What He Really Means When He Says He’s “Too Busy” (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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When a guy told me he was too busy I started dating his hot friend, who wasn't busy.
Yeah that's a bit whorish..
V H yeah i said it..
You ain't making much sense
Jeanie K 😂
That's a fabulous idea!!!
When a man wants you, nothing will stop him from being with you. If he has no time, he'll make time. If not, then he's not interested.
Maybe his wife will stop him lol
Does that mean if you have an interesting life and post all over social media then he may find that attractive and therefore would want to be with you?
But that is why girls are more attracted to men who are busy and don’t have time. A man who is too available and always down to make time for him women isn’t attractive to her. Most of the time those guys who are too available and move heaven and earth to see her are too needy and desperate.
There are toxic man who will be hot and cold and you just never know how you stand with them.
Every time you pull away they come forward. But when you agree to be in a relationship with them, they vanish!
@@Delfina-Zafira 😭true
It's quite pathetic how humans behave towards eachother.
True girl, it’s too much mind games with both parties, Which lead me to see why the majority of ppl aren’t married! Nobody is straight forward or forthcoming with intentions.
Pathetic, maybe, then again maybe he likes her more like a casual friend. The more he thinks of you the better if not then maybe move on with other guys
Sunethra Yes, Its funny Because. Why do people act so childish when they are really in love with each other...
It's how men bring up men badly
Thank youuuuu!! I'm so sad at this generation. Why can't I think of you and call you even in the midst of my busiest days because I love you and I need to hear your voice to go on. Why can't you except my vulnerability and offer the same to me 😭😭😭
Don't prioritize someone who only sees you as an option.
That's just it. To some, including myself, others will ONLY be an option. Nothing more.
If a man isn't telling everyone else he's busy so that he can spend more time with you, then he's the wrong guy. Move on ladies, not worth it.
KALUA K Thank you so much :) Right back at yah ;)
Wow nice one! Thanks!
Adam and Matthew, different style but both great! Funny to find you here,Adam. You too don't see each other as competition? :)
Deborah E. thanks
Sexy Confidence thanks
Damn why can't relationships be more simple...
Yea, I'm not sure where/why things went wrong. Dating shouldn't be complicated.
Zazou Women make dating complicated.
KevZen2000 Lol. Both
Disclosing feelings could make it lot easier.
That part.
I experienced this recently with someone I began dating. Our first couple dates were phenomenal and then he started to pull away and gave me the "my life is too hectic right now" line. I genuinely believed he was busy and I did do the whole-find a life and do other things routine. But at the same time, if you're really that busy, why are you trying to date? And if you saw a future in our relationship, you would find the time. He obviously wasn't the right one. Let's not make a big to-do about it. Be honest and not waste each other's time. Move on!
this is my situation RIGHT NOW ugh
Exactly he's too busy for a relationship
@@shanikalovesmusic2675 i guess so 0_0
That is me right now and I confronted him about it. At first he responded he is too busy with his new schedule at work which he told me in advance but I said, you were busy from the beginning even though he would give me a quick call for a few minutes and then text me every day. Then one night he gave me a quick call and he said, later I will text you, and he didn't. He fell asleep watching movies. I texted him the next day at work, and he texted me back. I told him you are wasting my time. How come you are so busy yet you are in a dating app which we first talked there and got out of there. Gee, I'm so disappointed. It's been 5 days no call or text.
@@julia9985 I feel you. I had to break it but I really do miss him. We however couldn’t talk, even chat mark u it was long distance. My attempt to get us talking to find good communication structure did not work, tried for more than a month to get him on phone or create time we discuss. He would however send a good morning message, but totally snob my request….Couple of days/weeks passed n the how are you messages felt superficial…no matter my response… every abt 24 hours I would get the same ‘ how r u message. He was gaslighting me when I try to raise my concern n I started believing him. Though its disappointing I feel it never would have worked in the long run. No need to play games as grown ups, you are either in or out.
He's 'too busy'' is just an abbreviation for 'Too busy for you"
Well said
if a man likes you, he makes the time for you.
I agree
+anastasia10017 agreed!
didn't come across one yet
only if his not cheating on his girl...
he said man, anyone who cheats on his girlfriend or wife is still a boy. Age is just a number, manhood is a mentality. I would never cheat on any girl in my life.
