How To Talk So People Listen - Make People Remember You
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- How to talk so people listen. This video will focus on how to speak with authority and influence. Having people listen to you makes it easy to get the things you want.
Here are 3 ways to develop more charisma.
1. Smile when you talk. Emotions are contagious, so let people catch something positive from you. People treat you differently when you smile. And the message comes across differently when you’re smiling than when you’re not.
2. Be curious and interested in others. The way to find out things about people is to ask questions. Most people like talking about themselves. And they will respond positively to someone who gives them the opportunity to talk.
3. Encourage and support others. People don’t want criticism, they crave support and affirmation.
Body Language
The goal of your body language should be to convey that you are important and open, interesting and interested.
Here are 5 ways to make that happen:
1. Fill the space around you.
2. Lean towards whomever you’re speaking to. You show interest in the other person by leaning in slightly.
3. No fidgeting. You want to keep unnecessary movements to a minimum
4. Slow down. Confident and commanding personalities tend to have slower motions. Nervous and harried people rush around.
5. Practice mirroring. This is something that can happen naturally when two people talking are really in sync.
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Boy. This is the ultimate crash course into human interaction.
Wow thank you AloineMind. 😊
More of these please or where we can go for more of this.
The aliens watching this ✍🏻
@@DrTraceyMarks this is so hard for me .. I shake my leg, I pick my face, Look around the room . And I'm aware that I look insecure, so I avoid going out. what can I do to not be so nervous.i love your tips but it's seems I've tried this over and over
Yes, I needed this. I always wondered how I have to fake acting like other people. I have some kind of "disability/inability " to smile naturally /physically outwardly a lot of times when I'm truly happy I have a straight calm face,no smile 😑
This is me, people enjoy being in my presence because I listen, smile, I open up, be understanding, non judgemental. I love people.
That’s awesome. That’s a great character trait to have.
I'd love to know you too Esha. Those are extremely valuable traits. Treat them like precious diamonds. It took me too, too long to see the value of this in myself. I thought why am I attracting all these vampires that suck the energy out of me, never stop talking about themselves and don't even know the first thing about me and don't care. Well, the answer was: of course they like me! I listen, I am interested, I respond, I can be present. Now I want some too. I want it reciprocated.
You are a beautiful human💕
That beautiful ..I'm learning not to be judgmental I'm getting so much better:)
I love people too❤️
"I dont know much about it" and not having an opinion is also great way to escape confrontation and those who like to bait. It shuts them down. Great advice all around.
Yes Especially the people that baited. Oh man.
Gee, who new lying was a good technique. If you’re passing judgment, then I’m guessing you probably do know something about the topic so if you’re saying you don’t know much about it you’re lying. There’s no other way to cut it.
As an INFJ who loves people, these tips tends to come very easily to me. The two problems that I often run into is: people mistaking my kindness for a weakness and feeling as if they can disrespect me. #2 I attract clingy people that can't read my moods and do not realize that I don't want to be bothered🤭
As another INFJ I completely understand this! It’s the same for me too. I’ve become better at putting boundaries up though. 🥰 My channel is for INFJ’s if you want to check it out!
I completely understand. People take my kindness for weakness.
@@PaperCraneOfHope I'm INFJ too, and similarly learned to set boundaries. I used to think I was being difficult, but as I learned how to do it better, realized that most people are respectful of boundaries and even appreciate you being straightforward and open. Also, really like your channel!
@@bibinoojen Thank you! I almost started crying when I read your comment. 😭 Been doubting myself on my channel but your encouragement has really lifted me up!
I am an INFJ and I could find so many things that I do wrong. I needed this.
As a psychologist, I'd like to add that when someone is talking, that when it is your turn to talk to repeat the last few words they said in their sentence which lets them know you were really listening. I'm always smiling and I chuckle a little when I repeat their words adding something like that's very insightful or I never thought of it that way or I'm glad you said that.
Then he start to control you.
Sounds like you are using clean questions technique here.
I would also like to add though to be careful not to overdo it because I have a friend who does it for like every single sentence and it feels weird sometimes
@@g.3521 lowkey when ppl do it to me it feels like I'm being joked abt.Or when I do it, I can seem insensitive to what they were talking abt."my dog died yo, I'm not feeling alr,im honestly very suicidal"then I say "your dog died?
