What Wedding Moment Made You Think "They Are Not Going to Last Long"?
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Heading into our wedding I told my husband, "Please don't smash cake in my face. I'm going to spend a lot of money on hair and makeup, and I don't want it ruined by cake." He said, "What? Ew...why would I do that?" He was genuinely confused, as if I'd just said, "Hey by the way, don't set our house on fire." We very gently and carefully fed each other our first bites on the day, and it was lovely.
Same deal with me and our fiance right now as we delve into wedding planning.
If my girl said that to me, I'd reply "sweetie, we're getting married. I won't do it on our wedding day, because we've got the rest of our lives to smash cake or splat pies in each other's face." I wouldn't want to mess up her hair or makeup either.
My cousin, Dixon, was always a goof-ball and a joker. At his wedding reception, we waited with uneasy anticipation when he fed his new wife the cake. He gently put a small bite in her mouth and smiled. We all felt relief but kind of an anti-climax. When my siblings and I asked Dickie about it later, he and the bride and her mother all told the story of a wedding that the father of the bride had witnessed. The FOB was a wedding photographer and saw a groom smash the cake in the bride's face. That bride aspirated the cake, choked and had to be rushed to the hospital, on her wedding day. So Dickie had a strong warning to behave himself at the cake cutting and, God bless the boy, he complied! It was my first inking that he was turning into a grown up.
Phew!!
I aspirate food and drink quite easily. For ours, we each took a small piece, dotted the tip of the nose very lightly with frosting,then linked arms and ate our own piece. Photo moment and no issues
My uncle acted like he was going to shove the cake at his new wife. She covered her face and turned away and then he gave it to her nicely
If I do that, I’ll probably do what Rafiki did to Simba in The Lion King, but with cake frosting xD
This is just awful to smash the whole cake into the bride's face. A little bit of a cake smear of the cheek is cute. The bride has a lot of time spent trying to look really pretty and shouldn't have to clean tons of cake off either. I really hope that woman was okay
This reminds me of a story I heard where at the end of the wedding, the bride tripped and fell, and rather than helping her, the groom called her an idiot.
The bride immediately told the minister to annul the wedding, and the marriage was over before it was even official. Mad respect for that woman.
I got married in 1987 to my wife when we were 22 and my in-laws took bets on how long it would last. Wedding anniversary #36 coming up!
Like I had a SIL call me a gold digger to my face, when I was the one supporting us by waitressing. Married a good deal before you, married and still here, SIL has had a good dollop of karma sauce. Amen. My side had a betting pool on when I was going to deliver-within six months of the wedding. Didn’t happen either. May you sail past your golden and much more.
Or as we Burmys call it, "a good start!"
I took off my wedding dress on my wedding day because he had abused me. I was redressed by my mom, his mom, and my sister and sent down the aisle. Until his mom came in, I was preparing to tell my mom. I cried through my vows and song. So, this thought surely must have occurred to anyone who knew. 15 years later, I finally got away for good. If this is you, it may seem humiliating and terribly embarrassing, even shameful, but do NOT go through with it if you have any doubts or there has been abuse of any kind. It's the beginning of an escalating problem that can result in death.
It's better to be out of money for catering/rentals and to be embarrassed than to be dead
If there’s abuse run
You knew he was wrong for you, should have gotten out before the I do, but glad you're out now
@@potatoheadpokemario1931 People feel trapped in relationships. It doesn't look rational or make sense to outsiders but the fear is very real for the victim.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you are in a way better place in life and emotionally now. ((((Hugs)))))
What if you planned the cake smashing? My wife and I bought a separate cheap cake (ours was way too nice to smash) we pulled it out after we cut the cake, both grabbed handfuls, and smashed it in eachothers faces simultaneously. My father in law was about ready to tackle me until he figured out we had planned it lol
Thats the key there. If you plan around it and agree to it its fine and can spice up the wedding. If you ruin your partners dress and hair unceremoniously however thats pretty much a divorce.
if its planned im sure it's all in good humour. i think the key is about boundaries and being thoughtful/respectful of your partner. If the bride spent a lot of money to look good and cake is smashed in her face without consent and wastes the $500 makeup etc, it probably would not last. Especially if the bride had previously mentioned how much she does not want it happening and the husband fails to listen to/respect boundaries. So it's more of what it symbolizes rather than cake itself lol
That’s the thing.
