Parents who have disowned or genuinely stopped loving your child - what happened?
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When a child is disowned by a parent, it means that one of them is a monster.
The only question is which one.
If one is a step parent, it's easy to say who.
Parent in every single facet.
ansel That is just stupid. There are endless situations in which the child can be wrong too.
Alex Morrison that 14 year old was einstien in 4th grade, before they invented gravity. Repost in 15 seconds if you love jEsus
Viola Nettling not always. My sister is a demonspaw that is harassing mom's live in boyfirend because he told her off when she started fighting mom unjustly
To be fair, most of the responses aren't parents because most would be too ashamed to admit to disowning children or too prideful to be honest about what happened.
forrestdivine preach
Sounds like mah parents. Whoop.
or that they are too old to know or care about reddit.
But still, questions like what was the best comebcak YOU'VE ever heard? Well it wasn't me, it was my uncle blah blahh
Edit: I didn't hear it, my uncle just told us this story and expects us to believe it!
or you know because theyre parents and are busy with their lives
If they had one for “kids who disowned their parents” it would endless.
I’m the disowned child, funny enough. My mother was abusive and we were on such different ends of the spectrum ideologically that we butted heads constantly when I was a teen. Living with her was like walking on egg shells; one moment being perfectly fine and another she’s screaming at us. To give you a sense of how crazy this lady was, she screamed and insulted me because I didn’t want to go to subway with her and my stepfather and told me I should be happy that she didn’t abandon me like my father did (which wasn’t the case). Told me I should just pack my things and move in with him since I was such a, “stuck up, little bitch.” ... I was 14!
She wanted me to break off several relationships with people she personally didn’t like for various reasons. She ruined me and my brother’s relationship with our father because she wanted to get back at him for remarrying, ordered me to end a very close relationship with my best friend because they were LGBT+ and she didn’t want to have to deal with their pronouns, and HATED my then boyfriend/now husband, the latter of which ultimately being the reason she disowned me. My mother would always make snide remarks about me being a different person around him and how she didn’t like how he changed me, the change being that I was visibly happier. After she held my brothers over my head and told me to break up with him, I said no and that was that.
I haven’t regretted a single decision made that led up to be disowned, and I’m happier more than ever now because I don’t have a crazy, manipulative asshole breathing down my neck and asking me to end every relationship that wasn’t specifically with a white man.
It's like you're telling my story. Exact same mother I have except I haven't escaped this hell hole
@@lillylovesrain7072 I guess it's time you did. Unless you're not of age yet
@@Martyna456 I'm not
@@lillylovesrain7072 Is there an option to live with your other parent?
@@Martyna456 he's a criminal we escaped when I was 12
I challenged my son to a duel, but he refused, so I burned off half his face and banished him from the kingdom
Did he speak out of turn at a meeting or something?
better get ready for him to team up with a bald kid with air powers and wreck your shit
Hopefully you have other children who can take his place and will be able to deal with the psychological pressure that you place on them. How's their mother btw, is she still alive?
The Greedy Orphan I don’t know if you got the joke here but these people are referencing Avatar: The Last Airbender
@@joeytheecho9123 r/woosh
Reddit ask “parents why made you disown or stop loving her kids”
Answers “not a parent”
As long as the stories are good, am i right?
Yeah because of course the parents wouldn't admit to such things.
versnellingspookie
They are good but I was hoping to hear a story from the perspective of someone like a parent that was cruel/neglectful and later became self aware/regretful.
Rose Vampire perhaps, it’s EXTREMELY rare for such people to grow a conscience
@UCoafaiwrDPAByIY1DKYxixA yeah but the parents didn't do anything wrong so this is different.
Other way around, I started as a kid loving my mom but she never loved me. She had me to try trapping my dad with her, then he ran off with me, divorcing her. She refused to let my dad have custody so my grandparents were my legal guardians. Then when she had two more kids when I was like 7 she convinced my grandparents she wanted me in her life and I spent the whole school year with her and my step father. I was mentally and physically abused, molested while in her care, made a third parent to my half sisters seeing they were the golden children and was suicidal at the age of 11. When I was 14 my mother and her husband finally divorced and I told my father about the abuse her husband had caused in an incident of rage because I was left with him instead of leaving with my mother. After I finished middle school I permanently moved over with my father and grandparents and told my mother I disowned her for her actions and I had no mother. It costed me my sisters but if I hadn't done it I would have been expected to see her and be terrified the whole time.
It's been 4 years now. 4 months ago my father commit suicide and I called her to tell her because I wanted to respect her as his former wife by letting her know directly. She was so unreactive and blank, felt nothing about it and I couldn't be filled with less anger at a woman who didn't care someone she had claimed to love was gone and her eldest child was in pain.
Now I refer to myself as an orphan. Because my father, who loved me with all his heart and soul all his life, is gone and I NEVER had a mother.
Dear Lord
I'm sorry for all the abuse and neglect you've experienced. You've gone through some things that leave a lot of trauma. I hope you get the help you need to process it, so that you may live the life that you want for yourself. You're a wonderful person and you deserve to be around people who care for you, love you and respect you. Take care ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss of your dad. Please find someone to trust to talk to and work through all of this pain. I can't imagine what it must have been like for you. But you're still here that means that you're strong enough to keep going. Stay strong. And find someone to talk to.
I would drop a call to CPS about the remaining kids. If she was willing to do all that shit with you, who knows what the hell is going on with the other two.
I am so sorry
My mom was like the "i didnt want kids" mom who is also simultaneously sooooo religious that she refuses to use birth control and thinks abortion is killing babies, but spent her entire life screaming about killing me, how she doesnt want us, throwing me out a window and how she would never kill her baby despite the high risk of complications etc, abusing me physically.... My youngest brother is dead and it's her fault too. It's FASCINATING how personality disordered people PICK AND CHOOSE precisely what is convenient for them..and people just play along too often.
Gotta love religion.
I was disowned for outing my abuser.
Thats not right
That's why abuse is allowed to thrive. Everyone acts horrified when an abuser is outed, but in truth they knew and kept it under wraps. Sick bastards.
You are not alone. You are loved and important. I'm so sorry your family did that to you, and I hope that you receive justice one day ❤️ Lots of love.
Edit: Receive, not received.
Benedict Cumberbatch's Deformed Alien Cousin Thank you 🤗
@@meligarrett9197 You're most welcome dear. Stay strong ❤️
I have no respect for the ones who disowned their kids because their religion told them to. I dont care if they're Christian, jehovah's witnesses, Muslim, etc. If you're gonna disown your kid it should be reasonable.
As a christian, I agree. The Bible says to love your neighbor and not to do things like this.
Those people are nuts. IDC which religion they are a part of. That's nuts.
Exactly. If you're going to disown your child, disown them for being a horrible person such as a serial killer, rapist, sex trafficker, drug addict that refuses help, drug dealer, Child abuser, or Murderer.
Not because "God said so."
What would you consider reasonable?
There isn’t anything like that in the Bible so christians who do that are regarded, but isn’t it part of Muslim tradition and culture? You even have to convert to Islam and disown your own religion to get married to a muslim, which is very sad:/
My father disowned me recently for having been a stripper for a short time in my young adulthood. Meanwhile he used to frequent strip clubs. And no, he does not see the double standard.
A stripper works for his/her money honestly. So I don't see why this should be a bad character trait.
I also really love MCR, and YAAAY! you, and BOOOO! him.
Good dad
I'm the oldest of all my siblings. My dad wasn't too happy about me stripping but eventually came to appreciate as none of my other siblings could manage adulthood well enough to stop asking him for money. I was the only one not digging in his pockets.