There's a fine line between active listening and seeming staged or slightly manipulative.
"Well that was two months wasted." I laughed so hard at that 💀
These are the exact kind of thoughts that are at the forefront of my mind when talking to people 💀 Although I am a bubbly person I tend to deal out very thorough and frank criticism, especially when it's related to my field because I hate to see nonsense 😩
I realized that I need to soften the blow a little more. Thanks for the video!
You just described me.
I feel so seen
Being autistic, these videos have been some of the best in how informative they are, and I like that they're straight to the point.
This week I was verbally abusive to someone who didn’t deserve my bad words. So this is me trying to be better at not criticising. Relationships need thoughtfulness, compassion and consideration. Thanks for this vlog! 🙏ℹ️💯
Good luck.
I like how respectful you are, taking the time to respond to every comments. Thanks for being you😊
You’re welcome Marie. Thanks for noticing that. 😊
I needed this 😅. I’m a private person and having conversations with co workers is very hard for me
Keep going. Practice helps....makes perfect, not to be perfect but the situation.🤗
Sarah I know what you mean
Me too
This is totally accurate. I am a very introverted and shy person but I naturally do those things. Showing that I'm interested specially with my expressions and body language makes people recognize me as a "warm" person even though I don't talk much. It creates a good balance.
I am an extrovert and I struggle sometimes with being distracted. So even with all the charisma I have, I still feel a disconnect with people. I did not think about this until you brought it up in the video. Thank you
Charisma means being appealing to others. It's not very appealing if you don't show genuine interest in others and are easily distracted much less distracted at all. Maybe all this "charisma" you claim to have is only felt by you, when you look in the mirror. Extroversion doesn't automatically mean charismatic.
@@tinaperez7393 this person could just have adhd too
I'm in the process of relearning these steps! So hard after dealing with past trauma but not impossible 🙌🏾💪🏾!!!
Thank you Dr.Tracey 🕉💕👑
Me as well, stay Encouraged, Relearning is a whole process🤗wish I had subscribed years ago just found her channel 🙏🏽💜
SAME! Also you are so right about it being a whole process🤦🏾♀️ but we got this sis 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾! I didnt start taking this youtube serious until recently and I'm glad I stumbled across this video!
Thanks for the encouraging words !!!!! Be blessed always!!!! 👑💕🕉
Same .. re learning how to do things is tough but I like to think it’s so able💜🙏🏻
Some people use these techniques instinctively. They left a good impression on us because they sound and look caring, kind and genuinely interested. Others need to learn these techniques and retrain their minds. Thank you for you informative videos!
I’m one of those who have to learn these techniques.
"because they sound caring" --> maybe it's because they are actually caring :p
I think that for some people it's not a "technique" they use (even unconsciously), it's just how they naturally are. Good-natured people attract people
@@hukihuki4135 sometimes but some are good at trickery
instinctive vs being polished and intentional goes a long way!! Id say as an instinctive kind of person myself, following guidelines with a certain degree of discipline is amazingly beneficial!
I always thought I was weird or different in any social situations, but after wachten this I realized I’m doing these naturally when I talk with people. The only thing that is hard for me is when people dont give me that energy back and I feel stupid for trying to engage with them.
Same, I do all of these things
Lol some ppl aren’t sociable or aren’t having a good day, keep it pushing
🤚 hi . Same here . I have to ask how they are doing and they even ask if I care or I’m just asking just to ask 🤦♀️
I can relate.
U are not weird...u holding ur truth...u have to stop doing that.. change the company ur with...I'm 51 bipola adhd...I felt like u...and was tired of it...I woke up and thought u know what I have one best friend she went through everything with me...before I was diagnosed...she stood by my side...if u have bipola educate urself...make sure u know ur boundaries...do what makes u strong or vulnerable...and u will have a beautiful life I promise u xx
Your videos are spot on. I am a therapist, and today I noticed that I was channeling Dr Marks. It was a good moment in session.
Love this advice for ‘neurotypical’ people! Just thinking about how overwhelming each of these tips would be for someone on the Autism spectrum.
Yes it is as a person with Asperger and as an introvert you have to stay and keep quite conscientious when talking to people almost like having a script it you might seem cold and aloof but its Direct
YEP......
