maam i have four of them, also my doc prescribed trileptal 300 mg, i get high and low in a day. also have manic and depressive in same day. my doc doesnt tell me what is my problem. could you?
Oh. I have 5 more in BDP. Is it possible to have both of BDP and BIPOLAR? I was diagnosed with b2. I don’t know where me self harming and breaking things when I am having an intense anger and also I want to hurt people but scared to do so, so I just do it to myself. Like! I break everything I see!
@@DrTraceyMarks Dr sadly many psych docs give you 10 min hand you a script and sag see ya in 4 weeks ooo that will be 500 bucks And many have no idea how to ween a person off Were DDT o you practice any we ask
The worst part of possibly having either of these is seeing the pain you cause other people around you. Especially if they’re close to you daily. That is what makes me hate myself the most.
I have bipolar. When I say I have few friends, it’s because I’ve chosen to live that way. I count 4 people apart from my family that I trust more than most.
@@inzanity7212 thanks for sharing. I’m still in diagnosis stage. I too have definitely always been a self alienator. Seems it’s common here. What brought this about is my relationship to my girlfriend, she hinted I had something for years but took a breakdown to see it myself. I have the the irritability symptoms of bpd 2. I believe it’s from constant racing thoughts but what do I know.
@@bassantmohamed8574 family hopefully will understand you’re ill. It’s not likely ruined forever. I’ve forgiven my dad for a lot of terrible things bc he’s my dad. So hopefully that gives some hope.
I was subjected to grooming as a toddler and showed all the Borderline symptoms. What worked more than anything was getting into exercising and lifting weights. It gave me dopamine and a sense of control and empowerment. That along with diet and cognitive therapy has given the the tools to have a mostly healthy relationship dynamic and it's making such a great difference in my relationship. ❤
My sister had similar trauma and has recently been spiraling. Off her meds and refusing help and rejecting family and on a one way street to homelessness. We all feel helpless watching this tragedy unfold. Hoping she can one day get help like you, gives me hope others have overcome.
same here. i feel amazing now after i started jogging daily. i quit drinking alcohol all the time. the meds did nothing. proper diet is important also, i fell into a depressed state the other day right after eating fast food and it makes me wonder how many people could heal thru eating better.
I sincerely wish I could do this, but when you pair the BPD with ADHD and Clinical Depression- I have tried working out/gym and I just find it sooooooooooo boring?? 😕 like if I could just commit to it and enjoy it, I'd be golden. But I already have so much to manage and organize (like for work/home) that having to add a workout routine and a meal plan just feels overwhelming and it feels like watching paint dry. and it bores me. Not only that, but it's also difficult to start because I am physically weak. So now I have to start doing this activity that is boring AND difficult AND I have to pay money (membership) just to be there? I just find everything, EVERYTHING, so damn boring.
Ditto, I'll use that explanation whenever people ask me if I can go fullspeed for months. Like, no, I'll be a storm for ten minutes and then sleep all day, wake up and laugh out loud at something random, thanks.
Someone will nag me for even suggesting the thought, but I'm sorry, I hope you find someone who loves you and holds you so dear that they don't mind that. I find that bi polar girls at least, get a little better with a proper partner having their back with the disorder.
I was in a toxic relationship over 6 months ago. I’m not going to go into detail, but after watching this video I literally thought about her after every single symptom you mentioned for borderline. It was as if you were describing her word for word. This really opened my eyes. Thank you for spreading information about mental health as it’s so so much more important than people realize.
@@pumpkinpie9778 honestly, sometimes we r the villians, even if our actions are due to disorders. Most people with bpd have regrets about their negative actions towards their loved ones all the time.
Same here 😆. Looking back I'm like.... Damn.... She HAD to have borderline personality disorder! And the irony is she was an RN and she "accused" me of being borderline! 🤣
@@pumpkinpie9778ating somebody with BPD is something you should AVOID at ALL COSTS! People with BPD can‘t form any long lasting n meaningful relationships. They will cheat and lie to you at every chance they get. Im not saying you should avoid talking to them but NEVER EVER let them in your life, they will ruin it! There might be EXCEPTIONS but this is genuine and realistically how relationships with those ppl end.
@@pineappleenjoyer9297I hope you realize that Generalizing people with certain mental disorders is not only rude, but also spreading misinformation. Yes, keeping a relationship with a BPD person can be difficult but honestly there is a difference between people who know they have BPD and are willing to work on their issues caused by the disorder and geniunely care, and people with BPD who are unwilling to work on their issues or unaware. I know some people with BPD who are be really sweet honestly, and not the kind of monsters society expects them to be. Everyone deserves a chance becausr not all folks with BPD are the same. With the right kind of treatment and support for the disorder, they can form happy and healthy relationships with others.
Same thing I found out yesterday. I still didn’t feel good with MDD/BPD treatment and the mania and psychosis was getting worse. I finally got a new psychiatrist and got a bipolar diagnosis. Big difference Take care
@@adial1986 I am also being treated for MDD and BPD and am having a similar experience. Seeing my doctor Thursday to discuss. Thanks for sharing, I don’t feel so alone ❤️
When I was little I was diagnosed with ADHD, then towards adolescence Borderline disorder and finally towards adulthood I was diagnosed bipolar. I finally have a good treatment for me 😬
that super interesting because i have found (atleast in my state) that people with bpd typically get misdiagnosed with bipolar and adhd. they seem to be way more willing to diagnose someone with a disorder that they can simply medicate away as opposed to diagnosing personality disorders which are notoriously difficult to treat. im infact living with someone right now who has been diagnosed with all of these things except bpd, and she most certainly has bpd - but they just wont diagnose her correctly as they seem to be very adverse to personality disorder diagnosis. no medication has ever worked for her, nothing for adhd, nothing for bipolar, nothing for depression and the reason is because she has bpd. she is also a notorious liar - so that could have something to do with it. she has 8 out of the 9 criteria (she doesn't have suicidal thoughts, though may have some ideation) and i have found the clearest way to tell the difference between bpd and bipolar is if it is a long standing issue. there has never been a time where she didn't have these criteria - always have difficult interpersonal relationships that go up and down in intensity, she has always had inappropriate and intense anger for apparently no reason or for something as negligible as someone knocking over a glass of water, she has always had frequent quickly fluctuating moods, she has always been scared to death of abandonment. whereas with disorders like bipolar/depression things seemed fine until they weren't anymore. and they are episodic - its isn't all of the time. also people with personality disorders often think there is something wrong with everyone else - not themselves. and that isn't seen with mood disorders like bipolar and depression. people with mood disorders often want to get help as they are distressed by their symptoms. while people with personality disorders again think something is wrong with everyone else but not themselves. this was a great thorough video and i wish you the best luck in your treatment!
Where did you study mental health? And what was the exact discipline you studied? Do they have an online program? Your kind feedback will greatly be appreciated.
You’re one of the only channels I don’t speed up to 1.75 to get through it because you actual have good and solid content thats to the point. That’s refreshing. Thank you
That's so smart I never thought of doing that. I just hope I catch the right spots when I randomly click through points in the video and speed it up to a few seconds that way and then when I feel somethings missing I get back to another point before until I've found all the information never watch all videos though I wouldn't have the time in my lifr
Thank you so much for that. I was diagnosed with boarderline about 5 years. I was put on a TON of medication in the beginning. But after learning how to regulate the bigger emotional ups and downs, and several hundred hours of DBT along with education. I'm on only 1 extremely low dose medication for anxiety. That doubles as an antihistamine. Thank you for taking time to educate others.
@tronlady1 I don't know, I think it is just one of those dual medications that can be prescribed for multiple things. It took a long time to get to that point, though. I flew across the country for a totally body cleanse, multiple treatment facilities, and tons of talk therapy. I still struggle, but now that I know how to manage, it is a lot easier to pull out of those moments. Faster and less frequent. Maybe a few times a year, usually high stress like the holidays 🤣 Hang in there you can do it.
My partner is bi polar and my daughter is diagnosed borderline ......oh l love them so much, its often hectic but the love l have for them is like no other.
What a beautiful comment. I can assure you that they appreciate your love like no other. That is the somewhat upside to having these disorders. Sure, we feel anger and depression and anxiety so strongly, but we also feel love and affection and protection just as fucking strong. To be loved by someone with BPD is rough sometimes but also very rewarding. No one will ever love you as deeply as someone with bipolar or BPD
"What goes up must come down", a little phrase I say to myself when Im manic to try and keep myself level. The depression can get just as bad or worse, or just dealing with the mess you made. Thanks for your videos.
As someone who battles Borderline Personality Disorder daily, I really appreciate you taking time to spread awareness. It took me 16 years to be committed to regular care and medication. It took me 16 years to be able to understand that it is OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY. It took me 16 years to commit to myself so that I could be the best me I could be. After 16 years I found a psychiatrist who partnered with me on my journey and I am happy to say that after 9 months of continued care, I feel better than I ever have before! I have learned that personally, routine has been a HUGE successor for me. Being able to have a routine has made keeping myself accountable easy. Every morning and every evening I complete the same routine and it has served me so much. The most important part of my healing tho, has come with the awareness that I have been able to share with my friends and family so that those who love me can recognize when I am feeling less than myself, and then are able to help me (or can get me where I need to be if I need further help). The content you continue to create is incredible. My family and I appreciate you, Dr. Marks!
The problem with the meds is many cause diabetes, parkinsons and other movement disorders. I would rather take the mania and ups and downs then be a zombie on seroquel. That garbage slows my breathing down so much I feel like I am suffocating in my sleep. No thanks.
I am not allowed to not be OK. Ever. CHOOSE happiness, I'm told. Constantly. What they mean is "I don't want to hear it. Act happy when you're around me or stay away from me." I seldom leave my house, but I am a blast when I am forced to deal with people. I joke and sing and laugh when all I want to do is cry, "Please care enough about me to LISTEN." No one does. Well, I have cancer, so pretty soon no one will need to listen and I will FINALLY stop hurting.
@@do9138 that’s a relatable feeling. I often feel that when I assume how someone feels I have a sort of misconception tho. I’m sure there are some people that will not just need but want to listen often. (If you were talking to yourself in that last part). Stay strong with your fight! :)
Routine is wonderful. Having the same instant coffee from the same mug, with the same scones every morning. Watching the same news channel before bed. Having dinner on time even when you're busy. The more normalcy and the less crisis in life the better. I'm on the autistic spectrum and my mother has BPD which resulted in a childhood of walking on eggshells.
The Love of my Life suffers from this disorder. It's absolutely Heartbreaking. Do everything you can, encourage Therapy and always remember that You aren't a Superhuman. When you start losing your grip, affirm that it's not over and step away, stay away until you're both cooled down. This a piece of advice I'd wished I'd had.👍
I don't know why but I started crying when she started to describe the borderline personality. Everything she said was like a dart straight to my heart. I really need to look for help.
I feel you, I just can't seem to freaking find it. I'm not even 18 and most of the time all I can say is I'm confused, nothing makes sense. I'm just confused.
I have bipolar disorder and BPD. What a fun combo 🙃 The older I get, the more I realize how different I am and the sadder I get. It really hurts to feel so unstable all the time. Because I am forced act “normal” the worse I feel.
I know she is mostly reading from textbook guide lines, but this is the most accurate explanation that I have seen in video of borderline personality disorder. This shit hits hard, because it's really difficult to recognize the patterns and differences that my mind creates unless they're presented to me from another perspective.
I was correctly diagnosed BPD in my 20’s & worked diligently to find coping mechanisms and treatments that worked to improve my daily life for 15 years. Last year I felt I needed professional help again to reign in my anxiety during a stressful period & after a single 45 min phone session, a psychiatrist diagnosed me bipolar and tried to prescribe me an SSRI (which, in the past have made me unpredictably violent). I wish more mental health professionals were more responsible in their diagnoses because there is no way I can share enough info about my life verbally in less than an hour for someone to make that diagnosis and be 100% sure. At surface level I am sure I appear bipolar but that is because my BPD is well managed and I currently have a very stable relationship. Without context and history, it’s an easy misdiagnosis. I just wish psychiatry required a certain number of hours or testing to prescribe medications because it seems most psychiatrists I’ve encountered are quick to throw pills at a problem even when you’re specifically against daily meds.
My therapist I had for 5 years diganosed me with BPD but my new therapist said how did they know i had BPD and tried to ask me my symtoms on the spot but Im not good at giving it on the spot and she tried to act like my BPD diganosis was wrong within first 20 minutes of my season and try act like I dont seem BPD even though it was my first season with her
@@rainbowslimesbywolf9565 I’m sorry you went through this as well. I hope you find someone who can be helpful without needing to re-diagnose you for their own ego. My original diagnosis came from a self-admitted hospital stay in my mid-20’s where I was administered a very thorough diagnostic test. Before that I had been on a never ending carousel of depression and anxiety diagnoses since my teens. It seems to me that misdiagnosis is more common than the real thing.
Does anyone else go to videos about their own diagnosis to feel valid and cry a lot?? Like I think I'm manic rn and hearing all the things that make me borderline just kind of makes me valid/less "crazy"
@@suzycreemcheeze446 I think that's at a later step that this is helpful. The one she's in, I went through and it was helpful to me to finally understand that the diagnosis is what I'm working with and explained everything. Later I was able to step back and see myself as much more.
Definitely feel less crazy from this woman putting my issues on front street. Because I know its name and I'm I can get help for bpd. Been thinking Im a terrible person bc of it. Maybe that's not the case..
@@queenditty2783 I have struggled with this since birth, with a bpd mother. She's still her, but I'm working on me and trying to understand her better, too. I have a ton of recovering and self-forgiveness to do. But I'm glad to not only know I'm not alone, but that I'm not hopeless.
I love this video! I’m a psychologist and this is one of the best explanations I’ve heard to distinguish bipolar disorder from borderline personality disorder. I’m glad I discovered your channel.
