@Pine Trees Not necessarily, you never know what life has in store for you, he may outlive her for all you know. Nothing is certain in life and this is the perfect example of it, you just live in the here and now, because that's all you can ever know of.
"I don't care if I'm right, I care if we're successful." thats...maturity in a nutshell. Taking the ego out and working as a team!! I LOVE YOUR LOVE!!!
Finallyyyyyy A NON- TOXIC TH-cam COUPLE!!!! It’s so important to see mature, calm, healthy relationships and Marriages In media. Today’s society is driven by drama and views and shock value. It’s so refreshing to see a ‘boring’ healthy relationship like this🙂
I'd rather be in a "boring" relationship than a toxic one. Also what's really "boring"? Society might say this is boring but they don't look bored to me. It looks like 2 people who enjoy each others company and I'm sure they have fun.
My parents are 20 years apart. The best part of being the child of an older parent is that my dad had more experience in life and in return was more wise. The hard part came later in life in my 20s when I realized that my dad is now in his mid 80s. I used to feel cheated of time with my dad but now I realize that the time I had/still have with my dad is priceless. He has been such an incredible life coach. The conversations I’ve had with my dad are so memorable because of the life experience he has had to back up his logic. Wish you both the best!
When asked what they want to instill in their kids, he said fearlessness and she said kindness. And my soft ass cried, what a beautiful combination. This is what partnership is about
Now that's, ladies and gents, the perfect example of clear, healthy, and compassionate communication. Bravo. That is what me and my partner established from the start as well and it is the way to go!
My dad was also 17 years older than my mom (he just passed ) the love between them is unreal. Their relationship with the ups and downs was still the most beautiful relationship I have ever seen. They never stopped being boyfriend and girlfriend they never stopped holding hands or dedicating each other songs. They way they looked at each other is something I want for myself I want that kind of love. And that’s the kind of love you guys have so rare to find. God bless you and your beautiful family❤️
16-year age gap with my fiancé and this was one of the most informative and comforting videos I’ve seen. It puts all of our feelings into words and I’m just very thankful I found this! 🙏🏼
Gary is very mature and solid. He always sounds like someone that will speak his truth, not only in his personal relationship but all of his encounters. You both are confident in who and what you are while always aiming to grow as people. I think that’s fantastic, and I love the way you guys trust, respect, hear, and love each other!
I love the way you are raising your kids by not denying them to try things just because they are Young or its dangerous, but you letting them use their reasoning to decide by themselves.
I love the fact that Gary is such a wise man and grounding Valeria. And Valeria is such a high-spirited woman and also encourages Gary to be the best version of himself. In short, they’re perfect for each other and I’m crying. 😭❤️ Such a great couple!!!!
I love how Gary said that his roles define him because I’ve started to find beauty in the roles that define me, being a daughter, a Christian, a girlfriend, a reader, an entrepreneur, etc.
i think age gap relationships work out really well when the older individual acts younger than their age, more childish in nature perhaps and the younger one acts wiser or more mature. usually when isee age gap relationships its that way or their both just really mature individuals and thats great too.
My husband and I are 12 years apart. He’s 37 I’m 25. We argue take space and come back to fix the problem. Because constantly going on with the argument doesn’t help so we take a break just step into each other shoes to see each point and just try to fix it or end the argument. We have a child there’s no leaving or breaking up. We work hard for our life and marriage. So we’ll always try to fix it.
My parents are 18 years apart and in their 64-46 ages and my dad looks and acts younger than my mom sometimes tbh. You guys remind me so much of them as a younger version! My mom had me at 21 and honestly they are still a very strong couple! Love your Vlog!
Watching this after having a rough patch with my partner. Valeria and Gary put everything into perspective so well. It also really helps when your partner is as calm and wise as Gary...
Listening and looking at the both of you make me think that you don't have that 18 year gap. You just ride the same wave. You both are trully a match made in heaven.
I’m 31 and my husband is 23 yrs older than me. Some people judge us and look at us funny sometimes especially I look way younger than my age too(mistaken for 20) but they don’t know our story and we are happily married. We also don’t fight, not because we have no downs but because we are both mature and know better than to argue over things we can amicably talk about.
5:45 I tooootally agree! Whoever is confident and mature like you are knows how to act in relationships and doesn't exclusively get driven by emotions which alot of the times maybe be self destructive and manipulative👏🏻🙏🏻
Gary sounds so wise and grounded. You two bounce off each other and you just want the best for each other. I have something similar with my husband (17 years together) but we do argue a little bit lol. I still get butterflies in my stomach when I see my husband after work. This was lovely type of video
You guys are both so eloquent! You mirror each other, are both operating and thinking in the same frequency, maintain eye contact and other nonverbal communications etc. The amount of effort and time you put into your relationship is really evident. I am 20 years old and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I don’t intend to be with someone else and that’s after meeting a lot of people and spending time apart. Right now our main challenge is how to argue better. I know both of us want to fix our issues in a calm manner, but we didn’t know where to begin. The things you said in this video have been so helpful and I am looking forward to incorporating these things so we have a more successful relationship. :) Take care
I never thought about thinking what you do in the life as "roles" rather than who you are. Valeria, this is so wise! I wish lots of happiness to you and your family!!
