5 Secrets to Letting Go that will make you Attractive AF

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  • @AaronDoughty44
    @AaronDoughty44  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1075

    Hey everyone! This is the most powerful meditation to help you feel safe in your own body so that you can set boundaries more easily! Listen it to 21 days and see how your life changes! Access to The Frame Technique Meditation here: ➡️ y2u.be/gpc7G2zpag4

    • @its_dade
      @its_dade 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Aaron. I found your videos earlier this week. These are the types of things I believe in, spiritually. I just wasn't practicing or had a full awakened conscious yet. I was holding on and trying to control the outcome with my woman. So much neediness when she was trying to pull away I had her on a pedestal and couldn't let go of control. I was creating so much resistance. Isaw your vid and woke up. I let go and detached from outcome. Literally the next day she is trying to come back and attracted to me. Thank you!

    • @anonymous-vw2zq
      @anonymous-vw2zq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Thanks bud

    • @OctoberGreenOfficial
      @OctoberGreenOfficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Protect your energy bro, remember the guy you paid to do that job? And didn’t finish/taking too long to finish (if I remember correctly) he basically tried you, bro. Either he was a racist (against whites) or an a-hole. either way he didn’t respect you, that there, if you don’t see respect after showing respect, automatically assume you’re going to bump heads. Do what you gotta do, you need to show your backbone Mr. Doughty. They’ll try to cause some traction, gotta let them know you are about that action, or avoid them at all costs. Or else. Some people just want to watch the world burn, zigzag away from them.

    • @uzimachi1
      @uzimachi1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Yeah I'm an empath, picked up my parents failed marriage in, all the bullies in school had so much pain in their hearts and I took it in.
      After many awakenings Ive come to realized I am talented, handsome, and lucky, and my life changed forever.
      I am a receiver of my own karma, and I put myself first because I am worth it.

    • @SSYoutube777
      @SSYoutube777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      💗🙏🏼🌈😇🌞😁🌸😍😊🙏🏼💜🐬🌷🌹🤤👏🏻😆😏👋🏻😑🤷🏼‍♀️

  • @1endlesssoul
    @1endlesssoul 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4078

    When you need nothing, you seem to attract everything💯

    • @Himami222
      @Himami222 3 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      Yeah.. Then magic happens 💫

    • @lynnwilcoxson7
      @lynnwilcoxson7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Yes it does

    • @sanchi7410
      @sanchi7410 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Exactly

    • @subhakrishna4295
      @subhakrishna4295 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Hi.. really your comments helps me much. Thank you !

    • @ohsoleohmio
      @ohsoleohmio 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      been horizontal 10years hardly need food or water definitely no need for company or sex and given up on media of all kinds, dont feel the need for anything in fact dont feel much at all ever unless i have to interact with others which just gets me depressed till im alone enough again, also im attracting absolutely nothing and can say that your comment SEEM to attract everything is indeed an illusion and just seems that way in your mind cause of some programming or w e

  • @SadafHeals
    @SadafHeals 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5688

    *Neediness is biggest killer when building relationships, LET GO of the need to be LIKED and ACCEPTED, You are WORTHY

    • @anissakh4710
      @anissakh4710 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Wow I love it ❣️

    • @SadafHeals
      @SadafHeals 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@anissakh4710 Thank you

    • @Wills276
      @Wills276 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thank you

    • @SadafHeals
      @SadafHeals 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Wills276 you are welcome:)

    • @Donnamytec
      @Donnamytec 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      In your life there are special people that lead you to your true purpose. Ask God for the answer to ANYTHING!! You will be amazed at your way of knowing Him.

  • @alimak.3320
    @alimak.3320 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1322

    “Stop abandoning yourself for others.”

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I recommend you to a love specialist to help me to restore my life partner back to me

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Message him on whatsapp

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      ➕2349155400946⏩⏭️

    • @PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945
      @PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@favourokah5113 Get a life human.

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wow, I need to write that on my wall.

  • @ytbillybob
    @ytbillybob 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

    My mother took her own life when I was 10. Thank you for helping me believe that "it's not my fault".

  • @Minnyx3
    @Minnyx3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3541

    1. Killing the neediness (validation, attention, affection, etc)
    2. Abandonment (especially for those who are empaths, stop saying yes to other people wants and learn to say no. Stop sacrificing YOURSELF for others)
    3. Let it go (accept change is constant, attachment causes pain, be here for the present moment)
    4. Forgiveness (free yourself)

    • @AccidentalWarrior144
      @AccidentalWarrior144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +139

      5. ...eat all those bananas in the background 🍌 😄

    • @jessicacastro3899
      @jessicacastro3899 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thank you

    • @erich7662
      @erich7662 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      REAL.MVP. thank you friend !!

    • @runordie2
      @runordie2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      But how do you be compassionate to someone you like without falling into these 4 traps because eventually they’ll always see you as someone they can tell the problems to

    • @m.p.6742
      @m.p.6742 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I'm still working on the saying no part to others. Cause I like helping others. But I tend to wear myself out. Then I can't do the projects I want to do for myself. 😆

  • @ajvalencia4868
    @ajvalencia4868 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1080

    “He who rules his spirit is greater than he who takes a city”. - Proverbs 16:32

  • @OscarMartinez-jo2be
    @OscarMartinez-jo2be 3 ปีที่แล้ว +933

    "stop abandoning your self for others" great words to live by ☺️

    • @rachealfaucher4520
      @rachealfaucher4520 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      literally read this as soon as he said it

    • @Rafael_The300
      @Rafael_The300 ปีที่แล้ว

      Beautiful so true

    • @StevenJacob028
      @StevenJacob028 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It is better to give then receive! This entire ideology is creating selfishness not kindness, compassion, & or a spirit of giving over a sense of self & its fn stupid, just like blaming stuff in your life how your parents were when you were 3 years old…when you are a child you think like a child & act like child but when you became a man you put your childish ways behind you…aka grow tf up!

  • @natiajohnson8207
    @natiajohnson8207 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    I’m an empath. Woke up in my late 40s and finally letting my inner child shine without guilt

    • @taidilla
      @taidilla 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Me too!!!! I’m a big ole kid🎉

    • @remic3410
      @remic3410 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Does that mean you are a lesbian?

    • @Usedperformancecarsdotcom
      @Usedperformancecarsdotcom 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ya happening now

  • @desertBruja
    @desertBruja 2 ปีที่แล้ว +575

    "The thing you crave, is the thing you need to give to yourself" yes!

