@Josu Crystal I think it's because they knew the daughter would refuse to an arrange marriage so they thought if they surprise her she would have no choice to agree, which is a shitty move from the parents.
@Josu Crystal Agreed, proper arranged marriages is basically when a parent shows you a guy or girl who they think might be a decent fit for you, you guys hang for a short while and then you tell them yes or no. What they did was a forced marriage.
That one really got me. You could tell that dad really cared. Nothing like that nostalgic feeling of doing something you did as a kid with someone like your father Who just wants the best
Disowning your daughter after attempting to trick her into a marriage, for not getting tricked into the marriage? Those people are in need of rare help.
That Aunt is an absolute Godsend. Seriously glad she was there to rescue her niece from her horrible parents (seriously, what kind of sick parent tricks their child into getting married without any say or even any awareness of what’s going on?) and took her in when they had the audacity to disown her for them being inept and deceitful.
@@victoriansteam1562 They probably had some nasty debt they wanted to get out from under and offered their daughter as collateral. Fucked up shit like that still happens.
I mean there's a chance it was actually his sister's name because awkward shit like that can happen if rarely, but i'm going to guess and say the name wasn't actually his sister's and probably some other woman.
I think she probably noticed that he was talking to a girl and asked who it was and he said it was his sister.. probably it was another woman he was sleeping with instead
I always struggle to express how lucky i feel that my gf is with me, she could have picked anyobe and she picked me. Meanwhile, people are really out here telling their partners they're ugly?!
Seriously. I've been with my girlfriend for several years and when they're like "We had broken up 3 times that year" I'm floored because I can't imagine breaking up with my girlfriend, much less like that.
My grandparents were actually engaged to different people when they met. My grandmother was going to marry her high school sweetheart but broke off her engagement because she didn’t feel right about it. My grandfather had later gotten into an argument with his fiancée and told her to leave the ring on the table. Which she did. Thank god though because I wouldn’t be here to tell this story if it had worked out any other way.❤️❤️
14:23 I cringed that he used real names and gave her city. I know he said he had permission. And there's a chance the abuser already knows where she lives. But, as a DV survivor who still, after years of no contact, fears that my abuser might figure out where I am....I immediately panicked for her.
i can't even fuckin believe that some dingus basically said "hey internet, if you know (abuser), send him these coordinates" like holy shit that redditor has zero critical thinking
The 12 year old one is why you have to make sure you know what sites your kids are on. I just thought about any future child of mine doing that, and almost had a heart attack.
My mom was almost a runaway bride. Her dad asked her she was sure just as they were about to enter the church. He just knew even when she didn’t want to admit it. Especially because literally had hit her the first time about a month before the wedding. But for some reason, she ignored her gut feeling and went through with it. It turned out to be the worst seven years of her life. She eventually and finally divorced him when I was one. We haven’t heard from him since.
My mom was too shy to say no on her wedding. She met my dad on vacation in Malta twice on two different vacations and they became pen pals. Later he came to Paris, and pressured her into meeting him even though she broke off contact at some point. She had to pick him up at the airport, and then he just... kind of stayed. My aunts and grandma all wanted her to not to marry him, they had a bad feeling ab him but on the wedding day she couldn't say no. Turns out he was really abusive, when they had my older sister he made my sister sleep in a room downstairs and didn't allow my mom to go soothe her when she was crying. When mu sister and me got older he always set us up against each other, always favouring the one that sucked up to him more and always fighting with my mom to the point she was crying. They never showed affection towards each other, and I remember them kissing once in like all my life. Fast forward a couple years, I was ten and my sister 13, he sexually harrassed her best friend. He wouldn't even have gotten to go to jail for that, which is pretty disgusting in my opinion, but he still ran away a year later. I renember being pulled out of school and driving to my moms great aunt that day, he had booked two plane tickets. Considering I was his favourite kid my mom suspected that he planned on taking me with him back to his home country, so she went to the police. I now live with my mom, and while I thought he was innocent for a long time but when I was sixteen we had a long talk about him, and she revealed that in the confession of my sister's former best friend she had mentioned things that he would do when he wanted to sleep with my mom. I had kind of expected that, but getting the confirmation was still a pretty hard pill to swallow. My mom is doing better now, and if these thirteen years of being with him have taught her anything it is to stand her ground and voice her opinion, which she does. She's a really strong woman and I love her a lot^^ I haven't seen or heard from him since I was eleven, and I honestly don't want to meet him again. Yeah, I missed him in the beginning, but I worked through that. I'm doing okay now :3. Just, y'know, different problems. Like school. Honestly, the next big test is the scariest thing on my agenda because after growing up under my dad, authorities and teachers really don't scare or intimidate me anymore. I'm pretty materialistic, unsurprisingly.
For that first one, plot twist: He actually hit his head hard, got serious amnesia or memory loss and couldn't remember any of the time he was with her nor meeting her. The time he was ghosting her, he was in hospital recovering. When he turned up and acted like he didn't know her he actually didn't because she'd been erased from his memory.
7:10 is exactly why the normalization of the idea that men are trapped by marriage with all the ball and chain jokes is really problematic. If all of society tells you that guys hate marriage then you'll think you're supposed to feel awful about it and go through with it when you don't actually want to.
Thats a very gynocentric view on an issue. Smart men don't hate marriage,they hate the laws, society and courts that hate men and will take all their stuff in the event a woman randomly decides to break it off.
18:40 my cousin is bipolar, and has some abusive tendencies. He is not pleasant to be around half the time, but damn, he seems so mild in comparison to this guy. Even his mood swings aren't that hair trigger to explode at someone after a few seconds silence.
