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My mom is a midwife. A husband jokingly asked my mom about a husband stitch while she was stitching up his wife. My mom told him, the only husband stitches I do are for the mouths of husbands who ask me that.
Your mother is a legend and a savage, and I love her for that response.
what the hell is a husband stitch?
@@asuka_the_void_witch sometimes during delivery the mother’s vagina tears, so they require stitches. Sometimes husbands ask for an extra “husband stitch” to make their vagina heal tighter than before, they are only thinking of their own sexual pleasure.
@@Alexa-rz1ym In some countries, such as Brazil it is even actively done today and it used to be done everywhere back in the past. My mum is a victim of that by a male doctor in Germany in the 90's (she didn't even tear, he cut her open down there to prevent "ugly tearing"). Needless to say, she is one of 33% of women, who describe their birth experience as traumatic and suffered PTSD from it.
@@Alexa-rz1ym adding to this comment, it can make future intercourse for the patient VERY painful. Some hospitals don't even tell them they've done this, its just standard for the doctors. Thankfully more people in the medical profession are becoming aware of the long term damage and not doing this, its just going much slower than I'd like.
Nobody is gonna talk about the husband who took out his wife’s stitches not even two weeks after birth to have sex? I don’t think he believes she is a person
The fact that his sexual satisfaction is more important than her well being is unbelievable.
@Duke Cola have you ever heard of manipulative and possessive and toxic behavior? People stay in those relationships because the abuser slowly strips them away from any help and makes their victim think they're not as important over the course of several years. It's not a casual 'it takes two to tango'.
@Duke Cola you clearly are 9 or smt, you shouldn't be watching a video. You are literally saying "it takes two to kill a person, the murdered must consent!" AND saying the justice system works REMOTELY fine in any country, which is straight up not true et all. I would say you see waaaaaay to many police and medical dramas, sometimes real life isn't that bad, maybe you should try actual logic.
Wonder why he isn’t in jail for that. I’d press charges.
@@Cheiko18 "clearly into it" yes that's so obvious and more reasonable than she had an aggressive husband(HE took the stitches out) and was coerced into it. Yeah you're right SO OBVIOUS
The lack of: anatomy knowledge, sex education and respect for women noted in these is depressing
Sex-ed should be taught in schools alot more. Alot of people are not even taught about it by their parents and they just expect them to learn it from somewhere by themselves.
@@exceptionallyriso I think guys should be taught about menstruation. So we don't have these "how do you pee when you have a tampon in???" questions
@@caffeinatedkatie4696
Yea they really need to teach that too
The part about people finding out they've been using the "wrong hole" has me asking so many questions.
True. My sex ed was crap I didn't even learn about periods that's how bad it was. I had to learn that myself but still to this day I'm leaving things about sex basic things school didn't care about. Just showed pictures of how a baby is made wow fanatic I don't want kids 😂
My OB asked.my husband of he wanted the husband stitch. My husband said "Why are you asking me when it's not my body?"
And I fell in love with him all over again.
I strive to be in a relationship like this
If the person stitching me up said something like that, even as a joke, they are getting kicked in the jaw.
WHY is the ob asking the husband this like seriously report them
That's disgusting of your OB, I'm sorry
Sadly a common practice. Which is dumb because those bots return to previous size.
Yes I didn't know about it until a few years ago. That doctor is long gone.
Any medic who gets asked by a guy to give his wife a husband stitch should reply "how small should it be so she can feel it next time you put it in?" Or "Sir, I understand it can be embarrassing to be asked if it's in yet, but I'm not mutilating my patient."
Ya know, just an idea.
I had to downvote so we could keep your likes at 69, i'm sorry, man D:
@@VilliageSquidiot Its cool. Have a nice day!
@@red0421 we went way past 69 so I changed it back to an upvote
You are a legend!
Great idea. I will take notes
Fun fact: the "husband stitch" is actually illegal. And, if you're married and your husband/partner asks for that, you can get EVERYTHING in the divorce. It's abusive, just saying
Despite being illegal however, there are still doctors who will give women the procedure without telling either parties while she's still drugged up or unconscious.
@@andreaprochowski4717 damn, for real? Guess I'm lucky my mom and husband are gonna be with me during birth then
Can I sue a doctor who gave me one without asking me?
@@andreaprochowski4717 that happened to me
@@jimmiesavage437 Probably
“Exactly how tiny do you need it to be?” ...the perfect response to a “husband stitch”
Indeed, it is a scorcher.
I don't understand could someone explain
@@zakarimaddix3721 from what I’ve read the husband stitch is sometimes used after birth on the mother to “tighten her up “ for the pleasure of her husband , 9 times out of 10 it is extremely painful for the woman for years after birth. Personally I think the practice of the “husband stitch” is very barbaric and needs to be done away with entirely
@@zakarimaddix3721 the “husband stitch” is an extra one taken for the sole purpose of tightening the vagina to supposedly heighten pleasure for the man, especially after childbirth. Some less than ethical doctors do it automatically, but many times it’s something that the husband or boyfriend requests (an ethical doctor won’t do it, especially without the uncoerced request of the patient).
If you’re asking about why the response is so appropriate, if the guy is paying attention to what is being said, he’s likely to admit that everything is fine without the extra stitch in order to avoid appearing to admit to having a micro penis. It’s a pretty good way to communicate exactly how much of an idiot the guy is being
if you ask for a husband stitch I hope the complete worst for you
My friend husband asked for the “extra stitch” my friend immediately told him to leave and that he wasn’t welcome in the delivery room. She sent him divorce papers 2 weeks later and used the doctors as a witness as part of her bid for full custody. She moved to England with the last after that.
In the space where woman have there ovaries-that’s where men keep their audacity.
Fuck yes good on her
I'm so proud of her shes a strong woman no woman has to tolerate that crap
I don't get it. What did he mean by extra stitch?
Never mind, i found out.
@@helena_8478 what does it mean?
I have never heard of the husband stitch until now... the audacity
It's very weird that it's still a thing as it doesn't even work and just causes painful sex for the woman, not like it affects her vagina on the inside either, I don't get it honestly.
