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Please do. The same zodiac sign think the same. As a example do cancer think the same as other people that are cancer. Since am a cancer myself but I dont believe in it but it would be very interesting topic to understand the higher value of human behavior. But it doesn't to be only cancer it cant be other zodiac sign to as well
THats the problem with that tho. Im not asian but everyone knows they basically dodge mental health...Why do you think alot of the kpop stars die. Blacks too tho. (Im black)
As an Asian kid, I can confirm that most of them are putting an act in front of the camera and they're way different in person, wait until they go home. Also I truly agree with all the comments done by the Asian kids, we know our parents when they're lying.
Just saying, Asian parents are like the best ‘actors’ you’ll meet. What you see now, may not be what they are like at home. My mom is probably the sweetest person you’ll ever meet...in public. But at home, ha, I’m sure it’s not just me. Edit: thanks so much for all the likes and comments!! Completely agree with all of y'all
Y'all should invite their kids and see how much honesty there was lol Edit: omg I thought no one would see this wtf thank you 💀💀💀 I need this to happen it seems like most of the parents were just lying for face value (I said IT SEEMS LIKE IT I'm not saying that's what actually happened, but that's what happened)
Everyone head rolling when they heard she got pregnant in college. Lol she gonna see hell in 5 year with her choice, plus as a bartender, yea get those taxpayer money for state support.
BRO THIS IS SO TRUE, litterally last week me and my cousins were talking abt how we were gonna be the best parents ever because we wouldve learned from our parents ways and can actually see the pros and cons of the way the teach/treat us 😂
@@peter-vp3fy When I was like in third grade I basically did :/ I bitched about it to my teacher and whoop de doo me and my brother got interviews the next day by CPS and... hahaha... yeah.
it would be so interesting if w they had THEIR children (no matter the age, different ages would be great as they give different perspectives) answer the same questions to see the similarities and differences in thinking when answering the same questions as their parents
I was raised by spanking. And trust me, it hurts more emotionally. Now, even if a stranger yells at me, my heart becomes stiff. It became a trauma since I was a kid. Please don't do that on your children. Not every kid has the same way of response to your ideologies. Talk more.
My mom came home today and was yelling at me and I got so scared that she was gonna hit me. I remember when I was little my sister got hit with a wired hanger and it left marks on her thigh and i was only 9 at that time
This is the one. I’m not even Asian, but istg, you would never know if I had a “stereotypical” Asian parent or a “stereotypical” white parent if I just described them to you. (My mom is white). But my upbringing isn’t the stereotypical “white parent” upbringing which is probably shocking lmao. It’s probably because she was also brought up the same way. As someone who also has an Indian aunt, she does have some of the same “stereotypical” Asian-parent-type ideas that are common which is why I can understand the pressure, such as wanting me to become a doctor and I love her a lot so I value her opinion. But that’s just me.
This isn't the case for everyone. I was raised being spanked and it didn't negatively effect me. I think it's a parents responsibility to understand that every child is an individual and reacts differently to spanking. Some parents fail to recognize the damage theyre causing.
I completely agree. I was raised by the belt at first since I was a troublemaker at school, then eventually I started laughing when I got hit because I had gotten used to it. Then my mom started making me write sentences. Every grade I went up, the sentences increased by 100. I once had to write 2,000 sentences for cursing in school. That really set me straight. It’s just a matter of knowing your kid and raising them how they’re supposed to be raised instead of just raising them how your parents raised you.
You can tell for some question they seem hesitant or at least you can tell they just went with what's reasonable and what the "public" might view as reasonable but not extreme
This is also how they managed to turn "Asians" into the model minority. If they would have been protesting all the time, caucasians would have far less respect
Im a child of asian parents xD but one thing that broke my heart was my mom saying Happiness is temporary because since that ive started to question myself Why would we even live, just to feel pain,take care of earth,ever since my mom said that i was unsure about my releigon as a catholic we beleive in god and his sacrifices just for us to live peacfully and ive doubted, why did he even save us if there is no meaning in life. Only speaking from my expeirience though...
I knew this was cap as soon as ALL OF THEM went to the "agree" side in the first question. Let me tell you one thing, it's a statistically near-impossible task to find 6 Asian parents who give their children freedom when it comes to choosing a career, in the same room.
I will say, he's not the best parent. But he was very honest and that means that his will probably bond once they grow up. But the Indian parents children will never.
@@creator1094 Probably one of the best parent you can ever have. An honest, mature parent, probably what I want to have tbh. Not a parent who acts so Kind and positive towards others, but not in front of their children.
dude asian parents r the exact type of ppl to lie about their honest opinion bcuz they’re in the public’s eye, it’s like how my mom would act like a saint in front of my friends but once they gone, the belt comes out LOL
The Korean male dad was young too.. but he was a little too religious I guess? I thought he was cool at first but when he busted out the "LGBTQ+ is sinful and unnatural" my opinion soured. I guess he still said he'd love them but meh.
animusdx True, but a lot of religious people don’t care about reasoning or making sense. “Hey, I think it’s sinful and unnatural to be gay even though you were born this way and can’t do anything about it... but I still love you.”
Lady X once they go home they get thier asses beat and parents will completey deny the evidence you bring upfront and call you a liar and say you are exaggerating when they truly are.
@@Vnatnme I meant kids completely unrelated to the parents. That counts too I guess. They need to be free to reveal themselves for us to understand it from a controlled environment. :/
FACT: Asian parents(especially Indian) behave differently in front of other parents. They are more polite and caring in front of others whereas at home totally different.
My dad used to hit me with a belt when I was about 4-6 yrs old whenever I get the multiplication table wrong, and every time we have to review before exams. That made me scared of him and I was afraid of failure. It really affected me a lot throughout my years (such as not being "good enough" in terms of skill) On the other hand, my mom was the opposite. She was patient enough to teach me and she helped me a lot when it comes to studying. Thanks to her, I learned how to study on my own effectively, and made me realize the value of self effort and working hard to achieve a certain goal. Can't thank her enough
Ngl this the same for me. Whenever I get a B or something my dad gets a little excited but then questions why I couldn’t get a A. My mom is just happy I’m learning the material
the woman closest to the camera is the realest since she's the youngest out of them all and actually is like aware of how kids act and what they want to do when they grow up
Sasha T I actually understand what she was saying. A lot of times when I got physically disciplined my mom or dad would say I beat you because I love you.
Its just a bit weird how their kid grew up to be needing a "beating out of love" to get disciplined when there's so much other ways that could've worked. I'll say, i won't give my respect to someone who beated me up until i got bruised so bad and later say it's my fault and ask me if i want them to go to jail for a child beating.
Actually being Tiger Mom is different from over bearing mom. My father is a quiet sort of guy, but he is the one pushing us to study better or better at our achievements. My mom is very protective and over bearing but she doesn't pressure me or my brother to get higher marks or grade, coz like the lady told, her husband is already taking care of it. 😁 They balance eachother out.🤷🏽♀️
The thing is ... Asian Parents always have this mindset : " WHAT WOULD OTHER PEOPLE THINK?" ... I thinks this is why these asian parents in this videos is very careful with their answers 😅
yeah i was pretty shocked seeing him as the only one who disagreed with being acceptable of their kid being lgbtq+. some asian parents were capping there
DAce I mean you also have to consider the fact that they’re probably based in Los Angeles, or other nearby liberal cities. The culture there can really put yours in check.
Actually for me, it's a NO. my Indian mom is just like that lady, never put a pressure on exams and achievements, always happy with my hobbies and career and many more. I think it's rare to have an actual Indian parents like these.
Am I the only one that feels like there’s a huge difference in first gen asian parents vs second gen asian parents? Like the second gen gets to feel what first gen asian parents are like, so they try to not act ways that they didn’t like abt their own parents to their kids
Yeah I’m a second gen (if I’m thinking this correctly cuz I’m part of the first gen in my family being raised here) I’ll definitely treat my kids differently
I agree. If I would become a parent I will support them whatever my child wants and never follow what my parents want for me as long as they are safe because I know the feeling of having strict parents.
Bruh it’s definitely not going to be fair as asian kids dont have the guts to go against the opinions of their parents when they are literally in front of them. If the parents are absent in the video, that will be much much better.
yeah... im catholic, and theres a passage in the bible about "fearing god". this has always irked me. he mentioned LGBTQ as sinning, and it kinda stirred some thoughts. im still struggling w my stance on that issue.
The Indian Mom sounds like the kind of lady who would brag about her child being a doctor/engineer at a wedding. (I am Indian and I can say this truthfully.)
@@jezra4427 ??? You must not be Indian if you think she was being honest at all lmao. I'm Indian and it's very clear she was putting on a nice, loving mother persona, when she isn't that at all in private.
the indian lady made me agitated b/c growing up with indian parents i could tell she was lying and she was being so rude and had absolutely no respect for anyone especially the young asian mom
i was 1/4 of the way into the video and read a lot of the comments beforehand and was like "ugh she's not so bad though" then i got 1/2 way in and kept getting second-hand embarrassment because she could've avoided lying by not commenting on other's comments :(
@@mahimahayat4698 i felt that way too. I was reading the comments and thinking she cant be that bad. Itll be funny. But when i saw the video ...no its not funny. She doesnt accept her beliefs and twists it in a way that suits her image when she has to talk about it. And bosses over everyone while smiling. It actually scary.
