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As embarrassing and horrible it is to admit to, I'm currently suffering severe depression and I haven't brushed my hair or showered in 9 days now. I feel disgusting and worthless but when I try to even think to bring myself to have a shower, my mind and body breaks down and I end up crying and asking 'why' I have to do it. 😖 depression is real. It's NOT in the mind, it can take over you as much as you let it. At first I faught it for about a year then gradually it started getting worse and I can say I can relate to every single one of those from this video.
@@itsnis5920 I showered maybe 10 times the entire year of 2020 and I'm definitely not happy about it. Its gotten to a point where even if I were finally able to shower, remembering that doing so would be difficult for me since I have so much dead skin built up, completely discouraged me from doing so
When I have a depressive episode I don’t shower, brush my teeth, brush my hair - I don’t do anything for myself at all because I feel like I don’t deserve it. It’s always how I tell if I’m falling into another episode, I will suddenly just feel like I don’t deserve to feel good and feel clean and healthy. People think I’m just too lazy to take care of myself.
@@KarronAngel I commented this 3 years ago and i’ve honestly gotten so much better in that time, i still have episodes occasionally but stuff honestly does get better and it will for you, i hope you’re okay
my mom told me how lazy I was because I start so many things but can't finish most of them, I wanted to breakdown into tears right there. I get it, I'm unreliable, have horrible self-care, lazy, pathetic, exhausted and need to leave the house, I already hate that I can't bring myself to finish anything because it physically feels like I haven't slept in days even though I woke up twenty minutes ago.
I'M SECRETLY A NINJA POTATO same. I want to leave my home too because of the same situation as yours. All words come out of my parent's mouth are heartbreaking. They sound insulting to me
I feel that. I wish they would stop saying such harsh things to me then all why I feel the way I do. Its like they are completely oblivious to how much their words, out of anybody's, hurts
I'M SECRETLY A NINJA POTATO I have always been accused by others as being lazy when I am just having a bad episode of depression whichakes me feel so guilty and just makes it even worse.
That sickening feeling in your stomach when you are sad but you just have no clue why. Or you want to talk someone about that feeling but you have no one to talk to. And you distance yourself from others because you feel like they would be better of without you. idk
+Wolfgirl Elisha Wells It does feel good to get it out - especially in a setting where you don't have someone responding with criticism or judgment. I'm glad you're not going to harm yourself, but I get that you can still have those horrible feelings. Of course talking to a therapist can help you more. If you don't have access to that, it sounds like you need to find some new confidants who you can trust with your feelings
+Wolfgirl Elisha Wells Its fine, i have depresion too, sometimes when i back from school and i m feeling realy down,after lunch i just start eating even more, but even when i taste food it doesn't feel good and after some bites i loose mood to eat at all, but i m still eating cause i m trying to fill myself and to distract myself, then later i just lay on bed and there goes 3 or 5 minutes i fall into deep thoughts and my hands automaticly wrap around my knees or take blanket and wrap it around me shaking, like i m all cold, and even when i got to sleep i always feel like i didn't sleep enough and even those hours i have slept feels like i didn't sleep at all, whenever my parents or friends ask me whats wrong, i tell them that everthing is ok, i want to tell them so bad that i have depresion, but i know they won't understand and its not like they can do anything to help, and plus they would probably say that i m just speaking nonsense if i told them, that feeling is so deep, deep like those moments when i looked at empty backyard of school or park and felt like there is nobody in world to help me with this..
I've been suffering from depression since last many years that I started pulling my hair, now I'm mostly bald and I'm old 30.. I feel numb totally numb don't feel happy or sad I feel numb can't move or do anything... hopefully pain will end soon!
Depression is a horrible mind controller and it hurts when friends and family don't understand and don't try to support us. I've had clinical depression for years.
It’s like an unauthorized biography of my last five years. The worst is that people don’t understand and can be mean thinking they can motivate you into doing things. I use to come home from work and take a sleeping pill and sleep until the next morning just so I didn’t have to deal with life.
Ditto! One time, someone told me to "snap out of it." I'm like do you think I enjoy depression? Do you think I like feeling this way? If it was that easy to simply "snap out of it," don't you think I would? This isn't fun!
I’ve basically slept through the last 4 years because I couldn’t deal with life. And now there are so many problems built up around me because I never dealt with them that I feel terrified and overwhelmed by it all. I am literally bitterly disappointed to wake up each morning because I would rather die in my sleep than wake up and face life.
One thing I hate is that because my friends know I get anxious and overwhelmed in social situations they don’t invite me anywhere. I wish they invited me places, but understood when I leave early after I have too much, or when I don’t even go or have “other plans”. It just makes me feel isolated, because I want to have fun with them but I want to them understand when I can’t. You know?
I like musicals deal with it Yeh it is hard. Maybe try explaining it to them if its becoming a major issue for you. I know its difficult because they might not understand how you feel but its always better to try to explain whats going on with you rather than not sag anything.
Yeah I feel the same. I don't get invited anywhere and my friends tell me it's because they know I won't show up, and I wish they understood it's not that I don't want to because I want to spend time with them...its just much noise, or too many people, or I'm scared or can't find the motivation to get get out of bed to go, but they don't understand that
+Pastel Bones OMG !!! I WAS SAYING THE EXACT SAME THING TO MY DAUGHTER YESTERDAY , MY MUM GOES OUT PLACES & TAKES MY KIDS & MY AUNTIE , BUT JUST STOPPED ASKING ME ... GUESS WHAT THEY'RE DOING TODAY !!! 🆘🌎💯 ...
This video honestly makes me feel so much better just by knowing that I'm not the only one who does these sorts of things. I hate going days without brushing or showering but I just can't get out of bed. I hate that my room's a mess but I just have zero motivation. Knowing that I'm not alone is fantastic.
This made me cry, because I know all embarassing symtoms and didn't know they occur through my depression. 😣😢 Now I understand and don't feel like a 100% failure. 😯
Same, I thought it was just me but while while watching this I could feel my heart drop. Basically all of these are how I feel and feel so bad about all the time. I'm glad this isn't just because I'm a shit person but I still feel bad about it.
Take care Walter;)...v r all on the same side ,but take care ..thankfully now is an age thanks to the net v really know v r not alone.its a blessing. But v must seek help.I need to atleast big time.U tc .
These symptoms are why people with ADD is easily mistaken with depression.... most of the time we sleep, no motivation to do stuff, people hate us, but atleast we're hyperactive to our own stuff.
One of the worst thing is if some of your friends know about your depression and it just seems like they think that it isn’t real. Some days I can look like I just got out of hell, they look at me and then don’t comment on it asking if you’re okay or not. Other days I just fall of a chair and they come rushing over asking if I’m okay.
Yeah, then feeling all alone because you know they'll think you're lying because for some reason people believe depression isn't a thing, especially in teens. They say it's just us being attention seekers or dramatic, and then you feel all alone
I-Am-A-Fangirl Be_Afraid And it isn't? I'm curious what makes other people feel depressed, do you have a specific good reason you are aware of or did those symptoms come out of the blue and you don't even exactly know what causes the depression? Or maybe something in-between, I don't know. Again, just curious.