Age doesn't matter when there is love and understanding . My husband was 20 years older than me . We were very happy. We been together for 35 years. But death separated us. He passed away 2019.
Im in a 17 year relationship. We met only 11 months ago on an app meant for people to rant or get secrets off their chest anonymously. I asked a local how to teach me how to drive. Our friendship grew slowly but surely. Our love grew rapidly and passionately. I am so happy to be with him. We live together, I couldn't be happier or more greatful. He has helped me so much. Spoiled me, loved me, laughed with me, he cares so much for me, and I care about him too.
Guys I completely understand you. With my boyfriend, we are also not fighting. We may have a discussion in a serious way and we are not agreeing with something. And as you say, the importance of honesty, in the beginning, means a lot. And we make sure that every day we show to each other a lot of love and respect, we support each other. Even if someone of us had a bad day, we are not stressing this on the other. We just remember that our relationship is the most important thing and that outside life should not affect us in any way. So we make a priority and we are constantly and subconsciously working for the better. Of course, we both are really stable and happy with ourselves in the first place. And for me, this is the relationship I never believed that it is possible to have, and now I have it and feel blessed that I met my boyfriend and can spend each day in so special way. This is perfection for me. And I am so happy to saw this video!
Dear Valeria! I have been a fan since 2016 and am beyond happy you're including more relationship topics! Can't wait for more! Also beyond excited for the self care/self love or holistic nutrition videos🥰🧡
I’ve started a relationship not that long ago that has a 19 year old age gap. I was never too fixated or worried about it at all, because we are so happy together it never really crosses my mind. But sometimes people around you worry out of love, and that can be discouraging at times. I’ve been following you for awhile now, but now I have another reason to watch your videos and it is that you are the first age gap couple that i feel I can relate to just because of your story and how chill you are with each other. Honestly, I feel like this woman could be the woman I spend the rest of my life with, and even though I’m 21, far from scaring me... it has never felt more right and at home. We are taking it step by step, doing what it feels right. I’m just thankful for these kinds of videos because it makes me feel like it’s actually possible to make it work and be happy together.
I just got engaged to my amazing fiancé who is 15 years older than me! I love seeing other successful age gap couples. Age is seriously just a number!!! So much love ❤️🥰
I love seeing another couple with a big age gap. You guys are so sweet together. My boyfriend is 31 years older than me and yet I’m a very mature and we understand each other very well and get along. People often criticise us or they think he’s my father or they make comments about me having “daddy issues” which is a completely untrue, stupid stereotype placed on women that are dating older men.
I’ve never really liked huge age gap marriages or relationships because I always think ages make people think too differently to workout a successful relationship/marriage but to see y’all talk in a different perspective I see it won’t be bad if both partners try to meet halfway! Also Valerie you’re glowing ✨
25 years between me and my boyfriend. I’m 23, he’s 48. We don’t fight or argue. We’re very supportive of one another and push each other to reach new goals. We’ve been together 2 1/2 and couldn’t be happier
It’s nice to see other happy healthy couples with an age gap. Me and my partner have a 20 year age gap and it tends to come with a lot of judgment and assumptions, bit it’s also taught me not to care what other people think and trust my own judgment and what feels right for me.
I really love how to managing things so good in general! You and Gary is a nice couple, your kids are so adorable, your mindset in everything. love ya ❤️✨
This was amazing. I love the insight you two bring in every single video. I need to become more like Valeria in terms of not giving up. I don’t give up on my relationship and on myself, but I have a tendency to give up or severely doubt my capabilities professionally which doesn’t have to be this way. Not giving up is such a wonderful quality and I love that Gary brought it up so honestly. Thank you.❤️
@@andrea2634i yeah. That means you chose the wrong partner maybe. No matter the age. the personality and values that matters. Why would you stay with a person whom you complain their personality about.
The way Gary talks about how he “aggressively pursued” you in such a proud manner when you were just 19 and he was in his late 30s isn’t the most comfortable thing to hear... 🥴 I’m glad you are happy in your relationship but I don’t think this is something that he should be proudly promoting! It would be nice to hear him reflect on this and maybe acknowledge the unequal power dynamic there a bit more.
@@miguelcardenas6825 a switch doesn’t go off once you turn 18 in terms of emotional maturity, brain development and life experiences. The day you turn 18, you are an adult in the eyes of the law... but you are still a teenager whose brain hasn’t fully developed. In every other sense, you’re still a kid. I don’t know her or them... her life experiences may have made her emotional maturity more advanced than most girls her age and it works for them. And clearly it ended up working out, which is great for them. But in general, it’s a red flag when a man in his 30s is pursuing a teenager
@@theluckienurse But it’s the law. Nobody ever said it was moral. It’s corrupt and there should be a change surrounding those laws. Because it’s so fair that a 19 year old could go to prison for being with a 17 year old but a 30+ year old can be with an 18 year old (Where I live).
@@ohshenatural9307 that’s true, but a 50 year old with the emotional maturity of a 16 year old is another red flag lol they do exist though (too many of them IMO....)