@@ElGuapo96dad got no play so he had to go to strip clubs😂😂 that’s fucking sad lil bro
"He's attacked my wife several times."
Sorry, but I would have put him in Intensive care after the first time.
It's his son. You don't put your son in intensive care. While it was wrong of him to attack his mother, it was probably nowhere near as bad as what you suggested the father should do to his own son.
@@greywolf7577 no. Physically assaulting anyone is a crime and therefore should be reported
@@sagorikaroy3505 no, it's just fight, and emotions. And you make it a disaster and the end of life
@@nadMoZzzg oh alright. I guess people who attack asians or blacks or women who get sexually assaulted, people shouldn't take that seriously either. Those are fights and emotions (anger & horniness) too. My bad 😘
@@greywolf7577 Yes. you do put your son in intensive care after what he has done.
showing who's the real man of the house real quick
My mom disowned my brother when I told her about how he sexually abused me. It was super weird because one day he lived in the room next to mine and the next day he didn’t live here anymore and never would again.
No idea if I’ll ever see him. No idea if the rest of my family will ever really adjust to the idea that he did that to me for years and no one noticed. I hope someday my family will have a new normal and everything will be okay. It’s the second boy my parents have had to kick out. The first one was because he became violent and punched my mom in the stomach while she was pregnant with me. Not sure why brothers in my family feel the need to kill me. 🤷♀️
At least your mom is protecting you and getting rid of the pple that seek to harm you.
Glad your parents are taking action and believing you. I’ve heard too many stories of parents not believing their children when they report abuse. Be thankful you have people who support you and always have your best interest at heart. You are very fortunate. I’m sorry you have had to go through something like this ❤️
You okay?
Brievel Montague as okay as anyone can be in a situation like this. I feel like my whole life is falling apart (between this, my wedding being cancelled, and my college cancelling classes for several weeks due to corona), but I’m hanging in there. Thank you for asking, it means a lot to have someone just ask.
V yes, I’m very glad they believed me. I didn’t say anything about it for so long because I too heard so many stories like that and I was terrified they wouldn’t believe me.
Disowned my son because he fell in love with a filthy Capulet!
Oops
Lol
Mercutio x Tybilt is better :D
*eye twitches bc I'm reading romeo and juliet for school*
*Funny, I'm reading Romeo and Juliet for school*
My boyfriend’s brother was molested by a childhood friend multiple times when he was a kid, their mom is still best friends with the mother of the kid who molested him and is friendly with the son. Idk I just think if it was me I would completely cut off contact with all of those people..
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Feel sorry for the child that she had out of pure spite
I'm so glad that none of the reasons are "My child is gay/bi/trans."
i know, i was so scared one was going to be disowning people because of their sexuality or gender
Inorite?
Yeah! My mom hates me who who I am as a human being not for my sexuality!
@Siyovaxsh En-sipad-zid-ana if they "don't want to invest in kids that are genetic dead ends maybe" then they shouldn't have kids. Simple.
Siyovaxsh En-sipad-zid-ana that’s awful
She disowned her parents and cared for her siblings herself. My grandma's dad beat her and her siblings relentlessly. Mother sided with father. Grandma at 14yo took her siblings and left. Supported them in poverty but poverty is better than the abuse she received.
Really strong girl/woman
piratexxxking
Damn, your grandma was ridiculously strong willed. I wish her the best! I don’t think I would’ve had that strength in what I assume is the 1940s-1960s.
Your grandma was a very strong and brave woman
Hats off to her selflessness; where she could've left alone, she cared enought for her siblings to take them with her.
Your grandma is such a strong women with a kind heart
My parents stopped loving me when they realized that I could stand up for myself and that I will fight back and not fall for traps
I’m proud of all these families. My brother sexually abused me since I was seven and even threatened to punch my teeth in if I told anyone. While my father sent him to live with our grandma (he was 36 and had never moved out and worked at a grocery store having never graduated college) they never broke contact and still haven’t. And while I love my father part of me wouldn’t mind if the whole lot of them all fell off a cliff. Funny enough my moms sisters who I had barely any relationship with where the ones to show the most support for me
I can’t help but I keep reading the comments with the robot voice lol.
Drake LXIX I read this with the robot voice lol
Me too lol, I watch it as if it were a movie. Idk why, the logical side of me says "hey it's being read to you" while the other is like "fuck that you can read it better"
lol (laugh out loud)
howard cunningham lol we know what lol means lol
@@megaparsec7910 It's fine, I'm sure there are some people who don't know. It's not a problem.
My broke boii made a house from picking oranges. Mad respect
Damn houses used to be so affordable back then
@@TipTheScales27 If you build it, it's cheaper than having someone build it for you
@@shadowcween7890 "cheaper"
Froggy Voss If you know how to build one to begin with, yeah. I could see it go very wrong though which would cost more money in the long run
@@TipTheScales27 Building codes weren't a thing back then... You could get a readers digest house building manual back then.
Also a house is just a small barn with insulation and siding
My heart hurts for those children who got disowned/abandoned just because their parents didn't want children or are just pure P.O.S
My uncle I think they wanted to disown their adoptive daughter. If they do that I will throw a party because that girl is problem: she constantly says: I'm adopted that's why I am that way
She seems to get her life on tracks now but she is probably temporally
After many second chances. My family hates her and if she is allowed to stay close with us, we want distance
Idk I think some exceptions are allowed. Rape( courses abort) or baby trapped. They get a pass.
the adopted child mortified me, i have 2 cats and just to think that somebody would kill a animal such as a cat or a dog is horrifying. I can't imagine putting my cat in any danger let alone killing it
You have no idea what that child has seen in the first 3 years. I know a child that was adopted right after birth, but since his mother was a drug addict, this child is mad. The child isn't responsible for his damaged brain, but I prefer to not meet it.
@@solidstate9451 I have never directly stated that it's the child's fault for it's own actions, rather the action in general is horrible. You had even dehumanized the child by saying "it" Even if you were being gender neutral, they is way more human and you stated you wouldn't want to meet "it"
@@Th3Goober I'm German. In Germany we say "das Kind". It is neutral in German. You shouldn't implicit things. Sometimes it is just the foreign language.
@@solidstate9451 I apologize for assuming your nation. Usually in english's vocabulary "it" is labeled as an object and dehumanizing, causing the population of they/them. I'm not going to restate my argument but just read the rest of the argument
My son got cocky and thought he could beat me at Halo 2 lol poor kid gonna miss him
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Lol NICE I BET YOU SHOWED THST NOOB
slick rick Tbag?
😂 me as a parent
Understandable
slick rick u did the right thing ❤️
I've read about old people with no one in their lives, no one to visit or help them--and I've always felt sorry for them. Now I wonder how many of these "abandoned" elders were the fathers and mothers who couldn't be bothered with their own children. I also wonder how often these elders show up in their now-adult children's lives, hoping or expecting to be taken care of.
Indeed.
I never thought of it like that...
I used to work in a nursing home and I judged that there were adult aged children who really didn't pay attention or ever visit their mom or dad. I wishI could take back my judgments because I never considered what their lives must have been like to want to be like that. I ended up going no contact with my own bio mother a few years ago and it was the best decision I ever made for myself. I accept that people are going to judge me even though they don't know what I had experienced.
I am an eldersitter, and I can tell you, that yes, it is 100 percent true. Not always, of course. But some of the lonely old people are alone because they were assholes to everyone all their lives, including to their families, and now people have no reason or desire to spend time with them.
@@caitlinallen8400 some people are unappreciated. Others reap what they have sewn.
"Imagine having kids lol"
-some guy in the internet
I disowned my brother and haven't seen him in over 8 years. I know people tend to forgive their blood for about anything but there is a limit.
what happened?