If he's to busy for me, I'm too busy for him :)
K_dragon obviously you are to stupid to really understand this. Get a life
Aaaand you are alone :)
Exactly!
scott sanger nice! 😂😂
*too
So basically, if you're too nice/loyal/dedicated, you get burnt. This whole clip sounds all too familiar. Bringing back some of those walls, I've had enough of the one-sided give give give.
Ditto
Agree 👍 I'm living this situation right now and the more I watch such advice the more I hate him.
I dont want to hate him..but...Im very hurt and angry by his games..
@@margomazzeo1680 I feel you Margo. 😢😔
Sadly, I believe the nicest ones get used/hurt the most...
In my experience if he likes you, he will pursue you. Going out and running into him at events, or pretending to be occupied won't make a guy like you. we can't control how people react, all you have to do is be yourself, apologetically. No need for games, if he likes you he does, if he doesn't move on, someone else will appreciate your time.
I meant unapologetically&
Are уou making these mistakes with your mаn? twitter.com/792a5f97c2a018822/status/804693412402241537 What Hе Reeeeally Меans When Hе Says Heâ s â œТоo Busyâ Мatthew Husseу Get Thе Guу
so true
Agree wid u
Aye Gal 😂
He's too busy, he's just not that into you.
Hahaha... I read it too ! ;)
True
Totally agree. If a man tells you that they are busy, you need to communicate with him no longer. Clearly you are not his priority and never will be. And not to mention if the guy continues to keep telling you that his busy but has time to log onto facebook throughout the day, he's not interested in you. He's stringing you along to boost his ego.
Us women, we need to be more aggressive towards men who don't tend to beat around the bush and to cut them off and move on. We tend to think, 'oh, let me give him some time to work out his issues and then perhaps we can get together"...that's bullocks. If he's not making time for you, he's not interested. Plain and simple. Stop overthinking the issue and move on. Plenty of fish in the sea.
This kind of a thing happened to me last yr n im still not able to get over that fellow.
We were good frnds, used to talk a lot then n i thought that there is a chemistry between us bt sadly for me that wasnt the case i dnt know what was on his mind. He just stopped talking to me suddenly after 2-3 meets.
We are back to being acquaintances
Things are crystal clear now to me but it really makes me sad thinking what did i possibly do wrong.
In those few times that u guys met, did u guys have sex? I ask because sometimes when we have sex within the first few meets, the guys lose interest and move on coz they never wanted anything more than just sex. I have learned that if u want a meaningful and lasting relationship u need not have sex for 90 days. If the guy can't hold out for that long than clearly he was only into u for sex and if he was truly interested in U then he would respect u and wait.
Similar circumstance happened with me. I met a guy online, he seemed nice and we got along great...he was constantly 'busy' and never made the time to meet me but dragged it out for a year. After a year I cut him off coz clearly he didn't want to meet...turns out he was dating someone and hence why he didn't want to meet.
No more online dating for me that's for sure. And another thing, in the past I have always given up sex within the first few dates and my relationships have never lasted...now I'm taking sex off the table and gonna make the guy 'chase' me. Sometimes u just have to play hard to get if u want the right guy and weed off all the bad ones. Trust me with time u will forget about this guy till then take each day as it comes.
Just STOP investing in this man Hussey is describing here. Stop today. don't text him. Don't call. Don't be available. Nutin. Do not lift a finger. Put him last on your list. And then he can see what its like. Booom yes!
Perfect and the best answer!!! Put him on the end of the list!!!!! Right now!!!! You come first, not him!
+Athena Rosio Best Answer !
+Athena Rosio thank you so much for the advice. it's the best advice ever.
+LuxeLike Whatever I know 100% for a fact that this is highly effective :-) This is the only method that works. Because asking and begging a man to spend more time with a woman, DOES not work ! Yaay thank you I am happy you liked my advice :-)
+Athena Rosio But this is not revenge or playing games. This is done with POLITENESS :-) Just be busy ladies! and not reward him when men is not treating us with respect and love.
This is so damn accurate. I was always available for this guy even though I am a full-time student and have a full-time job. He knew I was always around. The time I realized I was paying too much attention to him, I focused more on myself and valued myself more. I would still respond to his texts/calls but not as much as I used to. Now, he's the one chasing me.