You guys both are probably the most mature people that I know. You know what you want and that's what makes you awesome individuals and a great couple. No matter what comes you always stick with each other instead of giving up and getting into fights👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
My husband & I also don't fight (& I'm so thankful for that) but it really irritates me when people ask if we fight and argue & I always answer no. It's as if it's something that EVERYBODY does, but no, I'm just so grateful that my husband & I communicate and just tell each other exactly what's on our mind & there's no need to argue or fight
I think you two are very intelligent people, you both seem to have similar values and attitudes towards things. But most importantly you each have your own confidence, you are not competing with one another. And you are both well mannered and show respect for yourselves and each other. Inner value I think is the basis of any successful relationship.x 😊
I really like how mature you guys are together as a team. You really seem like you are each other's "rock". As much as I enjoy being independent and single I hope I will meet my own match some day🎈
Firstly, I love your top!! I’ve been looking for one like it. Secondly I am 22 and have been following you since I was 17. It has been amazing having someone I watch on TH-cam & follow also grow and change as I grow and change. I’ve outgrown many influencers but find that we share the same core values. I love seeing your healthy relationship and your self discovery as a mom and individual. Thanks for much for all your content. xoxo
This is so nice to see, I've had a crush on an older guy fir a while now and I'm not necessarily attracted to older guys but this one is special and it's hard to really explain that to people without them thinking it's weird. I don't think age gaps are weird, age is such a small detail, it doesn't change who you are on the inside and that's what I'm attracted to
I'm 25 and my bf is 37. My parents are 8 years older than him. Knowing all this really scares me and I haven't talked formally about him to my parents. I really need some advice please.
Wow, you both look so compatible. Your thoughts are so mature, I wish my dad was like your partner. Growing up in a toxic family surely does affect our lives, but I'm happy that bright ppl like you do exist.
29yr age difference and we're in our 7th year. The only thing the age difference does is we both have a lot of cool stuff to share with the other from each of our generations.
I think my favourite part in this (which surprised me tbh), wasn't the part where Gary and Valeria mentioned the way they handle disagreements and the difference in pace because of their age difference, but actually was the part about the waterfall. So many people don't think about WHY they're really telling their children no in situations like that and especially don't seem to think about what it might teach their kids and how that might carry through into the rest of that child's life. I really learned a lot from watching this about how I want to handle things in my own life. I don't have children and I'm single at the moment but I know that being able to see/have role models for the traits you want to embody in life, the behaviours, learning styles and coping strategies, make it easier to put together an image of your future self with them already in play. It's easier to work towards manifesting those traits and behaviours within yourself and hold yourself to those values when you have the image of yourself with what that sounds, feels and looks like to you, in your head to hold you accountable. The more you can do so, the more you fall into what you're aiming to learn or cultivate with yourself and every aspect of your life. Thanks Valeria and Gary, I feel very lucky to have come across this channel all that time ago and to have been able to learn so much about the kind of woman I want to see myself becoming. I'm 26 right now but I feel no shame in saying that I'd like to be as capable and remarkable as the both of you as I grow up (although I hope that didn't sound cheesy XD).
Same thing for us. My partner is 10 years older than me and he's really concern about it. Kinda insecure about it. I just told him that I am aware about the age gap when we started our relationship, and told him that the only thing he can do is start to live healthy.
Well scientific research said that marriages with smaller age difference last longer .. but as I married at 20 to 33 year old man I can totally say that money, respect, responsibility bring a lot of stability to life
My husband and I also have this dynamic where I'm constantly evolving and hes like this anchor who is certain and sure of himself and of me. I felt that hes like the sun, always shining, and I'm like the moon that waxes and wanes every month
He has said many times that he switched his lifestyle! He's always exercises and eats healthy so he can be strong and healthy and don't feel like he's missing out due to his age difference!
The way you guys handle your relationship is so much like how my boyfriend has taught me to handle ours. I was such a fighter, now I'm simply discussing matters with him instead of losing composure over things. I was nodding my head super fast when Gary said it's not about being right, dont bring in your ego. 😋
My mind explodes, when I see q & a of different successful couples, and I realize that we do similar things and I say wtf there are couples that are on the other side of the world being successful in the same way as me. And something that I notice a lot is that all these successful couples including mine, what we have in common is the empathy we have and the discipline to reach agreements wow & cheers for that 🥂 🤯💕
This was such a great Q&A! The answers were so mature and insightful. Things you and Gary said could be applied to lots of relationships and situations. You guys definitely gave us some food for thought. Thank you!
i have an age gap of 12 years with my boyfriend, and we are very similar to you guys! I know there's a lot more than what you show us, but in the fighting and thoughts about the future I think that's key in a relationship like ours, really centered and mature people, and the love for each other of course
I think it's really wonderful seeing a lot more age gap relationships and people showing that they can and do work. It's very frustrating when the age is all people can see. I used to get a lot of flack because my boyfriend is 11 years older but he is honestly the greatest person I know and we're celebrating our 5 year anniversary this weekend! 💖. I think when it comes to relationships where there is an age gap people always assume there's some kind of Insidious reason behind it. I had a cousin asking "but...why?" When we first started going out. I felt like saying well why are you going out with your partner? We met, we happened to like each other and then we went out. Like everybody else. I just find it very hypocritical that we live in a society that constantly preaches 'Love is Love' but apparently that doesn't expand to two adults who just happen to be different ages. I guess it's the one "taboo" we still need to get over because honestly it isn't a bid deal and it makes me so happy seeing comments from other people in similar relationships and just spreading that love 💖💙
Not everyone is cut out to handle a large age gap relationship. But I believe the ones who can handle it are also mature enough to work through things like disagreements and other things that come with being in a relationship in general. If the two are serious about each other they can make it work and because they know they are mostly likely coming from different “worlds” so to speak they know they may need to put even more work into their relationship from the very beginning. Which is why they can be some of the best and strongest of couples because they understand what they want and know they are willing to pull through the tough times together.