@@larsswig912 Long story short, he slept with my wife when I was deployed. He has always been a bastard but that was the last thing he did. We haven't spoken since I found out
@@bmann14k wtf. good for you man. what about your wife, is she still your wife?
@@larsswig912 Hell no.
@@bmann14k I'm sorry that happened to you.
My dad was disowned by his family for a while because he got married and started a family. He was the main provider for the lot of freeloaders and they considered him getting married as selfish. Consequently they resented my mom and myself. We moved far away from everyone but my dad still kept in contact with them. It wasn’t until recently that we started to interact with them but there’s still friction between my mom and some of my dad’s siblings. Now part of the family is pissed off again because my dad refused to sell (more like hand over) the land and house my grandmother left him. So yeah, a bunch of free loaders.
Love your username.
@@zeldadynasty4568 lol same
Hope you never see them again, they seem like a bunch of cheapskate leeches who don’t care about anyone but themselves.
Being of the same blood does not always mean they are our "family".
Your name tho-
I was gonna put my story here but it doesn’t matter. I’ll just say this.... Family is just a word. Like any word it depends on who and how you use it.
my favorite quote that goes along with this is, "Blood makes relatives, Loyalty makes family." i feel like many families should follow this but idk its just my opinion
@@nemashan3701 u mean "blood makes u related,loyalty makes u family" and I agree
aNd I oOp- oh I heard it both ways, I just don’t know who’s quote that is
If you need to vent homie you could put your story on here, no one will judge. But yes, what you said is true
exactly, the people i think of as family are people who i trust and people who would do anything for me and i would do anything for them.
I was pretty much disowned by my family. Dad left at 5. Mom sent me to grams at 10 and gramps sent me away at 15. I don't know what I did. I was quiet. Studied hard, and treated them all fairly. After i was on the streets i was lost. Everything came at me and since i had no idea about anything i went for it. Been trying to find myself ever since.....
This sucks. Your comment was 9 months ago, how have you been since?
@@kummiekins same but Grammys passed. Getting together for service then back to same old same old.
@@lumendelsol sorry to hear about your grammy. I lost mine years ago but still miss her. Whenever i think of love i think of her, her love was so pure.
I hope the service goes well. I imagine it’ll be awkward with meeting family but then again i have a hyper imagination. In any case, you can drop me a message here if you ever need someone to talk to 👍🏻
Stay strong , I promise things will get better, have faith ❤ Everything is going to be alright ❤
Damn, hearing these stories make me nervous for my siblings. I'm 17 and the second oldest of 13 siblings (none are full siblings). I really hope that none of them screw up their lives as badly as some of the people in these stories.
Are some of those step siblings? Because 13 is a lot of siblings even if it is divided between two parents. It would be more understandable if your mother and father had 3 kids together, then each married a partner that had 3 kids from a previous marriage and then your father and mother each had two children with their new spouse. That would equal 13, but it would only require each of your parents to have five kids each (3 together).
@@greywolf7577 some people have a lot of siblings I'm # 2 of 11
@@greywolf7577 probably some of the siblings are adopted but its fine since their still siblings anyways
I mean considering your parents had that many… mistakes run in the family.
Zamn ya all have siblings?
Why can't humans just get along nicely like we nessies do?
i see u on like every yt comment section lol
@@gemipancakes3618 the mythical creatures are rising
You again lmao
First time I’ve seen you, but I’m sure I will again
Just Some Nessie With Internet Access Nessies have more sense
What if they just never loved the kid to begin with
Are you ok?
@@chronichurdle1802 Not all creatures are born pure. He's just a tad bit tough, that's all.
Damn, you okay dude?
I KEEP SEEING YOU EVERYWHERE!
@C U T M Y H A I R not really, they want social status of having children
My mom’s family disowned her older brother. The whole family always had had a bad relationship with him. He was often easily angered, left a mess wherever he went, and depended on my grandparents too much. My grandpa had built their house by hand and it was 4 stories tall. The first floor was the kitchen and living room. Second, was my mom and her younger sister’s room. 3rd was the brother’s room. And last was a prayer room or something like that. (Her parents were religious.) He had always lived with my grandparents even when he was an adult. My mom and aunt had moved to America as teenagers so it left him with my grandparents. (They originally lived in Taiwan.) 3 years ago, my grandma had passed away due to a failed surgery. Since we were in America, it left my grandpa alone in Taiwan with him. But he had decided to move out during that time with his wife. My grandpa was truly alone in his house. He never visits my grandpa, despite his circumstances. So recently, my family has agreed to disown him. He isn’t family to them anymore. My mom and aunt call my grandpa daily to check in on him and generally spend time with him so he wasn’t alone. Whenever they talk about him, they refer to him as “the guy” (translated from mandarin) and his wife as “the girl.” We don’t talk about him unless necessary.
I’m disowned. I finally demanded my mom fess up to forcing me to be molested by my grandfather (dad’s dad) to keep the peace in the family. Instead, I got disowned. In turn, I had to disown my 20-year-old daughter, because she accused my husband and me of abuse to deflect blame from her grandmother and make me look guilty. So I’m disowned from my ENTIRE family, and for my sanity, and for a normal life for the other children, I disowned my daughter. It damn near destroyed me. I’d forgive my daughter if she ever admitted she lied, but I sincerely hope my mother burns in Hell. And THAT will never change.
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@@DX-d the hell man
I hope things get better for you and your daughter ❤ stay strong !!
Everybody says that you should/could never disown or stop caring about your kids/family members but I disagree. No matter who it is, you don't have to ruin your life just because yall are related
Amber Richey Same. I have low tolerance for people who do it to minors without any sort of therapy, attempts to understand their reasoning, or just trying in general before disowning though.
I hope you never have kids jeez
Lol, pretty sure they mean- like, for example; Mom, dad, Son/daughter. 3 of them. If the child they have grows up purposefully doing 'bad' or 'terrible' things [Rape, kill, smoke, drink, steal, etc.], even when they "try to help" and "get them on track" of course they'd disown them. It's like a promise, if you make one and someone breaks it- you'd feel betrayed. And if you keep making promises with them and they keep breaking them and so on, you'll end up becoming fed up with their mess and stop fooling around with them. Or a trick candle, if you keep attempting to blow it out, it'll get tiring and you wouldn't want to do it anymore. That's an acceptable reason as to why you should disown someone. But doing it because you're too lazy to help them or because they don't live up to your "dream child" viewpoint isn't acceptable- *at all* , it's toxicity at its finest.
@@dylanroemmele906 I HOPE you never have kids.
@@skylovermc2146 too late!
I know parents who temporarily disowned their child. They’re my dad’s aunt and uncle. They’re long dead from old age. They were born around 1910 and were wealthy, successful Jews who strongly valued education and hard-work. Originally from Canada, they immigrated to the States to open a casino in Las Vegas. It’s still there! Anyways one of their daughters became a drug addict. It was a huge shock for the entire family. No one on my dad’s side of the family does drugs. They barely drink. Plus this was the 60’s and 70’s so attitudes towards drug addicts were significantly more close-minded. My dad’s aunt and uncle couldn’t understand their daughter and were horrified, confused, and overwhelmed. They disowned her until she got clean and got her act together (my understanding is that the drug phase didn’t last very long. Several years I think.) anyways, their daughter got clean and became a wealthy real-estate agent. Her parents forgave her but tragically no one else in the family did. My dad, my mom, and I are the *ONLY* ones who still talk to her. It’s very sad. It’s been around 50 years of sobriety for her and no one in the family wants anything to do with her. Even her siblings barely tolerate her. She’s a very good person. A little strange and intense at times but overall very sweet. Clearly a strong-minded and capable person as she became wealthy all on her own.
that's- woah.
but, uh, what's the name of the casino? I went to Las Vegas once with my family, I wonder if I've seen it or not.