If it’s planned, and both the bride and groom agree to it, then it’s all fine and dandy.
Still probably shouldn’t do it too hard though.
When I see these types of question threads, I'm reminded of this one couple's wedding we went to in October. A Family Friend of mine who I've known for years was getting married to her med school sweetheart. It wasn't a specific wedding incident, but it was multiple incidents before and after the wedding that make it telling.
They dated for 5 years before getting engaged. At some point in their dating life, it comes out that the groom had been cheating on the bride for some time. Not too sure how long, but the bride decided to stick it out. Bride's dad had a glare of disapproval the whole time. When he found out they were engaged, he had a somber air to him that permeated to the rest of the guests come the wedding.
During the Mehndi, (South Asian Pre-Wedding Festivity), I was not witness to this as I wasn't flying in until the next day, but bride's mom and bride's step-mom got into a shouting match, which resulted in both of them hosting two separate Mehndi parties in the same venue but in different rooms. Many of the guests were at a crossroads on which one to attend. The bride had to pacify the situation between them but the groom didn't help out, from what I hear.
The wedding ceremony was fine. But the reception had that same awkward energy. Bride's mom and step mom started one-upping eachother during the speeches. Bride's dad was about to cry during his speech. I guess the reality of getting a son-in-law that he didn't like finally set in.
Later, the bride decided to get a post-nuptial agreement set in place as she found out DURING THE HONEYMOON that the groom had at least $90k in debt and so she wanted to separate finances. How that topic never arose after 5 years of dating is beyond me.
Easily one of the worst weddings I've been to. My Fiance predicts they'll divorce within 18 months. My sister outwardly doesn't support their marriage. What a crapshow.
I never understand the whole “last night as a free man/woman” thing cause like. No you’re magically single for a night. You still have a partner at home. Y’all didn’t break up for a night unless you actually talked about and agreed it was okay but every story I’ve heard that was never the case. You’re not single it’s not a free cheat card.
Seconded. It puts a questionable vibe on the whole thing, like they're going to prison, or something. A lot of 'traditional' wedding/reception stuff has that kind of cringe tone.
Exactly!!
9:58 Props to the best man for warning everyone in such a classy manner
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It sounds like he loved his wife, but he couldn't handle being in front of so many family members, from what I remember catholic weddings are typically pretty huge. The strip tease part lets me know he wanted to entertain her more than his/her family.
When the bride-to-be said "Next time, I'm not going through all this crap!"
They lasted 10 months before he left her when he found out she slept with her coworker the night before the wedding.
2:13 German here: This is NOT the rehearsal dinner but a German tradition before the wedding: You (wedding couple) invite friends over and shatter dishes outside (NOTE: These are old/ cheap dishes you have bought espacially for the Polterabend). This is done due to the belief that daemons (who would otherwise jinx the marrige) are shooed away by the banging of the shattering dishes. So to secure a good marriage we have this tradition.
I have two examples of this. One I was personally at and the other happened before I was born.
Before I was born: This couple gets married on the beach in Waikiki in February 1992. They are both rock stars. Groom's best friend didn't attend the ceremony because his wife was uninvited for disapproving of the couple's heroin habit. Bride was about three or four months pregnant. The couple had only been dating since October the previous year. In photos, he looks totally checked out (he was apparently high) and the bride is smoking while pregnant. Their daughter was born in August 1992 (thankfully not addicted to heroin). The marriage ended when he killed himself in April 1994. Just over two years later
One I was at: My mom's wedding to her first husband. My grandmother had a feeling that it wasn't going to work out in the long run. I was six, and ultimately, the only thing I remember is crying right before the vows were said. There are even photos of my mom holding me. They lasted another seven years before my mom cheated and they got divorce. Mom is now happily married to her affair partner and my ex-stepdad is also happily remarried.
Went to my uncle’s wedding, he was hammered and so were all of his groomsmen, it sounds like a recipe for disaster like so many of these stories, but the only ones who were as drunk as they were, was the bride and her bridesmaids.
It was quite the fun ceremony.