@@vihansubramaniam3593 GOD that's so blooming true like whatever we do they r just like OmG whAt is so and so gonna say like girl idk even know who ur talking about
I maybe wrong and misjudging her but that Indian aunty is a lil sus, it's like she was capping most of the times. She seems to present herself as very open and quite progressive but then jumps on to cut off and be dismissive of every thing the other fellow parents have to say(in a quite judgemental way). Idk, thats just what I perceived, I'm also an India btw.
I agree....I felt like she was lowkey judging the Japanese mother especially learning after she was a bartender. And when she said "Out of Love" it was clear that she was just pretending 2 be open minded Just my point of view
I wished that parents would see that you don’t need fear in a child for them to behave well. I would say for them to instill a strong sense of what’s right and what’s wrong so they get to pick for themselves, with their parents assisting them as well.
Honestly same, it’s sad how I was once so scared of my dad I got a panic attack when he was trying to give me a high five, fear is certainly not the answer
In an African home,I'm a kid but I get why they do it. I'm Nigerian but I get what ya'll are talking about. But then it's not about forcing fear on to kids, it's a method of trying to make kids understand authority and to respect authority. My parents and I are sooooo close and trust me, no one tried to hurt me. Physical discipline and child abuse are different, physical discipline would just hurt but you'll be fine after, child abuse is when you hurt the kid and they have scars and stuff. So when people look at it like our parents are trying to hurt us or they don't care or whatever,it's quite frankly the opposite
@Saumya Sinha yup...i understand that....my parents are always treating me like I'm a kid... they just want to ignore the fact that i'm a teen ..and they have to teach several things about sex and sexuality....but they just can't because the society is not open about it so much....even in school when i was giving asl i chose the topic sex education...and the teacher didn't bother to ask questions which she did ask to every other student accordingly... i don't know where this is going but yeah i agree with u!
I'll never forget going to school with a girl who was Asian, she was very quiet and always had very good grades. But there was one time that really made me worrie for her well being and that was when I was going to get my instrument from the band room after school to take home and I over heared her crying in the Instrument storage room, I was not really a friend of hers at the time but I had a big heart then as I do now, so I asked are you okay what is wrong, lets talk about it. I was just shocked at she was so scared to go home to her father because she had made a B+ on a big science class test, have in mind I was in that same class at the same time and no one scored anything higher then a D or C+ very hard teacher, but the fact she was crying and scared to make a B+ scared me so bad for her that I really thought she might have been being abused so I comforted her as much as I could and said well maybe we can do something about it and ask for extra credit because gurl you made a B and i made a D i'm jelly. I also had talked with her after that and the school to see if there was something more that could be done about her situation. Saddly no matter how much I poked to make sure she was okay no one ever bothered in the school system to do anything. I always was kind to her and when I would see her sitting alone I would always sit with her and be there for her and talk and make sure she was doing good and ask if she wanted to hang out she never would hang out after school with me but she never had another upset day like that again. I suppose what im getting at is if your child fears you so much they are scared to go home for a good grade. your doing something wrong.
Call their kids and make one episode about “asian kids react to their parents on the episode : do all asian parents think the same?”, their reaction would be interesting lol
Agree, i think the parents need to see the children reaction too, to understand the children pov, because we came from a different generation so we have a different perspective, and also sometimes parents always think that they're the right one and doing the best for their child (yea, understand their good intention) but.. sometimes its just not
the gray guy talking about beating his kids was such a hypocrite like he got beat up and he does it too but his is justifiable???? my dad has never even come close to beating me but instead taught me what i did wrong , and how to make it right and i’m doing perfectly fine. teach them respect, not fear.
Oh please if your dad if treating you this way it's good but that's doesn't mean beating is always bad I personally feel if I was not beaten in childhood I wouldnt have become a better person people now give me compliment about my personality ....sometimes good talk doesn't work....
@@rihaan1163 the way i see it, you might have become a better person despite being hit by your parents. i suppose if you really believe in your theory, i couldn't change your mind but i personally have seen people become kind and respectful despite their parents. to me, hitting your child is a sign that you can't keep your temper in check and are taking your anger out on someone who can't even defend themselves. that's the height of spinelessness and cowardliness. so yeah, congratulations on being a good person, but i bet you're missing out on some important lessons on treating people kindly and the worth of respect, rather thn the worth of fear and abuse. yeah good talk might not do much if parents only excuse their children and compensate for their wrongdoings but that has never helped a child. instead, its much more effective to talk to the child respectfully, explain their mistake and guide them on how to apologise and fix their mistakes. trust me, it goes a long way
@@new_mclarens i think 90 percent of teacher and parents don't want to beat but its the situation which lead them to .... do i said every child deserve beating ? no did i say there is no case where beating was unnecessary? no just a simple example to explain a boy lived in my neighborhood he used to beat his mother and sister initially, sometimes they call me to help , i always explain him gently that this is wrong ...one time the argument rose so much that he raise hand in presence of his father then uncle ji beat him .......so tell me has uncle ji done anything wrong ? its the situation which leads to beating in covid situation we were on zoom call our english teacher was teaching a guy message sir please chod dijiye rat ho gyi h apni biwi ke sath sex krlo i will not argue much becz i think you are not yet mature enough to acknowledge everybody is not good as you , there's a bigger picture which you haven't seen yet thank you if you still disagree no problem , just write disagree , otherwise we will go on discussing and many people will join in nothing will happen much cuz i think i have different perspective then you which doesn't mean you are wrong
He talked about varying degrees of punishment. A spanking isn't a proper beating. His father's punishments were much more physical i.e. broken stick which he degrees with. How is it hypocrisy if he disagrees with the extremes?
@@rihaan1163 I think you're the person who isn't mature and all the best for your future because when you'll see the bigger picture you will realise you need to learn a lot.
That indian mom when she said " me and my husband have made very sacrifices for our children" lol its such an Indian thing to say i knew she aint as liberal as she was pretending to be
Pranathi Miryala very sorry you went through that, it’s given you a very sad understanding of love. If someone loves you they love you enough NOT to hit you. I hope you now have this time of love or you find it, I promise love does not equal physical punishment
Yeah I for instance know that my dad would definitely be ashamed of myself and hate me if I wasn't straight.There's nothing great about it.But that is how orthodox he is.
I completely agree with the honesty. I was actually pretty shocked when I saw where they were standing cause Asians are known to be very conservative about these things due to their culture growing up (at least older generations)
I feel so bad for Grace, this video was basically just a bunch of first gen Asian parents trying to scold her like a child telling her she’s wrong because they’re right and that’s that.
I feel you but I think it was good to have the varied opinion. Its tough to go against the grain but this is an open discussion that is, in my view, delightful.
For real. Grace is closer to the younger generation and is more open and understanding of the children of this generation because of that. But you can tell there is a clear divide in opinions between her and the other parents because it feels like she's calling out what they're doing is not the best technique but they're actively trying to defend themselves.
As an Indian, I literally choked listening to the Indian parent about her open minded views on marriage and communicating with kids like I wish I had that wow
I don't believe a child would get scarred when spanked or other mild punishments. It's the lack of communication between parents and other mental abuses parents put on their children leaves scar on the minds of a child. From my own experience I don't remember how much I was disciplined physically but the effects of mental abuses still lingers
A child isn't supposed to fear their parents, they should respect them yes but not fear! There are another ways to discipline your children without causing them emotional distress.
Why are people keep sayin this asian parents ar lying? Have your parents really hurt you that bad? I mean not because many asian parents yells and hurts you physically...IT DOES NOT MEAN **ALL** of them are like that... different people will always have different ways of thinking even if they are in the *same Race*
i had those so many times. "How can u not pass exem, i slept in park my last semester becasue i didnt have any money" thats the most used one. And since he was brought up in comunist country where teachers had permison to beat students with stick. He though that beating me and locking me in room for whole day untill i learn everything is solution to be sucesful as he.
I think I’ve realized how lucky I am, because I am Korean and my parents are the best parents I think I could ever ask for. They are definitely modernized, I guess. But they are also understanding and kind and loving and just amazing. I have always been a hardworking student in school not because I want it please them, but for myself. At one point I was struggling in math but I didn’t tell them. I ended up getting an f on my test. But you know what they told me? “It’s ok. Remember that whenever you need help, come to us. We love you very much, no matter your grade.” I was really touched to be honest. They make sure to spend time with me and my sisters and are so considerate. I would proudly call them my best friends. I hope that one day, all parents can be like this. But reality is hard sometimes.
Are your parents highly educated? Usually I find the Asian parents who give a bit of breathing space to their kids and room to make mistakes do so because they themselves had overbearing, strict and demanding parents when they were younger.
I think all asian kids have heard the phrases "I hit you because I love you"or "I yelled at you because I care about you". Asian parents are masters of guilt tripping and are terrible at admitting that they are wrong. I'm surprised more of us aren't stuck in abusive relationships as we age.
I find some truth in that when I see an 8 year old on a plane watching Deadpool 2 with his parents and cussing without a care. Approaching discipline like that is terrible though. It may even be better not to give those “explanations”.
This comment just spoke to me and I guess it’s weird that it’s a TH-cam comment that helped me realize this but I always thought that it was normal for them to say that- I don’t know, maybe it isn’t? And that’s a weird thing to think about because those words were half of my childhood.
This gives me the vibes that I get during the parents teaching meeting in our Indian school.All the parents are being overly nice but at same time they are passive agressive, judgemental and are trying to one up each other.That Indian mom is literally an embodiment of one of our topper's mom, she is always very nice to us average kids but on one year end exam, one of my friends Arun topped in physics and this lady started to ignore Arun during our annual parents teacher meeting.