    • @ericharrison7
      @ericharrison7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Absolutely right. How are you doing? Hope you are fine and staying safe out there?

    • @janeprescott7381
      @janeprescott7381 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I'm craving either a denali suv or lincoln navigator, my eyes are bigger than my pocketbook.

    • @ericharrison7
      @ericharrison7 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@janeprescott7381 hi

    • @victoriapalmer5146
      @victoriapalmer5146 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I havent figure out how to do that...

    • @jennylumbrera8284
      @jennylumbrera8284 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I love this I noticed my energy going elsewhere and I pulled back into self I had to take a step back I was like oh no I went for a great walk and tuned into me❤

  • @whiskeytalks
    @whiskeytalks 3 ปีที่แล้ว +758

    "Care only about the things that you can control, and simply let go of the things that you cannot"
    The greatest line I heard ever

    • @mcstark4912
      @mcstark4912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I really wish I could be like that. But my heart is just so soft so other people tend to not value it.

    • @karenmartin4221
      @karenmartin4221 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      What becomes surprising is when you start to realize how few things you can actually control!

    • @wrcz
      @wrcz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      maybe you should look into stoicism

    • @veronicavastine-cazenave9663
      @veronicavastine-cazenave9663 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m a damn empath. Ugh

    • @monamonet1111
      @monamonet1111 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love this

  • @garycordle5295
    @garycordle5295 3 ปีที่แล้ว +462

    You must learn to let go in order to receive, and don't be afraid to just walk away and start all over, and know your worth.

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I recommend you to a love specialist to help me to restore my life partner back to me

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Message him on whatsapp

    • @haj.1671
      @haj.1671 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks seemed to be a message for me

    • @NOMTpodcast
      @NOMTpodcast 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yea friend I have done this more than once

    • @garycordle5295
      @garycordle5295 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@haj.1671 your welcome 🙏🦋

  • @RebeccaNeffati
    @RebeccaNeffati 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

    Empath. Everything you say hits home so hard. I have spent my life being a people pleaser and have always put others before myself and it's taken me getting to the age of forty to finally realise that all of it stems from childhood trauma and that I need to start taking control of my own life now. Your channel is helping me so much with working through everything and I cannot thank you enough.

  • @katemetho72
    @katemetho72 3 ปีที่แล้ว +334

    I'm in my 60s and I am only just finding this out..
    It's never to late for self.💓

    • @cymbolichuman433
      @cymbolichuman433 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Especially Mothers are last on the list because Mothers
      are naturally giving and loving. Yet on Mother's Day, it's
      the biggest day for phone calls, flowers and appreciation
      for the person who selflessly loves her children and grandkids.

    • @dellisgibbs5823
      @dellisgibbs5823 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      So pleased to hear that as I’m 55

    • @dellisgibbs5823
      @dellisgibbs5823 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Although I’ve been watching vids for a few years now, and trying to work through childhood trauma. I really need to hear this today ( light bulb moment) and wonderful teaching

    • @JohnVKaravitis
      @JohnVKaravitis 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Actually, yes, in your case, it IS too late. Just let go now, honey. Just let go.

    • @dellisgibbs5823
      @dellisgibbs5823 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@JohnVKaravitis is it to late

  • @ravenx0x033
    @ravenx0x033 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    Honestly I don't even care about attracting people.. I just want to stop caring so much because its draining me.

    • @raleemay
      @raleemay ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sameeeeee

    • @iamjagold
      @iamjagold 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Did you find the path forward and solved your problem yet?

  • @shea5542
    @shea5542 3 ปีที่แล้ว +393

    This man just explained my whole life in 32 minutes

    • @dannimoon3240
      @dannimoon3240 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Me too...this video was so on point

    • @MALEEKIE28
      @MALEEKIE28 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Every video is like this.

    • @snowfairy63
      @snowfairy63 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Freaking same . My Mind is blown 🤯 I finally understand.

    • @stanleed.harold5457
      @stanleed.harold5457 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm 3:23 minutes in I'm done

    • @mayurisobti8538
      @mayurisobti8538 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@dannimoon3240 T

  • @Marieee-zc8ki
    @Marieee-zc8ki ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I have had such a lifelong issue with neediness, fear of rejection and validation. This is helping me so much! I want meaningful relationships, not ones that are chaotic and me being clingy. I want to build myself up, not make that someone else's responsibility.

    • @MarieN8959
      @MarieN8959 ปีที่แล้ว

      But wait ! How does Aaron remember stuff of when he is was only 1yo ? How can he tell how he felt then ?

    • @Marieee-zc8ki
      @Marieee-zc8ki ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @MarieN8959 I can remember things like seeing a mouse run across the floor and being scared, I was only 3. So sometimes if things are traumatic to our young brains they get almost inprinted

  • @MEDIAtricked
    @MEDIAtricked ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Some years ago, I was in the hospital for a hemorrhage in my brain, I luckily survived without permanent damage but there was a secondary issue and the doctors told me that if it doesn't improve by a specific date I would need to get surgery again. I was freaking out and trying to force myself to get better and it would only worsen. One day, I decided that I can't fight it anymore and that I would accept whatever outcome would come and let go of worrying. The next day or two on the deadline date, suddenly my situation improved so much that I didn't need the surgery and could soon leave the hospital. Letting go was such a game-changer.

  • @CobaltLobo
    @CobaltLobo ปีที่แล้ว +147

    We gotta stop setting ourselves on fire to keep others warm 🙏

  • @ttt-dm2qj
    @ttt-dm2qj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +453

    Empathy requires a strong boundaries. Empathy without boundaries is a self-destruction.
    Hello from 🇬🇧.
    ❤️❤️❤️

    • @Corey-gb1rx
      @Corey-gb1rx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      jeez amen

    • @nylaclancy2655
      @nylaclancy2655 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So true

    • @WhoamI-su7pg
      @WhoamI-su7pg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Something I had to learn the hard way

    • @Corey-gb1rx
      @Corey-gb1rx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@WhoamI-su7pg Hey now we really understand it don't we haha

    • @ginamangin6756
      @ginamangin6756 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Needed to hear that✌

  • @cityofghosts4037
    @cityofghosts4037 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I believed you were trying to help people so badly, as opposed to just making money from TH-cam. You are a genuine chap, you speak way wiser than your age and I reckon you would be great fun to hang out with and a good friend.
    Thank you for making this.