Aunt Rescue and Ice-cream Dad are my favorites. Also I think he just said she "you don't have to follow through with this" because he knew she wouldn't have the guts to say anything last minute and just wanted wanted look better to her somehow. Wtf
So, I horribly misread the title. My husband and I are currently planning our wedding, and Lord help me, this really makes you appreciate the kind and sane people in your life. Way to go the family members that saved the bride
My cousin Becca dated a guy for 2 months before he proposed to her at a hockey game on the big screen it was a whole thing and she was like yes because it was a whole thing but the second they got back in the car she told him that there was no way she was marrying him and that he was crazy for asking after 2 months when she already told him that she never wanted to get married and then he asked her why she said yes she said because she didn't want to embarrass him in front of the entire world he threw a major fit kicks you out the car and made her walk home in the snow then him and his family harassed her for months she said she should have just said no to begin with
My best friend was a runaway groom! Long story short, it was the week of the Wedding and the events of the Bachelorette party came to light. The soon to be grooms cousin recorded the bride to be getting railed by a male stripper on his very own Kitchen Table. Was a weird week to say the least.
That story at 4:47 got to me since I can relate heavily towards it. I never had the best childhood, grown into a very naive and hopeful woman who thought the first man who found me worthy of love would be the one. I dated and got engaged with a guy I met my junior year. Although he was charming and repeatedly said I was "better than other girls." He never actually had any patience for my needs and always seemed to have something to prove to everyone, including me. He constantly always made sure to talk down to me in arguments to the point I found my own opinions stupid, made me feel small, I lost my virginity to this man who convinced me the first times weren't anything special and ours certainly wasn't. I became emotionally sensitive, stressed, and cried myself to sleep but in the end continued to convince myself I was in love with him. I left him right after I remet an old highschool guyfriend of mine (who I'll admit, I'd always liked), who genuinely cared for me, and after seeing what I became, coaxed me out of my shell enough to finally leave my (ex) fiance. Now he would've been just fine staying friends, but recently I've finally let my feelings out towards him and to my delight, he felt the same way! We happen to have a planned date to a Zoo on the 12th (Never went to the zoo before so I'm really excited!)
I had a friend who was in an arranged marriage situation. They were "promised" to each other at the ripe ages of 4 and 3. Honestly if he hadn't been disowned when he was 16 I could easily have seen her being a runaway bride. She got to pick her own husband in the end.
I had a guy who was planning on proposing to me on our second date, I know this because he started talking about which wedding rings I would like and told me what he was planning on... oh he also had already decided in what order and when I would have our kids and what to name them 🙃
I guess I kinda am one. He was a friend since 2015, but was more friend-of-a-friend until 2018, and I noticed he liked me. I gave him a chance, and had been only dating a year when he (carelessly) proposed. His brother gave him grief for not being more thoughtful (His older brother got married earlier that year). I broke it off with him this past March, and Im happier now than I wouldve been. I think we're too alike as people and didn't mesh well. And I think it mightve turned abusive because I apparently emasculated him (I guess that happens when the woman has a vision and a man doesnt?), and I never felt like my true self around him, and he never really took interest in the things I enjoy and do compared to how I actively tried to engage him in his interests. Relationships are a two way street.... Im reading the 5 love languages while studying the bible to fix myself up first.
Good on you! If you’re way happier out of the relationship than if you were still in it, then that definitely wasn’t the one for you. You made the right choice. I’ve gotta say that that was very brave of you to break off the engagement, as a lot of people can be scared to do it and regret it later on. I had a very similar experience and ended up breaking off the engagement as well. It really led to a lot of self-reflection and in recent months I’ve taken up reading my Bible more and generally focusing on what I like as well. Keep up what you’re doing and just focus on self-care and loving yourself!
@@vintagechic5491 Thank you :) I adored his family, they were super sweet and caring, always wanting to help, but having them as my family was something I could never see in my future. I was their son's first GF, and I guess he thought it was Love at First Sight. I wish him well, I really do. Now I wait for my One
@@chadthundercockmasterbaite2187 You know God does talk about you in the Bible: "Beware, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief in departing from the living God;" (Heb 3:12) Take care of yourself
SOOOO many red flags, but I was in love with the idea of being in love, the white picket fence, the whole 9 yards. As we stood in front of the minister, and was asked if I took this man, etc, i thought "What would they do if i said 'no'?". Not being big on drama, i said "i do", and, oh, how i wish i hadnt! I knew it was a mistake on our honeymoon when i realized he'd hidden his ring under the phone in our hotel room. We got into a HUGE fight when i demanded he turn the car around to go back to get it. He cheated constantly during our marriage, not caring whether it was with a man or a woman. So many more stories.