I hadn't either. Fucking dispicable
It's something that has become more commonly known thanks to social media. I've been a midwife since the mid 90's and we only started hearing about it again in the last few years. It's a practice I did learn about when I was a student midwife, that it used to be done up till the mid 1960's then they became better educated about how a vagina heals after birth.
It's really bizarre that something that hasn't been around for 50 years is suddenly being mentioned. The thing is that women are assuming they have had 'the husband stitch' because they may have difficulty after giving birth, especially after a repair, that's normal. One of my friends who is an OBGYN has to keep explaining this to people. She had one patient complain about how awful it was that she had this procedure with her first birth and that no one asked her permission. My friend said that it didn't look like there was any issues, and she looked up the birth notes from the last delivery. The patient didn't have any stitches at all, all she had was a few grazes. She had made the whole thing up in her head.
What the actual f**** for the one post where the husband took out the stitches because they bothered him during sex😨 Good thing she didn’t get an infection for taking them out too soon.
Or bleed out
She didn't bleed out because that could've bothered her husband.
@@kimberlyjones8152 She would would be bleeding any way. He could also cause an air embolism and kill her
And I wanna know just how the fuck he took them out cuz that in itself was dangerous
6:16 This is commonly referred to as "The Husband Stitch" and is potentially one of the most mortifyingly common types of malpractice there is as far as post-birth care for the mother. Of course, it's generally found in either male OBGYN's or female OB's if the inseminating partner is present and pushy. To knowingly stitch someone's privates up when it wasn't necessary, just so the inseminating partner can resume having sex with them pleasurably as soon as possible? Especially when the vagina will naturally adjust on its own? It's appalling and selfish and just utterly disgusting, and any doctor who does this stitch either at the partner's request or by their own twisted justification deserves to have their license revoked and be criminally charged.
Pls can we find a term other than inseminating partner oml that just sounds horrific haha
@@baileec496 Anyone who wants their partner or wife to have 'The Husband Stitch,' deserves to be called the ' inseminating partner.'
Yeah, it's called birth rape and it's super common. Just terrible.
I had a perinatologist refuse to do much of a repair after a traumatic delivery. My kitty never was right again. Love life was over eventually
I'd have given anything for that husband stitch to fix the rip from cervix to outside and through the urethra.
@@ladymystique5407 that wouldn’t be the husband stitch
my biological father apparently asked about my mom getting extra stitches or how soon could they have sex again after i was born (idr right away, i think it was the latter). mom deadpan looked at the doc & said "just sew it up......" she was not happy. oh, and he also ended up trashing the house w/ his buddies to celebrate becoming a dad. my mom worked so hard to leave the house immaculate right before she had me & he would not lift a finger to help clean the place up. as a result, she had to GO BACK to the hospital because she popped her c-section stitches. needless to say, the doctors told her "DO. NOT. DO. THAT. PLEASE REST."
and dear jesus, that poor women whose husband removed her stitches needs to throw the whole man out. like, she just had a baby & all you're concerned about is your peen being uncomfortable??? can't you, i dunno, leave her the hell alone & let her heal in meantime??? that is disturbing!
It is honestly shocking how little people know about basic biology and even their own bodies.
Welcome to america.
@@WobblesandBean even as an American myself I find it shocking. Not all of these were from the United States either.
Like srsly how do you NOT KNOW where your own vagina is???
@A dear Lord...I've heard of guys thinking girls pee out the vaginas or that menstrual blood comes out the urethra but THAT! I've never heard. *facepalm*
It's all schools and parents fault.
That lady who is intersex. I really pray she’s ok, that her husband realized it’s ok. But most of all I hope she’s ok. That’s sad.
It’s pretty common for that sort of thing to happen. Most times parents will have surgery be done to give kids an easier time growing up to avoid confusion about their gender/sex and while sometimes you are lucky and they never find out but that isn’t always the case and it leads to understandable feelings of betrayal.
@@Toneill029 it's not that common.
@@Toneill029 Not really. It’s more like parents being selfish because their child isn’t “normal” and thus have them get IGM. Nothing to do with confusion of their sex considering the majority of intersex/DSD isn’t visible in that area minus maybe being on the smaller side (male) or having a bigger c (female). Those are uncommon cases.
@@bimates2690
I’m just going by what I read about it okay. All I know is intersex babies usually get work done, some times it’s beneficial sometimes it’s not. Sometimes it’s done with good intentions others times it isn’t. All I know is that people just want to live normal lives.
"Black babies are often very light skinned when they are born." My mom had an interesting story about this: one of her friends' daughters was a brand new nurse in a maternity ward where such a baby was born. She'd not attended the birth and hadn't met the parents, but was caring for the infant in the nursery for the one or two days before it was sent home, and assumed it was a white baby. Guess where such MALE babies begin to darken first ? She was changing its diaper and reported to her supervisor that the baby seemed to have some kind of infection - its scrotum was black! Well, after the other nurses stopped laughing, she learned something she hadn't known before. As did I when my mom told me this story.
I'm female. It took months for me to "get some color". My dark brown father in this case actually went back & forth with my light brown-skinned mother for months about getting DNA because he acted like he forgot how melanin works esp amongst Black babies. In short he thought I was a white man's baby lol but nope....still his. I'm actually closer to his skintone now lmfao.
Can confirm, I was born pretty much white, and by the time I was six months I darker than both my parents
Me and my oldest daughter were both born with moon pie round faces and asian features. My bio dad accused my mom of cheating with a asian man. (Jokingly of course). And everywhere I took my daughter as an infant people asked me was she half korean. Lol her nickname was china doll.
This is hilarious 😂. A lot of people don’t know this. White babies can be darker at birth as well then lighten up. My son was very dark at birth and had a full head of black hair. He’s 2 now and is very very light with bright red hair!
@@erikaford7743 aw haha Thats cute
I never knew what a ‘husband stitch’ was until now and I’m disgusted and livid
I never really bad a fear of getting pregnant or giving birth until I heard the horror stories of medical neglect and abuse women experience.