  • @mikeshalinsky4777
    @mikeshalinsky4777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +443

    “Everyone is doing the best they can from the level of consciousness that they are at” 💯💯💯
    The minute I truly realized this was the minute I stopped being so angry with other people. It’s a great attitude to have!

    • @patrickrutherford5553
      @patrickrutherford5553 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I know for a fact I’m not doing the absolute best I can .

    • @courtneycallen
      @courtneycallen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I don’t really agree that your statement is always going to be true but I do think it’s what we need to believe when dealing with others; whether they actually are doing their best or not. I had the same thought a year and a half ago and it completely cleared my mind of certain inadequacies I felt and resentment i harbored.

    • @mikepiccoli6378
      @mikepiccoli6378 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      facts

    • @abdulhamid239
      @abdulhamid239 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      please write on a board and explain each point.use examples.

    • @najla1981
      @najla1981 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@patrickrutherford5553 to to 555555⁵5

  • @bryrayne9666
    @bryrayne9666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +215

    Letting go of expectations are also a huge help. Working on yourself, your goals keeping yourself busy will help distract you from the pain and you will grow, and blossom into something amazing and beautiful.

  • @brandymasters7284
    @brandymasters7284 3 ปีที่แล้ว +244

    I’m an empath and I can totally “feel” peoples intentions/vibes. So many of my life experiences in this video, I’m mind blown.

    • @thedancingswede1191
      @thedancingswede1191 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I was thinking the same thing. I feel like he’s talking about my life

    • @aleasecreates
      @aleasecreates 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I hate this gift....
      fuck what people intend
      empaths are too much
      in they own head
      feeling other people's
      bullshit
      ITS THE GIFT AND
      THE CURSE

    • @M2J89
      @M2J89 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My sentiment exactly 💯.

    • @M2J89
      @M2J89 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am an empath 100 percent.

    • @liquidcane3745
      @liquidcane3745 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same....

  • @adesiredperspective8436
    @adesiredperspective8436 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    1. Let go of validation, & give yourself validation.
    2. Stop abandoning yourself for other people. Do not over extend. Say no to the things you know you don’t want to do. Start showing up for you.
    3. Staying attached to things that have proven they will hurt you is a for sure way to cause yourself more pain. Becoming un attached to things and be happy that everything changes
    4. Forgiven them through understanding that humans can only do the best they can with the consciousness they are at. For give them by not giving them the meaning anyway. Treat people how they treat themselves and don’t judge.
    5. Choose you, become aware, get spiritual deliverance, have a exorcism counselor for spiritual warefar. Join groups that heal, yoga, meditation, something active. And something new

  • @ketolicious-4914
    @ketolicious-4914 3 ปีที่แล้ว +210

    Let go and let in - 100% works! The universe gives more of not we want, but what we feel. Feel attractive and receive more of that. Feel unattractive and receive more of that. The receiving does not stop. Be selective of how you feel as it is the key.

    • @sand4463
      @sand4463 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I like how we feel, not how we want. I love it. Thanks much 🙏❤😇

    • @freshstrt3140
      @freshstrt3140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Helpful, thank you very much

    • @patrickrutherford5553
      @patrickrutherford5553 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have always imagined what you just said. But didn’t know whether the feeling was the cause of the effect.
      Was I unattractive because I felt unattractive? Or did I feel unattractive because I was unattractive?
      I do think that both may have an effect on each other

    • @ketolicious-4914
      @ketolicious-4914 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@patrickrutherford5553 Interesting. We get what we believe in. I personally believe that the feeling is the cause, though. It is like that question: What came first - the chicken or the egg?

    • @patrickrutherford5553
      @patrickrutherford5553 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ketolicious-4914 easy. God creates the chicken .

  • @jeremylewis5154
    @jeremylewis5154 ปีที่แล้ว +181

    "Everyone is always doing the best they can from the level of consciousness that they're at." Wow...Thank you for this.

    • @starjuice9025
      @starjuice9025 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yeah I needed this

  • @DanielSquires
    @DanielSquires 2 ปีที่แล้ว +198

    A carefree attitude is a magnet 🧲 to attracting what you want. The more we let go, the more we actually gain control! ✨👌🏽

    • @charliijean
      @charliijean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      A carefree attitude is how you get fired from your job and end up a drug addict living next to a bridge because the trolls don't want you.

    • @DAL201107
      @DAL201107 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No. Your comment is laughably wrong. 100% off base with this. I can’t believe people watch this ba on TH-cam.

    • @kenluker7894
      @kenluker7894 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@charliijean lmao .. a sensible comment thank you

    • @TheyCallMe_TC
      @TheyCallMe_TC 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@charliijean you have a employee/ negative scarcity mindset, we don't need that around us please leave

  • @tramaincassar9882
    @tramaincassar9882 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Self confessed super empath! Thanks bro, everything you’re saying was my experience in life also. I only just realise this at age 43. Kudos to you for sharing your truth ✊🏼❤️

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +284

    *"When something is important enough for you, you do it even if the odds are against you."*
    I hope this message helps you. 🙂

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I recommend you to a love specialist to help me to restore my life partner back to me

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Message him on whatsapp

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      ➕2349155400946⏩⏭️

    • @sophiec3592
      @sophiec3592 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Bring a parent ^ you see no barriers to protect your own

    • @haj.1671
      @haj.1671 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      💓

  • @deannayoung5311
    @deannayoung5311 3 ปีที่แล้ว +135

    When I finally did this" 💞
    My life changed dramatically
    I'm happier
    I'm more at peace
    Knowing My self worth 💫🙏

    • @erikbartlett2147
      @erikbartlett2147 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If that's an actual picture of you. How can you not know your worth? If you are pretty on the inside as you are outside. That would be pure gold in and of itself.

    • @dikpoundher2361
      @dikpoundher2361 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      keep it up girlfriend.

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    *If you are reading this, never ever give up. We will succeed. I'm cheering for you!*
    Have a great day! 🖤

  • @TheSilverShadow17
    @TheSilverShadow17 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    As an introvert who stopped giving a damn about what anyone says and thinks, this helped massively. I honestly don't care if I'm alone or don't participate in social interactions, because I don't have to :D

  • @meghanwilliams6436
    @meghanwilliams6436 3 ปีที่แล้ว +256

    Feeling pretty lost lately, and you’ve helped me to realise something I could never understand. How when we’re empathic we’re so concerned about keeping the other person in a good mental state, worrying about why they’re not happy and if it’s you’re fault, because we fear abandonment or we fear that we won’t get our needs met. I had a parent who was very moody and depending on her mood was how I would be treated. My whole life depended on her mood, and now I’ve created a life where my whole life depends on the other person’s mood.
    Wow. Time for some real healing.

