for people like you to have friends”. After going in and out of therapy for a couple years both of my will and not. I found that I’m not a terrible person and I don’t have to act like the monster people think I am. Because who cares if they’ll never see me anything else. I know me and I do have a few close friends which is better than a ton of shitty people I have to become an actor around. For me my problems came about due to adoption trauma and “learning from infancy that the only way to get what you need to survive you have to act out, manipulate, and steal” and “connections and emotions are dangerous because everyone is just going to hurt or leave you eventually”. It’s not easy to unlearn stuff like that. It’s not even a conscious process but something instinctual that I didn’t even know I did until my third therapist.
My psychiatrist says I borderline personality disorder because of me being emotionally and physically abused and abandoned and bullied as a child and having low self esteem issues I was also diagnosed with depression and ptsd
David Tichborne same here
Look into CPTSD instead.
I have the same issue with you, im now thinking if i have bpd but i dont wanna self diagnose myself with it. Im not going to a therapist either
I have been diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder. I have been to treatment and counceling for a year now. It defenently has helped in many ways.😊
David Neraas I can identify with that a bit, but I'm autistic, so, I don't know whether it's just that. There was definitely a time when I was very wary of people and didn't get out much because of it though.
How are you doing? I'm dismissive avoidant too. It is hard being in a relationship with an anxious preoccupied. :(
As a young lady with a diagnosed borderline personality disorder, and autism, I can joyfully say these videos are becoming very helpful, so thankyou very much 🙃
I recognise with avoidant personality disorder due to years of bullying, abuse ect i really should get helped and try to get diagnosed after i become an adult or smth
I got diagnosed last year after thinking I was broken and just messed up. I suggest getting diagnosed because (i don’t mean to scare you) It can get worse when you age without tending to your mental health. Im still yet to figure out the perfect psychologist but the thought that I’m not alone in this and there is help really eases it for me ☺️
debwatheezebwa I'm really gonna have to get checked then
this is very informative and accurate in describing personality disorders without dehumanizing the sufferers of them
Ditto
Love the content dude. The animations are nice and I love how you add examples for people to learn from real life observations. Keep it up
Ditto
Why am I getting so anxious because of how fast he's talking?
I remember learning about this when I was in medical school, it was so confusing.
I’ve been diagnosed by a psychologist with BPD thank you for educating others on it
let us also keep in mind that we shouldn't categorize/label ourselves even if diagnosed with one of these disorders. this is only a small part of us and doesn't encompass the full beauty of our individual personalities. there are great things about each of these personality types. please don't think there's anything wrong with you!
Thanks, that means a lot and makes me feel better
as someone with bpd, slightly very offended by how you way oversimplified and seemed fairly misinformed on what it actually is
THANKS and AMEN
everything in here is pretty simplified. cant expect much from an 11 minute video covering 10 pd's.
I was also diagnosed by Bpd and I agree
Obviusly people with borderline will be upset lol
@@vanessa.karin_ Yeah, because something that is highly demonized already and very complex to deal with is being listed as a half assed summary in a youtube video. It doesn't help the image it already has. Like he just names a few very broad symptoms that barely cover the actual disorder and then started naming characters that have it
Ever since I discovered personality disorders when I was 16 and I suspect I might have Avoidant personality disorder or Schizoid. I was brought up as an only child with a alcoholic and emotionally abusive and neglectful single mother. I was always anxious and withdrawn as a child, and I suspect I've been asexual since I was at least 13. I've always had a deep and rich imagination and love to read and write creatively. I don't think I can connect emotionally with other people and I just don't understand family or romantic relationships. I'm 30 this year and child free and always had a weird aversion to sex. I can joke about it sometimes but the thought of actually doing it grosses me out so I never bothered. I always thought there was something incredibly wrong with me because I didn't feel comfortable dating anyone and am terrified of getting pregnant.