Both of you guys are so inspiring, and your relationship is beautiful. I aspire to have this sort of maturity and connection with someone in the future. I would love to see more videos on this, on how to have a more stable relationship, feel like we could all learn a lot from you guys. Sending love and blessings xx
"I would rather have less time with Valeria, than more time with someone else." I am crying this is love!
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@@whydn5559 wtf?!
@@whydn5559 Some men mean those words that they say so easily.
@Pine Trees Not necessarily, you never know what life has in store for you, he may outlive her for all you know. Nothing is certain in life and this is the perfect example of it, you just live in the here and now, because that's all you can ever know of.
@@whydn5559 do you really think you know this man and his intentions better than his wife and mother of his children?
"I don't care if I'm right, I care if we're successful." thats...maturity in a nutshell. Taking the ego out and working as a team!! I LOVE YOUR LOVE!!!
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@@ValeriaLipovetsky hi slave of an old man
@@krasuuuee He's not old. He is "Older". And guess what? Someday, you'll be old, too. You can't escape it.
@@ValeriaLipovetskymy wife and i have a 15 year age gap 😊
Finallyyyyyy A NON- TOXIC TH-cam COUPLE!!!! It’s so important to see mature, calm, healthy relationships and Marriages In media. Today’s society is driven by drama and views and shock value. It’s so refreshing to see a ‘boring’ healthy relationship like this🙂
agreed🙌🏻 sending lots of love to you Chelsea!
I'd rather be in a "boring" relationship than a toxic one. Also what's really "boring"? Society might say this is boring but they don't look bored to me. It looks like 2 people who enjoy each others company and I'm sure they have fun.
I like these guys too honestly, but if you're interested in non-toxic couples check out josh and is😊✨
My parents are 20 years apart. The best part of being the child of an older parent is that my dad had more experience in life and in return was more wise. The hard part came later in life in my 20s when I realized that my dad is now in his mid 80s. I used to feel cheated of time with my dad but now I realize that the time I had/still have with my dad is priceless. He has been such an incredible life coach. The conversations I’ve had with my dad are so memorable because of the life experience he has had to back up his logic. Wish you both the best!
thank you so much for sharing this with me❤️ sending love!
Same here my parents have 21 years age difference ❤️
What about a 38 year are gap?
Me and my husband 20 years differente . And we are happy together. All the best for both of you.
Best regards from Germany.
@@sophiaeleftheriadou549 omg same
"Just because you are outside of your comfort zone doesn't mean that you are in the wrong zone" Valerie.
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My boyfriend is 10 years older than me and my favorite thing to say when we are in an argument is “ you wouldn’t understand, you’re just too old”😂💀
Yesss gurl😂😂✊
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Omgggg yasss but heyyyyy my baby 26 yrs older and only he calls himself cascara 😘😂
“Just because you’re not in your comfort zone doesn’t mean you’re not in the right zone” WOW I really needed to hear that. Thank you so much!
When asked what they want to instill in their kids, he said fearlessness and she said kindness. And my soft ass cried, what a beautiful combination. This is what partnership is about
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Just imagine being Fearlessly Kind ~ or Kindly Fearless 😍😍😍😍
Now that's, ladies and gents, the perfect example of clear, healthy, and compassionate communication. Bravo. That is what me and my partner established from the start as well and it is the way to go!
thank you my dear❤️
i didn’t grow up seeing a healthy marriage to learn from, this was so helpful
glad you enjoyed watching!
Same dude
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I just have to say that Gary's answer to age gap really moved me - so grounded and logical and emotional at the same time!
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@@mariellegomez5089 somewhere in 9th minute of the video
My dad was also 17 years older than my mom (he just passed ) the love between them is unreal. Their relationship with the ups and downs was still the most beautiful relationship I have ever seen. They never stopped being boyfriend and girlfriend they never stopped holding hands or dedicating each other songs. They way they looked at each other is something I want for myself I want that kind of love. And that’s the kind of love you guys have so rare to find. God bless you and your beautiful family❤️
Sorry for your loss❤️
Sorry for your loss ❣
"you make sure that I don't burn my bald head, that's how I know you love me" If that ain't love, I don't know what is :)
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16-year age gap with my fiancé and this was one of the most informative and comforting videos I’ve seen. It puts all of our feelings into words and I’m just very thankful I found this! 🙏🏼
16 year age gap here too… more in love then ever!!! She 24.. I 40…
Gary is very mature and solid. He always sounds like someone that will speak his truth, not only in his personal relationship but all of his encounters.
You both are confident in who and what you are while always aiming to grow as people. I think that’s fantastic, and I love the way you guys trust, respect, hear, and love each other!
Thank you lovely!
