i can completely relate. I do everything i can to see others happy and my significant other, but I never get the same treatment; or even remotely close to it. No one is willing to move a finger for my happiness and it's slowly killing me inside. I live my life trying to make others happy and I don't know how to hold on.
becuase you have formed false core belief over the course of time or someone else has planted falsehood seeds in your psychie many of us get face with the same old bs been imposed upon us over the years from one person or another and if we accepted that as being a truth that becomes are reality so from that point on wards we devalue are selfs becuase we have placed higher value and importance in what others think and their opinion over what we think of our selfs which is silly becuase what others say and think is none of our business
Deep down I believe I don't deserve to be happy and get great things in my life and I sabotage myself. My family included my mother always told me that I'm a bad person. I'm about 40 years old and this belief still sticks with me. Nobody cares about me because I don't think I deserve it.
i feel useless because i try hard to learn and remember everything in college but sadly i am a slow learner. i think the best that i can do is play video games...
I went through every year of schooling (before grade 12) with R's or failed marks. I'm a super slow learner as well. In university I failed 3 classes, had to retake 2, participate in Summer school every Summer, and was on academic probation twice. I'm a slow learner as well. You don't have to remember everything, you just have to try your damnedest, because that's what matters the most. Video games is a pretty amazing field/industry to be good in right now. People are getting paid mad money to go on Twitch and show off, to test usability, to test levels and games, to design and create and write scripts for games, to make TH-cam videos and tutorials. Gaming is a great industry, and 90% of the time you don't really need to have gone to school for it. I'm not saying drop out, I'm just saying: Don't give up! The world is a giant playground, right now. Go play.
Hey. You are one capable boss, I'm telling you. The way that education is in this age isn't personalized, basically we all have to fit into a mold but we all have completely different brains, which means different intelligence and habilities and ideas! You're valuable! No matter how slowly you learn, we all learn differently. Maybe try other methods? Don't give up!
You couldn't have posted this video at a better time. I was literally just crying, saying I don't want to be alive anymore, feeling worthless. I'm 21, with a 1 year old child going through a divorce; you can imagine the depression and hopelessness I'm feeling. I'm glad I found your channel. Now I can have someone tell me what I need to hear without having to tell them how I feel with the fear of being judged.
I cannot imagine, as your experience is truly your own. Your life being difficult right now is an understatement, but I'm not worried about you. I know you'll come through because you are searching for help!! Such an amazing sign of strength
One of the worst things about depression is how helpless you end up believing you are. You feel weak because you can no longer exercise the concept of "mind over matter", because your mind is self destructive and at war with yourself. I used to do debate (before my anxiety got too bad) and a huge part of that was having the ability to take apart someone's argument, to identify logical fallacies and points of bias. When you can't believe your own thoughts and you have to rationalise /within yourself/ before coming to the "correct" conclusion, it's extremely easy to get upset. The worst part is that it is only recognised internally, and awareness and that consciousness is only the first step. Where you go from there, and how you combat and negate those thoughts is a constant chore and a very tricky situation, but I absolutely love how you explained it. You cognitively have to disassociate yourself from your perspective, and rationalise it by recognising that you're not in a healthy state of mind. You have to /manually/ factor in the emotional "bias" in your /own argument/ because of the distress you're feeling. That's the metaphorical equivalent of doing a heart transplant on yourself. Thank you for that. I've been feeling this way for far too long. This video helped, and I appreciate that.
+Depression to Expression hai Scott sir i like this channel and also your unique ideas.my very personal advice or suggestion to u is to maintain beard and moustache atlest in one vedio
The compassion in your eyes and the inflections in your voice gave me comfort. The first moment of comfort that I've felt in a very long time. I know you weren't speaking to me but I was listening to you.
Scott I really needed this video this morning. I've been really depressed this weekend and I really needed to hear this on a Monday morning. Some very amazing advice and thank you so much for making this video
"Those thoughts are not true and those thoughts are not you" that really struck a cord with me, I love Scott's videos, he always finds the right words.
the problem is money and capitalism, if you don't earn enough people , "friends" and your own family make you feel like you are nothing. the constant grind seeking after money, which isn't necessary to begin with, does really wear a person down to the nub
Nah...the problem isn't money or capitalism. I've lived in socialist nations and nobody is thrilled there either. The problem is that we consent to endure the contempt of those...even the strangers of society...who tell us we are too much x or too little y.
zeepunky I can honestly really relate to this. I’m in college again for like the 3rd time and haven’t worked in a long time so that on top of my usual terrible thoughts and jealousy make me feel like nothing.