16:44 At my first wedding my ex shoved the cake in my face. I was young, this was only the second wedding I'd been to, and I had no idea shoving the cake in the face was a thing. I was PISSED and embarrassed as the whole crowd laughed at my expense and I almost turned and walked out. In hindsight I absolutely should have done so; that was a miserable marriage to a miserable woman and I will always be bitter about the years I wasted because of my lack of a spine. Thankfully I found my spine and balls, got divorced and now I am very happily married to the most amazing woman.
A girl I worked with has a husband, her husband and her are lily white. Him with blue eyes and blonde hair, her with dyed dark hair but I would gamble it isn’t dark naturally with hazel eyes. She swindled him into thinking her, very obvious, mixed daughter was his because her Mexican bf and her husband overlapped. So she just picked the best one I guess? They have a toddler now too. He’s blonde, lily white, with green eyes. It’s obvious, like blatantly obvious. But the guy is not the brightest and she’s a girl who would look you in the eye and tell you a lie and then yell at you if you don’t believe her. It’s only a matter of time
You'd be surprised how genes like that can lurk.
The groom showed up to the wedding in a Hawaiian shirt.
Weirdly, it was the bride who eventually cheated on him and abandoned him while he was in the hospital recovering from a motorcycle accident.
Hawaiian shirt, motorcycle accident and cheating spouse. Sounds like a TV movie-of-the-week.
@@josepherhardt164 almost like My Name Is Earl.
I got through 12 minutes before I had to click off. So many unfortunate weddings. Still liked the video though
Yeah, this stuff is only palatable in small doses. Very depressing. Not just for the couples, but for the state of the world in general.
I have some good ones for this:
1. Saw the guy before they got married, he said she had turned Mormon so they can't have sex anymore unless they are married so he's going to propose to her.
Same person: when to do the vows she turned with her back to everyone so didn't have to look 🤣 same person: she showed off about her wedding only costing £20 as she got the venue free (Mormon church) rings were £5 each and her dress was a tenner.. that was black and looked like something id have worn for a school dance.
Same person: the day before the wedding I messaged the guy to see how he was feeling and if he was ready. He hadn't bothered ironing his suit and it was all screwed up and he didn't have a lift to get to his own wedding so I had to take them. 😬 I think they lasted 7 months?
2: at house party everyone was smoking w33d except me and the bride to be. I said I'm really against it and wouldn't marry anyone that done it, she said she's really against it too and absolutely hates it but sometimes it can work out... Fast forward to their wedding. Groom spends whole time outside getting high, in the process of doing so misses their final dance of the night leaving the bride crying on the dancefloor alone whilst her dad stepped in to do it with her, then when he was told how devastated she was about it and told he missed the dance he replied with 'well she knew where I was'. Idk what happened as don't talk to them anymore but was pretty awful, her dad looked like he was going to kill him end of the night
4:04 That was already an awkward story, but then they mention that the bride made the whole wedding about race, and all I could do was smack my head numerous times. It just got worse and worse.
My sister in law was bisexual, and usually into women more. Suddenly she turns a sharp “straight” and marries a man. She clearly didn’t love him but no one could tell him anything. He was in love. Right after the wedding she gets pregnant and stops all sex with him. Absolutely shuts him down. She had the baby, and immediately filed for divorce and child support. Turns out she just wanted a baby and to do that she needed to be married to appease her old school Catholic Italian father who had zero clue she was bisexual-because she couldn’t tell him. This way she got a fun “look at me!” wedding day, a bunch of gifts, a baby, child support, and then a quick divorce where she took him to the cleaners. Daddy was appeased even though he wasn’t thrilled she was divorcing. She made some lies up about her husband and made it ok that way. She spent the rest of her time as a single mother dating women, and got nowhere that way. Then she found out it was more profitable to date men so she did that. No one would marry her. She micromanaged her daughter to the point that she ran off two hours away to live with a friend as soon as she could and instead of being the academic that her mother tried to force her to be-she’s in beauty school. SIL hates her brother (my husband) because he was the baby of the family and a male. She told me that her daughter would be better than mine-I kid you not. Because everything is a competition to her. My daughter is in university on full scholarships studying cyber security/coding/computer science while hers who was absolutely hounded to death over her schooling ended up hating it because her mom crammed it all down her throat, so she rebelled by going to be a hair dresser instead. So pretty much every plan SIL made fell through and she’s had nothing but bad luck ever since. She’s now old and alone with no one but herself to blame for her bad decisions in life.