Obviously he's mature he's like 50, don't be ridiculous and he also has a girlfriend of 20, he's not going to behave like an idiot.
“Just because you are outside of your comfort zone doesn’t mean it’s a wrong zone” so many quotes from this mature couple. Damn, couples take notes!!!
I love the way you are raising your kids by not denying them to try things just because they are Young or its dangerous, but you letting them use their reasoning to decide by themselves.
Valeria, I don't want kids, but when you talk or explain your life like that, I kind of change my mind 😅😅
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the "gave birth to three kids" part had me😂 love you guys
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This is their first video I'm watching and I'm trying to figure out her age
I think she’s 30 or 31
@@thbmaples I think she's 30 now
@@thbmaples DAMN! Are you serious? She is aging beautifully. I swear I thought she was like 19-20. Wow😍
I love the fact that Gary is such a wise man and grounding Valeria. And Valeria is such a high-spirited woman and also encourages Gary to be the best version of himself. In short, they’re perfect for each other and I’m crying. 😭❤️ Such a great couple!!!!
You're such good parents, really. The story with Jake and the waterfall really hit me. Good lesson for all parents out there
Thank you, really appreciate that❤️🙏🏻
I love how Gary said that his roles define him because I’ve started to find beauty in the roles that define me, being a daughter, a Christian, a girlfriend, a reader, an entrepreneur, etc.
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I love Gary’s maturity and clarity when referring to his love for Valeria 🥰
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i think age gap relationships work out really well when the older individual acts younger than their age, more childish in nature perhaps and the younger one acts wiser or more mature. usually when isee age gap relationships its that way or their both just really mature individuals and thats great too.
My husband and I are 12 years apart. He’s 37 I’m 25. We argue take space and come back to fix the problem. Because constantly going on with the argument doesn’t help so we take a break just step into each other shoes to see each point and just try to fix it or end the argument. We have a child there’s no leaving or breaking up. We work hard for our life and marriage. So we’ll always try to fix it.
agreed 🙌🏻 thanks for sharing!
My parents are 18 years apart and in their 64-46 ages and my dad looks and acts younger than my mom sometimes tbh. You guys remind me so much of them as a younger version! My mom had me at 21 and honestly they are still a very strong couple! Love your Vlog!
Watching this after having a rough patch with my partner. Valeria and Gary put everything into perspective so well. It also really helps when your partner is as calm and wise as Gary...
I kinda love the way u too listen to each other ❤️ u guys really respect each others opinion and listen to it 😭❤️
thanks love 🙏🏻❤️
Listening and looking at the both of you make me think that you don't have that 18 year gap. You just ride the same wave. You both are trully a match made in heaven.
thank you for this message love!
When you see Gary is really listening to every word and views of Valeria, is everything 😊
"We do get annoyed with each other"
"I dont get annoyed, give me an example"
"You do ,when I'm annoying"
Girll😂😂😂whaat
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I’m 31 and my husband is 23 yrs older than me. Some people judge us and look at us funny sometimes especially I look way younger than my age too(mistaken for 20) but they don’t know our story and we are happily married. We also don’t fight, not because we have no downs but because we are both mature and know better than to argue over things we can amicably talk about.
If my parents were thIS mature I wouldn’t be neeearly as fucked up 😹😹
Me too
GIRL SAME😭😭😭😭
haha same
so true✋🏻I get you
Amen to that hahaha
5:45 I tooootally agree! Whoever is confident and mature like you are knows how to act in relationships and doesn't exclusively get driven by emotions which alot of the times maybe be self destructive and manipulative👏🏻🙏🏻
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No ego in decision-making... such a simple statement, but it just blew my mind! I love Gary's nuances
I'm so happy you you liked it! ❤️
Gary sounds so wise and grounded. You two bounce off each other and you just want the best for each other. I have something similar with my husband (17 years together) but we do argue a little bit lol. I still get butterflies in my stomach when I see my husband after work. This was lovely type of video
aw❤️ thank you for sharing!
I really love how you complement each other's values
You guys are both so eloquent! You mirror each other, are both operating and thinking in the same frequency, maintain eye contact and other nonverbal communications etc. The amount of effort and time you put into your relationship is really evident.
I am 20 years old and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I don’t intend to be with someone else and that’s after meeting a lot of people and spending time apart. Right now our main challenge is how to argue better. I know both of us want to fix our issues in a calm manner, but we didn’t know where to begin. The things you said in this video have been so helpful and I am looking forward to incorporating these things so we have a more successful relationship. :) Take care
So glad you found the video helpful🙏🏻🙏🏻 sending you love❤️
Can you please do more of these as they are so helpful to understand different perspectives of relationships! Also maybe a business version???
Of course! So glad you liked it!
I never thought about thinking what you do in the life as "roles" rather than who you are. Valeria, this is so wise! I wish lots of happiness to you and your family!!
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Age doesn't matter when there is love and understanding . My husband was 20 years older than me . We were very happy. We been together for 35 years. But death separated us. He passed away 2019.
sending you lots of love Rosalinda❤️❤️❤️
So sorry for your loss, but I'm super happy for you that you had such a loving marriage because not everyone is that lucky
Im in a 17 year relationship.