I didn't so much "run away" as my grandparents put me on a plane and sent me across the country. Let me back up. My ex was an emotionally abusive asshole. His father was abusive, and he just thought that was normal. He put his hands on me a couple of times, and I was so broken by the time that happened that I just couldn't fight anymore. My grandparents took me in after someone we were renting from decided that he didn't like my ex anymore. No idea why, they were cut from the same mold. (He started sexually harassing me at work after that, but...unrelated.) My grandmother called my dad and told him what was going on, and he used his contacts in that city to get the skinny on my ex and his family. Less than a month later, my grandparents had convinced me to go home to my parents for a little while, since they missed me so much. I agreed and was packed onto a commercial jet less than a week later. To this day, I don't know who paid for it. Nobody will tell me. My ex called me not long after I arrived and told me that I was so worthless. He expected me to come back to him, and he had no intention of ever visiting me. About a month later, one of his room mates, who was my friend in high school, called me. He apologized so many times before telling me that my ex had been bragging the night before about how he had been cheating on me for months before I left. That he loved that I was too stupid to realize it, and he had no intention of stopping. My old friend said that he and the other two guys there had agreed that one of them should tell me, and he volunteered because he knew me best. He told me that they had also decided to kick the creep out because they had all seen who he really was. I was a pancake, but I thanked him for telling me. One phone call with my ex to ask if it was true, and he exploded at me, calling me every name in the book and a few he was making up on the spot. When I got off the phone, my mom made me the biggest margarita I had ever seen, and my parents held me on the couch while I tried to drink it through my tears. Years later, I'm still in therapy. I'm happily married to an amazing man and have two children. Thank God for my grandparents!
It's better to leave and have some regrets than to have wasted your damned efforts on a broken person. you wouldn't buy a broken plate why would you accept a person you realise makes you feel wrong, listen to your spider tingle. Think it should be mandatory for teens and adults tbh, how to spot emotionally abusive ppl and manipulative ppl and how to nope out.
No wait... to stalk you and then accusing you of stalking him is a completely normal state of mind for a rejected man. It’s super common. It’s the saddest shit I’ve ever seen and I’ve seen it in my own and almost all of my friends lives.
People SERIOUSLY NEED to know the difference between arranged and forced marriage. The one at 1:55 is NOT an arranged marriage. That is a forced marriage. It's common for people from a culture like that to call it an arranged marriage because they want to sugarcoat it. This word has now been misused this way for so long that people associate 'arranged' with forced. An arranged marriage is that both the bride/groom and their parents as the same amount of say in accepting the partner in marriage, where a love marriage is primarily dependent on the bride/groom. Forced marriage is where one or both parties don't consent to a marriage. I don't know what culture it is or where the family was from. They should rid themselves of such a despicable tradition and end the abusive cycle.
0:43 Asking a woman's parents for permission for marriage isn't a red flag. Hell you aren't even really asking permission, you're just asking for acceptance. You're trying to join two families together, why wouldn't you want to be accepted by your significant others family. Its a respect thing, not an ownership thing
Because some people apparently assume it’s about ownership since traditionally you ask the father for acceptance (though honestly you ask anyone who’s important to the bride/groom in this day and age)
The wedding procedures are originally about ownership as the dad passes on his daughter who he controls to a man who now has permission to control her as if he’s her father. If a man feels comfortable giving up something he cares about, it indicates giving up ownership in a way.
Depends, if he went over her head and asked for approval before discussing marriage with the woman then that's a red flag. It sends a sign he doesn't respect her. But if marriage's is already on the table and those kinds of traditions are valued then why not?
@@SillyBanjo In a lot of places it is about ownership. I would be concern if a guy can't get married if he doesn't ask the woman dad's for "permission".
I've got a two for one special on this. I dated my ex about 13 years ago. He was so charming the first year and proposed soon after and I (not even of legal age) said yes. He said we'd get married on my 18th birthday. Fast forward a few months and he became very emotionally and physically abusive and tried to manipulate me with the ring, calling me his property and saying I now have to do everything he says. I ran for the hills not long after and am so glad we aren't married. Fast forward to 2 years ago, he meets a very young girl again but is now in his 30s. Proposes to her within 10 months and she left him about 8 months later. She contacted me to talk cause she knew who I was. Apparently he used her social media to stalk me and my family. And he treated her the same as he did to me. Now he's bald, still alone and lost out on two great women. I'm now married for 6 years and have 2 sons with together with my amazing husband. When I spoke to other ex, I told her it will get better. Literally a rock is better.
Hearing about that guy who was emotionally abusing that woman is starting to make me realize that I say the same things about myself despite everyone around me telling me the opposite. Damn, I gotta get therapy.
I know someone too. Families already met. Brother of the girl works abroad so he wanted to meet the guy first before departing again and hoped that they could get married soon (just to see that his sister is in stable life). Girl went to the city to work. After months, I heard that the girl got pregnant. Not my friend's.
@@magicalwatermelon5147 I am managing, thank you. The constant stress has affected my mental and physical health. It has been 2 decades of this. I keep thinking of the life I could've had in the 'what if' scenario. Now I try to live one day at a time.
@@batteredwife Glad you are managing. I admire your “one day at a time” approach. I personally am trying to focus more on the present. I hope that you’ll be able to keep moving forward
The end of 1934's "It Happened One Night" contains my favorite runaway bride scene (judging by the bride's dad's reaction, he didn't believe what Clark Gable was saying about his daughter needing someone who'll take a sock her any more than I do): th-cam.com/video/yWbP8eHRJKQ/w-d-xo.html
It's scary that even I, who had experience with a narcissistic stepdad, and who you'd think would know all the red flags, could get trapped in a narcissistic relationship.
My ex fiancé got me to play hide and seek with super rich family in their huge mansion. Only later did I realize they were hunting me down to kill me so they could complete some satanic ritual to keep them rich. After fighting for my life and killing two of his family members, they caught me and were about to kill me when the sun came up and they all popped like bloody water balloons.
My dad showed he'd push me into the relationship. He did it in a "gonna be homeless without your signature (obligatory cautioner to get a place solo)" : nah, the bf you're trying to leave will do it.