@@alliwishis2652 I don't believe I am aspergers. I had an abusive upbringing, as well as the other parent having me i na cult so I never learned to properly social however I am very intelligent too and have done tons of reading ,watching videos, talking to a few professionals,reading books, etc.. all in self help to catch up.. So oddly enough I actually can tell when I am speaking with someone on the spectrum and because of my fading away (still work in progress) issues from my upbringing I grew untrusting of people but also due to my need to know what is going ,why people are upset when they are, etc.. I became very good at communicating anything I knew was going on unseen (without telling too much personal) , that could offend overly sensitive people, and its helped me a lot in making people feel comfortable with me. But I do it because the old saying treat others how I want to be treated. Well I would VERY much like you to let me know stuff I feel I should know ..for example " This frowny face is because of my massive headache, and I'm happy inside, but unable to smile atm" So don't worry I'm not mad at you or being mean. I tend to get along well with people I meet who happen to have aspergers for this very reason. But at the same time still struggling to deal with neurological people. In the cult I grew up in Truth was everything. Never lying , living IN truth etc.. The love of truth itself, wasn't what made it a cult. That is their theme, and it took to my heart where I wanted that too (wanting to live in truth) People don't believe I didnt lie before 2017. I always had a love for truth (in all things) and hatred unrighteousness. So seeing people pretend, or behave disrespectful, really made me mad and I still have to work on that. I grew up with You better show me respect" or else so I became like that on the inside but always was polite until recently because I really am so fed up with how mean and cruel people are being to others.
My mother is critical, nag, negative, judgemental, non supportive and makes me feel worst about myself. Still she is expecting that our relationship should improve. She is totally opposite when it comes to dealing with my brother. She never judged him, nagged, angry, critical, putting him down , disrespected and that is why her relationship with him is good. But in that dynamic she expects me to improve and she gives credit to my brother. What a crap.
More of such videos please Dr. Mark. Especially the small talk or diplomatic answers/ skills training and where we can go for those.
I didn’t know this was called “skills training” for avoidant people from another video of yours so I never knew what to search for and get coaching and therapy in. If you could do list of “essential names” that are sources for self help or recovery or mental health improvement eg. “Therapy”, “skills training” so new people that dont know where to start to turn their life for the better have a video to go to.
Grateful for you!
“People never forget how you make or made them feel.”
I love that you used Maya Angelou she is my favorite poet and she was so amazing with her words. Love your channel.
Didn't she make a racist comment?
Great job. Carnegie once said that some animals have jobs: chicken lay eggs, cows produce milk. But a dog’s only job is to instill these feelings in others.
This is great advice! I also find speaking from the diaphragm is helpful if you have to speak to group...whether that's in a public speaking capacity or mingling with a small group at a network event. I need to do more mirroring....must remember that. I consciously work on smiling more in the videos when I'm talking, and it makes a difference. I didn't smile much in the beginning because I was so self conscious filming, but now I make sure I smile a LOT. It feels funny when I'm doing it but I always think it looks better in the video.
You're right. I notice you smile a lot and it's very warm and inviting. It's not always easy to do if you're doing some hard thinking. 🙂
Great advice but I NEED to fidget. A good way to not appear bored or insecure is to bring knitting or crochet. I did this for D&D and was able to focus much better.
This topic, multiplied by ADHD is really challenging. I am okay with speaking and body language, but I feel like I can't do enough real listening to be considered genuine.
It sucks when someone is telling me about something that's actually important to me and I'm smiling and nodding but literally panicking inside as I feel their words and details dissolve instantly from my mind!
sometimes I just resort to telling people I have adhd and asking them to use short sentences and allow me to confirm things piece by piece before they continue
I’m working on the “not looking in a hurry bit” by working through trauma and it’s been really helpful in slowing down. Isn’t mirroring someone manipulative though? Learning about narcissistic abuse they say those that mirror others are void of their own personality and at the very least are trying to manipulate you. - Thank you for this, it’s really great content. I’ve subscribed!