Ikr . I’m used to getting yelled at by my parents and I’m not sensitive anymore but my dad once said “why don’t you fear your parents ? It’s disrespectful . You should at least fear us a bit to be in discipline” 🙄
When that lady in pink shirt said how she's a nice mum, there is a very high possibility that she's nice but in such a way that she manipulates her kids with emotional blackmailing.
That's the problem with most Indian families. No offense 2 any of them. Also, Im pretty sure most of them were lying about LGBT, or maybe it's my own experience overshadowing my judgment.
As an Asian, I can bet only less than 5%of the parents is fine even if their children are LGBTQ+ in real life. My parents could've throw me away if I was LGBTQ+. LIARS!
Asian parents: "Son, you can choose whatever job you like..." Son: "Thank you Mom, Dad. I want to be an artist." Asian parents: "We haven't finished the sentence. You can choose whatever job you like, as long as it is doctor, engineer, lawyer or businessman." 😁
When you have grandad and aunt that did accounting, But now business courses is out the list. My dad said it is tiring, my mom say there is office bullying. They are too close minded. Now there is engineer, lawyer, doctor. Wow...
once my mother screamed at me because she couldn’t understand the difference between white and green, she told me to get the white chair and she actually wanted the green chair. never apologized for her not understanding English.
@@zuboy4272 yeah I'm Palestinian and I wish we were included in dialogues concerning "Asians" but we never are :/ In America we are considered "white" legally... I still check Asian though because that's absolutely absurd (I check Caucasian and Asian because both are technically correct)
@@priscilla_4766 please dont !!! Have you studied in India ??? North East Indian history is non exisitent ZERO!!! Even if Indian media likes fair looking Indians atleast you have some cultural similarities with the mainland, coz not everyone in India wears sari, eat dal roti etc etc or speak in hindi!!!
Indian mums have this manipulative way of presenting things, like if things don't seem to be going in her direction, she'll steer conversation in such a crafty way that it'll make the listener believe that it was his idea. Then there's always the emotional attack that works most effectively if other manipulations backfired. I wouldn't be the person I am without her and I'm thankful to her but sometimes I think that's because she painted the world in such a deliberate way that only get perspective seemed like a viable option
I thought it was so rude at the end when she told the young mom to talk to her for advice and she'll teach her. It's like she just entertained her voicing opinions but didn't really learn anything, and assumes that SHE has things to teach HER.
It's important to understand that the way she was raised shapes her behavior and current outlook. It important to understand and not hate. I hated so many things about my parents growing up, but I realize as I grow older that certain things were out of their hands as well and they did the best they could and my love grows for them the more I accept that.
I grew up with very conservative asian parents. They don’t hit me or scold at me but the emotional distance always stresses me out whenever I’m away from home for months. I feel so liberated living on my own but I constantly feel guilty for not wanting to facetime/chat with my parents more often. Now that I’m approaching the usual age of motherhood, I’m very worried that I won’t know how to get along with my future children.
As an Asian kid, I can say that the Grey mom and the grey dad are telling the truth. The Indian mom is just trying to look good in the public eye. No hate
@wonu sloth Idk I know plenty of Desi aunty types who are super liberal. There are two aunties in particular who are super liberal. One is bi and the other seems to only have gay friends. My grandmother (who sounded a lot like this Aunty) had also really changed her opinion and opened her mind once I educated her more about lgbtq+ issues. There are also gay people in India, idk how people seem to forget that.
@@iratakeuchi3031 yeah ik not all indian parents are like that but my mom lowkey is exactly like the woman in the video she'll come off as super nice but in reality shes toxic af lol its hell at home
Also, if this episode highlighted anything at all , it is that passive aggressive manipulation is a key aspect of Asian parenting. I mean, every parent here, except maybe for the bartender, had that passive aggressiveness thing nailed. Also, the generational difference in Asian parenting style is apparent here. Like how the bartender had much more liberal views than many of the other (older) parents. I found that interesting. I think that difference is partly because she's so much younger than the others, and understands the younger perspective more - plus as a bartender, she will have been exposed to many more viewpoints and many more ways of life, which really does make you more flexible in your judgment of others and their life choices.
I completely agree. I really appreciate Grace being in this video and speaking her beliefs because all these parents (or at least most of them) are very traditional Asian parents, and if you live/have lived in an Asian household (like me), one thing to know is that Asian parents are EXTREMELY stubborn. It doesn't matter how many times you try to talk them down or how many times you think they've listened and changed, they never will and always find a way to turn the situation onto YOU. Grace is understands the current generation better and KNOWS what we've gone through and also understands the mentality of Asian parents. They literally all think "I know what's best for my kid". And I can guarantee you that when they saw how young Grace looked and is, they unconsciously were not even going to listen to her opinions. And then she opened up at the beginning about being a bartender and getting pregnant in college: For an Asian parent, that is the sign of failure. I really am grateful for Grace for being open and honest without letting the attitudes of all these parents in one room scare her.
"That's not good enough for me, even if he's happy" That's a recipe for a depressed kid right there. Even if the parents get the bragging rights for having a kid with a respectable job, they might not even have a kid to brag about in the future.
Let's not strawman what he meant. He said that he wanted their job choice to be "right", as in probably not a drug dealer, a stripper, a prostitute, or a hitman. He would probably think it's okay for his son or daughter to be a bartender, or retail worker, or "pro gamer" as examples.
@@ugandanknuckles9881 I never respected my parents for spanking me. I don't understand the mentality that respect is earned by physical violence. Way to set up future abusive relationships. I've never spanked my children. I also didn't let them act up in public or disrespect me because there are ways to discipline without using violence.
Actually I'm Indian too like Indian Indian not Indian American but I see a lot of my mom in her and I can see she is a tiger mom same as mine but she rarely gets in the game when it's like wayyy out not always only once in a while same as my mom. Idk I just get a lot of my mom vibes from her lol so I do think most of what she told is true
this a bit late but like when she said my children can marry whoever they want what she really meant i pick 10 girls for them and they pick whoever they want from those 10 girls
Wow, they didn’t expect their children to take care of them? My mom literally said when I was young, “what’s the point of taking care of you if you’re not gonna take care of me when I grow up?”
Lol I was shocked too! My parents are divorced and my mom expects me to care for her when shes older but my dad is the opposite and only wishes we become successful and that's it. Hes successful on his own and does not expect us to care for him when hes older.
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Can you please do an episode featuring hispanic parents
Please do. The same zodiac sign think the same. As a example do cancer think the same as other people that are cancer. Since am a cancer myself but I dont believe in it but it would be very interesting topic to understand the higher value of human behavior. But it doesn't to be only cancer it cant be other zodiac sign to as well
It would be nice if you can also do. Do all people with learning disability think the same.
Also it would be nice if you can do. Do all half Asian think the same. Since am half Asian myself ✊🏾🇺🇸🇵🇭
Kinda surprised there wasn’t a question regarding their views on mental health
THats the problem with that tho. Im not asian but everyone knows they basically dodge mental health...Why do you think alot of the kpop stars die. Blacks too tho. (Im black)
frrr mental health is considered as a taboo and its v unfortunate
Ikr! Asian parents believe in ghosts but they don't believe in mental illness 😭
Tanzil Shaikh that part
literally i have anxiety and depression and my parents think i have bad spirits around me and that i should be more religious to cure this
These are Asian parents in public. It’s a whole different story when they get home.
preach 🙏🙏🙏
💯💯💯
This comment!!
That's so true. My mom and dad are like one of the most hypocritical parents ever
right?!
“my mom pushed me to be a doctor, so for my whole life, i knew that i didn’t want to be a doctor”
Preach.
Greek here. My father pushed me to become an accountant, and that's exactly the reason I didn't become one.
fareed samu my parents pushed me to become a doctor and that’s the reason why I became one😂
@@arthurmorgan3111 is fareed samu where your from or is that your name?
Is it weird to say that my mom pushed me to do something lower because it was the safer option and I ended up really wanting to go to med school
@@captenmurica8843 oh, wow!
As an Asian kid, I can confirm that most of them are putting an act in front of the camera and they're way different in person, wait until they go home. Also I truly agree with all the comments done by the Asian kids, we know our parents when they're lying.
RIGHTT
100%
I'm asian too and it made me cringe seeing them act like this. I hate thinking about what my parents are like at home vs anywhere else
@@archana5524 yeah, saving their face is most important to them.
@Ave no why are you not doctor yet
why do I feel like not everyone was being 100% honest...
I feel like asian cultures often value appearances and reputation over showing emotions or opinions, maybe thats the reason?
Because asian parents lie. A lot.
the Koren dad and Indian mother was the most honest ones
@@axeking3440 and the bartender one
my parents always tell me to be low-key about my true thoughts
The way all the Asian children in the comments just knowing when they were lying is SENDING ME
Where?
Safiya Rani || Lmao I can’t tell if you’re serious or joking
@@flwerhpe3380 I sure wasn't joking 🤷🏻♀️
Safiya Rani || Oh well “sends me” as in she finds it funny.
LMAO
They youngest woman isn’t the stereotypical and traditional asian parent. She’s more, modernized.
yes love her
westernized*
That's good because we need diversity
The older ones are more stereotypical
she's probably a second gen asian. It usually gets loftier the older gen you are.
The guy in the grey shirt is the most honest of them all
He was bold ....