We met only 11 months ago on an app meant for people to rant or get secrets off their chest anonymously.
I asked a local how to teach me how to drive. Our friendship grew slowly but surely.
Our love grew rapidly and passionately.
I am so happy to be with him.
We live together, I couldn't be happier or more greatful.
He has helped me so much.
Spoiled me, loved me, laughed with me, he cares so much for me, and I care about him too.
Guys I completely understand you. With my boyfriend, we are also not fighting. We may have a discussion in a serious way and we are not agreeing with something. And as you say, the importance of honesty, in the beginning, means a lot. And we make sure that every day we show to each other a lot of love and respect, we support each other. Even if someone of us had a bad day, we are not stressing this on the other. We just remember that our relationship is the most important thing and that outside life should not affect us in any way. So we make a priority and we are constantly and subconsciously working for the better. Of course, we both are really stable and happy with ourselves in the first place. And for me, this is the relationship I never believed that it is possible to have, and now I have it and feel blessed that I met my boyfriend and can spend each day in so special way. This is perfection for me. And I am so happy to saw this video!
taking the ego out of the equation is the most important thing loved that
Yes, 100%! Thank you for watching ❤️
Dear Valeria! I have been a fan since 2016 and am beyond happy you're including more relationship topics! Can't wait for more! Also beyond excited for the self care/self love or holistic nutrition videos🥰🧡
hi Elsa❤️ thank you for this sweet message! Glad you enjoyed this video 🙌🏻
I’ve started a relationship not that long ago that has a 19 year old age gap. I was never too fixated or worried about it at all, because we are so happy together it never really crosses my mind. But sometimes people around you worry out of love, and that can be discouraging at times. I’ve been following you for awhile now, but now I have another reason to watch your videos and it is that you are the first age gap couple that i feel I can relate to just because of your story and how chill you are with each other. Honestly, I feel like this woman could be the woman I spend the rest of my life with, and even though I’m 21, far from scaring me... it has never felt more right and at home. We are taking it step by step, doing what it feels right. I’m just thankful for these kinds of videos because it makes me feel like it’s actually possible to make it work and be happy together.
I just got engaged to my amazing fiancé who is 15 years older than me! I love seeing other successful age gap couples. Age is seriously just a number!!! So much love ❤️🥰
If only biology agrees with human delusion
I love seeing another couple with a big age gap. You guys are so sweet together. My boyfriend is 31 years older than me and yet I’m a very mature and we understand each other very well and get along. People often criticise us or they think he’s my father or they make comments about me having “daddy issues” which is a completely untrue, stupid stereotype placed on women that are dating older men.
31 years old? LMAO. You do have issues. Deep rooted issues.
If you are 31 rn your bf is 62.
Is he elder than your father?
@@artemis2935 Quit being a troll.
Stacey that’s great that you’re in a loving relationship with someone who treats you well. I wish you both the best! ❤️
@@dont375 Thanks Donna, I appreciate it.
I’ve never really liked huge age gap marriages or relationships because I always think ages make people think too differently to workout a successful relationship/marriage but to see y’all talk in a different perspective I see it won’t be bad if both partners try to meet halfway! Also Valerie you’re glowing ✨
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25 years between me and my boyfriend. I’m 23, he’s 48. We don’t fight or argue. We’re very supportive of one another and push each other to reach new goals. We’ve been together 2 1/2 and couldn’t be happier
So happy for you two!
This was a lot more wholesome and unproblematic than I was expecting from the title.
❤️❤️ hope you enjoyed watching!
It’s nice to see other happy healthy couples with an age gap. Me and my partner have a 20 year age gap and it tends to come with a lot of judgment and assumptions, bit it’s also taught me not to care what other people think and trust my own judgment and what feels right for me.
I really love how to managing things so good in general! You and Gary is a nice couple, your kids are so adorable, your mindset in everything. love ya ❤️✨
Thank you so much! Love you back!
This was amazing. I love the insight you two bring in every single video. I need to become more like Valeria in terms of not giving up. I don’t give up on my relationship and on myself, but I have a tendency to give up or severely doubt my capabilities professionally which doesn’t have to be this way. Not giving up is such a wonderful quality and I love that Gary brought it up so honestly. Thank you.❤️
So glad you liked it! Sending lots of love🥰❤️
First lmao
Also i really appreciate the fact that you talk about arguing and stuff like you are actually honest w us yk
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I kinda have a feeling I’m going to be married to someone who is eighteen years older than me too. Lol preparations
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Yeah... I am 30 and my fiance is 42. He still acts like in he s teenagers years. Not fun! Age does not mean maturity or experience.
@@andrea2634i definitely agree i had a bf that was 30 wen i was 20 n he acted like he was 15-16yrs old i cldnt stand it.
@@andrea2634i yeah. That means you chose the wrong partner maybe. No matter the age. the personality and values that matters. Why would you stay with a person whom you complain their personality about.
@@tainagutierrez8622 glad u broke up w him bb gorl 💕
The way Gary talks about how he “aggressively pursued” you in such a proud manner when you were just 19 and he was in his late 30s isn’t the most comfortable thing to hear... 🥴 I’m glad you are happy in your relationship but I don’t think this is something that he should be proudly promoting! It would be nice to hear him reflect on this and maybe acknowledge the unequal power dynamic there a bit more.