I’m not her, but I did get a psychology degree at some point and we did discuss this topic in classes. It’s not manipulative unless there’s manipulative intentions behind it. Humans instinctively mirror the behavior of those they like. That’s why mirroring is a positive social behavior in terms of building relationships. Most do it unconsciously. It can be used in a manipulative way, but it doesn’t have to be necessarily done to abuse, or hurt others. For example, you can do this at a job interview to make yourself appear more friendly, or familiar (by mimicking behavior). Doing this isn’t going to hurt your interviewer in any way. It’s the same as how people smile to appear friendly…or how some people change their voice to makes themselves appear more attractive. It is technically manipulative since you are manipulating the other person’s perception of you to benefit you. However, most people do that just by acting and dressing the way they believe others like. Everyone is trying to manipulate their situations and others’ perceptions all the time. Think on how we speak in a different manner with a boss and teacher as opposed to our peers. My point is that there doesn’t have to be malicious intent in it to do it.
@@march9177 thank you for taking the time to answer. That makes sense.
I am here because my class is stressful and I am asked questions that are controversial and I don’t feel heard but outcast. I have always felt outcast. I hate this class, and I like video. I hate when people assume what feel or think.😩
Is this an American thing, being so nice and polite even though you find something really bad? Few people would get upset here, if I told them my honest opinion and I, myself prefer to be told if something could be improved. There is nothing hurtful about an other person’s opinion- it is just another perspective, I might agree or disagree with, and it is ok. Personally, I run from people who try to sugarcoat thing to make me feel better about myself, I don’t need that. I find these kind of people really fake and not trustworthy. All the other tips were great! Thank you!
Yes I agree this is cultural. I wouldn’t be surprised if some of the things I said are out right offensive and some cultures - like eye contact. Eye contact can mean a totally different thing in another country. Thanks for this observation.
Acting like a negotiating salesman became a thing in the 90s over here.
@@xxgg55 I think that most people on the west coast in general are fake. I used to live in Las vegas and people acted that way. Fake and always trying to act as if their lives are perfect. Very judgmental etc. I couldn't take it. I moved back to the Midwest last January.
The latest generations of Americans have weak sense of self. So, yes they have to be handled like 2 year olds.
All though I agree with you, I also totally agree with Tracey when she says " this is about small talk, and people are not wanting to be fixed by you " something along those lines. Cause this is something I always do, I try to be helpful and empathic. But people usually just want to have fun, not sit in therapy lol. But in your case, if you hate it when people sugarcoat it, you can just say it.
I like the example about diffusing your own opinion. If someone wants you to try their cherry pie, but you don't like cherries- no matter how WELL they made the pie, your earnest experience will be that you don't like it. So by disclosing in advance that you don't eat cherries, you can diffuse the pressure that might otherwise have been placed on your feedback. Then you can either decline to try the thing or try it and give your feedback with the qualification that you don't like cherries having already been established.
Thank you for this. I will save it & come back to it often. I’m pretty good with most people but I’m afraid of confrontation. I’m the youngest sibling of 4 & when we have family gatherings I’m not really listened to. I’m also intimidated by my managers & have a hard time speaking up for myself quite often. I was in an abusive relationship & have had trouble ever since.
I like how you bring up the idea of being a blank slate. I finally figured out how I think, I always approach as a blank slate. I find it allows me to be considerate and respectful instead of prejudging people. It is definitely the foundation of being an influencer, because you are feeding off the other person and it makes the person feel important.
Yes indeed. Thanks for adding this.
Thank you Dr. I find many people open up to me but I don't always have to smile. I think I would say it depends on your first interaction with the people. What if they are crying, sad, I don't smile then. Caring about people is the fastest way to connect with them in my opinion. They can feel it. Thank you for all this analysis Dr. Following now.
Fidgeting is an unreasonable expectation for many people.
I love all of your videos! I've learned so much from you! ❤
Thanks so much Tino! I appreciate you.
One great way to practice is to watch your video and immediately out your ideas to use on your image on the screen. Practice doesn't make perfect it makes permanent.
Wow this was just SOOOOO!!!! Informative!! Brilliant
Wow thanks Jules! I appreciate that 🙂
As Kung Fu instructor I have a problem with leaning or letting others into my personal space; but the advise about giving advise and knowing when they are not asking for it is of great help for me. Cumming from a German-American family I can be as blunt as a brick wall.
I'll have to watch again, great info. I love to talk, I need to learn to listen more.