    • @kristinfranklin5911
      @kristinfranklin5911 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      I was that parent to my daughter. And she and I have a relationship, but she keeps it very superficial and distant. And of course the more she does that, the more I try bcuz I 'need' it to be deeper and need her approval that I was a good mom. Then being needy pushes her further away bcuz she doesn't have to be around my unhealthy codependent behavior anymore. She will avoid me for months.
      So, forgiving myself for not giving her more stability, or not showing her that it's okay to shine her own light as bright as possible when she was little.
      I hope she is able to heal from my destructive behaviors while I was raising her. Bcuz I love her with my entire being and only want the very best for her... I am so very proud of her and what she has accomplished and how she is so loving to others and the amazing woman she has become.. I hope one day she and I can have a deeper relationship like I have with my own mom. bcuz my daughter truly is the most important thing/person to me. She is sooo amazing! and beautiful - but she is afraid to shine her own light. She is so inspiring to me - even without shining her light - bcuz I see her determination and accomplishments and I have seen the light she is afraid to shine. I want to go back in time and tell that little girl: You are worthy and you ARE enough! You are beautiful and you have the potential to be whatever you want to be.. Dream big and Go be YOU!

    • @adilo7467
      @adilo7467 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@kristinfranklin5911 A mother’s love has no bounds ❤️❤️

    • @orianam9835
      @orianam9835 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@kristinfranklin5911 just tell her this- the last like you wrote. Tell her she can be whatever she wants and that she can shine her light
      I would love my mum , dad or grandma has told me this .
      It can possibly help her heal if she hears it from you 😘

    • @zeus-ow8li
      @zeus-ow8li 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Empathy is a good trait . Don't confuse empathy with people pleasing

    • @MorphinGaming
      @MorphinGaming 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Felt that…

  • @kiermi3067
    @kiermi3067 3 ปีที่แล้ว +169

    I’m definitely an empath. I resonated so much with everything in this video. Today I start letting go of my trauma. I validate myself

  • @Katrica670
    @Katrica670 3 ปีที่แล้ว +155

    "I care what Nobody thinks!" I need No one!" "I detach from All others out there!" "I am myself!" "I stay grounded in my own body/in my own frame!" - Aaron Doughty

    • @willelniff1437
      @willelniff1437 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What a prisoner of his own silent denial huh…

    • @Purplecolors88
      @Purplecolors88 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes!!!!!!! most profound statement!!

  • @ChaTaraLM
    @ChaTaraLM ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I knew there was a reason I kept coming back to this page. My older brother had gotten sick and my mom was always at the hospital with him. After that, it seemed like she was always taking someone else in so the reach for attention and validation from her was never-ending. Things make so much sense. This was extremely helpful.

  • @beforeyoureyes5801
    @beforeyoureyes5801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Love yourself without being selfish, understand yourself and be your best friend, Forgive yourself, and when the things you asked for starts showing up go for it and know you are worth it.

  • @THANATOS-PRIME
    @THANATOS-PRIME 3 ปีที่แล้ว +100

    I’m the happiest with myself then I have been basically ever. Live your life the way it makes sense for you and if you’re not happy with your story change it because only you can.

  • @crystalcrawford5098
    @crystalcrawford5098 2 ปีที่แล้ว +207

    I'm in an empath and I let go and let God. Everything comes easy to me, I live a blessed life❣️🙏🏿

    • @kaboom6157
      @kaboom6157 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You know there are very religious people out there that pray hard every day and none of their prayers gets answered even til the day they die. I think i quit myself..
      You are just privileged, nothing to do with your beliefs. Belief in higher power won't rid of unfortunate circumstances. And it's very sad, i wish this was not true but it is.

    • @nomg563
      @nomg563 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Nat Smythe I agree and disagree, Disagreeing with identifying with labels e.g "you are a people pleaser". No, that's counterintuitive to actually recovering. the commenter may have presented themselves as one but that is not who they are. You are not an illness/mental condition etc, you are just experiencing it! I do agree with the term "empath" isnt' really meaningful. People need to stop identifying as their issues or accepting labels from others, then half the work is done.

    • @karenmartin4221
      @karenmartin4221 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I’m not so sure any Empath would actually say, “everything comes easy to me.”🤷🏼‍♀

    • @fitnesssoup7553
      @fitnesssoup7553 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don’t believe in the concept of “empath”. To me, that’s not a particular identity.
      It’s the absence of “other” (unhealthy psychological disposition). Such as extreme narcissism, Etc.
      As a consequence, one is empathetic, caring, considerate, genuinely interested, a good listener and other similar qualities.
      Has the ability to be objective and recognize that everyone’s worldview is unique.

    • @dannymeyer3256
      @dannymeyer3256 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kaboom6157 I understand what the reason is for you thinking this way. See the same things you are mentioning .

  • @Pizza3.0
    @Pizza3.0 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Everything he said about validating oneself and childhood trauma is something I can relate to on a personal level, feeling broken and not worthy because my parents divorced when I was 12 and it left a huge hole there so I’ve always felt the way he’s explaining but as I get older I realize more and more

  • @highliving-animatedvideos5831
    @highliving-animatedvideos5831 3 ปีที่แล้ว +200

    Letting go often feels so hard, but almost everything we do that is genuinely helpful, is uncomfortable at first ❤️
    Most of all, remember that nothing in life is as painful as staying stuck where you don’t belong ❤️🚀🌙

  • @AB-ec5qv
    @AB-ec5qv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    “Addicted to someone controlling me.” Story of my life. 💡Thank you.

    • @juliette1884
      @juliette1884 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm opposite I dodnt want anyone controlling me I like being my own boss I'm addicted to this But feels okay being the boss

    • @kimhumiston2686
      @kimhumiston2686 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That WAS me. Not anymore.

  • @cammiecam3032
    @cammiecam3032 2 ปีที่แล้ว +196

    Im an empath and I definitely suffer from childhood trauma. I was abused every day. I was responsible for taking care of everyone including my abusive narcissist mother. And i suffer from abandonment issues. I’ve always put everyone’s needs before my own. Im working on me now tho. Thanks for the video 💜

    • @chancesanders2751
      @chancesanders2751 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      God bless you honey i know how you feel now trying to fix a girl that she needs to help her self and she says she will but I got to let go keep your head up babe you are worthy of your own happiness and someone needs to be nice to you IV learned that

    • @cammiecam3032
      @cammiecam3032 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@chancesanders2751 thank you. 💜 let her go for your own sanity. You cant fix anyone she has to do the work herself. Hugs and blessings.