On a lucky moment, I got away from getting proposed at by my now-ex girlfriend. We had a really rocky relationship since we had never been on a date, and we had been hiding our relationship from her crazy homophobic mother from the start. We had been together for 2 years at that point, and I knew she wanted to propose for about 2 months (she told me she was thinking about it). I had left her in november but she convinced me to come back and turned out she couldn't come to her bestfriend's new year's party. She wanted to propose at that party. At that point I had serious doubts about our relationship, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, but I could feel the gap between her and I ways to think and the way we loved each other. I loved her with all I was, she loved me in a spineless way. She never defended me, never did whatever she could to make things happen with me. I would have done everything in a heartbeat. So I left her 2 months later. It's been a year and 2 months now, I'm still thinking about her sometimes
My mawmaw (moms mom) was engaged before she met my pawpaw. One night her fiancée came home drunk. He told her he didn’t drink to win her over because she was a Christian. She took the ring off right then and there and called the wedding off. I hope I can be as strong and brave as her
Props to the aunt for rescuing the niece from an arrange marriage.
Yeah, that second story is kind of terrifying.
@@undeadladybug7723 I agree if i were in the neice's shoes, i would have been too shocked to react, thank god the aunt react fast.
@Josu Crystal I think it's because they knew the daughter would refuse to an arrange marriage so they thought if they surprise her she would have no choice to agree, which is a shitty move from the parents.
@Josu Crystal Agreed, proper arranged marriages is basically when a parent shows you a guy or girl who they think might be a decent fit for you, you guys hang for a short while and then you tell them yes or no. What they did was a forced marriage.
An arranged marriage is .... But not even telling the "bride" that it's her wedding?!?!? Biggest WTF I've ever heard
Props to the dad that took her daughter to DQ and just talked to her.
That one really got me. You could tell that dad really cared. Nothing like that nostalgic feeling of doing something you did as a kid with someone like your father Who just wants the best
@@UncleShanky I wish I could walk through the mountains talking with my dad all day again. He died when I was 11 and I'm 14 now.
I almost cried at it oop-
@@Vize_Iron I'm sorry for your loss :(
Rest in peace. May he rest in peace.
Disowning your daughter after attempting to trick her into a marriage, for not getting tricked into the marriage?
Those people are in need of rare help.
They desperately need a therapist
"Those people are in need of rare help" is probably one of the best phrases I've come across in awhile.
More like jail
The What!?
I _really_ hope some people said that to them...
I'm curious if this is from Indian subcontinent. this shit happened all the time even a decade ago here (haven't heard of any recently though)
That Aunt is an absolute Godsend. Seriously glad she was there to rescue her niece from her horrible parents (seriously, what kind of sick parent tricks their child into getting married without any say or even any awareness of what’s going on?) and took her in when they had the audacity to disown her for them being inept and deceitful.
I agree.
Ok that 40 year old who tried to marry a 12 year old should seriously be arrested. He was going to kidnap her in broad daylight.
Sadly in some countries, that’s the norm
What? You don’t think it could be true love?
@@redram5150 I hope like hell that you're joking.
@@xenolizardz bruh don't get jealous that the 40 year old man gets a younger gf while you're still stuck at home with your mom 😂
@@chadthundercockmasterbaite2187 Jealous!?! She is still a kid!
"I love you so much, now I can show everyone I own you"
*WHAAAAAAT?!?!?*
Sum ppl possesive n paranoid
@@Princesskyloren not paranoid, just abusive
Nope nope nope nope nope
@@outstretchedwings had to deal with a ex like this, was extremely obsessed with me, relationship didn't last long thankfully
I don’t even understand how you can disown your own daughter. Especially since the whole ass wedding was forced without her consent.
It's cultural. Such as in India, they believe in honor killings. Sick...
I actually get disowning a child but only if they really really deserve it. But for that? Never. The parents are fucking sick
@@victoriansteam1562 They probably had some nasty debt they wanted to get out from under and offered their daughter as collateral. Fucked up shit like that still happens.
@@walterpaton8698 That's horrible. I'm not super patriotic but I do feel blessed to have grown up in the USA
The dad taking daughter to dq story to save her from toxic abuser fiance made me cry
That aunt is a queen
1:50 anybody not caught off guard when he screamed his sisters name during sex?
I mean there's a chance it was actually his sister's name because awkward shit like that can happen if rarely, but i'm going to guess and say the name wasn't actually his sister's and probably some other woman.
Dear god I choked on my food
Sweet home Alabama
I was surprised no one was talking about it I choked on my water-
1 sec:🎸🎸🎸🎸🎸sweet home Alabama
I think she probably noticed that he was talking to a girl and asked who it was and he said it was his sister.. probably it was another woman he was sleeping with instead
I always struggle to express how lucky i feel that my gf is with me, she could have picked anyobe and she picked me. Meanwhile, people are really out here telling their partners they're ugly?!
Ikr, samee.
Seriously. I've been with my girlfriend for several years and when they're like "We had broken up 3 times that year" I'm floored because I can't imagine breaking up with my girlfriend, much less like that.
Only manipulating a-holes
Bruh same like people literally deserve to be alone
sounds like you are just desperate idk 😐
and who says she isn't getting her guts rearranged by chads
My grandparents were actually engaged to different people when they met. My grandmother was going to marry her high school sweetheart but broke off her engagement because she didn’t feel right about it. My grandfather had later gotten into an argument with his fiancée and told her to leave the ring on the table. Which she did. Thank god though because I wouldn’t be here to tell this story if it had worked out any other way.❤️❤️
14:23 I cringed that he used real names and gave her city. I know he said he had permission. And there's a chance the abuser already knows where she lives. But, as a DV survivor who still, after years of no contact, fears that my abuser might figure out where I am....I immediately panicked for her.