Same, I'm kicking my mans out if he even so much as sarcastically asks about it, mostly bc I fear it would be taken seriously. Also would opt for a woman to deliver it, or a man who won't play along or do it without knowledge. Have witnesses. So on so forth. I read in comments that it actually causes extreme pain in a lot of cases and can mess up other things and also *doesn't actually make you tighter* just the initial hole or something.
Same. I don’t get how it’s funny to ask a medical professional to mutilate your partner.
Took me a while to realise that
Husband stitches are almost as bad as circumcision.
That poor woman... going in for fertility treatment, then finding out you don't have the parts to have kids.
Yes, that was so sad
12:48 and she's religious and thinks she's been having gay sex. Has she? Does she have to have sex with women now? What does the Quran say about this?
@@Mecharnie_Dobbs Wtf lmao
@@Mecharnie_Dobbs I’m under the impression that Allah/God judges mostly by intention.
She now thinks what she was doing was horrendous. (Sadly) but she was only doing what husbands and wives do. They both were lied to. That’s the problem with strict conservative cultures.
People don’t know they’re different. Because being ‘different’ in many ways is seen as wrong.
When it’s not. It never is their fault either. (Edit for grammar)
Its hard finding out that you are not the sex you thought
Its actually kinda sad women have to go through the physical pain and emotional pain of a baby for 9 months then giving birth, but also adding on to that is a husband that isn't supporting her, judging her body, only thinking about next time they will have sex.. I'm sorry, but I'd feel so sad if I heard my husband saying that while I was going through so many changes in my life.
Yeah. It sucks.
That's the way some men are, they think with their dicks 🙄🙄
I would be sad, but not as sad as he would be after I ghosted him and took everything.
I am worried about how many people don't know where babies come from
They come from unprotected handholding
@@PikachuLittle That's facts
...or what hole to make them with. SMFH
They should have been sterilized, right then.
@@PikachuLittle yes, prior to being 18yo. After that's its on you for not finding out how it happens on your own.
The act of sex itself is not a sin ... 🙄
It just highlights how important sex education is and how messed up it is that people go to crazy lengths to hide it from their kids...
so many of these sounds like domestic violence signs it's just... 😬😬😬!!!
They ARE abuse
I sometimes wonder how many "fertility issues" are literally just due to poor technique in bed.
the number of times i've seen these posts and the top comments are always "they were doing anal the ENTIRE x years they tried getting pregnant and came to me because i was the last fertility specialist in the area" is heartbreaking for many reasons, but still so extremely hilarious to me. The number of years is always like 5+ too, which is even more heartbreaking but funny.
@@autopsyturvy PLSS I SHOULDNT BE LAUGHING BUT THATS JUST FUCKING HILLARIOUS IF I WAS IN YOUR SHOES I WOULD LITERALLY LAUGH IN THEIR FACES- 😭
@@autopsyturvy I'd just think "do they really expect the child to come out where the poop comes out?"
@@autopsyturvyI’m starting to question if the reason the female orgasm is as low as it is is because they’re doing anal all the time.
I’m sure there’s some women out there who are into it but I highly doubt women without a sex education are getting anything out of it. No lube, no nothing, just pain.
@@adamlambboy8332 honestly would make a lot of sense. And also the reason why a lot of them dont like sex as well. Their guys are just doing it totally wrong; wrong hole, wrong technique, everything. 😂😂
I remember a story I heard once of a young, very conservative couple trying to get pregnant. After a lot of consults it was found out that they weren’t having sex at all. They would go to bed and sleep together. Literally. They would lie down and sleep, thinking it would make them pregnant. A little sex education goes a long way. I remember being baffled about it because I was taught the basics quite young. My mother didn’t want me ignorant or to be taken advantage of. I was given two books aimed for children about puberty and pregnancy. This meant that by the age of 11 I knew more than these two.
Why is this so funny?😂😂
There sex education might have been 'You must not sleep with a member of the opposite sex befor you get married, becuse you could have a baby.'
I don't know if it is improved, but when I took sex education in high school, nothing was ever taught about any sex. It focused more on health (though STDs and the like were never mentioned. Our town/school was a bit ultra-conservative on that score.) . Luckily, in Junior High, we were all required to attend a film (with our parents) that did cover the act, and possible consequences, so most of us had at least a basic understanding of it. I felt so sorry for my parents after we got home, because they seemed so embarrassed when they asked me if I had any questions, and I told them I understood it. Being from an agricultural area, I already knew most of it, and it wasn't rocket science being explained in the film.
I'm surprised they could be in bed together and not end up automatically having sex. It usually "just happens".
@@jacklow9611 I remember being taught how to put condoms on bananas at age 16 and doing a handshake game to indicate spread of disease but by then I'm pretty sure half my grade was sexually active. That class was WAY too late and where I grew up wasn't that conservative tbh.
If you trick someone into sex with a lie (like you can't get pregnant if you stay still) that is rape.
Victim blaming is wrong, but if they are dumb enough to believe that, I can't empathize with them.
What about girls who lie about being on the pill?
Everything isn't rape man lol
@@beegyoshi69 if you haven't had sex ed how would you know tho? like yes, I think it's stupid, but thats because I know. Also they probably trusted their bf's a lot. It isn't rape tho since it is consentual sex.
@@bubbeline8217 I’m not sure when the story took place, but if it happened in the last 2 decades they could have used the internet
Videos like these help to remind me that I'm not ready for marriage and children because I would have immediately divorced so many of these men.
Indeed. Given your seeming inability to tolerate people being dumb you’re clearly not qualified to be in a relationship
JESUS CHRIST so you’re telling me you’ve never had a momentary lapse in judgment or a stupid moment? If you’re judging people entirely by one snapshot of their life then you’re the one at fault
@@PikachuLittle A lot of these were more than just lapses in judgment
@@PikachuLittle honey, someone being abusive is not being dumb. Did you get offended because you didn't know any of this?