He still probably lied though
Exactly and the youngest mom was the second most honest even though she also lied 100%
There was another video he was a part of showing Christian's and if they agreed or disagreed on stuff
@@turtlesarefantastic9620 honestly I've seen him on one of the other videos and his views are pretty consistent
Just saying, Asian parents are like the best ‘actors’ you’ll meet. What you see now, may not be what they are like at home. My mom is probably the sweetest person you’ll ever meet...in public. But at home, ha, I’m sure it’s not just me.
Edit: thanks so much for all the likes and comments!! Completely agree with all of y'all
I agree.
Omfg that is SO true
this comment i 100% agree with
So true 😂
There the most two-faced people I know
Here’s the thing, most of these Asian parents are doing what we call, “saving face”, although they usually are much more opinionated privately.
The Indian mother was the only honest 1
They are keeping the true tea AT HOME hunny
J Man i feel like grace was pretty honest
@@victorialeibrock1797 yh her too
What happens behind closed doors are none of our business
I feel like I learned a lot and absolutely nothing at the same time
@sheely aha no it would turn into a war zone
@@mawloudshaghasy532 exactly!
i feel like that in every video lmao
Same
It's just the fact that they all are lying. Maybe the guy in the gray and the Young mum were real but the rest were full of lies
Y'all should invite their kids and see how much honesty there was lol
Edit: omg I thought no one would see this wtf thank you 💀💀💀 I need this to happen it seems like most of the parents were just lying for face value (I said IT SEEMS LIKE IT I'm not saying that's what actually happened, but that's what happened)
I NEEED THISSSS TO HAPPEN
I would want this if i didnt fear for the kids getting a whooping after or something :/
the kids are going to be dead in the water if this happens.
I WANT THAT TO HAPPEN
lol such a good idea!
When Grace said she was a bartender and a young mom I could see the heads turning.
Suraiya s 😂😂
They be already hunt her down in the back of their heads
Everyone head rolling when they heard she got pregnant in college. Lol she gonna see hell in 5 year with her choice, plus as a bartender, yea get those taxpayer money for state support.
I just feel that the next gen Asian parents are gonna have completely different ideals and perspectives
BRO THIS IS SO TRUE, litterally last week me and my cousins were talking abt how we were gonna be the best parents ever because we wouldve learned from our parents ways and can actually see the pros and cons of the way the teach/treat us 😂
Michelle Yan EXACTLYYY 😂
Angel Govekar ah yes so true
not really, the brain matures at age 24. these parents once thought that too
Michelle Yan
And smoke cus I don’t want my kids to get cancer. Also vaccinate. And has a job that doesn’t result in homelessness
*We need to hear what their children say*
Nina Teresa It’s legal in America to spank your children
@Nina Teresa Most asians were hit as children, they wouldn't call CPS on their parents.
@@peter-vp3fy When I was like in third grade I basically did :/ I bitched about it to my teacher and whoop de doo me and my brother got interviews the next day by CPS and... hahaha... yeah.
it would be so interesting if w they had THEIR children (no matter the age, different ages would be great as they give different perspectives) answer the same questions to see the similarities and differences in thinking when answering the same questions as their parents
YES
I was raised by spanking. And trust me, it hurts more emotionally. Now, even if a stranger yells at me, my heart becomes stiff. It became a trauma since I was a kid. Please don't do that on your children. Not every kid has the same way of response to your ideologies. Talk more.
My mom came home today and was yelling at me and I got so scared that she was gonna hit me. I remember when I was little my sister got hit with a wired hanger and it left marks on her thigh and i was only 9 at that time
This is the one. I’m not even Asian, but istg, you would never know if I had a “stereotypical” Asian parent or a “stereotypical” white parent if I just described them to you. (My mom is white). But my upbringing isn’t the stereotypical “white parent” upbringing which is probably shocking lmao. It’s probably because she was also brought up the same way. As someone who also has an Indian aunt, she does have some of the same “stereotypical” Asian-parent-type ideas that are common which is why I can understand the pressure, such as wanting me to become a doctor and I love her a lot so I value her opinion. But that’s just me.
This isn't the case for everyone. I was raised being spanked and it didn't negatively effect me. I think it's a parents responsibility to understand that every child is an individual and reacts differently to spanking. Some parents fail to recognize the damage theyre causing.
I completely agree. I was raised by the belt at first since I was a troublemaker at school, then eventually I started laughing when I got hit because I had gotten used to it. Then my mom started making me write sentences. Every grade I went up, the sentences increased by 100. I once had to write 2,000 sentences for cursing in school. That really set me straight. It’s just a matter of knowing your kid and raising them how they’re supposed to be raised instead of just raising them how your parents raised you.
People say that to the BIBLE "never let the spank away from your children" like bruh theres no way its in the BIBLE if its in it theres other ways
these are some real asians they dont show what they truly feel when there are people around watching them...
TRUE
You can tell for some question they seem hesitant or at least you can tell they just went with what's reasonable and what the "public" might view as reasonable but not extreme
This is also how they managed to turn "Asians" into the model minority.
If they would have been protesting all the time, caucasians would have far less respect
@@petepetersen5418 why should minorities care whether white people respect them or not?
@@Gilvids ask the asians🤷🏿♂️
That Indian Lady is absolute representation of Indian Moms, they are always right and will argue until the other person gives up.
Omg yes, despite being always wrong they think they are always right
@@lotuswolf1518 "Always wrong" you just seem like to have same qualities that op described for Indian moms.
I noticed that. It was low-key annoying me the entire time.
@@lotuswolf1518 wouldn't say they are always wrong but I get it.
Lol she is literally my mom
I died when they said they’d love their children no matter what sexuality they are. I only believed grace and the Korean dude.
yes and it's such a yes or no question too, yet they answered as if they didn't want to offend and be seen badly
edit: classic asian parents
yeah true, i think the korean dude are the only one being honest :/
Im a child of asian parents xD but one thing that broke my heart was my mom saying Happiness is temporary because since that ive started to question myself Why would we even live, just to feel pain,take care of earth,ever since my mom said that i was unsure about my releigon as a catholic we beleive in god and his sacrifices just for us to live peacfully and ive doubted, why did he even save us if there is no meaning in life. Only speaking from my expeirience though...
•KawaiiKun• sane
*same
I knew this was cap as soon as ALL OF THEM went to the "agree" side in the first question. Let me tell you one thing, it's a statistically near-impossible task to find 6 Asian parents who give their children freedom when it comes to choosing a career, in the same room.
like yes some of them would "support", but would ask multiple questions about "what do you think about this" or "what do you think about that"
Yeah facts... two of them have to be on the disagree side..
what do you mean? they give complete freedom to choose if they want to be a doctor or engineer :/
@@dhruvavikas3538 Lmao
do you think someones brain is just wired a certain way because of their race? like, they're just sterotypes, most asian parents probably dont care
the guy in the gray sweater is literally the only honest parent here
I liked his answers too!
I will say, he's not the best parent. But he was very honest and that means that his will probably bond once they grow up. But the Indian parents children will never.
@@creator1094 Probably one of the best parent you can ever have. An honest, mature parent, probably what I want to have tbh. Not a parent who acts so Kind and positive towards others, but not in front of their children.
I feel that
Grace? You think she was lying?
dude asian parents r the exact type of ppl to lie about their honest opinion bcuz they’re in the public’s eye, it’s like how my mom would act like a saint in front of my friends but once they gone, the belt comes out LOL
Yours brings out the belt, mine brings out the *s a n d a l*
Celestial Draconis LA.CHAN.CLAAAA!!!!
@@CelestialDraconis Mine brings out the bamboo stick
The entire video seemed like they were trying to say the right things.
period.
all the parents are lowkey judging each other, THEIR EXPRESSIONS ARE TOO SEE THROUGH HAHA
Lmao yeah
LMAOAOAO FRRR
ESP THE WOMAN IN THE FRONT ZJBSKSVSJS
especially the women
@@lsjaowhwbkwhwksha5926 OMG YES TYUIHJNTEDRFYGUBH
"My husband and I have made a lot of sacrifices for our children" That's the most indian thing the aunty spoke
Aunty was genuinely true all the time
Indian parenting depends
Like I am gay and my mom accepted me :"""")
*very easily*
@@dev_peace_soul I'm so glad for you!! :)) Hope my mom accepts me one day too :(
My mexican mom be like when scolding me
But that's true..... And their should be no shame in saying the truth.
no cap the guy in the grey shirt was prob the most honest and the Indian lady was prob the least honest
Agreed
Yes
Renitha Ramesh yes. From my experience they are very controlling.
The indians are harsh
Desi/Asian parents are mostly really manipulative, and are completely different in front of others
No shocker that the younger generation parent is literally the most open minded and accepting.
The effects will only be seen in 20+ years from now.
But there are limits.
The Korean male dad was young too.. but he was a little too religious I guess? I thought he was cool at first but when he busted out the "LGBTQ+ is sinful and unnatural" my opinion soured. I guess he still said he'd love them but meh.
@@animusdx That isn't too religious, thats fact in belief. He's okay. He is loving and accepting but he isn't gonna agree and thats okay ♡
animusdx True, but a lot of religious people don’t care about reasoning or making sense. “Hey, I think it’s sinful and unnatural to be gay even though you were born this way and can’t do anything about it... but I still love you.”
I wish they indicated what generation Asian American each parent is
most of them seemed like 1.5- 2 gen asian american
Yeah I hope they had chosen more traditional immigration parents like mine. That’s what I was hoping for
Same. I answered the poll with 1st generation in mind, but it seems most in the group are closer to second generation Asian Americans.