Hopefully the poster had the idea to change the names but just not say that, that could actually be a bit smart
@@scarymoose4141 They said her name at the end.
@@cejjce That's the kid's name. So now we have the mother's name and the daughter's name and the city. That narrows things down a lot.
Same. This is one of those rare instances where I hope this story is fake.
i can't even fuckin believe that some dingus basically said "hey internet, if you know (abuser), send him these coordinates" like holy shit that redditor has zero critical thinking
The 12 year old one is why you have to make sure you know what sites your kids are on. I just thought about any future child of mine doing that, and almost had a heart attack.
Or even better than controlling them, make sure they know about such risks.
My mom was almost a runaway bride. Her dad asked her she was sure just as they were about to enter the church. He just knew even when she didn’t want to admit it. Especially because literally had hit her the first time about a month before the wedding. But for some reason, she ignored her gut feeling and went through with it. It turned out to be the worst seven years of her life. She eventually and finally divorced him when I was one. We haven’t heard from him since.
My mom had to get a little drunk to marry my dad :/ they divorced when I was three
Glad she got you both out of there. Sometimes the only thing you can do is escape and heal.
“He was a nice enough guy.”
Goes on to describe an abusive alcoholic.
Moral of the story: always trust your gut!
Moral of the story is feeahnkay
Nobody:
Robot voice: "Fee-an-kay"
No, it's "fee-ON-kay".
My mom was too shy to say no on her wedding. She met my dad on vacation in Malta twice on two different vacations and they became pen pals. Later he came to Paris, and pressured her into meeting him even though she broke off contact at some point. She had to pick him up at the airport, and then he just... kind of stayed. My aunts and grandma all wanted her to not to marry him, they had a bad feeling ab him but on the wedding day she couldn't say no.
Turns out he was really abusive, when they had my older sister he made my sister sleep in a room downstairs and didn't allow my mom to go soothe her when she was crying. When mu sister and me got older he always set us up against each other, always favouring the one that sucked up to him more and always fighting with my mom to the point she was crying. They never showed affection towards each other, and I remember them kissing once in like all my life.
Fast forward a couple years, I was ten and my sister 13, he sexually harrassed her best friend. He wouldn't even have gotten to go to jail for that, which is pretty disgusting in my opinion, but he still ran away a year later. I renember being pulled out of school and driving to my moms great aunt that day, he had booked two plane tickets. Considering I was his favourite kid my mom suspected that he planned on taking me with him back to his home country, so she went to the police.
I now live with my mom, and while I thought he was innocent for a long time but when I was sixteen we had a long talk about him, and she revealed that in the confession of my sister's former best friend she had mentioned things that he would do when he wanted to sleep with my mom. I had kind of expected that, but getting the confirmation was still a pretty hard pill to swallow.
My mom is doing better now, and if these thirteen years of being with him have taught her anything it is to stand her ground and voice her opinion, which she does. She's a really strong woman and I love her a lot^^
I haven't seen or heard from him since I was eleven, and I honestly don't want to meet him again. Yeah, I missed him in the beginning, but I worked through that. I'm doing okay now :3. Just, y'know, different problems. Like school. Honestly, the next big test is the scariest thing on my agenda because after growing up under my dad, authorities and teachers really don't scare or intimidate me anymore. I'm pretty materialistic, unsurprisingly.
WTF what a crap dad. I'm happy you're mom is doing better now and hope it didn't mess up you and you sister to much...
For that first one, plot twist: He actually hit his head hard, got serious amnesia or memory loss and couldn't remember any of the time he was with her nor meeting her. The time he was ghosting her, he was in hospital recovering. When he turned up and acted like he didn't know her he actually didn't because she'd been erased from his memory.
I heard it happened in Cleveland, and all started from a Vader Powerbomb.
@@Gr8ScottUK What's a Vader Powerbomb?
I was thinking he just hit up that program from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
@@potatopancake9138 I'm afraid I've never heard of that.
Was this real or just a fanfiction?
I want an aunt like that bc my family is shit
Mood. My aunt's are both crazy :(
Same
That aunt is amazing. She is someone who everyone needs in their life
Awww that aunt was really nice
The most important job of the father of the bride is to remind her "We can call this off right now"
Glad that I’m not the only one who had a military guy propose and then drop off the face of the Earth
7:10 is exactly why the normalization of the idea that men are trapped by marriage with all the ball and chain jokes is really problematic. If all of society tells you that guys hate marriage then you'll think you're supposed to feel awful about it and go through with it when you don't actually want to.
Thats a very gynocentric view on an issue. Smart men don't hate marriage,they hate the laws, society and courts that hate men and will take all their stuff in the event a woman randomly decides to break it off.
18:40 my cousin is bipolar, and has some abusive tendencies. He is not pleasant to be around half the time, but damn, he seems so mild in comparison to this guy. Even his mood swings aren't that hair trigger to explode at someone after a few seconds silence.
My mother is bipolar (diagnosed) and was abusive. I no longer talk to her, but let's just say it can be a really bad combination
Aunt Rescue and Ice-cream Dad are my favorites. Also I think he just said she "you don't have to follow through with this" because he knew she wouldn't have the guts to say anything last minute and just wanted wanted look better to her somehow. Wtf
As soon as somebody be “letting” you do something- fuckin YEET
Am I the only one laughing at the fact the auto voice sounds out fiancé like fiankae
People dodging bullets here like Neo. 😎
Props to both the aunt and stepfather who rescued the brides from possibly horrible marriages.