I think her main problem is that she tried to control what other people think and do, and the truth is you can't. Very narcissistic.
@@menot8325 I think you may be right. She’s a frustrated academic who tries to make everyone feel stupid compared to her and small. She belittles everyone. She actually got fired from a lab job at a hospital for telling outsiders private health information about people that she didn’t like-people that she knew. She’s always bullying someone in a “it’s my way or the highway” sort of way. My husband was the last baby and his mom focused on him too much and SIL can’t stand him and always treated him like crap for things outside his control-like he had any blame in being born last. He can’t control how his mother is, and he doesn’t encourage it. And she always resented her mother even before he was born because she hates anyone telling her what to do so their relationship was contentious prior to his birth anyway. (She’s the oldest of three).
@@macylouwho1187 honestly, it shouldn't matter what exactly mom did when someone was a child, unless its some outright abuse. Growing older made me realise that I can't expect someone to know how to parent naturally and even if they did they are still human. I find it silly when grown adults can't let go from childhood relationship with their parents and transform it into adult relationship. Don't know if I'm explaining well enough , English isn't my first language. But I can't imagine what your husband feels when ALL his life he was punished for receiving love from his mom. And maybe his sister wasn't given less attention, maybe she wanted mom to give even more attention to her and she found a way to demand it. And making someone feel guilty is a very effective control tactic.
Badmouthing others is another manipulation people with narcissistic tendencies like doing. Not saying she is one, because it's only around 1% of population estimated, but she definitely has some tendencies. I think everyone knows a person or two who acts like that. I'm sorry it's someone close to you :(
"she's now old and alone with no one but herself to blame for her bad decisions in life."
That's what she gets for being a bitch, a narcissist, *_and_* a coward.
If she had just come out to her father, all of this could have been avoided. But I guess that was the least of her problems, huh?
God don't like ugly.
22:47 the ultimatum wasn't what ended the relationship, that was ready to die and the wife knew
My mother's friend had decided she wanted to marry her best guy friend and told her friends and they were all awesome, so can we meet this beautiful lady you are marrying. And she then told them no I'm marrying a man. They got super confused and was like but you have only ever been with women and never shown interest in men. A few years later she told him I'm sorry but I'm lesbian and is in the middle of a divorce. She just didn't seem to realize she was and thought the caring and loving feelings she had for this best friend was marriage kind of love.
0:43 Didn't know what "motorboating" was. Am now scarred for life. Thanks.
Saddest thing about the interracial couple, after the fact that the bride was abused, is that the whole experience will reinforce the family's ridiculous notice of racism. "See black people are violent, look at what happened to her." Sucks 😔
@QuietlyContemplating Never said it had anything to do with the dude's color.
The family objected based on the dude's race. That's the literal definition of racism.
Stop projecting your insecurities and strawmaning people on the internet. It's not a good look.
@@raging_n00b50
Exactly.
His race has nothing to do with the fact that he was an abusive sack of sh*t.
Okay but the hearse guy doing Lurch impressions might just be my soulmate.
😂😁 gotta love a guy with a great, or demented sense of humour eh? lol
I bet he’d honour my request to dress as a grim reaper for my funeral.
My cousin got married to a guy barely no one knew about, whose social media profiles are vague and weird, shown to be rich but couldn't afford that his parents from another country came to the wedding. Actually no one from his family came. His friends who came were treating the women in the group like nothing. I feel like something suspicious is going on but they've made it through a few months already
My ex got married at 23. Wasn't being bitter, the whole relationship lasted less than a year TOTAL.
What did he expect when he was the one that said no to practicing dancing? What did he prefer to humiliate instead of seeking an actual solution?
4:27 are you sure her parents didn't disapprove because they saw him as an abuser before she did, because some people can just tell things.