It really works 😊
I’m dumping this guy. I’m done. He’s always with his friends.
I can do better.
Facts
Same
you arent better, you are a loser
Oh can you now
Do you have to believe that he's too busy? I think every person would have time if they would like to but I guess you're just not his priority. Find a person who can't live life without letting you know how his day was.
Truth!!
Not good enough…he can take 2 minutes to have that conversation and be off with his friends the rest of his time
Absolutely not. It's a stupid excuse.
But what if he writes that he has been busy with work lately, and/but he has time to talk tomorrow?
Growing up around seven brother qualifies me as an expert.:)ladies value yourself, know God has someone for you , don't chase....
Lorena Haro :(
Honestly if a man truly wants u. You don’t even have to play the game of “ having a life” . All I did was work and watch tv. Did not have a life and he didn’t even care. We got married 6 months later. Now 13 years married.
As much as I get what this guy is saying it's always upsetting to me when someone tells me to go do things and "create a life". I have the life I want and it's happens that I'm not this super social person that likes and wants to be on the go, I'm happiest in a quiet calm environment. This means that my life is one where I answer all my emails and messages and all my phone calls as they come from everyone in my life. The message that I'm suppose to have a lot going on to attract a man always feels like there's something wrong with me and my life. To me it feels more like there's something wrong with society if the woman is expected to be something she's not.
Exactly my words
💯
Yes Queen! Yaaaas. 💕
Agree and complete relate! I don't like a super busy social life.
I think you do you :) you have a life regardless of other things. As long as you like your life :)
"What kills attraction is knowing that every time you pick up the phone to someone there'r always going to be available to you" Matthew this is 100% true 💕👍
But emotions run cold when someone is chronically unavailable
That's the problem though. No-one is available anymore
What also kills attraction is when the person is rarely ever available, not just always available. Lack of availability is lack of attraction as their time can be spent on someone else. You don’t know the person fully if they’re never or rarely available and the relationship goes down hill from their. If you want a relationship with someone there should be a balance. Not too available or too unavailable.
@@bri3073 Exactly! It needs to be a healthy balance of both.
So you don't want someone who is reliable and available to you? That's just sad and the worst advice ever.
Well this slap me hard on the cheek. My ex was basically saying he was "too busy" playing video games. -.- then called me when he was about to pass out. I obviously tried talking to him about, but he never changed...so I did and dumped him. Now his life turned to shit and mine went uphill.
My boyfriend has been doing the same thing lately! He plays xbox, and he knows he feels guilty, I see it, and then when we he does call, he passes out.
Destiny Rosario I fugure I was not on his priorities. At least, he made me feel like I was not. Trust me, i found someone else who is outstandingly perfect! Calls, texts, cares, handsome, ugh perfect for me
Well now he's leaving to military school in Texas, were still going to date but it's going to get harder. :,(
He wants to join the marines
Lol well that is weird. Joshua also wants to join the marines. To me is fine, I am basically one step away from joining the Air Force.
people make time for what and who are important to them
Yes..ur so right..
Dated someone for a year and a half. He was busy almost daily. It was either his job, his family problems or friends or something. Constant excuses and I’d feel clingy messaging him or asking for calls. He called me crazy and toxic 😅 it ended thankfully but don’t let anyone make you feel that way!
the whole time that you were speaking i felt like you were talking about me ! i swear i teared up ! i gave up my life for him and now he is playing mr busy doing absolutely nothing ! GOD i'm sick and tired of love !
My exact words
That’s not love that’s been a doormat
sometimes i think men are so silly, they would rather invest in someone who's not genuinely in love with them than spend some time with someone who truly wants to invest themselves in the dating. Isn't it kind of shallow and childish to behave this way?
Very much so and the only thing I.seem to ever.get
Thats why men would spend loads of money on hookers instead of their own women
@@everelizabethstevenson8591 which is what you're doing aswell.... If you have this complaint, then you're being a hypocrite because you're doing what you don't like them doing.
I guess it's because they say men love to chase. It's pretty odd though. They do silly things. I dislike the mind games they tend to play.
Yes, this!!!