    • @lostbear23
      @lostbear23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ohh you’re an empath

    • @NH-vp6qk
      @NH-vp6qk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey much love the program
      Codependent anonymous helped me a lot
      With improving the relationships in my life

    • @danielfreeland1638
      @danielfreeland1638 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We can do this.. we can change..we can be who we always wanted to be

  • @Sage_The_AntiHero
    @Sage_The_AntiHero ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I am that what light created me to be. Thank you for guiding me to my own light❤🙏🏾

  • @themormonblacksheep
    @themormonblacksheep ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Detachment is a skill I had to learn. Great content.

    • @joelorei2146
      @joelorei2146 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm trying to learn

    • @JA-fi5fw
      @JA-fi5fw 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It pays off.
      Believe in yourself.

  • @m.k.6633
    @m.k.6633 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Wow i was a female version of you! I realized I was emotionally unavailable because I was always chasing emotionally unavailable men, I had such fear of rejection I dated men who treated me horribly and men who were nice I was not interested. Now I love myself and will never let someone treat me bad. Your amazing thanks for this video

  • @theresas643
    @theresas643 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    As an empath, it was difficult for me to put myself first than others. Growing up with a dysfunctional and emotionally unavailable and invalidating parents (until now), all my life I felt like I am not being accepted, not lovable, not worthy and not good enough. I am 37 now, and I just started to realize all of those beliefs and slowly untying them from my being - one step at a time.

    • @jennifersimonian2103
      @jennifersimonian2103 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I could have written that and it would be the exact same besides the name and I'm 38 years old but everything else is exactly true although I am quite lovable people just don't realize or appreciate how lovable I am

    • @larickalewis6342
      @larickalewis6342 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same story & I’m 32 you just gave me even more hope I’m slowly unlearning A LOT about myself one step at a time🤞🏾💛
      ~love&light💫

  • @benniluna2656
    @benniluna2656 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I’m an empath. Wow! There is so much wisdom in this. I’m going to have to watch it many more times. Thank you so much!

  • @erin6412
    @erin6412 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I have been searching for 56 years for answers why I am so different.
    I've been to countless counselors and psychiatrist came across your video yesterday.
    I have been crying off and on since then because you literally saved my life you gave me an explanation as to what I am, and how to move forward.
    I am a 110 percent empath.
    Words cannot describe the Liberation I feel in my heart and my soul and my mind.
    thank you thank you thank you so much for doing what you do you are a blessing and my gratitude cannot be measured.

  • @mander1n693
    @mander1n693 2 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    I didn’t realize how emotional this would make me. Thank you for sharing your experience. I experienced childhood trauma and I am very empathic. My mother was very emotionally unstable and I always felt that I had to hide my emotions for her, and always put on a happy act for her. I continued this throughout my life. I also tend to put myself last in order to care for everyone around me. I became very anxious and started to have panic attacks on a daily basis. I am attracted to broken people especially men and I am currently talking to someone that I really want to fix. He is emotionally unstable and depressed. I want so badly to help him, but I’m realizing now that I am hurting myself on the process. I feel obsessed with trying to make him happy. Everyday is a struggle but I am coming to terms with myself in letting go and being more aware of these patterns. Anyone who is going through this, you are not alone. And you will break free from this. Peace and love ❤️

    • @sarahcopey
      @sarahcopey 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hi! Are you myself!?! Hugs!

    • @Taryngracia
      @Taryngracia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hang in there; been there with the need to fix, nurture, etc, and put their needs above my own … working on it but still a work in progress! When you get to point of believing 1- you’re worthy 2- you can’t “fix” people 3- & everything else in this video is spot on! Sounds like you’re working on it well & heading in a positive direction!

    • @BeingMimo
      @BeingMimo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dont worry it gets easier with time,take more time for you,learn to be happy by yourself by doing things you love ,trust me it isnt easy but its doable and such an amazing feeling at the end!keep fighting💪🏾

    • @BlessedByTheeMostHigh
      @BlessedByTheeMostHigh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Take things one day at a time! Sending you positive vibes and healing energies. I hope everything works out for you!

    • @mander1n693
      @mander1n693 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sarahcopey hugs back atcha!!

  • @ambermcduffie4273
    @ambermcduffie4273 2 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    Your definition of forgiveness is so good. “Recognizing that’s their shit not yours”…that’s so much more doable than what I’ve thought forgiveness was. Great video ❤️

    • @JG-cj4db
      @JG-cj4db 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Very true. Took me a long time to understand that. All the backstabbing, cheating, fakeness, etc. done by others is in no way a definition of who I am. Why? Cause it's not my shit, it's there's. Wish them well in the future for their sake, forgive and let go.

    • @jolietharding9464
      @jolietharding9464 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Asking myself what is mine and what is theirs is how I got over a severe sensitivity and understood world reality better. ( hsp )

  • @itstime9986
    @itstime9986 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm an empathy. I just found this channel this week. You are really helping me increase my vibration. And feel better about myself.

  • @Howlite__
    @Howlite__ ปีที่แล้ว +197

    ~Timestamps~
    2:46 - You can become your own source of validation.
    3:43 - We tend to attract people we feel familiar with
    6:30 - We may have shadow wounds that are holding us back
    7:39 - We replay patterns from our childhood
    9:57 - Their stuff had nothing to do with you
    13:44 - Is it too hard for you to set boundaries?
    15:10 - Saying yes to others means saying no to you
    19:20 - You and your reality are constantly changing
    21:40 - We attract people were familiar with
    22:42 - Start practicing forgiveness
    25:18 You can change the meaning of past events
    26:56 - Pay-offs make us feel "safe"
    30:13 - The more you let go, the more you receive
    31:16 - Being in your own frame makes you magnetic AF!

  • @deannawells1593
    @deannawells1593 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    You sound like the masculine version of my life. I am a 44 year old woman that is just now learning this, and am in therapy with severe anxiety attacks. Thank you so much for sharing this story. I am in tears right now. 😢. I am having the hardest time learning to validating myself.