Shelly there was Indian, Japanese, korean, and chinese
@Shelly Some of them said it sporadically throughout the vid; Japanese Chinese,Indian,Korean
For all of them:
“partly agree” means “disagree”
“partly disagree” means “agree”
I think by “any career” the parents mean “any white-collar career”.
Rebecca Tang that was obvious though
Obviously
i mean being a drug dealer isn't really a career anyway...
yea that should’ve been specified. because honestly i don’t think i would want my kid being a porn star
It's like anything else isn't even in the realm of possibility for them.
Do the episode again, but this time bring on a bunch of random Asian kids and have them judge the liars
Lady X once they go home they get thier asses beat and parents will completey deny the evidence you bring upfront and call you a liar and say you are exaggerating when they truly are.
@@mik4209 that's why they said random kids
Lady X YESSS
@@chrono-glitchwaterlily8776 like....orphans...? They are going to need some sort of guardian to speak on their opinions
@@Vnatnme I meant kids completely unrelated to the parents. That counts too I guess. They need to be free to reveal themselves for us to understand it from a controlled environment. :/
FACT: Asian parents(especially Indian) behave differently in front of other parents. They are more polite and caring in front of others whereas at home totally different.
Not fact. That just your experience:)
Trueeeeeeeeee
Trueee 😔✊
😢
That can't be more true i totally agree with you ㅠ_ㅠ
My dad used to hit me with a belt when I was about 4-6 yrs old whenever I get the multiplication table wrong, and every time we have to review before exams. That made me scared of him and I was afraid of failure. It really affected me a lot throughout my years (such as not being "good enough" in terms of skill) On the other hand, my mom was the opposite. She was patient enough to teach me and she helped me a lot when it comes to studying. Thanks to her, I learned how to study on my own effectively, and made me realize the value of self effort and working hard to achieve a certain goal. Can't thank her enough
My story is a swap in genders but my dad is just quite.
Ngl this the same for me. Whenever I get a B or something my dad gets a little excited but then questions why I couldn’t get a A. My mom is just happy I’m learning the material
Most asian parents didnt tell their child that one of them is the bad cop and the other is the good one. Dont hate your dad. Thank him too.
@@78anurag same ,it was my mom who hit me,now i hv severe anxiety
Omg I’m so sorry!! Do you have a relationship with him today?
the woman closest to the camera is the realest since she's the youngest out of them all and actually is like aware of how kids act and what they want to do when they grow up
when she said you can hit your kid out of love and everyone fell silent
Sasha T I actually understand what she was saying. A lot of times when I got physically disciplined my mom or dad would say I beat you because I love you.
Its true. They love hard, discipline harder.
@@geraldrhoden702 yeah as a kid I was too, it's just there's no way to put it without sounding weird
Sasha T my mum says that to me and it just makes me hate her more..
Its just a bit weird how their kid grew up to be needing a "beating out of love" to get disciplined when there's so much other ways that could've worked. I'll say, i won't give my respect to someone who beated me up until i got bruised so bad and later say it's my fault and ask me if i want them to go to jail for a child beating.
The woman in the pink shirt says she is not a tiger mom but she is.......like really is.
Maybe she is just less than her husband
She SUPER is
good i'm not the only one who thinks that
@@thatasiangirl0_039 no you don't know Indian women
Actually being Tiger Mom is different from over bearing mom. My father is a quiet sort of guy, but he is the one pushing us to study better or better at our achievements. My mom is very protective and over bearing but she doesn't pressure me or my brother to get higher marks or grade, coz like the lady told, her husband is already taking care of it. 😁
They balance eachother out.🤷🏽♀️
The thing is ... Asian Parents always have this mindset : " WHAT WOULD OTHER PEOPLE THINK?" ... I thinks this is why these asian parents in this videos is very careful with their answers 😅
There should be a prompt asking if they think they are being honest to all the question. would love to see their reactions.
@@cauhscrymdorn2132 but they would just lie lol
FRR
Exactly! I was wondering how much of this has to do with the "white gaze," and their fear of its punishment.
In india we call it 4 log kya kahenge 😂
The grey shirted guy is the most honest parent out of all of them, let's be honest here
I think the japanese mom was really honest too
And he was very sweet.
the bartender was very honest too
yeah i was pretty shocked seeing him as the only one who disagreed with being acceptable of their kid being lgbtq+. some asian parents were capping there
Esther Huang I didn’t like his opinions though.
"I am happy with whatever career my child chooses"
the parents be like I give them 3 options: engineer, doctor, lawyer, they are free to choose
Crystal Clear This is so truee🤣
exactly
Legit tho, my parents have my future set out for me
That's so true! My family is composed of either engineers, or people in the medical field.
yeees
I feel like the men, especially the Korean guy was the only ones who were completely honest in this video
Agreed. The ladies were being more reserved in answering.
I actually thought Grace was very vocal about her beliefs even when they completely contrasted the rest of the groups
DAce I mean you also have to consider the fact that they’re probably based in Los Angeles, or other nearby liberal cities. The culture there can really put yours in check.
Yeah... I agree to that Korean guy in every answer
Or this is really what they believe since they live in a very liberal area such as California
As an Indian I can confirm that the Indian mom is such a talented actress just like the majority of Indian parents 🥰🥰
No, she’s actually completely see through even to non Asians and is obviously the most controlling tiger mom there
@@metroidfoosion73 you probably aren't a asian
Actually for me, it's a NO. my Indian mom is just like that lady, never put a pressure on exams and achievements, always happy with my hobbies and career and many more. I think it's rare to have an actual Indian parents like these.
Don't judge her when you don't know her. She probably is patient with her children. Not all Indian mothers are scary.
My Indian mom is like her, but my mom never pressures me. She supports my dreams of becoming a writer :)
My dad is different tho
Am I the only one that feels like there’s a huge difference in first gen asian parents vs second gen asian parents?
Like the second gen gets to feel what first gen asian parents are like, so they try to not act ways that they didn’t like abt their own parents to their kids
Yes facts
Yeah I’m a second gen (if I’m thinking this correctly cuz I’m part of the first gen in my family being raised here) I’ll definitely treat my kids differently
I agree. If I would become a parent I will support them whatever my child wants and never follow what my parents want for me as long as they are safe because I know the feeling of having strict parents.
TheEndOfAfxxxkingworld Good luck dealing with bratty kids who are useless.
Every generation just tries to be different than their parents. The generational parenting pattern is: strict, lenient, strict, lenient, strict
Dude, all the asian kids in the comments need to chill. I can't like all the comments!
Shio h i thought the same haha
Lmaooo😂
Haha..
Why am I liking your comment?! I'm confused!!
lol
Interview their children and the story would be totally different
Uno reverse card.
Yeah facts
Definitely
You need to do a middle ground Asian parents vs their children
Ok, so they gonna complain how it suck to be lecture by their parent. Do you know what parenting is? it not hollywood single mother diversity movie.
Oh! Nice. Battle ground
Bruh it’s definitely not going to be fair as asian kids dont have the guts to go against the opinions of their parents when they are literally in front of them. If the parents are absent in the video, that will be much much better.
ohhhh This is gonna be more intense than the Israelis & Palestinians episode haha.
@@Hilandcaravan The condition would be worse behind the scene.
The girl in the front is the only one I feel told the truth fully.
which one is dat
@@urdadsonic1036 the Bartender girl
The man in the BACK too I think the girl in the front and the man in the BACK said the truth but thats my opinion
She also seemed like the youngest from the bunch.
Im a Tiger mom. But my kids dont have to go college/ can do whatever they want? Dosent add up.
A kid shouldn’t FEAR their parent, they should RESPECT their parent.
Nah, in Asian culture...FEAR IS RESPECT
Except a 5 year old doesn't understand what the fuck is respect and will scream for 10 hours on an airplane until someone smack them.
@@vietnammg to an extent a 5 yr old knows from right and wrong
yeah... im catholic, and theres a passage in the bible about "fearing god". this has always irked me. he mentioned LGBTQ as sinning, and it kinda stirred some thoughts. im still struggling w my stance on that issue.
haha don't care, didn't ask plus your white
The guy in the grey sweaters the only one being honest
Agreed ! The young Asian mom too ..
very true
the guy in the black jacket seems genuine as well. I've seen him on an episode before
Grace too
exactly
The Indian Mom sounds like the kind of lady who would brag about her child being a doctor/engineer at a wedding. (I am Indian and I can say this truthfully.)
then yell at their kid to get an arranged marriage
She was cool. And right about everything she said.
@@jezra4427 ??? You must not be Indian if you think she was being honest at all lmao. I'm Indian and it's very clear she was putting on a nice, loving mother persona, when she isn't that at all in private.
@Sharon Grant isn’t white in america used to immigrated to america when it was discovered?? learn some history mate
@@razoredge8284 how do you know that?? you know nothing about that lady
the indian lady made me agitated b/c growing up with indian parents i could tell she was lying and she was being so rude and had absolutely no respect for anyone especially the young asian mom
omg ikr i am triggered
omg ikr
i was 1/4 of the way into the video and read a lot of the comments beforehand and was like "ugh she's not so bad though" then i got 1/2 way in and kept getting second-hand embarrassment because she could've avoided lying by not commenting on other's comments :(
@@mahimahayat4698 i felt that way too. I was reading the comments and thinking she cant be that bad. Itll be funny. But when i saw the video ...no its not funny. She doesnt accept her beliefs and twists it in a way that suits her image when she has to talk about it. And bosses over everyone while smiling. It actually scary.
she seems like the neighbourhood gossip auntie tbh
The Indian lady is 100% a Tiger Parent. She cuts of everyone and have a rebuttal for literally everything.