Girl... He's just not that into you! If he really wants you... Then he'll DO ANYTHING. Even if he s the president of America ! Knowing that... Made my life so much easier ;-)
Scandalous ;)
getrealp78
xD
***** i agree with you. its about creating the prefect amount of attention.
Obama and Michelle are a good example of that, I suppose
LilLion1818 I don't like being the one chasing. I like the mutual conversation and interest.
This is the 2018 version of “change for your man, ladies”.
Moment he’s too busy for you, drop him because he’s not worth your time.
Right..
You have no idea how your video just saved my self respect. I was just going to message and ask him why he hasn't got any time as he is on fb but then I thought of staying firm on my decision not to ask him and opened TH-cam and your video came up. Watched it and I knew why you came before him in my life to teach me these things. Thank u so much matthew
So true and sad! This doesn´t only applies to boyfriends or girlfriends. It applies to friends too !!
i feel that when friends are only avalible once a month or once every 4 months. a boyfriend will make up for that
I agreed with the first part, but if someone won't make time for me, I have better things to do than play games to be more attractive to them. If they are "too busy", bye Felicia.
You are right! Who has the time to play games to be more attractive. Im thinking I'm not the one for him
I don't think it's about playing games I think it's about genuinely going out and leading an interesting life that you wish to lead. It just happens to attract people to you.. He's said this in another video with Lewis Howes.. If you're living a great life or working hard to be the best version of yourself and live the best life you can then you'll attract others doing the same!
If someone won't make time why not just share your expectations/feelings/thoughts if you're in a relationship or wanting to be in a relationship? Then hear their side?
You've literally just saved me a relationship. I can't tell you how helpful this video is. I wish this guy all the best for his future!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌❤
I seriously need to get a life 😂😂
Yes you do.
Same lol :(
😆
It means he is too busy for YOU! He's not interested in you.
Exactly...ladies don't stop doing what you like to do...let him do what he wants...but you need to know that the Lord knows your desire...and he is the author and finisher of your faith...don't wait on a man...value your time as well.. because make no mistake...if he is really interested you will know it...he will pursue you...not find everything else more interesting than time with you...
Amen
My boyfriend made time for me everyday and out of no where he said he’s “been busy” i have no idea what changed.. it’s funny because he did this literally 2 days before Valentine’s Day. 😂 coincidence ?? I think not 😂
Trust me, before he said he is too busy, I walked away already.
If he doesn't make time for you, he isn't worth your time. Period. Don't be someone's last priority. I mean you have to adjust if they are really busy with their career but if you're important he will still make some time for you, you guys just have to find a middle ground. They do change their behavior if they are the right person. There's no point of playing so much mind games.
My man started at a different university and had literally no time for me in the beginning and we had a talk where i explained honestly how that makes me feel because i have things to do as well but i make time for him and he realized what he was doing was hurting me and because he cares for me, he started making time for me every chance he gets. So find yourself the right guy, someone you can be honest with and who doesn't force you to play mind games to get his attention. Ofcourse get a life but do it for yourself and not to make yourself seem more interesting to someone else.
you decide your value, no one else. And you gotta start today.
I probably understood what you said in this video...
Having a life is more important than waiting for a guy who is less bothered for me.
Hey!. I just loved your advice. Thank you so much..
Matthew Hussey
Thank you so much for this, Matt!! It's like you could read my mind, was searching for this answer for so long. And you're absolutey right, have forgot my own life for so long.
"It's much easier to create a life than faking one"!!!!! Yup, sooooooooo true!!!!!!
I don't need attraction I need true love
I love how you smile at the end..feels so genuine..
"what kills attraction is knowing that everytime u pick up the phone to someone, they're always gonna be available to u. that kills attraction."
Thank you, I feel that…
Does this mean we should not be available all the time, cuz my boyfriend is too busy with work and I'm home trying to find a job which makes me available so the only time we meet is when he has a little bit of free time, so does this make me too available for him?
Doesn’t make sense but this why men have to settle .
Always invest less than a man, always. remember this all women out there.
Athena Rosio what if you're bi or a lesbian? Muhahahahahahaha
Athena Rosio I told my boyfriend how I felt about him before we started dating. And we're still together.
what if he is genuinely busy? lol
Athena Rosio yup because they don’t know how to act
@Nikolina I'm not a chicken to be chased. If I like a guy I'm honest. People need to grow the fuck up.
