Ep:94 THE PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND CARB ADDICTION - by Robert Cywes
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This is my doctor. It's only been for a short time but the amount of help I've received in that short time is pretty phenomenal. This is one of the only doctors I know of who is discussing the real issues of obesity. And it's not food. Thanks Dr. Cywes.
Mine too since mid May. Amazing.
Found him last week, wish I knew about him earlier, but everyone/everything appears at the right time. I am in awe of his knowledge and ability to explain. Listen to others as well eg Ken Berry, Paul Mason, Eric Berg plus more. Learning and understanding so much from Dr. Cywes.
It’s SO not food! Everything finally makes sense !
Dr. Gabor Matė explains the influence of childhood trauma on addiction development very well. Fits very well here.
Man the talk I saw with him was outstanding..
Dr Mate’s book “In the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts” is a fascinating- heart breaking - exploration of hardcore drug addiction and his experiences treating attics at Vancouver’s safe injection site. Our drug policy is as backward as official dietary guidelines.
Looove Mate
@@user-lk1qx7gb5o me too☺️
As a patient of Dr. Cywes, I can attest that he truly wants to heal me. Every time we have a consultation, he helps me chisel away at my wall. The addiction is real and is a daily fight. I am thankful that I have him as my doctor. I WILL GET BETTER!
U are getting better
I love this! As a RN going back to get my Masters Degree & become a certified Psych Mental Health Nurse Practitioner THIS is EXACTLY what I want to do with my degree. Work with food addictions etc. I AM one of them myself
❤️❤️all that you do Dr Cywes
You’re the “Brene Brown” of obesity/addiction. Listening and validating people’s stories and helping us sort it out.
I love this comment 😄
Im also a fat guy and been doing keto/carnivore for about two years lost 100 pounds from 320 to 220 im still considered obese at 6ft2 ,i have my days when i do go on a carb binge,at least once a month,i used to be once a week ,i have a day a month,i used to beat myself up before and continue the addiction,but now i just tell myself its only one day and i can pick up where i left off. The carb addiction is real.
6-2, 220# is definitely not obese. Great job! Don't beat yourself up. We all splurge now 'n then. Continued good luck and success!
Just above middle of overweight. That's a great achievement to be happy and proud of I think.
Crispy Win
Nope. He said “fat guy...just as screwed up in the head...”
I used to be skinny and have always wondered why, after quitting smoking, I was unable to interact with a carb without binging. When my weight started to climb, 'portion' control and calorie counting were useless. I would rather starve a day and the next day eat nothing but chips. Understanding that it is an addiction changed me. I can't have just one cigarette, or a little piece of carb, without a relapse that may last for months. For me, the consequences are like saying, "Well I can drive drunk tonight but be sober for the next month." No, I can't. So I kind of envy you, that you can be back on track without much fuss, but I do accept that, for me, once my BG is out of control, the hypo kicks in, and I am on a carb madness roller-coaster. I have come to love the carnivore way, with occasional vegetables. Seeing carbs as nonfood made a big difference for me. I can walk in a bakery, enjoy the smells, take delight in how pastries look and have no more desire to eat them than I would try to swallow a toy firetruck.
After two years , I'm afraid to ask but, how's it going?
I am a very strong core person until I get around others because my family have always seen me as less. At the base of who I am, I know I'm worthy. But my family, to this day do not support anything I do; they wait for my failures. I am best by myself and I enjoy doing things out of my authenticity.
Thank you for this "best video ever" because it supports why I've left my family behind me . . . I had to. It's ultimately unhealthy to hang around people who see you as a failure; no matter what you do.
Right On
Forget ignorant doug
I know actually what you are saying and have done......NO CONTACT with those that have and will continue try to HURT you.
Its NOT love
Wright on, good for you for recognizing toxic behavior and putting up healthy boundaries. That's very hard to do.
Doug: I get the notion from your comments that you KNOW FIRST HAND the rejection of someone familial that you have judged & mistreated.
"If it is detrimental to you emotionally, physically and spiritually . . . what choice do you have left but to let go and flourish with self-respect." ~ Dodinksy
doug You say that every mother and father loves their child.... IF ONLY... but that is not true I’m very sad to say - ask anyone who has worked a good 10 - 20 years in essential services; doctors, nurses, police officers, paramedics, psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers - they’ve seen for themselves through many encounters that a LOT of parents DO NOT LOVE their beautiful, precious and innocent children. You too have judged and condemned ‘Wright On’ just as you are accusing him/her of judging and condemning...
