It's also painful when you want to be clear and ask if they want to continue with the relationship and they don't say anything. And soon after, they disappear.
I agree. Wishy-washy answers and "non-answers" are equally painful. Most people want clarity. It stings. Often times we don't hear what we want to hear… But at least we know where to put our head.
I agree with the advice. However, every relationship I’ve had I always bring up the how to breakup respectfully and we both agree. When things takes a turn all of that goes out the window. Ppl say whatever you want as long as they get their way and then do as they please. I’m learning to take things slower and choose more compatible partners in the future. Time will tell if I’ve learned the lesson. Also with breakups, it’s important to make yourself the biggest priority and be kind to yourself. Things are very blurry at the beginning but in time things will be clear to you. Don’t try to make sense of anything bc you’ll drive yourself crazy.
I hope he's miserable and misses me!! He ghosted me three weeks ago. I'm sure he's seeing someone else but just tell me you don't want to see me. COWARD!!!
I'm going through this right now. I thought everything was going well. Then he ghosted and blocked me. He had just told me that he loved me when he dropped me off after spending two weeks at his house.
Wow!! Deedee, I can't believe what I've read. And yet, I have read this scenario from other people far too many times. It often times comes after an incredible vacation together where one partner feels like things are really on track and they finally have their forever person. And the timing is so coincidental. The last client I had this morning, told me about this long-standing relationship of several years, and they finally took the vacation of their dreams. He was so happy. He thought everything was on track and was planning to propose. As soon as he pulled out of her driveway, she sent a text saying she was done. And she won't talk to him.!!!!
Yikes been though something simlar a few years ago, and based on my research, these type if breakups usally have to do with being emotionally immature especially cause shes on the younger side (and why I wouldn’t date younger) and its double the hitter if shes never been in a serious relationship before, outside factors can easily persuade this type of person. anyways i hope he either dates more experienced people that are the same age or older than him next time!
Marissa, that's a great point. He probably should date somebody older. You know, I'm a huge fan of that concept. Because he is mature. Lucas is ready willing and able to take on all the commitments of a relationship, and he really wants partnership. And with a younger girl, she's still figuring herself out. Perhaps she thinks there's something better, that she would be missing out on dating a lot of different guys… Who knows. But I'm absolutely with you on your commentary so thanks for that.
My husband and i made agreements . Like, we will always talk about issues before we "walk". And he blindsided me. You can ask but they may not homour those ealy agreements.
You can have all the terms and conditions laid out. Infact in the beginning they make all the false promises. End of the day its not a bond and it doesn't matter.They just leave.
If they are kind and good people they would show kindness to you. If not they were not the ones for you anyways. You are better off without such people.
Hey hush puppies, how are you doing. Some people are sneaky like that. They are uncertain, unclear, and create a lot of damage because of those two factors.
@@SusanWinter love hearing from you Susan. Your videos are straight to the point and very helpful. No beating around the bush. It is what it is. Take it or leave it. But lots of people must find peace watching your videos. Thank you so much.
Morgan, this concept that you just asked for is the number one topic that people want to know about who are in partnerships. The hardest thing is to keep a long-standing relationship fresh. And I think it's a great idea. I have done numerous videos on this topic. check my playlist: Relationship Advice for Couples
I KNOW!! That's the first thing I thought. He's the top of the food chain; single, 32 once a committed relationship and has shown devotion and is capable of being in love.
Dear susan if I had a question for you it would be: why do good people who wants something sirious always have to run into toxic people who never take you siriously, never wanna talk about the future etc. Where is all the good people who thinking the same things as the good person.
This just happened to me a few months. We were planning for the future and living together. The man never took accountability nor acknowledged my feelings. Very dismissive. Wouldn’t pick up his stuff. Did they ever argue? How was the communication?
Firstly, I am so terribly sorry for your experience. That is absolutely horrible. And you were living together! Sometimes the callousness of human beings absolutely floors me. But you sound quite resilient and even a little stoic. So congratulations for having excellent resilience. As for Lucas and history, I don't know the details. These are questions that come through my website and because people would send me page documents (no lie!), we had to cut them down to 550 words. Enough so that I can give good commentary on the topic and they can explain the basics of what happened. So I don't know the other details but I did write Lucas and I hope he's doing well.