Absolute truth in this video and advice I have taken when first posted. Watching it again is a mini refresher course..
Love listening to him, as always. This guy is amazing. I don't know other person, who could give relationship advice as good as he can. :)
to all those girls here saying "you should just walk away when he says he is too busy", you dont have to walk away! This is a situation almost every couple has to face at some point in their relationship. It's related to human psychology.. you lose attraction when the person is always available for you.. this is normal!
@scott sanger Shut your vile trap..
You also lose attraction when the person is rarely available, not just always available. If anyone wants a relationship with someone there should be a balance. Lack of availability means lack of attraction since they could be spending their time on someone else. Not too available or too unavailable.
When they aren’t available they miss out on getting to know their partner. This causes stress and uncertainty to the other partner because it could mean they’re no longer interested. The best way is to not make a relationship your purpose of living and make time more for you and at least have effort for the relationship. If you’re to busy and can’t take at least 30 minutes out of 24hrs for someone than your wasting the other persons time and not ready for that commitment.
@@bri3073 💯💯
I needed this today! Thank you for your amazing advice, as always!
Wow ur absolutely right , ur describing in a very cleverly , when ur losing something than ur attracting it’s a human psychology . Brilliant , love it . People don’t deserve love , they deserve attitude and proud .
You said it perfectly. There was a long time when a serious relationship simply wasn't my priority and even now it would take a lot for me to commit. I had a few men asking me out and I refused saying I was too busy because I genuinely had no time during that period. I chose to invest my time in working on myself (which I desparately needed) and also on my studies, which required a lot of time and was quite stressful. How people choose to spend their time is only their choice and there's nothing wrong with it. Somehow it became almost shameful for a person to have different priorities than a relationship. This needs to stop. If you happen to have a crush on someone who's in this stage of their life - like the man I have a crush on at the moment - don't resent them and don't blame yourself. Just accept it and move on with your life. One day he will change his priorities and who knows, maybe he'll get back to you.
I'm increasingly more convinced that Matthew Hussey is an actual genius. What are great guy.
sometimes your advice keeps me from going over the edge. Tonight is one of those times. thank you for putting things in perspective 😃
You were going to kill ya self over a guy
this is saving my relationship OMG I'm glad I came across your channel I'm taking notes!!
In my experience, if a guy ask you to go out on a date and you are busy all the time, he moves on and finds someone else to spend his time with.
So true.
preach
jann2882 you totally missed the point of this video. The guy was the one always busy, so yes she should move on. You're saying the same thing but switching the genders. If the guy wants to date a woman and she never has time for him, then he too should move on.
@@yzuniga13sa you missed his point….it’s simpler for men. They don’t bend over backwards, get emotional, watch TH-cam to figure out what the problem is. They don’t waste a millisecond moving to the next….women do
@@SanctifiedLady OK, why would they?
So true it is easier to create a life than to fake one. Very well said.
this video broke my heart but I needed to hear this. Thanks.
Oh my goodness, that was literally what i needed to hear - No, what I needed to know!! Thank you so much!!
Love you Matt!! you are just awesome. You really inspire and help us feel better
Really needed this video right now. Thanks Matthew
I dropped him . too busy . a lot of overtime. bye bye buddy. he's now running after me like crazy . heh too late now😉
Tammy Ng I'm thinking leaving my man soon I'm tired this job working to much
Love your videos Matt. Always great advice. You’ve helped me change my attitude. No more chasing for me. I was put on a pedestal, only to be pushed off. But he’s still got me dangling on a string. I’m Certainly not a priority to him even though he claimed I would always be a priority and he’d never let me down… “yeah right” !!…. Cheap talker.
Well I’ve finally seen the light and found the strength to hold back. Sick of the ball always having to be in his court, only having contact when it’s convenient for him. I’ve learned to value my self worth.