@@andreaprochowski4717 exactly
I have my own delivery story...I started labor with my second child my husband and I made the short trip to drop off our 4 year old daughter at brother and sister in laws house then on to the hospital. Checked in and over the next 12 hours every nurse we had was rude and short with my husband, with me they were very nice almost to nice! Finally I had my son and was taking to one of the nurses about my daughter staying at my husband's twin brother and sister in law's house who also just had a baby boy at this hospital! The look on her face of total shock as she looked over at my husband's face told us what was the explanation for ther rude behavior, it seems they thought my husband had gotten two women pregnant and was a cheating ass! Afterwards the nurses were very nice to him even brought him a sandwich and coffee.
Great story, it's late and I'm bingeing these updoot vidoes, didn't even suspect the reason until you explained.
That's why you should never assume.
Made an "ass" out of "u" and "me".
that last male, to put it mildly, is an utter arse. pregnancy is not a science experiment that can be put away once you get bored.
Not with that attitude
@@PikachuLittle I'm sorry? "Not with that attitude"? He's treating his ex-wife like an object, that's just abusive which is illegal.
I'm glad she left, he really is an asshole
@@PikachuLittle I got the joke and it was pretty funny but I had to question my morality and once again confirm my sociopathic tendencies. I probably need help but meh, can't afford therapy.
If my husband asked for the “husband stitch” after I went through hours of labor, I would file for a divorce without a second thought about it.
20:07 NO! They absolutely do NOT "break" the baby's shoulder. The shoulder is only dislocated temporarily to make it easier for the baby to pass through the birth canal. Along with this comes a very slight risk that the baby will have ongoing issues with that shoulder later on. But it beats the hell out of letting the baby suffer brain damage due to lack of oxygen, or injuring the baby by using some sort of medical instrument to extract the baby.
Historically this is exactly what happened to Kaiser Wilhem II when he was born. He ended up with a permanently disabled arm....in the Victorian era where disabled children were considered embarrassments. This caused him to develop a personality that drove him to acts which directly led to WWI. One botched birth led to just about every inhuman act of the 20th century.
/historynerd
@@F40PH-2CAT Love it... the history, if not the characters. So nerd away to your heart's desire.
My late uncle was delivered by forceps. My grandmother told me that it was around six months before he looked like a normal baby.
@@F40PH-2CAT Now I want to read up on it
@@sarahprice659 If the repercussions were only cosmetic they should all count their blessings. It could've been much worse. Think cerebral palsy among other potential neurological afflictions.
My friend had a baby and in her recovery suite was another mummy. We didn’t know what they were discussing next door but my husband understands Afrikaans and basically the new mum was asking her parents what to do as she just delivered and her husband at home was asking her to come home now to cook, clean and take care of the other 3 kids they have.
Sounds like my ex
I hope her parents told her to tell her husband to HELP by cooking, cleaning, and raising his kids too.
Exactly why I won't ever get married. I love having choices and freedom.
@@Lily_of_the_Forest Look use to work in a company with predominantly African workforce. They can be extremely hostile to those who do not respect their traditional values and that includes one of their own. My SO still works there and tells me that recently a girl had to be transferred to another shift because she broke tradition and did not let her elders choose her husband for her. Instead she is with a good friend of ours who is white and also works there. It’s was a huge problem and fights almost broke out because she dared to have her own mind and choose for herself. They even impose their customs on the Americans. You always listen to people who are older than you even if they are wrong and cruel.
I’m sure if she was fully immersed in the community, she would be expected by everyone to follow tradition. Even at the expense of her own health depending on how severe it is.
That’s just been my experience though. I’m sure it depends on which part of Africa they come from and everything.
@@kimmiewise1044 that’s awful. 😭
The one with the husband taking out the stitches, that poor poor woman
I feel bad for the husband that got accused of pushing his wife. That's just sad they judged him based on looks
Yeah. Unprofessional. Unfortunately not baseless - domestic violence against women goes up 50% during pregnancy.
They definitely should've asked her, though, instead of assuming.
It seems that very often, when a woman shows up in public with some kind of injury, everyone seems to assume it was due to the husband assaulting her. One of my aunts (This was in the late '60s) had gotten up during the night to use the bathroom, ran into a door frame and gave herself a black eye. When she went to work the next day, all her coworkers thought my uncle (who never would lay his hand on her, as he was a big teddy bear) had hit her, and would not believe her, even when she insisted it was due to her running into the door frame in the dark. What was strange was, even though most of her coworkers knew my uncle, and knew what a teddy bear he was with her (his kids and nephews were a different story), yet they believed that of him.
I don't know if it was his look, but more so the idea of how pervasive domestic violence is. Though like someone else said, they definitely should have tried to talk to the woman about it rather than being short with him.
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That "dad" That was addicted to video games if I was a nurse it would have taken every single grain of patience in my body to not drop kick him and drag him out of the hospital for screaming at a child that is like 2 weeks old
9:19 That's because the type of guys who push pregnant women down stairs usually look like normal guys. Think about it: nobody would want to date someone who would do stuff like post revenge porn after breaking up, but revenge porn exists because they gave their partner sexual pictures and videos of themselves. They thought that the person they were dating wasn't that type of person.
Lesson learned: horrible people look like normal people.
This applies to a lot of situations.
Yup.
Original read "gynecologists" as "geologists" and I was very confused
Lmao
Well, it is about exploring holes lol jk
Both have something do to with getting rocks off 🤣🤣🤣
@@scthomas1982😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am genuinely concerned for the girl in 0:43. What kind of a 'man' wants to have sex with someone who's lying completely still? I imagine only very young and obviously very naive and uneducated girls can be persuaded to participate in this. No self respecting women would ever allow that kind of crap..
It sounds like an Irish joke, where a girl blames her mum for her pregnancy, because the mum told she could not get pregnat unless she was sexually active!
@@gillianbergh7002 ahh, never heard of that one before, but I really hope it's a joke now 😅
They could both be very young. I don't think a "man" like that would want to get that girl pregnant. Would be evidence, you know? My guess is that they're both around the same age and didn't get proper sex education so they base things off of being "sexually active"
Also it was her boyfriend. I doubt her mum would've let her be in a relationship with some old ass dude. So calm down, not every man is a predator
I’m guessing the couple was 14-16yrs old, this sounds like both are ignorant on how babies are made, and the guy is just telling the girl the rumors he heard on avoiding pregnancy.