    • @happy11111100
      @happy11111100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Next time you have a panic attack listen to what i am about to tell you, Think of a river flowing freely if you were to try and stop that water flowing it will build up and eventually all come down in a big surge ,
      When you feel a panic attack coming on think of the water flowing freely same as the panic attack let it flow freely through you it will get weaker if you show no resistance once you have done what i say a couple of times you will gain confidence to beat them and remember panic attacks cannot hurt you say to yourself what is the worst it can do to me

  • @Fusterclucked00
    @Fusterclucked00 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    I was an overweight child. I was rejected and struggled to make friends, it stunted my social skills. I wasn't attractive to girls, I wasn't a desirable friend to guys. I've gotten thinner and got better at socializing, but that neediness, desperation, and fear of rejection from friends and romantic interests is still there and has cost me so much. This was great to hear, thank you.

    • @jamesgraves9858
      @jamesgraves9858 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I was in a car accident when I was 11. Lacerations, broken jaw, fractured skull. It really brought me some perspective that I don't think it is healthy for children to have. It led to a negative self-awareness and anxiety. I know what you mean. I'm sorry. Childhood is important and it really shapes your behaviors. Also grew up in a hoarding household (no friends coming over). It's tough man. It's partially destroying my relationship with my gf but we're good people and our weaknesses can make us strong in so many other ways. Don't be too hard on yourself. Take care

    • @Thegoldenchild415
      @Thegoldenchild415 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey brother. Take baby steps. Fake the confidence until you really have it. Good luck on your journey sir. 🙏🏾💯

    • @joannesuzieburlison7128
      @joannesuzieburlison7128 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm really sorry. I've had a lot of self hatred that was unnecessary. None of what happened is your fault. I hope you get some therapy or emotional support. It can be really hard. We all hear you and we hope you start to feel better.

  • @luxeno_
    @luxeno_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +141

    I’m an empath and just the sheer amount of times I said “wow”, it seemed like every other sentence resonated with me. I recently went through detaching, letting go, forgiveness, expanding my consciousness and at 23 years old, I’m in the best shape physically and mentally than ever. This was beyond reassuring and enlightening. Thank you.

    • @charliijean
      @charliijean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Everyone is an empath and you are not Deanna Troy.

    • @willnorthcuttiii4905
      @willnorthcuttiii4905 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I 100 agree and feel exactly what you're saying for sure

    • @kennethhall9202
      @kennethhall9202 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Say no don’t abandon what you need for others would they do it for you !everything changes why stay attached to
      It

    • @kennethhall9202
      @kennethhall9202 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am living like a crazy person now for abandoning myself no
      Energy dirty house not eating suicidal thoughts can’t stand anything now no friends no one to
      Cry to
      But I be ok cause I
      Am strong and I
      Am worth it

    • @kennethhall9202
      @kennethhall9202 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Freedom it’s yours take it ❤️👍

  • @Eringggggggggggggggggggggg
    @Eringggggggggggggggggggggg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    When you let go, you let in the best ❤️

  • @alisload2772
    @alisload2772 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Not only am I loving this video, I’m loving the comment section. Everybody sharing their experience, strength and hope. Everybody being kind to one another. It’s good to see. I love you guys.

  • @ginacerruti5662
    @ginacerruti5662 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow Aaron you have changed so significantly…you were always brilliant, lovely, beyond insightful but to observe your confidence broaden, incredible growth, & comfort within your skin & fluidity of your message is remarkable. Solid bad ass!

  • @DivastarGoddess
    @DivastarGoddess 2 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    "everyone is doing the best they can from the level of consciousness they're at" are very powerful words of enlightenment my friend, thank you Aaron! 💖

  • @johnrodriquez1933
    @johnrodriquez1933 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My current relationship has opened my eyes to this. It’s a big problem I have. And I now realize this is completely on me. We cannot try to control something that isn’t controllable. It only causes our own suffering.

  • @sylviafigueroa3501
    @sylviafigueroa3501 2 ปีที่แล้ว +135

    I’m an empath. I am still learning how to say no. I am proud of my accomplishments, despite the sacrifices and abandonments you clearly mention. As a result of “letting go” I have published my long-awaited memoir. Thank you! Your video is so empowering.

    • @WeRNthisToGetHer
      @WeRNthisToGetHer 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's actually codependency not being an empath. Many empaths are codependent not all codependents are empaths. What he's describing is not symptoms of being an empath, it's codependency. Not being able to say no is people pleasing and a manifestation of codependency not empathy. You can be an empath and have healthy boundaries. Codependents don't have healthy boundaries.

  • @00tad
    @00tad 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m an empathetic codependent with narcissistic tendencies. But I’m getting help and improving myself authentically!!!

    • @hokaicila
      @hokaicila 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🙌🏻

  • @malachisproduction
    @malachisproduction ปีที่แล้ว +12

    The more I tried the more I failed..Best thing I ever did was stop trying and let go. Ever since, everything I wanted has been coming to me. Crazy how it works and it's the complete opposite of what we are taught.

  • @lukestreff1872
    @lukestreff1872 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    This guy is so smart- I love absorbing your knowledge, life experience, and wisdom from this wise ol’ owl.

  • @r1ggzzzztv
    @r1ggzzzztv ปีที่แล้ว +113

    I'm an empath. The Abandonment part hit me hard because that exactly is how my life is. Until it hit me sooo hard that it drove me crazy because I feel I have the responsibility for everyone especially the one I loved that just left me out of everything I have done being responsible enough but still everyone I cared about just put me aside for their own happiness. It sucked then this video brought sooo much sense to me. This has changed my perspective on how I should approach my daily life from now on.

    • @Youareindenial
      @Youareindenial ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I have been there myself in the past my friend and I understand the darkness can consume you. I am in breakup right now and how I deal with them has changed massively. I think about it this way. I do love her and I do care about her but I want the best for her and if that’s not me then I’m ok with that
      I understand I am not perfect and have things to work on. I use this time to focus on myself and my shortfallings to make myself better for the next person that comes along. All hardships in life are an opportunity for growth, we just need to notice that they are an opportunity and cease it. Take time to focus on yourself and I promise you that not only will you feel better but you will either reattract that person or someone even better.

  • @williamskris6335
    @williamskris6335 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Absolutely Truth! TY for sharing! Stay present and forgive and love yourself and others!!!

  • @nmgullick
    @nmgullick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    I’m an empath and have always lived my life for others. My biggest fears are rejection, abandonment and disapproval. I’ve had more failed relationships than anyone I know. Everyone tells me I need to learn to love myself first and I never knew what that meant. This video is the first time I have started to grasp that meaning. Thank you for this! I will do the meditation and will comment after seeing how it changes my life.

    • @niaane8567
      @niaane8567 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You can choose to narrate a different story for yourself.