Better they out right ignore her then take advantage of her because she later became successful
@@judgment5090 Almost everyone on this side of my family is successful. Her brother is even richer than she is and her sister isn’t far behind. So no one would take advantage of her.
What a story. I'm glad she got better and repaired relations with parents.
Although I wouldn't use words "close-minded" - it's not like being a Muslim or whatever, something that doesn't necessary harmful. People are to this day "close-minded" to thieves, cheaters, or NAMBLA members (at least I hope they are).
@@ImperativeGames I am Muslim and I support LGBTQ+ and their fight for the right to be happy, and I am very understanding of a person's struggle with their past trauma and drug decency because I had those same problems before and a little while after I became officially Muslim. Not all Muslims are the same. The younger ones like me have an emotional intelligence that the older ones do not have.
As a person who got kicked out of my house with nothing except the clothes on my back for admitting to being Lesbian, (age 13) I understand this more than i care to explain
(On the bright side tho i live w/ my best friend and we go to college together. I have a gf and haven't missed my family in 5 yrs. My true family are my friends)
May I offer a hug or something?
wow.
Kicked out at 13- that's so young...
@@shadowcween7890 I'm 13 and like-
Is your family religious?
Damn, that's young. And I thought being being kicked out at 16 for being trans was bad...
I have a brother who is 20 years older than me, he is unemployed and an alcoholic. I've tried helping him multiple times but all he does is play victim and lash out at household family. So after a recent fight with him, I've decided to give up on him and move on. Many people say you should never cut off family but I think you should if said family member is toxic and refuses to change. Can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves
I saw the question and already knew that 95% of the answers wouldn’t be from parents.
This is some heavy shit. Parents don't like talkingth this stuff...
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Well of course. Most parents don't want to talk about disowning their own child.
either way, the stories here are still relevant. I don't really get why people fixate so much on this. Seems a bit shallow
@@videofan1010 also , because most Redditors are adults who want to avoid the responsibility of raising a kid
Im a high functioning autistic person with mood and anxiety disorder. I'm impatient, unstable and sometimes aggressive. But I am not at all like that child who almost pushed his dad off the roof. Most people with these issues are not.
You sound like a normal person to me
@@skeletor2994 I hate the word autism because I think it means "your not normal" and people will treat you differently too, just because you have it. I can speak from experience. But if there is a good person that you tell that you have autism and they don't treat you differently, that's good!
@@forestfaint9269 The internet also turned the word into some sort of slang-insult, but I think it faded after a while thankfully. Hopefully.
I have autism and bipolar too. His behavior doesn’t seem “high functioning” to me. It seems more like anti social personality if anything.
@@klltsun_2576 True.
Damn, imagine having to tell your children that their biological father was a child predator and that you conceived them out of spite for their grandfather. She had literally created 6 catastrophes waiting to happen.
Hearing that a kid killed a cat and beat a dog I couldn't stop myself from tearing up. I can't stand hearing or seeing anything about animal abuse and it makes me irrationally angry.
My grandfather remarried when I was little and lived happily ever after with Livy, for 35 years, until they both passed, last year. Her grown children became just as important to him as all of his children. They had always planned on splitting up the assets equally among all their children. Livy's granddaughter was to receive her wedding ring. But only the other son, uncle to the granddaughter, could make it to Livy's funeral, so he was entrusted in delivering the ring, after the funeral, on his drive home.
I had met him in the past but never had a chance to get to know him until the funeral. I thought he was a great guy! I was wrong.
On his way home, he suddenly felt like he needed and deserved money more than the granddaughter deserved to inherit her grandmother's ring, so he sold it at a pawn shop. Then, he drove to his brother's house and delivered the message that he deserved it more, instead of delivering the ring.
It broke my grandfather's heart, his health took a turn for the worse, and he died shortly afterwards! He tried to have that son written out of the will but died before it could be official.
The entire family is shocked and heartbroken. I'm pretty sure we've all disowned him.
Wow, Bruce. What a disappointment you turned out to be. Good thing your mother never found out, huh?
jeaniebird now that’s a lot of damage
But I do truly feel sorry for you
@@Desechannsl
Thanks. I'm sure we'll all eventually forget all about it. It was just so sad seeing how hurt my poor grandfather was. No one saw it coming, it was an unwelcomed surprise.
jeaniebird hes at peace now and Bruce will get his karma trust me everything will work out
@@aloeleaf
Thanks, I believe that, as well.
My moms dad disowned her for getting pregnant with my brother at 19. When I was born 4 years later, he finally reached out. When I was about 1 or 2 (before my parents’ wedding) he wanted to spend a day with my brother and I, but my mom said that maybe he could come over and spend time with the whole family since my brother and I had never met him before that. He got really mad and stopped talking to my entire family. He didn’t go to their wedding. I haven’t seen him in about 6 years, and when I did see him he was giving me my birthday present (1 box of old Archie Comics) in a Best Buy parking lot. I don’t call him grandpa and even though I see my Great Uncle Brian, his brother, maybe once or twice a year, he’s more of a grandpa to me than he has ever been. Actually, my mom told me that one time when I was little and I saw them at the same time I called Uncle Brian “grandpa” right in front of my moms dad and his face was priceless. My granny has a boyfriend who lives with her and I’ve known him my whole life and he’s also way more of a grandpa than my moms dad has ever been
Question: So your brother is your dad? Wait I'm really confused so did your mother get married to her son?? And they got married ? And also what about your brothers father ? Also I don't mean to offend you If I do
Sweet Home Alabama
@@protonsmoke9517 and when he was born 4 years later?!
@@protonsmoke9517 no lol her mother got pregnant by the dad and had this girls older brother
I relate to this I call my great grandparents grandma and grandpa because my actual grandparents were never in mine or my mom's life.
"We hadn't seen or heard from her until June this year"
Me watching in June 2020: *screaming*
Mine stopped loving me when I got depression and anxiety. They caused the anxiety. Always belittling me. Never telling me anything nice or complimenting me, it was always picky stuff and complaints which makes me question every little thing I do which literally effects my job, life and social skills.
No, they didn't love you before. If you love a child, you love it when it has trouble. Find a better family for yourself. They don't deserve you.
Should be called, "Kids recount stories of their parents disowning them, even though its a reddit thread for parents to talk about disowning their kids."
To be fair, the parents are probably to embarrassed to outrightly state that they disowned their kids so yeah.
@K C
Not to mention that Reddit is mostly “kids”.
@J Will Not really.
@J Will Not really, what if they stole from you many times? Didn't feel bad.. They wouldn't be violent but still a piece of garbage that should have been disowned, just because someone is family then that doesn't mean you have to care for them.
@@bluebearcz4371 still it your fucking son
My family has essentially disowned one of my uncles, he's always been a very toxic person. That whole "if I'm not happy then no one else gets to be happy" kind of mentality, he's spread horrible rumors about other family members and even went so far as to set my great uncles truck on fire (a truck that was given to him as a gift by my other uncles) all because of a stupid disagreement they had. Even found out he's tried to use actual black magic to put curses on some other relatives, just wtf man. I'm glad we no longer have to deal with him.
One of my uncles is also into black magic and used it against my mom like wtf 😭
Same I have a toxic uncle who loves to bring people down to his level he’s the worse human being
@@mochhhhee
This better had been in middle school cause I’ve seen and can see thag happening
@@NameName-yj7lp ah.... ah.... no. As in actual boomers doing that at their boomer age
@@mochhhhee
Oh my god, I thought they were against that
Hasnt happened yet but as soon as im 18 im gonna disown myself from my family. Theyre abusive and neglectful and manipulative. Its not even that its that bad, im just so tired of their toxicity and need to move on.