You are doing a major disservice to the mental health community through your comparisons of real disorders with ficticious characters
Then who else is he supposed to reference!?? Ffs
AMiah no one. Because any character through media or books aren’t usually good representations. These disorders show up in people differently so basing it off of one person isn’t a good idea. Not only that, but there’s usually a stigma behind plenty of mental illnesses.
Um bruh I personally feel a lot better when I see characters with my disorder because it brings light to it I just dont like how they make the rage such a huge factor because usually people with my disorder are fairly quiet and not prone to rage unless hurt
@@totalrandomchick1488 most fictious characters do a poor job at representing an entire disorder just by mere fact that it's on television and there is stigma and fluff added to such character for the storyline.
taho THANK YOU! It may make you feel less alone but just join a group online or something else....characters almost always show the negative aspects and stereotypes. Like depression is always some sad girl who hates life and doesn’t want to be around people. That might be some people but not a whole lot.....
Good comment 👌🔥👌🔥
I get paranoid that people are gossiping about me when I think I’m being talked about behind my back and it is usually negative 😢
Malignant narcissism and in therapy over 10 years,as child conduct disorder which could be defined as mild aspd, i do feel empathy and love when it comes to certain moments and situations selectivly tho to some people usually only one or two people in my life,but this is stigmatised alot
I bet u have a sick business card
What some perceive as a personality disorder is often survival tactics to keep people away from them. After all, one is impossible to be emotionally abused if they keep others away from them. Self protection should always be a priority over ridiculous social interactions and connections. Being social accomplishes little, in life. But protecting yourself accomplishes a lot. It is time to stop overstating that being social is so important. It really is not. As for talk therapy, it only makes some people miserable. I know I will never return to a mental therapist again. It is a horrible experience that accomplished nothing.
I totally agree with you.
@@ninamc6116 I guess therapy works for people that are highly social. That just happens to not be me. Working physically as hard as possible seems to have a very therapeutic effect on my mind. Thus, I am constantly building things, repairing things, and modifying things. The harder the work, the better for my mind. I do not work out. All that effort benefits the body and mind but accomishes no third benefit. The hard work I do on my property has accomplished am incredible amount on my property and I do it alone. No evil talk therapist required.
“Also known as the dramatic cluster” ME. (BPD)
I’ve recently been diagnosed with bpd. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, to cause me to be this way. Im constantly scared that the people around me will get frustrated with me and leave. I don’t know what to do or what can fix me.
Im giving up self harm, whilst I do have a weird attachment to the scars they are ugly and and make me self conscious. But I need something, I can’t be out of control and for the last 3ish weeks I’ve been relapsing back into disordered eating. I remember being so proud, going days without eating and I just want to be happy again.
Forgot to mention the part where people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are actually very hurt on the inside and their disorders stems from early on childhood neglect or abuse. The person with this disorder is actually operating like a very hurt little kid.
What do you have if you watched this and are now afraid that you have 13 different personality disorders.
Order pizza
raid Area 51
There are only 10, and it's literally impossible for someone to have several of them at once.
I hate to say this, but I suspect from your comment you have 14 personality disorders, and counting...🥶. Don't stress, I haven't even watched the video yet.. is that the sign of a lazy git personality disorder? (Americans: 'git' means stupid and a lowlife) hmm... So I'm not a narcicst, I can't even spell it, but I may well be a procastomaniac, and nobody can spell that, which makes me a megalomaniac 🐈, I mean 💥💪 👹🦖⚡ I need to watch the video
😳👀 good question 🧐😆🤣😆🤣👀
I went through a whole diagnostic process from the end of 2022 to may 2023, and was tested for several personality disorders. The three that made sense were schizoid, avoidant and dependent (avoidant and dependent has been said to me by doctors since 2018). However, I was never given these diagnoses because it turned out I'm autistic and have ADHD and at the time PTSD. My schizoid tendencies could easily be explained by my autism, so this wasn't even mentioned in the conclusion of my diagnostic report. The other two were however, since the psychologist just.. didn't know. I could have one or both, and since my symptoms were pretty severe she decided to still include it in her conclusions. But I'll never know for sure though. I know where my difficulties lie and I'm in therapy, but never knowing for sure because I'm autistic and ADHD feels a little strange. People can be so complex, it's fascinating honestly.