    • @samanthamaclaren8439
      @samanthamaclaren8439 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Nicole G - you have just described my personality with startling accuracy!

    • @missyoz4468
      @missyoz4468 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do Tony Robbins 30 day challenge. I am an alpha woman. U have the power to be one too!! I AM AN EMPATH, N FELT EVERYTHING U FEEL!! U CAN CHOOSE TO STOP THAT SHIT!! WHETHER U THINK U CAN, OR U CAN'T, UR RIGHT! if u read this, STOP what ur doing, look this things up, n change ur life!! All u need in life, IS U.. AND A GOOD NETWORK OF POWERFUL WOMEN as friends. U can change ur power for U!! There's a difference between being an empath and being someone's doormat

    • @danieldixon4568
      @danieldixon4568 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me as well. I started to realize why all my boyfriends cheat....yesterday it donned on me that it was their issue not mine. it was always about them not me....

    • @charliijean
      @charliijean 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Have you seen an actual mental health professional?

  • @ellesbells902
    @ellesbells902 2 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    What you do with your time and energy is more important than other peoples' level of support for you or judgements against you. Your work is paramount because your gift you have to offer the world is unique to only you. Rise above the haters. Use the energy, and redirect it to benefit your cause.

    • @31tentacles
      @31tentacles 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I will, thank you!

  • @Trendspottify
    @Trendspottify 3 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    I really love Aaron’s Sagittarius vibes. Honest, humorous, open, direct, wise. He is sharing his journey to help others grow. That’s an inspiring leader with the right intentions. 💡🙂👏

  • @CC-ep5px
    @CC-ep5px 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    AARON THIS IS INCREDIBLE!!! ABSOLUTELY RESONATES WITH ME!!!! Popped up on my youtube feed this am and clicked on it! YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

  • @luna-dk1cb
    @luna-dk1cb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Yesterday I was in that low vibration of fear thinking about how we're being controlled, the matrix etc. I realized I fell right into that trap. I trust that the Universe is with me, with all of us

    • @BestFavorite
      @BestFavorite 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      We got this

    • @Corey-gb1rx
      @Corey-gb1rx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      yes all those things are actually our greatest teachers propelling us to ascend further. It's almost like the ones "controlling" us are actually trying the hardest to wake us up.

    • @BestFavorite
      @BestFavorite 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Corey-gb1rx great outlook- very insightful

    • @luna-dk1cb
      @luna-dk1cb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Corey-gb1rx yeah everything happens for a reason, be it negative or positive. the world needed a shake

  • @santbr
    @santbr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    My spiritual awakening happened in 2020 in the middle of the COVID 19 pandemic at age 34. It totally changed my life and freed me from so many demons. This video is amazing, thank you so much for it! I started this video feeling extremely anxious, now I'm relaxed and calm.

  • @Kumachanchan
    @Kumachanchan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I am in my 50s, healthy and in shape, have listened to many many talks, podcasts etc and this am for the first time in many years, finally understood about abandonment. I am floored and so grateful to have found your site. Thank you Aaron. I will be following your channel and you have helped this empath understand. God bless 🙌

    • @indysuewho5411
      @indysuewho5411 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow you hit this spot on…. I’m an empath and I do everything for everyone. I try to please everyone and never think about how much it hurts me in the long run

  • @leemorris2601
    @leemorris2601 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes,I am an empath,and had to learn to stop abandoning myself for others,but I haven't fully connected to myself yet,this video was a big help.

  • @starlaramm431
    @starlaramm431 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is me. I am letting go. I'm a major empath to the point I can feel other people's feelings. Consistently having the need to help and fix them. Give myself to them and not leaving enough for my own self. Thank you for your wisdom.

  • @LilLumie
    @LilLumie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    Hahaha “I was attracting emotionally unavailable ppl but I was actually emotionally unavailable” 🤣 I’ve been celibate since my last break up // I think a lot of that was from listening to ur vids over the years I’ve really reclaimed myself 🙏✨☯️ ty for so many perspective shifts

    • @taramarsden7593
      @taramarsden7593 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Best video you’ve ever done!!

    • @bpassion4fashion581
      @bpassion4fashion581 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I am so in the space of reclaiming myself . It’s okay to admit that we choose not to be available to others bc we want to be available to ourselves.

    • @sayusayme7729
      @sayusayme7729 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can relate , you

    • @SacredVillage1
      @SacredVillage1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bpassion4fashion581 thx for that reminder ❤

    • @valeriecisneros2543
      @valeriecisneros2543 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      OMG I just broke up too, and I found out that I am the one who is emotionally unavailable, I hurt men first then I play the victim and I have no idea what why I do that. Moving foward, I am thinking about going celibate too

  • @williamd9879
    @williamd9879 2 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    I found you're video self-revealing. It made me think in a different way about myself. I was self-loathing and lonely. accepting oneself is probably the biggest hurdle to personally overcome. We all feel inadequate from time to time, but accepting oneself as an acceptable human being is one of the hardest things to do. This video helped me realize that I'm an o.k. person. I am on the road to accepting myself. thank you. by the way, I am 72 years old.

  • @hulkblack89
    @hulkblack89 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The way I relate to Aaron is crazy! Ex step mom was crazy too violent and narcissistic. Drove my brother and I through hell. I have had to learn to forgive and let go. Thank you for this Aaron, you are truly a light in this world ❤👊🏾

  • @nathan62280
    @nathan62280 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I appreciate your transformation into a Hippie Thor! Your a powerful creator and I've been expanding my conciousness with you for years. Thanks for your tireless efforts Aaron.

    • @AaronDoughty44
      @AaronDoughty44  3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      lol thank you!

    • @sanchi7410
      @sanchi7410 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He does look like thor-

    • @kaj177
      @kaj177 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂

    • @tomparker5934
      @tomparker5934 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sanchi7410 Damn right! I almost expect to see Thor's Hammer in the background.

  • @ashleyconway4137
    @ashleyconway4137 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    All children deserve love and healthy attention. It’s ok and Healthy to Grieve/Mourn loss, including the nourishment one needed while growing up.
    Yes I’m extremely empathetic

  • @_beYOUtiful_chaos
    @_beYOUtiful_chaos ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Empath here! A very wonderful and also HARD gift. I also need validation as well. I had great parents but was never validated. Have trouble with boundaries like you with saying no. I'm really trying to work on this. It's been really affecting me lately. Thank you for all your videos Aaron! ❤Much love!