When I was around 4 months pregnant with my second pregnancy, this whole time believing I was only carrying one baby, I found out it was twins. I called my fiance, who was working out of state, and told him "So... we're having twins." All he said was "What." 😂 He loves our boys, though.
Lmao I just imagined that phone call in my head
That's an understandable first reaction. xD
Okay the “how long it would take to open eyes” one is too damn precious, this sweet man!
The strip club one and the hole one made me laugh more than they should but sex Ed is extremely important and should be mandatory
Anatomy/physiology first, not just "here's how to have sex".
@@arianebolt1575 I don't think that's what they teach in sex ed.
@Benjamin CS it makes more sense to know anatomy first. I don't know why they don't teach that in biology though. We don't have sex ed where I live but biology covers basics about anatomy, menstruation, stds and contraceptives.
@Benjamin CS in Germany we have sex ed in both 4th and 7th grade and they pretty much told us everything. We even had to put on a condom over a wooden phallus shaped objects in grade 7. It was hilarious but honestly I'm thankful because I've not been pregnant yet and know all about my BC. Doctors here in my area are also really informative. I wish it was like this everywhere. Because I feel like in certain areas, especially in the US, it's not taught at all and when girls get pregnant they're shamed for it and shamed if they want to get an abortion, but no one even told them how this whole children making thing works. It's like punishing a toddler for swearing when you constantly swear around them but never tell them it's bad.
@Benjamin CS I learned like most people of my generation, fanfiction and the internet
A powerful argument for lesbianism.
True
I thought sexual preferences weren't a choice.
@@Brievel they aren't but there are idiots that ask you "why are you lesbian?"
@@iatemycat5320 : Don't people like that make you want to slap their faces off?
@@jacklow9611 oh yes, yes I do
This is why we need real sex education.
Even basic anatomy/physiology would go a long ways
I'm really sad about this thread.
Yes me too.
Me three.
I used to be a surgical tech in the army. I did mostly neuro, but my friend specialized in OB/GYN. She told me that they once were doing a hysteroscopy on a woman and the doc found out the patient had TWO VAGINAS! The patient was completely unaware when she woke up and they asked her about it.
Another time, she scrubbed an ectopic pregnancy removal (when an egg gets fertilized and remains in the fallopian tube). Whenever there's a specimen, the nurse will ask the doc, "what do you want to call it" so they can correctly label the container for lab... my friend replies with, "It's a little early, but I was thinking Dennis?" much to the horror of everyone else in the room 🤦🏽♀️
Her dark sense of humor was part of the reason we were friends lol 😂
I have a friend who has two uteruses, but only one vagina, and fallopian tubes that are somehow connected to both uteruses, so she could have had fraternal twins, or have been pregnant even after having given birth. It was discovered after she still had her period while pregnant with her youngest child.
That's alright, when I started labour, my husband told me to make him a cup of coffee. Yeah. That was awesome. Instead of getting me off to the hospital ya know. Then he was too impatient to wait and I was pregnant again within 6 weeks. And I had my second son exactly 11 months from my first. So yeah. Men can be despicable. I was only very young.
I know that i am very late.. But i am absolutely sorry from the deapest part of my soul that you had to go through that. That is very dangerous what he did abd i hope he treats you well after he made you carry his kids. If not, i hope he rots in hel for all eternity for the despicable things he dis to you. Especially when you were still young.
I hope you're referring to your EX-husband!
"Not an OB/GYN, or nurse and it's not anything a husband or boyfriend said so it doesn't fit your question at all BUT here's the story you didn't ask for."
They always turn out as good stories tho
2 kids at 19 and another on the way? oh man, you cant try any harder for a tough life for you and your family - plan for it, be safe
Noooooo you can’t ever talk about sex or you’ll go to Hell. /s
Her room temperature IQ is more of an issue than having a family young TBH...
@@FlatBroke612 Well, how much of it is stupidity and how much of it is people literally denying her access to information about sex? You can't tell from this brief TH-cam comment, so I reserve judgement knowing just how many people have no idea how sex works.
@@WASDLeftClick plebbit is the perfect place for you. Contain yourself there please, you tightly bound, bundle of sticks.
Lmao 69 on this comment, too cursed, especially with the name.
Omg the "scratch...my...butt!" one had me in hysterics. That was priceless! 😂🤣😂🤣😂
10:35 😂
The C-section comment was legendary I must say
i think my favourite was the pupp/kitten one where the husband asked how long it would take for the kids eyes to open. Super sweet, just a little misguided
*He’s a little confused, but he’s got the spirit*
I mean, the proper answer is probably "as soon as they aren't blinded by the new light!" Awh, my poor baby was accidentally photographed with a flash right as she came out. My fiancé was sooo devastated that the first thing he ever did as a dad was shine an annoying light in the face of his kid! She looked so spooked poor thing!
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I actually found that situation really sad. She is so young, so ignorant. Who is the father? How old is he? How does she think babies are made? What does she think sex is? She went into labor and gave birth without knowing _anything_ about what was happening other than she was experiencing excruciating pain and something crying came out.
I hope both of them are ok, and I hope she gave the baby a better future by giving him up for adoption. That seems like a harsh statement, but I will stand by it 100%. She was a heart-breaking example of “kids having kids” and doesn’t deserve to have her life ruined because she was woefully uneducated.
Maybe it was possible that everything she thought & said was true. Just.. something 'odd' happened.
Odd as in 'things i don't talk about, but you can google' could happen and months later... she has a baby.
TL:DR it's possible via ... 'methods'.
Sex education should be a requirement for graduation. While at college I was surprised at the number of students who did not have sex education. I had it from the 4th grade on and had assumed all school systems required it, it wasn’t the 1800’s after all.