I have been diagnosed with severe manic bipolar disorder since I was about 10 years old, I am now 35. I myself have even wondered how I could be such a drastically different human being from one day to the next, you could meet me on a Tuesday and you'd walk away like "Man, what a cool guy, It was nice talking to him." .. OR you could meet me on a Sunday and you'd walk away thinking "I hope I never see that person again." But I am the same guy, I guess. I also have severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder on top of that and Tourettes Syndrome when I was younger which I partially grew out of. This is all on top of having a serious genetic predisposition to drugs and alcohol and self medicating for the better part of 20 years. I am sober now and living life the right way, but I still struggle with the mood swings and I wonder to myself "which guy am I really? Tuesday.. or Sunday?" Have a great day everyone. Thanks if you read.
I FeeL the behaviors we exhibit are to protect ourselves & because in today's world we are supposed to be numb and suppress anything that is not pure peace, love & servitude, we bottle it all up, allow our boundaries to be pushed back & or broken & then EXPLODE ! I was the black sheep and the truth teller of my narcissistic sociopathic father & my mother who has some undiagnosed mental disorder or personality disorder & siblings who are finally admitting to it in their 30's & 40's... They need help, I'm the only one who easily admits to my flaws and all of them while it's happening and not years later after pretending I was perfect... So I do cut people off who lie & blame me for everything & I EXPLODE on them IF forced to have them in my life... So I think my main problem was hanging onto my value... BPD can be untrained within yourself to the point of being undiagnosable! You are all that you are and the emotions you FeeL are an expression of the struggle with in, but they don't define who you are, but what you do with them... I have for a long time now seen people not for how they express themselves, but knowing there is something within they are learning & trying to express... Picture when people grieve, do you judge them for who they are for all they express through the steps of grieving? I FeeL like BPD is a prolonged grieving process... and just any emotions people express... OR like a PTSD for everything... I was raised not to have any emotions... to be perfect & know everything without being taught by my father... We had a very confusing upbringing... ONLY his emotions were valid... He lied & cheated & took things from people that were special to them.... He get narcissistic amnesia for everything he gets called out on.... he uses everyone around him & makes them FeeL privileged to be his slaves... Anyhow all that to say I learned to not have boundaries & then I would retaliate & I learned to say nothing until I wouldn't & couldn't take it anymore & then I would EXPLODE... Truth all over the place! So I did not learn how to be allowed to express my thoughts, feelings & emotions very well... And when people wouldn't respect me for sharing or ignore me then I felt abandoned & stuck... trapped & imprisoned... So I just wonder what does my real self look like, it's all of what has been, when you need to protect yourself, love yourself, when you give up, when you just can't take anymore, when you feel or have been abandoned.... those are all you in those situations... I did not mean to say all this, but you are you, through & through... You can be more or less of who you want to be, you have the reigns of self-control, it's like taming a beast, but you have it in you to untrained the thoughts to tame your body and have full control! I have learned to tame much of my anger and OCD... but I also think the disassociate part is also to help disconnect from people who won't change & keep hurting me... I don't like liers and those are who I have cut off, fake adults if you will... anyhow, The End
I feel like I get attached to people very fast and then feel abandoned when they pull back a little or when I sense that they're pulling back. It's beginning to really affect my life.
Abandonment issues is one of the symptoms of borderline personality disorder is what I have but been dealing with abandonment issues for quite some time now even as far back as a child. Which causes the trauma of it.
Thank you thank you THANK YOU! A professional that does NOT demonize BPD. I love how you explain the differences. And I know when discussing the criteria it is so easy to "blame" the person or make out that it is a negative thing about the person. Instead you explain what the criteria are and how it negatively impacts the person suffering with the disorder. And I love how you constantly validate what a bpd sufferer goes through. Speaking from experience, having 5 or more of those criteria is exhausting so by constantly reminding the casual viewer that "oh I cut therefore...." is not enough you are validating the constant inner turmoil we BPD sufferers go through. Thank you.
yeah fr! fuck people who demonize people for their mental disorders! thats like hating somebody for being autistic or down syndrome. its not fucking different and literally nobody can say otherwise. i will stand by it.
Hi and I'm happy to hear(read) you're aware of your condition and you're on the good path to be better....Hats off to you. Now, after 7 years of marriage now is when she told me she's "bipolar" but I'm 99.99% sure she's a covert-npd and I've been through hell multiple times which has been horrible for me. My question to you, with all due respect is: Do you feel some sort of remorse for hurting your love ones(if you have) and are you able to repair the damage? Again, I apologize for the question and don't know if that's your case but I'm asking you for my personal sanity and to actually know if it's worth staying with her.
@SuperPrdude that is a very difficult question to answer with no other information besides what you have provided. Please bear in mind I am not a diagnostican or medical professional. Simply someone who has suffered BPD for her whole adult life, and manages it to the best of my ability. I feel huge remorse when I THINK I've upset someone, and have huge issues regarding abandonment and feeling if I've disappointed someone (it's a whole thing with me) so go out of my way to avoid getting in any situation where I could hurt someone. But that is me. If after 7 years she is only now bringing this up, is it something she was already aware of, or is she "connecting the dots". Because either way she needs to take steps to manage her mental health. And this is the crucial part! If she is making steps then support her. If she isn't, then encourage her. But NEVER sacrifice your own mental health in the process. I will never say "stay with her" nor will I ever say "leave her". As that choice is yours and yours alone.
@@annejohnson5096 Very well appreciated your reply. She started to go to therapy but it's been 7 years and I can't deal with her anymore. You know, God Bless you for replying back and if there's anything you want to chat about, I'm here.
This is so helpful! I have BPD, and my mom is bipolar. I've been trying to explain to her that my irrational, fearful, panicky, delusional, or even manipulative behavior can't be changed by just "fighting the bad mood/depression/bad day", its how my brain is wired to think, at all times, no matter if I'm depressed or not. I have to constantly fight my brain into going against my first instinct (illogical thoughts/behavior) and be logical and calm in my decisions. Constantly, all day everyday. Sometimes, I will get into depressed episodes that'll last a week or two, underneath my existing day-to-day BPD mood swings & thoughts. Then I'll swing into a manic/euphoric mood for a week or so, while still having my normal BP mood swings and thought processes over top of it.
I’m so glad to have stumbled across your channel! Our adopted daughter has one of these personality disorders. Dr says it’s too early (she’s 16) to distinguish which one and once you label someone it’s very difficult to change/correct the diagnosis. I still can’t tell for sure which one of these she has. Her moods can change by the hour and it leaves us parents feeling like we never know what she’s going to say next! She has several other disorders also so our house feels like an insane asylum sometimes. Other people think she’s so sweet and such an angel. But how she acts with us is shocking and very upsetting. When other people see it they can’t believe how she’s acting! We need so much help it’s unreal, and feels unobtainable. She’s hard on us individually and as a married couple. We can’t hardly do anything with friends because we can’t leave her alone in the house for any amount of time. Even if we’re working in the yard we have to make her come outside. Our lives are pretty much a nightmare. 😢
The quick mood swings is what i relate to. One moment I'm extremely happy, motivated, energetic, helpful and after a while all of a sudden everything is so annoying, the sounds disturbs me, people make me angry for no reason and i feel like i just don't want to do anything. It's so weird and i have no idea what to do about it.
Im diagnosed Bipolar and I take medicine and I completely relate to sounds disturbing me. Sometimes I wish the whole neighbourhood would play loud music and dance and sometimes birds chirping hurts my ears. That’s how I know if I’m manic or depressed.
Same, and I don’t know if this is bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. And like during the mood swings I feel like I want to do everything and anything.
@@iluvbloxorz nobody in these comments is here for a joke buddy were all here for a reason either to get more understand or because we're depressed and looking into other things since the mental health facilities are so poorly managed
I don't know I live in an area that's below zero at times and can be above 100 degrees but the heat doesn't bother me it's he accompanied with humidity that makes it impossible!!!! I'm talking the kind of humidity where you walk outside in your clothes are instantly wet and you haven't even had a chance to start sweating yet!
If only my moods changed by the hour! I can move from ecstatic to utterly depressed, then to utterly petrified, then to anger, then back to ecstatic... And all that, within 10 minutes. The interesting thing is, because I'm never physically aggressive or obviously self-destructive, nobody can tell. I swallow my emotions and seem just fine but suffer internally. But when alone at home, I never have an ''off'' button. I don't know what being calm and ''just relaxing'' feels like. So I eat excessively, spend money on shopping, booking trips last minute, partying excessively to just keep the boredom at bay. People say ''you are such an exciting, fun person with an awesome life''. The truth is, I'm constantly empty and bored, no matter what. And for the most part, I feel abandoned and unloved. (I have BPD and generalized anxiety disorder)
I have bpd and gad too and i relate to what you're saying. I feel constantly bored and empty, i obsess over guys / crushes just so i feel like there's something exciting going on in life. I am am impulsive and spontaneous person and a lot of people like that but it has affected me in school and work. We can work through it, dbt and a compassionate & understanding therapist or mental health practitioner can do wonders.
@@user-hi2nd try and find psychiatrists specialising inpersonality disorders & if your insurance covers it.... Do anything.... U have to get started somewhere, i KNOW how hard it is TRUST ME i get that you feel scared but we're strong people and we're not gonna let this ruin our lives. You CAN do this things DO get better TRUST ME! Its tough but its sooo worth it!
Hello, that was brilliantly informative thank you. I've been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder but I've never heard it be explained like that.
@@avrylllorraine7568 diagnosis’ for mental illness should take time it not something to rush into, it wrong medications for illnesses like these can be horrific
I think I may have it & my son was recently diagnosed with it . I was hoping you can tell us what type of treatment you get for this. Like therapy or Counselling , specifically psychotherapy ? Thank. You
I really like the way you explain BPD alot of psychiatrists make me feel like my problems are because of who i am. I also suffer from severe reacurring depression and your videos make me feel like these problems arent my fault but just my brain. Thank you for being so helpful. You also explain things so family and friends can understand it.
Its still your fault, though. Cause you, are the brain. However, that doesnt mean you should be punish for it, rather helped sihnce its something you cant control without knowung about it.
@victoria evens yea sorry i yes it has to do with the fact blaming has negative connotation and being told its your fault can be viewed as bad. Sorru im sta4ing to tj8nk i have bpd too, though im not sure
@@jorgeflores9421 Perhaps more of a "It's not your fault you were dealt the cards you have, but you can still learn how to play the game strategically."
@@jorgeflores9421 It can also send someone into a depressed episode, especially if they were dealing with it, doing well, feeling well and on track for recovery, then bam....they get told "it's your fault"..... It can unravel all their progress. Those 3 little words are so extremely powerful, that most people (especially those without BPD or any other metal health disorder) don't understand unless they're in that situation themselves. That being said, It was extremely nice of you to apologize and realize where you went wrong! That's tough for a lot of people, especially on TH-cam, where backlash can be extremely harsh.
Thank you, Dr. Marks. This was very helpful. When I go to the DSM for clarification of a diagnosis sometimes I get confused, especially when seeing new clients who are in so much pain and distress. You offered great insight and examples to help clarify. Very appreciative of your videos. Thanks again!!!!
My girlfriend, one day my wife, lives with both of these. We have had our issues, but this video was very insightful for me and learning on what she goes through. Thank you. I was curious if you could possibly do a video on/for the people living with a significant other that suffers from these and how they can help, recognize, and respond. Thank you
Hi daniel i just wanted to say i love that your researching your to be wifes conditions it helps so much for anyone suffering with any mental health issues especially bpd as it can be extremely over looked and ignored by others. 🙏
Bipolar 1 here. Been managing it 25+ years (when the dinosaurs were around and it was called manic depression). Your videos and explanations are on point. I wish ALL psychiatrists were as knowledgeable and personable and as real as you are. I've only met one other such psychiatrist, and she is the one who literally saved my life so many years ago. Just...thank you for producing such valuable information in a totally relatable way. ✌️❤💪🙏😁
I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I have 8 of the 9 symptoms. The best way I heard it explained to me is that we feel emotions much more intensely than other people. So when things are good they are spectacular but when things are bad they are absolutely horrible. Imagine a graph from 1-10 one being your worst day on earth and 10 being your best. A neural typical human being spends their day gradually bounding between 4-6, nothing too great but nothing to bad either. A borderline in a typical day bounces between 3-7, still not too bad, small victories feel better and small defeats feel a bit worse. but anything, anything at all can knock a borderline out of whack and suddenly we are rapidly bouncing between 2-9 and it's very difficult for us to regain equilibrium as our emotions completely overtake any sense of rationality. Also bouncing that rapidly between 2-9 is very emotionally and mentally exhausting, after a really bad episode all i want to do is sleep i literally can't keep my eyes open. it's so easy for us to go into that mode thats the scary part. Even a simple canceling of plans from a friend can cause us to spiral out of control and think the friend hates us, we must be worthless or they wouldn't have canceled, lash out at them in anger for making you feel this way at the same time begging them to stay, things like that... but a very weird quirk of Borderline Personality disorder is once we write someone off, they are done to us forever. there is no getting back in after we told someone to get lost and mean it. Almost all Borderlines i know have bad tempers... part of the territory, when you feel emotions more intensely the hardest one to control becomes almost impossible and it's almost like you go into this fail-safe mode.. its easier to be angry than sad or hurt. It's sad to admit but I kind of envy Bipolar... at least it's more stable :P
DBT helps reduce the intense feelings of BPD. It's been a year and a half and I can truly feel a difference in how I perceive the world. BPD doesn't have to be life long, a lot is trained toxic behaviours.
I have pretty severe borderline personality disorder a long time they thought that i was bipolar but later confirmed that it wasn''t bipolar disorder and definitely borderline personality i literally do almost every single thing you talked about. ive had a rough life to say the least.. ive always had a hard time getting my family especially my parents to understand what my disorders are... but they actually sat down and watched your video and actually paid attention and listened... and i just wanted to thank you because you explained it all so well and it really helped my family better understand my borderline personality disorder. and it all makes a lot better sense to them now... so i just wanted to thank you for doing what you do, your helping people more then you know. one video can help change someones life, i just wanted you to know that.
I was recently confirmed by my psychiatrist that I’ve had borderline personality disorder for a while. I remember years ago, I denied it because I was always told it meant you were overly attached and obsessive but that didn’t apply to me. The criteria you listed made it much more clearer. Yes, I indeed have it haha.