Ab- Dawg same way here. But when I do eat (if there's food available) I just want to stuff myself and then my emotions are just flying everywhere and honestly I forgot how I feel. I don't know if I'm underweight, but sometimes my friends tease me about it not knowing how much I will think about it. I just struggle keeping my mental state well and it's now starting to majorly damage me physically.
PITBULLS 4 LIFE see it's kind of weird I'll go through long stretches of time where I'm not hungry or just won't eat. This is usually followed by a period of time where I don't stop eating. It goes back and forth in a vicious cycle. I still don't gain weight. I remain at the light side for my age and height. Either way I want the comments about how I'm so skinny to stop. I also have a very poor self esteem.
Same, it's like when ever I get sad I stop eating and no one notices at all, but then again I'd panic if they did. My weight is just a constant spiral down because I have no motivation to eat
This is my life everyday every single note especially the poor hygiene part and i truly hate myself for it because im a whole female and no matter what life takes me through i should never ever be tooo depressed to comb my hair take a bath/shower or even brush my teeth but its just not that easy to snap out of depression i wish it was because this is not normal for me or anyone for that matter i want all the people in this comment section that suffers from this kind of depression like me to know i truly understand what your going through i really do and if no one else loves you i truly do may god bless you ❤💓💕💖💞💘💌💋😘😘✌
Daphne Daeris Elfirinil I know I am really depressed right now. I thought reading the video would help me feel better but I just cried really bad the whole time.
This is so perfect, these are the things we are afraid of telling our therapists and doctors because of the shame and embarrassment. I wish it was this easy for me to articulate these things to ppl
This made me understand depression so much more, I used to think it was when you were just sad, and depressed, for long periods of time. Now I know it is much more serious, and different.
Not sure if anyone will, but im here to listen if you want to talk, explain, text, email. Im here to try to help by being me. Im just Me, and thats ok☺. I hope all get better some day. I love you
Man, I thought it was just me regarding not cleaning enough. 😳 Every weekend I say I'm gonna do it, and I don't. I also don't do laundry enough. Ugh. 😖
And then it gets to a point where, even after the depression breaks for a bit, you don't know where to even start. Yeah, I've been in that state for years...
Thank you for making this. I've been in a deep depression for the past few months. I'm so been embarrassed by these symptoms. Now I feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one.
Same, I use to be such a diligent student. Sometimes I still am, but most days I don't have the motivation to pay attention, take notes, complete assignments and my grade tanks and my teachers thing I'm lazy.
i dropped out of college because of depression....its not just the school work thats hard to keep up, it's going to a place surrounded by people your age who seem to have it all together. They could do the work, had friends, social life, meanwhile I felt like dead inside.
To everyone with depression: I can't fully comprehend what you are going through, but I support you and hope that things will get better for you. Remember that you aren't alone!
Tia Davis I feel ya. I feel ya. But what was bad on my part is when I didn't have compassion or wasn't gentle towards her. I had all of these hateful emotions towards her and didn't love her as I should. Yes my mother is a pain. I am sure your mother is similar, but I couldn't be unforgiving and hate her forever. Its more weight emotionally for me to carry. Here's the gospel. Whether you may be saved or not or even skeptical. I insist you read this. The gospel, which led me to my conversion, helped me learn to love my mother despite how much she failed me and my brother: readthegospel.com
Thank you I needed to hear that seriously. I’ve been pissed at her for years over something she can’t mentally control. I’m tired of being upset with her but my mind won’t let me
Tia Davis You are fighting this alone. Which is impossible. I had no reason to love my mother until I experienced and was given mercy and forgiveness. It would be wrong to not forgive my mother of such- I'm using as analogy- a small debt she owes me, when I've been forgiven an enormous debt I couldn't ever repay. This would mean I wasn't thankful that my debt was repaid for. Matthew 18:21-35
I just had to cut my hair by myself trying to detangle it because I didn't wash it for whole 3 months due to depression. My hair was long reaching my lower back.. Now most of is gone because of the conditioner I used in attempt to detangle it. Then i had to cut the rest.. Now it is above my shoulders not even at same length and very thin 😢
B B Aww thank you for your support and love 🤗💕 Tbh i felt free after cutting it and wondered why i haven't done it earlier?! Sometimes we hold onto things thinking that they're supposed to be a reason for our happiness but in fact we only carry them as a burden.
Geminilicious But three months, are you saying the truth? I can't imagine not washing it for so long, my maximum is one week and even so it looks like hellish hell, how did you find the will/courage to go outside and you didn't have any health problems with your scalp? I think it's dangerous girl to leave it unwashed for so long, I hate washing it since I feel like shit too and have energy for nothing at all, but it itches bad after a while so you have to wash it in the end.. so that's why I was curious how you dealt with not washing it.
All so true and sad. And the worst part we lie or try to hide or cover them up for fear because people who have never really experienced severe depression could understand or relate and might just get mad. It sucks . Jesus help us all with all different illnesses but mental ones are a real struggle.
Dawn 80 or we lie and hide because when we've reached out for help before we have just been physically and verbally abused and told we're worthless and it's just in our heads and we are just being lazy.
Being unfair and unfriendly to people, just because you feel bad. Like when i go to the supermarket and someone stands in my way, i just tell 'm to 'piss off!' or 'get the hell out of my way!!' But when i'm not depressed, i'm a very nice person - always willing to help people. ☺
I am all of these except the weight one and thats just cuz I have a high metabolism so I stay close to being underweight. Its been hard to tell and show the wife how I feel all the time when I cant even describe it myself. I sent her this and I think understands me a lil better now. Been together for almost 7 years now and its like shes still trying to understand how I can feel so miserable even though everything in our lives are only getting better. thank you so much Mighty, you have a earned a sub, please keep being awesome!
The weight change is a very common symptom of my depression. I eat when I’m sad to make me happy. Then when I gain weight, it makes me sad. So I stop eating to become happy with my appearance again. But the lack of food/energy drains my body of being happy.
Whenever I take a shower all of my negative thoughts go on hyoerdrive because Its quiet, there's no one around, and there's nothing to distract me from my thoughts. I listen to music while in the shower to try to drown them out.
Frédéric Chopin I can relate, but i suppose it's kinda worse for me. I dont really get enjoyment out of stuff anymore, so my game console no longer distracts me so when ever i get home from school (Social and regular anxiety, plus depression makes that hell) I dont feel like playing games so i just lie on the coach and end up thinking about all that terrible stuff.
nearly everything could be a note from me.... when i read the comments i felt connected to most ppl here... why cant i meet ppl like this irl? im am always surrounded by these " hey how is it going im a happy extrovert" type of ppl... 3 days ago i broke up with my gf and it destroyed me now completely... we was so connected and i loved everything about her... we had so many similarities u wont trust me....and now everything is over and the depression that was allways there turned 1000x worse... i will never find someone like her again... words cant descripe how much i loved her....