Thanks Bridgette!
I have an awful habit of cutting people off so I can talk. I've even apologized as I do it. That must come off like "Sorry but it's my turn now," how back-handed I am.
I teach a class at Hypnothoughts live each year about Rapport in video, and we go through building rapport in person first to get the basics down…. This is a 9 minute version of the first part of the class… only better articulated:) thank you!
Omg i just learned more than 30 English words from this video, thank you so much ❤️❤️
Thanks so much for this. You summed up a year of my college study in Communication Theory in under 10 mins. It felt good to revisit these techniques again.
I can recommend you to someone that helped me get my ex back without stress or delay
What sap him 💓💓💓💓
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I just discovered this women but she is amazing 💯
"people will forget what you said, they may even forget what you did but they will never forget how you made them feel" - Yeye Angelou
My favorite quote
Who is Yeye? I think you mean the great Maya Angelou. 👍
@@LG-universe Yeye is Yoruba for Mother
@@DrTraceyMarks didn't even see you responded Kween! 😁
@@classiql I stand corrected. Thank you for teaching me. Have a blessed day.
This was surprisingly helpful. Also a masterclass in how to mask for autistic folks, whether or not they'd appreciate that or should try to mask is another thing altogether.
This is powerful. You are very helpful and charismatic yourself, and a great communicator. Thanks for helping. :)
You're so welcome Joe. I appreciate that.😊
what a great idea to take notes 📝 👍👍 i want to start taking notes too , i,m glad i found your comment 😊
The Bible says to, Speak the truth in love. There are ways to express oneself in a way of valuing people even when there may be a disagreement. Love covers a multitudes of sins and the need to be loved is really in everyone's heart. I do not always live that but by recognizing the great value of another person bearing the Imago Dei and his or her worth to one's maker helps me speak to someone else with gentleness and respect despite my differences. Yet I think speaking truth is more important than being kind. There is a time to encourage but if their house is on fire and they are asleep I am going to cry out bloody murder and do everything to wake that person up. Dr. Marks I like your clear, wise and helpful videos. I have unipolar cognitive depressionn for 45 years. Sometimes when I am down what I need is a good night's sleep and the next morning when I rise I am refreshed and look forward to a new day. "His mercies are new every morning."
Thank you Ted. I’m glad you have a source of peace and contentment.
The first duty of a leader is to be organized and optimistic. If leaders are worth the trust invested in them, then they aren't faking.
Edit : "His mercies are new every morning," sounds like something the Egyptians said about the Sun God Ra.
Thank you for the clear direction and at the same time guidance on how far to take it and explaining how to make it possible
You're welcome Oxnyx 🤗
Very informative video. I'm going to try smiling when I talk.. Thank you for sharing. Have a great day. Fully view video. 👍
Thank you for this video. Sometimes I get nervous in social settings but I want to feel valued/respected
This seems to be something I already do but was never sure about. This vid really helped me to understand what *not* to do.
There were some good ideas in this video, thanks but as a newly aware lifelong survivor of serious narcissistic & psychopathic psychological abuse, I now abhor dishonesty of any kind. I'm ok with not being an influencer or being thought of as 'important'. I'm happy with being loved &/ genuinely respected by fewer people. Thanks, T
Good for you for evolving.
Hi Dr.Marks you set me thinking am one of those guarded need to loosen up. Anyways thanks for uploads tons of help take care be safe
I love this but I really miss people giving me their honest opinion at the right time 😭
This is really helpful. I just lead a horrible meeting this past week. I shared a couple of ideas and this one woman straight up said "no" to every one. People cross talked during the meeting. And on two occasions I was told I was incorrect when I know I was right. It was awful.
I wonder if I wasnt showing a stanz of confidence. I also didnt argue with the people who said I was incorrect. Idk.
I wasn't there, but a meeting should engage the whole room. After announcing a subject ask the audience what they know about it and then add your researched information where appropriate.
Tell the hecklers that they can speak when you call on them. If they get worse, tell them you don't want the meeting to run over the time aloted - everyone will agree with that.
Genuinely empathizing & being truly interested, sensitivity, isn’t that the goal? Once focus is off ourselves, our efforts are appreciated by others. Good to raise awareness of how we are perceived. As long as the ultimate purpose is to actually grow towards caring for and understanding people.