I'm 28 and just did the same. Don't wait for them to change because they wont.
@@lilymae7516 your parents are probably giving you weekly money to sustain yourself
@@dema332sa5 shhh don't be a pessimist
@@dema332sa5 and?
@@mr.osamabingaming2633 and i am just a asshole im sorry
My dad and my part of the family are nearly disowned from his side.
Besically, my grandfather died when my dad was a teenager. My dad took the role of man of the house and worked dozens of jobs to help grandma support the house. When my aunt started dating a alcoholic my dad didn’t approve, which started the rift. They got married and my uncle straightened out after having kids. Once he was better he and my dad got along famously(and still do to this day)
But my aunt never let it go. Holding a grudge against my dad she refused to fully accept my mom into the family, harshly judging her. (My mom is also the sweetest most wonderful and selfless human being who has and ever will exist in this universe. Haha yeah I love my mum very much)
Things were stressed before I was born (I’m the fourth of 5 girls) when dads side expected my family to spend all of their holidays with them and not with my moms side.
This unreasonable expectation continued until I was a young child. I remember having to do lots of running back and forth on holidays.
But the thing that really made a rift was when my oldest sisters (ages 8 and 9 before I was born) were playing with our (18) cousin. One of them accidentally shut his fingers in a door (not to be mean, it was accident and he was fine) in response he threw her across the room. My mom obviously came to the defense of her daughter but my aunt came to the unreasonable defense of her son. They blamed the child to be at fault and not the adult.
A few years later that cousin moved to Chicago became a drug addict and no one talks to him anymore. Turns out he was always a bit mental.
Things were tense after that. They wanted virtually nothing to do with us, but out of courtesy invited us to the birthday parties of their children’s children. Well, courtesy and to get gifts. But they don’t actually WANT us there.
They usually hold the parties at the other grandparents house. Instead of my cousins or aunt greeting us we are greeted by the grandparents. They’re old friends of my parents, but my cousins and aunt avoid us like the plague.
For the majority of my life my grandmother sort of just ignored me and my sisters. We know that grandma, my aunt, and my cousins are all gossipers so we know that they talk about us behind our backs.
Although in recent years it seems that grandma wants to make up for it. She’s putting at least SOME effort into seeing her grand children. I’ll be receptive to her, but I don’t really want to go out of my way when I’m just going to be judged.
I do feel a bit bad though. My sisters and I are quite toned down around grandma, and ngl, we don’t really like talking with her because she likes to complain about the smallest things(she is used to complaining alongside my aunt and cousins who will complain with her. We do not) although we always love seeing our grandpa on moms side. He’s always been friendly, loving, and enjoyable to talk to.
I can’t help but feel bad this one time we met both grandma and grandpa. Grandma arrived first and we gave sort of muted and monotone greetings. And when grandpa got there we were visibly happy to see him.
I need to spend more time with grandpa. He’s getting pretty old, and I don’t think I’ve had enough opportunity to be with him. He always has a cool story about all kinds of stuff be it motorcycles, his time in the airforce, or even a story of how the leader of a mafia gave him a club for self defense. He likes to talk about how different things used to be and I think it’s really cool!
It's a parent's duty to love, grow, raise, and protect their children as they age. Don't blame a child for a poor upbringing; but when someone is old enough to know better and makes poor and foolish decisions that destroy any respect they're given, a parent isn't obligated to love them any longer. A trashy person is a trashy person, and just as with other biological family members, blood ties mean nothing. If someone is old and knowledgeable enough to weigh the consequences of their decisions, they're entirely responsible for them.
I sort of disagree. I mean yeah when their an adult whatever they did deserves to be punished that they deserve what happens as a result. But like that’s still your child. The child that you raised and loved since they were a little kid. I don’t understand how someone can just throw that love and care away. If my son was a school shooter or mass shooter, you best believe my ass is calling for the life sentence or even death penalty. But I still love him because he’s my son. Idk if that makes sense or not but it’s just how I feel about it.
@@shumishu6019 I am an atheist and against the death penalty.
Eat me.
Not exactly related but, my dad's brother in law's father has sexually assaulted my mother 4 times over the course of 25 years. My father is a police officer, by the time he found out, the BIL's father had a stroke and couldn't function (memory loss, general forgetfulness. Cant walk on his own.) So my dad would seem like the bad guy if he took him outside and beat his face in. It all came to a head 3 years ago when i was 15 and i saw him grab my mom. I pushed him onto the floor and broke his nose. My aunt went berserk and cut us out of her life and freaked out at my dad for defending me. My mom is my hero and my best friend. I would kill anybody who would do her harm. I stand by what I did and would do it again. We get attacked on social media by her and my cousin. Mu dad's BIL however is really embarrassed by this and is a decent person. Im still pissed off that they won't leave us alone. She attempted to contact my older brothers to try to get them against my mom, but they told her to fuck off.
I have ASD and I'm bi. Needless to say my dad kind of hates me. The feelings are reciprocated, however.
neumannben17
I think it's wonderful that you defended your mother. 👍👍👍
And your aunt and cousin are wrong to torment you. I suggest you block them on social media.
@@jennym007 we have. My dad's other sister and other family tells us when it happens.
I'm glad your mum is okay now and that you defended her
Your dads brother inlaws father? So your mums dad or your granddad?? That was unnecessarily complicated
@@jenniferv4674 my dad's brother in law's father. Sorry about the confusion
The one about the creole grandmother broke my heart...it breaks my heart knowing that kind of stuff of being light skin still exists to this day
Always might
"PARENTS who have disowned a child."
"NoT a PaReNt BuT..."
Lmaooo imagine putting your body through months of feeling icky and being hungry 24/7 and hours of pain just to spite your dad
Her 6 daughter's surely didn't deserve to come into this world because of their mom's stupid, selfish, irresponsible desicions. The mom is a piece of shit and I've never heard of anyone get pregnant to SPITE HER OWN DAD! 😂 she ruined her Own life!! And her daughter's, which is so unfair 😑 I just can't wrap my head over how it's possible to be this stupid. 🤦♀️
Imagine finding out that the only reason you were created and allowed to exist was because your mom was a hate-filled, vengeful person who used you as a pawn against her dad.
16 year olds don’t make the best decisions what a surprise
salami meats Sure, but as far as decisions go, as low as low teenagers set the bar, she really is beyond teenage pettiness, she’s just a selfish and stupid piece of sh!t who caught it in the butt.
It's not that funny.
honestly the one about the sister punching her brother on christmas reminds me of my twin sister. i recently had to cut her out of my life because she has issues that she won't get help for. my husband and i moved into her apartment with her last month to help with bills and also save some money ourselves but it's been really hard. if we knew she was this bad we would have never moved in. she's cruel and lazy. she always spends the night at her bf's apartment on the 1st floor and we can hear her shouting, laughing, and blasting music or the tv all night and then sleeps literally all day just to leave again at night. one night i texted her and asked her to please quiet down bc my husband and i had to be up early to take his kids to school and then he had to go to work and she flipped shit on me. i repeatedly ask her to please help me around the house and she just gets defensive and calls me the most selfish person in the world and says that everybody hates me. a few days ago she sat on my legs and held my head down and punched me multiple times in the face bc i asked her to please get up and clean her cat's litter boxes. i am so sick of being called mean when i'm simply asking questions or asking for help so we're leaving her alone to throw her money away on drugs and booze and live in a filthy apartment. my mother can't see that my sister is in the wrong and her and our grandma reall enable her and makes excuses for her.
i'm sorry this was so long but i really needed to vent
it's ok! I hope things get better. No one deserves to hear any of that!