That’s an interesting different perspective, not going to lie, but that being said I don’t think commenting here will allow the person to see it 😅 /nm
My dad is a photographer and when he did weddings I’d help him out by carrying things like lenses, tripods, and swap out rolls of film (this was in the old days before digital). At one wedding the best man, during his speech, threw a fit because there was no stripper at the bachelor party. He said something to the groom to the effect of, “There weren’t any t****s! No b**bs!” No lap dances!” The microphone was cut but his voiced carried and the maid of honor punched him in the stomach because he wouldn’t stop whining. Half the guests were aghast and the other was laughing inappropriately. Apparently, he hadn’t even had a drop to drink yet. I helped pose everyone, telling them how to tilt their heads and place their hands and NONE of them smelled of alcohol! It was definitely one of the oddest weddings my dad and I did.
Watching this because my dad is getting married in a few months
You should ruin it, you have many examples to choose from.
My Dads had 4
@@GemGames3Practice makes perfect? If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try, try again.
Thank you so much for your video 😊.
when someone stole the flowers from my godmother's first wedding. He cheated on her with an old friend who had her own kid and we always give the "friend" the nickname chlamydia
100% if they say they never fight. That means one person is hiding thier feelings .
"That's a weird PornHub plot." Ha ha!
My wife told me not to smash the cake in her face at the wedding bc of her make up. I said ok, that's fine. It was expensive anyways. She smashed a little into my face, just my mouth and cheek area, but I was expecting it and took it on the chin. Why? Bc it's not a big deal and it was fun. Took me a total of 1 minute to wash it off. Whereas it would have ruined her makeup. It's called respecting boundaries, people. It's not hard.
WHEN MY MISTER ASKED MY AUNT IF SHE WAS HAPPY FOR THE BRIDE (HER DAUGHTER) AND SHE SAID « SHE HAS TO MAKE HER OWN MISTAKE » LOL
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3:35 it is an unwritten rule that there is no actual drama in drama class, So I bet it was just a preformance.
I'm turning the wedding cake thing into a superstition. Putting wedding cake on your newly wed spouse is simply bad luck.
funny. if shoving cake into one another's face is a sure sign of divorce, then how have my parents been happily married for 37 years?
Because 37 years ago, it wasn't a curse yet. Once the internet came out, it became a curse. 😂
@@fadetoblond curses aren't real.
@@goosieschmoo8239 Wanna bet. I've done 3 in my life and they all happened as cursed. Unfortunately for the curser (me in this case), it/they come back on you....and not in a good way (I was well aware of the consequences, but had to show the power of a curse). Also, for a curse to work, you have to say it directly to the person for it to work, and it has to be with your own original chant/curse you made up. Believe me, they do really work, but ONLY if you truly believe in them....and I do, I did and I'm paying for it, but still glad I did them. 😉 p.s. unfortunately I can't prove it to you, so I won't go into this deeper.
@@fadetoblond the "power" behind a curse is people believing that when bad things happen it must be of a curse. Superstition is never a good thing for someone to waste their mental energy on.
@@goosieschmoo8239 No no. I get that, but what I did and when I did them contrary to when the 3 things happened, made a whole lotta people scared of me in my city. Like I said, not gonna go into deeper since I can't prove them to you. However, I had to move 400kms away after, since the fear of others ran too deep for MY own safety. Oh, and there were several witnesses to what I did then, so that was no superstitious silliness
My husband did the cake thing I got him good as well. He is a prankster so I knew it was coming and ducked a little too late. Both of us were coved in cake and on the floor laughing. We have the picture on our wall. We didn’t have a fancy wedding either. And we are still going strong 20 yrs later. The picture next to my name is our vow renewal last year. And we did the cake thing again. 😂 but we are weird anyway. 🤷♀️ we had a fantastic time all the guests loved it.
😮😮at the reception of My friend’s 3rd marriage, I found out the bride kept a divorce lawyer on retainer. I guess she loved weddings but not husbands. It lasted less than a year.
This is hence the other reason why to not get married unless you're ready, got a uncle who got married, it goes on and off, always gotta go get the wife from her uncle side after every argument, uncle always go on the run also like dude wtf! Stay single peeps no stress or drama, yeah its lonely but hey..your hair doesn't get white at the age of 35
Cake smashing isn't always true. I did it to my husband and we have been married 37 years.
Haha i have one of those 'game over' T-shirts. And no, i didn't wear it to my wedding!