WrightOn, you are so correct! While we can forgive those who hurt us, it doesn't mean we need to continue to stay in relationship with them. Not every father loves their child in this sin sick world! There are fathers who continually abuse emotionally and physically, we forgive them and remove ourselves from that situation. If God gets a hold of my father and I see a genuine desire for change, then I am more than willing to engage, until then, there's really no hope for any kind of healthy relationship. I love from a distance but have given him over to God. The healthiest thing to do sometimes is to release toxic people. Blood does not always make a "family. " Friends become family!! Thanks for sharing your story!!
Knowing ourselves and our mental health and personal body is 1 of the most important steps in getting healthy.
"Be your own emotional support system!"....why has it taken me almost 50 yrs to learn this???? Another wonderful video as usual! Keep them coming!!
How can do it ?
Hello. None of this is new...it's justly rehashed information that has been buried in the literature...from old world realizations...dental practitioners, etc.
Money...."leads the marketing". Wanna die early? Keep eating massive starches and sugars.
Bugger. You’ve seen through me. Well done.
Hearing a thoughtful person muse aloud for a while following years of introspection and owning up to their own weaknesses is pretty edifying. That was a good video, Doc.
I am number seven of twelve kids, and even as a child I struggled to connect with my parents and with my siblings, to let anyone in. A lot happened to get me to that point, and it wasn’t until I was in my mid-twenties, when a second brother died, that I started working on real changes to my emotional health. I am a warm fuzzy, and yes, I still have a lot of work to do. I hold onto hope that before the end of my life I’ll be both physically and emotionally healthy.
My husband is like your wife, Dr. Cywes, - he has a hard core, and a warm fuzzy outside. He is the most genuinely happy person that I know, and I am so thankful to have him by my side.
As always, thank you so much for your wonderful insight!!! We appreciate you!! 🙂
So...as I strengthen my core of self esteem and self confidence, I won't need to reach for the crystal meth of carbs to feed the façade that hides what I perceive as lack. I can identify strongly with that...thank you very much, Dr. Cywes!
So how do I strengthen my core of self esteem? Where do I start with all of this in your opinion?
I am a Psychotherapist working with former addicts. Huge food issues. I love and agree with all you said. Thank you for doing this!
Nice to hear you speak highly of your spouse
I need to hit “like” x 10000000000000. Brilliantly intuitive but 100% accurate.
I want him to write a book now!
Yes please write a book
The three faces everyone has, who they really are, how they want people to see them, how people actually see them.
You have done the work, sir! This is trauma and addiction psychology in 15 minutes! Brilliant!
I very much enjoy listening and hearing how you approach your work and patients. I am a psychotherapist, and I’m also a carb addict. I lost 100lbs between 7/2020 and 7/2021. I’ve gained 55 back. I’m human. I’m struggling.
How are you doing now? You’ve done it before you can do it again
At 70, I'm learning more about myself and about my relationship with food, both psychological and physiological. Great information here.
By the time we are on our death beds we should have figured everything out :)
Brilliant. Connect. You cannot treat one separate thing, people are complex. Best practitioners at everything tend to become wholistic, as you get good at something and then you notice there is another layer there... And another... Congrats on the video👍👏
When you mentioned that bit about The Wall I felt that. It was my favorite album, and favorite movie as a teenager, because it just resonated with me so much. I felt I had to protect my weak inner heart with a hard personality. Things in my life reaffirmed this position, especially trying to navigate the unforgiving world as a highly sensitive person. Im learning and growing now with the help of my daughter, she is my greatest teacher 🥰.
Roger Waters
Thank you! Dr. Cywes Being Morbidly Obese for 30yrs this my 4th time watching Video, You gave me the courage So I called a Counseling Center focused on eating disorders. 1st session tomorrow morning. Thank you for being Raw open truthful..
I just can’t like this enough!!!
This video was just wow! Food and psychology, at the surface, seemed like two totally different subjects but it's all related!
What an amazing man you are Dr Cywes. I am a nurse in NY. I think I am a mushy/warm fuzzy if that is possible. I am watching all your videos and trying to work on myself, thanks for all you do. One of these days I know I will set up a consult. I am just so damaged physically, weight diabetes, sjogrens, asthma, a-fib, anxiety and of course my carb addiction. I often wonder if I will ever get my health back. I hope you never stop teaching us. I drink my morning coffee watching you and sometime Dr Ken Berry. I hope your day is lovely, Thanks again
Hoping you are still working towards your goals!! Inspirational!
I’ve seen this in myself. As I have worked on my self esteem through self acceptance and esteemable acts and goals, my urges to binge eat or punish myself through food have changed dramatically.
How old are you and how did you do that?