Its okay! There's nothing in venting/letting your feelings out!
I'd get a small voice recorder unit on myself for those times I'd interact with such a person. Just to have a few samples of evidence on what you request, and how she responds or treats you.
Getting away is the best solution, but one day you may have to encounter her again, due to the family that connects you. You will need concrete evidence, like recordings or third parties which will vouch for her trashy behaviour.
I'd do it to protect my own back. Not because I'd want to turn everyone against my sister.
I would've taken the cat, she wasn't taking care of them so she clearly doesn't need to have them.
thanks to everyone who took the time to read this. since this bullshit covid19 is happening and my sister and i are both at higher risk we have been self isolating. my husband and i are at the apartment and my sister is at our mom's house. i feel really sad about what happened and she's apologized. unfortunately we are still going to move out when this us all over with because she still has so much growing up to do. i don't hate her, i feel bad for her. my heart hurts a lot from this. i urged my mom to talk to her about therapy and my mom said she's going to but idk if she went through with it.
I disowned my older brother. Long story short his wife was whispering in his ear and manipulative AF. she was driving a wedge between the family and him. Eventually he started using his 2 kids agaisnt the family to hurt us. He wouldn't allow my mother to see her only grandkids for most of there childhood and that was the last straw for me. I saw him for the last time when I was 15. We were moving from Tucson Arizona to Houston texas. We had just packed up and I was making my final walk through of my childhood home. I turn the corner in the back yard and saw him. I have never sprinted so fast or speared anybody so hard before. I only remember screaming at the top of my lungs and beating him half to death before standing up and telling him that if he ever makes our mother cry again I will break his legs. Haven't seen him since.
The problem is the child always knows if the parents don’t love them and is typically the source of the behavioral problems lmaooo conditional love is usually how most parents love and they just don’t want to admit it.
Unconditional love is practically unhuman. Usually, even *dogs* will leave if the abuse or behavior gets bad enough.
They never do
Nuki Radio or if they're not entertained or given treats
Unconditional love is not possible in humans
Well yeah. I mean my conditions would be certain law breaks (ie they stupid) or if they’re broken physically or mentally.
I had the reverse version of this happen to me. My parents divorced when I was 15 (dad was an abusive alcoholic and we hated each other) and my dad decided to leave the country. He moved to the Philippines (a place he had never even been) and married a woman half his age. I spoke to him once in a while on Facebook the first couple years, but now he’s blocked me. He left my mother and I to live off of my mom’s disability income and we were forced into low income housing for a while. Luckily, we’ve regained our footing and we’re a lot more financially stable than we were, but my dad is a huge piece of shit.
I know it feels like it'll never get better, but it can. I promise. God bless you both.
Brievel Montague Thank you, I appreciate that.
My family disowned my great grandfather as he was a deadbeat drunk. The thing that finally cut ties was when he tried to burn down the house and chased down my great grandmother with an axe. My great great uncle stepped in and told him if he ever sees him again he’ll kill him. My great grandmother remarried and from what I hear my step great grandfather was an amazing man. He died a year before I was born.
Your great uncle is a hero
you sure this isn't the shining?
My brother took some of my belongings and ripped them apart with a kitchen knife, made one too many death threats, and made my mom a little too worried about what he'd do next. Oh, and he's a total narcissist and impossible to talk to.
holy shit-
That's awful, I wish you and your mom the best and I hope your bro can change for the better.( ◜‿◝ )♡
.........................................................................are you me? 👀
I had a friend whose parents disowned her older sister. Weird case of a "Golden Child" going bad. The family was upper middle class (parents in the medical field) and lived in a nice neighborhood. The girl did well until she got in her teens and then she just started causing all kinds of trouble. It all came to an end when she 1) assaulted her younger sister, who ended up going to the hospital and 2) got involved in two convenience store robberies with some friends. She was 17 by this time and was tried as an adult. She was in jail for quite a while and when she got out, no one would have anything to do with her. She just kept going in and out of jail, usually for violent crimes. This occurred in the 1980s and no one's heard from her for about 15 years now.
I only know "golden child" in terms with narcissistic abuse.
Challenged me to a fight for territory, technically didn't stop taking to him, he just can't speak anymore, or walk, or breath.
Ok Loch Ness monster ........
Yes! Show him dominance!
dANG
Imagine if someone disowned their kid and then did talk about it on Reddit. Now that would be sad
Indeed, unless they're kid was innately psychopathic.
Me: sees the title
Me: idk man, ask my mom
My husband’s father disowned his daughter. When she was in her 30’s she stole about 50 grand from his bank account. He was in the Army overseas and she took all the savings. They ended up losing their barber shop, house, and Mercedes. He was so hurt and mad he refused to talk to her and wouldn’t be around her.
I have it the other way around. I blocked my parents on everything and moved abroad as soon as I turned 18.
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I tried to make my relationship with my parents and brothers work, even after I've been abused for years. I've cut off contact with everyone since last year and my family is dead to me. I regret I didn't do it sooner. Hope you're thriving with your parents out of your life, Peter!
@@TheEmeraldLady thanks a lot :) I wish nothing less for yourself.
About the one with high functioning autism and bipolar. I say to all those families out there in that situation
It gets better. It may or may not but I speak from experience. I was that kid. After I turned 16 I saw what I was doing to those around me and decided to work towards being a pacifist. I have since succeeded and found someone who I love with all my heart and am planning to propose next year.
Grats for your efforts!
May you have the happiest marriage
I'm ASD and nothing makes my day like success stories from my peeps :) Congratulations!
I was a violent teenager too. Now I’m better and my family loves me. Don’t give up on your kids, let them grow up.
I had similar problems at a young age, (autism etc) but mainly because I was being physically bullied and abused in school by a teacher and other classmate. Teenage years were the worst, but I’m in a way better place. Depression, rebellion, suicidal threats etc almost got to the point of never getting better. Been 6 years on and it’s so much better. I socialise and meet with people I know at least once a month and currently have a huge crush on a girl I met through my social events. Planning on a date with her soon.
@@MarcusBlueWolf Teenage years sucks. Feels like there's something wrong with me whenever I transferred from one school to another. I realised that I had a bad case of social anxiety but my parents made it seems like I made that all up. It get to the point where I was committed to the ER after trying to bleed myself to death in the school bathroom that my parents are well aware about my situation. I still resented the fact that my parents didn't believed me and thinks I'm seeking attention to get off school.
i dont know why but this video got me crying and called my mom to tell her how much i loved her
I loved the quote in this video
“I’m not promising it will get better, but it can”
I don't know if anyone cares to hear my story but I kind of have a similar situation with my daughter. She actually disowned me in her early teens after years of her father carefully brainwashing her into thinking I'm a horrible mother/person. She's refused to speak to me for about 5 years. Its felt like decades though. I've tried in those 5 years to be in touch with her but it got to the point after a while that I gave up because she just refuses to talk to me except on two occasions when she wanted to rant to me about how horrible I am. I wasn't perfect, who is, but I tried hard to give her and her sister the best love and care possible. I put them first before everything and everyone including myself and they were in my every thought always. I think at this point after all the verbal abuse and her absence from my life I no longer know her in order to love her (she's an adult and so different) but I miss the younger her terribly and wish I could go back in time to try and change things.
How unfortunate that you've lost the mother-daughter bond you once had. Try to be at peace with yourself by accepting you've done everything in your power to have a loving relationship with her. Don't welcome her into your life anymore if the interactions are hurtful. But if she's okay with receiving simple nice gestures, send birthday/holiday greetings cards, flowers on Mothers' day and milestones, etc. Good luck mama!