0:28 but the question is: do I know myself?
OCPD and Hermione Granger- No. Hermione is simply a very clever person who has in her head a lot of information that is useful to others. She can be bossy, but she isn't manipulative.
For a person to be considered as having a "personality disorder", then the characteristics which are affecting them ust impact really negatively on their life. Hermione's intelligence and skills DO NOT impact negatively on her on her friends, after the boy's initial gripe caused mainly by the fact that she is both intelligent and bossy. Hermione very quickly matures into a tolerable "clever person".
The person in the Harry Potter series wh is an ABSOLUTELY PERFECT EXAMPLE of a OCPD is Dolores Umbridge.
Dolores sees herself as the absolutely perfect employee of the Ministry of Magic, and the Minister for Magic in particular.
What Umbridge likes to do, above all things, is enforce correctness upon other people.
To this end, she sets rules which impose impossible burdens on the children, so that she can have the pleasure of correcting their errors. She continually finds situations in which she can enforce some arbitrary rule. In the movie, the measuring of Professor Flitwick, it is sign of how this rule-making can be pushed to a ridiculous extent.
While on this track, Gilderoy Lockart is absolutely typical of the overt Narcissist. He is a highly incompetent wizard, hiding behind a screen of self-agrandisement, and not at all mbarrassed about taking upon himself the glory that rightly belongs to others.
MandyJMaddison I agree with the “it doesn’t affect henriones life” but like. 1) please don’t stigmatize OCPD or other disorders and 2) Dolores is a controlling asshole. Not disabled. my mother is an abusive controlling asshole but she has no PD; she just sucks. it happens.
If Dolores had any personality disorder, it was narcissistic PD.
Alexis Ermis,
No. Dolores was not Narcissistic. Compare her behaviour to that of Gilderoy Lochart, the typical Narcissist
She was not a "self-promoter", she was a Sergeant Major.
She loved the power of control, and enforcing, but it worked for her when there was always a senior person to whom she could pass the buck.
She was an absolute control freak.
It is Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder.
Don't muddle it up with "Obsessive Compulsive Disorder" which causes people to overdo ordinary daily things (like checking that they have locked the door). It is unfortunate that the two conditions have such similar names, but very different affects.
Obsssive Compulsive Personality Disorder can be a very serious condition because, like full-on Nacissistic Personality Disorder, or Antisocial Personality Disorder, it can profoundly affect the people around you.
Like Narcissistic Personality Disorder, it is outwardly directed.
The OCPD cannot function without other people who they can control and bully.
Em em,
You ask me not to "stigmatise" OCPD. The point is that if the person is not SERIOUSLY affected by the problem then it is not a "Personality Disorder". They merely have certain personal characteristics.
Hermione Granger, for example, is right on task and is a high achiever.
Dolores has all the characteristics of a serious personality disorder. And it is indeed disabling, because it affects all her relationships. People like Dolores are rarely happy, even when they are feeling an enormous sense of achievement at having crushed the rebellious spirit of some poor underling
Hai! Diagnosed bpd here!!, borderline personality disorder is so much more than what you described it as there are a bunch of different types me personally, I have quiet BPD, for me it’s not being able to regulate my emotions it’s constant fears of people leaving me it’s taking out anything negative on myself. It’s constant mood swings, not knowing how I’m going to feel the next day or within the hour. It’s losing friendships and relationships because I don’t know how to handle certain situations in certain words it’s not knowing what trauma I have in the past until it comes up randomly throughout the days or weeks or months or years, it’s constantly feeling tired and scared that somethings going to happen to me it’s constantly being worried that my significant other hates me and that they’re going to leave me which causes me to try to leave them before they leave me. It’s a constant battle in my head it’s not being able to feel emotions regularly. It’s always feeling like you’re different and not able to fit in with other people. It’s so much more than what people like to say it is and I hate when people tell us that we are bad people for it when we really can’t help it. That’s what a personality disorder is, it affects your personality
The rariest personality disorder: normal people
@ what religion are you
This was a non bias video and I appreciate that and how millennial are taking away the stigmas!! Thank you for what you do. ❤️🙌🏻
lol people have already been doing this before millenials what the fuck
OMG! I lived with a woman for 3 years who had to have that Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She thought she was so smart, she had written these stories and I was helping her get them on to the computer - she was totally blind. I suggested she ditch the prologue and then I pointed out all the stuff she had wrong in the first chapter. She decided to not use my help again. She had decided after her mother's death that she was going to do only stuff for herself. Except I told her that she lived in my house, she had to follow certain rules. She could be all about herself in her room but not in the rest of the house. I finally had to evict her because of her behavior.