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Thank You Dr Tracey! I get more out of watching your videos than seeing my therapist.
Happy New Year 2022 ❤️
The thing is i when i apply this, i always feels so fake and it makes me feels anxious thinking that they would think i said something not genuine
Practice leads to mastery: keep on trying, you should allow yourself to make mistakes until it flows natural, respect your learning curve process... good luck! At least you are trying! It puts you quite closer to Achieving it than the 80% of people.
i hv tried smiling n being non judmental and they hv worked out,thx doc 4 ur tym
I REALLY APPRECIATE THIS VIDEO. And for this, I will never forget how you made me feel😌 thanks Dr Tracey, you are charismatic and amazing!
A really useful video, thank you. I am not a naturally tactful person and I'm having to learn a lot about how to talk to people in a way that doesn't sound over critical. Videos like this have really helped me. I am still struggling though with how to talk to people at work when, as a more experienced staff member, I see them underperform in some way. Do you have a video on how to to offer constructive criticism that won't seem like a personal attack?
This is much needed. I am building my social media presence via video production and these tips help immensely! Thank you doctor. 🙌
Great vid! I liked the part about critique. I don’t really think much of other people’s activities to have an opinion on whether it’s good or bad. Sometimes, certain things are not for us to understand, and that’s okay! You don’t have to understand what a person is doing to respect it, and, sometimes, it might take off or have more success than you might expect. I find the only people who do have an opinion on what other people are trying to do, typically, are the ones who are scared or not ambitious enough to do anything, themselves. I never understand those types that want to have an opinion about what someone else does when it doesn’t negatively affect them or anyone else, at all. And, that thing you’re bashing, most likely, is something motivated by personal experiences with sentimental value to them. When that’s the case, it can be really hurtful. That’s why unless I see it as a threat or an immediate danger, I hold my peace.
+Unsivilized Manner that’s a good practice. Less negative energy spent 😊
I really loved this video! Thank you so much, Dr. Tracey, for your dedication to producing quality content. Very useful
You're welcome Christian. Thanks for watching.
I’m one of those people that is guarded.Trying to stop..Thank you for thee advice
Thank you Dr. Tracy...these powerful interaction communication skills are so inspiring & 👏 a blessing2 me to put into practice as a pastor.. as a retired public school teacher, these interaction communication skill will have been very useful in teaching & improving communication w/ students, teachers...as well as conducting workshops....Thank You..
I think it would be hard to apply these tips on hardcore insecure people. Could you please give some tips on how to deal with mentally insecure people.
Even with all my experience I'm still learning new things. This video was very helpful
Whys it so hard to look at people in the eyes? half the time when I look too long people act anxious, but i know if i dont do it enough it seems bad. whats good guidelines for eye contact?
I maintain contact on things I want to be heard the most and do a quick break during my “ums” or while I’m gathering my thoughts. I try to use hand motions and head nods so that it’s not like I’m just staring them down.
It depends some people like intense eye contact and others see it as an intrusion in their space!! You have to see from person to person!!
Have you got a dog? If not, get one or borrow one from an elderly neighbour to walk. You will encounter many others out there with their dogs and it is so much easier to chat and get used to using your eyes in a way that is comfortable for you and others. After all, you can't lose Mrs Jones's dog!
Reverse it in your head …. Lock eyes with them to make them look away. Like a dog! Make them break first and prove who’s alpha.
Dr. Marks Thank You.
Wish I found this video when it came out. It gives a lot of specific tools that are easy to practice.
Her videos are therapeutic
I have an mental issue so I can't keep lookin at someone for long period of time, Dr. That's something I struggle with
Im someone who likes to be there for others and I always let others come to me if they need someone to talk to and just listen. But I don't like going to others when I'm going through rough times and I usually keep my emotions to myself until I can't hold it back anymore and I break down. I have one person that I feel comfortable being open to and go to when I just need someone to listen. I have ADHD is this just a part of the ADHD or is it something else?