Have you tried sending a letter? I did that with my boyfriend many times when we had a horible aegument. It works because it lets both parties really think about whag to say and get a chance to get heard. I dont know why i am telling you this, i just really felt to do so
@@latev9973 I've texted her in the past. I guess that's the same kind of thing. She never replied though.
If she doesn't want you in her life you must respect her wishes, I don't know the full story and won't pretend I do, but there's a chance you did something that really negatively affected her. I understand you probably feel sad about it, but it's just the way of things. If she reaches out, you can reciprocate, but for now just live your life.
I work with the public on a regular basis I grew up being emotionally abused a lot . For some reason this made me perfect at doing customer service at a retail store. Thanks for the training family. Once in a while a relative comes and either does it themselves or tries to get a friend to get me fired , but I'm always polite , and tell manager what is going on.
Why do they try to get yoi fired?
@@violanettling2117 control
“She refused because deadbeat is not invited”. Love is complicated wow
Imagine a kid watches this and doesn’t know their parents hates them and they found out like this..
We sensed it long time ago that our parents didn't love us. We just weren't able to admit it to ourselves and prefered to believe the gaslighting.
Parents that have disowned children.
LITERALLY THE FIRST POST: “I’m not a parent but...”
Someone I knew was in foster care but got adopted a few more months before he started showing behavioral issues. First, he picked multible fights with my younger brother (they were friends at the time and idk why but they're still friends). The he got into even more fights and I stopped seeing him for a while. My brother saw him at school but then one day he just disappeared. Recently a found out the he picked a fight with his adopted dad and was kicked out of the house. Now he lives in a relative's house a few cities away.
As someone who has been in foster care for over half my life(technically adopted by carer but still legallju related to my bio fam) thats really sad. If you adopt, you have to know that anything can happen.
We often have bad behaved kids come here and its fakes forever to get adopted. Just... Getting into care for godknows reason then getting adpted and then gettinh kicked out. Thats just sad.
@@dasimations5780 Really depends on the situation. No one should have to live with a monster, whether that is a monstrous parent or a monstrous child, foster or otherwise. People should take adoption as seriously as they would having their own child, and be braced for trouble if it happens, but there IS a limit to what people should be expected to deal with. Not saying the situation that OP is referring to warranted that, we don't know details, but just in general.
Growing up, I planned to disown my parents. Get a job and move away to a different country and never speak to them again. I grew up with crazy strict Asian parents. I used to get ptsd. But around the end of high school when I had my first panic attack, they suddenly changed. I’m 29 now, if my parents didn’t change, I would never have stayed in my home town.
And for people who thinks strict Asian parents are normal, tell me why did my mom shove a butcher knife to my throat for having a bad grade? Or how they’ll toss me around after I wet myself for being terrified of them.
Looking back, it really is a pure miracle that they changed 180°. They’re completely different people now
I'm strict, too. I demand at least an D in every subject in school.
16:22
My family is JW but my grandmother, bless her soul, was too king and gentle to do so to my mother! Even if my mother had my older brother young, my grandmother helped her and loved her immensely. Now I realize that not all JW families are as caring and accepting as the rest...
I mean to be JW you can’t be period. People are crazy cult.
My roommate has disowned all, but a few of her deceased mom’s side of her family (the few disowning the rest as well) for a lot of abuse, rape, and possible murders they got away with after her grandfather’s death *cough* *possible murder*. The family members she disowned are currently HARASSING her to be in contact with her even going so far as to get a lawyer to locate us when we changed numbers and she cut off Social Security number access (yes, you can do that if you don’t want to be found by abusers although you can only change it if you’re female and are in serious deadly danger from a violent partner or a few other rare deemed legally extreme circumstances) and we’re currently raising money to get a lawyer to file a harassment suit. Other relatives are also considering doing that too because they’re being harassed as well.
"she cut off Social Security number access (yes, you can do that if you don’t want to be found by abusers..."
Wow, that is fantastic! Glad your roomy was able to successfully combat that shit legally. I had no idea that, in such extreme cases, this was an option for anybo-
"...although you can only change it if you’re female..."
WHAT!?!?!? Are you fucking kidding me!?
Aaron Warren I’m not! When I looked up information to change your social security number, that’s what popped up. It’s so stupid!
I don't know what's worse, having a parent that blatantly doesn't care about you and tells you or having a parent that pretends to care about you and makes you think that maybe they'll change but they don't and you have to cut them out of your life.
The first one is better because at least you know where you stand.
The 14 year old child should not be given up on. My brother was the same, and my dad took responsibility and moved out of the family home with my brother, to keep everyone else safe and also keep him safe. He is okay now, and I am so grateful for my dad doing that.
Your dad is a Super Hero. That was exceptional.
The story at 11:22 really broke my heart. I can't imagine how hard it is for the parents and the son. I really hope they find a way to help him navigate life without hurting others and himself. Sad. Heartbreaking. Some parents are truly so strong.
I didn't know I had kids.....good thing I'm back to take care of them now.
Good guy Dio
Yeah but, giorno is a mafia boss now bro
You thought it was your dad but it was ME, DIO 😂🤣
Yeah, go take care of that brat, Giorno Giovanna
@@ismendonca93 How many deaths currently?
To anyone dealing with this, I wish you the world. Parents aren't all they're cracked up to be. Work hard, love those around you and you'll be fine. There are some nights I feel like a complete failure after I was thrown out, thats only a feeling though shit happens, nothings always Disney.
I believe in you, I hope you are doing better now
I disowned half of my family because my egg doner was a crazy narcissist who lost a custody battle with my dad, and refused to treat her children right. That whole half of the family knew and didn’t stop her.
My father disowned me. My sister and him treated me like shit when I asked to move back in with them (*in the process of going through a nasty divorce with my abusive, narcissist husband) I paid for my own things; I took my father to doctors' appointments; I chipped in for groceries; I did their laundry and food shopping. Shoveled snow and mowed lawns - and it was never enough. I then met my now husband two years later and he was an aviation mechanic and was going to move to NJ to start a life with me, from California. My now husband would hear how they would get violent with me and talk to me on the phone, and my husband thought it would be safer for me to move out west with him. When I told my sister and father this, they got even more violent and abusive and my father disowned me. My husband flew in to pick me up, and we drove across country with my yellow lab (*and I had what little stuff I had left after my divorce - because my ex husband got everything...) shipped out. My father said he never wanted to see me again because he accuse me of abandoning him, and then three months later when I had become pregnant, he practically kissed my ass and wanted me to move back and I told him not anytime soon. Keep in mind my father was abused by his dominant Italian mother, AND he had combat related PTSD as a Vietnam Vet. My sister (*who had never married nor had kids...) was like Kathy Bates from Misery and her and my father would violently fight all the time - to the point where I had to threaten to call the police on them, to get them to calm down. I miscarried and two weeks later my father died. I flew from California to NJ and when I arrived, my family snubbed me and prevented me from seeing the will, etc So instead of getting a lawyer and wasting money to see the will to see if I was screwed out of anything, etc. I just left to go back to California (*and we later moved to AZ...) because I realized after my father died, my family wanted nothing to do with me, and I haven't seen them in over three years...
I'm sorry for your loss. Miscarrying is hard.
I have DEEP respect for "pickmeacoolname" 9:23 - 10:17
I know there are plenty of bullshit and destructive examples of people claiming their actions are "Tough Love".... But especially in the current climate, Tough Love is becoming a direly misunderstood and underappreciated concept. That mother's actions are an excellent example of what real, compassionate tough love really is.