You are really opening my eyes, and boosting my self confidence. Thank you sooo much, love from Argentina ;)
I don't like those games..do this and that in order to like me..I understand that 's how is working,in many cases but I don't like it. Why not appreciate someone who is there for the other every the time it is possible? I want to be loved just as I am,without games,without forcing something...thank you for videos
+Mariana Paunoiu im totally with you
thanks
+Mariana Paunoiu This is not game playing. So many people think it is. The reason why this is the only thing that works: IS BECAUSE MEN DONT LISTEN TO WOMEN who are BEGGING a man to spend more time with us!!! I am saying this with kindness and respect. Just write large letters to make a point :-)
+Athena Rosio But this is not revenge or playing games. This is done with POLITENESS :-)
I disagree it's not about men all the time.
that was pretty perfect to the situation I'm in at the moment. Thanks Matt!! xx
This guy knows what he's talking about. A true class gentleman! I've seen another guy's (Corey Wayne) love advice channel for men on TH-cam, full of foul language and ego striking. Keep up the great work, Matthew!
Thank you so much for this Mathew. Very informative.
Successful relationship work when two people are both self-sufficient in their joy factor and two people coming together that enhances each other. It's extremely important to consistently work on yourself and progress. Most importantly is loving yourself and respecting yourself because that is high value. By loving yourself you will start to respect yourself more and that will build up healthy boundaries that will bounce emotionally unavailable men/women off your radar or you'll recognize it much easier, red flags. You will also learn what your "needs" are, which is different for everyone and what "core" values are important to you. You are who you attract. You attract a reflection of you. :) Keep loving, keep being mindful, and "create a life." Remember you can only control how much you love, not how much you are loved that is within their control. The more you love yourself the more you will see things in different interruptions and perceptions. :) You are always enough. (take the time to really get rid of bad habits and limitations that has been created).
Everybody says these days:"Love yourself " and blah-blah-blah... But what exactly does this mean? It's just bull#@it. I take good care of myself ,I do what I like, enjoy different activities as much as just watching a movie in bed, sometimes I learn on how to improve my interpersonal skills and my body etc., but my core interest is to communicate with people I like! And I find time for them!
If loving oneself means not giving a sh@t for the others, then f@ck this kind of love.
@@tatianag.1149 I think loving yourself means checking your beliefs about yourself and correct them. You must feel ENOUGH and loveable. Not to seek validation externally.
When you achieve this state, you will not entertain unavailable, toxic people anymore, will be able to say NO to them and focus/attract genuin, healthy minded individuals.
If he has no time for you but for friends and all kind of other stuff move on!
I didnt and this dude broke my heart. The entire relationship went on his terms.
Spot on, definitely sharing this insight with my friends.
this is so much more than love advice, it's life advice
Great advice and wake up call. Love that you tell it like it is
I love all of the meaningful advice you give!! On this video I have experienced that if
I don’t answer his call or text a few things happen
1. He will say I don’t know how you do business if you never answer your phone. (I help people buy and sell homes)
2. He will stop calling or texting me and wait for me to reach out to him and be distant or upset.
3. He calls and text me throughout the day because he see’s me as his best friend.
Then the guy is worth your time. Drop him.
I LOVE THIS!!! A different perspective that clarifies everything. I finally know now what to do. Subscribe right away!
This is exactly what I needed. Old video but it works just perfect. Thanks!
I'm a young woman, who is busy with my career. This is not solely men who say they are too "busy." I do it, too. When you work more than 40 hours a week, you want to spend your free time doing fun things. And if you are still trying to establish yourself in your career, it makes it 10x harder to imagine dating someone, or having a relationship. My point is: do not take it personal. I'm sure the guy thinks you're pretty and likes you, but it is just not the right time for him to settle down.
I understand exactly what you are saying but at the same time I think that for those ppl who are busy with their day-to-day life or more focused on getting their career moving forward and literally have no time for dating, need to stop going out there and actively looking for someone to date. That's giving mixed signals to ppl. If you have no time for dating, you shouldn't be on dating websites trying to find someone to date.
Trust me when I say this, if they haven't met up with you in 6 months, they never will.
I went through the same thing. I met someone off an internet dating website and it dragged on for about a year. Always tried to make plans but 'he was too busy'. I should have ended it way way sooner but I learned my lesson.
My advice, do not entertain their text messages anymore. Delete their number, and even if they do text, don't reply back. You deserve better than this. We all do.
And don't ever do the internet website dating thing either. No one is serious in meeting anyone off that thing anymore unless it's only about sex.
Not when he prefers to touch himself and NOT the woman he lays naked with!! and gives the excuse - every single time - that he's "tired"...What do you say to that 4alrightgirls!?