The psychological community can label all these disorders?? Why can't they send a letter to this government. Asking all of them to come in and receive treatment for it's disorders. Start there first ❤
Watching this after Joker.
I wonder which personality disorder he has?
@@iamthesenate5769 Schizotypal possibly, maybe actually schizophrenic. Not a psychopath like the typical clueless movie goers think.
@@ShadowMan64572 Possibly.
You know I’m learning English and I already understand a lot, besides I’m interested in these kind of videos... they’re just interesting, and watching them in English is just fun for me. Keep going! :D
See the film "Rope" and count the personality disorders in every character
What if somebody potentially has a large mixture of symptoms from each category but not all of the symptoms in one?
Dankromancy TV borderlines often have many traits of various afflictions. This called borderline
There's something called mixed personality disorder as well. But people can have more than one PD present together.
Doesn't mean much unless you meet the diagnosis criteria. Just because I sneezed earlier doesn't mean I have a cold, nor does that if I get sad I have depression and 93 other illnesses. Many people can claim they have traits from all, but shit, I guess it's a perfect time to say "nobody's perfect", right?
You should look into Attachment Theory/ attachment styles. Perhaps you have one of the insecure attachment styles and you can work on that and develop a more secure style of relating.
Everyone on the planet will have at least one trait from one list of Personality disorders, usual more. For a diagnosis you have to fulfill a certain number of these traits, and have them be pervasive over your adult life time. Sure, maybe you have rampant fantasies all the time (for example), but if thats the only thing you are doing, its not a sign of schizotypal PD. Or say you 'split' on a regular basis. Doesn't mean you're borderline.
Diagnosed with dependent personality disorder, I can attest to the statement that it is very challenging to just about anything when you don’t experience healthy attachment. Therapy helps :)
Generally good definitions, but your explanation of Borderline personality disorder was somewhat lacking. It's mainly characterized by an unstable sense of self and unstable interpersonal relationships. This can manifest in sufferers changing their appearance, jobs, hobbies, and beliefs seemingly out of nowhere. In their relationships, they go through periods of intense overvaluing of their partner followed by intense periods of devaluing them. People with BPD greatly suffer from an inner turmoil due to their unstable sense of self that can manifest in behaviors that harm themselves and, often inadvertently, others. Unfortunately, self-harm and suicide are more common with BPD though many people who have it can learn to live happy and healthy lives through things like DBT
Very happy that you mentioned classic signs and behaviors of borderline personality disorder, but I just wish you would’ve touched on the quiet type too. Many people diagnosed with BPD can’t relate to the classic signs of the diagnosis which makes them question themselves even more, and that’s the last thing someone with BPD needs. We need more acknowledgement of the quiet borderline personality disorder type.