So, I horribly misread the title. My husband and I are currently planning our wedding, and Lord help me, this really makes you appreciate the kind and sane people in your life. Way to go the family members that saved the bride
My cousin Becca dated a guy for 2 months before he proposed to her at a hockey game on the big screen it was a whole thing and she was like yes because it was a whole thing but the second they got back in the car she told him that there was no way she was marrying him and that he was crazy for asking after 2 months when she already told him that she never wanted to get married and then he asked her why she said yes she said because she didn't want to embarrass him in front of the entire world he threw a major fit kicks you out the car and made her walk home in the snow then him and his family harassed her for months she said she should have just said no to begin with
22:02 The parents who arranged the wedding shouldn’t be parents. SHAME ON THEM.
My best friend was a runaway groom! Long story short, it was the week of the Wedding and the events of the Bachelorette party came to light. The soon to be grooms cousin recorded the bride to be getting railed by a male stripper on his very own Kitchen Table. Was a weird week to say the least.
That story at 4:47 got to me since I can relate heavily towards it.
I never had the best childhood, grown into a very naive and hopeful woman who thought the first man who found me worthy of love would be the one.
I dated and got engaged with a guy I met my junior year. Although he was charming and repeatedly said I was "better than other girls." He never actually had any patience for my needs and always seemed to have something to prove to everyone, including me. He constantly always made sure to talk down to me in arguments to the point I found my own opinions stupid, made me feel small, I lost my virginity to this man who convinced me the first times weren't anything special and ours certainly wasn't. I became emotionally sensitive, stressed, and cried myself to sleep but in the end continued to convince myself I was in love with him.
I left him right after I remet an old highschool guyfriend of mine (who I'll admit, I'd always liked), who genuinely cared for me, and after seeing what I became, coaxed me out of my shell enough to finally leave my (ex) fiance. Now he would've been just fine staying friends, but recently I've finally let my feelings out towards him and to my delight, he felt the same way! We happen to have a planned date to a Zoo on the 12th (Never went to the zoo before so I'm really excited!)
P.S. Never let someone make you do something you don't want to do, If someone actually loves you they will ALWAYS give you time.
How was the zoo? Is everything working out for y'all?
It makes me uncomfortable when twins are fetishized, since I'm a twin.
I'm a twin too
Not a twin, but yeah that’s your sibling. It’s gross
I had a friend who was in an arranged marriage situation. They were "promised" to each other at the ripe ages of 4 and 3. Honestly if he hadn't been disowned when he was 16 I could easily have seen her being a runaway bride. She got to pick her own husband in the end.
Muslim or from a bad part of Asia? If there are other cultures where that is ok please inform me as I'm very curious.
@@Jenna2k actually America. It was a financially motivated arrangement. New money buying/marrying there way into an older more affluent family.
@@jinx18e yikes! I didn't know we had that here. This is legit terrifying.
I had a guy who was planning on proposing to me on our second date, I know this because he started talking about which wedding rings I would like and told me what he was planning on... oh he also had already decided in what order and when I would have our kids and what to name them 🙃
That's just weird, like there is no raison to do that and nobody should think its a good idea...
oop- thats really creepy-
The second one it just- um.... sweet home Alabama ✨
Didnt op say they never met hus family? Sister coulda been a affair cover up
I guess I kinda am one. He was a friend since 2015, but was more friend-of-a-friend until 2018, and I noticed he liked me. I gave him a chance, and had been only dating a year when he (carelessly) proposed. His brother gave him grief for not being more thoughtful (His older brother got married earlier that year). I broke it off with him this past March, and Im happier now than I wouldve been. I think we're too alike as people and didn't mesh well. And I think it mightve turned abusive because I apparently emasculated him (I guess that happens when the woman has a vision and a man doesnt?), and I never felt like my true self around him, and he never really took interest in the things I enjoy and do compared to how I actively tried to engage him in his interests.
Relationships are a two way street.... Im reading the 5 love languages while studying the bible to fix myself up first.
Good on you! If you’re way happier out of the relationship than if you were still in it, then that definitely wasn’t the one for you. You made the right choice. I’ve gotta say that that was very brave of you to break off the engagement, as a lot of people can be scared to do it and regret it later on. I had a very similar experience and ended up breaking off the engagement as well. It really led to a lot of self-reflection and in recent months I’ve taken up reading my Bible more and generally focusing on what I like as well. Keep up what you’re doing and just focus on self-care and loving yourself!
Ugh, a book about a god that doesn't exist written by the church to rake in money of the stupid isnt going to fix your life, hunny.
@@vintagechic5491 Thank you :) I adored his family, they were super sweet and caring, always wanting to help, but having them as my family was something I could never see in my future. I was their son's first GF, and I guess he thought it was Love at First Sight. I wish him well, I really do.
Now I wait for my One
@@chadthundercockmasterbaite2187 You know God does talk about you in the Bible: "Beware, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief in departing from the living God;" (Heb 3:12) Take care of yourself
Good 👏 for 👏 you 👏
SOOOO many red flags, but I was in love with the idea of being in love, the white picket fence, the whole 9 yards.
As we stood in front of the minister, and was asked if I took this man, etc, i thought "What would they do if i said 'no'?".
Not being big on drama, i said "i do", and, oh, how i wish i hadnt!
I knew it was a mistake on our honeymoon when i realized he'd hidden his ring under the phone in our hotel room. We got into a HUGE fight when i demanded he turn the car around to go back to get it.