Antonia Di Spalato I’m 34. I started getting really honest and serious with my self and my emotional care about 2 years ago. In addition to therapy, I’ve taken on hobbies such as quilting, I’ve gotten back into gardening and orchid growing, I write stories/poems on a regular basis, I’ve put up boundaries at work with my time because before, I would just throw myself harder into work to cope. Since this spring, I’ve started working on learning floral arranging and getting outside to learn how to identify and find quartz pockets in my area. Creating multiple sources of pride and accomplishments for myself has helped me give myself grace. I am not a failure because one thing in my life isn’t perfect. Learning that being imperfect, persisting despite of, and that I can have pride and happiness in things outside of my academic and career accomplishments has helped me become more grateful and kind to myself. You are meant to be the altar not the sacrifice. The first step is showing up for self. Pay homage to your spirit. Talk to your inner child. I nurture the 9 year old Dionne. I talk to her, I take her on play dates. When I’m feeling low and want to slide into negative self talk, I say, would you say this to your 9 year old self? I’ve always had a negative relationship with food. It’s finally changing.
@@dionnelatham4401 Thank you so much for this long answer 💜. Wish you all the Best on your way. I am 53 and still don t know who the core of me is professionally
Antonia Di Spalato Never too late to find out friend! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Dr C for seeing through to the heart of people. I feel grateful to be able to listen to you!🙏🏼❤️
You are right... this IS your best video yet!! You're SPOT ON in your profiling. Man do I wish the doctors in this country would look at their patients this way 🙏❤
Hardcore for sure. Perfect descriptions. The philosopher in you is coming out as you use your own and your work history, to innovate the future for both you and your patients. Well done!
I'm so grateful I found you on TH-cam. You have a way of making things so simple to understand. I've only admitted to myself that I'm an addict ressently as what you spoke of on the Low Carb MD podcast woke me up. Thanks doc. 🤗
What about bread?
I love it when you talk about the physiology of fat loss and I find that fascinating, but these forays into the psychology of it all is mind blowing.
Im 69, im excited about losing weght on mostly carnivore but more excited about the pain in my feet and knees going away. I love plein air painting, being by myself , almost completely quit alcohol and having a new outlook about my choices on what i choose to do with my time.
Thank you so much Dr. Cywes! This helped me a lot. 🙏
I think I have all three of those facades. I don't want people to get to know the "real me" because then they would see what a horrible person I am. This has been the most insightful video I have seen about addiction. Thank you.
Is it like Tom Bilyeu says: "Its about how you think aboit yourself, when you are by yourself" if i understood correctly?
I love your lucid mind...your incredible wife is truly bonified by your presence...existence. The most love to your young intelligent family.
Awesome words Doc! As soon as you started I was like, yup... that’s me! Shared this with my brother and sister who are also hard-core. 😉 Thank you for all you do!
This is incredibly valuable, Dr. Cywes. Thank you!!! I'm trying to help my family members overcome addiction, and know my approach has been wrong for years. What you've taught us just now reminds me of the CIA's stairway model for behaviour change, which is rooted in empathy and even a stage of unconditional acceptance (source: Never Split the Difference, a brilliant book on negotiation and building human connection by ex-FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss). Compassion is needed, and the façade needs to shift away from our main point of focus. Again, thank you!
I think you should do an interview with Joan Ifland. Shes an expert on the food addiction. Her explanation of how corporations did this to humans is mind blowing.
It makes such sense.
Yes you have made me think.
A new thought is a precious jewel.
Thank you
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Ur videos are very informative and inspiring not only in terms of the way of eating but the way of life! Thx for ur efforts! Very well structured videos. So lucky to found out at the age of 19 😌
the concept of bridge is just what I need.
I’ve been finding myself a bit more assertive lately. It’s even surprised me.
I understand how important the psychological aspect is so this is a great channel for me.
I have picked up a lot of validation here as well as some insight. I am 100% confident in my ability to get back to being fit. I am healthy and almost never get sick and never go to a doctor even though I'm over 70.
I haven't used my medicare card once since I got it and I'd like to keep it that was as long as I can. When I drop 60 more pounds, I can go about my day without carrying a bag of concrete with me everywhere. That is not a goal. It is just my ideal weight I will not falter this time because I am preparing myself with the tools to cope with any setbacks or plateaus that I know are up coming.
Thanks for the info and thanks for letting me share
This fits in very well with the psychology behind love addiction as well. the hard people often bond with the soft people and create a very unloving, addictive and abusive environment. everything stems from childhood. everything. it's so important to own our past and work through it if we want healthy, lasting relationships in our lives-- with people AND food. doesn't matter.
we must earn our confidence daily through positive actions. fantastic video.
Love this! Thank you!
Wow is this eye opening. I know one person with a strong core. Super strong. Now I understand why he seems so at ease and doesn’t care what people think of him or say.
Nailed it for me!! Wow! Thank you!