It’s definitely needed, i sometimes question if I’m bipolar instead, but the explanation of how frequently my mood changes is hours throughout the day meanwhile bipolar is weeks or months
Paola Vanegas I’m starting to think my cousin on the other has been misdiagnosed as bipolar while in reality he is borderline...he matches ALOT of the criteria...I have no idea how one doctor said he has OCD!!!!
Alicia El-Khatib Naranjo yes borderline and bipolar both have compulsive behavior but bipolar can sometimes be mistaken with OCD like for example I thought that’s what my dad had because he throws a fit if something dirty touches his hand and his hands have became extremely cracked due to washing his hands over 10 times a day. If you know for a fact your cousin is borderline, have him go to a therapist who specializes in it hope that helps 😊
Thanks Doc. I’m an internist. My wife is a Clinical Psychologist and she has helped me understand these things so much better. That said. If my attendings had explained these topics the way you do, when I was in medical school I would have seriously considered psychiatry.
thank u for the clear illustrations & metaphors.. psychs always dont do that they just diagnose ,& give meds without telling whats it for & transparent about the side meds ..i think i have BPD.. i was diagnosed with Bipolar 1.. but at the same time i have persitent feeling of emptiness & need to take pschotropics to fill the void. i always conuse about my identity..
I was told I was Borderline after years of depression and never self harm. You’re the first Doctor I ever understood how to understand and to discern this unease feeling in my heart and to cope. Thank you kindly, ♥️
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a couple years ago, but after seeing this...I'm really not sure I'm bipolar at all. I matched every single one of the 9 traits for Borderline Personality Disorder, and I always wondered why I cycled through moods and feelings so often throughout the day despite the medications they have me on for bipolar. This was amazingly informative, and i thank you sincerely.
You can cycle through moods more in bipolar if you have rapid cycle or sometimes in mixed states when you have manic and depressed symptoms simultaneously. I wonder if BPD can have manic symptoms though. It is confusing because there are so many over lapping symptoms. Like you could be impulsive and unstable in relationships and self image ect... with bipolar too as mood episodes can effect those things.
@@jotortuga1975 Bpd doesn't have mania but it does have the impulsivity symptom and can have the anger symptom or even the occasional psychosis symptom.
You are putting such important work out into the world with your talent and passion for teaching. Mental health awareness and education is so important. Thank you. I would love to hear if you have an in depth explanation of histrionic personality disorder and how it is formed/treated etc. thank you so so much!
Thanks so much Kristen! Sure I'll add histrionic personality to my list of topics. I batch produce and am already scheduled out for next month - so it may be a minute. Thanks for the suggestion.
Clinical psychologist here. Good breakdown of stuff in your videos! I was surprised at the accuracy, given all the fluff I hear on social media from "experts." One additional point to add is that there is also Bipolar II Disorder, which is diagnosed when the person has only had hypomanic, but not manic episodes. It makes everything even more complicated, of course, and there are an incredible number of bad diagnoses out there - generally speaking.
You’re not alone with missing the mania. Especially if it was a productive time for you. I have an upcoming video on when to take antidepressants for bipolar depression. I talk about this issue a little bit. It may be in a few weeks so stay tuned
My mother had borderline personality disorder and a mood disorders. Forced to be her friend, caregiver was hell. Why did society abandon me???? Nobody who knew did anything to save me from her. Hard not to feel like a victim when not one adult saved me or helped me move out of her life even after I pleaded for help.
Thank you so much for explaining BPD. I am 47 and I have just been diagnosed with BPD. I am so glad that I am now getting some MH support after my whole life crying out for help. It had taken me to have a complete breakdown to even get noticed by the system. I have all nine tendencies and have done ever since I remember. People have always thought I was weird and I would never be able to change myself, but now I am getting help slowly. Thank you
I have Borderline and it's so difficult to deal with. I'm having a very hard time with it right now but it's reassuring knowing that there's others here who struggle too.
Please continue to do whatever is natural when making your content. It seems like a lot but I don't only watch your vids once. I usually rewind to catch specific information. It's actually very therapeutic and creates self awareness. Thanks AGAIN 👍🏿😊
Me and my partner have been dating for 5 years... we both got diagnosed this year myself with BPD and she was diagnosed with Bipolar 2...I knew I had a history of self harm and hospitalizations due to trauma but was originally diagnosed with Major Depression and Generalized Anxiety fast forward to now my new diagnosis is BOD which does explains my depression and my thinking... my partner I felt had some mild depression I thought it was Becca if the the lost of her loved one (grandmother) ... also I felt she was extremely irritable if the house was untidy which I felt was normal however she’d throw everything away including kitchen appliances when things were not clean in the home I thought she was OCD never imagined it was Bipolar 2... love these videos they give so much insight on mental illness. Me and my partner are practically best friends I encourage her to seek help after she have birth to our daughter thought it was postpartum depression but seems it was deeper than that she’s doing better now never again throw a kitchen appliance away and I do my best not to trigger her by trying to stay tidy like she likes it...things are getting better for both of us... takes work...
@@DrTraceyMarks I'm cutious to know how to approach a loved one about them having a mental disorder. My Husband is great,but I really do think he has anger issues and maybe bipolar disorder. He is so proud and doesn't think he has a problem...he believes everyone else does. How can I suggest him gettibg help without him taking offense?
Its great you asked for help. That is hard to do. I recently just did the same thing. No one...can be great alone. No one becomes great without help. There is nothing to be afraid of. #BeAmazing -Mrs.Mercy
I was diagnosed with bpd when I was 18 however in the evaluations the psychologists and psychiatrists weren't sure if it was bipolar. I'm 25 now and have been on mood stabilisers and doing DBT and no longer fit the criteria for bpd (say 4 rather than 5). What I hate is when people automatically assume that all people with bpd are liars and manipulators. I cut people out of my life if they lie to me so I hate being grouped in with that behaviour.
I hear you. I have a lot of self control so the " acting out" impulsively is not a problem for me. Others on this list are. So I get upset when people insist I'm irresponsible.
you can have both illnesses, I was diagnosed with borderline but I still didn't feel better even with medication and I felt like something was missing so I went to another psychiatrist and this one think I'm bipolar so I think I could have both disorders.
I understand that there is nothing wrong with mental illness, but being diagnosed with borderline personality was scary and a relief as well. It was scary because nobody wants to have a deep mental illness that is often badly portrayed in movies, but I'm relieved to have finally been given the right diagnosis after being originally diagnosed with general bipolar. My therapist initially saw me telling her that my mood swings are way more frequent than those of a bipolar person. And from there things finally unfolded.
(I apologise for the long rant) Idealization and devaluation in relationships was literally the first symptom I described to my therapist when I met her, and it is SO important and dramatically effects every relationship I'm in, often tearing them apart. I fall into all requirements and was even diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar during my admission to a mental hospital with close surveillance on my behavior and descriptions of my past, my problems, etc. It was noted than my mood would shift drastically back and forth many times in one day alone. I was also physically self harming brutally at that time. I've been clean on physical self harm, but binge eating, purging (I lost about 50 pounds in an alarmingly short time), self sabotage, self destructive/reckless behavior and lack of self worth have taken its place. I was diagnosed with Bipolar II and ADHD beforehand by my therapist and nurse practitioner. My therapist dismissed my borderline diagnosis because I basically didn't fall into the stereotype she had in mind and what she had experienced in her care with other patients. She did the same thing about me possibly being Bipolar 1 rather than 2. So no surprise, I was recently switched to Bipolar 1 after my first full blown manic episode that required hospitalization. An example of dismissing my concerns and symptoms. The quick, short burst mood swings are brutal: I manipulate, self sabotage, get angry for no reason, my mood shifts at the slightest trigger, becoming deeply and bedridden depressed maybe even suicidal to hypomanic levels of energetic and maybe even back and forth within the space of 20 minutes, an hour, or a day, and a lot more symptoms. Recently I came home after being exposed to social interaction for a bit too long, spiking my anxiety and I dropped into a deep depression, barely being able to drive my sister back home but I made it and I didn't plan on surviving the night after dropping her off. My dad stopped me and kept me in one place long enough and I even faked taking my meds. 5 or 10 minutes later, I came back out of my room dancing and unable to keep a smile off my face right after terrifying my dad. He finally saw how fast and drastic my mood swings can be. Much faster than bipolar. I do believe I have both because I have the erratic, sensitively small trigger mood swings and delusion-level fear of abandonment: even manipulating as a test to try and get people to crack and show me I'm right, that my fears are justified. But I also have the umbrella pattern of mood cycles of extremely deep depression and unfathomably high manic episodes. Speaking of which, on my last one, just two weeks ago from now, I jumped right into going back to college without looking into the college, I spent money I really shouldn't have, I had it in my mind to buy cars and I don't even know what my plan was after that and I don't even care about cars. I got extremely hypersexual. and of course I have a need for mood stabilizers. They stretch out the cycles but those rapid ones are still persistent. It's like I can FEEL them both coexisting. I fall under both diagnosis requirements, my history shows both, and I've been diagnosed with both by multiple sources and many clinical levels of treatment. Just one gets focused on more than the other, if not ignored completely. And adhd is more "popular" so people often only focus on that because it's more known and "easier to understand", not even seeing my personality and mood disorders that could kill me someday. I do undoubtedly have adhd, that's extremely apparent. It's just all frustrating and makes me feel hopeless because all 3 working together is torture, and only 1 or maybe 2 of the 3 get focused on. Borderline has been so neglected that I forgot I even had the diagnosis even though it's definitely still been here. The constant downplaying and dismissing along with bipolar's depersonalization already making me convince myself maybe I'm faking things or maybe I am normal, I'm just exaggerating really made me forget I have a whole third diagnosis. And that third one is the missing piece to what's going on with me but no one cares about it. I'm sorry about my rambling, I JUST remembered this morning for some odd reason about my third diagnosis. So I came to this video, and yep I definitely still fall into the description and diagnosis. Obviously it's not a good thing to be that comorbid, but it's comforting knowing everything or at least everything I possibly can know about what's going on in my strange brain lol. If any other borderlines or bipolar patients have anything to say, or possibly anyone who has a similar problem? Please reply, it's so comforting hearing that I'm not alone in this fight we face. And if you read this far, oh my gosh thank you! It's rare to be listened to for this long
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It must be so hard living in a perpetual inner storm interspersed with episodes of profound anguish and despondence. I hope you will be able to create at least frequent episodes of clam for yourself, if not a more or less stable inner climate.
I’m way behind in finding this video and comments. What a difficult journey you have but what a commitment to making a life worth living. You obviously learn everything you can about your brain disorders _ and that is also powerful “medication. I learn a lot through NAMI. and I really like Dr. Daniel Fox’s TH-cam channel. There is a lot of strength in communities and comments like yours. I’m sending wishes and may you be blessed to have good moments today!
My “best” friend whom I think is borderline just ghosted me for no apparent reason. She seems to have misunderstood a text and told me she didn’t understand but wished me well and immediately blocked me from every form of communication. She’s unfriended me in the past and has broken off her other close female friendships as well as her marriage. She cannot keep an intimate and healthy romantic relationship and has had disciplinary issues at work. She definitely went from idealization to devaluation. It’s just so hurtful though. No explanation.
Its a coping mechanism for people with borderline she will be hurting too , you should reach out it will enforce the fact that you have not abandoned her even thought you may have to do so with gritted teeth
nk47100 This is very typical. We have to leave 1st. We may come back to a relationship, a time or two. In the end, we will abandon everything and everyone (immediate family, adult children, etc) . It’s in no way your fault. It’s just a coping mechanism. As for me, if it’s my last straw - I will never speak to the person again. It’s not right - it just is what it is. Medication and therapy only help so much and seems to take years to work, and it’s common to relapse often. Also, this might be one of two or my disorders the person lives with. Just an explanation.
I’ve done it to past “friends” if I think they’re gonna ghost me/abandon or just if I think they hate me lowkey. I can admit I can go from really loving them, wanting them in my life, really valuing them and their time to suddenly feeling rejected, humiliated so I delete/block them. Idk why I do it. I have hardly any friends now lol since I get called crazy or unstable by them 😒
nk47100 i clicked on this video because my ex “best” friend was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. when i took a psych course i learned about borderline personality disorder. to this day i’m convinced she was misdiagnosed and really has BPD (or both). she has 8 or 9 of the symptoms. when we stopped talking it was because i distanced myself from her, but the scars from that toxic friendship still burden me after years. she introduced me to someone who sexually assaulted me. after i told her she stayed friends with him until he tried to do the same thing to her. she spread a rumor that i did wrong by her and then justified it by calling me a shit friend. then went on to act like nothing was wrong. i’m sorry you lost your friend. i hope you see it as a lesson learned
I've had this happen to me recently. She started out kind and helpful to eventually always saying something offensive, then coming back around like nothing happened. She applied at my place of employment and started trash talking about me to my co workers and I have not spoken a word to her since. I have been more upset at myself for not getting away from her sooner. I'm certain she has borderline personality disorder / malignant narcissim.
I was super intrigued when you mention that manipulative behavior isn’t a part of being bipolar, instead it’s part of your personality. So this definitely makes me confirm the fact my dad is most likely borderline as well. He shows a lot of the signs of BPD and I see that he doesn’t just need meds but a lot of counseling due to trauma.
I would like to note though that borderlines don't manipulate intentionally. People can feel manipulated by bpd behavior, but actual manipulation requires planning and calculation which borderlines don't do. Borderlines are just emotionally unstable and impulsive, so they act on impulse in ways that may or may not end up manipulating people, but that's not what they planned to do. They were purely acting on impulse and not thinking about the outcome. That's something many people misunderstand about bpd.
Manipulation has *nothing* to do with bipolar. I seriously think we'd be better off by going back to the original term for bipolar - manic depressive. Because it's actually a mood disorder. Manipulative behavior is linked to personality disorders!
Thank you for this video. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder about a year and a half ago and all the symptoms you just explained describes me completely. I appreciate all your videos. Thank you once again.
Hi Dr. Marks! I can listen to you talk about psychiatric issues all day. What a remarkable gift you have! Thank you for sharing as I find your content very helpful in better understanding bipolar disorder as I have a family member living with this condition. It helps me have a deeper understanding of their struggles and grants me the ability to be more empathetic with their plight. Again, thanks for sharing your knowledge and expertise! Please keep the content coming.