I thought... it was just me. My family don't understand me, i'm 25, my mom thinks I don't clean our house or my room because i'm lazy. I don't really worked in my life, the only thing I do is taking care of my sister's son, he's 5 and doing this often makes me feel pressured. I just want to be alone sometimes, but I can't. I fall sleep really easily, this is bad because I need to be taking care of him, if something happens my mom and sister called me irresponsible... I can't do anything about this, doesn't matter how much I sleep. I'm 8 or 80, once I get angry is hard to control me. About the hygiene too, this is horrible to have. I listened so many things until today, even from my sister who also has depression but decided to stop with her medication, she entered my room one day to fight with me because our mom was so worried about the way I was living at the time... my sister said "You are no different than a plant right now, or a person who is vegetative in a hospital." Please don't let anyone say those things to you.
Mandy D. im almost 50 and spent my life being told im crazy lazy a liar ect. sometimes its just better to cut ties even for awhile if you can bc when youre depressed and youre getting treated like that you cant get better. it would cause me to do drastic stuff to get myself put in the psychward to prove a point to my family to back off but it would never last. my son just died he was 27 and had severe anxiety and i always tried to be kind and help him but he went and stayed with his dad who pressured him to be perfect and my son od'd and died. it took that for me to decide to fight for myself and do what i need to do to get better and to eliminate the people who made it worse. its hard to care enough about yourself to fight for yourself when youre depressed but here iam at 50 finally helping myself more than any shrink ever did. PLEASE FOR ME AND MY SONS MEMORY dont wait til your 50. the second you can push the negative away and hold it at a distance. i feel like ive wasted my life crying in bed. please take care of you and think about what im saying
Mandy D. I have heard much terrible words from my parents. I've been jobless since 2016. I'm 24 now and can't find any job that suits me although I send resume, emails etc. My parents keep comparing me with their friends'children who already had stable jobs. They started saying I'm useless, choosy, garbage. They try to find a job for me but everytime they ask me, they asked me rudely like "Just take this job. You won't get anywhere with your useless degree. Doesn't matter if you study until Master etc if you're useless to society" I started seeking job related to my degree quietly because I am hurt that they said my degree is useless and not suit for the job market. I lied to them and pretend I'm not interested in finding job when they're around and as I predicted, they keep saying how lazy, useless and keep saying that I'm stupid. I don't further my study until degree so that I can show off. I study because I love to study. But my parents don't understand. All they can say is, "No matter how hard you study, you will be useless if you don't have a job". While I stay on my belief that each of us have our own pace of achieving our personal goals, my parents believe that as human we graduated university, get a job, pay students loans, get a car and a house, work and work till you die. If you started your job late, you will never succeed in life. That's what they think life is. I am really depressed and thinking about death or I may go crazy if this keeps going on.
Leeanne Vavra I know what you feel. To be a perfect child to their parents. My parents keep comparing me to their 'successful' friends' children. They said they are ashamed of having me as their jobless antisocial daughter
I can have motivation to clean but can't seem to do self care... clothes have been not wearable I know that isn't even a word but I wore and sweated in them so if I wear them again I get bo I'm not gonna lie
It's funny sometimes I think I miss having friends but I'm so bad at actually gettinf comfortable I'm truly socially awkward I have to get comfortable first or be with a group of people at times I also suck at talking and subjects I just freak out why can't I be normal it's weird the only thing that made me feel that way was xanax but I can't just go to the doctor & say can I have xanax even though I'm not going to abuse it but people think that probably
Here comes The sun doo doo I have the problem with Bo and my old clothes as well. I don't know what to do. washing them over and over again does not help.
This was spot on well done. The only thing I would add is the impact on ones health for example me I am so bad that I get horrible migraines constantly like every couple of weeks...
I always thought that I wasn't the type to just cancel a plan or find an excuse to not go somewhere till now. I just realized that lately I was doing it really often. I didn't go to my dance classes because the teacher and the other girls say really bad things to me and I felt anxious and didn't want to go. That was almost nothing. But then I didn't go to my half-friend's birthday party. My other friend said she (the birthday friend) said bad things about me and didn't really want me there but still invited me. I felt so unneeded, anxious and so scared that I'll ruin everything that planned another sleepover and was with my other friend the whole weekend instead of the birthday party.
Being lonely when you're depressive is amazing ! At least you have no friends to cheer up, and you don't have to pretend to be okay for anyone. But yeah, being unable to do or feel anything... it really sucks, it's like not being anymore. And in a world with high social expectations, you have "to be" (something good, obviously).
What my depression is usually like: * shower & brush my teeth 10 times a year * change underwear once a month * often don't bother putting on a pad and continue wearing the underwear if it's stained with blood * wash clothes/linens twice a year (often family does it for me) * untangle hair every couple of weeks or months * never had full-time job (worked 12 hours a week and felt exhausted) * wake up every single day feeling like I have a hangover * housebound 2/3 of the day * never learned how to ride a bike, drive a car, dance, swim, etc * if there's carpet it'll get moldy and make you gag if you enter the room, reuse dirty dishes, so much dust you can pick it up in clumps * disassociate every day, feels like I'm floating in space or the bottom of the ocean * on a good day the dizziness feels like I'm trapped in an elevator * once every couple of months have "an episode" when I get so dizzy I have a massive headache or pressure in my head & severe nausea, lay on the floor for hours or days unable to stand, puke about a half dozen times (feels like I'm spinning fast in a circle during an earthquake) Depression the last 1+ year: * lay in bed 22 to 23 hours a day every day * unemployed * family takes my snap card and grocery shops for me * gained 30+ lbs * spasms or mini seizures * random crying * increased anxiety
When I'm depressed personal hygiene goes out the window. I have no motivation to brush my teeth hair, wash my face, wash my body and hair. I so feel gross about it and so the cycle continues.
Depression has ruined my relationship. I just got dumped the other day by the love of my life and it's because of some of these symptoms, however, I have them all. I'm beside myself because he gave up on me when I needed him most and is already with someone new.
Ingrid and that was me a year & a half ago. But I’m like ... the reason why I’m letting myself go is because of him. If he treated me better, I wouldn’t have been depressed. Went back to his ex and all...
2:32 is me all the time and the worst thing is that my eyes and cheeks get all puffed up and red and then its super obvious when im crying and i hate it
Me episodes usually last a few months and I’ll go that time not showering, brushing my hair or teeth, and hardly eating. It’s so embarrassing I can’t talk to anyone about it and try to stay in bed, because when I go out my family complains about it because they don’t understand, it’s getting harder and harder to pull out of it when I go into that state and don’t really know what I’m doing anymore,I haven’t told anyone this, not even my closest family or my fiancé :/
I've always hated that I'm too scared to let people know I'm depressed. I feel more confident knowing that there are more exactly like me. The only thing that doesn't apply to me is the weight change. my weight doesn't go up, it goes down due to my lack of energy and confidence in anything.
I've had them all. And now am going thru finding out I have 2 life threatening illness...I can't thank you enough for posting this. I don't feel so alone NOR as "Crazy" as I did five minutes ago
I feel so much better after seeing this video! My PCP & my therapist both have actually been appalled and used words like gross & ew when I reveal how I’m existing. Thank you for understanding
have every one of those symptoms except for being on disability because that is legitimately a cop out! i have lost jobs because of my mental health issues, ive been on every medication out there and ive wanted to die but I will ALWAYS pick back up and work because no one else is responsible for financially supporting me!