Why? She was an adult legally nothing wrong on that
@@miguelcardenas6825 a switch doesn’t go off once you turn 18 in terms of emotional maturity, brain development and life experiences. The day you turn 18, you are an adult in the eyes of the law... but you are still a teenager whose brain hasn’t fully developed. In every other sense, you’re still a kid. I don’t know her or them... her life experiences may have made her emotional maturity more advanced than most girls her age and it works for them. And clearly it ended up working out, which is great for them. But in general, it’s a red flag when a man in his 30s is pursuing a teenager
@@theluckienurse But it’s the law. Nobody ever said it was moral. It’s corrupt and there should be a change surrounding those laws. Because it’s so fair that a 19 year old could go to prison for being with a 17 year old but a 30+ year old can be with an 18 year old (Where I live).
@@theluckienurse true but people are 50 and still have the mind of a 16 year old.
@@ohshenatural9307 that’s true, but a 50 year old with the emotional maturity of a 16 year old is another red flag lol they do exist though (too many of them IMO....)
I NEED GARY TO START A PODCAST
love u guys so much!❤❤❤
love you back!
“I don’t care if I’m right, I care if we are successful”
You really inspired me with your content, thank you so much for doing this 🧡
You guys both are probably the most mature people that I know. You know what you want and that's what makes you awesome individuals and a great couple. No matter what comes you always stick with each other instead of giving up and getting into fights👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Wow, thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
@@ValeriaLipovetsky It's the truth, no compliments. You're so realized and self aware and that shows on your kids too😍💙
♥️♥️ The waterfall story is amazing parenting. You’re surrounding them in a safe world. Just 👌🏼
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My husband & I also don't fight (& I'm so thankful for that) but it really irritates me when people ask if we fight and argue & I always answer no. It's as if it's something that EVERYBODY does, but no, I'm just so grateful that my husband & I communicate and just tell each other exactly what's on our mind & there's no need to argue or fight
Please film more videos like this! One of the best videos you’ve done in a while. Very honest and I love that it’s just you and Gary.
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I think you two are very intelligent people, you both seem to have similar values and attitudes towards things. But most importantly you each have your own confidence, you are not competing with one another. And you are both well mannered and show respect for yourselves and each other. Inner value I think is the basis of any successful relationship.x 😊
I really like how mature you guys are together as a team. You really seem like you are each other's "rock". As much as I enjoy being independent and single I hope I will meet my own match some day🎈
Firstly, I love your top!! I’ve been looking for one like it. Secondly I am 22 and have been following you since I was 17. It has been amazing having someone I watch on TH-cam & follow also grow and change as I grow and change. I’ve outgrown many influencers but find that we share the same core values. I love seeing your healthy relationship and your self discovery as a mom and individual. Thanks for much for all your content. xoxo
thanks love! Its from Princess Polly :) also thank you for such a sweet message, so happy to have you apart of this community❤️❤️
I loved the waterfall story!
You guys have no idea of how much you inspire me, thank you so much
❣All the love ❣
Thank you so much!
This is so nice to see, I've had a crush on an older guy fir a while now and I'm not necessarily attracted to older guys but this one is special and it's hard to really explain that to people without them thinking it's weird. I don't think age gaps are weird, age is such a small detail, it doesn't change who you are on the inside and that's what I'm attracted to
My bf is 12 years younger than me (I’m 37, he’s 25), and our relationship is the healthiest I’ve ever had. You guys remind me of us 🥰
so sweet, sending love ❤️
I'm 25 and my bf is 37. My parents are 8 years older than him. Knowing all this really scares me and I haven't talked formally about him to my parents. I really need some advice please.
Wow, you both look so compatible. Your thoughts are so mature, I wish my dad was like your partner. Growing up in a toxic family surely does affect our lives, but I'm happy that bright ppl like you do exist.
29yr age difference and we're in our 7th year. The only thing the age difference does is we both have a lot of cool stuff to share with the other from each of our generations.
I think my favourite part in this (which surprised me tbh), wasn't the part where Gary and Valeria mentioned the way they handle disagreements and the difference in pace because of their age difference, but actually was the part about the waterfall. So many people don't think about WHY they're really telling their children no in situations like that and especially don't seem to think about what it might teach their kids and how that might carry through into the rest of that child's life. I really learned a lot from watching this about how I want to handle things in my own life. I don't have children and I'm single at the moment but I know that being able to see/have role models for the traits you want to embody in life, the behaviours, learning styles and coping strategies, make it easier to put together an image of your future self with them already in play.
It's easier to work towards manifesting those traits and behaviours within yourself and hold yourself to those values when you have the image of yourself with what that sounds, feels and looks like to you, in your head to hold you accountable. The more you can do so, the more you fall into what you're aiming to learn or cultivate with yourself and every aspect of your life.
Thanks Valeria and Gary, I feel very lucky to have come across this channel all that time ago and to have been able to learn so much about the kind of woman I want to see myself becoming. I'm 26 right now but I feel no shame in saying that I'd like to be as capable and remarkable as the both of you as I grow up (although I hope that didn't sound cheesy XD).