10yrs of research to understand my Ex-personality disorders( trying to educate myself for my child behaviors /awareness due to genetics)...in 13mins of this video it answered all my yrs of research and nailed it! Thank you for your professional informative video!!!
Thank you for your very informative video, unfortunately I am more hopeless than ever. It's too late in my life to start again I've tried for 30 sorry about being so depressed to all of you who are seeking help. Pleaseplease think twice about any medication they have all done me much more harm than good. :((
I was diagnosed with bpd almost 12 years ago, and I spent 2 & a half years in DBT therapy from age 18-21. I done each module 3 times but was told I was well enough to move on. Obviously change wasn't something I was happy with and relied on that group. But I honestly believe DBT therapy saved my life, It rewired my brain subconsciously, I wouldn't be here today if i didn't have such an amazing psychologist ❤ I always think about her
My husband thinks I should "live for today" and it should solve all my problems. I wish he had more understanding. Thanks for the video, it really helps.
It's hard to understand for someone who doesn't feel the way you do. But he is trying to help and that's what you should value and appreciate. For love is all we got in life, and wether we're happy or suicidal, love will always be the only thing that truly matters. Hold onto him, for he's been holding onto you, hasnt he?
I have a close relative with BPD and over the years I was seen her literally jump up and down and lay out in the floor when a relationship was ending. For many years she would always follow me around a store and anything I picked up and admired, she would purchase it. It got to the point that she stopped getting her own cart and would follow me around and simply place duplicates of what I purchased in my carts. I began to get really annoyed over the years as she adopted the same sports teams as me, clothing, the food she would silently watch me prepare, AND she switched her medical doctor to the same one I used. She claimed my life experiences as her own and would tell my stories placing herself in my place. She also love to get confusion started in the family and bow out once everyone was at each others throats. BPD is not only difficult for the person that has been diagnosed but also the people around them and the person they decide to mirror for any extent of time. Thank you Dr. Marks for this space for information that has allowed me to develop empathy for this relative instead of annoyance.
I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, I’ve never had it explained like this to me! Thank you so much for explaining it. Also…I counted I experience 8 of the symptoms listed.
DBT changed my life! It helped with the negative sides of my BPD soooo much including how I communicate what I am feeling, how to regulate my emotions, what to do in distress/crisis and how to live in the present moment (not ruminate in the past or feel anxious about my future) I’d HIGHLY recommend it for anyone with bpd who is suffering xx
Did it help with your relationships? I’m the one that starts the arguments. I think we would rarely argue if I could have some peace in my own thinking.
@@nikkineal6431 absolutely 100%!!! It’s probably the area it helped me with the MOST! I’ve stopped causing arguments or giving people the ‘silent treatment’ (which can be seen as manipulation) and I know now how to communicate in a MUCH more balanced manner- it’s brought a lot of peace to me and my loved ones and even if we do argue from time to time now (as ANYONE does!) I’m able to effectively resolve the conflict due to the skill set I’ve learned- I hope this helps 💚💚xx
I was diagnosed with BPD 8 years ago. (I was 17) And they never told me my diagnosis until just recently. And I got really upset about that because I've done INTENSIVE research about BPD just to be told they were already aware. I went through a lot of trauma during childhood and lost both of my parents from OD before I turned 19. Became homeless recently for not too long. My sister helped me out once she found out. I live with her now. (I help around a lot as a thank you). Therapy is only 5 minutes walk away and I go every week. It helps to be certain about a diagnosis. I get to learn terms for myself I didn't even know had terms. Like "splitting". Or having a "favorite person". Also thank you for this video 😊🦋
Thank you Dr. Marks. I was diagnosed last year and have struggled coming to terms with having BPD. Watching your videos have helped me work up the self confidence to keep doing DBT and sticking to my meds even if things are tough at times. Thank you so much!
I dissociate when my mom is yelling at me so it doesn't affect me and i can not get stressed when she is yelling at me, but i have no idea what she says.
I used to do that too when arguing with ny family and thought it was ok.. thing is : even though you dissociate you actually hear what they say and its in your unconscious. You dont take control of the situation, you dont let the other person know theyre hurting you, you dont learn to defend yourself but to stay passive and avoid confrontation. Also you forgive them or stop talking about it cuz you want it to be over but in fact you just dont set boundaries. And most important, the trauma is still there. Sorry for the rant, maybe you said as joke but its kinda serious
I have ADHD, and I really appreciate the way you break it down into pieces. It makes a lot of sense. I love your videos. Thank you for spreading awareness.
I was diagnosed ten years ago with BPD... I’m 9 out of 9. My great grandpa died in an asylum. My psych nurse thinks I’m bipolar 2. I disagree but 🤷♀️ I’d never heard of BPD until diagnosed. I was extremely angry with my psychiatrist until I finally researched and thought omg they wrote this about me!!!!! DBT and CBT is helping a lot. Gods luck to those with this hellish disorder. Thanks doc for this channel!❤️
9/9 at age 19. I'm 48 now and I'm maybe 2/9, which means I no longer have BPD. It's possible and I'm pulling for you. You can recover and you're on the right path. Your family's history is not your destiny. Much good fortune to you!
I’ve come out of a relationship where my partner had nearly all these BPD traits. 8/9 traits. Particularly suicide threats and distorted thinking, jumping to conclusions, constantly twisting my words, had me on a pedestal until I was the devil incarnate and trying to destroy him. Very manipulative and prone to lying, paranoia and testing me. Relationship was unstable, chaotic, difficult. His fear of abandonment and loss led to routine self sabotaging,which eventually led to me ending the relationship. What is hard to find is information on men with this disorder, bizarrely he was a highly respected and regarded expert in his field and the only place this behaviour seemed to manifest was in our relationship. Ultimately he blamed me for not trying hard enough to make it work !!
TH-cam Covert Narcissist they have a lot of these issues you mentioned. Some have a saying for them, "Street Angels and house Devil's." They have a great reputation in the outside world but at home they are very destructive. I had one tell me he was demon controlled. And the things they do to steal your joy, peace, light and energy feels like he could be right. They like to turn your positive energy negative so they can feed off of you.... PURE ENERGY VAMPIRES!!! And many lack true empathy. And when I say they I'm really referring to the ENTITIES that control the person. I talk directly to the thing that causes the disturbia of the mind. Some of them are mild and some of them are out right dangerous!
I have BPD and a mood stabilizer changed my life. Made my mind more quiet and tolerable, and im able to process things so much better without reacting on emotions.
un original and i bet you don’t understand the physical and mental abuse i went through as a child and how difficult it is for me to grow up in that environment.
un original i've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety since i was ten years old and listen to billie eilish and relate to this comment, is that a problem
Me: *Exhibits all or most of the symptoms of BDP but doesn’t see a psychiatrist in fear of having it* Me: I’d like to think I’m sane until proven otherwise. Heh. Heh.
Hi, i used to think the same as you before i started my treatment, i used to think "i'm not that bad" but IT WAS that bad, i ended up in a mental hospital and started the treatment only because my family want me to. I wasn't optimistic the first 3 years but after them it changed my life, i want to have a life now. Please look for help even when you think it is not necessary, it can change you life 💕.
BPD is awful to live with especially when you are undiagnosed. I spent so long living with this even though i knew i had it. I could have got help 5 years before and tried DBT therapy. I hope you get a diagnosis and then get some help ❤
I see no fear in knowing. It doesn't define you. It doesn't change you or your reality just because you can put a specific disorder's name to your feelings. All it can do is help you to hopefully find the most relevant and useful treatment.
My boyfriend was diagnosed with bipolar disorder this week as well as potentially having borderline, thank you so much for these videos that are really well explained, this helps a lot to understand what he is going through
I have BPD, GAD, PTSD. A cocktail of mental and personality disorders. Not easy. I try to explain BPD to family and your video is super helpful. Thank you!
3 days ago i was diagnosed with BPD and im excited lmao! Thats the real symptom! And also, the worst thing about BPD is "who i am" problem, sometimes i feel like im not actually here.
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So is BPD worse than bipolar ?? I have BPD but I don’t have bipolar more depression mixed with BPD.
maam i have four of them, also my doc prescribed trileptal 300 mg, i get high and low in a day. also have manic and depressive in same day. my doc doesnt tell me what is my problem. could you?
Oh. I have 5 more in BDP. Is it possible to have both of BDP and BIPOLAR? I was diagnosed with b2. I don’t know where me self harming and breaking things when I am having an intense anger and also I want to hurt people but scared to do so, so I just do it to myself. Like! I break everything I see!
Dr. Tracey Marks what if I was diagnosed with both or multiple?
@@nyamber7855 I did a video talking about that here th-cam.com/video/G8JHjN2AaxA/w-d-xo.html
Finally, a real psychiatrist discusses these issues on TH-cam
Real Psychistrist? Lol. I like that. Yes, I still work in private practice seeing patients.
AMEN !!! A real DOCTOR of MEDICINE!
What the hell r u talking about, I know like 3 other psychiatrists on TH-cam who talk about BPD a lot
@@DrTraceyMarks thank God for you
@@DrTraceyMarks Dr sadly many psych docs give you 10 min hand you a script and sag see ya in 4 weeks ooo that will be 500 bucks And many have no idea how to ween a person off
Were DDT o you practice any we ask
I think mental health courses should be mandatory for k-12. It’s just so important it’s crazy.
I agree.
my school added advisory hour trying to do this and it sucks. i feel like mental health in school is so misconstrued.
I agree. It is a huge part of SELF care, not just empathy for others.
@@mariahlarson7246 great point. So many people can’t even identify that they might be going through a something and could use some extra support
Why does it always go to "crazy"lol
The worst part of possibly having either of these is seeing the pain you cause other people around you. Especially if they’re close to you daily. That is what makes me hate myself the most.
I have bpd and my relationship with my family is completely ruined
I have bipolar. When I say I have few friends, it’s because I’ve chosen to live that way. I count 4 people apart from my family that I trust more than most.
Is a pain that is not purposely inflicted
@@inzanity7212 thanks for sharing. I’m still in diagnosis stage. I too have definitely always been a self alienator. Seems it’s common here. What brought this about is my relationship to my girlfriend, she hinted I had something for years but took a breakdown to see it myself. I have the the irritability symptoms of bpd 2. I believe it’s from constant racing thoughts but what do I know.
@@bassantmohamed8574 family hopefully will understand you’re ill. It’s not likely ruined forever. I’ve forgiven my dad for a lot of terrible things bc he’s my dad. So hopefully that gives some hope.
I was subjected to grooming as a toddler and showed all the Borderline symptoms. What worked more than anything was getting into exercising and lifting weights. It gave me dopamine and a sense of control and empowerment. That along with diet and cognitive therapy has given the the tools to have a mostly healthy relationship dynamic and it's making such a great difference in my relationship. ❤
My sister had similar trauma and has recently been spiraling. Off her meds and refusing help and rejecting family and on a one way street to homelessness. We all feel helpless watching this tragedy unfold. Hoping she can one day get help like you, gives me hope others have overcome.
same here. i feel amazing now after i started jogging daily. i quit drinking alcohol all the time. the meds did nothing. proper diet is important also, i fell into a depressed state the other day right after eating fast food and it makes me wonder how many people could heal thru eating better.
🙏🏻😘
I sincerely wish I could do this, but when you pair the BPD with ADHD and Clinical Depression- I have tried working out/gym and I just find it sooooooooooo boring?? 😕 like if I could just commit to it and enjoy it, I'd be golden. But I already have so much to manage and organize (like for work/home) that having to add a workout routine and a meal plan just feels overwhelming and it feels like watching paint dry. and it bores me. Not only that, but it's also difficult to start because I am physically weak. So now I have to start doing this activity that is boring AND difficult AND I have to pay money (membership) just to be there?
I just find everything, EVERYTHING, so damn boring.
Scam
I love the comparison between weather and climate. Very clear.
Viviane Van Giesen right? First time ever I’ve actually been able to understand my diagnosis
Agree. Brilliant!
I like that too.
Ditto, I'll use that explanation whenever people ask me if I can go fullspeed for months. Like, no, I'll be a storm for ten minutes and then sleep all day, wake up and laugh out loud at something random, thanks.
Very much so!!!
Ahhh yes, the emptiness.
“Home sick for a place I’m not even sure exists”
The word is hiraeth
Omg you totally get me with this, sometimes im like i wanna get home when i already at it, its such a frustrating feeling
I just wanna go home
The emptyness feeling its just IT , being empty. Not feeling pleasure in anything.
I thought I was the only one who would say I want to go home omg
i will go from laughing and smiling to sobbing and being suicidal in literally 10 minutes.
Same
You guys should go and see someone about it... xox
Someone will nag me for even suggesting the thought, but I'm sorry, I hope you find someone who loves you and holds you so dear that they don't mind that. I find that bi polar girls at least, get a little better with a proper partner having their back with the disorder.
There's no cure
@@VioletS-sb4on it's the truth. We learn to cope. I'm 44 and I've been dealing with this since before I can remember. Depression. Anxiety. All of it.
I was in a toxic relationship over 6 months ago. I’m not going to go into detail, but after watching this video I literally thought about her after every single symptom you mentioned for borderline. It was as if you were describing her word for word. This really opened my eyes. Thank you for spreading information about mental health as it’s so so much more important than people realize.
Maybe that wasn’t tour intention but it sounds like you’re making her out to be the villain
@@pumpkinpie9778 honestly, sometimes we r the villians, even if our actions are due to disorders. Most people with bpd have regrets about their negative actions towards their loved ones all the time.
Same here 😆. Looking back I'm like.... Damn.... She HAD to have borderline personality disorder! And the irony is she was an RN and she "accused" me of being borderline! 🤣
@@pumpkinpie9778ating somebody with BPD is something you should AVOID at ALL COSTS!
People with BPD can‘t form any long lasting n meaningful relationships. They will cheat and lie to you at every chance they get. Im not saying you should avoid talking to them but NEVER EVER let them in your life, they will ruin it! There might be EXCEPTIONS but this is genuine and realistically how relationships with those ppl end.