He cheated constantly during our marriage, not caring whether it was with a man or a woman.
So many more stories.
The one with the twins made me squeak lol. Dude, she technically should post that story in r/prorevenge. She totally wins LOL
That 12 year old though..... like wow. It still freaks me out that they are actually that easily manipulated.
I didn't so much "run away" as my grandparents put me on a plane and sent me across the country. Let me back up.
My ex was an emotionally abusive asshole. His father was abusive, and he just thought that was normal. He put his hands on me a couple of times, and I was so broken by the time that happened that I just couldn't fight anymore. My grandparents took me in after someone we were renting from decided that he didn't like my ex anymore. No idea why, they were cut from the same mold. (He started sexually harassing me at work after that, but...unrelated.) My grandmother called my dad and told him what was going on, and he used his contacts in that city to get the skinny on my ex and his family. Less than a month later, my grandparents had convinced me to go home to my parents for a little while, since they missed me so much. I agreed and was packed onto a commercial jet less than a week later. To this day, I don't know who paid for it. Nobody will tell me.
My ex called me not long after I arrived and told me that I was so worthless. He expected me to come back to him, and he had no intention of ever visiting me. About a month later, one of his room mates, who was my friend in high school, called me. He apologized so many times before telling me that my ex had been bragging the night before about how he had been cheating on me for months before I left. That he loved that I was too stupid to realize it, and he had no intention of stopping. My old friend said that he and the other two guys there had agreed that one of them should tell me, and he volunteered because he knew me best. He told me that they had also decided to kick the creep out because they had all seen who he really was. I was a pancake, but I thanked him for telling me. One phone call with my ex to ask if it was true, and he exploded at me, calling me every name in the book and a few he was making up on the spot. When I got off the phone, my mom made me the biggest margarita I had ever seen, and my parents held me on the couch while I tried to drink it through my tears.
Years later, I'm still in therapy. I'm happily married to an amazing man and have two children. Thank God for my grandparents!
3:11
Now that dad, is efn amazing.
More ppl do this. Please.
14:02 I so love when friends share a braincell enough that they can low key read each other's minds enough to even locate the other when it's needed.
It's better to leave and have some regrets than to have wasted your damned efforts on a broken person. you wouldn't buy a broken plate why would you accept a person you realise makes you feel wrong, listen to your spider tingle.
Think it should be mandatory for teens and adults tbh, how to spot emotionally abusive ppl and manipulative ppl and how to nope out.
No wait...
to stalk you and then accusing you of stalking him is a completely normal state of mind for a rejected man. It’s super common. It’s the saddest shit I’ve ever seen and I’ve seen it in my own and almost all of my friends lives.
Common or not, it's definitely not normal.
16:00 So her family kicks her out and then has the gall to act like that never happened and say “You dont need to do this??” The fuck
People SERIOUSLY NEED to know the difference between arranged and forced marriage. The one at 1:55 is NOT an arranged marriage. That is a forced marriage. It's common for people from a culture like that to call it an arranged marriage because they want to sugarcoat it. This word has now been misused this way for so long that people associate 'arranged' with forced.
An arranged marriage is that both the bride/groom and their parents as the same amount of say in accepting the partner in marriage, where a love marriage is primarily dependent on the bride/groom. Forced marriage is where one or both parties don't consent to a marriage. I don't know what culture it is or where the family was from. They should rid themselves of such a despicable tradition and end the abusive cycle.
Bruh my name is Cheyenne too. I was very thrown off hearing my name 😂
Props to the people who dodged a bullet/ intervened👏🏾😌
23:39. Am I the only one who imagines maiden animations saying "take me home"?
Yes
the way the voice said"dayum" in the first one though😂😂😂
0:25 image dating a kid when your an adult in the army lmao
i feel like some of these are based off the end of the fucking world
3:09 This woman is just a descendant of iroh isn’t she.
24:27 I hate the law that allows this.
0:43 Asking a woman's parents for permission for marriage isn't a red flag. Hell you aren't even really asking permission, you're just asking for acceptance. You're trying to join two families together, why wouldn't you want to be accepted by your significant others family. Its a respect thing, not an ownership thing
Because some people apparently assume it’s about ownership since traditionally you ask the father for acceptance (though honestly you ask anyone who’s important to the bride/groom in this day and age)
The wedding procedures are originally about ownership as the dad passes on his daughter who he controls to a man who now has permission to control her as if he’s her father. If a man feels comfortable giving up something he cares about, it indicates giving up ownership in a way.
@@luca-jg4wq Yea its not about ownership anymore so thats a moot point
Depends, if he went over her head and asked for approval before discussing marriage with the woman then that's a red flag. It sends a sign he doesn't respect her. But if marriage's is already on the table and those kinds of traditions are valued then why not?
@@SillyBanjo In a lot of places it is about ownership. I would be concern if a guy can't get married if he doesn't ask the woman dad's for "permission".
Uber driver here. Picking up a young girl in tears in the middle of the night is a typical Tuesday.
I've got a two for one special on this. I dated my ex about 13 years ago. He was so charming the first year and proposed soon after and I (not even of legal age) said yes. He said we'd get married on my 18th birthday. Fast forward a few months and he became very emotionally and physically abusive and tried to manipulate me with the ring, calling me his property and saying I now have to do everything he says. I ran for the hills not long after and am so glad we aren't married. Fast forward to 2 years ago, he meets a very young girl again but is now in his 30s. Proposes to her within 10 months and she left him about 8 months later. She contacted me to talk cause she knew who I was. Apparently he used her social media to stalk me and my family. And he treated her the same as he did to me. Now he's bald, still alone and lost out on two great women. I'm now married for 6 years and have 2 sons with together with my amazing husband. When I spoke to other ex, I told her it will get better. Literally a rock is better.