SinFectiouz - anna ou
Yeahhh she isn't open minded she was trying to make herself look like a good parent
Lego Lover how is she not Asian? India is in Asia! 😂
Lego Lover huh ???????
@Lego Lover Indians are Asian wtf are you talking about
They seem so dishonest or just in denial. Their answers betray where their standing
Only the dude in gray was honest
Asian parents care too much about what others think, and it actually makes them look worse in the end.
@@vihansubramaniam3593 GOD that's so blooming true like whatever we do they r just like OmG whAt is so and so gonna say like girl idk even know who ur talking about
@@vihansubramaniam3593 omg thas so true if only they WON'T care about " what will the world say" life for asian kids would be HEAVEN
Image matters more than honesty in our cultures.
I maybe wrong and misjudging her but that Indian aunty is a lil sus, it's like she was capping most of the times. She seems to present herself as very open and quite progressive but then jumps on to cut off and be dismissive of every thing the other fellow parents have to say(in a quite judgemental way). Idk, thats just what I perceived, I'm also an India btw.
Your observation is right
I agree....I felt like she was lowkey judging the Japanese mother especially learning after she was a bartender.
And when she said "Out of Love" it was clear that she was just pretending 2 be open minded
Just my point of view
Sus 😳 amogus 😳 😳😳😳 When the imposter is sus! 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sorry it's my Gen Z blood which made me comment this
You just described a talented politician 😁
She literally seems the worst out of the bunch-
I'm 6'1"
My mom is 5'6"
When she raises her hand I duck.
Is that the fear you wanted
pp v2
Fr.
I wished that parents would see that you don’t need fear in a child for them to behave well. I would say for them to instill a strong sense of what’s right and what’s wrong so they get to pick for themselves, with their parents assisting them as well.
Honestly same, it’s sad how I was once so scared of my dad I got a panic attack when he was trying to give me a high five, fear is certainly not the answer
Not good at all...when mine raises her hand I start to feel anger
In an African home,I'm a kid but I get why they do it. I'm Nigerian but I get what ya'll are talking about. But then it's not about forcing fear on to kids, it's a method of trying to make kids understand authority and to respect authority. My parents and I are sooooo close and trust me, no one tried to hurt me. Physical discipline and child abuse are different, physical discipline would just hurt but you'll be fine after, child abuse is when you hurt the kid and they have scars and stuff. So when people look at it like our parents are trying to hurt us or they don't care or whatever,it's quite frankly the opposite
the amount of times asian children have heard the phrase “it’s for your own good” 🤦♀️
Ikr, it gets tiring because I wonder if it's really for my own good or if it's for their satisfaction
YES so true this is like the most relatable comment section ever lol
I mean, it is beneficial for us. I already forgot the amount of times I regret not listening to my parents.
It's every toxic parents overuse
All Asian parents lie they take care of us just because we can take care of them
the woman in pink : im not a tiger parent
then strikes every other’s opinion
it's somehow annoying for me...
@Saumya Sinha yup...i understand that....my parents are always treating me like I'm a kid... they just want to ignore the fact that i'm a teen ..and they have to teach several things about sex and sexuality....but they just can't because the society is not open about it so much....even in school when i was giving asl i chose the topic sex education...and the teacher didn't bother to ask questions which she did ask to every other student accordingly... i don't know where this is going but yeah i agree with u!
@@procrastinatingme953 ye..
@Saumya Sinha bro kids nowadays know about these things from the internet..lol
@@siiiiiiiiiri my mom told me about some things so I think they're kinda lieing...
I'll never forget going to school with a girl who was Asian, she was very quiet and always had very good grades.
But there was one time that really made me worrie for her well being and that was when I was going to get my instrument from the band room after school to take home and I over heared her crying in the Instrument storage room, I was not really a friend of hers at the time but I had a big heart then as I do now, so I asked are you okay what is wrong, lets talk about it.
I was just shocked at she was so scared to go home to her father because she had made a B+ on a big science class test, have in mind I was in that same class at the same time and no one scored anything higher then a D or C+ very hard teacher, but the fact she was crying and scared to make a B+ scared me so bad for her that I really thought she might have been being abused so I comforted her as much as I could and said well maybe we can do something about it and ask for extra credit because gurl you made a B and i made a D i'm jelly. I also had talked with her after that and the school to see if there was something more that could be done about her situation. Saddly no matter how much I poked to make sure she was okay no one ever bothered in the school system to do anything. I always was kind to her and when I would see her sitting alone I would always sit with her and be there for her and talk and make sure she was doing good and ask if she wanted to hang out she never would hang out after school with me but she never had another upset day like that again. I suppose what im getting at is if your child fears you so much they are scared to go home for a good grade. your doing something wrong.
Of course you were in the band team, because it's only those types of people who instantly scream "ABUSE!!!" when someone's stressed out.
@@Luckrye You're talking as if getting a B+ (an average grade) is something to be stressed out over.
@@Luckrye why are you so pressed? What they said is true. The kid was scared to go home!! tf you on about lol
@@PlasticDoll. Because I have a genuine hatred for the band at my school 😎
@@Luckrye woooooow you're soooooo quirkyyyyyyy 😑
In Asian culture there's also something called 'saving your face' and I bet that the Indian mom is 100% doing that.
Or you're just stereotyping 🤷
@@Glazertv nah, that Indian mom is ACTUALLY doing that.
Glazer tv no she’s lying
@@Glazertv No you can understand an Indian face when they are trying to save face.
@@Glazertv No she is actually doing it. You can tell from her words and face.
Call their kids and make one episode about “asian kids react to their parents on the episode : do all asian parents think the same?”, their reaction would be interesting lol
That will be nice lol, but I also feel bad for the kids if their parents see the reaction. There might no rice for them at home
Agree, i think the parents need to see the children reaction too, to understand the children pov, because we came from a different generation so we have a different perspective, and also sometimes parents always think that they're the right one and doing the best for their child (yea, understand their good intention) but.. sometimes its just not
FBE does the Kids React. Not jubilee
Yeeesssss
Parents don't care about their children's views
That pink lady gave me toxic positivity vibes
@Zinia ROHILA how is that even racist bruh
@Zinia ROHILA no 😂😂😂
@Zinia ROHILA lmao why tf is that racist?
Zinia ROHILA first of how tf is that racist. Also doesn’t that make you racist if you agree🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
Zinia ROHILA nope lol
the gray guy talking about beating his kids was such a hypocrite like he got beat up and he does it too but his is justifiable???? my dad has never even come close to beating me but instead taught me what i did wrong , and how to make it right and i’m doing perfectly fine. teach them respect, not fear.
Oh please if your dad if treating you this way it's good but that's doesn't mean beating is always bad I personally feel if I was not beaten in childhood I wouldnt have become a better person people now give me compliment about my personality ....sometimes good talk doesn't work....
@@rihaan1163 the way i see it, you might have become a better person despite being hit by your parents. i suppose if you really believe in your theory, i couldn't change your mind but i personally have seen people become kind and respectful despite their parents. to me, hitting your child is a sign that you can't keep your temper in check and are taking your anger out on someone who can't even defend themselves. that's the height of spinelessness and cowardliness. so yeah, congratulations on being a good person, but i bet you're missing out on some important lessons on treating people kindly and the worth of respect, rather thn the worth of fear and abuse. yeah good talk might not do much if parents only excuse their children and compensate for their wrongdoings but that has never helped a child. instead, its much more effective to talk to the child respectfully, explain their mistake and guide them on how to apologise and fix their mistakes. trust me, it goes a long way
@@new_mclarens i think 90 percent of teacher and parents don't want to beat but its the situation which lead them to ....
do i said every child deserve beating ? no
did i say there is no case where beating was unnecessary? no
just a simple example to explain a boy lived in my neighborhood he used to beat his mother and sister initially, sometimes they call me to help , i always explain him gently that this is wrong ...one time the argument rose so much that he raise hand in presence of his father then uncle ji beat him .......so tell me has uncle ji done anything wrong ?
its the situation which leads to beating
in covid situation we were on zoom call our english teacher was teaching
a guy message sir please chod dijiye rat ho gyi h apni biwi ke sath sex krlo
i will not argue much becz i think
you are not yet mature enough to acknowledge everybody is not good as you , there's a bigger picture which you haven't seen yet
thank you if you still disagree no problem , just write disagree , otherwise we will go on discussing and many people will join in nothing will happen much cuz i think i have different perspective then you which doesn't mean you are wrong
He talked about varying degrees of punishment. A spanking isn't a proper beating. His father's punishments were much more physical i.e. broken stick which he degrees with.
How is it hypocrisy if he disagrees with the extremes?
@@rihaan1163 I think you're the person who isn't mature and all the best for your future because when you'll see the bigger picture you will realise you need to learn a lot.
That indian mom when she said " me and my husband have made very sacrifices for our children" lol its such an Indian thing to say i knew she aint as liberal as she was pretending to be
Well....tbf they must have. It's easy to sit on TH-cam and comment on stuff
@@RV-fg5bk Every parent makes sacrifices, but it's weird to hold your child accountable.