The quickest way to heal from a break up is to simply just heal. There are no shortcuts to healing 😊. Just heal👍. Cry if you want to. Be sad if you want to. Be emotional if you want to. Don't be ready to heal, it's okay.
It sounds like Lucas had to do with somone who might be people pleaser. These people are kind and nice, but its more of an act rather than their true personality. They are afraid of addressing the issue and rather brush it off just to avoid the conflict. People pleasers are born out of their own trauma, where confronting was too painful and they resort to pleasing. If that was the case then it was not that healthy as it seemed. It was easy, yes, because your partner would not complain. Until they just leave alltogether. Having said that its also possible and likely that the partner was still communicating what was bothering them, but they did not do it in a dramatic way, so you did not register, because it did not cause enough of discomfort for you to hear it and change your ways. It was just more comfortable to let it slide. And it was not th behavior that caused the erosion of a relationship, but the fact that you were ok with the dissatisfaction of your partner. Because it was more comfortable for you. Why am I lecturing you? I need to stop, if you want to learn from this, you will.
Looking forward to be single - have no intention to be committed again- F.W.B. been interested. Moving to New location. Meeting with new friends and Options
Being single is excellent. Especially if you chosen to do so. And if you don't want to commit to somebody, be clear from the very beginning. The best way to enjoy the more casual structure that you're describing is to make sure that the other person understands, the freedom as well as the limitations of your chosen design
It's also painful when you want to be clear and ask if they want to continue with the relationship and they don't say anything. And soon after, they disappear.
I agree. Wishy-washy answers and "non-answers" are equally painful. Most people want clarity. It stings. Often times we don't hear what we want to hear… But at least we know where to put our head.
@@SusanWinter Thank you Susan ❤️
@@raquelZKhi
I agree with the advice. However, every relationship I’ve had I always bring up the how to breakup respectfully and we both agree. When things takes a turn all of that goes out the window. Ppl say whatever you want as long as they get their way and then do as they please. I’m learning to take things slower and choose more compatible partners in the future. Time will tell if I’ve learned the lesson.
Also with breakups, it’s important to make yourself the biggest priority and be kind to yourself. Things are very blurry at the beginning but in time things will be clear to you. Don’t try to make sense of anything bc you’ll drive yourself crazy.
Well said.
Wise advice. Yes, it's excruciating when you have absolutely no conversation, no closure, and had no warning.
I hope he's miserable and misses me!! He ghosted me three weeks ago. I'm sure he's seeing someone else but just tell me you don't want to see me. COWARD!!!
I'm going through this right now. I thought everything was going well. Then he ghosted and blocked me. He had just told me that he loved me when he dropped me off after spending two weeks at his house.
Wow!! Deedee, I can't believe what I've read. And yet, I have read this scenario from other people far too many times. It often times comes after an incredible vacation together where one partner feels like things are really on track and they finally have their forever person. And the timing is so coincidental. The last client I had this morning, told me about this long-standing relationship of several years, and they finally took the vacation of their dreams. He was so happy. He thought everything was on track and was planning to propose. As soon as he pulled out of her driveway, she sent a text saying she was done. And she won't talk to him.!!!!
Right!! Mine told me he would marry me tomorrow before he ghosted me!!
@@SusanWinter whoa!!!
Timely video for me as my heart is shattered.
Yikes been though something simlar a few years ago, and based on my research, these type if breakups usally have to do with being emotionally immature especially cause shes on the younger side (and why I wouldn’t date younger) and its double the hitter if shes never been in a serious relationship before, outside factors can easily persuade this type of person. anyways i hope he either dates more experienced people that are the same age or older than him next time!