@@pineappleenjoyer9297I hope you realize that Generalizing people with certain mental disorders is not only rude, but also spreading misinformation. Yes, keeping a relationship with a BPD person can be difficult but honestly there is a difference between people who know they have BPD and are willing to work on their issues caused by the disorder and geniunely care, and people with BPD who are unwilling to work on their issues or unaware. I know some people with BPD who are be really sweet honestly, and not the kind of monsters society expects them to be. Everyone deserves a chance becausr not all folks with BPD are the same. With the right kind of treatment and support for the disorder, they can form happy and healthy relationships with others.
I got misdiagnosed with borderline. I got a second opinion and I actually had bipolar disorder. Thanks for explaining the difference.
I was diagnosed as a teen with depression even tho I was borderline, it took me this woman to make me belive in psychiatrics again.
Same thing I found out yesterday. I still didn’t feel good with MDD/BPD treatment and the mania and psychosis was getting worse. I finally got a new psychiatrist and got a bipolar diagnosis. Big difference
Take care
@@adial1986 I am also being treated for MDD and BPD and am having a similar experience. Seeing my doctor Thursday to discuss. Thanks for sharing, I don’t feel so alone ❤️
When I was little I was diagnosed with ADHD, then towards adolescence Borderline disorder and finally towards adulthood I was diagnosed bipolar. I finally have a good treatment for me 😬
that super interesting because i have found (atleast in my state) that people with bpd typically get misdiagnosed with bipolar and adhd. they seem to be way more willing to diagnose someone with a disorder that they can simply medicate away as opposed to diagnosing personality disorders which are notoriously difficult to treat. im infact living with someone right now who has been diagnosed with all of these things except bpd, and she most certainly has bpd - but they just wont diagnose her correctly as they seem to be very adverse to personality disorder diagnosis. no medication has ever worked for her, nothing for adhd, nothing for bipolar, nothing for depression and the reason is because she has bpd. she is also a notorious liar - so that could have something to do with it. she has 8 out of the 9 criteria (she doesn't have suicidal thoughts, though may have some ideation) and i have found the clearest way to tell the difference between bpd and bipolar is if it is a long standing issue. there has never been a time where she didn't have these criteria - always have difficult interpersonal relationships that go up and down in intensity, she has always had inappropriate and intense anger for apparently no reason or for something as negligible as someone knocking over a glass of water, she has always had frequent quickly fluctuating moods, she has always been scared to death of abandonment. whereas with disorders like bipolar/depression things seemed fine until they weren't anymore. and they are episodic - its isn't all of the time. also people with personality disorders often think there is something wrong with everyone else - not themselves. and that isn't seen with mood disorders like bipolar and depression. people with mood disorders often want to get help as they are distressed by their symptoms. while people with personality disorders again think something is wrong with everyone else but not themselves. this was a great thorough video and i wish you the best luck in your treatment!
I’m a licensed mental health counselor and I love your videos! It’s like mini-refreshers in diagnosis! Thank you for all you do!
Where did you study mental health?
And what was the exact discipline you studied?
Do they have an online program?
Your kind feedback will greatly be appreciated.
I need help for my son
Hey could you help me out
Excellent presentation. As Clinical social media worker I’m impressed and appreciative. Clear and concise.
@@loveauditor you can read her information in the “About “
You’re one of the only channels I don’t speed up to 1.75 to get through it because you actual have good and solid content thats to the point. That’s refreshing. Thank you
@Brintxx 🧍🏻♀️
That's so smart I never thought of doing that. I just hope I catch the right spots when I randomly click through points in the video and speed it up to a few seconds that way and then when I feel somethings missing I get back to another point before until I've found all the information never watch all videos though I wouldn't have the time in my lifr
same LMFAO
Thank you so much for that. I was diagnosed with boarderline about 5 years. I was put on a TON of medication in the beginning. But after learning how to regulate the bigger emotional ups and downs, and several hundred hours of DBT along with education. I'm on only 1 extremely low dose medication for anxiety. That doubles as an antihistamine. Thank you for taking time to educate others.
You’re lucky. Where I live they don’t provide DBT. Is there a link between antihistamines and all this?. I have a severe cat allergy as well
@tronlady1 I don't know, I think it is just one of those dual medications that can be prescribed for multiple things. It took a long time to get to that point, though. I flew across the country for a totally body cleanse, multiple treatment facilities, and tons of talk therapy. I still struggle, but now that I know how to manage, it is a lot easier to pull out of those moments. Faster and less frequent. Maybe a few times a year, usually high stress like the holidays 🤣 Hang in there you can do it.
My partner is bi polar and my daughter is diagnosed borderline ......oh l love them so much, its often hectic but the love l have for them is like no other.
Borderline is often born from abuse
@@NorthRoyalton its also from genetic what is wrong with you
What a beautiful comment. I can assure you that they appreciate your love like no other. That is the somewhat upside to having these disorders. Sure, we feel anger and depression and anxiety so strongly, but we also feel love and affection and protection just as fucking strong. To be loved by someone with BPD is rough sometimes but also very rewarding. No one will ever love you as deeply as someone with bipolar or BPD
Thank you. They need this love even if they can't accept it.
muchas grasias por esplicar muy bien.❤😍
"What goes up must come down", a little phrase I say to myself when Im manic to try and keep myself level. The depression can get just as bad or worse, or just dealing with the mess you made. Thanks for your videos.
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A refreshing, and manageable perspective!!
Ah the mess!
Im in a depressive stage now. Tbh. I miss mania. At least im not always so tired 😭😭😭
@@nadiananette6430 this too shall pass. Sorry your depressed. Try to focus on positives
As someone who battles Borderline Personality Disorder daily, I really appreciate you taking time to spread awareness. It took me 16 years to be committed to regular care and medication. It took me 16 years to be able to understand that it is OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY. It took me 16 years to commit to myself so that I could be the best me I could be. After 16 years I found a psychiatrist who partnered with me on my journey and I am happy to say that after 9 months of continued care, I feel better than I ever have before! I have learned that personally, routine has been a HUGE successor for me. Being able to have a routine has made keeping myself accountable easy. Every morning and every evening I complete the same routine and it has served me so much. The most important part of my healing tho, has come with the awareness that I have been able to share with my friends and family so that those who love me can recognize when I am feeling less than myself, and then are able to help me (or can get me where I need to be if I need further help). The content you continue to create is incredible. My family and I appreciate you, Dr. Marks!
The problem with the meds is many cause diabetes, parkinsons and other movement disorders. I would rather take the mania and ups and downs then be a zombie on seroquel. That garbage slows my breathing down so much I feel like I am suffocating in my sleep. No thanks.
I am not allowed to not be OK. Ever. CHOOSE happiness, I'm told. Constantly. What they mean is "I don't want to hear it. Act happy when you're around me or stay away from me." I seldom leave my house, but I am a blast when I am forced to deal with people. I joke and sing and laugh when all I want to do is cry, "Please care enough about me to LISTEN." No one does. Well, I have cancer, so pretty soon no one will need to listen and I will FINALLY stop hurting.
@@do9138 that’s a relatable feeling. I often feel that when I assume how someone feels I have a sort of misconception tho. I’m sure there are some people that will not just need but want to listen often. (If you were talking to yourself in that last part). Stay strong with your fight! :)
What type of things does your family do to help bring you out of it?
Routine is wonderful. Having the same instant coffee from the same mug, with the same scones every morning. Watching the same news channel before bed. Having dinner on time even when you're busy. The more normalcy and the less crisis in life the better. I'm on the autistic spectrum and my mother has BPD which resulted in a childhood of walking on eggshells.
my girlfriend informed me she has BPD, videos like these are really helping me to understand her better. thanks for this video
The Love of my Life suffers from this disorder. It's absolutely Heartbreaking. Do everything you can, encourage Therapy and always remember that You aren't a Superhuman. When you start losing your grip, affirm that it's not over and step away, stay away until you're both cooled down. This a piece of advice I'd wished I'd had.👍
I don't know why but I started crying when she started to describe the borderline personality. Everything she said was like a dart straight to my heart. I really need to look for help.
I hope you found good help and good people
Hope you get some good help
i did too.
I have BPD too bro/sis but I believe in Christ. Lets hope. I will pray for you too
I feel you, I just can't seem to freaking find it. I'm not even 18 and most of the time all I can say is I'm confused, nothing makes sense. I'm just confused.
I have bipolar disorder and BPD. What a fun combo 🙃
The older I get, the more I realize how different I am and the sadder I get. It really hurts to feel so unstable all the time. Because I am forced act “normal” the worse I feel.
I understand your feelings. Im right there with ya.
If you need to talk to anyone im free.. I'm afraid I might have both too
Me too. And ptsd.
Yeah my mom has both. I "just" have major bpd and pray I don't get both. My son's got it on both sides though 😔
I'm with you too I have both too an I hate to have to act normal like all is okay when im going thru mental warfare
I know she is mostly reading from textbook guide lines, but this is the most accurate explanation that I have seen in video of borderline personality disorder. This shit hits hard, because it's really difficult to recognize the patterns and differences that my mind creates unless they're presented to me from another perspective.
I was correctly diagnosed BPD in my 20’s & worked diligently to find coping mechanisms and treatments that worked to improve my daily life for 15 years. Last year I felt I needed professional help again to reign in my anxiety during a stressful period & after a single 45 min phone session, a psychiatrist diagnosed me bipolar and tried to prescribe me an SSRI (which, in the past have made me unpredictably violent). I wish more mental health professionals were more responsible in their diagnoses because there is no way I can share enough info about my life verbally in less than an hour for someone to make that diagnosis and be 100% sure. At surface level I am sure I appear bipolar but that is because my BPD is well managed and I currently have a very stable relationship. Without context and history, it’s an easy misdiagnosis. I just wish psychiatry required a certain number of hours or testing to prescribe medications because it seems most psychiatrists I’ve encountered are quick to throw pills at a problem even when you’re specifically against daily meds.
My therapist I had for 5 years diganosed me with BPD but my new therapist said how did they know i had BPD and tried to ask me my symtoms on the spot but Im not good at giving it on the spot and she tried to act like my BPD diganosis was wrong within first 20 minutes of my season and try act like I dont seem BPD even though it was my first season with her
@@rainbowslimesbywolf9565 I’m sorry you went through this as well. I hope you find someone who can be helpful without needing to re-diagnose you for their own ego. My original diagnosis came from a self-admitted hospital stay in my mid-20’s where I was administered a very thorough diagnostic test. Before that I had been on a never ending carousel of depression and anxiety diagnoses since my teens. It seems to me that misdiagnosis is more common than the real thing.
Diagnosis are fictional. Fictional things happened to you?
Word👍
Thank you, I’m trying to get help with my mood disorder. I find the ssris really aren’t the answer so your comment is insightful
Does anyone else go to videos about their own diagnosis to feel valid and cry a lot??
Like
I think I'm manic rn and hearing all the things that make me borderline just kind of makes me valid/less "crazy"
Just remember that you are not a diagnosis. Identifying with a disorder limits who you came here to become. It is not who you really are...
@@suzycreemcheeze446 I think that's at a later step that this is helpful. The one she's in, I went through and it was helpful to me to finally understand that the diagnosis is what I'm working with and explained everything. Later I was able to step back and see myself as much more.
Definitely feel less crazy from this woman putting my issues on front street. Because I know its name and I'm I can get help for bpd. Been thinking Im a terrible person bc of it. Maybe that's not the case..
@@queenditty2783 I have struggled with this since birth, with a bpd mother. She's still her, but I'm working on me and trying to understand her better, too. I have a ton of recovering and self-forgiveness to do. But I'm glad to not only know I'm not alone, but that I'm not hopeless.
Stay strong ❤️
I love this video! I’m a psychologist and this is one of the best explanations I’ve heard to distinguish bipolar disorder from borderline personality disorder. I’m glad I discovered your channel.
She's good
I have both.bipolar and borderline
I have been diagnosed with severe manic bipolar disorder since I was about 10 years old, I am now 35. I myself have even wondered how I could be such a drastically different human being from one day to the next, you could meet me on a Tuesday and you'd walk away like "Man, what a cool guy, It was nice talking to him." .. OR you could meet me on a Sunday and you'd walk away thinking "I hope I never see that person again." But I am the same guy, I guess. I also have severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder on top of that and Tourettes Syndrome when I was younger which I partially grew out of. This is all on top of having a serious genetic predisposition to drugs and alcohol and self medicating for the better part of 20 years. I am sober now and living life the right way, but I still struggle with the mood swings and I wonder to myself "which guy am I really? Tuesday.. or Sunday?"
Have a great day everyone. Thanks if you read.
May I ask how you've stayed sober?
I FeeL the behaviors we exhibit are to protect ourselves & because in today's world we are supposed to be numb and suppress anything that is not pure peace, love & servitude, we bottle it all up, allow our boundaries to be pushed back & or broken & then EXPLODE !
I was the black sheep and the truth teller of my narcissistic sociopathic father & my mother who has some undiagnosed mental disorder or personality disorder & siblings who are finally admitting to it in their 30's & 40's... They need help, I'm the only one who easily admits to my flaws and all of them while it's happening and not years later after pretending I was perfect... So I do cut people off who lie & blame me for everything & I EXPLODE on them IF forced to have them in my life... So I think my main problem was hanging onto my value... BPD can be untrained within yourself to the point of being undiagnosable!
You are all that you are and the emotions you FeeL are an expression of the struggle with in, but they don't define who you are, but what you do with them... I have for a long time now seen people not for how they express themselves, but knowing there is something within they are learning & trying to express...
Picture when people grieve, do you judge them for who they are for all they express through the steps of grieving? I FeeL like BPD is a prolonged grieving process... and just any emotions people express... OR like a PTSD for everything... I was raised not to have any emotions... to be perfect & know everything without being taught by my father... We had a very confusing upbringing... ONLY his emotions were valid... He lied & cheated & took things from people that were special to them.... He get narcissistic amnesia for everything he gets called out on.... he uses everyone around him & makes them FeeL privileged to be his slaves... Anyhow all that to say I learned to not have boundaries & then I would retaliate & I learned to say nothing until I wouldn't & couldn't take it anymore & then I would EXPLODE... Truth all over the place! So I did not learn how to be allowed to express my thoughts, feelings & emotions very well... And when people wouldn't respect me for sharing or ignore me then I felt abandoned & stuck... trapped & imprisoned... So I just wonder what does my real self look like, it's all of what has been, when you need to protect yourself, love yourself, when you give up, when you just can't take anymore, when you feel or have been abandoned.... those are all you in those situations...