Glad to hear he got better
Honestly I don't get it. I don't get how people can change so much. It's got to be only like 1 in 1000 addicts that ever permanently recover, right?
I do too, not only for recovering but knowing he was in the wrong and was disowned for good reason. mad respect
The mom letting op fall and then back into her life after he got off drugs was really sweet
Yep. Some times people have to let their loved ones hit rock bottom before things can change. It's great that she left the door open for him.
My grandma disowned me when I told her what my dad did finally at 21. She was the only family member I told. After visiting I tried calling for weeks with no answer, til my mom got a letter telling everything and that she couldn’t handle it not wanting my mom or me in her life. Ironically I was one of the very few grandkids that ever saw her, and the only one who actually loved or helped her. It’s been 3 years. Still not sure if I’ll ever hear from her again. But she wasn’t a great human being so I’m okay with it now.
.. the last straw was when he burned our house down .. gulp, wow!
I had my daughter at 14 in a state of poverty and was so depressed and stressed out that resentment grew. I'm 23 now and shes 9 and I just reunited with her after 3 years and am doing my very best to show her I love her, even though I have to force myself. I dont know what the fuck is wrong with me or why I'm having such a hard time with this.
14 is a very young age to have and raise a child, you were a child yourself, still growing and developing, physically and mentally, throwing in being poor, stressed and depressed makes it worse!! was the father the same age as you ??
I’m so sorry you have and are going through that. You don’t mention if you’re having therapy, I’m assuming you’re American so perhaps you’re not.
Can I suggest something you’ve prob already thought of? “Fake it til you make it” is all fine, but don’t go overboard with false displays of love. Children have the best BS detectors and it might cause more hurt for her, or she might resent you. I think your case might be one of the few when it’s better, at least for a while, to be a friend rather than a parent. Or perhaps, be more like a sister.
But please don’t be so hard on yourself. You went through something horrific. And I partly include the birth in that statement. I’d guess nobody prepared you for what it would be like, and you had zero people to assist you, at the birth or when she was a baby.
You are still very young, and you’ve dealt with stuff that would hurt and confuse a forty year old.
A friend of mine had such a hard time birthing one of her sons she went into shock, and she really felt no bond with him for the first few days. But she had a loving husband, and caring hospital staff, which you didn’t. Even after she brought him home she struggled for a little while, but no they have a very close relationship.
I’m absolutely gobsmacked by your bravery and your willingness to try to change. With that, and your strength I’m sure you two will come through together. However don’t overly force yourself, don’t put more pressure on.
It’s a year after the post, so you’ll probably never see this, but it might help someone else sometime.
I’d have aborted. Fuck that.
Honey, please find a woman’s shelter. Tell them your story. They have social work who with women who were SA at a young age. If you had a baby at 14 there was a m. I never got pregnant but I was abused at 13. I know the effects that it has on you. I still deal with it at 71. Just know that you are not at fault. You were to young to protect yourself.
I disowned my mother and her family. She hoarded animals and blamed the filthy house on me. It was too much to ask one teenager to clean up after 35 cats by herself. It all boiled over when I tried to get help for a kitten and she told me not to take it to the vet. It'd be too embarrassing for her. I stuffed the kitten and my favorite cat into a backpack and bussed to my dad's job (complete opposite side of the city). Needless to say, he was more than surprised when I showed up with two sick cats. He took me to his house and then we went to an emergency vet to get the cats taken care of. My cat was too sick to save at it absolutely broke me to lose him. The kitten was going to be alright with strong antibiotics.
After my mom got home from work, she called my dad, worried that I wasn't home. He told her what happened and she lost her mind. She told me to bring the cats home or she'd never talk to me again. I just told her goodbye and hung up. I sent her an email a few weeks later that the door was still open if she wanted to talk.
That was 4 years ago. I've moved on. I don't think she ever loved me, so to say that she stopped loving me would be inaccurate.
I cried at this story 9:25 ;-; this shows that it's possible to make your family relationships better even in hard times even if you have to make sacrifices
I was disowned for stupid reasons. My mother is a straight up psycopath ans tried to stab my dad on many occasions. When he left, my dad disowned me when I was 5 because I was "my mother's child". When I was 11, I was up for foster care because I was "my father's child". Its fine. I'm better off. Only have minor separation issues. :D
Sureya The Mage fucking hell mate wishing you the best... you ok now?
You better now? That's rough.
@@stefanj3601 Oh yeah. Learned how to survive on my own and now I have my own place with a decent job. Could have been a lot worse!
@@Brievel Much better now honestly. My parents are out of my life and I can be happy.
Ive never seen someone so positive good for you!
I’m not a father but I was disowned by my dad because my dad was mentally and physically abusive. Because me and my sisters were young I would defend them and my mum from him. Support my mum when she was upset. Got mad and didn’t talk to him every time he gave me a black eye. Black and blue all over my body until I finally learnt to win. He used to say I steal money, but he would leave us with no power, electric, heating or anything for weeks. Scared my little sisters at night. Well basically my mum has moved out and my dad hates me, because everyone now knows what he did. So he’s mad they know about him fighting quite literally physical fights 4-5 nights a week! I hate him and don’t care that he disowned me. I’v changed my last name and now my sister would like the same! I asked every member of my mums family if I could inherit their name!
We might be the same person. Some dude same.
My dad was disowned because he said a swear word in front of his younger sister. Grandpa was a violent and abusive sob and he hated that my dad was trying to stand up for himself and argue himself out of beatings. They legally disowned him later, but that day my grandfather threw my dad outside in the snow without a coat. He told all the neighbors not to let my dad in their houses, and they obeyed for some reason. They were happy to watch a teenager freeze to death in the snow. I'd like to tell them all off too. My dad huddled by a chimney for warmth for hours. He only had a t-shirt on. Finally a neighbor let him use their phone to call his grandpa and kicked him right back out. His grandpa was in another state, but he drove hours to come get my dad.
My aunt has done at least 2 disownings. One involving her ex husband, and the other involving her eldest. Her ex was a creepy, rude, and terrible bastard. He'd feel up my mom, and, according to my older cousin, practice all sorts of weird demonic witchcraft and shit and force them to participate. My younger cousin is his and inherited his name and was rather young when his father left. I can't tell you the exact details of what happened but he just left. Since then he has never tried to contact his son, crossdresses, still does witchcraft, and is married to another man (found all that out last year).
The second time was when my aunt disowned my older cousin for a time because he always got in trouble with the cops and drank and did drugs. He was sent to live with his dad for a while, which only worsened things. But years pass and he returned a lot better, until it was discovered he had a drinking problem. Right now, he has his own place, actively hangs out with his younger half brother, gotten a new job and has mostly patched things up with my aunt. Which isn't too hard, my aunt is a loving person and loves her boys. My dad will get calls from both from time to time. He's essentially the father figure for my younger cousin, giving him advice and talking him up.
Don’t know what witchcrafts got to do with it.
@@magnarcreed3801 what?
Wouldn't say disowned, but I do know my mother stopped loving me, slowly as I stopped being academically successful, which was third grade. I'm 28 and managed to acquire a decent, relevant, and broad skillset with machines and make decent money (I essentially pay for the utilities and can afford a good amount of luxuries), but it doesn't matter because she can't brag to her friends I graduated with top honors from a popular university.
At this point, I'm just an asset. The only reason she can't outright disown me is because she never bothered to improve herself, so has to rely on me for a number of things to survive. If I leave, she's essentially losing her job in a year, and has to explain to everybody why I died in the streets (and gods forbid people talk about her. Its one of her greatest fears).
All in all, we stopped being family, and just kinda devolved into two people using each other for our own benefit.