I'm not sure where this came from but as someone with major depression, I'm not afraid to discuss about any of these things and I often do so with family and someone I can trust. Although I can see how they would embarass someone suffering with depression, I don't think they should feel that way. Life is too short and depression is tough enough. Don't give it the ability to steal your joy. I am going to be 35 tomorrow and I've had enough!!
I cried during the video and could barely read all of them. I've never related so much to something. I hate this. And it's like the only thing people have to say that is supposed to help you is to "breath", etc. If i in that mindset COULD just breath and clear my mind, I'd be fine and nothing would be wrong with me. But...
Depression is honestly the worst. Toss it together with some anxiety and paranoia and BOOM, you’ve got a disaster cocktail that just keeps refilling itself.
Relate to all of them, especially forgetfulness, brain fog, over eating, also not showering, I remember days when I didn't shower for 2 weeks stayed in bed all day not because i was "lazy". And feeling tired all the time, basically everything you mentioned.
Just got a cavity (I think) from only brushing once a day, if I’m lucky. I don’t even have the energy to call the dentist and make an appointment. What an absolute nightmare this is. Glad I’m not alone
Thank you so much for this video. As a 11-12 year old girl I fell into the pit of self-neglect, resulting from traumatic things that were going on then and my horrid mental state. I stopped washing and changing clothes. There was no adult by my side, my family would only mock me. I was harassed by my peers, shouted at, calling names. I was inspiring contempt and disgust in others. I've experienced so many humiliating situations. Now I am a young woman, someone totally different but I still struggle to forgive myself my weakness. For such a long time I thought that it was just because of laziness, I am slowly starting to change my perspective. And of course since a few years maintening proper personal hygiene is very important for me.
I get stressed out a lot, like this one time I was doing centers at school and all a sudden I started getting tired and stressed. I cried out completely and my teacher tried to help. I explained to her but by her look she didn't understand. She didn't understand that I needed to go home for someone to talk to. Not being in the middle of class...just crying.
History Man Have you ever tried vitamin D? Because i am depressed almost every winter, due to the lack of sun, and now i use vitamin D and it's getting better.
Thank you so, so much for posting this. It was spot on. Absolutely spot on. With everything. As someone who has been plagued with depression for most of my life, and who has only recently been diagnosed with Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder, due to an extremely violent and abusive upbringing, I am so relieved that this stuff is finally being talked about in the open. I only wish that more non-sufferers would watch videos like this, then perhaps they would realise that depression is so much more than just a bad mood. It can give you the shakes, bugger up your short term memory and your sense of time, place and perspective, take away your interest in yourself, in other people and life itself, and push you so far down into that pit that you just can't be bothered to climb out anymore - what's the point right? It's debilitating and hateful, and just reduces you to something that's barely existing.
I have all the of the above now (except I have lost weight) and I have major depressive disorder, acute general anxiety disorder, and C-PTSD. Stay safe everyone. One day at a time.
i am constantly being called lazy bc of my depression but the difference is that if i were lazy i wouldn't have a problem with doing things i like instead of things i need to do but i just don't want to do anything even things that used to make me happy
yan stein Yeh. Im a teen aswell. Going to school and having to deal with all of this and then pressure to do good in exams and to do homework and have friends. It tiring. My teachers are si bad at telling when people have mental health issues.
yan stein You can't. Depression is sn illess, that's why you need a professional treatment. I have tried for years to help myself, and ended up nearly commiting suicide. I got help, and after a few months, my mood has changed so much, I was finally able to feel happy! For beating depression, you NEED other people to help you.
People never understand the not showering one. It's a thing!
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I can relate to this
@@sanjayparab2600 sadly me too
As embarrassing and horrible it is to admit to, I'm currently suffering severe depression and I haven't brushed my hair or showered in 9 days now. I feel disgusting and worthless but when I try to even think to bring myself to have a shower, my mind and body breaks down and I end up crying and asking 'why' I have to do it. 😖 depression is real. It's NOT in the mind, it can take over you as much as you let it. At first I faught it for about a year then gradually it started getting worse and I can say I can relate to every single one of those from this video.
@@itsnis5920 I showered maybe 10 times the entire year of 2020 and I'm definitely not happy about it. Its gotten to a point where even if I were finally able to shower, remembering that doing so would be difficult for me since I have so much dead skin built up, completely discouraged me from doing so
Staying in bed all day with (loads of) junkfood and throwing the empty packages beside your bed. And keeping your curtains closed for weeks.
Rose Jeldan are uuuuuu watching 👀 Meeee 😕
How did you know?
literally lying in bed rn with empty packages next to my bed lolol
yup
me everyday..
When I have a depressive episode I don’t shower, brush my teeth, brush my hair - I don’t do anything for myself at all because I feel like I don’t deserve it. It’s always how I tell if I’m falling into another episode, I will suddenly just feel like I don’t deserve to feel good and feel clean and healthy. People think I’m just too lazy to take care of myself.
I feel like your twin xxxxxxxxx
@@KarronAngel I commented this 3 years ago and i’ve honestly gotten so much better in that time, i still have episodes occasionally but stuff honestly does get better and it will for you, i hope you’re okay
Today in 2022 ...
This is exactly how I feel. Thank you for your honesty and that I’m not the only one
@ Lisa Arreguin
I'm the same way as you are I'm here to support you.
my mom told me how lazy I was because I start so many things but can't finish most of them, I wanted to breakdown into tears right there. I get it, I'm unreliable, have horrible self-care, lazy, pathetic, exhausted and need to leave the house, I already hate that I can't bring myself to finish anything because it physically feels like I haven't slept in days even though I woke up twenty minutes ago.
I'M SECRETLY A NINJA POTATO my life story right there
I'M SECRETLY A NINJA POTATO same. I want to leave my home too because of the same situation as yours. All words come out of my parent's mouth are heartbreaking. They sound insulting to me
I'M SECRETLY A NINJA POTATO People, especially parents, really need to be educated about mental illnesses.
I feel that. I wish they would stop saying such harsh things to me then all why I feel the way I do. Its like they are completely oblivious to how much their words, out of anybody's, hurts
I'M SECRETLY A NINJA POTATO I have always been accused by others as being lazy when I am just having a bad episode of depression whichakes me feel so guilty and just makes it even worse.
That sickening feeling in your stomach when you are sad but you just have no clue why. Or you want to talk someone about that feeling but you have no one to talk to.
And you distance yourself from others because you feel like they would be better of without you.
idk
Savannah Banana I distance myself from everyone who wants to be my friend. :(
ASMR Gratitude me too
Savannah Banana So true
Savannah Banana the idea that everyone would be better off without you is just a lie the depressed brain tells you. Don't believe it for a second!
Dawn Baker that's inspiring. Working on that everyday. Thankyou for that.
You hit the nail on the head with all of these. Thanks bringing this to light.