I did not mean to say all this, but you are you, through & through... You can be more or less of who you want to be, you have the reigns of self-control, it's like taming a beast, but you have it in you to untrained the thoughts to tame your body and have full control! I have learned to tame much of my anger and OCD... but I also think the disassociate part is also to help disconnect from people who won't change & keep hurting me... I don't like liers and those are who I have cut off, fake adults if you will... anyhow, The End
Are you going to have kids?
I had an elderly home care patient with ocd so bad she had chronic wounds on her hands from washing them. Dr. Put her on Prozac. She was cured.
I feel like I get attached to people very fast and then feel abandoned when they pull back a little or when I sense that they're pulling back. It's beginning to really affect my life.
Me too it sucks
same here. I get triggered easily that I sabotage the relationships I'm in. it's hard
This is me & can relate to it more than you know.
Abandonment issues is one of the symptoms of borderline personality disorder is what I have but been dealing with abandonment issues for quite some time now even as far back as a child. Which causes the trauma of it.
@freespirit12 very hard to say the least.
Thank you thank you THANK YOU! A professional that does NOT demonize BPD. I love how you explain the differences. And I know when discussing the criteria it is so easy to "blame" the person or make out that it is a negative thing about the person. Instead you explain what the criteria are and how it negatively impacts the person suffering with the disorder. And I love how you constantly validate what a bpd sufferer goes through. Speaking from experience, having 5 or more of those criteria is exhausting so by constantly reminding the casual viewer that "oh I cut therefore...." is not enough you are validating the constant inner turmoil we BPD sufferers go through. Thank you.
yeah fr! fuck people who demonize people for their mental disorders! thats like hating somebody for being autistic or down syndrome. its not fucking different and literally nobody can say otherwise. i will stand by it.
Hi and I'm happy to hear(read) you're aware of your condition and you're on the good path to be better....Hats off to you.
Now, after 7 years of marriage now is when she told me she's "bipolar" but I'm 99.99% sure she's a covert-npd and I've been through hell multiple times which has been horrible for me.
My question to you, with all due respect is:
Do you feel some sort of remorse for hurting your love ones(if you have) and are you able to repair the damage?
Again, I apologize for the question and don't know if that's your case but I'm asking you for my personal sanity and to actually know if it's worth staying with her.
@SuperPrdude that is a very difficult question to answer with no other information besides what you have provided.
Please bear in mind I am not a diagnostican or medical professional. Simply someone who has suffered BPD for her whole adult life, and manages it to the best of my ability.
I feel huge remorse when I THINK I've upset someone, and have huge issues regarding abandonment and feeling if I've disappointed someone (it's a whole thing with me) so go out of my way to avoid getting in any situation where I could hurt someone. But that is me.
If after 7 years she is only now bringing this up, is it something she was already aware of, or is she "connecting the dots". Because either way she needs to take steps to manage her mental health. And this is the crucial part! If she is making steps then support her. If she isn't, then encourage her.
But NEVER sacrifice your own mental health in the process.
I will never say "stay with her" nor will I ever say "leave her". As that choice is yours and yours alone.
@@annejohnson5096
Very well appreciated your reply.
She started to go to therapy but it's been 7 years and I can't deal with her anymore.
You know, God Bless you for replying back and if there's anything you want to chat about, I'm here.
This is so helpful! I have BPD, and my mom is bipolar. I've been trying to explain to her that my irrational, fearful, panicky, delusional, or even manipulative behavior can't be changed by just "fighting the bad mood/depression/bad day", its how my brain is wired to think, at all times, no matter if I'm depressed or not. I have to constantly fight my brain into going against my first instinct (illogical thoughts/behavior) and be logical and calm in my decisions. Constantly, all day everyday. Sometimes, I will get into depressed episodes that'll last a week or two, underneath my existing day-to-day BPD mood swings & thoughts. Then I'll swing into a manic/euphoric mood for a week or so, while still having my normal BP mood swings and thought processes over top of it.
This sounds like me!
I liken it to carrying a huge elephant on your head while being expected to live a normal life.
Same
This sounds just like me, but I'm undiagnosed 🤷🏼♀️
People do not understand how mentally taxing this is on our bodies and minds. I’m so tired.
This explains my mom to the "T" ... I miss her. She disappeared a couple years back. I really hope shes ok.
Love I am sorry to hear your mom has disappeared!! Is she a missing person? Or just missed? Either way you don’t deserve this abandonment ❤️
I’m truly sorry this has been your experience, stranger. Sending positive thoughts to you and your family.
Any news?
So sad....
ohhh im so sorry, i really wish that she comes back
I’m so glad to have stumbled across your channel! Our adopted daughter has one of these personality disorders. Dr says it’s too early (she’s 16) to distinguish which one and once you label someone it’s very difficult to change/correct the diagnosis. I still can’t tell for sure which one of these she has. Her moods can change by the hour and it leaves us parents feeling like we never know what she’s going to say next! She has several other disorders also so our house feels like an insane asylum sometimes. Other people think she’s so sweet and such an angel. But how she acts with us is shocking and very upsetting. When other people see it they can’t believe how she’s acting! We need so much help it’s unreal, and feels unobtainable. She’s hard on us individually and as a married couple. We can’t hardly do anything with friends because we can’t leave her alone in the house for any amount of time. Even if we’re working in the yard we have to make her come outside. Our lives are pretty much a nightmare. 😢
The quick mood swings is what i relate to. One moment I'm extremely happy, motivated, energetic, helpful and after a while all of a sudden everything is so annoying, the sounds disturbs me, people make me angry for no reason and i feel like i just don't want to do anything.
It's so weird and i have no idea what to do about it.
That sounds like my daughter
Sounds like me!
Im diagnosed Bipolar and I take medicine and I completely relate to sounds disturbing me. Sometimes I wish the whole neighbourhood would play loud music and dance and sometimes birds chirping hurts my ears. That’s how I know if I’m manic or depressed.
Same, and I don’t know if this is bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. And like during the mood swings I feel like I want to do everything and anything.
@@favour624 Same here! All my psychiatrists had different opinions.
I learned more in 14 minutes than I have in my life so far.. thank you 🙏. And I’ve spent a fortune on therapy...
My mom is Bipolar and I’m Borderline and we act very different so these are very true
Natalie Pepper I love a crazy girl😍, I’m 17
@@iluvbloxorz dude... You're the worst
me me I’m obviously playing, you gullible buffoon💀
@@iluvbloxorz 🙄 IDK man a joke is supposed to be funny
@@iluvbloxorz nobody in these comments is here for a joke buddy were all here for a reason either to get more understand or because we're depressed and looking into other things since the mental health facilities are so poorly managed
Beautiful analogy of Climate and weather to Personality Disorders and Psychiatric illnesses!!!!
The way you deliver the information is so professional and understandable. Thank you so much for producing these videos.
You’re welcome A Fann! 😊
I apologize, Doctor, however, I disagree. Florida actually does have 4 seasons. They are cool, hot, very hot, and "OH MY GOD"
As long as you don't have 'Melting your skin off' hot.
I don't know I live in an area that's below zero at times and can be above 100 degrees but the heat doesn't bother me it's he accompanied with humidity that makes it impossible!!!! I'm talking the kind of humidity where you walk outside in your clothes are instantly wet and you haven't even had a chance to start sweating yet!
LMAO
Giggles* I liked the picture she painted.
Agreed!!
If only my moods changed by the hour! I can move from ecstatic to utterly depressed, then to utterly petrified, then to anger, then back to ecstatic... And all that, within 10 minutes. The interesting thing is, because I'm never physically aggressive or obviously self-destructive, nobody can tell. I swallow my emotions and seem just fine but suffer internally.
But when alone at home, I never have an ''off'' button. I don't know what being calm and ''just relaxing'' feels like.
So I eat excessively, spend money on shopping, booking trips last minute, partying excessively to just keep the boredom at bay. People say ''you are such an exciting, fun person with an awesome life''. The truth is, I'm constantly empty and bored, no matter what. And for the most part, I feel abandoned and unloved. (I have BPD and generalized anxiety disorder)
Meditation maybe. Have someone to talk to like a buddie.
@@perciousmatter7001 I'm actually sick of hearing people recommend yoga and meditation. Therapy and medication is what has helped me.
@@Crisalsera I have it and I'm 19. Meditation gets me scared and Idj how to get therapy. I feel fuckdd and scared...
I have bpd and gad too and i relate to what you're saying. I feel constantly bored and empty, i obsess over guys / crushes just so i feel like there's something exciting going on in life. I am am impulsive and spontaneous person and a lot of people like that but it has affected me in school and work. We can work through it, dbt and a compassionate & understanding therapist or mental health practitioner can do wonders.
@@user-hi2nd try and find psychiatrists specialising inpersonality disorders & if your insurance covers it.... Do anything.... U have to get started somewhere, i KNOW how hard it is TRUST ME i get that you feel scared but we're strong people and we're not gonna let this ruin our lives. You CAN do this things DO get better TRUST ME! Its tough but its sooo worth it!
Hello, that was brilliantly informative thank you. I've been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder but I've never heard it be explained like that.
I'm wishing you the very best going forward. Try to keep the very best of support.
How did you get diagnosed? Caz my psychiatrist is pretty slow 🐌
Same here. Diagnosed when I went through post partum depression.
@@avrylllorraine7568 diagnosis’ for mental illness should take time it not something to rush into, it wrong medications for illnesses like these can be horrific
I think I may have it & my son was recently diagnosed with it . I was hoping you can tell us what type of treatment you get for this. Like therapy or Counselling , specifically psychotherapy ? Thank. You
I really like the way you explain BPD alot of psychiatrists make me feel like my problems are because of who i am.
I also suffer from severe reacurring depression and your videos make me feel like these problems arent my fault but just my brain.
Thank you for being so helpful.
You also explain things so family and friends can understand it.
You're so welcome Victoria. Helping you and family/friends understand is exactly what I set out to do. 🙂
Its still your fault, though. Cause you, are the brain. However, that doesnt mean you should be punish for it, rather helped sihnce its something you cant control without knowung about it.
@victoria evens yea sorry i yes it has to do with the fact blaming has negative connotation and being told its your fault can be viewed as bad. Sorru im sta4ing to tj8nk i have bpd too, though im not sure
@@jorgeflores9421 Perhaps more of a "It's not your fault you were dealt the cards you have, but you can still learn how to play the game strategically."
@@jorgeflores9421 It can also send someone into a depressed episode, especially if they were dealing with it, doing well, feeling well and on track for recovery, then bam....they get told "it's your fault"..... It can unravel all their progress.
Those 3 little words are so extremely powerful, that most people (especially those without BPD or any other metal health disorder) don't understand unless they're in that situation themselves.
That being said, It was extremely nice of you to apologize and realize where you went wrong! That's tough for a lot of people, especially on TH-cam, where backlash can be extremely harsh.
Yes u are so on point. I'm BPD, and during my extreme high or low it's always people claiming I'm bi polar... I'm not.
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Same here
Same. I get extreme emotions and my whole life my friends tried to tell me I had bipolar but eventually I got told by a doctor that I have borderline
Yes. Borderline. Diagnosed finally in my late 40's. It was so obvious that I'm shocked I was misdiagnosed so long
Medical science sure has come a long way!
@@xXDopamineInbalanceXx im not seeing the improvement as too great in personal experience
Thank you, Dr. Marks. This was very helpful. When I go to the DSM for clarification of a diagnosis sometimes I get confused, especially when seeing new clients who are in so much pain and distress. You offered great insight and examples to help clarify. Very appreciative of your videos. Thanks again!!!!
My girlfriend, one day my wife, lives with both of these. We have had our issues, but this video was very insightful for me and learning on what she goes through. Thank you. I was curious if you could possibly do a video on/for the people living with a significant other that suffers from these and how they can help, recognize, and respond.
Thank you
Hi daniel i just wanted to say i love that your researching your to be wifes conditions it helps so much for anyone suffering with any mental health issues especially bpd as it can be extremely over looked and ignored by others. 🙏
@stxr hes right tho
@stxr borderline is a personality not an illness
@stxr nah, it's not as same as anxiety. Or depression bipo
@stxr it's not an ilness but a personality trait
Bipolar 1 here. Been managing it 25+ years (when the dinosaurs were around and it was called manic depression). Your videos and explanations are on point. I wish ALL psychiatrists were as knowledgeable and personable and as real as you are. I've only met one other such psychiatrist, and she is the one who literally saved my life so many years ago. Just...thank you for producing such valuable information in a totally relatable way. ✌️❤💪🙏😁
That name change was a big L on the doctor's part
I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I have 8 of the 9 symptoms.
The best way I heard it explained to me is that we feel emotions much more intensely than other people. So when things are good they are spectacular but when things are bad they are absolutely horrible.
Imagine a graph from 1-10 one being your worst day on earth and 10 being your best. A neural typical human being spends their day gradually bounding between 4-6, nothing too great but nothing to bad either.
A borderline in a typical day bounces between 3-7, still not too bad, small victories feel better and small defeats feel a bit worse. but anything, anything at all can knock a borderline out of whack and suddenly we are rapidly bouncing between 2-9 and it's very difficult for us to regain equilibrium as our emotions completely overtake any sense of rationality. Also bouncing that rapidly between 2-9 is very emotionally and mentally exhausting, after a really bad episode all i want to do is sleep i literally can't keep my eyes open.
it's so easy for us to go into that mode thats the scary part. Even a simple canceling of plans from a friend can cause us to spiral out of control and think the friend hates us, we must be worthless or they wouldn't have canceled, lash out at them in anger for making you feel this way at the same time begging them to stay, things like that... but a very weird quirk of Borderline Personality disorder is once we write someone off, they are done to us forever. there is no getting back in after we told someone to get lost and mean it.
Almost all Borderlines i know have bad tempers... part of the territory, when you feel emotions more intensely the hardest one to control becomes almost impossible and it's almost like you go into this fail-safe mode.. its easier to be angry than sad or hurt.
It's sad to admit but I kind of envy Bipolar... at least it's more stable :P
The grass is always greener
DBT helps reduce the intense feelings of BPD. It's been a year and a half and I can truly feel a difference in how I perceive the world. BPD doesn't have to be life long, a lot is trained toxic behaviours.