It’s especially difficult when you live alone, have minimal friends, you’re single and nobody really understands or knows who you are! You wear your work hat, but nobody really knows who you are on a personal level…
Well, I believe my thoughts. It's easy for you to say: you're handsome, people love you and don't avoid to stay with you. I'm the opposite: ugly, hated and everybody avoid me.
No but its a start. You got to start with things you can actually fix first and maybe once that is sorted out possibly you can tackle the other things. Gotta start with what you can reach
I think its you just hate your self, which is making you believe that other people feel the same way about you. Once you master the ability of not giving a fuck, and seeing life as a game of chance then you will reach jedi level
dean ryan I hate myself and so do people. I'm avoided by everyone, I notice it every time. Besides that, my parents are divorced and they're always fighting, they pressure me in a way you can't imagine. I don't have peace a single minute.
You don't even know how your kindness saved me last night!!! sometimes we just need uplifting and a reminder through tough love and strong words!!! SERIOUSLY THANK YOU for doing these videos Scott!:-)YOU effing ROCK DUDE! TOTALLY ☆☆☆☆
I am hiding my depression from my family. I am trying my best to hold on. My relationship with my family is not good. I am talking anti depressants. I don't know what to do. I am also homosexual and live in a place where this thing is not allowed because of religion and culture.
Ali Adat I know....it happens but please don't give up. I know this useless comment can't help but still- you know it's not wrong to like the same sex. Believe in yourself!!!!! I wish it turns out alright
Make it your goal to go to a place where it is legal and socially accepted. While you striving for that goal, who knows, might solve your depression problem.
Those words literally put me in tears I feel depressed and I have not gone to a professional for conformation but this really helped me cause I have had dark thoughts so dark I don't even want to move,breathe,think or even exist and it hurts like hell but I have to keep fighting it and I have to stay strong for those around me I have gotten to the point where I cry at night so no one hears or notices and it feels like I can't express my self at all and what I need is help and advice on what to do and if I'm going to feel like this forever and if I will get past it cause right now I don't know anymore so thank you so so so very much and I hope you get through your depression
That’s the first video I’ve seen of you.I was really depressed and this helped me a lot. I always had the feeling that I’m just spending my dad’s money and waste place in the house as I don’t give or do anything for them like they do for me...Now you motivated me to work stronger and believe in myself. Thank you 🙏🏻
Volunteer somewhere to help others is a great value. Live selflessly not selfishly. Instead of trying to be just be. Love u as u r. But set a few attainable goals for yourself and also be 100 percent committed to yourself and wellness. Good video very insightful. ❤️
what do you do when your finding it hard to love yourself and find it absolutely impossible that no one is gonna love you in the future,when your alone,when you cannot live life on your basis and likings,when you feel like a nothing and your a voice in your head is saying that you cannot achieve anything in life...nothing to make your parents proud nor anything that you would like to do. what do you do then?
I can sort of relate. I've been single for almost 4 years and truth is be who you want to be and be comfortable on your own. If you have nobody to support you or believe in you find a role model or someone to look up to. encourage and spoil yourself and work hard and STAY OFF FACEBOOK. Ill be doing this after my birthday. I literally feel worthless but when I get off it feels really good to know I can do whatever I want for myself and focus on me. I even have a brother who likes to criticize me. I just try to ignore him and focus on myself because taking care of me is what is important right now.
Jennifer Gorter wow, you have been single for 4 years? I can even imagine how it's to feel like you. How paintful was for you. You don't know how it's to feel really alone, lonely. For women is simple to avoid loneliness, because they are desire by some idiots. IF you have just 1 guy, even he is ugly and stupid as fuck, you will feel important, because not of him, because of that attention. I'm not criticize you, I criticize the fact that you know what is feel like you pretend to know. It's worthless....
Really low right now-woke up to major meltdown. Made it to work-at my desk listening to this-and that's the only thing keeping me from totally breaking down. I feel so alone-so I'm trying to pretend everyone else on this site is actually here with me, can't explain but thank God for this site.
You help me very much. I used to roleplay the same verse for like 3 years and so seeing the character I was dating with other people on the show or his real wife and constantly thinking about him and his wife has made me feel jealous to the point I feel worthless. Even his friends wife is best friends with his wife so my mind works on what they probably all do together. Before listening to you each time I feel as if being dead would be better because this problem I have seems so stupid so I also have the anxiety and fear of even telling people because of being judged so much. Even my mother doesn’t understand so I truly feel alone. I cried my eyes out watching this and thank you so much because it made me realize things might get better.