This is so true Doc! Thank you for this video
Excellent. Thank you.
👍Tips on How to Stop Carb Cravings
Keep eating.
Stick with a plan.
Watch out for sneaky carbs.
Have a drink.
Don't forget fat.
Distract yourself.
Watch your stress.
And get some good support, from a group, a therapist, or whatever. Addiction is nearly impossible to manage alone.
Thank you so much!!❤❤
Thank You. Your teachings are priceless.
Yes, the best of your great talks!
You have done your job, thank you! 💞
I agree, I think this is the best video you've done so far. I'm very much looking forward to future videos on raising children with strong cores. Thank you for the work your do and for sharing it here.
Thank you for your personal study and insights into our inner workings---so you can help.
Fascinating - thank you for that insight!
You really did make me think Doctor. Thank you.
All your videos are the best !!!!!!!!
Thank you so much
Powerful, thought provoking words! 👌🏼👍🏻💫
That is extremely insightful!
Love you Doctor.
Excellent !! Congrats!!
Finally, a doctor that understands it's got nothing to do with food. Food is merely the symptom of deep core issues. With all due respect Doc, this information is written everywhere for people who have been working on their core issues. Pick up any psycho-spiritual food related material : Maryann Williamson's "A Course In Weight Loss" a spiritual approach to food disorders or Geneene Roth's " When Food Is Love" excellent reads.
❤️your videos always. Thank you!
Brilliant. This is absolutely your best video and a topic that too often is overlooked in weight loss management.
Wow, what insights! Thank you. Please keep sharing.
Very valuable! Thank you.
Brilliant!
You Are Amazing...You explain everything so well.
Excellent points...you have made me think..about myself and the patients I see..
Love this!
Every word resonated. I'm a mushy. But I am becoming more self indulgent so my healthy wall is forming. Thanks Doc.
This is really a mind opening video Dr. Cywes!!! Thank you very much
Thank you. Finding my true self was difficult and still not sure why.
Nailed it again! Such a great video. So blessed to have you for my doctor. Life saving , life changing information.
This is a wonderful video. I always learn from you. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this. After years of studying trauma, this actually ties everything together in a new way for me. I appreciate this so much.
Thanks for the insight.
I sincerely enjoyed this video Dr Cywes... you seriously made me think!
Great ! You’re the best! Thank you:
OMG. You have me pegged.
Psychology and Diet, that is what i love!!! Sooooo interesting, thx a lot!
Thank you SO much for getting to the core of the issue. This was quite insightful. A great way to start another day... FOCUSED!
"Core level versus Façade level"....brilliance. I'm listening. Merci from France.
It is more important to know what sort of a person has a disease than to know what sort of a disease a person has.
Hippocrates-Father of Healing.
Great insight doc...keep up the great work!
Invaluable information and another favorite video from the Doctor to add to my growing list (which I will be revisiting daily on my journey to health and happiness). Thanks so much!
Absolutely true! I need to schedule a televisit with you.
I am all these people in different situations. I have not looked after me, so I am damaged. I have become over time obese. Since finding Dr Cywes, I have come to the conclusion that his views may be my break through and help heal the inner, so my outer can be transformed.
Thanks for the food for thought Dr. C!
Love your intelligent insight!
I feel exactly what you are saying.
Really helpful concept that even with a positive chikdhood your core self can be "eroded" by events or experience or media inputs - an aha moment that brings new awareness - like being explained to that tarnished brass can be polished up to bright again - wow 3 decades of ads implying we are not good enough 👀 - thank you
Thank you very very much I feel is though you were looking directly into my being
Interesting perspective and a simple breakdown on such a complex topic! As an artist/educator I see a connection to your ideas in trying to help people access and to expand their creativity. Accessing the authentic self is always the goal. It can be challenging to move people past their defenses. Recently, in addition to learning on my keto/carnivore journey, I've been doing a deep dive into psychology too. Therapist Marissa Peer (on YT) talks alot about "I am good enough", which seems to be what people often grapple with in terms of mental health and is perhaps what Dr Cywes is referring to as it relates to self esteem. That, and the concept of having appropriate boundaries. Another therapist here on YT, Jerry Wise, has great content with a family systems approach to all of this. If you want to learn about narcissism, Dr. Ramani is great. Imho, psychology needs to be taught more rigorously in curriculums from middle school thru university. Parents would benefit(and so would society),from taking courses on child development. If you come from a dysfunctional family, which is many/most of us, where else do you learn about this? Individual therapy helps, but maybe a world of pain could be avoided with a more comprehensive approach. And, there would be less addiction and other problems.
Thanks. Makes sense
Uncommon sense 😊
This is wonderfully insightful! It explains a great deal about me.