+Wolfgirl Elisha Wells It does feel good to get it out - especially in a setting where you don't have someone responding with criticism or judgment. I'm glad you're not going to harm yourself, but I get that you can still have those horrible feelings. Of course talking to a therapist can help you more. If you don't have access to that, it sounds like you need to find some new confidants who you can trust with your feelings
+Wolfgirl Elisha Wells Its fine, i have depresion too, sometimes when i back from school and i m feeling realy down,after lunch i just start eating even more, but even when i taste food it doesn't feel good and after some bites i loose mood to eat at all, but i m still eating cause i m trying to fill myself and to distract myself, then later i just lay on bed and there goes 3 or 5 minutes i fall into deep thoughts and my hands automaticly wrap around my knees or take blanket and wrap it around me shaking, like i m all cold, and even when i got to sleep i always feel like i didn't sleep enough and even those hours i have slept feels like i didn't sleep at all, whenever my parents or friends ask me whats wrong, i tell them that everthing is ok, i want to tell them so bad that i have depresion, but i know they won't understand and its not like they can do anything to help, and plus they would probably say that i m just speaking nonsense if i told them, that feeling is so deep, deep like those moments when i looked at empty backyard of school or park and felt like there is nobody in world to help me with this..
I've been suffering from depression since last many years that I started pulling my hair, now I'm mostly bald and I'm old 30.. I feel numb totally numb don't feel happy or sad I feel numb can't move or do anything... hopefully pain will end soon!
Nearly every one of those is me... Depression and mental health are such vicious cycles
Yeah, it almost feels like there is no end for it
Depression is a horrible mind controller and it hurts when friends and family don't understand and don't try to support us. I've had clinical depression for years.
Rory Barratt yeah he loves me that much that he blessed me with depression haha
I'm suprised my family don't notice these signs
Here comes The sun doo doo me too 😢
Here comes The sun doo doo same 😥
Me too.
Same here
Here comes The sun doo doo They didn't notice so I told them yet they still don't get it and blame all those things on me
Nearly cried. This is so true. So many people struggle with this, yet to people we love it’s invisible.
Tunmise Akinyemi damn true
Tunmise Akinyemi and when we finaly tell them they don't understand say that we are being overdramatic and give us beat advice ever: "just be happy" 😑
Mári it hurts how true that is
Everything except the stop in mid sentence part usually the reason i stop mid sentence is i notice noone is listening to me :( love and support to all
i do that too. why do you think people do that? sometimes i think its just me but they dont seem to notice i stopped. i hate it.
It’s like an unauthorized biography of my last five years. The worst is that people don’t understand and can be mean thinking they can motivate you into doing things. I use to come home from work and take a sleeping pill and sleep until the next morning just so I didn’t have to deal with life.
Ditto! One time, someone told me to "snap out of it." I'm like do you think I enjoy depression? Do you think I like feeling this way? If it was that easy to simply "snap out of it," don't you think I would? This isn't fun!
Jon Hill so true so true. I used to try to sleep my life away. Now I’m too anxious to sleep.
I’ve basically slept through the last 4 years because I couldn’t deal with life. And now there are so many problems built up around me because I never dealt with them that I feel terrified and overwhelmed by it all. I am literally bitterly disappointed to wake up each morning because I would rather die in my sleep than wake up and face life.
Sarah Benson same by me. I hope you’re feeling better now.
Same here . I would take muscle relaxers just so I can sleep for long hours .
One thing I hate is that because my friends know I get anxious and overwhelmed in social situations they don’t invite me anywhere. I wish they invited me places, but understood when I leave early after I have too much, or when I don’t even go or have “other plans”. It just makes me feel isolated, because I want to have fun with them but I want to them understand when I can’t. You know?
I like musicals deal with it Yeh it is hard. Maybe try explaining it to them if its becoming a major issue for you. I know its difficult because they might not understand how you feel but its always better to try to explain whats going on with you rather than not sag anything.
Yeah I feel the same. I don't get invited anywhere and my friends tell me it's because they know I won't show up, and I wish they understood it's not that I don't want to because I want to spend time with them...its just much noise, or too many people, or I'm scared or can't find the motivation to get get out of bed to go, but they don't understand that
I’m actually more comfortable at my own house but too scared to ask anyone over except for my one friend who goes to a different school.
"just because I don't wanna go, don't mean I don't wanna be invited"
+Pastel Bones OMG !!! I WAS SAYING THE EXACT SAME THING TO MY DAUGHTER YESTERDAY , MY MUM GOES OUT PLACES & TAKES MY KIDS & MY AUNTIE , BUT JUST STOPPED ASKING ME ... GUESS WHAT THEY'RE DOING TODAY !!! 🆘🌎💯 ...
This video honestly makes me feel so much better just by knowing that I'm not the only one who does these sorts of things. I hate going days without brushing or showering but I just can't get out of bed. I hate that my room's a mess but I just have zero motivation. Knowing that I'm not alone is fantastic.
This made me cry, because I know all embarassing symtoms and didn't know they occur through my depression. 😣😢
Now I understand and don't feel like a 100% failure. 😯
CheDi Richardson hey. You are not a failure. Never ever think that again. Ok? ;)
CheDi Richardson Me too!!!! This helped me. I hope you too. Keep fighting! ✌💛
Ree McLaughlin you are also no failure. ;)
Same, I thought it was just me but while while watching this I could feel my heart drop. Basically all of these are how I feel and feel so bad about all the time. I'm glad this isn't just because I'm a shit person but I still feel bad about it.
CheDi Richardson ...me too!
Whenever I tell friends about the times I wouldn’t shower and brush my teeth they’d always comment on how gross that is and it makes me feel terrible.
My teeth aren't the best because of it
Me too!
Me too
Same.
Same here
Me too fam ;//
I don't feel so alone now knowing others with depression go through similar things as I. Thankyou
Take care Walter;)...v r all on the same side ,but take care ..thankfully now is an age thanks to the net v really know v r not alone.its a blessing. But v must seek help.I need to atleast big time.U tc .
Feeling soul tired. Bone-crishing fatigue that permeates your every thought, action, and word.
So very true
I wish my friends understood why I cancel on them.
These symptoms are why people with ADD is easily mistaken with depression.... most of the time we sleep, no motivation to do stuff, people hate us, but atleast we're hyperactive to our own stuff.
Alot of other mental illnesses have depression as a sidekick
It is difficult at times to get out of bed and brush your teeth. This is beyond embarrassing. This video was spot on.
The most real and honest video about chronic DEPRESSION I have seen so far.
One of the worst thing is if some of your friends know about your depression and it just seems like they think that it isn’t real. Some days I can look like I just got out of hell, they look at me and then don’t comment on it asking if you’re okay or not. Other days I just fall of a chair and they come rushing over asking if I’m okay.
I can relate
its even worse when u have NO firiends + bullies haters etc.......
Gigi if you want you can talk to me I’ll help you if I can, I’ll help anyone who I can.
Yeah, then feeling all alone because you know they'll think you're lying because for some reason people believe depression isn't a thing, especially in teens. They say it's just us being attention seekers or dramatic, and then you feel all alone
I-Am-A-Fangirl Be_Afraid And it isn't? I'm curious what makes other people feel depressed, do you have a specific good reason you are aware of or did those symptoms come out of the blue and you don't even exactly know what causes the depression? Or maybe something in-between, I don't know. Again, just curious.
Uh oh. Where does "I have all these symptoms but still convince myself that I cannot afford to be depressed" fall?
I relate to a lot of these... At least I know I'm not the only one now
Solomon Terrell Yeh. These illnesses and the stigma around them, especially for guys, make it seem like we're the only ones going through it.