They seem so genuine and I think that’s special
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Same thing for us. My partner is 10 years older than me and he's really concern about it. Kinda insecure about it. I just told him that I am aware about the age gap when we started our relationship, and told him that the only thing he can do is start to live healthy.
Me and my husband are 17 year apart with 2 kids I’m 35 and he is 52 and watching this video it was like watching us 🥰❤️
This was the best couple QnA I have ever watched in my 10 years of youtube past. Best advices and best insights ever given. Thank you guys massively!
wow! thank you my dear😘
Love Gary’s wisdom, anyone can tell that you’re such good role models to the boys🥰🥰💕
Well scientific research said that marriages with smaller age difference last longer .. but as I married at 20 to 33 year old man I can totally say that money, respect, responsibility bring a lot of stability to life
I don’t know who these people are but I love this!!!
glad you enjoyed the video! and welcome❤️❤️
My husband and I also have this dynamic where I'm constantly evolving and hes like this anchor who is certain and sure of himself and of me.
I felt that hes like the sun, always shining, and I'm like the moon that waxes and wanes every month
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Love these kinds of videos! Feels like old school Valeria :)
Glad you enjoyed!
You have no idea the impact u have on the world...like this truly what we all need to see more of❤️❤️
Love u so much Valeria
Means so much, thank you❤️❤️
My uncle is 20 years older than his wife, and they're almost the most successful/happy couple in the family (they have 4 girls💟)
gary is such a good husband and father!!!! you guys are perfect together. love you guys
aw❤️ thank you my dear!
Wow he looks young i didn't know there was 18 years difference i was like 8 or 12 at max hahahaha you keep him young and the boys ahahha
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I swear their whole family are vampires!! All looking so damn young 😂
He has said many times that he switched his lifestyle! He's always exercises and eats healthy so he can be strong and healthy and don't feel like he's missing out due to his age difference!
Can someone tell me the symbol Valarie used to reply this comment I'm confuse, thank you
@@arjunsamrudhalle3856 do you mean the emoji?
The way you guys handle your relationship is so much like how my boyfriend has taught me to handle ours. I was such a fighter, now I'm simply discussing matters with him instead of losing composure over things. I was nodding my head super fast when Gary said it's not about being right, dont bring in your ego. 😋
14:45 I love this part. also damn...your husband's analytical mindset I think is brilliant , very mature
My mind explodes, when I see q & a of different successful couples, and I realize that we do similar things and I say wtf there are couples that are on the other side of the world being successful in the same way as me. And something that I notice a lot is that all these successful couples including mine, what we have in common is the empathy we have and the discipline to reach agreements wow & cheers for that 🥂 🤯💕
This was such a great Q&A! The answers were so mature and insightful. Things you and Gary said could be applied to lots of relationships and situations. You guys definitely gave us some food for thought. Thank you!
i have an age gap of 12 years with my boyfriend, and we are very similar to you guys! I know there's a lot more than what you show us, but in the fighting and thoughts about the future I think that's key in a relationship like ours, really centered and mature people, and the love for each other of course
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I think it's really wonderful seeing a lot more age gap relationships and people showing that they can and do work. It's very frustrating when the age is all people can see. I used to get a lot of flack because my boyfriend is 11 years older but he is honestly the greatest person I know and we're celebrating our 5 year anniversary this weekend! 💖. I think when it comes to relationships where there is an age gap people always assume there's some kind of Insidious reason behind it. I had a cousin asking "but...why?" When we first started going out. I felt like saying well why are you going out with your partner? We met, we happened to like each other and then we went out. Like everybody else. I just find it very hypocritical that we live in a society that constantly preaches 'Love is Love' but apparently that doesn't expand to two adults who just happen to be different ages. I guess it's the one "taboo" we still need to get over because honestly it isn't a bid deal and it makes me so happy seeing comments from other people in similar relationships and just spreading that love 💖💙
Not everyone is cut out to handle a large age gap relationship. But I believe the ones who can handle it are also mature enough to work through things like disagreements and other things that come with being in a relationship in general. If the two are serious about each other they can make it work and because they know they are mostly likely coming from different “worlds” so to speak they know they may need to put even more work into their relationship from the very beginning. Which is why they can be some of the best and strongest of couples because they understand what they want and know they are willing to pull through the tough times together.
Why i'm watching married couples videos and really listening to their advices when i'm not intending to marry at all 🤦♀️
Wow, Gary looks great, I didn't think he is 18 years older than you.
You guys have such strong and healthy souls and personalities!! 😘
wow! thank you so much beauty❤️
I support the idea of a podcast that somebody else mentioned here. I would love to listen to your piece of advice about relationships and life
Omg the story about Jake and the waterfall made me cry 😭 Gary is the best dad
He really is🙌🏻
Love u! You're spontaneous and fun, u know how to live life and inspire me.🥰
Thank you so much!!
Love to see a healthy, loving relationship!! Ugh I swear this family is so cute
too kind, thanks love🥰
„Then I attacked“ 😄 gonna make notes 📝
loll 😂
Both of you guys are so inspiring, and your relationship is beautiful. I aspire to have this sort of maturity and connection with someone in the future. I would love to see more videos on this, on how to have a more stable relationship, feel like we could all learn a lot from you guys. Sending love and blessings xx
thank you for such a kind message ❤️❤️