Could it be that you have been let down before? That's how I felt/feel in the same situations. When someone acts like you smell bad because it's your bad day, you feel totally diminished and humiliated. At least I did so I kept myself in for so long I woke up one day and there were dozens of voices all crying to me (because I am so level-headed and competent and such a great listener etc). No. You are right to want to be authentic and that sometimes you aren't a-okay. Treat yourself with love and know your value. Have reciprocal supports or use your skills to take care of yourself. Then better will come your way.
Thanks 🙏🏼
I have a close friend, but she interupts me when I am sharing. And when she is listening I do not see her listening. So I am in a situation where I need to listen to her rather than sharing something important to me. Also she is not well and I understand a little that she needs my support and I just have to keep what is important to me to myself.
I had mixed feelings about this video. I appreciate all of your videos. So insightful, and digestible. I am an introverted person who has learned charisma. I have been perceived all sorts of ways because it is not natural to me. I appreciate the perspective of the guarded person but I would love the balance of just a chill laid back person who is a bit reserved being championed and people encouraging others to match their energy and consider the space they take up also.
I enjoy when people are considerate of the space they take up and still are genuinely themselves.
I experience charismatic people seeking to be the center of attention for everyone and it is spoken of as it should be goals.
This is just a different perspective that I would love to see addressed more in our society. I would love your insight on this.
I do all of these things naturally because I can confidently say I am a good person who genuinely cares for others, still, it is hardly reciprocated. I decided in this very moment I must attract a lot of very insecure people. and I am going to explore why.
You are a Gift Dr marks it’s so many topics to touch on I’ve learned alot from your videos god bless u Iam buying 1 of every book you write again god bless.
So grateful to have found your channel, good stuff
Excellent suggestions!! Loved the video!! Thank you!!🥰
This only works well if you’re at your best physical health.
Very true. For someone like me who deals with GI issues, it’s hard to be on point all the time. There’s a strong connection between the brain and the gut
I found this very insightful. It is things I know but I think she concretized them for me. Good work Dr.
I have ADHD, and listening can be difficult. I sometimes ask people to repeat themselves, so that's kinda embarrassing. It often comes across like I don't care especially when I forget something they just said or repeat the same question I already asked. I spend a lot of energy trying to be outta the way, so maybe I sit like that too. This is a LOT to think about... like self-conscious "a LOT."
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Wonderful advice. Dr. Marks is very helpful.
Dr Tracy How excellent to hear from you .I heard for the first time -it was really insightful...thank you n GOD BLESS YOU
Thank you for this valuable information it is good to understand what'is going in within me and how to deal. if I'm not anxious, I am fearful. I will break through..
I defineately have these social traits. Finally I have something good and I know that I give off leadership vibes. I'm defineately confident not arrogant.
Awesome. We all have strengths somewhere. It’s about finding them and exploiting them.
What great insights you've shared. Appreciate this. I'm subscribing to your channel now.
Thank you for making this video I find it very helpful because I just noticed recently that I could not smile when I talk and I am always in a hurry.
I hav written in twice saying that i love ur presentations. But i noticed that u r now putting background music which is very irritating. In many other videos, u hav no background music, just u talking in ur logical, tight, way & it's so much more effective than having backgrd music. Ur ardent follower.
Really solid advice Dr Tracey!
Thank you so kindly for this informative presentation. I also believe that by letting others know that they are important helps build trust right from the start. I will be back for more interesting topics.
I dont like trying to be someone else by acting differently so I think in my case its better with drugs.
To be someone else by smiling and wave it takes energy and in long term it tired me out...and falling back to where im..all i want is to start my life..
Going to share this with some friends..very helpful
Your videos are very educative and helpful. I hope more people get to come across your videos.They address very relevant mental health issues people deal with on a daily basis. Keep going u are helping alot of people
what kind of uploads do you do Dr? Truly a crash course as someone else commented.
And as I saw another professional said he repeats the last words of the speaker hes with...
I wouldn't do that intentionally very often in a conversation but just in case Ive not understood the meaning correctly, I will. Wonderful practices esp in times when communication is #1 value..it comes thru , even via zoom.
I LOOOOOOVE YOU DOC!!! THANK YOU for putting all this videos up
This was so good !! Thank you
In other words become a people pleaser, so the narcissists can walk all over you. It’s a lie don’t fall for this advice.
Yeah please don't follow this advice lol this is a nice way to make people not respect you.
Thank you Dr. Marks.