I don't get bigger cause of depression. I stay the same weight, but sometimes I stop eating almost completely
Ab- Dawg same way here. But when I do eat (if there's food available) I just want to stuff myself and then my emotions are just flying everywhere and honestly I forgot how I feel. I don't know if I'm underweight, but sometimes my friends tease me about it not knowing how much I will think about it. I just struggle keeping my mental state well and it's now starting to majorly damage me physically.
PITBULLS 4 LIFE see it's kind of weird I'll go through long stretches of time where I'm not hungry or just won't eat. This is usually followed by a period of time where I don't stop eating. It goes back and forth in a vicious cycle. I still don't gain weight. I remain at the light side for my age and height. Either way I want the comments about how I'm so skinny to stop. I also have a very poor self esteem.
Same
Same, it's like when ever I get sad I stop eating and no one notices at all, but then again I'd panic if they did. My weight is just a constant spiral down because I have no motivation to eat
This is my life everyday every single note especially the poor hygiene part and i truly hate myself for it because im a whole female and no matter what life takes me through i should never ever be tooo depressed to comb my hair take a bath/shower or even brush my teeth but its just not that easy to snap out of depression i wish it was because this is not normal for me or anyone for that matter i want all the people in this comment section that suffers from this kind of depression like me to know i truly understand what your going through i really do and if no one else loves you i truly do may god bless you ❤💓💕💖💞💘💌💋😘😘✌
This is incredible hard to read... i am crying so hard right now... i relate so hard to this... i really am confused now... i don't know...
Daphne Daeris Elfirinil I know I am really depressed right now. I thought reading the video would help me feel better but I just cried really bad the whole time.
These are all very accurate. Hang in there, every one.
I am 57 year old woman and this video brought me to tears because it reflects so much of what I thought would never be my day to day to day.
This is so perfect, these are the things we are afraid of telling our therapists and doctors because of the shame and embarrassment. I wish it was this easy for me to articulate these things to ppl
This made me understand depression so much more, I used to think it was when you were just sad, and depressed, for long periods of time. Now I know it is much more serious, and different.
Not sure if anyone will, but im here to listen if you want to talk, explain, text, email. Im here to try to help by being me. Im just Me, and thats ok☺. I hope all get better some day. I love you
Lady Reaper You are awsome.
Man, I thought it was just me regarding not cleaning enough. 😳 Every weekend I say I'm gonna do it, and I don't. I also don't do laundry enough. Ugh. 😖
FabFour Fever Same.
And then it gets to a point where, even after the depression breaks for a bit, you don't know where to even start. Yeah, I've been in that state for years...
I know each and every one all too well.
😢
Thank you for making this. I've been in a deep depression for the past few months. I'm so been embarrassed by these symptoms. Now I feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one.
All of these have hit me at least some point throughout my life and its honestly exhausting and humiliating
I feel like I'm going to cry but I hold it in to not let it show
I've done that so much that i cant cry :(
Omg, This is so true. It feels so good to relate because you know it's not just you.
Sacnicthé Cruz Yup.
...And my family says that I’m just lazy, selfish, and stupid 🙂
I haven’t done any of my school work since September because I don’t have the slightest amount of motivation to do anything
Account I was expelled from college because i failed everything.
I used to be a good student
Same, I use to be such a diligent student. Sometimes I still am, but most days I don't have the motivation to pay attention, take notes, complete assignments and my grade tanks and my teachers thing I'm lazy.
i dropped out of college because of depression....its not just the school work thats hard to keep up, it's going to a place surrounded by people your age who seem to have it all together. They could do the work, had friends, social life, meanwhile I felt like dead inside.
I have almost all of these symptoms...
AND NOBODY BELIEVES ME WHEN I TELL THEM HOW I FEEL
I can feel my family judging me for being unhygienic and it makes me so ashamed of myself
That was hard for me to watch. I experience every single one of these problems over the last 8 years! And probably always will?
Depression sucks it’s ruined my life and continues to make life worse
To everyone with depression: I can't fully comprehend what you are going through, but I support you and hope that things will get better for you. Remember that you aren't alone!
I have a mother like this. I thank the Lord that He brought me a sister who would take care of me and teach me how to take care of myself. :)
Spiritual Coconut my mom is like this too I am a only child so growing up in filth was hard smh
Tia Davis
I feel ya. I feel ya. But what was bad on my part is when I didn't have compassion or wasn't gentle towards her. I had all of these hateful emotions towards her and didn't love her as I should. Yes my mother is a pain. I am sure your mother is similar, but I couldn't be unforgiving and hate her forever. Its more weight emotionally for me to carry.
Here's the gospel. Whether you may be saved or not or even skeptical. I insist you read this. The gospel, which led me to my conversion, helped me learn to love my mother despite how much she failed me and my brother:
readthegospel.com
Thank you I needed to hear that seriously. I’ve been pissed at her for years over something she can’t mentally control. I’m tired of being upset with her but my mind won’t let me
Tia Davis
You are fighting this alone. Which is impossible. I had no reason to love my mother until I experienced and was given mercy and forgiveness. It would be wrong to not forgive my mother of such- I'm using as analogy- a small debt she owes me, when I've been forgiven an enormous debt I couldn't ever repay. This would mean I wasn't thankful that my debt was repaid for.
Matthew 18:21-35
I just had to cut my hair by myself trying to detangle it because I didn't wash it for whole 3 months due to depression.
My hair was long reaching my lower back.. Now most of is gone because of the conditioner I used in attempt to detangle it. Then i had to cut the rest.. Now it is above my shoulders not even at same length and very thin 😢
B B Aww thank you for your support and love 🤗💕 Tbh i felt free after cutting it and wondered why i haven't done it earlier?! Sometimes we hold onto things thinking that they're supposed to be a reason for our happiness but in fact we only carry them as a burden.
Stay strong! At least your hair will be easier to manage at a shorter length . :)
J. Thank you for your kindness and support. Yeah indeed it is.
0022 Thank you so much for your kindness, support and nice tips 💚
Geminilicious But three months, are you saying the truth? I can't imagine not washing it for so long, my maximum is one week and even so it looks like hellish hell, how did you find the will/courage to go outside and you didn't have any health problems with your scalp? I think it's dangerous girl to leave it unwashed for so long, I hate washing it since I feel like shit too and have energy for nothing at all, but it itches bad after a while so you have to wash it in the end.. so that's why I was curious how you dealt with not washing it.
All so true and sad. And the worst part we lie or try to hide or cover them up for fear because people who have never really experienced severe depression could understand or relate and might just get mad. It sucks . Jesus help us all with all different illnesses but mental ones are a real struggle.
Dawn 80 or we lie and hide because when we've reached out for help before we have just been physically and verbally abused and told we're worthless and it's just in our heads and we are just being lazy.
Being unfair and unfriendly to people, just because you feel bad. Like when i go to the supermarket and someone stands in my way, i just tell 'm to 'piss off!' or 'get the hell out of my way!!'