I have been depressed for as long as I remember. I'm 35 now. It's worse these past few years. I find I'm doing less and less, not participating in social things at all, hiding myself away, distancing myself...falling apart. Medications always made me worse so I try to manage it myself...I just started seeing a therapist and i really hope it helps get me to a better place. I feel so incredibly lucky to have such supportive family, and an amazing fiancé who doesn't know what it's like to feel depressed/anxiety/panic, but does his best to understand. I feel so guilty for putting him in the position where he's looking after me as if I'm some kind of a helpless child. Sometimes the sadness is so much all I can do is lay there in a ball all day. I cry so hard when I think of how this is totally not where I thought I'd be at 35. Letting days slip by...time that I know I'll wish I could get back. I thought I'd have kids by now. I'm really running out of time for a lot of big life choices now, and I am in no way capable of raising a child in the state I'm in. I'm so afraid the bottom will fall out and I'll hit a lower low. Afraid that I'll wake up one day and I'll be 50, wondering where the time went. It's like everything moves in slow-motion when you're depressed, and once in a while you snap back to reality and realize how much has happened while you were "out". Which makes you feel like you've really lost it. Is this what crazy feels like? Holding on to that glimmer of hope with all I've got! Thank you for this, Scott.
I remember I found your channel a couple years ago from this exact same video. And now I'm finally understanding what your saying. These thoughts are screwing me over and I know I won't feel the same way later. They try sticking to my mind and will tear me apart so I won't be able to sleep at night. But now I know better. Thank you.
People like me have no value, and deserve to suffer and languish in anonymity. You, Scott, have tons of value and help people every day. Hopefully things have gotten better in the past, uh, three years since this was posted.
This video has helped me so much in the past month... So i just want to say thank you sooo much...you have saved me in ways you cant even imagine....so thank you, thank you sooo much
Thank you for making this video. It made me cry. I've sunk into being withdrawn and depressed for a week again. It will get better. The seasons changing has really hit me. I'm tired of feeling somewhat better then sinking into depression. Bipolar is a struggle.
You are right on. When I was young, I remember feeling if I disappeared it wouldn't matter that my parents would miss me because they had to (they were my parents) but that I would be soon forgotten about. I'm so glad I got through that. Music helped a lot. I had an experience that really opened my eyes, though. I got my driver's license and I was at a four way stop. I stopped as I was supposed to waiting then it was my turn. It was a shocking and amazing feeling when I realized at that moment that they all had to wait for me, that my car (me) at that moment was important...that we all followed rules for safe driving and after would all be on our way safely. I couldn't believe they were stopping for "little old me." At that moment, I felt as good and important as anyone else.
Thank you. Nothing anyone has told me through this journey has helped, I️ felt like nobody understood. This was an eye opener. Thank you thank you thank you.
Does the person who has a very bad temper, who messes everything up, who can't hold any stable relationship or friendship in their life... have a value? Yes, I have. Thank you, Scott. I will tell that to myself every fucking morning before I go to work. Let's see if a change of thinking can change anything for the better. I'll just try.
Thank you so much for this video, this video has help me get past the suicdal phase of my life and next i have to overcome my anxiety, thank you so much.
Your videos have the power to cheer me up immediately. It kinda reminds me that life isn`t that bad. I just had the feeling to share how much I appreciate your work. Thank you very much, Scott :)
Scott, thank you so much. This has been helpful beyond words. Just having the knowledge that I am not alone in having these thoughts, and that thoughts are only thoughts is so helpful. Thank you.
Thank you, SO MUCH for this video!! these past 2 days, it was like something had come over me, and my mind... I had never felt so, not myself... its like something had invaded my mind, and was making me feel absolutely insane. finding your videos today... helped me so much, and I have calmed down!! thank you!!
Dude you sounded just like I feel. My mornings are the worst. It is hard to remember not being depressed and I forget what it was like to be happy. What weird is I was just "happy" a few months ago.
Wishing the best for you! I have been here before and just clinging on to the fact I know it can get better even though it sometimes seems so unobtainable. Then I try and remind myself remember how you felt the exact same feelings of despair before.
I've been asking myself, "what's the point of me, my life, all of this" for a while now. I cried watching the video. actually I am still. These thoughts are so powerful and make me helpless/hopeless
Your videos really help me. I was just crying & feeling like I'll never get any where in my life & just wanting to die because I feel like a loser. This couldn't have come at a better time.
I feel worthless because I feel like I get shown up constantly. I sing, someone next to me sings better. I draw a picture, a friend draws better. What can I do to stop this feeling?