My problem is the fact, that I have all the symptoms of a lot of disorders and conditions (generalised anxiety disorder, scyzophrenia, dependent personality disorder (called infantile disorder here), borderline personality disorder, psychopathy, histrionic personality disorder, obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, ofc depression follows them) and doctors don't know how to treat me. I never lost touch with reality completely, but all of those symptoms prevent me from doing even something I enjoy doing. Also, they stack on one another (for example, planning of everything from obsessive-compulsive personality disorder combines with irrational fears from the generalised anxiety disorder causing the creation of massive plans on how to survive certain hypothetical situations)
I have BPD. With therapy, my life changed and I have a pretty normal life.
Only 9%?? No way... MOST of my friends and family have personality disorders! You can’t tell me that it’s that rare...
Because not everyone with traits gets the diagnoses. Don't self diagnose yourself or others bc it's toxic af
Fabienne Schriek I’ve been diagnosed. So have other people I know. And I know the difference between someone who is healthy mentally and someone who is disordered. It runs in my family.
@Fussy Puss it is rare.Belive it or not but it still.We still got big population!
Bonnie Aprillollipop #TRIGGERED so us personality disordered people group together?
@@fabertt444 Stop blaming anothers without no reason to get attention
I’ve read somewhere that people can’t have both the diagnosis of autism and the diagnosis of schizoid personality disorder. But to be brutally honest, I don’t know just how true that is, because I was recently professionally diagnosed with autism, and my parents and I are speculating that I could possibly have schizoid personality disorder as well. But if it’s true that someone can’t have both autism and schizoid personality disorder, then my parents and I would have to figure out what else is really going on for me. I also have ADHD, cerebral palsy, anxiety, and depression. The cerebral palsy has been caused by a brain injury that I had before I was born.
Also people really need to understand that self diagnosis isn’t a good idea in general because it’s very problematic in the long run, especially for people who have been given a professional diagnosis of these disorders.
I have an actual separate darker version of myself. She has no name but she's been with me since I was 8 years old. Over the years, I have gotten some control over her, but sometimes she'll break free and control me. It's honestly like flipping a switch. Sometimes I can't control it. It's not a bad thing, it's good for her to do it sometimes because I hold in my emotions and she enables me to display them. If I could discribe her, I'd say she is a ferocious lion and like a vengeful goddess. I don't know if everyone has these Shadow aspects of themselves but they definitely help sometimes especially if you alone have trouble standing up for yourself.
May not be the case but it sounds like DID
@@erikap862 You might be right. I'm all messed up tbh. When my adopted parents divorced when I was 8, my adopted mom got more abusive and I started getting bullied in school once I hit 4th grade 2 years after. The abuse was physical and verbal every day and no matter how much I begged someone to help me, nothing was done about it. I was harshly bullied in school but it didn't start to actually effect me until 6th grade. At this point I was trying to change and get their approval but it never happened. Once I was in 7th grade, that's when I started becoming suicidal and hopeless. I committed suicide a lot but they were never successfull and then that's when this other personality reared her head. I became a different person all together. I was depressed, hopeless, but she had given me strength to run away and stand up for myself. She told me that I could not depend on others to help me anymore. That I had to save myself. After her appearance, I kept to myself often. When someone would be rude towards me, I wouldn't pay them any mind nor talk to them. I dressed up to school for myself, but I never did talk to anyone say for a few friends. I started thinking for myself. My grades kept getting worse save for the classes I actually liked, but other than that, I stopped caring about them. I stopped caring about everything. Whatever I wanted to learn, I was good at, but whatever I didn't, I flunked. Back then I thought, "Why should I care about them and what they think when no one cares about me? What makes them so special?" I've been through a lot. So much, that I can't write it all down. I've been abused, bullied, raped, molested, almost murdered a few times, almost drowned under my grandma's dock once, beaten up, starved, and at one point my other side wanted to murder my adopted mom at one point. I've lived in Hell most of my life, it's hard to function normally and find peace when it's just as much of a Hell in the real world. Sometimes, it's hard to tell if I am even in this body of mine anymore. I feel so disconnected from this reality. I feel like I belong somewhere else. Humans are horrible.
Wtf
@@maddiebyfaith it will get better.
You are strong and good.
You are literally the child of The King.