Lmao i went to Catholic school and besides the "sperms meets the egg" course as required by the biology syllabus, the only form of sex Ed we received was "abstinence." There was a 14 year old boy once whose parents never told him, he ligit thought that you could only get pregnant after marriage and it was only if you made out and God decided you were ready 😩 when his friends explained it to him (in detail) he was speechless.... amd a little bit disturbed 🤣
@@lakeishameriez2061 "in detail" lmaoo
Omg. I went to catholic grade school. Sex Ed “becoming a person” was the actual book. Did just enough teaching with heaping dose of catholic guilt. Still not enough actual education. Thank god for Judy Blume, an aunt who was a nurse, and public school friends when I actually got my period. I can’t imagine thinking that what kids are taught in school, especially if a religious school, could substitute for actual parental involvement. As a nurse myself, my sons and their friends have heard it all from me, including checking for stuff like testicular cancer since older teens/early 20s are most likely to get it.
My "sex ed" was basically just being told at age 10 "when you become a teenager, you're going to start bleeding from your bathing suit zone, so ask your parents to buy pads." I was expecting to learn more about sex in particular in middle and/or high school but the only thing I learned was how fertilization happens on a cellular level in my freshman year biology class. I had to learn about contraceptives and STI/STDs through the internet and my endocrinologist.
14-year-old; not uncommon to happen. Parents don't what kids do know what sex is. Or how babies are created so they do not understand. Just more bad parenting, yet again.
Sometimes it isn’t even bad parenting, it’s the just the parents are misinformed and just unwittingly continuing the cycle of ignorance. It’s really sad and that’s why I think sex Ed should be a requirement nationwide with a set curriculum.
@@magicalwatermelon5147 That doesn't help if the teacher or parents are incompetent, one female friend didn't know females have three holes.
@@Jose04537 True, we have to find some way to make sure the next generation gets accurate information to break the cycle.
It staggers me that children aren't even told about basic biology and reproduction. My grandparents had a farm and we learned very young the ins and outs of reproduction. We also had rabbits (and other animals) and knew what happened when you put the male and female rabbits together. Lol I think kids who grow up in rural farm areas learn very young about it. It's very matter of fact actually.
There's the assumption that knowing and telling them what sex is will equate to them immediately wanting to do it.
I had a hysterectomy because I don't want anyone's fingers or equipment in me. Especially just because insurance "requires" it. HAD TO HAVE MY HUSBAND'S PERMISSION TO REMOVE MYYYY UTERUS.
Welcome to the 21. Century where we still are our husbands property
I read about some of these "dads"....makes me shake my head. I always wanted to be a dad, and came to think it would never happen. We got married later than most and managed to have two great kids. The first one required 20 hours of labor, 4 of it hard labor, ending in an emergency c-section. She felt defeated heading into the c-section, and afraid. I had to do the convincing, and told her it was obvious she had given everything she possibly could to deliver traditionally, and that for their combined safety, we had to do the c-section, and we had to do it now. Doc nodded her head. That was almost 19 years ago. I was never more in love with my wife than in those hours. I knew she had strength, I didn't know she had those reserves of strength. I can't imagine being a disinterested sperm donor or more interested in video games in that moment. For guys who haven't been through it with your wife....you look at her differently. She's done something amazing, especially during the hard labor. You'll never see her the same way. It is a "we" moment. Don't waste it on "me" thinking.
Beautifully written, we need more men like you!
@@darkexcalibur87 Thank you very much. I think (hope) there are just tons and tons and tons of dads like this, they just don't write about it. They're off doing dad things, like losing hair, wearing shirts that are too tight, and growing spare tires. Just some of the many things we juggle as dads.
My cousin said she thought that, just like fruit trees bear at a certain time of the year, that's how people bear children, she didn't suspect that sex had anything to do with it, she actually learned this after her 5th child, she had a total of 7.
As someone who had very strict religious Christian parents, a lot of these still amaze me. My parents were incredibly open about sex and sexuality, and made sure I had a good understanding of everything. How can people use religion as an excuse to not explain biology to their kids!?
I am literally a child of a pastor and my parents did explain it to me properly. On the other hand... Here where I live, majority of people are nonreligious and it's apparently not uncommon that they won't explain sex to their kids, either. It's probably rather cultural than religious matter.
because teaching where babies com from, also teaches how Not t have babies, and only God i allowed to decide matters of life and not life, so any form of birth control, even just telling your husband "no" is a sin...basically
The morbidly obese one was something I can't unsee in my mind's eye. The early 40's virgin one made me think about how much it hurt since she was a virgin when she gave birth.
Nah, wouldn't have made any difference.
@@echomoon3381 the morbidly obese One made me question how the hell did the people who helped with the conception of the baby by holding up her legs were feeling being there with them doing the deed. I'd be sick after helping with the consenting adults in the situation.
@@aaronray6110 Yeah i wouldnt have wanted to assist either. Thats just gross!!!
*Laughs in aphantasia* (blind mind's eye) 😁
The lady who was a virgin - baby bigger than pp. if baby coming out it’s gonna hurt no matter what! And FYI...nothing is going to be intact after that.
Bruh I’m 14 and I’ve known all of this stuff for a long time and it always amazes me how little ppl know about it😭
Same...
@Kugisaki Nobara like America 😭😭
The last guy just wanted to be an older brother, not a father.
If that.
80x per week =11.4 times a day. That’s pretty much once every other hour if they don’t sleep at night.
Ikr? I don’t think I do *anything* 80 times a week - nothing that involves a voluntary muscle, anyway.
My cousin has been married for 3-4 years, she told my mother that she is not sure if she and her husband have had sex. I don't have any other details and I didn't ask.
You need to ask... because WE need details. 😂
@@Willam_J Maybe they are Asexual :u
@@unlimon6382 in which case super lucky to end up with an asexual partner
@@unlimon6382 I think an asexual person would know what sex is. Not being sure if you've had sex just means that you're uneducated.
@@Daph909 oh sorry now I have realised that I read the origynal comment wrong. What I understood is that the mother had told this girl that she didn't know if the sister had had sex. So I just referred to them not having sex because maybe they were asexual, but now I've read it again and it actually said that the sister didn't know if she had had sex and not the mother so my comment doesn't really make sense. My bad
That very first one, that was a note regarding what the husband said but didn't quote verbatim. If the husband was concerned that she hadn't gained enough weight, as was found, that would still be accurately described as "concerned about her weight gain".
Possible, but probably not likely. The concern over weight gain by your wife is something all men with children have....even if most know its selfish to say it.