My man also said to mee that he is too busy to date, but he never post anything in social media about his activities, so I think yeah that's true that he is busy coz I know that his job is so demanding. I do understand that he is really busy, but I still feel so insecure that he has lost interest in me, even though he said no reason to feel insecure and he said he won't go anywhere, but he is never able to find even 10 seconds to text me. When I do not text him, he doesn't text me. It's so confusing.
@scott sanger That was, by far, one of the dumbest statements I have ever read in my life. Well done. 👏
It is very confusing. In that pickle too sis. I'm sorry you're going through it too... :(
Stop texting him and wait for him to reach out to you. I know it's hard but believe me it works! Then you'll get use of it ( he's the one initiating the conversation)
@@singerg02 Hes trolling as many women as he can on here..just ignore him..
@scott sanger Will you ever stfu??
you are so right !! I will surely not wait until he calls me. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Thank you for these videos they are helping me a lot
nah, when he's the right guy you won't have to play the "i'm busy too " game, just move on.
Learned a few years ago exactly this thing: people ONLY do what's important for THEM. Nothing else. No matter how ridiculous or infuriating it might sound to others. Ex: choosing to help a friend the night before a serious exam because that friend is a very important person to you. And vice versa, just like this girl is describing.
I just love you, I am a new, Subscriber today. Thanks my coach...
Haha, I absolutely love your views and your honesty! The way you bring out a lot of situations about guys and the way that they think and you perceive has got to be one of the best so far and one that I have never even began to think of! Lol you make so much sense its scary 😊😊😊
Remember ladies: IT is NEVER too late to RECLAIM your Value :-) Assuming done in the best way though!
Without game playing, Arguing, asking, nagging, begging, using words... cuz we know that dont work!
BE BUSY and POLITE/ respectful at the same time :-) He wont see it coming, then he will need to think about wow wo hey hey now he cant treat you like a doormat anymore....because u stopped acting like one :-) Good Luck LAdies! This works like magic everytime :--)
I gotta say Athena is absolutely right. You can't always be available and there for them, all the time when they are not giving you that same amount of attention or time that you deserve back to you. Only when they feel up to it or to their convenience, nope. These are non-committal type guys that like living alone and their space and or their guy friends to hang out with after work for some beers. I went through this personally and you really get bored sick and tired of it all when you are the last priority. They may have came out of a bad relationship or divorce with kids and now are mentally damaged goods. And they can't give to you what you really deserve because they are emotionally unavailable or incapable of demonstrating feelings they may show you some feelings up to a point. Been there done it. There's too many factors causing this type of behavior and we don't have time to figure it out and be psychologists and perhaps we can find someone else who truly will appreciate a dedicated good woman. Good luck.
Damn, he is preaching to THE CHOIR.🙌
Thankyou for this video. Much needed thank you so much.
Thank you universe ❤️. Will work on myself. You put things so easy thankyou
Man... I love you the way ypu explain this to create our own life is best way to put away ourselves from overthinking 👍
Wow I guess I've been doing everything wrong.
in this case he is just not into you girl....walk away
erica Koshuma i needed that! thank you
Im walking now...
Great video once again Mr Hussey! I 100% agree with this vid. You said it all, what is there left to add?
Matt, you are AMAZING!!! Straight to the point!
I know I'm young and boys are stupid in high school but why can't people just be honest about their priorities? It's so frustrating that these guys can't be decent enough to say "I don't want to hang out" and that's it!
Brianna Quinn it don't change when you get older, trust us.
Why are we implying someone isn't busy or doesn't have a life because we are mature adults and expect someone to know how to communicate properly. Surgeons performing surgery have the music on and engage in conversations about golf lol so someone can definitely respond back to a message. My advice is this "choose people that choose you".🥰😘
Exactly what I needed to listen to at the moment!
You just can't imagine how I love you Matthew Thank you coz you really answer me when am having some issues. N yes now this is what am facing.
Good advice I'm through this at the moment an it's so frustrating, liking a guy who's only priority is his career. which is I guess is a good this for him but leaves me in side lines as I want a relationship. but I'm definitely gonna take ur advise an focus on my an no be so available cause at the moment every feels like there on his terms when he free an I don't like it
Very timely. Hard to hear but true.
THANK YOUUU FOR THIS! EVERYTHING IS ON POINT! 😭
This video was so so helpful