+rzeka stop comparing yourself to others. comparison is the thief of joy. focus on yourself and what you can do and work hard and progress build up your talents and you matter you never know who you could be inspiring
No matter how good you are at something, someone will always be better. Just facts. Stop comparing yourself to others. Did your drawing please someone? That’s the question
Freddie Mercury once said "No matter if someone else is better than you at something they will never be you." I'm paraphrasing somewhat but I hope this helps
For me, the biggest reason for my depression is my low self esteem. Because of low self esteem I encounter a lot of disappointing situations where I am rejected or not valued much. When I have group work, I am the one who is alone at the end. Everybody else become friend with each other afterwards...
excellent video, seeing value in others makes you see value in yourself, simply because we are all the same, that's what we tend to forget once depression begins.
Very good. It's kind of like Dr. Daniel Amen's concept of "automatic negative thoughts" and Dr. Amen says don't believe every thought that enters your head.
This is a very insightful video. It really gave some light in a dark issue. I too, am having a difficult time with depression, and the negative thoughts are always giving me reason why I'm wasting my time trying, or why I don't even deserve to live... its been a tough time. But this video is a true help, thank you ...
Omg thank you I have been struggling with thoughts about how I’m not good enough and how I’m worthless I would feel like I should not be here because I will never make my parents proud but now I know that I do have a purpose And I’m not worthless and I know that my parents are proud of me thank you
👍 The last 7 years has been the most painful time , especially since I got sober. I Tell my head to Shut Up. Trusting my Higher Power an not my senses.
Music therapy helps me a lot. Nature sounds are good!! I sometimes get scared at night and start to cry but thought of a list of reasons why I love to sleep and why it is good for me. After that I stopped crying. It is all about taking care of yourself. If that means staying off of facebook and keeping the negative energy away than do it!
It's way easier for me to see the value in other people than in myself. But you're so great for making this video. Thank you.
i can completely relate. I do everything i can to see others happy and my significant other, but I never get the same treatment; or even remotely close to it. No one is willing to move a finger for my happiness and it's slowly killing me inside. I live my life trying to make others happy and I don't know how to hold on.
Me too.
You are not alone. I can relate
becuase you have formed false core belief over the course of time
or someone else has planted falsehood seeds in your psychie
many of us get face with the same old bs been imposed upon us over the years
from one person or another and if we accepted that as being a truth that becomes are reality
so from that point on wards we devalue are selfs becuase we have placed higher value and importance in what others think and their opinion
over what we think of our selfs which is silly becuase what others say and think is none of our business
Deep down I believe I don't deserve to be happy and get great things in my life and I sabotage myself. My family included my mother always told me that I'm a bad person. I'm about 40 years old and this belief still sticks with me. Nobody cares about me because I don't think I deserve it.
Your eye contact makes it so personal. That's something not alot of people have..
i feel useless because i try hard to learn and remember everything in college but sadly i am a slow learner. i think the best that i can do is play video games...
I went through every year of schooling (before grade 12) with R's or failed marks. I'm a super slow learner as well. In university I failed 3 classes, had to retake 2, participate in Summer school every Summer, and was on academic probation twice. I'm a slow learner as well. You don't have to remember everything, you just have to try your damnedest, because that's what matters the most.
Video games is a pretty amazing field/industry to be good in right now. People are getting paid mad money to go on Twitch and show off, to test usability, to test levels and games, to design and create and write scripts for games, to make TH-cam videos and tutorials. Gaming is a great industry, and 90% of the time you don't really need to have gone to school for it.
I'm not saying drop out, I'm just saying: Don't give up!
The world is a giant playground, right now. Go play.
That how I am I'm in 8th grade 😔
Hey. You are one capable boss, I'm telling you. The way that education is in this age isn't personalized, basically we all have to fit into a mold but we all have completely different brains, which means different intelligence and habilities and ideas! You're valuable! No matter how slowly you learn, we all learn differently. Maybe try other methods? Don't give up!
The Chesire i know right
The Chesire me too
can see the pain in his eyes
You couldn't have posted this video at a better time. I was literally just crying, saying I don't want to be alive anymore, feeling worthless. I'm 21, with a 1 year old child going through a divorce; you can imagine the depression and hopelessness I'm feeling. I'm glad I found your channel. Now I can have someone tell me what I need to hear without having to tell them how I feel with the fear of being judged.