God made you and all other beautiful things.
You have a purpose in the world that no one else can fulfill.
☺
Damn like 8/10 of these just hit straight home for me, too real
you need help
I enjoyed the video very much and learned a lot about Personality Disorders! Thank you.🙂
I have Scarface personality disorder: I don't trust nobody except myself
My dad had DPD my mom has NPD which made me have BPD :,)
:""((( I feel so bad for you!I wanna cry!
Necro Fell fuck you
@Necro Fell *facepalm*
This is really fascinating. I can see these traits in a lot of people I know.
*Always good to know yourself even more* 🙏
I'd take it to God before anyone else.🙏✝️📖❤️
⚕️=☠️👺 pharmakeia. It's talked about in the Bible.
Is it though?
Calling tes Bundy a celebrity is a stretch I guess technically true but definitely not connotatively
I have to go to counseling/therapy every week because I have several of these. Mostly schizoid, ocpd, and paranoid. They’re actually having issues narrowing down exactly which ones just because I display symptoms on all. I’ve been abused most of childhood on different ways and my biological family was full of people with ASPD. My bio mother had schizophrenia. Also have CPTSD. Never knew I had so much going on till recently honestly but I’m getting the help I need for them.
Hang in there! I have C-PTSD & I’m just now realizing it’s not my fault nor am I a bad person.
I got a personality disorder diagnosis, i spoke to the doc for 2 hours and answered about 500 questions on 3 different questionnaires to get a diagnosis. You can't and shouldn't want to self diagnose.
Unfortunately, personality disorders typically are ‘rigid’ forms of behavior that are resistant to change. As a retired therapist, I have experienced that they can be difficult to treat with talk therapy. Dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT). has shown good response for borderline personality disorders, but it requires a great amount of desire to change on the client’s part as it is a long, arduous group therapy process. However, if a person with a PD is motivated to change, they should absolutely get therapy!
Agree and the BPD I’ve interacted with who took that to heart, ended up far happier in their lives, and giving great life advice to others struggling with it. It takes a lot of work and bravery to face such things, I was very proud of those folks.
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
To pathologize a strong preference for solitude is idiotic and is one of the most hateful and harmful things psychiatry does.
As of today every odd behavior, as small as it might be, seems to be some kind of psychological disorder haha
@@ThePandababy13 "Psychiatry is politics, pure and simple." -Thomas Szasz, greatest critic of psychiatry. For example, runaway slaves were supposed to be "drapetomaniacs."
Most of the time solitude is fine. However if it leads a person to excessively cut off healthy relationships between friends and family, it can be a problem. It can also be bad for jobs that deal with the public.
Schizoid personality disorder is NOT just a preference for solitude, strong or not. This is one of the most hurtful type of misconception.
if it stops you from being happy then its a problem
"Always try to be empathetic and understanding with people who have disorders" Does this also apply to psychopaths aka the people who physiologically can't feel or appreciate your empathy and will try to exploit it?
no
Yes because there's a thing called a spectrum.
It depends... Don't get exploited.
@@meera2531 That's easier said than done, psychopaths are often the ones to play not by the rules, they will exploit all the chances you give them (unconsciously so) and they will have you in the palm of thier hand disregarding (or manipulating) your wants and needs. And yes, I know it doesn't apply to all of them as psychopaths can be very different depending on the other personality traits, but what I've described and what we know from the popular culture is the closest thing we have to litteral antichrist with no possibility of reforming (their brains are wired differently). Thus, offering your compassion to a psychopath is cardinally wrong in my opinion.
@@Ushakov_Mykyta that's why I said it depends... it depends on how severe their condition is. You can offer your compassion from a distance as well. Setting boundaries and rules for them is important. If they want to engage with you they will need to follow them. Else you part ways.
Wow that cloud gave me goosebumps!
Thank you for sharing your suns story. Sending you and your family lots of love ❤️🩹 and hugs 🤗
Atleast he didn’t say that people with bpd are unlovable hahahah