Marissa, that's a great point. He probably should date somebody older. You know, I'm a huge fan of that concept. Because he is mature. Lucas is ready willing and able to take on all the commitments of a relationship, and he really wants partnership. And with a younger girl, she's still figuring herself out. Perhaps she thinks there's something better, that she would be missing out on dating a lot of different guys… Who knows. But I'm absolutely with you on your commentary so thanks for that.
@@SusanWinter Thank you! Wish your client well in the healing process!
My husband and i made agreements . Like, we will always talk about issues before we "walk". And he blindsided me. You can ask but they may not homour those ealy agreements.
thanKS Susan, you go deep which I think very helpful for all
You can have all the terms and conditions laid out. Infact in the beginning they make all the false promises. End of the day its not a bond and it doesn't matter.They just leave.
If they are kind and good people they would show kindness to you. If not they were not the ones for you anyways. You are better off without such people.
Hey hush puppies, how are you doing. Some people are sneaky like that. They are uncertain, unclear, and create a lot of damage because of those two factors.
@@tapasya1 agreed
@@SusanWinter love hearing from you Susan. Your videos are straight to the point and very helpful. No beating around the bush. It is what it is. Take it or leave it. But lots of people must find peace watching your videos. Thank you so much.
Could u do a video on how to keep your relationship from going stagnant, and what you can do to keep it fun and fresh
Morgan, this concept that you just asked for is the number one topic that people want to know about who are in partnerships. The hardest thing is to keep a long-standing relationship fresh. And I think it's a great idea. I have done numerous videos on this topic. check my playlist: Relationship Advice for Couples
32 years old? Many women waiting to meet you for a long time yet ❤
I KNOW!! That's the first thing I thought. He's the top of the food chain; single, 32 once a committed relationship and has shown devotion and is capable of being in love.
Dear susan if I had a question for you it would be: why do good people who wants something sirious always have to run into toxic people who never take you siriously, never wanna talk about the future etc. Where is all the good people who thinking the same things as the good person.
This just happened to me a few months. We were planning for the future and living together. The man never took accountability nor acknowledged my feelings. Very dismissive. Wouldn’t pick up his stuff. Did they ever argue? How was the communication?
Firstly, I am so terribly sorry for your experience. That is absolutely horrible. And you were living together! Sometimes the callousness of human beings absolutely floors me. But you sound quite resilient and even a little stoic. So congratulations for having excellent resilience. As for Lucas and history, I don't know the details. These are questions that come through my website and because people would send me page documents (no lie!), we had to cut them down to 550 words. Enough so that I can give good commentary on the topic and they can explain the basics of what happened. So I don't know the other details but I did write Lucas and I hope he's doing well.
The quickest way to heal from a break up is to simply just heal.
There are no shortcuts to healing 😊. Just heal👍. Cry if you want to. Be sad if you want to. Be emotional if you want to. Don't be ready to heal, it's okay.
It sounds like Lucas had to do with somone who might be people pleaser. These people are kind and nice, but its more of an act rather than their true personality. They are afraid of addressing the issue and rather brush it off just to avoid the conflict. People pleasers are born out of their own trauma, where confronting was too painful and they resort to pleasing. If that was the case then it was not that healthy as it seemed. It was easy, yes, because your partner would not complain. Until they just leave alltogether. Having said that its also possible and likely that the partner was still communicating what was bothering them, but they did not do it in a dramatic way, so you did not register, because it did not cause enough of discomfort for you to hear it and change your ways. It was just more comfortable to let it slide. And it was not th behavior that caused the erosion of a relationship, but the fact that you were ok with the dissatisfaction of your partner. Because it was more comfortable for you. Why am I lecturing you? I need to stop, if you want to learn from this, you will.
Will have no problem looking for new opportunities. Can't dwell on the past-
😅
32? lol still a baby 😅
I know! But a mature young man at the same time
Looking forward to be single - have no intention to be committed again- F.W.B. been interested. Moving to New location. Meeting with new friends and Options
Being single is excellent. Especially if you chosen to do so. And if you don't want to commit to somebody, be clear from the very beginning. The best way to enjoy the more casual structure that you're describing is to make sure that the other person understands, the freedom as well as the limitations of your chosen design