I cannot imagine, as your experience is truly your own. Your life being difficult right now is an understatement, but I'm not worried about you. I know you'll come through because you are searching for help!! Such an amazing sign of strength
I know this was 4 years ago but I hope you were able to have a nice fresh start and I hope you have found happiness and strength. 🙏🏽❤️
I hope you are doing great in life now , please give updates ❤️
Thanks Scott YES we all have value.
One of the worst things about depression is how helpless you end up believing you are. You feel weak because you can no longer exercise the concept of "mind over matter", because your mind is self destructive and at war with yourself. I used to do debate (before my anxiety got too bad) and a huge part of that was having the ability to take apart someone's argument, to identify logical fallacies and points of bias.
When you can't believe your own thoughts and you have to rationalise /within yourself/ before coming to the "correct" conclusion, it's extremely easy to get upset. The worst part is that it is only recognised internally, and awareness and that consciousness is only the first step.
Where you go from there, and how you combat and negate those thoughts is a constant chore and a very tricky situation, but I absolutely love how you explained it. You cognitively have to disassociate yourself from your perspective, and rationalise it by recognising that you're not in a healthy state of mind. You have to /manually/ factor in the emotional "bias" in your /own argument/ because of the distress you're feeling. That's the metaphorical equivalent of doing a heart transplant on yourself.
Thank you for that. I've been feeling this way for far too long. This video helped, and I appreciate that.
this video helped me so much I'm crying
Love you Chelsea :)
+Depression to Expression hai Scott sir i like this channel and also your unique ideas.my very personal advice or suggestion to u is to maintain beard and moustache atlest in one vedio
Chelsea Gibson that's me my sister done that to me
Depression to Expression Thank you for helping me I love you too.
The compassion in your eyes and the inflections in your voice gave me comfort. The first moment of comfort that I've felt in a very long time. I know you weren't speaking to me but I was listening to you.
Scott I really needed this video this morning. I've been really depressed this weekend and I really needed to hear this on a Monday morning. Some very amazing advice and thank you so much for making this video
LikeKristen I hope you are feeling much better now. ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
"Those thoughts are not true and those thoughts are not you"
that really struck a cord with me, I love Scott's videos, he always finds the right words.
the problem is money and capitalism, if you don't earn enough people , "friends" and your own family make you feel like you are nothing. the constant grind seeking after money, which isn't necessary to begin with, does really wear a person down to the nub
GasLight hard core fact...
I completely agree. Society place a big burden on us just to fit in.
Nah...the problem isn't money or capitalism. I've lived in socialist nations and nobody is thrilled there either. The problem is that we consent to endure the contempt of those...even the strangers of society...who tell us we are too much x or too little y.
You're right
So True
Does the person who stays home all the time and doesnt know what to do with their life so they do nothing have value?
yes
Didn't you watch the video?? Every human being has value!! Go out and make something of your life!!
zeepunky I can honestly really relate to this. I’m in college again for like the 3rd time and haven’t worked in a long time so that on top of my usual terrible thoughts and jealousy make me feel like nothing.
Nope. Even if they make bank trading on their computer.
Don't listen to these people who say you have value simply for being human - they have no argument. It's just their belief.
just broke down in tears watching this man ... great stuff!
tears of joy btw, from letting go of some nasty sticky thoughts.
love you man
It’s especially difficult when you live alone, have minimal friends, you’re single and nobody really understands or knows who you are! You wear your work hat, but nobody really knows who you are on a personal level…
Very useful video. Well done. Thank you.
Well, I believe my thoughts. It's easy for you to say: you're handsome, people love you and don't avoid to stay with you. I'm the opposite: ugly, hated and everybody avoid me.
Gabriel M. Start working out and get contacts. Fitness and fashion
Rick what about the hate of people? Going to the gym will fix it? I don't think so.
No but its a start. You got to start with things you can actually fix first and maybe once that is sorted out possibly you can tackle the other things. Gotta start with what you can reach
I think its you just hate your self, which is making you believe that other people feel the same way about you. Once you master the ability of not giving a fuck, and seeing life as a game of chance then you will reach jedi level
dean ryan I hate myself and so do people. I'm avoided by everyone, I notice it every time. Besides that, my parents are divorced and they're always fighting, they pressure me in a way you can't imagine. I don't have peace a single minute.
Made me cry, I really needed this
You don't even know how your kindness saved me last night!!! sometimes we just need uplifting and a reminder through tough love and strong words!!! SERIOUSLY THANK YOU for doing these videos Scott!:-)YOU effing ROCK DUDE! TOTALLY ☆☆☆☆
I am hiding my depression from my family. I am trying my best to hold on. My relationship with my family is not good. I am talking anti depressants. I don't know what to do. I am also homosexual and live in a place where this thing is not allowed because of religion and culture.