Bi-Polar is lifelong. There are ways of coping but it's lifelong. My mother has this and I have BPD.
I wish I had read this before I drove so many people away 🥺
Bipolar is worse I think because with BPD it's events that trigger you mainly, with bipolar you fluctuate without events affecting you.
I have pretty severe borderline personality disorder a long time they thought that i was bipolar but later confirmed that it wasn''t bipolar disorder and definitely borderline personality i literally do almost every single thing you talked about. ive had a rough life to say the least.. ive always had a hard time getting my family especially my parents to understand what my disorders are... but they actually sat down and watched your video and actually paid attention and listened... and i just wanted to thank you because you explained it all so well and it really helped my family better understand my borderline personality disorder. and it all makes a lot better sense to them now... so i just wanted to thank you for doing what you do, your helping people more then you know. one video can help change someones life, i just wanted you to know that.
I was recently confirmed by my psychiatrist that I’ve had borderline personality disorder for a while. I remember years ago, I denied it because I was always told it meant you were overly attached and obsessive but that didn’t apply to me. The criteria you listed made it much more clearer. Yes, I indeed have it haha.
Thanks so much for answering my question!!
Yay! I'm so glad you saw this. You're so welcome. 🙂
It’s definitely needed, i sometimes question if I’m bipolar instead, but the explanation of how frequently my mood changes is hours throughout the day meanwhile bipolar is weeks or months
Paola Vanegas I’m starting to think my cousin on the other has been misdiagnosed as bipolar while in reality he is borderline...he matches ALOT of the criteria...I have no idea how one doctor said he has OCD!!!!
Alicia El-Khatib Naranjo yes borderline and bipolar both have compulsive behavior but bipolar can sometimes be mistaken with OCD like for example I thought that’s what my dad had because he throws a fit if something dirty touches his hand and his hands have became extremely cracked due to washing his hands over 10 times a day. If you know for a fact your cousin is borderline, have him go to a therapist who specializes in it hope that helps 😊
You look cute btw I hpe you doing fine keep it u p!!
Thanks Doc. I’m an internist. My wife is a Clinical Psychologist and she has helped me understand these things so much better. That said. If my attendings had explained these topics the way you do, when I was in medical school I would have seriously considered psychiatry.
Aaaw Victor That’s a huge compliment. Thank you.
@@DrTraceyMarks doc said it best they have no training in this BUT they write the Rx as well tip system is broken
thank u for the clear illustrations & metaphors.. psychs always dont do that they just diagnose ,& give meds without telling whats it for & transparent about the side meds ..i think i have BPD.. i was diagnosed with Bipolar 1.. but at the same time i have persitent feeling of emptiness & need to take pschotropics to fill the void. i always conuse about my identity..
I was told I was Borderline after years of depression and never self harm. You’re the first Doctor I ever understood how to understand and to discern this unease feeling in my heart and to cope. Thank you kindly, ♥️
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a couple years ago, but after seeing this...I'm really not sure I'm bipolar at all.
I matched every single one of the 9 traits for Borderline Personality Disorder, and I always wondered why I cycled through moods and feelings so often throughout the day despite the medications they have me on for bipolar.
This was amazingly informative, and i thank you sincerely.
You're so welcome Dark Stories. So glad it was helpful for you.
Bpd is often misdiagnosed as bipolar because they have so much overlap.
You can cycle through moods more in bipolar if you have rapid cycle or sometimes in mixed states when you have manic and depressed symptoms simultaneously. I wonder if BPD can have manic symptoms though. It is confusing because there are so many over lapping symptoms. Like you could be impulsive and unstable in relationships and self image ect... with bipolar too as mood episodes can effect those things.
@@jotortuga1975 Bpd doesn't have mania but it does have the impulsivity symptom and can have the anger symptom or even the occasional psychosis symptom.
@@jotortuga1975 I have rapid cycling bipolar. Mood swings can literally occur within a day
You are putting such important work out into the world with your talent and passion for teaching. Mental health awareness and education is so important. Thank you. I would love to hear if you have an in depth explanation of histrionic personality disorder and how it is formed/treated etc. thank you so so much!
Thanks so much Kristen! Sure I'll add histrionic personality to my list of topics. I batch produce and am already scheduled out for next month - so it may be a minute. Thanks for the suggestion.
Dr. Tracey Marks you’re the best! Thank you!
I'm 22, i think i have this. I'm only realizing how important mental health is, in fact health in general
My friends and I are all LCSWs . Years ago we created our own diagnosis ....Borderpolar... because we met so many clients who qualified for both.
Clinical psychologist here. Good breakdown of stuff in your videos! I was surprised at the accuracy, given all the fluff I hear on social media from "experts." One additional point to add is that there is also Bipolar II Disorder, which is diagnosed when the person has only had hypomanic, but not manic episodes. It makes everything even more complicated, of course, and there are an incredible number of bad diagnoses out there - generally speaking.
I'm bipolar type 2. The medication has taken care of the hypomania but I'm left with the depression. Sometimes I miss the mania.
You’re not alone with missing the mania. Especially if it was a productive time for you. I have an upcoming video on when to take antidepressants for bipolar depression. I talk about this issue a little bit. It may be in a few weeks so stay tuned
Same here hypomania as well! Always fighting depression
Same here. The only times I really enjoy things anymore are the hypo. phases yet I'm fully aware they are also very risky.
do the meds make you feel "evened out" in a way that's kind of numb? or just no mania?
Rosie Red what you mean you miss the mania?? Being hyper happy?
I've had several professionals try to explain the differences to me, and this finally helped me understand. Thank you.
My mother had borderline personality disorder and a mood disorders. Forced to be her friend, caregiver was hell. Why did society abandon me???? Nobody who knew did anything to save me from her. Hard not to feel like a victim when not one adult saved me or helped me move out of her life even after I pleaded for help.
I struggle every day just to get through. I am not excited about anything. I pray everyday that my life gets on track or better.
Janet Wisnowski I pray that your life turns around also ❤️
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same here
Prayer and taking positive steps right? Hope you feel better
Thank you so much for explaining BPD. I am 47 and I have just been diagnosed with BPD. I am so glad that I am now getting some MH support after my whole life crying out for help. It had taken me to have a complete breakdown to even get noticed by the system. I have all nine tendencies and have done ever since I remember. People have always thought I was weird and I would never be able to change myself, but now I am getting help slowly. Thank you
I have Borderline and it's so difficult to deal with. I'm having a very hard time with it right now but it's reassuring knowing that there's others here who struggle too.
Yes it is very difficult and causes a lot of distress for people. I'm glad you don't feel alone. 🙂
You are sadly not alone. I think it will get better.
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I'm with you and you're definitely not alone.
Please continue to do whatever is natural when making your content. It seems like a lot but I don't only watch your vids once. I usually rewind to catch specific information. It's actually very therapeutic and creates self awareness. Thanks AGAIN 👍🏿😊
Me and my partner have been dating for 5 years... we both got diagnosed this year myself with BPD and she was diagnosed with Bipolar 2...I knew I had a history of self harm and hospitalizations due to trauma but was originally diagnosed with Major Depression and Generalized Anxiety fast forward to now my new diagnosis is BOD which does explains my depression and my thinking... my partner I felt had some mild depression I thought it was Becca if the the lost of her loved one (grandmother) ... also I felt she was extremely irritable if the house was untidy which I felt was normal however she’d throw everything away including kitchen appliances when things were not clean in the home I thought she was OCD never imagined it was Bipolar 2... love these videos they give so much insight on mental illness. Me and my partner are practically best friends I encourage her to seek help after she have birth to our daughter thought it was postpartum depression but seems it was deeper than that she’s doing better now never again throw a kitchen appliance away and I do my best not to trigger her by trying to stay tidy like she likes it...things are getting better for both of us... takes work...
This is scary to me soon I’ll be finding out which one I have. I’m intimidated to find out but I’m proud I sought out help!
That’s huge that you’re seeking help. Both conditions are treatable. 😊 Tomorrow I have a video on emotion regulation with bpd.
@@DrTraceyMarks I'm cutious to know how to approach a loved one about them having a mental disorder. My Husband is great,but I really do think he has anger issues and maybe bipolar disorder. He is so proud and doesn't think he has a problem...he believes everyone else does. How can I suggest him gettibg help without him taking offense?
Its great you asked for help. That is hard to do. I recently just did the same thing. No one...can be great alone. No one becomes great without help. There is nothing to be afraid of.
#BeAmazing
-Mrs.Mercy
Great job seeking help. It's courageous
@@mrs.mercyjackson3514 try going to a therapist yourself and talk it through with them. Maybe family counseling would help too.
I was diagnosed with bpd when I was 18 however in the evaluations the psychologists and psychiatrists weren't sure if it was bipolar. I'm 25 now and have been on mood stabilisers and doing DBT and no longer fit the criteria for bpd (say 4 rather than 5).
What I hate is when people automatically assume that all people with bpd are liars and manipulators. I cut people out of my life if they lie to me so I hate being grouped in with that behaviour.
the prejudice with bpd is overwhelming.
I hear you. I have a lot of self control so the " acting out" impulsively is not a problem for me. Others on this list are. So I get upset when people insist I'm irresponsible.
Thanks for the information, it's still non aplicable when motives for behaviors are examined.
you can have both illnesses, I was diagnosed with borderline but I still didn't feel better even with medication and I felt like something was missing so I went to another psychiatrist and this one think I'm bipolar so I think I could have both disorders.
Dr. Marks, you are one of the best doctors I've heard that explains mental illnesses very clearly and you make it easy to understand.
I understand that there is nothing wrong with mental illness, but being diagnosed with borderline personality was scary and a relief as well. It was scary because nobody wants to have a deep mental illness that is often badly portrayed in movies, but I'm relieved to have finally been given the right diagnosis after being originally diagnosed with general bipolar. My therapist initially saw me telling her that my mood swings are way more frequent than those of a bipolar person. And from there things finally unfolded.
(I apologise for the long rant)
Idealization and devaluation in relationships was literally the first symptom I described to my therapist when I met her, and it is SO important and dramatically effects every relationship I'm in, often tearing them apart. I fall into all requirements and was even diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar during my admission to a mental hospital with close surveillance on my behavior and descriptions of my past, my problems, etc. It was noted than my mood would shift drastically back and forth many times in one day alone. I was also physically self harming brutally at that time. I've been clean on physical self harm, but binge eating, purging (I lost about 50 pounds in an alarmingly short time), self sabotage, self destructive/reckless behavior and lack of self worth have taken its place. I was diagnosed with Bipolar II and ADHD beforehand by my therapist and nurse practitioner. My therapist dismissed my borderline diagnosis because I basically didn't fall into the stereotype she had in mind and what she had experienced in her care with other patients. She did the same thing about me possibly being Bipolar 1 rather than 2. So no surprise, I was recently switched to Bipolar 1 after my first full blown manic episode that required hospitalization. An example of dismissing my concerns and symptoms. The quick, short burst mood swings are brutal: I manipulate, self sabotage, get angry for no reason, my mood shifts at the slightest trigger, becoming deeply and bedridden depressed maybe even suicidal to hypomanic levels of energetic and maybe even back and forth within the space of 20 minutes, an hour, or a day, and a lot more symptoms. Recently I came home after being exposed to social interaction for a bit too long, spiking my anxiety and I dropped into a deep depression, barely being able to drive my sister back home but I made it and I didn't plan on surviving the night after dropping her off. My dad stopped me and kept me in one place long enough and I even faked taking my meds. 5 or 10 minutes later, I came back out of my room dancing and unable to keep a smile off my face right after terrifying my dad. He finally saw how fast and drastic my mood swings can be. Much faster than bipolar. I do believe I have both because I have the erratic, sensitively small trigger mood swings and delusion-level fear of abandonment: even manipulating as a test to try and get people to crack and show me I'm right, that my fears are justified. But I also have the umbrella pattern of mood cycles of extremely deep depression and unfathomably high manic episodes. Speaking of which, on my last one, just two weeks ago from now, I jumped right into going back to college without looking into the college, I spent money I really shouldn't have, I had it in my mind to buy cars and I don't even know what my plan was after that and I don't even care about cars. I got extremely hypersexual. and of course I have a need for mood stabilizers. They stretch out the cycles but those rapid ones are still persistent. It's like I can FEEL them both coexisting. I fall under both diagnosis requirements, my history shows both, and I've been diagnosed with both by multiple sources and many clinical levels of treatment. Just one gets focused on more than the other, if not ignored completely. And adhd is more "popular" so people often only focus on that because it's more known and "easier to understand", not even seeing my personality and mood disorders that could kill me someday. I do undoubtedly have adhd, that's extremely apparent. It's just all frustrating and makes me feel hopeless because all 3 working together is torture, and only 1 or maybe 2 of the 3 get focused on. Borderline has been so neglected that I forgot I even had the diagnosis even though it's definitely still been here. The constant downplaying and dismissing along with bipolar's depersonalization already making me convince myself maybe I'm faking things or maybe I am normal, I'm just exaggerating really made me forget I have a whole third diagnosis. And that third one is the missing piece to what's going on with me but no one cares about it. I'm sorry about my rambling, I JUST remembered this morning for some odd reason about my third diagnosis. So I came to this video, and yep I definitely still fall into the description and diagnosis. Obviously it's not a good thing to be that comorbid, but it's comforting knowing everything or at least everything I possibly can know about what's going on in my strange brain lol. If any other borderlines or bipolar patients have anything to say, or possibly anyone who has a similar problem? Please reply, it's so comforting hearing that I'm not alone in this fight we face. And if you read this far, oh my gosh thank you! It's rare to be listened to for this long
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It must be so hard living in a perpetual inner storm interspersed with episodes of profound anguish and despondence. I hope you will be able to create at least frequent episodes of clam for yourself, if not a more or less stable inner climate.
I’m way behind in finding this video and comments. What a difficult journey you have but what a commitment to making a life worth living. You obviously learn everything you can about your brain disorders _ and that is also powerful “medication. I learn a lot through NAMI. and I really like Dr. Daniel Fox’s TH-cam channel. There is a lot of strength in communities and comments like yours. I’m sending wishes and may you be blessed to have good moments today!