As a polyamorous person, the ones about faithfulness hurt a lot.
I concur. I've seen people who don't want to be monogamous (some of whom are legit in love with someone else, others who just want sex) sneak around behind the back of their S.O. while spinning webs of lies that would make Machiavelli weep with joy, thereby virtually guaranteeing their SO's heart eventually being not just broken, but shattered. They have no qualms about that, but when I ask them why they don't just be honest with their S.O. about what they want, and have frank discussions about polyamory and/or swinging (yes, I know those are two different things) that would not only eliminate a shitload of drama from their lives, but greatly reduce (if not eliminate) their SO's future pain, they look at me like I've got lobsters crawling out of my ears. The degree to which what I clearly perceive as common sense is so foreign to normal people is not only baffling, it's sometimes depressing.
Bruh that one guy who has the wife that was constantly cheating even before the wedding night
10:10
I’ll say this.
At least one wasn’t significantly older than the other.
They still probably shouldn’t have gone through with it, being 16 ‘n’ all that jazz.
Easy - My brother's fiance supposedly wanted to "get along with me" since she has few friends so I could be her bridesmaid. next thing I know her mom has changed the venue from a place the family can be to a destination wedding no one will go to and by brother never stood up for himself or his family was just all "yes dear."
This woman isn't doing herself any favors making friends with her new family and if I ever see her mom I'll let her know what I think about her holding her insurance fraud money over her daughter's head. For all the parents out there... if you're STILL the most important person in your adult child's life, you done fucked them up.
i`m pretty rare to feel genuine curious about other people`s life as my personal concept is 'me do me, you do you' ... but the last point in the first story ... damn bro! i`m so totally curious want to know what really had happen to them! =0
Lol all. Of them
These stories are bad but what would be worse is if these people STAYED together and continued making themselves/each other unhappy.
My wedding was absolutely perfect.. nothing to complain about at all. But he only revealed after that he disliked almost everything about me.. thank goodness I’m out. Less than a year.
They let someone over shadow their wedding the wedding planner got engaged at their wedding. Lasted one year and divorced
In a shotgun Wedding it’s usually the man who is forced by the bride’s family
An arranged marriage is not a shotgun wedding
A shotgun wedding is when they had sex and are forced to marry, especially in cases of pregnancy
By "real" shotgun wedding he means the dad was holding a shotgun. Basically like "you'll marry this person or I'll friggen shoot you".
Ive only been to 1 wedding and it ended in divorce, i might be a jinx so i won't go to another one.
There was a betting pool on my side on when I was delivering. His side had not had a single one that hadn’t been a variation of “you’re having a what” type wedding. There was just two of us at the altar, and i never got fat for over a year after the wedding. Four plus decades later the one that called me a gold digger when I was the one supporting us by waitressing…i never did go away… still goes to show.
I would have been done too, by the 3rd time it was already not funny to the person who wants the cake.
This is why I think marriage is actually overrated, and in a serious way.
I chainsmoked all the way to the venue. Was hung over and 30 minutes late. I should of said no but without this experience I wouldn't have met my current husband who I love with all my heart and soul, so 3 years of mistakes and one happy mistake ( 1st child) was worth 15+ years of happiness and still going strong.
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That last one tho.
I knew the couple was not going to last simply because they got married. Nothing dooms a couple more than marriage. Most of the wives automatically cheat, shortly after marriage. Most of the husbands stay far from home right after marriage. It does not matter if the woman cheats first or the man stays away from home first. The end result is the same 65% of the time, divorce. With those odds for marriage, which is supposed to be committed, it is not even worth it to find a girlfriend / boyfriend which is only a very loose union with no real commitment. For some, that loose commitment may last a life time and may even go to marriage and last a life time. For most, it is a doomed relationship, whether it be a romantic relationship or full marriage. It is with this knowledge of the statistics that I have wisely chosen to opt out of dating or looking for a girlfriend. No, I will not be looking for a boyfriend either. I am not the 4% of the population that is gay. Addressing this, the divorce rate between our gay brothers and sisters is lower than that of us straight people. Perhaps they know something we do not know.
I thought it said when the GROOM got drunk he made out with the guy
I got a black eye at my parents wedding