    • @NlCKELODEON
      @NlCKELODEON ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This so much! If you ever needed validation, you've earned it! You're crushin it!

    • @MarkXavior-t8j
      @MarkXavior-t8j ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Took the words right out of my mouth

    • @Benjy86
      @Benjy86 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      "Empaths" aren't real. That's just a fancy word for codependent.

    • @tinas2857
      @tinas2857 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@Benjy86really? There’s a lot more to empaths than you may know. Empathy is innate; co-dependency involves people-pleasing behaviours and abandoning one’s own needs for the sake of others. Two totally different things.

    • @Damesanglante
      @Damesanglante 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Benjy86 You had a two-digit iq moment.
      ''Stop it, get some help.''

  • @laurentolbert7
    @laurentolbert7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Keep going deeper yess! U literally just gave me like three epiphanies

  • @alidesroches9187
    @alidesroches9187 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    I’m crying- this is so relatable to my life right now and exactly what I needed to hear….

  • @miyannaable
    @miyannaable 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    I can relate to your Mom - I lost my mother at 15, and my father at 19. Losing them left me scarred for several years. To top it off, my father got a girlfriend when I was 16, and she hated me. I was always made to clean the entire house for her, polish the fancy furniture she brought into the house, and she actually turned my father against me and my brothers for months. (He actually apologized for this a couple of years later, when he saw what he had done. He had just been super vulnerable). This was 1 month after we had lost our Mom. It took an incredible amount of work to get over all that, after I nearly drank myself to death. So a lot of what you have to say resonates with me personally - and the positive stuff is incredible!! It took me years to absorb the positive affirmations I had learned, but that's just it - I had to keep at it. I had - and still have - to do the work. You're brilliant Aaron - thank you for your messages!!

    • @elanaamyre
      @elanaamyre 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🙏❤

    • @miyannaable
      @miyannaable 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@elanaamyre Thank you so much - that is very sweet!!

    • @elanaamyre
      @elanaamyre 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@miyannaable Wish you the best of the best! 🌟

    • @amarino5179
      @amarino5179 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow, I am sorry for your your incredible losses! You are still here and an inspiration for others for what you have endured and have come out the other side. Much, love, respect and Prayers for you! Stay Strong Miyanna and keep inspiring!

  • @tm-art2685
    @tm-art2685 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    This video is so much deeper than the title suggests. I was not expecting this. The way Aaron describes formative years and resulting behaviors is so useful.

  • @meditasjontreningpilatesyo1706
    @meditasjontreningpilatesyo1706 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish I had a friend like you. Someone I could share life's development with. Life lessons at all levels.

  • @AmyLou79
    @AmyLou79 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I’m an empath! This video is 100% truth. When I realized my mother’s emotional issues were not a reflection of me, my life changed for the better. Also, your comment about abandoning yourself for another person is something I’ve done for most of my life (co-dependent). I now put myself first and I’ve found happiness.

    • @darrenmcintosh8471
      @darrenmcintosh8471 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      i bet she is a narc like my mother project everything on to you

  • @casavalle3857
    @casavalle3857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I am an empath & also a Mexican Family Psychotherapist and have been studying emotional abuse & narcissism. You are completely right and most empaths need help, because by the time they realize all of this, they have suffered a big TRAUMA

    • @margaretryles5870
      @margaretryles5870 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      To all those narcissists out there: 🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕 don't have enough middle fingers but you get the point.

    • @RicardoLopez-ty4kn
      @RicardoLopez-ty4kn 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@S.L.O.P. on point.

    • @blass5506
      @blass5506 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why how Mexican psychotherapist? 🤔

  • @lynn8128
    @lynn8128 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I'm empathic, and I can relate because I feel deeply and feel the need to always make sure everyone is alright while ignoring me

  • @cecilb.brooks2739
    @cecilb.brooks2739 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes!
    I'm an Empath ✨️🕊
    I totally resonate with this powerful message.
    Thank you for sharing this information. 🙏🏾

  • @dayanenet
    @dayanenet 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    So relatable. I’m on my healing journey, going through the process of letting go of the past and identifying things that no longer serve me or that I can’t control … and hearing you gave a warm feeling that I’m on the right path🙏🏻 congratulations on your journey and growth and thanks for sharing with us

    • @philippealexis
      @philippealexis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very relatable indeed. Just like he says, I'd also find it very hard to trust someone whose background seems less than truthful.

  • @theoneonly8916
    @theoneonly8916 2 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    Everything you’re saying, is speaking to my SOUL! This, every single bit of this is me. And I’m SO glad I found this!!! This is already helping me mentally so much!!

    • @zinhlemkhize2332
      @zinhlemkhize2332 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too!!

    • @carmenabrego9399
      @carmenabrego9399 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh my gosh! I was freaking out listening to your story about driving thru the snow around cliffs!!! Yikes!! Learned so much from you.

  • @tammycully7319
    @tammycully7319 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    I am an empath. This was a powerful message today. I’ve literally just begun to realize how much of my childhood wasn’t actually good. It was easier to believe the lies I told myself about my childhood for comfort sake than to believe and/or see the truth. 🙌👍❤️

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I recommend you to a love specialist to help me to restore my life partner back to me

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Message him on whatsapp

    • @favourokah5113
      @favourokah5113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ➕2349155400946⏩⏭️

    • @beepbops82
      @beepbops82 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Here with you ❤️

  • @JEHERETIC
    @JEHERETIC 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Empath, psychic, in a dark place this winter and raising my vibration with positive education and time!!! Appreciate you much!!!!!

  • @miricc5576
    @miricc5576 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    The thing that ALWAYS help me come back to my calm state of mind is remembering that we’re all the exact same. Literally. Look at the comment section. We all have the same thoughts and every other person is as insecure as you are. You have no idea but it’s actually you that’s “him”/“her”. Keep your head up and keep in mind that we are all the same and no one is any better than anybody else.

  • @justwatchingstuff1415
    @justwatchingstuff1415 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    i really like how you mention your past traumas, acknowledging it happened, validating yourself but at the same time showing how much they made you grow and evolve as a person. i like the yin and yang energy. it feels authentic and hits close to home. thank you.

  • @hk8447
    @hk8447 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I’m an empath. And been through some hard shit in my life. One low light, had an accident breaking both off my legs on the exact same day I learned to walk again. You are really opening my eyes watching this video. Thank you so much for the insight!

  • @Chelsey-u3e
    @Chelsey-u3e ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m an empath🫶✨ pleased to have found another conscious healer and feeler. Thank you for spreading and teaching it!