@@F40PH-2CAT sounds like you're telling me to reassess my gender identity.
@Gi Gi Well to be fair, abnormal or rapid weight gain in a few short weeks could indicate gestational diabetes which can be a major risk for mama and baby and I’m sure there are other conditions where unusual weight gain could indicate a problem. That’s why the OB weighs you every time you do a wellness visit when you are pregnant. They track the gain and make sure you aren’t gaining too much too fast.
@@F40PH-2CAT I feel that it's pretty unfair of you to say this. Unless you are a sociologist whose research has proven it, I guess.
With that first one it occurred to me maybe he was concerned she wasn't gaining *enough* weight . All it says is that he was "concerned about wife's weight"
Unfortunately I'm aware of guys who insist on their women eating way too little, sounds like one of them.
I know a girl that kept chewing her food beyond necessary when she was pregnant. She said because the didn’t want the baby to choke. She though when she swallowed food it went straight into the baby’s mouth. Like a little bird in a nest.
Well, at least over-chewing isn't dangerous. Was she at least not afraid of showering or bathing?
I love the fact they let the dad deliver the baby he will remember that for the rest of his life as something very very special, I know I do it has been 14 years since I delivered my daughter and I remember it like it just happened, absolute kaleidoscope of emotions with a almost over powering joy the most profound day of my life.
I'd have left a guy years before children if he had this little respect for women
Sadly, a lot of men don't show their true colors until their partner is pregnant
The last one is infuriating and sad. Tbh the moment the ex-husband said to OP's mom that he'll divorce OP if she didn't gave him a child, was a huge red flag. He showed that he didn't care or love OP at all. She was only a childmaker to him. Yikes
The man who kept stripping sounds so odd. The only time I’ve seen people do that is during dementia and schizophrenia.
Drugs
If my future husband *doesn't* bring a game console to play games on while he waits for our future kid to be almost born, I will not be happy. But he better let me play too.
7:30 do men seriously not understand that it doesn't change after pregnancy? I've had two and although we haven't had sex yet after our second (he was literally just born), obviously we did after our first and nothing was different, if anything I was slightly tighter and I gave birth through my vagina, no stitches needed. The only thing that happened was for up to a year sex was very painful for me which we found out wasn't normal for it to hurt that long (thank God) and if it happens again, I need to see my OBGYN and possibly get a special cream to help things, because healing sucks.
But seriously, the vagina isn't ruined after having kids, some men are ridiculously stupid.
I worked in OB/GYN ultrasound. I had a couple that were born women but transitioning into men, so they were a lesbian couple transitioning into a gay couple. Anyway, one was pregnant and we were doing the ultrasound on him. He had a belly so we couldn't see anything on the tummy scan and said to see if the baby is okay we had to do an internal vaginal scan. He got so angry and upset with us that we mentioned and reminded him he had a vagina and we are putting him through trauma and body dismorphia (I think that's the wrong word??) anyway we dealt with the situation as professional as we could but at the end of the day, you are having A BABY! you decided to do the most womanly thing, carrying a baby, you will have to BIRTH to it which is pretty traumatising in itself anyway, you will have to have many exams and checks down there and be reminded somewhat often that you do in fact have a vagina and uterus bevause it scarring a baby. I don't know about the rest of you but I don't know how to do vaginal and pregnancy checks while keeping masculinity in check? This person was also having hormone replacement while pregnant, which means no more estrogen and progesterone, he's having testosterone.... Not good for baby growing. In fact I'm surprised the baby was alive. Not sure if it made it out alive but.. You get the gist.
Holy shit balls. This is why this identity stuff is crazy and dangerous.
@@PraiseJ-Pope ikr, I hope the baby is ok. Plus it was quite immature of them to get angry at the doctor, what was she/he supposed to do she just delivered the message.
Hey, trans person here, this person just seems to be very sensitive regarding his identity since it seems it's not long after he came out/started transitioning. Although it is understandable he'd feel gender dysphoria regarding pregnancy/his parts, it's not very reasonable to get super upset at you unless you were being disrespectful to the patient (i.e calling him "she" or a woman).
Unsure what endocrinologist put him on testosterone during a pregnancy though, they go over risks to yourself & the baby if you have the potential to become pregnant before a prescription (a buddy of mine is trying for a baby, so he got off testosterone, for example).
@@baIthazar I'm glad to hear your opinion, thank you. I thought it was very unreasonable seen as you will Have to be reminded that you have a uterus many many many times during pregnancy and for a while after pregnancy too. I even asked him what we could do to make him comfortable or what we could change about this and he couldnt answer. Im convinced he just wanted to make a scene. It's not. Like you accidently got pregnant too, they had to go through a clinical... Or at home "clinical" process to get pregnant. So it's not like there's no prep there. Anyway, no disrespect to him, the partner or the pregnancy but honestly, anything we would have done for him would never have been right.
@@casmeraki You did a good job there! Not many doctors in general tend to just ask "What can we do to make you more comfortable?" regarding this stuff. Yeah though, just sounds like his dysphoria was really bugging him and he ended up irrationally taking it out on the staff
The whole black babies coming out light thing really needs to be more widespread as an expectation. I was just a kid at the time, but I remember my mom being rolled out of the hospital in a wheelchair holding what looked to be a very white baby. I was so confused, but then the next thing I knew, my little sister had the darkest skin out of all my siblings.
Lol the pizza one😂 After giving birth to me, my mother was craving for poutine(we're quebecois, btw) and had my dad run out to get her one cause she fir sure wasn't going to eat hospital food after her first delivery. She NEEDED a poutine 😂❤
Thank you. I didn't know how to spell that word correctly, and I'm making it one of the things in my bucket list to have, because it sounds very delicious.
Lost it at the “Not sexually active”. “Sperm see through movement. You can’t get pregnant if they can’t see the egg”
Well the last one could be a crack explanation to most BC pills 😂 there's no egg, no o ovulation so you can't get pregnant
Having a csection doesn’t mean your vag won’t be “ruined.” Pelvic floor dysfunction can happen even so. I had it with my first but not with my vbac.