RIGHT
@@Anton-id9vh so true why have kids at all if they know what sacrifices they'll have to make
@@Anton-id9vh yeah, i roll my eyes any time parents use that as an excuse for some shitty behaviors they do like sis, stop
The Indian lady was like *I'm hitting them out of love*
EVERY ASIAN MOM EVER
Literally my mom
Pranathi Miryala if you can’t parent without threatening violence you shouldn’t parent.
Pranathi Miryala very sorry you went through that, it’s given you a very sad understanding of love. If someone loves you they love you enough NOT to hit you.
I hope you now have this time of love or you find it, I promise love does not equal physical punishment
Well i am Indian teenager and can assure you that 70% beatings are for our own good and other 30% are out of frustrations.
The guy in the grey shirt was very courageous to voice his honest opinion about LGBT. I feel like a lot of them weren't 100%honest
Yeah I for instance know that my dad would definitely be ashamed of myself and hate me if I wasn't straight.There's nothing great about it.But that is how orthodox he is.
They weren’t 40% honest
So true
@@tumtum6910
Same!!!
I completely agree with the honesty. I was actually pretty shocked when I saw where they were standing cause Asians are known to be very conservative about these things due to their culture growing up (at least older generations)
"I prefer my children marry someone from the same culture"
*most moving to disagree*
Me: LIAAAAAAAARSSSSSSSSS!!
my same reaction 😭
Lmaoo😭
I agree with that rule. I don't want my kids to be rude white kids
*Laughs in half Asian*
@@apbern4797 Same I'm half asian
I feel so bad for Grace, this video was basically just a bunch of first gen Asian parents trying to scold her like a child telling her she’s wrong because they’re right and that’s that.
hsbb bbsh yeah thats a typical Asian parent, imposing his/her way of living to others and criticizing other’s philosophy.
Didn't even let her finish speaking before jumping in. Really shows you how different we have grown.
I feel you but I think it was good to have the varied opinion. Its tough to go against the grain but this is an open discussion that is, in my view, delightful.
The first gen Asian way.
For real. Grace is closer to the younger generation and is more open and understanding of the children of this generation because of that. But you can tell there is a clear divide in opinions between her and the other parents because it feels like she's calling out what they're doing is not the best technique but they're actively trying to defend themselves.
As an Indian, I literally choked listening to the Indian parent about her open minded views on marriage and communicating with kids like I wish I had that wow
She's seems so sweet and welcoming
Hahaha same
I'm Indian too and me and my sister tripped on this😂
Pria Kahlon You have problems with your parents?
She didn't grow up in India so she doesn't know what its really like
Frozen Storm I imagine her parents probably did
My gosh, I'm Indian and the Indian mom is lying about everything... You can just tell... And she is rude in a polite way somehow...
😬I could see it too
Ka dei ba ong maphi😔
U mean she’s passive aggressive
@@user-xk4rl8bj2n yupp ikr
I could feel the rudeness in her voice, literally like every other indian aunty
"Learn fear and discipline." Dude, you're a parent not villain in some army.
It's more like they'll need to learn there are consequences for their misbehavior.
I don't believe a child would get scarred when spanked or other mild punishments. It's the lack of communication between parents and other mental abuses parents put on their children leaves scar on the minds of a child. From my own experience I don't remember how much I was disciplined physically but the effects of mental abuses still lingers
A child isn't supposed to fear their parents, they should respect them yes but not fear! There are another ways to discipline your children without causing them emotional distress.
@President John Snyder From the Artist Suguru Tanaka
If they respect you then you don't need fear and discipline
Real title: “are all Asian parents great liars?”
😂😂😂😂
Exactly🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂
RehsNahk 😂😂😂
yes, they're the best at it
@A Jo I think the young lady was also honest
Every Asian parent has 2 personalities. And let me tell y'all, this here wasn't real.
saving face.. then they go yell and hit their kids
@@yoleeisbored nah not me or anyone I know
Why are people keep sayin this asian parents ar lying? Have your parents really hurt you that bad? I mean not because many asian parents yells and hurts you physically...IT DOES NOT MEAN **ALL** of them are like that... different people will always have different ways of thinking even if they are in the *same Race*
Not all asian parents are like that. Ive seen plenty of open minded asian parents, ur experience doesn't define everybody's
Yup i feel u
The dad in the gray sweater is the parent that always say “when I was growing up” when lecturing you
BIG TRUTH
Mhm
i had those so many times. "How can u not pass exem, i slept in park my last semester becasue i didnt have any money" thats the most used one. And since he was brought up in comunist country where teachers had permison to beat students with stick. He though that beating me and locking me in room for whole day untill i learn everything is solution to be sucesful as he.
he definitely has daddy issues
That's my father for sure.
I think I’ve realized how lucky I am, because I am Korean and my parents are the best parents I think I could ever ask for. They are definitely modernized, I guess. But they are also understanding and kind and loving and just amazing. I have always been a hardworking student in school not because I want it please them, but for myself. At one point I was struggling in math but I didn’t tell them. I ended up getting an f on my test. But you know what they told me? “It’s ok. Remember that whenever you need help, come to us. We love you very much, no matter your grade.” I was really touched to be honest. They make sure to spend time with me and my sisters and are so considerate. I would proudly call them my best friends. I hope that one day, all parents can be like this. But reality is hard sometimes.
Are your parents highly educated? Usually I find the Asian parents who give a bit of breathing space to their kids and room to make mistakes do so because they themselves had overbearing, strict and demanding parents when they were younger.
I think all asian kids have heard the phrases "I hit you because I love you"or "I yelled at you because I care about you". Asian parents are masters of guilt tripping and are terrible at admitting that they are wrong. I'm surprised more of us aren't stuck in abusive relationships as we age.
oof this is too real
Rebecca Tang that hits too close to home
I find some truth in that when I see an 8 year old on a plane watching Deadpool 2 with his parents and cussing without a care. Approaching discipline like that is terrible though. It may even be better not to give those “explanations”.
I felt that 😔
This comment just spoke to me and I guess it’s weird that it’s a TH-cam comment that helped me realize this but I always thought that it was normal for them to say that- I don’t know, maybe it isn’t? And that’s a weird thing to think about because those words were half of my childhood.
Asian Parent Grades Rating Scale
A - Average
B - Bad
C - Catastrophic
D - Disowned
F - Forgotten Forever
And for those who have E's
E- Execution
@@ecn28 👁💧👄💧👁 the pain is true
A - average
B - bad
C - can’t eat dinner
D - disowned
F - funeral
@@danielzhou2972 F- Funeral
💀 I'm already d e a d
my friend told me about this:
a - average
B - broomstick
C - chainsaw
D - dynamite
F - fatality
@@WJLee-zi8fq the more accurate the better am I right?
the Indian mother was arguing soo much and she was acting as if everyone's kids were like hers
Right? I was thinking the same too
Manya Agreed 🙃
Lmao tbh it's the most Indian thing an aunty could possibly do🤣
yeah we have to interact with so many such aunties
@@anc2092 no cap😭
This gives me the vibes that I get during the parents teaching meeting in our Indian school.All the parents are being overly nice but at same time they are passive agressive, judgemental and are trying to one up each other.That Indian mom is literally an embodiment of one of our topper's mom, she is always very nice to us average kids but on one year end exam, one of my friends Arun topped in physics and this lady started to ignore Arun during our annual parents teacher meeting.
"Wheres the fear?"
Children shouldnt fear theyr parents.
Children should respect theyr parents, respect isnt fear.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾yes thank you
@@Maryam-un1cr same hahahha lol
Ikr . I’m used to getting yelled at by my parents and I’m not sensitive anymore but my dad once said “why don’t you fear your parents ? It’s disrespectful . You should at least fear us a bit to be in discipline” 🙄
@@vrinda9999 that's weird... we must only fear of losing the loved ones.. not of anything else
Exactly, I was looking for this comment. Fear does not equal respect.
When that lady in pink shirt said how she's a nice mum, there is a very high possibility that she's nice but in such a way that she manipulates her kids with emotional blackmailing.
That's the problem with most Indian families. No offense 2 any of them. Also, Im pretty sure most of them were lying about LGBT, or maybe it's my own experience overshadowing my judgment.
@@rossrocks9353 oh yeah definitely I would be thrown out of my family if I turned out to be nom-straight.
@@honey5854 an army and an Indian!!! Saranghe 🌈❤
@@pracheebhardwaj2790 omg SARANGHAE where are you from 🤭
@@honey5854 jaipur wbu
when the lgbtq+ question was asked and most of them agreed i let out a laugh....all ya'll LYIN
@heuheuheu hyuk hyuk yeah cause eive seen him in so many episodes he is extremely Christian
As an Asian, I can bet only less than 5%of the parents is fine even if their children are LGBTQ+ in real life. My parents could've throw me away if I was LGBTQ+.
LIARS!
@@yamadatom unless most of them are thai there's no way all of them would be okay with. sure there's some kind parents but they lyIINNNNNN
Cuz they need to survive into that country
Not necesarily. My parents are immigrants from Asia and they are 100% fine with me if i was lgbtq
Asian parents: "Son, you can choose whatever job you like..."
Son: "Thank you Mom, Dad. I want to be an artist."
Asian parents: "We haven't finished the sentence. You can choose whatever job you like, as long as it is doctor, engineer, lawyer or businessman."
😁
@@4gamingninjas That's kinda fucked up
lmao I don't think businessman would be in that sentence
When you have grandad and aunt that did accounting, But now business courses is out the list. My dad said it is tiring, my mom say there is office bullying. They are too close minded. Now there is engineer, lawyer, doctor. Wow...
add software developer to that list
@@turtlefeesh most asian parents don't even know what software developer even is.