My “best” friend whom I think is borderline just ghosted me for no apparent reason. She seems to have misunderstood a text and told me she didn’t understand but wished me well and immediately blocked me from every form of communication. She’s unfriended me in the past and has broken off her other close female friendships as well as her marriage. She cannot keep an intimate and healthy romantic relationship and has had disciplinary issues at work. She definitely went from idealization to devaluation. It’s just so hurtful though. No explanation.
Its a coping mechanism for people with borderline she will be hurting too , you should reach out it will enforce the fact that you have not abandoned her even thought you may have to do so with gritted teeth
nk47100 This is very typical. We have to leave 1st. We may come back to a relationship, a time or two. In the end, we will abandon everything and everyone (immediate family, adult children, etc) . It’s in no way your fault. It’s just a coping mechanism. As for me, if it’s my last straw - I will never speak to the person again. It’s not right - it just is what it is. Medication and therapy only help so much and seems to take years to work, and it’s common to relapse often. Also, this might be one of two or my disorders the person lives with. Just an explanation.
I’ve done it to past “friends” if I think they’re gonna ghost me/abandon or just if I think they hate me lowkey. I can admit I can go from really loving them, wanting them in my life, really valuing them and their time to suddenly feeling rejected, humiliated so I delete/block them. Idk why I do it. I have hardly any friends now lol since I get called crazy or unstable by them 😒
nk47100 i clicked on this video because my ex “best” friend was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. when i took a psych course i learned about borderline personality disorder. to this day i’m convinced she was misdiagnosed and really has BPD (or both). she has 8 or 9 of the symptoms. when we stopped talking it was because i distanced myself from her, but the scars from that toxic friendship still burden me after years. she introduced me to someone who sexually assaulted me. after i told her she stayed friends with him until he tried to do the same thing to her. she spread a rumor that i did wrong by her and then justified it by calling me a shit friend. then went on to act like nothing was wrong. i’m sorry you lost your friend. i hope you see it as a lesson learned
I've had this happen to me recently. She started out kind and helpful to eventually always saying something offensive, then coming back around like nothing happened. She applied at my place of employment and started trash talking about me to my co workers and I have not spoken a word to her since. I have been more upset at myself for not getting away from her sooner. I'm certain she has borderline personality disorder / malignant narcissim.
Maam , you're so smart and you break it down. thx.
Thanks gkarjala 🙂
I was super intrigued when you mention that manipulative behavior isn’t a part of being bipolar, instead it’s part of your personality. So this definitely makes me confirm the fact my dad is most likely borderline as well. He shows a lot of the signs of BPD and I see that he doesn’t just need meds but a lot of counseling due to trauma.
Hi Paola. Yes, counseling is definitely the way to go. Thanks for sharing this.
I would like to note though that borderlines don't manipulate intentionally. People can feel manipulated by bpd behavior, but actual manipulation requires planning and calculation which borderlines don't do. Borderlines are just emotionally unstable and impulsive, so they act on impulse in ways that may or may not end up manipulating people, but that's not what they planned to do. They were purely acting on impulse and not thinking about the outcome. That's something many people misunderstand about bpd.
Nicolette James And you're diverting to something else to avoid reality.
Manipulation has *nothing* to do with bipolar. I seriously think we'd be better off by going back to the original term for bipolar - manic depressive. Because it's actually a mood disorder. Manipulative behavior is linked to personality disorders!
@@anonymerbenutzer5574 No, I'm talking about what the reality is. Psychologists say the same thing.
Thank you for this video. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder about a year and a half ago and all the symptoms you just explained describes me completely. I appreciate all your videos. Thank you once again.
Hi Dr. Marks! I can listen to you talk about psychiatric issues all day. What a remarkable gift you have! Thank you for sharing as I find your content very helpful in better understanding bipolar disorder as I have a family member living with this condition. It helps me have a deeper understanding of their struggles and grants me the ability to be more empathetic with their plight. Again, thanks for sharing your knowledge and expertise! Please keep the content coming.
10yrs of research to understand my Ex-personality disorders( trying to educate myself for my child behaviors /awareness due to genetics)...in 13mins of this video it answered all my yrs of research and nailed it! Thank you for your professional informative video!!!
Oh wow JK! I wish I could have saved you that time 😀 So glad this was helpful.
I know, I was like wooow! So much clarity and understanding so quickly. I will watch every video for sure!
Got diagnosed with BPD today and discovered your channel today. So i'm watching all your videos related to my condition.
Here's my short bpd playlist th-cam.com/play/PLazcP3-djRZ13W32JLF6SO2N0NHKl2fxM.html
As I make new ones they will be added to this playlist
This is the best explanation of these conditions on TH-cam.
Thank you for always sharing gems you help so many ppl ❤
You are a natural teacher! Thank you so much for taking the time to make these videos.
Thanks so much Leslie and you’re welcome.👍🏼
Thank you for your very informative video, unfortunately I am more hopeless than ever. It's too late in my life to start again I've tried for 30 sorry about being so depressed to all of you who are seeking help. Pleaseplease think twice about any medication they have all done me much more harm than good. :((
I was diagnosed with bpd almost 12 years ago, and I spent 2 & a half years in DBT therapy from age 18-21. I done each module 3 times but was told I was well enough to move on. Obviously change wasn't something I was happy with and relied on that group. But I honestly believe DBT therapy saved my life, It rewired my brain subconsciously, I wouldn't be here today if i didn't have such an amazing psychologist ❤ I always think about her
My husband thinks I should "live for today" and it should solve all my problems. I wish he had more understanding. Thanks for the video, it really helps.
It's hard to understand for someone who doesn't feel the way you do. But he is trying to help and that's what you should value and appreciate. For love is all we got in life, and wether we're happy or suicidal, love will always be the only thing that truly matters. Hold onto him, for he's been holding onto you, hasnt he?
What a horrible insensitive Brute he must be! This makes me SOOOOOO Angry 😤
" live for today" doesn't sound helpful, it sounds dismissive. He probably just doesn't understand and is making assumptions.
He sounds narcissistic
I started doing that and it fixed everything.
I have a close relative with BPD and over the years I was seen her literally jump up and down and lay out in the floor when a relationship was ending. For many years she would always follow me around a store and anything I picked up and admired, she would purchase it. It got to the point that she stopped getting her own cart and would follow me around and simply place duplicates of what I purchased in my carts. I began to get really annoyed over the years as she adopted the same sports teams as me, clothing, the food she would silently watch me prepare, AND she switched her medical doctor to the same one I used. She claimed my life experiences as her own and would tell my stories placing herself in my place. She also love to get confusion started in the family and bow out once everyone was at each others throats. BPD is not only difficult for the person that has been diagnosed but also the people around them and the person they decide to mirror for any extent of time. Thank you Dr. Marks for this space for information that has allowed me to develop empathy for this relative instead of annoyance.
I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, I’ve never had it explained like this to me! Thank you so much for explaining it.
Also…I counted I experience 8 of the symptoms listed.
DBT changed my life! It helped with the negative sides of my BPD soooo much including how I communicate what I am feeling, how to regulate my emotions, what to do in distress/crisis and how to live in the present moment (not ruminate in the past or feel anxious about my future)
I’d HIGHLY recommend it for anyone with bpd who is suffering xx
Did it help with your relationships? I’m the one that starts the arguments. I think we would rarely argue if I could have some peace in my own thinking.
@@nikkineal6431 absolutely 100%!!! It’s probably the area it helped me with the MOST! I’ve stopped causing arguments or giving people the ‘silent treatment’ (which can be seen as manipulation) and I know now how to communicate in a MUCH more balanced manner- it’s brought a lot of peace to me and my loved ones and even if we do argue from time to time now (as ANYONE does!) I’m able to effectively resolve the conflict due to the skill set I’ve learned- I hope this helps 💚💚xx
There is an entire module dedicated to this called ‘interpersonal effectiveness’ 🙂
@@thejordanchronicles6715 Thankyou
@@johngantner9314 you’re welcome John ☺️
I was diagnosed with BPD 8 years ago. (I was 17) And they never told me my diagnosis until just recently. And I got really upset about that because I've done INTENSIVE research about BPD just to be told they were already aware. I went through a lot of trauma during childhood and lost both of my parents from OD before I turned 19. Became homeless recently for not too long. My sister helped me out once she found out. I live with her now. (I help around a lot as a thank you). Therapy is only 5 minutes walk away and I go every week. It helps to be certain about a diagnosis. I get to learn terms for myself I didn't even know had terms. Like "splitting". Or having a "favorite person".
Also thank you for this video 😊🦋
Thank you Dr. Marks. I was diagnosed last year and have struggled coming to terms with having BPD. Watching your videos have helped me work up the self confidence to keep doing DBT and sticking to my meds even if things are tough at times. Thank you so much!
I dissociate when my mom is yelling at me so it doesn't affect me and i can not get stressed when she is yelling at me, but i have no idea what she says.
Your profile picture is throwing me off
Just a person me too
I used to do that too when arguing with ny family and thought it was ok.. thing is : even though you dissociate you actually hear what they say and its in your unconscious. You dont take control of the situation, you dont let the other person know theyre hurting you, you dont learn to defend yourself but to stay passive and avoid confrontation. Also you forgive them or stop talking about it cuz you want it to be over but in fact you just dont set boundaries. And most important, the trauma is still there.
Sorry for the rant, maybe you said as joke but its kinda serious
@chris Barnett how did you deal with it?
@Aries Love 😮
personality- the climate/disorder- the weather Absolutely love this analogy! Thank you-thank you-thank you! ❤️
I literally have every single symptom of borderline that you mentioned
hey lets communicate i want to see how we are similar I think I am borderline also!
@@susiesoba1612 ok im down
@@psychodelic1457 u have insta?
@@susiesoba1612 yea illusionarywavelength
Me too!
I have ADHD, and I really appreciate the way you break it down into pieces. It makes a lot of sense. I love your videos. Thank you for spreading awareness.
@James Becketts was that a response to my comment? I’m not sure what you’re talking about.
I was diagnosed ten years ago with BPD... I’m 9 out of 9. My great grandpa died in an asylum. My psych nurse thinks I’m bipolar 2. I disagree but 🤷♀️
I’d never heard of BPD until diagnosed. I was extremely angry with my psychiatrist until I finally researched and thought omg they wrote this about me!!!!!
DBT and CBT is helping a lot. Gods luck to those with this hellish disorder. Thanks doc for this channel!❤️
9/9 at age 19. I'm 48 now and I'm maybe 2/9, which means I no longer have BPD. It's possible and I'm pulling for you. You can recover and you're on the right path. Your family's history is not your destiny. Much good fortune to you!
Such a great video. I’ve never completely understood the difference between BPD and bipolar disorder, but the ’climate’ example was so helpful!
I’ve come out of a relationship where my partner had nearly all these BPD traits. 8/9 traits. Particularly suicide threats and distorted thinking, jumping to conclusions, constantly twisting my words, had me on a pedestal until I was the devil incarnate and trying to destroy him. Very manipulative and prone to lying, paranoia and testing me. Relationship was unstable, chaotic, difficult. His fear of abandonment and loss led to routine self sabotaging,which eventually led to me ending the relationship. What is hard to find is information on men with this disorder, bizarrely he was a highly respected and regarded expert in his field and the only place this behaviour seemed to manifest was in our relationship. Ultimately he blamed me for not trying hard enough to make it work !!
TH-cam Covert Narcissist they have a lot of these issues you mentioned.
Some have a saying for them, "Street Angels and house Devil's." They have a great reputation in the outside world but at home they are very destructive. I had one tell me he was demon controlled. And the things they do to steal your joy, peace, light and energy feels like he could be right. They like to turn your positive energy negative so they can feed off of you.... PURE ENERGY VAMPIRES!!! And many lack true empathy. And when I say they I'm really referring to the ENTITIES that control the person. I talk directly to the thing that causes the disturbia of the mind. Some of them are mild and some of them are out right dangerous!
I have BPD and a mood stabilizer changed my life. Made my mind more quiet and tolerable, and im able to process things so much better without reacting on emotions.
my parents never understand, and i’m too young to get my own help
i bet you listen to billie eilish
un original and i bet you don’t understand the physical and mental abuse i went through as a child and how difficult it is for me to grow up in that environment.
Hope your ok bro
un original i've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety since i was ten years old and listen to billie eilish and relate to this comment, is that a problem
srybuddy Most schools have therapists. You could start having sessions there once a week. Worked for me.
Me: *Exhibits all or most of the symptoms of BDP but doesn’t see a psychiatrist in fear of having it*
Me: I’d like to think I’m sane until proven otherwise. Heh. Heh.
Hi, i used to think the same as you before i started my treatment, i used to think "i'm not that bad" but IT WAS that bad, i ended up in a mental hospital and started the treatment only because my family want me to. I wasn't optimistic the first 3 years but after them it changed my life, i want to have a life now.
Please look for help even when you think it is not necessary, it can change you life 💕.
You're applying stigma to your own mental health. If you want a better quality of life, get help. If not, live life. :)
BPD is awful to live with especially when you are undiagnosed. I spent so long living with this even though i knew i had it. I could have got help 5 years before and tried DBT therapy. I hope you get a diagnosis and then get some help ❤
I see no fear in knowing. It doesn't define you. It doesn't change you or your reality just because you can put a specific disorder's name to your feelings. All it can do is help you to hopefully find the most relevant and useful treatment.
@@ladybaabaa3294 yess love that response!
My boyfriend was diagnosed with bipolar disorder this week as well as potentially having borderline, thank you so much for these videos that are really well explained, this helps a lot to understand what he is going through
I have BPD, GAD, PTSD. A cocktail of mental and personality disorders. Not easy. I try to explain BPD to family and your video is super helpful. Thank you!
I wish I was as smart as Dr. Marks. She's uber cool.
3 days ago i was diagnosed with BPD and im excited lmao! Thats the real symptom! And also, the worst thing about BPD is "who i am" problem, sometimes i feel like im not actually here.
I am a Psychology student and your content helped me a lot with getting a better insight of the disorders. Thank you!
Thank you! I really like when you went through which behavior is personality. The weather & climate analogy was super helpful too!