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That's okay, right as my daughter's head was heading down and my nurse had to feel where she was located I yanked my legs away and screamed (high on nubane) "you're no longer welcome in my vagina". I was actually talking about my daughter because it hurt so bad when her head was right where it had been
My wife's dad brought her pizza after she gave birth. Unfortunately her dad passed away almost 2 years ago. Papa John's i think it was.
"I just imagined him like a Golden Retriever" 20:46
Best comment 😅
Now sometimes I think my sister in law would have liked my brother to check on her stitches because they were done wrong and left her in extra pain for weeks. They stitched her up with the nerves exposed, she had to return to the hospital a few days after giving birth because the pain down there was so bad. (She had dealt with multiple ovarian cysts bursting since she was a teen) when she says her pain is bad down there we know it's bad. Poor darling spent her first few weeks as a mom in unnecessary pain.
Poor girl 😢
Ok but that puppy and kitten one was adorable ❤🥺
My child's sperm donor was in the corner of the room on his phone while I was crying and pushing in pain..I hated him after that day and had my mom come in with me instead of him, when they told me I had to do emergency c section bc she was stuck..he never really bothered with her age 2. Still doesnt.
Did you file for divorce or do i have to?
File for divorce men like him never change
I think all of those people who believe tweens shouldn't be taught about how sex etc. works should have an in depth conversation with OB/GYN's about just how badly that can turn out. I remember a story I heard years ago. Old couple had tried for a baby for years with no success. It was found out after the wife went through menopause and had, had many bladder infections that they had been having painful urethral sex the whole time. She had an abmormally large urethral opening which is what made it possible.
WOW I am horrified reading this. Honestly, the fact that women will do things like this with their husbands for an extended period of time.... I would choose to be with a woman or single for the rest of my life if I thought that's what I had to do.
Omg that story sound horribly painful!
In these cases usually the women is that suffers because with men the sexual organs are on the outside. But with women it is more hidden.
Of course this should not be a challenge still, does not matter the anatomy.
This is just horrible, sad and infuriating at the same time.
@@darkexcalibur87 Yeah that is the other problem as well.
As soon as it hurts they should stop!
"Looked like the type of guy that would push a pregnant woman down the stairs" if there is anybody who shouldn't be judging by appearance it should be doctors/medical staff... unless said appearance has to do with an illness or physical abuse then duh
When my son was born, all I could hear is the doctor constantly telling my husband to move out of the way because he was blocking the doctor's view.
My niece's boyfriend's family royalty ruined their relationship with their son because they kept insisting my niece had cheated and that is why the baby was light skin. My nice is white-passing Latina I don't know why a baby being born looking brown instead of black was so shocking to them. Two years later the baby has gotten way darker and looks exactly like her daddy.
I can't believe how common it STILL is for men to view their women as mere sexual objects that they're not at all concerned about their well being right after birth and want to jump in to sex immediately. It is so normal for healthcare workers to listen to those stories, that the one in 4:37 was surprising since the husband is genuinely only wants her to get something to eat. Geezus
And then my relatives ask me why I have trust issues.
I'm sorry, but how some of these things aren't illegal I can't even fathom
5:57 this is the greatest come back!!!
I remember my own OB/GYN rotation and laughed like crazy at these stories! I believe each one. I did not go on to practice OB/GYN! 😂
I brought my nintendo switch to my induction. My husband and I played mario kart and mario maker 2 for hours. It was awesome 😎
I think my husband would've been better off if he'd had his gaming systems. My labor was 40 hours and he was bored out of his mind.
in defense of the man who brought his ps4, I was induced with my first child, and it took hours for anything to start happening. my husband brought a book and i had him read it out loud for a while because we were both bored waiting. Now if he had continued reading by himself once labor really began, then I would have been peeved.
I can't be a doctor, I am far too judgmental and confrontational
My automatic thought about the girl who was surprised she was pregnant even tho she didnt use condoms or birth control is something like what happened to me when i’m asked if i’m active i say yes do you use condoms no do you use birth control no and i was asked why i thought i couldnt get pregnant then and I was like well first off i’m gay and I only sleep with girls they didn’t believe me and told me i must have cheated etc turns out my ex best friend r**ed me while I was sleeping and even told me about it . Had the pictures of it too .
Did you leave them? Report them? Are they in jail? Tell me you are
Ok please
I hope your doing ok. Your ex-besti is a piece of s***
right. and you didn't wake up😌
@@pbpb-he6gx why the emoji?
When it come to the baby in the toilet, It’s a good this babies can naturally hold their breath underwater.
9:27 ever unprofessional to assume that.
Babies that have the embolical cord still attached don't need to breath air.
@@andiward7068 Umbilical, but yes, they still get oxygen until the placenta detaches and circulation stops.
@@arianebolt1575 stupid autocorrect!
4:25 THANK YOU (Edit - and 8:19)! These TTS videos always act like most of us are born "very Black" lol.
Anywho, I was def one of those cases where I was born pretty fair-skinned with very straight hair. I have 2 Black parents...not just one so it's not like a "roll of the dice" some biracial babies with 1 Black parent can be. Quite a few Black babies with TWO Black parents are actually born lighter-skinned...some get a lot darker as they get older and some don't.
I never knew that black babies are typically born with lighter skin, so I did a bit of googling. Turns out, while the cells that produce melanin form at around the 9 week mark of pregnancy, most of the melanin isn't actually produced until after birth.
I was told my sister was born black, but that was because the doctor wanted to watch an old sow have piglets, and not deliver the baby he'd been called to deliver, and Mother needed to be induced.
"I hit that" "sorry about the mess" and "if you find my rolex in there, let me know"
So I’m not an obgyn but when I was pregnant with my first child. My husband asked our doctor if my boobs would get bigger when I breast feed. The doctor said yes and my husband said good. The doctor just looked at my husband like wtf is wrong with you. My obgyn is a really cool.
Darwin had two questions - how did humans develop and WTF?
lol Well i guess that we just had luck with the actually good ones.
The stitches comment freaked me out
"It's a HOLE"
Ma'am I would hope so.
a lot of these are men/boyfriends/husbands being horribly mysoginistic...