Ali Adat I know....it happens but please don't give up.
I know this useless comment can't help but still- you know it's not wrong to like the same sex. Believe in yourself!!!!!
I wish it turns out alright
Make it your goal to go to a place where it is legal and socially accepted. While you striving for that goal, who knows, might solve your depression problem.
Fuck religion
@Ali Adat. If you manage to stop your self-hate, your depression will end.
Depression=self-hate
I am the same as you, except i'm not a homo.
I needed this. I been struggling so much with the feeling that I am worthless.
Here's a person across the world in the Netherlands, Europe, really appreciating your message. I'm a 44 y/o woman, tearing up. Thank you. 🙏🏼
Those words literally put me in tears I feel depressed and I have not gone to a professional for conformation but this really helped me cause I have had dark thoughts so dark I don't even want to move,breathe,think or even exist and it hurts like hell but I have to keep fighting it and I have to stay strong for those around me I have gotten to the point where I cry at night so no one hears or notices and it feels like I can't express my self at all and what I need is help and advice on what to do and if I'm going to feel like this forever and if I will get past it cause right now I don't know anymore so thank you so so so very much and I hope you get through your depression
"Your thoughts are not the truth right now, do not believe in your thoughts." 💕
That’s the first video I’ve seen of you.I was really depressed and this helped me a lot. I always had the feeling that I’m just spending my dad’s money and waste place in the house as I don’t give or do anything for them like they do for me...Now you motivated me to work stronger and believe in myself.
Thank you 🙏🏻
Volunteer somewhere to help others is a great value. Live selflessly not selfishly. Instead of trying to be just be. Love u as u r. But set a few attainable goals for yourself and also be 100 percent committed to yourself and wellness.
Good video very insightful. ❤️
The feeling of being a flaw, is one of the worst feelings in the world. Thank you for this video bud. You're amazing.
i watch your videos whenever i feel depressed , thank you for doing this .
You have such a profound way of thinking about things. Thanks for this one man!
Sobbing over here. That was the most wonderful, beautiful, and cleansing cry I've ever experienced. You are a Godsend. Thank you 🙏
Its nice to see that someone actually cares to motivate other people
Thank you Scott
what do you do when your finding it hard to love yourself and find it absolutely impossible that no one is gonna love you in the future,when your alone,when you cannot live life on your basis and likings,when you feel like a nothing and your a voice in your head is saying that you cannot achieve anything in life...nothing to make your parents proud nor anything that you would like to do.
what do you do then?
I know that you were asking a question, but that is how I feel in my mind.
i don't know :( let me know if you figure it out
akanksha singh someone cares find them I found them maybe you can
I can sort of relate. I've been single for almost 4 years and truth is be who you want to be and be comfortable on your own. If you have nobody to support you or believe in you find a role model or someone to look up to. encourage and spoil yourself and work hard and STAY OFF FACEBOOK. Ill be doing this after my birthday. I literally feel worthless but when I get off it feels really good to know I can do whatever I want for myself and focus on me. I even have a brother who likes to criticize me. I just try to ignore him and focus on myself because taking care of me is what is important right now.
Jennifer Gorter wow, you have been single for 4 years? I can even imagine how it's to feel like you. How paintful was for you. You don't know how it's to feel really alone, lonely. For women is simple to avoid loneliness, because they are desire by some idiots. IF you have just 1 guy, even he is ugly and stupid as fuck, you will feel important, because not of him, because of that attention. I'm not criticize you, I criticize the fact that you know what is feel like you pretend to know. It's worthless....
Thanks so much, man. You just... wow. Thanks for sharing, definitely subscribing, and checking out more of your vids.
+Emman Pascual Thank YOU!
Really low right now-woke up to major meltdown. Made it to work-at my desk listening to this-and that's the only thing keeping me from totally breaking down. I feel so alone-so I'm trying to pretend everyone else on this site is actually here with me, can't explain but thank God for this site.
You help me very much. I used to roleplay the same verse for like 3 years and so seeing the character I was dating with other people on the show or his real wife and constantly thinking about him and his wife has made me feel jealous to the point I feel worthless. Even his friends wife is best friends with his wife so my mind works on what they probably all do together. Before listening to you each time I feel as if being dead would be better because this problem I have seems so stupid so I also have the anxiety and fear of even telling people because of being judged so much. Even my mother doesn’t understand so I truly feel alone. I cried my eyes out watching this and thank you so much because it made me realize things might get better.