But when i'm not depressed, i'm a very nice person - always willing to help people. ☺
I am all of these except the weight one and thats just cuz I have a high metabolism so I stay close to being underweight. Its been hard to tell and show the wife how I feel all the time when I cant even describe it myself. I sent her this and I think understands me a lil better now. Been together for almost 7 years now and its like shes still trying to understand how I can feel so miserable even though everything in our lives are only getting better. thank you so much Mighty, you have a earned a sub, please keep being awesome!
The weight change is a very common symptom of my depression. I eat when I’m sad to make me happy. Then when I gain weight, it makes me sad. So I stop eating to become happy with my appearance again. But the lack of food/energy drains my body of being happy.
Camryn W with me I just forget to eat and that just makes everything else worse.
On ED recovery and this vid fits everything especially the weight thing.
Wow what the heck, I relate to every single one of those cards. Love to know I’m not the only one, thank you.
Whenever I take a shower all of my negative thoughts go on hyoerdrive because Its quiet, there's no one around, and there's nothing to distract me from my thoughts. I listen to music while in the shower to try to drown them out.
Frédéric Chopin
I can relate, but i suppose it's kinda worse for me.
I dont really get enjoyment out of stuff anymore, so my game console no longer distracts me so when ever i get home from school
(Social and regular anxiety, plus depression makes that hell)
I dont feel like playing games so i just lie on the coach and end up thinking about all that terrible stuff.
nearly everything could be a note from me.... when i read the comments i felt connected to most ppl here... why cant i meet ppl like this irl? im am always surrounded by these " hey how is it going im a happy extrovert" type of ppl... 3 days ago i broke up with my gf and it destroyed me now completely... we was so connected and i loved everything about her... we had so many similarities u wont trust me....and now everything is over and the depression that was allways there turned 1000x worse... i will never find someone like her again... words cant descripe how much i loved her....
I thought... it was just me.
My family don't understand me, i'm 25, my mom thinks I don't clean our house or my room because i'm lazy.
I don't really worked in my life, the only thing I do is taking care of my sister's son, he's 5 and doing this often makes me feel pressured. I just want to be alone sometimes, but I can't.
I fall sleep really easily, this is bad because I need to be taking care of him, if something happens my mom and sister called me irresponsible... I can't do anything about this, doesn't matter how much I sleep.
I'm 8 or 80, once I get angry is hard to control me.
About the hygiene too, this is horrible to have.
I listened so many things until today, even from my sister who also has depression but decided to stop with her medication, she entered my room one day to fight with me because our mom was so worried about the way I was living at the time... my sister said "You are no different than a plant right now, or a person who is vegetative in a hospital."
Please don't let anyone say those things to you.
Mandy D. im almost 50 and spent my life being told im crazy lazy a liar ect. sometimes its just better to cut ties even for awhile if you can bc when youre depressed and youre getting treated like that you cant get better. it would cause me to do drastic stuff to get myself put in the psychward to prove a point to my family to back off but it would never last. my son just died he was 27 and had severe anxiety and i always tried to be kind and help him but he went and stayed with his dad who pressured him to be perfect and my son od'd and died. it took that for me to decide to fight for myself and do what i need to do to get better and to eliminate the people who made it worse. its hard to care enough about yourself to fight for yourself when youre depressed but here iam at 50 finally helping myself more than any shrink ever did. PLEASE FOR ME AND MY SONS MEMORY dont wait til your 50. the second you can push the negative away and hold it at a distance. i feel like ive wasted my life crying in bed. please take care of you and think about what im saying
Mandy D. I have heard much terrible words from my parents. I've been jobless since 2016. I'm 24 now and can't find any job that suits me although I send resume, emails etc. My parents keep comparing me with their friends'children who already had stable jobs. They started saying I'm useless, choosy, garbage. They try to find a job for me but everytime they ask me, they asked me rudely like "Just take this job. You won't get anywhere with your useless degree. Doesn't matter if you study until Master etc if you're useless to society" I started seeking job related to my degree quietly because I am hurt that they said my degree is useless and not suit for the job market. I lied to them and pretend I'm not interested in finding job when they're around and as I predicted, they keep saying how lazy, useless and keep saying that I'm stupid. I don't further my study until degree so that I can show off. I study because I love to study. But my parents don't understand. All they can say is, "No matter how hard you study, you will be useless if you don't have a job". While I stay on my belief that each of us have our own pace of achieving our personal goals, my parents believe that as human we graduated university, get a job, pay students loans, get a car and a house, work and work till you die. If you started your job late, you will never succeed in life. That's what they think life is. I am really depressed and thinking about death or I may go crazy if this keeps going on.
Leeanne Vavra I know what you feel. To be a perfect child to their parents. My parents keep comparing me to their 'successful' friends' children. They said they are ashamed of having me as their jobless antisocial daughter
I feel like I can’t genuinely laugh most of the time even when I find things funny. When I laugh it feels fake ya know? Does anyone else relate?
I can have motivation to clean but can't seem to do self care... clothes have been not wearable I know that isn't even a word but I wore and sweated in them so if I wear them again I get bo I'm not gonna lie
It's funny sometimes I think I miss having friends but I'm so bad at actually gettinf comfortable I'm truly socially awkward I have to get comfortable first or be with a group of people at times I also suck at talking and subjects I just freak out why can't I be normal it's weird the only thing that made me feel that way was xanax but I can't just go to the doctor & say can I have xanax even though I'm not going to abuse it but people think that probably
Smoke Weed I speak english and I'm not in school currently
Here comes The sun doo doo I have the problem with Bo and my old clothes as well. I don't know what to do. washing them over and over again does not help.
Perfect list. Not showering belongs at #1, it's humiliating; and I love that you included crying out of nowhere. Great job 🏆
This was spot on well done. The only thing I would add is the impact on ones health for example me I am so bad that I get horrible migraines constantly like every couple of weeks...
I always thought that I wasn't the type to just cancel a plan or find an excuse to not go somewhere till now. I just realized that lately I was doing it really often. I didn't go to my dance classes because the teacher and the other girls say really bad things to me and I felt anxious and didn't want to go. That was almost nothing. But then I didn't go to my half-friend's birthday party. My other friend said she (the birthday friend) said bad things about me and didn't really want me there but still invited me. I felt so unneeded, anxious and so scared that I'll ruin everything that planned another sleepover and was with my other friend the whole weekend instead of the birthday party.
Being lonely when you're depressive is amazing ! At least you have no friends to cheer up, and you don't have to pretend to be okay for anyone.
But yeah, being unable to do or feel anything... it really sucks, it's like not being anymore. And in a world with high social expectations, you have "to be" (something good, obviously).
What my depression is usually like:
* shower & brush my teeth 10 times a year
* change underwear once a month
* often don't bother putting on a pad and continue wearing the underwear if it's stained with blood
* wash clothes/linens twice a year (often family does it for me)
* untangle hair every couple of weeks or months
* never had full-time job (worked 12 hours a week and felt exhausted)
* wake up every single day feeling like I have a hangover
* housebound 2/3 of the day
* never learned how to ride a bike, drive a car, dance, swim, etc
* if there's carpet it'll get moldy and make you gag if you enter the room, reuse dirty dishes, so much dust you can pick it up in clumps
* disassociate every day, feels like I'm floating in space or the bottom of the ocean
* on a good day the dizziness feels like I'm trapped in an elevator
* once every couple of months have "an episode" when I get so dizzy I have a massive headache or pressure in my head & severe nausea, lay on the floor for hours or days unable to stand, puke about a half dozen times (feels like I'm spinning fast in a circle during an earthquake)
Depression the last 1+ year:
* lay in bed 22 to 23 hours a day every day
* unemployed
* family takes my snap card and grocery shops for me
* gained 30+ lbs
* spasms or mini seizures
* random crying
* increased anxiety
When I'm depressed personal hygiene goes out the window. I have no motivation to brush my teeth hair, wash my face, wash my body and hair. I so feel gross about it and so the cycle continues.