Hearing about that guy who was emotionally abusing that woman is starting to make me realize that I say the same things about myself despite everyone around me telling me the opposite. Damn, I gotta get therapy.
That proposal: "now I can show everyone I *own* you" what the actual fuck??? Partners aren't property...
I know someone too. Families already met. Brother of the girl works abroad so he wanted to meet the guy first before departing again and hoped that they could get married soon (just to see that his sister is in stable life). Girl went to the city to work. After months, I heard that the girl got pregnant. Not my friend's.
his sISTERS NAME???? WHADIDSHESAYYYY????
14:34 "Now she's getting remarried in September 2020"
So... How did that go?
St least she got herself a good reason not too this time 😂
13:36 if someone said that about my friend they would’ve caught this black air force energy with no questions or answers
How nice for all the people that dodged the bullet. I married my nightmare...
Are you okay now?
I know you commented this a while ago but I just wanted to check in and make sure you’re safe.
@@magicalwatermelon5147 I am managing, thank you. The constant stress has affected my mental and physical health. It has been 2 decades of this. I keep thinking of the life I could've had in the 'what if' scenario. Now I try to live one day at a time.
@@batteredwife Glad you are managing. I admire your “one day at a time” approach. I personally am trying to focus more on the present. I hope that you’ll be able to keep moving forward
@@-Desire Thank you so much for asking. I am making efforts to make my life better now.
5:00 18 months.. let's cry together fellow directioners who made it this far.
Everytime the story involves military members im like..” oooo boy here we go” lol😂😂😂. You REALLY need to commit and research before marrying
"cried out his SISTER'S name during sex"
I usually try to hear other people's side the story but I think this wot would be an instant break-up from me
grandma approved
Sorry about the woman that sold your ring
Thanks grandma
Wtf is this
Turtle approved
The end of 1934's "It Happened One Night" contains my favorite runaway bride scene (judging by the bride's dad's reaction, he didn't believe what Clark Gable was saying about his daughter needing someone who'll take a sock her any more than I do): th-cam.com/video/yWbP8eHRJKQ/w-d-xo.html
Let me just start off by saying that weddings are expensive
Good stories, but holy crap, I can't deal with the robot voice.
Little tip, put it on 1.5 or 2x speed and it is much easier to listen to.
thought this said runway brides, i was confused
That Dad redemption arc
It's scary that even I, who had experience with a narcissistic stepdad, and who you'd think would know all the red flags, could get trapped in a narcissistic relationship.
23:24
I can literally see this like a movie scene in my head and it's hilarious.
My ex fiancé got me to play hide and seek with super rich family in their huge mansion. Only later did I realize they were hunting me down to kill me so they could complete some satanic ritual to keep them rich. After fighting for my life and killing two of his family members, they caught me and were about to kill me when the sun came up and they all popped like bloody water balloons.
WTF XD
no its true guys, i was the little elevator
@@krumplickapipinkova2388 so how it feels to crush someone alive?
3:29 - Major kudos to that dad! (I can't help hoping something horrible happened to the almost-groom eventually.)
>She’s now scheduled to be married in September 2020
uh oh
I read runway brides instead of runaways, and I was soooo confused for a whole minute
Excuse me but what do you mean?
@@scarymoose4141 runway models, catwalks, i think is what she thought it was referring to
@@rockersr.g.2410 ah
Ice cream can solve so many problems!
Me and my dad used to talk over DQ ice cream
Note: we still would but he's dead. Its been a few years and I'm not really sad about it anymore so I'm fine
16:17 jesus christ
dang my dad was just like the runaway groom that felt pressured to propose, except he married my mom, had 2 kids and then divorced lmao
My dad showed he'd push me into the relationship. He did it in a "gonna be homeless without your signature (obligatory cautioner to get a place solo)" : nah, the bf you're trying to leave will do it.
>called out his sister's name during sex
>wanted to take her away to Kentucky
HMMMMMM
Cue the banjos
What’s with men in the military? Scary
Cancelling a wedding months/weeks before the ceremony is not considered runaway bride status..
Lmao they pulled a Tommy Shelby on the third one
3:10 that aunt is a heroine.
On a lucky moment, I got away from getting proposed at by my now-ex girlfriend. We had a really rocky relationship since we had never been on a date, and we had been hiding our relationship from her crazy homophobic mother from the start. We had been together for 2 years at that point, and I knew she wanted to propose for about 2 months (she told me she was thinking about it). I had left her in november but she convinced me to come back and turned out she couldn't come to her bestfriend's new year's party. She wanted to propose at that party. At that point I had serious doubts about our relationship, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, but I could feel the gap between her and I ways to think and the way we loved each other. I loved her with all I was, she loved me in a spineless way. She never defended me, never did whatever she could to make things happen with me. I would have done everything in a heartbeat. So I left her 2 months later. It's been a year and 2 months now, I'm still thinking about her sometimes
The last one got me, it was so sickening and awful
Called out his sisters name thank goodness for that grandma
3:09 I don't know how weddings work yet but don't you need to sign papers or something?
My mawmaw (moms mom) was engaged before she met my pawpaw. One night her fiancée came home drunk. He told her he didn’t drink to win her over because she was a Christian. She took the ring off right then and there and called the wedding off. I hope I can be as strong and brave as her