I have been depressed for as long as I remember. I'm 35 now. It's worse these past few years. I find I'm doing less and less, not participating in social things at all, hiding myself away, distancing myself...falling apart. Medications always made me worse so I try to manage it myself...I just started seeing a therapist and i really hope it helps get me to a better place. I feel so incredibly lucky to have such supportive family, and an amazing fiancé who doesn't know what it's like to feel depressed/anxiety/panic, but does his best to understand. I feel so guilty for putting him in the position where he's looking after me as if I'm some kind of a helpless child. Sometimes the sadness is so much all I can do is lay there in a ball all day.
I cry so hard when I think of how this is totally not where I thought I'd be at 35. Letting days slip by...time that I know I'll wish I could get back. I thought I'd have kids by now. I'm really running out of time for a lot of big life choices now, and I am in no way capable of raising a child in the state I'm in.
I'm so afraid the bottom will fall out and I'll hit a lower low. Afraid that I'll wake up one day and I'll be 50, wondering where the time went.
It's like everything moves in slow-motion when you're depressed, and once in a while you snap back to reality and realize how much has happened while you were "out". Which makes you feel like you've really lost it. Is this what crazy feels like?
Holding on to that glimmer of hope with all I've got!
Thank you for this, Scott.
I remember I found your channel a couple years ago from this exact same video. And now I'm finally understanding what your saying. These thoughts are screwing me over and I know I won't feel the same way later. They try sticking to my mind and will tear me apart so I won't be able to sleep at night. But now I know better. Thank you.
Scott, you want to help other people. You're a good bloke. Thanks mate.
People like me have no value, and deserve to suffer and languish in anonymity. You, Scott, have tons of value and help people every day. Hopefully things have gotten better in the past, uh, three years since this was posted.
The timing of this video is literally so apt, it's ridiculous. Thank you, Scott.
Thanks Scott
Thank you for taking your time out to help others. Loved the video and will subscribe and watch more. Thanks again.
This video has helped me so much in the past month... So i just want to say thank you sooo much...you have saved me in ways you cant even imagine....so thank you, thank you sooo much
Thank you for making this video. It made me cry. I've sunk into being withdrawn and depressed for a week again. It will get better. The seasons changing has really hit me. I'm tired of feeling somewhat better then sinking into depression. Bipolar is a struggle.
You are right on. When I was young, I remember feeling if I disappeared it wouldn't matter that my parents would miss me because they had to (they were my parents) but that I would be soon forgotten about. I'm so glad I got through that. Music helped a lot. I had an experience that really opened my eyes, though. I got my driver's license and I was at a four way stop. I stopped as I was supposed to waiting then it was my turn. It was a shocking and amazing feeling when I realized at that moment that they all had to wait for me, that my car (me) at that moment was important...that we all followed rules for safe driving and after would all be on our way safely. I couldn't believe they were stopping for "little old me." At that moment, I felt as good and important as anyone else.
So good. Just found you on a search for 'feeling worthless.' This was just what I needed. Thank you, Scott.
Thank you. Nothing anyone has told me through this journey has helped, I️ felt like nobody understood. This was an eye opener. Thank you thank you thank you.
Thank you very much for this video Scott!
Does the person who has a very bad temper, who messes everything up, who can't hold any stable relationship or friendship in their life... have a value?
Yes, I have.
Thank you, Scott. I will tell that to myself every fucking morning before I go to work. Let's see if a change of thinking can change anything for the better. I'll just try.
Thank you so much for this video, this video has help me get past the suicdal phase of my life and next i have to overcome my anxiety, thank you so much.
Your videos have the power to cheer me up immediately. It kinda reminds me that life isn`t that bad.
I just had the feeling to share how much I appreciate your work.
Thank you very much, Scott :)
You are very welcome, and you're right!
Thank you so so much for this!!! It really helps me to think that it's true, my life is worth!
Scott, thank you so much. This has been helpful beyond words. Just having the knowledge that I am not alone in having these thoughts, and that thoughts are only thoughts is so helpful. Thank you.
Thank you, SO MUCH for this video!! these past 2 days, it was like something had come over me, and my mind... I had never felt so, not myself... its like something had invaded my mind, and was making me feel absolutely insane. finding your videos today... helped me so much, and I have calmed down!! thank you!!
Three years later. To the day. I am.watching this . Thank you ! Thank you ! . Love you brother x
Dude you sounded just like I feel. My mornings are the worst. It is hard to remember not being depressed and I forget what it was like to be happy. What weird is I was just "happy" a few months ago.