Depression has ruined my relationship. I just got dumped the other day by the love of my life and it's because of some of these symptoms, however, I have them all. I'm beside myself because he gave up on me when I needed him most and is already with someone new.
Ingrid and that was me a year & a half ago. But I’m like ... the reason why I’m letting myself go is because of him. If he treated me better, I wouldn’t have been depressed. Went back to his ex and all...
2:32 is me all the time and the worst thing is that my eyes and cheeks get all puffed up and red and then its super obvious when im crying and i hate it
It took so much strength to even write this comment. It’s hard to do anything.
Me episodes usually last a few months and I’ll go that time not showering, brushing my hair or teeth, and hardly eating. It’s so embarrassing I can’t talk to anyone about it and try to stay in bed, because when I go out my family complains about it because they don’t understand, it’s getting harder and harder to pull out of it when I go into that state and don’t really know what I’m doing anymore,I haven’t told anyone this, not even my closest family or my fiancé :/
Same with the shower thing
I've always hated that I'm too scared to let people know I'm depressed. I feel more confident knowing that there are more exactly like me. The only thing that doesn't apply to me is the weight change. my weight doesn't go up, it goes down due to my lack of energy and confidence in anything.
I've had them all. And now am going thru finding out I have 2 life threatening illness...I can't thank you enough for posting this. I don't feel so alone NOR as "Crazy" as I did five minutes ago
I have all the embarrassing things. I can't tell anyone. Thank you. At last someone can understand.😭😭😭
I am happy . Thank you for making this video.
I get embarrassed when I have to go back into class after running out crying for no reason at all...
Katie love Trase I have the same problem except it is at work.
I feel so much better after seeing this video! My PCP & my therapist both have actually been appalled and used words like gross & ew when I reveal how I’m existing. Thank you for understanding
I felt so embarrassed about literally every one of these cus I thought it was just me... Thanks for the video❤️
Teeth retainers and depression is the worst combination ever :)
have every one of those symptoms except for being on disability because that is legitimately a cop out! i have lost jobs because of my mental health issues, ive been on every medication out there and ive wanted to die but I will ALWAYS pick back up and work because no one else is responsible for financially supporting me!
Yep to all of these
I'm not sure where this came from but as someone with major depression, I'm not afraid to discuss about any of these things and I often do so with family and someone I can trust. Although I can see how they would embarass someone suffering with depression, I don't think they should feel that way. Life is too short and depression is tough enough. Don't give it the ability to steal your joy. I am going to be 35 tomorrow and I've had enough!!
I cried during the video and could barely read all of them. I've never related so much to something. I hate this. And it's like the only thing people have to say that is supposed to help you is to "breath", etc. If i in that mindset COULD just breath and clear my mind, I'd be fine and nothing would be wrong with me. But...
Depression is honestly the worst. Toss it together with some anxiety and paranoia and BOOM, you’ve got a disaster cocktail that just keeps refilling itself.
Depression is a thing but so many people still think that it's just a joke..
It's hard, it's really hard.
And crying with recognition when you watch this video
Relate to all of them, especially forgetfulness, brain fog, over eating, also not showering, I remember days when I didn't shower for 2 weeks stayed in bed all day not because i was "lazy". And feeling tired all the time, basically everything you mentioned.
I'll observe myself until i give up showering and brushing my teeth... 😐😐😐
I Just want to send love and a big hug to all people
Catia Tavares Love and Hugs back. Thankyou
Just got a cavity (I think) from only brushing once a day, if I’m lucky. I don’t even have the energy to call the dentist and make an appointment. What an absolute nightmare this is. Glad I’m not alone
Chew gum, or at least try to.
Thank you so much for this video. As a 11-12 year old girl I fell into the pit of self-neglect, resulting from traumatic things that were going on then and my horrid mental state. I stopped washing and changing clothes. There was no adult by my side, my family would only mock me. I was harassed by my peers, shouted at, calling names. I was inspiring contempt and disgust in others. I've experienced so many humiliating situations. Now I am a young woman, someone totally different but I still struggle to forgive myself my weakness. For such a long time I thought that it was just because of laziness, I am slowly starting to change my perspective. And of course since a few years maintening proper personal hygiene is very important for me.
I get stressed out a lot, like this one time I was doing centers at school and all a sudden I started getting tired and stressed. I cried out completely and my teacher tried to help. I explained to her but by her look she didn't understand. She didn't understand that I needed to go home for someone to talk to. Not being in the middle of class...just crying.
So far I always made sure I was showered and clean before meeting up with people. In those cases the anxiety is stronger than the depression.
I have all of those. I was thinking I was doing so much better, and I am, but this makes me realize how ill I still am.
History Man Have you ever tried vitamin D?
Because i am depressed almost every winter, due to the lack of sun, and now i use vitamin D and it's getting better.
Every single video I watch on depression/anxiety makes me realize more and more that I probably have it
I am facing most of them. People tends to not understand the sufferings
Thank you so, so much for posting this. It was spot on. Absolutely spot on. With everything. As someone who has been plagued with depression for most of my life, and who has only recently been diagnosed with Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder, due to an extremely violent and abusive upbringing, I am so relieved that this stuff is finally being talked about in the open.
I only wish that more non-sufferers would watch videos like this, then perhaps they would realise that depression is so much more than just a bad mood. It can give you the shakes, bugger up your short term memory and your sense of time, place and perspective, take away your interest in yourself, in other people and life itself, and push you so far down into that pit that you just can't be bothered to climb out anymore - what's the point right? It's debilitating and hateful, and just reduces you to something that's barely existing.
I know this because it's me and it's hard explaining this situation to people who don't understand.
I have all the of the above now (except I have lost weight) and I have major depressive disorder, acute general anxiety disorder, and C-PTSD.
Stay safe everyone. One day at a time.
i personally have a lot of these symptoms but the one at 2:32 i hate the most
i am constantly being called lazy bc of my depression
but the difference is that if i were lazy i wouldn't have a problem with doing things i like instead of things i need to do
but i just don't want to do anything even things that used to make me happy
i'm a teen, not even an adult, i need help even more, but i'm alone in this and i have no idea how to help myself
yan stein Yeh. Im a teen aswell. Going to school and having to deal with all of this and then pressure to do good in exams and to do homework and have friends. It tiring. My teachers are si bad at telling when people have mental health issues.
yan stein You can't. Depression is sn illess, that's why you need a professional treatment. I have tried for years to help myself, and ended up nearly commiting suicide. I got help, and after a few months, my mood has changed so much, I was finally able to feel happy! For beating depression, you NEED other people to help you.
Same