I am Asian and never in my life my mom has hit me
OUT OF LOVE 🤨......Its always anger and frustration 🙄
Lmao at first I was like W H A T
They had us in the first half not gonna lie
Hahaha
once my mother screamed at me because she couldn’t understand the difference between white and green, she told me to get the white chair and she actually wanted the green chair.
never apologized for her not understanding English.
@@novacentorium4943 that happen to most child.. parent are crazy at times
The passive aggression throughout this whole video is *SENDING ME*
where
I appreciate they added south Asians in the discussion as well.
exactly , as south asian , i want arabs in too
@@zuboy4272 yeah I'm Palestinian and I wish we were included in dialogues concerning "Asians" but we never are :/
In America we are considered "white" legally...
I still check Asian though because that's absolutely absurd
(I check Caucasian and Asian because both are technically correct)
True!!! it's very sad though that India media in general is not inclusive of their own North East Indian states people who are not brown 😬😬😬😬
Karma Wangchuk indian media is obsessed with non brown and north indian people idk what your talking about.
@@priscilla_4766 please dont !!! Have you studied in India ??? North East Indian history is non exisitent ZERO!!! Even if Indian media likes fair looking Indians atleast you have some cultural similarities with the mainland, coz not everyone in India wears sari, eat dal roti etc etc or speak in hindi!!!
Is it me or is there not enough appreciation for Grace in the comments. She seems like the most genuine and most open-minded parent in this group.
She sound like every single mother before becoming a karen, and 5 year later an entitled mother.
She is definitely a younger and more open minded parent
Am i the only one who thinks about every question and then goes on about, *'if i was there i would say that-'*
Me too 😂😂
I'm here bud
+++++++
No you are not only, I am also 😂
0op i saw you on a call me kevin vid
Indian mums have this manipulative way of presenting things, like if things don't seem to be going in her direction, she'll steer conversation in such a crafty way that it'll make the listener believe that it was his idea. Then there's always the emotional attack that works most effectively if other manipulations backfired. I wouldn't be the person I am without her and I'm thankful to her but sometimes I think that's because she painted the world in such a deliberate way that only get perspective seemed like a viable option
It's so scary how you described my mother
Do we all have the same mother?
Omfg this guy read my mom without even seeing her once
I thought it was so rude at the end when she told the young mom to talk to her for advice and she'll teach her. It's like she just entertained her voicing opinions but didn't really learn anything, and assumes that SHE has things to teach HER.
It's important to understand that the way she was raised shapes her behavior and current outlook. It important to understand and not hate. I hated so many things about my parents growing up, but I realize as I grow older that certain things were out of their hands as well and they did the best they could and my love grows for them the more I accept that.
Most of the parents: _i want my child to be happy with themselves_
The Asian kids in the comment section:*wHy u aLwAyS lYiNg?*
I sang it 😂
I was screaming the whole video
So true🤣🤣🤣
thats the truth
OMG ITS BEEN SO LONG SINCE I HEARD THAT😂😂
I grew up with very conservative asian parents. They don’t hit me or scold at me but the emotional distance always stresses me out whenever I’m away from home for months. I feel so liberated living on my own but I constantly feel guilty for not wanting to facetime/chat with my parents more often. Now that I’m approaching the usual age of motherhood, I’m very worried that I won’t know how to get along with my future children.
As an Asian kid, I can say that the Grey mom and the grey dad are telling the truth. The Indian mom is just trying to look good in the public eye. No hate
Exactly how my mum acts
Agree
Are you Indian? How do you know? I thought she was being pretty open and genuine.
@wonu sloth Idk I know plenty of Desi aunty types who are super liberal. There are two aunties in particular who are super liberal. One is bi and the other seems to only have gay friends. My grandmother (who sounded a lot like this Aunty) had also really changed her opinion and opened her mind once I educated her more about lgbtq+ issues. There are also gay people in India, idk how people seem to forget that.
@@iratakeuchi3031 yeah ik not all indian parents are like that but my mom lowkey is exactly like the woman in the video
she'll come off as super nice but in reality shes toxic af lol its hell at home
Also, if this episode highlighted anything at all , it is that passive aggressive manipulation is a key aspect of Asian parenting. I mean, every parent here, except maybe for the bartender, had that passive aggressiveness thing nailed.
Also, the generational difference in Asian parenting style is apparent here. Like how the bartender had much more liberal views than many of the other (older) parents. I found that interesting. I think that difference is partly because she's so much younger than the others, and understands the younger perspective more - plus as a bartender, she will have been exposed to many more viewpoints and many more ways of life, which really does make you more flexible in your judgment of others and their life choices.
I completely agree. I really appreciate Grace being in this video and speaking her beliefs because all these parents (or at least most of them) are very traditional Asian parents, and if you live/have lived in an Asian household (like me), one thing to know is that Asian parents are EXTREMELY stubborn. It doesn't matter how many times you try to talk them down or how many times you think they've listened and changed, they never will and always find a way to turn the situation onto YOU.
Grace is understands the current generation better and KNOWS what we've gone through and also understands the mentality of Asian parents.
They literally all think "I know what's best for my kid". And I can guarantee you that when they saw how young Grace looked and is, they unconsciously were not even going to listen to her opinions. And then she opened up at the beginning about being a bartender and getting pregnant in college: For an Asian parent, that is the sign of failure. I really am grateful for Grace for being open and honest without letting the attitudes of all these parents in one room scare her.
The Indian mom probably says stuff like : I carried you in my stomach for 9 months and you come out like this 🤦♀️
amina almas Really? 😂African parents say the same as well 😂
Aminata McDonnell African parents always threaten to send you to africa 🥴
My mom says that lol.
I kinda agree with her
omg they say that all the frickin time!!!! no one does emotional blackmailing better than indian moms
Ummmm yes.
"That's not good enough for me, even if he's happy"
That's a recipe for a depressed kid right there. Even if the parents get the bragging rights for having a kid with a respectable job, they might not even have a kid to brag about in the future.
-oop
I agree.
That took a turn-
Let's not strawman what he meant. He said that he wanted their job choice to be "right", as in probably not a drug dealer, a stripper, a prostitute, or a hitman. He would probably think it's okay for his son or daughter to be a bartender, or retail worker, or "pro gamer" as examples.
@@Jewish_Juggernaut Exactly.
Every time the Indian lady opened her mouth, I automatically went, "Auntiji, tussi rehne do!"
True tho😂
@Jackson Storm It means "Aunty, don't even bother"
Jackson Storm it’s more like you don’t say
She works for Microsoft... HAHAHA
LITERALLY ME
My mom is an asian and I know my mom's face when she's lying and i know for a fact all of them are lying
EXACTLY OML
the lady who's wearing kid
Tbh the bartender one seemed pretty genuine to me.
obviously, but I think the bartender mom looks quite honest
I think gray shirt guy and bartender lady are honest.
Indian mom: Says she's not a tiger parent
Her kids: b r u h
My parents r Indian and I bet if they were there and doing the tiger question they would do disagree and I would be there like seriously?
Why is this dollop relatable?
Lol
Lmao 😭😭😭
4:25 even my dude said it
i can see tiger in her eyes :D
i hate how they think its ok to physically hurt their children, my asian mum hits me and she wonders why i dont want to be anywhere near her
then you respect her then she will most likely going to respect you back unless it is really that bad of course
@@ugandanknuckles9881 i do respect her, every time i make a small mistake she gets so mad and hits me i hate her so much
@@ugandanknuckles9881 I never respected my parents for spanking me. I don't understand the mentality that respect is earned by physical violence. Way to set up future abusive relationships. I've never spanked my children. I also didn't let them act up in public or disrespect me because there are ways to discipline without using violence.
@@Barec76 hitting is not a bad form of discipline. There’s a reason why pain is in every form of useful learning. It’s a necessity.
@@parentsquare9833 ok, next time you do something bad at work, get your boss to paddle you.
Ok the indian one is plain lying. I can tell, she is a tiger parents. I can tell you now that it’s going to backfire on them.
CF HellBlazer Ik their children will watch this video and be like “Huh”
Her face says that.
Actually I'm Indian too like Indian Indian not Indian American but I see a lot of my mom in her and I can see she is a tiger mom same as mine but she rarely gets in the game when it's like wayyy out not always only once in a while same as my mom. Idk I just get a lot of my mom vibes from her lol so I do think most of what she told is true
Shivangi LITERALLY she acts like my passive agressive mom🙄
Ikr
that indian mum was 100% lying most of the times, I could bet money on it
she was acting like a saint
It be like that with Indian parents lmaooo
ye right frist she said that she want her children to do something and then "I am not a tiger parent"
this a bit late but like when she said my children can marry whoever they want what she really meant i pick 10 girls for them and they pick whoever they want from those 10 girls
@@z3r0k1ng2 LMAOOO
Wow, they didn’t expect their children to take care of them? My mom literally said when I was young, “what’s the point of taking care of you if you’re not gonna take care of me when I grow up?”
Lol I was shocked too! My parents are divorced and my mom expects me to care for her when shes older but my dad is the opposite and only wishes we become successful and that's it. Hes successful on his own and does not expect us to care for him when hes older.
Either theyre lying or whitewashed
Same thoughts here. American asians are very different from the rest
They're lying
like we didn’t wish to be born, you’re (the parents) the one who wanted us to be born. why expect so much? children is not an investment.