Exactly the same for . When did our unhappiness start and why? It's crazy how it just happened , but it won't go away. Wish the best for you man.
Wishing the best for you! I have been here before and just clinging on to the fact I know it can get better even though it sometimes seems so unobtainable. Then I try and remind myself remember how you felt the exact same feelings of despair before.
It really helped me. I'm so thankful for this.
I've been asking myself, "what's the point of me, my life, all of this" for a while now. I cried watching the video. actually I am still. These thoughts are so powerful and make me helpless/hopeless
Great video. Kick those untrue negative thoughts to the curb. Love yourself.
I love this..... It makes you think twice about ending it all new subscriber keep up your good work
this video, what you re talking is really helping my situation at the moment. Thanx for the video!
Your videos really help me. I was just crying & feeling like I'll never get any where in my life & just wanting to die because I feel like a loser. This couldn't have come at a better time.
Whenever I'm down I watch your videos and instantly feel better. Thank you!
This guy is the best he deserves more subs for doing these kinds of vids it really helps me alot
I feel worthless because I feel like I get shown up constantly. I sing, someone next to me sings better. I draw a picture, a friend draws better. What can I do to stop this feeling?
+rzeka stop comparing yourself to others. comparison is the thief of joy. focus on yourself and what you can do and work hard and progress build up your talents and you matter you never know who you could be inspiring
No matter how good you are at something, someone will always be better. Just facts. Stop comparing yourself to others. Did your drawing please someone? That’s the question
Freddie Mercury once said "No matter if someone else is better than you at something they will never be you." I'm paraphrasing somewhat but I hope this helps
thanks so much Scott, I will try this now.
Thank you so much... I really appreciate your help
This video just summed up how I have been feeling lately. thanks again Scott for sharing this with us. :D
i started the video crying and feeling like shit and now i'm crying just a lil bit but feeling a little better, which is a big deal for me. thank you
Thank you so much for this video.
Thank you so much for this video. I will be referring to it again I’m sure.
Fantastic video thank you xxx
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I felt like this 2 weeks ago, but now I feel so good, never felt more relieved.
Hello, I really needed this video today...I felt so identified. Thank you so much Scott. I just find you and subscribed today.
you are so kind thanks for helping me. I love you.
You are such a wonderful person ... Thanks you :)
This has made me see the light . Very wise advice bless
I've been looking forward to getting a 'new video' notification from you, thanks Scott!
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For me, the biggest reason for my depression is my low self esteem. Because of low self esteem I encounter a lot of disappointing situations where I am rejected or not valued much. When I have group work, I am the one who is alone at the end. Everybody else become friend with each other afterwards...
excellent video, seeing value in others makes you see value in yourself, simply because we are all the same, that's what we tend to forget once depression begins.
Very good. It's kind of like Dr. Daniel Amen's concept of "automatic negative thoughts" and Dr. Amen says don't believe every thought that enters your head.
nice example with the people and their value. gave me something to think
Thanks you put it so clearly!
Thank you for this message, Scott. The next time I get to where I am struggling against my own thoughts, I will be trying this.
Thank you...you help so many people.....
I needed this a year ago, but I'm still glad I saw it today.
Thank you Scott. I'm feeling better.
This is a very insightful video. It really gave some light in a dark issue. I too, am having a difficult time with depression, and the negative thoughts are always giving me reason why I'm wasting my time trying, or why I don't even deserve to live... its been a tough time. But this video is a true help, thank you ...
this video is reallly useful... thanks
Omg thank you I have been struggling with thoughts about how I’m not good enough and how I’m worthless I would feel like I should not be here because I will never make my parents proud but now I know that I do have a purpose And I’m not worthless and I know that my parents are proud of me thank you
I needed this thank yoy
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👍 The last 7 years has been the most painful time , especially since I got sober. I Tell my head to Shut Up. Trusting my Higher Power an not my senses.
Thank you so much for this. God bless you.
You are awesome... thanks so much for what you do ... hi from Trinidad 🇹🇹
Thanks a lot !!!! You're the best, I love you
Thanks soo much Scott! I really appreciate what you do :)
Thank you this video helped me... 💖
When I get like this I don't sleep. I get too anxious at the same time as depression. Any suggestions for that? You are an amazing beautiful soul.
Music therapy helps me a lot. Nature sounds are good!! I sometimes get scared at night and start to cry but thought of a list of reasons why I love to sleep and why it is good for me. After that I stopped crying. It is all about taking care of yourself. If that means staying off of facebook and keeping the negative energy away than do it!
Valium